Speaker 1: Welcome to Checking In with Michelle Williams, a production of
Speaker 1: My Heart Radio and The Black Effect. Hang everybody, what's up?
Speaker 1: What's up? Welcome to another episode of Checking In. I
Speaker 1: am your host and what I am so thrilled about
Speaker 1: today's episode. Y'all just get to have me and me alone.
Speaker 1: I couldn't wait to talk to y'all. I'd celebrated a birthday,
Speaker 1: and so I definitely wanted to personally thank y'all so
Speaker 1: much for the love, all the messages. I think that's
Speaker 1: what I look forward to. One of the top things
Speaker 1: I look forward to the most all my birthday, the messages.
Speaker 1: Even if I could get to or respond to everybody,
Speaker 1: I saw tons of messages from some of everybody. Thank you'
Speaker 1: all soul much for the birthday love. I took an
Speaker 1: amazing birthday trip, was surrounded by love and peace and beauty.
Speaker 1: It was just absolutely amazing. So thank you all, so
Speaker 1: so so much. I think I should make that a tradition,
Speaker 1: you know, making sure that I travel somewhere absolutely amazing
Speaker 1: for my birthday. Live a little, you know what I mean?
Speaker 1: So yeah, y'all be intentional about living and celebrating you
Speaker 1: how far you've come. I don't care if you only
Speaker 1: took two steps this year. Guess what your two steps
Speaker 1: further than you were last year. Okay, So just make
Speaker 1: sure you are celebrating every milestone, celebrating every improvement. I
Speaker 1: don't care if that improvement is you didn't custombody else
Speaker 1: today celebrated go get some ice, career, child fry, a
Speaker 1: Balogney sandwich, something I don't know, But celebrate celebrate that
Speaker 1: victory because you might know what it's like to really
Speaker 1: pop off at somebody and then you've done more damage
Speaker 1: had you just held your peace. Okay. So, like I said,
Speaker 1: celebrate every milestone, celebrate the goals that you've conquered. So
Speaker 1: thank you all again, thank you all for the love
Speaker 1: of checking in. I'm looking forward to next season and
Speaker 1: who's coming on and let me know, by the way,
Speaker 1: who y'all want on checking in as well. I look
Speaker 1: forward to reading y'all's comments and you'll suggestions or if
Speaker 1: you got a book suggestion I should read and be
Speaker 1: like Michelle, read this book girl and have this author on.
Speaker 1: I got some questions about what they said, so just
Speaker 1: let me know. I'm all for it. I am all
Speaker 1: for it. Okay, so thank y'all again for everything, truly,
Speaker 1: the love and support. I think it's true with the
Speaker 1: older you get, you become a little more reflective of
Speaker 1: life because you've lived a little longer, maybe than the
Speaker 1: ten year old, even though the ten year old may
Speaker 1: have something to reflect on, but when you're like now,
Speaker 1: I'm not eighty three, but I'm forty three. So even
Speaker 1: the eighty three year old, they got a way more
Speaker 1: to share, way more experienced. But at I've I've had
Speaker 1: some experiences, I've lived some life. I've had some disappointments,
Speaker 1: I've had some failures, some excitements, some goals reached, and man,
Speaker 1: my life has It's just I've just been blown away
Speaker 1: with everything, with everything even blown up. Not just by
Speaker 1: the good self, honey, I've been blown away by what's
Speaker 1: going on in our world and the media. And I
Speaker 1: don't know about you, but some of this stuff it
Speaker 1: causes me to literally, I I get speechless, especially when
Speaker 1: something pierces my soul. It's like I can't move, I
Speaker 1: can't I can't form an opinion, but I think what happened.
Speaker 1: I'm a processor, so it takes me a while to
Speaker 1: process something that I've seen or heard or witnessed and
Speaker 1: takes me a minute. So I definitely can can admit
Speaker 1: that at this age, Like, Okay, I admit I'm a
Speaker 1: little I think I've told you before our process and
Speaker 1: that's something that I own. Could I maybe have quicker
Speaker 1: responses and not take a day or two to come
Speaker 1: up with something, Probably, but I don't know. Sometimes it's
Speaker 1: good to sit with something until you have a sound response,
Speaker 1: because that's the reason why a lot of us get
Speaker 1: in trouble, because our responses are not sound. And what
Speaker 1: do you mean by sound? Okay, let me look up
Speaker 1: that definition of sound a sound mind. The word sound
Speaker 1: means based on reason, sense, or judgment. All right, sound
Speaker 1: advice for heav living. So I try to wait till
Speaker 1: I can really process something. I want to make sure
Speaker 1: I'm not too emotional about my response, like you just
Speaker 1: having a response to have a response. So I'm learning
Speaker 1: when I process it's because I want to make sure
Speaker 1: that I've got something really to say in my response.
Speaker 1: But at the same time, no response is a response
Speaker 1: as well. No response. Could me let me tell you
Speaker 1: the reason I'm not responding, because I will come for you.
Speaker 1: Your mom and your daddy and your granny. If I
Speaker 1: don't take time to process, Okay, now give you a
Speaker 1: day or two and I'm gonna come back with something
Speaker 1: more reasonable. Because right now, right now, you might write
Speaker 1: a song about me, right right now, you might preach
Speaker 1: a sermon about me, right now. I just, I'm just.
Speaker 1: You might blog about me. If it's so, just let
Speaker 1: me come back tomorrow, because right now this response is
Speaker 1: not what you want. And I know me, So that's
Speaker 1: why it takes me a minute to say, you know what,
Speaker 1: just think about it. Or something can be so riveting
Speaker 1: it literally shakes you and you freeze. You don't have
Speaker 1: nothing to say. So mine is more so because I
Speaker 1: want to make sure I have something sound, something that,
Speaker 1: as they say, make it makes sense. I want to
Speaker 1: make sure that I make sense. And there's been a
Speaker 1: lot going on. I mean, months ago, you had the
Speaker 1: whole Will Smith Chris Rock thing, and I'm just it
Speaker 1: was all sad, right, it was all sad. It was
Speaker 1: sad too. Watch Will literally in real time go through
Speaker 1: whatever it was that he was going through, and that
Speaker 1: made him get about his seat. He was obviously seething,
Speaker 1: he was angry, right to make him get up about
Speaker 1: his seat. Then I was sad, so, like I said,
Speaker 1: I'm sad for both of them. I'm sad for Chris Rock.
Speaker 1: I'm sad that he's humiliated as well. On Live TVV.
Speaker 1: You are slapped in the internet lives forever. Unless you
Speaker 1: know the real life Judy Smith. It's gonna live on
Speaker 1: the internet for ever ever. He could possibly forever be
Speaker 1: known as the man who got slapped at the Oscars.
Speaker 1: Now that's not what I wanted to be known for,
Speaker 1: because I don't like being known as you know, every
Speaker 1: week I'm being reminded that I fell on one of
Speaker 1: six and part which was like, wasn't that like seventeen
Speaker 1: or eighteen years ago? But because it's on the internet,
Speaker 1: it lives, It lives forever. I don't. I talked about
Speaker 1: it maybe once every couple of years, but I just
Speaker 1: remember sitting there like, oh my gosh, I was getting
Speaker 1: my makeup done for being Jay's Oscar party that night,
Speaker 1: and me and the makeup artists we were like, no,
Speaker 1: that was definitely a skit because they're both actors as
Speaker 1: the Oscars, so it makes sense why And he was like, whoop,
Speaker 1: that was for real, my girl glow graphics. She just
Speaker 1: posted something where she was saying that that moment had
Speaker 1: her depressed for three months, and when you're in f
Speaker 1: I can definitely see why. I could definitely see why
Speaker 1: she said it sent her into a three month depression.
Speaker 1: I guess when she mentioned her stance on it, I
Speaker 1: guess she got a lot of evil, evil messages. And
Speaker 1: I think for me that can kind of be the
Speaker 1: reason why I don't say much. Because we live in
Speaker 1: a world where people don't respect opinions. So you mean
Speaker 1: to tell me my girl glow posted a very respectful
Speaker 1: sound response to it, and people ate her to smithereens right,
Speaker 1: So it makes you not want to say nothing because
Speaker 1: we don't respect somebody's opinion. You could say, Michelle, I
Speaker 1: don't like Popeye's, I like churches, and I'm gonna say,
Speaker 1: oh girl, bro live it up. I think Church's biscuits
Speaker 1: might be better. That's my opinion. But I'm not going
Speaker 1: to obliterate you. I'm not going to like. You didn't
Speaker 1: say nothing that was vulgar. You didn't disrespect me, you
Speaker 1: didn't in fame me, you didn't talk about my family,
Speaker 1: You didn't you you know what I mean? So I
Speaker 1: feel like as long as an opinion is respectful. I
Speaker 1: don't know. I just thought we could live in a
Speaker 1: world where people could have their opinions and it be
Speaker 1: just that opinions are shaped by many things. Opinions are
Speaker 1: shaped by, first of all, your experiences on the matter. Now,
Speaker 1: there is a small percentage of people who have an
Speaker 1: opinion on something that never experienced the said matter, But
Speaker 1: the majority of the time is if you have had
Speaker 1: an anger issue. I would love to hear your opinion
Speaker 1: on Will Smith smacking Chris Rock. I would love to
Speaker 1: hear it because you have an experience of anger, and
Speaker 1: sometimes when you're angry, you might do things out of anger.
Speaker 1: So I want to hear it versus someone who's just
Speaker 1: you say, child, I ain't never been angry. Actually, you know,
Speaker 1: I want to hear that too, because I want to
Speaker 1: hear Okay, you must just live in a state of zin,
Speaker 1: in a state of peace. Do you do tai chi
Speaker 1: every day? Do you do yoga every day? Do help
Speaker 1: help help me? So I will say I love to
Speaker 1: hear all types of opinions, but I do know a
Speaker 1: lot of opinions are shaped and curated by your lived experiences.
Speaker 1: I know mine are. And if I haven't lived on something,
Speaker 1: or I've never experienced it, ain't seeing it, or I've
Speaker 1: never had a friend that has lived through something, I
Speaker 1: might mute on the matter, but more so too because
Speaker 1: you people just don't respect you know, opinion. So I
Speaker 1: don't know. I just I will say, at the age
Speaker 1: of forty three, I definitely feel like I've curated a
Speaker 1: life of peace lately. And Kelly was here visiting me
Speaker 1: not too long ago, and she sat here for a
Speaker 1: while and said she gets it. She understands that while
Speaker 1: it's peaceful in here. Yeah, I promise you that. Oh
Speaker 1: Lord Jeets. That's probably why I'm not saying I don't
Speaker 1: want to be married, but it's gonna make it a
Speaker 1: teach difficult for me to get married because I'm telling
Speaker 1: you this is probably your second or third time hearing
Speaker 1: me say this. But you gotta match my piece, add
Speaker 1: to my peace, or feel better than my peace, because Bebee,
Speaker 1: iur too hard to curate this wonderful life of peace.
Speaker 1: There's a difference between me curating a life of isolation
Speaker 1: versus just a life of peace. I don't want a drama.
Speaker 1: I don't want a whole bunch of foolishness because I
Speaker 1: can't create and do what I do in that state.
Speaker 1: That's just me. I mean, we've got Roll versus Wade,
Speaker 1: which is just it's created so much division. It's just
Speaker 1: caused so much division. I just don't understand. I haven't
Speaker 1: spoken on this matter even publicly. I do know where
Speaker 1: I stand on it, and I am grateful for I'll
Speaker 1: say it like this, I'm grateful for the choices that
Speaker 1: I've had in every area of life. Even my relationship
Speaker 1: with God is choice. God has never forced me. He's
Speaker 1: I don't think he's forced to anyone to choose relationship. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it takes me a while. It takes me a while,
Speaker 1: you know. Like I said, make sure my responses are sound,
Speaker 1: that they make sense, and prayerfully my responses don't create
Speaker 1: even more division. Right now, responses can create one to
Speaker 1: challenge themselves to maybe think a little, and it's not
Speaker 1: even to change how you feel. But hey, part of
Speaker 1: having empathy is to also put yourself in someone else's shoes.
Speaker 1: So if you can have an opinion or make a choice,
Speaker 1: but your opinion is like, okay, well before I really
Speaker 1: have this judgment, let me let me put myself in
Speaker 1: someone else's shoes, man, And I'm telling you, I'm telling
Speaker 1: you that can always help. I can always help with
Speaker 1: our decisions, sound decisions and having respect for for others
Speaker 1: in their decisions. What else is? It's been so much,
Speaker 1: It's been some fun things. Y'all. Listen, aren't we excited?
Speaker 1: Renaissance Beyonce's album has come out. I'm excited about that.
Speaker 1: I'm excited when my friends have projects that are coming out.
Speaker 1: You know, I have a friend in New York. He's
Speaker 1: an artist, and I love when I get emails about
Speaker 1: his art exhibits Jersey. You know, I I just get excited.
Speaker 1: I I really, really really do. As far as Renaissance
Speaker 1: is concerned, I have heard this album, I guess more
Speaker 1: going on top of the year up until now and
Speaker 1: what she's been working on. And it is awesome to
Speaker 1: see her work. It's awesome to see her create. My
Speaker 1: brother Dream is a dream. He is hilarious, you guys.
Speaker 1: I like to sit with the two of them like
Speaker 1: a fly on the wall, right, and just seeing them
Speaker 1: work and collaborate. B is so like a promise shop.
Speaker 1: She just sits there and sings her songs and be killing.
Speaker 1: Even her session is a place of peace. It's amazing.
Speaker 1: So I have to say I posted the other day
Speaker 1: about energy. That's my jam. Duh, it's a given. Of course,
Speaker 1: church girl is my thing. Like, come on, come on,
Speaker 1: and yes, some of that rings true about church girls.
Speaker 1: Y'all stop getting church girls twisted. That person who who
Speaker 1: loves all things spiritual, they got hormones too. They know
Speaker 1: how to dance. They want to be loved. They want
Speaker 1: to drop it a team. They want to drop it
Speaker 1: like it's hot. You know what I mean? Like, let
Speaker 1: that church girl live. Okay, all the church girls, I
Speaker 1: see you, Okay. I am one of them, and so
Speaker 1: are you. So let's just praise the Lord. Come on,
Speaker 1: somebody that comes from Father Abraham, the song Father Abraham's
Speaker 1: many sons and many sons as Father Abraham. I am
Speaker 1: one of them, and so are you. So let's just
Speaker 1: praise the Lord. That's where that comes from. Church girl,
Speaker 1: I'm one of them. And saw you shout out to
Speaker 1: coeen bet on this amazing body of work. What was
Speaker 1: your favorite? So I've been trying to lark to see
Speaker 1: what y'all have been saying. So yes, so I will
Speaker 1: never forget one of the first initial sessions and listening
Speaker 1: everyone intimately close to her. We were at her house
Speaker 1: and I was going bonkers, absolutely bonkers. Y'all don't want
Speaker 1: to hear this part, but if we never sing a
Speaker 1: song again. And I'm grateful for sisterhood with Beyonce and Kelly,
Speaker 1: the fact that I've known them, what met them at nine.
Speaker 1: So it's going on twenty three years of relationship and
Speaker 1: nothing warms my heart better than our group chats and
Speaker 1: texting or one of them singing the song saying, hey,
Speaker 1: what do y'all think about this? Us being able to
Speaker 1: sneak up on each other there and support and love
Speaker 1: on each other, y'all, that's what being grown is about. Support, love,
Speaker 1: ain't no drama. There's peace there, respect is there. So
Speaker 1: I had to talk about this album. Prayerfully something works
Speaker 1: out where we get to hear from her soon about
Speaker 1: the album and the creation of it. When y'all love
Speaker 1: to have her on checking in don't try wanna don't we? Yeah,
Speaker 1: Kelly has already been on, so I gotta have be on, like,
Speaker 1: come on, it did? It only makes sense. I'm loving
Speaker 1: the turn she took. This is a classic. It can
Speaker 1: make everybody move and dance, and that's what she wanted.
Speaker 1: We've been stuck in the house or in a pandemic.
Speaker 1: Folks been afraid to travel. Some of us have we
Speaker 1: started our travels again. Work requires it. We are totally, totally,
Speaker 1: totally excited that we've got some bobs. Okay, and I
Speaker 1: also loved people's responses who are featured on the album,
Speaker 1: knowing that you're featured, but the response of surprise, the
Speaker 1: response of feeling so honored and blessed. I am absolutely
Speaker 1: loving loving it. Okay. So to everybody featured on the album,
Speaker 1: I can't wait to talk to you as well. So
Speaker 1: y'all stay tuned for the next few episodes of Checking In.
Speaker 1: I love talking to everybody creative again, to all the
Speaker 1: authors and everybody, I I really the show has been
Speaker 1: a variety of people. Once again, it's about checking in,
Speaker 1: checking in with brilliant minds, checking in with just beautiful
Speaker 1: souls and man, I'm going back to the beginning of
Speaker 1: this episode, but thank y'all again for allowing me to
Speaker 1: talk with a variety such a variety of people. I
Speaker 1: love you, guys. Continue to live, travel, don't forget to
Speaker 1: check in with yourself. Don't forget to check in with others,
Speaker 1: and don't forget to check in with God. I've been
Speaker 1: really intentional about the same. Change your mind. You can
Speaker 1: change your life when I mean change your mind. Dr
Speaker 1: Caroline Leave always talks about the mind being the place
Speaker 1: where we think, feel and choose. So of the place
Speaker 1: where you're thinking, feeling and choosing, you're not having optimal results,
Speaker 1: optimal peace. Make some changes, and I'm telling you you
Speaker 1: can change your life. I saw something as well that
Speaker 1: said go off the grid for six months and really
Speaker 1: be intentional about habits life, maybe processing trauma and challenges
Speaker 1: with the therapists or counselor working on your body, working
Speaker 1: on your goals and your dreams, putting that work in.
Speaker 1: And they were just saying how your life can change.
Speaker 1: Some people even say go off the grid for a year.
Speaker 1: I've been thinking about going off the grid, y'all, but
Speaker 1: I just can't. Oh. Every now and then, I do
Speaker 1: take a social media break, and I mean a real
Speaker 1: social media break where I delete the apps off of
Speaker 1: my phone and it's so refreshing. The only thing I
Speaker 1: don't like about the social media breaks is when you
Speaker 1: come back on social media and you put all that
Speaker 1: junk back in you. So I guess you know, even
Speaker 1: having to curate who you follow and what you listen to,
Speaker 1: what you're watching, who you surround yourself with is so important.
Speaker 1: But any who, I really just came in to do
Speaker 1: a personal check in and to thank you all for
Speaker 1: the birthday love and I will talk to y'all soon,
Speaker 1: and please always know you're loved. And if you're not
Speaker 1: feeling loved, hit me on my social media pages. I
Speaker 1: want to talk to you. I just I just want
Speaker 1: to send you some love back. But just no, I
Speaker 1: love you. I do, I really, really really do. I
Speaker 1: think the world of you. I'm obviously thinking that the
Speaker 1: people that listen to my podcast. You're a world changer.
Speaker 1: You want to change the world, and changing the world
Speaker 1: don't necessarily me changing the population of a million people.
Speaker 1: Changing your world, whether it's the one person you live with,
Speaker 1: your child, your partner, a person on your job that's
Speaker 1: helping to change the world. So you're a world changer.
Speaker 1: You are a world changer. You are amazing despite obstacles
Speaker 1: and challenges that you may be going through through is
Speaker 1: the key word. You're going through. You're not gonna stop
Speaker 1: there again. You are loved and thank you so much
Speaker 1: for checking in. Shout out to the Black Effect podcast Network,
Speaker 1: to my producers checking in. I love y'all. I will
Speaker 1: see y'all again next week. Ye Checking In with Michelle
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