WEBVTT - Peri Who? feat. Dr. Kelly Elmore

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<v Speaker 1>Hey, everybody, it's doctor Kelly om Z and I'm on

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<v Speaker 1>We Talked Back Podcast. I can't wait for you to

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<v Speaker 1>hear us talk about perimenopause and menopause. We're gonna give

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<v Speaker 1>you some real information so that you can keep it wet,

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<v Speaker 1>clean and fantastic through your forties and fifties.

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<v Speaker 2>Welcome to We talk Back Podcast, the production of iHeartRadio

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<v Speaker 2>and the Black Effect Network Talk Talk.

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<v Speaker 1>We're just two unapologetically black women with an opinion. Who

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<v Speaker 1>talks back. What's up, y'all? It's your girl, a j Holiday,

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<v Speaker 1>what's up? Tam Bam? Hey y'all, it's Beet Tam Vam.

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<v Speaker 1>I love y'all so so very much, and I'm glad

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<v Speaker 1>y'all came back. I'm miss Jake. How was your weekend?

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<v Speaker 2>How your weekend? Probably be in their car. They probably

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<v Speaker 2>be in their car like AJ Gonna says, Tamgo sad age,

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<v Speaker 2>and then tam Go say, how is your weekend? They

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<v Speaker 2>saying it with you like and then.

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<v Speaker 1>A Gonna say, i'd eventful, I ain't do mind that thing.

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<v Speaker 1>I went to cost Co.

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<v Speaker 2>I definitely went to Costco. Definitely went to TJ Max

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<v Speaker 2>and my super bright light skinned homegirl who's been in

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<v Speaker 2>town since. I was like, I don't know, twelve came

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<v Speaker 2>by this weekend, so I ain't too much, just chilling

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<v Speaker 2>and being grateful. I did go see my mom. I

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<v Speaker 2>hung out with her a little bit on Sunday. I

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<v Speaker 2>know she loves it when I come sit over there

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<v Speaker 2>line your whole day be gone. But I don't know this.

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<v Speaker 2>I worked out a little bit and that's about it.

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<v Speaker 2>I ain't too much this weekend for real. I really

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<v Speaker 2>just relaxed and chilled.

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<v Speaker 1>I was just working. It's that time of year where

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<v Speaker 1>I'm busy, you know, Thank you Jesus. So I've just

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<v Speaker 1>been working. I had nothing eventful happened. Oh no, I lie.

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<v Speaker 1>I went to you always.

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<v Speaker 2>It's like.

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<v Speaker 1>I went to a my teeth lived white as hell.

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<v Speaker 1>I think it's that.

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<v Speaker 2>I was just about to say that bitch, like, what

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<v Speaker 2>the fuck, nop, he's super white.

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<v Speaker 1>It's the I think it's the light. I don't know,

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<v Speaker 1>but anyway, I went to this new spot in Charlotte

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<v Speaker 1>called Astra Mediterranean something lounge, and it was like one

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<v Speaker 1>of those it was like a halal place, but it

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<v Speaker 1>had the hookah and it's loud. It was good. You know.

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<v Speaker 1>They didn't have an alcohol, but I don't want none

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<v Speaker 1>of that anyway. And I had some food and it

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<v Speaker 1>was nice. And then I went to Crave and Dessert

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<v Speaker 1>Bar and I got a That's one of my favorite

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<v Speaker 1>spots in Charlotte. I still love Crave. Yes, just consistent, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>consistent quality. And I had like a little hookah little

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<v Speaker 1>cocktail and uh, carrot cake cupcake. Yes, and that was it.

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<v Speaker 2>That was We don't eat the bread pudding from there.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not a bread pudding girly girl. Yeah, I've never

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<v Speaker 2>had bread putting out that I think about it.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh, you tripping when I tell you.

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<v Speaker 2>Me and Basilicia just go there for the bread pudding

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<v Speaker 2>because they give you you know, it's like a little

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<v Speaker 2>little saucer and a rampkin. That's what they call it,

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<v Speaker 2>a little ramkin. And they have like the ramikan and

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<v Speaker 2>they have the like the frosty sauce, you know, the

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<v Speaker 2>white shit. What is it called iced? I used to

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<v Speaker 2>have like icing, yeah, like a little thing on the side. Oh,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not a super duper uh what is this ship?

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<v Speaker 2>Bread pudding girly, But I did grow up off a

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<v Speaker 2>bread pudding. And they have a very very very very

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<v Speaker 2>good bread pudding. If they still have it on the menu,

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<v Speaker 2>you should try it next time.

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<v Speaker 1>I'll try it. I've never had bread pudding. Always associated

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<v Speaker 1>bread pudding and fruitcake. It's the same thing, like forge.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, it's just theirs is really good.

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<v Speaker 1>Like so old hot food.

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<v Speaker 2>It is old people food, because old people when like

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<v Speaker 2>the bread is about to get old, they just turn

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<v Speaker 2>that shit into bread, right. Our French toast, French TOAs

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<v Speaker 2>have a little mold on it, old ass bread.

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<v Speaker 1>So, yeah, that was it sounds fun.

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<v Speaker 2>Let's get in the sin, y'all. So Paul Pears says

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<v Speaker 2>the only way to really know if a girl loves

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<v Speaker 2>you is a cheat on her and see how she reacts.

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<v Speaker 2>So is this his podcast? I don't know. I don't

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<v Speaker 2>think so. I mean, Paul Parris is one of the

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<v Speaker 2>biggest basketball players all time, right, and he's on this

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<v Speaker 2>Truth after Dark podcast, and he sparked a lot of

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<v Speaker 2>backlash by claiming that the only authentic way to determine

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<v Speaker 2>if a woman truly loves you is the cheat on

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<v Speaker 2>her and observe her reaction. He suggested that loyalty in

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<v Speaker 2>the aftermath of infidelity proves devotion that is disgusting. And

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<v Speaker 2>I think a lot of us, a lot of women,

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<v Speaker 2>and I have really been thinking, like, you know, if

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<v Speaker 2>you you go through some shit in and stay stated

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<v Speaker 2>down ass woman like, he's gonna choose you type mentality.

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<v Speaker 2>Absolutely not. I ain't never been a dumb bitch in

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<v Speaker 2>that way. I definitely have dealt with infidelity and relationships

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<v Speaker 2>only really because it's just human nature. Like, but I

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<v Speaker 2>don't recognize now I don't have to.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, does sound crazy, Like what in the hell?

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<v Speaker 2>Don't test me because you're gonna fail every fucking time married.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know. It's p paris married.

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<v Speaker 1>He can't be married.

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<v Speaker 2>The type of shit he be talking in there, talking

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<v Speaker 2>about it, get it, get a live or seven if

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<v Speaker 2>you are okay. The worst part is these are old

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<v Speaker 2>farts talking like this. These are old ass fucking men

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<v Speaker 2>like you know. And then he said the best way

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<v Speaker 2>to see if a girl loves you. That's the problem

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<v Speaker 2>right there, y'all fucking with girls.

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<v Speaker 1>Girls are not grown.

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<v Speaker 2>By a woman. Okay, because women be making niggas cry. Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>because I'm gonna make you cry.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna break Christmas thing. I'm getting the fun up

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<v Speaker 1>out of there.

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<v Speaker 2>It's so toxic, really is So basically you want to

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<v Speaker 2>hurt the person you say you love because that's what

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<v Speaker 2>you're doing, right to see if they love you.

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<v Speaker 1>That's weird. Yeah, you don't love her, You don't love her. Advice,

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<v Speaker 1>don't listen to that nigga. You go find yourself alone.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, and also you're not a millionaire, okay, so don't look.

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<v Speaker 2>Don't listen to a ball and ass baller.

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<v Speaker 1>Right.

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<v Speaker 2>The type of should he be doing, y'all, not the

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<v Speaker 2>same what you're going to.

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<v Speaker 1>Lose because she loved him. She might stay because it's

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<v Speaker 1>comfortable exactly like.

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<v Speaker 2>Her her uh, her lifestyle is just completely different. Right,

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<v Speaker 2>So you're trying to compare ourselves to Beyonce and jay

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<v Speaker 2>Z relationship when we use the relationships with y'all and niggas, right,

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<v Speaker 2>So don't be this is But the thing is is

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<v Speaker 2>that he doesn't say anything that I don't think that

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<v Speaker 2>men already think. Right, he's just saying the things out

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<v Speaker 2>loud because I really I remember when I broke up

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<v Speaker 2>with my ex most recently, like leading up to it,

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<v Speaker 2>he was like, we ain't supposed to break up, Like

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<v Speaker 2>he mentioned his other friends right, and how they went

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<v Speaker 2>through all these things and she stayed like I've already

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<v Speaker 2>went through things and stayed I don't feel like going

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<v Speaker 2>through anything else. Nigga, you putting me out? Are you dumb?

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<v Speaker 2>She's dumb.

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<v Speaker 1>You've reached the quota, nigga, like you way past the.

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<v Speaker 2>Threshold of bullshit. And my tolerance for bullshit is so

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<v Speaker 2>fucking high because I just understand human nature, you know

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<v Speaker 2>what I'm saying. And I'm not a fucking loser. So

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<v Speaker 2>even in relationships, I'm gonna try my fucking best. But

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<v Speaker 2>at what point do you think you can can discontinuously

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<v Speaker 2>be disloyal and a relationship and the woman is supposed

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<v Speaker 2>to keep you and stay like bitch, just get tired

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<v Speaker 2>right here. And the thing is that I don't never

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<v Speaker 2>think I can't do better. I can do comparable to

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<v Speaker 2>you or greater every.

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<v Speaker 1>Time, every single time.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, So I think women just gotta up they self esteem. Man,

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<v Speaker 2>Get the fuck up out of there. Whether he got

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<v Speaker 2>money or not, get your own bag.

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<v Speaker 1>All right, that part, all right? Listen to this, Listen

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<v Speaker 1>to this. A wanted man in Ohio sent the police

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<v Speaker 1>a selfie after seeing his photo on the news. Because

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<v Speaker 1>he didn't like how I look and it wasn't the

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<v Speaker 1>most flattering picture of hearing y'all. So a man in

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<v Speaker 1>Ohio made headlines after sending police a selfie because he

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<v Speaker 1>didn't like the muck shots shown on the news. Identified

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<v Speaker 1>as Donald Pugh, he was wanted for skipping a court

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<v Speaker 1>appearance and linked to other cases like arson and vandalism.

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<v Speaker 1>He even emailed the police saying his muck shot was

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<v Speaker 1>terrible and offered a better photo of himself wearing sunglasses

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<v Speaker 1>in the car. Police think for being helpful, but reminded

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<v Speaker 1>him to rather see him in person to discuss his charges.

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<v Speaker 1>History quickly with viral proven that crime and vanity don't

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<v Speaker 1>mix well.

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<v Speaker 2>But as he in jail, though, the nigga saw himself

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<v Speaker 2>in the news. All y'all got me fucked up here, And.

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<v Speaker 1>The photo, y'all, the photo that he seeing is much better.

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<v Speaker 1>It's a better undil hate nas police. They know they

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<v Speaker 1>could have picked a better picture than that, right, They

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<v Speaker 1>trying to make me look like a hardened criminal, right.

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<v Speaker 2>He probably he definitely probably wanted for some scamming shit, okay.

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<v Speaker 1>To be like mentally ill to do this right or

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<v Speaker 1>not give a fuck.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, he's just having fun, Like I'm gonna go

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<v Speaker 2>to jail anyway, man, Let me just might as well.

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<v Speaker 1>Look joy my time.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm a what two chain song fresh his head when

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<v Speaker 2>the fans comes, head, when the fans come, That's what

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<v Speaker 2>he was doing.

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<v Speaker 1>This nigga. I know he from young Town, Ohio. He's

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<v Speaker 1>got to be.

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<v Speaker 2>I thought he was from Harlem.

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<v Speaker 1>No oh hi, oh yeah. They're flashing people too and her.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, don't take no fuck up picture of me, y'all.

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<v Speaker 2>So remember last week we were talking about and I

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<v Speaker 2>know you've probably seen it now, this black woman I

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<v Speaker 2>think they were in.

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<v Speaker 1>Was it Ohio? California? Might have been California. That's happened

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<v Speaker 1>at a Golden gym, Tish Hyman.

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<v Speaker 2>She accused this man of exposing himself essentially in the

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<v Speaker 2>woman's locker room, and he says he's a transgender woman

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<v Speaker 2>and he belongs in a women's locker room. The gem

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<v Speaker 2>ultimately kicked her out, the woman Tish Hyman, and basically

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<v Speaker 2>canceled her membership after she, you know, was yelling in

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<v Speaker 2>the middle of the of the goals gym, like what

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<v Speaker 2>the fuck is wroman?

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<v Speaker 1>Y'all?

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<v Speaker 2>It's a grown man in the bathroom. But this week, y'all,

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<v Speaker 2>apparently this same man transgender person accused of exposing himself

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<v Speaker 2>in women's locker room was convicted of brutally beating his

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<v Speaker 2>ex wife.

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<v Speaker 1>Before take get her Name?

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, so Tiss was not wrong for calling his ass out.

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<v Speaker 2>And first of all, when are you going to transition?

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<v Speaker 2>When are you gonna actually transition? When are you gonna

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<v Speaker 2>cut that dick off? Okay?

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<v Speaker 1>Because if you still got it, you got a transition,

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<v Speaker 1>because can you can you be called trans if you

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<v Speaker 1>still have your uh birth parts?

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<v Speaker 2>That's what I'm saying. Like to me, I thought that

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<v Speaker 2>trans meaning the woman or the man has transitioned, transitioned

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<v Speaker 2>into the other sex by way of the sex change.

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<v Speaker 2>If there hasn't been a sex change, and there hasn't

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<v Speaker 2>been a legal name change, and this person just can

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<v Speaker 2>pull up and female women's spaces, that's a problem because

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<v Speaker 2>I don't think any trans man is pulling up in

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<v Speaker 2>the men's restroom, right, So this is just men trying

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<v Speaker 2>to DeBow women's spaces. And again from last week, a Tiss,

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<v Speaker 2>she's a she's a lesbian woman, right, So the transider person, yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>it happened in Los Angeles bathroom. Now being convicted of

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<v Speaker 2>so his now ex wife while living in Ohio as

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<v Speaker 2>a man before taking the victim's name as their own.

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<v Speaker 1>Alex Black ran a file of.

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<v Speaker 2>Women, ran a foul ran a file of women at

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<v Speaker 2>a gym in Beverly Hills, including singer songwriter Tis Hymen,

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<v Speaker 2>who accused them of exposing himself and harassing her in

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<v Speaker 2>the locker room. You could just see him pulling up

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<v Speaker 2>in there like he's supposed to be in there.

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<v Speaker 1>See, this is why I don't like that. And from

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<v Speaker 1>the pictures he didn't. And this is where I feel

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<v Speaker 1>like it's a slippery soap, because slope because he didn't

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<v Speaker 1>look like he was trying to identify as a woman

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<v Speaker 1>for real to me, because he didn't. He looked like

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<v Speaker 1>a man with earrings. Song. That was it. But then

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<v Speaker 1>I know women who look like men with earrings? Song?

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<v Speaker 1>So how do you no? I trying to be funny.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean it like that, you know, Like, so how

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<v Speaker 1>do you say, like, this person isn't trends or how

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<v Speaker 1>you say this person isn't like how do you determine that?

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<v Speaker 1>I don't even know.

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<v Speaker 2>You determine it? By your genetic makeup. You were born

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<v Speaker 2>a man, I was born a woman, okay, just because

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<v Speaker 2>you have slick back here with errings on and a

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<v Speaker 2>woman can also appear like that. Being a woman is

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<v Speaker 2>not about esthetic it's science. It is genetics.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay.

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<v Speaker 2>That's why even you know, at the doctor's office, they

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<v Speaker 2>still have like on a on your paperwork. You know,

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<v Speaker 2>they ask you. They want to be inclusive, right, so

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<v Speaker 2>they have all the things that in man where you,

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<v Speaker 2>but they ultimately ask were you born male or female?

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<v Speaker 2>That's we're not talking about what somebody look like. Yes,

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<v Speaker 2>there are definitely women that look like men, but genetically

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<v Speaker 2>there's still a woman and they belong in female spaces, right.

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<v Speaker 2>Women are not out here trying to vie. I feel

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<v Speaker 2>like that man just wants to see women naked and

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<v Speaker 2>he's doing it under the guise of being transgendered.

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<v Speaker 1>Especially with the history of domestic violence against women and

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<v Speaker 1>the instilling identity mm hmmm. A lot of a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of those people, they're.

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<v Speaker 2>Like mean, they are mean, and you know, like that

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<v Speaker 2>is a telltale sign that your man might be okay

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<v Speaker 2>on the down low. If he's mean to you, if

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<v Speaker 2>he's putting his hands on you. If he's being belligerent

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<v Speaker 2>and abusive towards you, they don't like you. They don't

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<v Speaker 2>like you, and oftentimes they might be battling their sexuality

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<v Speaker 2>and taking it out on you. How dare you get

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<v Speaker 2>to be a real woman? And you know, and they

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<v Speaker 2>are the main ones that are so upset and at

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<v Speaker 2>arms about men who can live freely, gay men, transgendered,

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<v Speaker 2>transen transgendered women who are out right don't give a

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<v Speaker 2>fuck with no nobody thinks about it. It's the d

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<v Speaker 2>L men that are dangerous. Those are the dangerous ones. Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>angry hold, let me add this on it, y'all. I'm sorry.

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<v Speaker 2>I've seen this postal Instagram. This girl she was like, uh,

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<v Speaker 2>somebody said that if your man farn a lot, he

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<v Speaker 2>might be del and I had to think. I had

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<v Speaker 2>to think back, Okay, big girl, bye, No, because the

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<v Speaker 2>bitches in the comments, listen, what's up with your what's

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<v Speaker 2>up with your gut?

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<v Speaker 1>My guy?

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<v Speaker 2>What is up with your uh your uh gastro system? Like,

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<v Speaker 2>what's going on? Why is your booty clapping so fucking much?

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<v Speaker 2>I'm girl all on One bitch commented and said she

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<v Speaker 2>was arguing with her ex husband and he had farnted

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<v Speaker 2>and she said, why the fuck your fart smell like lube?

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<v Speaker 2>I commented, that's mad. Damn, I'm so mad that I'll

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<v Speaker 2>fuck with niggas that I gotta violate like this anymore,

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<v Speaker 2>because I would definitely have that in the arsenal. Your

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<v Speaker 2>hearts smell like.

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<v Speaker 1>Lube, that is ridiculous, That is asinine, I bet, while

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<v Speaker 1>your fart smell like loube is crazy. Y'all. We have

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<v Speaker 1>a guest on today, doctor Kelly. She is talking Perry

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<v Speaker 1>menopause and menopause with us. We'll be right back.

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<v Speaker 2>You are crazy, all right, y'all. So today we're turning

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<v Speaker 2>up the heat, okay literally because we're talking Perry menopause.

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<v Speaker 1>This is what tam, we want to talk about.

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<v Speaker 2>And listen, we are not going through this phase yet, okay,

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<v Speaker 2>we just want to see what Okay.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not very sure. That's why I have questions, you know, because.

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<v Speaker 2>Right because exactly so it's like that in between stage

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<v Speaker 2>and your body like we ain't done yet but definitely changing. Okay.

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<v Speaker 2>So today we have the incredible doctor Kelly Elmore. When

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<v Speaker 2>we talked back, she's a board certified OBG Y n

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<v Speaker 2>retired Navy captain. Okay see, she's the boss, cap you

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<v Speaker 2>get her and say okay right, and founder of Koe

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<v Speaker 2>Medical Consulting. She's dedicated to helping women lead, live, thrive

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<v Speaker 2>through every stage of life, including this one that me

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<v Speaker 2>and Tammy are not going through. Yeah, y'all, aren't we all?

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<v Speaker 1>Aren't we all? Aren't y'all? Thank you for joining us, Darna, Kelly,

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<v Speaker 1>I really really appreciate you coming on talking to us

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<v Speaker 1>and our listeners. Absolutely, I'm I'm here for it. This

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<v Speaker 1>is what I love. I tell people I love what

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<v Speaker 1>I do, who I do it for, and who I

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<v Speaker 1>do it with. So that's my job. So tell us

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<v Speaker 1>how you got into because, like are y'all before the

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<v Speaker 1>show started, she says she was darting to Kelly since

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<v Speaker 1>she was six years old. So tell us about how

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<v Speaker 1>you got into becoming a doctor. Like your background. Well,

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<v Speaker 1>I tell people all the time I was called to

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<v Speaker 1>the pool pit of medicine. First, I want to say

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<v Speaker 1>thank you both for having me on your wonderful show.

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<v Speaker 1>I was gone to the pool pit of medicine very early.

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't have doctors in my immediate family. As a

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<v Speaker 1>matter of fact, I was the first one to go

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<v Speaker 1>and complete college, so you know, everything after that, I

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<v Speaker 1>was the first for that as well. But when I

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<v Speaker 1>was a little girl, I you know, something told me

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<v Speaker 1>in my spirit that I wanted to be a physician.

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<v Speaker 1>And then one day I was watching KPBS. I think

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<v Speaker 1>I might have been nine or ten years old, and

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<v Speaker 1>they were showing the first laparoscopic hiss directed me. My

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<v Speaker 1>mom walked through the door, like, what are you watching?

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<v Speaker 1>Because if you can imagine a woman is like in

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<v Speaker 1>a certain position having the surgery.

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<v Speaker 2>Knew well.

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<v Speaker 1>She was like, what are you watching? And I'm like,

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<v Speaker 1>a laparostopic hiss directed me and she was like, did

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<v Speaker 1>you what is that? And I said, well, that's what

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<v Speaker 1>I want to do. And I used to watch this

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<v Speaker 1>show called Heartbeat, which was all about obgyns, and I

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<v Speaker 1>was like, and that's what I want to do too. Wow.

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<v Speaker 1>So I decided that I wanted to, you know, be

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<v Speaker 1>the safe place for women, especially because I have a

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<v Speaker 1>history of domestic violence in my family, that I wanted

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<v Speaker 1>to be that safe place for women to express what's

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<v Speaker 1>going on not just with their bodies, but also spiritually, physically, financially, mental,

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<v Speaker 1>them emotionally, so when you come to me, we having

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<v Speaker 1>a full conversation. Right, Well, it's not like you a

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<v Speaker 1>servant of the Lord, because goodness, all right, I have

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<v Speaker 1>a question, all right, what's one myth about menopause you

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<v Speaker 1>wish women would stop believing one myth about menopause? Well,

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<v Speaker 1>this is an interesting question because right now they're actually

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<v Speaker 1>changing the FDA black box warning on hormone replacement therapy.

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<v Speaker 1>So a lot of people thought that they could not

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<v Speaker 1>utilize hormone replacement for the last twenty years due to

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<v Speaker 1>an article that came out or a study that came

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<v Speaker 1>out that told them, you know, it's going to kill them.

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<v Speaker 1>They're going to get more breast cancer, cardiovascular disease, all

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<v Speaker 1>that other stuff. So the myth is that more women

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<v Speaker 1>wo men are able to utilize supplements and or hormone

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<v Speaker 1>replacement therapy medications in order to help them navigate perimenopause

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<v Speaker 1>and menopause. So are for someone who like me, who's

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<v Speaker 1>like so far away from all of this perimenopause, can

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<v Speaker 1>you explain to me and our listeners what exactly is

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<v Speaker 1>menopause and perimenopause? Like, what is it? Because when I

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<v Speaker 1>love to start where so it's a change, right, and

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<v Speaker 1>I will tell you that if you live past the

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<v Speaker 1>A up to the age of sixty, you are going

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<v Speaker 1>to go through the change. Just like when you were born,

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<v Speaker 1>you went through adolescence, puberty, you're going through the change.

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<v Speaker 1>So perimenopause menopause is the change of our hormones. And

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<v Speaker 1>I like to start with menopause because it's just like

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<v Speaker 1>more of a definitive space before I get the definition

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<v Speaker 1>of perimenopause. So menopause is when our hormone levels estrogen

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<v Speaker 1>progesterone dropped to such significant lows that we no longer

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<v Speaker 1>have a periods, so we're not menstruating for twelve months. However,

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<v Speaker 1>there's more than fifty different symptoms that are associated with

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<v Speaker 1>having the drop in your estrogen progesterone and your tsosterone.

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<v Speaker 1>So menopause officially is twelve months without your period or cycle,

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<v Speaker 1>and then after that is what people call postmenopause. But

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<v Speaker 1>I also like to say one myth to people, menopause

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<v Speaker 1>lasts for your the rest of your life. That's the

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<v Speaker 1>that is the area you are in in your life

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<v Speaker 1>for the rest of your life. Once you stop having

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<v Speaker 1>your periods, you're in menopause. See I used to think

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<v Speaker 1>is like when you stop liking men men, know, pause

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<v Speaker 1>pause on these men because of you know, so.

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<v Speaker 2>That's what you say that teenage years.

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<v Speaker 1>So that's funny you say that because you know one

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<v Speaker 1>of the symptoms of the many symptoms is you can

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<v Speaker 1>have decreased libido, decreased desire. And I remember a few

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<v Speaker 1>of my friends to be like, oh my god, I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know what's happening. When they hit their forties, like forties,

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<v Speaker 1>was like, yes, baby, yes, they wanted to have sex,

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<v Speaker 1>the whole thing, right when you hit four and then

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<v Speaker 1>all of a sudden, all of that energy just like

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<v Speaker 1>he continues to wax and wane. And that's where we

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<v Speaker 1>call the perimenopause. So prior to you going through menopause,

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<v Speaker 1>which means you're not having periods anymore, the perimenopause is

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<v Speaker 1>that time before, and that time before can be anywhere

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<v Speaker 1>from five to ten years prior to your actual menopause.

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<v Speaker 1>Most people go through like the stage change that one

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<v Speaker 1>year between the ages of forty eight and fifty two, right,

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<v Speaker 1>but that time before that, that is that perimenopausal time.

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<v Speaker 1>And you know, a lot of people think about fertility right,

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<v Speaker 1>So their reproductive time, so that perimenopause you can still

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<v Speaker 1>get pregnant. Your hormones are just like doing this. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>so your hormones are doing this. And it's just like

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<v Speaker 1>I tell people, the way we start is the way

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<v Speaker 1>we end. So if you had puberty, if you remember puberty,

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<v Speaker 1>that's what mental pause is like as well. So that's

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<v Speaker 1>why I've never had a ZiT in my fucking life.

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<v Speaker 1>Excuse my French, but all of a sudden I got

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<v Speaker 1>zits on my jawline. Is that a symptom of perry? Perhaps? Yep?

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<v Speaker 1>Face So estrogen? So estrogen, the decrease in estrogen, progesterone, testosterone. Right,

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<v Speaker 1>Remember I told you there's fifty different symptoms or more

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<v Speaker 1>that people can have. Now, Estrogen is in the in

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<v Speaker 1>every part of our body, our skin, our hair, are

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<v Speaker 1>you know, our our brains, our heart, everywhere is estrogen. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>So when you're starting to see things start happening. And

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<v Speaker 1>then also depending on what you're doing for your nutrition,

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<v Speaker 1>and I recommend people to eat what we call the

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<v Speaker 1>Viva life five fruits, vegetables, nuts, rains, beans, drinking our

0:23:48.240 --> 0:23:50.960
<v Speaker 1>water and if you eat meat that make sure it's

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<v Speaker 1>you know, high quality, as clean as possible. But if

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<v Speaker 1>you're if you are eating outside of those things, you're

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<v Speaker 1>going to see your body respond even more to having

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<v Speaker 1>this decrease in estrogen. So that is what is going around.

0:24:03.000 --> 0:24:06.480
<v Speaker 1>Your hormone levels are dropping and you are starting to

0:24:06.560 --> 0:24:10.879
<v Speaker 1>see the our bodies respond, our tissues respond, our organs

0:24:10.920 --> 0:24:14.720
<v Speaker 1>respond to that. Should we be taken like estrogen? Sorry,

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<v Speaker 1>So it is that is a very personal conversation. So

0:24:18.920 --> 0:24:22.400
<v Speaker 1>every single person should have that conversation with their provider

0:24:22.640 --> 0:24:24.840
<v Speaker 1>because we have to think about what's your family history,

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<v Speaker 1>what's your personal history, and there are certain things that

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<v Speaker 1>if you are active, like if you have active breast cancer, no,

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<v Speaker 1>we're not going to give you hormone replacement, right, we

0:24:33.680 --> 0:24:37.000
<v Speaker 1>may and sometimes we can do something local to the vagina,

0:24:37.400 --> 0:24:39.280
<v Speaker 1>but that's one of those things we have to have

0:24:39.320 --> 0:24:42.879
<v Speaker 1>that conversation about. If you have excessive i mean, excuse me,

0:24:43.040 --> 0:24:45.879
<v Speaker 1>uncontrolled hypertension, we have to have a conversation about that

0:24:46.160 --> 0:24:51.160
<v Speaker 1>because the cardiovascular risk could increase depending on what your

0:24:51.160 --> 0:24:54.720
<v Speaker 1>cardiovascular risks are. So it's not that it's a complete no,

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<v Speaker 1>but we have to have a conversation with you about

0:24:57.160 --> 0:25:00.639
<v Speaker 1>your personal history. In order to recommend. Now, hold on,

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<v Speaker 1>you said you could do something to the vagina, what

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<v Speaker 1>is it? Tighten it, make it more wet, like what

0:25:06.320 --> 0:25:08.800
<v Speaker 1>is it for? Shop for shop?

0:25:08.880 --> 0:25:12.000
<v Speaker 2>So, as you know, your vagina is very like responsive

0:25:12.040 --> 0:25:16.360
<v Speaker 2>to estrogen, So the estrogen, collagen, the juiciness, all of that, right,

0:25:16.400 --> 0:25:19.080
<v Speaker 2>we need to make sure that we are able to

0:25:19.119 --> 0:25:21.320
<v Speaker 2>keep that, like you said, moisten wet, if.

0:25:21.160 --> 0:25:23.320
<v Speaker 1>That's what you so choose and how you so choose

0:25:23.359 --> 0:25:25.800
<v Speaker 1>to use it. One thing I tell people, and this

0:25:25.880 --> 0:25:27.680
<v Speaker 1>is a I don't know if it's a mythory, Well

0:25:27.720 --> 0:25:29.719
<v Speaker 1>it's a truth on my basis. If you don't use it,

0:25:29.840 --> 0:25:31.400
<v Speaker 1>you will lose it, Okay.

0:25:31.520 --> 0:25:38.880
<v Speaker 2>So the point of the matter is get worried about that.

0:25:38.080 --> 0:25:40.240
<v Speaker 1>I'll go through like spirits. Well I don't.

0:25:40.280 --> 0:25:44.000
<v Speaker 2>But and so what I say is if I use it,

0:25:44.040 --> 0:25:45.760
<v Speaker 2>I don't like you.

0:25:47.320 --> 0:25:49.800
<v Speaker 1>We gotta make sure it's clean, healthy, and as wet

0:25:49.840 --> 0:25:52.320
<v Speaker 1>as you want it to be. Right. So that being said,

0:25:52.440 --> 0:25:58.480
<v Speaker 1>if you need to utilize a vaginal like moisturizer, you

0:25:58.520 --> 0:26:00.840
<v Speaker 1>can use that, right, So we have a placements for that.

0:26:01.240 --> 0:26:05.280
<v Speaker 1>We also can use vaginal estrogen locally so that you

0:26:05.400 --> 0:26:08.720
<v Speaker 1>can continue to keep that area like I said healthy

0:26:08.800 --> 0:26:12.960
<v Speaker 1>and moist because besides getting the itchy, scratchy vagina, as

0:26:12.960 --> 0:26:15.520
<v Speaker 1>long as you don't have any inflammation or infection associated

0:26:15.520 --> 0:26:18.240
<v Speaker 1>with it, you can also have what we call urinary

0:26:18.320 --> 0:26:21.440
<v Speaker 1>tract effect what seems like to be urinary tract infections,

0:26:21.720 --> 0:26:25.240
<v Speaker 1>and what we call that is the genital urinary syndrome

0:26:25.359 --> 0:26:29.159
<v Speaker 1>or symptoms of menopause perimenopause. And that's because those estrogen

0:26:29.240 --> 0:26:32.040
<v Speaker 1>levels are so low and it's dry, and now you're

0:26:32.080 --> 0:26:35.560
<v Speaker 1>getting all of these symptoms associated that seem like urinary

0:26:35.600 --> 0:26:37.280
<v Speaker 1>attract infections but may or may not be.

0:26:38.400 --> 0:26:41.240
<v Speaker 2>You have all these things for like men libido, right,

0:26:41.720 --> 0:26:44.760
<v Speaker 2>So we have creams right like you're saying, but do

0:26:44.800 --> 0:26:49.480
<v Speaker 2>we have a viagraa type pill for women's libidos? Like

0:26:49.520 --> 0:26:53.680
<v Speaker 2>everything is catered to men prolonging their I don't know,

0:26:54.160 --> 0:26:54.800
<v Speaker 2>sexual sex.

0:26:56.160 --> 0:27:00.800
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, so actually there are medications for women that help

0:27:00.880 --> 0:27:05.160
<v Speaker 1>them improve their libido, their sex drive also, like I said,

0:27:05.200 --> 0:27:09.840
<v Speaker 1>improve improve their vaginal moisture, the elasticity of your entire

0:27:09.880 --> 0:27:11.880
<v Speaker 1>body as far as your skin and everything like that.

0:27:12.040 --> 0:27:14.359
<v Speaker 1>So yeah, they're coming, they're on the market. They're not

0:27:14.400 --> 0:27:17.320
<v Speaker 1>talked about as much, but they are you know more

0:27:17.359 --> 0:27:19.639
<v Speaker 1>and more are coming out and especially, like I said,

0:27:19.920 --> 0:27:21.920
<v Speaker 1>we have this at you at the health and Human

0:27:21.960 --> 0:27:25.200
<v Speaker 1>services level. Now, we have some really powerful obgu I

0:27:25.320 --> 0:27:29.119
<v Speaker 1>N eurogynecology advocates that are there in Congress and making

0:27:29.119 --> 0:27:31.560
<v Speaker 1>sure these things are moving forward. So we have you know,

0:27:31.640 --> 0:27:35.240
<v Speaker 1>we have we have different opportunities for different people, so

0:27:35.680 --> 0:27:38.199
<v Speaker 1>you know it's not just a one stop shot hormone

0:27:38.240 --> 0:27:41.959
<v Speaker 1>replacementary therapy. When we talk about estrogen replacement, that is

0:27:42.080 --> 0:27:44.919
<v Speaker 1>definitely the the therapy that is going to help you

0:27:44.960 --> 0:27:47.560
<v Speaker 1>with your hot flashes. That's like the gold standard to

0:27:47.600 --> 0:27:49.960
<v Speaker 1>help prevent the hot flashes, which is what most people

0:27:49.960 --> 0:27:52.879
<v Speaker 1>hear about. But then there are other opportunities for us

0:27:52.960 --> 0:27:55.280
<v Speaker 1>as well if you don't want to use estrogen based

0:27:55.359 --> 0:27:56.920
<v Speaker 1>or progesterone based products.

0:27:57.240 --> 0:28:00.480
<v Speaker 2>Is this true or false? Like does having a direct

0:28:00.640 --> 0:28:06.520
<v Speaker 2>me cause perimenopause or menopause Earlierly? Like that stage to

0:28:06.520 --> 0:28:10.159
<v Speaker 2>happen early, Because when you talk about knowing your family

0:28:10.280 --> 0:28:12.240
<v Speaker 2>history and stuff like that, I don't know a woman

0:28:12.280 --> 0:28:15.640
<v Speaker 2>in my family who's not over you know, fifty who

0:28:15.720 --> 0:28:19.840
<v Speaker 2>have not already had a hysterectomy from my mom, aunt's

0:28:19.920 --> 0:28:22.960
<v Speaker 2>older cousins. So I can't pinpoint what's what Like, I

0:28:23.600 --> 0:28:26.399
<v Speaker 2>am always happy when I see my period, right right,

0:28:26.840 --> 0:28:29.959
<v Speaker 2>So yeah, I love seeing my period because I mean,

0:28:30.000 --> 0:28:32.360
<v Speaker 2>I'm still I'm still youthful. I can still get pregnant,

0:28:32.880 --> 0:28:35.919
<v Speaker 2>pop that couch. I can do all things, okay, But

0:28:36.040 --> 0:28:38.640
<v Speaker 2>how do you know when everybody like, I don't know

0:28:38.680 --> 0:28:41.640
<v Speaker 2>when my mom would have went through menopause, especially now

0:28:41.680 --> 0:28:45.600
<v Speaker 2>you're saying like when menopause starts, it doesn't stop, like

0:28:45.640 --> 0:28:48.360
<v Speaker 2>that's just the rest of your life is menopause. Right now,

0:28:48.360 --> 0:28:50.800
<v Speaker 2>I don't know the difference between PMS and or menopause

0:28:50.800 --> 0:28:51.600
<v Speaker 2>with these old ladies.

0:28:52.280 --> 0:28:56.520
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I understand, I understand. It's me. Yeah, so ask

0:28:56.560 --> 0:28:58.240
<v Speaker 1>your question again because I got in, you know, with

0:28:58.320 --> 0:29:00.960
<v Speaker 1>the PAPTA. I got throw off with the pop. Sorry,

0:29:01.040 --> 0:29:04.800
<v Speaker 1>I'm sorry, pop couci because listen, it's women in menopause

0:29:04.880 --> 0:29:08.160
<v Speaker 1>still popping their koucie. Don't get yes, absolutely, which is

0:29:08.160 --> 0:29:10.240
<v Speaker 1>why I need to mention this that we still need

0:29:10.280 --> 0:29:12.120
<v Speaker 1>to even though people are like, oh, I can't get

0:29:12.120 --> 0:29:14.640
<v Speaker 1>pregnant because I've gone through menopause, my eggs and run out.

0:29:14.680 --> 0:29:16.880
<v Speaker 1>The likelihood of me getting pregnant is very, very low.

0:29:17.040 --> 0:29:19.640
<v Speaker 1>But I never put anything past the higher power. We

0:29:19.680 --> 0:29:23.640
<v Speaker 1>still need to prevent STDs. So gotneria chamitia herpe' heppatitus HIV.

0:29:23.880 --> 0:29:27.800
<v Speaker 1>So because people are living longer, stronger, and thriving past

0:29:27.840 --> 0:29:30.600
<v Speaker 1>their fifties, we still need to reprevent all of that.

0:29:31.240 --> 0:29:34.640
<v Speaker 2>But go back to your menopause quicker right, oh with

0:29:34.840 --> 0:29:36.360
<v Speaker 2>instaur Yes, that's what.

0:29:36.520 --> 0:29:41.920
<v Speaker 1>So. So it's interesting because hysterectomy means removal of the uterus.

0:29:41.920 --> 0:29:43.560
<v Speaker 1>But if you ask the woman if I you've had

0:29:43.560 --> 0:29:45.880
<v Speaker 1>a hysterectomy, many of them don't know whether or not

0:29:45.920 --> 0:29:50.360
<v Speaker 1>they got their ovaries and rears remove, right, so it's

0:29:50.400 --> 0:29:52.680
<v Speaker 1>not even a partial hys direct me. The removal of

0:29:52.720 --> 0:29:55.400
<v Speaker 1>an ovaries is called a oopharectomy, that's what it's called.

0:29:55.760 --> 0:29:58.280
<v Speaker 1>The removal of the tubes is called a salping jectomy.

0:29:58.560 --> 0:30:02.640
<v Speaker 1>The removal of the uterus is called a hysterectomy. So, yes,

0:30:02.760 --> 0:30:04.960
<v Speaker 1>you have to very much get into the nuance with

0:30:05.000 --> 0:30:08.760
<v Speaker 1>people about that. Now, sometimes when you remove the uterus,

0:30:08.960 --> 0:30:10.800
<v Speaker 1>some of the blood flow that would be going to

0:30:10.960 --> 0:30:14.520
<v Speaker 1>the ovaries decreases, so people can see the changes. Like

0:30:14.560 --> 0:30:18.040
<v Speaker 1>I said, you can have some minstrul excuse me, you

0:30:18.080 --> 0:30:21.160
<v Speaker 1>can have some perimenopause symptoms that seem to come on

0:30:22.120 --> 0:30:25.200
<v Speaker 1>maybe not faster, but because you have decreased blood flow,

0:30:25.240 --> 0:30:28.200
<v Speaker 1>you're getting those types those same type of symptoms. It's

0:30:28.240 --> 0:30:31.840
<v Speaker 1>more when that estrogen level is gone. So if you

0:30:31.920 --> 0:30:36.040
<v Speaker 1>have your ovaries removed, then yes, no longer are you. Yes,

0:30:36.080 --> 0:30:39.680
<v Speaker 1>you are in medical or surgical menopause right then and there.

0:30:39.960 --> 0:30:42.480
<v Speaker 1>So you can have surgical menopause, meaning that I took

0:30:42.480 --> 0:30:45.800
<v Speaker 1>out your ovaries or decreased the significant flow to your ovaries.

0:30:46.120 --> 0:30:48.959
<v Speaker 1>You can have medical menopause, which means I gave you

0:30:49.000 --> 0:30:52.680
<v Speaker 1>medication to stop the function of your ovaries. Or you

0:30:52.720 --> 0:30:55.960
<v Speaker 1>can have what a quote unquote natural menopause, where you've

0:30:56.040 --> 0:30:59.880
<v Speaker 1>just matured and aged into menopause. And that is a

0:31:00.240 --> 0:31:01.960
<v Speaker 1>questions because so many people are like, welly have my

0:31:02.040 --> 0:31:04.200
<v Speaker 1>uterers taken out? I don't know if I'm gone through menopause.

0:31:04.360 --> 0:31:07.080
<v Speaker 1>If you listen to your body, you will absolutely know

0:31:07.120 --> 0:31:09.239
<v Speaker 1>when you stop cycling. But we have to be in

0:31:09.280 --> 0:31:11.200
<v Speaker 1>tune with our bodies. And that's why I teach a

0:31:11.240 --> 0:31:14.880
<v Speaker 1>lot about mindset and knowing yourself from the inside out.

0:31:15.520 --> 0:31:18.920
<v Speaker 1>I had a friend she was fighting breast cancer, and

0:31:19.000 --> 0:31:22.880
<v Speaker 1>she said that she was going into early menopause because

0:31:22.920 --> 0:31:27.800
<v Speaker 1>of the medicine is that this happened from chemotherapy will

0:31:27.840 --> 0:31:30.920
<v Speaker 1>send you into early menopause. So that's what we call

0:31:31.000 --> 0:31:34.560
<v Speaker 1>medical menopause. So yes, you can you can actually end

0:31:34.600 --> 0:31:36.640
<v Speaker 1>up starting to have the symptoms. You can fully go

0:31:36.680 --> 0:31:39.240
<v Speaker 1>into menopause, or you can go into a state of

0:31:39.680 --> 0:31:43.160
<v Speaker 1>you know, stopping where those medications are stopping the hormones

0:31:43.200 --> 0:31:46.360
<v Speaker 1>from functioning that they normally do. And that's the whole purpose,

0:31:46.440 --> 0:31:50.000
<v Speaker 1>especially when you have an estrogen or progesterone positive breast cancer.

0:31:50.360 --> 0:31:53.440
<v Speaker 1>So you can either be paused or you can actually

0:31:53.440 --> 0:31:55.560
<v Speaker 1>fully go into the menopause. And everybody is a little

0:31:55.560 --> 0:31:58.320
<v Speaker 1>bit different how they respond to those therapies and medications.

0:31:58.400 --> 0:32:01.200
<v Speaker 2>And don't they they're like medication that can I was

0:32:01.200 --> 0:32:03.280
<v Speaker 2>gonna say, don't they have like a medication that can

0:32:03.360 --> 0:32:06.080
<v Speaker 2>like basically if you're going through chemo, that can like

0:32:06.120 --> 0:32:08.800
<v Speaker 2>guard your eggs correct.

0:32:08.840 --> 0:32:12.320
<v Speaker 1>So they do put you on medications that can help,

0:32:12.400 --> 0:32:15.360
<v Speaker 1>like I said, make that pause happen so that it

0:32:15.400 --> 0:32:19.040
<v Speaker 1>can help protect right, But we don't know until you

0:32:19.080 --> 0:32:21.400
<v Speaker 1>come off with all the medications whether or not what

0:32:21.520 --> 0:32:24.880
<v Speaker 1>functionality you're gonna have. And that's typically not something that

0:32:24.920 --> 0:32:26.800
<v Speaker 1>they're just gonna do for you. You gotta pay for that,

0:32:26.960 --> 0:32:30.520
<v Speaker 1>right like, because well, no, that that a lot of

0:32:30.520 --> 0:32:32.440
<v Speaker 1>times is a part of your therapy, and they should

0:32:32.480 --> 0:32:35.160
<v Speaker 1>be having the conversation with women in regards to how

0:32:35.200 --> 0:32:38.560
<v Speaker 1>do I protect my ovaries, how do I continue to

0:32:38.720 --> 0:32:42.280
<v Speaker 1>maintain my fertility? And also and then I'm thinking you're

0:32:42.320 --> 0:32:45.720
<v Speaker 1>talking about potentially egg harvesting, so when I harvest my

0:32:45.800 --> 0:32:47.920
<v Speaker 1>eggs so that I can save them so that I

0:32:47.920 --> 0:32:50.880
<v Speaker 1>can use them for later, either in my uterus or

0:32:50.920 --> 0:32:53.960
<v Speaker 1>womb or somebody else's. And that brings me to my

0:32:54.000 --> 0:32:56.760
<v Speaker 1>next question. Does stress play a part in how quickly

0:32:57.720 --> 0:33:00.760
<v Speaker 1>your body goes into the change? Absolutely?

0:33:00.840 --> 0:33:03.680
<v Speaker 2>Absolutely, I think that especially for Black women, we are

0:33:03.720 --> 0:33:07.320
<v Speaker 2>known to go through menopause perimenopause about eight months to

0:33:07.440 --> 0:33:11.760
<v Speaker 2>a year earlier than women women are kind of part right,

0:33:13.280 --> 0:33:15.520
<v Speaker 2>non women of color, I guess you could say Caucasian women,

0:33:15.600 --> 0:33:16.280
<v Speaker 2>whatever you want.

0:33:16.120 --> 0:33:19.640
<v Speaker 1>To say, bege. So, yeah, and I do believe that

0:33:19.640 --> 0:33:22.200
<v Speaker 1>that is associated with the amount of stress and weight

0:33:22.240 --> 0:33:27.400
<v Speaker 1>that we carry from racism, structural racism, discrimination, prejudice, and

0:33:27.440 --> 0:33:29.720
<v Speaker 1>then just having the weight of the world on our shoulders,

0:33:29.720 --> 0:33:34.120
<v Speaker 1>you know, the financial responsibilities, the mental and emotional responsibilities

0:33:34.120 --> 0:33:38.360
<v Speaker 1>that we carry more than most people do. Stop stressing.

0:33:38.640 --> 0:33:43.440
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, it's gonna get old fast, and that's another reason why.

0:33:43.520 --> 0:33:46.600
<v Speaker 1>You know though, that's the only thing, right, get older faster.

0:33:46.680 --> 0:33:49.440
<v Speaker 1>But you will look it, I know, right, And a

0:33:49.440 --> 0:33:51.720
<v Speaker 1>lot of people are like, oh, I don't look my age,

0:33:51.760 --> 0:33:54.160
<v Speaker 1>and yeah, it's true. Many times we don't look our

0:33:54.200 --> 0:33:58.240
<v Speaker 1>age because I think that genetically, genetically, we have developed

0:33:58.520 --> 0:34:02.480
<v Speaker 1>protective mechanism so that we don't age in the same

0:34:02.520 --> 0:34:04.719
<v Speaker 1>way that other people age. But I will tell you

0:34:04.800 --> 0:34:08.080
<v Speaker 1>if you are smoking, and if you are you know, significantly,

0:34:08.160 --> 0:34:11.840
<v Speaker 1>if you're OBEs, significantly overweight, if you are not managing

0:34:11.880 --> 0:34:16.759
<v Speaker 1>your cardiovascular health diabetes, it doesn't matter. You know, if

0:34:16.760 --> 0:34:18.920
<v Speaker 1>you're not doing those things, you're gonna look older than

0:34:18.920 --> 0:34:22.000
<v Speaker 1>you should. Amen to that. That's what I was going

0:34:22.040 --> 0:34:24.920
<v Speaker 1>to ask, like, when you how does fitness like, how

0:34:24.920 --> 0:34:27.319
<v Speaker 1>should we change our fitness when we're going to pair

0:34:27.440 --> 0:34:31.080
<v Speaker 1>mini pause, because I assume our metabolisms and things like

0:34:31.120 --> 0:34:34.760
<v Speaker 1>that are affected by this as well. So you're absolutely

0:34:34.840 --> 0:34:39.040
<v Speaker 1>so it's slow. Your menabolisms are slowing down. And so

0:34:39.120 --> 0:34:43.080
<v Speaker 1>what I tell people is encourage young people already to

0:34:43.239 --> 0:34:47.840
<v Speaker 1>exercise whatever that is if it's dancing, dancing, zooma and

0:34:48.440 --> 0:34:52.759
<v Speaker 1>whatever it is, pilates, running, hiking, biking, getting out there

0:34:52.760 --> 0:34:55.879
<v Speaker 1>and walking. Make sure you're doing that so young, if

0:34:55.880 --> 0:34:58.160
<v Speaker 1>you're young, put your kids in some type of sports

0:34:58.200 --> 0:35:01.239
<v Speaker 1>and make them do it. As you mature, continue doing that.

0:35:01.520 --> 0:35:05.680
<v Speaker 1>Find your community so that you can enjoy exercise. We

0:35:05.680 --> 0:35:07.960
<v Speaker 1>should be enjoying. We should be exercising five or six

0:35:08.000 --> 0:35:10.560
<v Speaker 1>times a week, if not seven, right, even if the

0:35:10.560 --> 0:35:12.760
<v Speaker 1>seventh day is going for a walk, but we should

0:35:12.800 --> 0:35:16.120
<v Speaker 1>be exercise and enjoying that. So and then as you are,

0:35:16.760 --> 0:35:20.839
<v Speaker 1>as you are aging, right, you should be increasing your

0:35:20.920 --> 0:35:24.000
<v Speaker 1>strength exercises. So that is why you know, even doing

0:35:24.040 --> 0:35:27.640
<v Speaker 1>resistance bans is so important. So adding weights you don't

0:35:27.680 --> 0:35:30.399
<v Speaker 1>have to add, you know, significantly heavy weights. You don't

0:35:30.440 --> 0:35:32.520
<v Speaker 1>have to lift one hundred, two hundred pounds. You don't

0:35:32.520 --> 0:35:35.280
<v Speaker 1>have to do that. You can lift twenty thirty pounds.

0:35:35.320 --> 0:35:37.279
<v Speaker 1>You can lift your own body weight. I mean, you

0:35:37.320 --> 0:35:39.160
<v Speaker 1>know you weigh one hundred and twenty one hundred and

0:35:39.200 --> 0:35:40.279
<v Speaker 1>sixty pounds or more.

0:35:40.360 --> 0:35:42.239
<v Speaker 2>N I never been able to lift my body weight

0:35:42.320 --> 0:35:44.600
<v Speaker 2>since I was an elementary. I can't never do a

0:35:44.640 --> 0:35:45.080
<v Speaker 2>pull up.

0:35:46.040 --> 0:35:47.880
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, so be on there. But you know, we start

0:35:47.920 --> 0:35:50.520
<v Speaker 1>with we start with doing pushups. So in the morning,

0:35:50.560 --> 0:35:52.360
<v Speaker 1>when I wake up, I do my body scan and

0:35:52.360 --> 0:35:54.799
<v Speaker 1>this is part of my Vivi Life program that I do.

0:35:55.200 --> 0:35:57.279
<v Speaker 1>But I wake up, I do my body scan and

0:35:57.280 --> 0:35:59.080
<v Speaker 1>I ask myself, you know, what's going on in my

0:35:59.120 --> 0:36:00.560
<v Speaker 1>body from the top of my head down to the

0:36:00.560 --> 0:36:02.920
<v Speaker 1>sole of my feet, and how do I focus my

0:36:03.080 --> 0:36:05.440
<v Speaker 1>energy so I can heal that space. Then I get

0:36:05.480 --> 0:36:07.799
<v Speaker 1>down on the floor, I do my Calisenics and that's

0:36:07.840 --> 0:36:11.480
<v Speaker 1>push ups, that's crunches, that stretches, and I know it

0:36:11.520 --> 0:36:14.440
<v Speaker 1>sounds funny, right, So I don't know. My mom watched jacqu.

0:36:14.239 --> 0:36:17.920
<v Speaker 2>Lolaine, and you know I did a tibo when I

0:36:17.960 --> 0:36:20.239
<v Speaker 2>was in my twenties and thirties. Whatever you need to

0:36:20.280 --> 0:36:23.720
<v Speaker 2>do to keep moving and to keep that body, you know, strong,

0:36:23.880 --> 0:36:25.239
<v Speaker 2>those are the things that we need to do.

0:36:25.960 --> 0:36:28.720
<v Speaker 1>I remember one time I went to this female doctor

0:36:28.880 --> 0:36:31.359
<v Speaker 1>and I was putting on weight and I was like,

0:36:31.480 --> 0:36:33.880
<v Speaker 1>but I just don't have time. My life is so busy.

0:36:34.040 --> 0:36:37.040
<v Speaker 1>I just travel and I work in two different cities

0:36:37.080 --> 0:36:39.359
<v Speaker 1>and I just don't have time. And she was like,

0:36:40.320 --> 0:36:42.880
<v Speaker 1>I'm a mother of five, I'm a wife, I have

0:36:43.000 --> 0:36:46.640
<v Speaker 1>this practice and I still find time every morning to

0:36:46.800 --> 0:36:48.399
<v Speaker 1>get up and go to the gym. So what were

0:36:48.440 --> 0:36:54.480
<v Speaker 1>you saying? And then it becomes my hair and all

0:36:54.480 --> 0:36:57.200
<v Speaker 1>that other stuff. No, I schedule it. So one of

0:36:57.200 --> 0:36:59.160
<v Speaker 1>the things my family knows is the first hour of

0:36:59.200 --> 0:37:01.440
<v Speaker 1>the day is mine. That's where I meditate, journal and

0:37:01.440 --> 0:37:04.160
<v Speaker 1>get my exercise in, and then for the rest of

0:37:04.200 --> 0:37:06.680
<v Speaker 1>the day, I'm optimizing my nutrition, my hormones in my

0:37:06.719 --> 0:37:08.879
<v Speaker 1>sleep and I get my sleep. And so you're talking

0:37:08.920 --> 0:37:11.400
<v Speaker 1>to an obgyn who used to, you know, do thirty

0:37:11.400 --> 0:37:14.280
<v Speaker 1>six hourships and still got her work out in because

0:37:14.320 --> 0:37:17.600
<v Speaker 1>it just makes you feel better mentally and emotionally, and

0:37:17.680 --> 0:37:20.080
<v Speaker 1>of course it's going to help the physical aspects your

0:37:20.080 --> 0:37:25.680
<v Speaker 1>heart health, prevent diabetes, prevent significant weight gain, all of that. Yeah.

0:37:25.880 --> 0:37:28.160
<v Speaker 2>The crazy thing is I have a consultation today at

0:37:28.160 --> 0:37:32.319
<v Speaker 2>a weightlifting gym. All right, Yeah, because I go to

0:37:32.360 --> 0:37:33.960
<v Speaker 2>the gym, but I don't be knowing what I'm doing

0:37:34.000 --> 0:37:37.440
<v Speaker 2>half the time, right, And I want to like, I

0:37:37.520 --> 0:37:38.399
<v Speaker 2>just don't want shit to.

0:37:38.400 --> 0:37:39.120
<v Speaker 1>Move no more.

0:37:39.320 --> 0:37:41.120
<v Speaker 2>I want the body to stay kind of like the

0:37:41.120 --> 0:37:43.120
<v Speaker 2>same size, but I don't want no more jiggle.

0:37:43.600 --> 0:37:46.480
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I understand, and that can happen. And so you're

0:37:46.520 --> 0:37:49.520
<v Speaker 1>being intentional about what you do and how you do it.

0:37:49.600 --> 0:37:50.840
<v Speaker 1>Because you don't have to be in the gym for

0:37:50.880 --> 0:37:52.680
<v Speaker 1>twenty two hours. You don't have to do that.

0:37:53.120 --> 0:37:55.879
<v Speaker 2>It's a discipline inconsistency for me, man, I just got

0:37:55.920 --> 0:37:57.279
<v Speaker 2>to get some discipline in my life.

0:37:57.760 --> 0:38:01.640
<v Speaker 1>Yep, listen, I will. I did seventy five hard earlier

0:38:01.680 --> 0:38:03.640
<v Speaker 1>this year, and I was going to the gym twice

0:38:03.680 --> 0:38:06.759
<v Speaker 1>a day for seventy five days straight. And then right

0:38:06.800 --> 0:38:10.640
<v Speaker 1>after that, I did seventy five fat like right behind it,

0:38:11.920 --> 0:38:15.560
<v Speaker 1>run again seventy five You better cut it out. I

0:38:15.600 --> 0:38:20.560
<v Speaker 1>struggle with the consistencies, like just staying with it. That's

0:38:20.600 --> 0:38:22.800
<v Speaker 1>my hardest part. I can do. I do the workouts,

0:38:22.840 --> 0:38:25.040
<v Speaker 1>I know the workouts, I know the routines, I know

0:38:25.080 --> 0:38:28.640
<v Speaker 1>how to live ways, but just going for life a

0:38:28.680 --> 0:38:31.640
<v Speaker 1>lifestyle change is what I struggle with. That is that

0:38:32.080 --> 0:38:35.600
<v Speaker 1>my kryptonite. So I don't I tell me understand. And

0:38:35.760 --> 0:38:38.480
<v Speaker 1>that's one thing that we have just incorporated in my life,

0:38:38.520 --> 0:38:41.160
<v Speaker 1>you know, Like I said, it's on my calendar, and

0:38:41.200 --> 0:38:43.759
<v Speaker 1>don't mess with me. And even if I can't get

0:38:43.800 --> 0:38:47.040
<v Speaker 1>like a hard workout in, I'm going to do something,

0:38:47.080 --> 0:38:50.120
<v Speaker 1>even you know, walking something to get my mind going

0:38:50.160 --> 0:38:52.000
<v Speaker 1>like right now, I don't feel like going to the gym,

0:38:52.120 --> 0:38:54.839
<v Speaker 1>but I'm out there every morning and I'm walking two

0:38:54.880 --> 0:38:57.120
<v Speaker 1>and a half miles and I'm going uphills and I'm

0:38:57.200 --> 0:38:59.920
<v Speaker 1>using the resistance bands, doing the push ups in the setups.

0:39:01.040 --> 0:39:04.719
<v Speaker 1>Excuse me, m all, I'm gonna go in a little while,

0:39:04.760 --> 0:39:06.160
<v Speaker 1>I think today.

0:39:06.640 --> 0:39:08.600
<v Speaker 2>And you gotta be in a community, right, So if

0:39:08.600 --> 0:39:10.640
<v Speaker 2>you're in a community of people that this is what

0:39:10.680 --> 0:39:11.120
<v Speaker 2>they do.

0:39:11.200 --> 0:39:13.360
<v Speaker 1>So that's what my Viva lifeers and I do. Like

0:39:13.480 --> 0:39:16.080
<v Speaker 1>we encourage each other to do all of these things.

0:39:16.360 --> 0:39:18.759
<v Speaker 1>And it's not really like me saying you need to go,

0:39:19.000 --> 0:39:20.960
<v Speaker 1>it's them seeing me go. Like I'm out there and

0:39:20.960 --> 0:39:23.239
<v Speaker 1>I'm like, hey, what y'all doing? You know? And the

0:39:23.280 --> 0:39:26.040
<v Speaker 1>next thing I know, everybody else is out doing something too. Right,

0:39:26.200 --> 0:39:28.160
<v Speaker 1>that's you don't encourage me to get my ass up

0:39:28.160 --> 0:39:30.000
<v Speaker 1>to They an't go because I wasn't gonna go because

0:39:30.200 --> 0:39:32.399
<v Speaker 1>but I'm gonna go just because you said that. And

0:39:33.280 --> 0:39:36.040
<v Speaker 1>let me ask you this, I never like, I never

0:39:36.120 --> 0:39:38.799
<v Speaker 1>heard of Peri menopause. I heard of menopause growing up,

0:39:38.800 --> 0:39:40.839
<v Speaker 1>but Perry menopause was never a thing.

0:39:41.360 --> 0:39:43.120
<v Speaker 2>Is that the I just started hearing about it the

0:39:43.200 --> 0:39:45.000
<v Speaker 2>last Is it a new convent?

0:39:46.040 --> 0:39:48.680
<v Speaker 1>No, not at all. I mean, you know, I will

0:39:48.719 --> 0:39:50.440
<v Speaker 1>tell you when I first started hearing about it was

0:39:50.480 --> 0:39:53.120
<v Speaker 1>about twenty years ago when Oprah was on with doctor

0:39:53.200 --> 0:39:55.000
<v Speaker 1>Hill I think her name was hilde Brand or Hilda

0:39:55.000 --> 0:39:58.000
<v Speaker 1>greath but she they talked about What Women Need to

0:39:58.040 --> 0:40:00.279
<v Speaker 1>Know about Sex was the book, and so it was

0:40:00.320 --> 0:40:02.600
<v Speaker 1>a whole I mean, Oprah did a whole thing on menopause,

0:40:02.680 --> 0:40:04.879
<v Speaker 1>just like she's doing now in perimenopause. But I will

0:40:04.920 --> 0:40:07.080
<v Speaker 1>tell you when I even when I was going through training.

0:40:07.120 --> 0:40:08.880
<v Speaker 1>You know, you grow up and they tell you're going

0:40:08.920 --> 0:40:11.120
<v Speaker 1>to have your period and they tell you don't get pregnant, right,

0:40:11.120 --> 0:40:13.200
<v Speaker 1>but they don't tell you anything between that or about that.

0:40:13.440 --> 0:40:15.520
<v Speaker 1>When I was going through my OBGUI N training, we

0:40:15.600 --> 0:40:19.320
<v Speaker 1>got the graphs that said this is what happens with estrogen, progesterone, testosterone.

0:40:19.400 --> 0:40:21.160
<v Speaker 1>I will be honest with you, it's not until you

0:40:21.239 --> 0:40:24.759
<v Speaker 1>hit the different stages that you're like, oh, this is

0:40:24.800 --> 0:40:27.040
<v Speaker 1>what they were talking about. So the reason why you

0:40:27.120 --> 0:40:29.439
<v Speaker 1>feel like it hasn't been talked about is number one,

0:40:29.480 --> 0:40:32.840
<v Speaker 1>they stopped talking about it, especially after that whole Women's

0:40:32.840 --> 0:40:34.759
<v Speaker 1>Health Initiative, because they didn't want people to be on

0:40:34.800 --> 0:40:38.000
<v Speaker 1>horrimal replacement. Right. The other thing is it's coming up.

0:40:38.120 --> 0:40:40.640
<v Speaker 1>You're going into the time of your life where other

0:40:40.640 --> 0:40:42.319
<v Speaker 1>people are going into the time of their life where

0:40:42.320 --> 0:40:44.640
<v Speaker 1>they're starting to feel these things, so you're more interested

0:40:44.680 --> 0:40:44.880
<v Speaker 1>in it.

0:40:45.120 --> 0:40:47.040
<v Speaker 2>Like, we don't talk about how to get pregnant until

0:40:47.040 --> 0:40:49.719
<v Speaker 2>you're trying to get pregnant, right, So same thing, You're

0:40:49.719 --> 0:40:50.000
<v Speaker 2>not going to.

0:40:50.000 --> 0:40:52.840
<v Speaker 1>Talk about perimenopause until you're going through the experience.

0:40:54.280 --> 0:40:56.799
<v Speaker 2>So like, what are some of the symptoms that women

0:40:56.920 --> 0:40:59.440
<v Speaker 2>made mistake for something else but it's perimenopause.

0:41:00.200 --> 0:41:02.120
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, so these are important things. So I'm gonna start

0:41:02.120 --> 0:41:03.880
<v Speaker 1>with the heart, right. So a lot of people actually

0:41:03.920 --> 0:41:09.000
<v Speaker 1>end up getting heart palpitations, anxiety, and sometimes some shortness

0:41:09.040 --> 0:41:11.239
<v Speaker 1>of breast, chest pain. But we also have to make

0:41:11.280 --> 0:41:13.640
<v Speaker 1>sure that we're ruling out what could kill you, right,

0:41:13.880 --> 0:41:15.279
<v Speaker 1>So we got to make sure that it's not a

0:41:15.320 --> 0:41:17.400
<v Speaker 1>heart attack. We got to make sure that is not

0:41:17.560 --> 0:41:20.480
<v Speaker 1>some other kind of arrhythm or changes in your heart rate.

0:41:21.160 --> 0:41:22.719
<v Speaker 1>But those are some of the things a lot of

0:41:22.719 --> 0:41:28.319
<v Speaker 1>people get palpitations anxiety associated with perimenopause menopause. The other

0:41:28.400 --> 0:41:30.600
<v Speaker 1>thing is people will notice that their weight changes, So

0:41:30.640 --> 0:41:33.120
<v Speaker 1>they start getting what we call the mino belly or

0:41:33.160 --> 0:41:37.480
<v Speaker 1>that mid that midriff weight game, that the what do

0:41:37.520 --> 0:41:39.600
<v Speaker 1>they call it, the upha, the punfa, whatever it's called.

0:41:43.480 --> 0:41:46.160
<v Speaker 1>But you know, yeah, so the muffin tops. So you

0:41:46.200 --> 0:41:48.160
<v Speaker 1>start getting that and people are like, wait a second,

0:41:48.200 --> 0:41:50.120
<v Speaker 1>what's going on with that? And so we have to

0:41:50.160 --> 0:41:52.839
<v Speaker 1>make sure are you having a gastrulinetestinal problem that's going

0:41:52.840 --> 0:41:55.440
<v Speaker 1>along with that? Is this friboids that's potentially going on?

0:41:55.640 --> 0:41:57.960
<v Speaker 1>So going back to the head to toe exam is

0:41:58.080 --> 0:42:00.759
<v Speaker 1>very important. And what I've noticed in mere cards, we've

0:42:00.800 --> 0:42:04.200
<v Speaker 1>gotten away from examining people so that we can make

0:42:04.200 --> 0:42:07.399
<v Speaker 1>a differential diagnosis means what could this be and what

0:42:07.440 --> 0:42:10.600
<v Speaker 1>more likely is this? People also start having joint pains

0:42:10.600 --> 0:42:13.279
<v Speaker 1>and so they're like, uncle Arthur is here right, So

0:42:13.320 --> 0:42:16.680
<v Speaker 1>they think they have our ritis, but it's actually inflammation

0:42:16.840 --> 0:42:21.440
<v Speaker 1>because the estrogen actually moisturizes our joints, helps moisturize that.

0:42:21.800 --> 0:42:24.320
<v Speaker 1>So you know, those are some of the symptoms besides

0:42:24.320 --> 0:42:28.600
<v Speaker 1>the hot slashes, vaginal dryness, mood swings. Mood swings are huge.

0:42:28.760 --> 0:42:31.239
<v Speaker 1>But we have to figure out is this depression, you know,

0:42:31.320 --> 0:42:34.040
<v Speaker 1>is it truly depression? Do you have a bipolar exacerbation

0:42:34.239 --> 0:42:38.200
<v Speaker 1>exacerbation or is this associated with perimenopause or menopause? So

0:42:38.239 --> 0:42:40.359
<v Speaker 1>those are so so okay.

0:42:41.160 --> 0:42:46.479
<v Speaker 2>So people going through perimenopause get like bipolar symptoms in hand.

0:42:46.800 --> 0:42:49.080
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I mean if you if you ask, like my

0:42:49.160 --> 0:42:50.799
<v Speaker 1>best friend call and she was like, I don't know

0:42:50.920 --> 0:42:52.680
<v Speaker 1>what's going on with my my mom, and a lot

0:42:52.719 --> 0:42:54.680
<v Speaker 1>of men I'll tell you this too. A lot of

0:42:54.680 --> 0:42:56.680
<v Speaker 1>men will tell you this too. They're like, man, I

0:42:56.680 --> 0:42:59.360
<v Speaker 1>don't know what's going on over but she seemed like

0:42:59.680 --> 0:43:02.760
<v Speaker 1>and then the other thing is as new as you mature,

0:43:02.800 --> 0:43:05.839
<v Speaker 1>you can also you know ad ad D. People can

0:43:06.000 --> 0:43:09.680
<v Speaker 1>get the you know, uh focused deficits. And you hear

0:43:09.680 --> 0:43:12.080
<v Speaker 1>me saying, because you get brain fog and you can't

0:43:12.120 --> 0:43:14.160
<v Speaker 1>figure out what word you're supposed to say. So then

0:43:14.200 --> 0:43:17.120
<v Speaker 1>some people are thinking they're going through Alzheimu's or yeah.

0:43:17.160 --> 0:43:19.480
<v Speaker 1>So yeah, I'd be feeling like that sometimes.

0:43:20.360 --> 0:43:22.640
<v Speaker 2>But like I said, but when we before we started recording,

0:43:22.680 --> 0:43:25.160
<v Speaker 2>like I had, I mentioned this last week too, I

0:43:25.200 --> 0:43:28.640
<v Speaker 2>had a physical done and I'm like super iron deficient.

0:43:28.920 --> 0:43:33.000
<v Speaker 2>But that can also cause like the brain fog. That's hardness.

0:43:33.560 --> 0:43:35.360
<v Speaker 2>So I never once thought I was going through the

0:43:35.440 --> 0:43:38.520
<v Speaker 2>change though, But I knew something was going on.

0:43:39.160 --> 0:43:41.960
<v Speaker 1>But remember, you are going through change constantly. Our bodies

0:43:41.960 --> 0:43:45.400
<v Speaker 1>are constantly changing, even on a blood change. Yeah, but

0:43:45.520 --> 0:43:48.480
<v Speaker 1>you are if I mean, if you're if you're in

0:43:48.520 --> 0:43:51.239
<v Speaker 1>your forties, you are going through the change. You just

0:43:51.280 --> 0:43:53.719
<v Speaker 1>haven't gotten to the big part of the change. You're

0:43:53.760 --> 0:43:57.040
<v Speaker 1>going through these small, minute, po portions of the change.

0:43:57.120 --> 0:43:58.440
<v Speaker 1>But yeah, you're going through the change.

0:43:58.960 --> 0:44:02.160
<v Speaker 2>So okay, can you can you like, as long as

0:44:02.200 --> 0:44:04.840
<v Speaker 2>you have your period, that means you're not in perimenopause

0:44:04.840 --> 0:44:06.040
<v Speaker 2>and you're not in menopause.

0:44:06.840 --> 0:44:09.080
<v Speaker 1>So as long as you have your period, so let

0:44:09.080 --> 0:44:11.879
<v Speaker 1>me put it this way, as long as you're continuing

0:44:11.920 --> 0:44:16.040
<v Speaker 1>to consistently have your period, then you are not in menopause,

0:44:16.640 --> 0:44:20.440
<v Speaker 1>but you can still be PERIMENOPAUSM. So the time prior

0:44:20.600 --> 0:44:24.520
<v Speaker 1>to you stopping your period for that twelve months is

0:44:24.560 --> 0:44:28.440
<v Speaker 1>called perimenopause. Now, one thing I want to say, because

0:44:28.600 --> 0:44:31.720
<v Speaker 1>some people will stop their periods for the twelve months

0:44:32.040 --> 0:44:35.400
<v Speaker 1>and then have a period that needs to be investigated

0:44:35.400 --> 0:44:40.440
<v Speaker 1>for endometrial cancer. Mm. Yeah, we have to investigate that.

0:44:40.680 --> 0:44:43.800
<v Speaker 1>So if you stop having your period going on, Yeah,

0:44:43.880 --> 0:44:46.040
<v Speaker 1>if you stop your period for twelve months and all

0:44:46.040 --> 0:44:49.560
<v Speaker 1>of a sudden you start having you know, bleeding, spotting

0:44:49.640 --> 0:44:52.040
<v Speaker 1>or anything like that. Then that needs to be evaluated

0:44:53.200 --> 0:44:55.720
<v Speaker 1>because it could be a form of cancer. It could

0:44:55.719 --> 0:44:58.239
<v Speaker 1>be and it could be you know that depending on

0:44:58.239 --> 0:45:01.120
<v Speaker 1>where you are, you can have significant stress that trigger something.

0:45:01.160 --> 0:45:03.879
<v Speaker 1>You have this quartisole response you're you know, and then

0:45:04.000 --> 0:45:06.920
<v Speaker 1>you unfortunately start having bleeding, especially in women in fibroids.

0:45:06.920 --> 0:45:09.320
<v Speaker 1>I've seen that happen to them where they have the fibroids,

0:45:09.360 --> 0:45:12.080
<v Speaker 1>and even though in menopause they should be shrinking, but

0:45:12.200 --> 0:45:15.799
<v Speaker 1>you're having some significant stressors going on and for some

0:45:15.880 --> 0:45:19.200
<v Speaker 1>reason you've triggered your hormonal milieu and it actually calls

0:45:19.239 --> 0:45:22.720
<v Speaker 1>you to bleed. But even in that instance, I still

0:45:23.600 --> 0:45:26.680
<v Speaker 1>make sure I'm ruling out intimutual cancer do women, because

0:45:26.719 --> 0:45:29.680
<v Speaker 1>I feel like black women get fibroids more than our

0:45:29.800 --> 0:45:33.919
<v Speaker 1>you know, counterparts. And does that affect like how quick

0:45:33.920 --> 0:45:38.240
<v Speaker 1>you go into perry in menopause when you have fibroids,

0:45:38.960 --> 0:45:42.399
<v Speaker 1>So fibroids doesn't affect that. However, your hormonal changes will

0:45:42.440 --> 0:45:45.480
<v Speaker 1>affect the fibroids. So that's why you see women having

0:45:45.840 --> 0:45:49.040
<v Speaker 1>you know, growth of the fibroids. That's why you also

0:45:49.120 --> 0:45:54.040
<v Speaker 1>see them having these heavy, unbearable periods associated with fibroids.

0:45:54.160 --> 0:45:58.319
<v Speaker 1>So that is all the fibroids are hormonally impacted. So

0:45:58.520 --> 0:46:00.160
<v Speaker 1>that's why you see some of the changes that are

0:46:00.200 --> 0:46:02.840
<v Speaker 1>going on. I wouldn't say that having fibroids puts you

0:46:02.920 --> 0:46:06.640
<v Speaker 1>into perimenopause faster. Remember that is very much based on

0:46:06.680 --> 0:46:10.959
<v Speaker 1>your brain hormones and your ovaries and that communication between both.

0:46:11.600 --> 0:46:14.320
<v Speaker 1>Why do you think that black women get fibroids more

0:46:14.640 --> 0:46:18.239
<v Speaker 1>than other people? Yeah? So, you know what, I'll be

0:46:18.280 --> 0:46:20.360
<v Speaker 1>honest with you. Part of that is the stressors that

0:46:20.400 --> 0:46:23.480
<v Speaker 1>we are taking on because you know, estrogen doesn't just

0:46:23.560 --> 0:46:27.640
<v Speaker 1>live in our ovaries, it lives in the adipost tissue

0:46:27.640 --> 0:46:32.160
<v Speaker 1>as well. Okay, Cortisol responses from stressors, what we're eating,

0:46:32.800 --> 0:46:35.560
<v Speaker 1>what our environments are, and then what our genetic history is.

0:46:36.600 --> 0:46:39.799
<v Speaker 1>Oh and for example, my family, they all have many

0:46:39.800 --> 0:46:42.640
<v Speaker 1>people in my family have had fibroids. I've never had fibroids.

0:46:42.680 --> 0:46:45.000
<v Speaker 1>I actually get my ultrasound done to make sure that

0:46:45.040 --> 0:46:48.600
<v Speaker 1>they check for fibroids. But I've also been on progesterone

0:46:48.640 --> 0:46:51.800
<v Speaker 1>for almost my entire life through my IUD. I also

0:46:51.960 --> 0:46:53.960
<v Speaker 1>like I said, practice the Viva Life five for my

0:46:54.120 --> 0:46:56.799
<v Speaker 1>entire almost my entire life, even before I named what

0:46:56.840 --> 0:47:00.680
<v Speaker 1>it was. That's what I do, and so minimize that stress,

0:47:00.760 --> 0:47:03.960
<v Speaker 1>making sure environmentally that I am, you know, not in

0:47:04.080 --> 0:47:08.560
<v Speaker 1>environments that could probably trigger the hormonal responses or growth

0:47:08.800 --> 0:47:10.879
<v Speaker 1>as well as what I'm eating. So food is your

0:47:10.880 --> 0:47:14.640
<v Speaker 1>medicine as well. Do you use sizing salt? Do you

0:47:14.719 --> 0:47:17.680
<v Speaker 1>use season of salt? Because I just cavery lawry is

0:47:17.719 --> 0:47:23.719
<v Speaker 1>what's giving us fibroids, y'all stop you. So do I

0:47:23.800 --> 0:47:26.279
<v Speaker 1>use season in salt sparingly? I would say yes, I

0:47:26.320 --> 0:47:28.759
<v Speaker 1>do loud. You know I grew up I'm flowers too,

0:47:28.960 --> 0:47:31.000
<v Speaker 1>but I use it very sparingly. So if you come

0:47:31.160 --> 0:47:33.000
<v Speaker 1>eat it at my house, you may feel like the

0:47:33.040 --> 0:47:34.759
<v Speaker 1>food might be a little bit more bland than you

0:47:34.880 --> 0:47:37.520
<v Speaker 1>used to. But that being said, you know, I don't

0:47:37.560 --> 0:47:41.279
<v Speaker 1>have hypertension, I don't have diabetes, I'm not overweight, and

0:47:41.480 --> 0:47:45.200
<v Speaker 1>I'm doing this intentionally. So it's really important to when

0:47:45.239 --> 0:47:48.200
<v Speaker 1>you're seasoning your food to make sure that we're minimizing

0:47:48.239 --> 0:47:51.560
<v Speaker 1>the sovium that's attached to it. I swear y'all over

0:47:51.600 --> 0:47:55.080
<v Speaker 1>the years, my mama's food is still good but it

0:47:55.120 --> 0:47:58.600
<v Speaker 1>tastes more like white people food because she don't use

0:47:58.640 --> 0:48:00.919
<v Speaker 1>salt like that no more. She don't well fry no more,

0:48:01.000 --> 0:48:03.000
<v Speaker 1>she don't. Everything is changing. But I mean, you know,

0:48:03.040 --> 0:48:06.880
<v Speaker 1>I'm adopting that a little bit. Okay, yeah, So, I

0:48:06.920 --> 0:48:09.759
<v Speaker 1>mean just taking out fried foods right will make such

0:48:09.800 --> 0:48:11.680
<v Speaker 1>a big difference. And what I tell people is if

0:48:11.680 --> 0:48:13.319
<v Speaker 1>you do it more than ninety percent of the time.

0:48:13.360 --> 0:48:15.719
<v Speaker 1>My colleague says eighty percent of the time. But if

0:48:15.760 --> 0:48:19.279
<v Speaker 1>you eat, you know, on that clean eating more than

0:48:19.440 --> 0:48:21.399
<v Speaker 1>ninety percent of the time or even eighty five percent

0:48:21.440 --> 0:48:23.600
<v Speaker 1>of the time, you're going to be so much better

0:48:23.640 --> 0:48:28.200
<v Speaker 1>off than most people in America. Agent five. Yeah, what

0:48:28.320 --> 0:48:32.200
<v Speaker 1>is Viva life five? You've meant life now, So v

0:48:32.239 --> 0:48:35.400
<v Speaker 1>class stamps for live. Viva means live life. And what

0:48:35.440 --> 0:48:38.000
<v Speaker 1>we're trying to do is help people live their healthiest

0:48:38.280 --> 0:48:44.520
<v Speaker 1>and wealthiest life spiritually. Spiritually exactlycates from women getting money. Okay,

0:48:44.600 --> 0:48:47.640
<v Speaker 1>oh yeah, say we leave no bags on the table, okay,

0:48:50.760 --> 0:48:55.160
<v Speaker 1>So spiritually, physically, financially, mentally, and emotionally, and essentially what

0:48:55.280 --> 0:48:58.640
<v Speaker 1>this entails is you get myself and my fellow consultants

0:48:58.960 --> 0:49:03.359
<v Speaker 1>to help you through webinars podcasts, affirmation rooms. So that's

0:49:03.360 --> 0:49:09.400
<v Speaker 1>the mindfulness pa, journaling, meditating and incorporating that exercise, hormone nutrition,

0:49:09.600 --> 0:49:12.000
<v Speaker 1>and making sure that you sleep. So it's a community

0:49:12.040 --> 0:49:14.640
<v Speaker 1>that we've created in order for you to do five

0:49:14.719 --> 0:49:20.840
<v Speaker 1>things pretty much every day and eat those five foods fruits, vegetables, nuts, grains, things,

0:49:20.920 --> 0:49:23.920
<v Speaker 1>drinking our water. And if you eat meat, make sure

0:49:23.920 --> 0:49:27.160
<v Speaker 1>it's clean and high quality. Do you eat meat? I

0:49:27.200 --> 0:49:28.920
<v Speaker 1>do eat meat. I make sure I try to make

0:49:28.920 --> 0:49:30.920
<v Speaker 1>sure it's clean, the high quality. Now that might be

0:49:31.000 --> 0:49:34.120
<v Speaker 1>the ten percent that I'm not doing correct all the time,

0:49:34.600 --> 0:49:37.000
<v Speaker 1>but yeah, I try to make sure that we're eating

0:49:37.080 --> 0:49:39.120
<v Speaker 1>high quality or minimizing it. You know what I'm saying.

0:49:39.160 --> 0:49:41.040
<v Speaker 1>I don't eat meat every single day. Do you eat

0:49:41.080 --> 0:49:43.799
<v Speaker 1>pork at all? I do. I went through the whole

0:49:43.800 --> 0:49:47.120
<v Speaker 1>phase of not eating pork at all, and I did.

0:49:47.280 --> 0:49:49.640
<v Speaker 1>I went through the whole you know, like it was.

0:49:49.800 --> 0:49:51.560
<v Speaker 1>It was funny, it was. I went to I went

0:49:51.600 --> 0:49:54.240
<v Speaker 1>to college, right, I went to Xavier University in New Orleans, Bblisiana.

0:49:54.280 --> 0:49:56.920
<v Speaker 1>I went to HBCU and I was like, I'm not

0:49:57.320 --> 0:49:58.239
<v Speaker 1>I'm not gonna eat meat.

0:49:58.840 --> 0:50:00.640
<v Speaker 2>And I got there and I had no money. So

0:50:00.640 --> 0:50:02.719
<v Speaker 2>you had to eat a cafeteria and guess what they

0:50:02.800 --> 0:50:05.680
<v Speaker 2>put out every Friday. Pork chop bacon.

0:50:09.880 --> 0:50:12.600
<v Speaker 1>You're like, all you can eat bacon. I was like, yeah,

0:50:13.040 --> 0:50:15.879
<v Speaker 1>some of that. Listen. Every time I meet someone over

0:50:15.920 --> 0:50:18.359
<v Speaker 1>one hundred, I asked them do they eat port? And

0:50:18.400 --> 0:50:21.120
<v Speaker 1>they say yes. I ain't meant a person yet over

0:50:21.120 --> 0:50:23.040
<v Speaker 1>one hundred that said they don't eat no port.

0:50:23.760 --> 0:50:26.080
<v Speaker 2>It's not about the pork though, Like the food just

0:50:26.239 --> 0:50:29.920
<v Speaker 2>isn't what it used to be when they were our age, right.

0:50:29.600 --> 0:50:31.880
<v Speaker 1>So that's just like I don't eat a lot of things.

0:50:32.080 --> 0:50:33.440
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, it's just not the same.

0:50:34.040 --> 0:50:35.480
<v Speaker 1>I don't eat a lot of pork. If I do

0:50:35.600 --> 0:50:39.160
<v Speaker 1>eat any I eat fish, I eat beef, high quality beef.

0:50:39.480 --> 0:50:41.239
<v Speaker 1>And then if I eat pork, if I be a

0:50:41.320 --> 0:50:45.480
<v Speaker 1>pork chop. Right, So, but it's not fried and all

0:50:45.520 --> 0:50:49.160
<v Speaker 1>that other stuff. But I have everything in moderation and

0:50:49.239 --> 0:50:52.120
<v Speaker 1>choose where you're gonna be. Another big thing is alcohol.

0:50:52.239 --> 0:50:56.279
<v Speaker 1>So minimizing your alcohol is very important through perimenopause and menopause.

0:50:57.160 --> 0:50:59.080
<v Speaker 1>You know, people say one or two drinks a day,

0:50:59.239 --> 0:51:01.319
<v Speaker 1>and I'm like that seems like a lot, But I

0:51:01.320 --> 0:51:03.480
<v Speaker 1>would say minimize it to like one or two drinks

0:51:03.520 --> 0:51:06.120
<v Speaker 1>a week would be better. And if you're noticing that

0:51:06.160 --> 0:51:09.160
<v Speaker 1>you're needing to drink every single day, then we'll probably

0:51:09.239 --> 0:51:11.600
<v Speaker 1>need to talk about whether or not there's some alcoholism

0:51:11.880 --> 0:51:14.319
<v Speaker 1>tendencies that are going on in your life. But that

0:51:14.400 --> 0:51:17.319
<v Speaker 1>will alcohol will exacerbate all the symptoms for a lot

0:51:17.360 --> 0:51:20.440
<v Speaker 1>of people. As I get older, I find that I

0:51:20.520 --> 0:51:22.760
<v Speaker 1>used to have fun, a lot of fun with alcohol,

0:51:22.920 --> 0:51:25.239
<v Speaker 1>but as I get older, I just feel like it

0:51:25.360 --> 0:51:29.200
<v Speaker 1>makes me sick. I don't feel good anymore when I

0:51:29.280 --> 0:51:32.320
<v Speaker 1>drink it. I don't. It takes me like three days

0:51:32.360 --> 0:51:35.080
<v Speaker 1>to get better after just having two or three drinks.

0:51:35.160 --> 0:51:37.720
<v Speaker 1>So does that have something to do with our bodies

0:51:37.800 --> 0:51:42.960
<v Speaker 1>changing too, like I can't liquor the same? Yep, absolutely absolutely.

0:51:43.160 --> 0:51:44.640
<v Speaker 1>And then the thing is, you know, a little bit

0:51:44.640 --> 0:51:47.320
<v Speaker 1>of red wine is okay, right, not the whole bottle

0:51:47.440 --> 0:51:49.640
<v Speaker 1>and not the glass that fills up with the whole bottle.

0:51:50.160 --> 0:51:53.800
<v Speaker 2>Yea, the one pass one glass.

0:51:53.440 --> 0:51:56.319
<v Speaker 1>Is a whole bottle. No, we're not doing that, but

0:51:56.400 --> 0:51:58.480
<v Speaker 1>a little bit of red wine. And you know, I

0:51:59.200 --> 0:52:02.640
<v Speaker 1>like whiskey, so I might have Sir Davis a couple

0:52:02.680 --> 0:52:05.080
<v Speaker 1>of times in the month, and you know that's what

0:52:05.120 --> 0:52:08.359
<v Speaker 1>I do. I understand what my ninety percent is and

0:52:09.000 --> 0:52:11.800
<v Speaker 1>understanding that. I also understand little things in my body

0:52:11.800 --> 0:52:13.840
<v Speaker 1>that tells me, you know what you're getting out of

0:52:13.960 --> 0:52:17.120
<v Speaker 1>You're getting out of parameters. So if my if my legs,

0:52:17.160 --> 0:52:19.279
<v Speaker 1>my thighs start like touching each other a little bit,

0:52:19.320 --> 0:52:23.840
<v Speaker 1>I'm like, I'm out of parameters, so i run out live.

0:52:25.680 --> 0:52:29.560
<v Speaker 1>My guys have never not touched like I've touched it.

0:52:29.600 --> 0:52:31.880
<v Speaker 1>I might just see you know well you and you

0:52:32.040 --> 0:52:33.719
<v Speaker 1>just got to know. I can tell when I gain

0:52:33.800 --> 0:52:35.880
<v Speaker 1>five PM, like I know when i'm I know my

0:52:36.040 --> 0:52:39.479
<v Speaker 1>exact weight because I understand my body and like you said,

0:52:39.520 --> 0:52:41.400
<v Speaker 1>you travel a lot, so we retain a lot of

0:52:41.440 --> 0:52:44.680
<v Speaker 1>water and there's some retention there, right, so it takes

0:52:44.680 --> 0:52:47.200
<v Speaker 1>a good forty five days to get that water just

0:52:47.239 --> 0:52:49.600
<v Speaker 1>to get that water weight off, and you have to

0:52:49.640 --> 0:52:53.000
<v Speaker 1>be very intentional about that, so you know, hydrating sometimes

0:52:53.040 --> 0:52:56.000
<v Speaker 1>a little apple sided vinegar. Sometimes I'll do a little

0:52:56.000 --> 0:52:58.759
<v Speaker 1>bit of castoil, olive oil. You know, just to make

0:52:58.760 --> 0:53:02.200
<v Speaker 1>sure that I'm keeping my gud clean healthy is really important,

0:53:02.400 --> 0:53:05.560
<v Speaker 1>So I do, heir, and I what made me bring

0:53:05.600 --> 0:53:08.440
<v Speaker 1>this conversation too, like want to have this conversation is

0:53:09.000 --> 0:53:11.520
<v Speaker 1>so my clients are aging with me, and a lot

0:53:11.560 --> 0:53:14.640
<v Speaker 1>of them are in their late thirties, early forties to fifties.

0:53:14.680 --> 0:53:17.520
<v Speaker 1>I don't have that many twenty somethings anymore. I have some,

0:53:17.719 --> 0:53:20.680
<v Speaker 1>but not that many. And I kept hearing the conversation

0:53:20.800 --> 0:53:24.320
<v Speaker 1>about perimenopause perimenopause, and I had one of my clients

0:53:24.360 --> 0:53:28.000
<v Speaker 1>particularly say that she was concerned because her vagina is

0:53:28.080 --> 0:53:30.560
<v Speaker 1>dry now. She's like, I don't know, Like I used

0:53:30.600 --> 0:53:32.719
<v Speaker 1>to be pouring a glass of water out of me,

0:53:32.840 --> 0:53:36.520
<v Speaker 1>and now it's like a Sahara desert, like it's tumbleweed's

0:53:36.600 --> 0:53:38.719
<v Speaker 1>rolling by when I pulled my kuchie out. Is there

0:53:38.800 --> 0:53:43.880
<v Speaker 1>something that people could write? Is it wild wild watts?

0:53:44.760 --> 0:53:49.360
<v Speaker 1>Is there something because women can do or eat? She's like,

0:53:49.360 --> 0:53:52.800
<v Speaker 1>I'm drinking water, I drink hell of water. I'm eating fruit.

0:53:53.239 --> 0:53:55.640
<v Speaker 1>Is there something that we could do or something that

0:53:55.680 --> 0:53:58.319
<v Speaker 1>women can take to make sure that their vagina they

0:53:58.400 --> 0:54:01.080
<v Speaker 1>keep it their wetness as long as possible when they're

0:54:01.120 --> 0:54:06.360
<v Speaker 1>going through these changes. Yeah, so I will say always

0:54:06.360 --> 0:54:08.960
<v Speaker 1>green leafy vegetables are very important, right, So making sure

0:54:08.960 --> 0:54:12.480
<v Speaker 1>that you're keeping your vitamin D, your iron levels up

0:54:12.719 --> 0:54:14.839
<v Speaker 1>as well as they're going to have what we call

0:54:14.880 --> 0:54:18.919
<v Speaker 1>adaptogens and nutrients that are going to help you keep

0:54:18.920 --> 0:54:22.439
<v Speaker 1>that collagen sometimes some vital estrogens and things like that.

0:54:22.640 --> 0:54:26.839
<v Speaker 1>But then also she can utilize basic things some olive oil,

0:54:26.840 --> 0:54:28.719
<v Speaker 1>a little bit of olive oil, daba olive oil or

0:54:28.760 --> 0:54:31.520
<v Speaker 1>coconut oil in the area and the vaginal area could

0:54:31.520 --> 0:54:35.000
<v Speaker 1>be very helpful. There's also products that kind of like

0:54:35.160 --> 0:54:38.560
<v Speaker 1>there's a product call raplens, but essentially that is a

0:54:38.640 --> 0:54:41.120
<v Speaker 1>lubricant she can use. But I'll be honest with you,

0:54:41.560 --> 0:54:44.520
<v Speaker 1>estrogen based products are like the best thing that you

0:54:44.560 --> 0:54:48.319
<v Speaker 1>can use. If you're okay with using estrogen, place it

0:54:48.400 --> 0:54:51.799
<v Speaker 1>in your vagina, small amount in your vagina a couple

0:54:51.880 --> 0:54:54.800
<v Speaker 1>times a week, and it will help you significantly. Important

0:54:54.800 --> 0:54:58.799
<v Speaker 1>thing though, if you're finding that you're using estrogen, especially

0:54:58.880 --> 0:55:01.040
<v Speaker 1>you're taking it by mouth or you have it on

0:55:01.080 --> 0:55:03.720
<v Speaker 1>a patch, or you're even using it in your vagina

0:55:03.800 --> 0:55:06.320
<v Speaker 1>like every single day, then we need to talk about

0:55:06.360 --> 0:55:08.960
<v Speaker 1>if you still have a uterus using the progesterone as well,

0:55:09.160 --> 0:55:11.560
<v Speaker 1>because we want to protect against that individual cancer that

0:55:11.600 --> 0:55:15.480
<v Speaker 1>we talked about. Mm. Yeah, I started taking Maca. You

0:55:15.480 --> 0:55:20.320
<v Speaker 1>take maca? Yes? Good? Yeah? Oh absolutely helps with the libido. Yes, ma'am. Yes,

0:55:20.440 --> 0:55:23.600
<v Speaker 1>Ostragonda maca what people, let's.

0:55:23.400 --> 0:55:29.040
<v Speaker 2>Go, it's like a like a Peruvian like root. Is

0:55:29.080 --> 0:55:33.640
<v Speaker 2>a plant like ginger like root. Yeah, but it comes

0:55:33.640 --> 0:55:35.319
<v Speaker 2>and it tast really good too. It tastes like a

0:55:36.120 --> 0:55:37.680
<v Speaker 2>like a like a nut. So if you put it

0:55:37.719 --> 0:55:40.480
<v Speaker 2>like in a in a smoothie or something like that,

0:55:40.520 --> 0:55:43.600
<v Speaker 2>it has like a peanut buttery flavor. It's real good.

0:55:44.160 --> 0:55:47.120
<v Speaker 1>Yeah. And then so I remember when I was having,

0:55:47.239 --> 0:55:49.359
<v Speaker 1>you know, being at work and everything all the time,

0:55:49.400 --> 0:55:52.040
<v Speaker 1>when I was breastfeeding my child. Finnagreek was another one.

0:55:52.280 --> 0:55:56.399
<v Speaker 1>And finnagreek is another plant based supplement that you can

0:55:56.480 --> 0:55:59.359
<v Speaker 1>use to help you moisturize, right, and it helps you

0:55:59.520 --> 0:56:03.279
<v Speaker 1>produce milk, so that that's another type of thing that

0:56:03.360 --> 0:56:06.520
<v Speaker 1>milk fits sole finigreed though, So though, there's if you

0:56:06.719 --> 0:56:10.680
<v Speaker 1>work with an integrated specialist or a natural path they'll

0:56:10.719 --> 0:56:13.480
<v Speaker 1>be able to give you more options in regards to

0:56:13.800 --> 0:56:17.680
<v Speaker 1>more plant based therapies rather than just you know, estrogen

0:56:17.800 --> 0:56:18.920
<v Speaker 1>is the only thing you can use.

0:56:18.960 --> 0:56:21.960
<v Speaker 2>In your organization. Is that what you push towards more

0:56:22.000 --> 0:56:25.000
<v Speaker 2>the holistic you know, because in the medical industry they

0:56:25.000 --> 0:56:28.640
<v Speaker 2>want to push medicine. It's pharmacia Okay, that's the real,

0:56:28.800 --> 0:56:32.359
<v Speaker 2>real witchcraft as far as I'm concerned. Right, So they

0:56:32.400 --> 0:56:37.400
<v Speaker 2>push more you know, pharmaceutical medication as opposed to the organic.

0:56:37.480 --> 0:56:39.560
<v Speaker 2>There's really not a lot of doctors out there that

0:56:40.080 --> 0:56:42.000
<v Speaker 2>you know. I was just at the doctor recently and

0:56:42.040 --> 0:56:43.960
<v Speaker 2>I told her I do black seed oil for my

0:56:43.960 --> 0:56:48.879
<v Speaker 2>blood pressure, and you know, she immediately went into, well,

0:56:48.920 --> 0:56:51.279
<v Speaker 2>you know, the studies and all this other you know,

0:56:51.520 --> 0:56:58.000
<v Speaker 2>trying to deter you from doing more alternatives. So that

0:56:58.320 --> 0:57:00.640
<v Speaker 2>is that what you lean more towards as opposed to

0:57:00.680 --> 0:57:01.920
<v Speaker 2>like traditional medicine.

0:57:02.320 --> 0:57:05.799
<v Speaker 1>Right, So I'm about all of it, right. I try

0:57:05.800 --> 0:57:08.759
<v Speaker 1>to make sure that people know their options, whether they

0:57:08.840 --> 0:57:12.840
<v Speaker 1>are non pharmaceutical or pharmaceutical. But I also try to

0:57:12.840 --> 0:57:15.160
<v Speaker 1>make sure that people understand the risk benefits of each

0:57:15.719 --> 0:57:17.959
<v Speaker 1>because if we're talking about it, you know, many things

0:57:18.000 --> 0:57:21.400
<v Speaker 1>are plant based, even if they are FDA approved or

0:57:21.480 --> 0:57:24.000
<v Speaker 1>through the pharmacy, many hands are plant based. If you're

0:57:24.000 --> 0:57:27.120
<v Speaker 1>compounding something then cassable. At a lot of times you're

0:57:27.200 --> 0:57:29.440
<v Speaker 1>using some type of plant plant based. So I think

0:57:29.440 --> 0:57:31.640
<v Speaker 1>it's really important, and I'll be honest with you. In

0:57:31.760 --> 0:57:38.000
<v Speaker 1>traditional medicine, they don't teach this portion of supplements plant

0:57:38.000 --> 0:57:41.920
<v Speaker 1>based medications or therapies, So which had come in that

0:57:42.080 --> 0:57:45.600
<v Speaker 1>y'all the real year. So that's why it's important. Like

0:57:45.640 --> 0:57:47.960
<v Speaker 1>I was saying, you know, look behind the name and say,

0:57:47.960 --> 0:57:50.240
<v Speaker 1>are you a functional medicine physician? Have you gotten your

0:57:50.320 --> 0:57:54.320
<v Speaker 1>naturopathic training, whether it's a certification or your actual natural

0:57:54.400 --> 0:57:58.040
<v Speaker 1>pactic doctor? And how do you put both of those

0:57:58.040 --> 0:58:01.960
<v Speaker 1>things together? What are my alternatives besides using what I

0:58:01.960 --> 0:58:04.920
<v Speaker 1>can get from former pharmacy. So give me non pharmacy

0:58:05.000 --> 0:58:08.800
<v Speaker 1>and pharmacy associated therapies that can be useful for me.

0:58:08.880 --> 0:58:12.080
<v Speaker 1>I believe in acupuncture, chiropractic work, like I've done all

0:58:12.080 --> 0:58:14.800
<v Speaker 1>these things, so I absolutely know that I don't have

0:58:14.880 --> 0:58:17.200
<v Speaker 1>to be in pain. Excuse me, I don't have to

0:58:17.240 --> 0:58:21.000
<v Speaker 1>take pain medications to resolve my pain. There's other options

0:58:21.040 --> 0:58:24.280
<v Speaker 1>for it as well. The pain, not my pain, the.

0:58:24.960 --> 0:58:29.280
<v Speaker 2>Pain, So let's not take that in our Let's not

0:58:29.320 --> 0:58:30.920
<v Speaker 2>take that in our bodies, right right.

0:58:31.360 --> 0:58:36.280
<v Speaker 1>So I feel like I've always had a healthy sexual appetite,

0:58:36.320 --> 0:58:39.080
<v Speaker 1>but it feels like since I turned forty, Like, man,

0:58:39.160 --> 0:58:41.520
<v Speaker 1>I'm like, who's calling my phone? Who's calling my phone?

0:58:41.520 --> 0:58:42.200
<v Speaker 2>Like I wake it up?

0:58:42.200 --> 0:58:45.120
<v Speaker 1>I'm like horny, Like all the time is that like

0:58:45.600 --> 0:58:48.640
<v Speaker 1>something that happens before Parry. Is that like normal or

0:58:48.720 --> 0:58:52.320
<v Speaker 1>is it? It is? So? I remember I told you

0:58:52.320 --> 0:58:55.400
<v Speaker 1>in perimenopause, your hormones are doing this right, so you're

0:58:55.400 --> 0:58:57.400
<v Speaker 1>going through this wax and way, so you're really feeling

0:58:57.480 --> 0:59:00.440
<v Speaker 1>so And also I told you perimenopause and many is

0:59:00.480 --> 0:59:03.680
<v Speaker 1>just like puberty, and what happened in puberty You found yourself.

0:59:03.720 --> 0:59:06.880
<v Speaker 1>You found all of that hotness. So that's one of

0:59:06.920 --> 0:59:10.520
<v Speaker 1>the things that you can actually experience. And that's why

0:59:10.560 --> 0:59:12.920
<v Speaker 1>you gotta be careful taking certain things like maca. Right,

0:59:14.280 --> 0:59:17.480
<v Speaker 1>you take maca, you go, you might elevate or take

0:59:17.480 --> 0:59:22.040
<v Speaker 1>it like it helps men's libido. Jim, Yeah, absolutely, So

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<v Speaker 1>I'm going through I shouldn't take no moca right now

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<v Speaker 1>because I might just have to be chandelier if I

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<v Speaker 1>take some of that shit. I feel like, yeah, you

0:59:30.600 --> 0:59:32.200
<v Speaker 1>have to be careful. You have to be careful about it.

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<v Speaker 1>And so that's why having that personal line conversation and say, Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>what symptoms are you experiencing and what do what do

0:59:38.480 --> 0:59:41.680
<v Speaker 1>you want to temper or what do you want to improve?

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<v Speaker 1>I think the biggest thing about you know, anything that

0:59:45.560 --> 0:59:48.280
<v Speaker 1>you decide to take you should be taking it because

0:59:48.560 --> 0:59:52.080
<v Speaker 1>it's supplementing what is going on in your body. So,

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<v Speaker 1>like you said, you might not need maca root, but

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<v Speaker 1>you might need something to help you with stress or

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<v Speaker 1>calm me down. So you know that's something, and that's

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<v Speaker 1>a different opportunity for you. I will say, somebody asked me,

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<v Speaker 1>do I have to take hormone replacement therapy estrogen replacement

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<v Speaker 1>therapy progesterone if you still be uterus? And I will

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<v Speaker 1>say that the number one killer of women, especially black

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<v Speaker 1>women's cardiovascular disease point blank, hypertension, stroke, arrhythmius. Right, And

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<v Speaker 1>so what has been found is that the estrogen the

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<v Speaker 1>replacement is reducing the cardiovascular disease. Now, you got to

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<v Speaker 1>do all the other things too. So if you so

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<v Speaker 1>choose not to take the replacement, then you got you

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<v Speaker 1>really got to do all the other things when we

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<v Speaker 1>talk about the stress reduction, the exercise, the nutrition, and

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<v Speaker 1>the sleeps, and we really need to get our sleep, ladies.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, there is nothing wrong with sleeping.

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<v Speaker 2>I love down. Okay, I keep staying making T shirts

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<v Speaker 2>that say that I love to Later, I get my sleep.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know if it's always RESTful, though, yes, I

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<v Speaker 2>do have hot flashes at night. Sometimes I'd be hot

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<v Speaker 2>as hell at night.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, and so those are the hormonal change wets talking about.

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<v Speaker 1>But back to your question about the sex. If you're

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<v Speaker 1>feeling hot and horny, I think it's okay. I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>I will say when I was in my early forty

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<v Speaker 1>that was the best time of my life. Baby. I

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<v Speaker 1>was like this, I've been I've been missing this. I

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<v Speaker 1>didn't you know I was. I was away from my husband,

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<v Speaker 1>I was deployed when I was pregnant with my child,

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<v Speaker 1>so I didn't get like that, like pregnancy sex that

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<v Speaker 1>everybody was talking about. I didn't get all of that.

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<v Speaker 1>But Babe, when I turned forty, it was on the topic.

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<v Speaker 1>It's crazy. It feels like I'm crazy right now. It's great,

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<v Speaker 1>it's wonderful. And bursic got me going so crazy right now.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, that I definitely be horny. Man, I don't want

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<v Speaker 2>it to stop, though.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't, so that's why we have no time.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't wanted to stop.

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<v Speaker 1>Not okay, That's why we're having this conversation so that

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<v Speaker 1>we can prevent it from stopping.

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<v Speaker 2>My doctor asked me the other day if I still

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<v Speaker 2>get a period, I'm like, yes, the fuck I dude,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm happy about it. I need to see my shit

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<v Speaker 2>every month.

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<v Speaker 1>And it's really important to track yourself, right. People used

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<v Speaker 1>to track their periods so they can see whether or

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<v Speaker 1>not they could get pregnant. Are they pregnant, that whole thing.

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<v Speaker 1>But it's still important to track your cycle as you're

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<v Speaker 1>going through this. And it's not just tracking the period,

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<v Speaker 1>is tracking the symptoms associated with the cycles. So remember

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<v Speaker 1>your cycle is every twenty one to thirty days. That's

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<v Speaker 1>a cycle. The period is just the mysteration. That's just

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<v Speaker 1>a certain part. But you know you're going to feel

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<v Speaker 1>you know, more loving and accepting at some part in

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<v Speaker 1>your cycle, and other times you'd be like, get off

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<v Speaker 1>of me, you know, I don't want to be bothered.

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<v Speaker 1>So it's really important to understand that and see how

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<v Speaker 1>many times you are feeling that through the day, because

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<v Speaker 1>then you can start tracking your perimenopausal symptoms into menopause.

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<v Speaker 1>What conversation should mothers and daughters be having about menopause

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<v Speaker 1>that most of us aren't all of this because you

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<v Speaker 1>know your children are going to experience your menopause, probably

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<v Speaker 1>they're going to notice something that's changing faster than you

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<v Speaker 1>notice the change in yourself. So having these conversations with

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<v Speaker 1>your boys and girls or however they identify, and making

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<v Speaker 1>sure that you're having these conversations to say, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>this is the menstrual cycle, this is menc's, this is

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<v Speaker 1>what happens when you're in your twenties to thirties. Is

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<v Speaker 1>what happens in your thirties and forties, forties and fifties beyond.

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<v Speaker 1>But in order to have those conversations, we need to

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<v Speaker 1>be educated about those conversations, which is why I love

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<v Speaker 1>coming on podcasts. This is why I love having corporate sessions.

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<v Speaker 1>So we provide six corporate sessions to corporations organizations to

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<v Speaker 1>improve women health in their organization, and then we do

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<v Speaker 1>the individual discussions as well.

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<v Speaker 2>So you're so ko koe, right, consult it's not just

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<v Speaker 2>for corporations. Individuals can also.

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<v Speaker 1>Right, So the corporations. So that's why we created Viva

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<v Speaker 1>Life SPF ME, which is the program that's more like

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<v Speaker 1>having the group conversation individually based, and that's where you'll

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<v Speaker 1>get the podcast, the webinars and the coaching sessions, right.

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<v Speaker 1>But the corporate sessions are when we go in we

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<v Speaker 1>try to improve health inequities for different healthcare plans as

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<v Speaker 1>well as if we're like if I'm at Boeing or

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<v Speaker 1>something or another corporation, then we're working with the women

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<v Speaker 1>on the top five diseases that are happening. We're educating

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<v Speaker 1>them so that they have a health plan. Well, what

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<v Speaker 1>do I talk to my physician or practitioner about so

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<v Speaker 1>that I can actually get the benefit out of this

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<v Speaker 1>healthcare plan instead of just like paying this, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>one hundred to one thousand dollars two thousand dollars a month.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah and yees. Right now is like open enrollment, and

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<v Speaker 2>I cannot stand it. I don't know what the hell

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<v Speaker 2>is going on half the time.

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<v Speaker 1>I know it's hard to figure it out. It's hard

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<v Speaker 1>to figure it out to do those comparisons. But you

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<v Speaker 1>know what go on chat GPT put in your information

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<v Speaker 1>and say what health care plan is best for me? Yeah?

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<v Speaker 1>And you know this is so off topic.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't be fucking with CHATGBT like that because I

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<v Speaker 2>feel like it starts like then tracking you, because it's

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<v Speaker 2>some stuff in there that I'm like, why are you

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<v Speaker 2>suggesting this to me? This has nothing to do with

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<v Speaker 2>what I just asked you about. So they have all

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<v Speaker 2>your conversations and they know you now they.

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<v Speaker 1>Do, so there's a way for you to turn off.

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<v Speaker 1>There's a way to turn off the learning piece that

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<v Speaker 1>they can't get those conversations out into like everybody's else's

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<v Speaker 1>learning piece. Right. But there's a great person her name

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<v Speaker 1>is Alicia Little. She teaches AI and she will give

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<v Speaker 1>you all the tips, tricks and the tools for it.

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<v Speaker 1>But I wouldn't be afraid of it. I mean, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm prior military, right, I retired from the military, babe

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<v Speaker 1>chat GBT and got nothing on what the henilitary has

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<v Speaker 1>already been doing already know. So it's it's just one

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<v Speaker 1>of those things. It has been out for thirty years. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>So it's just one of those things like either you

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<v Speaker 1>get ahead of it or it gets ahead of you.

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<v Speaker 1>Either you are the food or you become the farmer.

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<v Speaker 1>So just decide where you want to be with.

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<v Speaker 2>That, I understand. Yep.

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<v Speaker 1>All right, is there anything that you want to tell

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<v Speaker 1>our listeners that they need to know about Perry? That

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<v Speaker 1>there is imperative that they understand about Perry mendoopause and

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<v Speaker 1>menopause before you go. Absolutely, so, Perry menopause. Menopause, it's

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<v Speaker 1>going to happen, so don't be afraid of it happening.

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<v Speaker 1>Be educated, understand it. Track your cycles, track your mencies,

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<v Speaker 1>track your symptoms. Talk to your family. We should know

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<v Speaker 1>our family histories and if you're adopted, you know, try

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<v Speaker 1>to figure out genetically what's going on. But have these conversations.

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<v Speaker 1>Do not be afraid of the change, and reach out

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<v Speaker 1>to your subject matter experts that you know, that's what

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<v Speaker 1>we do. We trained in this, and those subject matter

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<v Speaker 1>experts don't have to be you know, older. Everybody you

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<v Speaker 1>know older doesn't know. Everybody that says O, B G,

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<v Speaker 1>I N actually doesn't know. But make sure you find

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<v Speaker 1>out those resources that you can really get that that

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<v Speaker 1>conversation that is specific towards you. Do not be afraid

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<v Speaker 1>of this. It can be the best time of your

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<v Speaker 1>life as well and period.

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<v Speaker 2>Basically, reach out to Koe Medical Consulting.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, thank you, so yeah doctor Kelly om D D

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<v Speaker 1>r K E L L y O m D dot com.

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<v Speaker 1>If you want to join Viva Life or get some

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<v Speaker 1>consulting services. I'm definitely going to reach out. I want

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<v Speaker 1>to do and I need to change how I'm living

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<v Speaker 1>because I love it. I eat bacon, A piece of bacon.

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<v Speaker 1>Hate to see me coming. I threw it. Now, well,

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<v Speaker 1>I definitely need to make some lifestyle changes, all right,

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<v Speaker 1>So we have a segment called the Dumb Bitch Story.

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<v Speaker 1>I told you a little bit about it. So we're

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<v Speaker 1>gonna have a break, and when we come back, I

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<v Speaker 1>want you to share a story with us. All right, guys,

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<v Speaker 1>we are back, and doctor Kelly has her story. Go ahead, alrighty,

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<v Speaker 1>So when you first told me this, I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, I ain't never been a right, right no virgo.

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<v Speaker 1>I almost got to ask that, what's your son? I'm

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<v Speaker 1>a virgo born on set. Some reports the damn story

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<v Speaker 1>tell a lie? Are you pimp in your whole life?

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<v Speaker 1>Virgoals are? I was like, yeah, never got played a virgo.

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<v Speaker 2>They somebody kind of twisted to its always in their favor.

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<v Speaker 1>Even though I was on the phone, you was crying

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<v Speaker 1>about it. But okay, two years lady, like didn't happen.

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<v Speaker 2>You got it? Go ahead, Brighton and I at that

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<v Speaker 2>a September the fourth Urgo as well.

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<v Speaker 1>So that's a whole other level. But my story is

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<v Speaker 1>I remember when I was in college, right and I

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<v Speaker 1>didn't have a car, I didn't have no money, whatever

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<v Speaker 1>the case may be. And this guy said, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>I want to take you out. But I wasn't the

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<v Speaker 1>type of person that was giving out nothing. Okay, so

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<v Speaker 1>you wasn't. You weren't getting anything if you weren't in

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<v Speaker 1>a long term relationship with me and he we had

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<v Speaker 1>set up to have go on a date and I'm excited,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm dressed, ready, the whole thing. I'm looking out the window,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, wait for him to call to say he

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<v Speaker 1>was downstairs so I can come out my dorm room.

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<v Speaker 1>And the call never came, and I was like, what

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<v Speaker 1>just happened? And so maybe a thirty six hours later,

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<v Speaker 1>I get a phone call like, oh hey, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, some things came up. And I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, is your mom said right just passed away?

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<v Speaker 1>Did you get in a car accident? And he was

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<v Speaker 1>like no, noa NOA. I was like okay, and he's like,

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<v Speaker 1>so when you want me to pick you up? I

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<v Speaker 1>was like never click. So that was my that was

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<v Speaker 1>my story. And I got stood up for a date

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<v Speaker 1>and that never happened again. I just needed to make

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<v Speaker 1>sure that you know, he wasn't dead somewhere, his mama

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<v Speaker 1>didn't die, because if he told me that, I might

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<v Speaker 1>have you know my name. So you never ever got

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<v Speaker 1>you never even found out why he missed the date.

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<v Speaker 1>You ain't care why virgos, These virgos boys.

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<v Speaker 2>It's not a dumb bitch story.

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<v Speaker 1>Now. If you would have said, day, yeah, he called again.

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<v Speaker 2>Three weeks and three more weeks later then and I'm

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<v Speaker 2>going out with him again, then that's dumb bitch. That

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<v Speaker 2>was the dumbest I've ever been. But you know I

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<v Speaker 2>will I will tell you why. No, I'll tell you why.

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<v Speaker 2>I'll tell you why.

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<v Speaker 1>It's because I grew up with you know, my brothers,

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<v Speaker 1>my god brothers. They I used to listen to my

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<v Speaker 1>brothers roll game on girls all the time. They got shoes, clothes, cars, whatever,

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<v Speaker 1>and they would be like, wash this, and they said,

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<v Speaker 1>don't ever be a chicken head. But who's the chicken head?

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<v Speaker 1>And really, unwitches lily guy had ship. So that's that's

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<v Speaker 1>what that's what they told me, and so I listened.

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<v Speaker 1>I listened the whole time. And I work in a

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<v Speaker 1>male dominated environment right my whole life. I'm a surgeon.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm a doctor, I'm in then I was in the

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<v Speaker 1>Navy for twenty six years. I was like, yeah, y'all

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<v Speaker 1>not getting me.

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<v Speaker 2>I feel you.

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<v Speaker 1>No, I'm here for that. But that was like not

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<v Speaker 1>a dumbest story. I thought about this all night too,

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<v Speaker 1>that one time. That one nigga like what had this

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<v Speaker 1>big card? Like when? Because when I told her, She's like, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I've never even played. I don't know what you're talking about.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm like, come up with you.

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<v Speaker 1>Why do you have another one? And I'm still like

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<v Speaker 1>a salty about it. But you know, I invested in

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<v Speaker 1>a friend's company and I looked at all the financials

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<v Speaker 1>and everything like that. I'm still waiting for my money.

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<v Speaker 1>So if that's another one, that could be another one

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<v Speaker 1>that's will be very careful about your investments, and especially

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<v Speaker 1>if you're trying to help a friend out and see

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<v Speaker 1>them grow, and you know, in this day and age

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<v Speaker 1>when everybody's like, you know, support black businesses and all

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<v Speaker 1>that other stuff. Naboo, I need to see your financials,

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<v Speaker 1>your tax reports. I need to see like open them

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<v Speaker 1>books everything, open the books. So that would be another

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<v Speaker 1>another dB story. A DVS. We are you dating that person? No, No,

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<v Speaker 1>we just have been friends for like over twenty years. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>you don't count.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know. Anytime money and somebody owe me some money,

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<v Speaker 2>I might have been a dumb bitch giving you my money.

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<v Speaker 1>I might have been Yeah, yeah that was the that

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<v Speaker 1>was the DBS. That that's another big DBS. Now this

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<v Speaker 1>younger one. That was a young DBS. This older one.

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<v Speaker 1>I probably should have, you know, thought a little bit

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<v Speaker 1>harder and listened to you trying to help though, So

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<v Speaker 1>that don't mean well I don't have them. I'm a

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<v Speaker 1>Bergo born on September or fourth.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm urgalarizing, and I definitely not got played a couple

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<v Speaker 2>of times in life, man, definitely. Okay, I'm about to

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<v Speaker 2>take the nigga on vacation on Monday, so I rooby

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<v Speaker 2>have a dumb bitch story for y'all week. We'll see, Hey,

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<v Speaker 2>nigga be in the bathroom all the time.

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<v Speaker 1>I think, Kelly, I haven't joined Viva Life five yet.

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<v Speaker 1>Come on through. We'll help you not be a d

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<v Speaker 1>d S. All right, all right, one more time. Tell

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<v Speaker 1>everybody they where they can find you, where they can

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<v Speaker 1>follow you on social media, plug all your things. Oh

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<v Speaker 1>thank you so much.

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<v Speaker 2>So I'm doctor Kelly OMZ and you can find me

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<v Speaker 2>So just go to the website, click all the little

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<v Speaker 2>buttons and you'll find me. All right, thank you so much,

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<v Speaker 2>doctor Kelly.

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<v Speaker 1>Fun. This is end. I got a lot of information

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<v Speaker 1>that I needed, so thank you so so very much. Absolutely,

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<v Speaker 1>I have fun too, thanks for bringing out You know,

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<v Speaker 1>the virgos can be real serious, so thank you for

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<v Speaker 1>bringing out the laughter and me as well. Good you

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<v Speaker 1>get into the bag.

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<v Speaker 2>That's one thing about it.

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<v Speaker 1>Virgo boy, they go ahead and get I'm gonna get

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<v Speaker 1>that bag.

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