WEBVTT - A Nightcap Ritual That Actually Works + What Makes People Successful 0:00:01.400 --> 0:00:05.920 Oh good, All right, break it down. If you ever 0:00:06.040 --> 0:00:09.719 have feelings that you just wonsome Amy and Cat gotcha 0:00:09.800 --> 0:00:14.280 covin locking, no brother, the lady's quotes, you just follow 0:00:14.360 --> 0:00:17.840 Anna spirit Ware, tell the phone over real stuff to 0:00:18.000 --> 0:00:19.479 the chill stuff and the. 0:00:19.760 --> 0:00:23.400 M but Swayne. Sometimes the best thing you can do it. 0:00:23.440 --> 0:00:25.759 Jes stop you feel things. 0:00:27.000 --> 0:00:29.440 This is feeling things with Amy and Kat. 0:00:30.120 --> 0:00:33.000 Happy Tuesday. Welcome to feeling things. I'm Amy, I'm Kat, 0:00:33.200 --> 0:00:35.360 and we're gonna kick things off with a quote like 0:00:35.400 --> 0:00:37.360 we used to on the Fifth Thing back in the day. 0:00:37.520 --> 0:00:40.320 I love so if you're an og listener, you'll you'll 0:00:40.400 --> 0:00:43.159 kind of get this. If you're new, welcome. Here's a 0:00:43.240 --> 0:00:47.600 quote that I saw today in my Anna Voss Whimsy newsletter. 0:00:47.680 --> 0:00:50.760 I love her newsletters so much, which we have a 0:00:50.760 --> 0:00:53.160 newsletter too. If y'all want to sign up, you can. 0:00:53.360 --> 0:00:56.000 The link is in the show notes. This quote is 0:00:56.120 --> 0:01:00.000 unknown and it's if you fail, congratulations. Most people don't 0:01:00.080 --> 0:01:01.320 even try. 0:01:01.440 --> 0:01:01.800 Amen. 0:01:02.440 --> 0:01:06.560 So good. Whatever you're doing, just go for it. 0:01:06.680 --> 0:01:08.080 Yeah, you're doing more. 0:01:08.600 --> 0:01:10.640 There are things that I've wanted to do recently and 0:01:10.680 --> 0:01:12.440 I'm like, oh, I don't really want to pour myself 0:01:12.480 --> 0:01:16.360 into that. Because it's already seems hard, and what if 0:01:16.360 --> 0:01:18.800 we fail at it anyway? And now I'm walking in 0:01:18.840 --> 0:01:20.520 on some stuff and I'm dialed in and I'm like, 0:01:20.560 --> 0:01:21.880 it's okay, we're going to get this. 0:01:22.040 --> 0:01:25.160 Well, you know, it's so interesting to me and it 0:01:25.200 --> 0:01:28.200 helps me try. Is that a lot of times the 0:01:28.200 --> 0:01:30.440 reason we don't try is because we don't want to fail, 0:01:30.440 --> 0:01:32.400 and we don't want people to see us being a failure. 0:01:33.720 --> 0:01:37.759 A lot of times, yeah, well, a lot of times 0:01:37.840 --> 0:01:41.480 when people watch somebody try and fail, they're still in 0:01:41.560 --> 0:01:44.440 awe of them. Like if if you put yourself out 0:01:44.440 --> 0:01:46.120 there and did something and it didn't work out, I'd 0:01:46.120 --> 0:01:50.440 be like, good for her, And so actually failing works 0:01:50.480 --> 0:01:54.760 out for us, Like it's us that would be down 0:01:54.760 --> 0:01:56.000 on ourselves for it not working out. 0:01:56.000 --> 0:01:58.960 There people are like, yeah, but if someone happened to 0:01:59.000 --> 0:02:02.360 have other feelings, like oh they got some weird joy 0:02:02.440 --> 0:02:06.320 out of your failure, then that's a messed up thing 0:02:06.400 --> 0:02:08.079 that they should deal with. You don't need to worry 0:02:08.120 --> 0:02:12.040 about them anyways. The people do get joy out of 0:02:12.720 --> 0:02:14.120 or like huh, or I knew they weren't going to 0:02:14.160 --> 0:02:15.720 be able to do it, but I think that's their 0:02:15.760 --> 0:02:16.560 own fear. 0:02:16.560 --> 0:02:21.120 And that also they aren't gonna root for you if 0:02:21.120 --> 0:02:23.000 you do well. Neither are those same people. 0:02:23.240 --> 0:02:26.880 Yeah, all right, our feelings of the day. Mine is 0:02:27.000 --> 0:02:30.280 nervous because I watched that document around Netflix that you 0:02:30.440 --> 0:02:34.000 told us to watch a toxic love story, and now 0:02:34.040 --> 0:02:38.240 I'm nervous to date, get married anybody. 0:02:38.360 --> 0:02:38.560 Ever. 0:02:38.560 --> 0:02:41.160 Again, I don't want to say too much because there's 0:02:41.200 --> 0:02:43.399 some twists, okay for sure. 0:02:43.320 --> 0:02:48.040 But also there are some twists for sure, but there 0:02:48.080 --> 0:02:52.720 are red flags on everybody's part and I do not 0:02:54.440 --> 0:02:58.680 that could happen to anybody. And I clocked some things 0:02:58.760 --> 0:03:01.280 that if I saw happening with you, I'd be like 0:03:01.360 --> 0:03:05.720 Amy Knock, like open your eyes. 0:03:05.800 --> 0:03:07.960 Right, you probably wouldn't let it go to the point 0:03:08.000 --> 0:03:11.079 of where it went in these relationships, like so we 0:03:11.080 --> 0:03:13.359 wouldn't be buying condos or getting married. 0:03:13.120 --> 0:03:16.280 Or within a couple weeks two months. 0:03:16.760 --> 0:03:19.120 So no, I get it. There's definitely red flags, but 0:03:19.240 --> 0:03:19.680 it's just. 0:03:19.800 --> 0:03:22.560 It is scary, no, I mean, there's so many stories 0:03:22.600 --> 0:03:26.959 like that, remember the Tinder Swindler all those So okay. 0:03:27.800 --> 0:03:30.280 So I'm a little I'm just a little nervous, I said, 0:03:30.280 --> 0:03:32.160 And don't worry. I haven't made a LinkedIn profile or 0:03:32.200 --> 0:03:34.839 anything because Ceraently that's all the rage now. 0:03:35.720 --> 0:03:37.560 But don't give up on it just because because then 0:03:37.640 --> 0:03:39.880 that I'm gonna feel bad because I recommended you to 0:03:39.920 --> 0:03:41.800 watch that. Yeah, and then that would have backfired. 0:03:41.880 --> 0:03:43.760 Okay, okay, well I'm not going to give up, but 0:03:44.880 --> 0:03:47.440 it's okay to having to work out there. Just like 0:03:47.480 --> 0:03:51.280 every week, I'm showing more clues of hell. It's the wild, 0:03:51.320 --> 0:03:55.160 wild West, and I should just enjoy my little life, 0:03:55.520 --> 0:03:59.480 me and my dog and my cat and my kids occasionally. 0:04:00.200 --> 0:04:02.400 I mean, I always like want my kids, but I 0:04:02.400 --> 0:04:04.080 don't have them all the time all the time. 0:04:05.440 --> 0:04:11.800 Uh. Well, I'm feeling frazzled because I almost died. 0:04:14.360 --> 0:04:17.920 Uh again, No, that was your baby fire. Your baby's 0:04:17.920 --> 0:04:20.919 almost died twice. But now you and the baby on 0:04:21.000 --> 0:04:21.760 this side. 0:04:21.839 --> 0:04:23.680 I guess she might not have made it either. So 0:04:24.240 --> 0:04:27.840 I was on my way here and you had just 0:04:27.880 --> 0:04:31.360 called me. So this is crazy. This is what got 0:04:31.400 --> 0:04:34.960 me thinking, really, is have you ever been somebody's like 0:04:35.040 --> 0:04:36.120 last phone call. 0:04:36.360 --> 0:04:38.800 Which let me set the scene for y'all. Kat walked 0:04:38.800 --> 0:04:41.720 in and she's out of breath and she's just feeling 0:04:41.920 --> 0:04:45.360 very frazzled. Is a good word, like you were frazzled 0:04:45.520 --> 0:04:48.320 and you were like you were almost the last person 0:04:48.360 --> 0:04:53.679 I ever talked to, and I'm like, tell me more. 0:04:53.960 --> 0:04:56.680 You were like hot in the zone. 0:04:56.760 --> 0:04:58.800 So I think I was working, yes, and I don't 0:04:58.839 --> 0:05:03.159 think it fully registered how much your life was in danger. 0:05:03.279 --> 0:05:04.280 So why don't you tell us? 0:05:04.320 --> 0:05:06.560 Well, it's not that. I mean, it's simple. I just 0:05:06.640 --> 0:05:10.000 was at a stoplight and a fire truck was coming 0:05:10.120 --> 0:05:14.840 from behind and I couldn't turn because there was oncoming 0:05:14.880 --> 0:05:20.039 traffic and also the the fire truck was not in 0:05:20.120 --> 0:05:24.839 my lane, but then right before it got in my lane, 0:05:24.880 --> 0:05:26.479 and then I was like, what am I supposed to do? 0:05:26.520 --> 0:05:28.160 Because you know, usually you pull off the side of 0:05:28.200 --> 0:05:29.960 the road. I was in the middle of the road. 0:05:30.800 --> 0:05:32.480 I couldn't pull off the side, and I couldn't turn, 0:05:32.960 --> 0:05:36.080 and it literally, you guys, can't if you're not watching 0:05:36.120 --> 0:05:38.119 this on YouTube, which you could watch this on YouTube 0:05:38.120 --> 0:05:41.520 if you wanted it. Last minute did this swerve like 0:05:41.560 --> 0:05:44.400 he was. They were coming full force at me. I 0:05:44.480 --> 0:05:46.640 literally was looking in my rearview mirror being like, oh 0:05:46.640 --> 0:05:48.200 my god, what do I do do I pull into 0:05:48.240 --> 0:05:51.040 the middle of the road and then it last minute 0:05:51.800 --> 0:05:56.200 went around me. And I almost died, so. 0:05:56.240 --> 0:05:58.320 First I could have flit. Second, you thought they were 0:05:58.320 --> 0:06:01.800 going to injure you on her way to an emergency, and. 0:06:01.800 --> 0:06:05.000 It didn't register at first, like I think, I was like, oh, 0:06:05.040 --> 0:06:06.880 that was crazy. And then as I was going to 0:06:06.920 --> 0:06:09.000 get food and I was walking out of picking up 0:06:09.360 --> 0:06:11.480 my food, and I was like, oh my gosh, Amy 0:06:11.600 --> 0:06:16.159 was almost the last person I ever talked to. That's wild. 0:06:16.400 --> 0:06:17.840 And it made me think about, like, what are the 0:06:18.000 --> 0:06:19.760 last texts that I've sent? What's the last thing I 0:06:19.760 --> 0:06:22.840 said to my husband, which was I miss you and 0:06:23.160 --> 0:06:28.080 few yeah, and that was this when at like eight o'clock. 0:06:28.640 --> 0:06:31.720 Wait, so he'd like left for work and you're already 0:06:31.760 --> 0:06:32.520 like I miss you. 0:06:32.720 --> 0:06:35.320 You left at like six something probably, but. 0:06:35.200 --> 0:06:37.359 And then at ate you just texted him I miss you. 0:06:37.800 --> 0:06:38.120 Yeah. 0:06:38.200 --> 0:06:41.839 Oh that's sweet. 0:06:43.320 --> 0:06:45.240 But then I was thinking like Amy would be the 0:06:45.279 --> 0:06:47.560 last person that I talked to, Like what would she 0:06:47.640 --> 0:06:50.960 tell people about like how I was, because I don't 0:06:50.960 --> 0:06:53.120 think I was like super cheery, but I won't want 0:06:53.120 --> 0:06:54.839 people to know I was like in a good mood 0:06:54.920 --> 0:06:55.640 before I died. 0:06:56.520 --> 0:06:59.279 And then he offered to give me a salad. 0:06:59.560 --> 0:07:02.200 I did that, But then I was thinking like, have 0:07:02.320 --> 0:07:07.239 you ever been somebody's last Like, were the last person 0:07:07.279 --> 0:07:09.680 somebody talked to before they died? Were you with like 0:07:09.760 --> 0:07:12.040 your mom or your Yeah. 0:07:11.800 --> 0:07:13.520 I was with both of them when they died, but 0:07:13.560 --> 0:07:17.840 they were both unconscious. Oh both my mom we didn't 0:07:17.880 --> 0:07:23.480 have to unplug. She just slowly left her body over 0:07:24.360 --> 0:07:27.200 like a couple of days. And then my dad we 0:07:27.280 --> 0:07:30.040 had to unplug, and the doctor was like, this could 0:07:30.040 --> 0:07:34.760 take anywhere from three minutes to three days. My dad 0:07:34.800 --> 0:07:37.240 likes to go out, so he was pretty quick. He 0:07:37.320 --> 0:07:40.240 was less than three minutes, so it was pretty Oh wow. 0:07:40.280 --> 0:07:42.440 Well so that's a big Then I was just thinking, 0:07:42.480 --> 0:07:45.440 like that's a lot to carry that, like you were 0:07:45.480 --> 0:07:46.440 the last person. 0:07:47.000 --> 0:07:48.640 I mean we were talking to them as if they 0:07:48.680 --> 0:07:53.720 could hear us, but I didn't hear from them. But 0:07:53.760 --> 0:07:57.720 I think those were we knew they were dying situations. 0:07:57.760 --> 0:07:59.720 Some people, like in your case, this would have been 0:07:59.720 --> 0:08:01.480 a so an unexpected event. 0:08:01.640 --> 0:08:02.280 Yeah. 0:08:02.400 --> 0:08:04.120 I think of that when I get on an airplane 0:08:04.960 --> 0:08:07.120 every almost every time I fly, I think, well, this 0:08:07.160 --> 0:08:10.240 could be it, but I don't. I don't assess the 0:08:10.320 --> 0:08:12.480 text messages that I've sent. I should start doing that, 0:08:13.480 --> 0:08:18.240 like take notes, like you're such an amazing person in front. 0:08:18.400 --> 0:08:20.600 Like every time I fly, I said like the nicest 0:08:20.600 --> 0:08:24.320 notes to everybody. So she just sent me the sweetest 0:08:24.360 --> 0:08:28.920 text and then she died. She was so thoughtful who 0:08:28.960 --> 0:08:33.520 she was. I'll always be remembered. I just did not 0:08:33.640 --> 0:08:35.480 like fifty texts. 0:08:35.920 --> 0:08:37.679 I'm feeling better actually, now that we're talking about I 0:08:37.679 --> 0:08:38.800 don't feel frazzled anymore. 0:08:38.840 --> 0:08:41.600 I just was. I see. So sometimes it's good naming it, yeah, 0:08:41.600 --> 0:08:44.040 and then talking about it, and then the feeling will go. 0:08:44.559 --> 0:08:46.719 They probably knew what they were doing. They probably knew 0:08:46.760 --> 0:08:49.000 they were going to do that swerve. I didn't know 0:08:49.080 --> 0:08:50.680 they were going to do that swerve. Yeah. 0:08:50.880 --> 0:08:53.560 I do have a question that doesn't come up, and 0:08:53.600 --> 0:08:56.040 this is something that you said before we hit record, 0:08:56.120 --> 0:08:59.600 and I made a mental note, yeah to ask you this. Okay, 0:09:02.640 --> 0:09:05.320 why did you say you were going to be a 0:09:05.400 --> 0:09:07.880 history major? Because before we hit record, Kat and I 0:09:07.880 --> 0:09:11.280 were just talking about the news article from a couple 0:09:11.360 --> 0:09:14.439 of weeks ago where in Arizona there's a college that 0:09:14.520 --> 0:09:19.200 has made influencing a major, and so this is just 0:09:19.360 --> 0:09:23.120 casual conversation and then we got sidetracked because other people 0:09:23.120 --> 0:09:24.880 were coming in and we were about to record. But 0:09:24.960 --> 0:09:27.920 you casually said, well, I was going to be a 0:09:28.040 --> 0:09:30.160 history major, and my dad said he wasn't going to 0:09:30.200 --> 0:09:33.120 pay for it. And I thought, in my head, Kat 0:09:33.160 --> 0:09:37.920 is a therapist. What would she have done with a 0:09:38.040 --> 0:09:40.600 history major, and why did you want to do that? 0:09:40.720 --> 0:09:43.840 Well, I think that's my dad's point is the question 0:09:44.000 --> 0:09:45.400 is asked, like, what are you going to do with that? 0:09:46.240 --> 0:09:48.800 So I didn't know what I wanted to be. I 0:09:48.840 --> 0:09:50.319 did not know what I wanted to major in. When 0:09:50.320 --> 0:09:52.960 I went to school. I was a nursing major, but 0:09:53.080 --> 0:09:55.720 that's just because I had no desire to be a 0:09:55.800 --> 0:09:58.920 nurse at all. But my mom was a nurse, that 0:09:59.000 --> 0:10:00.959 you could make a good living being a nurse. And 0:10:01.040 --> 0:10:04.760 I I liked my anatomy class and in high school, 0:10:05.840 --> 0:10:08.160 but I can't even look at a cut on my 0:10:08.200 --> 0:10:08.720 own hand. 0:10:10.240 --> 0:10:12.400 Seem like I pass out at the sight of blood. 0:10:23.800 --> 0:10:26.079 I could like cut my thumb open a couple of 0:10:26.160 --> 0:10:28.120 years ago, and I had to like change the bandage 0:10:28.160 --> 0:10:30.319 every day, and I couldn't even do it. Patrick had 0:10:30.320 --> 0:10:34.840 to do it. That's how bad I can't. So I 0:10:34.880 --> 0:10:37.760 took one nursing class or one intro and I was like, 0:10:37.800 --> 0:10:40.240 I got to change my major, but then I had 0:10:40.280 --> 0:10:43.240 never thought about it, so I think I changed it 0:10:43.280 --> 0:10:47.080 to like fashion merchandising at first, because that's like what 0:10:47.200 --> 0:10:49.760 cool girls were doing back then. But then I was like, 0:10:50.520 --> 0:10:55.520 I'm not really good at this, that's not for me. 0:10:55.720 --> 0:10:56.679 So then I was like, well, then I'll be a 0:10:56.760 --> 0:10:59.120 business major, like a just a marketing major or something, 0:10:59.160 --> 0:11:03.840 and then whatever. So then I took my intro your 0:11:04.120 --> 0:11:08.000 US History class in freshman year and I loved it. 0:11:09.120 --> 0:11:10.800 Loved it, really I. 0:11:10.559 --> 0:11:12.880 Loved it, except I do have one traumatic story from 0:11:12.880 --> 0:11:17.280 that class. But I loved learning about because I feel 0:11:17.280 --> 0:11:19.680 like in high school I never really paid attention to history, 0:11:19.720 --> 0:11:22.640 like you know, i'll read this and have this test, 0:11:22.679 --> 0:11:25.960 but I wasn't really realizing what I was learning is 0:11:26.080 --> 0:11:26.880 like real. 0:11:28.160 --> 0:11:31.679 Now, So was your professor really good? Do you think 0:11:31.679 --> 0:11:32.560 that played a role in it. 0:11:32.640 --> 0:11:35.800 I don't want to say that, though, because this professor 0:11:35.880 --> 0:11:36.640 made me cry. 0:11:37.040 --> 0:11:38.920 Oh okay, so is this a traumatic story? 0:11:39.000 --> 0:11:43.000 Yes, so I it's looking back, it's not that big 0:11:43.000 --> 0:11:44.880 of a deal, but it was a big deal to me. Then. 0:11:45.200 --> 0:11:47.880 It was one of those like big auditorium classes because 0:11:48.080 --> 0:11:51.520 everybody had to take it, and I had asked if 0:11:51.520 --> 0:11:55.720 I could take my midterm or my final early because 0:11:56.000 --> 0:11:58.960 I loved, really I loved six hours away from where 0:11:58.960 --> 0:12:01.440 I went to school, and I was trying to ride 0:12:01.440 --> 0:12:04.600 home with my sister and she was leaving earlier, and 0:12:04.679 --> 0:12:06.360 I was like, no big deal, Like who wants to 0:12:06.400 --> 0:12:09.000 take their test early? Like surely she'll be like, you're 0:12:09.000 --> 0:12:12.080 a good student for wanting to do that. She didn't 0:12:12.120 --> 0:12:18.360 reply to my email, and then she scolded me in 0:12:18.400 --> 0:12:22.840 front of the whole class how dare I do that? 0:12:23.559 --> 0:12:26.520 And asked that I but in an auditorium style class, 0:12:26.559 --> 0:12:27.320 she called you out. 0:12:27.360 --> 0:12:29.679 Well, here's the thing. She didn't say who did it, 0:12:29.760 --> 0:12:33.200 but she said I got an email from one of 0:12:33.240 --> 0:12:37.040 you asking she never responded to me, and then she 0:12:37.120 --> 0:12:39.719 responded to me without naming me in front of the 0:12:39.760 --> 0:12:43.840 whole class. But obviously I'm like bright red. And she 0:12:44.040 --> 0:12:48.200 was basically like, you knew the schedule before, Like it 0:12:48.240 --> 0:12:50.680 felt like the crime the punishment didn't fit the crime. 0:12:50.760 --> 0:12:53.920 Like I didn't understand her saying no, you can't, but 0:12:53.960 --> 0:12:56.640 why did you have to? It was mean, like she 0:12:56.720 --> 0:12:58.400 was angry. I don't know what was going on with 0:12:58.480 --> 0:13:03.400 her that day. She also she was British. I liked 0:13:03.440 --> 0:13:05.000 that about her to me, that's why I liked. 0:13:05.160 --> 0:13:07.200 She was British teaching American history. 0:13:07.520 --> 0:13:11.960 Okay, I don't know then later What's what's crazy is 0:13:12.120 --> 0:13:15.760 later when I was I was because I was a 0:13:15.880 --> 0:13:17.920 child and Family studies major, and so I had to 0:13:18.000 --> 0:13:21.200 work in the daycare on like the child development center 0:13:21.280 --> 0:13:24.400 on our campus. I had to care for her child. 0:13:25.679 --> 0:13:27.360 Oh, so what'd you do? 0:13:27.640 --> 0:13:32.360 Well? I didn't hurt the child, obviously, I cared for 0:13:32.400 --> 0:13:34.480 the child well, but I just was like, oh, I 0:13:34.480 --> 0:13:36.360 don't want to like this kid because your mom wasn't 0:13:36.400 --> 0:13:38.600 mean to me. But like she probably doesn't even remember, 0:13:38.920 --> 0:13:40.400 but it was like full circle. It's like I'm going 0:13:40.480 --> 0:13:43.280 to be the bigger person, you know, not put this 0:13:43.360 --> 0:13:47.120 child in danger anyway. So I can't all have to 0:13:47.160 --> 0:13:49.199 say I didn't. I don't like that teacher. I don't 0:13:49.200 --> 0:13:50.640 want I don't want to say it was her. I 0:13:50.640 --> 0:13:54.560 think it was the content. I just really liked learning 0:13:54.600 --> 0:13:57.000 about history. So I told my dad I want to 0:13:57.040 --> 0:14:00.320 be a history major, thinking I could be a professor. 0:14:01.920 --> 0:14:04.800 And you would be a nice one. If someone needed 0:14:04.800 --> 0:14:06.280 to take their exam early. 0:14:06.240 --> 0:14:08.000 I would totally let them because a what a good 0:14:08.000 --> 0:14:11.440 student and my Dad's response was, I'm not paying for that, 0:14:11.559 --> 0:14:13.880 because what are you going to do? I think his 0:14:14.080 --> 0:14:16.880 point was, I've never heard you talk about this before, 0:14:17.840 --> 0:14:21.280 so it's not like you grew up love going to 0:14:21.400 --> 0:14:23.800 museums and stuff and you're really enthralled in it. And 0:14:24.040 --> 0:14:27.880 I like it was very random, and he didn't want 0:14:27.920 --> 0:14:30.560 me to spend a lot of time and then have 0:14:30.600 --> 0:14:32.240 a major that I couldn't use to do what I 0:14:32.280 --> 0:14:32.800 really wanted to. 0:14:32.800 --> 0:14:33.840 Do, sort of a dead end. 0:14:34.000 --> 0:14:36.000 Yeah, which I didn't know what I wanted to do, 0:14:36.120 --> 0:14:40.400 so that was hard. And guys, that's okay. When you're 0:14:40.400 --> 0:14:41.880 a freshman, you don't really have to know. 0:14:42.160 --> 0:14:44.400 When did you realize you wanted to be a therapist? 0:14:46.160 --> 0:14:49.520 Probably not till I was a junior, because I ended 0:14:49.640 --> 0:14:52.520 up changing my major to Child and Family Studies, which 0:14:52.560 --> 0:14:55.000 I didn't know was a thing. That's the other You know, 0:14:55.120 --> 0:14:57.600 we probably have a lot of high schoolers listening, but 0:14:57.760 --> 0:15:00.920 like I didn't know all the options. That was part 0:15:00.960 --> 0:15:02.560 of my problem. That's joking, by the way. 0:15:02.520 --> 0:15:04.400 Yeah, we maybe have one. 0:15:04.600 --> 0:15:09.560 Yeah, So once I learned more, I had met somebody 0:15:09.560 --> 0:15:11.000 at a camp. I was working at a young life 0:15:11.040 --> 0:15:14.920 camp in the summer and my boss was a child 0:15:14.960 --> 0:15:17.520 of Family studies major. I'd never heard of that, and 0:15:17.560 --> 0:15:20.040 I was like, well, I want to do you working 0:15:20.080 --> 0:15:22.480 at Young Life Camp, I want to do that. I'll 0:15:22.520 --> 0:15:25.000 do that major, and so I changed my major to that. 0:15:25.840 --> 0:15:29.400 And then my advisor was also a therapist, and she 0:15:29.720 --> 0:15:34.000 encouraged me to take a marriage of family therapy class 0:15:34.600 --> 0:15:37.080 and I loved it, and so then I wanted to 0:15:37.120 --> 0:15:37.960 be a therapist. 0:15:38.120 --> 0:15:41.840 Which I know two people later in life that their adults, 0:15:41.880 --> 0:15:44.520 their moms that have since gone back to get their 0:15:45.120 --> 0:15:49.280 degree and whatever other things you need to do to 0:15:49.280 --> 0:15:53.800 become a licensed therapist. But it was a It wasn't 0:15:54.760 --> 0:15:57.520 something they did early on in their twenties. They pursued 0:15:57.560 --> 0:16:01.200 it later in their forties and they really love it. 0:16:01.400 --> 0:16:03.640 You know what I think because there was a couple 0:16:04.240 --> 0:16:06.560 in my class when I was in grad school. It 0:16:06.600 --> 0:16:10.160 wasn't all people that just graduated school. It was very 0:16:10.200 --> 0:16:15.320 it was pretty diverse. I think that being older going 0:16:15.400 --> 0:16:18.320 back because a lot of people don't want to restart. 0:16:18.520 --> 0:16:19.920 They think it's going to be so hard, which it 0:16:20.000 --> 0:16:22.400 is hard, but that keeps a lot of people from 0:16:22.400 --> 0:16:25.720 making changes. But what I saw from the people that 0:16:25.760 --> 0:16:30.440 were older and our cohort was they had a This 0:16:30.520 --> 0:16:33.720 is from my perspective, it was easier for them because 0:16:33.760 --> 0:16:37.120 when they were interns or new nobody assumed that they 0:16:37.160 --> 0:16:41.080 were new or interns because they were older, versus I'm 0:16:41.120 --> 0:16:45.040 twenty two trying to give therapy to a forty five 0:16:45.120 --> 0:16:47.520 year old, and that person's probably like, what the heck 0:16:47.560 --> 0:16:50.440 do you know? You know what I mean? But they 0:16:50.680 --> 0:16:53.840 come with a certain amount of life experience. But also 0:16:53.960 --> 0:16:55.840 I think just because they're older, just. 0:16:55.800 --> 0:16:58.880 The look of Lisnes, yes, the perceived Yeah. 0:16:58.960 --> 0:17:02.240 So I always was very jealous of them, like, dang it, 0:17:02.280 --> 0:17:03.680 I wish I was forty five. 0:17:04.960 --> 0:17:07.919 You'll get there. Yeah, when you were talking about the 0:17:08.200 --> 0:17:11.959 in school daycare and caring for your mean professor's child, 0:17:12.240 --> 0:17:14.000 and then also liking you as history, it made me 0:17:14.000 --> 0:17:15.760 think about the book that I'm reading right now, which 0:17:15.800 --> 0:17:19.800 is The Calamity Club. Now it's fiction, but you get it. 0:17:20.280 --> 0:17:25.240 There's some history intertwined. It's during the Great Depression, and 0:17:26.000 --> 0:17:30.119 there is a situation of someone having to care for 0:17:30.920 --> 0:17:33.600 someone else's child and that they don't. 0:17:33.440 --> 0:17:36.719 Like, they don't want the child or the well person. 0:17:37.560 --> 0:17:39.000 I don't want to give away too much, but it 0:17:39.119 --> 0:17:41.479 made me think of that storyline of having someone in 0:17:41.520 --> 0:17:45.000 your care and let's just say she's doing the opposite 0:17:45.000 --> 0:17:47.080 of you. You're like, no, I wasn't gonna treat the 0:17:47.160 --> 0:17:49.840 child any differently. That was not the case. 0:17:50.600 --> 0:17:52.440 I don't want to give myself that much credit because 0:17:52.480 --> 0:17:53.520 I was also getting graded. 0:17:54.240 --> 0:17:56.840 Yeah, so if you weren't getting graded, I. 0:17:57.000 --> 0:18:00.080 Hope I wouldn't. But you never know you. 0:18:00.080 --> 0:18:01.960 Wanted to pick her child up early, you'd be like, no, 0:18:02.720 --> 0:18:05.080 you can't pick her up early, keeping her you have to. 0:18:05.520 --> 0:18:06.920 You can't pick her up till five o'clock. 0:18:08.160 --> 0:18:10.280 You knew the hours, you knew four. 0:18:10.480 --> 0:18:12.880 Yeah, we already had. I'm already scheduled, did be here 0:18:12.920 --> 0:18:15.080 till five? So your kids staying here till five? You 0:18:15.119 --> 0:18:18.359 should have known better, and you make this big announcement. Okay, 0:18:18.400 --> 0:18:20.800 So that is Kat's journey to becoming a therapist and 0:18:20.880 --> 0:18:23.320 not a history professor. 0:18:23.840 --> 0:18:26.119 I think I would have been. I do think I 0:18:26.160 --> 0:18:28.480 would have really liked teaching. I will say that I 0:18:28.480 --> 0:18:31.280 would have liked teaching college. I don't think I would 0:18:31.280 --> 0:18:36.040 have liked teaching high school or middle school, eleentary school. Yeah, 0:18:36.119 --> 0:18:40.080 I saw something crazy. This is a callback from last week. 0:18:40.840 --> 0:18:43.680 We were talking about the Golden Girls thing. 0:18:44.080 --> 0:18:46.240 Yeah, because my friend wanted to know if I would 0:18:46.280 --> 0:18:48.160 live with her in a Golden Girls type house. 0:18:48.200 --> 0:18:52.280 Okay, yeah, so we talked about that, and we talked 0:18:52.280 --> 0:18:53.560 about I don't know if it was on that same 0:18:53.600 --> 0:18:57.040 episode or the Couch Talks episode that week, but we 0:18:57.080 --> 0:19:00.879 talked about Logan Uri. You remember that she's a dating 0:19:00.880 --> 0:19:03.480 coach and she has a Netflix show. I want to 0:19:03.520 --> 0:19:06.720 say it's called like Later Daters or something that I 0:19:06.720 --> 0:19:10.200 could have made that up, but it's about older people dating, 0:19:10.520 --> 0:19:13.480 like not like a twenty year old dating show. Okay, 0:19:13.920 --> 0:19:17.000 it was crazy. We talked about those two things. Guess 0:19:17.000 --> 0:19:21.600 what what she lives in a commune with her twenty 0:19:21.720 --> 0:19:22.840 best friends. 0:19:23.920 --> 0:19:27.399 She does, and she's like young, so she's single. 0:19:28.840 --> 0:19:31.680 I don't know that some of them have families because 0:19:31.720 --> 0:19:35.119 she talked about how they spend time with their kids 0:19:35.119 --> 0:19:35.520 and stuff. 0:19:35.520 --> 0:19:39.320 And right, it's not just girls the greatest friends. It's 0:19:39.359 --> 0:19:41.320 not like the Golden Girls where they've all ended up 0:19:41.359 --> 0:19:43.560 a single on the way in their life. So it's 0:19:44.240 --> 0:19:47.120 more of a compound, like the family compounds you see 0:19:47.160 --> 0:19:50.320 sometimes where everybody's living together and they have a shared pool. 0:19:50.640 --> 0:19:52.800 Like I saw something pop up on my Instagram the 0:19:52.840 --> 0:19:55.679 other day of like all these cousins that live on 0:19:55.760 --> 0:19:58.359 a bunch of property together and they built one huge 0:19:58.400 --> 0:20:00.840 pool in the middle of all this property, and there 0:20:00.880 --> 0:20:03.680 was probably it looks like a hotel, like twenty five 0:20:04.400 --> 0:20:07.960 lounge chairs, but all the cousins live there and then 0:20:08.000 --> 0:20:11.920