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Speaker 2: I don't know. Live Levina loca, that does not mean

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Speaker 1: I didn't even think it's one of those things. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: Essentially, it's in Mexican in Spanish.

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Speaker 1: Yes, that's amazing. Living is yolo in Mexican? That is

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Speaker 1: I meant Spanish, meant Spanish, she meant Spanish.

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Speaker 2: Did the Spaniard say that or is to Mexico thing?

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Speaker 1: I don't know. I think it might be a general

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Speaker 1: Shall we dive in Mexican? So bad, bro, It's amazing, Okay.

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Speaker 1: My dad and my uncle signed up to one of

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Speaker 1: That's from the thing that seventy show. Yeah, I've never

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Speaker 2: this is the bastard child. The bastard child. I always

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Speaker 2: Like is is there is there more infidelity? Possibly? I

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Speaker 2: Uncle Rick is had enough? That seems a little bit much.

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Speaker 1: It's like jack Jackie knows, and Jackie told Ope that, like, hey,

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Speaker 2: Right, and Ope, he kind of like told his family anyway, Yeah,

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Speaker 2: only like I can reach out to him, baby, Well

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Speaker 1: Reach He's waiting for Jackie because Jackie has knows John already,

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Speaker 1: Yeah, must that is, Yeah, that's a those great breakdowns.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, because like why even tell the uncle and the

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Speaker 2: Like why do that wait for John to be like, Okay,

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Speaker 2: And now we're going to drop into this next story. Boom,

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Speaker 2: Yeah, anybody do you want to hang out with them? No?

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Speaker 2: Step in the right direction, baby, But let me know

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Speaker 2: and John, let's get into this next story. Let's do it.

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Speaker 2: We're actually better yet. You know, you could literally call

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