Speaker 1: Hey, welcome to your weekend. A little extra treat on
Speaker 1: a Sunday. It's brooking Jeffrey the Second.
Speaker 2: Date Up Day podcast. I know you too, I know
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Speaker 3: It can be frustrating when your significant other doesn't clearly
Speaker 3: tell you what it is they want.
Speaker 4: Or need from you.
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, I know. Brooke never understands her husband's needs.
Speaker 5: Now.
Speaker 3: To be fair, it could because of the gag in
Speaker 3: his mouth and the dark cloth bag over his head,
Speaker 3: so everything kind of comes out as a mumble. Speak up, Michael,
Speaker 3: Come on, Ann, it's not that hard anyway. You get
Speaker 3: the point and dream twice for you. One of our
Speaker 3: listeners is facing a similar communication issue with her relationship.
Speaker 3: All she's asking for is some clarity and in her words, quote,
Speaker 3: man up and just say it. Oh, you'll hear exactly
Speaker 3: what she wants in a brand news Say Yes to
Speaker 3: the X it's coming up right after this. It's one
Speaker 3: of the stranger emails that we received lately.
Speaker 2: I like the start of this already, Jeff you guys.
Speaker 3: And when I first read it, I thought, oh, this
Speaker 3: is a second date update. But then I realized, no, actually,
Speaker 3: maybe it's more of a closure call, but not really,
Speaker 3: so I landed on say Yes to the X. Okay,
Speaker 3: And when our producer reached out to the listener and said, hey,
Speaker 3: your story would be great for Say Yes to the X,
Speaker 3: she replied, well, technically he's not my ex. So at
Speaker 3: this point this is say yes to the E because
Speaker 3: we're not really sure how to label this relationship exactly.
Speaker 3: Hopefully Vicky can help clear things up for us. Vicky,
Speaker 3: welcome to say yes to the end. How you doing?
Speaker 5: Thank you? I'm good? How are you?
Speaker 2: Okay?
Speaker 3: I could squeeze you into the show somehow. Yeah, Okay.
Speaker 1: Here's my question. When you're talking to your girlfriends about
Speaker 1: whoever this is, how do you refer to.
Speaker 5: Him his name?
Speaker 2: Oh?
Speaker 3: Okay, that's hot, and what's his name?
Speaker 5: His name is James?
Speaker 3: Okay, and tell us about yours and James's relationship. Is
Speaker 3: it fair to call it a relationship or is that
Speaker 3: not a.
Speaker 2: Good work even friendships relationship?
Speaker 5: He yes, there is a relationship. So we went on
Speaker 5: about five maybe six dates and really seemed to hit
Speaker 5: it off.
Speaker 2: And how long ago was this?
Speaker 5: I'm sorry, this was about about eight months ago?
Speaker 2: Okay, about long agoo?
Speaker 5: Okay, So after one of our dates, he asked me
Speaker 5: to be his girlfriend.
Speaker 2: Ok we are so in the relationship territory, so yeah, totally.
Speaker 3: It sounds like you guys are official.
Speaker 5: Right. So about seven months ago we had a date
Speaker 5: and he was supposed to come, you know, home with me,
Speaker 5: like it was time we were an official relations.
Speaker 2: The family say, how to your parents? Is that what
Speaker 2: you mean?
Speaker 3: I think back to her like her apartment.
Speaker 1: Oh, I'm sorry, I get had ton way before relationships, daddy.
Speaker 1: That's the first seven seconds for most Okay, okay, so
Speaker 1: you guys were going to ice do the same.
Speaker 5: Okay, that's right, and all times were appointing there. So
Speaker 5: I was really shocked when James just said never mind,
Speaker 5: he was going to go home, and he just left
Speaker 5: me on my doorsteps.
Speaker 2: He didn't come in at all.
Speaker 5: No, he just said he changed his mind, he can't
Speaker 5: stay and just had to go change.
Speaker 2: Like, how do you say? What are you feeling in
Speaker 2: that moment?
Speaker 5: Really confused and hurt because I haven't heard anything from him. Yeah,
Speaker 5: so since he initiated a com about like we're in
Speaker 5: a relationship and he's the man in the situation, I
Speaker 5: feel like we're still in a relationship.
Speaker 3: Are you not? Are you not considering an ex? Because
Speaker 3: the total time you guys spent officially as boyfriend and
Speaker 3: girlfriend was less than forty eight hours.
Speaker 1: No, did you just hear she's not considering it an
Speaker 1: ex because she thinks she's still in a relationship because
Speaker 1: he never called it off.
Speaker 2: Yeah, he hasn't.
Speaker 5: That's right.
Speaker 3: I'm not sure if it really works.
Speaker 2: It doesn't, but that's to me.
Speaker 3: That means theoretically it makes sense. But seven months of
Speaker 3: silence is a pretty clear message.
Speaker 2: What do you think happened?
Speaker 5: I have no idea what happened. And that's why I'm
Speaker 5: reaching out to you, because I feel like he needs
Speaker 5: to tell me, like, are we still in a relationship?
Speaker 3: Have you gone to his house or anything? Like did
Speaker 3: you go over there? Yeah? Have you gone through his
Speaker 3: mail and stuff?
Speaker 2: Option? Yeah, I would track him down too, Yeah.
Speaker 3: Your boyfriend, right, so it's not weird.
Speaker 5: No?
Speaker 3: Yeah, after like a day, yeah, not missing person.
Speaker 5: I went by his place a couple of times. It
Speaker 5: didn't look like he was there, but I didn't do
Speaker 5: anything about it, like doc him or anything like.
Speaker 3: That's good self restraint.
Speaker 5: I feel like me an explation or closure was closure.
Speaker 3: So people are new to this segment, say yes to
Speaker 3: the ex. Basically, we get an email from someone. In
Speaker 3: this case it's Vicky. They want us to reach out
Speaker 3: to their quote X in this case James, who's not
Speaker 3: really the ex. And the thing is we've already done that.
Speaker 3: James has agreed to come on our show knowing that
Speaker 3: someone from his past is looking for him. He just
Speaker 3: doesn't know who it is.
Speaker 2: He's smart enough to put it together.
Speaker 3: Well, we don't tell him any details ahead of time.
Speaker 3: We just say there's someone from your past.
Speaker 2: Or the title of the segment.
Speaker 1: Yeah, do you still want to be in a relationship
Speaker 1: with him?
Speaker 5: I am in a relationship with him, right, he hasn't broken.
Speaker 4: Up with you.
Speaker 2: I don't know.
Speaker 3: I wonder how he's gonna feel about it when we
Speaker 3: bring him on and I want my girlfriend, Yeah, I
Speaker 3: lost her like seven months ago.
Speaker 1: I wonder if he's acting like he's a relationship for
Speaker 1: the past seven months.
Speaker 2: I don't think so.
Speaker 3: I mean, what connection have you had with him in
Speaker 3: the past seven months? Has there been anything at all?
Speaker 5: Last week I posted a Photoston, like.
Speaker 2: A picture of you two looking like a couple.
Speaker 5: Yeah, you're in a relationship you want?
Speaker 1: All?
Speaker 5: Right?
Speaker 2: This is starting to feel not quite as healthy as
Speaker 2: we started.
Speaker 5: Really, Okay, I don't see the problem. What's the problem?
Speaker 1: Yeah, Brook, It's just you know, some people are let's say,
Speaker 1: not strong enough to actually break up a relationship.
Speaker 3: Face to face the Brooks in the world.
Speaker 2: I think it's no more like.
Speaker 5: Me in the world.
Speaker 1: Him him ghosting you, I think is his way of
Speaker 1: saying that he's not in the relationship anymore.
Speaker 5: Well, that's that's why I contacted you, guys. He needs
Speaker 5: to like say what he wants and be with me
Speaker 5: or be a man and say what though.
Speaker 3: Says I don't want to be with you and I
Speaker 3: didn't know how to say it, and that's it. That's okay.
Speaker 3: That would be saying no to the act. Remember this
Speaker 3: is saying yes for a segment.
Speaker 5: Yea.
Speaker 3: So depending on how this goes, we'll find out we're
Speaker 3: gonna talk to your ex but not really exce your
Speaker 3: current significant other James possibly and see what he says
Speaker 3: when we continue Say Yes to the Right after this,
Speaker 3: we're in the middle of a segment called say Yes
Speaker 3: to the X, or at least for today, it's say Yes.
Speaker 2: To the.
Speaker 3: Because our listener Vicky went out with a guy half
Speaker 3: a dozen times, at which point he asked her to
Speaker 3: be official boyfriend girlfriend. She was super excited about that
Speaker 3: idea said yes. The next date he left her stay
Speaker 3: ending on the doorstep of her house in the pouring rain.
Speaker 2: Wow, you're making up.
Speaker 3: It was some nineties indie song happening in real life,
Speaker 3: But they were romantic. That was seven months ago and
Speaker 3: they've had no contact since and no official breakup talk either.
Speaker 5: Yeah.
Speaker 3: Still, that's why Vicky still considers them to technically be together. Brook,
Speaker 3: what's your take on the situation?
Speaker 2: Well, I mean, I can understand her need for closure.
Speaker 3: That's hard, but she doesn't want to close it. She
Speaker 3: wants to keep it open.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't know that that's going to happen.
Speaker 1: I think that the picture she posted on Instagram of
Speaker 1: them as a happy couple.
Speaker 2: Honestly, Vicky, I'm hoping he didn't see that. What do
Speaker 2: you mean?
Speaker 5: What do you mean?
Speaker 2: Well, it could come off as maybe maybe what Brooke
Speaker 2: a little clinging here?
Speaker 5: It is ling like romantic.
Speaker 3: Yes, oh yeah, you know. I'm never I'm never shocked
Speaker 3: by Brook's unrelenting optimism in these situations. That's why we
Speaker 3: love having you on this show.
Speaker 2: Brooks so hard right now, shows James so hard.
Speaker 3: It is coming through. So remember, Vicky, We've already reached
Speaker 3: out to James. He has agreed to be on with us,
Speaker 3: but he does not know exactly who it is. He
Speaker 3: only knows it's somebody from his past.
Speaker 5: Present.
Speaker 3: Well, yeah, present, but also passed seven months ago.
Speaker 2: You haven't talked to him in a long time.
Speaker 5: I have driven my house, so I told you that, right.
Speaker 3: Okay, Well, these are some of the details I might
Speaker 3: not include when I talked to him. We'll just see
Speaker 3: how the conversation goes. I'll call you in when we
Speaker 3: feel like we're ready. Okay, okay, all right, here we go.
Speaker 3: Let's punch up. James here, James, Hello, are you there? Yeah,
Speaker 3: I'm here, Hey, James, we're brooking Jeffrey in the morning.
Speaker 3: Thanks for being on with us.
Speaker 4: Good morning, James, Hey, James, Yeah, thanks for having me.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I bet you were excited when you got.
Speaker 5: Our em Yeah.
Speaker 4: I'm definitely curious, that's for sure.
Speaker 3: Yeah. So I know it's kind of unusual, but we
Speaker 3: do this segment here. It's called Say Yes to the X,
Speaker 3: and basically the idea is somebody from your romantic past
Speaker 3: wanted us to reach out and reconnect you. Okay, okay,
Speaker 3: so you get the concept. This is a woman named Vicky.
Speaker 3: Do you remember Vicky?
Speaker 4: Uh a Vicky?
Speaker 3: Yeah, No, that's.
Speaker 4: That doesn't sound familiar.
Speaker 2: Guys, do we have the right person? Did you email
Speaker 2: the wrong person?
Speaker 3: The number is right, you're James.
Speaker 4: Yeah, this is James, But I don't know who Vicky is.
Speaker 2: Okay, maybe it's Victoria, Like did we get her name wrong?
Speaker 3: So the last time you saw her you were over
Speaker 3: at her place and you said no to staying the night.
Speaker 4: Uh, I don't know what you're talking.
Speaker 2: Wait, hold on any.
Speaker 3: Memory loss issues? Have you hit your head?
Speaker 2: Do you date a lot?
Speaker 5: Is that it?
Speaker 2: Are you like going on tons of dates?
Speaker 4: I've been on a couple of dates, but I wouldn't
Speaker 4: say so many. I would forget someone.
Speaker 3: Okay, Look, so wait, your name James is correct, your
Speaker 3: phone number is right. It's weird that you have no
Speaker 3: recollection of what we're talking about. The person who should
Speaker 3: be able to shed some light on this for us
Speaker 3: is your quote ex Vicky.
Speaker 2: Vicky still thinks she's in a relationship with you and
Speaker 2: you don't even know.
Speaker 3: Yeah, you know, why don't you talk to her? Because
Speaker 3: she is on the phone right now waiting to speak
Speaker 3: with you.
Speaker 2: Maybe you can figure out who she is.
Speaker 5: I am, hey James, Vicky.
Speaker 4: Uh, Hi, you're saying we dated?
Speaker 5: Yes? On the SIMS our characters went out? Waity, did
Speaker 5: sims the video game? Yeah? You just disappeared. I haven't
Speaker 5: seen you anywhere, and I you know, are we still together? Dames?
Speaker 1: Oh my god, I can't Why did you respond to
Speaker 1: this email?
Speaker 2: Did you do no research into any of this?
Speaker 3: Jeff, don't pen this on me?
Speaker 2: Are you kidding me?
Speaker 3: You're the home one that would say yes to the
Speaker 3: I don't know. She could have done some back since
Speaker 3: she went out with the guys six times and that
Speaker 3: they had an official talk.
Speaker 2: Did you ask about in person?
Speaker 3: You never asked those questions either, broke that? Wait, James,
Speaker 3: you're still there right.
Speaker 4: I'm yeah, I'm here. So you're talking about our characters
Speaker 4: and the Sims.
Speaker 5: Yeah, after our sims became offic So we went on
Speaker 5: one date and then you've left, and I'm just do
Speaker 5: you plan on taking me out or you just ghosting.
Speaker 2: Me in the video game? Is that what you want
Speaker 2: him to do?
Speaker 5: Yeah?
Speaker 3: VICKI, I have to ask a question after in the
Speaker 3: last seven months, when you went by his house, what
Speaker 3: is was it driving by his virtual house or his
Speaker 3: real house?
Speaker 5: His virtual health?
Speaker 3: Okay, so you don't.
Speaker 2: Know where he lives in real life?
Speaker 5: No, James, and in a little bit of defense.
Speaker 3: And I'm not kidding when I say this. Sometimes when
Speaker 3: you play video games with somebody every day, your form relationships.
Speaker 3: So I can see why she could feel some serious
Speaker 3: feelings here. What you do relationship wise with your Pokemon
Speaker 3: is your business. We're talking about Vicky and James here. James,
Speaker 3: do you recall who this is?
Speaker 5: Did you?
Speaker 4: Did you have pink hair?
Speaker 5: Yes? That's me, he remembers.
Speaker 4: Okay, look, I didn't know your name was Vicky first
Speaker 4: of all, but I I didn't want to tell you
Speaker 4: at the time. I actually I actually ended up meeting
Speaker 4: someone else in the game.
Speaker 2: Whoa wait, your character met another character.
Speaker 4: I did, and and we are still together.
Speaker 3: But you were you were official with this me.
Speaker 5: What is her name?
Speaker 2: What's her name?
Speaker 3: Isn't really?
Speaker 2: What was the instagram? A pick of your sim's holding?
Speaker 5: Oh my god, we looked so perfect together.
Speaker 2: What is your name?
Speaker 3: James? You want to give the name of your new
Speaker 3: sim girlfriend?
Speaker 4: Uh, I'm I'm nervous to you now.
Speaker 2: Don't don't do that. Definitely, don't, James. I can't believe
Speaker 2: you like it's it's interesting.
Speaker 1: It's interesting that you're also entertaining the new relationship as
Speaker 1: a relationship is.
Speaker 3: It's just in a different world.
Speaker 1: This is the virtual game, Jeff. Is called a game
Speaker 1: because it's to be played. It's not to be taken seriously.
Speaker 5: It's real to me.
Speaker 2: Okay, okay, well it's not that is a problem.
Speaker 3: That is a problem. I think it's sweet that Vicky
Speaker 3: is so adamant about this virtual relationship and she wants
Speaker 3: to keep it going already. Vicky, Well, yeah, I don't
Speaker 3: know many.
Speaker 2: You could probably have as many partners as you want.
Speaker 1: If you're a Sims characterous.
Speaker 3: Brook, don't bring your real life situation into the virtual world.
Speaker 5: Broke.
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, I don't sleep around there. I'm sorry, I can't.
Speaker 3: Good. It's nice to meet an upstanding person once on
Speaker 3: this show, so James. Normally, normally I would ask in
Speaker 3: this situation, if there was any chance that your sim
Speaker 3: would consider getting back.
Speaker 2: With anything anyone, you will do, Jeff.
Speaker 3: I'm saying, Sims bucks or something. It sounds like you
Speaker 3: are already spoken for. You're a very loyal person in
Speaker 3: the sim world. Nobody's discussed the real world relationship though, Like,
Speaker 3: are you open to meeting Vicky out in the real
Speaker 3: world for an actual date.
Speaker 4: What I'm sorry. I I don't date in the real world.
Speaker 3: Wait, what do you mean.
Speaker 4: Listen, I'm busy enough with my SIMS girlfriend. I don't
Speaker 4: have time in the real world.
Speaker 2: And these people could have been perfect for each other.
Speaker 3: It's just bad timing in the in the SIMS world.
Speaker 3: So man, I'm sorry he's married.
Speaker 5: James, I miss you.
Speaker 3: Oh okay, Well, there's always hope that maybe James and
Speaker 3: his virtual girlfriend won't work out.
Speaker 1: And if you see some pink hair hiding out of
Speaker 1: a virtual bush.
Speaker 3: Virtual cops, Yeah
Speaker 5: Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning.