WEBVTT - Dating Questions and Sucky Answers! 0:00:00.480 --> 0:00:04.280 Hell I Suck At Dating with de Nungler and Jared 0:00:04.360 --> 0:00:11.080 Haven and I heard radio podcast What's going on Everyone, 0:00:11.160 --> 0:00:14.760 And Welcome to Thursday's special call in edition of Help 0:00:14.960 --> 0:00:17.840 I Suck At Dating. I want to know what you 0:00:17.880 --> 0:00:20.200 guys think about this segment because we're having a great 0:00:20.200 --> 0:00:22.160 time doing it. I wanna know if you guys are 0:00:22.160 --> 0:00:24.400 having a great time listening to it. Email us at 0:00:24.440 --> 0:00:26.960 I Suck at Dating at iHeart Media dot com and 0:00:27.000 --> 0:00:29.080 email us some stories. Maybe we can have you call 0:00:29.160 --> 0:00:31.000 in once one of these days and share one of 0:00:31.000 --> 0:00:32.800 your stories. I had a customer coming to Audrey's who 0:00:32.800 --> 0:00:34.440 said they wanted to call in help us like a 0:00:34.520 --> 0:00:38.280 dating that they had a question that would be amazing. 0:00:38.640 --> 0:00:41.519 I know, I was like, call in, get email us, 0:00:41.600 --> 0:00:43.440 let us know. I mean, it's kind of a lot. 0:00:43.479 --> 0:00:44.880 You have to email us and be like, hey, I 0:00:44.960 --> 0:00:46.800 want to call in, and then after you email us, 0:00:46.800 --> 0:00:48.640 you have to actually call in. You know, we we 0:00:48.680 --> 0:00:50.559 put our listeners to work. You guys are doing a 0:00:50.560 --> 0:00:53.520 great job. Though even better, you could just stop by Audrey's, 0:00:53.760 --> 0:00:55.400 drop the little hint that you want to be on 0:00:55.440 --> 0:00:57.920 the show, and then we can finagle some sort of 0:00:57.960 --> 0:01:00.920 thing to have happening. Yeah, we know some people, but yeah, 0:01:00.920 --> 0:01:04.880 we know some people, UM, namely ourselves. We let's get 0:01:04.880 --> 0:01:06.200 to our first call. Let's see what we can bring 0:01:06.240 --> 0:01:09.240 him into the waiting room here. I think it's Bridget, right, Bridget, 0:01:09.240 --> 0:01:12.800 our first caller, Bridget either Yeah, Hi, how's it going? Hi? 0:01:12.920 --> 0:01:16.400 How are you? You sound great? Your audio is so 0:01:16.480 --> 0:01:23.000 much better than ours? Really? Wow, that's Carla. How's how's 0:01:23.000 --> 0:01:26.520 it going over there? Um? It's it's okay. UM. I'm 0:01:26.600 --> 0:01:31.640 kind of in a new um situation ship with a guy. UM. 0:01:31.720 --> 0:01:34.759 We've met up about four times so far. Last couple 0:01:34.840 --> 0:01:38.640 hangouts were initiated by me. UM. In general, I just 0:01:38.680 --> 0:01:42.080 seem to be more keen to hang out with him 0:01:42.080 --> 0:01:44.399 than the other way around. UM. He does have a 0:01:44.480 --> 0:01:49.280 much busier schedule though. UM. I've decided not to initiate 0:01:49.360 --> 0:01:52.040 another hangout on my own and see if he ends 0:01:52.120 --> 0:01:55.840 up doing it. My question is how long do I 0:01:55.960 --> 0:01:59.920 keep up the texting like waiting for him to an 0:02:00.000 --> 0:02:02.320 isitiate a date if he is interested and continue to 0:02:02.360 --> 0:02:06.360 see me. Shouldn't he be initiating a date to UM? 0:02:06.480 --> 0:02:09.200 Kind of just it's weird that I am the one 0:02:09.720 --> 0:02:13.120 only making plans for well, i'll tell you what I know. 0:02:13.200 --> 0:02:16.120 You said. He is a busy guy. But in my 0:02:16.360 --> 0:02:19.400 head that makes me think that he should be the 0:02:19.440 --> 0:02:24.400 one making plans more often, because you know what's worse 0:02:24.480 --> 0:02:28.519 than trying to make plans with someone and being like, hey, 0:02:28.560 --> 0:02:30.600 does Monday at six pm work? And they go, no, 0:02:30.720 --> 0:02:32.960 I'm busy? Does Tuesday at five pm? Work? No? I'm busy? 0:02:33.200 --> 0:02:34.560 Then all you want to do is be like, okay, well, 0:02:34.600 --> 0:02:36.600 then you just tell me when you're free and we'll 0:02:36.600 --> 0:02:38.480 see if we can make it work. So for me, 0:02:39.040 --> 0:02:42.720 it sounds like he might not be interested because if 0:02:42.760 --> 0:02:46.480 he was and it was him being busy, then it 0:02:46.520 --> 0:02:48.760 would be like he should be the one making the plans, 0:02:48.800 --> 0:02:51.840 you know what I mean totally, And if you've already 0:02:51.880 --> 0:02:55.000 been initiating the hangouts, then it's time for him to 0:02:55.160 --> 0:02:57.120 you know, pull his pants up and say okay, I'm 0:02:57.160 --> 0:02:58.720 gonna be the ones saying, hey, what are you doing 0:02:58.720 --> 0:03:01.400 next Saturday? Because there's only so many times you can 0:03:01.440 --> 0:03:03.760 be told no. If his when his busy schedule before 0:03:03.760 --> 0:03:06.839 you're like okay, never mind, then you just tell me. 0:03:07.040 --> 0:03:09.640 So I would say, let him initiate, and if he doesn't, 0:03:09.680 --> 0:03:14.600 then obviously he's not worth your time. Okay, yeah, I 0:03:14.639 --> 0:03:17.160 like that, that's what I think too. And it's how 0:03:17.160 --> 0:03:20.120 did you guys meet each other? Um, we've met like 0:03:20.320 --> 0:03:24.440 unhinge like on the apps. You know, those are tricky because, 0:03:24.720 --> 0:03:26.800 at least in my experience, it seemed like everyone was 0:03:26.800 --> 0:03:30.840 always talking like five people. Yeah, and it's just like 0:03:31.160 --> 0:03:33.000 you could be a tent out of tent, which I'm 0:03:33.040 --> 0:03:36.920 sure you are, Carla. Uh and for some reason, this 0:03:36.960 --> 0:03:39.760 person still wants to be talking to three other girls 0:03:40.640 --> 0:03:43.360 and there's nothing you can do about it. Yeah, It's 0:03:43.360 --> 0:03:45.040 just that's just the nature of the game, which is 0:03:45.080 --> 0:03:48.920 so frustrating. Um. And I do think that makes people 0:03:49.120 --> 0:03:51.520 less likely to go out of their way to plan 0:03:51.600 --> 0:03:53.400 stuff because it's like, well, why do I plan something 0:03:53.400 --> 0:03:55.680 with this person when I have all these other people 0:03:55.760 --> 0:03:59.040 that are going to plan stuff for me. So I 0:03:59.040 --> 0:04:01.400 wouldn't sweat it, but I would say take a step 0:04:01.440 --> 0:04:03.120 back and see if he does anything on his own 0:04:03.160 --> 0:04:07.440 part to initiate Okay, Yeah, thank you guys so much, 0:04:08.840 --> 0:04:23.000 appreciate it. Ye bye bye Bridget. How are you welcome 0:04:23.000 --> 0:04:32.159 to the podcast? Okay, So I'm calling because of my 0:04:33.000 --> 0:04:37.120 zooming in because of my boyfriend of two years, almost 0:04:37.240 --> 0:04:39.840 two years, and we were about to move in together, 0:04:40.440 --> 0:04:43.640 which was very exciting. Um, and then the other day 0:04:44.000 --> 0:04:49.720 I accidentally on his phone stumbled into some sects and 0:04:50.120 --> 0:04:56.120 nudes that he had been My gosh, yeah, he've been sending, 0:04:56.160 --> 0:05:00.719 not even receiving. Damn sending and receiving. They were both 0:05:00.880 --> 0:05:05.800 sending and receiving sexts and nudes. Ye were helpful. This 0:05:05.880 --> 0:05:10.240 is over? Is it over? That's what I need to see, Okay. 0:05:10.400 --> 0:05:15.560 So I confronted him about it, and UM, he didn't 0:05:15.640 --> 0:05:17.599 deny it, obviously because I would be dumb. It was 0:05:17.720 --> 0:05:21.400 right there. But he said, you know, this is a 0:05:21.839 --> 0:05:24.479 He said that it was over and that he was 0:05:24.520 --> 0:05:26.880 really sorry. He didn't really give me a reason. But 0:05:26.960 --> 0:05:31.000 he also told me there was no physical connection that 0:05:31.040 --> 0:05:34.920 they had had. Um, he really regretted it. He still 0:05:34.960 --> 0:05:37.520 loved me. Blah blah blah. You know the story. I 0:05:37.560 --> 0:05:40.239 told him I needed some space to think about things 0:05:40.400 --> 0:05:44.640 and and kind of reassess life. And I'm just I'm 0:05:44.680 --> 0:05:48.360 I look okay, because I've got a nice like based 0:05:48.360 --> 0:05:50.760 on him, but I'm I don't know what to do 0:05:50.960 --> 0:05:54.200 like this. I thought he was the one, and and 0:05:54.240 --> 0:05:55.919 so I want to give him another chance, and I 0:05:55.960 --> 0:05:59.359 guess I'm here to to be like should I is 0:05:59.400 --> 0:06:04.200 this over? Do I do? How long? How long ago 0:06:04.320 --> 0:06:10.000 were the sex um? It went back three months? And 0:06:10.040 --> 0:06:14.919 then how long you guys beating? Just almost two years? Yeah? No, 0:06:15.200 --> 0:06:18.280 it's this guy sucks. I'm sorry. I know you've built 0:06:18.279 --> 0:06:20.880 a relationship with him, and uh, I know you guys 0:06:20.960 --> 0:06:23.680 love each other, but I mean, it's this is cheating. 0:06:24.279 --> 0:06:26.919 It's not like he was talking to an X or 0:06:26.920 --> 0:06:30.240 talking to someone new and then it just like escalated 0:06:30.279 --> 0:06:32.279 and he got uncomfortable, and then it was like, I 0:06:32.320 --> 0:06:34.960 can't do this. You've been together with two years. He 0:06:35.040 --> 0:06:38.120 was not only receiving risky photos and knew in his 0:06:38.160 --> 0:06:40.559 own head that like, okay, this might be crossing the line. 0:06:41.240 --> 0:06:45.320 I mean he was sending them. That's like for me 0:06:45.440 --> 0:06:48.120 that I would be like, okay, then how could you 0:06:48.160 --> 0:06:50.080 ever trust him? How could you ever go back and 0:06:50.240 --> 0:06:53.039 anytime he's alone with his phone? How how would your 0:06:53.080 --> 0:06:56.440 first thought not be He's he's talking to somebody. Shouldn't be. 0:06:57.520 --> 0:07:00.080 That's That's what I've been wrestling with. That's why I 0:07:00.120 --> 0:07:02.360 think it just it might be over. I'm sorry, that's 0:07:02.360 --> 0:07:05.360 my advice. You know how hard it is to meet 0:07:05.440 --> 0:07:08.320 a person? I mean, this is he was? Is it that? 0:07:09.400 --> 0:07:12.040 What's harder dealing with someone like this for the rest 0:07:12.040 --> 0:07:14.000 of your life or being single and trying to find 0:07:14.040 --> 0:07:17.640 someone now, you know, I don't know. I don't know either. 0:07:17.960 --> 0:07:22.640 Actually I do, but I'm I'm being facetious. I agree 0:07:22.640 --> 0:07:25.760 with Jared. It's those types of situations are so frustrating 0:07:25.800 --> 0:07:29.960 because the relationship is seldom the same as it was 0:07:30.040 --> 0:07:33.960 before the infraction, if you will. So it's like, even 0:07:34.040 --> 0:07:36.320 if things were great, it's hard to imagine them being 0:07:36.360 --> 0:07:38.600 good again. Not that you wouldn't be able to get 0:07:38.600 --> 0:07:42.280 over it, but it does like that's that I don't know. 0:07:42.480 --> 0:07:44.360 I just I also agree with Jared that it seems 0:07:44.400 --> 0:07:45.960 like that's kind of like the wine that needs to 0:07:46.000 --> 0:07:47.280 be drawn. But again, at the end of the day, 0:07:47.280 --> 0:07:50.080 it's up to you to decide what you're like. Tolerance 0:07:50.200 --> 0:07:54.800 level is about stuff like that. Um, I don't know. Personally, 0:07:54.840 --> 0:07:56.720 I don't think I could do it, but you might 0:07:56.720 --> 0:08:00.480 be a stronger person than me, you know, I don't know. 0:08:00.560 --> 0:08:02.480 That's what I'm trying to figure out. I mean, you 0:08:02.560 --> 0:08:06.000 hear all these things about how like you know, real 0:08:06.040 --> 0:08:10.360 relationships happen when you like hit a bump like this 0:08:10.480 --> 0:08:13.400 and you figure out like how you rise above it 0:08:13.480 --> 0:08:16.160 or how you work together to like keep going. But 0:08:16.200 --> 0:08:18.120 I just don't know at what point, like you said, 0:08:18.160 --> 0:08:20.320 where is the line? Like what point do you call it? 0:08:20.320 --> 0:08:22.400 And you're like, no, this is something I can't get over, 0:08:22.560 --> 0:08:25.680 this is something we can work through. Um, and trust 0:08:25.760 --> 0:08:30.280 is a big issue for me, so um yeah, I 0:08:30.280 --> 0:08:33.520 mean just because bumps sometimes helped make relationships stronger, doesn't 0:08:33.559 --> 0:08:35.680 mean you should start driving the car towards the bumps, 0:08:35.720 --> 0:08:40.560 you know. So I don't know, Like Jared said, I'm out, 0:08:40.600 --> 0:08:43.680 I'm out of this one. But Bridget, you know, it 0:08:43.720 --> 0:08:45.520 sounds like you want to work through it, And if 0:08:45.559 --> 0:08:48.200 that's what you want, then that's all you need. I 0:08:48.240 --> 0:08:53.040 think in my opinion, I mean you could try, of course, 0:08:53.080 --> 0:08:54.440 if you want to work through if you love this 0:08:54.480 --> 0:08:58.160 guy trying to work through it, But um, you know, 0:08:58.240 --> 0:09:00.440 I mean obviously the big onus is on him to 0:09:00.480 --> 0:09:04.040 make him. He needs to make you feel like you 0:09:04.040 --> 0:09:07.160 can trust him again. So that would be that's a 0:09:07.160 --> 0:09:09.960 big hill of the client. That's a really good point, Jared, 0:09:10.000 --> 0:09:11.480 and I think that's where I'm going to go from 0:09:11.520 --> 0:09:13.720 here is just like kind of give it a little 0:09:13.760 --> 0:09:16.680 bit more time and wait and see what he does, 0:09:17.000 --> 0:09:21.640 see how and if he can make me feel comfortable 0:09:21.640 --> 0:09:24.200 in this relationship again, and like I trust him because 0:09:24.280 --> 0:09:27.720 right now I don't, um, and I'm not quite ready 0:09:27.760 --> 0:09:33.120 to just cut it off. But um yeah, yeah, thank 0:09:33.120 --> 0:09:35.320 you for listening. Oh my god, of course, Bridget, thank 0:09:35.320 --> 0:09:39.720 you so much for calling in. Thanks. Will you call 0:09:39.800 --> 0:09:44.079 us back with an update? She's gone okay. He said 0:09:44.120 --> 0:09:46.000 that was good advice, Jared. She never said anything about 0:09:46.040 --> 0:09:48.920 my advice, and your advice sucked, Bro. That's why I 0:09:48.960 --> 0:09:51.560 thought the speed bump thing wasn't pretty good analogy. It was. 0:09:51.600 --> 0:09:54.600 Actually I thought it was a very profound analogy when 0:09:54.600 --> 0:09:56.880 you said, just because they're speed bumps in the relationships, 0:09:57.080 --> 0:10:00.160 it doesn't mean you should be driving. Yeah. I think 0:10:00.200 --> 0:10:02.000 that should be something on our instagram, you know, like 0:10:02.080 --> 0:10:05.320 Dean Angler, you know, you should right next to your 0:10:05.360 --> 0:10:19.680 check mark Instagram. How's it going, Paul, and how's it 0:10:19.720 --> 0:10:22.720 going good? Welcome to the podcast? What's going on with you? 0:10:23.920 --> 0:10:28.440 Too much? Yeah? I just wanted to get some help 0:10:28.480 --> 0:10:34.440 because I suck at dating. So hey, don't we all? Um? 0:10:34.600 --> 0:10:37.040 So yeah, my thing. So I just got out of 0:10:37.520 --> 0:10:43.160 a toxic five year relationship. Congratulations, But I do have 0:10:43.240 --> 0:10:46.880 a four year old son with my now X. That's 0:10:46.920 --> 0:10:50.600 the positive, I guess. But yeah, I figured I should 0:10:50.640 --> 0:10:53.800 go out and meet women. So, you know, I went 0:10:53.840 --> 0:10:56.920 to some clubs and some bars, and I don't really 0:10:56.960 --> 0:11:00.240 have friends to go out to those places with because 0:11:00.280 --> 0:11:03.040 they're all married. Um, so I just decided to go alone. 0:11:04.160 --> 0:11:09.160 And I've had the best experience every time I go out. 0:11:09.360 --> 0:11:11.400 You know. The first time I went out, I drank 0:11:11.400 --> 0:11:13.120 and I had a good time and I actually hooked 0:11:13.200 --> 0:11:17.600 up with a pretty girl. And this week, yeah, this 0:11:17.720 --> 0:11:21.439 week I didn't have any luck per se. But I've 0:11:21.440 --> 0:11:23.600 met a lot of cool guys that you know, want 0:11:23.600 --> 0:11:26.839 to hang out and go to bars and clubs and 0:11:26.880 --> 0:11:30.000 all that stuff with me in the future. So um yeah, 0:11:30.000 --> 0:11:33.440 I refused to let my past relationship kind of bring 0:11:33.480 --> 0:11:36.559 me down, but not success just going out alone and 0:11:36.600 --> 0:11:38.560 meeting new people. But I want to know, is it 0:11:38.640 --> 0:11:41.840 weird that I'm going out alone in hopes of meeting 0:11:42.280 --> 0:11:45.000 a great girl like the girls find a creepy that 0:11:45.040 --> 0:11:46.719 I have no friends with me at the club of 0:11:46.760 --> 0:11:48.000 the bar, you know, like I don't want to come 0:11:48.040 --> 0:11:51.240 across as a creeper. You know, you know who else 0:11:51.440 --> 0:11:54.360 didn't have friends that they went out to the clubs 0:11:54.400 --> 0:11:58.560 with Ryan Gosling's character from Crazy Stupid Love, and no 0:11:58.720 --> 0:12:01.360 female found him creepy. So you know what, if anybody 0:12:01.400 --> 0:12:03.600 calls you creepy, just tell them to go watch that 0:12:03.640 --> 0:12:06.720 movie and see how many friends Ruyan Gosling's is surrounded 0:12:06.720 --> 0:12:09.160 by at the bar. So the moral of the stories, 0:12:09.200 --> 0:12:11.559 if you look like grind Gosling, you can just basically 0:12:11.559 --> 0:12:14.520 do whatever you want. Yeah. I don't know if I 0:12:14.559 --> 0:12:17.720 have those types of looks, but yeah, then it would 0:12:17.760 --> 0:12:20.160 be it would be a non issue. Um, it's funny 0:12:20.200 --> 0:12:22.240 that you say this because I used to think that. 0:12:22.320 --> 0:12:25.720 I I think when I was like twenty to twenty two, 0:12:25.760 --> 0:12:27.600 I would probably be like, WHOA, what's this weirdo doing 0:12:27.679 --> 0:12:31.319 by himself? But now I been doing stuff by yourself 0:12:31.480 --> 0:12:33.320 is like the coolest way to do things, and that 0:12:33.400 --> 0:12:36.240 includes going to clubs and going to bars, especially like 0:12:36.280 --> 0:12:40.080 in your case, it's hard to meet girls, right and 0:12:40.080 --> 0:12:42.719 and if you don't have the friend group to go 0:12:42.800 --> 0:12:44.840 out to you with clubs and bars because they're all 0:12:44.840 --> 0:12:48.080 married like you were, saying then, like, the logical solution 0:12:48.160 --> 0:12:50.559 is to just go by yourself, And I think as 0:12:50.559 --> 0:12:53.200 long as you're able to adequately explain that to someone 0:12:53.240 --> 0:12:56.240 that you're meeting, then it's a non issue. Like, yeah, sure, 0:12:56.280 --> 0:12:58.360 there's probably single guys that go to the bars by 0:12:58.400 --> 0:13:01.160 themselves that are creepy, but I don't think that that's 0:13:01.160 --> 0:13:03.480 gonna That doesn't sound like that's what the person that 0:13:03.559 --> 0:13:06.520 you are, So I don't know, I don't think it's 0:13:06.520 --> 0:13:08.760 an issue. I think it's cool. I always am trying 0:13:08.760 --> 0:13:10.560 to tell Kalin to go do stuff by yourself more 0:13:10.559 --> 0:13:13.000 often because every time I do something by myself and 0:13:13.080 --> 0:13:17.880 I like feel i don't know, invigorated and independent, and 0:13:17.960 --> 0:13:19.520 I think all of those things are good things. At 0:13:19.559 --> 0:13:21.120 the end of the day. I'm sure that's exactly what 0:13:21.200 --> 0:13:23.520 Kalin wants to hear. Klin says, hey, let's go to 0:13:23.559 --> 0:13:26.680 a picnic and in the park, and Deans like, you 0:13:26.679 --> 0:13:29.280 know what, you know, what I think is best if 0:13:29.320 --> 0:13:32.280 you go by yourself to have a picnic in the park. 0:13:32.360 --> 0:13:34.000 I think it'd be good to go on picking by yourself, 0:13:34.200 --> 0:13:35.880 I do say, though, She's like, Oh, I really want 0:13:35.880 --> 0:13:38.120 to go see this movie. Will you go see it 0:13:38.120 --> 0:13:39.560 with me and I'm like, no, I don't want to 0:13:39.559 --> 0:13:42.319 see that movie, just to like kind of test the waters, 0:13:42.720 --> 0:13:45.320 and then she'ld be like, fine, I'll just go alone 0:13:45.559 --> 0:13:48.480 and I go. Honestly, that would be awesome if you 0:13:48.600 --> 0:13:51.000 want to a movie alone. I would never be so 0:13:51.080 --> 0:13:54.280 attracted to you. Then I would hearing you do something that, 0:13:54.520 --> 0:13:56.360 because it takes a lot of balls to do stuff 0:13:56.360 --> 0:13:59.599 by yourself, like especially in social settings as Paul is 0:13:59.640 --> 0:14:02.680 talking about here, to go to a social setting where 0:14:02.679 --> 0:14:04.320 all you need to do is like talk to people 0:14:04.320 --> 0:14:07.240 and be social. Your friends are always your safety blankets, 0:14:07.280 --> 0:14:09.120 and if you don't have the friends or the safety 0:14:09.160 --> 0:14:12.080 blanket there with you, it can be really intimidating. So 0:14:12.920 --> 0:14:15.720 I think it's great. I would agree, Paul. Keep doing 0:14:15.720 --> 0:14:17.400 what we're doing, buddy, doing a great job. Don't let 0:14:17.480 --> 0:14:20.320 other people bring you down, have fun, enjoy your life. 0:14:20.360 --> 0:14:23.040 You just gotta have a relationship, and don't be intimidated 0:14:23.040 --> 0:14:24.960 by going up by yourself. So many people do it 0:14:25.480 --> 0:14:28.240 cool bring the four year old with you to the bars. 0:14:28.280 --> 0:14:31.800 I'm sure that's that would be a good, good, good 0:14:31.800 --> 0:14:36.080 conversation starter, good icebag that then you'd be the creep 0:14:36.120 --> 0:14:42.960 I guess wait at least seventeen more years. Um, but Paul, 0:14:43.040 --> 0:14:46.240 the best of luck. Thanks for calling, and we appreciate you. 0:14:46.520 --> 0:14:50.280 I'm sure you'll you'll find someone here pretty soon. Thanks, guys, 0:14:50.360 --> 0:14:52.760 appreciate it. Here's buddy Dean. Have you seen a movie 0:14:52.760 --> 0:14:56.880 by yourself? Uh? Funny you mentioned it. No, I haven't. 0:14:57.080 --> 0:15:00.320 Really you've never heard the movies by yourself? I don't 0:15:00.360 --> 0:15:02.360 think so. But I'm not much of a movie goer 0:15:02.440 --> 0:15:06.280 as it is, Like, I never cared to see movies 0:15:06.400 --> 0:15:09.200 in theaters, especially God, it's just not I know, I 0:15:09.240 --> 0:15:11.640 know it must sound insane to you. Obviously, it's a 0:15:11.760 --> 0:15:15.000 very alien to me. I'm I'm like, you're a psycho. 0:15:15.880 --> 0:15:18.520 Even going to movies like with friends or in groups, 0:15:18.600 --> 0:15:22.960 it's always it's never really been very appealing to me. 0:15:23.240 --> 0:15:26.560 But I often go to dinner by myself. I'll go 0:15:26.560 --> 0:15:31.960 golfing by myself. I'll do many things by myself. Um, 0:15:32.000 --> 0:15:33.960 but I've always I've always wanted to go to movie 0:15:33.960 --> 0:15:36.640 by myself. I just don't know, yeh, like ever by myself. 0:15:36.920 --> 0:15:40.280 I just don't know if there was a movie that 0:15:40.320 --> 0:15:43.480 I wanted to see bad enough that I would be 0:15:43.520 --> 0:15:46.920 willing to go by myself. It would be a movie 0:15:47.000 --> 0:15:49.080 that everyone wanted to see, so I wouldn't have to 0:15:49.120 --> 0:15:51.360 go by myself. That's not true. I want to go 0:15:51.400 --> 0:15:53.560 see I've seen many movies that a lot of people. 0:15:53.600 --> 0:15:55.520 I want to go see Fast five by myself. I 0:15:55.520 --> 0:15:57.640 remember that it was like a ten o'clock showing. I 0:15:57.680 --> 0:15:59.440 was home. I was living my parents at the time, 0:15:59.800 --> 0:16:02.200 and uh, it was like nine thirty and I was 0:16:02.240 --> 0:16:04.040 bored watching TV and I really wanted to go see 0:16:04.080 --> 0:16:06.040 Fast five. And I was like, you know what, there's 0:16:06.080 --> 0:16:08.520 like a ten o'clock showing. I'm not tired. I'm just 0:16:08.520 --> 0:16:10.640 gonna roll up to this movie theater by myself. And 0:16:10.680 --> 0:16:12.440 that's what I did. First movie I ever saw by 0:16:12.480 --> 0:16:14.320 myself with Super May Returns in two thousand and six, 0:16:14.360 --> 0:16:17.080 because I wanted to see it so badly and I 0:16:17.120 --> 0:16:21.720 was eighteen at the time, and uh, I wanted to 0:16:21.720 --> 0:16:24.560 go to the Thursday night midnight show, which used to 0:16:24.600 --> 0:16:27.840 be a thing for theaters but now like like, for example, 0:16:27.880 --> 0:16:31.600 Halloween ends comes out Friday, but there's showings at like 0:16:31.640 --> 0:16:33.560 five o'clock on Thursday, so I'm like, okay, so it 0:16:33.600 --> 0:16:35.640 really comes out on Thursday. But it used to be 0:16:35.640 --> 0:16:37.200 a thing. You were like, you had to wait till 0:16:37.240 --> 0:16:39.960 midnight to go see the movie when it's released on Friday, 0:16:40.000 --> 0:16:42.440 like you would be surrounded by all other geeks. It 0:16:42.480 --> 0:16:45.160 was fantastic anyway. So I couldn't go to the midnight 0:16:45.200 --> 0:16:48.280 show because I was working at Hollywood Video at the time. 0:16:48.440 --> 0:16:50.440 So I went to go see the eleven o'clock showing 0:16:50.680 --> 0:16:53.640 and it was. This is how endearing I was. I 0:16:53.720 --> 0:16:57.840 called the movie theater and the morning of and I said, Hi, 0:16:57.960 --> 0:17:00.600 do you still have any tickets available for Super Member? 0:17:00.640 --> 0:17:05.440 Turns out eleven am and she goes yeah. I was like, okay, 0:17:05.600 --> 0:17:11.959 I'm on my way in fact, and uh yeah. So 0:17:11.960 --> 0:17:13.560 then let me ask you this, how does going to 0:17:13.640 --> 0:17:15.640 a movie by yourself compared to going to a movie 0:17:15.680 --> 0:17:21.640 with say Ashley or friends or something like that. I um, 0:17:21.680 --> 0:17:24.240 I mean, I love going to movies by myself because 0:17:24.280 --> 0:17:26.320 you don't talk to her in the movie anyway. And 0:17:26.880 --> 0:17:30.840 the only thing that I don't like is that you 0:17:30.880 --> 0:17:33.200 can't talk to anybody when the movie is over, because 0:17:33.200 --> 0:17:35.880 I like talking about it, walking out what I liked, 0:17:35.920 --> 0:17:37.680 what I didn't like. And Nashley is a great listener, 0:17:37.720 --> 0:17:40.359 and she also really likes talking about movies. But what 0:17:40.480 --> 0:17:42.560 I will say, the one thing that I do love 0:17:43.119 --> 0:17:45.840 is that sometimes Ashley and I've talked about it in 0:17:45.880 --> 0:17:49.200 this podcast before, likes to ask questions during the movie 0:17:49.240 --> 0:17:52.760 if she gets lost, or she'll like make comments, or 0:17:52.880 --> 0:17:55.960 she'll get up to pee, and all of the above 0:17:56.000 --> 0:17:58.920 are very distracting, especially the questions part, because then I'll 0:17:58.920 --> 0:18:01.560 get annoyed. But then she it's frustrated at me because 0:18:01.560 --> 0:18:03.840 she's like, I'm I need I don't know what's going 0:18:03.880 --> 0:18:06.800 on and need your help. And I'm like, listen, figure 0:18:06.840 --> 0:18:09.320 it out on your own. If you can't follow the movie, 0:18:09.480 --> 0:18:12.760 then maybe you're not, you know, film intelligent enough to 0:18:12.800 --> 0:18:16.640 be watching a movie like this. But I don't say that, 0:18:16.760 --> 0:18:18.560 and I don't think that's true, but I would bust 0:18:18.560 --> 0:18:20.119 her balls in the in the moment and say that. 0:18:20.359 --> 0:18:22.560 But anyway, so sometimes watching it by myself, I'm like, 0:18:22.600 --> 0:18:24.679 I'm not distracted. I want to go see Spiderman No 0:18:24.720 --> 0:18:27.080 Way Home. This past December by myself, because I was 0:18:27.119 --> 0:18:29.560 working so much, I literally just took a three hour break. 0:18:29.560 --> 0:18:33.200 There's a theater in the plaza and this is showing 0:18:33.200 --> 0:18:35.639 at three o'clock. At two, I said, guys, i'll be 0:18:35.680 --> 0:18:38.200 back in three hours left. Watch the movie Came Back. 0:18:38.320 --> 0:18:40.399 It was perfect. And yeah. So when you go to 0:18:40.400 --> 0:18:41.840 dinner by yourself, do you sit at the bar? You 0:18:41.880 --> 0:18:44.439 sit at the table, always at a table in a 0:18:44.440 --> 0:18:49.359 booth with my back to everyone. You're joking. No, I 0:18:49.359 --> 0:18:51.240 want to just be by myself. You don't go to 0:18:51.280 --> 0:18:55.440 the bar. Heck no, then there's a chance the bartender 0:18:55.520 --> 0:18:56.880 might talk to me. I don't want it. I don't 0:18:56.880 --> 0:19:00.360 want that. Yeah, but it's more of like on at all. 0:19:00.400 --> 0:19:02.400 If I go out to eat by myself, I'm going 0:19:02.400 --> 0:19:05.000 to the bar. I'm sitting at the bar. I'm watching TV. 0:19:05.119 --> 0:19:06.719 So what do you do in the booth? Just on 0:19:06.760 --> 0:19:09.640 your phone the entire time? Just yep, on my phone 0:19:09.720 --> 0:19:13.440 the old time, set my fantasy lineup, watch some TikTok videos. 0:19:14.119 --> 0:19:16.159 That's the whole people of going out by yourself is 0:19:16.240 --> 0:19:17.840 you can just don't have to talk to anyone. You 0:19:17.840 --> 0:19:19.960 can just be on your phone, living in your own 0:19:19.960 --> 0:19:22.959 little world. I'm a big bar guy. I I like, 0:19:23.160 --> 0:19:26.159 I don't like having full and conversations with other bar patrons, 0:19:26.440 --> 0:19:29.760 but I like the community aspect of it. So like 0:19:30.160 --> 0:19:33.520 they'll be like, there'll be a highlight of a Patriots 0:19:33.560 --> 0:19:35.760 game and then you know some guy would be like 0:19:36.400 --> 0:19:39.639 fucking slap bands, yeah, or or just like even just 0:19:39.840 --> 0:19:42.320 like we'll just vent for a second, Like I can't 0:19:42.320 --> 0:19:44.000 believe they got rid of Brady, Like I know, man, 0:19:44.040 --> 0:19:45.960 it's crazy, like I'm missing. I just don't like the 0:19:46.040 --> 0:19:49.080 high stools, you know, like high stools. I love high stools. 0:19:50.520 --> 0:19:53.280 Maybe it's because what are you six to? Yeah, they 0:19:53.320 --> 0:19:55.800 make me feel taller, like I'm six ft, but like 0:19:55.840 --> 0:19:57.440 I've always wanted to be six too. I feel like 0:19:57.520 --> 0:19:59.480 that's like the perfect guy high. So maybe the stool 0:19:59.560 --> 0:20:01.080 like me up a little bit. You know, I'm not 0:20:01.160 --> 0:20:04.720 slap so you feel like you're And I also love bartenders, 0:20:05.160 --> 0:20:07.000 like we've talked about this before in the podcast, Like 0:20:07.240 --> 0:20:09.000 I'm not talking about just female. I'm just talking about 0:20:09.040 --> 0:20:12.760 male female. Like there's there's I guess maybe because i've bartended, 0:20:12.800 --> 0:20:15.800 there's like you know this, it's like, hey, we're we're 0:20:15.840 --> 0:20:18.840 one and the same. You know, you and I we're 0:20:18.880 --> 0:20:21.560 part of this community together. You know my woes. We've 0:20:21.600 --> 0:20:25.360 seen some man, we've we've been a battle, We've been 0:20:25.400 --> 0:20:29.920 to battle. Anyway, Um, hey, I think it's time for 0:20:30.040 --> 0:20:33.760 us to say goodbye. I agree to the lou to 0:20:34.200 --> 0:20:37.160 loose Superman. Thank you guys for listening to this week's 0:20:37.160 --> 0:20:39.679 episode of Help I Suck at Dating. If you haven't already, 0:20:39.720 --> 0:20:42.080