1 00:00:00,080 --> 00:00:02,960 Speaker 1: Hey, everyone, Welcome back to On Purpose, the number one 2 00:00:03,040 --> 00:00:05,520 Speaker 1: health podcast in the world. Thanks to each and every 3 00:00:05,519 --> 00:00:08,280 Speaker 1: one of you that come back every week to listen, learn, 4 00:00:08,280 --> 00:00:13,720 Speaker 1: and grow. Now, I sometimes get a little nostalgic, I 5 00:00:13,760 --> 00:00:19,160 Speaker 1: get a little reflective and introspective, and I wanted to 6 00:00:19,160 --> 00:00:23,560 Speaker 1: share with you. I believe it's the first ever podcast 7 00:00:23,680 --> 00:00:29,040 Speaker 1: public interview I ever did. And I always like to 8 00:00:29,080 --> 00:00:32,680 Speaker 1: remind myself not only where I started, but why I'm 9 00:00:32,680 --> 00:00:35,519 Speaker 1: doing what I'm doing and the intention that got me 10 00:00:35,560 --> 00:00:39,760 Speaker 1: to where I am. And listening to this episode, I 11 00:00:39,920 --> 00:00:45,400 Speaker 1: really feel so connected to that purpose. I think this 12 00:00:45,479 --> 00:00:48,280 Speaker 1: was one of my favorite interviews I ever did. It 13 00:00:48,360 --> 00:00:50,839 Speaker 1: was in my friend Tom Belieu. I think the questions 14 00:00:50,840 --> 00:00:53,600 Speaker 1: you ask were so powerful, and I hope that you 15 00:00:53,680 --> 00:00:57,000 Speaker 1: get to hear answers in here that support your journey 16 00:00:57,520 --> 00:01:00,800 Speaker 1: to find it, your passion, to finding your purpose, to 17 00:01:00,960 --> 00:01:04,240 Speaker 1: having meaningful relationships. So I can't wait for you to 18 00:01:04,280 --> 00:01:08,600 Speaker 1: listen to this one, share it, absorb it, pass it on. 19 00:01:08,680 --> 00:01:16,840 Speaker 1: Thank you so much. Often the advice I give to 20 00:01:16,880 --> 00:01:20,160 Speaker 1: people today is fast forward where you are, look at 21 00:01:20,160 --> 00:01:23,319 Speaker 1: yourself in ten, fifteen, twenty years time and ask yourself 22 00:01:23,319 --> 00:01:26,280 Speaker 1: the question is that where I want to be and 23 00:01:26,360 --> 00:01:28,840 Speaker 1: if the answers no, then you need to find a 24 00:01:28,880 --> 00:01:32,720 Speaker 1: new part to just get to understand yourself. You don't 25 00:01:32,720 --> 00:01:34,960 Speaker 1: know what you need in your life until you figure 26 00:01:34,959 --> 00:01:41,640 Speaker 1: out who you are. Everybody welcome to impact theory. You 27 00:01:41,640 --> 00:01:44,160 Speaker 1: will hear, my friends, because you believe that human potential 28 00:01:44,360 --> 00:01:46,920 Speaker 1: is nearly limitless. But you know that having potential is 29 00:01:47,000 --> 00:01:49,600 Speaker 1: not the same as actually doing something with it. So 30 00:01:49,680 --> 00:01:51,920 Speaker 1: our goal with this show and company is to introduce 31 00:01:51,960 --> 00:01:54,040 Speaker 1: you to the people and ideas that will help you 32 00:01:54,080 --> 00:01:57,960 Speaker 1: actually execute on your dreams. All right, Today's guests. As 33 00:01:58,000 --> 00:02:01,800 Speaker 1: a former monk whose wisdom has truly gone viral. After 34 00:02:01,840 --> 00:02:05,680 Speaker 1: finishing business school, he turned down lucrative offers from prestigious companies, 35 00:02:05,960 --> 00:02:08,880 Speaker 1: shaved his head, and hit the road. For three years, 36 00:02:08,919 --> 00:02:13,280 Speaker 1: he traveled across India, Europe and England, living as a monk, studying, meditating, 37 00:02:13,280 --> 00:02:15,760 Speaker 1: and building food and shelter programs for those in need. 38 00:02:16,000 --> 00:02:17,880 Speaker 1: He was definitely in love with what he was doing, 39 00:02:17,919 --> 00:02:20,680 Speaker 1: but he knew that it didn't scale, so, driven by 40 00:02:20,680 --> 00:02:22,520 Speaker 1: a desire to share what he was learning with as 41 00:02:22,639 --> 00:02:25,600 Speaker 1: many people as possible, he re engaged with the world 42 00:02:25,760 --> 00:02:28,720 Speaker 1: and dove headfirst into learning about the tools and techniques 43 00:02:28,760 --> 00:02:31,960 Speaker 1: that might allow knowledge to spread as fast as entertainment, 44 00:02:32,200 --> 00:02:34,640 Speaker 1: and to that end, he joined Accenture, helping them build 45 00:02:34,639 --> 00:02:37,400 Speaker 1: their digital division while learning about the forces shaping the 46 00:02:37,440 --> 00:02:41,680 Speaker 1: new digital landscape. He learned fast and quickly became their 47 00:02:41,800 --> 00:02:44,560 Speaker 1: number one social media influencer in a company of four 48 00:02:44,720 --> 00:02:48,160 Speaker 1: hundred thousand people. Along the way, he also helped advise 49 00:02:48,200 --> 00:02:50,919 Speaker 1: over one hundred and fifty executives on their personal brands, 50 00:02:50,960 --> 00:02:53,440 Speaker 1: allowing him a very broad base with which to test 51 00:02:53,480 --> 00:02:56,360 Speaker 1: his theories and leveraging what he learned. In twenty sixteen, 52 00:02:56,360 --> 00:03:00,560 Speaker 1: he launched his own Facebook page and it exploded in 53 00:03:00,639 --> 00:03:04,760 Speaker 1: less than twelve months. His inspiring, entertaining and highly useful 54 00:03:04,880 --> 00:03:09,160 Speaker 1: videos garnered over one billion views, and now he has 55 00:03:09,320 --> 00:03:12,600 Speaker 1: north of two point five million followers globally. He makes 56 00:03:12,639 --> 00:03:14,960 Speaker 1: content not only for his own pages, but for places 57 00:03:15,000 --> 00:03:17,920 Speaker 1: like The Huffington Post, and he has interviewed such luminaries 58 00:03:17,960 --> 00:03:21,400 Speaker 1: as Tim Ferris, Simon Sinek, doctor Shafali, Deepak Chopra, and 59 00:03:21,480 --> 00:03:25,200 Speaker 1: countless others. In the wake of his ridiculous level of 60 00:03:25,240 --> 00:03:28,880 Speaker 1: success as both a content creator and digital strategist, he 61 00:03:28,960 --> 00:03:32,000 Speaker 1: was named to Forbes thirty under thirty list in twenty seventeen. 62 00:03:32,360 --> 00:03:35,680 Speaker 1: The Asian Media Awards named his blog Best Blog in 63 00:03:35,720 --> 00:03:39,040 Speaker 1: twenty sixteen, and he was added to National Geographics Chasing 64 00:03:39,120 --> 00:03:41,960 Speaker 1: Genius Counsel, for which he is now helping to source 65 00:03:41,960 --> 00:03:45,760 Speaker 1: solutions to some of the world's greatest challenges. So please 66 00:03:46,160 --> 00:03:49,320 Speaker 1: help me in welcoming the urban Monk himself, the man 67 00:03:49,400 --> 00:03:52,640 Speaker 1: who is proving that you really can scale impact. Jay 68 00:03:53,040 --> 00:04:01,240 Speaker 1: Shetty here man, thanks for having me, truly an honor. 69 00:04:01,480 --> 00:04:03,960 Speaker 1: Oh man, thank you. It goes both ways. So, as 70 00:04:04,000 --> 00:04:08,560 Speaker 1: I was telling you before we started rolling in my research, 71 00:04:08,640 --> 00:04:10,520 Speaker 1: like I normally just go watch all the interviews that 72 00:04:10,560 --> 00:04:12,280 Speaker 1: people have done, and I've come across you like a 73 00:04:12,320 --> 00:04:14,600 Speaker 1: million times in researching other people. So I thought, oh, 74 00:04:14,600 --> 00:04:16,680 Speaker 1: this would be the easiest thing ever. Like this guy 75 00:04:16,920 --> 00:04:19,640 Speaker 1: have been interviewed a hundred times and you haven't. Like 76 00:04:19,760 --> 00:04:22,240 Speaker 1: it's insane to me, Like you're pumping out so much content. 77 00:04:22,279 --> 00:04:25,000 Speaker 1: Nobody's napped you up yet. So this is gonna be 78 00:04:25,040 --> 00:04:29,159 Speaker 1: really fun to really go deep. Your ideas are clearly 79 00:04:29,240 --> 00:04:31,640 Speaker 1: very well thought through, so this should be a lot 80 00:04:31,680 --> 00:04:34,960 Speaker 1: of fun. Thank you, man. Yeah, I'm patient, yes, patient 81 00:04:35,080 --> 00:04:38,640 Speaker 1: of having the right interviews, the right time being with 82 00:04:38,680 --> 00:04:41,840 Speaker 1: the right people having it be framed correctly. So I'm 83 00:04:41,920 --> 00:04:43,359 Speaker 1: very on it to be. I'm a huge fan of 84 00:04:43,400 --> 00:04:45,680 Speaker 1: the show. Thanks, thank you so much for having me. Yeah, 85 00:04:45,680 --> 00:04:48,440 Speaker 1: absolutely so. One thing I want to talk about, obviously 86 00:04:48,839 --> 00:04:52,040 Speaker 1: having lived in London, knowing a little bit about what 87 00:04:52,080 --> 00:04:54,840 Speaker 1: it's like to grow up as an Indian kid in England, 88 00:04:55,720 --> 00:04:58,680 Speaker 1: how on earth did you buck the trend of you 89 00:04:58,720 --> 00:05:02,039 Speaker 1: once said, growing up in an Indian household, you're either 90 00:05:02,080 --> 00:05:04,280 Speaker 1: a doctor or a lawyer, or a failure. Yeah that's right, 91 00:05:04,760 --> 00:05:09,080 Speaker 1: So how like, how do you not fall prey to that? Yeah? 92 00:05:09,080 --> 00:05:11,800 Speaker 1: Those are my three option. That was it. There was 93 00:05:11,839 --> 00:05:15,040 Speaker 1: no fourth option. So according to my parents, family, or 94 00:05:15,080 --> 00:05:18,320 Speaker 1: the community I grew up in, I'm a failure And 95 00:05:19,400 --> 00:05:23,239 Speaker 1: how did I buck the trend? I was really really 96 00:05:23,279 --> 00:05:27,280 Speaker 1: fortunate that very early on I started to experiment with 97 00:05:27,400 --> 00:05:29,680 Speaker 1: what mattered to me. Sometimes I got me in a 98 00:05:29,680 --> 00:05:32,000 Speaker 1: lot of trouble. What people don't know about me is 99 00:05:32,040 --> 00:05:35,440 Speaker 1: that I was suspended from school three times for trying 100 00:05:35,440 --> 00:05:37,719 Speaker 1: out all sorts of things, like things that people would 101 00:05:37,720 --> 00:05:40,159 Speaker 1: never imagine if someone who goes on to be a monk. 102 00:05:40,240 --> 00:05:43,440 Speaker 1: I was experimenting with all the drugs in the world. 103 00:05:43,480 --> 00:05:47,240 Speaker 1: I had multiple relationships. I was really trying to search 104 00:05:47,360 --> 00:05:51,000 Speaker 1: for some sort of meaning fulfillment. And as far as 105 00:05:51,000 --> 00:05:53,600 Speaker 1: long as I've known, I've been chasing thrill. I really 106 00:05:53,680 --> 00:05:57,440 Speaker 1: value thrill and feeling like my Nazi that coming. Yeah, no, 107 00:05:57,800 --> 00:06:01,000 Speaker 1: not many people do. It's it's very different. From fourteen 108 00:06:01,040 --> 00:06:03,400 Speaker 1: to eighteen, I was like this kid who just wanted 109 00:06:03,400 --> 00:06:07,720 Speaker 1: to find new things out, and my parents' rhetoric would 110 00:06:07,720 --> 00:06:10,000 Speaker 1: always be, will make sure you get good grades. And 111 00:06:10,040 --> 00:06:11,640 Speaker 1: I used to think, well, if I can be bad 112 00:06:11,680 --> 00:06:14,200 Speaker 1: and get good grades and then then it all works right, 113 00:06:14,240 --> 00:06:17,520 Speaker 1: everyone's happy. So that's kind of what I did. And 114 00:06:17,720 --> 00:06:20,160 Speaker 1: at eighteen, I was really fortunate when I met a monk, 115 00:06:20,640 --> 00:06:23,360 Speaker 1: and this monk was invited to speak, and I kind 116 00:06:23,400 --> 00:06:25,400 Speaker 1: of just went because one of my friends forced me to. 117 00:06:25,680 --> 00:06:28,159 Speaker 1: At that time, I was listening to CEOs and entrepreneurs 118 00:06:28,200 --> 00:06:31,680 Speaker 1: and business people and marketers who I thought that's what 119 00:06:31,720 --> 00:06:34,160 Speaker 1: I was aspiring to be like. And then I hear 120 00:06:34,240 --> 00:06:37,560 Speaker 1: this monk and he captivated me like no one had 121 00:06:37,560 --> 00:06:40,520 Speaker 1: ever captivated me before. It was like staring at the 122 00:06:40,520 --> 00:06:42,560 Speaker 1: most beautiful woman on the planet, you know. I was 123 00:06:42,600 --> 00:06:47,960 Speaker 1: completely fixated on him and his message and that is 124 00:06:48,000 --> 00:06:50,520 Speaker 1: the beginning, without me going into too much detail before 125 00:06:50,560 --> 00:06:54,960 Speaker 1: we probe that was the beginning of what changed me 126 00:06:55,960 --> 00:06:58,680 Speaker 1: because I went from being someone who did only want 127 00:06:58,680 --> 00:07:01,680 Speaker 1: all those things to become success as for and trying to. 128 00:07:02,320 --> 00:07:06,120 Speaker 1: But I started hearing my own inner voice much more 129 00:07:06,160 --> 00:07:08,640 Speaker 1: in all that noise that I had around me. I 130 00:07:08,680 --> 00:07:10,920 Speaker 1: remember one of my parents had a mass tutor for 131 00:07:11,000 --> 00:07:13,200 Speaker 1: me because they wanted to be amazing at mass and 132 00:07:13,280 --> 00:07:15,160 Speaker 1: I was pretty good at numbers, and I'd have this 133 00:07:15,240 --> 00:07:17,280 Speaker 1: tutor and he'd tell me that he goes the reason 134 00:07:17,320 --> 00:07:21,040 Speaker 1: that you're struggling with the next question is because you're 135 00:07:21,040 --> 00:07:25,680 Speaker 1: always worried about what your parents think. And that really 136 00:07:25,680 --> 00:07:27,440 Speaker 1: stayed in my head. I was just like, Wow, so 137 00:07:27,480 --> 00:07:29,880 Speaker 1: as long as I'm trapped by what my parents think, 138 00:07:30,280 --> 00:07:32,480 Speaker 1: I can actually never find the answers to the real 139 00:07:32,560 --> 00:07:35,680 Speaker 1: questions of life. And there are all these little things happening. 140 00:07:35,680 --> 00:07:38,320 Speaker 1: I lost two great friends when I was sixteen. One 141 00:07:38,360 --> 00:07:40,880 Speaker 1: girl died in a car accident. One guy died because 142 00:07:40,880 --> 00:07:44,080 Speaker 1: he was involved in drugs and violence. That made me 143 00:07:44,120 --> 00:07:46,880 Speaker 1: rethink everything. I just thought to myself, wait a minute, 144 00:07:46,880 --> 00:07:51,040 Speaker 1: these were beautiful people, people that I loved, people that 145 00:07:51,160 --> 00:07:54,120 Speaker 1: in my opinion were good people, and I just lost 146 00:07:54,160 --> 00:07:55,920 Speaker 1: them in a moment, and it was kind of like 147 00:07:55,920 --> 00:07:58,280 Speaker 1: this collation of little things that just made me think, 148 00:07:58,320 --> 00:08:03,480 Speaker 1: wait a minute, having money, having fame, this that just 149 00:08:03,520 --> 00:08:05,920 Speaker 1: doesn't seem to add up. And then meeting the monk 150 00:08:06,000 --> 00:08:08,720 Speaker 1: kind of made that shift possible. And as I said, 151 00:08:08,760 --> 00:08:10,920 Speaker 1: he was completely captivating. And then I found out that 152 00:08:10,920 --> 00:08:13,320 Speaker 1: he'd given up jobs in Google and Microsoft to be 153 00:08:13,360 --> 00:08:16,120 Speaker 1: a monk, and I thought to myself, who does that? 154 00:08:16,560 --> 00:08:19,880 Speaker 1: You know, he's given up everything that I'm chasing and 155 00:08:19,920 --> 00:08:23,120 Speaker 1: that all my friends are chasing. But he seems happier 156 00:08:23,120 --> 00:08:26,000 Speaker 1: than anyone I've ever met before. And he spoke about 157 00:08:26,040 --> 00:08:29,040 Speaker 1: this incredible principle where he said that we should plant 158 00:08:29,280 --> 00:08:33,360 Speaker 1: trees under whose shade we do not plan to sit, 159 00:08:34,360 --> 00:08:37,559 Speaker 1: and he was speaking about this principle of selfless sacrifice, 160 00:08:38,040 --> 00:08:40,679 Speaker 1: and that kind of just penetrated me right there. When 161 00:08:40,720 --> 00:08:44,920 Speaker 1: he said the words selfless sacrifice, for the first time 162 00:08:44,960 --> 00:08:47,040 Speaker 1: in my life, I felt a thrill about something that 163 00:08:47,080 --> 00:08:51,199 Speaker 1: had never felt before. I thought, Wow, giving up everything 164 00:08:51,240 --> 00:08:54,720 Speaker 1: you have for the service of others sounds like the 165 00:08:54,760 --> 00:08:56,600 Speaker 1: best thing you could possibly do. And I don't know 166 00:08:56,640 --> 00:08:59,360 Speaker 1: why I had that thought, because I wasn't a spiritual 167 00:08:59,400 --> 00:09:01,400 Speaker 1: kid growing up. I wasn't a religious kid growing up. 168 00:09:01,440 --> 00:09:03,680 Speaker 1: I wasn't even a good kid growing up. I was 169 00:09:03,720 --> 00:09:07,439 Speaker 1: just a rebel, a misfit, trying things out, an experimental 170 00:09:07,480 --> 00:09:09,640 Speaker 1: which I still consider myself. And so what I started 171 00:09:09,640 --> 00:09:12,960 Speaker 1: to do is I was interning at companies and firms 172 00:09:12,960 --> 00:09:15,680 Speaker 1: and corporates, thinking I was getting a grad job afterwards. 173 00:09:15,800 --> 00:09:17,600 Speaker 1: And then I'd spend the rest of my summer holidays 174 00:09:17,600 --> 00:09:20,400 Speaker 1: interning in India living with him as a monk. So 175 00:09:20,440 --> 00:09:22,560 Speaker 1: I'd use all my summer and Christmas holidays to just 176 00:09:22,640 --> 00:09:25,040 Speaker 1: be out there with the monks. And he introduced me 177 00:09:25,040 --> 00:09:27,600 Speaker 1: to another two hundred to five hundred monks that were 178 00:09:27,679 --> 00:09:31,839 Speaker 1: just like him, just as smart, just as bright, giving 179 00:09:31,920 --> 00:09:34,840 Speaker 1: up everything they had and using all their skills to 180 00:09:34,920 --> 00:09:37,880 Speaker 1: make the world a better place. I want to go back. 181 00:09:38,360 --> 00:09:42,680 Speaker 1: So why that resonated with you? Which is really surprising. 182 00:09:42,760 --> 00:09:45,520 Speaker 1: So and maybe you're just, you know, so far ahead 183 00:09:45,520 --> 00:09:46,800 Speaker 1: of where I was at the time, But that would 184 00:09:46,800 --> 00:09:50,920 Speaker 1: have sounded absurd to me at that time. Did you 185 00:09:50,960 --> 00:09:53,040 Speaker 1: already have a sense of unease that like I'm a 186 00:09:53,080 --> 00:09:56,720 Speaker 1: rebel without a cause, or like, what was it about 187 00:09:56,720 --> 00:10:01,240 Speaker 1: that moment? And you seem very aware of yourself. So 188 00:10:01,559 --> 00:10:03,880 Speaker 1: I'm hoping that some of that awareness is present. Then, like, 189 00:10:03,960 --> 00:10:08,760 Speaker 1: what was that moment? I believe the moment. I've always 190 00:10:08,760 --> 00:10:11,160 Speaker 1: had friends who are older than me, and I could 191 00:10:11,160 --> 00:10:13,240 Speaker 1: see a lot of them in the most successful careers, 192 00:10:13,320 --> 00:10:17,840 Speaker 1: successful jobs, beautiful partners, whatever it was. But I saw 193 00:10:17,920 --> 00:10:20,440 Speaker 1: a sense of lack of fulfillment, meaning and purpose in 194 00:10:20,480 --> 00:10:23,240 Speaker 1: their lives. And I've always been an observer and I 195 00:10:23,240 --> 00:10:25,040 Speaker 1: would see these people are like five years older than 196 00:10:25,040 --> 00:10:26,880 Speaker 1: he's seven years older than me, maybe ten years older 197 00:10:26,880 --> 00:10:29,040 Speaker 1: than me, and I'd be watching them and go, is 198 00:10:29,080 --> 00:10:30,880 Speaker 1: that the life I want? And often the advice I 199 00:10:30,920 --> 00:10:33,480 Speaker 1: give to people today is fast forward where you are 200 00:10:34,120 --> 00:10:37,040 Speaker 1: look at yourself in ten, fifteen, twenty years time and 201 00:10:37,080 --> 00:10:39,840 Speaker 1: ask yourself the question, is that where I want to be. 202 00:10:40,559 --> 00:10:42,280 Speaker 1: If you're in a company, look at the person who's 203 00:10:42,280 --> 00:10:44,240 Speaker 1: twenty years ahead of you and ask yourself, is that 204 00:10:44,280 --> 00:10:46,120 Speaker 1: where I want to be? If you're in a startup, 205 00:10:46,440 --> 00:10:48,760 Speaker 1: look at where other startups have got too in similar role, 206 00:10:48,840 --> 00:10:51,040 Speaker 1: and go is that where I want to be? And 207 00:10:51,080 --> 00:10:53,480 Speaker 1: if the answer is no, then you need to find 208 00:10:53,520 --> 00:10:56,040 Speaker 1: a new path. And for me, the answer at that 209 00:10:56,120 --> 00:11:00,760 Speaker 1: time from observing was no the path that my parents 210 00:11:01,200 --> 00:11:04,080 Speaker 1: or society, or the university I went to, or the 211 00:11:04,080 --> 00:11:07,480 Speaker 1: community I had that was carving out for me. It 212 00:11:07,520 --> 00:11:09,560 Speaker 1: didn't feel like the path for me. So I was 213 00:11:09,640 --> 00:11:14,360 Speaker 1: almost seeking an alternative or a new path. I was 214 00:11:14,400 --> 00:11:16,800 Speaker 1: just so fortunate that it happened to be an uplifting, 215 00:11:16,840 --> 00:11:19,360 Speaker 1: powerful path as opposed to something that could have actually 216 00:11:19,360 --> 00:11:21,560 Speaker 1: taken me down the wrong road, because that could have 217 00:11:21,559 --> 00:11:24,719 Speaker 1: been possible too. So walk me through the first time 218 00:11:24,720 --> 00:11:28,560 Speaker 1: you step after plane in India, it's summer, and so 219 00:11:28,800 --> 00:11:31,160 Speaker 1: I'm living there. I'm waking up, I'm almost doing all 220 00:11:31,160 --> 00:11:33,400 Speaker 1: the practices, just as if you were shadowing a CEO. 221 00:11:33,640 --> 00:11:36,360 Speaker 1: I'm just shadowing a monk, and so I'm just shadowing 222 00:11:36,400 --> 00:11:38,559 Speaker 1: his lifestyle. So we wake up. He's like one of 223 00:11:38,600 --> 00:11:40,640 Speaker 1: the most elite monks. So we're waking up at like 224 00:11:40,679 --> 00:11:42,920 Speaker 1: two am every day after sleeping at like nine or 225 00:11:43,000 --> 00:11:45,920 Speaker 1: ten pm. And then we study these ancient vaders which 226 00:11:45,920 --> 00:11:49,040 Speaker 1: are five thousand plus years old together and we spend 227 00:11:49,080 --> 00:11:50,760 Speaker 1: two hours and I'm studying with the best of the 228 00:11:50,800 --> 00:11:54,240 Speaker 1: best here so he can analyze and assimilate and I'm 229 00:11:54,320 --> 00:11:57,360 Speaker 1: learning fast taking notes. Than four am, we go to 230 00:11:57,400 --> 00:12:01,360 Speaker 1: collective meditation. We do those actuses with the other monks 231 00:12:01,400 --> 00:12:04,720 Speaker 1: as well. Six am, we have personal meditation. So I'm 232 00:12:04,760 --> 00:12:08,280 Speaker 1: literally going through the life of a monk and falling 233 00:12:08,320 --> 00:12:10,320 Speaker 1: in love with it step by step, going wow, I've 234 00:12:10,320 --> 00:12:13,400 Speaker 1: never had this experience before. I just drew myself in 235 00:12:13,880 --> 00:12:16,920 Speaker 1: and I was practicing it to the t right. It 236 00:12:17,000 --> 00:12:18,800 Speaker 1: wasn't like, oh, no, my back hurts when I sit 237 00:12:18,840 --> 00:12:20,560 Speaker 1: on the floor, I can't stay it for too long, 238 00:12:20,720 --> 00:12:22,360 Speaker 1: or you know, today when people are like, oh, I 239 00:12:22,360 --> 00:12:24,240 Speaker 1: can't meditate for longer than two minutes, I was like, no, 240 00:12:24,280 --> 00:12:26,080 Speaker 1: I'm going to do it for two hours. If that's 241 00:12:26,080 --> 00:12:27,520 Speaker 1: what they're doing, I'm going to give it a go 242 00:12:28,000 --> 00:12:31,320 Speaker 1: because I can only test the hypothesis will only be 243 00:12:31,360 --> 00:12:35,160 Speaker 1: true if the experiment is carried out to the degree 244 00:12:35,160 --> 00:12:37,600 Speaker 1: that they are. So if the hypothesis is if you 245 00:12:37,679 --> 00:12:40,960 Speaker 1: live like this, you'll are happy, more fulfilled, then I 246 00:12:41,000 --> 00:12:43,160 Speaker 1: want to do that, all right. So let's explore this 247 00:12:43,200 --> 00:12:47,680 Speaker 1: then through the lens of creating one's own perfect life. Yes, 248 00:12:47,800 --> 00:12:51,760 Speaker 1: which is pretty interesting, especially interesting because I think this 249 00:12:51,880 --> 00:12:54,240 Speaker 1: is so accurate to the way that most people are. 250 00:12:54,320 --> 00:12:56,720 Speaker 1: It's not like, oh, there's some grand missing thing in 251 00:12:56,760 --> 00:12:59,720 Speaker 1: my life. But you took that first action. So cart 252 00:12:59,720 --> 00:13:02,160 Speaker 1: if I this for me or for anybody that wants 253 00:13:02,360 --> 00:13:04,880 Speaker 1: they don't know what their ideal life looks like. They 254 00:13:04,920 --> 00:13:08,319 Speaker 1: just know that they're not living it yet. So step 255 00:13:08,400 --> 00:13:10,840 Speaker 1: number one is take it seriously to find out if 256 00:13:10,840 --> 00:13:12,640 Speaker 1: their hypothesis is true or not. You have to take 257 00:13:12,679 --> 00:13:17,280 Speaker 1: the experiment, You have to do it sincerely. What comes 258 00:13:17,280 --> 00:13:19,880 Speaker 1: after that, I think even one step before that is 259 00:13:20,280 --> 00:13:24,200 Speaker 1: opening yourself up to new role models and new experiences. See, 260 00:13:24,200 --> 00:13:27,160 Speaker 1: we live in echo chambers. We're just surrounded by the 261 00:13:27,200 --> 00:13:29,920 Speaker 1: same thinking. How often do you bump into a monk? 262 00:13:30,240 --> 00:13:32,560 Speaker 1: You know, it just doesn't happen, You don't have No 263 00:13:32,559 --> 00:13:34,000 Speaker 1: one has a dinner party and goes, oh, yeah, we 264 00:13:34,120 --> 00:13:36,200 Speaker 1: just invited the monk, you know, from down like the 265 00:13:36,240 --> 00:13:38,720 Speaker 1: local monk. Like no one ever does that. And so 266 00:13:39,440 --> 00:13:41,920 Speaker 1: we meet people who are just like us most of 267 00:13:41,960 --> 00:13:44,199 Speaker 1: the time. And we talk about this in business all 268 00:13:44,240 --> 00:13:45,600 Speaker 1: the time. If you want to be a billionaire, spend 269 00:13:45,600 --> 00:13:47,160 Speaker 1: time with billionaires. If you want to be a millionaire, 270 00:13:47,200 --> 00:13:49,280 Speaker 1: spent time a millionaires. If you want to be a 271 00:13:49,320 --> 00:13:51,959 Speaker 1: tech startup, spend time with you know. That's the common 272 00:13:52,000 --> 00:13:54,640 Speaker 1: retoric that we hear all the time. But what if 273 00:13:54,640 --> 00:13:57,520 Speaker 1: you want to find purpose a master the mind. There's 274 00:13:57,559 --> 00:13:59,800 Speaker 1: no one better than a monk who's master the mind. 275 00:14:00,400 --> 00:14:04,160 Speaker 1: So for me, the first step is just opening yourself 276 00:14:04,280 --> 00:14:08,320 Speaker 1: up to new experiences and new role models. Because most 277 00:14:08,320 --> 00:14:12,520 Speaker 1: of us can't see ourselves in people, so then we 278 00:14:12,559 --> 00:14:16,040 Speaker 1: try and fit ourselves into the boxes that we do see. 279 00:14:16,920 --> 00:14:19,560 Speaker 1: And and I mean, there's this beautiful quote that I've 280 00:14:19,560 --> 00:14:21,920 Speaker 1: been saying it everywhere, and I wish I wrote it, 281 00:14:21,960 --> 00:14:25,040 Speaker 1: but I didn't. So it's by a philosopher and writer 282 00:14:25,200 --> 00:14:28,480 Speaker 1: named Truly, and he said that today, I'm not what 283 00:14:28,560 --> 00:14:31,440 Speaker 1: I think I am. I'm not what you think I am. 284 00:14:32,240 --> 00:14:35,960 Speaker 1: I am what I think you think I am. Right, 285 00:14:36,000 --> 00:14:38,640 Speaker 1: and just let that blow your mind from it's it's 286 00:14:38,680 --> 00:14:41,440 Speaker 1: so powerful. I'm not what I think I am. I'm 287 00:14:41,480 --> 00:14:44,320 Speaker 1: not what you think I am. I am what I 288 00:14:44,360 --> 00:14:47,400 Speaker 1: think you think I am. So we live in this 289 00:14:47,480 --> 00:14:52,280 Speaker 1: perception of a perception of ourselves. Hence, my identity is 290 00:14:52,280 --> 00:14:54,880 Speaker 1: made by what my parents think I should be. My 291 00:14:54,960 --> 00:14:57,840 Speaker 1: identity is made up by what my college or university 292 00:14:57,960 --> 00:15:01,280 Speaker 1: thinks I should achieve. While you're living in that bubble 293 00:15:01,320 --> 00:15:04,800 Speaker 1: and that echo chamber, getting to what you really want 294 00:15:04,840 --> 00:15:08,160 Speaker 1: to do is impossible because maybe that just doesn't fit. 295 00:15:08,200 --> 00:15:10,680 Speaker 1: And I think so many people feel that way today, 296 00:15:10,680 --> 00:15:13,160 Speaker 1: that they don't fit into the current education system. They 297 00:15:13,160 --> 00:15:15,880 Speaker 1: don't fit with the three or four or five careers 298 00:15:15,920 --> 00:15:20,760 Speaker 1: that you're taught exist. So that process of self excavation 299 00:15:20,840 --> 00:15:25,160 Speaker 1: and actualization first requires being exposed. You can't be what 300 00:15:25,240 --> 00:15:27,640 Speaker 1: you can't see. If I never saw a monk, I 301 00:15:27,640 --> 00:15:29,800 Speaker 1: would never have wanted to be a monk. If I 302 00:15:29,840 --> 00:15:32,040 Speaker 1: never meet a billionaire, I wouldn't want to be one 303 00:15:32,280 --> 00:15:34,120 Speaker 1: because I wouldn't know what that feels like. I don't 304 00:15:34,120 --> 00:15:36,040 Speaker 1: know what it looks like. I don't know what it takes. 305 00:15:36,960 --> 00:15:39,400 Speaker 1: And I think that's the biggest challenge of our society 306 00:15:39,440 --> 00:15:42,080 Speaker 1: that we're not exposed. So that's the first step, being 307 00:15:42,120 --> 00:15:46,560 Speaker 1: exposed to unique experiences and role models. Second step is 308 00:15:46,600 --> 00:15:48,920 Speaker 1: finding that experience or role model that you're passionate about 309 00:15:48,960 --> 00:15:52,280 Speaker 1: and exactly like you said, taking it seriously. Shadow their 310 00:15:52,360 --> 00:15:55,640 Speaker 1: network with them, spend time with them, observe them, even 311 00:15:55,760 --> 00:15:59,800 Speaker 1: from afar. It takes that observation, being addicted to a 312 00:16:00,000 --> 00:16:04,080 Speaker 1: deserving that person's lifestyle. And then the third step is 313 00:16:04,120 --> 00:16:07,560 Speaker 1: going yes or no, does that work for me? Not 314 00:16:07,640 --> 00:16:09,200 Speaker 1: everyone who's going to go off and become a monk 315 00:16:09,320 --> 00:16:10,520 Speaker 1: is going to feel like the way I did, and 316 00:16:10,560 --> 00:16:13,360 Speaker 1: that's cool. But not everyone is going to go and 317 00:16:13,400 --> 00:16:16,239 Speaker 1: follow and shadow a billionaire god. That's exactly the lifestyle 318 00:16:16,280 --> 00:16:18,480 Speaker 1: I want. They may want the result, but do they 319 00:16:18,520 --> 00:16:20,760 Speaker 1: want the hard work that goes with it? And so 320 00:16:20,800 --> 00:16:25,240 Speaker 1: for me, that's the third step. It's observing, focusing, shadowing, 321 00:16:25,320 --> 00:16:28,280 Speaker 1: getting as close to the process of that individual, and 322 00:16:28,320 --> 00:16:31,280 Speaker 1: then going yes or no, do I want that process? 323 00:16:31,280 --> 00:16:33,800 Speaker 1: Not do I want the result. Everyone wants to be 324 00:16:33,880 --> 00:16:37,240 Speaker 1: that monk who's fully enlightened, you know, can walk through 325 00:16:37,320 --> 00:16:41,560 Speaker 1: as an incredible aura that people just gravitate towards. But 326 00:16:41,640 --> 00:16:43,080 Speaker 1: when you realize he has to wake up at two 327 00:16:43,080 --> 00:16:44,960 Speaker 1: am every day and steeps about four to six hours, 328 00:16:45,000 --> 00:16:47,000 Speaker 1: you're like, ah, you know, I don't want to do that. 329 00:16:47,000 --> 00:16:48,960 Speaker 1: That doesn't sound like me. All right, So ye go 330 00:16:48,960 --> 00:16:52,160 Speaker 1: a couple of things. One, you said, he's as powerful 331 00:16:52,200 --> 00:16:56,760 Speaker 1: as he is, fine power for me, power being. So 332 00:16:56,880 --> 00:17:00,880 Speaker 1: from a month perspective, the greatest power is to be 333 00:17:01,040 --> 00:17:04,280 Speaker 1: self controlled, to be able to train the mind and 334 00:17:04,520 --> 00:17:07,680 Speaker 1: energy to focus it exactly where you want it and 335 00:17:07,800 --> 00:17:11,200 Speaker 1: when you want it to be. You are completely detached 336 00:17:11,240 --> 00:17:15,159 Speaker 1: and undeterred from external ups and downs. You're able to 337 00:17:15,240 --> 00:17:21,600 Speaker 1: navigate anything that seems tough, challenging, fun, excitement with the 338 00:17:21,640 --> 00:17:26,560 Speaker 1: same amount of being equipoised and balanced in equantimity, without 339 00:17:26,600 --> 00:17:30,359 Speaker 1: being too excited in pleasure or being too depressed in pain, 340 00:17:30,960 --> 00:17:33,720 Speaker 1: but knowing how to navigate every situation. To me, that's 341 00:17:33,800 --> 00:17:36,960 Speaker 1: great strength and great power. I heard in one of 342 00:17:36,960 --> 00:17:39,000 Speaker 1: your talks you were saying that if you look at 343 00:17:40,119 --> 00:17:43,440 Speaker 1: a literal lifeline, a heartbeat, for instance, you know it's 344 00:17:43,480 --> 00:17:46,040 Speaker 1: it's up and it's down. And people have this sense 345 00:17:46,119 --> 00:17:51,399 Speaker 1: that something like enlightenment would be that the equanimity forever 346 00:17:51,880 --> 00:17:54,240 Speaker 1: and just then even keel And you said, but what 347 00:17:54,800 --> 00:17:57,680 Speaker 1: does that resemble? It resembles a flatline when you die. Correct, 348 00:17:57,760 --> 00:18:00,720 Speaker 1: So what is it like? What I love about you 349 00:18:00,920 --> 00:18:03,120 Speaker 1: as you sort of went into the wilderness of being 350 00:18:03,160 --> 00:18:04,760 Speaker 1: a monk, but you've brought it back to the real 351 00:18:04,800 --> 00:18:07,440 Speaker 1: world because when you talk about a monkey, talk about 352 00:18:07,480 --> 00:18:10,199 Speaker 1: them being detached, and that to me seems like the 353 00:18:10,240 --> 00:18:13,560 Speaker 1: only real way to have that sort of super even 354 00:18:13,640 --> 00:18:17,520 Speaker 1: keel existence, which is not appealing to me personally. So 355 00:18:17,640 --> 00:18:20,280 Speaker 1: if you're bringing back that notion of power of having 356 00:18:20,320 --> 00:18:23,120 Speaker 1: control over yourself, not letting your emotions take you everywhere, 357 00:18:23,119 --> 00:18:26,280 Speaker 1: but knowing that life is the series of ups and downs. 358 00:18:27,000 --> 00:18:29,840 Speaker 1: What does that power look like when it's brought back? Absolutely, 359 00:18:29,880 --> 00:18:33,240 Speaker 1: And actually that's the whole aim of monk training. It's 360 00:18:33,280 --> 00:18:36,560 Speaker 1: more like a training system than it is a lifelong commitment. 361 00:18:36,560 --> 00:18:39,160 Speaker 1: It is bringing that mindset into the real world where 362 00:18:39,160 --> 00:18:40,959 Speaker 1: you get to test it. Now. I got to do 363 00:18:41,000 --> 00:18:43,600 Speaker 1: that for real when I left being a monk around 364 00:18:43,640 --> 00:18:46,960 Speaker 1: five years ago. And when i left it was like, 365 00:18:46,960 --> 00:18:48,680 Speaker 1: oh my god, I'm in the real world now again, 366 00:18:49,040 --> 00:18:51,160 Speaker 1: real world. I have to think about how to apply 367 00:18:51,240 --> 00:18:54,960 Speaker 1: all this I'm going to test for real, all this 368 00:18:55,000 --> 00:18:57,280 Speaker 1: stuff that I've learned, and I was scared, like I 369 00:18:57,440 --> 00:18:59,919 Speaker 1: was nervous. I was anxious in all those things that 370 00:19:00,000 --> 00:19:05,000 Speaker 1: I've been trained not to be rushed back because for 371 00:19:05,040 --> 00:19:06,760 Speaker 1: the first time in my life, I had to really 372 00:19:06,800 --> 00:19:09,680 Speaker 1: put it into practice. And I love that feeling. I'm 373 00:19:09,720 --> 00:19:12,320 Speaker 1: so glad that I had to do that. So for me, actually, 374 00:19:12,359 --> 00:19:16,560 Speaker 1: the mindset is completely trainable to bring into the real world. 375 00:19:16,720 --> 00:19:19,520 Speaker 1: That's what I'm trying to do. And what it allows 376 00:19:19,520 --> 00:19:21,440 Speaker 1: you to do is it allows you to grain clarity 377 00:19:21,440 --> 00:19:24,040 Speaker 1: and perspective when you need it, because you know, when 378 00:19:24,080 --> 00:19:26,000 Speaker 1: you can just take a bird's eye view from something, 379 00:19:26,640 --> 00:19:28,800 Speaker 1: you know when you need to get close into something, 380 00:19:29,280 --> 00:19:31,320 Speaker 1: you know when you need to pull back from something. 381 00:19:31,680 --> 00:19:35,000 Speaker 1: There's a beautiful verse in the bugwad Gita that says 382 00:19:35,040 --> 00:19:40,240 Speaker 1: that detachment is not that you own nothing. Detachment is 383 00:19:40,280 --> 00:19:43,879 Speaker 1: that nothing owns you. And I love it because to me, 384 00:19:44,000 --> 00:19:47,280 Speaker 1: that summarizes detachment in a way that it's not usually explained. 385 00:19:47,960 --> 00:19:51,000 Speaker 1: Usually people see detachment as being away from everything. Actually, 386 00:19:51,000 --> 00:19:53,760 Speaker 1: the greatest detachment is being close to everything and not 387 00:19:53,840 --> 00:19:56,879 Speaker 1: letting it consume and own you. And that's real power, 388 00:19:56,960 --> 00:19:59,280 Speaker 1: that's real strength. How many people do we know that 389 00:19:59,320 --> 00:20:02,200 Speaker 1: have had fai and then that fame has ruined them. 390 00:20:02,880 --> 00:20:08,000 Speaker 1: So for me, that definition of detachment is possible to 391 00:20:08,080 --> 00:20:11,080 Speaker 1: practice even in the real world. Rather than saying, Oh, 392 00:20:11,119 --> 00:20:12,919 Speaker 1: I'm just gonna have a really simple life, I'm just 393 00:20:12,960 --> 00:20:15,560 Speaker 1: gonna have nothing in life. What was the best part 394 00:20:15,600 --> 00:20:18,040 Speaker 1: about being a monk? The best part about being a 395 00:20:18,040 --> 00:20:21,600 Speaker 1: monk is that your morning routine and practices are so 396 00:20:21,640 --> 00:20:27,240 Speaker 1: powerful that you can actually aspire for more incredible values 397 00:20:27,240 --> 00:20:30,200 Speaker 1: in life because your mind is clear. Because your mind 398 00:20:30,280 --> 00:20:35,440 Speaker 1: is clear and you have that ability to have more 399 00:20:35,480 --> 00:20:37,840 Speaker 1: clarity so you can seek that which is which is higher. 400 00:20:37,880 --> 00:20:39,520 Speaker 1: So I'll give an example of what I mean to define, 401 00:20:39,760 --> 00:20:42,320 Speaker 1: is that we're about to define what is higher. Yes, exactly, 402 00:20:42,359 --> 00:20:49,400 Speaker 1: So for me, being able to overcome ego, being able 403 00:20:49,440 --> 00:20:54,680 Speaker 1: to overcome envy, being able to overcome jealousy, being able 404 00:20:55,160 --> 00:20:58,960 Speaker 1: to overcome the negative of competitive state, there's a positive 405 00:20:58,960 --> 00:21:03,280 Speaker 1: competitive state and there's a negative competitive state. Today when 406 00:21:03,320 --> 00:21:07,400 Speaker 1: people are looking on Instagram or Facebook or YouTube, all 407 00:21:07,480 --> 00:21:09,560 Speaker 1: you're looking at is oh, she got that many likes, 408 00:21:09,640 --> 00:21:12,480 Speaker 1: or he got that many likes, she got engaged, or 409 00:21:12,520 --> 00:21:15,640 Speaker 1: he got married, or oh my god, look at her body, 410 00:21:15,720 --> 00:21:18,920 Speaker 1: or look at that, and it's like that stuff's destroying 411 00:21:19,000 --> 00:21:24,239 Speaker 1: us inside. Envy, jealousy, ego, greed. To be able to 412 00:21:24,280 --> 00:21:28,320 Speaker 1: have enough clarity to purify yourself of those things is 413 00:21:28,320 --> 00:21:32,120 Speaker 1: going to alleviate the biggest anxieties and depressions of our 414 00:21:32,160 --> 00:21:35,640 Speaker 1: time and mental health problems. And we know that. We 415 00:21:35,680 --> 00:21:38,520 Speaker 1: know that because all the mental health resets today suggests 416 00:21:38,880 --> 00:21:42,320 Speaker 1: that things like isolation overexposure, we now can have more 417 00:21:42,400 --> 00:21:45,920 Speaker 1: pain consumption in one day because of what we're exposed 418 00:21:45,960 --> 00:21:48,359 Speaker 1: to than the pain we would have had in a lifetime. 419 00:21:48,800 --> 00:21:57,320 Speaker 1: That's huge, stress, anxiety, overwhelm, burnout. What do all of 420 00:21:57,359 --> 00:22:04,240 Speaker 1: these have in common? And of perceived control over your time, thoughts, 421 00:22:04,280 --> 00:22:07,479 Speaker 1: and tasks? But what if I told you fixing all 422 00:22:07,560 --> 00:22:11,320 Speaker 1: of these problems is as simple as fixing your mindset 423 00:22:11,600 --> 00:22:16,359 Speaker 1: towards them. I know, not simple at all. Everyone's busy, 424 00:22:16,640 --> 00:22:19,760 Speaker 1: everyone's stress, but we could all use more calm in 425 00:22:19,760 --> 00:22:23,760 Speaker 1: our lives, and learning to stay grounded and grateful is 426 00:22:23,800 --> 00:22:27,360 Speaker 1: truly a daily practice. That's why I've partnered with Calm 427 00:22:27,440 --> 00:22:30,520 Speaker 1: dot com to bring you the Daily J. 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Experience the Daily jy only on 438 00:23:05,000 --> 00:23:09,159 Speaker 1: can that's ridiculous to think that one day, because of 439 00:23:09,200 --> 00:23:12,200 Speaker 1: the media, news and social media, we consume more negative 440 00:23:12,200 --> 00:23:15,000 Speaker 1: than we did in a lifetime. For me, being able 441 00:23:15,040 --> 00:23:18,680 Speaker 1: to have time, energy, and clarity to focus on self 442 00:23:18,760 --> 00:23:22,480 Speaker 1: purification that is the best thing about being a monk, 443 00:23:23,040 --> 00:23:27,760 Speaker 1: because you have that time reflection, and a process and 444 00:23:27,840 --> 00:23:32,080 Speaker 1: an environment that only allows you to become more purified 445 00:23:32,160 --> 00:23:35,159 Speaker 1: of those things. So if I was the interviewer that 446 00:23:35,200 --> 00:23:36,639 Speaker 1: I wanted to be able to have asked you this 447 00:23:36,720 --> 00:23:38,479 Speaker 1: question when we were on the topic. But I'm going 448 00:23:38,520 --> 00:23:41,160 Speaker 1: to go back to this is important enough. You gave 449 00:23:41,200 --> 00:23:43,720 Speaker 1: us the three ways that you can really construct your 450 00:23:43,840 --> 00:23:48,080 Speaker 1: ideal life, but define an ideal life for me. So 451 00:23:48,160 --> 00:23:51,119 Speaker 1: in an ideal life for me is a life, and 452 00:23:51,160 --> 00:23:54,119 Speaker 1: this applies to a company, an organization, and institution for 453 00:23:54,200 --> 00:23:57,760 Speaker 1: me is an ideal life is when we all have 454 00:23:58,040 --> 00:24:01,680 Speaker 1: a head, a heart, and a hand or three elements 455 00:24:01,680 --> 00:24:06,040 Speaker 1: together working in alignment. Without one or the other, we 456 00:24:06,080 --> 00:24:08,720 Speaker 1: start to lose something. If you only have a head 457 00:24:08,720 --> 00:24:14,160 Speaker 1: and a heart, you'll find that life is stable and define. Yeah, sure, sure, 458 00:24:14,200 --> 00:24:18,320 Speaker 1: sure sure. So a head is the clarity of vision. 459 00:24:19,080 --> 00:24:23,160 Speaker 1: What you want, what you want, knowing what you want 460 00:24:23,200 --> 00:24:25,919 Speaker 1: the way you picture life and being able to navigate 461 00:24:25,960 --> 00:24:28,440 Speaker 1: and make the decisions to get there. That's a good head. 462 00:24:29,080 --> 00:24:32,920 Speaker 1: A good heart is being able to understand what your 463 00:24:33,040 --> 00:24:35,760 Speaker 1: intuition and heart wants, being able to connect and tap 464 00:24:35,840 --> 00:24:39,040 Speaker 1: into that understanding deeper and beyond the vision you may 465 00:24:39,040 --> 00:24:41,720 Speaker 1: have painted for yourself. So I often say to people 466 00:24:41,720 --> 00:24:43,920 Speaker 1: that you'll get to where you want in life, just 467 00:24:43,960 --> 00:24:47,560 Speaker 1: not in the way you imagined. And that's because the 468 00:24:47,600 --> 00:24:51,240 Speaker 1: path that's paved up and down is far different to 469 00:24:51,320 --> 00:24:53,440 Speaker 1: the path we pave. So you can have a great 470 00:24:53,480 --> 00:24:55,680 Speaker 1: head and a great vision and a great mission and 471 00:24:55,680 --> 00:24:58,080 Speaker 1: know where you want to go. But if your heart's 472 00:24:58,119 --> 00:25:00,720 Speaker 1: not able to have that resilience and be able adapt 473 00:25:02,680 --> 00:25:05,199 Speaker 1: and have compassion and care and all of that, then 474 00:25:05,480 --> 00:25:07,240 Speaker 1: you're not going to be able to make the toughest 475 00:25:07,240 --> 00:25:11,359 Speaker 1: decisions without your heart. But to be able to realize 476 00:25:11,400 --> 00:25:14,520 Speaker 1: that we need to care and be sustainable and long 477 00:25:14,600 --> 00:25:17,480 Speaker 1: lasting requires a heart and a hand. Is that service, 478 00:25:18,040 --> 00:25:20,399 Speaker 1: wanting to pass that on, that which you have, wanting 479 00:25:20,400 --> 00:25:23,960 Speaker 1: to give it forward, pay it forward, the idea of 480 00:25:24,080 --> 00:25:26,640 Speaker 1: serving with what you have. I often say to people, 481 00:25:26,720 --> 00:25:29,480 Speaker 1: your passion is for you, Your purpose is for others. 482 00:25:30,040 --> 00:25:32,639 Speaker 1: Your passion makes you happy. But when you use your 483 00:25:32,640 --> 00:25:35,360 Speaker 1: passion to make a difference in someone else's life, that's 484 00:25:35,400 --> 00:25:38,920 Speaker 1: a service. That's a purpose, and that's the hand. So 485 00:25:38,960 --> 00:25:44,040 Speaker 1: those are my three elements of an ideal life. I 486 00:25:44,119 --> 00:25:46,240 Speaker 1: like that a lot and when you first said it, 487 00:25:46,280 --> 00:25:47,680 Speaker 1: and I'm glad you to find it because when you 488 00:25:47,720 --> 00:25:49,639 Speaker 1: first said it, I thought the heart was going to 489 00:25:49,720 --> 00:25:52,600 Speaker 1: be the part about, like you know, just compassion and 490 00:25:52,600 --> 00:25:55,840 Speaker 1: caring for others, doing something for other people. But I 491 00:25:55,880 --> 00:25:59,480 Speaker 1: like that the hand being tied to service. So one 492 00:25:59,480 --> 00:26:02,760 Speaker 1: thing that I think a lot about is deep fulfillment. 493 00:26:02,880 --> 00:26:06,240 Speaker 1: Like really, when I think about, okay, what is a 494 00:26:06,280 --> 00:26:08,959 Speaker 1: life we're living? Honestly, it comes down to neurochemistry for me, 495 00:26:09,040 --> 00:26:12,800 Speaker 1: and it comes down to experiencing this world in a 496 00:26:12,840 --> 00:26:18,560 Speaker 1: way that optimizes for for sustainable pleasure, which I'll differentiate 497 00:26:18,640 --> 00:26:21,879 Speaker 1: between a bowl of ice cream a bump of cocaine. 498 00:26:21,960 --> 00:26:24,680 Speaker 1: Those are pleasurables and I haven't done the cocaine, but 499 00:26:24,720 --> 00:26:28,320 Speaker 1: the ice cream I can speak for good, so I'll 500 00:26:28,320 --> 00:26:32,040 Speaker 1: trust that it's it holds up. But they don't bring 501 00:26:32,040 --> 00:26:34,560 Speaker 1: a lasting fulfillment. It's not sustainable, right, So both of 502 00:26:34,600 --> 00:26:39,160 Speaker 1: them end up creating this self destructive loop and purpose 503 00:26:39,280 --> 00:26:41,920 Speaker 1: really does become that thing that gives you something that 504 00:26:42,160 --> 00:26:49,200 Speaker 1: is on a neurochemical level deeply satisfying. And how much 505 00:26:49,240 --> 00:26:55,440 Speaker 1: of this like how did you marry the deeply spiritual 506 00:26:55,520 --> 00:26:59,520 Speaker 1: the often abstract. Oftentimes I'll hear spiritual speakers talk and 507 00:26:59,680 --> 00:27:02,280 Speaker 1: I them sort of drifting off under the ether. How 508 00:27:02,320 --> 00:27:08,480 Speaker 1: did you marry that? To experimentation, neuroscience, practicality like one, 509 00:27:08,640 --> 00:27:10,919 Speaker 1: why do you find that interesting? And then to what 510 00:27:10,960 --> 00:27:13,600 Speaker 1: are you doing with her? So I studied behavioral science 511 00:27:13,800 --> 00:27:16,440 Speaker 1: at university. So I've always been fascinated by why people 512 00:27:16,480 --> 00:27:19,040 Speaker 1: do what they do. And whenever I was reading these 513 00:27:19,080 --> 00:27:22,800 Speaker 1: books that are five thousand years old, my greatest fascination 514 00:27:23,080 --> 00:27:27,080 Speaker 1: was finding a principle and finding its relevance in modern science. 515 00:27:27,320 --> 00:27:29,399 Speaker 1: And I said to myself, the day I can't find that, 516 00:27:29,440 --> 00:27:31,960 Speaker 1: I'll quit. I won't believe in this anymore. So I'm 517 00:27:32,000 --> 00:27:34,040 Speaker 1: still doing that, and I'm ready to quit. If someone 518 00:27:34,080 --> 00:27:36,520 Speaker 1: shows me a piece of science and I can't find 519 00:27:36,800 --> 00:27:39,720 Speaker 1: a principle in these ancient literatures or actually what I 520 00:27:39,760 --> 00:27:42,760 Speaker 1: like to call these timeless literatures, then I'll give up 521 00:27:42,800 --> 00:27:47,360 Speaker 1: my faith because for me, it has to track forward, 522 00:27:47,720 --> 00:27:49,800 Speaker 1: and I'll give you a brially basic example. Today we're 523 00:27:49,840 --> 00:27:53,840 Speaker 1: in the gratitude movement. There's like a million gratitude journals 524 00:27:53,880 --> 00:27:56,919 Speaker 1: out there, there's a million scientific studies on gratitude, and 525 00:27:57,160 --> 00:28:00,760 Speaker 1: gratitude has been linked to better mental health, self for awareness, 526 00:28:01,080 --> 00:28:04,280 Speaker 1: better relationships. I mean, there's so many scientific studies on 527 00:28:04,840 --> 00:28:08,720 Speaker 1: the neuro level that shows that gratitude is great for 528 00:28:08,760 --> 00:28:13,520 Speaker 1: your mind, brain and fulfillment. Now I look back, gratitude 529 00:28:13,640 --> 00:28:15,560 Speaker 1: is all over the time, this wisdom. One of the 530 00:28:15,600 --> 00:28:17,520 Speaker 1: first things we were trained to do when we were 531 00:28:17,520 --> 00:28:19,879 Speaker 1: a monk was to pay our respects to the earth 532 00:28:20,359 --> 00:28:22,200 Speaker 1: for what it gives us. And you do that first 533 00:28:22,200 --> 00:28:25,000 Speaker 1: thing in the morning. What is that if not gratitude. 534 00:28:25,480 --> 00:28:27,240 Speaker 1: When you wake up in the morning, you thank the 535 00:28:27,280 --> 00:28:30,000 Speaker 1: earth for the food, You thank the earth for the water, 536 00:28:30,160 --> 00:28:33,320 Speaker 1: You thank the earth for allowing yourself to walk. You 537 00:28:33,359 --> 00:28:36,359 Speaker 1: start your day with gratitude today. The biggest tip on 538 00:28:36,480 --> 00:28:39,720 Speaker 1: Forbes and Ink and everything is start your day with gratitude. Like, 539 00:28:39,720 --> 00:28:41,600 Speaker 1: where does it come from? It's it's right there. These 540 00:28:41,640 --> 00:28:45,320 Speaker 1: things are old. So I get fascinated. I'm intrigued by 541 00:28:45,320 --> 00:28:48,760 Speaker 1: the parallels and patterns because it saves you time. It's 542 00:28:48,800 --> 00:28:51,000 Speaker 1: the same way as which if I say that this 543 00:28:51,040 --> 00:28:54,080 Speaker 1: business person got invested by this company and that's why 544 00:28:54,120 --> 00:28:57,320 Speaker 1: they're successful because they had the right investors, etc. That's 545 00:28:57,360 --> 00:29:00,000 Speaker 1: a pattern. So I know, if I'm building a business 546 00:29:00,080 --> 00:29:01,760 Speaker 1: in that area, I'm going to look for en messages 547 00:29:01,800 --> 00:29:04,640 Speaker 1: like that. It's the same thing that Patton saves you 548 00:29:04,720 --> 00:29:07,840 Speaker 1: time rather than you trying to figure out does gratitude work? 549 00:29:08,400 --> 00:29:11,720 Speaker 1: How shall I be grateful? Creating your own process almost 550 00:29:12,240 --> 00:29:16,640 Speaker 1: It's really interesting. Life has taught me to stop believing 551 00:29:16,680 --> 00:29:20,360 Speaker 1: everything I think, and the way that it's taught me 552 00:29:20,400 --> 00:29:23,719 Speaker 1: that is by relentlessly punishing me every time I overinvest 553 00:29:23,800 --> 00:29:26,160 Speaker 1: in being right. And I remember when my wife and 554 00:29:26,200 --> 00:29:28,800 Speaker 1: I first got together. She used to get chest infections 555 00:29:28,840 --> 00:29:33,600 Speaker 1: all the time, and she told me it's because of 556 00:29:33,640 --> 00:29:36,440 Speaker 1: the AC and I was like, that doesn't make sense, 557 00:29:36,640 --> 00:29:39,560 Speaker 1: and she was like, no, no no, no. My grandmother used 558 00:29:39,600 --> 00:29:42,200 Speaker 1: to just swear up and down if you're hot and 559 00:29:42,240 --> 00:29:43,840 Speaker 1: you stand in front of a fan, that you're going 560 00:29:43,920 --> 00:29:46,000 Speaker 1: to get sick. And I was like, that is the 561 00:29:46,000 --> 00:29:48,800 Speaker 1: biggest load of like crap I've ever heard my life. 562 00:29:48,840 --> 00:29:51,760 Speaker 1: That does not make sense. Like getting sick comes from 563 00:29:51,800 --> 00:29:54,920 Speaker 1: either bacteria or virus, like it's that simple. And she 564 00:29:55,040 --> 00:29:56,800 Speaker 1: was like, I'm just saying it's my grandma always had 565 00:29:56,800 --> 00:29:58,400 Speaker 1: and it seems true to me. And I was just like, oh, 566 00:29:58,480 --> 00:30:02,080 Speaker 1: this is exhausting. And then one time I went to 567 00:30:02,120 --> 00:30:04,160 Speaker 1: a doctor and I was like, yeah, and my wife 568 00:30:04,440 --> 00:30:07,120 Speaker 1: is crazy and thinks that when you're hot, if you 569 00:30:07,160 --> 00:30:09,040 Speaker 1: stand in front of ac it'll make you sick. And 570 00:30:09,080 --> 00:30:11,080 Speaker 1: he goes, oh, yeah, she's right, and I was like 571 00:30:11,960 --> 00:30:14,480 Speaker 1: hold on, and he was like, well, she's sort of right. 572 00:30:14,480 --> 00:30:16,280 Speaker 1: He's like, this is what's happening. You have a mucous 573 00:30:16,360 --> 00:30:19,840 Speaker 1: layer membrane in your throat. That's it keeps it moist, 574 00:30:19,960 --> 00:30:22,840 Speaker 1: keeps germs from being able to break the breakthrough the barrier, 575 00:30:22,880 --> 00:30:24,560 Speaker 1: and so they get trapped, they go to your stomach, 576 00:30:24,600 --> 00:30:26,240 Speaker 1: they're killed by the acid or whatever. And he said, 577 00:30:26,240 --> 00:30:27,880 Speaker 1: but if you get a crack in that, then the 578 00:30:28,840 --> 00:30:31,360 Speaker 1: bacteria virus can actually get into your bloodstream and that's 579 00:30:31,360 --> 00:30:33,600 Speaker 1: how you get sick. And it's just drying her throat 580 00:30:33,600 --> 00:30:36,480 Speaker 1: out and I was like whoa. And it was one 581 00:30:36,480 --> 00:30:38,560 Speaker 1: of those moments where I was like, how many wives 582 00:30:38,600 --> 00:30:42,840 Speaker 1: tales are true? Like directionally, they're not accurate, but they're true. 583 00:30:42,920 --> 00:30:44,720 Speaker 1: If you see what I mean, yes, and so that's 584 00:30:44,720 --> 00:30:46,640 Speaker 1: how I think when you think of a book that's 585 00:30:46,720 --> 00:30:48,840 Speaker 1: lasted as long as it has. And I know you 586 00:30:48,880 --> 00:30:50,480 Speaker 1: and I we've never talked about this, but we share 587 00:30:50,520 --> 00:30:53,360 Speaker 1: a real fascination for storytelling because it's a way to 588 00:30:53,400 --> 00:30:58,200 Speaker 1: convey an idea that resonates emotionally and allows people to 589 00:30:58,200 --> 00:30:59,880 Speaker 1: carry it on and pass it on. And obviously this 590 00:31:00,040 --> 00:31:03,080 Speaker 1: all starts long before we have science and can prove 591 00:31:03,120 --> 00:31:05,080 Speaker 1: any of this, but we see the patterns. We need 592 00:31:05,120 --> 00:31:07,200 Speaker 1: a way to encapsulate the pattern. We encapsulate it in 593 00:31:07,240 --> 00:31:10,200 Speaker 1: a story. The story is in and of itself totally fake, 594 00:31:10,720 --> 00:31:13,400 Speaker 1: but now in a modern context we're getting lost in 595 00:31:13,440 --> 00:31:17,320 Speaker 1: that the story is fake, even though the take home 596 00:31:17,320 --> 00:31:21,240 Speaker 1: message is incredibly powerful. Yes, and so as I mean, 597 00:31:21,280 --> 00:31:24,000 Speaker 1: it's the classic story. Right. The more you learn, the 598 00:31:24,080 --> 00:31:27,200 Speaker 1: less you realize, you know. And just as I've gotten 599 00:31:27,240 --> 00:31:29,880 Speaker 1: older and really started to understand the stuff and read 600 00:31:29,920 --> 00:31:32,400 Speaker 1: as much as I do and quite frankly live and 601 00:31:32,560 --> 00:31:36,560 Speaker 1: suffer and go through things like my wife having microbiome 602 00:31:36,560 --> 00:31:39,800 Speaker 1: issues and at first thinking her all of her descriptions 603 00:31:39,840 --> 00:31:42,560 Speaker 1: make absolutely no sense. And then you stop passing a 604 00:31:42,640 --> 00:31:45,200 Speaker 1: judgment on it and start saying what if everything she's 605 00:31:45,200 --> 00:31:48,560 Speaker 1: saying is actually true, Like how would we treat it? Then? Right? 606 00:31:48,960 --> 00:31:51,400 Speaker 1: And so there is something really fascinating there. Now I 607 00:31:51,440 --> 00:31:54,600 Speaker 1: find myself I'm way more emotionally drawn to the science 608 00:31:54,880 --> 00:31:57,200 Speaker 1: because when I can picture it, I have a much 609 00:31:57,240 --> 00:31:59,680 Speaker 1: easier time doing something about it. So when you were 610 00:31:59,720 --> 00:32:03,720 Speaker 1: talking about the things that you learned from meditation, I've 611 00:32:03,760 --> 00:32:06,479 Speaker 1: gotten tremendous value out of meditation, but it's nothing like 612 00:32:06,560 --> 00:32:09,640 Speaker 1: what you've learned. So for me, it was once I 613 00:32:09,720 --> 00:32:13,120 Speaker 1: understood that diaphragm breathing made sense because it triggers the 614 00:32:13,240 --> 00:32:16,760 Speaker 1: parasympathetic nervous system, then because I understood it, it it like 615 00:32:17,000 --> 00:32:20,760 Speaker 1: was the understanding becomes a force multiplier absolutely. All right, 616 00:32:20,840 --> 00:32:25,480 Speaker 1: let's talk about behavioral science self awareness. Watching your content, 617 00:32:25,880 --> 00:32:28,920 Speaker 1: which have you ever looked at how much content you've 618 00:32:28,920 --> 00:32:32,000 Speaker 1: put out? It's a lot, dude, Like when you search 619 00:32:32,080 --> 00:32:34,400 Speaker 1: your name like to go because I normally try to 620 00:32:34,400 --> 00:32:36,920 Speaker 1: watch like basically everything, and I was like, I give up. 621 00:32:37,680 --> 00:32:42,840 Speaker 1: It's just it's really incredible. And going through that stuff, 622 00:32:42,920 --> 00:32:44,920 Speaker 1: it seems really clear to me that you have massive 623 00:32:44,960 --> 00:32:49,320 Speaker 1: self awareness. And what would you say, like, is a 624 00:32:49,560 --> 00:32:52,160 Speaker 1: is there a process for people to gain more self awareness. 625 00:32:52,520 --> 00:32:56,920 Speaker 1: And then what are from a behavioral you know, human 626 00:32:56,960 --> 00:32:59,600 Speaker 1: behavior level, what are things that trip up the average person? 627 00:33:00,080 --> 00:33:02,080 Speaker 1: First answer, I mean, I'm a huge fan of the 628 00:33:02,120 --> 00:33:04,760 Speaker 1: book Thinking Fast and Slow. I don't know how if 629 00:33:04,760 --> 00:33:07,280 Speaker 1: you've read it, Yeah, it's a great book because for me, 630 00:33:07,320 --> 00:33:09,960 Speaker 1: it's got a really close pattern connection again to what 631 00:33:10,040 --> 00:33:13,720 Speaker 1: I studied. So just understanding system one and system two. 632 00:33:13,760 --> 00:33:16,520 Speaker 1: If anyone watching hasn't read it, I highly recommend it. 633 00:33:16,600 --> 00:33:20,560 Speaker 1: Just being able to differentiate between system one and system two, 634 00:33:20,560 --> 00:33:24,080 Speaker 1: as Daniel Kahman calls it in the Vedic Philosophy wily 635 00:33:24,080 --> 00:33:27,880 Speaker 1: call differentiating between the mind and the intelligence. Knowing how 636 00:33:27,920 --> 00:33:30,880 Speaker 1: to differentiate of the voices in your head is the 637 00:33:30,920 --> 00:33:34,040 Speaker 1: first level of self awareness. So breakdown what system one 638 00:33:34,040 --> 00:33:35,960 Speaker 1: and system two are. Absolutely, it's a System one is 639 00:33:36,000 --> 00:33:39,520 Speaker 1: your initial response to anything that happens. It's a stop 640 00:33:39,520 --> 00:33:41,200 Speaker 1: that I can't really say. So if you say something 641 00:33:41,240 --> 00:33:44,000 Speaker 1: I don't like, my system one naturally would be a 642 00:33:44,040 --> 00:33:46,800 Speaker 1: face that I pull that I don't agree with. That. 643 00:33:46,440 --> 00:33:49,040 Speaker 1: That's an understanding of what system one in. It's your 644 00:33:49,080 --> 00:33:54,360 Speaker 1: initial default reaction in the moment that can be positive. Often, 645 00:33:54,480 --> 00:33:57,080 Speaker 1: for example, if someone pulls out a knife. You feel 646 00:33:57,120 --> 00:34:00,120 Speaker 1: scared and you run that System one. That's a good thing. 647 00:34:00,320 --> 00:34:03,560 Speaker 1: It's safe for you. But also system one is someone 648 00:34:03,600 --> 00:34:05,760 Speaker 1: says something that hurts your ego and you start defending 649 00:34:05,800 --> 00:34:09,400 Speaker 1: yourself immediately. That's also that's a negative of system one 650 00:34:09,480 --> 00:34:12,120 Speaker 1: that we would refer to as the mind. It's built 651 00:34:12,200 --> 00:34:17,080 Speaker 1: up of conditioning. Those responses are conditioned, those default elements 652 00:34:17,120 --> 00:34:21,400 Speaker 1: are all there because of habit and continuous practice. The 653 00:34:21,800 --> 00:34:24,839 Speaker 1: system two is more like the intelligence. What I would 654 00:34:24,880 --> 00:34:27,520 Speaker 1: say is more like the parent. If you can consider 655 00:34:27,600 --> 00:34:29,880 Speaker 1: system one to be more like a child, system two 656 00:34:30,000 --> 00:34:32,080 Speaker 1: is more like a parent. It looks more at the 657 00:34:32,120 --> 00:34:34,799 Speaker 1: long term, It looks more at the bigger picture. It 658 00:34:34,840 --> 00:34:38,200 Speaker 1: processes that default reaction through a set of checking and 659 00:34:38,320 --> 00:34:41,960 Speaker 1: metrics to decide whether that's true. The child is the 660 00:34:42,440 --> 00:34:47,680 Speaker 1: one that wants everything right away, impatient, quickly responding straight away, 661 00:34:48,200 --> 00:34:51,880 Speaker 1: reacting when it doesn't get what it wants. The intelligent parent, 662 00:34:52,360 --> 00:34:55,280 Speaker 1: a good one, knows what the child wants and needs 663 00:34:55,600 --> 00:34:58,239 Speaker 1: and what's better for it in the long term. Just 664 00:34:58,560 --> 00:35:02,319 Speaker 1: starting there and being able to reflect and observe the 665 00:35:02,440 --> 00:35:05,880 Speaker 1: different voices inside of us is a great place to 666 00:35:05,920 --> 00:35:09,399 Speaker 1: start yourself awareness. Because the biggest challenge is that most 667 00:35:09,440 --> 00:35:12,319 Speaker 1: of us don't know what we're listening to, and we 668 00:35:12,360 --> 00:35:14,080 Speaker 1: don't most of us don't even know that there are 669 00:35:14,160 --> 00:35:18,320 Speaker 1: more than one voice inside of us. Just getting over 670 00:35:18,400 --> 00:35:22,200 Speaker 1: that line is a huge win because now at least 671 00:35:22,239 --> 00:35:26,279 Speaker 1: you're trying to differentiate within what you're hearing, and that's 672 00:35:26,320 --> 00:35:28,200 Speaker 1: going to help you make better decisions in the future. 673 00:35:28,680 --> 00:35:31,160 Speaker 1: So that was answer one, Does that answer your question? 674 00:35:31,640 --> 00:35:36,080 Speaker 1: And second one was so that's awareness? How can what 675 00:35:36,160 --> 00:35:39,880 Speaker 1: are like typical things that trip people up? That? So 676 00:35:40,400 --> 00:35:42,480 Speaker 1: in your answer, just now it's like, okay, if you 677 00:35:42,480 --> 00:35:44,920 Speaker 1: want to become more aware, just know that those two 678 00:35:44,960 --> 00:35:47,000 Speaker 1: things are happening. Right, You're gonna have an initial response 679 00:35:47,040 --> 00:35:50,120 Speaker 1: and then one that's more calculated. Now be aware of 680 00:35:50,160 --> 00:35:52,560 Speaker 1: these two or three things that are also coming for you. 681 00:35:53,520 --> 00:35:55,800 Speaker 1: The biggest challenge is that there's just so much noise. 682 00:35:56,480 --> 00:35:58,239 Speaker 1: It's like, have you ever had someone in your home? 683 00:35:58,400 --> 00:36:00,399 Speaker 1: Maybe it's your wife, or maybe it's a friend or whatever. 684 00:36:00,480 --> 00:36:03,040 Speaker 1: Just play a really bad song too often? Right, just 685 00:36:03,080 --> 00:36:05,200 Speaker 1: playing a song that you really don't actually heard my 686 00:36:05,239 --> 00:36:07,399 Speaker 1: wife laugh because she knows how guilty. All right, Okay, 687 00:36:07,400 --> 00:36:09,120 Speaker 1: there you go, right, there you go, and you just 688 00:36:09,160 --> 00:36:11,080 Speaker 1: play a song and just thinking, I turn that off, 689 00:36:11,080 --> 00:36:13,480 Speaker 1: and after a while, it's been on for so long 690 00:36:14,120 --> 00:36:16,439 Speaker 1: that you become immune to it, like it's just there 691 00:36:16,480 --> 00:36:18,560 Speaker 1: and it's still on. It's there in the back of 692 00:36:18,600 --> 00:36:20,399 Speaker 1: your mind, and you didn't manage to turn it off. 693 00:36:20,760 --> 00:36:23,080 Speaker 1: So the noise that I describe in life, whether it's 694 00:36:23,120 --> 00:36:28,480 Speaker 1: your parents' expectations, whether it's society's expectations, whether it's your 695 00:36:28,520 --> 00:36:32,239 Speaker 1: partner's expectations, all of those are like noise in the background, 696 00:36:32,520 --> 00:36:37,840 Speaker 1: and that noise drowns out your ability to understand the 697 00:36:37,920 --> 00:36:40,439 Speaker 1: mind and the intelligence. That's one of the biggest trip 698 00:36:40,480 --> 00:36:43,920 Speaker 1: ups I was looking at. I gave a presentation called 699 00:36:43,960 --> 00:36:45,960 Speaker 1: build a Life, Not a Resume. It's also one of 700 00:36:46,000 --> 00:36:50,239 Speaker 1: my popular videos, but very good video. Thank you man, 701 00:36:50,280 --> 00:36:52,040 Speaker 1: Thank you so much. And when I did the research, 702 00:36:52,080 --> 00:36:53,600 Speaker 1: so you don't see this in the video because this 703 00:36:53,640 --> 00:36:56,520 Speaker 1: research didn't make it into the video, but the research 704 00:36:56,600 --> 00:36:59,520 Speaker 1: that I was doing was around the most common resume 705 00:36:59,640 --> 00:37:02,640 Speaker 1: live The truth is over forty to fifty percent of 706 00:37:02,680 --> 00:37:04,480 Speaker 1: us lie on our resumes. Yeah, if you don't, you're 707 00:37:04,520 --> 00:37:07,359 Speaker 1: missing an opportunity. I'll just say that, Yeah, there you go, right, So, 708 00:37:07,760 --> 00:37:09,680 Speaker 1: and I started to dig deeper, and I was looking 709 00:37:09,680 --> 00:37:11,759 Speaker 1: at you know, a lot of people lie about their 710 00:37:11,880 --> 00:37:14,439 Speaker 1: dates and employment. So instead of three days, it's now 711 00:37:14,480 --> 00:37:17,080 Speaker 1: three months, you know, whatever it may be. Now, I 712 00:37:17,200 --> 00:37:19,279 Speaker 1: dug deeper and I wanted to meet some of these 713 00:37:19,320 --> 00:37:21,120 Speaker 1: people and speak to people. And so I spoke to 714 00:37:21,120 --> 00:37:23,480 Speaker 1: people who lie on their resumes, and we know that 715 00:37:23,560 --> 00:37:26,560 Speaker 1: at least forty to fifty percent tell us they do. No. 716 00:37:26,719 --> 00:37:29,279 Speaker 1: The thing is, no one was proud of that, no one. 717 00:37:29,360 --> 00:37:30,680 Speaker 1: No one was like, yeah, yeah, I know, I'm going 718 00:37:30,719 --> 00:37:32,560 Speaker 1: to get. Really, what it came down to is we're 719 00:37:32,560 --> 00:37:35,759 Speaker 1: really insecure about our own abilities. Really, what it came 720 00:37:35,760 --> 00:37:37,520 Speaker 1: down to is we're not confident about what we have 721 00:37:37,600 --> 00:37:39,520 Speaker 1: to offer. What it came down to is a lack 722 00:37:39,560 --> 00:37:41,759 Speaker 1: of self awareness. What it came down to is a 723 00:37:41,840 --> 00:37:43,880 Speaker 1: lack of understanding what am I good at, what am 724 00:37:43,880 --> 00:37:46,320 Speaker 1: I passionate about, what am I bringing to the table. 725 00:37:46,920 --> 00:37:49,880 Speaker 1: That's what people were really worried about. They were worried 726 00:37:49,880 --> 00:37:51,920 Speaker 1: about the job. But when you dug beneath the surface, 727 00:37:51,960 --> 00:37:55,440 Speaker 1: the real behavioral trait that was coming out was insecurity 728 00:37:55,920 --> 00:37:59,719 Speaker 1: and being unconfident about one's potential. That that tells us 729 00:37:59,719 --> 00:38:02,160 Speaker 1: a lot. That indicates a lot about human behavior and 730 00:38:02,239 --> 00:38:07,080 Speaker 1: human nature. That the noise from outside makes us want 731 00:38:07,080 --> 00:38:10,200 Speaker 1: to fit into a container, and that stops us from 732 00:38:10,200 --> 00:38:13,080 Speaker 1: differentiating between what is my mind saying and what is 733 00:38:13,080 --> 00:38:15,920 Speaker 1: my intelligence saying. And what happens is that noise becomes 734 00:38:15,920 --> 00:38:19,319 Speaker 1: your voice, so that noise becomes what you think is 735 00:38:19,360 --> 00:38:22,600 Speaker 1: what you're saying. And most people don't realize that until 736 00:38:22,640 --> 00:38:24,520 Speaker 1: ten twenty thirty years down the line. How the hell 737 00:38:24,520 --> 00:38:28,480 Speaker 1: do you figure out? So your analogy is great songs 738 00:38:28,520 --> 00:38:30,760 Speaker 1: on you don't even realize is there anymore? It becomes 739 00:38:30,760 --> 00:38:33,520 Speaker 1: total white noise. You're oblivious to it. In fact, you'll 740 00:38:33,560 --> 00:38:36,520 Speaker 1: only notice it if it gets turned off. Correct, So 741 00:38:36,560 --> 00:38:38,360 Speaker 1: how do they identify that? Like you, you you have a 742 00:38:38,400 --> 00:38:40,080 Speaker 1: process for that. How do you hear the thing that 743 00:38:40,120 --> 00:38:44,160 Speaker 1: you no longer hear so that you can shut it off? Yeah? Absolutely. 744 00:38:44,200 --> 00:38:46,040 Speaker 1: One of the biggest ones, and we say this all 745 00:38:46,040 --> 00:38:48,720 Speaker 1: the time, but it applies mostly to this is switching 746 00:38:48,719 --> 00:38:53,640 Speaker 1: your association. Is switch association to people? Let you hang out, right, 747 00:38:53,719 --> 00:38:56,720 Speaker 1: It's like changing your circle because if you're only hearing 748 00:38:56,760 --> 00:38:58,840 Speaker 1: the same thing from that circle, the only way to 749 00:38:58,920 --> 00:39:01,120 Speaker 1: turn it off with out you having to do mass 750 00:39:01,120 --> 00:39:05,280 Speaker 1: amounts of reflection is changing your circle where you start hearing, 751 00:39:05,600 --> 00:39:09,120 Speaker 1: we all ultimately find the things we want to hear, right, 752 00:39:09,120 --> 00:39:12,719 Speaker 1: we know that, all right? So I created like a 753 00:39:12,760 --> 00:39:16,200 Speaker 1: little piece of content for Alexa where I was like, Okay, 754 00:39:16,239 --> 00:39:18,640 Speaker 1: what are the four questions that you can ask to 755 00:39:18,640 --> 00:39:20,400 Speaker 1: get because you and I use different words, but I 756 00:39:20,400 --> 00:39:22,200 Speaker 1: think we're saying the same thing. So I call them 757 00:39:22,200 --> 00:39:25,479 Speaker 1: invisible beliefs beautiful. So everybody has invisible beliefs. They're they're 758 00:39:25,520 --> 00:39:30,480 Speaker 1: controlling your life, and the only way to get them 759 00:39:30,520 --> 00:39:33,000 Speaker 1: to stop controlling your life is actually figure out what 760 00:39:33,040 --> 00:39:36,680 Speaker 1: they are. And so I gave four questions that two 761 00:39:36,719 --> 00:39:40,000 Speaker 1: of them I just straight stole from Albert Einstein. And 762 00:39:40,160 --> 00:39:44,319 Speaker 1: it's the most important decision every person will make in 763 00:39:44,360 --> 00:39:46,200 Speaker 1: their life is whether they live in a friendly or 764 00:39:46,239 --> 00:39:48,520 Speaker 1: a hostile universe. So just make it a question, right, 765 00:39:48,520 --> 00:39:50,200 Speaker 1: do you live in a friendly or a hostile universe? 766 00:39:50,680 --> 00:39:53,200 Speaker 1: And so the point and I'll go through all four, 767 00:39:53,239 --> 00:39:55,640 Speaker 1: but the point was that if you ask these four questions, 768 00:39:55,640 --> 00:39:57,000 Speaker 1: and they're just the tip of the iceberg, but if 769 00:39:57,000 --> 00:39:58,719 Speaker 1: you ask these four questions, you're going to begin to 770 00:39:58,800 --> 00:40:02,399 Speaker 1: identify your frame of reference. Basically, just trying to get 771 00:40:02,400 --> 00:40:05,719 Speaker 1: people to frame themselves is either optimistic or pessimistic, which 772 00:40:05,719 --> 00:40:08,640 Speaker 1: I think is sort of the big ham handed like, 773 00:40:08,840 --> 00:40:11,560 Speaker 1: first thing you need to become aware of. So first, um, 774 00:40:11,680 --> 00:40:14,280 Speaker 1: do you live in a hostile or friendly universe? Another 775 00:40:14,320 --> 00:40:17,400 Speaker 1: Einstein one? Is everything a miracle? Or is nothing a miracle? Right? 776 00:40:17,400 --> 00:40:19,719 Speaker 1: Because you get to choose, So neither one of those 777 00:40:19,800 --> 00:40:22,719 Speaker 1: is objectively real, but you pick, and it's really going 778 00:40:22,800 --> 00:40:26,040 Speaker 1: to color how you love it. Yeah, And then number three, 779 00:40:26,600 --> 00:40:29,360 Speaker 1: can you do anything you set your mind to without limitation? 780 00:40:29,600 --> 00:40:33,200 Speaker 1: Or are there certain things you can't comprehend? And then 781 00:40:33,320 --> 00:40:35,640 Speaker 1: number four I'm forgetting right now, so I won't waste 782 00:40:35,680 --> 00:40:37,200 Speaker 1: time because you get the Yeah, I get it. I 783 00:40:37,200 --> 00:40:42,319 Speaker 1: love them brilliant questions. So what like they're woefully incomplete, 784 00:40:42,480 --> 00:40:46,240 Speaker 1: So what could we add to that that would really 785 00:40:46,320 --> 00:40:48,480 Speaker 1: bring this home for people? So if that gets them 786 00:40:48,640 --> 00:40:53,080 Speaker 1: optimistic pessimistic? What other at a really high level, what 787 00:40:53,160 --> 00:40:57,400 Speaker 1: are other things that people could immediately switch or in 788 00:40:57,440 --> 00:40:59,600 Speaker 1: fact would immediately switch if they change, you know, the 789 00:40:59,600 --> 00:41:02,000 Speaker 1: people that they're hanging around. But like, let's really get 790 00:41:02,040 --> 00:41:04,560 Speaker 1: real about what some of those things are. So optimism, pessimism, 791 00:41:04,600 --> 00:41:06,920 Speaker 1: what else? So for me, there's two questions that I 792 00:41:06,920 --> 00:41:09,239 Speaker 1: had to ask myself that that really changed what I do. 793 00:41:09,640 --> 00:41:11,400 Speaker 1: One of my big questions is what advice would I 794 00:41:11,400 --> 00:41:15,080 Speaker 1: give to my younger self. It's huge because I think 795 00:41:15,120 --> 00:41:17,200 Speaker 1: that's the stuff that we regret, that's the stuff that 796 00:41:17,200 --> 00:41:19,200 Speaker 1: we wish we were doing. That's the stuff that has 797 00:41:19,239 --> 00:41:21,560 Speaker 1: been lost in the noise. When you ask someone what 798 00:41:21,600 --> 00:41:23,560 Speaker 1: advice would you give to you a younger self? The 799 00:41:23,680 --> 00:41:26,920 Speaker 1: number one answer is I wish I studied this, I 800 00:41:26,920 --> 00:41:30,359 Speaker 1: wish I tried this out. I wish I gave this 801 00:41:30,400 --> 00:41:32,120 Speaker 1: a go. You know, those are the all things that 802 00:41:32,160 --> 00:41:34,840 Speaker 1: somebody didn't do. Yeah, it's all things that things people 803 00:41:34,920 --> 00:41:37,480 Speaker 1: didn't do. It's always like something that either should have 804 00:41:37,800 --> 00:41:44,000 Speaker 1: started or didn't continue. And that's really tapping into someone's voice, right, 805 00:41:44,040 --> 00:41:46,719 Speaker 1: that's really tapping into what someone really wants to do. 806 00:41:46,960 --> 00:41:48,960 Speaker 1: And you're going way beyond just like, oh what do 807 00:41:48,960 --> 00:41:51,680 Speaker 1: you like? What are you passionate about? So hard to 808 00:41:51,719 --> 00:41:54,680 Speaker 1: answer that sometimes, especially if you're drowning. Does that add 809 00:41:54,719 --> 00:41:57,200 Speaker 1: to your questions or not? What's really interesting? Now? I 810 00:41:57,239 --> 00:41:59,080 Speaker 1: need to know what your answer was. So I used 811 00:41:59,080 --> 00:42:01,279 Speaker 1: to be I used to do a lot of spoken word. 812 00:42:01,280 --> 00:42:03,120 Speaker 1: When I grew up, I read the dictionary. I read 813 00:42:03,160 --> 00:42:07,320 Speaker 1: the thesaurus. I loved language. That's what I was fascinated by, 814 00:42:07,360 --> 00:42:09,120 Speaker 1: and for some reason I gave it up. Then I 815 00:42:09,160 --> 00:42:10,960 Speaker 1: found out about monk life. They came a monk. And 816 00:42:10,960 --> 00:42:13,920 Speaker 1: then almost back ten years on, at twenty eight, I 817 00:42:14,000 --> 00:42:16,400 Speaker 1: was going I asked myself that question, and my answer was, 818 00:42:16,920 --> 00:42:20,759 Speaker 1: I miss words, I miss expressiveness. I missed sharing a 819 00:42:20,800 --> 00:42:26,480 Speaker 1: message in stories through incredible language and ideas, potential rhymes, 820 00:42:26,520 --> 00:42:28,560 Speaker 1: but flow and all of these things. So that was 821 00:42:28,560 --> 00:42:30,680 Speaker 1: the answer to my question. One of the biggest answers 822 00:42:30,719 --> 00:42:33,520 Speaker 1: was I wish I never stopped right When did you 823 00:42:33,640 --> 00:42:37,040 Speaker 1: ask that question? I was actually twenty eight two two 824 00:42:37,120 --> 00:42:38,880 Speaker 1: years ago. Here's the thing, then, I will tell you 825 00:42:38,960 --> 00:42:42,919 Speaker 1: right now that your content, your content is like the 826 00:42:42,960 --> 00:42:46,359 Speaker 1: modern version of spoken word. So I don't know if 827 00:42:46,360 --> 00:42:48,880 Speaker 1: that's on purpose or an accident, but like there's an accident. 828 00:42:49,080 --> 00:42:52,560 Speaker 1: Watching it, I was like, if he is doing this 829 00:42:52,640 --> 00:42:55,320 Speaker 1: off the cuff, I have to hate myself a little. Yeah. 830 00:42:55,360 --> 00:42:58,880 Speaker 1: And if he's writing it down, he performs it so 831 00:42:59,080 --> 00:43:03,960 Speaker 1: well that it feels off the cuff, but it's very impressive. 832 00:43:04,680 --> 00:43:07,200 Speaker 1: So I'm genuinely touts coming from now. Now here's the thing. 833 00:43:07,320 --> 00:43:10,759 Speaker 1: Like look, and I love giving compliments when they're real, 834 00:43:11,080 --> 00:43:13,879 Speaker 1: but more importantly, you compliment the thing that you want 835 00:43:13,880 --> 00:43:16,160 Speaker 1: to reinforce in somebody. So you've got a mission. I 836 00:43:16,200 --> 00:43:19,440 Speaker 1: find it very interesting, which is can we make knowledge 837 00:43:19,640 --> 00:43:22,640 Speaker 1: my word, I don't remember what word you use, wisdom perfect? 838 00:43:22,680 --> 00:43:26,040 Speaker 1: So can we make wisdom spread as far and as 839 00:43:26,080 --> 00:43:31,080 Speaker 1: fast as entertainment? Which is so similar to what I'm 840 00:43:31,080 --> 00:43:35,960 Speaker 1: trying to change people's beliefs through entertainment. So I recognize 841 00:43:36,000 --> 00:43:38,840 Speaker 1: the kindred soul right away, and then just watching the content, 842 00:43:38,840 --> 00:43:43,280 Speaker 1: I'm like, WHOA like it's I'm not surprised the number 843 00:43:43,280 --> 00:43:47,160 Speaker 1: of views that you've gotten because it's songs work because 844 00:43:47,160 --> 00:43:49,760 Speaker 1: they make you feel an emotion, but they also tap 845 00:43:49,800 --> 00:43:52,880 Speaker 1: into whatever it is about humans, whatever it is that 846 00:43:52,920 --> 00:43:58,200 Speaker 1: we convey through rhythm. So and before the cameras were 847 00:43:58,239 --> 00:43:59,400 Speaker 1: rule and we were talking about it. So the one 848 00:43:59,440 --> 00:44:01,640 Speaker 1: thing that makes me very uncomfortable I do the same 849 00:44:01,719 --> 00:44:04,160 Speaker 1: called impact quotes. And impact quotes is the first time 850 00:44:04,480 --> 00:44:08,080 Speaker 1: where I allowed myself to perform where I'm knowingly I 851 00:44:08,080 --> 00:44:09,759 Speaker 1: would not say it like this if you and I 852 00:44:09,800 --> 00:44:11,400 Speaker 1: were standing next to each other, right this is for 853 00:44:11,480 --> 00:44:13,479 Speaker 1: the camera. I know how it's going to be edited. 854 00:44:13,480 --> 00:44:14,799 Speaker 1: I know we're going to add music to it, so 855 00:44:14,840 --> 00:44:17,799 Speaker 1: it is a performance, but it's also some of our 856 00:44:17,800 --> 00:44:20,200 Speaker 1: best performing content. So it's like what you were saying 857 00:44:20,239 --> 00:44:24,840 Speaker 1: earlier about Look, I just accept that not everybody geeks 858 00:44:24,880 --> 00:44:27,400 Speaker 1: out on neuroscience, and so I have to understand like 859 00:44:27,440 --> 00:44:29,840 Speaker 1: who my audience is and give them something in a 860 00:44:30,120 --> 00:44:33,120 Speaker 1: way that will then resonate and go viral. And so 861 00:44:33,200 --> 00:44:36,440 Speaker 1: I think acknowledging that's really interesting. So anyway, I'm responding 862 00:44:36,440 --> 00:44:37,839 Speaker 1: just to what you were saying about that, because your 863 00:44:37,840 --> 00:44:40,400 Speaker 1: life seems to be an echo of that answer. All right, 864 00:44:40,440 --> 00:44:41,839 Speaker 1: So there's a few more things you have to get. 865 00:44:42,480 --> 00:44:44,719 Speaker 1: I'm here, I'm here, I'm I'm loving this and if 866 00:44:44,760 --> 00:44:49,040 Speaker 1: you're loving it. So there are three questions that you 867 00:44:49,080 --> 00:44:52,680 Speaker 1: get asked a lot. What are they? The big one 868 00:44:52,719 --> 00:44:54,759 Speaker 1: is how do I find my passion? Okay, and you 869 00:44:54,760 --> 00:44:56,600 Speaker 1: can tell me the quote. I need you to answer 870 00:44:56,640 --> 00:44:58,480 Speaker 1: each one of them. Yeah, but if you want to 871 00:44:58,560 --> 00:44:59,920 Speaker 1: run through what each of the questions are and then 872 00:45:00,080 --> 00:45:02,440 Speaker 1: go back, yeah, no, I'll just do them as they are. 873 00:45:02,800 --> 00:45:05,560 Speaker 1: So how do I find my passion? My simple model, 874 00:45:05,640 --> 00:45:10,000 Speaker 1: which is the dharma model. It also dharma means eternal 875 00:45:10,080 --> 00:45:13,080 Speaker 1: duty in the Vedic tradition. It's very similar to what 876 00:45:13,120 --> 00:45:16,160 Speaker 1: ikey guys being spoken about today, which is a Japanese 877 00:45:16,239 --> 00:45:19,800 Speaker 1: version of reason for being? Why do we live? Where 878 00:45:19,880 --> 00:45:22,719 Speaker 1: is meaning coming from? And it talks about an intersect 879 00:45:22,760 --> 00:45:26,080 Speaker 1: of four areas. What am I good at? What do 880 00:45:26,160 --> 00:45:28,960 Speaker 1: I love? What does the world need? And how do 881 00:45:29,040 --> 00:45:31,520 Speaker 1: I get paid for it? To me, those four help 882 00:45:31,560 --> 00:45:34,560 Speaker 1: your unlock your passion. When you find the intersect across 883 00:45:34,600 --> 00:45:37,680 Speaker 1: all of those four, you're making your passion your purpose. 884 00:45:37,760 --> 00:45:40,239 Speaker 1: You'll unlock your passion, You'll find your purpose. This is 885 00:45:40,280 --> 00:45:43,080 Speaker 1: path one. There's two paths. Path one, I find my 886 00:45:43,200 --> 00:45:46,080 Speaker 1: skill set and I engage it to help other people 887 00:45:46,080 --> 00:45:48,640 Speaker 1: and become better at it. So I'm becoming better at 888 00:45:48,640 --> 00:45:50,160 Speaker 1: what I'm good at, and I'm using it to help 889 00:45:50,160 --> 00:45:52,839 Speaker 1: other people because I'm aware of what I'm quite good at, 890 00:45:53,000 --> 00:45:55,400 Speaker 1: and I know what knowledge I have, what skills I have. 891 00:45:55,520 --> 00:45:59,040 Speaker 1: I have some self awareness. The other path that people 892 00:45:59,080 --> 00:46:01,719 Speaker 1: often miss, actually I just start serving people. I just 893 00:46:01,760 --> 00:46:04,319 Speaker 1: start helping people, and I start to notice what I 894 00:46:04,440 --> 00:46:07,080 Speaker 1: enjoy about that and what I'm good at helping people with. 895 00:46:07,600 --> 00:46:10,480 Speaker 1: So that's Gandhi's part. Gandhi said that you find yourself 896 00:46:10,520 --> 00:46:13,200 Speaker 1: when you lose yourself in the service of others. So 897 00:46:13,280 --> 00:46:15,319 Speaker 1: for me, those are the two paths of how do 898 00:46:15,360 --> 00:46:18,120 Speaker 1: I find my passion and finding the intersect between those 899 00:46:18,120 --> 00:46:22,920 Speaker 1: four areas. And the second one is Jay, my relationships 900 00:46:22,960 --> 00:46:25,879 Speaker 1: falling apart. I get asked that all the time, So 901 00:46:25,920 --> 00:46:30,239 Speaker 1: the answer to that is much harder, it's harder to 902 00:46:30,280 --> 00:46:34,239 Speaker 1: summarize it. But I always start with self actualization that 903 00:46:35,040 --> 00:46:36,879 Speaker 1: the problem is we have a list for the one 904 00:46:36,920 --> 00:46:40,319 Speaker 1: that we want, and we don't have a list for 905 00:46:40,360 --> 00:46:42,840 Speaker 1: what we need to become. And I don't mean become 906 00:46:42,880 --> 00:46:45,839 Speaker 1: to attract, I mean become to just be, to just 907 00:46:45,920 --> 00:46:48,919 Speaker 1: get to understand yourself. You don't know what you need 908 00:46:48,920 --> 00:46:51,120 Speaker 1: in your life until you figure out who you are. 909 00:46:51,200 --> 00:46:54,480 Speaker 1: And so I find too many people rush into relationships 910 00:46:54,960 --> 00:46:58,759 Speaker 1: without really recognizing and being fully aware of what they 911 00:46:58,800 --> 00:47:01,600 Speaker 1: need from a relationship. So it all comes back to 912 00:47:01,719 --> 00:47:04,640 Speaker 1: how aware are you? How much understanding do you have 913 00:47:04,680 --> 00:47:06,759 Speaker 1: of yourself and what you need and what you want. 914 00:47:07,320 --> 00:47:09,880 Speaker 1: That's my best advice for relationship in like a minute. 915 00:47:10,320 --> 00:47:14,200 Speaker 1: And then the third question I mostly get asked is Jay, 916 00:47:14,280 --> 00:47:16,200 Speaker 1: what do you read? Like? What are your favorite books? 917 00:47:16,200 --> 00:47:18,279 Speaker 1: Because it seems you read a lot, what are your 918 00:47:18,320 --> 00:47:21,000 Speaker 1: top three books? They're not groundbreaking in the sense that 919 00:47:21,040 --> 00:47:22,400 Speaker 1: people may not be like, oh my god, that's the 920 00:47:22,440 --> 00:47:25,399 Speaker 1: best book I've ever read. For me, they change my life. 921 00:47:25,560 --> 00:47:28,840 Speaker 1: So that's where I'm coming at a point from I 922 00:47:28,880 --> 00:47:31,600 Speaker 1: love start with why by sermon sink, and not because 923 00:47:31,600 --> 00:47:33,799 Speaker 1: I applied it to businesses, because I applied it to 924 00:47:33,840 --> 00:47:38,319 Speaker 1: my life. And even today, I'm constantly refining my why. 925 00:47:38,360 --> 00:47:40,800 Speaker 1: That's all I do every day. My deepest morning routine 926 00:47:40,800 --> 00:47:43,799 Speaker 1: and practice is to refine why I do what I do. 927 00:47:44,160 --> 00:47:46,800 Speaker 1: It's so easy for me to now do it for money, 928 00:47:47,000 --> 00:47:49,400 Speaker 1: It's so easy for me to now do it for followers, 929 00:47:49,440 --> 00:47:51,719 Speaker 1: it's so easy for me to now do it for fame. 930 00:47:52,440 --> 00:47:55,960 Speaker 1: And every day I have to refine that because I know, 931 00:47:56,200 --> 00:47:58,400 Speaker 1: having lived as a monk and what I practice, that 932 00:47:58,440 --> 00:48:01,640 Speaker 1: if those become what I then I'll forget who I 933 00:48:01,680 --> 00:48:05,200 Speaker 1: need to be. So my daily practice and my daily 934 00:48:05,280 --> 00:48:09,200 Speaker 1: routine is refining my intention, which in modern language is why. 935 00:48:09,640 --> 00:48:12,239 Speaker 1: So for me, Simon's book helped me do that. The 936 00:48:12,280 --> 00:48:16,360 Speaker 1: bugwad Geita, which I would love to do for Vedic knowledge, 937 00:48:16,520 --> 00:48:20,359 Speaker 1: what Ryan's done for Stoicism, and the bugwad geta over 938 00:48:20,440 --> 00:48:26,160 Speaker 1: five thousand years old, and that book really exemplifies human challenge. 939 00:48:26,360 --> 00:48:29,600 Speaker 1: Third book, I'd say this one's going to be hard 940 00:48:29,600 --> 00:48:33,560 Speaker 1: because it's the last one. Let me think I'm gonna 941 00:48:33,560 --> 00:48:35,759 Speaker 1: try to throw something else in there. So I've done 942 00:48:35,800 --> 00:48:39,520 Speaker 1: one like self development, one more spiritual enlightened. Man, let 943 00:48:39,560 --> 00:48:42,839 Speaker 1: me throw a business book in, seeing as I'm sure 944 00:48:42,840 --> 00:48:45,040 Speaker 1: you have a lot of business viewyears. I love the 945 00:48:45,040 --> 00:48:48,480 Speaker 1: book Exponential Organizations. I don't know if you read it 946 00:48:48,600 --> 00:48:53,520 Speaker 1: by Silly Mischmael and the Singularity University, and that book, 947 00:48:53,800 --> 00:48:57,440 Speaker 1: for me, is an incredible analysis of this success of 948 00:48:57,480 --> 00:49:00,480 Speaker 1: all the organizations we see ruling our phone today. The 949 00:49:00,520 --> 00:49:03,359 Speaker 1: way it breaks down their business models and how they 950 00:49:03,360 --> 00:49:06,319 Speaker 1: were created, to me, it's fascinating. So if anyone really 951 00:49:06,320 --> 00:49:09,719 Speaker 1: wants to start up an exponential business today, then that's 952 00:49:09,719 --> 00:49:12,400 Speaker 1: where they have to go. And that's when Peter Demandis 953 00:49:12,480 --> 00:49:16,480 Speaker 1: said that if you want to be a billionaire, redefining 954 00:49:16,480 --> 00:49:19,400 Speaker 1: it as someone who impacts the lives of a billion people. 955 00:49:20,120 --> 00:49:22,880 Speaker 1: And that's what that business book is really about, is 956 00:49:22,920 --> 00:49:26,800 Speaker 1: how do you create an exponential organization that positively impacts 957 00:49:26,800 --> 00:49:29,600 Speaker 1: a billion people? So those are my three for today. 958 00:49:29,719 --> 00:49:33,239 Speaker 1: It's pretty good. Yeah, I've got one more. I want 959 00:49:33,239 --> 00:49:36,279 Speaker 1: to hear you talk about ease. Oh what are they? 960 00:49:36,360 --> 00:49:39,560 Speaker 1: Why do they matter? So? For me, my three ease 961 00:49:39,800 --> 00:49:45,399 Speaker 1: are element, environment, and energy. Everyone has an element that 962 00:49:45,400 --> 00:49:47,719 Speaker 1: they thrive in. If you take someone out of it 963 00:49:47,760 --> 00:49:50,680 Speaker 1: their element, they won't be the same. Modern day example 964 00:49:50,680 --> 00:49:53,560 Speaker 1: would be Michael Jordan. He was incredible at basketball. He 965 00:49:53,600 --> 00:49:55,600 Speaker 1: took him out of basketball, put him into baseball. No 966 00:49:55,600 --> 00:49:57,600 Speaker 1: one remembers his career. We're talking about one of the 967 00:49:57,680 --> 00:50:00,759 Speaker 1: best athletes of all time. You vi, vironment is the 968 00:50:00,840 --> 00:50:03,120 Speaker 1: environment around you. You can take a fish out of 969 00:50:03,160 --> 00:50:06,240 Speaker 1: water and give it a beautiful mansion and a Bentley 970 00:50:06,280 --> 00:50:08,440 Speaker 1: and all the money in the world, but it will die. 971 00:50:08,880 --> 00:50:11,200 Speaker 1: And that's what we are. Like our environment. Everyone needs 972 00:50:11,239 --> 00:50:14,160 Speaker 1: an environment which they thrive, which we have to craft. 973 00:50:14,520 --> 00:50:16,320 Speaker 1: Your boss, if you're at work, is never going to 974 00:50:16,360 --> 00:50:18,839 Speaker 1: ask you, hey, what environment do you succeed in? Right? 975 00:50:18,880 --> 00:50:21,719 Speaker 1: Like that never happens. So we have to create an 976 00:50:21,800 --> 00:50:25,520 Speaker 1: environment where we thrive. And then finally it's energy. We 977 00:50:25,680 --> 00:50:29,040 Speaker 1: some of us love high energy environments, high pressure. Some 978 00:50:29,080 --> 00:50:31,760 Speaker 1: of us succeed in lower energy environments and low pressure. 979 00:50:32,560 --> 00:50:35,160 Speaker 1: Figuring out your energy and the frequency on which you 980 00:50:35,239 --> 00:50:38,200 Speaker 1: operate best will help you thrive as well. So for me, 981 00:50:38,280 --> 00:50:41,600 Speaker 1: those are the three ease to really create a thriving environment. 982 00:50:41,760 --> 00:50:44,720 Speaker 1: No your element, No your environment, and know your energy 983 00:50:45,239 --> 00:50:48,879 Speaker 1: and so on all times. If I see anything going wrong, 984 00:50:48,880 --> 00:50:51,560 Speaker 1: I'm going is my element out of alignment? Is my 985 00:50:52,280 --> 00:50:55,120 Speaker 1: environment out of alignment? Or is my energy out of alignment? 986 00:50:55,320 --> 00:50:57,360 Speaker 1: And that's a great three question test you can do 987 00:50:57,440 --> 00:51:00,000 Speaker 1: to yourself when you don't think things are going right, 988 00:51:00,360 --> 00:51:02,040 Speaker 1: and all you have to do is bring that back 989 00:51:02,440 --> 00:51:05,640 Speaker 1: into alignment. I love that, all right? Before I ask 990 00:51:05,719 --> 00:51:08,560 Speaker 1: my last question, where can these guys find you? Online? Absolutely, 991 00:51:08,560 --> 00:51:10,160 Speaker 1: you can find me in my favorite place for you 992 00:51:10,160 --> 00:51:12,040 Speaker 1: to find me. If you see the most of his Facebook, 993 00:51:12,040 --> 00:51:15,000 Speaker 1: I'm Jay Chett. On Instagram I'm Jay Chatty as well, 994 00:51:15,040 --> 00:51:17,920 Speaker 1: there's my two basic two best places YouTube as well, 995 00:51:18,000 --> 00:51:21,880 Speaker 1: Jay Chetti Twitter j Chetti. So it's just yes, Jetty 996 00:51:21,960 --> 00:51:24,680 Speaker 1: on any platform that you're on, I'm probably there. Awesome, 997 00:51:24,719 --> 00:51:26,360 Speaker 1: all right. What's the impact that you want to have 998 00:51:26,400 --> 00:51:29,839 Speaker 1: on the world. I think you've you've you've said it 999 00:51:29,920 --> 00:51:32,399 Speaker 1: so beautifully so many times and shared my vision, which 1000 00:51:32,440 --> 00:51:34,919 Speaker 1: is wonderful and it's wonderful to know that we share 1001 00:51:34,960 --> 00:51:38,279 Speaker 1: the same thing. It's making wisdom go viral. There's an 1002 00:51:38,280 --> 00:51:42,160 Speaker 1: incredible study in twenty seventeen that said the most successful 1003 00:51:42,200 --> 00:51:48,759 Speaker 1: people in the world, healthy, wealthy, and wise choose education 1004 00:51:48,960 --> 00:51:52,520 Speaker 1: over entertainment. The impact I want to have from the 1005 00:51:52,520 --> 00:51:55,800 Speaker 1: world is I want to transform and revolutionize the entertainment 1006 00:51:55,840 --> 00:52:00,480 Speaker 1: industry so that it becomes educational without anyone knowing. So 1007 00:52:00,520 --> 00:52:05,120 Speaker 1: it's still completely entertaining. It's still like watching Netflix, but 1008 00:52:05,200 --> 00:52:08,440 Speaker 1: you're learning about human behavior, the mind, neuroscience, and everything 1009 00:52:08,680 --> 00:52:11,320 Speaker 1: without even knowing you are. To me, that's the greatest 1010 00:52:11,360 --> 00:52:14,279 Speaker 1: win that we can have for our society. How many 1011 00:52:14,280 --> 00:52:16,319 Speaker 1: people are going to quit watching Netflix and reading a 1012 00:52:16,320 --> 00:52:19,000 Speaker 1: book every night, I don't know. But if we can 1013 00:52:19,040 --> 00:52:21,399 Speaker 1: make that book come to life on Netflix, that's going 1014 00:52:21,400 --> 00:52:23,560 Speaker 1: to change the world because that's what people are going 1015 00:52:23,600 --> 00:52:27,160 Speaker 1: to consume. So for so long media has been used 1016 00:52:27,200 --> 00:52:30,359 Speaker 1: to numb people, to switch people off. If we can 1017 00:52:30,440 --> 00:52:34,560 Speaker 1: use it to excite, elevate, and enlighten people, not by 1018 00:52:34,760 --> 00:52:37,640 Speaker 1: just not by like the cheesy way of like, oh, 1019 00:52:37,719 --> 00:52:41,040 Speaker 1: let's follow someone through their journey of enlightenment. It's not 1020 00:52:41,160 --> 00:52:43,560 Speaker 1: like that kind of stuff. I mean like really entertaining 1021 00:52:43,600 --> 00:52:48,239 Speaker 1: programming where you can learn by being entertained. At the 1022 00:52:48,280 --> 00:52:51,400 Speaker 1: same time, if I can do that by changing the 1023 00:52:51,440 --> 00:52:54,080 Speaker 1: most powerful industry in the world, then I will feel 1024 00:52:54,080 --> 00:52:57,840 Speaker 1: that I've had some whatever impact because that way, I 1025 00:52:57,880 --> 00:53:00,160 Speaker 1: think we'll reach the world without having to get to 1026 00:53:00,239 --> 00:53:03,239 Speaker 1: change their habits too much. My thing is how do 1027 00:53:03,280 --> 00:53:06,560 Speaker 1: we meet people where they are and and really deliver 1028 00:53:06,760 --> 00:53:10,719 Speaker 1: a message and a powerful expression of love. And to me, 1029 00:53:10,800 --> 00:53:13,719 Speaker 1: that's the highest form of compassion, the highest form of empathy, 1030 00:53:13,920 --> 00:53:18,160 Speaker 1: love and compassion is to meet people where they already are, 1031 00:53:18,719 --> 00:53:22,000 Speaker 1: rather than expecting them to change. And yeah, that's the 1032 00:53:22,000 --> 00:53:24,400 Speaker 1: impact I'd like to have on the world. So fingers crossed, 1033 00:53:24,400 --> 00:53:26,880 Speaker 1: with your help, with the help of everyone who's watching. 1034 00:53:27,080 --> 00:53:28,600 Speaker 1: You know, it's going to be a team effort. I 1035 00:53:28,640 --> 00:53:30,640 Speaker 1: can't do it on my own. I'm not expecting to. 1036 00:53:31,120 --> 00:53:32,960 Speaker 1: But yeah, that's that's the impact I'd like to have 1037 00:53:33,000 --> 00:53:38,360 Speaker 1: on the world. That's awesome, incredible, thank you, thank you. 1038 00:53:38,440 --> 00:53:42,440 Speaker 1: All right, guys, I'm telling you, when you look at 1039 00:53:42,480 --> 00:53:45,919 Speaker 1: a tribe of people, everybody has different roles and there's 1040 00:53:45,960 --> 00:53:48,319 Speaker 1: always somebody whose job it is to go out to 1041 00:53:48,440 --> 00:53:50,960 Speaker 1: experience the world to bring back the wisdom in a 1042 00:53:51,000 --> 00:53:53,399 Speaker 1: form that has been digested and made easy for other 1043 00:53:53,440 --> 00:53:56,840 Speaker 1: people to take away. Jay Shetty is that man. Go 1044 00:53:57,000 --> 00:53:59,399 Speaker 1: watch this content. It is somebody who has gone out 1045 00:53:59,440 --> 00:54:01,359 Speaker 1: into the world, who's been a monk, who's worked at 1046 00:54:01,360 --> 00:54:04,880 Speaker 1: accenture and everywhere in between, and come back with a 1047 00:54:05,000 --> 00:54:07,880 Speaker 1: real ability to explain what is going on. And he 1048 00:54:07,920 --> 00:54:10,919 Speaker 1: does it from a position of not trying to seem 1049 00:54:11,000 --> 00:54:13,600 Speaker 1: smarter than you or better than you, but just that 1050 00:54:13,600 --> 00:54:16,640 Speaker 1: that's his role. Some people are musicians, some people are 1051 00:54:16,640 --> 00:54:19,400 Speaker 1: the doctors, and some people break down the information. I 1052 00:54:19,520 --> 00:54:22,960 Speaker 1: really think he has unique access to the wisdom as 1053 00:54:23,000 --> 00:54:25,560 Speaker 1: he calls it, to understand what people are trying to 1054 00:54:25,680 --> 00:54:29,880 Speaker 1: encapsulate in the books, modern or ancient, and his ability 1055 00:54:29,920 --> 00:54:34,920 Speaker 1: to articulate that in a way that feels like modern rap, 1056 00:54:35,080 --> 00:54:37,600 Speaker 1: spoken word, whatever you want to think of it as 1057 00:54:37,400 --> 00:54:41,640 Speaker 1: it is in and of itself an artistic creation, so 1058 00:54:41,840 --> 00:54:44,319 Speaker 1: you cannot go wrong diving into it. It is not 1059 00:54:44,400 --> 00:54:46,600 Speaker 1: a mistake that he's had over a billion views in 1060 00:54:46,680 --> 00:54:49,719 Speaker 1: less than twelve months, which is insanity. So go check 1061 00:54:49,760 --> 00:54:52,879 Speaker 1: his stuff out, hit him up, ask him questions, keep 1062 00:54:52,920 --> 00:54:55,640 Speaker 1: an eye because I think he's going to be one 1063 00:54:55,680 --> 00:54:59,120 Speaker 1: of the greats at really digesting that information. And really 1064 00:54:59,160 --> 00:55:01,680 Speaker 1: helping wisdom go by. All right, guys, if you haven't already, 1065 00:55:01,680 --> 00:55:04,440 Speaker 1: be sure to subscribe. And until next time, my friends 1066 00:55:04,719 --> 00:55:10,319 Speaker 1: be legendary, take care much. Thank you so much for 1067 00:55:10,360 --> 00:55:13,359 Speaker 1: listening to that episode. I hope you enjoyed it. I 1068 00:55:13,440 --> 00:55:16,600 Speaker 1: really really appreciate you being here. We have got some 1069 00:55:16,719 --> 00:55:21,360 Speaker 1: incredible guests and incredible Friday Solo episodes coming. Please please 1070 00:55:21,400 --> 00:55:23,680 Speaker 1: subscribe so you do not miss out. There are some 1071 00:55:23,880 --> 00:55:27,799 Speaker 1: huge announcements coming, stay tuned. I appreciate you. Thank you 1072 00:55:27,880 --> 00:55:28,319 Speaker 1: so much