Speaker 1: Brooking jewels second day. Business conventions are good for three reasons. One,
Speaker 1: you get to learn new techniques about whatever industry that
Speaker 1: you're in, maybe help you increase your business. Number two
Speaker 1: of the sex, and then number three the sex are
Speaker 1: the three reasons that business conventions are really really good.
Speaker 1: Meaningtime you meet somebody at a convention, you just assume
Speaker 1: you're probably gonna be having sex with him. Why are
Speaker 1: you in the porn industry? Like everybody knows that about
Speaker 1: business conventions. It's like you're in town for one night,
Speaker 1: you're for the weekend, and you're just there and you
Speaker 1: go and you learn whatever it is that you have
Speaker 1: to learn for the day. Then you got drinking at
Speaker 1: night and usually probably hook up with somebody. And that's
Speaker 1: where James, who's on the phone today, he met the
Speaker 1: girl that he wants to call at a business convention.
Speaker 1: So I'm assuming that they slept together, did you, James?
Speaker 1: We did not? What are you doing? Man? Come on,
Speaker 1: it's a convention girl. They're so easy, I guess. I
Speaker 1: don't know if that's true yet. Is that the way
Speaker 1: it is? You know what? I haven't been to a
Speaker 1: business convention in a long time, so was it in
Speaker 1: a marketing company for like a couple of years, and
Speaker 1: it was terrible. But that's what I remember always thinking
Speaker 1: every time I had to go to convention, was like,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna get lucky. Did you ever myself? That's just
Speaker 1: so there's no fact at all to what you're saying.
Speaker 1: Our business convention is like what I think they are.
Speaker 1: You know, Uh, it's a lot of people. We're trapped
Speaker 1: in space, you know. Yeah, when you get out, I
Speaker 1: guess things could happen. It happened for me this time.
Speaker 1: But you know, why don't you tell us a little
Speaker 1: bit about the girl that you want to call today? Yeah,
Speaker 1: her name is Kia. We met at a convention. Really
Speaker 1: come in at interesting you met at a convention convention? Shock? Right?
Speaker 1: I come in from town every couple of weeks. That's
Speaker 1: where I met her and we just kind of hit
Speaker 1: it off. Have you ever seen her before or no? No,
Speaker 1: this is my first time seeing her. Was that this
Speaker 1: specific convention. Did you guys actually go at on a
Speaker 1: date or did you just hang out all day at
Speaker 1: the convention? Well, we like hung out and then I said,
Speaker 1: you know, hey, do you want to grab you know,
Speaker 1: some dinner tonight. I'm leaving in tomorrow if you want
Speaker 1: to grab dinner tonight, And she said, yeah, was it?
Speaker 1: I mean, was it clear that it was a date?
Speaker 1: Because I feel like if you're hanging out all day
Speaker 1: with business people, it could just be like, hey, we're
Speaker 1: both from out of town, we both have to go
Speaker 1: out to eat. That's when the sex happened. Oh of course. Sorry.
Speaker 1: Have you never been in business before ever? Apparently not.
Speaker 1: I mean, you knew that this was more than a
Speaker 1: dinner date, and you know, honestly, I was kind of
Speaker 1: hoping that we would end up having a little bit
Speaker 1: of sex maybe at the end of the night. You go,
Speaker 1: I actually knew that already because I read your email
Speaker 1: and it says at one point you started actually asking
Speaker 1: her about getting physical with each other. Yeah, after a
Speaker 1: few drinks that I did. Oh, that sounds so awkward
Speaker 1: to me. Well, I mean we had we're having a
Speaker 1: couple of drinks and I felt comfortable. I felt like
Speaker 1: she was comfortable too, so I you know, I mean,
Speaker 1: it wasn't I got to look back at it. It
Speaker 1: was not the kind of move I should have made.
Speaker 1: How did you approach that with her? Though? What'd you say.
Speaker 1: You know, I was just like, how about you know,
Speaker 1: I got my room key hotels right next door. You know,
Speaker 1: I was trying to be sly and it was not sly.
Speaker 1: What did she say to you back? She kind of
Speaker 1: got a little uncomfortable and was like ready to go.
Speaker 1: And I felt awful. You know, I'm a human, and
Speaker 1: I offered to walk her back to her hotel and
Speaker 1: she said no, no thanks and got a cab and
Speaker 1: I just went back to my place. And you know,
Speaker 1: I tried to reach out because I felt bad, and
Speaker 1: I haven't heard from her. What do you do about
Speaker 1: trying to reach out? You text her or call her? Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: you know, I sent her a text. Let's seems to
Speaker 1: be the easiest way to get a hold of her,
Speaker 1: and I haven't heard anything. I think the problem was
Speaker 1: that you actually asked her to like go to your hotel.
Speaker 1: You know, everybody knows the way you approach that is
Speaker 1: you just slide your room ki across the table and
Speaker 1: a wink three times and then you go uh huh,
Speaker 1: and then she'll just pick up on that hint. I mean, like,
Speaker 1: you know, like all joking, decide I really really like
Speaker 1: this girl, and I mean That's why I wrote in
Speaker 1: because I want to try to make this happen, you know.
Speaker 1: So do you want to apologize to her for being
Speaker 1: a maybe a little too forward and then ask her
Speaker 1: for a second date. Absolutely, I want to apologize and
Speaker 1: I want to see if, you know, if I can't
Speaker 1: get a second chance. You know, you feel like she's
Speaker 1: got the wrong impression. Yeah, you know that's like, that's
Speaker 1: not really me, that's not really you. But if she
Speaker 1: would have said yes to going back to your done
Speaker 1: it right, So it's you sometimes, So sometimes that's really you.
Speaker 1: But you would actually like to date her. I mean
Speaker 1: there's two sides each person, right, Yeah, before all that happened,
Speaker 1: I really do think we had an actual connection and
Speaker 1: I'm very interested and attracted to her. So you think
Speaker 1: you just messed up by trying to get it back
Speaker 1: to your room same night that you totally messed up.
Speaker 1: I totally miss I mean we were drinking, and yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean you know how it is he takes signs
Speaker 1: that might not be there, you know. Yeah, all right,
Speaker 1: well we'll play a song, come back, call her and
Speaker 1: get your second date update. All right, all right, all right,
Speaker 1: hang on looking jubil in the morning, we've got James
Speaker 1: on the phone with us, and today he wants to
Speaker 1: call a girl named Kiara. They met at a convention.
Speaker 1: He thinks he screwed up their first date because during
Speaker 1: dinner he asked her if she wanted to go back
Speaker 1: to his hotel room not to like check out the
Speaker 1: great deal on Wi Fi, that they have their great
Speaker 1: amenities to do stuff that adults do with each other
Speaker 1: in hotel rooms on occasion. And she turned him down
Speaker 1: and said no and hasn't talked to him since. But
Speaker 1: he'd liked to get her on the phone because they
Speaker 1: met at this convention. He's in town once in a while.
Speaker 1: He wants to go out with her again, like on
Speaker 1: an actual date and not just try to, you know,
Speaker 1: get some butts one sexy way to put it. James'll say, no,
Speaker 1: you're not ready to give her a call and see
Speaker 1: if you can do some damage control and get another date.
Speaker 1: Let's see what happened, all right. You know the tough
Speaker 1: part about this for you is convincing her that you're
Speaker 1: not just interested in sex, right because you already went there,
Speaker 1: So how do you go back and be like, no,
Speaker 1: I promise that wasn't the only thing that I'm interested in.
Speaker 1: I would actually like to date you. Charm. Yeah, maybe
Speaker 1: you think you have some of that, James. Well, I
Speaker 1: guess we'll find out today. If you had charm, you
Speaker 1: would have been able to get her to go back
Speaker 1: to your room. You wouldn't even be having this problem. Yeah.
Speaker 1: I guess it's the power of persuasion. But I think
Speaker 1: I think just be honest and true to yourself, James,
Speaker 1: is probably the best goal here. Okay. Yeah, I'll just
Speaker 1: I mean apologize and let her know that I was
Speaker 1: just too forward and see if we can't, you know,
Speaker 1: go back and try it again and sure who I
Speaker 1: really am? Okay? Cool. Well, I'm gonna do the phone
Speaker 1: right now and get her on the phone. You're ready,
Speaker 1: all right, let's do it. Okay. Hello? Oh can I
Speaker 1: speak to Kara? Please speaking? Hi Kara. This is Jewel
Speaker 1: from Brook and Jewil in the Morning. How are you?
Speaker 1: This is who? Jebil from Brooke and Jewil in the Morning. Jebil,
Speaker 1: I'm sorry, I don't know who this is. Okay, I'm
Speaker 1: calling from Brooke and Jewel in the Morning. It's a
Speaker 1: radio show, Okay. One of our listeners recently emailed us
Speaker 1: about you, asking if we could get you on the phone.
Speaker 1: Someone wants me on the phone? Yes, sort of. We
Speaker 1: do a segment on our show called the Second Date Update.
Speaker 1: It's basically, if you go out on a date with
Speaker 1: somebody and then blow them off, they email us and
Speaker 1: ask if we can get you on the phone and
Speaker 1: ask if they did something wrong? Who would do that?
Speaker 1: His name is James and you recently met him at
Speaker 1: a convention. God really yep? James emailed us and asked
Speaker 1: if we get a hold of you because you're apparently
Speaker 1: not answering any of his text messages. Did you like
Speaker 1: James at all? Well? I liked him on our date
Speaker 1: until the very end. But no, are you talking about
Speaker 1: the point where he asked if you want to go
Speaker 1: back to his hotel room? He told you that, Yeah,
Speaker 1: he did. Yea. He told us because we asked him
Speaker 1: about your date and about meeting you. He said that
Speaker 1: he really liked you, but he also felt like he
Speaker 1: kind of overstepped his bounds there and he felt bad
Speaker 1: about it. He kind of overstepped his boundary. Did he
Speaker 1: tell you everything? That's all I know is that you
Speaker 1: guys met at a convention went out for dinner, and
Speaker 1: he asked you to go back to his room, and
Speaker 1: that's the last yard from you. That's all he told us. Okay,
Speaker 1: so did he tell you towards the end of dinner?
Speaker 1: And I understand we've both had a couple of drinks,
Speaker 1: but did he tell you that he'd said to me, Hey,
Speaker 1: you know, I'm in town every couple of weeks, and
Speaker 1: I would love to have you as my friend with benefits.
Speaker 1: That is seriously what he propositioned you. He was already
Speaker 1: trying to get me back to his place that night,
Speaker 1: which I have to hear it out. Yeah, I mean,
Speaker 1: I'm not to do that. It's not my first convention.
Speaker 1: But just be like, hey, baby, I'm in found every
Speaker 1: couple of weeks. Be my regular friends of Benniff. What
Speaker 1: the hell is that all? Is that really how he
Speaker 1: said it, because that's not how he explained it to
Speaker 1: us at all. Well, I'm sure he's being all sweet
Speaker 1: when he explains it to you guys. He doesn't want
Speaker 1: to sound like a son. I mean when I said no,
Speaker 1: because seriously, I've known him over a dinner for maybe
Speaker 1: an hour and a half. Yeah, he accused me of
Speaker 1: being a prude. No he didn't. He sure did. How
Speaker 1: did he say that? So wired? Because I value myself
Speaker 1: as a human being, not just as a woman, but
Speaker 1: as a human being. He just doesn't want to spread
Speaker 1: my legs over cheap wine. And she says, what did
Speaker 1: he say to you? I mean, did he's flat out
Speaker 1: call you a prude? He did. He called me a
Speaker 1: trude to dinner and that was that. And then there
Speaker 1: I got up and I went to go get a cat,
Speaker 1: so back to my hotel. That is so like the
Speaker 1: way he painted it was how much he enjoyed your
Speaker 1: company and how great he thought you were. Like I
Speaker 1: would have never guessed he was that sleazy. I would
Speaker 1: have never thought he was that sleazy when he so
Speaker 1: very nicely asked me out after we hung out all day.
Speaker 1: But as it turns out, he's no different than the
Speaker 1: majority of the slee falls who go to these conventions
Speaker 1: that are like, hey, time to hook up, wife, not around.
Speaker 1: I mean, they're all hit Does this happen a lot
Speaker 1: of conventions? Oh my god, yeah. I mean everyone who's
Speaker 1: ever been to a convention knows it's just like one.
Speaker 1: I was joking about that earlier. We were talking about it,
Speaker 1: and I was like, that's the way at least I
Speaker 1: would think of conventions. Wait, I mean, I guess you
Speaker 1: get a bunch of horny businessmen out there. Is this
Speaker 1: the first time something like this has happened to you? Actually,
Speaker 1: it is, because this is the first time I've ever
Speaker 1: said yes to going to dinner with anyone. Yeah. Normally
Speaker 1: I just go, I do my thing, I hang out
Speaker 1: with whoever's there, and I just go back to my
Speaker 1: hotel room and go to bed. Yeah. So he told
Speaker 1: us that he tried to text you after your date.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, he sure did. Oh did he not just
Speaker 1: apologize in his text? No? No? No, Oh, I mean
Speaker 1: he did. He's like, listen, I'm sorry if things got
Speaker 1: out of hand. And I wrote him back, I'm like,
Speaker 1: just don't contact me ever again. And then the guy
Speaker 1: has evolves to say, well, you don't know what you're
Speaker 1: missing with this, and I'm like, he really said that
Speaker 1: to you? He really? I still have the text message.
Speaker 1: He left all of that out. It didn't. From his
Speaker 1: side of the story, it sounds like he was very
Speaker 1: sweet to you after, like I really apologize for asking
Speaker 1: you go to back to my room. That was so
Speaker 1: wrong of me. Wouldn't you love to just kind of
Speaker 1: talk to him about it? Though, actually I really wouldn't
Speaker 1: like to talk to him about it. I hope I
Speaker 1: never talk to him or see him again at all.
Speaker 1: That's a shame because he's on the phone listening right now.
Speaker 1: He wants to talk to you. What. Yeah, No, I
Speaker 1: seriously am not over exaggerating. I have those text messages.
Speaker 1: It's that you sent me and you're like a foul
Speaker 1: craft pig, and I don't worry and hear it. Please,
Speaker 1: you know, just just hang on one second, right, I
Speaker 1: apologize for these text messages and you know like it
Speaker 1: it isn't really me. But at the same time, we
Speaker 1: were both drinking a lot. I don't remember sending you
Speaker 1: that text lesson. I remember apologizing, but I don't remember
Speaker 1: saying anything about my I thought it was just another
Speaker 1: piece of proof I would have discussing, pig that you
Speaker 1: are that I saved it, showed it to all the
Speaker 1: women that I know that are going to the convention
Speaker 1: in a week, to make sure that they didn't as
Speaker 1: much as even say hello to you. But you know what,
Speaker 1: you were the one that went out with me. Didn't
Speaker 1: you just say that you knew that these conventions were
Speaker 1: all about, and yet you came out to dinner with me.
Speaker 1: On me, why I went out to dare with you.
Speaker 1: I didn't go back to your hotel with you and
Speaker 1: then suddenly become a fruit. There's a big difference. Well,
Speaker 1: but here's the deal. You got me going you We
Speaker 1: were there together, and then all of sudden you gonna
Speaker 1: walk away. That sounds with a fruit to me. We
Speaker 1: were drinking, you were flirting, you were trying to get
Speaker 1: me going, and you got me going. James, Why do
Speaker 1: you have to say it like that? Stop? It's true
Speaker 1: you did it for me. Oh my god, Seriously, you guys,
Speaker 1: I'm so sick of this side. He's a cake. If
Speaker 1: you can't tell that all of your delusion, I don't
Speaker 1: think anybody liked outs that. Everybody's on your side with
Speaker 1: this one. Kia. Once I heard the phrase got me
Speaker 1: going a few times in there, I'm on board. Hey Carrott, regardless,
Speaker 1: would you like to go out with James again on
Speaker 1: a second date. I'd love to pay for it. No, No,
Speaker 1: what if we don't get him going? Is bad? I
Speaker 1: would sooner so out with my dog. Yeah, yeah, you
Speaker 1: know whatever, you proved you learn how to throw your
Speaker 1: signals out. Yeah. Yeah, it's definitely fault. Don't get a
Speaker 1: prostitute next time, honey. Well, you know there's not a
Speaker 1: convention coming up. I'll see what I can do. Now.
Speaker 1: You guys got me going with that whole process, dude.
Speaker 1: And when you got me going, you got me going broken.
Speaker 1: Jupil in the morning,