Speaker 1: Second date. This happens every so often, but sometimes a
Speaker 1: listener will do a second date update with us that
Speaker 1: doesn't end with a yes. But the thing is they're
Speaker 1: so impressed by us, specifically me and my efforts to
Speaker 1: jump start their love lives, that they're willing to call
Speaker 1: back and give it another go. You know, you don't
Speaker 1: have to do mouth to mouth anymore with CPR, but
Speaker 1: I know that. Yeah, that's why Justin has reached out
Speaker 1: to us once again. He was on a few months back,
Speaker 1: and last time the lady he went out with was
Speaker 1: not impressed because she showed up an hour late to dinner,
Speaker 1: but said Justin wasn't mad enough to be mad about
Speaker 1: it and cancel what I think. I remember that it
Speaker 1: was really weird and that call definitely crashed and burned,
Speaker 1: but we promised to try and do better for Justin
Speaker 1: this time. So Justin, welcome back. Hey, thank you guys
Speaker 1: for having me. Oh man, how long did you wait
Speaker 1: for your date to show up this time? Justin? Not?
Speaker 1: She actually came right on time this time, test and
Speaker 1: you failed it to get up and leave and make
Speaker 1: her way. Yeah, I think that show's improvement. And I
Speaker 1: heard that you've been actually doing a little bit of
Speaker 1: research since the last time you were on with us. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I feel like the learning process never really ends. I'm
Speaker 1: always trying to better myself. You know, I heard about
Speaker 1: this book called Attached. Have you guys, are you familiar
Speaker 1: with it Attached? I don't. Yeah, reading is not on
Speaker 1: the top of the list of hobbies for this group,
Speaker 1: so but tell us about it. What is attached about?
Speaker 1: So this book basically talked about how most people come
Speaker 1: into three different psychological categories while dating. Okay to cure
Speaker 1: where you can communicate openly and like I could be like, hey,
Speaker 1: I know you're busy, but I just kind of get
Speaker 1: nervous when you don't text back. Could you text me?
Speaker 1: Just let me know, even if it's just like a
Speaker 1: little thumbs up or something. Oh, it's like the type
Speaker 1: of communicator you are exactly in three groups, they're secure. Yeah.
Speaker 1: The other two categories are anxious and avoidant. Anxious people
Speaker 1: are like the super needy ones where it's just like, no,
Speaker 1: you gotta text me, and if you don't hear a
Speaker 1: text back, you're texting them like twenty times, like where
Speaker 1: are you? Where are you registered? For you? I don't
Speaker 1: know if I'm necessarily anxious in that sense, but in
Speaker 1: real life I'm anxious a lot. Yeah, and then what's
Speaker 1: the other one? Again? The last one is avoidant, where
Speaker 1: like if things start getting real, they'll push apart a
Speaker 1: little bit, like they want distance. They don't want to
Speaker 1: be smothered or anything. Okay, can you be more than one?
Speaker 1: Like I feel like I'm the first two combined. You
Speaker 1: have to read the book and find out. I'm just
Speaker 1: gonna wait for the movie to come out. Sounds really
Speaker 1: like a fun movie. Just yea if they can to
Speaker 1: make it really short because my attentions fan isn't great. Okay,
Speaker 1: So which which one are you? Justin? So I'm secure
Speaker 1: with traits of anxious and so you can be more
Speaker 1: than one? Okay? Okay, So how did that change dating?
Speaker 1: I'm just really open and communicative about what I'm expecting,
Speaker 1: how I feel. No more games of like like you know,
Speaker 1: with the girl who was late, I could just be like,
Speaker 1: hey you're late, that made me feel this way? What's
Speaker 1: going on? You know? Just talk about it? So we
Speaker 1: did we go on a date or we just hearing
Speaker 1: about how your love life has improved, which is for
Speaker 1: everybody in the room or Justin wrote this book and
Speaker 1: he's trying to sell exactly, So how does all this
Speaker 1: relate to your new and improved dating life? So I
Speaker 1: put this on my dating profile where I said secure
Speaker 1: attachment styles only, and it didn't really get me any clicks. Yeah,
Speaker 1: but then I put that smiley emoji with like the
Speaker 1: sweat drop coming on the forehead, you know, and that
Speaker 1: got so who matched with your secure people only demand?
Speaker 1: With this wonderful woman named Kelly. She's an interior designer,
Speaker 1: absolutely very very secure, okay, and I kind of wanted
Speaker 1: to have her see what I did. Um. I don't
Speaker 1: even know if he spoke about this last time. I'm
Speaker 1: a professional rapper, Like at least part time, Wow did
Speaker 1: not come up because, like you know, unless you're super
Speaker 1: duper famous, people just presume your craps. Oh, Jack, Jack,
Speaker 1: you invited Callie to watch you wrap somewhere, Yeah, to
Speaker 1: a show that I was doing, and we hung out
Speaker 1: before we got to know each other, and then it
Speaker 1: was time for me to go on stage. And I
Speaker 1: had a couple of songs that night, so I did those.
Speaker 1: The crowd was really into it. Like I was a
Speaker 1: little nervous you know, sometimes the crowd might not be
Speaker 1: into it. But yeah, but when I got off stage,
Speaker 1: she said it was awesome. People were coming up to me,
Speaker 1: just like taking photos and things that that start, which
Speaker 1: is always fun. But I kind of worried, like maybe
Speaker 1: my lyrics were a little bit too vulgar. But that's
Speaker 1: kind of also like the nature of the beast of
Speaker 1: being an artist to boy, I mean, you're a rap artist,
Speaker 1: but unless you're Will Smith, are you. Yeah, she did
Speaker 1: say it was awesome, but I remember, like there's a
Speaker 1: point where I made eye contact with her while I
Speaker 1: was wrapping, and I noticed her eyes were kind of big,
Speaker 1: where she like I don't know if she thought this,
Speaker 1: but my read was like she's like, what the hell
Speaker 1: did he just say? Boy? Can you give a subject
Speaker 1: material like you to know anything? Some of it gets political,
Speaker 1: some of it is just, you know, like oka democrats
Speaker 1: in the building, Well, okay, got your openers for you.
Speaker 1: The next year, I wanted to stay a little longer
Speaker 1: and hang out more, but like, while the people were
Speaker 1: taking photos, she was just like, I gotta go. It
Speaker 1: was so great being you. And then yeah, I had
Speaker 1: a tough time getting another date, and I really really
Speaker 1: did like her, you know, way more than the girl
Speaker 1: who made me wait an hour. Yeah, by this time,
Speaker 1: you kind of made her way. Yeah, same thing. Well,
Speaker 1: we'll see what Callie has to say, because we're gonna
Speaker 1: drop some beats right here just for you, and then
Speaker 1: we're gonna come back and get your second date update
Speaker 1: right after this. All right, sounds great, All right, hold
Speaker 1: on the second. He's smart, he's sexy, and he's totally secure.
Speaker 1: I'm talking about our listener, Justin, who's back doing a
Speaker 1: second date update for the second time on our show
Speaker 1: because we failed him the first go right, Yeah, but
Speaker 1: this time Justin went out with a woman named Callie,
Speaker 1: who he described as also secure and right or whatever
Speaker 1: it is. It's a good thing, yeah, okay, and she
Speaker 1: got to see him in his elements, spitting mad bars
Speaker 1: at a rap show. Weird part was while he was
Speaker 1: taking photos with fans after his performance, Callie suddenly ducked
Speaker 1: out said she had to go. Yeah, and we don't
Speaker 1: know why. I'm sure Brooke has some theories for why.
Speaker 1: I don't know. Maybe she just was sick of Bean.
Speaker 1: I mean, it's a long time to go to a
Speaker 1: rap show and then to sit and all fans coming up. Yeah,
Speaker 1: your date like being on stage and not with you.
Speaker 1: You said you're by yourself, and then you're by yourself
Speaker 1: more compared. You're like literally like as a comedy and
Speaker 1: Greed and your date is just watching. Yeah, it's just boring. Like, yeah,
Speaker 1: I didn't get that at all. I mean I didn't
Speaker 1: want to be route to the people who come up.
Speaker 1: You know, I'm not like a Kanye West or anything.
Speaker 1: They came to the show, I'm going to take a
Speaker 1: second to say hello back. No, we're not saying that
Speaker 1: that's bad. It's just that like on a first date,
Speaker 1: that may be. You know, it kind of just sucks
Speaker 1: from her perspective, you know, but everyone else gets time
Speaker 1: with you, but her real stars don't take photos with
Speaker 1: their fans because they past that. Yeah, that's true. And
Speaker 1: maybe it came across as kind of needy. He said
Speaker 1: he was secure, but maybe this whole time reading, maybe yeah,
Speaker 1: what's the other one's anxious? I have Tray's anxiousness. I
Speaker 1: said that maybe the anxiousness turned her off. But we're
Speaker 1: going to call her and find out. Let's dial Cally's
Speaker 1: number and see what she has to say. Right, all
Speaker 1: right here we go. Hello, Hey is this CALLI? This
Speaker 1: is her secure account. No, excuse me. My name is Jeff.
Speaker 1: I heard that you were secure. Sorry, my name is
Speaker 1: Jeff from the radio show Broken Jeffrey in the Morning.
Speaker 1: Which radio show? I don't we have a podcast too.
Speaker 1: Maybe you listen to that. I don't think i've heard
Speaker 1: of you guys. Okay, right, so what's this about. Well,
Speaker 1: we do a segment on this show called Second Date Update,
Speaker 1: and we're trying to help one of our listeners get
Speaker 1: a hold of you because you went out with him
Speaker 1: the other night and now you're avoiding him. His name's Justin. Oh, well,
Speaker 1: you guys went to a rap show. Yeah, I remember him?
Speaker 1: How much do you guys know? Well, we know that
Speaker 1: he is an up and coming rap star and he
Speaker 1: took you to his show. But he said you left
Speaker 1: while they were doing a meet and greet. Yeah I
Speaker 1: did so. I didn't really enjoy him very much. Oh,
Speaker 1: oh like the show. You didn't enjoy her? No, the
Speaker 1: show is fine. He's actually a really talented rapper. Like,
Speaker 1: I didn't mind the show at all. I thought he
Speaker 1: was pretty good. You liked him on stage, but you
Speaker 1: didn't like him on his on stage persona. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: he lost me. I mean before the rap, Like you
Speaker 1: were talking before the show. Oh, he just kept going
Speaker 1: on about the book, the attachment theory book. Was it
Speaker 1: too much for you? He just wouldn't let it go,
Speaker 1: Like and on a first date, the first time I'm
Speaker 1: ever talking to him, he's like psychoanalyzing me and like, yeah,
Speaker 1: we're trying to figure about personality smatch And I'm like,
Speaker 1: I could find out if I click with you through
Speaker 1: just having a conversation about what we like to do, Like,
Speaker 1: I mean, it's cool to click with someone in their values,
Speaker 1: but you don't normally figure that out on date one,
Speaker 1: and like just based on this one theory, Like it
Speaker 1: was boring to just talk about that and only that.
Speaker 1: It's like people who won't date like other horoscope signs. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: and you didn't feel like, I mean you were interested.
Speaker 1: You knew from the beginning that you weren't going to
Speaker 1: give him another shot. Well, I knew after about thirty
Speaker 1: minutes of him talking about this over and over that
Speaker 1: I was bored. Went on for thirty minutes of that
Speaker 1: attachment theory. We talked to him for like five minutes
Speaker 1: about it, and it felt like a lot thirty minutes.
Speaker 1: At least, he's passionate about it. Passion is a good
Speaker 1: quality to have about things. But he wouldn't let it go.
Speaker 1: And it was like a tedious breakdown in the book,
Speaker 1: like all the categories who they match with, and you know,
Speaker 1: deciding that Okay, I'm secure and he's secure. I was like, okay,
Speaker 1: but only one of us is boring. Yeah, that really hurts.
Speaker 1: Gott a hurt to hear. Or I don't know, maybe
Speaker 1: Justin's secure enough to take it in stride, because cal
Speaker 1: I needed to tell you he's on the other line
Speaker 1: listening right now and wants to talk to you. Yes,
Speaker 1: you had him on the whole time. Yeah he did.
Speaker 1: Justin there, Hey Kelly, here, how secure he sounds. You
Speaker 1: could be secure. I didn't. I didn't want to be
Speaker 1: mean to you. I just you need to know that
Speaker 1: this strategy doesn't work, like women aren't into that. It's
Speaker 1: not a strategy. I just really liked the book I read,
Speaker 1: and I thought you were enjoying the conversation, like the
Speaker 1: vibe that I was getting. You know, I'm sorry I
Speaker 1: misread the situation. I didn't know. Maybe it was because
Speaker 1: I was pre show Jitters or something and I missed
Speaker 1: the signs. But I don't think you were reading that
Speaker 1: situation right at all. And it's just not a good tragy,
Speaker 1: Like it's date one. We're supposed to just talk about,
Speaker 1: you know, the trivial things, likes and dislikes. What pizza
Speaker 1: toppings do you eat? When Netflix shows you're currently binge watching, Like, well,
Speaker 1: he's talking about his favorite book. You know, it's not
Speaker 1: fifty Shades of Gray, but at least it's like adjacent.
Speaker 1: I'm sorry, I'm not basic. I don't want to go
Speaker 1: and talk about like pizza toppings, Like do you know
Speaker 1: how many girls I go out with? Like I'm trying
Speaker 1: to find somebody who's special. Hey, some people can talk
Speaker 1: about pizza toppings for three minutes very much. Just that
Speaker 1: just came off a little hot, Yeah, came off confidence.
Speaker 1: The first nates get so repetitive. I thought we connected
Speaker 1: on something deefair, you know, but it sounds like you
Speaker 1: weren't listening to her. It sounds like you were just
Speaker 1: like monologuing about a book that you read. I thought
Speaker 1: she was into it, And I apologize. I didn't mean
Speaker 1: to be boring. Okay, I gotta be word for you
Speaker 1: and it's not boring. Oh, I'm a dope rapper. I'm
Speaker 1: one of the best to ever do it. Okay, Okay,
Speaker 1: I'll remember you're taking pictures of fans, and that's Jeffrey proved. Yeah,
Speaker 1: you don't think Kanye taking picture of anybody. Kellie. Let's
Speaker 1: just pretend that you didn't hear him call you the
Speaker 1: other b work. Can you see how it was maybe
Speaker 1: a little bit your fault because you were encouraging him.
Speaker 1: He said that she seemed interested. Yeah, that can definitely
Speaker 1: not be blamed on me, just because I didn't step
Speaker 1: in and say, hey, stop talking about this now, you're
Speaker 1: boring me, Like that would have been very helpful clue
Speaker 1: to him that he needs to change the subject. And
Speaker 1: he was really secure. You would have been fine with it.
Speaker 1: I just think he's not the best at reading people,
Speaker 1: because it was very clear that I was bored. And
Speaker 1: you know when you say to somebody like, oh cool,
Speaker 1: like four times in a row, yeah, you're not really there. Luckily,
Speaker 1: I'm very good at reading people and reading situations, and
Speaker 1: I'm sensing a vibe right here. I am I'm feeling
Speaker 1: the love connection happening, and that's why I'd like to
Speaker 1: offer to send Callie out on another date with Justin.
Speaker 1: We'll pay for it. I'm going to stop you right there.
Speaker 1: I thought this girl was secure. I'm getting so much
Speaker 1: avoidant and anxious vibes from her. I don't think I'm
Speaker 1: ready for a second day. You know, I'm still sensing
Speaker 1: some vibes going on. I don't want to not only
Speaker 1: there's something we agree on. Okay, yeah, I not only
Speaker 1: misread that conversation, I misread her entire profile and who
Speaker 1: she was as a human being. So yeah, hard pass.
Speaker 1: So I'm getting a sense this is more of just
Speaker 1: a hook up one night thing. Oh okay, she's not
Speaker 1: going to stay the night. She's just going to be
Speaker 1: in and out before the sun even comes up. Path
Speaker 1: wasn't the name of his album. That's a good album
Speaker 1: single heart Beat. I'm just trying really hard because I
Speaker 1: don't want to go oh for two with Justin here. Listen,
Speaker 1: listen you guys. This is not your fault. I mean,
Speaker 1: I love you, guys. I love the show. I love
Speaker 1: that you like are taking the time to help me.
Speaker 1: You're oh for one betting five hundred. It's pretty good. Hey,
Speaker 1: I'm calling it fifty fifty. We have definitely never gotten
Speaker 1: on basic. It's in victory in my book. Congratulations Justin.
Speaker 1: I just got hit by a pitch Jeffrey in the morning.