1 00:00:00,080 --> 00:00:05,000 Speaker 1: Do you like every single one of your co workers 2 00:00:05,400 --> 00:00:09,600 Speaker 1: unless you're unless you're self employed and possess a high 3 00:00:09,720 --> 00:00:13,119 Speaker 1: level of self esteem, You probably said no. But Alyssa 4 00:00:13,200 --> 00:00:15,560 Speaker 1: is going viral of the habits that make you instantly 5 00:00:15,680 --> 00:00:19,800 Speaker 1: unlikable at work? And what is the number one habit 6 00:00:19,840 --> 00:00:22,000 Speaker 1: that you can have that will make you instantly unlikable 7 00:00:22,040 --> 00:00:24,160 Speaker 1: at work? Will tell you in a second, But let's 8 00:00:24,160 --> 00:00:25,960 Speaker 1: go over some of the other habits that make you 9 00:00:26,040 --> 00:00:31,040 Speaker 1: instantly unlikable to all your co workers. It says, responding 10 00:00:31,040 --> 00:00:38,239 Speaker 1: with immediate skepticism or critique. I tend to do that, 11 00:00:39,040 --> 00:00:40,720 Speaker 1: but it's only but it's it's not out of like 12 00:00:40,760 --> 00:00:44,400 Speaker 1: a place of like wanting to be a jerk or whatever. 13 00:00:44,800 --> 00:00:46,839 Speaker 1: It's just that, like when it comes to work, I'm 14 00:00:46,920 --> 00:00:50,120 Speaker 1: very just like Okay, next thing, next thing, next thing, right, 15 00:00:50,360 --> 00:00:52,320 Speaker 1: And I don't expect people to praise me for anything, 16 00:00:52,360 --> 00:00:55,320 Speaker 1: Like it doesn't do anything for me, Like when I 17 00:00:55,360 --> 00:00:57,040 Speaker 1: do phone pranks and like the bosses are like that 18 00:00:57,080 --> 00:00:58,760 Speaker 1: was hilarious, own break, I'm like, yeah, I know, That's 19 00:00:58,760 --> 00:01:01,080 Speaker 1: what I'm paid to do, right, Like that's honestly in 20 00:01:01,120 --> 00:01:01,960 Speaker 1: my head, that's how I think. 21 00:01:02,400 --> 00:01:05,360 Speaker 2: Machine like cool, So it's a waste of our breath 22 00:01:05,360 --> 00:01:10,040 Speaker 2: by giving you genuine compliments because I do it all 23 00:01:10,040 --> 00:01:12,440 Speaker 2: the time. But that's because I mean it and I 24 00:01:12,560 --> 00:01:16,320 Speaker 2: do need them, and it's not happening. 25 00:01:16,760 --> 00:01:18,120 Speaker 1: I don't think you don't mean it. It's just like 26 00:01:18,160 --> 00:01:19,760 Speaker 1: when it comes to work, that's just how it is 27 00:01:19,760 --> 00:01:21,640 Speaker 1: for me. I'm just like, yes, of course, it was good. 28 00:01:21,680 --> 00:01:23,440 Speaker 1: That's what I'm supposed to do. I'm like a robot 29 00:01:23,800 --> 00:01:25,240 Speaker 1: a lot of times with a lot of things. I'm 30 00:01:25,240 --> 00:01:27,120 Speaker 1: like that I am supposed to do a good job. 31 00:01:27,360 --> 00:01:29,560 Speaker 1: I did a good job. Yeah, it's fine, you acknowledge it. 32 00:01:29,560 --> 00:01:31,480 Speaker 1: But look what can we do next? And almost is 33 00:01:31,480 --> 00:01:33,720 Speaker 1: that to Victoria yesterday because we can stream live now 34 00:01:33,760 --> 00:01:36,679 Speaker 1: on Instagram, which is exciting. Follow us on Instagram very well. 35 00:01:36,880 --> 00:01:39,800 Speaker 3: This has taking me weeks to figure out Instagram. 36 00:01:39,920 --> 00:01:42,600 Speaker 1: It's taken a very very very long time for Victoria 37 00:01:42,640 --> 00:01:44,240 Speaker 1: to figure out how to get us to stream the 38 00:01:44,280 --> 00:01:46,800 Speaker 1: show on video on Instagram. 39 00:01:46,880 --> 00:01:48,520 Speaker 2: And we will be doing that very soon. 40 00:01:48,800 --> 00:01:53,440 Speaker 3: And then Jubil I say, guys, guess what, I'm so excited. Yes, 41 00:01:53,600 --> 00:01:56,720 Speaker 3: And his response was not to be a bummer, but 42 00:01:56,760 --> 00:01:59,559 Speaker 3: what about Instagram? Sorry? 43 00:02:00,120 --> 00:02:02,440 Speaker 2: And I was like, dude, you were a bar no. 44 00:02:03,000 --> 00:02:07,200 Speaker 1: I was At first I said like, dope, dope said 45 00:02:08,360 --> 00:02:13,320 Speaker 1: what about TikTok? But I almost didn't say the dope part. Actually, 46 00:02:13,680 --> 00:02:17,680 Speaker 1: I actually had to myself. I said what about TikTok? 47 00:02:17,720 --> 00:02:19,600 Speaker 1: And then I was like, wait a second, you don't. 48 00:02:19,680 --> 00:02:22,760 Speaker 1: You're not very good at like acknowledging somebody doing a 49 00:02:22,800 --> 00:02:26,400 Speaker 1: good job, and it could be demotivating. So try to 50 00:02:26,440 --> 00:02:30,040 Speaker 1: give her that PA so say yay, I'm glad you 51 00:02:30,080 --> 00:02:34,520 Speaker 1: did that, nailed it, and then and then go hey TikTok. 52 00:02:36,040 --> 00:02:37,760 Speaker 4: Seconds between the two texts and. 53 00:02:37,880 --> 00:02:40,400 Speaker 5: Self awareness though, and the fact that he texted back 54 00:02:40,440 --> 00:02:43,360 Speaker 5: at all, both of those things are points. 55 00:02:43,480 --> 00:02:45,840 Speaker 2: After the bummer thing. I was like, why did you respond? 56 00:02:46,000 --> 00:02:47,760 Speaker 2: I was like, I don't think you're as happy. 57 00:02:47,800 --> 00:02:49,680 Speaker 1: And this was the first time I've seen Jewbil in 58 00:02:49,760 --> 00:02:53,600 Speaker 1: the group text because I wanted to know about TikTok. 59 00:02:54,919 --> 00:02:56,520 Speaker 1: But we'll get on that. We'll be also stream on 60 00:02:56,560 --> 00:02:58,160 Speaker 1: TikTok to you, yeah, but we'll tell you when we 61 00:02:58,200 --> 00:03:00,240 Speaker 1: can stream the show on video on Instagram when we 62 00:03:00,240 --> 00:03:03,640 Speaker 1: actually go live. Also, what is another work habit that 63 00:03:03,720 --> 00:03:06,600 Speaker 1: makes you instantly unlikable? This is another one I have 64 00:03:09,120 --> 00:03:14,639 Speaker 1: rarely smiling or acknowledging others. I've gotten better about that 65 00:03:14,760 --> 00:03:16,600 Speaker 1: because I know it's a thing for me, because like 66 00:03:17,000 --> 00:03:19,160 Speaker 1: when it comes to work, that's another thing too, is 67 00:03:19,200 --> 00:03:21,240 Speaker 1: like I literally am just always like, what's the next 68 00:03:21,240 --> 00:03:22,320 Speaker 1: thing I need to do? What's the next thing I 69 00:03:22,320 --> 00:03:23,600 Speaker 1: need to do, What's the next thing I need to do. 70 00:03:23,800 --> 00:03:25,519 Speaker 1: Even if I'm going to the break room to get 71 00:03:25,560 --> 00:03:29,080 Speaker 1: like food or whatever, I'm like thinking about stuff, and 72 00:03:29,120 --> 00:03:31,160 Speaker 1: it's hard for me to break my concentration to have 73 00:03:31,240 --> 00:03:32,919 Speaker 1: like a little conversation. So I just want to get 74 00:03:32,919 --> 00:03:35,040 Speaker 1: the thing, get back into the studio and do whatever. 75 00:03:35,480 --> 00:03:37,200 Speaker 1: So most of my life I'll just be like, hey, 76 00:03:37,320 --> 00:03:39,040 Speaker 1: you know, and then people are like, well, he's always 77 00:03:39,080 --> 00:03:39,720 Speaker 1: in a bad mood. 78 00:03:39,760 --> 00:03:42,760 Speaker 4: He's like, so sad, you have an intense stare. 79 00:03:42,800 --> 00:03:46,120 Speaker 6: Also, yeah, he's like, you don't look like you're having 80 00:03:46,120 --> 00:03:48,040 Speaker 6: a good time and you could be having the greatest 81 00:03:48,120 --> 00:03:48,600 Speaker 6: time ever. 82 00:03:48,800 --> 00:03:49,320 Speaker 2: That's the thing. 83 00:03:49,360 --> 00:03:52,119 Speaker 1: I have one of those faces that always looks miserable. 84 00:03:53,360 --> 00:03:56,080 Speaker 1: I say that, well, no it does. People always think 85 00:03:56,080 --> 00:03:59,000 Speaker 1: that I look very upset all the time. We're mad, Yeah, 86 00:03:59,040 --> 00:04:01,080 Speaker 1: we're mad, and it's that that's just my face. Especially 87 00:04:01,120 --> 00:04:03,840 Speaker 1: if I'm concentrating, I look like the biggest jerk on 88 00:04:03,840 --> 00:04:04,280 Speaker 1: the planet. 89 00:04:04,480 --> 00:04:08,040 Speaker 5: That's true, and I don't mean that in a bad way, 90 00:04:08,080 --> 00:04:10,320 Speaker 5: but like, especially when I started working with him again, 91 00:04:10,400 --> 00:04:11,960 Speaker 5: I was like, wait a second, did I say something wrong? 92 00:04:11,960 --> 00:04:13,400 Speaker 2: Why are you giving me a dirty face? 93 00:04:13,480 --> 00:04:13,839 Speaker 1: Right now? 94 00:04:14,360 --> 00:04:17,200 Speaker 4: I'm into this job and I'm still doing that well. 95 00:04:17,200 --> 00:04:18,440 Speaker 5: And then you're like, is he mad at me? He 96 00:04:18,480 --> 00:04:20,880 Speaker 5: didn't say bye, Like he just left for the day 97 00:04:20,920 --> 00:04:21,680 Speaker 5: and didn't say bye. 98 00:04:21,680 --> 00:04:22,320 Speaker 2: Are you mad at me? 99 00:04:22,720 --> 00:04:22,920 Speaker 3: I do? 100 00:04:23,279 --> 00:04:24,760 Speaker 2: He's like, wait, what you thought about that? 101 00:04:24,880 --> 00:04:24,920 Speaker 3: No? 102 00:04:25,040 --> 00:04:27,200 Speaker 2: I'm fine, Yeah, yeah, I don't. 103 00:04:27,360 --> 00:04:29,760 Speaker 5: As much, but every once in a while I have 104 00:04:29,760 --> 00:04:31,040 Speaker 5: to have that conversation with myself. 105 00:04:31,120 --> 00:04:34,839 Speaker 1: Nah, that's just who he is. Every once in a while, 106 00:04:34,960 --> 00:04:38,360 Speaker 1: I'll like try to smile more. I just don't smile naturally. 107 00:04:38,480 --> 00:04:40,080 Speaker 1: And then when I do that, people are like, he's 108 00:04:40,120 --> 00:04:44,159 Speaker 1: having a meltdown. He's faking it. He's faking that smile. 109 00:04:44,200 --> 00:04:45,160 Speaker 1: I know he's not happy. 110 00:04:45,480 --> 00:04:47,479 Speaker 5: You should have seen my reaction the one day you 111 00:04:47,560 --> 00:04:49,880 Speaker 5: texted me, this was probably around the holidays, and you 112 00:04:49,920 --> 00:04:51,800 Speaker 5: were just like, oh, I'm so thankful to be working 113 00:04:51,800 --> 00:04:53,559 Speaker 5: with a few or whatever, and I was like, what 114 00:04:54,040 --> 00:04:55,040 Speaker 5: is this real? 115 00:04:56,279 --> 00:05:00,480 Speaker 2: Are we okay? I'm having a meltdown hallucin. I mean, 116 00:05:00,520 --> 00:05:01,479 Speaker 2: I was thankful for it, but. 117 00:05:02,240 --> 00:05:04,039 Speaker 6: The effort, you know, even though you have to go 118 00:05:04,080 --> 00:05:06,640 Speaker 6: an extra mile, it feels like a lot for you. 119 00:05:06,800 --> 00:05:10,280 Speaker 6: It is very important because everybody else around you can experience. 120 00:05:10,360 --> 00:05:12,880 Speaker 1: I have to communicate it with people in relationships with 121 00:05:12,960 --> 00:05:15,200 Speaker 1: I go. Look, if I tell you, I'm very like 122 00:05:15,320 --> 00:05:17,800 Speaker 1: literal as a matter of fact. So if I tell 123 00:05:17,839 --> 00:05:19,920 Speaker 1: you I'm happy, I'm happy. I don't say things I 124 00:05:19,920 --> 00:05:20,320 Speaker 1: don't mean. 125 00:05:20,400 --> 00:05:21,240 Speaker 4: Don't look at my face. 126 00:05:22,200 --> 00:05:24,120 Speaker 1: You will not be able to tell by looking at me. 127 00:05:25,600 --> 00:05:27,320 Speaker 2: And once you get it, though, then you get it, 128 00:05:27,360 --> 00:05:28,320 Speaker 2: and it's like cool. 129 00:05:29,279 --> 00:05:34,200 Speaker 1: What is another workplace habit that will make you instantly unlikable? 130 00:05:35,000 --> 00:05:37,680 Speaker 1: Continuing to work when someone is speaking. 131 00:05:37,279 --> 00:05:38,800 Speaker 2: To you another one? 132 00:05:38,920 --> 00:05:39,080 Speaker 1: Yeah? 133 00:05:39,160 --> 00:05:42,000 Speaker 2: Yeah, I think I'm also guilty a lot of these 134 00:05:42,040 --> 00:05:42,800 Speaker 2: reasons why people. 135 00:05:46,960 --> 00:05:48,720 Speaker 1: I don't know if he's retaining any of this when 136 00:05:48,720 --> 00:05:50,719 Speaker 1: I am honest after, I'm like, I wasn't listening. 137 00:05:50,360 --> 00:05:53,080 Speaker 2: To be fair, though, I think we're all guilty. 138 00:05:52,760 --> 00:05:54,120 Speaker 4: For sure, for sure. 139 00:05:54,480 --> 00:05:56,600 Speaker 3: But Jubile is the only one who you start something, 140 00:05:56,839 --> 00:05:58,719 Speaker 3: He's like listening and actively looking at you. 141 00:05:58,760 --> 00:06:00,679 Speaker 2: And then we'll go to his computer man checks. 142 00:06:01,279 --> 00:06:02,880 Speaker 1: And then I'll tune out, and then I realized that 143 00:06:02,880 --> 00:06:04,800 Speaker 1: it is my add or whatever. I'll realize I to 144 00:06:04,920 --> 00:06:07,400 Speaker 1: that and I'm like, I'm sorry, I stopped listening. And 145 00:06:07,400 --> 00:06:11,640 Speaker 1: that's also how you know you were boring. What is 146 00:06:11,680 --> 00:06:15,400 Speaker 1: the number one thing that makes you instantly unlikable in 147 00:06:15,480 --> 00:06:23,800 Speaker 1: the workplace? Yeah, yeah, pretty much not saying hello and goodbye, 148 00:06:24,839 --> 00:06:25,560 Speaker 1: which Nana. 149 00:06:25,520 --> 00:06:28,080 Speaker 2: Just Bride just said. You do say good morning, but 150 00:06:28,120 --> 00:06:30,320 Speaker 2: goodbye is not always guaranteed. 151 00:06:30,440 --> 00:06:33,919 Speaker 1: It says Unfortunately. Etiquette experts say not extending the courtesy 152 00:06:33,960 --> 00:06:36,760 Speaker 1: of high and to bye can make you unlikable. When 153 00:06:36,800 --> 00:06:39,040 Speaker 1: that happens, people are often left wondering is something wrong? 154 00:06:39,120 --> 00:06:44,320 Speaker 1: Are they mad at me? So I'm the most likable one, clearly, 155 00:06:45,400 --> 00:06:47,880 Speaker 1: I'm the king of the Irish goodbyes just kind of 156 00:06:47,880 --> 00:06:48,280 Speaker 1: sneak out. 157 00:06:48,360 --> 00:06:50,560 Speaker 4: Yeah, like I'll always say hi, but I will you 158 00:06:50,600 --> 00:06:51,120 Speaker 4: saw me doing. 159 00:06:51,680 --> 00:06:53,800 Speaker 3: I had a work event. Everyone who was there at 160 00:06:53,800 --> 00:06:55,280 Speaker 3: the work event was like, did he just sleep? And 161 00:06:55,320 --> 00:06:58,040 Speaker 3: I was like, no, I think he'side never came back, 162 00:06:58,080 --> 00:06:58,560 Speaker 3: and they're like. 163 00:06:58,600 --> 00:06:59,240 Speaker 2: He just left. 164 00:06:59,279 --> 00:07:01,360 Speaker 5: I was like, I'm really glad you guys own it, 165 00:07:01,400 --> 00:07:02,760 Speaker 5: because I think it's super rude. 166 00:07:02,839 --> 00:07:04,479 Speaker 2: So now I know you don't mean it. 167 00:07:04,560 --> 00:07:05,120 Speaker 4: No, I don't want to. 168 00:07:05,080 --> 00:07:06,920 Speaker 1: Go at all doing the Irish good bye thing where 169 00:07:06,920 --> 00:07:09,200 Speaker 1: you just leave without anybody noticing it in the middle 170 00:07:09,240 --> 00:07:13,520 Speaker 1: of meetings about to go to the bathroom and then be. 171 00:07:13,560 --> 00:07:15,880 Speaker 2: Like, oh, yes, sorry I left you to get up 172 00:07:15,920 --> 00:07:17,920 Speaker 2: to go to the bathrooms. If you just never come back. 173 00:07:17,760 --> 00:07:19,720 Speaker 6: Yeah, just trying to do a game for yourself, Like 174 00:07:19,760 --> 00:07:21,160 Speaker 6: I wonder if I can get out of this meeting 175 00:07:21,200 --> 00:07:22,400 Speaker 6: without anybody noticing it. 176 00:07:22,920 --> 00:07:24,360 Speaker 2: Oh my god, I wanted to have that happen.