WEBVTT - SUNDAY SAMPLER - The Nashville Podcast Network (10-27-24) 0:00:09.000 --> 0:00:09.400 Hey guys. 0:00:09.400 --> 0:00:11.959 Sunday Sampler time clips from some of the podcasts I 0:00:11.960 --> 0:00:14.160 hope you check out. On the Bobbycast, I sat down 0:00:14.160 --> 0:00:16.759 with Carter Faith, new artist I think you'll like that's 0:00:16.800 --> 0:00:20.160 coming up on this week's episode of Take This Personally. 0:00:20.400 --> 0:00:22.919 It's all about grief with Morgan and she had a 0:00:22.920 --> 0:00:25.200 psychotherapist Paige on to talk about the best way to 0:00:25.239 --> 0:00:25.880 manage grief. 0:00:25.960 --> 0:00:26.759 So we'll start there. 0:00:26.880 --> 0:00:29.640 You're gonna hear from Four Things with Amy Brown or 0:00:29.680 --> 0:00:33.040 Losers Get Real with Caroline Hobby Movie Mike's Movie podcast. 0:00:33.400 --> 0:00:35.720 Let's get started now with Morgan and a clip from 0:00:35.760 --> 0:00:36.559 Take This Personally. 0:00:50.040 --> 0:00:51.920 Take Personally. 0:00:53.960 --> 0:00:54.520 Feelsman. 0:00:58.040 --> 0:01:00.840 I'm really excited right now to be joined by Judah Acres, 0:01:00.880 --> 0:01:02.760 who you all may know from Judah and the Lion. 0:01:02.960 --> 0:01:04.840 Judah, how are you doing good? 0:01:04.920 --> 0:01:05.880 It's all cozy here. 0:01:05.880 --> 0:01:07.560 Like this, Yes, it's very cozy vibes. 0:01:07.319 --> 0:01:08.600 And Dog in my Lap. 0:01:09.160 --> 0:01:10.160 We talked about. 0:01:09.959 --> 0:01:12.960 Very deep thingsout telling what I'll say with a Dog. 0:01:12.800 --> 0:01:13.240 In my Lap. 0:01:13.520 --> 0:01:15.560 So I've been a fan of you guys Gosh for years. 0:01:15.600 --> 0:01:17.800 I mean, you guys have multiple albums at this point, 0:01:18.040 --> 0:01:22.280 but I really think that your latest album, The Process, 0:01:22.520 --> 0:01:26.400 is one of my favorite yet, thank you, And I 0:01:26.400 --> 0:01:29.720 feel like that's just because of how vulnerable and deep 0:01:29.760 --> 0:01:33.200 it is. And I would so love to know like 0:01:33.760 --> 0:01:36.160 the life events that led you to put out an 0:01:36.200 --> 0:01:37.760 album like that, if you're willing. 0:01:37.520 --> 0:01:40.720 To talk about them, Yeah, thank you. That's super sweet. 0:01:41.280 --> 0:01:44.800 The process, it's kind of one of those funny things 0:01:44.800 --> 0:01:47.639 where me and Brian, my bandmate, we had this idea 0:01:47.720 --> 0:01:50.400 to write a record about the process of grief. We 0:01:50.520 --> 0:01:54.440 chose the Kubler Rossis Stages and this was about, I 0:01:54.440 --> 0:01:57.960 guess four or five years ago. I had written a 0:01:57.960 --> 0:02:00.160 record called Pep Talks that was a lot about is 0:02:00.240 --> 0:02:04.480 kind of growing up as a Southern dude and having 0:02:04.520 --> 0:02:07.000 great parents, amazing parents, and then kind of watching their 0:02:07.040 --> 0:02:10.800 life kind of really take a turn and kind of 0:02:10.960 --> 0:02:14.919 implode in front of me. And the record is whole 0:02:14.919 --> 0:02:17.040 lot about just kind of like their divorce and what 0:02:17.080 --> 0:02:20.119 it was like as a twenty four or five year old, 0:02:21.040 --> 0:02:23.320 you know, dude kind of going through that because a 0:02:23.320 --> 0:02:26.680 lot of people go through divorce before they're even born, 0:02:26.919 --> 0:02:30.040 or like with their parents or you know, as an 0:02:30.080 --> 0:02:33.840 adolescent or a teenager or whatever. And so anyways, so 0:02:34.240 --> 0:02:37.320 we've always kind of written like from a personal standpoint 0:02:37.320 --> 0:02:39.880 of like what we're going through in life, and then 0:02:39.919 --> 0:02:44.000 after a couple really kind of hard deaths in my family, 0:02:44.720 --> 0:02:47.720 that could be really interesting to kind of right through 0:02:47.760 --> 0:02:52.960 these Kuble Rossi's stages of grief, which is denial, anger, bargaining, depression, 0:02:53.120 --> 0:02:57.280 and then acceptance. And so as we were kind of 0:02:57.639 --> 0:03:02.000 getting done with our last cycle, getting out of the pandemic, 0:03:02.840 --> 0:03:04.320 we were like, I think this is time to do 0:03:04.360 --> 0:03:06.280 it because I had just gone through really hard divorce 0:03:07.560 --> 0:03:10.360 and so outside of like loss, losing my aunt and 0:03:10.440 --> 0:03:14.880 uncle and grandpa and you know, all of this kind 0:03:14.880 --> 0:03:18.200 of other stuff and my parents kind of struggling at 0:03:18.240 --> 0:03:21.320 the time, like this is like, this is the time 0:03:21.360 --> 0:03:24.440 to write about the process of grief because I transparently 0:03:24.440 --> 0:03:28.520 did not want to write about my divorce for a 0:03:28.520 --> 0:03:31.800 lot of reasons. I feel like the world didn't need 0:03:31.840 --> 0:03:34.560 another divorce record. You know, there's a lot of heartbreak 0:03:34.600 --> 0:03:35.480 records out there. 0:03:36.680 --> 0:03:39.480 Yeah, but you were also going through multiple different versions 0:03:39.520 --> 0:03:41.480 of grief. You were going through like the loss of 0:03:41.560 --> 0:03:43.640 life and grief and also the loss of a future 0:03:43.680 --> 0:03:48.080 that you had believed in, and so to go through 0:03:48.080 --> 0:03:50.440 writing an album that was going to be multiple different 0:03:50.520 --> 0:03:55.360 versions of grief is not common also because we are 0:03:55.400 --> 0:03:58.600 so closely associated with one version of grief, which is 0:03:58.680 --> 0:04:01.760 the loss of somebody, but the other grief where you 0:04:01.800 --> 0:04:03.000 have to mourn somebody. 0:04:02.800 --> 0:04:05.320 That's still alive, we don't like to talk about that. 0:04:05.960 --> 0:04:09.560 No, And I definitely was not. I told Brian, I 0:04:09.680 --> 0:04:12.520 was just like, man, I just when I don't really 0:04:12.520 --> 0:04:15.800 want to release these songs that I'm writing because they're 0:04:15.840 --> 0:04:19.160 deeply personal, and now it's like I'm not writing about 0:04:19.160 --> 0:04:22.400 my parents divorce and writing about my own, which you know, 0:04:22.800 --> 0:04:24.960 when you get married, you don't ever expect to get divorced, 0:04:25.279 --> 0:04:28.599 and that comes with like a lot of shame and 0:04:28.640 --> 0:04:32.440 guilt and personal like defeats that you would have never 0:04:32.920 --> 0:04:38.719 kind of imagined. But then writing the record and having 0:04:38.760 --> 0:04:41.679 all these other kind of versions of grief of losing 0:04:42.360 --> 0:04:46.640 very close ones to suicide and other mental health issues 0:04:46.760 --> 0:04:50.800 and really learning to kind of, I guess, cope in 0:04:50.880 --> 0:04:53.320 healthier ways than I was coping. The records a lot 0:04:53.320 --> 0:04:55.040 about like, you know, the nights that I was over 0:04:55.120 --> 0:04:59.680 drinking and kind of coping in ways that was not 0:05:00.000 --> 0:05:04.640 healthy for myself, and wanting people to kind of learn 0:05:04.640 --> 0:05:08.280 from those mistakes, and yeah, I ended up being just 0:05:08.360 --> 0:05:10.240 kind of this like wild, like oh my god, like 0:05:10.320 --> 0:05:13.680 I was in denial so harshly here, whether it be 0:05:13.720 --> 0:05:17.880 with my mom my mom's like version of kind of 0:05:18.000 --> 0:05:21.720 running away from just like what she was doing with 0:05:21.720 --> 0:05:27.320 with alcohol, like denial in that like, oh my gosh, 0:05:27.360 --> 0:05:29.839 my marriage is in shambles and I can't even really 0:05:29.880 --> 0:05:33.320 admit that to myself or my friends or whoever. And 0:05:33.400 --> 0:05:35.400 so getting to kind of go through these stages and 0:05:35.440 --> 0:05:37.480 be like, man, that was like two years ago, like 0:05:37.760 --> 0:05:43.080 I was totally in denial here and already like it's 0:05:43.120 --> 0:05:45.320 the record's only been out for a couple of months, 0:05:45.320 --> 0:05:47.560 but some of the stories are are really wild and 0:05:47.640 --> 0:05:49.880 how people can kind of relate, whether it be through 0:05:50.080 --> 0:05:55.760 heartbreaker divorce or loss in their their family or friends 0:05:55.880 --> 0:05:59.200 or whatever. And then also just like we never imagine 0:05:59.200 --> 0:06:02.720 like we had someone, we've had quite a few people 0:06:02.760 --> 0:06:04.800 actually now come up to us and be like, I 0:06:04.880 --> 0:06:10.200 just got diagnosed with YadA, YadA, YadA, and the process 0:06:10.240 --> 0:06:15.479 has kind of helped me accept this diagnosis or accept 0:06:15.520 --> 0:06:19.039 this harsh thing that you know, And that really just 0:06:19.040 --> 0:06:20.240 puts it all into perspective. 0:06:26.960 --> 0:06:32.279 What artists do you hear maybe not even artists a word. 0:06:33.640 --> 0:06:36.560 I think artists word, not singers. What artists do you hear? 0:06:37.120 --> 0:06:40.800 They kind of speak for you? And I asked that 0:06:40.920 --> 0:06:44.279 because I was had favorite artists and singers and stuff. 0:06:44.279 --> 0:06:48.719 But when I was in my twenties or so, like 0:06:48.800 --> 0:06:50.680 John Mayer would say stuff and I would be like, oh, 0:06:50.720 --> 0:06:53.839 I think that, Oh this is somebody who's like songwriting 0:06:53.960 --> 0:06:54.479 my thoughts. 0:06:55.040 --> 0:06:56.159 I never had that happen before. 0:06:56.279 --> 0:07:00.200 Yeah, And there are comedians that we'll say things and 0:07:00.240 --> 0:07:02.320 I'm like, oh, I thought that. I just didn't say 0:07:02.360 --> 0:07:04.480 that in that way nearest funny and nearest compelling as 0:07:04.480 --> 0:07:07.320 they did. But like there's who what artists did that 0:07:07.360 --> 0:07:07.719 for you? 0:07:08.240 --> 0:07:13.280 I think like early Miranda Lambert that was my badass side, 0:07:13.360 --> 0:07:15.800 you know, and then Casey Musgraves. I remember hearing Mary 0:07:15.800 --> 0:07:17.920 go around in a Walmart parking lot and I made 0:07:18.320 --> 0:07:20.240 us stay in the car till we listened to the 0:07:20.280 --> 0:07:20.920 whole thing for. 0:07:20.840 --> 0:07:21.480 The first time. 0:07:22.680 --> 0:07:25.280 Just people like that, they're just talking about small town 0:07:25.920 --> 0:07:30.240 normal life because that is what most of America is. 0:07:30.280 --> 0:07:32.680 And that's definitely the life I lived, was just normal 0:07:32.720 --> 0:07:36.440 life with these like very intense feelings that all creatives have, 0:07:36.560 --> 0:07:40.080 that all people have probably so it's definitely a lot 0:07:40.080 --> 0:07:42.679 of casey Miranda pistolanies. 0:07:42.760 --> 0:07:44.160 Always have you met Maranda? 0:07:44.640 --> 0:07:45.640 I have not met Miranda. 0:07:45.800 --> 0:07:49.000 Very guys are very similar just in Yeah, I'm lucky 0:07:49.040 --> 0:07:51.000 enough to know Miranda relatively well at this point. 0:07:51.080 --> 0:07:55.040 She just seems real and very soft spoken and quiet. 0:07:55.120 --> 0:07:58.560 Yeah, and unless she's like doing her thing that's not 0:07:58.600 --> 0:07:58.960 her thing. 0:07:59.280 --> 0:08:01.480 Yeah, it's it's it's. 0:08:01.320 --> 0:08:04.120 Pretty wild because again, she is such a freaking fire crack. 0:08:04.240 --> 0:08:04.840 Yeah she is. 0:08:04.880 --> 0:08:08.280 She's I want her to like stand up for me, 0:08:08.480 --> 0:08:10.240 you know, in a bar. I want her to be 0:08:10.320 --> 0:08:10.840 on my mind, and. 0:08:10.840 --> 0:08:13.600 She would, and she'd cut somebody too. But other than that, 0:08:13.640 --> 0:08:16.160 she's just quiet Miranda who's really not going to get 0:08:16.160 --> 0:08:18.160 in anybody's way and be a wallflower. But as well, 0:08:18.400 --> 0:08:19.560 a lot of similarities there. 0:08:19.920 --> 0:08:21.520 Yeah, I just like to observe. 0:08:21.400 --> 0:08:23.400 And you can tell that in her music, I think too, 0:08:23.520 --> 0:08:24.960 which is why it's not. 0:08:25.120 --> 0:08:26.360 Just that badass side. 0:08:26.360 --> 0:08:28.680 It has that like real person side too. 0:08:29.440 --> 0:08:32.400 Congrets on signing a deal, Thank you? When did you 0:08:32.840 --> 0:08:35.880 get that news? Was it a long work in progress 0:08:35.880 --> 0:08:37.520 where you kept hoping developing with that? 0:08:39.800 --> 0:08:42.760 I think my long work in progress has been like 0:08:42.840 --> 0:08:45.920 finding people on my team that I trust. So I've 0:08:45.960 --> 0:08:50.200 gone through some managers, I've gone through some people on 0:08:50.280 --> 0:08:52.839 my side, and so that was kind of a long 0:08:53.600 --> 0:08:56.000 time coming. I learning how to trust people in this 0:08:56.080 --> 0:09:00.280 business is really hard, cause what how can I trust 0:09:00.280 --> 0:09:00.600 any of you? 0:09:00.760 --> 0:09:04.000 Very transactional place, and everybody's your best friend until it's 0:09:05.160 --> 0:09:06.679 not easy to be. 0:09:06.679 --> 0:09:08.880 Your best friend, which that's business, and it. 0:09:08.840 --> 0:09:11.760 Is business, but you're right, it feels very it's very personal. 0:09:12.280 --> 0:09:15.040 It feels way more personal than it actually is, especially 0:09:15.040 --> 0:09:17.079 at first, because I felt I fell into those trappings 0:09:17.080 --> 0:09:18.880 at first too. I was like, oh, this person, this 0:09:19.000 --> 0:09:21.360 is my best friend. Yes, and then it turns out 0:09:21.960 --> 0:09:22.360 then you go. 0:09:22.360 --> 0:09:24.280 To all the other labels and they all have their 0:09:24.320 --> 0:09:28.360 same fiel. Yeah, yeah, yeah, I'm learning how to clock 0:09:28.440 --> 0:09:33.520 people quicker, which is helpful. But I think my experience 0:09:33.559 --> 0:09:37.080 with Universal Nashville all has to do with Hannah Wilson 0:09:37.120 --> 0:09:40.520 and Cindy Maybe there. Hannah Wilson, I've known her since 0:09:41.600 --> 0:09:44.360 I was still at school, and she just loved what 0:09:44.400 --> 0:09:46.360 I did and would come to my shows and come 0:09:46.400 --> 0:09:49.120 to my fest deada heat show you know that no 0:09:49.160 --> 0:09:51.840 one was there. And then when I met Cindy, maybe 0:09:51.960 --> 0:09:55.440 she just she just liked what I did. Like, she's like, 0:09:55.480 --> 0:09:58.120 I don't need you cutting outside songs. I like your voice. 0:09:59.000 --> 0:10:02.800 I need your voice. I think it's important. And when 0:10:02.800 --> 0:10:07.240 you're a songwriter that just speaks volumes. And then there's 0:10:07.280 --> 0:10:08.359 a woman there, Chelsea. 0:10:08.160 --> 0:10:09.520 Blythe who I love so much too. 0:10:09.600 --> 0:10:12.600 She's from La and she has just a whole different 0:10:13.400 --> 0:10:16.480 view on country music, which I think we're seeing is 0:10:16.960 --> 0:10:17.960 very important. 0:10:18.200 --> 0:10:23.400 When you sign a deal one what does that mean? Now? 0:10:24.160 --> 0:10:28.840 But were you nine six three months working toward this 0:10:28.920 --> 0:10:33.360 specific deal with these specific people. Were you wondering, I 0:10:33.400 --> 0:10:35.400 wonder if they're gonna sign me? Or was it like 0:10:35.400 --> 0:10:38.080 a random call, Hey Carterer, you want to do Yeah? 0:10:38.120 --> 0:10:39.640 I'm all, I mean, like, what is that? 0:10:39.800 --> 0:10:41.200 What is that process? What's the build? 0:10:41.200 --> 0:10:45.120 It's different for everybody, Like mine was like I met 0:10:45.160 --> 0:10:49.439 with a lot of labels and they all act interested, 0:10:49.559 --> 0:10:52.480 you know, and then you like keep and then you're like, dude, 0:10:52.480 --> 0:10:54.440 am I interested in them? It is like I felt 0:10:54.480 --> 0:10:57.560 like I was a bachelorette, you know, which is so weird. 0:10:58.360 --> 0:11:03.240 And because I'm not this TikTok viral girl, like I 0:11:03.280 --> 0:11:07.040 don't have these like crazy, They're not going to give 0:11:07.080 --> 0:11:09.240 me like five million dollars, you know. So I'm like, 0:11:09.280 --> 0:11:11.880 they have to care about my music and I have 0:11:11.960 --> 0:11:13.160 to feel that well. 0:11:13.120 --> 0:11:14.600 They need to long term invest in you. 0:11:14.760 --> 0:11:16.560 Yes, I'm trying to do this my whole life, this 0:11:16.640 --> 0:11:19.160 is my career. So I think I met with a 0:11:19.160 --> 0:11:20.800 lot of LA labels, I met with a lot of 0:11:20.880 --> 0:11:26.680 Nashville labels, and I basically at one point just told Universal, 0:11:26.720 --> 0:11:29.040 which is this is probably bad business on my half. 0:11:29.040 --> 0:11:31.200 But I was like, I'm only going to sign with 0:11:31.280 --> 0:11:34.120 you guys, so it's now and never like, let's go. 0:11:34.640 --> 0:11:35.920 And it was done in like a month. 0:11:37.120 --> 0:11:41.400 Were other labels making you different offers or was there? 0:11:42.000 --> 0:11:44.120 Wow, but that's pretty cool. 0:11:44.440 --> 0:11:47.440 It does mean all the offers are goodfair or yes, 0:11:47.600 --> 0:11:49.000 but that's cool. 0:11:49.200 --> 0:11:51.720 No, that is really freaking cool. Like I don't know, 0:11:51.880 --> 0:11:55.079 I'm just I'm just a girl, and you guys want 0:11:55.120 --> 0:11:56.280 to give me money to make music. 0:11:56.360 --> 0:11:57.560 That's pretty cool for you. 0:11:57.600 --> 0:11:59.240 Hesitant to sign at. 0:11:59.080 --> 0:12:04.960 All, yeah, just because I again, I don't like authority. 0:12:05.360 --> 0:12:07.920 This is very personal to me, all the things. I 0:12:08.080 --> 0:12:11.640 just it's scary to put your like my heart and 0:12:11.640 --> 0:12:14.480 soul in someone else's hands. That's what it truly feels like. 0:12:15.360 --> 0:12:20.360 But I also that's what I needed to level up. 0:12:20.400 --> 0:12:22.840 I thought about it a ton, and that's what I 0:12:22.880 --> 0:12:25.240 decided I needed to get to that next level. 0:12:25.280 --> 0:13:10.520 So I keep going. 0:12:51.320 --> 0:12:56.120 Cast up little food for yourself life. 0:12:56.480 --> 0:12:59.880 Oh it's pretty, but hey, it's pretty, beautiful thing beautiful. 0:13:00.320 --> 0:13:09.479 That's a little more said he you're kicking with fulling 0:13:09.520 --> 0:13:10.360 with Amy Brown. 0:13:10.679 --> 0:13:14.040 The other thing that I find I hear a lot 0:13:14.240 --> 0:13:18.560 from busy moms, some of my patients, some of my friends, 0:13:18.800 --> 0:13:22.240 is I want to clean, but I start to do 0:13:22.280 --> 0:13:24.440 a room. I start to clean a room, and then 0:13:24.760 --> 0:13:27.320 I get to do other things and then I forget 0:13:27.360 --> 0:13:30.200 that I was originally cleaning, you know, say my kitchen. 0:13:30.840 --> 0:13:34.160 So I start clean the kitchen and then I see 0:13:34.400 --> 0:13:36.400 Stevenson left a sock in the floor, So I'm gonna 0:13:36.400 --> 0:13:38.440 grab his sock and take it to his room, or 0:13:38.480 --> 0:13:40.200 take it to the laundry room. And then I get 0:13:40.240 --> 0:13:42.280 in the laundry room and oh shoot, I forgot to 0:13:42.320 --> 0:13:43.800 put the washer stuff in the dryer. 0:13:44.200 --> 0:13:47.880 So is that everybody's brain or just an ADHD brain? 0:13:48.200 --> 0:13:50.840 I see this across the board, Okay, busy people brain, 0:13:51.040 --> 0:13:51.679 because that's one. 0:13:51.679 --> 0:13:54.040 Hundred percent me. And on Instagram there's I guess that's 0:13:54.080 --> 0:13:55.559 my algorithm right now. And I see a lot of 0:13:55.640 --> 0:13:57.520 videos and they're always like, you know you have ADHD 0:13:57.559 --> 0:13:59.760 if you do this. But then I have had some 0:13:59.760 --> 0:14:01.560 friends say they act that way, and I know one 0:14:01.600 --> 0:14:04.960 hundred percent they don't have ADD or ADHD, and so 0:14:05.080 --> 0:14:06.920 I'm like, well, where. 0:14:06.720 --> 0:14:07.320 Does that fall? 0:14:07.640 --> 0:14:10.200 Like when I was married, this is the only other 0:14:10.200 --> 0:14:12.680 example of sharing like a life with someone who didn't 0:14:12.760 --> 0:14:15.600 have it. So that was my biggest indicator of how 0:14:15.640 --> 0:14:19.400 different our brains were was living with someone for seventeen years. 0:14:19.760 --> 0:14:22.040 And Ben was a very efficient effected person. If he 0:14:22.120 --> 0:14:24.880 started a task, he finished the task and his brain 0:14:24.920 --> 0:14:27.640 didn't think otherwise. Whereas like he wouldn't go out and 0:14:27.640 --> 0:14:31.320 start mowing the lawn and then halfway through mowing the 0:14:31.400 --> 0:14:35.200 lawn start picking a weed, but then realizing there's something 0:14:35.240 --> 0:14:37.880 in the flower bed and needs to grab that in 0:14:37.920 --> 0:14:40.160 the garage, and then he realized that the garage takes 0:14:40.240 --> 0:14:42.200 him back to the laundry room. That would be me 0:14:42.360 --> 0:14:44.320 and the lawn would never get mowed, but like he 0:14:44.360 --> 0:14:47.240 would go out and mow the yard and be done right. 0:14:47.280 --> 0:14:50.840 So yeah, I guess that was my apples and oranges like, 0:14:50.880 --> 0:14:54.520 so ADHD brain non ADHD brain. So all brains can 0:14:54.640 --> 0:14:56.920 do this thing you're talking about, like bouncing from room 0:14:56.960 --> 0:14:58.800 to room and task to task and then be like 0:14:58.840 --> 0:15:00.920 wait where was I and be like, oh, yeah, I 0:15:01.000 --> 0:15:02.640 was doing the dishes two hours ago. 0:15:02.680 --> 0:15:03.520 I was doing the dishes. 0:15:03.640 --> 0:15:03.880 Yeah. 0:15:03.960 --> 0:15:07.760 I think it honestly more than ADHD brain versus not. 0:15:08.000 --> 0:15:12.360 It's probably a little bit more female versus male brains. 0:15:12.560 --> 0:15:17.680 Female brains are always multitasking. We never just singularly do 0:15:17.800 --> 0:15:19.800 one thing really ever. I mean, think about it. You 0:15:19.840 --> 0:15:21.760 sit down to watch your friend's episode, You're gonna fold 0:15:21.800 --> 0:15:23.680 some laundry. You're not just gonna sit there, or you're 0:15:23.680 --> 0:15:25.120 gonna eat your dinner, or you're gonna do. 0:15:25.280 --> 0:15:27.040 Men fold laundry too, Claire. 0:15:27.280 --> 0:15:30.040 Yes, but they only fold laundry. They're not folding laundry 0:15:30.040 --> 0:15:32.520 and watching friends. They're just gonna fold the laundry. Oh, 0:15:32.680 --> 0:15:34.320 everybody in my house has to do their ow laundry 0:15:34.360 --> 0:15:38.840 starting at age thirteen. So we definitely love boys doing 0:15:38.880 --> 0:15:42.600 laundry around here. But they aren't doing other things. Like 0:15:42.680 --> 0:15:45.160 they may even do the folding in the laundry room. 0:15:45.440 --> 0:15:47.760 They're gonna go mow the lawn. They're only mowing the 0:15:47.800 --> 0:15:50.160 lawn because they're only thinking that one thing. I think 0:15:50.240 --> 0:15:53.760 women in general, we tend to multitask. So say we're 0:15:53.800 --> 0:15:56.760 cleaning the kitchen and we see that sock. We take 0:15:56.800 --> 0:15:59.400 to the laundry room. Realize, yesterday we put the you know, 0:15:59.480 --> 0:16:01.880 clothes in the washer and we need to switch them 0:16:01.880 --> 0:16:03.760 to the dryer. Now, okay, I'm gonna put everything in 0:16:03.800 --> 0:16:06.000 the dryer. Oh shoot, I'll just go start another load 0:16:06.000 --> 0:16:07.800 real quick. Let me run upstairs and get it out 0:16:07.840 --> 0:16:10.560 of this other kid's room and bring it down. Two 0:16:10.600 --> 0:16:15.040 hours later. Where were we, Oh, the kitchen. I've never 0:16:15.080 --> 0:16:19.040 got back there. So my trick for this is seemingly 0:16:19.120 --> 0:16:21.760 easy and physical. You're going to take a laundry basket. 0:16:21.840 --> 0:16:24.000 It needs to be something as big as a laundry basket, 0:16:24.600 --> 0:16:26.400 and you're going to set it at the entry to 0:16:26.560 --> 0:16:27.000 that room. 0:16:27.120 --> 0:16:29.000 And this is what you call the basket strategy. 0:16:29.080 --> 0:16:31.720 Yeah, I'll call this a basket strategy. You're going to 0:16:31.760 --> 0:16:34.000 put that at the entry to that so you can't 0:16:34.080 --> 0:16:36.640 leave that room without stepping over that laundry basket, and 0:16:36.680 --> 0:16:38.600 launder baskets are big, so we're not stepping over that. 0:16:39.640 --> 0:16:42.320 It also is the receptacle for all the things that 0:16:42.360 --> 0:16:45.040 you find that need to leave that room. So the 0:16:45.080 --> 0:16:47.240 sock that you found that needs to go to the laundry. 0:16:47.440 --> 0:16:49.360 If you're cleaning a kid's room, all the dishes that 0:16:49.360 --> 0:16:52.920 they leave in there, whatever, all go in that laundry basket, 0:16:53.400 --> 0:16:56.640 and you stay in that room and clean it completely 0:16:56.680 --> 0:16:59.240 till it's done. So you have all your cleaning stuff, 0:16:59.240 --> 0:17:02.560 your vacuum, everything, whatever you need. Anything that leaves that 0:17:02.680 --> 0:17:05.240 room goes in the basket without you leaving the room yourself. 0:17:05.880 --> 0:17:07.800 And then when you're done and the room is clean, 0:17:08.320 --> 0:17:11.080 then you take your launder basket and you take everything 0:17:11.080 --> 0:17:13.760 in that in that basket to where it needs to go. Okay, 0:17:13.880 --> 0:17:16.880 so you've completed your thing and now. 0:17:16.880 --> 0:17:19.560 And you didn't let yourself leave the room and get 0:17:19.600 --> 0:17:22.720 distracted and then realize, oh, yeah, I was in my 0:17:22.840 --> 0:17:25.280 room cleaning or whatever. This makes you think of the 0:17:25.800 --> 0:17:27.399 one touch rule. Have you ever heard of that? 0:17:27.600 --> 0:17:28.399 Huh? Okay? 0:17:28.520 --> 0:17:31.600 So it's where you only let yourself touch something once, 0:17:32.119 --> 0:17:35.320 which I don't know if would work with this because 0:17:35.359 --> 0:17:37.680 you're touching the item, but I get it. Maybe you 0:17:37.800 --> 0:17:39.159 touch it and you put it in the basket, and 0:17:39.160 --> 0:17:41.240 then once it's in the basket, it has to return 0:17:41.320 --> 0:17:44.200 to its home. So this could fall under the one 0:17:44.200 --> 0:17:47.399 touch rule, but really it's that if you pick something up, like, 0:17:47.640 --> 0:17:50.080 go ahead and put it away where it needs to go. 0:17:50.160 --> 0:17:52.119 Like instead of taking a fork to the sink and 0:17:52.200 --> 0:17:54.720 laying it down in the sink, take the fork, rinse 0:17:54.760 --> 0:17:56.639 it in the sink, and put it in the dishwasher 0:17:56.720 --> 0:17:59.320 or whatever needs to be done. Okay, don't give it 0:17:59.359 --> 0:18:02.840 an extrap that's not necessary or that's gonna make you 0:18:02.840 --> 0:18:04.480 have to touch it and do it again later. 0:18:04.720 --> 0:18:06.680 Yeah, and you could apply that and just say it's 0:18:06.680 --> 0:18:08.960 the one touch rule in that room. So I'm only 0:18:08.960 --> 0:18:10.439 gonna touch it one time. I'm not gonna put it 0:18:10.480 --> 0:18:12.200 near the basket. I'm gonna put it in the basket 0:18:12.720 --> 0:18:15.919 and complete everything and then I'll deal with it after that. 0:18:16.040 --> 0:18:18.600 So yeah, maybe the one touch rule for within that 0:18:18.680 --> 0:18:20.520 the confines of that room, maybe. 0:18:20.240 --> 0:18:21.320 Okay, But I do like that. 0:18:21.400 --> 0:18:23.280 I feel like my kids could learn from that, Like 0:18:23.560 --> 0:18:25.320 we don't have to put things beside the sink. We 0:18:25.359 --> 0:18:28.080 could actually put them directly in the dishwasher. That would 0:18:28.080 --> 0:18:28.720 be amazing. 0:18:29.040 --> 0:18:31.360 Or you don't have to put something like at the 0:18:31.440 --> 0:18:34.640 bottom of the stairs, take it up to your room. 0:18:35.160 --> 0:18:38.440 Stuff just piles up, and I'm the one that takes it. 0:18:38.440 --> 0:18:43.080 It's like, am I understands the stairs situation? 0:18:43.640 --> 0:18:44.480 Not anyone. 0:18:44.840 --> 0:18:46.760 I'm like, if it's on the stairs, it clearly needs 0:18:46.800 --> 0:18:48.919 to go up or down depending on where it is. 0:18:49.600 --> 0:18:52.080 No one understands that but me, How is that possible? 0:18:52.359 --> 0:18:53.320 No, it's a weird thing. 0:18:53.440 --> 0:18:55.640 It is a weird thing. But I've even put things 0:18:55.680 --> 0:18:58.080 in the middle of the stairs. Right now, currently there 0:18:58.160 --> 0:19:01.800 is a sixteen year old child hoodie in the middle 0:19:01.840 --> 0:19:04.920 of the staircase, just waiting, just waiting. But she's walked 0:19:04.920 --> 0:19:08.320 over it two days worth. And I refuse amy, I 0:19:08.440 --> 0:19:11.200 refuse to take it upstairs. 0:19:11.280 --> 0:19:13.080 She'll get it eventually. 0:19:13.520 --> 0:19:15.200 Somebody's gonna happen to that hoodie. 0:19:15.320 --> 0:19:17.520 You need to do the anchor item thing with her. 0:19:18.560 --> 0:19:23.080 Maybe, or she's just as stubborn as her mama. That 0:19:23.119 --> 0:19:26.199 could be it too, So that's the basket strategy. I 0:19:26.320 --> 0:19:28.920 like the one touch rule too, especially if you are 0:19:29.160 --> 0:19:31.280 trying to encourage a kiddo. I think that's an easy 0:19:31.320 --> 0:19:33.280 thing to say, like, hey, just want to touch it. 0:19:33.400 --> 0:19:34.919 If you already have it in your hand, put it 0:19:34.920 --> 0:19:35.600 where it needs to be. 0:19:36.800 --> 0:19:40.800 We're gonna do it live we are the one, two, 0:19:40.840 --> 0:19:44.359 three Sore Losers. 0:19:44.400 --> 0:19:46.680 What up, everybody? I am lunchbox. I know the most 0:19:46.680 --> 0:19:49.159 about sports, so I'll give you the sports facts, my 0:19:49.280 --> 0:19:53.520