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Speaker 2: That's not what she was saying the other day.

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Speaker 1: You was.

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Speaker 2: You don't say that at all.

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Speaker 3: I'm just saying I'm looking at the difference that black

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Speaker 3: love is different.

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Speaker 4: Mama's wasn't bad bitches, And that's what men are marrying.

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Speaker 4: Ruby Rose your boo that you was shooting your shot,

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Speaker 4: You wash your shot.

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Speaker 3: I think the ones that I loved, I loved them.

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Speaker 3: I thought they both was the love of my life.

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Speaker 3: Have a man ever broke up with you? No, a

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Speaker 3: man has never broke up with you.

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Speaker 2: Men don't break up women for real.

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Speaker 1: I ain't gonna lie. I cried over a girl.

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Speaker 2: That's good. You should be vulnerable, like dall.

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Speaker 1: I can't even leave this like them. Oh no, through it.

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Speaker 4: They say broke men have great sex, way better sex

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Speaker 4: than anyone. And you know they might not be lying

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Speaker 1: This is the taking over the game, all right?

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Speaker 3: Everybody, Welcome to Truth after Dark.

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Speaker 4: Do you think that men or women are more toxic? Hello,

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Speaker 4: beautiful people, welcome to another episode of the Truth after Dark.

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Speaker 2: I'm your host, Azar Faraday.

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Speaker 1: Paul pierced the Truth in the building once again.

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Speaker 2: Nice, how are you feel?

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Speaker 3: I'm good man? You know Halloween is coming up. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: holiday season my favorite part of the year, you know, Thanksgiving, Christmas,

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Speaker 3: all that rounding out the end of the year, finishing

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Speaker 3: off the birthday. Mom feeling good right now?

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Speaker 4: Okay, I love that. I love that happy belated birthday.

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Speaker 4: So today we'll hop right in. So Gilbert Arenas was

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Speaker 4: on neon I guess some streamer named neon stream.

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Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, what are you talking about?

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Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, And he said that basically, you

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Speaker 5: as a man, need a few little hoes to get

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Speaker 5: run through to get your confidence back.

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Speaker 4: And he basically referenced back page. I don't know if

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Speaker 4: you know what backpage is.

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Speaker 2: Back Page was like, it's like.

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Speaker 4: Hos and he was like telling him, like you know

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Speaker 4: backpage and he was like huh because he's younger.

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Speaker 2: And then he's like, you know Instagram, it's the same thing.

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Speaker 4: And he's like, you get a few holes run through

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Speaker 4: him and as a man, that's going to build your

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Speaker 2: Do you agree with that.

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Speaker 1: I'm trying to figure out Bill Joe confidence.

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Speaker 6: Like maybe an ego, I think I kind of, I

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Speaker 6: don't know, get you something easy, so like now you're

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Speaker 4: Or yeah, I mean it gets you like a bad

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Speaker 4: one that you run through.

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Speaker 2: I guess so you can get your ego out.

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Speaker 3: N I ain't going with that advice because then you're

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Speaker 3: gonna go over there you talking about pay and then

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Speaker 3: when you get into the real when you when you

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Speaker 3: gotta really kind of mouthfee something up that ain't gonna work.

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Speaker 3: You gotta go through the fire. You gotta get rejected

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Speaker 3: one hundred times. And listen, this is how you gotta

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Speaker 3: figure it out. You gotta swing for the fences. Say

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Speaker 3: you swing. Say you go to a party and you

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Speaker 3: talk to the thirty girls. If five bite you good.

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Speaker 3: If you get five, If you get five to bite,

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Speaker 3: you get the number. At least that's get your confidence

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Speaker 3: going that you work within that five. Like that's all that,

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Speaker 3: Like all that back page Nah, that ain't that ain't

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Speaker 2: Do you think Instagram is the new back page?

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Speaker 1: Yeah? Probably so, right game?

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Speaker 3: Yeah it is. Girls is really selling they up on Instagram? Yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 3: for sure. It is just the more enhanced herculean back page.

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Speaker 3: Like back page only only has so much, but.

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Speaker 2: Now you can get all types of women. Yeah, all

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Speaker 1: Back page was local and it.

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Speaker 2: Was like only it wasn't as bad.

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Speaker 4: Like now you can get all type of women, like

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Speaker 2: It's a lot of options.

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Speaker 3: I had a homie that that that had a bad

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Speaker 3: I've never done back page, by the way, but he

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Speaker 3: I was like, what, you could just call somebody over

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Speaker 2: I could be scared, like you get set up about.

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Speaker 3: One hundred dollars next to y'all, know you know they

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Speaker 3: Many words, it's just how you look at it and

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Speaker 1: What are you saying? Yeah, pretty much the same thing.

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Speaker 3: But as far as like getting your confidence up, I'm

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Speaker 3: not sure. You got to get your confidence up by

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Speaker 4: Do you think that men get with certain women just

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Speaker 4: You like, is that an ego boost for men? Because

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Speaker 1: Is that an ego boost by getting certain type of women?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, and you get them in a certain way too,

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Speaker 3: So it's hard for me to like really get into that. Like,

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Speaker 3: People lifestyle people are gonna assume that, you know so,

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Speaker 4: Well, a lot of women are just with men for

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Speaker 1: And that's it.

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Speaker 3: I really, you know, and then it just leads to like,

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Speaker 1: At the end of the day.

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Speaker 2: Does a woman's love feel like fulfilling?

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Speaker 4: Does a woman's because I feel like women are extremely

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Speaker 3: I ain't no greater love than the love you gonna

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Speaker 1: Yeah, like relationships, you just break up.

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Speaker 4: But I feel like this, this is what I feel.

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Speaker 4: People say that the love from your partner is stronger

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Speaker 2: Your family is just your family.

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Speaker 3: It's stronger because it's gonna be somebody with every day,

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Speaker 4: You because no one knows you like your partner. Your

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Speaker 1: And that's why it's more crushing when that break up.

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Speaker 3: Damn the soul and gave her or gave him, you know,

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Speaker 3: it's even more heartbreaking because then women and men they

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Speaker 4: Yeah, and everything is incriminating now because if you're texting,

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Speaker 2: It's dream shouting? Are you doing anything?

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Speaker 4: And it's like you would hope you would be with

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Speaker 4: But you never really know.

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Speaker 2: But yeah, that's tough. Now going into another topic.

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Speaker 4: Gucci Mane and Keisha kior So they were on the

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Speaker 4: Breakfast Club and they had an interview about his bipolar

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Speaker 4: and schizophrenia. So he's bipolar and he's schizophrenic, yes, Gucci.

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Speaker 2: Man Yes, yes, yeah.

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Speaker 4: They were on there talking about his episodes and she

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Speaker 4: said that when he goes through an episode to they

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Speaker 4: actually now she helps him, meaning she'll take Twitter off

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Speaker 2: And then she'll tell him like you're sick.

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Speaker 4: That's what she said, like you're sick right now, You're it,

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Speaker 3: That photover at the elbow and they flap at the bottom.

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Speaker 4: But then men, men will get with that type of woman,

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Speaker 3: The myth attraction is gonna be forever. The mind is

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Speaker 3: And what I'm looking through all of that, come here, girl,

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Speaker 4: Okay, So Ruby Rose your boo that she was your shot,

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Speaker 4: You was your shot publicly, yeah, Ruby Rose.

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Speaker 4: She'd rather be alone and that women need to start

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Speaker 4: rewarding ain't shit man with babies. She got her own bread,

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Speaker 3: It's rewarding if it's a baby that's had through love.

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Speaker 3: You know, when you have a kid through love, it's rewarding.

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Speaker 3: I'm saying. So all that like, that's not a game

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Speaker 3: I mean, I understand that there's men out here that's

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Speaker 3: I don't look at it. It's just a one sided

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Speaker 4: I'm wondering is what are you trapping? Because it's like

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Speaker 4: like I just can't.

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Speaker 2: It will blow me.

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Speaker 4: I would never be able to do that, and I

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Speaker 1: To try to keep them in.

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Speaker 2: That's what I'm saying.

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Speaker 3: Know, like your relationship ain't really as close as you

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Speaker 1: You know I could get that.

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Speaker 4: But you know what I will say about this really quick,

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Speaker 2: If you guys love each other, even if you're healthy.

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Speaker 4: So imagine having a baby with somebody you're already on

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Speaker 4: To be honest, I've never been supid enough to think that.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I said that a lot that, Like, man, a

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Speaker 3: It's just the times that we live in because you

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Speaker 3: Yeah, you know, and it's like you gotta really plan,

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Speaker 3: Yeah for sure, plan sex, you gotta plan dates, you

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Speaker 2: How do you feel like.

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Speaker 3: Oh, that's a good one, that one true love? Which man,

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Speaker 3: don't I don't know. It's tough to really like really

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Speaker 3: And I never really look back and say, damn, I

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Speaker 3: I was kind of like dating both of them and

444
00:21:48,080 --> 00:21:51,800
Speaker 3: I had to make a decision, but I let them

445
00:21:51,840 --> 00:21:56,720
Speaker 3: make the decision, and I was thinking like, damn, maybe

446
00:21:56,720 --> 00:21:58,320
Speaker 3: I should have ended up with the other one, but

447
00:21:58,800 --> 00:22:02,920
Speaker 3: the one made the decision, and you know I couldn't.

448
00:22:03,320 --> 00:22:05,719
Speaker 3: I couldn't fight it, and we wind up being together

449
00:22:05,760 --> 00:22:09,720
Speaker 3: for like, you know, six or seven years. Yeah, but uh,

450
00:22:10,680 --> 00:22:12,240
Speaker 3: nothing I really regret.

451
00:22:12,480 --> 00:22:13,680
Speaker 1: You know. I think things happen.

452
00:22:14,080 --> 00:22:16,320
Speaker 3: And the crazy thing is, you know, even though I

453
00:22:16,400 --> 00:22:18,520
Speaker 3: ended I didn't end up being with either one of them,

454
00:22:18,880 --> 00:22:21,440
Speaker 3: you know, marriage, our kids or nothing with them. But

455
00:22:21,600 --> 00:22:23,080
Speaker 3: I remember thinking.

456
00:22:22,800 --> 00:22:27,600
Speaker 2: That, Yeah, I feel like for women.

457
00:22:27,480 --> 00:22:29,399
Speaker 1: They said one that you think like you look back

458
00:22:29,440 --> 00:22:30,520
Speaker 1: and say I let him get away.

459
00:22:30,680 --> 00:22:33,760
Speaker 4: No, everyone, I would never look at a man and

460
00:22:33,800 --> 00:22:34,639
Speaker 4: say he got away?

461
00:22:34,800 --> 00:22:35,879
Speaker 2: Are you kind of crazy?

462
00:22:36,119 --> 00:22:38,000
Speaker 1: Let me ask you, have you have you? Have you?

463
00:22:38,520 --> 00:22:41,840
Speaker 3: Have you ever have a man ever broke up with you? No,

464
00:22:42,280 --> 00:22:43,600
Speaker 3: a man has never broke up with you.

465
00:22:43,680 --> 00:22:47,199
Speaker 4: Men don't break up women, for real, I broke up

466
00:22:47,200 --> 00:22:51,160
Speaker 4: with somebody before. You said, you say this all the time.

467
00:22:50,920 --> 00:22:53,720
Speaker 1: That men don't, I know, I say, normally men don't.

468
00:22:53,960 --> 00:22:58,560
Speaker 4: Yeah, girl, no, My relationships have always been the man

469
00:22:58,720 --> 00:22:59,560
Speaker 4: is doing foul ship.

470
00:23:00,160 --> 00:23:02,440
Speaker 2: I'm trying to make it work, make it work, give give,

471
00:23:02,560 --> 00:23:03,640
Speaker 2: give love, love love.

472
00:23:03,920 --> 00:23:07,000
Speaker 4: I'm exhausted at that point. Now I'm like, I don't

473
00:23:07,040 --> 00:23:09,280
Speaker 4: even want to be with you anymore. And I still try,

474
00:23:09,520 --> 00:23:11,960
Speaker 4: and then therapy and then finally I'm like, I'm.

475
00:23:11,800 --> 00:23:15,040
Speaker 3: Cool, Like, so you never nobody was like I'm good.

476
00:23:16,160 --> 00:23:20,680
Speaker 2: Oh no, no, no, yeahn for real, no, not no.

477
00:23:20,800 --> 00:23:21,679
Speaker 2: Men don't do that.

478
00:23:21,920 --> 00:23:24,080
Speaker 1: You know, when you was eighty, he wasn't like I'm good.

479
00:23:24,480 --> 00:23:26,159
Speaker 4: No, but I think that he did a lot of

480
00:23:26,200 --> 00:23:28,560
Speaker 4: fucked up ship to basically say you're good, but you

481
00:23:28,600 --> 00:23:31,600
Speaker 4: didn't say that. I mean, I feel like men break

482
00:23:31,720 --> 00:23:33,800
Speaker 4: up without work, Like they do stuff to make you

483
00:23:33,880 --> 00:23:36,159
Speaker 4: break up with them, and I feel like that's definitely

484
00:23:36,240 --> 00:23:36,800
Speaker 4: happened to me.

485
00:23:36,960 --> 00:23:38,119
Speaker 2: Yeah for sure, then.

486
00:23:38,080 --> 00:23:41,520
Speaker 4: Yeah yeah, but when they do it, then they're begging

487
00:23:41,600 --> 00:23:42,359
Speaker 4: to still be with you.

488
00:23:42,520 --> 00:23:48,000
Speaker 3: Like when a man like openly just disrespects you, yeah,

489
00:23:48,200 --> 00:23:50,520
Speaker 3: like he's like, I'm just like I don't care.

490
00:23:50,520 --> 00:23:53,680
Speaker 4: I'm opens the thing about what man, they like to

491
00:23:53,760 --> 00:23:55,679
Speaker 4: do that and then they're crying at your door, Like

492
00:23:56,680 --> 00:23:57,639
Speaker 4: what is it like?

493
00:23:57,640 --> 00:24:00,359
Speaker 2: Because you you you wanted to do this, Now you're crying.

494
00:24:00,400 --> 00:24:03,080
Speaker 4: You can't because all of my exes and I can

495
00:24:03,119 --> 00:24:05,640
Speaker 4: stand all that hit me up for years.

496
00:24:06,000 --> 00:24:08,680
Speaker 1: You've seen a man cry? Yeah, your boyfriend?

497
00:24:10,040 --> 00:24:11,920
Speaker 4: Yeah, I seen a man cry and broke my heart.

498
00:24:12,200 --> 00:24:14,119
Speaker 4: It was the worst experience. I'll never forget it. I

499
00:24:14,160 --> 00:24:16,800
Speaker 4: remember the exact moment, and it wasn't It was some

500
00:24:16,880 --> 00:24:19,399
Speaker 4: bullshit because it's like I'm breaking I'm trying to leave you,

501
00:24:19,440 --> 00:24:19,800
Speaker 4: and now.

502
00:24:19,760 --> 00:24:22,840
Speaker 2: You're crying and you're the one that's foul. But it

503
00:24:22,960 --> 00:24:26,000
Speaker 2: made me stay with him because it fucked me up.

504
00:24:26,240 --> 00:24:27,120
Speaker 2: I was like, this is.

505
00:24:27,040 --> 00:24:29,199
Speaker 1: The I ain't gonna lie. I cried over girl.

506
00:24:29,640 --> 00:24:31,119
Speaker 2: That's good. You should be vulnerable.

507
00:24:31,560 --> 00:24:31,720
Speaker 1: Man.

508
00:24:31,720 --> 00:24:34,840
Speaker 3: I remember when we was breaking up. Man, it was

509
00:24:34,880 --> 00:24:37,199
Speaker 3: like this was like early two thousands. I was just

510
00:24:37,240 --> 00:24:40,960
Speaker 3: like I was playing that. I was playing all the

511
00:24:41,040 --> 00:24:45,000
Speaker 3: Usher and Mariah Carey breakup songs, and I was like

512
00:24:45,119 --> 00:24:46,720
Speaker 3: I was almost going through it. I was in the

513
00:24:46,760 --> 00:24:50,399
Speaker 3: house like damn, I can't an leave this, Like damn,

514
00:24:50,960 --> 00:24:52,640
Speaker 3: oh no, going through it.

515
00:24:53,160 --> 00:24:55,440
Speaker 1: I was like, damn, I was. I was going through.

516
00:24:55,200 --> 00:24:57,960
Speaker 4: It, like you know what, I feel like I technically

517
00:24:58,000 --> 00:25:01,320
Speaker 4: have been broken up with then yeah, but I feel

518
00:25:01,320 --> 00:25:06,080
Speaker 4: like every person that I've all my exes, they've always

519
00:25:06,240 --> 00:25:08,520
Speaker 4: doubled back and like tried to get back with me,

520
00:25:09,000 --> 00:25:10,920
Speaker 4: like seriously, like one of my exes that I had

521
00:25:10,920 --> 00:25:13,679
Speaker 4: to get a restraining order like for ten years, and

522
00:25:13,720 --> 00:25:17,280
Speaker 4: then another ex like well, like I have my exes.

523
00:25:17,359 --> 00:25:19,680
Speaker 4: Most of my exes are blocked because they will hit

524
00:25:19,720 --> 00:25:24,360
Speaker 4: me WhatsApp, email me, love you please, like like seriously,

525
00:25:24,600 --> 00:25:27,639
Speaker 4: I'm not lying because I feel like they realize after

526
00:25:27,720 --> 00:25:30,960
Speaker 4: the fact, like damn, and by then I'm gone because

527
00:25:30,960 --> 00:25:32,240
Speaker 4: I put years of work.

528
00:25:32,359 --> 00:25:35,960
Speaker 2: All my relationships are years long. They're not short, They're years.

529
00:25:35,720 --> 00:25:40,520
Speaker 3: You have you ever bumped into one of your ex

530
00:25:40,600 --> 00:25:41,879
Speaker 3: within the last couple of years?

531
00:25:42,000 --> 00:25:45,159
Speaker 2: Yes, yeah, yeah, yeah yeah. I bumped into my ex.

532
00:25:47,080 --> 00:25:50,880
Speaker 4: One time where I was on a date. Oh yeah, yeah,

533
00:25:50,920 --> 00:25:53,159
Speaker 4: I was on So this is the craziest story. I

534
00:25:53,320 --> 00:25:55,960
Speaker 4: was on a date with someone that I had just

535
00:25:56,119 --> 00:25:59,960
Speaker 4: like started talking to and we went to a ball

536
00:26:00,040 --> 00:26:02,520
Speaker 4: are and mind you, there was a girl at the

537
00:26:02,560 --> 00:26:05,280
Speaker 4: front of the bar checking this list of people. But

538
00:26:05,320 --> 00:26:07,399
Speaker 4: when she saw me, she was like hey, and she

539
00:26:07,560 --> 00:26:09,920
Speaker 4: just let us in. So I'm like, I didn't think

540
00:26:09,920 --> 00:26:12,960
Speaker 4: it was a private event. The bar we went to

541
00:26:13,200 --> 00:26:15,760
Speaker 4: ended up being a private event for his and his

542
00:26:15,880 --> 00:26:19,320
Speaker 4: whole entire family was there and him and everything, and

543
00:26:19,359 --> 00:26:23,159
Speaker 4: we walk in. It was his cousin's event. We walk in,

544
00:26:23,800 --> 00:26:27,440
Speaker 4: it's his cousin's birthday. I look and I'm like, I'm

545
00:26:27,480 --> 00:26:29,280
Speaker 4: starting to trip out because I'm like, is this a dream?

546
00:26:29,560 --> 00:26:32,320
Speaker 2: All of his family people, I'm a new day.

547
00:26:32,320 --> 00:26:34,240
Speaker 4: We've been broken up for like a few years at

548
00:26:34,240 --> 00:26:38,320
Speaker 4: this point, and so we're so I walk in and

549
00:26:38,359 --> 00:26:41,800
Speaker 4: he's like, oh no, no, no, He's been blowing me

550
00:26:41,920 --> 00:26:43,840
Speaker 4: up always, and I like, have him blocked.

551
00:26:43,920 --> 00:26:45,800
Speaker 2: He's texting, hitting what'sapp.

552
00:26:45,480 --> 00:26:53,440
Speaker 4: Email, what'sapp, blocked numbers, text me numbers, emails, calling people

553
00:26:53,800 --> 00:26:56,800
Speaker 4: like seriously for years. So then I see and he

554
00:26:56,840 --> 00:26:59,840
Speaker 4: had just recently started it back, like literally a few

555
00:26:59,840 --> 00:27:01,359
Speaker 4: week he started going hard again.

556
00:27:01,800 --> 00:27:03,920
Speaker 2: So I'm like, cause you have piped down for a minute.

557
00:27:04,320 --> 00:27:09,480
Speaker 2: So I'm in there. This man comes up his first

558
00:27:09,520 --> 00:27:12,400
Speaker 2: His family's like, azar, we wanted you guys back together

559
00:27:12,560 --> 00:27:14,520
Speaker 2: so bad. Oh my god, he showed up.

560
00:27:14,520 --> 00:27:16,679
Speaker 4: They think I'm there because it's a private event. They

561
00:27:16,680 --> 00:27:19,639
Speaker 4: think I'm there. The girl happened to recognize me. And

562
00:27:19,680 --> 00:27:22,280
Speaker 4: then I'm at the bar with my little boo that

563
00:27:22,320 --> 00:27:25,359
Speaker 4: I'm with and he comes behind me to grab me

564
00:27:25,520 --> 00:27:29,320
Speaker 4: like this, and he's like, this is god. This can't

565
00:27:29,359 --> 00:27:31,960
Speaker 4: be a coincidence. I've been hitting you every day. I've

566
00:27:32,000 --> 00:27:34,240
Speaker 4: been on your line every day. I know this is fate.

567
00:27:34,359 --> 00:27:35,840
Speaker 4: I know we're supposed to be together.

568
00:27:37,480 --> 00:27:40,920
Speaker 3: It was okay, so hold on, he come up. Yeah,

569
00:27:41,000 --> 00:27:42,800
Speaker 3: what old boy doing the new day?

570
00:27:43,160 --> 00:27:48,639
Speaker 4: Nothing because it was too so no, no, no no.

571
00:27:47,640 --> 00:27:47,919
Speaker 3: He was.

572
00:27:49,440 --> 00:27:51,320
Speaker 2: No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, that wasn't it.

573
00:27:51,359 --> 00:27:53,640
Speaker 2: That was that though. It was like no, it was.

574
00:27:53,600 --> 00:27:56,720
Speaker 4: Like I'm good, I'm I'm leaving type shit, like I'm

575
00:27:56,760 --> 00:27:58,239
Speaker 4: I'm like, come on, let's go.

576
00:27:58,320 --> 00:27:59,280
Speaker 2: And I was like all right.

577
00:27:59,560 --> 00:28:01,439
Speaker 4: But then I kind of fucked up because I was

578
00:28:01,480 --> 00:28:03,879
Speaker 4: like I don't want to feel like this person is

579
00:28:03,880 --> 00:28:06,520
Speaker 4: controlling by like vibe to where I'm like walking and

580
00:28:06,600 --> 00:28:07,560
Speaker 4: running away from it.

581
00:28:07,640 --> 00:28:10,840
Speaker 2: So I was like, let me finish my drink, you

582
00:28:10,880 --> 00:28:11,440
Speaker 2: know what I'm saying.

583
00:28:11,440 --> 00:28:13,720
Speaker 4: But it just it wasn't a good situation. And it's

584
00:28:13,800 --> 00:28:15,800
Speaker 4: it's then they thought it was a setup.

585
00:28:16,000 --> 00:28:17,520
Speaker 1: I feel like that's disrespectful.

586
00:28:18,080 --> 00:28:19,879
Speaker 4: And I wasn't trying to because I didn't know this

587
00:28:20,040 --> 00:28:21,840
Speaker 4: was going to happen. But I'm like, at least us

588
00:28:21,880 --> 00:28:24,159
Speaker 4: finished the drink, Like, don't let these motherfuckers run us

589
00:28:24,240 --> 00:28:25,679
Speaker 4: up out of here like they anybody like.

590
00:28:26,320 --> 00:28:28,280
Speaker 1: Yo, listen, this is this is the thing. If you

591
00:28:28,359 --> 00:28:28,920
Speaker 1: out on the date.

592
00:28:28,960 --> 00:28:30,320
Speaker 3: I don't care if this is the first day and

593
00:28:30,359 --> 00:28:34,080
Speaker 3: you just met dude yesterday and your old flame come

594
00:28:34,119 --> 00:28:35,879
Speaker 3: and just grab you from behind, it's got to be

595
00:28:35,960 --> 00:28:36,439
Speaker 3: like something.

596
00:28:36,560 --> 00:28:38,800
Speaker 2: No, for sure, was that you think I'm just sitting there.

597
00:28:38,880 --> 00:28:42,200
Speaker 2: I was like move. I was like, uh uh, this

598
00:28:42,280 --> 00:28:42,720
Speaker 2: is crazy.

599
00:28:43,040 --> 00:28:44,360
Speaker 1: Be like let's go, let's leave.

600
00:28:44,560 --> 00:28:46,760
Speaker 2: Yeah, you're right, and it was.

601
00:28:46,800 --> 00:28:48,520
Speaker 4: But I think that where I messed up was like

602
00:28:48,600 --> 00:28:52,920
Speaker 4: I was super anxietal and this wasn't my relationship yet

603
00:28:52,960 --> 00:28:55,600
Speaker 4: the person that I'm with. But you're right, and so

604
00:28:55,760 --> 00:28:57,960
Speaker 4: I think then the situation I just got weird and

605
00:28:58,000 --> 00:29:00,200
Speaker 4: I was like this is crazy because it's like all

606
00:29:00,280 --> 00:29:02,880
Speaker 4: the family everyone is staring me down. I'm like, this

607
00:29:02,960 --> 00:29:06,120
Speaker 4: is this is this is crazy. And the cousin is

608
00:29:06,120 --> 00:29:09,640
Speaker 4: like a famous rapper, so like they're in the music business.

609
00:29:09,640 --> 00:29:12,800
Speaker 2: Everyone's there. It's like photographs it's just a lot going on.

610
00:29:13,960 --> 00:29:15,800
Speaker 3: I probably would have just played to the side, just

611
00:29:15,880 --> 00:29:18,200
Speaker 3: kind of see how you're gonna react. Yeah, I would

612
00:29:18,200 --> 00:29:19,880
Speaker 3: have just kind of just see how yo, I.

613
00:29:19,800 --> 00:29:22,040
Speaker 2: Think that's what it was going on.

614
00:29:22,160 --> 00:29:23,760
Speaker 3: Then I would have just been I would have just

615
00:29:23,840 --> 00:29:25,760
Speaker 3: kept it playing like that's what I'm.

616
00:29:25,640 --> 00:29:28,760
Speaker 1: Saying, See what's going on over here?

617
00:29:28,840 --> 00:29:33,040
Speaker 4: Then? But no, it wasn't given like I'm over here,

618
00:29:33,440 --> 00:29:33,880
Speaker 4: what's up.

619
00:29:33,920 --> 00:29:35,120
Speaker 1: No, I'm just out here chilling.

620
00:29:36,360 --> 00:29:39,680
Speaker 2: It wasn't given. It was over here, like hey, what's up?

621
00:29:40,000 --> 00:29:43,960
Speaker 1: What's up? Is that your friend over there? Hey? You?

622
00:29:44,320 --> 00:29:46,320
Speaker 1: I would have doubled back to you like.

623
00:29:48,080 --> 00:29:48,320
Speaker 2: No.

624
00:29:48,440 --> 00:29:50,640
Speaker 4: But I wasn't disrespectful. I just was like, have an

625
00:29:50,640 --> 00:29:53,000
Speaker 4: anxiety about it. I can get overwhelmed. And I was

626
00:29:53,000 --> 00:29:55,920
Speaker 4: like this is crazy, like back up, you know what

627
00:29:55,920 --> 00:29:58,600
Speaker 4: I mean? Like, and then we left, we left, we left,

628
00:29:58,800 --> 00:30:04,600
Speaker 4: you know, okay, So moving on? Do you There's everyone

629
00:30:04,640 --> 00:30:06,520
Speaker 4: always says this, and there's a lot of men who

630
00:30:06,520 --> 00:30:09,720
Speaker 4: say this. Do men know very early on if they

631
00:30:09,760 --> 00:30:11,240
Speaker 4: will marry a woman or.

632
00:30:11,160 --> 00:30:12,480
Speaker 2: Be with her for a long time?

633
00:30:13,040 --> 00:30:15,120
Speaker 4: Like a lot of men will say like I knew

634
00:30:15,200 --> 00:30:17,560
Speaker 4: right away, or I'll know within a month, or I'll

635
00:30:17,560 --> 00:30:19,920
Speaker 4: know within a few months that like, this is someone

636
00:30:19,960 --> 00:30:22,080
Speaker 4: I'll be with or it's someone I won't be with.

637
00:30:22,240 --> 00:30:24,760
Speaker 4: Like we know very quickly. And if a man is

638
00:30:24,760 --> 00:30:27,000
Speaker 4: trying to act like he don't know, he lying. And

639
00:30:27,040 --> 00:30:28,200
Speaker 4: if he's like, oh, I don't want to be a

640
00:30:28,200 --> 00:30:30,800
Speaker 4: relationship after like a certain amount of time, he's not

641
00:30:30,880 --> 00:30:33,520
Speaker 4: really rocking with you. Because a man knows and if

642
00:30:33,520 --> 00:30:35,440
Speaker 4: he wants a woman, he's going to have her, and

643
00:30:35,480 --> 00:30:37,360
Speaker 4: he's not going to have her like single.

644
00:30:38,400 --> 00:30:39,280
Speaker 1: Don't they desperate?

645
00:30:39,320 --> 00:30:42,000
Speaker 5: Men know right away why they got to be desperate

646
00:30:42,040 --> 00:30:42,960
Speaker 5: because they're desperate.

647
00:30:43,000 --> 00:30:45,040
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, you're gonna be my one first date.

648
00:30:46,400 --> 00:30:49,960
Speaker 2: They're not saying first date. They're saying like.

649
00:30:50,000 --> 00:30:54,479
Speaker 3: If a man desperate, I knew it. You ain't had

650
00:30:54,480 --> 00:30:55,960
Speaker 3: a man tell you that off the rip?

651
00:30:56,560 --> 00:30:57,240
Speaker 2: Yeah I have.

652
00:30:57,400 --> 00:31:01,160
Speaker 4: And they were crazy ident message he was No, I

653
00:31:01,160 --> 00:31:03,680
Speaker 4: could tell what a man different, but it's a difference between.

654
00:31:03,760 --> 00:31:06,080
Speaker 2: So listen, listen to this scenario. Listen to this scenario.

655
00:31:06,640 --> 00:31:09,880
Speaker 2: You're dating a man, not you know.

656
00:31:10,080 --> 00:31:13,600
Speaker 4: I'm saying, like a woman is dating a man. A

657
00:31:13,640 --> 00:31:16,840
Speaker 4: woman is dating a man and they're getting to know

658
00:31:16,920 --> 00:31:20,160
Speaker 4: each other and all of this it's been months. Okay,

659
00:31:20,240 --> 00:31:22,480
Speaker 4: So she comes to this man and she's like, hey,

660
00:31:22,560 --> 00:31:25,600
Speaker 4: you know we've had we're having sex, I'm meeting family members,

661
00:31:25,680 --> 00:31:29,040
Speaker 4: We're doing everything, We're intertwining, we're with each other every day.

662
00:31:29,800 --> 00:31:32,600
Speaker 4: She asked a man, hey, like what are we doing?

663
00:31:32,680 --> 00:31:35,000
Speaker 4: You know, like I want to be intentional about dating

664
00:31:35,040 --> 00:31:37,080
Speaker 4: and I want to like if we're going to be

665
00:31:37,080 --> 00:31:39,440
Speaker 4: spending and investing this much time with you, like I

666
00:31:39,560 --> 00:31:42,240
Speaker 4: want us to be in a relationship, like what is this?

667
00:31:42,920 --> 00:31:46,520
Speaker 4: And he's like like, you know, I don't really like

668
00:31:46,800 --> 00:31:49,840
Speaker 4: I don't like the relationship title thing, Like I don't

669
00:31:49,840 --> 00:31:53,720
Speaker 4: want to really be in a relationship right now, you know,

670
00:31:53,800 --> 00:31:57,120
Speaker 4: whatever the case is, do you feel like cause he's

671
00:31:57,200 --> 00:31:59,000
Speaker 4: just not really rocking with her like that?

672
00:31:59,080 --> 00:32:01,280
Speaker 2: Basically, because.

673
00:32:02,480 --> 00:32:04,520
Speaker 4: This is the debate they're saying, like if a man

674
00:32:04,600 --> 00:32:06,120
Speaker 4: is telling you like no, he don't want to be

675
00:32:06,120 --> 00:32:09,040
Speaker 4: in a relationship, it's the with you is silent, he

676
00:32:09,040 --> 00:32:09,840
Speaker 4: don't want to be with you.

677
00:32:11,840 --> 00:32:14,760
Speaker 3: I can see I can see where you he coming from,

678
00:32:14,840 --> 00:32:18,680
Speaker 3: because he could be his spirit could be broken to

679
00:32:18,760 --> 00:32:22,360
Speaker 3: where he's thinking about it, Like seriously, you could be

680
00:32:22,400 --> 00:32:24,240
Speaker 3: messing with a lady and it's kind of like you

681
00:32:24,280 --> 00:32:27,240
Speaker 3: got one foot in, one foot out, and then you

682
00:32:27,400 --> 00:32:29,760
Speaker 3: just be like when you try to put both feet

683
00:32:29,880 --> 00:32:33,040
Speaker 3: in through the door, you hesitating, kind of scared of

684
00:32:33,040 --> 00:32:35,440
Speaker 3: that because you didn't been through that before. So you

685
00:32:35,600 --> 00:32:38,160
Speaker 3: like and you're comfortable where it is right there right

686
00:32:38,200 --> 00:32:42,000
Speaker 3: in that like that that middle ground, you know what

687
00:32:42,000 --> 00:32:43,960
Speaker 3: I'm saying. So it might take some guys, and it

688
00:32:44,000 --> 00:32:46,200
Speaker 3: may take some girls a little longer to get over

689
00:32:46,240 --> 00:32:49,840
Speaker 3: that hump of putting both feet in the door. And

690
00:32:49,880 --> 00:32:52,280
Speaker 3: so I can see, you know, because you've been traumatized

691
00:32:52,440 --> 00:32:54,880
Speaker 3: when you when you overly committed, when you went all

692
00:32:54,920 --> 00:32:55,400
Speaker 3: the way in.

693
00:32:55,920 --> 00:32:58,720
Speaker 1: It's fun. It's fun right now. I like where we at.

694
00:32:58,760 --> 00:33:01,600
Speaker 3: And then you know, I like this speed right now,

695
00:33:01,640 --> 00:33:03,640
Speaker 3: I like the lane we in, but now you're trying

696
00:33:03,640 --> 00:33:05,840
Speaker 3: to jump into the carpool and all that, like hold.

697
00:33:05,720 --> 00:33:06,400
Speaker 1: On, hold on.

698
00:33:06,840 --> 00:33:09,520
Speaker 4: But a lot of women claim that the and I've

699
00:33:09,520 --> 00:33:13,920
Speaker 4: seen it firsthand that those type of relationships never end

700
00:33:13,920 --> 00:33:16,520
Speaker 4: in a relationship, but always ends in them being disappointed

701
00:33:16,600 --> 00:33:19,320
Speaker 4: or heartbroken. Like they were investing all this time and

702
00:33:19,360 --> 00:33:22,320
Speaker 4: then he never ended up wanting to make him the girlfriend,

703
00:33:22,440 --> 00:33:23,880
Speaker 4: and like you know, she went.

704
00:33:23,840 --> 00:33:25,600
Speaker 2: She waited and waited and waited.

705
00:33:26,040 --> 00:33:28,360
Speaker 4: A year passed, two years past, and they're in this

706
00:33:28,480 --> 00:33:33,280
Speaker 4: long term situationship and they just wasted two years of

707
00:33:33,280 --> 00:33:35,240
Speaker 4: their life with someone who doesn't have a plan on

708
00:33:35,600 --> 00:33:36,280
Speaker 4: really wanting to.

709
00:33:36,200 --> 00:33:36,640
Speaker 2: Be with that.

710
00:33:36,840 --> 00:33:39,640
Speaker 3: Well, you got to understand at some point you're just

711
00:33:39,720 --> 00:33:40,200
Speaker 3: some work.

712
00:33:40,880 --> 00:33:43,680
Speaker 2: Yeah, So how does a woman what I'm asking if.

713
00:33:43,600 --> 00:33:45,960
Speaker 3: He ain't committed as not even know, we're not even

714
00:33:46,000 --> 00:33:49,080
Speaker 3: talking about marriage committed, that what we're saying.

715
00:33:49,120 --> 00:33:50,400
Speaker 2: So that's what I'm asking.

716
00:33:50,600 --> 00:33:53,560
Speaker 4: I'm saying, Yeah, you just at what point though, should

717
00:33:53,560 --> 00:33:54,160
Speaker 4: a woman know?

718
00:33:54,280 --> 00:33:55,400
Speaker 2: Okay, I'm just some work?

719
00:33:55,520 --> 00:33:58,400
Speaker 4: Like is it three months like where they're you're doing

720
00:33:58,440 --> 00:34:00,160
Speaker 4: all of this and a man still just like, no,

721
00:34:00,320 --> 00:34:01,680
Speaker 4: I don't want to be in a relationship.

722
00:34:01,800 --> 00:34:02,840
Speaker 1: Y'all know where y'all work?

723
00:34:03,720 --> 00:34:07,080
Speaker 2: Y'all know, I don't know. That's what we're asking. A

724
00:34:07,080 --> 00:34:10,080
Speaker 2: lot of women were trying to get from a man.

725
00:34:10,400 --> 00:34:12,359
Speaker 3: Y'all spend it, like you said, y'all spend it every

726
00:34:12,440 --> 00:34:14,800
Speaker 3: day or every other day, every weekend together.

727
00:34:14,840 --> 00:34:18,600
Speaker 1: How every much time y'all spending? You know, you some work?

728
00:34:18,640 --> 00:34:20,759
Speaker 3: If he ain't ain't this girl you know, I mean,

729
00:34:20,800 --> 00:34:22,800
Speaker 3: I mean, I mean check this out after about like

730
00:34:25,640 --> 00:34:29,919
Speaker 3: let's see, after about ten sexual encounters with the men,

731
00:34:30,280 --> 00:34:34,759
Speaker 3: and it ain't no commitment. Okay, you work maybe less

732
00:34:34,800 --> 00:34:38,080
Speaker 3: than that. It depends on how long you're saying. A

733
00:34:38,120 --> 00:34:39,560
Speaker 3: couple of years. Damn No.

734
00:34:39,600 --> 00:34:42,759
Speaker 4: People be doing that for situationships back and forth like

735
00:34:42,840 --> 00:34:44,879
Speaker 4: ten if y'all ain't together, then you some work.

736
00:34:45,040 --> 00:34:47,320
Speaker 2: That's okay, that's what the woman want to know. Okay,

737
00:34:47,560 --> 00:34:48,360
Speaker 2: thank you.

738
00:34:48,600 --> 00:34:52,279
Speaker 3: Ten times of having sex with the same person. If

739
00:34:52,360 --> 00:34:55,959
Speaker 3: y'all ain't committed or or you don't see nothing else,

740
00:34:56,040 --> 00:34:56,680
Speaker 3: you work.

741
00:34:56,800 --> 00:34:58,240
Speaker 2: Period, period.

742
00:34:58,520 --> 00:35:01,600
Speaker 4: And do you think that a woman has to ask

743
00:35:01,640 --> 00:35:04,120
Speaker 4: a man like what are we? Because there's also like,

744
00:35:04,200 --> 00:35:06,040
Speaker 4: in my opinion, I think as soon as you have

745
00:35:06,120 --> 00:35:09,440
Speaker 4: to ask a man that he not really you, not nothing,

746
00:35:09,800 --> 00:35:11,719
Speaker 4: because if he wanted you to be like man are

747
00:35:11,840 --> 00:35:14,400
Speaker 4: leaders and their hunters, and if they wanted you to

748
00:35:14,480 --> 00:35:16,920
Speaker 4: be yours, they would say that you.

749
00:35:16,920 --> 00:35:19,200
Speaker 3: Gotta be able to put a read on the guy,

750
00:35:19,719 --> 00:35:21,640
Speaker 3: Like you gotta look at the places he's taking you

751
00:35:21,680 --> 00:35:25,160
Speaker 3: to eat. You gotta see if he's holding your hand

752
00:35:25,200 --> 00:35:28,520
Speaker 3: in public or certain situations. Yeah, you gotta see like

753
00:35:28,800 --> 00:35:31,799
Speaker 3: when y'all out of the day, how he's sitting, how

754
00:35:31,840 --> 00:35:33,920
Speaker 3: close he's sitting, or how far he's sitting, or if

755
00:35:34,000 --> 00:35:36,280
Speaker 3: y'all in the cut. If y'all always in the cut,

756
00:35:37,040 --> 00:35:38,319
Speaker 3: you know what I'm saying, Like, Oh, we have this

757
00:35:38,440 --> 00:35:41,320
Speaker 3: nice restaurant, but you in the back corner where nobody

758
00:35:41,360 --> 00:35:44,960
Speaker 3: can see you all the time. If you ain't getting me,

759
00:35:45,360 --> 00:35:47,840
Speaker 3: if you ain't seeing all this, oh you know tonight

760
00:35:47,840 --> 00:35:51,160
Speaker 3: this Friday night, Hey baby, let's go. Let's go, you know,

761
00:35:51,239 --> 00:35:54,040
Speaker 3: let's go to the game. You know, but you in

762
00:35:54,120 --> 00:35:57,560
Speaker 3: the cut at the game. You ain't front row. You

763
00:35:57,600 --> 00:36:01,080
Speaker 3: ain't you know, if you let's go, you know you ain't.

764
00:36:01,280 --> 00:36:04,400
Speaker 3: You ain't being highlighted. You know what I'm saying. When

765
00:36:04,440 --> 00:36:08,000
Speaker 3: he highlighting you, then it's something or he like, let's

766
00:36:08,040 --> 00:36:11,600
Speaker 3: go to certain cities he's meeting you, like in Milwaukee

767
00:36:11,760 --> 00:36:12,800
Speaker 3: or Utah or something.

768
00:36:13,000 --> 00:36:16,759
Speaker 1: He ain't taking to New York or LA. That you.

769
00:36:18,200 --> 00:36:20,080
Speaker 2: I'm crying, that is crazy.

770
00:36:20,280 --> 00:36:22,399
Speaker 1: Yes, And you ain't going to the big cities with him.

771
00:36:22,400 --> 00:36:24,080
Speaker 3: You're going to all the little You go to like

772
00:36:24,200 --> 00:36:27,759
Speaker 3: ten cities, but you're going to like Utah, Wyoming, You

773
00:36:27,920 --> 00:36:34,399
Speaker 3: going to like Nebraska. You gotta understand that you used

774
00:36:34,400 --> 00:36:38,160
Speaker 3: to work there. He take you everywhere Sacramento, he take

775
00:36:38,200 --> 00:36:39,680
Speaker 3: you everywhere these places.

776
00:36:41,800 --> 00:36:44,160
Speaker 1: Frunt Row at the Comedy Club in Charlotte.

777
00:36:44,640 --> 00:36:50,840
Speaker 2: Okay, I'm done. He's not Charlotte. Okay. So this is

778
00:36:50,880 --> 00:36:51,760
Speaker 2: my last question.

779
00:36:52,920 --> 00:36:55,319
Speaker 4: Who do you think is more valuable in a relationship,

780
00:36:55,360 --> 00:36:57,239
Speaker 4: a man or a woman who gives more?

781
00:36:58,920 --> 00:37:01,399
Speaker 3: Well, it's always gonna be the man, because the man

782
00:37:01,440 --> 00:37:05,719
Speaker 3: gonna always genuinely, genuinely love the woman for who she

783
00:37:06,080 --> 00:37:14,879
Speaker 3: is and what she gives to him physically, mentally, spiritually.

784
00:37:15,760 --> 00:37:19,800
Speaker 3: You know, I feel like most women give with men

785
00:37:20,080 --> 00:37:24,080
Speaker 3: based on out of worldly things that he can do

786
00:37:24,400 --> 00:37:26,400
Speaker 3: and give to the woman.

787
00:37:27,560 --> 00:37:31,680
Speaker 1: So it has to be the man.

788
00:37:33,000 --> 00:37:37,360
Speaker 3: I mean obviously, like when you look at the relationships

789
00:37:37,560 --> 00:37:41,360
Speaker 3: and you like, damn, you know, the man is always

790
00:37:41,480 --> 00:37:44,960
Speaker 3: taught to be the provider, the caretaker, all of these

791
00:37:45,000 --> 00:37:48,239
Speaker 3: strong things, and you know women look for that. And

792
00:37:48,239 --> 00:37:50,680
Speaker 3: when a man ain't got that, you like, you know,

793
00:37:50,719 --> 00:37:52,839
Speaker 3: he got a perty good personality, but he can't take

794
00:37:52,880 --> 00:37:55,160
Speaker 3: care of me, you know what I'm saying.

795
00:37:55,239 --> 00:37:58,920
Speaker 1: So like women are always looking for the prize.

796
00:38:00,320 --> 00:38:03,719
Speaker 2: Not all women though, yeah, that's not all women. I

797
00:38:03,760 --> 00:38:05,600
Speaker 2: don't know a bunch of women who with men who

798
00:38:05,640 --> 00:38:08,520
Speaker 2: don't be having nothing and they just love them the.

799
00:38:10,120 --> 00:38:16,960
Speaker 3: Four fives and six, No, not the ones. They more evenly, you'll.

800
00:38:16,760 --> 00:38:21,000
Speaker 4: Be surprised, how many how many real bad bitches be

801
00:38:21,120 --> 00:38:24,239
Speaker 4: with like a broke man who they be taking care of,

802
00:38:24,600 --> 00:38:29,520
Speaker 4: who be driving their car. No, I'm telling you, I

803
00:38:29,600 --> 00:38:33,360
Speaker 4: personally know, Like you'll be surprised, like it's okay. So

804
00:38:33,480 --> 00:38:37,520
Speaker 4: they say broke men have great sex, way better sex

805
00:38:37,560 --> 00:38:41,960
Speaker 4: than anyone, and you know they might not be lying

806
00:38:42,000 --> 00:38:44,200
Speaker 4: on that one And a lot of women they get

807
00:38:44,200 --> 00:38:49,200
Speaker 4: caught up, like I promise you, No, I don't know,

808
00:38:49,400 --> 00:38:51,799
Speaker 4: but let me tell you this. Though I wouldn't know,

809
00:38:52,360 --> 00:38:56,000
Speaker 4: I have an exact example. I know someone real bad,

810
00:38:56,200 --> 00:38:59,680
Speaker 4: beautiful girl bomb. She lives in a fly pent house,

811
00:38:59,719 --> 00:39:03,640
Speaker 4: she's a boss, gets her own bread, real pretty, she's

812
00:39:03,680 --> 00:39:07,759
Speaker 4: like up there, she is having a relationship with the

813
00:39:07,760 --> 00:39:11,239
Speaker 4: maintenance man in the building, and she's falling in love

814
00:39:11,280 --> 00:39:13,719
Speaker 4: because she's having sex and women release a hormone when

815
00:39:13,719 --> 00:39:16,880
Speaker 4: they have sex. And now she's starting to fall in

816
00:39:16,920 --> 00:39:18,840
Speaker 4: love with the man and maybe he can move in

817
00:39:18,880 --> 00:39:21,319
Speaker 4: with me. And you don't how many bad bitches do that.

818
00:39:21,640 --> 00:39:24,880
Speaker 4: You will be so surprised. They don't promote it, or

819
00:39:25,080 --> 00:39:27,759
Speaker 4: they'll make him look a certain way and present him

820
00:39:27,800 --> 00:39:29,839
Speaker 4: and give him the outfits and get him on.

821
00:39:30,320 --> 00:39:32,200
Speaker 2: There's way more of that than you know.

822
00:39:32,440 --> 00:39:36,000
Speaker 4: There might be more of that looks, but they fall

823
00:39:36,040 --> 00:39:39,080
Speaker 4: in love with him. They started as a sex relationship

824
00:39:39,239 --> 00:39:41,319
Speaker 4: and they fall in love with them. You think that

825
00:39:42,440 --> 00:39:44,520
Speaker 4: the person who came on at it don't even matter.

826
00:39:44,560 --> 00:39:47,560
Speaker 2: There's a lot of women who have that situation.

827
00:39:51,520 --> 00:39:54,560
Speaker 4: There's a lot of women who have that situation. I'm

828
00:39:54,640 --> 00:39:58,200
Speaker 4: just gonna say that right now, and they will take

829
00:39:58,239 --> 00:40:02,480
Speaker 4: care of a man all day several. There's a lot

830
00:40:02,520 --> 00:40:04,399
Speaker 4: of women like that, So I want to be very

831
00:40:04,440 --> 00:40:05,799
Speaker 4: clear that it's not just.

832
00:40:07,360 --> 00:40:08,279
Speaker 1: What they hang at.

833
00:40:08,840 --> 00:40:13,280
Speaker 4: They hang around I don't know, but those.

834
00:40:13,600 --> 00:40:15,439
Speaker 2: You know why, A lot of women do that too.

835
00:40:15,760 --> 00:40:19,120
Speaker 4: Because a lot of women who are quote unquote bad

836
00:40:19,160 --> 00:40:20,960
Speaker 4: bitches and get all their bodies in why do you

837
00:40:20,960 --> 00:40:22,200
Speaker 4: think they got all their bodies in?

838
00:40:22,840 --> 00:40:25,680
Speaker 2: Low self esteem? What do you think women with low

839
00:40:25,680 --> 00:40:26,360
Speaker 2: self esteem do?

840
00:40:26,600 --> 00:40:28,799
Speaker 4: They can get with a man who can make them

841
00:40:28,800 --> 00:40:30,520
Speaker 4: feel good because they're lower than them.

842
00:40:30,640 --> 00:40:32,959
Speaker 2: So I'm gonna put you on a pedestal. I'm gonna

843
00:40:32,960 --> 00:40:33,560
Speaker 2: make you feel good.

844
00:40:33,560 --> 00:40:36,080
Speaker 4: A lot of women like that have gotten their heartbroken

845
00:40:36,280 --> 00:40:38,640
Speaker 4: from a celebrity man or an athlete or a rich man.

846
00:40:38,800 --> 00:40:41,000
Speaker 2: So they're like, you know what, my self esteem is too?

847
00:40:41,080 --> 00:40:41,319
Speaker 1: Low.

848
00:40:41,520 --> 00:40:43,400
Speaker 4: I'm gonna go get with a man who worships the

849
00:40:43,400 --> 00:40:45,719
Speaker 4: ground I walk on, who thinks I'm a boss. And

850
00:40:45,760 --> 00:40:48,080
Speaker 4: you don't know how many women do that. I mean

851
00:40:48,160 --> 00:40:52,680
Speaker 4: like I've seen thousands of women that look literally like

852
00:40:52,840 --> 00:40:54,239
Speaker 4: oh the picture proplic.

853
00:40:53,960 --> 00:40:56,479
Speaker 2: Ig model that have that as a man.

854
00:40:56,719 --> 00:40:58,360
Speaker 4: And then a lot of people don't know that the

855
00:40:58,360 --> 00:41:00,279
Speaker 4: man is broken because they build him up and they

856
00:41:00,320 --> 00:41:02,000
Speaker 4: make him look a certain way and they give them

857
00:41:02,120 --> 00:41:05,919
Speaker 4: their card when they go to dinner, pay with my card, and.

858
00:41:05,840 --> 00:41:07,880
Speaker 1: Then when he shit on her, then where you go from.

859
00:41:07,960 --> 00:41:11,040
Speaker 2: That's what happens. That's what happens most of the time.

860
00:41:11,040 --> 00:41:13,239
Speaker 4: And you know that there's so much that happened, Like

861
00:41:13,239 --> 00:41:15,400
Speaker 4: if you look on the Shape Room, Oh, I was

862
00:41:15,440 --> 00:41:18,640
Speaker 4: helping you that Hazel E girl, I was she got

863
00:41:18,640 --> 00:41:21,120
Speaker 4: a man just like that, he was attractive, put him up,

864
00:41:21,360 --> 00:41:23,520
Speaker 4: did all this. Oh, then he shouted on her, and

865
00:41:23,560 --> 00:41:26,880
Speaker 4: she's like, I gave you everything. That happens all the time,

866
00:41:27,000 --> 00:41:30,080
Speaker 4: So please don't confuse that. Like there's a lot of

867
00:41:30,120 --> 00:41:32,160
Speaker 4: bad bitches quote unquote who do that, and a lot

868
00:41:32,239 --> 00:41:34,839
Speaker 4: of them bad bitches have mental problems and low self

869
00:41:34,960 --> 00:41:38,080
Speaker 4: esteem and they're not mentally right, like that's just the truth.

870
00:41:38,160 --> 00:41:40,440
Speaker 2: And I and I've seen it. They're a little slow.

871
00:41:40,480 --> 00:41:43,920
Speaker 4: And they just have these men that they get because

872
00:41:43,920 --> 00:41:48,439
Speaker 4: they want to be praised alone, period, So like, don't

873
00:41:48,480 --> 00:41:51,040
Speaker 4: ever get that twisted. They wish they could be a

874
00:41:51,080 --> 00:41:53,080
Speaker 4: lot of women with low self esteem can't even be

875
00:41:53,200 --> 00:41:55,840
Speaker 4: with a man of that caliber because to be with

876
00:41:55,920 --> 00:42:00,600
Speaker 4: a man who is rich, successful, handsome, tall, celebrities or whatever,

877
00:42:00,840 --> 00:42:03,440
Speaker 4: you have to have a high level of self esteem

878
00:42:03,600 --> 00:42:05,480
Speaker 4: because you cannot sit there and be with that type

879
00:42:05,520 --> 00:42:07,759
Speaker 4: of man who gets all that attention every day and

880
00:42:07,800 --> 00:42:10,239
Speaker 4: you know wherever he goes he's getting women thrown at

881
00:42:10,280 --> 00:42:11,920
Speaker 4: him and have low self esteem.

882
00:42:11,960 --> 00:42:14,160
Speaker 2: You can't. You will be miserable every day.

883
00:42:14,000 --> 00:42:17,600
Speaker 4: Crying, stress, cracked out, Like you cannot live like that.

884
00:42:18,000 --> 00:42:20,160
Speaker 4: So you gonna get with a man who's you know,

885
00:42:20,320 --> 00:42:22,520
Speaker 4: not gonna do that, except he gonna end up doing

886
00:42:22,600 --> 00:42:24,680
Speaker 4: that on you when you boss him up anyways, But

887
00:42:24,760 --> 00:42:26,520
Speaker 4: it's not gonna be on the level that that man

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00:42:26,560 --> 00:42:26,960
Speaker 4: could do it.

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Speaker 3: Let the men do it all the time, So why

890
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Speaker 3: don't have no sympathy for that other these females.

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00:42:36,040 --> 00:42:39,040
Speaker 1: Up that got shave. I don't go both ways because

892
00:42:39,080 --> 00:42:40,240
Speaker 1: more men do it than women.

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00:42:40,400 --> 00:42:42,120
Speaker 2: You'll be surprised thousands.

894
00:42:41,760 --> 00:42:43,600
Speaker 1: Of women than millions of men is doing that.

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Speaker 4: Okay, it's never a competition, but I'm just letting you

896
00:42:46,320 --> 00:42:48,040
Speaker 4: know that it's a lot of women who do that

897
00:42:48,400 --> 00:42:49,239
Speaker 4: and men do that.

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00:42:49,120 --> 00:42:51,120
Speaker 2: For women to and both of them get shitted on.

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Speaker 4: That's why the Bible says, get with someone you're equally

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00:42:53,719 --> 00:42:56,640
Speaker 4: yoked with peer, point blank. And that doesn't mean financial.

901
00:42:56,640 --> 00:42:59,000
Speaker 4: People always think it means financial. It's a mental thing.

902
00:42:59,239 --> 00:43:01,319
Speaker 2: You need to be with some one that's mentally on

903
00:43:01,480 --> 00:43:07,919
Speaker 2: that same level. Period. Anyways, Yeah, that was fast. Subtle

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Speaker 2: stuff is great.

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Speaker 4: Like you have a problem, you have a serious problem.

906
00:43:14,960 --> 00:43:19,240
Speaker 2: Like seriously, seriously. Anyways, thank you guys for joining Truth

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Speaker 2: after Dark. This was a great episode.

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Speaker 4: It was a little shorter than usual, but we're gonna

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Speaker 4: have more episodes, more frequency, and more things coming extremely

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Speaker 2: Liked all that stuff, We love y'all. Peace.

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Speaker 1: This is the taking over the game.

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Speaker 3: All right, everybody, welcome to Truth after Dark.

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Speaker 4: Do you think that men or women are more toxic