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Speaker 2: My husband wants to go on a trip with his

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Speaker 2: hot friend.

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Speaker 3: What I said, My husband wants to go on a

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Speaker 3: trip with his hot friend.

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Speaker 2: What we broke down?

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Speaker 3: Okay, my husband comes from a big group of people

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Speaker 3: that aren't related, but we're basically raised like one big family.

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Speaker 3: I think at the core there are six families who

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Speaker 3: all vacation together, did holidays together, are each other's godparents,

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Speaker 2: They're essentially family.

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Speaker 3: By the way, this comes from user husband and friend,

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Speaker 3: to the r slash Okay Storytime subrendit. Dude, my husband

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Speaker 3: represents the older end of the kids at about thirty five,

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Speaker 3: while this girl, Shelby represents the younger end at twenty two.

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Speaker 3: But to see them together, you really would think they're

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Speaker 3: cousins or even brother and sister. Shelby was a flower

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Speaker 3: girl at our wedding when she was twelve, So I

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Speaker 3: too have known her for a long time. To be

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Speaker 3: very frank, I've never hit it off with Shelby. She's

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Speaker 3: a nice girl and I can't take that away from her.

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Speaker 3: I admit a lot of this may be jealousy on

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Speaker 3: my part, because the little tomboy has blossomed literally into

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Speaker 3: a woman that is a model like model good looking.

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Speaker 2: In fact, she is a model.

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Speaker 3: She's one of these girls that's been able to turn

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Speaker 3: her Instagram account into a reasonable monthly income, so an influencer.

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Speaker 4: Some would say, as my mom would say, she would

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Speaker 4: look pretty in a potato sack.

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Speaker 3: So my mom says, I like that, Yeah, I like that,

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Speaker 3: saying out to Patilla got out potato sacks. So she

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Speaker 3: is also a ski instructor, college student, sweet, funny and lovable.

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Speaker 3: And top this all off, my husband absolutely lights up

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Speaker 3: around her in a way that he doesn't do for

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Speaker 3: anyone else, male or female. But to be fair, he

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Speaker 3: is like this with our kids too. Okay, pause, I'm

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Speaker 3: gonna address two things. First of all, you've just pointed

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Speaker 3: out that clearly he does have this vibe with his children,

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Speaker 3: and this was a twelve year old flower girl of

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Speaker 3: your wedding when you guys got married ten years ago,

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Speaker 3: saying I never hit it off with Shelby when she

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Speaker 3: was a twelve year old. Flower girl at your wedding

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Speaker 3: is a weird vibe. Not gonna lie, It's like, that's

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Speaker 3: weird way to word it. I would think, yeah, oh

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Speaker 3: I didn't connect right. A weird way to put it,

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Speaker 3: A weird way to put it. Meanwhile, I feel like

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Speaker 3: the mean, awful wife who's gained fifty pounds, yells at

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Speaker 3: can't go skiing, which is his absolute passion in life,

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Speaker 3: because of my parents anniversary party. So yes, I admit

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Speaker 3: a big part of this problem is my own insecurity

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Speaker 3: and jealousy. So I had given in and agreed that

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Speaker 3: he should take two weeks off this winter to take

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Speaker 3: a once in a lifetime ski trip to Whistler, British Columbia.

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Speaker 3: He was originally supposed to go with a college friend.

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Speaker 3: The trip is all set up and paid for, but

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Speaker 3: he has bad news and good news. The bad news

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Speaker 3: is his friend backed out of the trip, and the

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Speaker 3: good news is he already talked with Shelby and she

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Speaker 2: Yay, sarcasm.

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Speaker 4: What about your wife, bro let me take this hot

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Speaker 4: twenty two year old but it was it was family friend.

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Speaker 2: How do they know her? Let me guess.

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Speaker 3: I'm gonna guess wife hates skiing just the way that

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Speaker 3: she phrased it, where she's like that he can't go

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Speaker 2: I feel like wife doesn't care about it. Good theory.

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Speaker 3: I could be off though, Hey that's okay, and that's yeah,

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Speaker 3: that is fine. But that's my guess just based on

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Speaker 3: seems a little too bitter here. Okay, she's maybe if

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Speaker 3: that inform the situation, I think.

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Speaker 2: But I digress.

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Speaker 3: Ok I stammered for a little bit, and I think

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Speaker 3: what came out of my mouth was you're going on

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Speaker 3: he replied with something like, well, it's not any girl,

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Speaker 3: it shall be I think. I said, okay, but what

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Speaker 3: like his sister and that he's shared hotel rooms with

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Speaker 3: last time I'm gonna pause to mention this. Like, I'm

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Speaker 3: not even kidding. If you can look at your husband

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Speaker 3: like and like he's had a relationship with this Shelby

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Speaker 3: need to either get like a lot of therapy or

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Speaker 3: like break it off entirely, because there's literally no trust entirely.

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Speaker 3: He's knownous since she's five. Like it's that kind of

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Speaker 4: Yeah, it's a very serious accusation and suspicion.

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Speaker 3: You're essentially saying, I think you'd sleep with your sister,

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Speaker 3: and that's like that's a big thing to levy at

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Speaker 2: Okay, I would say talk, but I see what you're saying.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, No, for sure, it needs to be like it

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Speaker 3: needs to be a discussion. Of course, you're feeling a

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Speaker 3: lot of it's not you can feel how you feel

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but you gotta talk about it. Yeah.

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Speaker 3: And I think you're already quite aware that you're like,

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Speaker 3: this is coming from a place of jealousy and insecurity

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Speaker 3: and not from a place of reality.

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Speaker 2: So keep that in mind. Okay.

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Speaker 3: So I told him that I really had to think

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Speaker 3: don't know what to say to him. I very frankly

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Speaker 3: do not want my husband sharing a hotel room with

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Speaker 3: know that they booked super early to secure a special

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Speaker 3: if he doesn't take shelby or get someone else to

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Speaker 3: a very long time, and I don't want to ruin

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Speaker 5: That is very fair on its face, it's very fair,

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Speaker 5: but again, it's like, that's your cousin. That's like your family.

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Speaker 5: That's pretty much your family, and that's all you viewer

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Speaker 5: as is a twenty two year old Instagram one. That's

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Speaker 5: just yeah, so it's not that's not what she is though, Yeah,

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Speaker 5: she's family.

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Speaker 4: Is that Opie's bio cousin? That's what I was having

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Speaker 4: a charge time remembering dinga spot. What is the relation

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Speaker 4: of the twenty two year old Instagram model to Ope

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Speaker 4: and Opie's spouse seef?

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Speaker 2: Thing is fucking tough one. Ah. The twenty years.

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Speaker 4: Instagram model Shelby is a family friend who has known

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Speaker 4: the narrator and her husband since she was twelve year

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Speaker 2: Oh even longer than that. Apparently even longer than that.

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Speaker 3: Apparently there's it goes all the way back to as

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Speaker 3: far as five Yeah, oh right, right right, so it's

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Speaker 3: like basically it's family friend, but at that.

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Speaker 2: Point it's just family, you know what I mean, I've

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Speaker 3: That means that it was like, okay, OPI was like

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Speaker 3: it's just like a I don't know, Look, I literally

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Speaker 3: on paper, like if I said it, they'd be like,

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm not to do that. Yeah, that's not like that.

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Speaker 5: The way that Opie's coming off of is, yeah, if

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Speaker 5: it was like I don't feel comfortable that you're going

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Speaker 5: ask me first to see who I you know that's

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Speaker 5: okay with me? If that if it's like the way

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Speaker 5: But I feel like if it was a different wave

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Speaker 4: Even, uh, definitely way better. But I would say even like, oh,

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Speaker 4: why didn't you ask me first? I'm like, because again

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Speaker 4: it's a niece, right, it's like, oh, I'm I'm taking

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Speaker 4: fun or whatever. That's fine. I think we would need

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Speaker 4: way more context into how they've interacted and behaved. Now,

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Speaker 4: if she gave us a lot of details of like, oh,

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Speaker 3: Well, let's pull back a second again. She's a ski instructor. Oh,

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Speaker 3: just about the most sensible person to bring on the

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Speaker 2: Right, So that's true.

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Speaker 3: It's you know, I don't know, I think you're totally

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Speaker 3: really really clear on Shelby because.

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Speaker 2: I still and I don't think Op's ever said this.

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Speaker 3: I probably I don't think Ope is ever fully explained

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Speaker 3: or expressed. Yeah, the real way that she feels about

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Speaker 3: Shelby because she's never had to yes, but now she's

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Speaker 4: And now it's like they can work on getting that

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Speaker 4: clarity and what that means. And then we're assuming everything

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Speaker 4: is innocent. Then Ops like, Okay, I probably have some

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Speaker 3: Yeah, God, I'm really please, please please let it just

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Speaker 3: be innocent for God's sakes, or I've dug myself such

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Speaker 3: a such an unbelievable hole right now, Please.

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Speaker 2: Love God, we shall see. Okay?

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Speaker 3: Is this a put my foot down situation? Is making

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Speaker 3: me comfortable more important than his dream vacation? And there

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Speaker 3: are relevant comments why doesn't Op go or make it

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Speaker 3: a family vacation. I'm not very athletic, and the trip

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Speaker 3: is very, very expensive, so it's just out of reach

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Speaker 3: for our family to go. Very frankly, I don't like

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Speaker 3: to be cold, so skiing is just not my thing.

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Speaker 3: I don't mind this at all, and I'm glad he

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Speaker 2: Yes, what is the path forward? So we heard two things.

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Speaker 4: Instincts proved right, ladies and gentlemen, and I think op

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Speaker 3: Everyone in chat spelling Greg's name wrong. You can't it's

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Speaker 2: Hate when relationships go here in these stories on the.

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Speaker 4: Show where it's like now one partner is getting all

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Speaker 4: He's probably heartbroken they didn't go to this trip. He's

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Speaker 4: And that's why he was to share with I think

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Speaker 2: I'm a huckleberry.

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Speaker 4: Oh listen, I will whip out that papoose and put

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Speaker 2: I need to see this immediately.

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Speaker 3: I'm buying a bolt of canvas, and I'm making a

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Speaker 2: This is me carrying you. You know. I think we

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Speaker 3: Yeah, grown man papoos man papoos. Okay, anyways, Another comment

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Speaker 3: here from cross beats says, to me, the issue isn't

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Speaker 2: If op had ever.

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Speaker 3: Expressed these feelings before, which I don't think has happened.

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Speaker 3: Commenter says, my best friend is a guy, so maybe

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Speaker 3: Now that I'm in a relationship, my only hesitation on

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Speaker 3: was like dakotas poy okay, okay. That was Dakota's point.

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Speaker 3: And make sure I wasn't cut you off, Oh Pisa.

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Speaker 3: My husband then freaked out that his dream trip was

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Speaker 3: and there is a second edit here. Let's go ahead

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Speaker 3: I swear if this doesn't end with this trip happening,

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Speaker 3: I'm gonna be sad.

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Speaker 2: She's gonna take it. Greg.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, as someone who I also would I'm a love snowboarding.

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Speaker 2: This would break me. I would be broken.

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Speaker 4: You're a fellow snowboard instructor. You and Shelby True are

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Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, ma'am.

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Speaker 3: I'm not a hack, but I'm not a great teacher.

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Speaker 3: I'm not gonna lie so, but I can teach you

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Speaker 2: I would love for you to teach me. I will

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Speaker 2: Let me just freakin' flit up him to be brave.

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Speaker 3: Do you literally have a ghost that follows you around

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Speaker 2: I hate you.

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Speaker 5: I did my bravery. My only time I want skiing

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Speaker 2: Stop it stop. That's called bravery. Stop it. I will

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Speaker 3: At at number three, I was able to talk to

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Speaker 3: So while it's not two rooms per se, they now

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Speaker 2: Fair Enough, I like this.

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Speaker 3: I'm telling Greg spelled like Craig with a G in

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Speaker 3: And there is an edit for Okay, I'm excited Saturday,

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Speaker 3: I would like from him, which were basically, no nudeness

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Speaker 2: No cute couple type pictures for her.

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Speaker 3: Instagram that could be taken out of context, and please

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Speaker 3: call often and skype at least once a day. Ope

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Speaker 3: for herself apparently a cute booty and cheeky bikinis take

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Speaker 2: See this is my issue with her.

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Speaker 3: Oh she can't really just be like happy that Shelby

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Speaker 2: It's always something else.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, she's just like mad that Shelby is young and

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Speaker 3: No wonder he lights up around her like she's his child.

439
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Speaker 3: He's only an owner since she was five years old.

440
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Speaker 2: Yep.

441
00:18:41,720 --> 00:18:45,159
Speaker 3: Like anyway, so she's also told me that she loved

442
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Speaker 3: me about a million times.

443
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Speaker 2: I really appreciate all the comments.

444
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Speaker 3: Yesterday and today, I'm going to really try and turn

445
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Speaker 3: over a new leaf and get healthy. I'm gonna start

446
00:18:53,680 --> 00:18:57,119
Speaker 3: phasing in eating paleo with Greg and in just a

447
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Speaker 3: few minutes, I'm going to go to my first ever

448
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Speaker 3: hot yoga class with a long term goal of losing

449
00:19:00,960 --> 00:19:03,439
Speaker 3: weight and really getting healthy. So the next time this

450
00:19:03,440 --> 00:19:05,720
Speaker 3: comes up, I can share in my husband's passions like

451
00:19:05,840 --> 00:19:08,080
Speaker 3: he does for me, and then I get the invite

452
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Speaker 3: to a dream adrip and we have another update.

453
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Speaker 2: Wow. Okay, so I kind of like where we're at here.

454
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Speaker 2: Here's what I'll say.

455
00:19:14,119 --> 00:19:16,480
Speaker 4: I like it, and I'm curious if you agree to

456
00:19:16,520 --> 00:19:19,760
Speaker 4: gode OPI is changing. OPI is going in this direction. However,

457
00:19:20,000 --> 00:19:22,840
Speaker 4: we can all admit changing can be hard. We can

458
00:19:23,160 --> 00:19:25,160
Speaker 4: get back. We have our old habits, we have our

459
00:19:25,359 --> 00:19:27,919
Speaker 4: neural pathways baked into our brain, and that's a tricky

460
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Speaker 4: thing to go out of. So it seems that I

461
00:19:30,960 --> 00:19:33,280
Speaker 4: think OP is absolutely going in the right direction. And

462
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Speaker 4: I think if we just keep putting one foot front

463
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Speaker 4: of the other in that direction, I think we can

464
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Speaker 4: arrive to the problem. Let's say I completely agree.

465
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Speaker 3: In fact, I'll go so far as to say, changing

466
00:19:44,320 --> 00:19:47,560
Speaker 3: once you're you know, an adult, is one of the

467
00:19:47,640 --> 00:19:51,879
Speaker 3: hardest thing ever. Actually being committed to changing every single

468
00:19:51,960 --> 00:19:56,560
Speaker 3: day sucks, but you know the end results are worth

469
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Speaker 3: It's like, you know, yeah, so OP is acknowledging that

470
00:19:59,440 --> 00:20:01,800
Speaker 3: the change is needing to have and it would be

471
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Speaker 3: beneficial absolutely, So yeah, Oh, I get Yeah, and if

472
00:20:05,600 --> 00:20:07,840
Speaker 3: this was a twenty two year old coworker, a twenty

473
00:20:07,840 --> 00:20:10,879
Speaker 3: two year old rando, you're one hundred percent on the money.

474
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Speaker 2: Op, that's not happening. Context matters.

475
00:20:14,080 --> 00:20:17,399
Speaker 3: Yeah, So update, Greg and Shelby just drove up to

476
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Speaker 3: the house. Greg is getting ready for work and Shelby

477
00:20:20,320 --> 00:20:22,520
Speaker 3: is actually taking a nap in our guest room since

478
00:20:22,520 --> 00:20:25,000
Speaker 3: she drove most of the night. The trip went very well.

479
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Speaker 3: Oh so this is post trip. I didn't even really Okay,

480
00:20:27,600 --> 00:20:30,680
Speaker 3: this is after the trip. Ah, the trip went very

481
00:20:30,680 --> 00:20:33,399
Speaker 3: well and they both had a great time. As for

482
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Speaker 3: me being insecure, Greg did everything I asked of him

483
00:20:36,320 --> 00:20:39,040
Speaker 3: to reassure me that there was nothing at all inappropriate

484
00:20:39,080 --> 00:20:41,119
Speaker 3: going on. He called multiple times a day, and we

485
00:20:41,160 --> 00:20:43,639
Speaker 3: skyped from maybe fifteen to twenty minutes a night, almost

486
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Speaker 3: every night. I got a good idea of the room

487
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Speaker 3: layout and saw that even though they were sharing a suite,

488
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Speaker 3: they both.

489
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Speaker 2: Had plenty of privacy.

490
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Speaker 3: I did have one moment early on where the reality

491
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Speaker 3: of my husband sharing a hotel room with an Instagram

492
00:20:55,200 --> 00:20:57,480
Speaker 3: model in her twenties sort of took my breath away,

493
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Speaker 3: But it wasn't Shelby's fault.

494
00:20:59,080 --> 00:21:00,320
Speaker 2: Me and our nine year old son.

495
00:21:00,359 --> 00:21:02,720
Speaker 3: We're on Skype with my husband and I saw Shelby

496
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Speaker 3: in the background wearing a swimsuit getting ready to go

497
00:21:05,160 --> 00:21:07,600
Speaker 3: to the hot tub. When she realized my son was

498
00:21:07,640 --> 00:21:11,000
Speaker 3: on skype, they have a very playful, almost blurty relationship,

499
00:21:11,080 --> 00:21:13,280
Speaker 3: she leaned over my husband's shoulder and said something like, hey,

500
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Speaker 3: a Jay, I'm going to destroy you in Halo when

501
00:21:15,920 --> 00:21:16,480
Speaker 3: I get back.

502
00:21:16,760 --> 00:21:20,600
Speaker 2: Is that my marry me? That's Dakota's wife. Yeah, joby,

503
00:21:21,200 --> 00:21:22,280
Speaker 2: where are you? Please?

504
00:21:22,520 --> 00:21:25,760
Speaker 4: Please go on discord, Go to our discord. It's okay,

505
00:21:25,760 --> 00:21:29,800
Speaker 4: storytime Discord and at Dakota. So we can get you

506
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Speaker 4: guys married.

507
00:21:30,440 --> 00:21:32,800
Speaker 2: I can play you in Halo and then I'll keep

508
00:21:32,840 --> 00:21:33,920
Speaker 2: you and destroy you and Halo.

509
00:21:34,000 --> 00:21:36,000
Speaker 3: I know you ski right now, Shelby, but I'll get

510
00:21:36,000 --> 00:21:40,560
Speaker 3: you snowboarding. It's harder. He's in a convert Well, it's anyway.

511
00:21:40,600 --> 00:21:42,560
Speaker 3: There's a long debate like how all of it. All

512
00:21:42,600 --> 00:21:45,119
Speaker 3: of our brains went oh yeah, Halo all at the

513
00:21:45,160 --> 00:21:45,800
Speaker 3: same time.

514
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Speaker 2: My hay who okay? So she says that to Aj,

515
00:21:51,080 --> 00:21:52,080
Speaker 2: but her.

516
00:21:52,040 --> 00:21:55,159
Speaker 3: Front airbags were basically right on Greg's shoulder with her

517
00:21:55,240 --> 00:21:56,879
Speaker 3: ample cleavage in full of you.

518
00:21:56,920 --> 00:21:59,000
Speaker 2: Girl. It sounds like you have a crush on Shelby.

519
00:21:59,280 --> 00:22:03,880
Speaker 2: That's a thought. Oh no, she's hot. Oh no, she's hot.

520
00:22:04,320 --> 00:22:05,120
Speaker 2: That's perfect.

521
00:22:05,280 --> 00:22:08,600
Speaker 3: So in my brain I was thinking, Buster, if your

522
00:22:08,640 --> 00:22:11,560
Speaker 3: eyes so much is looked left, it's a who. But

523
00:22:11,680 --> 00:22:15,640
Speaker 3: Greg didn't even flinch, which made me realize that to him,

524
00:22:15,680 --> 00:22:18,199
Speaker 3: seeing Shelby in a bikini really is like seeing his

525
00:22:18,280 --> 00:22:20,600
Speaker 3: sister or cousin. So all in all, they had a

526
00:22:20,600 --> 00:22:22,880
Speaker 3: great time. Greg has since left for work, and I'm

527
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Speaker 3: sure I'll chat more with Shelby when she wakes up

528
00:22:25,400 --> 00:22:27,800
Speaker 3: for her drive across town. As for me, I've spent

529
00:22:27,840 --> 00:22:30,920
Speaker 3: the last two weeks really just dedicating myself to losing weight,

530
00:22:31,000 --> 00:22:33,960
Speaker 3: getting healthy, and being passionate about something again. I've signed

531
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Speaker 3: up for a sixty day challenge at our local hot

532
00:22:36,200 --> 00:22:38,600
Speaker 3: yoga studio and have been going every day. I've started

533
00:22:38,680 --> 00:22:41,400
Speaker 3: using an app to count calories, and I'm astonished at

534
00:22:41,400 --> 00:22:44,760
Speaker 3: how much I've actually been mindlessly eating for years, And

535
00:22:44,840 --> 00:22:47,600
Speaker 3: in two weeks I've lost just under five pounds, which

536
00:22:47,640 --> 00:22:49,560
Speaker 3: makes me feel really great, very nice.

537
00:22:49,560 --> 00:22:51,520
Speaker 2: And then we just have a little bit of story

538
00:22:51,600 --> 00:22:54,480
Speaker 2: left here. Let's get it edit. I had no idea

539
00:22:54,520 --> 00:22:55,800
Speaker 2: this would blow up again. But thank you.

540
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Speaker 3: Shelby just left to go to her apartment after we

541
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Speaker 3: sat and chatted a bit. She's an amazing girl, and

542
00:23:00,240 --> 00:23:02,840
Speaker 3: I get zero hint that anything went on. I'm just

543
00:23:02,880 --> 00:23:04,720
Speaker 3: adding this here for the people who think she and

544
00:23:04,760 --> 00:23:07,800
Speaker 3: Greg are shady. She was so appreciative, and she's going

545
00:23:07,800 --> 00:23:09,639
Speaker 3: to babysit for us whenever we need it and do

546
00:23:09,680 --> 00:23:11,639
Speaker 3: a girl's day at a spa in Denver with me

547
00:23:11,720 --> 00:23:14,320
Speaker 3: when the ski season is over and her weekend's free.

548
00:23:14,840 --> 00:23:18,240
Speaker 3: What's crazy is how this and my last posts comments

549
00:23:18,280 --> 00:23:20,480
Speaker 3: are so split down the middle To just answer the

550
00:23:20,480 --> 00:23:23,600
Speaker 3: most common questions in the comments. I was really kidding

551
00:23:23,640 --> 00:23:26,520
Speaker 3: about him looking at Shelby's bikini. If he looked, he looked,

552
00:23:26,520 --> 00:23:29,000
Speaker 3: but it was still a little shocking to see another

553
00:23:29,040 --> 00:23:32,760
Speaker 3: woman and her more intimate parts so close to my husband.

554
00:23:32,960 --> 00:23:35,760
Speaker 3: The hot tub pool was for the entire hotel, so

555
00:23:35,840 --> 00:23:38,080
Speaker 3: as far as I know, they were never alone, at

556
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Speaker 3: least for very long. I should add that Shelby out

557
00:23:40,480 --> 00:23:43,240
Speaker 3: a towel around her waist. I didn't go, nor had

558
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Speaker 3: the option to go, because we have kids in school,

559
00:23:45,680 --> 00:23:48,400
Speaker 3: and Greg booked this trip last summer. They were leaving

560
00:23:48,440 --> 00:23:51,600
Speaker 3: Sunday and his friend canceled for Friday, so it was

561
00:23:51,920 --> 00:23:54,720
Speaker 3: far too late to make two week childcare plans. He

562
00:23:54,800 --> 00:23:57,200
Speaker 3: asked Shelby as opposed to other people from the group

563
00:23:57,280 --> 00:23:59,800
Speaker 3: of friends, because she's the only one really on his

564
00:23:59,840 --> 00:24:02,879
Speaker 3: life level when it comes to skiing. So upgrading to

565
00:24:02,960 --> 00:24:06,000
Speaker 3: the suite cost me fifty dollars a night extra, which

566
00:24:06,119 --> 00:24:08,600
Speaker 3: was not cheap, but trying to get two rooms would

567
00:24:08,640 --> 00:24:11,240
Speaker 3: have been four hundred and fifty dollars a night extra.

568
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Speaker 3: This was the best compromise I could come up with.

569
00:24:14,160 --> 00:24:16,959
Speaker 3: I'm still insecure, but I'm working on it. I'm not

570
00:24:17,000 --> 00:24:19,400
Speaker 3: sure if I need therapy or if I just need

571
00:24:19,400 --> 00:24:21,720
Speaker 3: to get something in my life other than kids and

572
00:24:21,840 --> 00:24:22,919
Speaker 3: husband to look forward to.

573
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Speaker 2: I was in quite a rut.

574
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Speaker 3: The hot yoga has really helped because it's challenging and

575
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Speaker 3: I've made new friends. And to the guys asking for

576
00:24:29,920 --> 00:24:32,680
Speaker 3: Shelby's Instagram funny but no, dang, it's all.

577
00:24:32,680 --> 00:24:33,480
Speaker 2: Right, Shelby.

578
00:24:33,560 --> 00:24:38,359
Speaker 4: Everyone community, community, community, No, it's okay. No, it doesn't

579
00:24:38,359 --> 00:24:39,639
Speaker 4: feel like Shelby's my wife anymore.

580
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Speaker 2: This is missus Dakota. This is no, it's not community,

581
00:24:42,160 --> 00:24:44,719
Speaker 2: this is missus Dakota. It doesn't feel right. Anymore. Make

582
00:24:44,920 --> 00:24:46,720
Speaker 2: it makes the intro. That's all right. It doesn't feel

583
00:24:46,720 --> 00:24:48,160
Speaker 2: it doesn't feel right. It doesn't feel right.

584
00:24:48,200 --> 00:24:50,640
Speaker 4: Shelby, if you're watching this, I want you to take

585
00:24:50,880 --> 00:24:54,600
Speaker 4: one good, long, hard look at the hot.

586
00:24:54,400 --> 00:24:57,400
Speaker 2: Hunk of a man sitting to my left. That's right,

587
00:24:57,560 --> 00:25:02,240
Speaker 2: marry him. That's it. That's a Now here's my question.

588
00:25:03,520 --> 00:25:06,600
Speaker 2: Do we have more stories? Do we have no more stories?

589
00:25:07,320 --> 00:25:10,560
Speaker 2: We've got another story? We do Okay, we'll do it.

590
00:25:10,640 --> 00:25:14,439
Speaker 2: All right, boys and girls, are we ready? Let's do it.

591
00:25:14,600 --> 00:25:18,720
Speaker 2: My husband is still in love with his high school friend. Oops.

592
00:25:19,080 --> 00:25:19,520
Speaker 2: Oh god.

593
00:25:19,680 --> 00:25:22,400
Speaker 4: So to start off, my husband, Steve twenty nine male,

594
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Speaker 4: and I twenty eight female, have been together for about

595
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Speaker 4: nine years, seven of which are as husband and wife.

596
00:25:28,480 --> 00:25:28,840
Speaker 2: Wow.

597
00:25:29,080 --> 00:25:31,399
Speaker 4: We met in university and so I know little to

598
00:25:31,520 --> 00:25:33,720
Speaker 4: nothing about his life back when he was.

599
00:25:33,640 --> 00:25:35,000
Speaker 2: In high school. Little to nothing.

600
00:25:35,359 --> 00:25:37,600
Speaker 4: We've had a smooth relationship with a few fights, and

601
00:25:37,640 --> 00:25:39,760
Speaker 4: we have no kids, but intend to have a child soon.

602
00:25:39,840 --> 00:25:41,720
Speaker 4: By the way, this comes from username and if you

603
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Speaker 4: want to submit your own story, go to the r slash.

604
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Speaker 2: Okay, storytime stuff read it.

605
00:25:44,880 --> 00:25:44,960
Speaker 3: So.

606
00:25:45,080 --> 00:25:46,760
Speaker 4: A little more than a week ago, when I came

607
00:25:46,760 --> 00:25:49,240
Speaker 4: home from work, the moment When I stepped into my house,

608
00:25:49,320 --> 00:25:52,080
Speaker 4: I saw Steve and this woman chatting in the living room.

609
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Speaker 2: It was not that big of a deal, but I

610
00:25:53,600 --> 00:25:55,639
Speaker 2: only wish that he would have informed me that there

611
00:25:55,640 --> 00:25:57,800
Speaker 2: would be a guest at the house. Fair enough, we're

612
00:25:57,800 --> 00:25:59,240
Speaker 2: in fair territory, yep.

613
00:25:59,280 --> 00:26:01,680
Speaker 4: He introduced me to her, of whom I am going

614
00:26:01,760 --> 00:26:04,760
Speaker 4: to call Eve, as she was an old friend back

615
00:26:04,760 --> 00:26:06,520
Speaker 4: in high school and it's been about a decade since

616
00:26:06,520 --> 00:26:08,439
Speaker 4: they've lost seen each other. I sat down next to

617
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Speaker 4: my husband to join in on the conversation, but it

618
00:26:10,480 --> 00:26:13,040
Speaker 4: seemed as though the talking would only be between.

619
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Speaker 2: Steve and Eve.

620
00:26:14,440 --> 00:26:17,840
Speaker 4: You v you weren't ready for that to run because

621
00:26:17,880 --> 00:26:21,520
Speaker 4: I wasn't forgot connected and Eve. Now I get it,

622
00:26:21,560 --> 00:26:24,280
Speaker 4: they're old buddies from high school. You're not a part

623
00:26:24,320 --> 00:26:27,000
Speaker 4: of it, so give them a break. But it seemed

624
00:26:27,000 --> 00:26:30,720
Speaker 4: as though Steve was purposefully ignoring me because Eve did

625
00:26:30,760 --> 00:26:33,400
Speaker 4: try to include me in the conversation, asking how long

626
00:26:33,440 --> 00:26:35,480
Speaker 4: Steve and I had been together and such, but he

627
00:26:35,480 --> 00:26:36,520
Speaker 4: wouldn't even assist in.

628
00:26:36,520 --> 00:26:39,240
Speaker 2: Answering such types of questions. Uh so, uh, how long

629
00:26:39,280 --> 00:26:40,320
Speaker 2: have you and Ope been together?

630
00:26:40,520 --> 00:26:40,760
Speaker 3: Who?

631
00:26:41,119 --> 00:26:43,720
Speaker 4: Who your wife? Sitting right next to you? Like like

632
00:26:43,760 --> 00:26:47,000
Speaker 4: six inches from you. Yeah, oh uh uh, but we'll

633
00:26:47,000 --> 00:26:47,480
Speaker 4: take it away.

634
00:26:50,240 --> 00:26:51,159
Speaker 2: Wait a, why.

635
00:26:53,560 --> 00:26:55,280
Speaker 3: I mean like take it away, Like I'm pointing to

636
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Speaker 3: the wife. Bike always take it away. But you could

637
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Speaker 3: also be like take it away, take my wife away,

638
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Speaker 3: take take away?

639
00:27:00,040 --> 00:27:03,639
Speaker 4: Oh yeah, yeah, Oh I got so confusing that.

640
00:27:03,840 --> 00:27:06,680
Speaker 2: Here's a couple layers there. It made me giggle. I

641
00:27:06,680 --> 00:27:07,520
Speaker 2: hope it made you, guys.

642
00:27:07,720 --> 00:27:10,159
Speaker 4: So after they went back to a one to one conversation,

643
00:27:10,320 --> 00:27:12,200
Speaker 4: I just went on with my business around the house.

644
00:27:12,400 --> 00:27:14,800
Speaker 4: Eve stayed for about an hour more before she had

645
00:27:14,880 --> 00:27:16,920
Speaker 4: left and got home. I then asked Steve a bit

646
00:27:16,960 --> 00:27:19,120
Speaker 4: more about Eve. I didn't mean to come off as

647
00:27:19,160 --> 00:27:21,720
Speaker 4: a terribly nosy, but I asked about how they met,

648
00:27:22,320 --> 00:27:24,399
Speaker 4: or soe what she's like. I didn't get much of

649
00:27:24,400 --> 00:27:27,120
Speaker 4: a response other than it's just old history.

650
00:27:27,200 --> 00:27:30,960
Speaker 2: Or Eve's pretty cool, yeah cool.

651
00:27:31,000 --> 00:27:32,960
Speaker 4: The only thing I really knew about her was her name,

652
00:27:33,080 --> 00:27:35,680
Speaker 4: that they reunited on Facebook, and she's an old friend

653
00:27:35,680 --> 00:27:38,320
Speaker 4: of my husband's. After that day, Steve went out to

654
00:27:38,400 --> 00:27:41,080
Speaker 4: lunch with Eve. He had notified me, so I wasn't worried.

655
00:27:41,280 --> 00:27:43,199
Speaker 4: But then he would go bowling with Eve, to the

656
00:27:43,240 --> 00:27:45,919
Speaker 4: movies with Eve, even shopping with Eve, and mind you,

657
00:27:46,200 --> 00:27:48,679
Speaker 4: I almost always do the shopping while my husband likes

658
00:27:48,720 --> 00:27:49,440
Speaker 4: to stay at home.

659
00:27:49,480 --> 00:27:52,119
Speaker 2: He doesn't like shopping with wife Eve, but he liked

660
00:27:52,160 --> 00:27:53,280
Speaker 2: it with Eve.

661
00:27:55,240 --> 00:27:57,680
Speaker 4: Without even telling me that he was going with Eve

662
00:27:57,800 --> 00:28:02,200
Speaker 4: unless I asked. Hmmm mm, rock Chick one eight two

663
00:28:02,359 --> 00:28:05,520
Speaker 4: just said the most outlandish thing I've ever heard in

664
00:28:05,600 --> 00:28:09,640
Speaker 4: my entire existence on planet Earth, which is he still

665
00:28:09,640 --> 00:28:14,040
Speaker 4: has feelings for Eve. Rock Chick one two, that's insanity.

666
00:28:14,400 --> 00:28:15,040
Speaker 2: How could you?

667
00:28:15,440 --> 00:28:21,040
Speaker 4: There's zero there's negative one trillion percent efites supporting your.

668
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Speaker 2: Claim, negative one hundred trillion.

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Speaker 4: M negative one hundred All right, So a couple nights back,

670
00:28:26,240 --> 00:28:27,919
Speaker 4: I finally told him that I just find it a

671
00:28:27,920 --> 00:28:30,440
Speaker 4: bit uncomfortable that he was spending so much time with Eve,

672
00:28:30,640 --> 00:28:33,400
Speaker 4: and that I hoped maybe we could spend some more

673
00:28:33,400 --> 00:28:33,960
Speaker 4: time together.

674
00:28:34,040 --> 00:28:35,840
Speaker 2: But in the end he only told me that I

675
00:28:35,920 --> 00:28:39,160
Speaker 2: was overreacting, Oh your feelings, no matter what thatck.

676
00:28:39,320 --> 00:28:41,800
Speaker 4: Ever, since Eve showed up, Steve and I had only

677
00:28:41,800 --> 00:28:44,840
Speaker 4: had spicy sleep once, and that scares me the most.

678
00:28:44,640 --> 00:28:47,440
Speaker 2: Because we usually have spicy sleep about every other night.

679
00:28:48,120 --> 00:28:51,920
Speaker 3: Yeawsa, what are we thinking?

680
00:28:50,200 --> 00:28:56,520
Speaker 2: Oh the code are you saying?

681
00:28:56,720 --> 00:28:56,920
Speaker 3: What?

682
00:28:57,200 --> 00:28:59,360
Speaker 2: Ultraviolet ninety x X is saying in chat. Is that

683
00:28:59,360 --> 00:28:59,840
Speaker 2: what you're saying?

684
00:29:00,160 --> 00:29:03,920
Speaker 4: Yeah, that he's effing Eve. That he took a bite

685
00:29:03,920 --> 00:29:05,120
Speaker 4: from the apple from the tree.

686
00:29:05,440 --> 00:29:08,480
Speaker 2: Ow h delicious. Oh God.

687
00:29:09,040 --> 00:29:11,360
Speaker 4: Now I'm scared that he's really is having an affair

688
00:29:11,400 --> 00:29:13,680
Speaker 4: with Eve because he's been so vague with me when

689
00:29:13,680 --> 00:29:16,440
Speaker 4: it comes to her, always going out with her and

690
00:29:16,560 --> 00:29:20,040
Speaker 4: just being so distant from me and everything he's been doing.

691
00:29:20,400 --> 00:29:22,400
Speaker 4: I know the pass code to his phone, and I'm

692
00:29:22,440 --> 00:29:24,960
Speaker 4: well aware I could look through his phone when he's

693
00:29:24,960 --> 00:29:27,920
Speaker 4: not looking. But that's a line that I just do

694
00:29:28,040 --> 00:29:28,920
Speaker 4: not want to cross.

695
00:29:29,280 --> 00:29:29,560
Speaker 2: Good.

696
00:29:29,760 --> 00:29:31,720
Speaker 4: I love Steve, and I thought I trusted him, but

697
00:29:31,760 --> 00:29:34,880
Speaker 4: with all evidence piling up, I'm beginning to just question him.

698
00:29:34,920 --> 00:29:36,840
Speaker 4: Please don't get the idea that Eve is a no

699
00:29:36,920 --> 00:29:40,400
Speaker 4: good homewrecker either. I barely know her myself. Quick gut check, Dakota.

700
00:29:40,600 --> 00:29:42,400
Speaker 4: Is op being fair so far?

701
00:29:42,800 --> 00:29:45,720
Speaker 2: Yeah? I think so. You can feel the vibe, Yeah,

702
00:29:46,040 --> 00:29:46,840
Speaker 2: and this vibe.

703
00:29:46,640 --> 00:29:50,200
Speaker 4: Feels very weird, and even even giving Eve credit, like, hey, look,

704
00:29:50,200 --> 00:29:52,040
Speaker 4: I don't even I don't even know, I don't even know.

705
00:29:52,160 --> 00:29:54,840
Speaker 4: I did find her Facebook profile and I shamefully went

706
00:29:54,880 --> 00:29:57,840
Speaker 4: through her profile had found out that she's newly engaged.

707
00:29:58,040 --> 00:30:00,440
Speaker 4: I thought about messaging her myself, but I I wouldn't

708
00:30:00,440 --> 00:30:02,320
Speaker 4: even know what to say. How should I handle this?

709
00:30:02,440 --> 00:30:04,680
Speaker 4: Am I just being paranoid? And there is an update?

710
00:30:04,920 --> 00:30:08,520
Speaker 4: So I'm going to ask my gorgeous sexy man to

711
00:30:08,600 --> 00:30:10,600
Speaker 4: the left of me, Dakota Payin, what he thinks about

712
00:30:10,600 --> 00:30:11,120
Speaker 4: this situation.

713
00:30:11,240 --> 00:30:13,960
Speaker 2: He lied to you because he omitted, you know, and

714
00:30:14,000 --> 00:30:16,680
Speaker 2: if this is not a oh, I didn't even think.

715
00:30:16,480 --> 00:30:20,480
Speaker 3: I needed to mention that I was going with Eve

716
00:30:20,840 --> 00:30:23,960
Speaker 3: shopping because it's so innocent. It was like, I probably

717
00:30:24,120 --> 00:30:26,600
Speaker 3: I shouldn't mention that I'm going shopping with Eve because

718
00:30:26,640 --> 00:30:28,160
Speaker 3: she might put an end to that.

719
00:30:28,160 --> 00:30:29,200
Speaker 2: That's where that's coming from.

720
00:30:29,280 --> 00:30:31,160
Speaker 3: It's coming from a I won't tell you this because

721
00:30:31,200 --> 00:30:33,720
Speaker 3: I don't want consequences. I don't want you to exert

722
00:30:33,760 --> 00:30:35,920
Speaker 3: your will upon it. Do you have the right to

723
00:30:36,000 --> 00:30:38,600
Speaker 3: as my partner? Be Like that feels kind of strange.

724
00:30:38,600 --> 00:30:42,880
Speaker 3: You're going on dates essentially with this girl, Like and

725
00:30:42,920 --> 00:30:43,160
Speaker 3: you know.

726
00:30:43,120 --> 00:30:44,920
Speaker 2: What all say, I'm gonna agree. I'm going to agree

727
00:30:44,960 --> 00:30:45,160
Speaker 2: with that.

728
00:30:45,520 --> 00:30:48,200
Speaker 4: And I'm going to say when Opie says, hey, I'm

729
00:30:48,240 --> 00:30:51,640
Speaker 4: like just kind of uneasy about this, Like I don't know,

730
00:30:51,760 --> 00:30:57,840
Speaker 4: He's like what are you talking about you know, everything's fine, Dakota.

731
00:30:57,920 --> 00:31:01,280
Speaker 4: If I can ask you, if you have your government

732
00:31:01,320 --> 00:31:04,960
Speaker 4: assigned wife. Now we're in a parallel universe, a universe. Yeah,

733
00:31:05,600 --> 00:31:11,640
Speaker 4: and your beautiful assigned wife says, hey, you know there's

734
00:31:11,680 --> 00:31:13,920
Speaker 4: this there's this girl, and hang around. I just I

735
00:31:14,040 --> 00:31:16,880
Speaker 4: just kind of feeling easy. You know, I don't know

736
00:31:17,000 --> 00:31:17,800
Speaker 4: what's going on there.

737
00:31:17,920 --> 00:31:23,520
Speaker 3: The state already told me what's up, babe, I don't

738
00:31:23,560 --> 00:31:24,080
Speaker 3: have what.

739
00:31:24,000 --> 00:31:24,840
Speaker 2: Are you talking about it?

740
00:31:25,240 --> 00:31:27,600
Speaker 3: I think given if you okay, if you take away though,

741
00:31:27,640 --> 00:31:30,000
Speaker 3: and it's just my wife, it's not my state, my

742
00:31:30,320 --> 00:31:34,840
Speaker 3: federally mandated well I got federal mandate. No federal mandate, Okay.

743
00:31:35,080 --> 00:31:37,200
Speaker 3: I'm like, all right, I'm seeing where you're coming. And

744
00:31:37,840 --> 00:31:40,160
Speaker 3: you know, maybe I had to admit that I have

745
00:31:40,200 --> 00:31:42,120
Speaker 3: some stuff that I've got to work out with the Eve.

746
00:31:42,600 --> 00:31:46,480
Speaker 3: Maybe I'm kind of latching on to an old idea,

747
00:31:46,560 --> 00:31:49,920
Speaker 3: an old feeling I had about em Dakota.

748
00:31:49,960 --> 00:31:53,480
Speaker 4: You're you're saying this as if you have empathy and

749
00:31:53,600 --> 00:31:55,080
Speaker 4: care for your partner.

750
00:31:55,360 --> 00:31:56,479
Speaker 2: Yeah.

751
00:31:56,520 --> 00:31:59,680
Speaker 3: Look, if your partner's like I'm uncomfortable, it's like you

752
00:31:59,680 --> 00:32:04,000
Speaker 3: should try to do your best to make it not uncomfortable.

753
00:32:04,160 --> 00:32:06,600
Speaker 3: You know, especially if it's reasonable, which, Yeah, the girl

754
00:32:06,640 --> 00:32:08,600
Speaker 3: you were in love with in high school at Sarund's

755
00:32:08,640 --> 00:32:10,640
Speaker 3: lock sounds like it's a pretty reasonable to ask.

756
00:32:10,960 --> 00:32:14,320
Speaker 2: And there it is. Dakota Payne has just said distinctly.

757
00:32:14,480 --> 00:32:18,240
Speaker 4: The point of the exercise that I just did illustrates them.

758
00:32:18,760 --> 00:32:21,320
Speaker 2: And now we have an updates. Hey, it's Sean here,

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00:32:21,360 --> 00:32:22,880
Speaker 2: og host of the show. We're gonna get back to

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Speaker 2: these juicy stories. But here's a quick three minutes of

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Speaker 4: So last night, when Steve and I sat down for dinner,

763
00:32:28,880 --> 00:32:31,560
Speaker 4: we ate quietly across from each other. I had decided

764
00:32:31,560 --> 00:32:33,560
Speaker 4: that I would talk to him about how his behavior

765
00:32:33,640 --> 00:32:36,280
Speaker 4: has been unacceptable lately and how he has been spending

766
00:32:36,320 --> 00:32:38,920
Speaker 4: too much time with you, which in turn was neglecting me.

767
00:32:39,040 --> 00:32:41,920
Speaker 4: I started the conversation by asking how his day went,

768
00:32:42,160 --> 00:32:44,480
Speaker 4: how work was, and then gradually led up to asking

769
00:32:44,520 --> 00:32:46,560
Speaker 4: if I could see his phone. He asked why, and

770
00:32:46,640 --> 00:32:51,520
Speaker 4: I replied that I just wanted to see it. He said, no, Uh, okay, okay,

771
00:32:51,760 --> 00:32:52,080
Speaker 4: here you.

772
00:32:52,080 --> 00:32:53,880
Speaker 2: Go do my phone. That's what's the answer to be.

773
00:32:53,960 --> 00:32:56,760
Speaker 4: I asked him why I couldn't see it, and he said, uh,

774
00:32:56,800 --> 00:32:59,480
Speaker 4: since he doesn't look through my phone? Then why do

775
00:32:59,520 --> 00:33:01,680
Speaker 4: I need to look I had tried to urge him

776
00:33:01,720 --> 00:33:03,360
Speaker 4: to let me see it, but he said that his

777
00:33:03,400 --> 00:33:06,320
Speaker 4: final answer was no. I then said that we need

778
00:33:06,320 --> 00:33:08,400
Speaker 4: to talk about Eve. At this point, he just groans

779
00:33:10,760 --> 00:33:13,040
Speaker 4: and asked why I can't just drop the topic with Eve,

780
00:33:13,360 --> 00:33:15,560
Speaker 4: and that I was being nosy. I got really mad

781
00:33:15,600 --> 00:33:17,520
Speaker 4: and told him to shut up and just listen to me.

782
00:33:17,640 --> 00:33:19,360
Speaker 4: At that point, I let it all out. I had

783
00:33:19,360 --> 00:33:22,160
Speaker 4: told him that he was prioritizing Eve first and me after,

784
00:33:22,240 --> 00:33:24,200
Speaker 4: and that I didn't understand why I couldn't just go

785
00:33:24,360 --> 00:33:27,000
Speaker 4: out with him whenever he and Eve would hang out together,

786
00:33:27,160 --> 00:33:29,440
Speaker 4: that he's been so vague when it came to anything

787
00:33:29,480 --> 00:33:31,840
Speaker 4: about Eve, and that I shouldn't have to ask to

788
00:33:31,920 --> 00:33:33,960
Speaker 4: know that he went out to hang out with Eve.

789
00:33:34,080 --> 00:33:36,320
Speaker 4: I just feel left out as his wife and his

790
00:33:36,400 --> 00:33:38,640
Speaker 4: best friend. He shouldn't feel as though he has to

791
00:33:38,680 --> 00:33:41,080
Speaker 4: keep any of his own history for me. But after

792
00:33:41,160 --> 00:33:43,280
Speaker 4: I was done with my own rant, I waited for

793
00:33:43,320 --> 00:33:47,640
Speaker 4: his response. I expected some sort of explanation, some sort

794
00:33:47,640 --> 00:33:50,680
Speaker 4: of apology, or heck, at least some questions to at

795
00:33:50,760 --> 00:33:53,360
Speaker 4: least find some sort of common ground on how I felt.

796
00:33:53,440 --> 00:33:54,440
Speaker 2: He said nothing of the store.

797
00:33:54,640 --> 00:33:57,720
Speaker 4: Instead, he said I was being ridiculous and that I'm

798
00:33:57,800 --> 00:34:02,720
Speaker 4: antagonizing him for just catching up with an old friend.

799
00:34:03,000 --> 00:34:06,280
Speaker 3: Shut up, you can do that with a phone call.

800
00:34:06,760 --> 00:34:09,759
Speaker 3: You don't have to date your friend to catch up

801
00:34:09,800 --> 00:34:10,520
Speaker 3: with her.

802
00:34:10,400 --> 00:34:12,680
Speaker 2: Dakota, I just met up with my old friend.

803
00:34:12,800 --> 00:34:15,839
Speaker 4: And from this moment until the day I die, I

804
00:34:15,920 --> 00:34:18,480
Speaker 4: have to do everything in my power to spend every.

805
00:34:18,680 --> 00:34:21,600
Speaker 2: Single waking and maybe sleeping.

806
00:34:21,239 --> 00:34:24,480
Speaker 3: Second with this person, just until you make sure you're

807
00:34:24,520 --> 00:34:25,399
Speaker 3: caught up, just.

808
00:34:25,440 --> 00:34:29,200
Speaker 4: Until Listen, before we were eighteen and now we're like thirty,

809
00:34:29,360 --> 00:34:31,399
Speaker 4: I gotta give twelve years.

810
00:34:31,239 --> 00:34:34,680
Speaker 2: Twelve years straight? Are you just hanging out me and Eve? Like?

811
00:34:34,840 --> 00:34:36,600
Speaker 4: And when I say twelve years, I don't mean like,

812
00:34:36,680 --> 00:34:38,759
Speaker 4: oh we hang out throughout those twelve years. I mean

813
00:34:39,080 --> 00:34:42,560
Speaker 4: literal twelve years of combined spent time together. Yes, So

814
00:34:42,600 --> 00:34:45,600
Speaker 4: it'll probably take me another like forty to get that,

815
00:34:46,000 --> 00:34:47,840
Speaker 4: just with work and everything else, right, with all my

816
00:34:47,880 --> 00:34:51,399
Speaker 4: other responsibilities and now, Dakota, at that point, if I'm

817
00:34:51,400 --> 00:34:53,960
Speaker 4: gonna spend forty years, I'm.

818
00:34:53,320 --> 00:34:55,040
Speaker 2: Thirty years old. But what do I have to do.

819
00:34:55,760 --> 00:34:57,520
Speaker 2: I think I'm just gonna marry Eve right now.

820
00:34:57,640 --> 00:34:59,239
Speaker 3: I think I'm gonna have to divorce you and get

821
00:34:59,239 --> 00:35:01,800
Speaker 3: married to Eve before where we get married in thirty years.

822
00:35:01,920 --> 00:35:03,080
Speaker 2: But you don't need to check my phone.

823
00:35:03,160 --> 00:35:06,040
Speaker 3: Yeah, and also don't check my phone. Shut up, shut up,

824
00:35:06,320 --> 00:35:09,440
Speaker 3: Come come on. It's such an obvious like like in

825
00:35:09,520 --> 00:35:11,359
Speaker 3: my phone, why do you want to look at my phone?

826
00:35:11,400 --> 00:35:13,080
Speaker 2: There's not even anything in there to look at. No,

827
00:35:13,160 --> 00:35:13,880
Speaker 2: you can't see it.

828
00:35:14,000 --> 00:35:15,680
Speaker 4: And also and we're gonna get back to the story

829
00:35:15,680 --> 00:35:17,680
Speaker 4: in a second, but I got to shout out to

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00:35:17,719 --> 00:35:19,799
Speaker 4: Ope because so often in these stories people are like, oh,

831
00:35:19,920 --> 00:35:22,000
Speaker 4: let me check the phone. The da da Op did

832
00:35:22,000 --> 00:35:24,360
Speaker 4: the thing which was like, hey, look, I'm just gonna

833
00:35:24,440 --> 00:35:27,120
Speaker 4: honestly express how I'm feeling. I'm gonna I'm gonna lay

834
00:35:27,160 --> 00:35:28,920
Speaker 4: it all out on to be one hundred percent honest.

835
00:35:29,239 --> 00:35:31,480
Speaker 4: And can I see your phone because that's something that

836
00:35:31,520 --> 00:35:35,160
Speaker 4: would you know, make me a pezy's feelings or whatever. Yes, like,

837
00:35:35,200 --> 00:35:38,279
Speaker 4: I'm gonna ask your permission to see your phone. And

838
00:35:38,320 --> 00:35:41,840
Speaker 4: then he had this response that hold Op what she

839
00:35:41,960 --> 00:35:45,440
Speaker 4: needed to note without invading his privacy and becoming the

840
00:35:45,520 --> 00:35:48,680
Speaker 4: bad guy in the process. Ops stayed the good guy

841
00:35:48,840 --> 00:35:51,799
Speaker 4: aka the good girl because Op is a late But.

842
00:35:51,760 --> 00:35:54,960
Speaker 2: Take that point at him Dakota point at him. God,

843
00:35:55,320 --> 00:35:56,600
Speaker 2: that was intense, all right.

844
00:35:56,719 --> 00:35:59,080
Speaker 4: I told him that he was acting so shady, how

845
00:35:59,120 --> 00:36:01,080
Speaker 4: I would have to dig to find the whole truth,

846
00:36:01,120 --> 00:36:02,719
Speaker 4: and how it seemed as though he was so much

847
00:36:02,719 --> 00:36:04,960
Speaker 4: more invested than Eve than he was with me. He

848
00:36:05,239 --> 00:36:07,080
Speaker 4: was then offended by the fact that I called him

849
00:36:07,120 --> 00:36:09,520
Speaker 4: shady and had yelled back at me at how I

850
00:36:09,600 --> 00:36:12,239
Speaker 4: had so little trust and my faithful husband after all

851
00:36:12,239 --> 00:36:14,800
Speaker 4: of these years of marriage. That statement alone just ticked

852
00:36:14,800 --> 00:36:17,120
Speaker 4: me off because it led me to pointing out all

853
00:36:17,160 --> 00:36:19,520
Speaker 4: of his sketchy behavior. And when I asked him why

854
00:36:19,520 --> 00:36:22,320
Speaker 4: he wouldn't invite me to an outing with Eve nonetheless

855
00:36:22,440 --> 00:36:25,520
Speaker 4: tell me about her, he just said that he's allowed

856
00:36:25,520 --> 00:36:28,319
Speaker 4: to have his own friends without me interfering, which is

857
00:36:28,360 --> 00:36:30,799
Speaker 4: bs because I don't usually go out with him when

858
00:36:30,800 --> 00:36:33,520
Speaker 4: it's his guy's night out unless he invites me to come.

859
00:36:33,600 --> 00:36:35,840
Speaker 4: We get into a full blown argument, which led to

860
00:36:35,880 --> 00:36:38,080
Speaker 4: me going to the bedroom and staying there for the

861
00:36:38,080 --> 00:36:39,960
Speaker 4: rest of the night. When we woke up this morning,

862
00:36:40,160 --> 00:36:41,920
Speaker 4: neither of us was in a mood to speak to

863
00:36:41,920 --> 00:36:44,279
Speaker 4: each other, and I just headed off to work. During lunch,

864
00:36:44,360 --> 00:36:46,600
Speaker 4: I was on Facebook and went on Eve's Facebook and

865
00:36:46,640 --> 00:36:48,880
Speaker 4: sent her a friend request. I then messaged her if

866
00:36:48,920 --> 00:36:51,760
Speaker 4: we could have lunch tomorrow. She did reply a bit later,

867
00:36:52,000 --> 00:36:54,360
Speaker 4: and I asked her to please not tell Steve about this.

868
00:36:54,560 --> 00:36:58,080
Speaker 4: She replied, er, I guess sure, I guess sure. I

869
00:36:58,120 --> 00:37:02,240
Speaker 4: guess Okay. I really hope she does not tell Steve.

870
00:37:02,320 --> 00:37:04,600
Speaker 4: But if she does, I wouldn't be surprised. But I

871
00:37:04,600 --> 00:37:06,439
Speaker 4: have no clue what to do. We will be having

872
00:37:06,520 --> 00:37:09,160
Speaker 4: lunch tomorrow and I'm going to ask her about her

873
00:37:09,160 --> 00:37:11,279
Speaker 4: relationship with Steve, but I have no idea how I'm

874
00:37:11,280 --> 00:37:14,160
Speaker 4: going to execute it. I will try to update as

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00:37:14,239 --> 00:37:17,520
Speaker 4: soon as possible, and we have said updates as.

876
00:37:17,320 --> 00:37:21,560
Speaker 2: Soon as possible. Update and Douce, can I ask you this, Dakota.

877
00:37:22,400 --> 00:37:27,480
Speaker 4: My conspiracy theory is that Steve is in love with

878
00:37:27,560 --> 00:37:29,880
Speaker 4: Eve and is spending all this time and all this stuff.

879
00:37:30,040 --> 00:37:33,359
Speaker 4: And I don't actually think they have a physical relationship

880
00:37:33,400 --> 00:37:36,840
Speaker 4: with each other, not yet. I think that Steve is

881
00:37:36,960 --> 00:37:40,080
Speaker 4: just pining and trying to, you know, drop the hints,

882
00:37:40,080 --> 00:37:43,239
Speaker 4: spending all the time and everything to smoke signal to

883
00:37:43,360 --> 00:37:46,520
Speaker 4: Eve like I want to be with you, I want

884
00:37:46,600 --> 00:37:47,440
Speaker 4: an affair with you.

885
00:37:47,719 --> 00:37:48,840
Speaker 2: Do you agree? Do you disagree?

886
00:37:48,880 --> 00:37:52,760
Speaker 3: Steve is loving having a girlfriend instead of a wife.

887
00:37:52,880 --> 00:37:53,719
Speaker 3: That's what Steve's loves.

888
00:37:53,719 --> 00:37:56,640
Speaker 2: Steve's loving having a girlfriend that's not his wife. Correct.

889
00:37:57,160 --> 00:38:00,960
Speaker 3: I think the most telling thing to me his intent

890
00:38:01,360 --> 00:38:04,200
Speaker 3: is when he tried to play you know, that whole

891
00:38:04,200 --> 00:38:08,239
Speaker 3: conversation sounds like it got rolled out exceptionally bad. It

892
00:38:08,239 --> 00:38:10,720
Speaker 3: sounds like that conversation is very contentious from the very beginning,

893
00:38:10,800 --> 00:38:12,719
Speaker 3: right right, right, Yeah. But the way he's like, wow,

894
00:38:12,760 --> 00:38:15,480
Speaker 3: so this is what you think of your your faithful husband,

895
00:38:15,520 --> 00:38:18,399
Speaker 3: It's like, well, buddy, it's like I always like using

896
00:38:18,440 --> 00:38:21,799
Speaker 3: bank robberies as metaphors. Please, It's like, it's that's like

897
00:38:21,960 --> 00:38:26,719
Speaker 3: you saying, like me, Steve, You're dressed in a cartoon

898
00:38:26,880 --> 00:38:29,480
Speaker 3: bank robber's outfit and you're like, I'm gonna go to

899
00:38:29,520 --> 00:38:31,640
Speaker 3: the bank, and your wife's like, are you planning on

900
00:38:31,760 --> 00:38:34,200
Speaker 3: doing anything like kind of sketchy at the bank, And

901
00:38:34,239 --> 00:38:39,080
Speaker 3: you go, wow, Wow, after all this time with your

902
00:38:39,239 --> 00:38:42,239
Speaker 3: not bank robber husband, you're now going to accuse me

903
00:38:42,320 --> 00:38:45,680
Speaker 3: of robbing the bank. It's like, yeah, buddy, based on

904
00:38:45,920 --> 00:38:48,120
Speaker 3: everything I'm seeing, if that's what's gonna happen.

905
00:38:48,400 --> 00:38:50,680
Speaker 2: Black mass three holes on the front.

906
00:38:50,640 --> 00:38:54,239
Speaker 3: The white and black stripes like, I'm telling he looks

907
00:38:54,280 --> 00:38:56,760
Speaker 3: like the hamburgler from McDonald's.

908
00:38:57,080 --> 00:39:00,480
Speaker 2: Like that's what he's looking like. Oh you know, it

909
00:39:00,600 --> 00:39:01,240
Speaker 2: was the stripes.

910
00:39:01,280 --> 00:39:05,800
Speaker 3: For me, it was like a classic burglar thief outfit

911
00:39:06,680 --> 00:39:07,640
Speaker 3: cartoon carriage.

912
00:39:07,640 --> 00:39:09,879
Speaker 2: And he's being like, what are you talking about. I'm

913
00:39:09,920 --> 00:39:10,919
Speaker 2: a faithful man.

914
00:39:11,080 --> 00:39:14,960
Speaker 4: It's like, dude, you're eh, I see it. I see it.

915
00:39:15,080 --> 00:39:18,000
Speaker 4: But let's see if that's what the stufdate contains. Updates

916
00:39:18,160 --> 00:39:20,880
Speaker 4: number two. So I sat at our agreed meeting place

917
00:39:20,960 --> 00:39:23,279
Speaker 4: and we agreed to meet at half past noon. I

918
00:39:23,320 --> 00:39:25,920
Speaker 4: have the day off today, so I wasn't bound to

919
00:39:26,280 --> 00:39:28,920
Speaker 4: a schedule and showed up about ten minutes early. I waited,

920
00:39:28,920 --> 00:39:30,759
Speaker 4: and she arrived a little late, but I'm glad she

921
00:39:30,760 --> 00:39:32,480
Speaker 4: showed up at all. So we greet each other and

922
00:39:32,480 --> 00:39:34,279
Speaker 4: she says it's nice to finally get the chance to

923
00:39:34,280 --> 00:39:36,200
Speaker 4: know me and to assure me that she did not

924
00:39:36,280 --> 00:39:38,799
Speaker 4: tell Steve. Her assurance was nice, but I was well

925
00:39:38,840 --> 00:39:41,520
Speaker 4: aware that anything she said could be completely false.

926
00:39:41,760 --> 00:39:44,240
Speaker 2: Oh no, we're just guys. We're still dialing in the mics.

927
00:39:44,280 --> 00:39:44,680
Speaker 2: We'll get in.

928
00:39:44,719 --> 00:39:47,800
Speaker 4: They'll be we're getting there. You can try turning me

929
00:39:47,840 --> 00:39:50,040
Speaker 4: down maybe a little bit. Yeah, sor right, So we're

930
00:39:50,040 --> 00:39:53,279
Speaker 4: almost there, go direct, yeah, like, So we talked and

931
00:39:53,320 --> 00:39:55,600
Speaker 4: she does talk about her fiance and showed be a

932
00:39:55,680 --> 00:39:57,880
Speaker 4: ring and such. I asked how they were doing, and

933
00:39:57,920 --> 00:40:00,160
Speaker 4: she said it's been great, and how he proposed to

934
00:40:00,200 --> 00:40:02,000
Speaker 4: her before he went on a business trip and is

935
00:40:02,040 --> 00:40:04,560
Speaker 4: currently still gone, and yes. I realized that what she

936
00:40:04,640 --> 00:40:07,360
Speaker 4: said is a huge red flag. So she then asked

937
00:40:07,360 --> 00:40:09,239
Speaker 4: me how Steve and I were doing. I told her

938
00:40:09,360 --> 00:40:12,440
Speaker 4: that it wasn't going great. She seemed pretty surprised by

939
00:40:12,480 --> 00:40:15,160
Speaker 4: my answer. Eve had asked what was wrong. I didn't

940
00:40:15,160 --> 00:40:17,520
Speaker 4: give her much detail other than the fact that Steve

941
00:40:17,680 --> 00:40:21,360
Speaker 4: seemed to be distancing himself from me. She then asked

942
00:40:21,400 --> 00:40:23,400
Speaker 4: if this has been going on for long? And I

943
00:40:23,480 --> 00:40:27,240
Speaker 4: did not tell her that it started when she appeared. Instead,

944
00:40:27,440 --> 00:40:30,680
Speaker 4: I just said it started recently. At this point, she

945
00:40:30,800 --> 00:40:33,560
Speaker 4: is flustered. I mean, she is covering her face by

946
00:40:33,560 --> 00:40:36,840
Speaker 4: saying things like oh no, and I'm just scared of

947
00:40:36,880 --> 00:40:37,480
Speaker 4: what's going on.

948
00:40:37,520 --> 00:40:42,800
Speaker 6: So she's going she's gone, oh no, oh god, God.

949
00:40:43,560 --> 00:40:48,120
Speaker 6: She knows, she knows, and we know she knows because

950
00:40:48,160 --> 00:40:49,480
Speaker 6: I'm jermin cold.

951
00:40:50,600 --> 00:40:52,520
Speaker 4: So I asked her what's wrong, and she says she

952
00:40:52,680 --> 00:40:55,640
Speaker 4: thinks she might be part of the reason why he's

953
00:40:55,719 --> 00:40:59,200
Speaker 4: being tell me more. I asked her why she's at

954
00:40:59,239 --> 00:41:01,040
Speaker 4: that she was a part of the cause, and she

955
00:41:01,200 --> 00:41:03,799
Speaker 4: said that it might sound ridiculous, but she thinks that

956
00:41:03,840 --> 00:41:07,240
Speaker 4: Steve might still be hung up on her from high school.

957
00:41:07,360 --> 00:41:09,880
Speaker 4: She apologized for saying it and asked me to please

958
00:41:09,920 --> 00:41:13,160
Speaker 4: believe her because she was being completely honest. I asked

959
00:41:13,200 --> 00:41:15,000
Speaker 4: if they had dated back in high school, and she

960
00:41:15,160 --> 00:41:19,000
Speaker 4: told me that they did not. It was that Steve

961
00:41:19,160 --> 00:41:22,960
Speaker 4: was completely infatuated with her for all four years of

962
00:41:23,040 --> 00:41:26,280
Speaker 4: high school, and promised me that the only reason why

963
00:41:26,320 --> 00:41:29,040
Speaker 4: she even agreed to meet him again was because she

964
00:41:29,120 --> 00:41:32,560
Speaker 4: thought that he was over her, especially since Steve got married.

965
00:41:32,760 --> 00:41:37,680
Speaker 3: To me, see now that sounds like nonsense from both sides,

966
00:41:38,360 --> 00:41:41,080
Speaker 3: Like why would you agree to meet the guy who

967
00:41:41,160 --> 00:41:44,200
Speaker 3: you had no relationship with that was infatuated with you

968
00:41:44,400 --> 00:41:46,959
Speaker 3: for all of high school just because he's married Now

969
00:41:47,160 --> 00:41:49,600
Speaker 3: that doesn't make any sense to me. I would still

970
00:41:49,719 --> 00:41:53,960
Speaker 3: be like, hey, no, no, no, there's no reason for this.

971
00:41:54,480 --> 00:41:56,360
Speaker 3: Maybe he like made a fake reason.

972
00:41:56,760 --> 00:42:00,560
Speaker 2: I but yeah, my thing is the continue hangouts.

973
00:42:00,600 --> 00:42:02,799
Speaker 4: I mean, maybe he's like love bombing her or just

974
00:42:02,800 --> 00:42:04,920
Speaker 4: like like doing everything that she wants to do, and

975
00:42:05,239 --> 00:42:06,719
Speaker 4: that's why she keeps hanging out with him.

976
00:42:06,880 --> 00:42:09,600
Speaker 2: But I'm like, I guess, I.

977
00:42:09,400 --> 00:42:11,759
Speaker 4: Well, I don't understand why she would want to see

978
00:42:11,800 --> 00:42:13,760
Speaker 4: him in the first place exactly, But I'm like, okay,

979
00:42:13,840 --> 00:42:17,040
Speaker 4: I understand maybe a little bit more of the first meeting.

980
00:42:17,120 --> 00:42:20,840
Speaker 4: Maybe there is the like, oh hey, like reconnecting memory.

981
00:42:20,680 --> 00:42:22,560
Speaker 2: Lane or I mean, sure, it's like we can be nice.

982
00:42:22,640 --> 00:42:26,160
Speaker 3: We're adults now, so we should be able to behave normally.

983
00:42:26,280 --> 00:42:28,520
Speaker 2: But what about the million activities that did afterwards?

984
00:42:28,560 --> 00:42:30,960
Speaker 4: That's my question, right, Why didn't she say, like, oh hey,

985
00:42:31,040 --> 00:42:33,799
Speaker 4: let me like not spend literally all my free time with.

986
00:42:33,760 --> 00:42:36,439
Speaker 3: This man, and like, clearly he's still acting like he's

987
00:42:36,440 --> 00:42:40,120
Speaker 3: infatuated with you, so yeah, hmmmm.

988
00:42:40,719 --> 00:42:43,560
Speaker 4: Well, Obie says, I calmed her down and assured her

989
00:42:43,600 --> 00:42:45,680
Speaker 4: I believed her, and I asked her what they were

990
00:42:45,719 --> 00:42:47,719
Speaker 4: like in high school. Her story matched up with the

991
00:42:47,719 --> 00:42:50,640
Speaker 4: conclusion she gave me, and throughout she kept apologizing to me.

992
00:42:50,840 --> 00:42:53,760
Speaker 4: She told me that she has never reciprocated to Steve's feelings.

993
00:42:53,880 --> 00:42:56,160
Speaker 4: I brought up the fact that Steve wouldn't ever invite

994
00:42:56,160 --> 00:42:58,040
Speaker 4: me to the hangouts with the both of them, and

995
00:42:58,080 --> 00:43:00,680
Speaker 4: she said that Steve just told her I just wouldn't

996
00:43:00,760 --> 00:43:03,319
Speaker 4: didn't want to go, or I was busy. Heck, she

997
00:43:03,480 --> 00:43:06,560
Speaker 4: even showed me texts as proof of passing me off

998
00:43:06,680 --> 00:43:07,720
Speaker 4: as anti social.

999
00:43:07,800 --> 00:43:08,080
Speaker 2: Wow.

1000
00:43:08,120 --> 00:43:12,680
Speaker 3: So okay, so now we all know it's like divorce o' clock, right, Like, uh, oh,

1001
00:43:12,760 --> 00:43:14,360
Speaker 3: we all we can see that, right.

1002
00:43:14,440 --> 00:43:18,759
Speaker 2: It's looking really bad.

1003
00:43:19,000 --> 00:43:23,080
Speaker 3: Yeah, you tried to cheat on me with your high

1004
00:43:23,120 --> 00:43:26,319
Speaker 3: school crush. Even though you failed, I'll never look at

1005
00:43:26,320 --> 00:43:26,919
Speaker 3: you the same way.

1006
00:43:27,080 --> 00:43:30,680
Speaker 2: Conspiracy too. This is a conspiracy too. Yeah, geez.

1007
00:43:31,120 --> 00:43:34,800
Speaker 3: And not only is it, it's just so extra pathetic

1008
00:43:35,080 --> 00:43:37,520
Speaker 3: that it's like it's never coming back for me.

1009
00:43:38,840 --> 00:43:40,960
Speaker 2: I think I agree. I think that I would be

1010
00:43:40,960 --> 00:43:42,240
Speaker 2: in the state boat. Yeah.

1011
00:43:42,440 --> 00:43:44,200
Speaker 4: Eve asked me what I was going to do the

1012
00:43:44,239 --> 00:43:46,120
Speaker 4: million dollar questions, and I just told her that I

1013
00:43:46,200 --> 00:43:47,080
Speaker 4: was going to talk to Steve.

1014
00:43:47,200 --> 00:43:48,160
Speaker 2: That's all I can really do.

1015
00:43:48,200 --> 00:43:50,279
Speaker 4: At this point. We made some other small talk and

1016
00:43:50,320 --> 00:43:52,919
Speaker 4: then thanked each other for the lunch. So what I've

1017
00:43:52,960 --> 00:43:56,239
Speaker 4: been able to include so far is even Steve were

1018
00:43:56,239 --> 00:43:58,760
Speaker 4: in cahoots with each other, even if Eve was trying

1019
00:43:58,760 --> 00:44:00,560
Speaker 4: to lie her way out of being in a physical

1020
00:44:00,560 --> 00:44:03,759
Speaker 4: affair with Steve. Even if all her immorse story and

1021
00:44:03,800 --> 00:44:06,520
Speaker 4: apologies were a great big pile of bowl. It just

1022
00:44:06,560 --> 00:44:08,719
Speaker 4: seems so blatant to me that he is having an

1023
00:44:08,760 --> 00:44:10,520
Speaker 4: emotional affair, which is enough for me.

1024
00:44:10,840 --> 00:44:11,160
Speaker 2: Yeah.

1025
00:44:11,360 --> 00:44:13,480
Speaker 3: Literally him being like, oh yeah, my wife is just

1026
00:44:13,480 --> 00:44:14,920
Speaker 3: anti zocal and doesn't want to come.

1027
00:44:15,040 --> 00:44:17,319
Speaker 2: That's what's incentivemedia. It's over.

1028
00:44:17,520 --> 00:44:20,520
Speaker 4: She keeps asking you why can't I hang out with

1029
00:44:20,560 --> 00:44:22,759
Speaker 4: you guys, and you're not telling me, and then you're

1030
00:44:22,800 --> 00:44:25,880
Speaker 4: like blowing me off. Yeah yeah, number two point number two,

1031
00:44:25,960 --> 00:44:28,160
Speaker 4: he's a line stop of crap that purposely kept Eve

1032
00:44:28,200 --> 00:44:30,240
Speaker 4: and I separated by telling her I had no interest

1033
00:44:30,239 --> 00:44:33,280
Speaker 4: in getting to know her. And number three, I'm his rebound.

1034
00:44:33,360 --> 00:44:36,040
Speaker 4: It just seems as though I've always been rebound. You

1035
00:44:36,080 --> 00:44:38,480
Speaker 4: can't have a rebound from something that never happened. Uh,

1036
00:44:38,520 --> 00:44:43,080
Speaker 4: if you're uh, oh, I was thinking rebound from Eve? No,

1037
00:44:43,160 --> 00:44:44,960
Speaker 4: I think that's what Ope he's saying, oh, is like

1038
00:44:45,200 --> 00:44:47,439
Speaker 4: he didn't, So Steve.

1039
00:44:47,600 --> 00:44:48,920
Speaker 2: The consolation girlfriend.

1040
00:44:49,160 --> 00:44:54,640
Speaker 4: Steve has literally innovated in his nice gyetry right in

1041
00:44:54,680 --> 00:45:01,240
Speaker 4: his instellery. There was no relationship do rebound for him? However,

1042
00:45:01,560 --> 00:45:04,080
Speaker 4: he's like, I need a rebound, and then that was

1043
00:45:04,120 --> 00:45:06,520
Speaker 4: op yeah. And then he's like, oh, I'll just marry her,

1044
00:45:06,600 --> 00:45:10,080
Speaker 4: like whatever. Yeah, and then but as soon as Eve

1045
00:45:10,200 --> 00:45:13,839
Speaker 4: is back in his claw, this big meaty claw, then

1046
00:45:14,280 --> 00:45:18,080
Speaker 4: he clinches down. Yeah, yep, tries so I'm his rebound.

1047
00:45:18,120 --> 00:45:20,239
Speaker 4: It just seems as though I've always been his rebound now.

1048
00:45:20,440 --> 00:45:23,000
Speaker 4: She said that Steve and her separated after high school

1049
00:45:23,040 --> 00:45:25,719
Speaker 4: and lost contact, not separated as in a relationship, just

1050
00:45:25,760 --> 00:45:28,359
Speaker 4: like didn't chat with each other born friends. And then

1051
00:45:28,600 --> 00:45:31,560
Speaker 4: that's where I see myself coming into the story. Eve

1052
00:45:31,640 --> 00:45:33,440
Speaker 4: was very nice, because remember they met, I think are

1053
00:45:33,480 --> 00:45:34,640
Speaker 4: right around and started college.

1054
00:45:35,080 --> 00:45:36,960
Speaker 2: Eve was very nice and polite throughout.

1055
00:45:36,640 --> 00:45:38,920
Speaker 4: The entire meal. But I will most likely let us

1056
00:45:38,920 --> 00:45:40,880
Speaker 4: go our separate ways after this. I do not regret

1057
00:45:40,880 --> 00:45:43,440
Speaker 4: meeting her for lunch whatsoever, because I came for closure

1058
00:45:43,600 --> 00:45:45,520
Speaker 4: and I got something. I am also going to consult

1059
00:45:45,520 --> 00:45:47,520
Speaker 4: my lawyer and see what I can do with this information.

1060
00:45:47,680 --> 00:45:49,920
Speaker 4: I do not see this marriage working out, especially if

1061
00:45:49,920 --> 00:45:52,160
Speaker 4: he's this quick to abandon me for an old flame,

1062
00:45:52,360 --> 00:45:55,279
Speaker 4: and have already spent so many years of my life

1063
00:45:55,280 --> 00:45:56,080
Speaker 4: on this marriage.

1064
00:45:56,160 --> 00:45:57,680
Speaker 2: My sister is well aware of.

1065
00:45:57,640 --> 00:45:59,680
Speaker 4: What was going on, and I am welcome to stay

1066
00:45:59,680 --> 00:46:02,520
Speaker 4: with her, and I do tend to when Steve comes home,

1067
00:46:02,719 --> 00:46:04,640
Speaker 4: he will get an earful and I'll let him give

1068
00:46:04,680 --> 00:46:07,080
Speaker 4: his own side of the story. But until then I

1069
00:46:07,160 --> 00:46:12,880
Speaker 4: will prepare myself. You are not prepare quick poll divorce

1070
00:46:12,960 --> 00:46:15,879
Speaker 4: or not. I want to hear from our amazing, incredible,

1071
00:46:16,360 --> 00:46:19,799
Speaker 4: kindhearted people in our community. Remember only community, in fact,

1072
00:46:20,080 --> 00:46:22,879
Speaker 4: that is you literally watching this right freaking now.

1073
00:46:24,280 --> 00:46:26,440
Speaker 2: So let me know what you think. But yeah, I

1074
00:46:26,520 --> 00:46:28,080
Speaker 2: think it's over.

1075
00:46:28,600 --> 00:46:32,560
Speaker 4: Yeah it's and you know it's the real nail in

1076
00:46:32,600 --> 00:46:35,839
Speaker 4: the coffin for me. I mean, like it's already atrocious

1077
00:46:35,920 --> 00:46:38,680
Speaker 4: what he did, like like going with the eve, the lie,

1078
00:46:38,760 --> 00:46:42,120
Speaker 4: like everything else. When she sat down and had the conversation,

1079
00:46:42,239 --> 00:46:46,120
Speaker 4: she had all our feelings. She asked permission to see

1080
00:46:46,160 --> 00:46:48,520
Speaker 4: the phone to you know, like maybe I'm crazy? Can

1081
00:46:48,600 --> 00:46:51,600
Speaker 4: I see your phone? That's when he went all attack

1082
00:46:51,760 --> 00:46:54,160
Speaker 4: and all on the offense. That is the point when

1083
00:46:54,200 --> 00:46:57,200
Speaker 4: you're like, you know what, I made the biggest mistake

1084
00:46:57,239 --> 00:46:59,160
Speaker 4: of my life by doing this, and you know what,

1085
00:46:59,480 --> 00:47:03,040
Speaker 4: I don't deserve your forgiveness, but I can recognize now

1086
00:47:03,040 --> 00:47:04,719
Speaker 4: that this was wrong and you're calling me out, which

1087
00:47:04,760 --> 00:47:09,239
Speaker 4: is fair, and all I can do is work put

1088
00:47:09,239 --> 00:47:11,520
Speaker 4: my best foot forward to earn your trust back as

1089
00:47:11,560 --> 00:47:12,080
Speaker 4: your husband.

1090
00:47:12,120 --> 00:47:15,120
Speaker 3: That would be a very emotionally intelligent response, being able

1091
00:47:15,120 --> 00:47:17,239
Speaker 3: to be like, yeah, I got like crossed up and

1092
00:47:17,280 --> 00:47:19,960
Speaker 3: for some reason, the high school version of me still

1093
00:47:19,960 --> 00:47:22,480
Speaker 3: in my brain is like in love with Eve, and

1094
00:47:23,120 --> 00:47:25,400
Speaker 3: I kind of moved like it, like I was moving

1095
00:47:25,840 --> 00:47:28,560
Speaker 3: and shaken trying to get Eve to notice me. So

1096
00:47:28,600 --> 00:47:31,840
Speaker 3: that's weird, right, But that's never gonna happen from Steve.

1097
00:47:32,080 --> 00:47:35,759
Speaker 2: Steve's not gonna say that. Steve yearns for the mind. Well,

1098
00:47:36,200 --> 00:47:39,799
Speaker 2: I will say Steve might say that, but probably yeah,

1099
00:47:39,840 --> 00:47:42,080
Speaker 2: he's not gonna say that. But we have update number

1100
00:47:42,080 --> 00:47:42,640
Speaker 2: three John here.

1101
00:47:42,640 --> 00:47:44,360
Speaker 4: We're gonna get back to this juicy story, but a

1102
00:47:44,440 --> 00:47:45,319
Speaker 4: quick three minute break of.

1103
00:47:45,320 --> 00:47:49,239
Speaker 2: Ads from our sponsors. Let's go. So, to start off,

1104
00:47:49,280 --> 00:47:49,839
Speaker 2: I've talked with.

1105
00:47:49,800 --> 00:47:52,600
Speaker 4: My lawyer who is also my cousin, and she gave

1106
00:47:52,600 --> 00:47:54,759
Speaker 4: me advice from both a legal perspective and her own

1107
00:47:54,840 --> 00:47:57,279
Speaker 4: personal perspective. To sum it up, she said that I

1108
00:47:57,320 --> 00:47:59,319
Speaker 4: should let our issue settle down for a while before

1109
00:47:59,360 --> 00:48:02,600
Speaker 4: you even consider divorce, specifically until it is to the

1110
00:48:02,640 --> 00:48:05,800
Speaker 4: point of a separation with no progress, that I should

1111
00:48:06,120 --> 00:48:07,320
Speaker 4: keep my act in line.

1112
00:48:07,680 --> 00:48:10,200
Speaker 2: Hmm. She also gave me her recommendations of where to

1113
00:48:10,239 --> 00:48:11,799
Speaker 2: attend marriage counseling. Hm hmm.

1114
00:48:12,080 --> 00:48:14,040
Speaker 4: My sister says that I'm welcome to stay at her home,

1115
00:48:14,120 --> 00:48:16,320
Speaker 4: but in the meantime, I have put it on hold.

1116
00:48:16,640 --> 00:48:19,399
Speaker 4: I do realize that I was taking a bit too

1117
00:48:19,400 --> 00:48:23,759
Speaker 4: far with a jump to divorce, especially since I haven't

1118
00:48:23,800 --> 00:48:26,279
Speaker 4: spoken to Steve yet. I also took some time to

1119
00:48:26,320 --> 00:48:27,479
Speaker 4: calm down before I.

1120
00:48:27,400 --> 00:48:29,880
Speaker 2: Did this update. What I will say is okay.

1121
00:48:29,880 --> 00:48:32,160
Speaker 4: Opie did have the conversation where she laid out how

1122
00:48:32,200 --> 00:48:35,359
Speaker 4: she felt in terms of everything with Eve. However, I

1123
00:48:35,400 --> 00:48:37,960
Speaker 4: guess one thing she didn't say yet, which would be

1124
00:48:38,000 --> 00:48:41,520
Speaker 4: good to communicate in the open and honestyle she did before,

1125
00:48:41,640 --> 00:48:43,879
Speaker 4: was like, hey, look, we had this conversation. The way

1126
00:48:43,920 --> 00:48:47,400
Speaker 4: you reacted is like, that's not how I want my

1127
00:48:47,719 --> 00:48:51,000
Speaker 4: life partner to be. So either we can work on this,

1128
00:48:51,320 --> 00:48:54,160
Speaker 4: I mean, like you need to work or I don't

1129
00:48:54,239 --> 00:48:55,280
Speaker 4: think I can do this anymore.

1130
00:48:55,360 --> 00:48:57,680
Speaker 3: Yeah, I just don't. I don't know, I don't see it.

1131
00:48:58,040 --> 00:49:00,520
Speaker 3: I'm still divorce. I'm still on team divorce. It's like

1132
00:49:00,719 --> 00:49:02,480
Speaker 3: you sat down at that table and he tried to

1133
00:49:02,520 --> 00:49:04,319
Speaker 3: tell you you're not in charge of the friends that

1134
00:49:04,360 --> 00:49:06,719
Speaker 3: he makes while he's actively lying to her so that

1135
00:49:06,800 --> 00:49:09,439
Speaker 3: he can be alone with her, so he can try

1136
00:49:09,480 --> 00:49:12,160
Speaker 3: to get her interested in him, like he was trying

1137
00:49:12,480 --> 00:49:15,840
Speaker 3: that whole time to cheat on you, and like, yeah,

1138
00:49:15,920 --> 00:49:18,120
Speaker 3: I'm not ever. I'm like, okay, So who's the next

1139
00:49:18,120 --> 00:49:20,120
Speaker 3: person who walks back into your life that you're like,

1140
00:49:20,160 --> 00:49:22,440
Speaker 3: maybe I should Maybe it was her and not my

1141
00:49:22,520 --> 00:49:25,000
Speaker 3: wife that I should be with. When's it gonna happen again?

1142
00:49:25,080 --> 00:49:27,000
Speaker 2: I don't know. I don't really care why it happened.

1143
00:49:27,040 --> 00:49:28,879
Speaker 3: It's like I feel like this would almost be better

1144
00:49:28,880 --> 00:49:30,200
Speaker 3: if it happened and we weren't married.

1145
00:49:30,239 --> 00:49:32,000
Speaker 2: The fact that we're married for this long.

1146
00:49:32,160 --> 00:49:33,880
Speaker 3: It's like if we had been together for like a

1147
00:49:34,000 --> 00:49:36,799
Speaker 3: year and like this happens, it's like, maybe we get

1148
00:49:36,800 --> 00:49:38,760
Speaker 3: on the other side of it, but we are married,

1149
00:49:39,000 --> 00:49:41,080
Speaker 3: and you're fully doing this while we're married.

1150
00:49:41,360 --> 00:49:43,800
Speaker 2: Lost time, it's over, We're done.

1151
00:49:44,239 --> 00:49:47,960
Speaker 4: It's supposed to be Adam and Eve, not Steve. And

1152
00:49:48,440 --> 00:49:52,120
Speaker 4: that's true. That's keon, that's not what it was supposed

1153
00:49:52,160 --> 00:49:52,439
Speaker 4: to be.

1154
00:49:52,640 --> 00:49:53,359
Speaker 2: I'm burnt out.

1155
00:49:53,400 --> 00:49:56,279
Speaker 4: But yeah, oh he's a burnt boy. He's a crispy boy. Yeah,

1156
00:49:56,680 --> 00:50:00,279
Speaker 4: but guy, I'm here. Oh it's Eves's husband is Adam

1157
00:50:00,280 --> 00:50:02,200
Speaker 4: as the day get me. It's Adam and Eve, not

1158
00:50:03,040 --> 00:50:06,239
Speaker 4: Steve and Eat. And that is just the way the

1159
00:50:06,320 --> 00:50:11,080
Speaker 4: big guy intended it to be. Stevie, Stevie. Now on

1160
00:50:11,160 --> 00:50:13,400
Speaker 4: to what happened yesterday. When Steve came home, when he

1161
00:50:13,440 --> 00:50:15,400
Speaker 4: had just arrived in the house, I let him get

1162
00:50:15,440 --> 00:50:17,839
Speaker 4: settled down before I would discuss with him about Eve,

1163
00:50:18,120 --> 00:50:20,480
Speaker 4: him and us. Once he was on the couch in

1164
00:50:20,480 --> 00:50:22,200
Speaker 4: the living room, I sat down and asked if we

1165
00:50:22,239 --> 00:50:24,360
Speaker 4: could talk, and I got no reply back, so I

1166
00:50:24,440 --> 00:50:27,200
Speaker 4: went on without discussion. First off, I apologize for having

1167
00:50:27,239 --> 00:50:28,800
Speaker 4: lost my temper on him on Monday.

1168
00:50:29,000 --> 00:50:31,640
Speaker 2: I think you were expressing the very frustrating thing.

1169
00:50:31,840 --> 00:50:34,280
Speaker 3: To be honest, I think at this point, like your

1170
00:50:34,360 --> 00:50:37,799
Speaker 3: cousin lawyer's advice was to just move as demurely as

1171
00:50:37,840 --> 00:50:42,560
Speaker 3: possible so that you'll get favorable like decision in the divorce.

1172
00:50:42,800 --> 00:50:43,960
Speaker 3: I think that's what we're doing.

1173
00:50:44,000 --> 00:50:44,920
Speaker 2: But I want to move in.

1174
00:50:45,640 --> 00:50:51,600
Speaker 4: I'm done. That's how I'm moving. Even stevens ooh, Kimberly, fine, yeah,

1175
00:50:51,640 --> 00:50:54,640
Speaker 4: even Steve's in. Oh but he's not. But that's the

1176
00:50:54,640 --> 00:50:57,279
Speaker 4: most pathetic thing is he's not. He's not, and she's

1177
00:50:57,360 --> 00:51:01,800
Speaker 4: just like, ah, this guy's definitely. Oh No, why'd you

1178
00:51:01,840 --> 00:51:02,400
Speaker 4: hang out with him?

1179
00:51:02,400 --> 00:51:02,560
Speaker 2: Eve?

1180
00:51:02,800 --> 00:51:02,960
Speaker 5: Yeah?

1181
00:51:03,000 --> 00:51:06,239
Speaker 2: Why did we gross? Briddle me that? Maybe she felt bad?

1182
00:51:06,480 --> 00:51:09,560
Speaker 3: Like I guess here's hopefully it came from a sweety

1183
00:51:09,600 --> 00:51:10,719
Speaker 3: pie place of like.

1184
00:51:10,840 --> 00:51:13,600
Speaker 2: Maybe he's changed, maybe he deserves the friend.

1185
00:51:15,400 --> 00:51:16,920
Speaker 4: I then brought up the fact that I had spoken

1186
00:51:17,000 --> 00:51:19,680
Speaker 4: with Eve, of which he had asked me. That definitely

1187
00:51:19,680 --> 00:51:21,840
Speaker 4: got his attention, and he asked me to repeat what

1188
00:51:21,880 --> 00:51:24,120
Speaker 4: I just said. Did you just say, Matt? And then

1189
00:51:24,120 --> 00:51:26,480
Speaker 4: he asked me, why the F would you do that? Yeah,

1190
00:51:26,520 --> 00:51:28,880
Speaker 4: it's twovource o'clock, dude. I told him that sense he

1191
00:51:28,880 --> 00:51:30,799
Speaker 4: would not tell me what was going on. I had

1192
00:51:30,800 --> 00:51:33,279
Speaker 4: went to Eve myself to get to know her and

1193
00:51:33,360 --> 00:51:33,920
Speaker 4: talk about it.

1194
00:51:34,000 --> 00:51:35,320
Speaker 2: You told me I wouldn't have done.

1195
00:51:35,480 --> 00:51:37,560
Speaker 4: I then told him that I needed to discuss about

1196
00:51:37,560 --> 00:51:40,040
Speaker 4: what Eve told me. That proceeded to tell Steve about

1197
00:51:40,080 --> 00:51:43,000
Speaker 4: the whole high school infatuation and how we both suspect

1198
00:51:43,000 --> 00:51:44,920
Speaker 4: that he still might be hung up on her. I

1199
00:51:44,960 --> 00:51:48,359
Speaker 4: asked him, if what she said was true, what does

1200
00:51:48,400 --> 00:51:49,560
Speaker 4: he say in response to code?

1201
00:51:49,960 --> 00:51:50,120
Speaker 2: Uh?

1202
00:51:50,960 --> 00:51:54,399
Speaker 3: I would assume he runs out of wherever you're at

1203
00:51:54,520 --> 00:51:59,839
Speaker 3: with like with a cartoon puff of smoke like behind him. Yeah,

1204
00:52:00,239 --> 00:52:03,920
Speaker 3: he like spins up his legs and whew, like runs out.

1205
00:52:04,160 --> 00:52:06,480
Speaker 4: Well. Steve then cleared up to me that it's not

1206
00:52:06,520 --> 00:52:09,480
Speaker 4: an infatuation, but that he's actually in love with Eve.

1207
00:52:09,680 --> 00:52:12,200
Speaker 3: Oh so it's worse. So it's actually the worst thing.

1208
00:52:12,239 --> 00:52:15,160
Speaker 3: It could be great, I'll see you never bye. At

1209
00:52:15,239 --> 00:52:17,120
Speaker 3: least he's finally freaking on.

1210
00:52:17,680 --> 00:52:19,680
Speaker 4: So next I asked him how he felt about me,

1211
00:52:20,000 --> 00:52:22,239
Speaker 4: and he said that he does indeed love me, but

1212
00:52:22,280 --> 00:52:25,320
Speaker 4: it's different with what he has with the eyes.

1213
00:52:25,640 --> 00:52:27,440
Speaker 2: It's different perceptions.

1214
00:52:27,640 --> 00:52:30,000
Speaker 4: I brought up the fact that she was already engaged,

1215
00:52:30,080 --> 00:52:32,080
Speaker 4: and he got a bit angry and told me that

1216
00:52:32,719 --> 00:52:35,960
Speaker 4: you already know that he already knows, but that doesn't

1217
00:52:35,960 --> 00:52:37,840
Speaker 4: mean he can just get over Eve.

1218
00:52:38,520 --> 00:52:41,319
Speaker 3: Wow, I'd be walking out at this point if I'm op.

1219
00:52:41,480 --> 00:52:43,480
Speaker 3: I'm like, he already told me everything I need to say.

1220
00:52:43,480 --> 00:52:45,600
Speaker 3: I'm gonna get a lawyer. You'll be hearing from them.

1221
00:52:46,000 --> 00:52:49,200
Speaker 4: Well, hope he doesn't, Stee instead says. I then asked

1222
00:52:49,239 --> 00:52:51,719
Speaker 4: him if they have ever done anything together, which I

1223
00:52:51,840 --> 00:52:54,600
Speaker 4: pleaded to him to be absolutely honest with me, and

1224
00:52:54,640 --> 00:52:57,720
Speaker 4: he said that no, they haven't done anything because Eve

1225
00:52:57,960 --> 00:52:58,759
Speaker 4: isn't like that.

1226
00:52:59,000 --> 00:53:00,279
Speaker 2: Because Eve doesn't.

1227
00:53:00,160 --> 00:53:06,439
Speaker 4: Like you, then why did you even try? Even I'm

1228
00:53:06,440 --> 00:53:10,160
Speaker 4: gonna be honest to Coda, it makes it freaking infuriates me.

1229
00:53:10,600 --> 00:53:13,879
Speaker 4: But on a very real note. Final closing thoughts, as

1230
00:53:13,880 --> 00:53:16,840
Speaker 4: we reached the conclusion of this story.

1231
00:53:16,600 --> 00:53:22,600
Speaker 3: Yeah to the lawyer, up, it's divorce a clock, and Yeah,

1232
00:53:22,920 --> 00:53:26,160
Speaker 3: I wouldn't listen. I would hear the I'm in love

1233
00:53:26,200 --> 00:53:29,680
Speaker 3: with her, and I'd go, okay, bye, I'm out.

1234
00:53:29,560 --> 00:53:30,000
Speaker 2: I leave.

1235
00:53:30,200 --> 00:53:32,480
Speaker 4: I'll be honest, I would do. I know this is

1236
00:53:32,560 --> 00:53:35,640
Speaker 4: the why I ask this. You're only going to get

1237
00:53:35,640 --> 00:53:38,960
Speaker 4: more infuriating and answers. But I would just be dying

1238
00:53:39,000 --> 00:53:43,040
Speaker 4: of curiosity of like if you he literally said, Eve

1239
00:53:43,120 --> 00:53:46,040
Speaker 4: isn't like that. If you know she's not like that,

1240
00:53:46,280 --> 00:53:51,120
Speaker 4: then why do you even try? Because he's in love John,

1241
00:53:51,360 --> 00:53:55,600
Speaker 4: because he's in love with Eve. He never reciprocated his

1242
00:53:55,640 --> 00:53:56,400
Speaker 4: feelings ever.

1243
00:53:56,480 --> 00:53:59,480
Speaker 2: You're right, you, You're right, my friend. No one knows

1244
00:53:59,480 --> 00:54:04,200
Speaker 2: what true love is except Steve. Steve is the authority

1245
00:54:04,200 --> 00:54:04,560
Speaker 2: on Look.

1246
00:54:04,719 --> 00:54:07,840
Speaker 4: He's going to start a new podcast, write a book,

1247
00:54:08,000 --> 00:54:11,879
Speaker 4: and he's going to say Steve's way, the highway to love,

1248
00:54:13,040 --> 00:54:13,960
Speaker 4: Highway to Steve.

1249
00:54:14,440 --> 00:54:17,560
Speaker 2: Yeah, I like that, Steve Way to Eve.

1250
00:54:17,920 --> 00:54:21,760
Speaker 4: Thank you chrispy keon for our He was so hot

1251
00:54:21,960 --> 00:54:23,720
Speaker 4: that the camera just burst into flame.

1252
00:54:24,080 --> 00:54:27,359
Speaker 2: Ladies, I'm in your head? Ye oh, where is he?

1253
00:54:28,400 --> 00:54:31,600
Speaker 2: I'm all around well op, he says.

1254
00:54:31,840 --> 00:54:33,880
Speaker 4: I was about to ask if he would really have

1255
00:54:33,920 --> 00:54:35,840
Speaker 4: an affair with her if she welcomed it, but I

1256
00:54:35,960 --> 00:54:38,640
Speaker 4: really don't want to hear his answers, Yes, I didn't.

1257
00:54:39,000 --> 00:54:43,200
Speaker 3: It's a yeah, yeah answer, yeah answered.

1258
00:54:43,960 --> 00:54:45,719
Speaker 4: I brought up the fact that he lied to the

1259
00:54:45,719 --> 00:54:47,839
Speaker 4: both of us and asked why he did it, and

1260
00:54:47,880 --> 00:54:49,399
Speaker 4: he said he guessed that he just.

1261
00:54:49,440 --> 00:54:50,759
Speaker 2: Didn't want me to be there.

1262
00:54:51,160 --> 00:54:53,920
Speaker 4: He apologized to me, but I didn't really know how

1263
00:54:53,960 --> 00:54:55,719
Speaker 4: to take it, and still don't.

1264
00:54:55,680 --> 00:54:58,359
Speaker 2: He what an idiot? You're like, why didn't you want

1265
00:54:58,360 --> 00:55:00,040
Speaker 2: me there? He's like, I don't know. I guess it

1266
00:55:00,080 --> 00:55:02,080
Speaker 2: would just be hard to have my wife and my

1267
00:55:02,160 --> 00:55:05,839
Speaker 2: girlfriend in the same place. How can I pretend she's

1268
00:55:05,880 --> 00:55:09,239
Speaker 2: my girlfriend when my wife is there? Can you riddle

1269
00:55:09,280 --> 00:55:09,520
Speaker 2: me that?

1270
00:55:09,680 --> 00:55:11,719
Speaker 3: I've also been lying to hear this whole time about you,

1271
00:55:11,800 --> 00:55:13,640
Speaker 3: so you kind of can't oo.

1272
00:55:14,400 --> 00:55:17,359
Speaker 4: Sorry, that's follow you? And also, why didn't he tell

1273
00:55:17,400 --> 00:55:19,840
Speaker 4: me earlier? He told me that I might as well

1274
00:55:20,120 --> 00:55:22,160
Speaker 4: know now since the cast out of the bag. I

1275
00:55:22,200 --> 00:55:24,600
Speaker 4: proposed that we go to marriage counseling so we could

1276
00:55:24,640 --> 00:55:27,800
Speaker 4: possibly fix this. I do love Steve and it absolutely

1277
00:55:27,880 --> 00:55:29,520
Speaker 4: hurts right now. But I told him that we can

1278
00:55:29,600 --> 00:55:32,400
Speaker 4: salvage what we still have together and he could possibly

1279
00:55:32,440 --> 00:55:34,719
Speaker 4: get over Eve. He said he wasn't going to get

1280
00:55:34,760 --> 00:55:38,480
Speaker 4: over Eve, no matter how hard I try. Okay, no

1281
00:55:38,520 --> 00:55:40,799
Speaker 4: matter how hard you try, I will never get over Eve.

1282
00:55:40,880 --> 00:55:42,920
Speaker 2: This is crazy. I asked if he still wanted to

1283
00:55:42,960 --> 00:55:45,480
Speaker 2: be married to me, and he said, of course.

1284
00:55:46,000 --> 00:55:49,080
Speaker 3: Ah, We've got a real idiot on our hands. Wow.

1285
00:55:49,480 --> 00:55:51,640
Speaker 4: I told him I would leave him to the rest

1286
00:55:51,680 --> 00:55:53,319
Speaker 4: of the week to think it over if he wants

1287
00:55:53,320 --> 00:55:55,319
Speaker 4: to go to marriage counseling or not, and he said

1288
00:55:55,400 --> 00:55:57,719
Speaker 4: he would think it over. We are now speaking to

1289
00:55:57,760 --> 00:56:01,040
Speaker 4: each other again, but are not intimate. Understand I won't

1290
00:56:01,040 --> 00:56:03,480
Speaker 4: hound it for an answer. Instead, I'll let him simmer

1291
00:56:03,480 --> 00:56:04,279
Speaker 4: on this until the end.

1292
00:56:04,239 --> 00:56:04,560
Speaker 2: Of the week.

1293
00:56:04,640 --> 00:56:04,879
Speaker 3: Eew.

1294
00:56:05,560 --> 00:56:06,320
Speaker 2: I'm disgusted.

1295
00:56:06,520 --> 00:56:09,239
Speaker 4: If he refuses to attend counseling, then I suppose he

1296
00:56:09,320 --> 00:56:12,200
Speaker 4: just doesn't want to work on our marriage anymore. And

1297
00:56:12,239 --> 00:56:14,960
Speaker 4: I think that that would be an accurate statement. And

1298
00:56:15,000 --> 00:56:17,840
Speaker 4: then I'll fall and with another acumen accurate statement that

1299
00:56:18,080 --> 00:56:21,680
Speaker 4: you've asked him who he was and he told you.

1300
00:56:22,040 --> 00:56:25,640
Speaker 4: He told it, plain as day to your face. Told

1301
00:56:25,680 --> 00:56:29,840
Speaker 4: you and Dakota, when when people tell us the truth

1302
00:56:29,880 --> 00:56:33,040
Speaker 4: about who they are? What is that thing that we do?

1303
00:56:33,080 --> 00:56:35,000
Speaker 2: Wait? What are you pointing to? You want to use

1304
00:56:35,040 --> 00:56:38,280
Speaker 2: your ears, these things on the side of your head. Oh,

1305
00:56:38,719 --> 00:56:41,760
Speaker 2: use your ears, and you listen, you listen.

1306
00:56:42,120 --> 00:56:44,439
Speaker 3: You know there's no way back for this, and you'll

1307
00:56:44,480 --> 00:56:46,680
Speaker 3: be better off without Steve.

1308
00:56:47,320 --> 00:56:47,800
Speaker 2: You will.

1309
00:56:48,160 --> 00:56:51,360
Speaker 3: It doesn't feel like that right now, but you will,

1310
00:56:51,840 --> 00:56:53,960
Speaker 3: because this is never going to go away. This is

1311
00:56:54,000 --> 00:56:55,960
Speaker 3: just going to be a thing in the background unless

1312
00:56:55,960 --> 00:56:59,040
Speaker 3: you guys do go to counseling and therapy and work

1313
00:56:59,120 --> 00:57:01,799
Speaker 3: this out and bear it together. But like it's still

1314
00:57:01,800 --> 00:57:04,160
Speaker 3: gonna be in the ground, like it's never gonna have

1315
00:57:04,280 --> 00:57:07,359
Speaker 3: not happened, and like I don't feel like I don't

1316
00:57:07,360 --> 00:57:08,479
Speaker 3: feel like we should keep going.

1317
00:57:08,719 --> 00:57:10,600
Speaker 4: Of course I want to stay married to you, but

1318
00:57:11,080 --> 00:57:12,839
Speaker 4: I will never get over my love.

1319
00:57:12,960 --> 00:57:17,400
Speaker 2: Peep. It's nonsense. Make it work. I know it's insane.

1320
00:57:17,600 --> 00:57:21,400
Speaker 3: She doesn't want you, bro put the fries in the bag.

1321
00:57:22,080 --> 00:57:23,400
Speaker 2: She doesn't want you.

1322
00:57:23,920 --> 00:57:27,960
Speaker 4: Oh okay, agreed, And you know what, While we didn't

1323
00:57:27,960 --> 00:57:31,360
Speaker 4: get right to that point. I have faith that I

1324
00:57:31,360 --> 00:57:34,160
Speaker 4: think Opie's just has a good heart and wants to

1325
00:57:34,160 --> 00:57:35,240
Speaker 4: put in her part.

1326
00:57:35,440 --> 00:57:37,400
Speaker 2: Yes, you know she, by the way, just a cookie

1327
00:57:37,400 --> 00:57:37,760
Speaker 2: call out.

1328
00:57:38,080 --> 00:57:42,160
Speaker 4: She was super upfront in a pretty timely fat fashion,

1329
00:57:42,360 --> 00:57:44,440
Speaker 4: laid out all of her feelings, didn't leave anything unsaid.

1330
00:57:44,640 --> 00:57:46,080
Speaker 2: You know, ask permission to see the.

1331
00:57:46,000 --> 00:57:49,680
Speaker 4: Phone is giving him a million chances, Like Opie is

1332
00:57:49,720 --> 00:57:52,720
Speaker 4: both being very kind and I think standing up for

1333
00:57:52,760 --> 00:57:53,560
Speaker 4: herself in many ways.

1334
00:57:53,640 --> 00:57:55,200
Speaker 2: Yes, yes, holding it in.

1335
00:57:55,320 --> 00:57:58,720
Speaker 3: I agree, and he's yeah, it's like the uh, the

1336
00:57:58,760 --> 00:58:01,760
Speaker 3: combo of like, I know that this is wrong, but

1337
00:58:02,240 --> 00:58:04,800
Speaker 3: I'm willing to work on it because we're married and

1338
00:58:04,840 --> 00:58:06,000
Speaker 3: I want to give it a shit.

1339
00:58:06,080 --> 00:58:07,360
Speaker 2: I want to see if we can fix it.

1340
00:58:07,400 --> 00:58:10,440
Speaker 3: At least there was a better partner than I in

1341
00:58:10,440 --> 00:58:11,280
Speaker 3: this situation.

1342
00:58:11,400 --> 00:58:12,600
Speaker 2: But yes, and if.

1343
00:58:12,480 --> 00:58:16,480
Speaker 4: She wanted to leave immediately, guess what, Yeah, you're thousand

1344
00:58:16,520 --> 00:58:17,800
Speaker 4: percent within your right to do that as well.

1345
00:58:17,880 --> 00:58:21,720
Speaker 2: Totally in the correct column, the correct column. But you

1346
00:58:21,760 --> 00:58:24,360
Speaker 2: know it is a correct statement and not a false statement.

1347
00:58:24,400 --> 00:58:24,800
Speaker 2: I hope.

1348
00:58:25,320 --> 00:58:29,000
Speaker 4: I think that that is the end, that it's over,

1349
00:58:29,200 --> 00:58:31,160
Speaker 4: That is the end of that story, the end of

1350
00:58:31,160 --> 00:58:34,440
Speaker 4: that that's right, and the end of this stream. So

1351
00:58:34,960 --> 00:58:37,360
Speaker 4: ladies and gentlemen. End of the story, end of the episode,

1352
00:58:37,400 --> 00:58:39,560
Speaker 4: and end of the stream. But if you love us,

1353
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Speaker 4: make sure to subscribe. We love you, and this se