1 00:00:03,240 --> 00:00:06,960 Speaker 1: Hello everybody, and welcome to Cheeky's and Chill. I have 2 00:00:07,080 --> 00:00:11,039 Speaker 1: some very exciting news to share. So Apple Podcasts has 3 00:00:11,119 --> 00:00:15,320 Speaker 1: this program called Spotlight. Basically, they pick one podcast they 4 00:00:15,360 --> 00:00:18,119 Speaker 1: love and highlight it for an entire month so that 5 00:00:18,280 --> 00:00:21,680 Speaker 1: more people can find it. That's right. Apple's editorial team 6 00:00:21,760 --> 00:00:25,880 Speaker 1: listens to thousands of podcasts and they chose Cheeky's and Chill. 7 00:00:26,360 --> 00:00:29,200 Speaker 1: It's the first iHeart podcast to be highlighted, so I'm 8 00:00:29,280 --> 00:00:32,120 Speaker 1: super excited about this. So if it's your first time 9 00:00:32,120 --> 00:00:34,880 Speaker 1: listening to the show, welcome, and I'm so happy you're here. 10 00:00:35,280 --> 00:00:37,080 Speaker 1: And if you've been with me for a while, you 11 00:00:37,120 --> 00:00:39,839 Speaker 1: know how I feel about you. Loos Amo. Cheeks and 12 00:00:39,920 --> 00:00:43,159 Speaker 1: Chill is my comfort zone. I talk about anything and everything. 13 00:00:43,520 --> 00:00:45,159 Speaker 1: Since I have you here, I wanted to remind you 14 00:00:45,280 --> 00:00:47,720 Speaker 1: of some of my favorite episodes. We have one on 15 00:00:47,800 --> 00:00:50,880 Speaker 1: cheating and betrayal, losing my mom Jenny, and a really 16 00:00:50,880 --> 00:00:53,639 Speaker 1: important one with my fertility doctor on freezing my eggs. 17 00:00:53,920 --> 00:00:56,600 Speaker 1: And of course I've had interviews with some special guests, 18 00:00:56,880 --> 00:00:59,280 Speaker 1: so be sure to check those out too. New episodes 19 00:00:59,320 --> 00:01:02,400 Speaker 1: drop every month. You guys, rage subscribe to Cheeks and Chill, 20 00:01:02,440 --> 00:01:08,760 Speaker 1: don't forget. Now let's start the show. This is why 21 00:01:08,800 --> 00:01:11,119 Speaker 1: I feel it's a little bit more quote unquote normal 22 00:01:11,160 --> 00:01:13,320 Speaker 1: to a certain extent, you know, still in like our 23 00:01:13,440 --> 00:01:16,240 Speaker 1: Latino families, having children later on in life is kind 24 00:01:16,240 --> 00:01:16,479 Speaker 1: of like. 25 00:01:18,360 --> 00:01:21,480 Speaker 2: It was therapy during the pregnancy and then after pregnancy 26 00:01:21,680 --> 00:01:24,679 Speaker 2: because of postpartum, and yes, it is something that we 27 00:01:24,880 --> 00:01:31,000 Speaker 2: don't talk about. My mom would be like nope, and 28 00:01:31,040 --> 00:01:33,120 Speaker 2: I would just think, I really want my parents around 29 00:01:33,120 --> 00:01:34,840 Speaker 2: when I have children, you know. But then I thought 30 00:01:35,160 --> 00:01:36,560 Speaker 2: I had plenty of time. 31 00:01:45,920 --> 00:01:48,720 Speaker 1: How is everyone doing. I'm feeling pretty good. It's another 32 00:01:48,840 --> 00:01:51,320 Speaker 1: day I get to tape my Cheeky's and Chill podcast, 33 00:01:51,400 --> 00:01:54,320 Speaker 1: so I'm very happy. Today we're talking about family values 34 00:01:54,320 --> 00:01:57,280 Speaker 1: in the LATINX community and some of the pressures that 35 00:01:57,320 --> 00:01:59,560 Speaker 1: come along with that. This is something I know a 36 00:01:59,560 --> 00:02:02,040 Speaker 1: lot of people have experienced. And I have the perfect 37 00:02:02,120 --> 00:02:04,720 Speaker 1: guest for this episode, so let's jump right into it. 38 00:02:04,760 --> 00:02:13,560 Speaker 1: This is Cheeky's and Chill Today. I have the pleasure 39 00:02:13,639 --> 00:02:17,000 Speaker 1: of speaking with Evelyn c Gadios. She's a good friend 40 00:02:17,000 --> 00:02:20,400 Speaker 1: of mine and I call her and she's also an 41 00:02:20,400 --> 00:02:25,080 Speaker 1: on air personality, So me, how are you? 42 00:02:25,520 --> 00:02:29,160 Speaker 2: I am so happy to be part of your podcast. 43 00:02:29,639 --> 00:02:31,560 Speaker 2: I love that you know, you always take the time 44 00:02:31,600 --> 00:02:34,520 Speaker 2: to invite me and to include me to all your 45 00:02:34,560 --> 00:02:38,440 Speaker 2: amazing projects, and I just always learned so much from you. 46 00:02:38,560 --> 00:02:41,000 Speaker 2: So thank you for having me. And I love your 47 00:02:41,040 --> 00:02:44,160 Speaker 2: audience too, and I hope we can all just grow together. 48 00:02:45,200 --> 00:02:47,079 Speaker 1: Thank you, my love. No, it's a pleasure. I love 49 00:02:47,080 --> 00:02:49,400 Speaker 1: what you do. You're good at it. So I was like, 50 00:02:49,440 --> 00:02:51,720 Speaker 1: I have to have my Evelyn on there because of 51 00:02:51,760 --> 00:02:54,200 Speaker 1: the topic, obviously, but before we get there, just for 52 00:02:54,240 --> 00:02:57,200 Speaker 1: those that may not know who you are, Evelyn Cica Gadios, 53 00:02:57,400 --> 00:03:00,160 Speaker 1: explain to me who you are, where you grew up 54 00:03:00,240 --> 00:03:02,720 Speaker 1: or explain to us mystiana, where you from your family 55 00:03:02,960 --> 00:03:05,079 Speaker 1: and also how did you get into like the media space. 56 00:03:05,880 --> 00:03:08,520 Speaker 2: So I grew up in Elserna, which is northeast Dela. 57 00:03:09,240 --> 00:03:13,400 Speaker 2: I come from a Mexican family. My parents both are 58 00:03:13,520 --> 00:03:17,919 Speaker 2: from Sinaloa, a state in Mexico. I grew up at 59 00:03:17,919 --> 00:03:22,800 Speaker 2: home speaking Spanish. I actually went to school Elserina Elementary, Elsorina, 60 00:03:22,840 --> 00:03:24,960 Speaker 2: but I stayed in the same community till basically I 61 00:03:24,960 --> 00:03:27,840 Speaker 2: went to college. But at home you would just speak Spanish. 62 00:03:28,320 --> 00:03:31,080 Speaker 2: That was my first language. And back then there was 63 00:03:31,200 --> 00:03:34,360 Speaker 2: like some type of law where you were able to 64 00:03:34,560 --> 00:03:37,640 Speaker 2: have Spanish classes till like I had. I was in 65 00:03:37,680 --> 00:03:40,600 Speaker 2: Spanish classes till like third grade, so I learned how 66 00:03:40,640 --> 00:03:44,720 Speaker 2: to read, write, and speak Spanish before English. So in 67 00:03:44,800 --> 00:03:47,320 Speaker 2: fourth grade I was like, Okay, now it's all English, 68 00:03:47,360 --> 00:03:48,200 Speaker 2: and I was so scared. 69 00:03:48,280 --> 00:03:50,360 Speaker 3: I was like, how is this gonna work the same? 70 00:03:50,800 --> 00:03:53,920 Speaker 2: But now I'm so grateful for that because at home 71 00:03:53,960 --> 00:03:56,680 Speaker 2: it's always been Spanish. At school, you know, the first 72 00:03:56,760 --> 00:03:59,160 Speaker 2: years it was all Spanish. So I think that's helped 73 00:03:59,200 --> 00:03:59,960 Speaker 2: me in my career. 74 00:04:00,080 --> 00:04:02,880 Speaker 3: Now. I grew up very proud of it, but. 75 00:04:02,800 --> 00:04:04,320 Speaker 2: Then when I got to middle school, I was a 76 00:04:04,360 --> 00:04:07,480 Speaker 2: little ashamed of like my dad pulling up dropping me 77 00:04:07,520 --> 00:04:10,120 Speaker 2: off at school, listening to like. 78 00:04:11,760 --> 00:04:12,240 Speaker 4: If you're coming and. 79 00:04:13,880 --> 00:04:14,080 Speaker 3: No. 80 00:04:15,160 --> 00:04:17,120 Speaker 2: And then you grew up that way, and I when 81 00:04:17,120 --> 00:04:19,520 Speaker 2: I talk to young kids, I'm like, it's normal. Even 82 00:04:19,560 --> 00:04:21,800 Speaker 2: to parents now, I'm like, it's normal. We all go 83 00:04:21,920 --> 00:04:24,480 Speaker 2: through that phase where we're like can we just kind 84 00:04:24,520 --> 00:04:28,760 Speaker 2: of blend in with with everything with culture, But once 85 00:04:28,800 --> 00:04:31,600 Speaker 2: you grew up, you're proud of it. So I grew 86 00:04:31,640 --> 00:04:33,919 Speaker 2: up proud of it, and then kind of like I 87 00:04:34,040 --> 00:04:36,200 Speaker 2: just want to listen to and sync and you know, 88 00:04:36,680 --> 00:04:39,880 Speaker 2: Backstreet Boys and Britney Spears. And then once I got 89 00:04:39,880 --> 00:04:42,799 Speaker 2: to college, I went to cal State Northridge. I really 90 00:04:43,080 --> 00:04:46,279 Speaker 2: was just so proud of our food, of our music. 91 00:04:46,920 --> 00:04:49,360 Speaker 2: I you know, was proud of saying where my parents 92 00:04:49,360 --> 00:04:51,919 Speaker 2: were from. And it's just a beautiful thing. And I 93 00:04:51,920 --> 00:04:54,400 Speaker 2: think it's it's it's now that I'm older, I embrace 94 00:04:54,480 --> 00:04:54,920 Speaker 2: it more. 95 00:04:55,480 --> 00:04:56,479 Speaker 1: And what did you major in? 96 00:04:57,040 --> 00:04:58,159 Speaker 3: Political science? 97 00:04:59,120 --> 00:05:01,640 Speaker 2: I wanted to be a immigration lawyer, So when I 98 00:05:01,680 --> 00:05:06,080 Speaker 2: first graduated from Kelsey Morthwards, I actually worked at the 99 00:05:06,120 --> 00:05:09,520 Speaker 2: courthouse for a few years helping people with cases of 100 00:05:09,600 --> 00:05:14,800 Speaker 2: divorce domestic violence. And I loved it at first, and 101 00:05:14,839 --> 00:05:17,640 Speaker 2: there was so much need for help. So I always 102 00:05:17,640 --> 00:05:20,200 Speaker 2: felt like, what if my parents needed this, I want 103 00:05:20,200 --> 00:05:21,360 Speaker 2: to be that person that helps. 104 00:05:21,680 --> 00:05:22,960 Speaker 3: But then I got to a point where. 105 00:05:22,760 --> 00:05:24,440 Speaker 2: I was like, all right, I'm over it, Like I 106 00:05:24,480 --> 00:05:26,920 Speaker 2: can't do this anymore, Like this is I got to 107 00:05:26,960 --> 00:05:28,720 Speaker 2: a point where I'm like, I'm never gonna get married, 108 00:05:28,839 --> 00:05:31,000 Speaker 2: Like people just end up fighting over the dogs and 109 00:05:31,080 --> 00:05:32,040 Speaker 2: like the sofas. 110 00:05:32,160 --> 00:05:33,360 Speaker 3: So I get out of here. 111 00:05:34,000 --> 00:05:36,880 Speaker 2: And I ended up starting to help a friend with 112 00:05:36,960 --> 00:05:40,320 Speaker 2: her PR company, and then she started just having me 113 00:05:40,480 --> 00:05:43,880 Speaker 2: organize her files and from there like the next week, 114 00:05:43,920 --> 00:05:48,360 Speaker 2: I was writing media alerts and pr like releases and. 115 00:05:48,120 --> 00:05:50,120 Speaker 3: I was like, I really like this. 116 00:05:50,640 --> 00:05:53,159 Speaker 2: And she had artists that you know, She's like, okay, 117 00:05:53,200 --> 00:05:54,920 Speaker 2: they have a red carpet, like go walk with them, 118 00:05:54,920 --> 00:05:55,960 Speaker 2: and I'm like all. 119 00:05:55,960 --> 00:05:58,599 Speaker 3: Right, Like I can't do that. So I kind of 120 00:05:58,760 --> 00:06:00,760 Speaker 3: got to see the industry. 121 00:06:01,400 --> 00:06:10,240 Speaker 2: And yeah, they ended up giving me, you know, three 122 00:06:10,279 --> 00:06:13,479 Speaker 2: to seven p M Radio l A for regional Mexican. 123 00:06:13,560 --> 00:06:16,080 Speaker 2: But it's because again, I love the music. When you 124 00:06:16,120 --> 00:06:19,560 Speaker 2: grow up around music all the time, I mean, you 125 00:06:19,640 --> 00:06:24,760 Speaker 2: just know the sounds, like I mean. 126 00:06:23,880 --> 00:06:24,720 Speaker 1: It becomes part of you. 127 00:06:32,040 --> 00:06:41,000 Speaker 2: Is I've never I mean I wish pero no nomos 128 00:06:41,120 --> 00:06:46,200 Speaker 2: mass I love it. 129 00:06:48,800 --> 00:06:51,560 Speaker 1: Yes, that you that's how you started. That's that's freaking dop. 130 00:06:51,640 --> 00:06:54,320 Speaker 1: That's interesting. And now now you're a mummy I am 131 00:06:54,360 --> 00:06:54,880 Speaker 1: and a wife. 132 00:06:55,400 --> 00:06:59,119 Speaker 2: Yes, the pandemic totally changed all of us, I feel 133 00:06:59,120 --> 00:07:01,839 Speaker 2: in different ways. And in my case, I think I 134 00:07:01,920 --> 00:07:03,800 Speaker 2: was on the go, go, go go go, Yes, yes, 135 00:07:03,920 --> 00:07:06,480 Speaker 2: yes for work, I'll travel here, I'll do this. Yes, 136 00:07:06,560 --> 00:07:07,200 Speaker 2: I'll cover that. 137 00:07:07,279 --> 00:07:07,920 Speaker 3: No problem. 138 00:07:08,200 --> 00:07:10,360 Speaker 2: And I was working a lot and I'm glad I 139 00:07:10,400 --> 00:07:12,280 Speaker 2: got to do that. But then when the pandemic came 140 00:07:12,320 --> 00:07:14,560 Speaker 2: I was like, all right, I'm thirty something. I'm not 141 00:07:14,600 --> 00:07:16,280 Speaker 2: going to say how how old I am, but I'm 142 00:07:16,280 --> 00:07:17,160 Speaker 2: thirty something. 143 00:07:17,960 --> 00:07:18,960 Speaker 3: And UI and I. 144 00:07:18,880 --> 00:07:21,480 Speaker 2: Had already been talking about freezing our eggs and this, 145 00:07:22,400 --> 00:07:24,800 Speaker 2: and you know, you've been very open and vocal about 146 00:07:24,840 --> 00:07:26,840 Speaker 2: that situation. So I was like, you know what, like, 147 00:07:26,960 --> 00:07:28,560 Speaker 2: let me know, chiky is how that goes? Because I 148 00:07:28,600 --> 00:07:31,480 Speaker 2: think I might do it. And then the pandemic comes 149 00:07:31,720 --> 00:07:33,840 Speaker 2: and I was like, I really want to have kids, 150 00:07:33,840 --> 00:07:34,480 Speaker 2: like this is it? 151 00:07:34,800 --> 00:07:36,239 Speaker 3: Like? I want them a family? 152 00:07:36,400 --> 00:07:38,320 Speaker 1: So it's planned in my head. 153 00:07:38,360 --> 00:07:40,160 Speaker 3: It was my partner's cousin. 154 00:07:43,000 --> 00:07:43,440 Speaker 4: Love it. 155 00:07:43,840 --> 00:07:46,280 Speaker 3: You know, for me it was important to me. 156 00:07:46,400 --> 00:07:49,600 Speaker 2: It was like I'm ready, like I want, I want this, 157 00:07:49,840 --> 00:07:53,640 Speaker 2: and so when the opportunity, well not the opportunity, but 158 00:07:53,720 --> 00:07:56,920 Speaker 2: when it was the right timing, it happened. And yeah, 159 00:07:56,960 --> 00:07:59,240 Speaker 2: now I'm a mom and work was priority. 160 00:07:59,400 --> 00:08:01,560 Speaker 3: Now my child is priority. 161 00:08:01,160 --> 00:08:03,000 Speaker 1: Your child And we talk about it a lot because 162 00:08:03,000 --> 00:08:06,080 Speaker 1: you're like it's a lot juggling being you know, a 163 00:08:06,160 --> 00:08:10,160 Speaker 1: mother that works. Did you wait later to have children 164 00:08:10,240 --> 00:08:13,040 Speaker 1: later on in life? Was it intentional? Was it because 165 00:08:13,080 --> 00:08:14,800 Speaker 1: you were just more career oriented? 166 00:08:15,400 --> 00:08:18,640 Speaker 2: I just don't think I ever met like the right 167 00:08:18,720 --> 00:08:21,840 Speaker 2: person that was like in the right state of mind 168 00:08:22,000 --> 00:08:24,240 Speaker 2: for me to actually say, wow, I can see myself 169 00:08:24,280 --> 00:08:27,000 Speaker 2: having a child with this person. And I think with 170 00:08:27,280 --> 00:08:29,160 Speaker 2: you know, my current husband, because we got married during 171 00:08:29,160 --> 00:08:32,720 Speaker 2: the pandemic too, we just got along in the professional level, 172 00:08:32,760 --> 00:08:35,680 Speaker 2: and he actually believes in me and supports what I do. 173 00:08:36,080 --> 00:08:38,400 Speaker 2: So he was always very like, oh yeah, go to 174 00:08:38,400 --> 00:08:41,040 Speaker 2: that concert, yeah that interview, and other people that I 175 00:08:41,120 --> 00:08:43,280 Speaker 2: dated were always kind of jealous, like wait, you got 176 00:08:43,280 --> 00:08:44,440 Speaker 2: too close to that artist. 177 00:08:44,960 --> 00:08:46,760 Speaker 3: So I kind of was like. 178 00:08:46,679 --> 00:08:48,640 Speaker 2: All right, with this guy, I can really do it 179 00:08:48,679 --> 00:08:51,280 Speaker 2: because he believes in me, and he knows what I 180 00:08:51,280 --> 00:08:53,680 Speaker 2: do for a living, and he respects what I do 181 00:08:53,760 --> 00:08:55,880 Speaker 2: for a living. You know, I'm around a bunch of 182 00:08:55,920 --> 00:08:57,679 Speaker 2: guys all the time, and for someone to have the 183 00:08:57,720 --> 00:09:00,400 Speaker 2: confidence to be okay with it, so yeah, I just 184 00:09:00,520 --> 00:09:02,880 Speaker 2: I think I didn't do it before because of that, 185 00:09:02,960 --> 00:09:05,760 Speaker 2: because I think it's very important and now more than 186 00:09:05,800 --> 00:09:11,440 Speaker 2: ever I tell people iki wokins and gasitoo menos, and 187 00:09:13,000 --> 00:09:16,680 Speaker 2: because it's honestly the most important job I think I 188 00:09:16,720 --> 00:09:20,400 Speaker 2: will ever have. He is now my responsibility to raise 189 00:09:20,760 --> 00:09:24,880 Speaker 2: a little boy who is happy, who believes in himself, 190 00:09:25,080 --> 00:09:29,040 Speaker 2: who respects others like the world we live in. This 191 00:09:29,280 --> 00:09:33,559 Speaker 2: generation of children is going to change what's happening. So 192 00:09:33,600 --> 00:09:36,440 Speaker 2: it's up to us, the new parents, the people having 193 00:09:36,520 --> 00:09:40,720 Speaker 2: kids now, to raise kids that are loving, that are empathetic. 194 00:09:41,080 --> 00:09:43,280 Speaker 2: That's exactly what I need. So I'm I feel like 195 00:09:43,960 --> 00:09:45,400 Speaker 2: there's a lot on my plate right now. 196 00:09:45,400 --> 00:09:45,960 Speaker 3: You know I've been. 197 00:09:46,840 --> 00:09:49,120 Speaker 1: And that's what I was gonna tell you. You celebrated his 198 00:09:49,840 --> 00:09:51,120 Speaker 1: first year, his first. 199 00:09:50,960 --> 00:09:53,000 Speaker 2: Year, and my first year as a mom too, because 200 00:09:53,040 --> 00:09:56,439 Speaker 2: I'm a whole different person now. You know, I'm postpartum 201 00:09:56,440 --> 00:09:59,800 Speaker 2: and I've told you this before. Postpartum really got got 202 00:09:59,800 --> 00:10:02,439 Speaker 2: me good the first time. Yeah, and a lot of 203 00:10:02,440 --> 00:10:05,679 Speaker 2: people don't talk about it. There's postpartum depression and postpartum 204 00:10:05,800 --> 00:10:09,000 Speaker 2: like anxiety. And you say postpartum, people think, oh, she 205 00:10:09,120 --> 00:10:12,080 Speaker 2: was depressed. People do get that. In my case, I 206 00:10:12,160 --> 00:10:14,880 Speaker 2: didn't get to that point, but I was scared of everything. 207 00:10:15,360 --> 00:10:17,720 Speaker 2: So it's only been a few months that I started 208 00:10:17,720 --> 00:10:21,160 Speaker 2: feeling better and now I'm scared of having another one. 209 00:10:21,240 --> 00:10:23,080 Speaker 1: But that's why, uh huh. 210 00:10:23,120 --> 00:10:25,280 Speaker 2: I said I was good with one, and now that 211 00:10:25,480 --> 00:10:28,559 Speaker 2: all of those feelings kind of are balanced, I'm like, Okay, 212 00:10:29,160 --> 00:10:31,400 Speaker 2: do I want to have a second child because I'm 213 00:10:31,440 --> 00:10:34,040 Speaker 2: getting older too. I'm glad I waited because now I'm 214 00:10:34,480 --> 00:10:37,400 Speaker 2: in the right state of mind priority as my child. 215 00:10:37,880 --> 00:10:41,360 Speaker 2: But now having a second child, like, how am. 216 00:10:41,320 --> 00:10:43,280 Speaker 3: I going to balance? Am I just gonna go crazy? 217 00:10:43,920 --> 00:10:46,880 Speaker 2: I don't know how moms did it before having five 218 00:10:47,040 --> 00:10:48,000 Speaker 2: six ten. 219 00:10:48,280 --> 00:10:51,880 Speaker 1: Dude, my mom five kids? No, mo, miss, I don't know. 220 00:10:51,920 --> 00:10:53,640 Speaker 1: I think times have changed, and this is why I 221 00:10:53,679 --> 00:10:56,600 Speaker 1: feel that it's a little bit more quote unquote normal 222 00:10:56,640 --> 00:10:58,840 Speaker 1: to a certain extent, you know, still in like our 223 00:10:58,920 --> 00:11:01,880 Speaker 1: Latino families, having children later on in life is kind 224 00:11:01,880 --> 00:11:05,880 Speaker 1: of like you know what I mean, And it's like, no, 225 00:11:06,080 --> 00:11:09,360 Speaker 1: like you are in a good state of mind where 226 00:11:09,360 --> 00:11:12,000 Speaker 1: you're like, okay, I can I want to raise a 227 00:11:12,040 --> 00:11:15,520 Speaker 1: good little human Versus when we're younger, we're still trying 228 00:11:15,520 --> 00:11:17,160 Speaker 1: to raise ourselves, you know what I mean, Which is 229 00:11:17,160 --> 00:11:19,600 Speaker 1: why I'm like, what's wrong with having kids later on 230 00:11:19,640 --> 00:11:28,320 Speaker 1: in life? One thing that really caught like my attention 231 00:11:28,440 --> 00:11:32,040 Speaker 1: right now was postpartum because again, especially in our community, 232 00:11:32,600 --> 00:11:35,880 Speaker 1: it's not spoken about enough. No, it's kind of like 233 00:11:35,920 --> 00:11:39,280 Speaker 1: a taboo. It's your being weak a lot of men, 234 00:11:39,320 --> 00:11:42,400 Speaker 1: because I've heard it even in my extended family where 235 00:11:42,400 --> 00:11:44,199 Speaker 1: It's like that shit doesn't exist. It's like depression like 236 00:11:44,240 --> 00:11:51,320 Speaker 1: that is no, you guys, it really having a child 237 00:11:51,320 --> 00:11:52,920 Speaker 1: and I haven't had my own, but I lived it 238 00:11:52,960 --> 00:11:55,800 Speaker 1: with my sister. Your hormones are at a whack for 239 00:11:55,840 --> 00:11:59,000 Speaker 1: an entire year, and when the baby comes out, you're 240 00:11:59,080 --> 00:12:02,120 Speaker 1: just like and having a child, a growing child in 241 00:12:02,160 --> 00:12:04,880 Speaker 1: your body for nine months and they come out and 242 00:12:04,880 --> 00:12:07,280 Speaker 1: they take all your nutrients and you gave them everything. 243 00:12:08,080 --> 00:12:09,720 Speaker 1: You feel a little depleted. Is that correct? 244 00:12:09,800 --> 00:12:15,280 Speaker 2: You're very depleted, Like I said, your body, physical, emotional, spiritual. 245 00:12:15,520 --> 00:12:19,200 Speaker 2: You are shaken completely and a lot of these emotions 246 00:12:19,200 --> 00:12:21,840 Speaker 2: are out of your control. So that's why it's so important. 247 00:12:21,880 --> 00:12:24,280 Speaker 2: I mean, I seek therapy. I even did therapy during 248 00:12:24,320 --> 00:12:26,720 Speaker 2: my pregnancy just because I was dealing with the whole 249 00:12:26,880 --> 00:12:29,280 Speaker 2: Here's another thing, right, Like it was hard for me too, 250 00:12:29,360 --> 00:12:32,000 Speaker 2: even though I was older, and even though I'm independent 251 00:12:32,080 --> 00:12:33,800 Speaker 2: and I've always had a job. 252 00:12:34,480 --> 00:12:38,840 Speaker 3: My parents like no stas for me. I was stressed 253 00:12:38,840 --> 00:12:40,400 Speaker 3: over that, and I talked to my parents. 254 00:12:40,440 --> 00:12:42,080 Speaker 2: I was like, listen, this is my choice. I've been 255 00:12:42,120 --> 00:12:45,280 Speaker 2: wanting to have a child, and I'm happy with the decision. 256 00:12:45,679 --> 00:12:47,800 Speaker 2: You guys made your life choices and they were fine, 257 00:12:47,800 --> 00:12:48,960 Speaker 2: but my dad you could tell. 258 00:12:48,800 --> 00:12:49,720 Speaker 3: It was a little bothered. 259 00:12:49,960 --> 00:12:52,240 Speaker 2: I mean, I'm with thirty five already, you know, it 260 00:12:52,320 --> 00:12:53,120 Speaker 2: was like a back come. 261 00:12:53,320 --> 00:12:53,920 Speaker 1: Yeah. 262 00:12:54,000 --> 00:12:57,400 Speaker 2: So it takes a while for them because the culture 263 00:12:57,440 --> 00:13:01,480 Speaker 2: is different, the mentality is different. And I was dealing 264 00:13:01,520 --> 00:13:03,800 Speaker 2: with that, like, Okay, when I tell my parents that 265 00:13:03,840 --> 00:13:06,440 Speaker 2: I'm pregnant, my mom was perfectly fine. When I tell them, 266 00:13:06,520 --> 00:13:08,920 Speaker 2: How am I going to handle their reaction? 267 00:13:09,480 --> 00:13:09,880 Speaker 1: I kids. 268 00:13:10,200 --> 00:13:13,079 Speaker 2: I did go to therapy for that through my pregnancy, 269 00:13:13,120 --> 00:13:15,320 Speaker 2: and it helped me because when I did get a 270 00:13:15,360 --> 00:13:18,760 Speaker 2: certain reaction, I was like, I'm fine, I'm happy, I'm 271 00:13:18,760 --> 00:13:19,280 Speaker 2: at peace. 272 00:13:19,440 --> 00:13:20,760 Speaker 3: He'll come back around, and he did. 273 00:13:20,920 --> 00:13:23,600 Speaker 1: They get over it. They and then now I'm sure 274 00:13:23,600 --> 00:13:25,880 Speaker 1: he's all in love with the baby. Oh yeah, of 275 00:13:25,920 --> 00:13:34,880 Speaker 1: course is mass quote unquote beings. But well I'm assuming like, yeah, 276 00:13:34,960 --> 00:13:36,760 Speaker 1: you know you had you got pregnant first, and then 277 00:13:36,800 --> 00:13:39,280 Speaker 1: you guys got married, right, yeah, we did during the pregnancy. 278 00:13:39,320 --> 00:13:41,040 Speaker 2: I actually I was like, we don't have to do 279 00:13:41,080 --> 00:13:43,920 Speaker 2: it just you know, because I'm pregnant, and he's like, no, like, 280 00:13:44,320 --> 00:13:46,480 Speaker 2: let's do it because when the baby's born, you have 281 00:13:46,600 --> 00:13:48,680 Speaker 2: my last name, and you know, we're a married couple. 282 00:13:48,720 --> 00:13:51,120 Speaker 2: And we were able to make decisions together at the 283 00:13:51,120 --> 00:13:54,480 Speaker 2: hospital and thereafter, you know not, we're a family, and 284 00:13:54,600 --> 00:13:57,720 Speaker 2: so now it's like, oh, we should have a big wedding, 285 00:13:57,800 --> 00:13:59,679 Speaker 2: and I'm like, you know what, I'm happy Like then, 286 00:13:59,679 --> 00:14:05,000 Speaker 2: I'm on, he's healthy, I'm getting back to my rhythm, 287 00:14:05,160 --> 00:14:08,640 Speaker 2: back to kind of work, dealing with leaving the baby 288 00:14:08,679 --> 00:14:18,600 Speaker 2: for a few I still cried this morning, yo, yo, 289 00:14:21,240 --> 00:14:23,000 Speaker 2: that the moment you have to go back to work. 290 00:14:23,360 --> 00:14:25,560 Speaker 2: I mean I have friends that say they were really 291 00:14:25,600 --> 00:14:27,600 Speaker 2: happy to go back to work because those hours give 292 00:14:27,640 --> 00:14:31,680 Speaker 2: them like freedom and independence. In my case, I still struggle. 293 00:14:31,800 --> 00:14:34,240 Speaker 2: You know, it hurts because you're like, what if he 294 00:14:34,280 --> 00:14:35,520 Speaker 2: feels like I'm a band didn't? 295 00:14:36,720 --> 00:14:38,240 Speaker 1: No, Yeah, I can just imagine. 296 00:14:38,280 --> 00:14:41,000 Speaker 2: So it was therapy during the pregnancy and then after 297 00:14:41,120 --> 00:14:44,800 Speaker 2: pregnancy because of postpartum, and yes, it is something that 298 00:14:44,840 --> 00:14:45,960 Speaker 2: we don't talk about. 299 00:14:46,400 --> 00:14:46,840 Speaker 3: When it was. 300 00:14:46,760 --> 00:14:49,480 Speaker 2: Happening to me, I was asking my cousins like, why 301 00:14:49,480 --> 00:14:51,520 Speaker 2: did you guys say this? Oh, because we don't want 302 00:14:51,560 --> 00:14:54,480 Speaker 2: you to like start stressing over it during your pregnancy. 303 00:14:54,560 --> 00:14:58,200 Speaker 1: But we need to know these things because then you 304 00:14:58,240 --> 00:15:00,400 Speaker 1: probably think, imagine, if we don't talk about it, then 305 00:15:00,400 --> 00:15:02,280 Speaker 1: you think, oh, my god, I'm going crazy, and like 306 00:15:02,720 --> 00:15:05,840 Speaker 1: I lived it with Jackie, my sister. I remember I 307 00:15:05,960 --> 00:15:07,320 Speaker 1: was on the other side of the house and the 308 00:15:07,360 --> 00:15:09,560 Speaker 1: baby was yelling on the top of her lungs. I 309 00:15:09,600 --> 00:15:11,880 Speaker 1: was like, what is happening. I went to the room. 310 00:15:12,120 --> 00:15:17,400 Speaker 1: The baby was in her little basinet crying, and this 311 00:15:17,480 --> 00:15:19,640 Speaker 1: was her first child, and she was like what twenty 312 00:15:20,240 --> 00:15:22,800 Speaker 1: one I think it was, and actually twenty years old, 313 00:15:22,880 --> 00:15:25,000 Speaker 1: and she was sitting on the floor and she was 314 00:15:25,040 --> 00:15:27,320 Speaker 1: just like this face that I'll never forget. Was looking 315 00:15:27,360 --> 00:15:29,200 Speaker 1: at the floor and she was just and I'm like, Jackie, 316 00:15:29,240 --> 00:15:33,480 Speaker 1: what's wrong. She's like, I don't know, like not crying nothing. 317 00:15:33,680 --> 00:15:37,120 Speaker 1: She's like I don't want her. Can we just take 318 00:15:37,160 --> 00:15:38,840 Speaker 1: her to the fire station? I just can't do this. 319 00:15:39,200 --> 00:15:42,600 Speaker 1: And that's when I heard about postpartum. And then my 320 00:15:42,720 --> 00:15:45,120 Speaker 1: mom when we said, she's like, oh, it's postpartum. It's normal. 321 00:15:45,160 --> 00:15:48,280 Speaker 1: I'm like, uh, hello, Like okay, well tell us you 322 00:15:48,280 --> 00:15:49,920 Speaker 1: know what I mean. And it was a little bit 323 00:15:49,920 --> 00:15:52,800 Speaker 1: more talked about, but thank goodness, it just lasted a 324 00:15:52,800 --> 00:15:55,320 Speaker 1: few months, but it was very real. And I think 325 00:15:55,360 --> 00:15:57,280 Speaker 1: one day we need to have like a panel of 326 00:15:57,280 --> 00:16:01,640 Speaker 1: women talking about postpartum because uno Sissya, there is a lob. 327 00:16:02,160 --> 00:16:03,920 Speaker 1: She says. I I feel like I'm going crazy. I 328 00:16:03,960 --> 00:16:05,640 Speaker 1: can't do this. My life is changing. It was just 329 00:16:05,680 --> 00:16:08,520 Speaker 1: too much all at once. Her hormones are everywhere, So 330 00:16:09,080 --> 00:16:10,560 Speaker 1: you know, I do appreciate you sharing. 331 00:16:10,320 --> 00:16:21,000 Speaker 4: That, Norm. I just felt like, okay, can I do this? 332 00:16:21,200 --> 00:16:21,280 Speaker 1: Like? 333 00:16:21,360 --> 00:16:23,960 Speaker 2: Who am I do? I still like the same things 334 00:16:24,000 --> 00:16:27,080 Speaker 2: that I used to like. And it's hard because even now, 335 00:16:27,480 --> 00:16:29,720 Speaker 2: I mean the baby, like I said, he's fourteen months now, 336 00:16:30,080 --> 00:16:32,840 Speaker 2: but I still don't go out with friends. I still 337 00:16:32,840 --> 00:16:34,360 Speaker 2: don't do things that I used to do all the 338 00:16:34,400 --> 00:16:37,640 Speaker 2: time before. And I don't want to be that way. 339 00:16:37,680 --> 00:16:39,440 Speaker 2: I want to be able to have a balance because 340 00:16:39,480 --> 00:16:41,040 Speaker 2: you still want to hang on to the old you 341 00:16:41,440 --> 00:16:45,160 Speaker 2: because you're fun and you felt free. But you also 342 00:16:45,280 --> 00:16:49,200 Speaker 2: love motherhood, you know, having a little mini you run 343 00:16:49,240 --> 00:16:51,920 Speaker 2: around and you know someone that motivates you and it 344 00:16:51,960 --> 00:16:52,760 Speaker 2: inspires you. 345 00:16:53,040 --> 00:16:55,520 Speaker 1: Yeah, it's all about balance. And it took my my 346 00:16:55,560 --> 00:16:56,960 Speaker 1: sister a while, and I would have to tell her, 347 00:16:56,960 --> 00:16:58,800 Speaker 1: go get your nose down little things. It doesn't have 348 00:16:58,840 --> 00:17:00,680 Speaker 1: to be leave the baby all night. I think it's 349 00:17:00,800 --> 00:17:03,920 Speaker 1: just it'squestone. You know, it's only been fourteen months and 350 00:17:03,920 --> 00:17:06,840 Speaker 1: and little by little, you'll get your little the rhythm going. 351 00:17:07,000 --> 00:17:10,200 Speaker 1: But before, like you had your baby boy, he's so cute. 352 00:17:10,200 --> 00:17:13,080 Speaker 1: You guys, did you feel pressure from your parents or 353 00:17:13,080 --> 00:17:16,600 Speaker 1: from your family or your cousins like yeap, I did. 354 00:17:16,880 --> 00:17:18,080 Speaker 3: I felt a lot of pressure. 355 00:17:18,760 --> 00:17:20,520 Speaker 2: But then it got to a point where they wouldn't 356 00:17:20,520 --> 00:17:23,359 Speaker 2: even ask anymore. Like my mom would be like nope, 357 00:17:28,720 --> 00:17:30,639 Speaker 2: and I would just think, I really want my parents 358 00:17:30,640 --> 00:17:32,439 Speaker 2: around when I have children, you know. But then I 359 00:17:32,480 --> 00:17:34,639 Speaker 2: thought I would think, like no, well, maybe it's not 360 00:17:34,640 --> 00:17:37,000 Speaker 2: the right time. Although being in my mid thirties, I 361 00:17:37,040 --> 00:17:38,760 Speaker 2: still felt like I had plenty of. 362 00:17:38,760 --> 00:17:39,800 Speaker 3: Time, but I did. 363 00:17:39,840 --> 00:17:42,320 Speaker 2: I felt a lot of pressure since my twenties and 364 00:17:42,400 --> 00:17:45,040 Speaker 2: now all my girl cousins you go, the ones that 365 00:17:45,040 --> 00:17:47,000 Speaker 2: are hund your twenties, I'm like, no thing a nicost, 366 00:17:47,640 --> 00:17:52,119 Speaker 2: no thing Baigan because I know I have nothing in 367 00:17:52,160 --> 00:17:55,200 Speaker 2: my system. Obviously, there's like girls trips that I would 368 00:17:55,280 --> 00:17:58,879 Speaker 2: love to join. But I was able to do a 369 00:17:58,920 --> 00:18:02,560 Speaker 2: lot of crazy things before having my baby, and so 370 00:18:02,640 --> 00:18:04,520 Speaker 2: I don't regret anything. I think I did it a 371 00:18:04,680 --> 00:18:07,840 Speaker 2: perfect timing. I think I accomplished a lot in my career. 372 00:18:08,280 --> 00:18:11,920 Speaker 2: I was able to experience and enjoy a lot of things, 373 00:18:12,000 --> 00:18:14,720 Speaker 2: and I dated a lot, and I think it was 374 00:18:14,760 --> 00:18:17,880 Speaker 2: a perfect timing. My mid thirties were the perfect timing 375 00:18:18,080 --> 00:18:20,480 Speaker 2: for me, for some people with their late thirties, for 376 00:18:20,560 --> 00:18:23,000 Speaker 2: some people in their early forties. Now, I just think 377 00:18:23,080 --> 00:18:27,400 Speaker 2: someone in their twenties you should really discover and explore 378 00:18:27,680 --> 00:18:38,840 Speaker 2: and learn and make mistakes. Caque You're free. You can 379 00:18:38,880 --> 00:18:41,280 Speaker 2: do whatever you want and whatever you put you set 380 00:18:41,280 --> 00:18:45,359 Speaker 2: your mind to. I'm a really firm believer that we 381 00:18:45,520 --> 00:18:49,880 Speaker 2: are unstoppable, especially like Latina women. Man, we have everything 382 00:18:49,920 --> 00:18:53,920 Speaker 2: going for ourselves. Hell yeah, I mean power to everyone 383 00:18:54,000 --> 00:18:55,800 Speaker 2: that had kids in their twenties. 384 00:18:57,280 --> 00:19:01,160 Speaker 3: These fruit. Yes, the best is yet to come. 385 00:19:06,680 --> 00:19:09,760 Speaker 1: I mean, if that's your prerogative, more power to you, 386 00:19:09,760 --> 00:19:11,520 Speaker 1: you know, if you want to get married young. I 387 00:19:11,520 --> 00:19:14,320 Speaker 1: I just in my personal experience, I mean growing up 388 00:19:14,359 --> 00:19:18,240 Speaker 1: my grandparents, especially because I was the oldest grandchild. It 389 00:19:18,359 --> 00:19:24,800 Speaker 1: was Okaya, and I'm like, and they say I meet, 390 00:19:26,440 --> 00:19:28,960 Speaker 1: I means's Nieto's And I felt like a lot of pressure, 391 00:19:29,040 --> 00:19:31,640 Speaker 1: Like but I'm like, oh my god, Like I helped 392 00:19:31,640 --> 00:19:33,720 Speaker 1: my mom with the kids, and how am I gonna 393 00:19:33,800 --> 00:19:36,600 Speaker 1: juggle it? And I at a point I'm like, well, okay, 394 00:19:36,600 --> 00:19:41,359 Speaker 1: well maybe I should to please them, and personally, I'm 395 00:19:41,400 --> 00:19:43,159 Speaker 1: glad that I didn't. I mean, it would have been 396 00:19:43,160 --> 00:19:45,000 Speaker 1: a blessing regardless, but I'm glad that I that I 397 00:19:45,080 --> 00:19:47,520 Speaker 1: waited because the one that's gonna take care of the 398 00:19:47,560 --> 00:19:50,439 Speaker 1: baby is me, you know what I mean. Like, so 399 00:19:50,640 --> 00:19:53,600 Speaker 1: I was like, I'm glad, and I'm I'm okay with now, 400 00:19:54,080 --> 00:19:56,679 Speaker 1: because for a long time I felt guilty, I felt selfish. 401 00:19:57,119 --> 00:19:59,159 Speaker 1: Someone in my family once told me, well, that's what 402 00:19:59,160 --> 00:20:01,000 Speaker 1: you're here for, that's what you were made for, is 403 00:20:01,000 --> 00:20:04,560 Speaker 1: for you to reproduce. And I'm like, excuse me, that's 404 00:20:04,600 --> 00:20:06,520 Speaker 1: not all I am, you know what I mean. And 405 00:20:06,880 --> 00:20:09,760 Speaker 1: now I'm like, I'm good with my decision. I'm probably 406 00:20:09,760 --> 00:20:11,720 Speaker 1: gonna be that girl that's going to have her baby 407 00:20:11,760 --> 00:20:15,080 Speaker 1: in her late thirties her early forties, and I'm okay 408 00:20:15,119 --> 00:20:17,240 Speaker 1: with that. That's like, I feel like the new thing 409 00:20:17,280 --> 00:20:19,200 Speaker 1: and it needs to be a little bit more normalized 410 00:20:19,520 --> 00:20:23,440 Speaker 1: in our culture because I see, because of that pressure, 411 00:20:24,600 --> 00:20:29,600 Speaker 1: how many divorces there are, and because you marry the 412 00:20:29,640 --> 00:20:31,960 Speaker 1: wrong person to please your family. 413 00:20:31,960 --> 00:20:35,680 Speaker 2: How many people stay in relationships for their children. Oh 414 00:20:35,760 --> 00:20:38,240 Speaker 2: many people in the family that I know are miserable, 415 00:20:38,240 --> 00:20:44,199 Speaker 2: but they're like, you know, you know, and you just 416 00:20:44,280 --> 00:20:46,960 Speaker 2: see it in our culture so much, and and people 417 00:20:47,040 --> 00:20:50,359 Speaker 2: are miserable. For me, I'm in a good place where 418 00:20:50,440 --> 00:20:52,199 Speaker 2: now I can say, you know what, I'm able to 419 00:20:52,240 --> 00:20:55,080 Speaker 2: have my little casita for my child, pay for daycare. 420 00:20:55,520 --> 00:20:58,000 Speaker 2: I'm able to give them the time, you know, if 421 00:20:58,080 --> 00:21:00,800 Speaker 2: if I want to, I can travel with with my child. 422 00:21:00,840 --> 00:21:03,760 Speaker 2: There's no pressure from anyone anymore. It's kind of like, 423 00:21:04,440 --> 00:21:16,680 Speaker 2: look at simple and I graduated. 424 00:21:16,680 --> 00:21:18,080 Speaker 3: They hear the kel State Northridge. 425 00:21:18,160 --> 00:21:20,280 Speaker 2: I always felt like I can get whatever job I want, 426 00:21:20,280 --> 00:21:22,600 Speaker 2: I can go anywhere. We're bilingual too, man. 427 00:21:22,880 --> 00:21:24,240 Speaker 1: Yeah, it's a blessing. 428 00:21:24,359 --> 00:21:26,760 Speaker 2: We can do so many things. So many women with 429 00:21:26,840 --> 00:21:30,080 Speaker 2: their own businesses now, you know, so I feel like 430 00:21:30,119 --> 00:21:34,119 Speaker 2: it's important to establish that and then after that, you know, 431 00:21:34,240 --> 00:21:35,840 Speaker 2: we're okay to have kids after that. 432 00:21:36,200 --> 00:21:45,600 Speaker 1: Yeah, I agree. I'm gonna be honest, I don't know 433 00:21:46,440 --> 00:21:49,040 Speaker 1: right now in this moment, if I can conceive ever 434 00:21:49,280 --> 00:21:52,240 Speaker 1: because of my endometriosis. Because the last time I went 435 00:21:52,280 --> 00:21:54,679 Speaker 1: to see my fertility doctor, he said that I have 436 00:21:54,720 --> 00:22:00,360 Speaker 1: nos I'm not producing enough eggs. You know, I personally 437 00:22:00,560 --> 00:22:02,280 Speaker 1: don't let that affect me because you know, I believe 438 00:22:02,280 --> 00:22:06,840 Speaker 1: in God, and I'm like, look, it's going to happen. 439 00:22:06,920 --> 00:22:08,680 Speaker 1: If God wants me to get pregnant and have a child, 440 00:22:08,760 --> 00:22:10,840 Speaker 1: I'm going to have it no matter what doctors say. 441 00:22:11,480 --> 00:22:13,199 Speaker 1: I'm curious to see what you have to say in 442 00:22:13,240 --> 00:22:16,439 Speaker 1: regards to maybe women that can't conceive. Do you feel 443 00:22:16,480 --> 00:22:20,879 Speaker 1: like adoption is an option for me? There is? But 444 00:22:21,400 --> 00:22:23,359 Speaker 1: in our culture a lot of people are kind of like, 445 00:22:23,760 --> 00:22:25,840 Speaker 1: how are you going to adopt someone that's a child 446 00:22:25,840 --> 00:22:27,480 Speaker 1: that's not yours? What do you think about that? 447 00:22:27,880 --> 00:22:30,360 Speaker 2: I think that if you if people want to adopt, 448 00:22:30,440 --> 00:22:33,120 Speaker 2: go for it. There's so many children that need the love, 449 00:22:33,240 --> 00:22:35,679 Speaker 2: that need a family, that need a home, and so 450 00:22:36,080 --> 00:22:39,080 Speaker 2: people that adopt more power to them. And I'm also 451 00:22:39,200 --> 00:22:39,919 Speaker 2: all about. 452 00:22:39,680 --> 00:22:41,960 Speaker 3: Trying everything wound. 453 00:22:52,359 --> 00:22:54,320 Speaker 2: I would go visit that lately if I needed to, 454 00:22:54,400 --> 00:23:06,520 Speaker 2: you know, Juan, get them this, so I would try 455 00:23:07,000 --> 00:23:07,359 Speaker 2: why not? 456 00:23:07,600 --> 00:23:07,840 Speaker 1: Yeah? 457 00:23:07,960 --> 00:23:15,560 Speaker 2: And the Halloween oh. 458 00:23:15,440 --> 00:23:16,359 Speaker 1: Yes, oh yeah? 459 00:23:17,480 --> 00:23:21,800 Speaker 3: Because of you member like are you little baby? 460 00:23:21,880 --> 00:23:29,240 Speaker 1: You're like, I was like, let them let them come 461 00:23:29,240 --> 00:23:31,280 Speaker 1: in you and then just put your legs up for 462 00:23:31,320 --> 00:23:35,400 Speaker 1: a little while. And she did it, guys, and it works. 463 00:23:36,000 --> 00:23:38,600 Speaker 1: I had forgotten about that. I'm like that, I'm the 464 00:23:38,640 --> 00:23:46,400 Speaker 1: type of persons peanut butter and you'll do it. Hell yeah, 465 00:23:46,640 --> 00:23:49,560 Speaker 1: that I will go see somewhere in Mexico or find 466 00:23:49,560 --> 00:23:51,439 Speaker 1: one here in l A. I'm like, I'm gonna have 467 00:23:51,440 --> 00:23:53,200 Speaker 1: a baby. Because I will have a baby. The Lord 468 00:23:53,280 --> 00:23:56,000 Speaker 1: is gonna make it happen. I'm a light candle. Oh 469 00:23:56,359 --> 00:23:57,840 Speaker 1: so I agree with you. I agree with you. I 470 00:23:57,840 --> 00:23:59,400 Speaker 1: just wanted I was curious to see what you thought 471 00:23:59,440 --> 00:24:01,960 Speaker 1: about that. And now let's talk about age, because I 472 00:24:02,160 --> 00:24:03,720 Speaker 1: heard you right now You're like, I'm not gonna say, 473 00:24:03,720 --> 00:24:07,320 Speaker 1: hell I am. Do you feel that in our culture 474 00:24:07,600 --> 00:24:09,800 Speaker 1: that they've made us feel the older we get, the 475 00:24:09,920 --> 00:24:23,720 Speaker 1: less viable we are. No domauscochikasa Osa. You know. Nah, 476 00:24:23,880 --> 00:24:26,119 Speaker 1: they just have their own mind. They have an attitude 477 00:24:26,160 --> 00:24:28,240 Speaker 1: and this and that. And I was like, I looked 478 00:24:28,240 --> 00:24:31,240 Speaker 1: at him, I was like what, But it's true. When 479 00:24:31,240 --> 00:24:33,199 Speaker 1: you're thirty, you're like, I know who I am, I 480 00:24:33,240 --> 00:24:36,040 Speaker 1: know what I want. Like for your age, do you 481 00:24:36,080 --> 00:24:38,520 Speaker 1: feel like ship like, are you proud of it? 482 00:24:38,720 --> 00:24:41,119 Speaker 3: I'm very proud of it. I'm very proud of it. 483 00:24:44,000 --> 00:24:47,560 Speaker 2: In my twenties, again, because you're immature, because you're you're 484 00:24:47,600 --> 00:24:50,879 Speaker 2: more vulnerable for people to take advantage of you and. 485 00:24:52,720 --> 00:25:00,000 Speaker 3: When you hit thirty, this is but you're kind of 486 00:25:00,040 --> 00:25:01,280 Speaker 3: they're like, you know what, I'm not going to. 487 00:25:01,320 --> 00:25:03,560 Speaker 2: Live my life on magala or no, you're not going 488 00:25:03,640 --> 00:25:09,439 Speaker 2: to talk to me that way. Yes, erto L's experience, 489 00:25:12,840 --> 00:25:20,400 Speaker 2: this is no you know now is he? 490 00:25:17,160 --> 00:25:21,120 Speaker 1: I say? 491 00:25:26,320 --> 00:25:26,560 Speaker 3: Poor? 492 00:25:27,000 --> 00:25:30,520 Speaker 2: I puts on the way said we figure out a way. 493 00:25:30,800 --> 00:25:36,679 Speaker 3: We're like hustlers. We're like okay, yeah. 494 00:25:36,800 --> 00:25:39,600 Speaker 1: And see this is just my opinion. You guys. If 495 00:25:39,600 --> 00:25:41,880 Speaker 1: you're listening to us and you're in your early twenties 496 00:25:41,920 --> 00:25:44,760 Speaker 1: and you want to get married and do whatever you want, 497 00:25:45,000 --> 00:25:47,520 Speaker 1: my thing is just think about it. Who you're gonna 498 00:25:47,560 --> 00:25:51,280 Speaker 1: marry and why isa do it? You know what I 499 00:25:51,280 --> 00:25:55,280 Speaker 1: mean for a man or a woman. But that's why 500 00:25:55,320 --> 00:25:59,840 Speaker 1: I feel men like younger women bores Razon and this 501 00:26:00,760 --> 00:26:02,680 Speaker 1: Once i'd be a little bit like embarrassed, like, oh 502 00:26:02,800 --> 00:26:05,760 Speaker 1: my age. Now I'm like fuck that, I'm thirty seven. 503 00:26:05,880 --> 00:26:08,840 Speaker 1: I'm very proud of what I've accomplished. I'm very proud 504 00:26:08,880 --> 00:26:11,399 Speaker 1: of who I am. I feel better than ever in 505 00:26:11,440 --> 00:26:14,080 Speaker 1: my twenties. I thought I was popping. Now I'm like, 506 00:26:14,119 --> 00:26:16,800 Speaker 1: I'm really popping in my pussy's popping too, and it's beautiful. 507 00:26:18,280 --> 00:26:20,200 Speaker 1: And I don't give it shit. I'm thirty seven, but 508 00:26:20,280 --> 00:26:23,119 Speaker 1: my vagina's like fucking twenty. I don't know it. Just 509 00:26:23,320 --> 00:26:25,880 Speaker 1: in your thirties is something else you guys, like for 510 00:26:25,960 --> 00:26:28,040 Speaker 1: so long you were taught of like, oh my god, 511 00:26:28,080 --> 00:26:30,360 Speaker 1: the older you get, you're not gonna be as desirable 512 00:26:30,800 --> 00:26:32,560 Speaker 1: and this and that, and you have to be young 513 00:26:32,600 --> 00:26:35,879 Speaker 1: and get married young, because that all that is just 514 00:26:35,920 --> 00:26:37,439 Speaker 1: it's out of the window. And I think I have 515 00:26:37,520 --> 00:26:40,200 Speaker 1: my mom to think for that, because the older she got, 516 00:26:40,280 --> 00:26:41,879 Speaker 1: she would always say, like in her forties, she's like, 517 00:26:42,040 --> 00:26:44,000 Speaker 1: I feel better than ever in my forties, Like she 518 00:26:45,040 --> 00:26:50,119 Speaker 1: made me appreciate every year that I matured. Now I 519 00:26:50,119 --> 00:26:52,199 Speaker 1: see it that way. I'm maturing, you know what I mean. 520 00:26:52,200 --> 00:26:55,200 Speaker 1: I'm growing, I'm evolving. And I think that's another thing 521 00:26:55,240 --> 00:26:57,760 Speaker 1: that once we have our panel show, Evelyn, that we've 522 00:26:57,760 --> 00:27:00,399 Speaker 1: been wanting to do for years, we got to talk about, 523 00:27:00,560 --> 00:27:08,080 Speaker 1: you know, embracing our age. 524 00:27:08,320 --> 00:27:16,720 Speaker 2: You know, they camas not forces, but to be the 525 00:27:16,800 --> 00:27:19,720 Speaker 2: example because they can still change too, and they can 526 00:27:19,800 --> 00:27:23,080 Speaker 2: still feel empowered too, and they can still walk away 527 00:27:23,119 --> 00:27:26,520 Speaker 2: from miserable marriages, and they can still you know, do 528 00:27:26,640 --> 00:27:29,480 Speaker 2: surgery if they want to, and enhance areas that they 529 00:27:29,520 --> 00:27:32,200 Speaker 2: want to even with my mom, like I can try 530 00:27:32,200 --> 00:27:36,080 Speaker 2: different things like oh am Mira t compresta you or 531 00:27:36,160 --> 00:27:40,560 Speaker 2: like Mamsakomerki, let's try this because I know our generation 532 00:27:41,119 --> 00:27:43,439 Speaker 2: has a lot on our plate, because we are the 533 00:27:43,480 --> 00:27:46,920 Speaker 2: game changers for so many things, including reality of having 534 00:27:46,960 --> 00:27:49,760 Speaker 2: kids young. You know, we're not doing that now and 535 00:27:49,800 --> 00:27:52,119 Speaker 2: it's for the best. We have to let go of 536 00:27:53,080 --> 00:27:57,000 Speaker 2: so many things we've been carrying through our ancestors. 537 00:27:57,320 --> 00:28:00,199 Speaker 1: Absolutely, yeah, I always talk about it, like, you know, 538 00:28:00,240 --> 00:28:03,639 Speaker 1: breaking generational curses. You know, it's okay to be different 539 00:28:03,720 --> 00:28:06,200 Speaker 1: from the generation before us, you know what I mean, 540 00:28:06,320 --> 00:28:08,199 Speaker 1: Like I don't have to be I don't want to 541 00:28:08,240 --> 00:28:11,800 Speaker 1: be exactly like them. I want to be different. I 542 00:28:11,880 --> 00:28:14,640 Speaker 1: want to level up and hopefully the generation to come, 543 00:28:14,880 --> 00:28:17,560 Speaker 1: I want to teach them, inspire them. This is why 544 00:28:17,560 --> 00:28:19,520 Speaker 1: I was like this perfect if I bring Evelyn, because 545 00:28:19,640 --> 00:28:22,360 Speaker 1: we get each other. I was like, you know, I'm 546 00:28:22,400 --> 00:28:24,560 Speaker 1: done with feeling like, oh my god, I'm not a 547 00:28:24,560 --> 00:28:28,400 Speaker 1: mom yet. Shit, some the clock is ticking sometaka. And 548 00:28:28,440 --> 00:28:30,000 Speaker 1: you know, for the women that are listening to me, 549 00:28:30,160 --> 00:28:32,320 Speaker 1: because you are you know, you have your career, you're 550 00:28:32,320 --> 00:28:35,760 Speaker 1: a wife, motherhood, like, can you talk to us about 551 00:28:35,760 --> 00:28:38,360 Speaker 1: the realness of how difficult that is. Do you have 552 00:28:38,480 --> 00:28:41,560 Speaker 1: days where you're like shit? Of course, not that you 553 00:28:41,600 --> 00:28:43,520 Speaker 1: know you regret it, of course. Now that's not what 554 00:28:43,560 --> 00:28:45,440 Speaker 1: I mean, because you love your son. I know how 555 00:28:45,520 --> 00:28:46,840 Speaker 1: much you love your son, how much time you want 556 00:28:46,840 --> 00:28:48,760 Speaker 1: to spend with him, But talk to us a little 557 00:28:48,760 --> 00:28:49,440 Speaker 1: bit more about that. 558 00:28:49,920 --> 00:28:53,760 Speaker 2: It's really really hard, especially when you were really good 559 00:28:53,840 --> 00:28:56,440 Speaker 2: at something and then all of a sudden. So I 560 00:28:56,480 --> 00:28:58,680 Speaker 2: feel like I'm either going to be really good at 561 00:28:58,720 --> 00:29:02,440 Speaker 2: my job and kind of uh lack in motherhood, or 562 00:29:02,480 --> 00:29:06,040 Speaker 2: I'm gonna be mother and slack off at my job. 563 00:29:06,520 --> 00:29:09,680 Speaker 2: So rather right now that the baby is still young, 564 00:29:09,880 --> 00:29:13,840 Speaker 2: I honestly my priority is being a great mother. So 565 00:29:13,920 --> 00:29:15,960 Speaker 2: there's a lot of things, a lot of opportunities that 566 00:29:16,000 --> 00:29:17,560 Speaker 2: I'm missing out on, I feel. 567 00:29:17,640 --> 00:29:19,360 Speaker 1: But I'm that's your priority. 568 00:29:19,720 --> 00:29:22,760 Speaker 2: Yes, I want my baby to know that I'm around, 569 00:29:22,880 --> 00:29:24,360 Speaker 2: that I love him, and I don't want him to 570 00:29:24,360 --> 00:29:26,880 Speaker 2: grow up saying yeah, you gave me everything, but you 571 00:29:26,920 --> 00:29:30,080 Speaker 2: were never around. Obviously, we need to work, you know, 572 00:29:30,240 --> 00:29:33,400 Speaker 2: to provide and and and nowadays you really do need 573 00:29:33,440 --> 00:29:36,320 Speaker 2: two incomes to survive, especially in the state of California 574 00:29:36,360 --> 00:29:38,240 Speaker 2: for a mortgage and bills and everything. 575 00:29:38,720 --> 00:29:40,800 Speaker 3: It's really hard when it comes down to balancing. 576 00:29:40,840 --> 00:29:43,719 Speaker 2: And then talking about it how hard it is is 577 00:29:43,880 --> 00:29:47,760 Speaker 2: also like a big thing because then people start saying, 578 00:29:48,080 --> 00:30:02,320 Speaker 2: was yo to Sinko, was not? So you're like, okay, 579 00:30:02,400 --> 00:30:04,840 Speaker 2: I have one and I am complaining. 580 00:30:04,960 --> 00:30:05,880 Speaker 3: Maybe I'll just shut up. 581 00:30:05,880 --> 00:30:07,720 Speaker 2: Maybe I won't say how hard it is, and I'll cry, 582 00:30:08,080 --> 00:30:09,640 Speaker 2: you know, in the shower by myself. 583 00:30:10,240 --> 00:30:15,400 Speaker 1: Yeah. 584 00:30:16,040 --> 00:30:21,400 Speaker 2: Yeah, And I feel guilty too, because I know she 585 00:30:21,440 --> 00:30:23,120 Speaker 2: wants to help me. But at the same time, I 586 00:30:23,160 --> 00:30:25,000 Speaker 2: want her to have her freedom, and I want her 587 00:30:25,480 --> 00:30:27,760 Speaker 2: to be, you know, with my dad or or to 588 00:30:27,920 --> 00:30:30,400 Speaker 2: do things, you know, not just stay home for those 589 00:30:30,440 --> 00:30:32,760 Speaker 2: hours and I'm working, But I'm very grateful because some 590 00:30:32,800 --> 00:30:41,880 Speaker 2: people don't have family need to help them out and 591 00:30:41,920 --> 00:30:46,000 Speaker 2: mama or or no, I don't want to stay here 592 00:30:46,040 --> 00:30:49,000 Speaker 2: for whatever reason. Then I think I'm gonna feel better 593 00:30:49,160 --> 00:30:52,120 Speaker 2: in just leaving him in daycare or in you know, 594 00:31:04,400 --> 00:31:10,680 Speaker 2: and you kill maybe I should leave work for a 595 00:31:10,680 --> 00:31:12,320 Speaker 2: while and just take care of the baby. 596 00:31:12,360 --> 00:31:15,480 Speaker 1: But then you're like, wait, no, yeah, I can imagine, 597 00:31:15,520 --> 00:31:17,600 Speaker 1: and and for sure, when I have my kids, I'm 598 00:31:17,600 --> 00:31:19,560 Speaker 1: gonna need you to help me through through that and 599 00:31:19,600 --> 00:31:20,479 Speaker 1: help me balance. 600 00:31:20,680 --> 00:31:23,960 Speaker 2: You're a great thea already you're You're wonderful with kids. 601 00:31:24,240 --> 00:31:25,280 Speaker 1: I love kids. 602 00:31:25,440 --> 00:31:27,520 Speaker 2: There's no doubt in my mind You're gonna be like 603 00:31:27,600 --> 00:31:32,280 Speaker 2: an incredible, incredible mother. Now the challenge for you, I think, 604 00:31:32,360 --> 00:31:35,320 Speaker 2: is gonna be balancing work of the projects that you have, 605 00:31:35,560 --> 00:31:38,920 Speaker 2: everything that that you have going on. At first, before 606 00:31:39,000 --> 00:31:41,000 Speaker 2: you're pregnant or when you're thinking of having kids, you're like, 607 00:31:41,000 --> 00:31:42,960 Speaker 2: oh no, I'm going to hire someone to help me, 608 00:31:43,120 --> 00:31:45,400 Speaker 2: and I'm still gonna three months later, I'm gonna be 609 00:31:45,400 --> 00:31:46,000 Speaker 2: back to work. 610 00:31:46,160 --> 00:31:47,200 Speaker 3: And then three months later. 611 00:31:47,320 --> 00:31:50,160 Speaker 1: That's what you think. Huh yeah, you get so attached. 612 00:31:50,280 --> 00:31:52,000 Speaker 1: I mean, I already know the type of mom I'm 613 00:31:52,000 --> 00:31:53,560 Speaker 1: gonna be, which is why I'm like, let me wait 614 00:31:53,600 --> 00:31:55,320 Speaker 1: a little bit, because I'm gonna be straight up. I 615 00:31:55,320 --> 00:31:56,840 Speaker 1: want to be a little selfish right now because I 616 00:31:56,840 --> 00:31:59,840 Speaker 1: help raise my siblings. So you'll see ano I guess it. 617 00:32:00,120 --> 00:32:04,440 Speaker 1: You know, seos take them to school and this and 618 00:32:04,480 --> 00:32:06,640 Speaker 1: that and the homework, and it's just I feel like 619 00:32:06,680 --> 00:32:09,280 Speaker 1: I've been through it all. O. Yo is different. They 620 00:32:09,280 --> 00:32:14,120 Speaker 1: want to I just know. Do you have advice for 621 00:32:14,520 --> 00:32:16,800 Speaker 1: new moms out there trying to find that balance, anything 622 00:32:16,800 --> 00:32:18,640 Speaker 1: that you can tell them, talk. 623 00:32:18,480 --> 00:32:21,920 Speaker 2: About your feelings, don't hold anything in. Now I'm even 624 00:32:21,960 --> 00:32:24,800 Speaker 2: more connected to like friends of mine that were moms 625 00:32:24,800 --> 00:32:29,000 Speaker 2: that before I wouldn't be like, I know, but now 626 00:32:29,040 --> 00:32:31,200 Speaker 2: I get it. You know, sometimes you feel like you're 627 00:32:31,200 --> 00:32:34,400 Speaker 2: all alone in reality, so many people are going through it, 628 00:32:34,560 --> 00:32:36,600 Speaker 2: and you feel better when you hear how they're coping 629 00:32:36,640 --> 00:32:40,120 Speaker 2: with situations, and you find solutions to certain things by 630 00:32:40,200 --> 00:32:44,000 Speaker 2: hearing other people's experiences. And there's you're never really prepared 631 00:32:44,040 --> 00:32:44,720 Speaker 2: for motherhood. 632 00:32:44,960 --> 00:32:48,720 Speaker 3: Okay, it's see postpartum. You know it's real. 633 00:33:00,280 --> 00:33:02,960 Speaker 2: And to like I said in the beginning, make sure 634 00:33:03,040 --> 00:33:06,960 Speaker 2: you're having children with the right person that is gonna 635 00:33:07,400 --> 00:33:10,080 Speaker 2: treat you right, that you guys have the same values 636 00:33:10,400 --> 00:33:25,840 Speaker 2: and just you know, live life and love it. 637 00:33:19,360 --> 00:33:21,280 Speaker 3: With aso mm hmm. 638 00:33:21,680 --> 00:33:24,280 Speaker 1: Evelyn, thank you, thank you for being on the podcast. 639 00:33:24,360 --> 00:33:27,080 Speaker 1: Thank you for opening up your heart, for being just 640 00:33:27,160 --> 00:33:30,560 Speaker 1: open about things that we go through as Latina women. 641 00:33:30,840 --> 00:33:33,400 Speaker 1: And you guys please follow her on social media. Plug 642 00:33:33,440 --> 00:33:35,400 Speaker 1: it in where can they hear you on the radio? 643 00:33:35,720 --> 00:33:38,720 Speaker 1: Your social media so that people can stay current with you. 644 00:33:39,040 --> 00:33:42,120 Speaker 2: Elyicaios, that's how you find me and that's where you 645 00:33:42,120 --> 00:33:44,760 Speaker 2: guys will see what I'm doing, and you know what 646 00:33:44,800 --> 00:33:48,560 Speaker 2: I'm working on, and I'm gonna embrace the process, and 647 00:33:48,640 --> 00:33:51,360 Speaker 2: I think it's time to also take risks. Before I 648 00:33:51,400 --> 00:33:58,120 Speaker 2: was in my comfort zone. Now I'm like Okayna. 649 00:33:59,280 --> 00:34:02,600 Speaker 3: With that. Pasio Amibia, Mama. 650 00:34:03,520 --> 00:34:06,000 Speaker 1: I love that, Evelyn. I love I cannot wait to 651 00:34:06,080 --> 00:34:08,120 Speaker 1: see what you have brewing and the ideas that you 652 00:34:08,160 --> 00:34:10,759 Speaker 1: have because I know we've talked about a few, but 653 00:34:10,800 --> 00:34:12,360 Speaker 1: I can't wait to see what the future holds for 654 00:34:12,400 --> 00:34:15,320 Speaker 1: you and for all of my regular listeners. You already 655 00:34:15,320 --> 00:34:21,640 Speaker 1: know what time it is. It's time for our motivational quote. 656 00:34:23,640 --> 00:34:27,239 Speaker 1: And this is a quote. This is the first time 657 00:34:27,239 --> 00:34:35,560 Speaker 1: that we have a Spanish quote. Alisa Clavel Piso lays 658 00:34:36,440 --> 00:34:45,040 Speaker 1: you know, guy sip Ailisba. Thank you guys so much, Evelyn, 659 00:34:45,200 --> 00:34:47,279 Speaker 1: I love you. Thank you so much, my listeners. I 660 00:34:47,320 --> 00:34:49,839 Speaker 1: love you guys with all my heart. 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