Speaker 1: Wow, we were actually synked in our little clay that are.
Speaker 2: I know, I'm so proud of us. We're very very
Speaker 2: slight synced up, synced up to. Yeah, I love it. Well,
Speaker 2: Welcome back to how Rude Tanner Ritos. I'm Andrea Barber
Speaker 2: and I'm Jody Sweeton, and today we have a fun
Speaker 2: mini soode for you guys. We are talking about the
Speaker 2: top ten best parenting lessons from Full House, which we
Speaker 2: got from a website.
Speaker 1: Yeah right, we yes, we but but I we're you know,
Speaker 1: gonna go through each of them and talk about them.
Speaker 1: And I do think there's some really great parenting things
Speaker 1: on here that Danny Tanner and full House definitely taught us.
Speaker 2: Yes, we can say thank you to Danny Tanner for
Speaker 2: these great parenting lessons. You know, full House raised a
Speaker 2: whole generation for you know, people feel like they don't
Speaker 2: you get that all the time. People come up to
Speaker 2: me all the time and say, I grew up with you,
Speaker 2: and oh yeah, hi, yeah, like we're childhood best friends,
Speaker 2: you know.
Speaker 3: Yeah exactly.
Speaker 2: It was.
Speaker 1: I mean, so many kids our age watched the show
Speaker 1: and sort of you know, as we were going through
Speaker 1: all of our life stuff, so were they and so
Speaker 1: it felt very reflective of their experience. And again they're
Speaker 1: you know, family sitcoms often didn't focus as much on
Speaker 1: the kids, and so our show really focused on the
Speaker 1: kids a lot, and on you know, how families get along,
Speaker 1: and how different sorts of families get along, and you
Speaker 1: know all that kind of stuff and different styles of parenting. Yeah, yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: it was yeah, because there was you know, three different
Speaker 1: people in the house and and helping.
Speaker 3: Raise these kids.
Speaker 2: So yeah, it was.
Speaker 3: I really liked some of these though. These are are
Speaker 3: good ones.
Speaker 2: These are great ones. These are great ones.
Speaker 3: Shall we dive in.
Speaker 2: Let's dive in and learn from back and forth.
Speaker 3: Yeah, let's just yeah, let's do it.
Speaker 2: Okay. Number one, respect your children's boundaries, but also do
Speaker 2: whatever it takes to help. And the website gives the
Speaker 2: example of Danny reading a secret note that DJ had written.
Speaker 2: I agree with this. I think kids need to feel
Speaker 2: some autonomy. They need to feel like they have a
Speaker 2: space of their own that's just for them. Absolutely, that's
Speaker 2: protected from parents' eyes. I do. Yeah, unless you're concerned
Speaker 2: that they're in danger or something, then you will obviously
Speaker 2: can break the trust.
Speaker 3: I have always told my kids.
Speaker 1: I will respect your privacy, your friend's privacy, unless it's
Speaker 1: something that's going to put you or someone else in danger.
Speaker 1: Then then then I cannot keep those secrets.
Speaker 3: Right, right, you know I said.
Speaker 1: But yeah, especially like as kids get older, if they
Speaker 1: don't feel like they have a space of their own
Speaker 1: to like have their own experience and figure things out
Speaker 1: a little bit, then I feel like sometimes they'll hide
Speaker 1: stuff from you even more if you're constantly crossing that boundaries.
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, it would definitely backfire if you were too nosy.
Speaker 2: So yeah, some secrets are good.
Speaker 1: It's so hard though, to like keep that in you
Speaker 1: know what I mean. I mean like when you find
Speaker 1: out something, you're like, oh I can't okay, what is
Speaker 1: the what's the you know, right thing to do?
Speaker 2: Like?
Speaker 1: Do I not say anything and let them figure it out?
Speaker 1: Do I say something?
Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 1: Yeah, Well Danny did a good job with trying to,
Speaker 1: you know, remind his kids he'll.
Speaker 3: Do whatever it takes.
Speaker 2: But also, oh gosh, that was a lesson that knocked
Speaker 2: you over the head. Yeah, those the three guys, all
Speaker 2: of them really would do anything for the girls. Yeah,
Speaker 2: like they were always That's that's something I think a
Speaker 2: lot of people who didn't have that family support really
Speaker 2: latched onto was just the unconditional love that this household
Speaker 2: had for each other, and that they were always there
Speaker 2: for each other too, almost to a fault. But yeah, right,
Speaker 2: you know, I think that's a great it's a great lesson. Yeah,
Speaker 2: don't read their diaries as much as you want to
Speaker 2: know it's going on right now, don't you just don't
Speaker 2: go there, don't.
Speaker 3: Go no, no no.
Speaker 2: Uh.
Speaker 1: Number two, it's important to remember you were a kid
Speaker 1: once too.
Speaker 2: Yeah, so I get this this, I get this a lot.
Speaker 2: I feel this a lot with teenagers, Yeah, because it's
Speaker 2: so easy to trivialize their feelings, Like they're so insecure
Speaker 2: and concerned about how they look, and I think nobody's
Speaker 2: looking at you.
Speaker 3: Worry about it.
Speaker 2: Everyone's concerned about how they look, so they're not paying
Speaker 2: attention to you. But we've got to remember that insecurity
Speaker 2: that you know, they just they're always just hyper fixated
Speaker 2: on themselves.
Speaker 1: I always say too, like it's hard sometimes as a
Speaker 1: parent when you get to that place where, uh, you know,
Speaker 1: you finally have like a frontal lobe and some sort
Speaker 1: of idea of like consequences and you know, all these
Speaker 1: things that happen as you mature into your mid twenties,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean, Like the twenty four twenty five,
Speaker 1: they don't think your frontal lobe is developed that has
Speaker 1: the you know, consequences and long term thing late. So
Speaker 1: I know, for me, sometimes it's really hard to like
Speaker 1: go back to a time that that that my brain
Speaker 1: didn't go, okay, well if.
Speaker 3: This happens, then this is gonna happen.
Speaker 1: Or if you stay up late, then you're gonna want
Speaker 1: you know, and you're gonna be tired the next day.
Speaker 1: Like kids don't that, they don't have that, they don't
Speaker 1: have that. It doesn't connect, and it sometimes you're like
Speaker 1: what is wrong with you? And you're like, nothing's necessarily
Speaker 1: wrong with them. It's just their kid and their brain
Speaker 1: doesn't work the same way. But it's so hard sometimes
Speaker 1: to remember that, to remember that, like you were a
Speaker 1: kid wants to and you were just just you know,
Speaker 1: sort of weirdly self centered and not necessarily thinking of others.
Speaker 2: And I think that's common childhood development. You know, they're
Speaker 2: absolutely very narcissistic little people. That's absolutely the child development exactly.
Speaker 3: But it's sometimes you just and especially as they get older.
Speaker 3: You're like, oh, how do I m?
Speaker 2: Why do I knock some sense into you? But you're like, no,
Speaker 2: they're they're just kids. That's okay. Well Number three, let
Speaker 2: your children have their own responsibilities. And the website gives
Speaker 2: the example of doing chort charts for the girls, or
Speaker 2: Danny teaching Michelle how to mop.
Speaker 3: I'm so bad at this one?
Speaker 2: Wait? Really? Yeah? How are you bad at? How are
Speaker 2: you bad at this one? Could I could see you
Speaker 2: like being like clean your rooms and do the dishes
Speaker 2: and take the trash out.
Speaker 3: I mean I do, I'm like, clean your room, do
Speaker 3: the thing. But like it's.
Speaker 1: It's hard and and and I think you'll understand this too.
Speaker 1: When you have kids that go back and forth between
Speaker 1: your house and dad's house, there's and my girls go
Speaker 1: back quite a bit.
Speaker 3: It's not even that there's different rules.
Speaker 1: It's just that it becomes very hard to have like
Speaker 1: sort of a regular chore thing of like, okay, you
Speaker 1: do the dishes you Monday, Wednesday, Friday, because you're only
Speaker 1: here every Wednesday and then every other Friday or that,
Speaker 1: you know, like, yeah, it becomes hard and and and
Speaker 1: more tedious.
Speaker 3: And I just I also.
Speaker 1: Like I will I have little chor charts and I
Speaker 1: am great for like two weeks, but then my add
Speaker 1: kicks in and I forget to have them do the
Speaker 1: chor chart or I don't know where I put it,
Speaker 1: or I'm like, oh, this isn't working, and I just
Speaker 1: get rid of it. And so we've I will definitely
Speaker 1: say I uh. That is one area at my house
Speaker 1: that has is a struggle, is like getting everyone on
Speaker 1: board with doing the same chores or like just you know,
Speaker 1: and it's just it's a lot of arguing.
Speaker 2: It's a lot of arguing. But I it's it's it's
Speaker 2: hard being the disciplinarian all the time. You know, some kids,
Speaker 2: I just want to have fun with you, especially if
Speaker 2: you're yeah, if you split custody, just want to have
Speaker 2: fun with it. It's yeah.
Speaker 1: And my thing is always clean your room and like
Speaker 1: just take trash out of your room.
Speaker 3: Can you just take the trash out?
Speaker 2: Get the cups? Don't want the cup the cups that multiply.
Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, why do they drink? They drink so much.
Speaker 2: They're the most well hydrated children.
Speaker 3: And yet they're not like they're hydrated. But nothing is
Speaker 3: empty it's all gone.
Speaker 1: Like they pour a gigantic glass of juice and then
Speaker 1: drink that much and now you got a half. And
Speaker 1: I'm like, why do you guys pour so much juice?
Speaker 1: I pour them a couple of juice. They're like, that's
Speaker 1: so small. I'm like, you can refill it. But once
Speaker 1: you poured it in there and you're drinking out of
Speaker 1: it with your grubby little mouth, now now it's not.
Speaker 2: Going back in. Pour it back in, but the cups.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 2: Yeah, Well, my kids are pretty good at their their
Speaker 2: own personal responsibilities. Like they can clean their rooms, they
Speaker 2: can do their own laundry, they can make their own
Speaker 2: food if they don't like, yeah, good with that. But
Speaker 2: like the household chores, I'm mad at. I'm bad at that.
Speaker 2: I'm kind of like, I like the way I put
Speaker 2: the dishes in the dish. They put the dishes away,
Speaker 2: and they're bad at it. I swear it's learned in
Speaker 2: common learned helplessness. Yeah, helpless that's what it is. Yes,
Speaker 2: they do it badly so that I don't ask him
Speaker 2: to do it again.
Speaker 3: It's true, it's true.
Speaker 1: And you know, I mean, we've all had that thing
Speaker 1: when you're like Okay, come wash the dish, and they
Speaker 1: wash it and then you look at it and you're.
Speaker 2: Like that, let's not washed.
Speaker 3: They don't even like sometimes they I'm like, did was
Speaker 3: it a hot water?
Speaker 2: Oh? Did you even put the little scrubby?
Speaker 3: Did you use soap?
Speaker 2: Oh?
Speaker 3: What do you mean? Yeah?
Speaker 2: Tato is the worst. I mean, he's so great at
Speaker 2: I'm like a for effort, you tried, but none.
Speaker 3: They don't even try though. They just go, well, you'll
Speaker 3: do it because you if you, you know, get sick
Speaker 3: of it.
Speaker 1: But like, I don't want to find after the fourth
Speaker 1: time of washing the same dish, you'd think you would
Speaker 1: do it properly.
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, but I get it.
Speaker 3: You just want to get it done.
Speaker 2: I think this is one of those things. I mean
Speaker 2: I've kind of like waved my white flag at the spot.
Speaker 2: I know. Yeah, I'm like, but mine are nineteen and no,
Speaker 2: mine are mine's almost twenty twight, it's gonna be twenty
Speaker 2: next week. Oh my gosh, oh are twenty and seventeen.
Speaker 2: So I'm kind of like, Okay, when you're when you
Speaker 2: have a roommate for the first time, that's where I'm at.
Speaker 2: That's when you're gonna learn that you can't live the
Speaker 2: way you've been living for the life.
Speaker 1: And you know what, honestly, that's really when it kicks
Speaker 1: in because when they are faced with someone else, not
Speaker 1: their parent, nagging them or being disappointed in how they
Speaker 1: are sharing their space.
Speaker 2: When you really to pay to do your own laundry,
Speaker 2: that's when you appreciate. Oh wow, it's great having a
Speaker 2: laundry machine, right, you're at the house that you don't
Speaker 2: have to pay for.
Speaker 3: I would love if my kids did just did the laundry.
Speaker 2: Just do it and fold it. Don't leave me the
Speaker 2: dryer for a week, fold it and put it away,
Speaker 2: or just put it away.
Speaker 3: I see.
Speaker 1: That's the thing is we're all all with me, and
Speaker 1: the girls were just a little add mess, and so
Speaker 1: we will start laundry and miscal's like, whose laundry is this?
Speaker 3: Because it could sometimes cause it's mine. Yeah that's right,
Speaker 3: Oh my god, that's right. I started that four days ago. Yeah,
Speaker 3: so I can't.
Speaker 1: That's the thing too, is like I can't even get
Speaker 1: that mad because I totally do the same stuff and
Speaker 1: like it.
Speaker 3: It's just yeah.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's hard to teach lessons that you yourself are
Speaker 2: not really abiding buy. So I get it. We're not perfect,
Speaker 2: we're flawed.
Speaker 1: It's okay, perfect, Okay, but they but once they get roommates, oh,
Speaker 1: then they'll be clean.
Speaker 2: I can't wait.
Speaker 3: Once it's too late for us.
Speaker 1: And then yeah, as you see when the parents go
Speaker 1: to their their like I went to my kid's apartment
Speaker 1: and they just leave every drawer open, the fridge open, everything.
Speaker 1: They're like, just payback and you're like, yeah, you can't
Speaker 1: look for that. It's gonna ye leave everything open and unplugged.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm like, how many roommates are going to move
Speaker 2: out of the apartment. How many roommates are going to
Speaker 2: go through before you learn the lesson? Hopefully not too many.
Speaker 3: Well, but the roommates will probably be a mess too.
Speaker 3: They'll figure it out.
Speaker 2: They'll they always they always figure it out. Yep. Hopefully
Speaker 2: by the time they're twenty five and the frontal has
Speaker 2: developed has developed. Yeah, exactly.
Speaker 1: Sure.
Speaker 2: Number four, help your children resolve conflict on their own terms.
Speaker 2: This is all Danny does. Like how many There were
Speaker 2: no examples, by the way, but okay, I feel like
Speaker 2: this is all Danny does. How many times have the
Speaker 2: girls moved themselves in and out of the bedroom. Like
Speaker 2: they are solving their own conflicts, you know, solving DJs,
Speaker 2: moving down amazing companies. Yeah, the girls are very self reliant.
Speaker 2: I'm saying they are.
Speaker 1: They really are, actually, like they're they for three kids. Uh,
Speaker 1: these three guys seem to always be doing a lot
Speaker 1: of stuff.
Speaker 2: Yeah, they had a lot of the kids are.
Speaker 1: But I think this one's really important, like resolving conflict
Speaker 1: on their own terms, because I know as a parent,
Speaker 1: for me, it's so hard sometimes to want to jump
Speaker 1: in and fix your kids problems or like especially friend problems.
Speaker 1: You know. Yeah, like I've been there, I get it, Like, no,
Speaker 1: this person needs to know this or you guys need
Speaker 1: to you know. And it's like if you interject yourself
Speaker 1: into their I mean again, unless someone's unsafe or like
Speaker 1: severe bullying or something. But of course, but conflict like
Speaker 1: between siblings or between friends, a lot of times you're like, oh, man,
Speaker 1: I'll be your sounding board, but I can't fix this
Speaker 1: for you.
Speaker 2: That's the best. That's probably the best advice actually is
Speaker 2: just to just to listen, like you don't Sometimes you
Speaker 2: don't have to solve everything, and you shouldn't because kids
Speaker 2: need to learn how to solve things themselves. But yeah,
Speaker 2: just to listen, be a sounding board, being like, you know,
Speaker 2: buying like their little therapists. Just just listen, just listen
Speaker 2: and say, okay, well I'm here for you if you
Speaker 2: want advice, which they don't.
Speaker 1: Yeah, right, it's really hard sometimes too. I fall into
Speaker 1: that trap all the time of being like, well, you
Speaker 1: know when I was your but and I'm like, oh
Speaker 1: my god, stop shut up.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I know we sound like our parents, you know.
Speaker 3: I hate it.
Speaker 2: It's it's the worst. It's the worst feeling.
Speaker 1: And I realized that I'm like trying to relate to
Speaker 1: them and that's probably what my parents were doing. And
Speaker 1: I was like, you're so lame. But yeah, conflict resolution
Speaker 1: is not easy. And if you don't let your kids
Speaker 1: learn how to do it, they're never going to resolve conflict.
Speaker 1: They're just going to either avoid it or create it
Speaker 1: and walk away.
Speaker 2: Yeah. No, they have to learn. They got to learn
Speaker 2: those skills, and they're going to make mistakes and that's okay.
Speaker 2: They're gonna they might lose a few friends, you know,
Speaker 2: they might they might switch to a different best friend. Whatever.
Speaker 2: That's that's called life. And you how you learn yeah.
Speaker 1: And sometimes sometimes like like it's hard when your kid
Speaker 1: has been maybe the one that kind of started the conflict,
Speaker 1: or or they're getting you know, when their friend is
Speaker 1: being mean to them and you want to jump in,
Speaker 1: but like you need to start teaching them how to
Speaker 1: you know, at a certain age, how to advocate for
Speaker 1: themselves and has saying this hurt my feelings or this
Speaker 1: is not.
Speaker 2: Okay, and to set boundaries. Yeah. Yeah, it's all very
Speaker 2: hard life lessons. I think with conflict with the kids,
Speaker 2: I mean, at this point in my parenting journey, it's
Speaker 2: again it's like waving a white flag. I'm like, I'm
Speaker 2: too tired, like solve this yourself, kids, because I am
Speaker 2: too tired to fix this well.
Speaker 1: And it's also the same with my girls either at
Speaker 1: an age now where it's like, okay, I'm not as
Speaker 1: worried that like someone's gonna get hurt because they're you know,
Speaker 1: being silly or wrestling around.
Speaker 3: Like I mean, they very well.
Speaker 1: Good, but it's not like the fighting isn't like they
Speaker 1: were when they were like seven and nine, or you know,
Speaker 1: they weren't like they were just at each other and
Speaker 1: now it's a little more like.
Speaker 3: It's just verbal barbs.
Speaker 1: You know, they they'll kind of throw or whatever, and
Speaker 1: like they'll argue or maybe adorable slam, but nothing crazy.
Speaker 3: And I'm like, you.
Speaker 1: Guys, gotta figure this out, because yeah, you do you
Speaker 1: get as a parent. You're like, I'm tired, I don't.
Speaker 1: And you also realized losing battle. True, they just want
Speaker 1: to they want to pick at each other.
Speaker 2: They have to argue it out. Yeah, they want to
Speaker 2: pick pick at each other and argue it out. Okay,
Speaker 2: then figure it out, you know.
Speaker 1: I find conflict resolution for the kids with friends is
Speaker 1: always the you know, it's the place you want to
Speaker 1: jump in because it's like some other kid.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you can't parent the other kids, right, right, so
Speaker 2: you don't know, you gotta you gotta, Well, first you
Speaker 2: have to figure out you have to put the filter on.
Speaker 2: I'm like, okay, am I hearing about this through the
Speaker 2: felicity filter, which like I didn't do anything wrong? I
Speaker 2: didn't you huh okay, so okay, what did you do?
Speaker 2: That may be added?
Speaker 3: What's the situation? Right?
Speaker 2: Right? So yeah, it's yeah, conflict resolution with friends is
Speaker 2: way harder than than sibling conflict. I'm like, right, you'll
Speaker 2: eventually love each other and get along.
Speaker 3: You know.
Speaker 2: It's the same way with me and my brothers.
Speaker 3: So did you have a lot of conflict with your
Speaker 3: brothers growing out?
Speaker 2: Oh, my god, all the time, all the time. Well,
Speaker 2: my my my brothers are a bit older. My brothers
Speaker 2: are five years older than me and seven years older
Speaker 2: than me. So there were times when like they weren't
Speaker 2: Like I was almost an only child at one point
Speaker 2: for like the high school years. But then Darren moved
Speaker 2: back home when he was in law school to save money,
Speaker 2: and so we were he was like an adult and
Speaker 2: I was high schooler. We were sharing the same bathroom, oh,
Speaker 2: and sharing the same laundry room everything. And he's just like, great,
Speaker 2: you took all the hot water. Why do you get
Speaker 2: in the shower right before I need it? You got
Speaker 2: to move your your clothes laundry machines. I still talk
Speaker 2: about it to this day. And my parents were just
Speaker 2: like you figure it out, like you know, figure out, yeah,
Speaker 2: this is you have to do laundry. You know, one
Speaker 2: of you does laundry on Sundays, the other one does
Speaker 2: laundry on Friday nights or whatever, right, and then work
Speaker 2: out a bathroom schedule. You both have to get up
Speaker 2: at the same time. You have to figure out who
Speaker 2: gets to shower first. So we're still arguing about it now,
Speaker 2: but now we can laugh about it.
Speaker 3: But right now you can laugh about it. But yeah,
Speaker 3: it is.
Speaker 1: It's like at some point you just kind of gotta go.
Speaker 1: You're gonna have to figure this out. And yeah, mom,
Speaker 1: nagging you is not working anymore. Yeah, yeah, because then
Speaker 1: it just we become the you know.
Speaker 2: It's white noise. It is totally white noise. Agreed.
Speaker 1: All right, Well, let's see what's next up on Danny
Speaker 1: Tanner's life lessons list here.
Speaker 3: Uh oh, this is a good one.
Speaker 2: Okay.
Speaker 3: It's important to make time for yourself too.
Speaker 2: Oh heck yeah, self care, baby.
Speaker 1: Yes, and self care doesn't necessarily look like, you know,
Speaker 1: a vacation all the time or a spa weekend or whatever.
Speaker 1: It can be ten minutes sitting in your car listening
Speaker 1: to your favorite song before you walk in the house.
Speaker 2: That's a great one. That's a really good one.
Speaker 1: Or ten minutes meditating in your car before you walk
Speaker 1: in the house, and that many times.
Speaker 2: Oh, got to reset for yourself before going into battle
Speaker 2: to see what's at home, waiting for you.
Speaker 1: I mean right, like that transition time from like maybe
Speaker 1: coming home from work or doing something and then like
Speaker 1: walking in the house. Sometimes you just need a minute.
Speaker 1: And that taking those five and ten minute moments for yourself,
Speaker 1: I find to be just as important as taking an
Speaker 1: afternoon where you're.
Speaker 3: Like, guess what Mom's off Like I'm not.
Speaker 1: I'm responding to nothing, those little ten minute things or
Speaker 1: you know, saying like hey, this is something that brings me.
Speaker 3: Joy that I'm gonna do for myself.
Speaker 1: It's very important and it makes you a much more
Speaker 1: balanced experience patient.
Speaker 2: Yeah, understanding, Yeah, my self care is I love to
Speaker 2: take my baths at night, you know, because I've I've
Speaker 2: facetiped you from my bathroom.
Speaker 3: Yes, yes, oh yeah, yep, I've yep yep.
Speaker 2: Which sounds weird, but whatever, it's weird.
Speaker 3: No, no, it's not.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's not weird. Bubbles are overcovered, you know, it's yes,
Speaker 1: exactly weird.
Speaker 2: But yeah, I find myself and they're like, why do
Speaker 2: you like taking baths every night? And I'm like, well,
Speaker 2: partially because I just shut and locked the door because.
Speaker 1: Nobody is gonna come and bother me when I'm naked
Speaker 1: in a bathtub and nobody, I mean.
Speaker 3: They're not toddlers right at this point. Now they're like horrified,
Speaker 3: like oh God, yes, I'm naked in the bathtub and
Speaker 3: they're like, ah.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's so great. But yeah know it's just it's
Speaker 2: a great way to just relax and do you compress,
Speaker 2: and nobody talk to me for these twenty minutes or whatever.
Speaker 1: Water is so healing. I yep, I also have a
Speaker 1: little I got my.
Speaker 3: Little bath tray.
Speaker 1: I'll take a book in there, put my jazz on.
Speaker 1: Now I've been seeing this whole uh bathroom e lait
Speaker 1: like light trend. Apparently really we're like like a shower light. Oh,
Speaker 1: like a little wireless lamp that's like a touch thing
Speaker 1: and it's like a dim little night light lamp. People
Speaker 1: are like putting them in their showers.
Speaker 2: Mood lighting for your shower.
Speaker 1: People that they're like, look look at me, create my
Speaker 1: perfect bath and there. You know, it's like a you
Speaker 1: got a lamp and a and a eucalyptus sprig and
Speaker 1: all this stuff.
Speaker 2: But hey, I've heard of the eucalyptus sprigs. Yeah, there's that.
Speaker 2: That's definitely a thing. They're aromatics, but yeah, you know
Speaker 2: what I noticed.
Speaker 1: Actually that's an example of this important to make time
Speaker 1: for yourself too. There's an episode that we watched recently
Speaker 1: where I think, I think Danny maybe says hey to
Speaker 1: joe when they're with the Friendship episode between Danny and Joey,
Speaker 1: and he says, Hey, it's Jesse's night to watch the kids.
Speaker 3: Do you want to go do something else?
Speaker 1: And I was like, oh, okay, So this is implying that,
Speaker 1: like the guys sort of have an agreement that hey,
Speaker 1: one night a week one of us will watch the
Speaker 1: kids and whatever while the other two get to go
Speaker 1: do something or you know, kind of. I think that's
Speaker 1: so valuable, super valuable. I think all parents, if you know,
Speaker 1: I mean, and sometimes obviously you can't do it, yeah,
Speaker 1: but if you you know, if you can even every
Speaker 1: once in a while, like it's super important to allow
Speaker 1: one or the other parent, especially if one or the
Speaker 1: other parent is taking care of the kids a lot more,
Speaker 1: to be like, hey, you you get like an afternoon
Speaker 1: to yourself.
Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, yes, that's right. That did. We did
Speaker 2: just review that recently. That is a form of self care.
Speaker 3: And they think they were They went and played basketball.
Speaker 2: And yeah, before Danny threw it, but yeah, I know
Speaker 2: that that was their former self left so just oh
Speaker 2: his mom way Irene, grandma Irene watching the.
Speaker 1: But but I do think I think that's a really
Speaker 1: important one. And and you know, in a family that
Speaker 1: there's seventeen people living in one house, it's very important
Speaker 1: to take some.
Speaker 3: Time for yourself. There's just no quiet, although not in
Speaker 3: the bathroom because you'll have eight more people that need
Speaker 3: to use it, so.
Speaker 2: There's only one. There's only one in the whole full house.
Speaker 3: That's it.
Speaker 2: So yeah, and the website uses example for Danny. Danny's
Speaker 2: self care is quiet cleaning time.
Speaker 3: Yes, quiet cleaning time.
Speaker 1: It's yeah, hey, you know it's buffing and polishing, it's
Speaker 1: cleaning the grout is what his mee time is.
Speaker 2: Hey, whatever floats your boat, that's the Sometimes that's what
Speaker 2: you need is just to clean get all your aggression
Speaker 2: out through that crowd. Yeah, okay, moving on number six.
Speaker 2: There's nothing that a hug can't help.
Speaker 3: Yep.
Speaker 2: And there's no example because there's a hug in basically
Speaker 2: every episode.
Speaker 3: So and I mean it's pretty self explanatory.
Speaker 2: Huh. I don't know, I feel this one was a
Speaker 2: little Pollyanna for me. I'm like, I mean it's yeah, it's.
Speaker 3: What if you don't like human touch.
Speaker 2: Yes, And that's the other thing, like I was thinking of,
Speaker 2: like making your kids hug, Like, oh, you've been fighting,
Speaker 2: make your kids hug each other.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't like that.
Speaker 2: I don't like that.
Speaker 1: Although it's funny when you see it, like they're like
Speaker 1: the in the same gigantic shirt or whatever, and you're like,
Speaker 1: they have to get along. But there, you know, sometimes
Speaker 1: I here's what I would say.
Speaker 3: I'd say that there's an asterisk here at the end.
Speaker 1: There's nothing that a hug can't help asterisk when the
Speaker 1: time is right.
Speaker 2: Okay, yes, when it's consensual and when the time is.
Speaker 1: Right, when the time is right and both parties are
Speaker 1: like a physical affection is something that would be helpful.
Speaker 1: I think that's absolutely true that a hug it releases oxytocin.
Speaker 2: That's true.
Speaker 1: It's a chemical boost. It's a good way to you know,
Speaker 1: create a bond with someone. But I will say I'm
Speaker 1: one of those people that might not always want to
Speaker 1: be hugged.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you've got it has to be the right time,
Speaker 2: in the right place, and you also have to pay
Speaker 2: attention to other people's cues, like Jesse is not his
Speaker 2: love language is not hugging.
Speaker 3: He's not a hugger.
Speaker 2: He's not a hugger, but Danny is. So sometimes Jesse
Speaker 2: will placate Danny because he knows that Danny just needs
Speaker 2: a hug. But that's not going to solve Jesse's problems.
Speaker 2: Jesse needs to talk it out. Jesse needs to come
Speaker 2: to realizations on his own and talk it out. So
Speaker 2: talking is important, and a hug can help if you've
Speaker 2: already talked to it, if it's the right time, and
Speaker 2: if it's the right time, Yeah, it's the right time. Okay.
Speaker 2: So this is a lesson with an asterisk.
Speaker 3: Yes, it's a Yeah, it's a it's a lesson with
Speaker 3: a caveat.
Speaker 2: Okay, yeah, okay, got it right? Uh you, I don't know,
Speaker 2: I don't know. I can remember you take it.
Speaker 3: I'll take it. Uh seven.
Speaker 1: Always let your children know how valuable they are.
Speaker 2: And the examples our DJ doesn't feel pretty enough, Stephanie's
Speaker 2: insecure about her glasses, and Michelle wants to play boy
Speaker 2: activities and gets made fun of in later seasons.
Speaker 3: Got it?
Speaker 2: So, yeah, this is a big one self worth. Teaching
Speaker 2: your kids that, yeah, self worth is important and you
Speaker 2: love them just the way they are. It doesn't matter
Speaker 2: if you wearing glasses or you don't feel pretty that day, whatever,
Speaker 2: you are special just the way.
Speaker 1: Well that your value, that you have value, inherent value,
Speaker 1: no matter what inherent value on the inside. Yes, your
Speaker 1: value isn't how you look person. Your value isn't how
Speaker 1: you look is It isn't what you can give. It
Speaker 1: isn't not what you wear, what you wear, or how
Speaker 1: much money you have that your Let your children know
Speaker 1: their inherent value just being present.
Speaker 2: That's that big enough.
Speaker 3: It is a big one.
Speaker 2: That's a really big one. I like it lesson a
Speaker 2: lot and it's not easy to teach either. No, they
Speaker 2: have to come to a lot of self actualization themselves.
Speaker 1: I think this is I think this is a lesson
Speaker 1: that I would even say, always let your family know
Speaker 1: how valuable they are. Like it's not even just kids,
Speaker 1: you know, I think let adults in your life know
Speaker 1: how valuable they are, Know that you're they're appreciated, know
Speaker 1: that they.
Speaker 3: Don't have to you know.
Speaker 1: And I feel like I see this in the show
Speaker 1: with amongst the guys sometimes too, like, hey man, it's
Speaker 1: not you know, I don't care what you can, what
Speaker 1: you're bringing, or what you're you know, it's not about that.
Speaker 3: It's about that I love you as part of my
Speaker 3: family or my friend.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: I think this is definitely a lesson that we hit
Speaker 1: home a lot in the show with you know, and yeah,
Speaker 1: like teaching the kids. You know, so what do you
Speaker 1: wear glasses? It doesn't matter if it's this. You are
Speaker 1: important for many many other things.
Speaker 2: This is a universal lesson for all ages, all unders,
Speaker 2: all everything is that, Yeah, you need to That's so
Speaker 2: important because it's easy to be down on yourself and
Speaker 2: to criticize yourself, and you know, it's so easy to
Speaker 2: fall into that that vortex, that whole ough.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 2: So yeah, no, it's important. It's important for children, equally
Speaker 2: important for adults too. Yeah, very good. Yeah, you're important. Okay.
Speaker 2: Number eight, it's important to have fun with your kids.
Speaker 2: And the example is Danny being involved with the Honeybee
Speaker 2: troop and he's ridiculous dad puns.
Speaker 3: The dad jokes are strong with Danny.
Speaker 2: Dad, the dad jokes are very strong.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 2: I think this is a good one too. And my
Speaker 2: my therapist talks about this a lot, because it's so
Speaker 2: easy to get up in the transactional side of parenting,
Speaker 2: where it's like did you do your homework and did
Speaker 2: you make your bed and did you do and my
Speaker 2: therapist is like, okay, stop, you have to stop being
Speaker 2: the trans actional parent for once and just have fun,
Speaker 2: like let your hair down, go see a movie, you know,
Speaker 2: go kick the soccer ball around, whatever it is, have
Speaker 2: fun with your kids. It's so easy to forget when
Speaker 2: you're I'm like a checklist, a check.
Speaker 1: I'm too, I'm a check Did you do the thing
Speaker 1: and the thing and the thing and the thing and yeah.
Speaker 1: I learned that lesson with Zoe when we went to
Speaker 1: Disneyland for her birthday. Was it was, you know, putting
Speaker 1: aside that transactional parenting of did you do all of
Speaker 1: the things that I need you to do for your
Speaker 1: sort of you know life stuff.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but this was just pure fun.
Speaker 3: Let's have fun.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's you just feel like a boss sometimes, like
Speaker 2: it's like, no, your relationship is way deeper than yeah,
Speaker 2: than just being your boss or your manager, you know,
Speaker 2: the house manager, or.
Speaker 1: Just right and freaking out over all the cups in
Speaker 1: your room, right, the cup collector. Yeah, I've made the
Speaker 1: joke one time that it was like like the movie
Speaker 1: Signs in their Room, But I don't nobody really got it.
Speaker 2: Can you remember the movie Signs Signs?
Speaker 3: Oh, well, this is there we go.
Speaker 2: It's also ask what do they doing science?
Speaker 1: In Signs, it's about the aliens and the little the
Speaker 1: girl is always leaving these cups of water around the
Speaker 1: house and it drives her dad crazy. But then come
Speaker 1: to find out at the end of the movie, the
Speaker 1: aliens if you throw water on them that they can't
Speaker 1: get wet. Oh, so all of a sudden, all of
Speaker 1: those cups of water become very handy all over the place.
Speaker 2: It's like self defense.
Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, but nobody knew obviously that it was going
Speaker 1: to be that until anyway.
Speaker 2: That's a dark twist like that is I'm not surprised
Speaker 2: this is where you're going. Your brain has gone here.
Speaker 1: Oh it's just walk in there and there's seventeen half
Speaker 1: empty cups of various liquids.
Speaker 3: I'm like, what are we waiting for? The alien invasion?
Speaker 3: Just in case?
Speaker 2: You know, the kids have clearly watched that movie over
Speaker 2: and over.
Speaker 1: No, they're like what are you talking about, old woman?
Speaker 1: But no, it's like having fun and just being silly
Speaker 1: is And I find outside of the house sometimes too, like.
Speaker 2: Oh, you gotta get it's easier to.
Speaker 1: Like have fun with them away from the home base.
Speaker 2: Yeah, cause all I'm so guilty of this. When I'm
Speaker 2: in the house, all I see are things that they
Speaker 2: need to be to be done. Yeah, I'm like, no,
Speaker 2: get me out of here, Like I don't want to
Speaker 2: look at I walk in the door and might be done.
Speaker 3: There's dishes in the seak and this needs to Did
Speaker 3: you get the laundry? Did you do the thing?
Speaker 1: Did you?
Speaker 2: Uh? Yeah? No, I'm very guilty of the being like
Speaker 2: just and nobody else. Is everyone blind to this? They
Speaker 2: don't see it. Like there's a piece of trash on
Speaker 2: the floor for like two days, and I'm like, does
Speaker 2: nobody see this? Does nobody want to pick this up
Speaker 2: and put.
Speaker 3: It in the trash because they know that you'll do
Speaker 3: it once you forget all this.
Speaker 2: I know it's a vicious cycle, such a vicious cycle,
Speaker 2: but yeah, have fun, have fun outside, have fun.
Speaker 1: Do you know what next time plays soccer with that
Speaker 1: piece of paper on the floor and just be like, hey,
Speaker 1: then start kicking it around the house.
Speaker 2: See how it goes. It's a game who can get
Speaker 2: it in the trash first.
Speaker 3: Right, and they're just be like, mom, what's wrong with you?
Speaker 2: That works when we were two?
Speaker 1: But right, yeah, exactly, yeah, clean up cleaning, shut up women.
Speaker 3: Number nine.
Speaker 1: Okay, I will say I struggle with this, well, not
Speaker 1: really sometimes, but here.
Speaker 3: It is it's okay to get.
Speaker 2: Tough sometimes sometimes. Whoever wrote this does not have teenagers
Speaker 2: like you have to be tough all the time. You
Speaker 2: have to be consistently tough.
Speaker 3: I that's when I'm live. That's what happened.
Speaker 2: I just it's hard.
Speaker 3: They'll wear me down.
Speaker 2: They know how to wear you down. It's it's so true.
Speaker 2: And sometimes you.
Speaker 3: Just like they wear you down, and they they they
Speaker 3: pick a time at the end.
Speaker 2: Of the day, usually to where you do because at
Speaker 2: ten o'clock you're trying to go to bed.
Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, and they're just starting the evening and you're like, oh, yeah, fine, fine,
Speaker 1: go way. But having to get tough, Oh, it's the
Speaker 1: hardest thing. What are did they give examples for this one?
Speaker 2: They did not give any examples. I do.
Speaker 1: I feel like there were well, I feel like we
Speaker 1: had that whole episode about Joey getting tough with the
Speaker 1: karate too.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's that's the whole that was named Joey gets tough.
Speaker 1: Yeah, Joey gets tough. And that was one where we
Speaker 1: went a little that.
Speaker 2: Was too tough, right because she had to miss an
Speaker 2: extracurricular commitment and you're like, you're letting the whole, the
Speaker 2: whole dojo down. Yeah, that's right, but but it is.
Speaker 1: It's the worst when you're like, if you don't do this,
Speaker 1: you're not going to get to do this. Yeah, and
Speaker 1: then when they don't do the thing, it's really hard
Speaker 1: to be like, well, now we're not getting to do this.
Speaker 2: But it's the only currency. It's the only currency you have,
Speaker 2: Like you have. This is how this is how I parent.
Speaker 2: I say, if you don't do this, you can't. Now
Speaker 2: it's now that Felicity's driving. It's the car that's the right. Well,
Speaker 2: that's the best part of our driving. You can't use
Speaker 2: the car if you don't do the things you were
Speaker 2: supposed to do. So that's easy. I just take the key.
Speaker 2: That's like, it's fantastic. This is once they start driving,
Speaker 2: your life becomes much true.
Speaker 1: Once you have something that's like a valuable you know,
Speaker 1: going out with friends or whatever, the phone there, whatever
Speaker 1: they're currency is, it's sometimes you've got to get tough
Speaker 1: and you' it's and I it's hard.
Speaker 2: And it's hard. I'm going to go back to the
Speaker 2: whole divorce thing too. It's hard as a single parent.
Speaker 2: Well not like you're recoupled. I'm recoupled. So yeah, we
Speaker 2: have partner, We have partners who are helping us parents,
Speaker 2: but it's still not the same because like you're the
Speaker 2: primary parent in the house and they know it, and
Speaker 2: so they are going to wear you down knowing that
Speaker 2: you can't just like throw the football to the the dead,
Speaker 2: you know, it's like, no, it's all on you. So
Speaker 2: it's it's even harder in a split home situation like
Speaker 2: that because they know if they just keep pecking, you
Speaker 2: feel like you're pecked to death by hens.
Speaker 1: But my mom used to say that being that being
Speaker 1: a parent is like being pecked to death by ducks
Speaker 1: because ducks have a round bill, so it doesn't it's
Speaker 1: not like a hen where it really hurts and kills you.
Speaker 2: It's just this dull pecking.
Speaker 1: Just think, Yeah, a.
Speaker 2: Duck pecking you to death and five hours later you
Speaker 2: have a bruise that will never go away.
Speaker 3: Yeah, exactly right, And that's right.
Speaker 1: And I was, and I didn't get it when I
Speaker 1: was again, and I'm like, oh, yeah, yeah, because it's
Speaker 1: not you know, it's not like ow.
Speaker 2: It's just like a dull adult annoys dull pecking of
Speaker 2: a doctor. Janice Sweeten speaks the truth, man, Chance sweet
Speaker 2: And was right about everything.
Speaker 1: Man, you know she really was. Uh, she'll hear that
Speaker 1: when she gets to this episode because she's just started listening.
Speaker 3: But but yeah, you were.
Speaker 1: You were right about a lot of right about everything. Well,
Speaker 1: it's a lot of things. I love you a lot
Speaker 1: of things.
Speaker 3: No, I'm just kidding.
Speaker 1: You were right about mouth things. But it is it's
Speaker 1: hard to get tough and hold those boundaries.
Speaker 2: Yeah, being being because it's sometimes it's easier just to
Speaker 2: give in. It's so much easier and less confrontational just
Speaker 2: to give in. But once to give in, once they're
Speaker 2: going to expect it the next time, and then it's
Speaker 2: even harder to get back to.
Speaker 1: I will zero say the thing I struggle with though,
Speaker 1: And sort of it's kind of like the Joey episode
Speaker 1: where it's.
Speaker 3: Like you.
Speaker 1: Go, you get real tough, and you're like, all right,
Speaker 1: that's and I'm holding the line.
Speaker 3: I'm holding a line.
Speaker 1: But then sometimes you have this moment where you go, wait,
Speaker 1: why I'm being ridiculous?
Speaker 2: Why am I doing? Why am I Why am I
Speaker 2: doing it?
Speaker 3: And that's the thing I like.
Speaker 1: I often find that I will be like no, I remember,
Speaker 1: and then I'm like, wait, yeah, what I just My
Speaker 1: first response was I don't want to. It was more
Speaker 1: that I don't I don't want to deal. I just
Speaker 1: don't want to do I don't want to make a
Speaker 1: decision right now. I don't want to deal with it.
Speaker 3: I don't want no.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you know.
Speaker 1: And then I'm like, but wait, that really it's not
Speaker 1: that there's anything particularly that you know is preventing them
Speaker 1: from doing it. It's just I'm like, I don't want to,
Speaker 1: I don't want to drive, I don't deal.
Speaker 3: I don't want to. And that that's hard.
Speaker 1: Sometimes because then I feel like I go back and
Speaker 1: I go, Okay, you know what, here's I was being unreasonable.
Speaker 2: Yes, When your kids get older and they're able to like,
Speaker 2: they're able to like they're like little lawyers like not
Speaker 2: just negotiate, but they're really they can point out when
Speaker 2: you're wrong and they're right about it too.
Speaker 1: It's like, yeah, no, it sucks and they find the loopholes. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it's hard having smart kids. You know, it's really hard
Speaker 1: having smarts.
Speaker 2: God bless her litigators of the top here. Yes, they
Speaker 2: could ligate.
Speaker 1: And you know, like three years ago when you let
Speaker 1: my brother do blah blah blah blah.
Speaker 2: Yeah, like the history remember from five years ago?
Speaker 3: Yeah right, yeah, so.
Speaker 1: They keep receipts for that stuff, not for any of
Speaker 1: their own behavior.
Speaker 2: Totally totally. Closing this out with number ten. Always be
Speaker 2: emotionally available to help your children with their feelings. And
Speaker 2: the examples they give are the earthquake episode and the
Speaker 2: episode when Papouli dies. Yeah, and letting children feel their feelings. Yeah,
Speaker 2: this is Yeah, this is important. I feel like very important.
Speaker 2: I excel at this. I am I am my kids.
Speaker 2: I'm like they know they the dad's a disciplinarian, but
Speaker 2: I am the I am the therapist that you come
Speaker 2: to me. You can talk about anything, anything, and I
Speaker 2: promise I won't get mad. Yes, but whatever you have
Speaker 2: to say about how you messed up or how you
Speaker 2: straight up or how you feel whatever, like, yeah, got
Speaker 2: to talk about it. That that's super served me. Well,
Speaker 2: now that the kids are older, that they're making big mistakes, now,
Speaker 2: you know, it's it's really important to be open.
Speaker 3: That's super important.
Speaker 1: And I think and it can be really hard because sometimes,
Speaker 1: you know, and I think we also as parents need
Speaker 1: to be able to recognize the times when we're like, ah,
Speaker 1: like I'm here for you right now. But like if
Speaker 1: it's you know, a death in the family or something
Speaker 1: like that, sometimes it can be really hard if you're
Speaker 1: having your own emotions to go through stuff and sometimes
Speaker 1: you know, you telling your kids like I'm also having
Speaker 1: some feelings about this, so like I you know, and
Speaker 1: I know my kids and I when we've like gotten
Speaker 1: in you know, maybe an argument or something like that,
Speaker 1: sometimes taking a moment and going let's both give ourselves
Speaker 1: a couple of minutes and like, let's just we'll come
Speaker 1: back when we when we're both because it is it's
Speaker 1: so hard sometimes as a parent when you're going through
Speaker 1: your own emotional roller coaster. I didn't think about that,
Speaker 1: but you're right, put that aside and be available for
Speaker 1: your kids. Feelings and to hold their space. And I
Speaker 1: think it's just parents. We want to fix it, right,
Speaker 1: Like I want to make my job as a parent
Speaker 1: feels like to make you not cry or not make
Speaker 1: you not cry, but just to stop you from crying,
Speaker 1: to stop you from being upset and from being hurt.
Speaker 1: And as they get older, you realize it's not My
Speaker 1: job isn't to prevent it. It's to allow you to
Speaker 1: figure out how you're going to get through it. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and it sucks because I want to put a band
Speaker 1: aid on it and be like, look, everything's better now,
Speaker 1: But like that's not life.
Speaker 2: It's important to not stuff those feelings away. It's important
Speaker 2: to feel them in order to get through them. If
Speaker 2: you feel like crying, cry because guess what, you feel
Speaker 2: better when you're done. But yeah, I didn't think about that.
Speaker 2: I I'm reminded of when my mom was in hospice
Speaker 2: that last week of her life and the kids were
Speaker 2: so like they couldn't come see her because it was
Speaker 2: right in the middle of COVID and they were so anxious,
Speaker 2: like what's going on? Where? Like what is she is?
Speaker 2: She is?
Speaker 3: She does?
Speaker 2: And I'm like and I'm me right, I got to
Speaker 2: put myself first because I'm watching my montor right, and
Speaker 2: so I was That's when I had to rely on
Speaker 2: my village, you know, or just like take And I
Speaker 2: told their dad, I'm like, you got to take the
Speaker 2: kids and just distract them or whatever comfort them anyway,
Speaker 2: can't because I got to take care of me and
Speaker 2: then try to take care That was the hardest thing, was, yeah,
Speaker 2: trying to manage my own emotions and not in the
Speaker 2: kid's emotions too. Yeah.
Speaker 1: And I feel like this really probably something that Danny
Speaker 1: had to deal with with the loss of Pam.
Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, Yeah, it really is.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, but that but being you know, and and
Speaker 1: we do see that in a couple of the episodes
Speaker 1: when the girls start talking about well, we saw it
Speaker 1: in the I think the last episode that we did
Speaker 1: with the one of the last episodes.
Speaker 3: With the recap where they're all watching the family movies.
Speaker 1: Oh gosh, yes, yeah, and that was a really great
Speaker 1: example of I think the guys sort of realizing and
Speaker 1: again they even say it like, oh wow, we didn't
Speaker 1: want to.
Speaker 3: Talk about it because we thought it would upset you.
Speaker 1: But we see sort of the beauty of them all
Speaker 1: being emotionally available to talk about all the good things
Speaker 1: and all the memories and all that stuff and like that.
Speaker 1: That was a really, I think beautiful example of this
Speaker 1: lesson on the show about being emotionally available to do
Speaker 1: your kids, to help them walk through stuff and to
Speaker 1: recognize like, oh, wow, you know I thought I was
Speaker 1: I was trying to help doing this, but maybe I wasn't.
Speaker 3: And Okay, well let's let's talk about it now. You know,
Speaker 3: it's never never.
Speaker 1: Too late to go back and be like, okay, let's
Speaker 1: try it, let's do this a different way.
Speaker 2: That's I just got goosebumps. You're right. That was a
Speaker 2: beautiful It was not only the guys saying hey, we
Speaker 2: were wrong and we're going to course correct, but then yeah,
Speaker 2: watching the movies with them and just meeting the girls
Speaker 2: where they were where they were at that It was.
Speaker 2: That was a great That was a great episode, man,
Speaker 2: it really was. It really was example of this you're.
Speaker 1: Right, and yeah, I think that was definitely like a
Speaker 1: really great family moment for for everybody to kind of
Speaker 1: come together and you know, remind each other that they're
Speaker 1: there for each other, yeah.
Speaker 2: And work work through it together. Nobody Sometimes you don't
Speaker 2: have all the answers, but you can. You can hold
Speaker 2: your hand and walk them through it.
Speaker 1: And I think as a parent, sometimes it's really important
Speaker 1: for your kids to hear you say, you know, I
Speaker 1: might have been wrong about that, or I was wrong
Speaker 1: or I didn't think about it that way, or that's
Speaker 1: a good point because kids need that validation too, that
Speaker 1: sometimes adults make mistakes and that's okay, and there's and
Speaker 1: that's okay.
Speaker 2: Yeah, no, such important lessons. This is a this is
Speaker 2: a really good one, and it's hard. I think it's
Speaker 2: hard for people. Maybe us as mothers, women were more
Speaker 2: emotionally available, but it was so Yeah, it was so
Speaker 2: powerful to see that with the three men Yeah goodbye
Speaker 2: mister Bhaer episode. That was because it's.
Speaker 1: Hard sometimes I like, I am not always a super
Speaker 1: emotional person and so sometimes it does like I have
Speaker 1: to be like, okay that I am uncomfortable, like you know,
Speaker 1: with like someone's really crying or really like and my
Speaker 1: first instance like how do we make this better and
Speaker 1: make it up? But I'm like, no, this is you know,
Speaker 1: sometimes we have to just be present and be.
Speaker 3: There with it.
Speaker 2: So such a good lesson.
Speaker 3: I'm sending you a big hug right now, Ab.
Speaker 2: I'm sending because a big hug because my feelings.
Speaker 3: Now, you know, like number six, there's nothing that a
Speaker 3: hug can't help.
Speaker 2: I will accept your virtual hug over the airways.
Speaker 1: I wish there was a way to send it over,
Speaker 1: but I feel like if I start doing too much, I'm.
Speaker 2: Going to release balloons. They send you a balloon.
Speaker 3: Balloons. Okay, I'll take it. You gave me balloons. That's it.
Speaker 2: There's a hug.
Speaker 3: Thank you.
Speaker 2: Zoom needs to create a hug. What you know something
Speaker 2: to do where you feel a hug through the airwaves.
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