1 00:00:00,160 --> 00:00:02,120 Speaker 1: I'm dating the guy I told my ex not to 2 00:00:02,160 --> 00:00:05,360 Speaker 1: worry about. Am I the A hole? This is okop 3 00:00:05,519 --> 00:00:08,159 Speaker 1: where we read the craziest true stories on Earth. I 4 00:00:08,200 --> 00:00:11,160 Speaker 1: am John and Sam. Is this person the A hole? 5 00:00:11,320 --> 00:00:15,320 Speaker 2: Definitely? If they are still in the relationship. 6 00:00:16,200 --> 00:00:16,800 Speaker 1: Xxx? 7 00:00:16,840 --> 00:00:21,320 Speaker 2: So how soon after? Because it's just like, hey, don't 8 00:00:21,360 --> 00:00:23,680 Speaker 2: worry about it, break up next day. 9 00:00:23,680 --> 00:00:29,200 Speaker 1: I'm worry about it six whole seconds. Second's asshole? Yeah, 10 00:00:29,360 --> 00:00:34,040 Speaker 1: ye're maybe less. Yeah, it feels like some some male behavior. 11 00:00:34,120 --> 00:00:35,960 Speaker 1: Do you just be honest and be like, yeah, I 12 00:00:36,000 --> 00:00:37,800 Speaker 1: want to because you're like, oh, don't worry about this guy. 13 00:00:37,960 --> 00:00:39,120 Speaker 1: Just be like I want to date this guy and 14 00:00:39,120 --> 00:00:41,080 Speaker 1: I'm going to leave you? Is honesty better here? I 15 00:00:41,120 --> 00:00:43,360 Speaker 1: would cry crying? Right, it's bad. 16 00:00:43,560 --> 00:00:44,520 Speaker 2: I think it's pretty bad. 17 00:00:44,600 --> 00:00:46,519 Speaker 1: Well, there's only one way to find out what happens. 18 00:00:46,600 --> 00:00:50,480 Speaker 1: This story comes from Choice Evidence, nineteen eighty three. They 19 00:00:50,520 --> 00:00:54,080 Speaker 1: say so three months ago, I, twenty one female, went 20 00:00:54,120 --> 00:00:56,560 Speaker 1: out to a club as it was student night, which 21 00:00:56,600 --> 00:01:00,720 Speaker 1: means two dollars fifty cent drinks, which is a great deal. 22 00:01:01,040 --> 00:01:03,200 Speaker 1: I went out with a big group of girls where 23 00:01:03,240 --> 00:01:06,600 Speaker 1: I met a male twenty three male. To be exact, 24 00:01:06,880 --> 00:01:09,679 Speaker 1: I don't I don't remember exactly how or why we 25 00:01:09,720 --> 00:01:12,679 Speaker 1: started talking, but he was talking to me and my friend, 26 00:01:13,000 --> 00:01:15,679 Speaker 1: and while we were chatting, he realized his friend had 27 00:01:15,720 --> 00:01:18,160 Speaker 1: walked off, so me and my friend told him to 28 00:01:18,160 --> 00:01:20,479 Speaker 1: stay with us and just hang out. 29 00:01:20,640 --> 00:01:21,399 Speaker 2: Oh yeah. 30 00:01:21,520 --> 00:01:23,720 Speaker 1: We ended up spending the rest of our time there 31 00:01:23,760 --> 00:01:26,600 Speaker 1: with him, and though he was talking to my friend too, 32 00:01:27,000 --> 00:01:29,039 Speaker 1: me and him really clicked. 33 00:01:29,080 --> 00:01:30,760 Speaker 2: Well, oh yeah, they're getting it off. 34 00:01:32,400 --> 00:01:39,920 Speaker 1: We were both in relationships though. Uh oh, I'm kind 35 00:01:39,920 --> 00:01:43,280 Speaker 1: of feeling red flag. 36 00:01:43,240 --> 00:01:48,760 Speaker 3: And let your girlfriend stop you from finding your wife? Wowle, 37 00:01:49,040 --> 00:01:51,320 Speaker 3: because if you don't look at your girlfriend as the wife, 38 00:01:51,320 --> 00:01:52,480 Speaker 3: then you need to find someone else. 39 00:01:52,680 --> 00:01:53,400 Speaker 2: Wow, dude. 40 00:01:53,480 --> 00:01:54,440 Speaker 1: Riley preach. 41 00:01:54,800 --> 00:01:57,680 Speaker 2: Riley's here today, preach in it. 42 00:01:57,800 --> 00:02:01,520 Speaker 1: Riley showed up. We were both in relationships though, and 43 00:02:01,640 --> 00:02:04,840 Speaker 1: made it clear that this wasn't some hookup thing, even 44 00:02:04,880 --> 00:02:08,360 Speaker 1: showing each other picks of our partners. It seems like 45 00:02:08,680 --> 00:02:11,600 Speaker 1: they both are like picking up that there could be 46 00:02:11,760 --> 00:02:12,640 Speaker 1: a vie. 47 00:02:13,040 --> 00:02:14,720 Speaker 2: Let you shut this down. Lets you shut this down 48 00:02:14,760 --> 00:02:15,240 Speaker 2: right now. 49 00:02:15,400 --> 00:02:17,200 Speaker 1: I don't know, I feel like I feel like you 50 00:02:17,320 --> 00:02:21,320 Speaker 1: kind of turned down the vibing before it revs up 51 00:02:21,400 --> 00:02:22,280 Speaker 1: to the point where you. 52 00:02:22,240 --> 00:02:26,040 Speaker 2: Have to like, like the red flag with the vibe 53 00:02:26,080 --> 00:02:29,240 Speaker 2: had gotten such a high point. Exactly, you had to 54 00:02:29,240 --> 00:02:32,279 Speaker 2: cool it down with pictures of your ugly exes exactly. 55 00:02:32,400 --> 00:02:37,400 Speaker 1: No ugly ugly partners in relationships, Oh my god. But 56 00:02:37,639 --> 00:02:42,960 Speaker 1: as the night went on, we got drunker, and I 57 00:02:43,080 --> 00:02:46,720 Speaker 1: admit it, I sort of feel like our interactions did 58 00:02:47,120 --> 00:02:53,000 Speaker 1: sort of border on flirty. For example, number one, we 59 00:02:53,080 --> 00:02:57,320 Speaker 1: have a list of five if we were walking through 60 00:02:57,360 --> 00:03:00,280 Speaker 1: our crowded area, we would hold hands so we didn't 61 00:03:00,280 --> 00:03:01,040 Speaker 1: get separated. 62 00:03:01,680 --> 00:03:02,679 Speaker 2: What whoa whoa? 63 00:03:03,040 --> 00:03:05,440 Speaker 1: Is that actually like a bad thing? Hand on the 64 00:03:05,520 --> 00:03:08,680 Speaker 1: shoulder if it's necessary. 65 00:03:08,160 --> 00:03:10,280 Speaker 2: But holding hands. 66 00:03:10,080 --> 00:03:13,680 Speaker 1: Just get lost, Okay, just get lost in the ground. 67 00:03:14,480 --> 00:03:17,800 Speaker 2: Okay, I think holding shoulders is fine. Holding hand is 68 00:03:17,800 --> 00:03:18,560 Speaker 2: a little bit too much. 69 00:03:18,639 --> 00:03:22,480 Speaker 3: Yeah, it is like a really a lot of people. 70 00:03:22,200 --> 00:03:25,880 Speaker 1: Like a rave and I have done the shoulder holds. 71 00:03:25,919 --> 00:03:26,160 Speaker 2: I don't. 72 00:03:26,240 --> 00:03:28,120 Speaker 1: I don't think I've ever even done in a relationship, 73 00:03:28,120 --> 00:03:29,959 Speaker 1: but in the past where it's like, oh, there's nothing 74 00:03:30,280 --> 00:03:32,040 Speaker 1: wultonic whatever shoulder. 75 00:03:31,720 --> 00:03:34,600 Speaker 2: But I've also done the shoulder hold in a like 76 00:03:35,360 --> 00:03:38,320 Speaker 2: I feeling a vibe here, Yeah, like like I got you, 77 00:03:38,400 --> 00:03:39,200 Speaker 2: I got you. 78 00:03:38,960 --> 00:03:43,000 Speaker 1: You're you're in a crowded bar whatever, Yeah, with your 79 00:03:43,040 --> 00:03:46,600 Speaker 1: bros yeah, you're holding hands. No, you're holding the mother 80 00:03:46,720 --> 00:03:51,960 Speaker 1: freaking shoulder. It's you're holding the shoulder. Hold you're holding 81 00:03:52,000 --> 00:03:53,920 Speaker 1: the shoulder. That's the move we've established. 82 00:03:54,120 --> 00:03:56,880 Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, the red flag. Red flag holding hands in 83 00:03:56,960 --> 00:03:58,000 Speaker 2: the club, red flag. 84 00:03:58,080 --> 00:04:02,960 Speaker 1: Next one, I dance with him a lot, again holding hands, 85 00:04:03,160 --> 00:04:04,520 Speaker 1: no grinding or anything. 86 00:04:05,400 --> 00:04:06,480 Speaker 3: They didn't grind them. 87 00:04:07,120 --> 00:04:11,320 Speaker 1: They didn't grind though, Riley, he's dancing with women in 88 00:04:11,320 --> 00:04:14,240 Speaker 1: a relationship. I did hug him a lot, and at 89 00:04:14,240 --> 00:04:17,479 Speaker 1: one point he picked me up during a hug and 90 00:04:17,640 --> 00:04:23,480 Speaker 1: I rubbed my legs around him come and this caused 91 00:04:23,600 --> 00:04:27,159 Speaker 1: my skirt to roll up, and he rolled it back 92 00:04:27,279 --> 00:04:29,719 Speaker 1: down for me when he put me down. 93 00:04:30,080 --> 00:04:33,040 Speaker 2: Damn dude, this is why I'm like worried about love. 94 00:04:33,960 --> 00:04:37,720 Speaker 1: Number four. I pretended to be his girlfriend to get 95 00:04:37,839 --> 00:04:40,120 Speaker 1: rid of a girl who is pesting him by saying 96 00:04:40,720 --> 00:04:45,120 Speaker 1: could you not flirt with my boyfriend and kissing him 97 00:04:45,160 --> 00:04:49,839 Speaker 1: on the cheek and then holding onto his body or 98 00:04:49,839 --> 00:04:55,400 Speaker 1: hand breaking red flag dude. Number five the finale. At 99 00:04:55,440 --> 00:04:57,440 Speaker 1: the end of the night, when I had to leave, 100 00:04:57,600 --> 00:05:02,080 Speaker 1: I hugged him goodbye and we sort of accidentally kissed. 101 00:05:02,320 --> 00:05:06,120 Speaker 2: What does that mean? WHOA? How do you accidentally kiss. 102 00:05:06,080 --> 00:05:09,240 Speaker 1: Come here, I'll show you by that. By that, I 103 00:05:09,360 --> 00:05:11,680 Speaker 1: mean we both tried to kiss each other on the 104 00:05:11,760 --> 00:05:12,839 Speaker 1: cheek at the same time. 105 00:05:13,040 --> 00:05:15,080 Speaker 2: Kiss it on the cheek? Is this Europe? It is? 106 00:05:15,160 --> 00:05:18,720 Speaker 1: It is your? It is your? Okay, this was an 107 00:05:18,760 --> 00:05:22,560 Speaker 1: accident and we both apologized and it was awkward. 108 00:05:23,360 --> 00:05:27,200 Speaker 2: This is there's so many red flags. Dude, you got 109 00:05:27,200 --> 00:05:29,640 Speaker 2: to tell your boyfriend that you're ending things. 110 00:05:29,800 --> 00:05:30,520 Speaker 1: That's a body. 111 00:05:30,640 --> 00:05:33,680 Speaker 2: Yeah, that's a body. I think at that point, like 112 00:05:33,680 --> 00:05:38,320 Speaker 2: like you basically cheated, yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, totally so much, 113 00:05:38,960 --> 00:05:41,240 Speaker 2: so much, that was the whole day. Why would you 114 00:05:41,279 --> 00:05:44,880 Speaker 2: do all wrap your legs around him? This is like 115 00:05:44,960 --> 00:05:46,840 Speaker 2: Spain or something or that, Like just it's like you 116 00:05:47,160 --> 00:05:48,560 Speaker 2: just do that with all your friends. 117 00:05:48,640 --> 00:05:49,279 Speaker 1: Is it in Spain? 118 00:05:49,320 --> 00:05:51,400 Speaker 3: Like if you stare at someone for too long, like 119 00:05:51,480 --> 00:05:52,760 Speaker 3: you're supposed to kiss or something. 120 00:05:54,600 --> 00:06:01,280 Speaker 4: Video I maintained with every cute girl sees in all seriousness, 121 00:06:01,320 --> 00:06:04,800 Speaker 4: like what should Opie actually do? 122 00:06:05,160 --> 00:06:08,440 Speaker 1: Like should she actually should take what happened? Tell the 123 00:06:08,480 --> 00:06:09,400 Speaker 1: boyfriend what happened? 124 00:06:09,400 --> 00:06:09,960 Speaker 2: For short? 125 00:06:10,080 --> 00:06:13,359 Speaker 1: Like hey, it's too much. Yeah, I went out, Like 126 00:06:13,440 --> 00:06:16,880 Speaker 1: here's what happened, Like we accidentally kissed on the cheek 127 00:06:17,080 --> 00:06:18,360 Speaker 1: or we accidentally kissed. 128 00:06:18,120 --> 00:06:22,080 Speaker 2: On the wrapped I said I was his girlfriend. Honestly, 129 00:06:22,240 --> 00:06:23,200 Speaker 2: let him read this post. 130 00:06:23,320 --> 00:06:25,599 Speaker 1: Yeah, literally, just let him read this post and he 131 00:06:25,680 --> 00:06:29,240 Speaker 1: can decide for a video. And I haven't watched this 132 00:06:29,320 --> 00:06:34,160 Speaker 1: episode of us judging the tears a freak out of you. Yeah, yeah, 133 00:06:34,240 --> 00:06:35,360 Speaker 1: you have to tell him. 134 00:06:37,360 --> 00:06:38,839 Speaker 2: But what does Opie actually do? 135 00:06:39,160 --> 00:06:42,240 Speaker 1: What does Opie do? Yes? Yes, yes, I'm to the 136 00:06:42,320 --> 00:06:42,880 Speaker 1: next part. 137 00:06:43,279 --> 00:06:47,040 Speaker 2: So this week after me and him ended up texting 138 00:06:47,120 --> 00:06:51,240 Speaker 2: quite regularly. No the red flash, she show it. 139 00:06:51,200 --> 00:06:55,120 Speaker 1: Up and we arranged it was my idea to have 140 00:06:55,320 --> 00:06:58,440 Speaker 1: both of our friend groups meet so we could hang 141 00:06:58,480 --> 00:06:58,960 Speaker 1: out again. 142 00:06:59,600 --> 00:07:05,600 Speaker 2: Oh messy, and we had a pretty good chemistry. 143 00:07:05,720 --> 00:07:08,720 Speaker 1: So we thought our friends, our friends probably would do. 144 00:07:09,480 --> 00:07:12,560 Speaker 2: Maybe our significant others would as well. Right, just make 145 00:07:12,600 --> 00:07:12,800 Speaker 2: it up. 146 00:07:12,840 --> 00:07:17,080 Speaker 1: Let's just swap you. Wasn't her girlfriends with her? Friends 147 00:07:17,120 --> 00:07:19,400 Speaker 1: with her? What didn't like? They stop it? 148 00:07:20,000 --> 00:07:22,840 Speaker 2: Red flag on the friends. Honestly, maybe they're in a 149 00:07:22,840 --> 00:07:23,960 Speaker 2: country where this is normal. 150 00:07:24,640 --> 00:07:26,400 Speaker 1: No, I don't want to I don't. 151 00:07:26,600 --> 00:07:30,960 Speaker 2: Yeah, single in that country probably wants to be single, 152 00:07:31,080 --> 00:07:33,200 Speaker 2: not in a relationship in that country. 153 00:07:33,600 --> 00:07:37,119 Speaker 1: Well, the meeting with everyone went great. Now our friend 154 00:07:37,120 --> 00:07:40,040 Speaker 1: groups are mixed and I have a bunch of new friends. 155 00:07:40,960 --> 00:07:45,600 Speaker 2: What about the boyfriend and the girlfriend? Who? Who? Why 156 00:07:45,640 --> 00:07:46,360 Speaker 2: would friend group? 157 00:07:46,880 --> 00:07:49,040 Speaker 1: Yeah exactly, Yeah, we kicked them out of the friends 158 00:07:49,320 --> 00:07:51,120 Speaker 1: like we don't really care about them anymore. Two of 159 00:07:51,160 --> 00:07:54,920 Speaker 1: his friends have ended up dating two of my friends. 160 00:07:55,440 --> 00:08:00,080 Speaker 2: Wow, Like the friend group is becoming intertwined. 161 00:07:59,520 --> 00:08:02,280 Speaker 1: Every everyone, Like all the friend groups are just going 162 00:08:02,360 --> 00:08:05,400 Speaker 1: to keep dating until like everyone's matched with somebody. 163 00:08:05,600 --> 00:08:09,200 Speaker 2: I mean, that's that's what happens. Friend groups get incestuous. 164 00:08:08,720 --> 00:08:11,720 Speaker 1: And one of them are now officially boyfriend and girlfriend, 165 00:08:11,800 --> 00:08:15,840 Speaker 1: so not just dating. Unfortunately, though, my boyfriend was less 166 00:08:15,880 --> 00:08:22,120 Speaker 1: than happy about the guy. Of course, he didn't like 167 00:08:22,240 --> 00:08:25,160 Speaker 1: that we texted. He hated the story of how we met, 168 00:08:25,360 --> 00:08:27,280 Speaker 1: which I got as I can see how from the 169 00:08:27,400 --> 00:08:31,080 Speaker 1: outside it looks us even though our intentions were innocent. 170 00:08:31,520 --> 00:08:33,559 Speaker 2: Bro, that shit, it ain't innocent. 171 00:08:33,840 --> 00:08:37,200 Speaker 1: You you shut that down, like there's so many opportunities, 172 00:08:37,240 --> 00:08:40,959 Speaker 1: like no dancing, easy, hand on the shoulder, easy. 173 00:08:41,440 --> 00:08:43,880 Speaker 3: You can't handle a bad bitty, you can't be with one. 174 00:08:44,320 --> 00:08:46,800 Speaker 1: I did introduce the two of them, and they seemed 175 00:08:46,800 --> 00:08:49,440 Speaker 1: to get on well and were laughing around together. But 176 00:08:49,480 --> 00:08:53,120 Speaker 1: then later that night my boyfriend started slagging him off 177 00:08:53,440 --> 00:08:56,640 Speaker 1: for no reason, which caused me to argue because he 178 00:08:56,800 --> 00:08:58,200 Speaker 1: was being fake, no. 179 00:08:58,080 --> 00:09:04,959 Speaker 2: Reason, brod out your girlfriend? Girl, Stop stop with this, yo, 180 00:09:05,240 --> 00:09:07,600 Speaker 2: this is this is a whole behavior for sure. 181 00:09:07,760 --> 00:09:12,000 Speaker 1: About two weeks ago, the guy broke up with his girlfriend. 182 00:09:12,640 --> 00:09:15,280 Speaker 1: I am not sure of the exact details. I think 183 00:09:15,320 --> 00:09:17,880 Speaker 1: that they just sort of fizzled out doing to due 184 00:09:17,880 --> 00:09:19,480 Speaker 1: to being in different stages of life. 185 00:09:19,600 --> 00:09:23,720 Speaker 2: Oh yeah, sure not. Possibly you guys almost hooking up. 186 00:09:24,360 --> 00:09:27,960 Speaker 1: God, yeah, that couldn't be it. She wanted kids and 187 00:09:28,000 --> 00:09:33,680 Speaker 1: he wasn't ready. Allegedly. Allegedly, when my boyfriend found out, 188 00:09:34,080 --> 00:09:36,640 Speaker 1: he told me he didn't want me to text or 189 00:09:36,720 --> 00:09:39,439 Speaker 1: be friends with him anymore now that he was single. 190 00:09:39,720 --> 00:09:41,520 Speaker 2: I think that's probably fair. 191 00:09:41,800 --> 00:09:45,440 Speaker 1: Yeah, history, based on the history, Like you, it could 192 00:09:45,480 --> 00:09:48,120 Speaker 1: have been fine had you not done all that. Yeah, 193 00:09:48,160 --> 00:09:50,160 Speaker 1: to be honest, I said, I'm not going to cut 194 00:09:50,200 --> 00:09:52,280 Speaker 1: him off when he's going through a hard time. 195 00:09:52,600 --> 00:09:55,120 Speaker 2: I need to be a shoulder for him to fuck. 196 00:09:55,920 --> 00:09:58,559 Speaker 1: And that the idea that now, all of a sudden, 197 00:09:58,640 --> 00:10:01,320 Speaker 1: we can't be friends with someone just because they're single, 198 00:10:01,360 --> 00:10:02,200 Speaker 1: it is ridiculous. 199 00:10:02,440 --> 00:10:06,360 Speaker 2: No, it's like basically hooking up. 200 00:10:06,840 --> 00:10:09,640 Speaker 1: My boyfriend wouldn't accept that and said that if I 201 00:10:09,760 --> 00:10:13,520 Speaker 1: carried on being friends with him, he would break up 202 00:10:13,920 --> 00:10:14,560 Speaker 1: with me. 203 00:10:14,960 --> 00:10:19,040 Speaker 2: I'm a man with standards, that's right, snaps, So I 204 00:10:19,200 --> 00:10:22,720 Speaker 2: broke up with him. Then in there, dang, we're playing 205 00:10:22,760 --> 00:10:24,040 Speaker 2: a little breakup chicken. 206 00:10:23,920 --> 00:10:26,760 Speaker 1: On the spot. As I was tired of him acting 207 00:10:26,880 --> 00:10:31,000 Speaker 1: jealous and controlling. All right, boys, got a. 208 00:10:30,960 --> 00:10:34,160 Speaker 2: Possible You're jealous and controlling, Like there's all this like 209 00:10:34,240 --> 00:10:37,120 Speaker 2: there's all these tiktoks of like I'm going out with 210 00:10:37,160 --> 00:10:39,920 Speaker 2: my girls and like dancing with guys. And if your 211 00:10:40,080 --> 00:10:43,360 Speaker 2: man can't handle that, then he's jealous and controlling. You 212 00:10:43,440 --> 00:10:46,839 Speaker 2: need to dump him, like there's you gotta have some boundaries, you. 213 00:10:46,760 --> 00:10:48,960 Speaker 1: Know, Yeah, and like at the end of the day, 214 00:10:49,040 --> 00:10:51,200 Speaker 1: like we can we can talk about like oh what 215 00:10:51,520 --> 00:10:56,199 Speaker 1: is generally speaking whatever? Ultimately it's decided inside their relationship. 216 00:10:56,320 --> 00:10:59,400 Speaker 1: And your your boyfriend is uncomfortable with this and you're not. 217 00:10:59,440 --> 00:11:03,640 Speaker 1: You're not imp like maybe there's a middle ground if 218 00:11:03,679 --> 00:11:05,880 Speaker 1: you actually come to the table and are like, you 219 00:11:05,920 --> 00:11:08,240 Speaker 1: know what, I need to hear you out and like 220 00:11:08,679 --> 00:11:10,320 Speaker 1: really see what I can do here. But you're you're 221 00:11:10,400 --> 00:11:14,480 Speaker 1: just like shutting him down, like there's no there's no 222 00:11:15,000 --> 00:11:18,680 Speaker 1: reciprocation or just like trying to understand him whatsoever. And 223 00:11:18,760 --> 00:11:20,360 Speaker 1: the fact that you break up with him that easily. 224 00:11:20,760 --> 00:11:23,600 Speaker 2: I mean, you know why she's breaking up with him 225 00:11:23,600 --> 00:11:29,640 Speaker 2: so easily. She got a backup she's. 226 00:11:28,000 --> 00:11:29,920 Speaker 1: About to upload from the old hard drive. 227 00:11:30,640 --> 00:11:34,920 Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, I I feel like she's just looking for 228 00:11:35,000 --> 00:11:38,400 Speaker 2: a way to be single, to date that sky. I 229 00:11:38,440 --> 00:11:40,720 Speaker 2: feel there's gonna be an update where they get together, 230 00:11:41,120 --> 00:11:43,720 Speaker 2: and I think it's gonna be juicy. 231 00:11:43,880 --> 00:11:46,600 Speaker 1: On Thursday, I got a text for my friend who 232 00:11:46,679 --> 00:11:49,480 Speaker 1: is in a relationship with one of the guy's friends. 233 00:11:50,240 --> 00:11:52,640 Speaker 1: She said her and my other friend who's dating one 234 00:11:52,679 --> 00:11:54,840 Speaker 1: of his friends, were going to London on Friday for 235 00:11:54,880 --> 00:11:58,600 Speaker 1: a trip and asked if me and the guy wanted 236 00:11:58,679 --> 00:11:59,000 Speaker 1: to come. 237 00:11:59,080 --> 00:12:02,000 Speaker 2: They're getting set up. I mean, this is they want it, 238 00:12:02,440 --> 00:12:05,640 Speaker 2: They want it. I texted him and he said his 239 00:12:05,679 --> 00:12:09,880 Speaker 2: friend had asked him the same question and we both 240 00:12:10,000 --> 00:12:13,079 Speaker 2: agreed to go. Of course you did. You're boinking. You're 241 00:12:13,120 --> 00:12:16,080 Speaker 2: boinking on this trip for sure, boinking? 242 00:12:16,440 --> 00:12:19,240 Speaker 1: Are they going to point? I'm gonna be contrarian and 243 00:12:19,280 --> 00:12:20,520 Speaker 1: go no boink on this trip. 244 00:12:20,679 --> 00:12:21,000 Speaker 2: Point. 245 00:12:21,400 --> 00:12:26,160 Speaker 1: I'm going to go on this contrarian different. When we 246 00:12:26,200 --> 00:12:29,160 Speaker 1: got there, things were different than I anticipated, and it 247 00:12:29,240 --> 00:12:34,480 Speaker 1: definitely felt like a triple date. No ship. Oh so 248 00:12:34,640 --> 00:12:37,880 Speaker 1: both of the other people are literally couples. Come on, come. 249 00:12:40,559 --> 00:12:42,920 Speaker 1: We did mini golf, then we went to food in 250 00:12:43,000 --> 00:12:45,439 Speaker 1: a cocktail bar, and at the end of the night 251 00:12:45,520 --> 00:12:48,199 Speaker 1: we decided to stay in London as we didn't manage 252 00:12:48,240 --> 00:12:50,960 Speaker 1: to fit in everything that we wanted to. We all 253 00:12:50,960 --> 00:12:56,079 Speaker 1: got hotel rooms you know what I'm about to. 254 00:12:56,040 --> 00:13:01,520 Speaker 5: Say, and me and the guy got one too, with 255 00:13:01,920 --> 00:13:06,559 Speaker 5: two beds in the room. 256 00:13:06,600 --> 00:13:09,000 Speaker 2: Just like saying I didn't have such with him, I 257 00:13:09,080 --> 00:13:13,360 Speaker 2: was wearing a condom our skin. Didn't like the barrier 258 00:13:13,400 --> 00:13:16,640 Speaker 2: between you guys hooking up is is non existent. 259 00:13:16,720 --> 00:13:20,520 Speaker 1: I've hed before. However, we ended up sharing a bed 260 00:13:20,559 --> 00:13:25,640 Speaker 1: and making out of it. What is bit me? Fucking ship, 261 00:13:26,760 --> 00:13:31,280 Speaker 1: Sam's done, Sam's retired, Sam's retired from this podcast. Fucking 262 00:13:31,520 --> 00:13:33,959 Speaker 1: ship A bit. 263 00:13:34,000 --> 00:13:36,920 Speaker 2: Bro there, they were a bit blowing each other. 264 00:13:37,000 --> 00:13:37,240 Speaker 1: Yeah. 265 00:13:37,320 --> 00:13:39,840 Speaker 2: The next day we made it out to the Camden 266 00:13:39,880 --> 00:13:43,880 Speaker 2: Food Market barely yeah, right up all night and then. 267 00:13:43,720 --> 00:13:48,440 Speaker 1: We went to Babylon Park, a giant arcadefling some Pete 268 00:13:48,520 --> 00:13:51,120 Speaker 1: Davidson ariana grande ship man. 269 00:13:51,200 --> 00:13:54,439 Speaker 2: Have you seen that wobbly picture? No, Like they came 270 00:13:54,480 --> 00:13:56,599 Speaker 2: out of a hotel room and like Ariana Grande is 271 00:13:56,640 --> 00:13:57,480 Speaker 2: like walking like this. 272 00:13:58,640 --> 00:14:03,960 Speaker 1: She can't stand. We decided to stay another night, of 273 00:14:04,040 --> 00:14:07,440 Speaker 1: course you did, and they boinked, and this time me 274 00:14:07,480 --> 00:14:11,680 Speaker 1: and the guy had were forced to get a room 275 00:14:11,760 --> 00:14:16,920 Speaker 1: with one bed as there were no more double rooms. 276 00:14:17,960 --> 00:14:20,400 Speaker 1: We went to a club and then back to the room. 277 00:14:20,520 --> 00:14:24,600 Speaker 1: The next morning, I woke up to like fifty messages 278 00:14:24,640 --> 00:14:28,040 Speaker 1: from my ex calling me a liar and a cheat 279 00:14:28,080 --> 00:14:30,520 Speaker 1: and saying that he knew that I was going away 280 00:14:30,640 --> 00:14:33,720 Speaker 1: on a triple date. I told him that I was 281 00:14:33,760 --> 00:14:36,280 Speaker 1: single and I could do what he wants. He kept 282 00:14:36,320 --> 00:14:39,440 Speaker 1: accusing me of cheating with the guy, saying that it 283 00:14:39,480 --> 00:14:43,760 Speaker 1: was weird after a three year relationship with me to 284 00:14:43,880 --> 00:14:47,200 Speaker 1: move on in two weeks with a guy we had 285 00:14:47,240 --> 00:14:53,040 Speaker 1: fought about, and who I said wasn't a problem. I mean, yeah, yes, 286 00:14:53,240 --> 00:14:56,120 Speaker 1: op a hole for sure. I told him the guy 287 00:14:56,240 --> 00:15:01,080 Speaker 1: wasn't the problem, You're the problem, oh wow, and that 288 00:15:01,160 --> 00:15:04,000 Speaker 1: if he hadn't been so jealous, none of this wouldn't 289 00:15:04,040 --> 00:15:04,480 Speaker 1: have happened. 290 00:15:04,600 --> 00:15:09,320 Speaker 2: Oh broa like this is the definition of gaslighting. 291 00:15:09,600 --> 00:15:12,560 Speaker 1: He kept accusing me of gaslighting him and just bes 292 00:15:13,200 --> 00:15:15,520 Speaker 1: and just being dramatic. So I blocked him. 293 00:15:15,840 --> 00:15:17,760 Speaker 2: Oh, this girl is so mean. 294 00:15:18,360 --> 00:15:21,000 Speaker 1: I told the guy in two couples we were with, 295 00:15:21,480 --> 00:15:24,320 Speaker 1: and they said that he was just being pathetic and 296 00:15:24,360 --> 00:15:27,880 Speaker 1: that everything was above board. But some other friends are 297 00:15:27,920 --> 00:15:30,840 Speaker 1: saying that I'm wrong on moving on so soon with 298 00:15:31,040 --> 00:15:34,840 Speaker 1: the guy. Am I there is a juicy update? 299 00:15:34,920 --> 00:15:38,400 Speaker 2: But okay, So, like, I don't think Op's the a 300 00:15:38,560 --> 00:15:42,840 Speaker 2: hole for full just wait, just wait, I don't think 301 00:15:42,880 --> 00:15:46,320 Speaker 2: Op's the a hole for like moving on quickly with 302 00:15:46,400 --> 00:15:48,480 Speaker 2: this guy. I think she's the a hole for everything 303 00:15:48,560 --> 00:15:49,600 Speaker 2: she did before that. 304 00:15:49,840 --> 00:15:52,440 Speaker 1: Yeah, just like the way she handled this scenario, Like 305 00:15:52,560 --> 00:15:55,760 Speaker 1: I feel like if she had been like, oh crap, 306 00:15:56,080 --> 00:16:00,680 Speaker 1: I have feelings for this guy and but not engaged 307 00:16:01,080 --> 00:16:04,040 Speaker 1: in like like yes, it's like can be kind of 308 00:16:04,040 --> 00:16:06,600 Speaker 1: a great area, but honestly, I believe you do reach 309 00:16:06,640 --> 00:16:10,440 Speaker 1: a point like oh can we dance? No, I need 310 00:16:10,480 --> 00:16:12,000 Speaker 1: to back off on that. You reach a point where 311 00:16:12,000 --> 00:16:14,040 Speaker 1: it's like, okay, like let me that's what she's the 312 00:16:14,080 --> 00:16:16,760 Speaker 1: a hole for. Let me back off on that, and 313 00:16:16,840 --> 00:16:18,760 Speaker 1: like and then continuing to text. 314 00:16:18,520 --> 00:16:21,800 Speaker 2: And then having that happen and continually like like pushing 315 00:16:21,880 --> 00:16:24,720 Speaker 2: the emotional boundaries a whole all around. 316 00:16:25,000 --> 00:16:27,600 Speaker 3: Yeah, even moving on that quickly like she had the 317 00:16:27,600 --> 00:16:31,160 Speaker 3: student back pocket ready to use, and she had him. 318 00:16:31,080 --> 00:16:33,640 Speaker 2: In the back pocket because of the emotional cheating beforehand. 319 00:16:33,680 --> 00:16:35,880 Speaker 2: If she had met him like you know. 320 00:16:37,000 --> 00:16:39,760 Speaker 1: The next if they had broken up for literally because 321 00:16:39,880 --> 00:16:41,960 Speaker 1: it would have been connected if they had met later. 322 00:16:42,120 --> 00:16:45,160 Speaker 1: So they broke up for whatever unrelated reasons. Then she 323 00:16:45,160 --> 00:16:48,000 Speaker 1: got with a guy that's at least ten times better. Yeah, 324 00:16:48,280 --> 00:16:52,280 Speaker 1: it's at least a lot better than this. We have 325 00:16:52,320 --> 00:16:56,040 Speaker 1: another twoicy updates. Yesterday, me and the guy went for 326 00:16:56,120 --> 00:16:57,840 Speaker 1: a late meal around eight pm. 327 00:16:57,960 --> 00:16:59,240 Speaker 2: I don't want to hear about this anymore. 328 00:16:59,480 --> 00:17:01,480 Speaker 1: Too bad reading the store just hit a little too 329 00:17:01,520 --> 00:17:04,600 Speaker 1: close to horn, is it? I'm just asking if it is. 330 00:17:04,800 --> 00:17:05,960 Speaker 3: I just want to know where you're coming from. 331 00:17:08,280 --> 00:17:08,879 Speaker 1: Stir in the bar. 332 00:17:10,560 --> 00:17:12,280 Speaker 2: I've had a similar thing happened to me. 333 00:17:12,600 --> 00:17:15,720 Speaker 1: Oh dude, turn off the stove, Riley, I hate it. 334 00:17:15,760 --> 00:17:19,160 Speaker 1: Turn off the store. At that meal, we had a talk. 335 00:17:19,880 --> 00:17:22,560 Speaker 1: We agreed that we both really like each other and 336 00:17:22,600 --> 00:17:25,399 Speaker 1: we want to give it a shot. So we have 337 00:17:25,480 --> 00:17:28,920 Speaker 1: decided to be exclusive while we see where this thing goes. 338 00:17:29,680 --> 00:17:34,199 Speaker 2: Yah. Yeah, be exclusive, and then you know till you 339 00:17:34,240 --> 00:17:37,600 Speaker 2: meet the next guy. The next guy. Sure, yeah, I'm 340 00:17:37,680 --> 00:17:39,640 Speaker 2: sure this will and brilliantly. 341 00:17:40,480 --> 00:17:43,800 Speaker 1: He stayed at my place last night and I did 342 00:17:44,119 --> 00:17:44,920 Speaker 1: sleep with him. 343 00:17:45,400 --> 00:17:50,800 Speaker 2: Of course you did. Of course it was amazing. Yeah, 344 00:17:50,880 --> 00:17:54,320 Speaker 2: I am seriously happy and excited for the future. Oh yeah, 345 00:17:55,000 --> 00:17:55,680 Speaker 2: just gonna be great. 346 00:17:56,080 --> 00:18:01,280 Speaker 1: Afterwards, we spontaneously booked a holiday to Cypress, just the 347 00:18:01,320 --> 00:18:03,760 Speaker 1: two of us, and we leave on Monday. 348 00:18:05,000 --> 00:18:08,639 Speaker 2: He is half Greek Cyprit, half Jamaican and has a 349 00:18:08,720 --> 00:18:11,280 Speaker 2: villa out there, so we just needed the flights. 350 00:18:11,520 --> 00:18:17,359 Speaker 1: Yo, what I mean sounds like she's leveling the freak up. Sadly, 351 00:18:18,000 --> 00:18:21,360 Speaker 1: As for my two friends who thought I should have waited, 352 00:18:21,960 --> 00:18:24,840 Speaker 1: I drafted a text with help from a user in 353 00:18:24,880 --> 00:18:27,320 Speaker 1: the DMS and sent it to them both in a 354 00:18:27,320 --> 00:18:31,639 Speaker 1: group chat. It reads, Hi, girls, I know you've been 355 00:18:31,640 --> 00:18:34,359 Speaker 1: disappointed in my actions, and I feel like it was 356 00:18:34,400 --> 00:18:36,480 Speaker 1: a bad look to move on so quickly. I know 357 00:18:36,560 --> 00:18:39,000 Speaker 1: you care deeply about me and just want what's best 358 00:18:39,040 --> 00:18:41,600 Speaker 1: for me and for me to make good decisions for myself. 359 00:18:42,200 --> 00:18:44,000 Speaker 1: I do feel like I want to clear up what 360 00:18:44,080 --> 00:18:47,359 Speaker 1: happened a little slash my thought process. What you need 361 00:18:47,400 --> 00:18:50,720 Speaker 1: to understand is I love boinking random dudes. Do I'm 362 00:18:50,760 --> 00:18:54,680 Speaker 1: just kidding in the moment of the ultimatum. I saw 363 00:18:54,720 --> 00:18:57,840 Speaker 1: two paths ahead of me. One where I spin my 364 00:18:58,000 --> 00:19:01,960 Speaker 1: twenties in my ex's bedroom room, watching him smoke weed 365 00:19:02,080 --> 00:19:04,840 Speaker 1: and play Xbox, begging him to go on a date, 366 00:19:05,000 --> 00:19:09,159 Speaker 1: and only getting attention when he wont sex. Then I 367 00:19:09,240 --> 00:19:12,560 Speaker 1: saw one where I stayed friends with the guy and 368 00:19:12,720 --> 00:19:14,639 Speaker 1: we all get to hang out as a big group, 369 00:19:15,119 --> 00:19:18,120 Speaker 1: go to events, go play golf, go on our holidays, 370 00:19:18,160 --> 00:19:19,000 Speaker 1: et cetera. 371 00:19:19,320 --> 00:19:23,159 Speaker 2: I knew then and there our relationship was done. I 372 00:19:23,320 --> 00:19:27,520 Speaker 2: didn't choose the guy over Jay. I chose this life 373 00:19:27,960 --> 00:19:31,120 Speaker 2: where I actually get to hang out together and actually 374 00:19:31,160 --> 00:19:35,240 Speaker 2: live and have fun, versus just me and my ex 375 00:19:35,440 --> 00:19:38,080 Speaker 2: sitting in and doing nothing all the time. I mean, 376 00:19:38,119 --> 00:19:40,440 Speaker 2: but then break up with him before you do all 377 00:19:40,480 --> 00:19:42,000 Speaker 2: this like emotional cheating, you. 378 00:19:41,920 --> 00:19:45,680 Speaker 1: Know, dude, Come on, this is her enlightenment relationship. 379 00:19:45,880 --> 00:19:47,600 Speaker 2: Yeah, she's trying to make her She's trying to make 380 00:19:47,720 --> 00:19:48,800 Speaker 2: us feel bad for her. 381 00:19:49,119 --> 00:19:50,240 Speaker 1: Yes exactly. 382 00:19:50,359 --> 00:19:55,240 Speaker 2: Yeah, you know, freaking go preach to some other people 383 00:19:55,280 --> 00:19:57,560 Speaker 2: that want to hear you, not us. 384 00:19:57,200 --> 00:19:59,920 Speaker 1: Not this podcast. 385 00:20:00,040 --> 00:20:01,879 Speaker 2: Same as Frustrated Today, Ladies and gentlemen. 386 00:20:02,440 --> 00:20:05,280 Speaker 1: It wasn't just a choice between the guy and my ex. 387 00:20:05,400 --> 00:20:09,000 Speaker 1: It was a choice for all of you and the 388 00:20:09,080 --> 00:20:12,280 Speaker 1: life that we've built in these last few months, versus 389 00:20:12,640 --> 00:20:15,919 Speaker 1: my ex as for how quickly I've moved on, You 390 00:20:16,040 --> 00:20:18,800 Speaker 1: both know I had been unhappy for a long time, 391 00:20:19,240 --> 00:20:21,520 Speaker 1: and there was only so long that I could beg 392 00:20:21,600 --> 00:20:25,120 Speaker 1: him to change before giving up to you. It might 393 00:20:25,200 --> 00:20:28,600 Speaker 1: seem like I lost feelings for him overnight, but truthfully 394 00:20:28,880 --> 00:20:31,160 Speaker 1: this has been building since the start of the year. 395 00:20:31,640 --> 00:20:34,760 Speaker 1: I have begged, pleaded, cried for him to change, and 396 00:20:34,840 --> 00:20:38,240 Speaker 1: unfortunately he never did. All he ever wanted to do 397 00:20:38,359 --> 00:20:41,399 Speaker 1: is smoke weed and that was it. By the time 398 00:20:41,480 --> 00:20:43,720 Speaker 1: he threatened to end it, I had already mourned the 399 00:20:43,760 --> 00:20:48,280 Speaker 1: relationship one hundred times. He had already spent all my tears, 400 00:20:48,480 --> 00:20:51,000 Speaker 1: he had already drained me emotionally, and I had no 401 00:20:51,119 --> 00:20:54,000 Speaker 1: more emotions left to give him. Breaking up with him 402 00:20:54,160 --> 00:21:01,879 Speaker 1: wasn't heartbreaking, It was liberating. God damn girl, freaking nice more, jeez, 403 00:21:02,440 --> 00:21:05,120 Speaker 1: This is why I did not feel the need to wait. 404 00:21:05,440 --> 00:21:08,520 Speaker 1: I love you both so much, and I both you 405 00:21:08,600 --> 00:21:12,280 Speaker 1: hope can be happy for me, but if not, that 406 00:21:12,520 --> 00:21:14,000 Speaker 1: is your decision. 407 00:21:14,280 --> 00:21:16,359 Speaker 3: Okay, what does she mean by Ima Jay? 408 00:21:16,480 --> 00:21:18,120 Speaker 2: It was a choice of all of. 409 00:21:18,040 --> 00:21:22,399 Speaker 1: You, all the friends she is saying that if she 410 00:21:22,640 --> 00:21:25,919 Speaker 1: stays with the X, that the X is going to 411 00:21:25,960 --> 00:21:27,639 Speaker 1: be like I don't want to be in this in 412 00:21:27,720 --> 00:21:30,720 Speaker 1: our friend groups because like thanks, you want to smoke weed? Yeah, 413 00:21:30,760 --> 00:21:33,480 Speaker 1: like the guy. The guy is like now like just 414 00:21:34,000 --> 00:21:36,200 Speaker 1: infected in all of our circles, all of our friends groups. 415 00:21:36,240 --> 00:21:40,080 Speaker 1: So if I stay with the X, then I will 416 00:21:40,119 --> 00:21:42,480 Speaker 1: never be able to talk and hang out with you guys. Again. 417 00:21:42,520 --> 00:21:45,919 Speaker 1: That's basically that part of of Op's argument. 418 00:21:46,080 --> 00:21:50,640 Speaker 2: Blame and lame. Yep, absolutely lame awful. 419 00:21:50,920 --> 00:21:53,919 Speaker 1: My friends replied and say they know that I was 420 00:21:54,000 --> 00:21:58,359 Speaker 1: unhappy and they think I made the right decision and 421 00:21:59,160 --> 00:22:00,000 Speaker 1: that they're happy for me. 422 00:22:01,160 --> 00:22:03,840 Speaker 2: I mean, like, yes, it sounds like a better relationship, 423 00:22:04,119 --> 00:22:08,479 Speaker 2: but like have the courage to break it off before 424 00:22:08,520 --> 00:22:10,040 Speaker 2: you have a better thing come your way. 425 00:22:10,240 --> 00:22:12,920 Speaker 1: And also I feel like I feel like give it 426 00:22:12,960 --> 00:22:15,879 Speaker 1: a beat before you hop in, because it's like and 427 00:22:15,920 --> 00:22:19,560 Speaker 1: I think you can say, like listen, I with the guy, 428 00:22:19,760 --> 00:22:21,919 Speaker 1: like I do want to do this with you, but 429 00:22:22,200 --> 00:22:26,200 Speaker 1: I think I need to need a second to like. 430 00:22:26,240 --> 00:22:27,760 Speaker 2: Yeah, that's what we I mean We've seen that in 431 00:22:27,800 --> 00:22:31,000 Speaker 2: other stories where it's like, hey, this seems really exciting, 432 00:22:31,119 --> 00:22:33,600 Speaker 2: but I need time. Yes, I need some time like 433 00:22:33,600 --> 00:22:36,720 Speaker 2: that's I Usually we see it in more like divorce 434 00:22:38,119 --> 00:22:42,000 Speaker 2: more mature individuals. Yeah, more mature individuals. This OP does 435 00:22:42,000 --> 00:22:43,040 Speaker 2: not sound very immature. 436 00:22:43,320 --> 00:22:46,359 Speaker 1: Nope. They said that they're sorry for coming across as 437 00:22:46,440 --> 00:22:49,320 Speaker 1: judgmental and that wasn't their intention, and they were just 438 00:22:49,359 --> 00:22:52,280 Speaker 1: worried that I was making a rash decision. We are 439 00:22:52,320 --> 00:22:55,800 Speaker 1: all meeting tonight just as girls, and we're hanging out 440 00:22:55,840 --> 00:22:59,480 Speaker 1: and going out for a meal and some drinks to. 441 00:22:58,760 --> 00:23:01,720 Speaker 2: To behind this, I wonder who you meet there? 442 00:23:03,359 --> 00:23:09,600 Speaker 1: And then I met him? Shut up my next Well, 443 00:23:09,680 --> 00:23:12,520 Speaker 1: I love baiting and switching on Sam in this episode. 444 00:23:12,640 --> 00:23:16,080 Speaker 2: Then I will be going to the guy's house for 445 00:23:16,359 --> 00:23:19,360 Speaker 2: the first time to. 446 00:23:19,440 --> 00:23:22,280 Speaker 1: Meet his parents, which I'm excited about. 447 00:23:22,600 --> 00:23:23,399 Speaker 2: It's going fast. 448 00:23:23,440 --> 00:23:25,280 Speaker 1: Oh that was not a bait and switch. That was real. 449 00:23:25,400 --> 00:23:28,360 Speaker 1: That was that was all facts. My ex is staying 450 00:23:28,400 --> 00:23:31,120 Speaker 1: blocked and I doubt I'll ever see or hear from 451 00:23:31,160 --> 00:23:34,040 Speaker 1: him again, as he never leaves his room. So that 452 00:23:34,160 --> 00:23:37,040 Speaker 1: is the end of that and I'm closing this miserable 453 00:23:37,240 --> 00:23:41,960 Speaker 1: chapter in my life for good. Wow. 454 00:23:43,960 --> 00:23:47,920 Speaker 2: So the question is, is OP the a hole? 455 00:23:48,160 --> 00:23:48,480 Speaker 1: Dude? 456 00:23:49,320 --> 00:23:50,200 Speaker 2: John? What do you think? 457 00:23:50,760 --> 00:23:55,280 Speaker 1: One of the easiest yes, yes, is yeah, we've ever 458 00:23:55,440 --> 00:23:58,119 Speaker 1: had in the two thousand plus stories that we've read 459 00:23:58,160 --> 00:23:58,240 Speaker 1: on this. 460 00:23:58,440 --> 00:24:00,760 Speaker 2: I know you guys think for your aunt in the comments, 461 00:24:00,800 --> 00:24:04,320 Speaker 2: but man, I feel like definitely some a whole behavior 462 00:24:04,359 --> 00:24:06,800 Speaker 2: and she was trying to make us feel all bad 463 00:24:06,880 --> 00:24:07,159 Speaker 2: for her. 464 00:24:08,640 --> 00:24:09,720 Speaker 3: Your boyfriend was just boring. 465 00:24:10,040 --> 00:24:11,639 Speaker 1: You should have told us all this stuff in the 466 00:24:11,800 --> 00:24:15,680 Speaker 1: very first yeah story before any of the updates, and 467 00:24:15,760 --> 00:24:17,760 Speaker 1: been like, look, I meant this guy, I'm kind of 468 00:24:17,760 --> 00:24:22,159 Speaker 1: having these feelings, and I'll be completely honest, here's some 469 00:24:22,160 --> 00:24:25,480 Speaker 1: some stuff that's gone wrong. I feel like you would 470 00:24:25,520 --> 00:24:27,040 Speaker 1: have mentioned it if it was really that bad in. 471 00:24:27,000 --> 00:24:31,560 Speaker 2: Them Yeah, first exactly, story exactly, and you didn't. You didn't, 472 00:24:31,600 --> 00:24:34,360 Speaker 2: You freaking didn't. You're freaking you're freaking capped, bro. 473 00:24:34,640 --> 00:24:35,840 Speaker 1: So what are we gonna do. 474 00:24:36,240 --> 00:24:38,040 Speaker 2: We're going to fire her from the show? 475 00:24:38,240 --> 00:24:39,439 Speaker 1: You fire you from life? 476 00:24:39,640 --> 00:24:42,840 Speaker 2: Yeah, Okay, I want to know what what our audience thinks. Yeah, 477 00:24:42,880 --> 00:24:44,920 Speaker 2: please let us, Please let us know in the comments 478 00:24:44,960 --> 00:24:47,720 Speaker 2: if you think op was the a whole I also think, okay, 479 00:24:47,880 --> 00:24:49,960 Speaker 2: this might be a hot take. Uh oh, this may 480 00:24:50,000 --> 00:24:52,200 Speaker 2: be a hot take. I've seen a lot of rom 481 00:24:52,280 --> 00:24:56,080 Speaker 2: coms where like it's like almost celebrated leaving the boring 482 00:24:56,160 --> 00:24:57,560 Speaker 2: guy for the guy that you just meet. 483 00:24:57,920 --> 00:25:00,520 Speaker 1: I can think of a few or like yeah, like 484 00:25:00,680 --> 00:25:06,160 Speaker 1: the bad relationship, Yeah, and then you like and then 485 00:25:06,200 --> 00:25:08,000 Speaker 1: you just like meet this guy, I'm like, oh my god, 486 00:25:08,000 --> 00:25:09,840 Speaker 1: he's so great, and then they just leave him. You're 487 00:25:09,840 --> 00:25:12,240 Speaker 1: not as exciting as the new thing. 488 00:25:12,440 --> 00:25:15,600 Speaker 2: Yeah, is a huge grant, Like how can you compare yourself. 489 00:25:15,880 --> 00:25:20,159 Speaker 3: Matthew, every single French movie that's a romantic movie. 490 00:25:20,200 --> 00:25:23,119 Speaker 1: And that's why praternity tests are legal in France. 491 00:25:24,000 --> 00:25:28,640 Speaker 2: Illegal illegal, I can't do it. It caused mass pandemonium. Yeah, 492 00:25:28,840 --> 00:25:30,440 Speaker 2: I think it's an a whole move. But I feel 493 00:25:30,480 --> 00:25:33,680 Speaker 2: like I feel like our rom coms are teaching us differently. 494 00:25:34,080 --> 00:25:36,560 Speaker 3: I want to ask what you can say no, what 495 00:25:36,960 --> 00:25:40,439 Speaker 3: but do you have an okay story? Time can say no, 496 00:25:40,600 --> 00:25:41,080 Speaker 3: it's okay. 497 00:25:41,200 --> 00:25:43,959 Speaker 2: I mean like I'm just very interesting. Yeah, you already 498 00:25:44,080 --> 00:25:47,480 Speaker 2: know the story. I had an ex, a recent ex, 499 00:25:47,520 --> 00:25:50,320 Speaker 2: that was getting very close to her guy friend and 500 00:25:50,560 --> 00:25:55,680 Speaker 2: was like getting touched with them, and I was like, hey, 501 00:25:55,800 --> 00:26:00,240 Speaker 2: like I'm not comfortable with this. If this continue, I 502 00:26:00,400 --> 00:26:04,080 Speaker 2: don't think I continue with the relationship. And like, like 503 00:26:04,119 --> 00:26:06,399 Speaker 2: one of the rules that we made was like just 504 00:26:06,440 --> 00:26:10,359 Speaker 2: don't be at his house alone after midnight. And then 505 00:26:10,440 --> 00:26:13,639 Speaker 2: the very like next day, she was at his place 506 00:26:14,040 --> 00:26:19,440 Speaker 2: alone after midnight, and I was just like, I'm breaking 507 00:26:19,520 --> 00:26:19,920 Speaker 2: up with you. 508 00:26:20,000 --> 00:26:22,480 Speaker 3: Did they end up like staying together or whatever for 509 00:26:22,480 --> 00:26:22,920 Speaker 3: a little bit. 510 00:26:23,000 --> 00:26:27,360 Speaker 2: No, he ended up stop seeing her completely because he 511 00:26:27,440 --> 00:26:30,359 Speaker 2: felt that she was getting a little bit too like 512 00:26:31,240 --> 00:26:35,080 Speaker 2: into him, so he he ended it with her in 513 00:26:35,160 --> 00:26:38,040 Speaker 2: terms of like their friendship if only the guy. Yeah, so, 514 00:26:38,160 --> 00:26:40,399 Speaker 2: I mean he's only the guy in this situation. I 515 00:26:40,880 --> 00:26:44,000 Speaker 2: love with him to The guy stood up, but he 516 00:26:44,040 --> 00:26:48,080 Speaker 2: sat down and he how you happy? You asked about 517 00:26:48,080 --> 00:26:48,800 Speaker 2: that story time? 518 00:26:48,920 --> 00:26:49,160 Speaker 1: Yeah? 519 00:26:49,240 --> 00:26:50,720 Speaker 2: Yeah, are you satisfied? 520 00:26:52,320 --> 00:26:53,200 Speaker 1: Poor boy? 521 00:26:53,480 --> 00:26:56,000 Speaker 2: You just feel sad now? 522 00:26:56,240 --> 00:26:58,960 Speaker 1: Well you know, Sam, I'm sad, and there's only there's 523 00:26:58,960 --> 00:27:02,600 Speaker 1: only one cure, another story, another story. 524 00:27:03,040 --> 00:27:04,959 Speaker 2: Give you two ccs a stat let's do it.