WEBVTT - Second Date Update: The Best Listener Ever 0:00:00.040 --> 0:00:03.120 Well, this is definitely a first someone who was previously 0:00:03.160 --> 0:00:08.240 on a second date update use that experience to better themselves. 0:00:08.320 --> 0:00:11.720 Yeah right, I know. I know we are all ash 0:00:11.760 --> 0:00:13.960 shocked as you. I know, but this guy put the 0:00:13.960 --> 0:00:15.440 work in and you're gonna hear what happened in a 0:00:15.480 --> 0:00:17.680 brand new, brand new second date update. Did I say 0:00:17.680 --> 0:00:20.759 brand new twice? My brain is good? You say it 0:00:20.800 --> 0:00:24.000 one more time? Yeah, brand new second date update? Yeah, guest, 0:00:24.600 --> 0:00:29.640 but first comments, but first comments? Yeah, he's like, is 0:00:29.720 --> 0:00:31.200 ver okay? Do you need to check on her? 0:00:32.400 --> 0:00:35.520 I love how Maybe I'm just personally gonna find this funny, okay. 0:00:35.520 --> 0:00:38.040 One of our listeners, dead Skull was binging old ones 0:00:38.120 --> 0:00:40.320 yes it was back to like twenty twenty, and found 0:00:40.360 --> 0:00:43.640 the first second date update I ever did and commented, 0:00:43.720 --> 0:00:46.000 this is Alexis first second date update, and it was 0:00:46.040 --> 0:00:48.200 one about someone living hashtag van life. 0:00:48.360 --> 0:00:48.560 Oh. 0:00:48.760 --> 0:00:52.159 I was like, what, I don't remember that, but you 0:00:52.159 --> 0:00:54.520 probably wouldn't like to listen to it. I listened to 0:00:54.560 --> 0:00:55.640 my early things. 0:00:55.800 --> 0:00:57.680 No, but I'm what a good one you guys threw 0:00:57.720 --> 0:00:58.080 me in on. 0:00:58.200 --> 0:01:00.600 Yeah life, there you go? Oh I love it? Well, 0:01:00.600 --> 0:01:03.320 thank you for Benji, Yes, all of it and hope 0:01:03.360 --> 0:01:05.440 you enjoy this new one. Yeah, it starts right now, 0:01:05.520 --> 0:01:08.440 Brook and Jeffrey in the morning. Second Date updates. 0:01:10.240 --> 0:01:14.559 We always welcome with open arms and open mouths returning 0:01:14.680 --> 0:01:19.160 second daters who've been on this segment before, and today 0:01:19.360 --> 0:01:23.080 is no exception. One of our listeners, James is back. 0:01:23.160 --> 0:01:25.080 Yeah, because it's always shocking to us that you still 0:01:25.120 --> 0:01:26.560 want to help. Yeah. 0:01:27.600 --> 0:01:30.160 Last time he was on, James got turned down by 0:01:30.200 --> 0:01:34.240 a woman who said he's not a great listener only 0:01:34.280 --> 0:01:36.119 because she was telling him the story of how her 0:01:36.120 --> 0:01:40.720 dog passed away, and he interrupted her to say, no, yeah, yeah, 0:01:40.760 --> 0:01:42.600 you've already told me this before. When are we going 0:01:42.640 --> 0:01:43.600 to go back to my place? 0:01:43.720 --> 0:01:44.400 Oh? 0:01:44.560 --> 0:01:49.600 No, that was then. This is now okay, And James 0:01:49.640 --> 0:01:53.120 says he's learned his lesson and fixed all of his 0:01:53.240 --> 0:01:54.200 personal flaws. 0:01:54.320 --> 0:01:55.840 Oh wow, all of us, all of us. 0:01:55.880 --> 0:01:58.400 That's exciting to hear. So James, welcome back. 0:01:59.160 --> 0:02:01.600 Hey guys, thanks having made sure Wow like to be 0:02:01.640 --> 0:02:07.240 perfect now I'm trying that perfect. 0:02:07.280 --> 0:02:11.079 That actually sounds like a growth response and I like that, James, kind. 0:02:10.919 --> 0:02:13.080 Of a perfect answer. But even before we get to 0:02:13.120 --> 0:02:16.560 your date, what have you done, like specifically since then 0:02:16.600 --> 0:02:18.880 to work on yourself, because that's what your email said 0:02:18.919 --> 0:02:19.239 you did. 0:02:19.919 --> 0:02:24.640 Yeah. Yeah, So I've been taking free classes online through 0:02:24.840 --> 0:02:27.040 this website named YouTube. You might have heard of it. 0:02:28.720 --> 0:02:30.960 YouTube is so helpful for anything. 0:02:31.080 --> 0:02:32.600 What are the classes about? 0:02:33.040 --> 0:02:34.400 They're listening classes? 0:02:36.080 --> 0:02:38.160 How many times do you like positive video and take 0:02:38.160 --> 0:02:38.520 a break? 0:02:39.360 --> 0:02:39.880 Relinds? 0:02:39.919 --> 0:02:40.000 Like? 0:02:40.000 --> 0:02:40.840 What did they say. 0:02:40.800 --> 0:02:42.359 On how to be a better listener? 0:02:42.960 --> 0:02:43.200 Yeah? 0:02:43.280 --> 0:02:45.480 Yeah? Like actively? 0:02:45.720 --> 0:02:48.000 Yeah? I mean truly, it is a skill. 0:02:48.160 --> 0:02:48.400 Yeah. 0:02:48.440 --> 0:02:49.920 What's happened since then? Tell us? 0:02:50.440 --> 0:02:53.760 Okay, so I'm trying to put in practice. And I 0:02:53.800 --> 0:02:56.720 asked my brother's wife out on like a mock date 0:02:56.880 --> 0:02:58.080 just to like test me out. 0:03:00.160 --> 0:03:05.760 Buddy, Okay, it's a little awkward. Yeah, how did your 0:03:06.160 --> 0:03:08.280 mock date with your brother's wife go? 0:03:09.160 --> 0:03:11.840 I think it actually went pretty well. Okay, so she 0:03:11.919 --> 0:03:14.560 gave me like a solid B minus, which is actually 0:03:14.600 --> 0:03:16.640 pretty good because I don't think she even likes me. 0:03:18.919 --> 0:03:20.880 I honestly, I applaud you. 0:03:21.120 --> 0:03:23.320 It actually does sound like you really did do some 0:03:23.400 --> 0:03:26.400 work on yourself, So that's good. But you're not getting 0:03:26.440 --> 0:03:28.600 a call back, so that's the not good part. 0:03:28.960 --> 0:03:30.160 Is it from your brother's wife? 0:03:30.200 --> 0:03:33.760 Yeah? Tell me we're not calling her? Yeah, I don't 0:03:33.800 --> 0:03:39.160 get it. Well, just because you're married to that's it. 0:03:39.880 --> 0:03:43.840 No, actually it's not her. Okay, it's a woman named Audrey. 0:03:44.040 --> 0:03:45.440 She's a high school teacher. 0:03:45.760 --> 0:03:48.600 Cute. How did you meet Audrey. 0:03:48.360 --> 0:03:51.360 Through the app? Okay? Super sweet and cute. She's not 0:03:51.400 --> 0:03:52.800 really hot, really. 0:03:52.840 --> 0:03:55.640 Okay, let's not say that again when she's on the phone. 0:03:55.640 --> 0:03:58.320 Well, I appreciate getting a full mental image of what 0:03:58.400 --> 0:03:59.120 she looks like. 0:03:59.760 --> 0:04:01.600 I mean, I think that's okay, Like you can be 0:04:01.680 --> 0:04:04.440 really attractive and not be your stereotypical hot I think 0:04:04.520 --> 0:04:06.440 is what you mean, right, And. 0:04:06.400 --> 0:04:07.920 I actually mean it in a good way, like that's 0:04:07.960 --> 0:04:11.680 not really what I need right now. We grabbed drinks together. 0:04:11.880 --> 0:04:14.880 It was cool, it was good vibe. So honestly, I 0:04:14.920 --> 0:04:16.560 have no idea why she's not calling me back. 0:04:17.600 --> 0:04:19.960 Wait, how was your conversation skills? Like, you asked her 0:04:19.960 --> 0:04:21.360 a lot of questions. 0:04:20.960 --> 0:04:24.919 Right, Yeah, yeah, I asked her questions. I was actively listening. 0:04:25.120 --> 0:04:27.480 I was doing all the things. Yeah. I even wrote 0:04:27.520 --> 0:04:30.000 down a few notes about the date afterwards so that 0:04:30.040 --> 0:04:31.640 I could like ask you guys about it. 0:04:32.000 --> 0:04:35.320 Oh, wow, you came prepared. What notes did you take? 0:04:35.880 --> 0:04:38.280 Okay? So one of the things is I started off 0:04:38.279 --> 0:04:40.200 the date was like a little humor, you know. I 0:04:40.279 --> 0:04:43.000 walked in and as a joke, I sat down at 0:04:43.000 --> 0:04:46.840 the table next to her with a different woman, and 0:04:46.880 --> 0:04:49.200 I loudly was like, oh, hi, you must be my 0:04:49.360 --> 0:04:52.000 date Audrey, and I thought it would be kind of funny. 0:04:52.520 --> 0:04:54.080 There was already a woman. 0:04:53.920 --> 0:04:59.120 Sitting next so okay, you either confused two women at 0:04:59.160 --> 0:05:01.080 the same time, made them both laugh. 0:05:01.800 --> 0:05:03.520 How did Audrey react to that? 0:05:05.320 --> 0:05:06.919 I mean, I think it was she waved and she 0:05:07.040 --> 0:05:08.640 was like, hey, I think you mean me. 0:05:09.120 --> 0:05:09.760 Oh that's cute. 0:05:09.880 --> 0:05:12.520 Well, at least one of you laughed, even if it's 0:05:12.560 --> 0:05:14.400 you laughing at your own joke, neither. 0:05:14.279 --> 0:05:18.080 Of the women in the room. But he's attempting to 0:05:18.120 --> 0:05:20.600 break the ice and made things more playful right from 0:05:20.640 --> 0:05:21.160 the beginning. 0:05:21.720 --> 0:05:23.520 Yeah, I think it did help break the ice. 0:05:23.920 --> 0:05:24.240 Okay. 0:05:24.320 --> 0:05:25.920 I was trying to find places of like pepper and 0:05:26.040 --> 0:05:28.480 and humor, you know. But I got really quiet when 0:05:28.480 --> 0:05:31.039 the bill came and I said like, oh, it's kind 0:05:31.040 --> 0:05:34.000 of cool that this whole meal was free tonight, and 0:05:34.040 --> 0:05:36.480 she's like, what do you mean? And I said, we're 0:05:36.480 --> 0:05:44.359 going to go to the car follow me three two one. 0:05:43.080 --> 0:05:44.440 But you stayed and paid, right. 0:05:45.080 --> 0:05:49.080 No, I stood up and bolted No, I actually did pay. 0:05:49.200 --> 0:05:51.920 How did Audrey react to your suggestion that you dined 0:05:52.000 --> 0:05:54.400 and dash like before she realized it was a joke. 0:05:55.160 --> 0:05:58.160 Well, her eyes got looked super big. She was really consented. 0:05:58.480 --> 0:05:59.200 She thought it was real. 0:05:59.640 --> 0:06:00.919 That's not good. 0:06:01.360 --> 0:06:04.560 Yeah, but she kind of smiled and maybe laughed a little. 0:06:05.040 --> 0:06:07.400 Oh yeah, she wasn't feeling that joke. 0:06:07.600 --> 0:06:10.760 I wonder if it's just maybe first aid energy or 0:06:10.800 --> 0:06:14.120 your sense as of humor, aren't mess or a comedian. 0:06:14.160 --> 0:06:17.679 You had what we call a tough crowd. It seemed 0:06:17.680 --> 0:06:21.000 pretty stiff to me, brother. Yeah, everyone should have been 0:06:21.120 --> 0:06:23.640 like a hysterics. I know, the waiter even. 0:06:24.080 --> 0:06:26.800 I mean, that's how I feel too, But that. 0:06:26.920 --> 0:06:29.400 Okay, it's not me, it's you. Yeah. 0:06:30.040 --> 0:06:32.320 Like, what was the last interaction that you and Audrey 0:06:32.400 --> 0:06:33.360 had at dinner? 0:06:33.960 --> 0:06:36.240 Well, I picked the bill and then we hugged goodbye 0:06:36.320 --> 0:06:37.120 in the parking lot. 0:06:37.640 --> 0:06:40.160 Okay, did you at that point feel like you were 0:06:40.200 --> 0:06:41.120 going to get another date? 0:06:41.720 --> 0:06:44.320 Yeah? I felt like I was on point all right. 0:06:45.240 --> 0:06:47.279 And at no point did you interrupt her when she 0:06:47.360 --> 0:06:49.400 was telling a story about her grandparents dying? 0:06:49.680 --> 0:06:49.840 Right? 0:06:49.960 --> 0:06:51.200 Like that never happened. 0:06:51.480 --> 0:06:53.760 No, this time I listened to all her death stories, 0:06:53.760 --> 0:06:58.279 all the way through a death story. 0:06:58.440 --> 0:07:03.520 Yeah, i'd your great great grandfather died. Okay, good. I 0:07:03.520 --> 0:07:05.200 feel like there's a lot of improvement here. 0:07:05.960 --> 0:07:08.320 I just think you get another chance just for the effort. 0:07:08.520 --> 0:07:08.960 Totally. 0:07:08.960 --> 0:07:11.200 Well that's all I feel too. But like she doesn't 0:07:11.240 --> 0:07:11.640 know that. 0:07:11.560 --> 0:07:15.440 Guys, Yeah, she doesn't know where you started. 0:07:15.840 --> 0:07:18.520 Maybe it's just a situation like she's intimidated by just 0:07:18.600 --> 0:07:21.360 how funny and hilarious and witty you are all the time, 0:07:21.400 --> 0:07:23.520 and she feels like she can't match your energy. 0:07:24.120 --> 0:07:25.160 Know that I was going with that. 0:07:26.640 --> 0:07:29.280 Let's find out. We're gonna come back call Audrey and 0:07:29.320 --> 0:07:32.320 try and get you your second date update with extra 0:07:32.360 --> 0:07:33.920 good listening right after this. 0:07:34.240 --> 0:07:35.160 Thank you so much. 0:07:35.400 --> 0:07:39.120 Hold on Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning second date updates. 0:07:40.440 --> 0:07:43.800 We may be witnessing a true success story here with 0:07:43.840 --> 0:07:45.040 our listener James. 0:07:45.240 --> 0:07:46.240 I just can't believe it. 0:07:46.600 --> 0:07:49.600 Because he's made some major strides since the last time 0:07:49.640 --> 0:07:52.440 he came on our show. He's been taking free classes 0:07:52.440 --> 0:07:55.520 on YouTube to become a better listener. Yes, he's been 0:07:55.560 --> 0:08:01.200 taking his sister in law out on mock dates, communication skills, 0:08:01.200 --> 0:08:03.960 and improve his under the table foot sea game. 0:08:04.040 --> 0:08:06.520 Hey, practice means progress exactly. 0:08:06.680 --> 0:08:09.520 All that work finally paid off when he went out 0:08:09.560 --> 0:08:12.920 with a new woman named Audrey because he didn't interrupt 0:08:12.960 --> 0:08:17.040 any of her stories. He injected playful humor throughout the date. 0:08:17.520 --> 0:08:21.640 So we're all wondering why Audrey wouldn't be calling him back. 0:08:22.080 --> 0:08:24.800 I mean, maybe she's been mock dating her brother in 0:08:24.880 --> 0:08:28.280 law to try to improve herself. For you, James, have 0:08:28.360 --> 0:08:29.320 you ever thought about that? 0:08:29.920 --> 0:08:31.880 Oh? Wow, that ain't crossed my mind. 0:08:32.000 --> 0:08:34.240 The only guy could thank for you, James, is maybe 0:08:34.280 --> 0:08:36.840 you were sew in your head about all these tips 0:08:36.840 --> 0:08:40.000 and tricks that you've learned that you forgot just about Like, 0:08:40.559 --> 0:08:43.000 I don't know the chemistry, right, yeah, let it. 0:08:43.000 --> 0:08:43.560 Just take over. 0:08:44.240 --> 0:08:47.000 Yeah, I guess so. I mean I thought there was chemistry, 0:08:47.040 --> 0:08:49.040 but I mean I just missed it. I need to 0:08:49.080 --> 0:08:49.600 practice more. 0:08:51.360 --> 0:08:53.680 Okay, Well, we'll call your sister in law up after 0:08:53.720 --> 0:08:54.880 this if it doesn't work out. 0:08:55.080 --> 0:08:57.120 Well, she did only give him a B minus, that's true, 0:08:57.200 --> 0:08:59.240 but that was good because she doesn't like him, right. 0:08:59.120 --> 0:09:02.679 Yeah, still for improvement. But let's reach out to Audrey first. 0:09:02.679 --> 0:09:04.480 We'll see what she has to say. I'm in the 0:09:04.559 --> 0:09:15.200 dollary number right now here we go. Hello, Hey, Audrey, 0:09:15.440 --> 0:09:17.520 this is Brooke and Jeffrey in the Morning the Radio show. 0:09:19.200 --> 0:09:22.839 Hi, Hey, welcome to the show. 0:09:25.920 --> 0:09:29.120 What's up? Yeah, yeah, thanks for answering. We're doing a 0:09:29.120 --> 0:09:31.640 segment right now it's called a second Date Update, and 0:09:31.720 --> 0:09:33.360 one of our listeners has asked us to get a 0:09:33.360 --> 0:09:37.640 hold of you. Okay, so I don't know if you're 0:09:37.640 --> 0:09:40.320 familiar with that segment, but basically we know that you 0:09:40.400 --> 0:09:42.679 went out on a date with this guy named James. 0:09:44.360 --> 0:09:46.080 Yeah, James, Yes, yeah. 0:09:46.520 --> 0:09:49.520 We spoke to him and heard about your date a 0:09:49.520 --> 0:09:52.679 little bit. He's a little bit confused about why there 0:09:52.679 --> 0:09:53.920 hasn't been a second meetup. 0:09:55.040 --> 0:09:57.040 I'm confused about this phone call. 0:09:57.800 --> 0:09:58.720 Let me just say. 0:09:58.600 --> 0:10:01.080 That I think that's fair. 0:10:01.200 --> 0:10:02.839 We're just trying to get a sense of where your 0:10:02.920 --> 0:10:04.600 head is at when it comes to James. 0:10:05.960 --> 0:10:09.319 James is very funny, like cute, but. 0:10:10.880 --> 0:10:12.960 Just like for being honest here and I have to 0:10:13.000 --> 0:10:13.280 do this. 0:10:13.480 --> 0:10:14.520 He's just a little. 0:10:14.360 --> 0:10:15.720 Too fast for me. 0:10:16.400 --> 0:10:17.360 Fast, oh. 0:10:18.720 --> 0:10:20.040 Way fast in what way? 0:10:20.920 --> 0:10:23.520 So I mean this just really got to me, like 0:10:23.600 --> 0:10:24.880 stood out to me on the date. 0:10:25.000 --> 0:10:26.520 But I was. 0:10:26.520 --> 0:10:28.800 Kind of complaining because like I own my own house. 0:10:29.559 --> 0:10:31.560 He runs an apartment, but I have my own house. 0:10:33.760 --> 0:10:35.800 I mean, I worked really hard, but. 0:10:35.800 --> 0:10:37.800 I feel like it's good for you. I'm just playing 0:10:37.880 --> 0:10:38.839 that's awesome. 0:10:38.720 --> 0:10:39.360 Well, thank you. 0:10:39.480 --> 0:10:40.720 So I was just kind of complaining. 0:10:40.760 --> 0:10:42.800 I was like expensive, Like I just dealt with a 0:10:42.880 --> 0:10:47.120 leaky roof. My eating system and cooling system just got 0:10:47.120 --> 0:10:49.120 messed up last year, and I put out a ton 0:10:49.160 --> 0:10:49.559 of money. 0:10:49.640 --> 0:10:54.040 So I was just complaining, and he, like the. 0:10:53.960 --> 0:10:55.800 First times inside of his mouth was well, why why 0:10:55.840 --> 0:10:57.280 don't we just buy a property together? 0:10:57.960 --> 0:11:01.720 Oh gosh, Literally that was me. I'm like, what do 0:11:01.720 --> 0:11:04.520 you mean? And he's like, well, I'm really really handy. 0:11:04.520 --> 0:11:06.920 I learned a lot from my dad. He was an electrician. 0:11:07.000 --> 0:11:09.120 You know, I'm a two bath, three bed kind of guy. 0:11:09.280 --> 0:11:10.720 Like we could do it. 0:11:11.160 --> 0:11:14.080 I got to say, wow, to have and hard to 0:11:14.080 --> 0:11:18.000 come by these days. You know, like I understand where 0:11:18.040 --> 0:11:20.640 that might fell fast, but it also might be a. 0:11:20.600 --> 0:11:23.760 Good investment for you. Oh so, Brooke, that's okay that 0:11:23.800 --> 0:11:26.560 he said that. No, No, that's okay. 0:11:26.840 --> 0:11:30.520 But I would assume he was being lighthearted in that 0:11:30.640 --> 0:11:31.040 part of. 0:11:30.960 --> 0:11:34.160 The Yeah, yeah, we heard that. He's a very humorous 0:11:34.200 --> 0:11:34.720 type of guy. 0:11:35.440 --> 0:11:38.120 I mean, he seemed serious in the moment, but I 0:11:38.120 --> 0:11:42.000 mean I could have read him wrong. Maybe maybe I misunderstood. 0:11:42.160 --> 0:11:44.440 I mean, you didn't pull out like Zillow or Redfin 0:11:44.600 --> 0:11:47.000 on his phone and like start searching for properties right 0:11:47.000 --> 0:11:48.760 there he was walking two blocks away. 0:11:51.320 --> 0:11:53.480 No, but just to say that on a first date 0:11:53.679 --> 0:11:55.160 felt really awkward. 0:11:55.559 --> 0:11:58.200 Yeah, I could see that. I don't know if it's 0:11:58.200 --> 0:12:00.600 a reason to like never see him again, but. 0:12:00.559 --> 0:12:02.680 We can understand you. You were a little scared by it, 0:12:02.720 --> 0:12:05.120 a little intimated. It was a lot all at once 0:12:05.160 --> 0:12:07.680 on a first date. That's what you're saying. Absolutely, Okay, 0:12:08.320 --> 0:12:10.360 if you feel like he's serious, there's a good way 0:12:10.360 --> 0:12:13.320 to find out, because actually James is on the other 0:12:13.360 --> 0:12:16.160 line of this phone call listening in waiting to talk 0:12:16.200 --> 0:12:20.920 to you. Oh gosh, really yeah, really, I'm sorry, that's 0:12:20.920 --> 0:12:22.200 how this works. James, are you there? 0:12:23.160 --> 0:12:23.959 Hey? Audrey? 0:12:26.280 --> 0:12:27.920 All right, Hi James. 0:12:28.520 --> 0:12:31.720 Hey, it's so good to hear your voice. First of all, 0:12:33.120 --> 0:12:35.920 but hey, I want to be clear, like I actually 0:12:36.120 --> 0:12:39.520 wasn't joking when I said the idea about the house 0:12:39.520 --> 0:12:42.080 and moving in because I thought I could be helpful. 0:12:42.280 --> 0:12:44.040 What whoa James? 0:12:44.320 --> 0:12:47.080 Way in wait, you went from buying a place with 0:12:47.120 --> 0:12:49.440 her to just moving into the place She already bought. 0:12:50.120 --> 0:12:52.280 In my defense, Like, I don't mean right away. I'm 0:12:52.280 --> 0:12:55.880 not trying to like jump into that right now. Help 0:12:55.960 --> 0:12:58.520 a little bit, actually, yeah, I mean like far in 0:12:58.520 --> 0:13:02.800 the future, like a month or two. 0:13:05.880 --> 0:13:08.160 That's a lot. No, that's a lot to handle. 0:13:08.360 --> 0:13:09.920 I appreciate it. 0:13:10.000 --> 0:13:12.560 You're really nice. But if I need a handyman, I'll 0:13:12.600 --> 0:13:14.720 just call somebody. I don't need them to move in 0:13:14.760 --> 0:13:15.080 with me. 0:13:15.320 --> 0:13:19.120 Yeah, let her when she needs something. You'll make a 0:13:19.200 --> 0:13:21.480 date out of it. She'll literally just hire. Your dad 0:13:22.120 --> 0:13:23.760 was an actual electrician. 0:13:24.120 --> 0:13:26.680 So, Audrey, you're saying I made a mistake on the date, 0:13:27.880 --> 0:13:28.719 I'm saying. 0:13:28.480 --> 0:13:30.800 You should not have said that to me, even if 0:13:30.840 --> 0:13:32.840 you were thinking of it. I appreciate that. 0:13:33.280 --> 0:13:34.839 I guess it seems like your heart's. 0:13:34.559 --> 0:13:35.360 In the right place. 0:13:35.480 --> 0:13:37.760 But like, but you're saying I made a mistake. 0:13:37.840 --> 0:13:41.200 Though you made a mistake, you're talking about moving in 0:13:41.280 --> 0:13:44.120 with me. We don't even know each other. 0:13:44.440 --> 0:13:47.360 Why do you keep asking her about you making a mistake. 0:13:47.800 --> 0:13:50.520 I'm just writing this down. I'm trying to learn god. 0:13:52.200 --> 0:13:53.760 His self improvement. 0:13:53.280 --> 0:13:55.559 Journey, self improvement journey. 0:13:55.760 --> 0:13:57.679 I don't know anything about that. 0:14:00.000 --> 0:14:03.280 I think that could be a positive. This tell her James, 0:14:03.320 --> 0:14:04.280 tell her what you've been doing. 0:14:04.559 --> 0:14:05.480 Go for it, James. 0:14:05.840 --> 0:14:10.520 Okay, wow, okay, we're doing this. Okay, Well, I went 0:14:10.559 --> 0:14:13.720 out with my brother's wife. 0:14:14.000 --> 0:14:16.520 Don't start doing no, no, no. 0:14:17.000 --> 0:14:19.560 He's dating his brother's wife. No no, no, no no. 0:14:19.360 --> 0:14:22.280 No, James, go back before your brother's wife. 0:14:22.400 --> 0:14:23.480 Go to the listening part. 0:14:23.600 --> 0:14:26.520 James, I don't want to go to another place. 0:14:26.840 --> 0:14:28.920 He just said he's dating his brother's wife. 0:14:29.000 --> 0:14:32.440 No, no, James, you need to explain that to her. 0:14:33.320 --> 0:14:41.880 Uh. Well, I I asked her to. 0:14:38.880 --> 0:14:40.240 Tell her about the practice. 0:14:40.320 --> 0:14:43.680 Does he use the words mock date, mock date right? 0:14:44.120 --> 0:14:46.960 Right, a mock date right? And so she can critique me, 0:14:47.360 --> 0:14:49.640 so that all the stupid things I do, she can 0:14:49.720 --> 0:14:51.960 be like, hey, you're an idiot. Don't do those things, 0:14:52.280 --> 0:14:54.920 and then maybe I'll learn it was just to be 0:14:54.920 --> 0:14:58.480 a better dater, basically. And she doesn't even really like me, 0:14:58.560 --> 0:14:59.880 but she gave me a pretty good sport. 0:15:03.200 --> 0:15:04.800 Wow, but he did well. 0:15:05.720 --> 0:15:07.840 I think, Audrey, what he's trying to say is he 0:15:07.920 --> 0:15:11.400 really truly is actively trying to improve who he is. 0:15:11.680 --> 0:15:13.520 And Audrey, you don't even know this, but I actually 0:15:13.520 --> 0:15:16.280 called the show before because I talked over a lady, 0:15:16.320 --> 0:15:22.240 which he was trying to tell me about her pet dying. 0:15:22.400 --> 0:15:24.720 I think the next step on your journey, James is 0:15:24.760 --> 0:15:27.640 to find a YouTube class about not over sharing during 0:15:27.640 --> 0:15:30.160 a first date because there may have been too much 0:15:30.160 --> 0:15:31.040 information there. 0:15:31.360 --> 0:15:35.240 Okay, fine, hold on, let me write that downright, Audrey. 0:15:35.280 --> 0:15:37.840 Honestly, I'm still rooting for this guy. I still think 0:15:37.840 --> 0:15:39.680 he should give him another he is. 0:15:39.880 --> 0:15:42.920 We all are team James, though, Audrey, he's definitely been 0:15:42.920 --> 0:15:45.200 trying to work on himself and be a better guy, 0:15:45.200 --> 0:15:47.720 a better dater or so. He might not be perfect 0:15:48.160 --> 0:15:51.400 right now, but maybe down the road. Three dates from now, 0:15:51.440 --> 0:15:56.440 five dates a month, when you move in together an issue. 0:15:56.120 --> 0:15:58.600 Audrey, He's not lying. I actually really will be better, 0:15:58.800 --> 0:16:01.200 Like a couple of months from now. I'm really sorry 0:16:01.200 --> 0:16:03.280 that I brought up the move in thing. Maybe we won't, don't. 0:16:03.480 --> 0:16:05.160 We don't do that. We can just go on vacation 0:16:05.280 --> 0:16:07.480 together and that will alleviate you from having to be 0:16:07.560 --> 0:16:08.640 around all the bikes. 0:16:10.360 --> 0:16:10.880 Is that better? 0:16:11.280 --> 0:16:12.360 Did you say no, Audrey? 0:16:12.600 --> 0:16:13.640 No, let's pumps the break. 0:16:14.080 --> 0:16:15.040 Let's pump the break. 0:16:15.560 --> 0:16:17.400 Okay, no vacations just yet. 0:16:17.440 --> 0:16:20.400 Like I think, James, you're a great guy. 0:16:20.720 --> 0:16:21.920 I have to be honest I've. 0:16:21.760 --> 0:16:24.640 Been dating quite a lot more than i'd. 0:16:24.440 --> 0:16:26.720 Like to right now, and most guys are. 0:16:26.960 --> 0:16:30.320 Not admitting their flaws and faults. So in a way, 0:16:30.480 --> 0:16:32.480 I like that you overshare and you're. 0:16:32.280 --> 0:16:33.480 Honest about who you are. 0:16:33.680 --> 0:16:35.960 Like to take the lot is to do this, and 0:16:36.680 --> 0:16:37.880 I mean you. 0:16:37.840 --> 0:16:40.800 Are funny, Like the diamond ash thing kind of got 0:16:40.840 --> 0:16:41.520 me by surprise. 0:16:42.240 --> 0:16:45.720 Oh okay, hey, you guys, hear that she thinks I'm funny. 0:16:45.760 --> 0:16:46.720 Hold on, write that down. 0:16:48.400 --> 0:16:50.080 All right, Well, sure you write that down. And in 0:16:50.120 --> 0:16:52.720 the meantime, we need to ask Audrey if you'll consider 0:16:53.040 --> 0:16:56.120 going out on one more date with James, and we 0:16:56.160 --> 0:16:56.920 would pay for that. 0:16:57.800 --> 0:16:59.840 Okay, on two conditions. 0:17:00.120 --> 0:17:03.360 Oh, we're not buying a property together, and we're. 0:17:03.240 --> 0:17:04.320 Not going on vacation. 0:17:04.680 --> 0:17:07.560 Okay, you set down pretty strict terms, James, are you 0:17:07.640 --> 0:17:09.879 willing to bend and abide by those rules? 0:17:10.080 --> 0:17:13.080 Wait? Yeah, does she mean ever? Because I kind of 0:17:13.119 --> 0:17:14.840 do want to go on vacation at some point. 0:17:15.000 --> 0:17:18.439 Okay, I think for the second date, James. 0:17:18.600 --> 0:17:21.200 Yeah, all right, yeah, I mean, just don't plan that door. 0:17:21.280 --> 0:17:23.720 I guess the whole thing is, I don't know. I 0:17:23.800 --> 0:17:24.560 guess I can do it. 0:17:24.680 --> 0:17:27.400 That's a modification motivational that didn't make. 0:17:27.359 --> 0:17:29.000 Sense ritten down. 0:17:29.320 --> 0:17:33.120 Yeah, so yes, you're going out again pizza. 0:17:33.400 --> 0:17:34.320 Let's go for pizza. 0:17:34.600 --> 0:17:35.760 Let's keep it casual. 0:17:35.920 --> 0:17:38.600 But I'm definitely willing to go out with you again dreams. 0:17:39.520 --> 0:17:41.480 All right, I'm just going to do one more mock 0:17:41.560 --> 0:17:43.280 date with my brother's wife and then we'll do it. 0:17:44.359 --> 0:17:44.719 All right. 0:17:45.200 --> 0:17:48.160