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Speaker 1: It is the Strawberry Letter. Thank you. Nephew's subject They're

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Speaker 1: not really related, okay, Dear Stephen Shirley. My husband and

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Speaker 1: I have been together for five years and married for

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Speaker 1: three years. I have a son by my ex husband,

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Speaker 1: and my husband has a son by an ex girlfriend.

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Speaker 1: Our blended family works perfectly because the boys are very

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Speaker 1: close in age, so they're best friends. My stepson's mom

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Speaker 1: is cool, but I've made it a point to keep

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Speaker 1: her at a distance because my mother in law told

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Speaker 1: me she can be very messy at times. She also

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Speaker 1: warned me to keep an eye on my husband's cousin, Mallory,

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Speaker 1: because she's a bad influence on my husband and we'll

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Speaker 1: have him hanging out at all, hanging out all of

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Speaker 1: the time. When I met my husband he was out

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Speaker 1: with his cousin, Mallorie. They were inseparable, and she has

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Speaker 1: a son around our son's age, so they all play together.

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Speaker 1: She's a beautiful woman with her own business, so I

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Speaker 1: wondered why she's still single. After we got married, Mallory

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Speaker 1: the guy That was four years ago. Now, she stopped

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Speaker 1: coming over all together. My husband's ex girlfriend called me

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Speaker 1: one day to ask if Mallory and I had a

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Speaker 1: problem with each other. I told her no and asked why.

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Speaker 1: She said, there's a rumor that Mallory's three year old

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Speaker 1: son is my husband's child. I thought Mallorie was his cousin,

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Speaker 1: but his ex said they're not related at all. I

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Speaker 1: called my mother in law to ask her, and she jokingly,

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Speaker 1: jokingly said they're kissing cousins and probably used to mess around.

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Speaker 1: It started to make sense because Mallory said she was

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Speaker 1: too sick to come to our wedding and she never

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Speaker 1: calls my phone. She always calls my husband and they

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Speaker 1: talk privately a lot. Boy, what's eye stupid? If this

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Speaker 1: is true, how do I find out all the truth

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Speaker 1: without fighting them. I don't know how you're going to

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Speaker 1: do it without fighting them, because it seems pretty clear

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Speaker 1: what this is. And so much for the perfect, blended

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Speaker 1: family that you thought you had, because this is a mess,

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Speaker 1: and you already know that if you ask him, he's

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Speaker 1: certainly gonna lie about it. He hasn't told you until

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Speaker 1: this point. If you listen to the show on a

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Speaker 1: regular basis, you know the lies will be flying out

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Speaker 1: of your husband's mouth before you can even get the

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Speaker 1: questions out. Okay, there's also the matter of exactly what

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Speaker 1: truth do you want to know? Do you want to

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Speaker 1: know if they're really cousins? Are they exist? And the

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Speaker 1: big question, of course, is your husband Malory's baby daddy.

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Speaker 1: You gotta look at the facts. When you met your husband,

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Speaker 1: he was with Mallory. They were inseparable. Those are your words.

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Speaker 1: Your mother in law told you to keep an eye

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Speaker 1: on her because she's a bad influence on your husband.

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Speaker 1: I don't really know what that means, but your mother

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Speaker 1: in law also said that Mallory and your husband probably

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Speaker 1: messed around and they're kissing cousins. Okay, that could produce

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Speaker 1: a child if they messed around. And then his ex

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Speaker 1: said they're not related at all. After you guys married,

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Speaker 1: miss Mallory stopped coming around and now only talks to

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Speaker 1: your husband in private. Something is off. Okay, you gotta

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Speaker 1: admit that something is off, and this sounds bad. It

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Speaker 1: should be fairly easy to get a DNA a test

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Speaker 1: to see who is the child's father. But what is

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Speaker 1: your gut telling you? That's what I got to ask you.

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Speaker 1: What is your gut telling you? Because my gut is

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Speaker 1: leaning toward Malory is not his cousin like they said,

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Speaker 1: and your husband is the father. That's what my gut

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Speaker 1: is telling me. Steve, Wow, I wasn't expecting this. I'm

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Speaker 1: going to admit I'm a big throwed off, you know,

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Speaker 1: a little bit of oh oh really? Oh Now, normally

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Speaker 1: I would prepare a lie for this guy, but this

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Speaker 1: maybe not the time for the lie. Instead of lying, no,

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Speaker 1: this is a time for reveal. See that has a difference.

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Speaker 1: You gotta know when to lie and you got to

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Speaker 1: what I'm saying. You've been married for five years, three years,

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Speaker 1: boys are very close in age. Let's keep that in mind.

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Speaker 1: We're gonna need this information right here. Put a star

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Speaker 1: next to that. So they're best friends. My stepson's mom

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Speaker 1: me she could be very messy at times. Okay, let's

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Speaker 1: keep that in mind because that's gonna come back. She

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Speaker 1: also wanted me to keep around with my husband's cousin, Mallory,

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Speaker 1: he was out with his cousin Mallory. They weren't separable.

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Speaker 1: He has a son around, She has a son around

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Speaker 1: our son's age, so they all play together. She's a

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Speaker 1: that's an interesting comments. Know why you don't want you

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Speaker 1: to meet the new guy? You know, y'all friends and cousins.

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Speaker 1: You would think you'd want your cousins a pen. That

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Speaker 1: was four years ago. Now she just stopped coming over

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Speaker 1: all together. My husband's a girlfriend called me one day.

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Speaker 1: Your husband's as girlfriend called you. Didn't your mother in

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Speaker 1: law tell you to watch her? Call she messy? She

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Speaker 1: sure did. She told you to watch his ex girlfriend

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Speaker 1: because she is messy. Here she go. She called you

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Speaker 1: and ask if Mallory and I had a problem with

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Speaker 1: each other four years. Hang on, hang on, we'll have

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Speaker 1: part two of your response coming up at twenty three

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Speaker 1: minutes after the hour. Today's strawberry letter, subject they're not

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Speaker 1: really related? Okay, we'll get back into it right after this.

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Speaker 1: You're listening Steve Harvey Morning Show. All right, come on, Steve,

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Speaker 1: let's recap today's strawberry letter. The subject is if they're

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Speaker 1: not really related? Woman been married, been three years, been

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Speaker 1: knowing this guy five. She got a son from a

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Speaker 1: previous husband, He got a son from previous girlfriend. They

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Speaker 1: both the same age. They got a blended family. They

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Speaker 1: played together all the time. Fast forward, the mother gets

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Speaker 1: told her beware of Mallory because she can be getting

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Speaker 1: So every woman in his life has been a bad decision. Now,

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Speaker 1: still single. Well after we got married, Malory stopped coming

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Speaker 1: If when your cousins, you want your other cousin's opinion,

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Speaker 1: especially if y'all close red flag. That was four years ago.

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Speaker 1: messing and here she come four years. Took her four

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Speaker 1: a problem to each other. I told him no. She said, well,

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Speaker 1: why you ain't got a problem with her? She said

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Speaker 1: that as a rumor that Malorie's three year old sons

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Speaker 1: your husband's child. I thought Mallorie was his cousin. Well,

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Speaker 1: now let's deal with this right now. If you if

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Speaker 1: Mallory was his cousin, you don't have to worry about it.

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Speaker 1: If he lying, all you need to do is watch

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Speaker 1: that boy close. Now, three boys that's playing. Is your

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Speaker 1: little boy from your ex husband. Is your husband's little

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Speaker 1: boy from his ex girlfriend, and now is Mallory's little boy.

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Speaker 1: If Mallory is your husband's cousin, you would know that

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Speaker 1: by watching the boy. You know what, because this little

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Speaker 1: boy ain't gonna be quite right now. I'm just really

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Speaker 1: a climb on stuff. You know, he ain't gonna do

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Speaker 1: I'm telling you right now, he thows your hollege to

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Speaker 1: still crawling. He said nothing. He still crawled at three three.

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Speaker 1: Come on, come, on from this. No, this is how

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Speaker 1: you do these letters. Okay, now we'll get back to

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Speaker 1: the boy. But right now, but his ex said they're

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Speaker 1: not related at all. Once again, it would be in

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Speaker 1: the boy if they were related. Now, obviously this boy's normal.

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Speaker 1: He ain't doing nothing nothing that the inbred people do.

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Speaker 1: I'm from West Virginia. I've seen a couple of people

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Speaker 1: just thirteen years old, just walking down the street, just

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Speaker 1: the side, where are you walking and peeing on yourself? Herbert,

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Speaker 1: he got a helmet on. Yeah, yeah, I'm gonna tell

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Speaker 1: ain't gonna get it. I'm just telling you, he just

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Speaker 1: ain't gonna get it. His equal librium and it's never

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Speaker 1: He all he right, he's still he fifteen, He got

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Speaker 1: be holling for no reason, Come over, your house, and

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Speaker 1: if he gets thirsty, if he take his helmet off

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Speaker 1: We did. We're dealing with some issues now. I'm just

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Speaker 1: Mallory says she was too sick to come to our

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Speaker 1: wed and she never calls my phone. She always calls

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Speaker 1: my husband and they talked privately a lot. Boy was

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Speaker 1: our stupid if this is true? No, you're not. No,

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Speaker 1: you're not. Wasn't stupid at all. Nobody knew and there's

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Speaker 1: they're not cousins. Now to find out all the truth

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Speaker 1: without fighting, Why you gotta fight them, Just gather them together.

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Speaker 1: I'll tell you what you can fix all this, just

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