Speaker 1: Well, this is definitely a first someone who was previously
Speaker 1: on a second date update use that experience to better themselves.
Speaker 1: Yeah right, I know. I know we are all ash
Speaker 1: shocked as you. I know, but this guy put the
Speaker 1: work in and you're gonna hear what happened in a
Speaker 1: brand new, brand new second date update. Did I say
Speaker 1: brand new twice? My brain is good? You say it
Speaker 1: one more time? Yeah, brand new second date update? Yeah, guest,
Speaker 1: but first comments, but first comments? Yeah, he's like, is
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Speaker 2: I love how Maybe I'm just personally gonna find this funny, okay.
Speaker 2: One of our listeners, dead Skull was binging old ones
Speaker 2: yes it was back to like twenty twenty, and found
Speaker 2: the first second date update I ever did and commented,
Speaker 2: this is Alexis first second date update, and it was
Speaker 2: one about someone living hashtag van life.
Speaker 3: Oh.
Speaker 1: I was like, what, I don't remember that, but you
Speaker 1: probably wouldn't like to listen to it. I listened to
Speaker 1: my early things.
Speaker 2: No, but I'm what a good one you guys threw
Speaker 2: me in on.
Speaker 1: Yeah life, there you go? Oh I love it? Well,
Speaker 1: thank you for Benji, Yes, all of it and hope
Speaker 1: you enjoy this new one. Yeah, it starts right now,
Speaker 1: Brook and Jeffrey in the morning. Second Date updates.
Speaker 3: We always welcome with open arms and open mouths returning
Speaker 3: second daters who've been on this segment before, and today
Speaker 3: is no exception. One of our listeners, James is back.
Speaker 1: Yeah, because it's always shocking to us that you still
Speaker 1: want to help. Yeah.
Speaker 3: Last time he was on, James got turned down by
Speaker 3: a woman who said he's not a great listener only
Speaker 3: because she was telling him the story of how her
Speaker 3: dog passed away, and he interrupted her to say, no, yeah, yeah,
Speaker 3: you've already told me this before. When are we going
Speaker 3: to go back to my place?
Speaker 4: Oh?
Speaker 3: No, that was then. This is now okay, And James
Speaker 3: says he's learned his lesson and fixed all of his
Speaker 3: personal flaws.
Speaker 1: Oh wow, all of us, all of us.
Speaker 3: That's exciting to hear. So James, welcome back.
Speaker 5: Hey guys, thanks having made sure Wow like to be
Speaker 5: perfect now I'm trying that perfect.
Speaker 1: That actually sounds like a growth response and I like that, James, kind.
Speaker 3: Of a perfect answer. But even before we get to
Speaker 3: your date, what have you done, like specifically since then
Speaker 3: to work on yourself, because that's what your email said
Speaker 3: you did.
Speaker 5: Yeah. Yeah, So I've been taking free classes online through
Speaker 5: this website named YouTube. You might have heard of it.
Speaker 3: YouTube is so helpful for anything.
Speaker 1: What are the classes about?
Speaker 5: They're listening classes?
Speaker 3: How many times do you like positive video and take
Speaker 3: a break?
Speaker 1: Relinds?
Speaker 5: Like?
Speaker 1: What did they say.
Speaker 3: On how to be a better listener?
Speaker 6: Yeah?
Speaker 5: Yeah? Like actively?
Speaker 1: Yeah? I mean truly, it is a skill.
Speaker 5: Yeah.
Speaker 3: What's happened since then? Tell us?
Speaker 5: Okay, so I'm trying to put in practice. And I
Speaker 5: asked my brother's wife out on like a mock date
Speaker 5: just to like test me out.
Speaker 3: Buddy, Okay, it's a little awkward. Yeah, how did your
Speaker 3: mock date with your brother's wife go?
Speaker 5: I think it actually went pretty well. Okay, so she
Speaker 5: gave me like a solid B minus, which is actually
Speaker 5: pretty good because I don't think she even likes me.
Speaker 1: I honestly, I applaud you.
Speaker 3: It actually does sound like you really did do some
Speaker 3: work on yourself, So that's good. But you're not getting
Speaker 3: a call back, so that's the not good part.
Speaker 1: Is it from your brother's wife?
Speaker 3: Yeah? Tell me we're not calling her? Yeah, I don't
Speaker 3: get it. Well, just because you're married to that's it.
Speaker 5: No, actually it's not her. Okay, it's a woman named Audrey.
Speaker 5: She's a high school teacher.
Speaker 1: Cute. How did you meet Audrey.
Speaker 5: Through the app? Okay? Super sweet and cute. She's not
Speaker 5: really hot, really.
Speaker 1: Okay, let's not say that again when she's on the phone.
Speaker 3: Well, I appreciate getting a full mental image of what
Speaker 3: she looks like.
Speaker 1: I mean, I think that's okay, Like you can be
Speaker 1: really attractive and not be your stereotypical hot I think
Speaker 1: is what you mean, right, And.
Speaker 5: I actually mean it in a good way, like that's
Speaker 5: not really what I need right now. We grabbed drinks together.
Speaker 5: It was cool, it was good vibe. So honestly, I
Speaker 5: have no idea why she's not calling me back.
Speaker 1: Wait, how was your conversation skills? Like, you asked her
Speaker 1: a lot of questions.
Speaker 5: Right, Yeah, yeah, I asked her questions. I was actively listening.
Speaker 5: I was doing all the things. Yeah. I even wrote
Speaker 5: down a few notes about the date afterwards so that
Speaker 5: I could like ask you guys about it.
Speaker 3: Oh, wow, you came prepared. What notes did you take?
Speaker 5: Okay? So one of the things is I started off
Speaker 5: the date was like a little humor, you know. I
Speaker 5: walked in and as a joke, I sat down at
Speaker 5: the table next to her with a different woman, and
Speaker 5: I loudly was like, oh, hi, you must be my
Speaker 5: date Audrey, and I thought it would be kind of funny.
Speaker 3: There was already a woman.
Speaker 1: Sitting next so okay, you either confused two women at
Speaker 1: the same time, made them both laugh.
Speaker 3: How did Audrey react to that?
Speaker 5: I mean, I think it was she waved and she
Speaker 5: was like, hey, I think you mean me.
Speaker 1: Oh that's cute.
Speaker 3: Well, at least one of you laughed, even if it's
Speaker 3: you laughing at your own joke, neither.
Speaker 1: Of the women in the room. But he's attempting to
Speaker 1: break the ice and made things more playful right from
Speaker 1: the beginning.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I think it did help break the ice.
Speaker 1: Okay.
Speaker 5: I was trying to find places of like pepper and
Speaker 5: and humor, you know. But I got really quiet when
Speaker 5: the bill came and I said like, oh, it's kind
Speaker 5: of cool that this whole meal was free tonight, and
Speaker 5: she's like, what do you mean? And I said, we're
Speaker 5: going to go to the car follow me three two one.
Speaker 1: But you stayed and paid, right.
Speaker 5: No, I stood up and bolted No, I actually did pay.
Speaker 3: How did Audrey react to your suggestion that you dined
Speaker 3: and dash like before she realized it was a joke.
Speaker 5: Well, her eyes got looked super big. She was really consented.
Speaker 3: She thought it was real.
Speaker 1: That's not good.
Speaker 5: Yeah, but she kind of smiled and maybe laughed a little.
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, she wasn't feeling that joke.
Speaker 1: I wonder if it's just maybe first aid energy or
Speaker 1: your sense as of humor, aren't mess or a comedian.
Speaker 3: You had what we call a tough crowd. It seemed
Speaker 3: pretty stiff to me, brother. Yeah, everyone should have been
Speaker 3: like a hysterics. I know, the waiter even.
Speaker 5: I mean, that's how I feel too, But that.
Speaker 1: Okay, it's not me, it's you. Yeah.
Speaker 3: Like, what was the last interaction that you and Audrey
Speaker 3: had at dinner?
Speaker 5: Well, I picked the bill and then we hugged goodbye
Speaker 5: in the parking lot.
Speaker 1: Okay, did you at that point feel like you were
Speaker 1: going to get another date?
Speaker 5: Yeah? I felt like I was on point all right.
Speaker 3: And at no point did you interrupt her when she
Speaker 3: was telling a story about her grandparents dying?
Speaker 5: Right?
Speaker 3: Like that never happened.
Speaker 5: No, this time I listened to all her death stories,
Speaker 5: all the way through a death story.
Speaker 3: Yeah, i'd your great great grandfather died. Okay, good. I
Speaker 3: feel like there's a lot of improvement here.
Speaker 1: I just think you get another chance just for the effort.
Speaker 3: Totally.
Speaker 5: Well that's all I feel too. But like she doesn't
Speaker 5: know that.
Speaker 1: Guys, Yeah, she doesn't know where you started.
Speaker 3: Maybe it's just a situation like she's intimidated by just
Speaker 3: how funny and hilarious and witty you are all the time,
Speaker 3: and she feels like she can't match your energy.
Speaker 1: Know that I was going with that.
Speaker 3: Let's find out. We're gonna come back call Audrey and
Speaker 3: try and get you your second date update with extra
Speaker 3: good listening right after this.
Speaker 5: Thank you so much.
Speaker 2: Hold on Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning second date updates.
Speaker 3: We may be witnessing a true success story here with
Speaker 3: our listener James.
Speaker 1: I just can't believe it.
Speaker 3: Because he's made some major strides since the last time
Speaker 3: he came on our show. He's been taking free classes
Speaker 3: on YouTube to become a better listener. Yes, he's been
Speaker 3: taking his sister in law out on mock dates, communication skills,
Speaker 3: and improve his under the table foot sea game.
Speaker 1: Hey, practice means progress exactly.
Speaker 3: All that work finally paid off when he went out
Speaker 3: with a new woman named Audrey because he didn't interrupt
Speaker 3: any of her stories. He injected playful humor throughout the date.
Speaker 3: So we're all wondering why Audrey wouldn't be calling him back.
Speaker 3: I mean, maybe she's been mock dating her brother in
Speaker 3: law to try to improve herself. For you, James, have
Speaker 3: you ever thought about that?
Speaker 5: Oh? Wow, that ain't crossed my mind.
Speaker 1: The only guy could thank for you, James, is maybe
Speaker 1: you were sew in your head about all these tips
Speaker 1: and tricks that you've learned that you forgot just about Like,
Speaker 1: I don't know the chemistry, right, yeah, let it.
Speaker 3: Just take over.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I guess so. I mean I thought there was chemistry,
Speaker 5: but I mean I just missed it. I need to
Speaker 5: practice more.
Speaker 3: Okay, Well, we'll call your sister in law up after
Speaker 3: this if it doesn't work out.
Speaker 1: Well, she did only give him a B minus, that's true,
Speaker 1: but that was good because she doesn't like him, right.
Speaker 3: Yeah, still for improvement. But let's reach out to Audrey first.
Speaker 3: We'll see what she has to say. I'm in the
Speaker 3: dollary number right now here we go. Hello, Hey, Audrey,
Speaker 3: this is Brooke and Jeffrey in the Morning the Radio show.
Speaker 1: Hi, Hey, welcome to the show.
Speaker 3: What's up? Yeah, yeah, thanks for answering. We're doing a
Speaker 3: segment right now it's called a second Date Update, and
Speaker 3: one of our listeners has asked us to get a
Speaker 3: hold of you. Okay, so I don't know if you're
Speaker 3: familiar with that segment, but basically we know that you
Speaker 3: went out on a date with this guy named James.
Speaker 6: Yeah, James, Yes, yeah.
Speaker 3: We spoke to him and heard about your date a
Speaker 3: little bit. He's a little bit confused about why there
Speaker 3: hasn't been a second meetup.
Speaker 4: I'm confused about this phone call.
Speaker 5: Let me just say.
Speaker 1: That I think that's fair.
Speaker 3: We're just trying to get a sense of where your
Speaker 3: head is at when it comes to James.
Speaker 7: James is very funny, like cute, but.
Speaker 4: Just like for being honest here and I have to
Speaker 4: do this.
Speaker 5: He's just a little.
Speaker 4: Too fast for me.
Speaker 5: Fast, oh.
Speaker 3: Way fast in what way?
Speaker 4: So I mean this just really got to me, like
Speaker 4: stood out to me on the date.
Speaker 7: But I was.
Speaker 4: Kind of complaining because like I own my own house.
Speaker 6: He runs an apartment, but I have my own house.
Speaker 6: I mean, I worked really hard, but.
Speaker 1: I feel like it's good for you. I'm just playing
Speaker 1: that's awesome.
Speaker 6: Well, thank you.
Speaker 7: So I was just kind of complaining.
Speaker 4: I was like expensive, Like I just dealt with a
Speaker 4: leaky roof. My eating system and cooling system just got
Speaker 4: messed up last year, and I put out a ton
Speaker 4: of money.
Speaker 7: So I was just complaining, and he, like the.
Speaker 4: First times inside of his mouth was well, why why
Speaker 4: don't we just buy a property together?
Speaker 7: Oh gosh, Literally that was me. I'm like, what do
Speaker 7: you mean? And he's like, well, I'm really really handy.
Speaker 7: I learned a lot from my dad. He was an electrician.
Speaker 7: You know, I'm a two bath, three bed kind of guy.
Speaker 3: Like we could do it.
Speaker 1: I got to say, wow, to have and hard to
Speaker 1: come by these days. You know, like I understand where
Speaker 1: that might fell fast, but it also might be a.
Speaker 3: Good investment for you. Oh so, Brooke, that's okay that
Speaker 3: he said that. No, No, that's okay.
Speaker 1: But I would assume he was being lighthearted in that
Speaker 1: part of.
Speaker 3: The Yeah, yeah, we heard that. He's a very humorous
Speaker 3: type of guy.
Speaker 4: I mean, he seemed serious in the moment, but I
Speaker 4: mean I could have read him wrong. Maybe maybe I misunderstood.
Speaker 3: I mean, you didn't pull out like Zillow or Redfin
Speaker 3: on his phone and like start searching for properties right
Speaker 3: there he was walking two blocks away.
Speaker 4: No, but just to say that on a first date
Speaker 4: felt really awkward.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I could see that. I don't know if it's
Speaker 1: a reason to like never see him again, but.
Speaker 3: We can understand you. You were a little scared by it,
Speaker 3: a little intimated. It was a lot all at once
Speaker 3: on a first date. That's what you're saying. Absolutely, Okay,
Speaker 3: if you feel like he's serious, there's a good way
Speaker 3: to find out, because actually James is on the other
Speaker 3: line of this phone call listening in waiting to talk
Speaker 3: to you. Oh gosh, really yeah, really, I'm sorry, that's
Speaker 3: how this works. James, are you there?
Speaker 5: Hey? Audrey?
Speaker 7: All right, Hi James.
Speaker 5: Hey, it's so good to hear your voice. First of all,
Speaker 5: but hey, I want to be clear, like I actually
Speaker 5: wasn't joking when I said the idea about the house
Speaker 5: and moving in because I thought I could be helpful.
Speaker 3: What whoa James?
Speaker 1: Way in wait, you went from buying a place with
Speaker 1: her to just moving into the place She already bought.
Speaker 5: In my defense, Like, I don't mean right away. I'm
Speaker 5: not trying to like jump into that right now. Help
Speaker 5: a little bit, actually, yeah, I mean like far in
Speaker 5: the future, like a month or two.
Speaker 4: That's a lot. No, that's a lot to handle.
Speaker 6: I appreciate it.
Speaker 4: You're really nice. But if I need a handyman, I'll
Speaker 4: just call somebody. I don't need them to move in
Speaker 4: with me.
Speaker 1: Yeah, let her when she needs something. You'll make a
Speaker 1: date out of it. She'll literally just hire. Your dad
Speaker 1: was an actual electrician.
Speaker 5: So, Audrey, you're saying I made a mistake on the date,
Speaker 5: I'm saying.
Speaker 4: You should not have said that to me, even if
Speaker 4: you were thinking of it. I appreciate that.
Speaker 7: I guess it seems like your heart's.
Speaker 4: In the right place.
Speaker 5: But like, but you're saying I made a mistake.
Speaker 7: Though you made a mistake, you're talking about moving in
Speaker 7: with me. We don't even know each other.
Speaker 1: Why do you keep asking her about you making a mistake.
Speaker 5: I'm just writing this down. I'm trying to learn god.
Speaker 3: His self improvement.
Speaker 7: Journey, self improvement journey.
Speaker 4: I don't know anything about that.
Speaker 1: I think that could be a positive. This tell her James,
Speaker 1: tell her what you've been doing.
Speaker 3: Go for it, James.
Speaker 5: Okay, wow, okay, we're doing this. Okay, Well, I went
Speaker 5: out with my brother's wife.
Speaker 3: Don't start doing no, no, no.
Speaker 7: He's dating his brother's wife. No no, no, no no.
Speaker 3: No, James, go back before your brother's wife.
Speaker 1: Go to the listening part.
Speaker 6: James, I don't want to go to another place.
Speaker 7: He just said he's dating his brother's wife.
Speaker 3: No, no, James, you need to explain that to her.
Speaker 5: Uh. Well, I I asked her to.
Speaker 1: Tell her about the practice.
Speaker 3: Does he use the words mock date, mock date right?
Speaker 5: Right, a mock date right? And so she can critique me,
Speaker 5: so that all the stupid things I do, she can
Speaker 5: be like, hey, you're an idiot. Don't do those things,
Speaker 5: and then maybe I'll learn it was just to be
Speaker 5: a better dater, basically. And she doesn't even really like me,
Speaker 5: but she gave me a pretty good sport.
Speaker 3: Wow, but he did well.
Speaker 1: I think, Audrey, what he's trying to say is he
Speaker 1: really truly is actively trying to improve who he is.
Speaker 5: And Audrey, you don't even know this, but I actually
Speaker 5: called the show before because I talked over a lady,
Speaker 5: which he was trying to tell me about her pet dying.
Speaker 3: I think the next step on your journey, James is
Speaker 3: to find a YouTube class about not over sharing during
Speaker 3: a first date because there may have been too much
Speaker 3: information there.
Speaker 5: Okay, fine, hold on, let me write that downright, Audrey.
Speaker 1: Honestly, I'm still rooting for this guy. I still think
Speaker 1: he should give him another he is.
Speaker 3: We all are team James, though, Audrey, he's definitely been
Speaker 3: trying to work on himself and be a better guy,
Speaker 3: a better dater or so. He might not be perfect
Speaker 3: right now, but maybe down the road. Three dates from now,
Speaker 3: five dates a month, when you move in together an issue.
Speaker 5: Audrey, He's not lying. I actually really will be better,
Speaker 5: Like a couple of months from now. I'm really sorry
Speaker 5: that I brought up the move in thing. Maybe we won't, don't.
Speaker 5: We don't do that. We can just go on vacation
Speaker 5: together and that will alleviate you from having to be
Speaker 5: around all the bikes.
Speaker 3: Is that better?
Speaker 1: Did you say no, Audrey?
Speaker 4: No, let's pumps the break.
Speaker 5: Let's pump the break.
Speaker 7: Okay, no vacations just yet.
Speaker 4: Like I think, James, you're a great guy.
Speaker 6: I have to be honest I've.
Speaker 4: Been dating quite a lot more than i'd.
Speaker 6: Like to right now, and most guys are.
Speaker 4: Not admitting their flaws and faults. So in a way,
Speaker 4: I like that you overshare and you're.
Speaker 7: Honest about who you are.
Speaker 6: Like to take the lot is to do this, and
Speaker 6: I mean you.
Speaker 4: Are funny, Like the diamond ash thing kind of got
Speaker 4: me by surprise.
Speaker 5: Oh okay, hey, you guys, hear that she thinks I'm funny.
Speaker 5: Hold on, write that down.
Speaker 3: All right, Well, sure you write that down. And in
Speaker 3: the meantime, we need to ask Audrey if you'll consider
Speaker 3: going out on one more date with James, and we
Speaker 3: would pay for that.
Speaker 6: Okay, on two conditions.
Speaker 4: Oh, we're not buying a property together, and we're.
Speaker 6: Not going on vacation.
Speaker 3: Okay, you set down pretty strict terms, James, are you
Speaker 3: willing to bend and abide by those rules?
Speaker 5: Wait? Yeah, does she mean ever? Because I kind of
Speaker 5: do want to go on vacation at some point.
Speaker 1: Okay, I think for the second date, James.
Speaker 5: Yeah, all right, yeah, I mean, just don't plan that door.
Speaker 5: I guess the whole thing is, I don't know. I
Speaker 5: guess I can do it.
Speaker 1: That's a modification motivational that didn't make.
Speaker 3: Sense ritten down.
Speaker 1: Yeah, so yes, you're going out again pizza.
Speaker 7: Let's go for pizza.
Speaker 4: Let's keep it casual.
Speaker 6: But I'm definitely willing to go out with you again dreams.
Speaker 5: All right, I'm just going to do one more mock
Speaker 5: date with my brother's wife and then we'll do it.
Speaker 5: All right.
Speaker 1: Well, I just feel bad for the brother's wife.
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's like five dates in She's like, what is
Speaker 3: going on?
Speaker 1: Yeah, you better be paying for dinner.
Speaker 3: And Jeffrey in the morning, James has a lot of
Speaker 3: homework to do before his next date.
Speaker 1: Well, he's been taking notes.
Speaker 3: That's a day he's got to go back and review
Speaker 3: his notes book. Another hangout with his brother's wife. Probably
Speaker 3: listen back to this podcast and the old one that
Speaker 3: he did before, which you can too, by the way, Spotify, Apple, iHeart,
Speaker 3: wherever you get your podcasts.
Speaker 1: Yes for those huh yeah.
Speaker 3: But overall, he's one of the few guys who's ever
Speaker 3: been on this show who actually seems like he's really
Speaker 3: putting in the effort to find a suitable mate for himself.
Speaker 1: Yeah, just guys, just person any of us. Yeah, Like
Speaker 1: I'm really I hope we get an update from.
Speaker 3: Them, me too. I'll hope we get an update from
Speaker 3: him and Audrey, or from him and his sister in
Speaker 3: law whoever he deserves to end up with somebody.
Speaker 1: You're gonna get an awkward Toesday phone call from her, like,
Speaker 1: can we tell my brother in law to stop asking
Speaker 1: me out?
Speaker 3: And we would do that, but either way, we are
Speaker 3: pro James at the moment, and you could be pro
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