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Speaker 1: So we got some questions from you guys.

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Speaker 2: This is kind of about dating and relationships. First of all,

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Speaker 2: I just want to say that I believe in the

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Speaker 2: catch and release program. So I had a perfect date.

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Speaker 2: I posted about it on social media. I had the

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Speaker 2: best time. I drank, I danced, I talked. The guy

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Speaker 2: was great, we spent time together. I will always protect

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Speaker 2: the privacy of all of these people. And sometimes you'll

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Speaker 2: think you know who it is, but you don't. It

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Speaker 2: might be a little bit out of order. No matter what,

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Speaker 2: I'm always going to protect the privacy of anyone that

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Speaker 2: I'm dating like that would be a disaster for me.

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Speaker 2: And I just wouldn't do that to anyone. Okay, even

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Speaker 2: if they were a total dick, I wouldn't do it.

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Speaker 2: So I had a wonderful, wonderful time and met a

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Speaker 2: really nice, interesting man. Does that mean that we are

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Speaker 2: getting married and spending the rest of our lives together.

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Speaker 2: Absolutely not. It doesn't mean that right, doesn't mean that

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Speaker 2: we're not. No, But in this case, we're not because

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Speaker 2: this person just is not my person. I have my

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Speaker 2: own reasons that I won't share why this person is

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Speaker 2: not my person. It could be geography, it could be

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Speaker 2: number of kids, It could be religion, politics, height, sexual connection,

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Speaker 2: like whatever it is. It's like, how many people in

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Speaker 2: your life have you found that are the right person?

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Speaker 2: So if I go on one amazing date, it doesn't

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Speaker 2: mean we're spending the rest of our lives together. So

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Speaker 2: what do we do next? What we do next is

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Speaker 2: we try to just gently say this might not be

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Speaker 2: the right fit and for these reasons, And if a

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Speaker 2: person really wants to meet someone, you then set them

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Speaker 2: up with someone else. You go take care of all

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Speaker 2: your women, your community, and you don't just like throw

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Speaker 2: the fish back. You think to yourself, Okay, this guy's

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Speaker 2: great in many ways, What am I gonna do? Women

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Speaker 2: have so much difficulty finding great guys. This guy seems great,

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Speaker 2: so I might as well introduce to someone else. It

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Speaker 2: keeps the blood flow going for everybody, It keeps it

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Speaker 2: moving forward. What if this guy has a guy to

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Speaker 2: set me up with, Like, let's keep this all moving.

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Speaker 2: That's what we need to do. Because women don't set

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Speaker 2: women up. They really really don't. And it's a dry

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Speaker 2: county they gatekeep for no reason. And I just think

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Speaker 2: you should share the wealth. You should think of other

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Speaker 2: women when you have someone and even if they don't

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Speaker 2: like you. Let's say they don't like you, you're upset

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Speaker 2: about it. You really liked them. What are you gonna do?

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Speaker 2: Be spiteful they didn't like you, That's okay, they might

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Speaker 2: be great.

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Speaker 1: Set him up with someone else. Whoever you set him

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Speaker 1: up with might set you up with someone. It's a

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Speaker 1: very good technique. Okay.

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Speaker 2: What if a man doesn't use a tongue scraper. One

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Speaker 2: of my closest friends for my entire adult life didn't

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Speaker 2: even know what a tongue scraper was.

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Speaker 1: I gave her one that I had. Obviously it wasn't used.

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Speaker 1: I was like, are you unwell?

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Speaker 2: You're one of those fucking animals I talk about on

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Speaker 2: social media that doesn't scrape your tongue. If a guy

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Speaker 2: doesn't scrape his tongue, many of us have been going

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Speaker 2: years without doing it. Not me, it's been easily two decades.

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Speaker 2: But I mean, a man should be scraping his tongue,

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Speaker 2: so you better show him how to do it. I mean,

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Speaker 2: you're not going to physically show him how to do it,

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Speaker 2: that's disgusto, but you better show them that it needs

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Speaker 2: to be done.

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Speaker 1: Is that a deal break or no. Most met are animals.

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Speaker 2: Are men scared of successful accomplished women not in the

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Speaker 2: traditional sense. They don't even know they are. And it

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Speaker 2: depends the level of accomplished. If a woman is more

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Speaker 2: relevant and more quote unquote accomplished than them and has

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Speaker 2: more going on, yes, it's not that they're threatened, they're

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Speaker 2: triggered by it. It makes them think about what they're

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Speaker 2: not doing. This is the crux of my problem. Why

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Speaker 2: I said relevant and more successful and having more things

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Speaker 2: going on, because someone could have more money than I do.

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Speaker 2: But if they're not as relevant and don't have as

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Speaker 2: need them to get things done, then they will be

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Speaker 2: intimidated on some underlying level. They don't think they are,

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Speaker 2: they don't know they are, but they are. Because I

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Speaker 2: have had too many times men feel a certain type

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Speaker 2: of way want to overcompensate. I'm over compensating for them.

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Speaker 2: It just feels awkward that I have more going on

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Speaker 2: and that I am more desired, meaning there'll be deals

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Speaker 2: There could be smart businessmen that I know that I

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Speaker 2: can bring them into the deals I have a guy

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Speaker 2: the number one thing on his resume that he was

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Speaker 2: I was the one needed for this deal. That made

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Speaker 2: him feel marginalized because in order to get these kind

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Speaker 2: of deals he needed me. It was just a bad dynamic.

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Speaker 2: It happens a lot. It's like, whoever the end is

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Speaker 2: is that I'm doing the deal with, wants me. They're

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Speaker 2: just someone that I'm bringing in. It's happened with my

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Speaker 2: talk show. It's happened my whole life, my whole adult

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Speaker 2: business life. So you gotta know that very few men

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Speaker 2: are going to not feel that way, because men are

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Speaker 2: defined by what they do for a living, by what

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Speaker 2: by their influence. And why I say, like someone needs

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Speaker 2: you to be there. It's very specific. I was talking

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Speaker 2: to someone today who is I don't want to get

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Speaker 2: into details. They are in a relationship with someone who

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Speaker 2: is such. They're married to someone who is so rich

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Speaker 2: that it's unimaginable. Okay, but they themselves don't have their

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Speaker 2: own identity. They're the plus one no matter what, no

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Speaker 2: matter how rich they are, they're not the one that

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Speaker 2: the person is calling and needs, or whose opinion they want,

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Speaker 2: or like you got to be here on this time,

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Speaker 2: or like, they're not integral in any equation, and that

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Speaker 1: It just doesn't make them feel good.

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Speaker 2: And they need their own thing where it's like someone

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Speaker 2: and they're integral in the equation. You've got to really

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Speaker 2: think about the nuanced difference. And they don't always date

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Speaker 2: women half their age. Why does everyone just say that

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Speaker 2: it's such a cliche. They'll do it, they'll dip in.

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Speaker 2: They don't ultimately want that. I'm zero intimidated by someone

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Speaker 1: It's boring. I don't care like I'm.

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Speaker 2: In my own stage, my own age, and men who

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Speaker 2: as them. The guy who wants that you don't want.

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Speaker 2: The guy who wants the younger woman, you don't want.

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Speaker 2: We're not bitter about it. It's just that you don't

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Speaker 2: really get it, Like he's so insecure that he needs

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Speaker 2: to have like that shiny object that people are making

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Speaker 2: fun of him about. Like it's honestly not something to

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Speaker 1: It really isn't.

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Speaker 2: I spend zero time thinking about it.

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Speaker 1: It's like a joke.

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Speaker 2: It's like a cocktail party fodder. It's like a midlife crisis. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: five years whatever. And by the way, for women too,

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Speaker 2: a woman is with a man twenty years younger. It's

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Speaker 2: just like a little cringey. No one's jealous of that.

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Speaker 2: No one wants that a woman should want someone who

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Speaker 2: also is within their frame of reference. With exceptions. Yes,

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Speaker 2: everything has exceptions in both directions. But like it's just

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Speaker 2: you're paying on the way in or you're paying on

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Speaker 2: the way out. Someone's getting older. It's a fact. The

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Speaker 2: numbers don't lie. They're going to add up and matter later,

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Speaker 2: So pay on the way in or the way out.

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Speaker 2: I would rather be with a life partner that's closer

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Speaker 2: not like when i'm young environment and want to have

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Speaker 2: wants to have fun I'm worried about. We're all planning

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Speaker 2: for like when our kids are off, when we're stuck

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Speaker 2: with this person, going boating, sitting on a bench, eating

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Speaker 2: fucking saltines and soup, Like that's when we're kind of

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Speaker 2: gonna be worried about it. Like now I could do

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Speaker 2: everything I want. I get invited to everything, I can

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Speaker 2: go everywhere. I have money, I have influence, I have power,

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Speaker 2: I have fame. Like it's not really now, it's kind

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Speaker 2: of like life partner for later. I don't really want

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Speaker 2: to be like chewing up my husband's food and feeding

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Speaker 2: it to him. It's not that attractive to me, and

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Speaker 2: I don't think either. Why is it creepy for a

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Speaker 2: woman to date younger and it's not creepy for a man,

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Speaker 2: it's like all creepy. It's like it depends on how

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Speaker 2: much five years, six years, seven years, fine, fifteen, twenty years.

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Speaker 1: It's like creepy across the board.

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Speaker 2: It's not creepy for a man to date a woman's

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Speaker 2: seven years younger anymore than it is a woman in

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Speaker 2: both directions fifteen and twenty.

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Speaker 1: It is a little creepy. It's something off. Something's off.

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Speaker 2: Yes, there are exceptions, Okay, there are exceptions. Do I

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Speaker 2: have prerequisite? It's yeah. All I have are prerequisites for dating.

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Speaker 2: All I have are prerequisites, and I'm not settling on them.

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Speaker 2: I don't want to feel discomfort in my love life anymore.

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Speaker 2: I don't want to convince myself because I took myself

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Speaker 2: to the twenty first mile but fucking choked and got

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Speaker 2: the whole way. If I don't love it, I don't

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Speaker 2: like it. If I don't know, yes, it's no, I'm not.

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Speaker 1: So.

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Speaker 2: You can have whatever prerequisites you want to have. Where

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Speaker 2: do they live, how tall are they? How many kids

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Speaker 2: do they have?

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Speaker 1: I don't care.

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Speaker 2: There will be some sacrifices, but you'll be willing to

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Speaker 2: make them because it's just not going to be important.

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Speaker 2: You know what your prerequisites are. Mine do not matter

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Speaker 2: to you. Mine don't. Mine are different than yours, which

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Speaker 2: is why if there's a man that isn't right for me,

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Speaker 2: he might be right for you.

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Speaker 1: Maybe.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, there's a thousand things. Maybe he lives too far.

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Speaker 2: Maybe you want that. You like that you have a

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Speaker 2: to different hockey and like, you don't want someone who

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Speaker 2: wants you full time. Maybe you like short kings, Like,

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Speaker 2: don't worry about my prerequisit's worry about yours view on

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Speaker 2: the man being the provider. Yeah, I dig that a lot.

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Speaker 2: It's a prerequisite. Thanks for asking. It's a full prerequisite.

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Speaker 2: I don't need it. It's what I want. Man is

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Speaker 2: the provider. Man pays, man buys. I don't go into

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Speaker 2: for myself. It's awkward. I could buy anything I want

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Speaker 2: in any store. I could buy the store. It doesn't

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Speaker 2: mean I want to stand in a store and have

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Speaker 2: like a floral dress on a vacation. It's going to

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Speaker 2: make me feel like a man, and I'm not gonna

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Speaker 2: like it, or I'm gonna feel like I'm uncomfortable going

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Speaker 1: Cut bait.

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Speaker 2: At a certain age, which many of you are, everybody

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Speaker 2: Someone said to me, why did you re you know,

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Speaker 2: I was like, no, I don't believe in long distance

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Speaker 2: I hadn't moved to where i'd be living, and I

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Speaker 1: So now I'm ready. Like you could say I'm ready.

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Speaker 2: Now, you don't have to say on the first date,

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Speaker 2: with intention. I'm dating with intention, meaning if someone doesn't

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Speaker 2: There's no reason why, like a hord a guy that

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Speaker 2: could be someone else's. It's a big sea, it's a

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Speaker 2: have to know how to look. It's like you're going

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Speaker 2: too far? But they're super funny? Like you find your puzzle,

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Speaker 1: This is just random.

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Speaker 2: But like, critics were criticizing Megan Trainer about her glow

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Speaker 2: Why do people have to still pin Kim Kardashian into

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Speaker 2: Why do people have to talk about people's failures fifteen

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Speaker 2: Like there should be no bringing up and like character

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Speaker 2: where we are now. Kim Kardashian is a successful billionaire.

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Speaker 2: You know, I was on a Housewives screaming at people

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Speaker 1: She's a good woman.

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Speaker 2: Now turn the player dog who cheated on his girlfriend

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Speaker 2: Everyone gets to have a second chance if they want it.

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Speaker 2: It's ridiculous. I'm trying to really try to think about weights.

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Speaker 2: is doing a triathlon, which to me is working out,

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