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Speaker 1: Second date Update. The girl that's on the phone to
Speaker 1: do a second date update today didn't even think that
Speaker 1: her story qualifies for a second date update because she's
Speaker 1: been out on more than one date with this guy,
Speaker 1: which makes it even more confusing why he wouldn't be
Speaker 1: calling her back. Yeah, her name is Marie, and Marie,
Speaker 1: how are you hi? I'm great? How are you guys? Good?
Speaker 1: You definitely qualify for a second date update even though
Speaker 1: you've been out with this guy a few times. How
Speaker 1: many times have you gone out? Three? We've had three dates,
Speaker 1: three dates with this guy, and now he's just disappeared
Speaker 1: on you exactly. That is so annoyed. I don't know
Speaker 1: why people do that to each other. Yeah, you're telling me,
Speaker 1: all right, So tell us about how you met him.
Speaker 1: We met on a dating website and that we were
Speaker 1: actually talking on the website for I say, almost three
Speaker 1: weeks total. So you guys talked for like three weeks
Speaker 1: online and you've been on three dates. You're talking about
Speaker 1: over a month of knowing this guy and then he
Speaker 1: just failed on you. Yeah, exactly, definitely over a month
Speaker 1: since we've been talking. And if it sucks if you've
Speaker 1: gone on three dates, like how far have you guys?
Speaker 1: This sounds weird about how far have you guys gone physically? Look, well,
Speaker 1: I'm just saying like I don't know what their relationship
Speaker 1: is like if they already spent the night at each
Speaker 1: other's house, because three dates, that's okay, you know, Actually, no,
Speaker 1: we haven't. The fares we've gone, we've we've made out,
Speaker 1: that's it all right. Well, I guess we don't need
Speaker 1: every single date unless you feel like there's some details
Speaker 1: we need. But what happened the last time you guys
Speaker 1: hung out? Well, you know, the first dates were fine.
Speaker 1: We basically got for coffee once and then dinner and
Speaker 1: then so the third date, the last date that we had,
Speaker 1: we went out to a bar, so it was a
Speaker 1: little different environment, a little fun, a little noisy, loud,
Speaker 1: but he ended up bringing a friend. Did he tell
Speaker 1: you beforehand that he was going to break a friend?
Speaker 1: Know which at first I thought, well, maybe we're not
Speaker 1: comfortable with each other already. That it's okay. So then
Speaker 1: I actually ended up calling one of my girlfriends and
Speaker 1: she came over. Oh well, that's a good idea. So
Speaker 1: how did that go? It turned out to be a
Speaker 1: great night. He ended up buying Sequila shots and it
Speaker 1: was really fun. And to be honest with you, I
Speaker 1: was surprising. I've dated quite a lot, and I was
Speaker 1: pleasantly surprised with where things were going. And he's definitely
Speaker 1: a little quirky and has his ways, but I like that.
Speaker 1: And you guys are practically married at this point. I've
Speaker 1: been kind of seeing each other for about a month. Now,
Speaker 1: you've met each other's friends. I mean, that's all there
Speaker 1: is left to do, right I mean, I thought we
Speaker 1: were moving forward, at least to something further than where
Speaker 1: we were at. Do you think there's a possibility that
Speaker 1: he was freaked out that maybe you were moving faster
Speaker 1: than him. I guess it could be a possibility. I mean,
Speaker 1: at this point, I really don't know what happened. I mean,
Speaker 1: I don't think I came across as crazy at all.
Speaker 1: To me. We were both moving forward together, if that
Speaker 1: makes sense. You said that he had quirks, that you
Speaker 1: liked a lot of times. That's code for he's kind
Speaker 1: of weird, is you know? There's just little things about
Speaker 1: him that at first I kind of found it endearing.
Speaker 1: And he has his ways, likes to talk a little tangent,
Speaker 1: but then he gets excited about the things that he's
Speaker 1: talking about, and he has a gap in his teeth,
Speaker 1: which is so it's just so cute and it just
Speaker 1: makes him makes him who he is. I think diastema
Speaker 1: is the technical term for that, if you were curious,
Speaker 1: what is it? Diastema? Is it really that's a term
Speaker 1: for a gap in your teth. Yeah, I've dated a
Speaker 1: lot of dental assistance. If you ever need to talk
Speaker 1: about his tooth gap again, you can use the doctor's
Speaker 1: term for it if you want. Well, you know, that's
Speaker 1: good to know. I will I would love to talk
Speaker 1: about it with him, if he will ever call me
Speaker 1: back or so, what was the last thing that he
Speaker 1: said to you? So it's been eight days since our
Speaker 1: last date when we were at the bar, and I've
Speaker 1: actually tried to call him a few times. I texted
Speaker 1: him a bunch and I've gotten one response and it
Speaker 1: had one word and it just said sorry, Oh that's
Speaker 1: all I got. Did you respond to the sorry, Yeah
Speaker 1: I did, I wrote back, what the hell do you mean?
Speaker 1: And I haven't gotten any response from that? So are
Speaker 1: you hoping? I mean, because that sounds like a break
Speaker 1: up to me. I mean like you don't have to
Speaker 1: have a breakup talk because he only went on three dates.
Speaker 1: But a sorry text means I'm I'm done. Yeah, I mean,
Speaker 1: at this point, i'd at least like an explanation, you know,
Speaker 1: I feel like I deserve one. You know, we've had
Speaker 1: this background together for over a month now and we've
Speaker 1: been out three times, and then you know, to not
Speaker 1: even give me anything. I'm just sorry. I'm just it's
Speaker 1: up setting. It's I don't know, I don't even know.
Speaker 1: Why did you stop him online yet? This is dating
Speaker 1: profile still up? Yeah? No, I mean it's all it's
Speaker 1: all still there. It's all normal and nothing that he
Speaker 1: hasn't changed anything. Okay, Well, we'll play a song, come back,
Speaker 1: call him and get your second date update. All right, great,
Speaker 1: or third date update or whatever you want to fist,
Speaker 1: but we'll get it right after this. You're looking jubil
Speaker 1: in the morning. Today's second date update is a serious
Speaker 1: one because the girl on the phone was left at
Speaker 1: the altar. That's right. It's a very very sad story.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, way more in depth than any of
Speaker 1: our other second date updates. Is she pregnant too? She
Speaker 1: might be it, you don't know. She said that she
Speaker 1: hasn't hooked up with the guy yet in that way,
Speaker 1: but weirder things have happened. She was basically married to
Speaker 1: this guy. They've been dating for about a month now,
Speaker 1: and they've gone out on three dates in that time.
Speaker 1: The last time they saw each other, they had fun,
Speaker 1: they partied with a few friends. Then he didn't text
Speaker 1: her back. She didn't hear from him for a little while,
Speaker 1: kept texting him, and he finally just enter one text
Speaker 1: that said sorry, and that's the last she's heard from him. Marie.
Speaker 1: Are you ready to call your fiance? It wasn't that serious. Yes,
Speaker 1: I'm ready. I'm ready. Are you mad at him right now?
Speaker 1: Are you angry with this dude for just ghosting on you? Basically?
Speaker 1: I mean, I don't want to be angry at him,
Speaker 1: but I'm I am, and I'm mostly confused. I really
Speaker 1: just want some answer. Depending on his answer, I guess
Speaker 1: you can judge if you're angry. Yeah, yeah, good all right,
Speaker 1: I'm gon Dallas phone number right now, and see why
Speaker 1: he's stopped calling you after three dates. Here we go. Hello, Hi,
Speaker 1: I was looking for Paul. Yeah, let's see. Hey Paul,
Speaker 1: what's up? How are you? This is Jewel from Brook
Speaker 1: and Jewel in the Morning. It's a radio show. Okay, Um,
Speaker 1: what do you want? I'm calling you because we recently
Speaker 1: got an email about you from one of our listeners.
Speaker 1: Her name is Marie. Uh Okay. She asked if we
Speaker 1: could get you on the phone and find out why
Speaker 1: you stopped calling her. It's a segment that we do
Speaker 1: on our show called the Second Date Update. Do you
Speaker 1: have a few minutes to tell us why you're not
Speaker 1: talking to Marie anymore? I mean I don't. I don't
Speaker 1: know what she's told you or whatever, But I mean
Speaker 1: I've kind of already sent her a text like saying sorry,
Speaker 1: and I just I don't know. Yeah, Well, she told
Speaker 1: us about the text, but she doesn't know why because
Speaker 1: you never gave her an explanation. So she's just more
Speaker 1: curious than anything. Honestly, I don't think I really want
Speaker 1: to tell her. Yeah, but Paul, Hey, Paul, have you
Speaker 1: ever gone out with a girl that you liked a lot,
Speaker 1: and then she just stopped talking to you. I mean, yeah,
Speaker 1: but yeah, so doesn't it kind of suck when you
Speaker 1: don't know why? Yeah? I just I don't know if
Speaker 1: if I can tell her, I don't know how to
Speaker 1: really tell her. Well, the thing you're not telling her
Speaker 1: right now, you're telling me? Yeah, I mean I don't know, man,
Speaker 1: But I mean you said you talked to her, so
Speaker 1: you're probably just gonna repeat, you know what I told you.
Speaker 1: So I don't know. You can pick, you can pick
Speaker 1: and choose information. Why don't you be straight with us
Speaker 1: and then we'll decide what she needs to know? Was
Speaker 1: she moving too fast? That's what we were thinking, like
Speaker 1: maybe she was ahead of you. No, I mean, don't
Speaker 1: get me wrong, it was not. It's nothing that she did, Okay,
Speaker 1: wasn't her fault at all. It was all on me, Okay,
Speaker 1: and this is all to do with me. Okay, Well,
Speaker 1: then if it's your fault, why don't you just tell
Speaker 1: us what happened? I mean, if it's not anything that's
Speaker 1: going to embarrass her, The thing is is like it
Speaker 1: was just it was just bad, Okay, Like I kind
Speaker 1: of want to like move on from it. You just
Speaker 1: forget like it ever happened. It is what it is
Speaker 1: kind of thing. Just move on. There was so bad. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's weird. Did she tell you about the last day
Speaker 1: that we had, like when we went to the bar.
Speaker 1: She didn't tell us much. She just said, you hung
Speaker 1: out at a bar with some friends. Yeah, well all right,
Speaker 1: Well I was pretty drunk, because you know, we were
Speaker 1: there with friends, drinking a lot. I drank a probably
Speaker 1: way more than I should have. But we're having a
Speaker 1: good time, you know, and you know that's where I
Speaker 1: messed up. All right, Well, my mind automatically goes to
Speaker 1: you were there with friends? Did you mess around with
Speaker 1: whatever friends or something? Drunk? I mean, all right, I
Speaker 1: mean that sound dog all right. Well let me just well,
Speaker 1: let me just explain. Okay, So I don't know why,
Speaker 1: Like we're drinking, like we're twenty one again, and so
Speaker 1: I'm coming back from the bathroom and I've passed her friends.
Speaker 1: We start talking in the hallway. I don't even remember
Speaker 1: like how we got to the point, but we start
Speaker 1: making out, and I like, in like mid make out,
Speaker 1: like I sober up like instantly, like that moment of clarity,
Speaker 1: like what the hell are you doing kind of thing?
Speaker 1: And at that point I was like, whoa, I got
Speaker 1: to get out of here, Like this is not how
Speaker 1: I am, This is not who I am. Like, so
Speaker 1: I like called my uber and I got the hell
Speaker 1: out of there, like pretty much at that point. All right,
Speaker 1: that's understandable. And what a crappy friend she has. It's
Speaker 1: making out with some guy that she's crushing on, Like
Speaker 1: that sucks. Well, I mean I don't want to put
Speaker 1: it on on her. I mean, like literally, I know
Speaker 1: how to drink, and that was not how you're supposed
Speaker 1: to drink like night, So like I take a lot
Speaker 1: of blames for that. You're kind of taking responsibility, but
Speaker 1: then you're kind of blaming alcohol. You can blame it
Speaker 1: on the goose right now, all right, So well that's understandable.
Speaker 1: Then why you'd be like and does it suck? Though?
Speaker 1: I mean it sounds like you guys were having a
Speaker 1: fun time dating. Does it suck that you made this
Speaker 1: mistake and now you don't feel like you can talk
Speaker 1: to her? Totally? Dude, I'm like, we hit it off.
Speaker 1: It was like we had versations that like probably some
Speaker 1: married people don't have. So it really sucks. But at
Speaker 1: this point, like I don't know how one she'll take
Speaker 1: it to how to bring it up, and then like
Speaker 1: three house she'll feel like for the rest of the relationships.
Speaker 1: I've got some ideas on how you can bring it
Speaker 1: up to her, actually have a really good idea. Okay,
Speaker 1: I think you should just talk to her because she's
Speaker 1: actually on the other line listening to this phone call.
Speaker 1: What yeah, Marie, how hey? I don't even know what
Speaker 1: to say it. I mean, did this seriously happen? I mean,
Speaker 1: this is totally not how I wanted to tell you,
Speaker 1: or even tell you really because I don't really know
Speaker 1: how to bring it up. Like it's why I just
Speaker 1: kind of texted sorry. I was going to text you
Speaker 1: like this page and a half long text, and I
Speaker 1: was like, well, that's weird, so I didn't text it,
Speaker 1: and then I don't know. I'm sorry. I'm just I'm
Speaker 1: so disappointed. I mean me too, I mean right now,
Speaker 1: I feel like even more so because now you're finding
Speaker 1: out this way and that's not who I am. I
Speaker 1: don't believe my friend did that. I mean, she hasn't
Speaker 1: wanted anything to me. Yeah, I don't want I don't
Speaker 1: want you to blame her. I mean, like I'm taking
Speaker 1: responsibility for it, like I guess, I guess, Well, well,
Speaker 1: let me let me just say this, like it totally
Speaker 1: wasn't emotional at that point because there was no connection.
Speaker 1: Like when I got that woman to clarity, I was like,
Speaker 1: what is going on and it was just once yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: like that's it. I don't even know her name to
Speaker 1: be honest with you, and I don't really care to because,
Speaker 1: like I said, it's not it wasn't emotional at that point.
Speaker 1: It was like one physical I mean, I mean, I
Speaker 1: don't even I don't even think you made out with
Speaker 1: me that night, Maria. It's bad no matter what. But
Speaker 1: at least he's kind of a stand up guy about it.
Speaker 1: I mean a lot of guys are A lot of
Speaker 1: guys would do this and then they would continue to
Speaker 1: talk to you. They probably text your friend be like, hey,
Speaker 1: don't mention what happened. Like at least he was a
Speaker 1: big enough man to be like, I screwed up and
Speaker 1: now I shouldn't continue this relationship. But it's also like
Speaker 1: the biggest red flag ever. I mean, if he's already yeah,
Speaker 1: if he's I mean, not that he's cheating on you
Speaker 1: because you haven't had that guy's talk yet. But if
Speaker 1: even in the beginning he's already making out with other
Speaker 1: chicks while you're there, I don't know. He said, he's
Speaker 1: never done that. It's not like you. Yeah. Yeah. The
Speaker 1: thing is, Marie, I really like you, Okay. I think
Speaker 1: we had a really good connection and I think we
Speaker 1: still do. I just, yeah, is there any way you
Speaker 1: can forgive me? I don't know what I can do
Speaker 1: to maybe that, you know, you could forgive me for
Speaker 1: you know, I can't believe that my friend didn't even
Speaker 1: think that she needed to tell me. I mean, at
Speaker 1: least you're telling me she was just going to keep
Speaker 1: this super's friend. Yeah, yeah, that definitely is it. Yeah,
Speaker 1: but it's he was pressured into telling you and didn't
Speaker 1: even realize he was telling you he was never going
Speaker 1: to talk to you again. And actually, would that have
Speaker 1: really been the situation where you're just gonna you just
Speaker 1: thought you'd never wanted to talk to me again, like
Speaker 1: I said, the one that got away kind of kind
Speaker 1: of situation. But I don't know. It's been eating me
Speaker 1: up inside, so I probably would have ended up calling you.
Speaker 1: I don't know even tomorrow the next day, eventually I
Speaker 1: would have called you. That's kind of sweet. It's kind
Speaker 1: of sweet. It clearly upset him so much that he
Speaker 1: knew he did something wrong and there was a reason
Speaker 1: why he you know, was so upset by it and
Speaker 1: then had to just leave. I mean, it just shows
Speaker 1: how much he cares. Yeah, I thought we had a
Speaker 1: really good connection, um, you know, and it was Yeah,
Speaker 1: I reflected on so many levels. So I don't I
Speaker 1: don't know. I don't know why I have such a
Speaker 1: hard time believing you, Paul. I don't like you're just
Speaker 1: feeding her lines at this point. Would you forgive her
Speaker 1: if she made out with one of your friends at night?
Speaker 1: I would have to know the situation. I I have
Speaker 1: to know all the details. That have to know all
Speaker 1: the information, you know, like me personally, this situation it
Speaker 1: was only physical my mind. You know, I was with
Speaker 1: Marie that night, I was not with her friend. I couldn't,
Speaker 1: like emotionally kiss you then afterwards because I knew what
Speaker 1: I just did. So I mean, really I did it
Speaker 1: for you? Oh my god, No you did not. I
Speaker 1: mean some things of the night like make more sense now.
Speaker 1: And you did say that you're sorry, and well, I
Speaker 1: think this is a perfect point to ask, Hey, Paul,
Speaker 1: would you like to go out on a second date
Speaker 1: with Marie? We will pay for it. Yeah, absolutely, I
Speaker 1: would love to. Marie. Would you be willing to give
Speaker 1: Paul another shot? Yeah? I really would. Don't give him
Speaker 1: another shot after this one, though, like that will never
Speaker 1: happen again. Okay, Marie, I can promise you that, you
Speaker 1: really promise, I promise. Well, ratulations you guys, So finally
Speaker 1: a successful second date. We haven't had a couple go
Speaker 1: out on a second day in a while. I guess
Speaker 1: this is like a fourth day for you guys, because
Speaker 1: I've been out on three days. Will be number four. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: you know, Paul, I'm a forgiving and understanding person. Then
Speaker 1: I'm excited to go out with you again. You know,
Speaker 1: I got to be honest. I don't think that I'm
Speaker 1: going to be talking to my friend anymore. I don't
Speaker 1: need her in my life anymore. I mean, I fully
Speaker 1: support that. I think that any friend that would do
Speaker 1: that to you is not a true friend. I agree.
Speaker 1: I'm glad this worked out. And whoever said the phrase
Speaker 1: you can't have your cake and eat it too was
Speaker 1: it true. We just learned that in a second date
Speaker 1: update in the morning, texting at seven eighty five and nine,
Speaker 1: Who says that's quite deplorable, promising you won't cheat again
Speaker 1: after a third date. Read that text on going to
Speaker 1: say good job text her by using the most complicated
Speaker 1: word any text has ever used, deplorable. Yeah, yeah, people
Speaker 1: who texts you like day stupid idiot syllables talking about
Speaker 1: today's second date update if you missed it. Marie wanted
Speaker 1: to call Paul. They've actually been out on three dates
Speaker 1: and the last date was a group date with her friends,
Speaker 1: and Paul admitted that he wasn't calling her back because
Speaker 1: he drank too much and made out with one of
Speaker 1: Marie's friends by the bathroom. O. Man, he admitted it,
Speaker 1: and then Marie suggests then Paul agrees that they should
Speaker 1: never speak to that friend again. Wow, because she's a
Speaker 1: bad person for not telling Marie it wasn't Paul's fault,
Speaker 1: it was her friend's fault. Definitely her fault. Probably a
Speaker 1: relief to her honestly, because she's been trying to hide
Speaker 1: that for a old yeile now like finally so now
Speaker 1: her and Paul can continue on in their relationship and
Speaker 1: screw that friend. Remember if you want to do a
Speaker 1: second date up, they'd always to do his email the
Speaker 1: show and we will call the person that made out
Speaker 1: with your friends.