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Speaker 1: Dearest John, It's been a fortnight since I felt your

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Speaker 1: warm embrace. Dear Sam, such it has since we started

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Speaker 1: the Okay storytem podcast. Yes, and I have a message

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Speaker 1: for you, a delicious story that I think your love.

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Speaker 2: Sincerely Sam.

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Speaker 1: But before that, thine divine two minute outbreak must happen,

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Speaker 1: I bid thee farewell.

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Speaker 2: See you in two minutes.

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Speaker 3: My in law's destroyed my reputation and my wife protected them.

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Speaker 3: My twenty seven male marriage is in a really bad

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Speaker 3: She's the most loving, unselfish and decent person I've ever met,

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Speaker 1: I'm Sophia, I'm Matt and I am Riley, and this

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Speaker 3: Our relationship was never without challenges, but our biggest obstacle

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Speaker 3: They're incredibly close knit, operating like a pack where if

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Speaker 3: everything to my wife. Her entire upbringing centered around family

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Speaker 2: But it's like you have to earn your keep in

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Speaker 3: Yeah, you've secured your your your line and so now, okay,

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Speaker 3: between our wedding planning, and shortly before the ceremony, I

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Speaker 3: Thirty year old. Oh actually, no, that would have been

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Speaker 3: at twenty five. They're bullying a twenty five year old.

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Speaker 3: It was deeply personal and coordinated. Fake negative reviews flooded

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Speaker 3: I didn't believe her at first. It seemed too cruel,

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Speaker 3: Her family frat hazed you, who do you know here?

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Speaker 2: At this point. Now that you're admitting to it, and

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Speaker 3: Have absolutely yeause now you know.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, they are a unit now, and if he's not

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Speaker 3: But here is what broke me. I asked why she

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Speaker 3: She said the secret had been weighing on her. She

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Speaker 3: She was just never gonna tell Yeah, yeah, she was

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Speaker 3: If you're a black sheep in this family, it's good.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, go get her sister.

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Speaker 2: It's like a Hallmark romantic comedy. Yeah, Halloween edition. Because

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Speaker 3: She was the black sheep of her family. He was

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Speaker 2: You don't know when she's being genuine at that point

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Speaker 3: Like or would you never go? Because I would feel

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Speaker 3: like it's totally reasonable for you to never see them again?

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Speaker 3: how is she going to navigate that? Are they gonna

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Speaker 3: Here could be space isn't a request she's respected. She

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Speaker 3: really trying to understand her perspective and move past this betrayal,

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Speaker 3: But I feel completely shattered. I trusted her more than

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Speaker 3: anyone in my life. I was most vulnerable with her,

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Speaker 3: sharing my deepest fears and insecurities. Even after she knew

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Speaker 3: up to her about the lasting impact of that pesterment.

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Speaker 3: Looking back, I realized she encouraged me to let it

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Speaker 3: At this time, I thought she had my best interests

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Speaker 3: think they're worth my energy, but I've made it clear

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Speaker 3: Now I'm getting texts about how I'm depriving my child

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Speaker 3: That's what they're calling a coordinated pestment campaign that nearly

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Speaker 3: go to the wife and be like, Hey, like, let's

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Speaker 3: talk about this. I want to, you know, show me

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Speaker 3: the proof and stuff, show me all this download it

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Speaker 3: all sue them. Yeah, sue them because now you have proof.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you've lost to them, You've lost business for it

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Speaker 2: potentially ruined your business and your your mental health and anguish.

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Speaker 2: I struggle to see how the family doesn't see how

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Speaker 2: Ope knowing it is causing them distress and causes them

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Speaker 2: to distrust him. It's like it was just a prank.

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Speaker 2: Bro No no, no, no no, because like this ruins

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Speaker 2: people's lives. Yeah, you never know how stable or unstable

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Speaker 3: One of the most difficult aspects of this whole situation

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Speaker 3: is the distance from my wife. She's been my best

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Speaker 3: we're mostly communicating only about our son and household necessities

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Speaker 3: She's hurt by what she sees is my rejection, and

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Speaker 3: she's been crying often. I don't get over it. It's

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Speaker 3: to tell me the truth and chose not to. She

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Speaker 3: chose them over me, over us, over our marriage. I

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Speaker 3: hate all of this. I want to make our marriage work,

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Speaker 3: but I'm questioning everything about our relationship now. How many

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Speaker 3: other times has she chosen her family's comfort over my

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Speaker 3: well being? What else has she hidden to keep the

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Speaker 3: lost and need an outside perspective. How do I navigate

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Speaker 3: and for our son? Is it possible to rebuild trust

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Speaker 3: after such a fundamental betrayal? Can a marriage survive when

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Speaker 3: you discover your partner will sacrifice your well being to

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Speaker 3: protect people who hate you? And how do I co

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Speaker 3: parent with someone whose family considers psychological warfare and acceptable initiation?

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Speaker 3: I love my wife, but I don't know if love

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Speaker 3: foundation of trust and honesty. I'm really lost right now

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Speaker 3: and could use any advice on how to move forward?

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Speaker 3: And there is there are some comments. Do you have

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Speaker 3: any thoughts though? Before we get into those.

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Speaker 2: I think it's possible to repair the trust repecial, especially

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Speaker 2: after years of this. Okay, it's it's gonna be a

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Speaker 2: long shot. Okay, it's gonna be a long shot, it is.

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Speaker 2: But wife's got to do work. The wife, he's got

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Speaker 2: to do the work. She has to cut off contact

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Speaker 2: from like all this entire.

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Speaker 3: Family, massive amounts of therapy.

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Speaker 2: Massive amounts of therapy receipts, and help process possibly the

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Speaker 2: lawsuit idea consistently prove that OP is more important than

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Speaker 2: the family now and like put the work in. Okay,

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Speaker 2: it's possible, but it's extraordinarily unlikely that wife he's gonna

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Speaker 1: Divorce, yeah, I think they won She needs to got

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Speaker 1: off her family and then also divorce OP. Because if

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Speaker 1: she is now on the path of Okay, I'm going

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Speaker 1: to try and prove myself and gain back your trust,

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Speaker 1: She's going from doing that with her family and you know,

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Speaker 1: slandering you to you know, now worshiping you and now

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Speaker 1: trying to earn that all back just for you. And

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Speaker 1: that's not healthy either unless it's as me very amicable

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Speaker 1: couples counseling that in a way, I just don't see

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Speaker 1: it really working out because now she's trying to prove

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Speaker 2: I mean, in the long run. There's gonna be issues.

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Speaker 2: If they do decide they want to try to save it.

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Speaker 2: There is a possibility. It's like a one in a

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Speaker 2: million shot. But if they really really wanted to, they could,

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Speaker 2: It's it's gonna be tough. I do think that the

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Speaker 2: best option for them is divorce. I agree because I

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Speaker 2: don't think that wife is gonna wanna do the work.

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Speaker 2: I don't think what she's.

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Speaker 3: Done in five years he didn't even tell him.

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Speaker 2: I feel like she's not gonna want She's not gonna

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Speaker 2: be want to cut off from her family. So it's

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Speaker 2: the option is there. Will she take it? Highly unlikely?

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Speaker 3: I feel like divorce sue Yeah, Gino Flowers says, I

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Speaker 3: think what is bothering me most is that your wife

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Speaker 3: is still not getting it. She doesn't understand how vile

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Speaker 3: could do it again. They took your money, your peace

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Speaker 3: of mind, your confidence. Even though she stopped it, she

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Speaker 3: never told you, leaving you to wonder why and who

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Speaker 3: and past family spats. It's not like this was a

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Speaker 3: I'd suggest therapy for you both, and I don't even

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Speaker 3: know how. At the very least, you'll learn how to

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Speaker 3: co parent together if you can't save the marriage.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: I think that's why, regardless of what you do, therapy

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Speaker 3: so like therapy, Yes.

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Speaker 2: Absolutely, therapy and counseling.

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Speaker 3: Maybe a therapist can get her to see how huge

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Speaker 3: this is, Opie says, I don't know. It's like my

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Speaker 3: want to go there. Her family never even apologized. They're

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Speaker 3: making it out like I'm holding brudges. Bisdo says also

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Speaker 3: person who knew the black sheep. It's such a huge

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Speaker 3: breach of trust. She aided her relatives in trying to

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Speaker 3: she loves and places her family above you. Madeline Ashton says,

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Speaker 3: is she going to cut off her family now? Op

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Speaker 3: flustered with me asking for some space. No solutions have

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Speaker 3: been offered. My small self says, I couldn't imagine trying

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Speaker 3: to rebuild after that level of betrayal as anyone tried

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Speaker 3: to make amends, take ownership of their actions. She can

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Speaker 3: she's taking accountability. I don't know if I would even

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Speaker 1: Okay, this is cooked, this is done for Okay.

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Speaker 2: No, Yeah, there's no sympathy or not sympathy, but there's

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Speaker 2: no accountability or regret or anything. Yeah. No, okay, I

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Speaker 3: That's the family.

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Speaker 2: But still it's like she's she's not apologized for her

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Speaker 3: I mean, she's just denying that she had a parton

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Speaker 3: it from Ope, that's a part. They're making it out

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Speaker 3: And there is an update seven days later. Oh gosh,

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Speaker 3: thank you everyone who reached out after my last post

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Speaker 3: I twenty seven mail. Wasn't able to reply to everyone,

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Speaker 3: but your support was deeply appreciated. It solidified my wake

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Speaker 3: If anything, you were underthinking it.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, you've been taking two lax my guy.

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Speaker 3: I wanted to give you an update Earlier this week,

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Speaker 3: was preparing to call it quits on her marriage, but

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Speaker 3: I told her we were at of crossroads and needed

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Speaker 1: Okay, I mean, okay, you can't if you got a kid.

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Speaker 3: You've been together for years, but you better do everything

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Speaker 3: that Matt said or else, and then some and then some.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, back rubs every night, out every night. Yeah, working

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Speaker 3: I'm allowed to cry in your lap about your parents

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Speaker 3: bullying me.

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Speaker 2: A cyber bullying me every I get a remote every

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Speaker 1: Yeah, a steak and blows every Tuesday. Oh Sam's quote,

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Speaker 1: this comes right from Sam.

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Speaker 3: Well, I didn't need to hear it.

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Speaker 1: I'm not saying rejected.

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Speaker 2: Big brain play though here. So clearly the family wanted

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Speaker 2: to ruin Op's business so that wife would see, oh,

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Speaker 2: he's a failure, then leave him because there's no reason

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Speaker 2: to stay if he's like, got no money and can't

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Speaker 2: take care of their kid. Of course, just spite, pure

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Speaker 2: spite response. Just stay with her, just as just as

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Speaker 2: your own get out.

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Speaker 3: She apologized for what her family did and for her

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Speaker 3: role in covering it up. She admitted she never intended

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Speaker 3: to hurt me. She had convinced herself she was protecting

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Speaker 3: me from more pain, but she realizes now that she

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Speaker 3: was largely protecting herself. She was brutally honest about her motivations.

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Speaker 3: She was terrified at telling me the truth wouldn't just

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Speaker 3: I also just want to go back and say that Op,

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Speaker 2: So baby came, right.

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Speaker 3: It wasn't when did the baby come?

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Speaker 1: The baby came the wedding, Well, they just treat him

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00:20:45,520 --> 00:20:47,879
Speaker 1: horribly and then they stopped trolling on. I don't know

444
00:20:47,920 --> 00:20:48,840
Speaker 1: when the baby came, but.

445
00:20:49,080 --> 00:20:50,760
Speaker 3: I'm just wondering if that was around the same time.

446
00:20:52,240 --> 00:20:53,200
Speaker 3: How old is the sun?

447
00:20:53,200 --> 00:20:56,560
Speaker 1: I guess when did the parents stop treating Ope horribly?

448
00:20:56,800 --> 00:20:58,560
Speaker 3: No, No, I know when they did. I'm just asking

449
00:20:58,600 --> 00:21:00,920
Speaker 3: how old the sun is because they they stopped treating

450
00:21:01,000 --> 00:21:03,000
Speaker 3: him horribly around the sun. But I'm just wondering if

451
00:21:03,040 --> 00:21:03,960
Speaker 3: those are around the same time.

452
00:21:04,160 --> 00:21:07,080
Speaker 1: In law stought treating horribly after someone was worn. When

453
00:21:07,200 --> 00:21:10,560
Speaker 1: was the sun born? Dinghis bought the sun and the

454
00:21:10,600 --> 00:21:11,680
Speaker 1: story was born two years ago.

455
00:21:11,760 --> 00:21:14,320
Speaker 3: Okay, so never mind. I was gonna say, oh, maybe

456
00:21:14,359 --> 00:21:16,919
Speaker 3: they stopped because she told them off, but no, mm separate,

457
00:21:17,080 --> 00:21:19,000
Speaker 3: so they didn't even stop treating him badly.

458
00:21:19,280 --> 00:21:22,800
Speaker 2: They stopped the targeted harassment of the business. Yeah, but

459
00:21:22,920 --> 00:21:24,560
Speaker 2: they still treated Op terribly.

460
00:21:24,640 --> 00:21:28,200
Speaker 3: Yeah, which is kind of crazy to me because after

461
00:21:28,280 --> 00:21:32,719
Speaker 3: she finds out that they've been harassing him online and

462
00:21:32,800 --> 00:21:35,440
Speaker 3: tells them to put a stop to it, she doesn't

463
00:21:35,480 --> 00:21:38,920
Speaker 3: stop the hurt like the in person harassment. That's crazy.

464
00:21:39,040 --> 00:21:40,720
Speaker 3: That goes on for three more years.

465
00:21:40,920 --> 00:21:44,199
Speaker 2: It's part of the ritual, the initiation wild gotta do

466
00:21:44,280 --> 00:21:44,920
Speaker 2: the time.

467
00:21:44,880 --> 00:21:47,919
Speaker 3: She'd already lost our relationship and friendships because of her

468
00:21:47,960 --> 00:21:50,720
Speaker 3: family's behavior, and she couldn't bear the thought of losing me.

469
00:21:51,000 --> 00:21:53,160
Speaker 3: Over the years since our wedding, she wanted to tell

470
00:21:53,160 --> 00:21:56,080
Speaker 3: me the truth multiple times, but kept talking herself out

471
00:21:56,119 --> 00:21:59,240
Speaker 3: of it. As time passed, the cover up grew bigger

472
00:21:59,280 --> 00:22:03,840
Speaker 3: and more complex, making confession feel impossible. The longer she waited,

473
00:22:03,880 --> 00:22:06,760
Speaker 3: the harder it became to find the words. I told her.

474
00:22:06,760 --> 00:22:09,040
Speaker 3: I didn't agree with her choices and wish she'd had

475
00:22:09,119 --> 00:22:12,120
Speaker 3: more faith than me and our relationship. I meant it.

476
00:22:12,600 --> 00:22:14,959
Speaker 3: I wouldn't have just abandoned her. If she'd been honest

477
00:22:15,000 --> 00:22:17,840
Speaker 3: from the start, we could have faced this together instead

478
00:22:17,880 --> 00:22:20,760
Speaker 3: of carrying this burden alone while I remained in.

479
00:22:20,760 --> 00:22:24,280
Speaker 2: The dark carrying this burden, what is that verbiage? Because

480
00:22:24,320 --> 00:22:29,280
Speaker 2: it's not a burden you chose to actively not tell op.

481
00:22:29,840 --> 00:22:32,000
Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't like the burden of the lie, but.

482
00:22:32,200 --> 00:22:34,280
Speaker 2: I think, ohp, he's giving her too much credity.

483
00:22:34,280 --> 00:22:36,240
Speaker 3: I agree, I agree. I feel like he's like, you

484
00:22:36,240 --> 00:22:39,359
Speaker 3: should have trusted me, Like as if she didn't actively

485
00:22:39,600 --> 00:22:43,679
Speaker 3: hide this horrible secret. Yeah, she was complicit in this

486
00:22:43,760 --> 00:22:47,840
Speaker 3: horrible secret. And again again, she didn't do anything to

487
00:22:47,880 --> 00:22:51,000
Speaker 3: stop them harassing you in person. So like I would

488
00:22:51,000 --> 00:22:53,600
Speaker 3: have been like, yeah, you have just found you didn't

489
00:22:53,640 --> 00:22:55,480
Speaker 3: know about this, but you knew that they were treating

490
00:22:55,480 --> 00:22:57,080
Speaker 3: me terribly in person and you did nothing.

491
00:22:57,160 --> 00:23:00,080
Speaker 2: Thing is is that according to the update this this

492
00:23:00,119 --> 00:23:04,520
Speaker 2: isn't the first time that Wifey's family has ruined a relationship.

493
00:23:04,680 --> 00:23:06,680
Speaker 1: Yeah, yep, yeah, yeah, and.

494
00:23:06,640 --> 00:23:08,440
Speaker 3: She can't stand up to them. She asked to where

495
00:23:08,480 --> 00:23:10,639
Speaker 3: we go from here? And I promised that no matter

496
00:23:10,680 --> 00:23:13,360
Speaker 3: what happened, there would be no more secrets between us.

497
00:23:13,920 --> 00:23:15,800
Speaker 3: I told her I wanted to work on her marriage,

498
00:23:15,880 --> 00:23:20,400
Speaker 3: but fundamental changes were necessary. We couldn't survive with her

499
00:23:20,440 --> 00:23:24,119
Speaker 3: toxic family's influence hanging over us, and I refuse to

500
00:23:24,160 --> 00:23:27,800
Speaker 3: expose our son to this manipulation and cruelty. When she

501
00:23:27,840 --> 00:23:30,000
Speaker 3: asked what I needed from her, I laid it out clearly.

502
00:23:30,600 --> 00:23:32,920
Speaker 3: I've never been one for ultimatums, and I don't really

503
00:23:32,960 --> 00:23:36,800
Speaker 3: consider this one. But I was adamant any path forward

504
00:23:36,880 --> 00:23:40,639
Speaker 3: for us would require radical boundaries with her family. I've

505
00:23:40,880 --> 00:23:41,560
Speaker 3: cut them.

506
00:23:41,400 --> 00:23:43,960
Speaker 1: Off, yeah, literally cut them off.

507
00:23:43,720 --> 00:23:45,520
Speaker 3: The boundaries that you never see them.

508
00:23:45,800 --> 00:23:46,200
Speaker 2: Mm hmm.

509
00:23:46,520 --> 00:23:48,440
Speaker 3: She was honest that the thought of such a dramatic

510
00:23:48,440 --> 00:23:51,800
Speaker 3: break from her family was terrifying, but ultimately said, if

511
00:23:51,840 --> 00:23:54,320
Speaker 3: it's between them and us, between them and our son,

512
00:23:54,560 --> 00:23:57,040
Speaker 3: then I choose us. Her agreement was huge for me

513
00:23:57,119 --> 00:24:00,320
Speaker 3: because I genuinely didn't know which way she'd go if

514
00:24:00,320 --> 00:24:02,679
Speaker 3: forced to choose. I never wanted to put her in

515
00:24:02,680 --> 00:24:05,440
Speaker 3: that position, but after everything her family did, I felt

516
00:24:05,440 --> 00:24:08,160
Speaker 3: there was no other option. What gave me real hope

517
00:24:08,200 --> 00:24:11,479
Speaker 3: that she was serious was what happened next. Without me asking.

518
00:24:11,560 --> 00:24:14,200
Speaker 3: She sent a text to their family group chat telling

519
00:24:14,200 --> 00:24:17,200
Speaker 3: them to stop blowing up my phone and stating that

520
00:24:17,240 --> 00:24:19,400
Speaker 3: the decision to cut off their access to her son

521
00:24:19,520 --> 00:24:22,520
Speaker 3: was joint and that she fully supported it. I didn't

522
00:24:22,560 --> 00:24:24,600
Speaker 3: expect that level of public support from her, and it

523
00:24:24,640 --> 00:24:27,280
Speaker 3: meant everything. Oh wow, take her so long to do that.

524
00:24:27,520 --> 00:24:30,920
Speaker 2: I wonder if she'd discussed this with them previously. It's

525
00:24:30,960 --> 00:24:34,800
Speaker 2: like Okay, I'm gonna do this, But now everything she

526
00:24:34,880 --> 00:24:37,119
Speaker 2: does is it has to be like, Okay, what's the

527
00:24:37,119 --> 00:24:40,600
Speaker 2: grand conspiracy here? What is she telling them? What else

528
00:24:40,680 --> 00:24:42,439
Speaker 2: is she in the group chat?

529
00:24:42,560 --> 00:24:45,080
Speaker 1: And also how did these other people have this kind

530
00:24:45,119 --> 00:24:47,520
Speaker 1: of hold and power over O people? What were they

531
00:24:47,560 --> 00:24:48,359
Speaker 1: saying and doing?

532
00:24:48,680 --> 00:24:51,359
Speaker 3: The family members? Yeah, they were they were messing with

533
00:24:51,400 --> 00:24:51,960
Speaker 3: his business.

534
00:24:52,119 --> 00:24:53,520
Speaker 1: I know, I know that, but like what were they

535
00:24:53,560 --> 00:24:57,359
Speaker 1: doing not over op sorry Opie's wife, just their family.

536
00:24:57,680 --> 00:25:00,399
Speaker 2: It's just a family thing. Yeah, okay, it was just

537
00:25:00,520 --> 00:25:04,360
Speaker 2: pressure from the family to well are they going.

538
00:25:04,359 --> 00:25:06,160
Speaker 1: To keep doing that? Is she gonna well?

539
00:25:06,200 --> 00:25:08,840
Speaker 3: I think this is that, this.

540
00:25:08,160 --> 00:25:10,600
Speaker 2: Is the ultimately, this is her being I know, but I.

541
00:25:10,560 --> 00:25:11,640
Speaker 1: Just don't think it's gonna stick.

542
00:25:12,080 --> 00:25:14,320
Speaker 2: I'm trying to say that's no, no, no, She's going to

543
00:25:14,400 --> 00:25:17,600
Speaker 2: crawl back to them. It might take six months, might

544
00:25:17,680 --> 00:25:20,040
Speaker 2: take three years, but she is eventually going to break

545
00:25:20,160 --> 00:25:21,119
Speaker 2: and go back to her family.

546
00:25:21,119 --> 00:25:23,960
Speaker 3: I hope not, but it does seem likely. Of course,

547
00:25:24,000 --> 00:25:28,240
Speaker 3: they didn't take it well. Now she's been labeled disrespectful

548
00:25:28,280 --> 00:25:31,200
Speaker 3: and ungrateful. They're claiming that the black sheep, eldest sister,

549
00:25:31,359 --> 00:25:34,360
Speaker 3: thirty five female and I are poisoning her against them.

550
00:25:34,640 --> 00:25:38,600
Speaker 3: One particularly telling message read what kind of man takes

551
00:25:38,600 --> 00:25:41,639
Speaker 3: a woman away from her family over a spat? This

552
00:25:41,840 --> 00:25:44,680
Speaker 3: isn't a spat, and I have nothing to prove about

553
00:25:44,720 --> 00:25:49,240
Speaker 3: my manhood. They orchestrated a systematic campaign designed to destroy

554
00:25:49,359 --> 00:25:53,800
Speaker 3: my livelihood and mental health. Their actions are genuinely chilling

555
00:25:53,840 --> 00:25:55,880
Speaker 3: when I think about it. These are the same people

556
00:25:55,920 --> 00:25:58,520
Speaker 3: who looked me in the eye with straight faces while

557
00:25:58,560 --> 00:26:02,200
Speaker 3: actively sabotaging my life behind the scenes. This is about

558
00:26:02,200 --> 00:26:06,760
Speaker 3: protecting my family period. My wife has gone low contact

559
00:26:06,840 --> 00:26:07,280
Speaker 3: with them.

560
00:26:07,160 --> 00:26:09,080
Speaker 2: Which is a major set no contact.

561
00:26:09,359 --> 00:26:12,159
Speaker 3: I literally think she needs to go no contact. I

562
00:26:12,160 --> 00:26:13,560
Speaker 3: don't think low contact is enough.

563
00:26:13,640 --> 00:26:16,600
Speaker 2: Low contact's just gonna open up the floodgates even more.

564
00:26:16,720 --> 00:26:20,200
Speaker 3: Her family operates with this twisted mindset that romantic partners

565
00:26:20,200 --> 00:26:24,640
Speaker 3: and friends are temporary while family is permanent and deserves

566
00:26:24,800 --> 00:26:27,240
Speaker 3: absolute loyalty regardless of their behavior.

567
00:26:27,560 --> 00:26:32,439
Speaker 2: That but, but the mom and dad are married, and

568
00:26:32,680 --> 00:26:35,560
Speaker 2: is this just something unless they are a little targarian

569
00:26:35,640 --> 00:26:36,280
Speaker 2: going on in there?

570
00:26:36,359 --> 00:26:37,760
Speaker 3: Yeah, Well that's what I was gonna say, you know.

571
00:26:38,040 --> 00:26:40,720
Speaker 2: I mean, lanisters send their regards as well.

572
00:26:41,040 --> 00:26:44,000
Speaker 3: They can't seem to grasp that my wife our son

573
00:26:44,520 --> 00:26:49,040
Speaker 3: and I are the core family now their extended family,

574
00:26:49,119 --> 00:26:51,560
Speaker 3: and their involvement with our son is a privilege, not

575
00:26:51,640 --> 00:26:55,520
Speaker 3: a right. A privilege they've thoroughly mistreated. I still don't

576
00:26:55,520 --> 00:26:59,000
Speaker 3: fully understand their exact issue with me. They only tolerated

577
00:26:59,000 --> 00:27:01,919
Speaker 3: my presence because of our son. When I first met them,

578
00:27:01,960 --> 00:27:05,000
Speaker 3: one of my wife's siblings, twenty eight female, bluntly said

579
00:27:05,080 --> 00:27:07,240
Speaker 3: they thought my wife was settling for me because of

580
00:27:07,320 --> 00:27:10,120
Speaker 3: age and that she could do better. They're an incredibly

581
00:27:10,160 --> 00:27:13,399
Speaker 3: insular group, where if one member rejects you, you're permanently

582
00:27:13,440 --> 00:27:16,080
Speaker 3: shut up by the rest. Once their minds were made

583
00:27:16,160 --> 00:27:19,480
Speaker 3: up about me, nothing I did mattered. I've long since

584
00:27:19,720 --> 00:27:23,200
Speaker 3: stopped trying to decode the reasoning. It's a rabbit hole

585
00:27:23,240 --> 00:27:26,840
Speaker 3: that leads nowhere productive. We're planning to relocate to create

586
00:27:26,880 --> 00:27:30,200
Speaker 3: healthier distance, cement our boundaries, and get a fresh start.

587
00:27:30,520 --> 00:27:33,439
Speaker 3: We're also starting therapy soon, which we've been discussing for

588
00:27:33,480 --> 00:27:37,800
Speaker 3: a while now. Moving away will be beneficial for us. Interestingly,

589
00:27:37,920 --> 00:27:40,480
Speaker 3: it was actually my eldest sister in law, the family

590
00:27:40,520 --> 00:27:43,480
Speaker 3: black Sheep, who first suggested this during our wedding planning.

591
00:27:43,720 --> 00:27:46,080
Speaker 3: She knew five years ago that you needed to get away.

592
00:27:47,400 --> 00:27:50,119
Speaker 3: She encouraged my wife to create our own space away

593
00:27:50,160 --> 00:27:53,280
Speaker 3: from the family's suffocating influence. I know my wife is

594
00:27:53,320 --> 00:27:57,080
Speaker 3: so much more than her family's dysfunction. I've witnessed it firsthand.

595
00:27:57,440 --> 00:28:00,840
Speaker 3: She absolutely shines when she's away from their toxic influence.

596
00:28:01,320 --> 00:28:03,200
Speaker 3: That's what I meant in my original post when I

597
00:28:03,240 --> 00:28:07,040
Speaker 3: said she was the most loving, unselfish, and decent person

598
00:28:07,160 --> 00:28:10,439
Speaker 3: I'd ever met. Her family's manipulation doesn't define who she

599
00:28:10,480 --> 00:28:13,760
Speaker 3: really is. If I'm being completely honest, I don't know

600
00:28:13,800 --> 00:28:17,359
Speaker 3: how things will ultimately turn out. I'm still hurt, still

601
00:28:17,400 --> 00:28:20,680
Speaker 3: processing feelings of betrayal, and my wife is facing her

602
00:28:20,680 --> 00:28:23,800
Speaker 3: own challenges with establishing low contact with her family. But

603
00:28:23,840 --> 00:28:25,840
Speaker 3: I want to be hopeful. I don't want to close

604
00:28:25,880 --> 00:28:27,920
Speaker 3: the door on us. There is a little bit left

605
00:28:28,040 --> 00:28:30,240
Speaker 3: to this story. Do you have any final thoughts?

606
00:28:30,600 --> 00:28:33,080
Speaker 2: See u lt get away from that family tree.

607
00:28:33,240 --> 00:28:35,960
Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean, like the just the fact that it's

608
00:28:36,520 --> 00:28:39,280
Speaker 3: anyone who disagrees with them just becomes the black sheep.

609
00:28:39,520 --> 00:28:40,240
Speaker 1: Yeah.

610
00:28:40,320 --> 00:28:43,440
Speaker 3: I really think that any contact at all with this

611
00:28:43,560 --> 00:28:44,920
Speaker 3: family is too much.

612
00:28:45,320 --> 00:28:48,200
Speaker 2: Yeah, she should have demanded, like, when you're gonna cut

613
00:28:48,240 --> 00:28:51,120
Speaker 2: off contact, it's no contact, not low contact. Yeah, because

614
00:28:51,160 --> 00:28:56,040
Speaker 2: she's struggling. Now, Yeah, she's behind Opie's back unless he's

615
00:28:56,160 --> 00:28:58,880
Speaker 2: like actively watching her phone. Twenty four to seven. She's

616
00:28:58,920 --> 00:28:59,920
Speaker 2: absolutely texting them.

617
00:29:00,320 --> 00:29:02,640
Speaker 3: Well, they're probably they're absolutely texting her.

618
00:29:02,960 --> 00:29:05,440
Speaker 2: If she's responding, she might just be deleting her responses

619
00:29:05,600 --> 00:29:07,800
Speaker 2: m M and stuff just to hide it. But she's

620
00:29:07,880 --> 00:29:11,160
Speaker 2: clearly not able to get away from their influence as

621
00:29:11,200 --> 00:29:15,000
Speaker 2: long as they have. Yeah, even the smallest inlet into

622
00:29:15,040 --> 00:29:18,320
Speaker 2: her life. The distance is a good start, but if

623
00:29:18,320 --> 00:29:21,280
Speaker 2: they can still reach you through a family group chatter, texting,

624
00:29:22,920 --> 00:29:24,360
Speaker 2: you're not out of the woods.

625
00:29:24,440 --> 00:29:27,200
Speaker 3: It's like when Cora has that like mercury in her

626
00:29:27,480 --> 00:29:29,600
Speaker 3: and uh huh, and then for like three years she's like,

627
00:29:29,640 --> 00:29:32,000
Speaker 3: why am I feelings? I'm not healing, I'm not healing,

628
00:29:32,040 --> 00:29:34,960
Speaker 3: And then finally she gets like she gets all of

629
00:29:35,000 --> 00:29:36,719
Speaker 3: it out of her. You need to get all of

630
00:29:36,720 --> 00:29:37,440
Speaker 3: that mercury.

631
00:29:37,720 --> 00:29:39,400
Speaker 1: Need detox, detox.

632
00:29:39,800 --> 00:29:41,680
Speaker 3: But there is a little bit left. I'm hoping we

633
00:29:41,680 --> 00:29:45,360
Speaker 3: can heal together, build something stronger from this painful foundation

634
00:29:45,400 --> 00:29:48,360
Speaker 3: of truth, and create the kind of family environment for

635
00:29:48,440 --> 00:29:51,120
Speaker 3: our son that neither of us had growing up. Thank

636
00:29:51,160 --> 00:29:54,480
Speaker 3: you again to everyone for the overwhelming support after years

637
00:29:54,480 --> 00:29:57,960
Speaker 3: of feeling isolated by my in law's hostility. Discovering that

638
00:29:58,000 --> 00:30:00,800
Speaker 3: most people find their behavior as unaccepted doable as I do,

639
00:30:01,320 --> 00:30:04,640
Speaker 3: means more than you know. Your perspectives helped me trust

640
00:30:04,680 --> 00:30:08,120
Speaker 3: my instincts and gave me courage to demand the changes

641
00:30:08,200 --> 00:30:10,840
Speaker 3: our marriage needed. We have a long road ahead, but

642
00:30:10,920 --> 00:30:13,240
Speaker 3: for the first time in years, I feel like we're

643
00:30:13,240 --> 00:30:16,440
Speaker 3: walking it together, instead of her walking alongside her family

644
00:30:16,480 --> 00:30:19,520
Speaker 3: while I struggle to keep up. And Cursed Cactus says

645
00:30:20,080 --> 00:30:23,440
Speaker 3: her family crossed an unforgivable line. Cut them out of

646
00:30:23,440 --> 00:30:26,800
Speaker 3: your life completely. You must forge your own path and

647
00:30:26,920 --> 00:30:29,520
Speaker 3: toxic people have no place in it. Wish you the

648
00:30:29,520 --> 00:30:32,320
Speaker 3: best of luck, and another comment says this family is

649
00:30:32,360 --> 00:30:35,960
Speaker 3: acting like a cult. I mean it, their whole attitude

650
00:30:36,000 --> 00:30:39,680
Speaker 3: of family over everything, keeping outsiders away, punishing members for

651
00:30:39,800 --> 00:30:42,479
Speaker 3: daring to step out of line, and banishing them from

652
00:30:42,520 --> 00:30:46,040
Speaker 3: the family. Your wife had to go through years of brainwashing.

653
00:30:46,640 --> 00:30:48,680
Speaker 3: I would believe her when she says she was afraid

654
00:30:48,720 --> 00:30:51,720
Speaker 3: to go against her family. Not to make any excuses

655
00:30:51,760 --> 00:30:54,000
Speaker 3: for her because not telling you the truth was wrong,

656
00:30:54,520 --> 00:30:56,800
Speaker 3: but that she's now willing to set boundaries with her.

657
00:30:56,720 --> 00:30:57,880
Speaker 2: Family is huge.

658
00:30:58,520 --> 00:31:01,120
Speaker 3: She has years and year years of therapy ahead of

659
00:31:01,160 --> 00:31:03,720
Speaker 3: her to fix what these people broke. And I'm wishing

660
00:31:03,760 --> 00:31:05,840
Speaker 3: both of you is the best of luck. And that

661
00:31:06,040 --> 00:31:07,320
Speaker 3: is the end of that story.

662
00:31:07,520 --> 00:31:11,840
Speaker 1: Man, oh man, this woman, there's so much she has

663
00:31:11,880 --> 00:31:13,520
Speaker 1: to do. I don't know if she's gonna have the

664
00:31:13,520 --> 00:31:17,160
Speaker 1: willpower to do it, because like the sister blackmailed her

665
00:31:17,640 --> 00:31:20,320
Speaker 1: to talk to the husband, and now she's like doing

666
00:31:20,360 --> 00:31:23,080
Speaker 1: this marriage because it's what the husband wants. I don't

667
00:31:23,120 --> 00:31:26,640
Speaker 1: even I have no glimpse of what this woman actually wants.

668
00:31:26,920 --> 00:31:30,800
Speaker 2: Yeah, my wonder and worry is like, what were they

669
00:31:30,840 --> 00:31:32,440
Speaker 2: gonna do with this poor child?

670
00:31:32,800 --> 00:31:33,600
Speaker 3: Yeah?

671
00:31:33,640 --> 00:31:36,959
Speaker 2: How far down were they going to try to brainwash

672
00:31:37,040 --> 00:31:38,440
Speaker 2: this kid against their dad?

673
00:31:38,560 --> 00:31:42,240
Speaker 3: Oh? Yeah, absolutely, anytime the kid came over. Mm hmm

674
00:31:42,240 --> 00:31:45,040
Speaker 3: would have been brainwashed. Your dad sucks your dad's week,

675
00:31:45,160 --> 00:31:46,160
Speaker 3: Your dad's not a man.

676
00:31:46,520 --> 00:31:49,920
Speaker 1: Brainwash? What kind of brainwashing would they do? I just

677
00:31:49,920 --> 00:31:53,680
Speaker 1: said it, I know. But like, what cartoons are they

678
00:31:53,680 --> 00:31:56,360
Speaker 1: showing him? Like today, we're gonna show you a cartoon about.

679
00:31:56,240 --> 00:31:58,040
Speaker 2: It's like, I'll give you a cookie if you call

680
00:31:58,040 --> 00:31:58,840
Speaker 2: your dad an idiot.

681
00:31:59,400 --> 00:32:02,880
Speaker 1: Yeah, we're gonna watch how parents are the worst things ever,

682
00:32:03,000 --> 00:32:03,920
Speaker 1: especially dads.

683
00:32:04,160 --> 00:32:07,200
Speaker 3: But I'm hoping. I'm hoping it works out. I'm hoping

684
00:32:07,200 --> 00:32:09,360
Speaker 3: that she follows through with all of that good luck.

685
00:32:09,520 --> 00:32:11,960
Speaker 2: Op gave her so much grace and it's literally on

686
00:32:12,040 --> 00:32:12,480
Speaker 2: her now.

687
00:32:12,640 --> 00:32:13,440
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's on her.

688
00:32:13,520 --> 00:32:18,520
Speaker 2: It's on her to break contact, repair the damage, make

689
00:32:18,520 --> 00:32:23,200
Speaker 2: sure the therapy's working. Like Op already made a huge

690
00:32:23,280 --> 00:32:26,120
Speaker 2: gesture of goodwill and faith by saying, Okay, we'll work

691
00:32:26,160 --> 00:32:26,760
Speaker 2: through it together.

692
00:32:27,040 --> 00:32:29,600
Speaker 3: A lot more than she deserves. But it's very kind

693
00:32:30,440 --> 00:32:34,640
Speaker 3: and like huge, huge deal that he gave that second chance.

694
00:32:34,960 --> 00:32:37,080
Speaker 2: Yeap. Otherwise, divorce is the right course.

695
00:32:38,000 --> 00:32:40,160
Speaker 3: That's the end of that story. We've got another one

696
00:32:40,360 --> 00:32:41,120
Speaker 3: coming right up.

697
00:32:41,400 --> 00:32:43,480
Speaker 2: Hey, it's Sam. We'll get back to the stories. But

698
00:32:43,560 --> 00:32:45,640
Speaker 2: here's three minutes of ads from our sponsors.

699
00:32:45,920 --> 00:32:48,760
Speaker 1: I want my sister in law out of my house.

700
00:32:49,080 --> 00:32:50,080
Speaker 2: She's not paying the rent.

701
00:32:50,160 --> 00:32:52,680
Speaker 1: I twenty five female, have been with my boyfriend twenty

702
00:32:52,720 --> 00:32:55,080
Speaker 1: seven Mal for three years. He moved in with me

703
00:32:55,280 --> 00:32:59,640
Speaker 1: last year. Everything was going great until last Christmas when

704
00:32:59,640 --> 00:33:02,440
Speaker 1: his parents it's announced they were selling the family home

705
00:33:02,560 --> 00:33:06,240
Speaker 1: and downsizing. But they wanted to go on one of

706
00:33:06,280 --> 00:33:09,760
Speaker 1: those six month long cruises around the world. Fine, whatever,

707
00:33:09,880 --> 00:33:11,520
Speaker 1: they can do, whatever they want. By the way, this

708
00:33:11,560 --> 00:33:14,360
Speaker 1: comes from Dramatic Sandwich seventeen and if you want to

709
00:33:14,360 --> 00:33:16,320
Speaker 1: see your own stories, go to the ard slash Okay

710
00:33:16,360 --> 00:33:20,360
Speaker 1: story t I'm suburate, so Op says, except they have

711
00:33:20,560 --> 00:33:25,160
Speaker 1: a younger daughter, Emma, who's eighteen, completely unbeknoast to me.

712
00:33:25,520 --> 00:33:28,240
Speaker 1: My boyfriend had agreed to let Emma live with us

713
00:33:28,560 --> 00:33:31,680
Speaker 1: until she moved away to university. This led to a

714
00:33:31,680 --> 00:33:34,239
Speaker 1: lot of fies between me and my boyfriend because I

715
00:33:34,240 --> 00:33:37,960
Speaker 1: didn't want Emma living with us. By all this, she

716
00:33:38,120 --> 00:33:41,719
Speaker 1: moved in after the household in February. It has been

717
00:33:41,800 --> 00:33:44,760
Speaker 1: heck number one. I would like to know why you're

718
00:33:44,800 --> 00:33:48,080
Speaker 1: not about this. I mean, I get some siblings can't.

719
00:33:48,200 --> 00:33:49,120
Speaker 2: Some people just want to go.

720
00:33:49,800 --> 00:33:51,719
Speaker 1: You know, Kean, how is it living with your sibling

721
00:33:51,840 --> 00:33:53,400
Speaker 1: that's Dakota. No, I'm asking you.

722
00:33:53,680 --> 00:33:55,960
Speaker 4: I love her, but I could live without her.

723
00:33:56,160 --> 00:33:57,840
Speaker 1: Okay, do you live with any siblings?

724
00:33:57,880 --> 00:34:00,840
Speaker 2: Oh? My siblings are gone? Like it was all right.

725
00:34:00,920 --> 00:34:02,400
Speaker 1: It'd be like, what do you mean gone?

726
00:34:02,520 --> 00:34:04,640
Speaker 2: Like my brother moved out and then my sister had

727
00:34:04,680 --> 00:34:05,920
Speaker 2: her kid and then she moved out.

728
00:34:06,000 --> 00:34:06,600
Speaker 1: Oh got it?

729
00:34:06,640 --> 00:34:07,760
Speaker 4: I thought gone gone?

730
00:34:07,960 --> 00:34:09,359
Speaker 2: Oh oh no, just the.

731
00:34:09,320 --> 00:34:10,040
Speaker 1: Way you said that.

732
00:34:11,600 --> 00:34:13,720
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, no, not that morbid.

733
00:34:13,880 --> 00:34:15,959
Speaker 1: No, I would like to know a little context between

734
00:34:16,000 --> 00:34:18,280
Speaker 1: the relationship. I don't. Yeah, She's like, no, I can't

735
00:34:18,320 --> 00:34:18,760
Speaker 1: do it.

736
00:34:18,880 --> 00:34:21,839
Speaker 2: Some people just like their their private space, you know. Sure, Yeah,

737
00:34:21,840 --> 00:34:25,040
Speaker 2: I mean it's it's not Ope's siblings, so they don't

738
00:34:25,080 --> 00:34:27,200
Speaker 2: have that kind of bond or that familiarity.

739
00:34:27,360 --> 00:34:27,600
Speaker 4: Yeah.

740
00:34:27,680 --> 00:34:30,520
Speaker 1: And the age gap is Emma's eighteen and Op's like

741
00:34:30,640 --> 00:34:31,919
Speaker 1: twenty nine. I think twenty seven.

742
00:34:31,960 --> 00:34:34,839
Speaker 4: She's twenty seven, twenty seven, boyfriend's twenty seven.

743
00:34:34,920 --> 00:34:35,879
Speaker 2: That's a ten year gap.

744
00:34:36,040 --> 00:34:36,160
Speaker 1: Ye.

745
00:34:36,360 --> 00:34:38,560
Speaker 2: That's like you're in very different stages of your life.

746
00:34:38,560 --> 00:34:41,480
Speaker 1: For starters, or house might have three bedrooms, but only

747
00:34:41,560 --> 00:34:44,719
Speaker 1: one was used as a bedroom, one is my home office,

748
00:34:44,920 --> 00:34:47,840
Speaker 1: and the other was a gym for me and my boyfriend.

749
00:34:47,920 --> 00:34:49,840
Speaker 1: Emma turned the gym into her room. I don't like

750
00:34:49,840 --> 00:34:51,520
Speaker 1: the way she's put them, and now a lot of

751
00:34:51,520 --> 00:34:54,719
Speaker 1: our equipment is in storage. I hate having Emma here

752
00:34:55,400 --> 00:34:59,040
Speaker 1: as she's a total brat and doesn't contribute to anything

753
00:34:59,040 --> 00:35:00,080
Speaker 1: to the house. Okay, there were.

754
00:35:00,280 --> 00:35:01,440
Speaker 2: She ain't paying the mortgage.

755
00:35:01,480 --> 00:35:04,440
Speaker 1: The second Imma turned eighteen, she was out with friends,

756
00:35:04,480 --> 00:35:07,200
Speaker 1: coming back wasted at three am and waking up my

757
00:35:07,400 --> 00:35:11,480
Speaker 1: dogs as she clattered into the house. Normally with an

758
00:35:11,600 --> 00:35:14,760
Speaker 1: equally wasted friend. For the first month of her living

759
00:35:14,760 --> 00:35:21,200
Speaker 1: with us, she would steal my stuff constantly, skincare, hair care, perfume, clothes, anything.

760
00:35:21,800 --> 00:35:24,560
Speaker 1: I now have a lockuple box for tuler trees so

761
00:35:25,040 --> 00:35:25,960
Speaker 1: she can't get to them.

762
00:35:26,040 --> 00:35:28,120
Speaker 2: She'll find a way. If she wants those toilet trees,

763
00:35:28,239 --> 00:35:30,560
Speaker 2: she will absolutely break that box.

764
00:35:30,800 --> 00:35:34,080
Speaker 1: She has lost six different sets of house keys since

765
00:35:34,120 --> 00:35:37,200
Speaker 1: moving in, and I've had to have the lot changed

766
00:35:37,200 --> 00:35:40,960
Speaker 1: twice due to various issues. She refuses to do anything

767
00:35:41,160 --> 00:35:44,720
Speaker 1: I ask her to do because she's busy. She doesn't

768
00:35:44,760 --> 00:35:47,440
Speaker 1: have a job, so how is she busy. She also

769
00:35:47,520 --> 00:35:50,239
Speaker 1: refuses to eat anything I cook and will demand we

770
00:35:50,440 --> 00:35:54,680
Speaker 1: order takeout instead. I have asked her repeatedly for mill ideas,

771
00:35:55,120 --> 00:35:58,240
Speaker 1: and even if I make that exact meal, she refuses

772
00:35:58,280 --> 00:36:01,759
Speaker 1: to eat it, claiming it tastes stry. Uh there's something

773
00:36:01,800 --> 00:36:03,640
Speaker 1: missing here, do you see it?

774
00:36:03,840 --> 00:36:07,239
Speaker 2: I'm just shocked at like everything that this is going, Like, oh,

775
00:36:07,320 --> 00:36:10,160
Speaker 2: OPI doesn't want to live with sister, was not consultant,

776
00:36:10,160 --> 00:36:12,800
Speaker 2: and sisters going out getting trashed and wasted stealing stuff

777
00:36:13,160 --> 00:36:15,560
Speaker 2: like Okay, I think the thing that's missing is where

778
00:36:15,640 --> 00:36:19,680
Speaker 2: is Opie's husband and the older brother in all.

779
00:36:19,560 --> 00:36:21,880
Speaker 1: Of this yeah, or OPI's boyfriend, Yeah.

780
00:36:21,760 --> 00:36:24,480
Speaker 2: Boyfriend, Yeah, where is where is said boyfriend? And all

781
00:36:24,480 --> 00:36:26,120
Speaker 2: of this controlling said sister.

782
00:36:26,280 --> 00:36:28,160
Speaker 1: His boyfriend's like, Oh, your sister can move in?

783
00:36:28,280 --> 00:36:28,600
Speaker 2: Why not?

784
00:36:29,000 --> 00:36:31,719
Speaker 1: It's weird, Kean, do you see what's missing here?

785
00:36:31,760 --> 00:36:35,319
Speaker 4: It's very odd because the sister is just all about

786
00:36:35,400 --> 00:36:36,360
Speaker 4: her her her.

787
00:36:36,440 --> 00:36:38,480
Speaker 1: Well, she's a total brat. That's always been the case.

788
00:36:38,520 --> 00:36:40,719
Speaker 4: So there's what's missing is communication.

789
00:36:40,360 --> 00:36:43,440
Speaker 1: Thank you, there, it is communication. There is not once

790
00:36:43,920 --> 00:36:48,080
Speaker 1: have I ever seen we talked I she probably the

791
00:36:48,080 --> 00:36:51,480
Speaker 1: only thing she's probably ever done was throw mill idea

792
00:36:51,800 --> 00:36:53,759
Speaker 1: ideas around her, like, hey, if you don't like warm cook,

793
00:36:53,760 --> 00:36:55,120
Speaker 1: can you can tell me what you want to eat

794
00:36:55,160 --> 00:36:57,040
Speaker 1: and I'll make it for you. That's probably the only

795
00:36:57,080 --> 00:36:57,680
Speaker 1: thing she's done.

796
00:36:57,680 --> 00:37:01,560
Speaker 2: Also, losing six house keys, Yeah, that's a safety issue

797
00:37:01,640 --> 00:37:05,279
Speaker 2: right there. Like if someone knows that you live there

798
00:37:05,320 --> 00:37:06,440
Speaker 2: and they want to get in the house and they

799
00:37:06,480 --> 00:37:10,479
Speaker 2: just steal a key from sister, you're in baby, change

800
00:37:10,520 --> 00:37:12,080
Speaker 2: them locks, yikes.

801
00:37:11,719 --> 00:37:13,080
Speaker 1: And they have they changed them twa.

802
00:37:13,080 --> 00:37:15,960
Speaker 2: Six six keys, two locks. That's not safe.

803
00:37:16,040 --> 00:37:17,439
Speaker 4: That's literally one too many.

804
00:37:17,480 --> 00:37:19,160
Speaker 1: Oh you lost your keys? You can't come back in?

805
00:37:19,400 --> 00:37:19,600
Speaker 2: Yeah?

806
00:37:19,680 --> 00:37:22,440
Speaker 1: Til you find them. The breaking point came last weekend

807
00:37:22,440 --> 00:37:24,840
Speaker 1: when my boyfriend, the dogs, and I went away for

808
00:37:24,840 --> 00:37:27,840
Speaker 1: the weekend. I was reluctant to leave Emma in the

809
00:37:27,840 --> 00:37:30,319
Speaker 1: house by herself, but my boyfriend said it would be

810
00:37:30,320 --> 00:37:32,960
Speaker 1: a great way for her to gain some independence before

811
00:37:33,000 --> 00:37:34,279
Speaker 1: going back to university.

812
00:37:34,840 --> 00:37:37,359
Speaker 4: You say the joke, just don't let the house burn down,

813
00:37:38,840 --> 00:37:41,080
Speaker 4: and that's literally She's gonna take that and be like

814
00:37:41,160 --> 00:37:44,000
Speaker 4: it's a challenge. Yeah, I didn't burn down the house.

815
00:37:44,160 --> 00:37:46,000
Speaker 2: I know. I didn't burn down the house. The other

816
00:37:46,040 --> 00:37:46,960
Speaker 2: person did. It wasn't me.

817
00:37:47,200 --> 00:37:50,960
Speaker 1: Yeah, big mistake. We came back on Sunday evening to

818
00:37:51,040 --> 00:37:54,719
Speaker 1: a trash house and a hungover Emma's sleep in her room.

819
00:37:55,200 --> 00:37:57,720
Speaker 1: I had to get a professional cleaner in on Monday

820
00:37:57,760 --> 00:37:59,839
Speaker 1: to tackle the worst of the mess. After I spent

821
00:38:00,120 --> 00:38:03,200
Speaker 1: half the night cleaning, I'm done. I want her out

822
00:38:03,239 --> 00:38:05,319
Speaker 1: of the house. I thought I could deal with this

823
00:38:05,480 --> 00:38:09,320
Speaker 1: until she moved away in September, but I can't, especially

824
00:38:09,360 --> 00:38:12,560
Speaker 1: now that she's talking about putting her place on hold

825
00:38:12,600 --> 00:38:15,200
Speaker 1: for a year so she can go traveling and use

826
00:38:15,239 --> 00:38:17,840
Speaker 1: our house as a base. Oh no, you can't do

827
00:38:18,239 --> 00:38:21,960
Speaker 1: what the parents are doing. Come on, also, Amy, Dean

828
00:38:22,560 --> 00:38:25,759
Speaker 1: is boyfriend stupid party. Yeah, I would like to talk

829
00:38:25,800 --> 00:38:28,680
Speaker 1: to the boyfriend here. Why why is he super nice

830
00:38:28,719 --> 00:38:30,919
Speaker 1: guy and not actually seeing what's going on.

831
00:38:31,000 --> 00:38:34,080
Speaker 4: I would be very mad at her, but at the

832
00:38:34,120 --> 00:38:37,000
Speaker 4: end of the day, boyfriend was like, Nah, like this

833
00:38:37,000 --> 00:38:38,759
Speaker 4: will be fine, right. I would just turn to him

834
00:38:38,800 --> 00:38:40,040
Speaker 4: and be like, you're cleaning this up.

835
00:38:40,200 --> 00:38:44,279
Speaker 2: No, boyfriend has confrontation and boundary issues. Ah, boyfriend just

836
00:38:44,280 --> 00:38:46,160
Speaker 2: doesn't want to have a fight about it, I guess,

837
00:38:46,160 --> 00:38:47,399
Speaker 2: and doesn't want to be the bad guy.

838
00:38:47,560 --> 00:38:47,719
Speaker 4: No.

839
00:38:48,160 --> 00:38:51,840
Speaker 1: I want her gone out and as soon as possible. True,

840
00:38:51,920 --> 00:38:54,359
Speaker 1: she has nowhere else to go as her parents aren't

841
00:38:54,400 --> 00:38:56,840
Speaker 1: back from their cruise until the end of August. But

842
00:38:56,880 --> 00:38:59,400
Speaker 1: I don't care. I want her gone. I've talked to

843
00:38:59,400 --> 00:39:02,280
Speaker 1: my boyfriend out this and he won't budge because Emma

844
00:39:02,400 --> 00:39:05,040
Speaker 1: is family and he can't punt her out. So would

845
00:39:05,040 --> 00:39:07,120
Speaker 1: it be the a hole if I punt her out? Okay,

846
00:39:07,400 --> 00:39:10,840
Speaker 1: I think I'm a little unclear here. Emma is the

847
00:39:10,920 --> 00:39:14,239
Speaker 1: boyfriend's sister or op's sister. You can you can go

848
00:39:14,280 --> 00:39:15,200
Speaker 1: to dinga spot and hit the.

849
00:39:15,239 --> 00:39:17,600
Speaker 2: Voice it's the boyfriend's sister.

850
00:39:17,800 --> 00:39:21,920
Speaker 1: Okay, Okay, yeah, yeah, that's why. Okay, yeah, so this

851
00:39:22,080 --> 00:39:23,080
Speaker 1: is boyfriend's issue.

852
00:39:23,160 --> 00:39:26,000
Speaker 2: It'd be very weird if it was ops sister.

853
00:39:26,040 --> 00:39:27,040
Speaker 1: I don't know why I thought that.

854
00:39:27,200 --> 00:39:28,879
Speaker 2: I mean, if it was, then there's a whole nother

855
00:39:28,920 --> 00:39:31,799
Speaker 2: issue that we have to investigate there. Yeah, but that

856
00:39:31,880 --> 00:39:33,080
Speaker 2: is we don't have that right now.

857
00:39:33,160 --> 00:39:38,160
Speaker 1: That's weird. So if this girl, your boyfriend's sister's causing

858
00:39:38,200 --> 00:39:41,240
Speaker 1: all this trouble, so that must mean that the boyfriend

859
00:39:41,239 --> 00:39:42,719
Speaker 1: gets to clean up after all this and gets to

860
00:39:42,760 --> 00:39:43,319
Speaker 1: clean up the mess.

861
00:39:43,400 --> 00:39:46,440
Speaker 4: Right, Yeah, You're sister supposed to be her mess, your problem.

862
00:39:46,560 --> 00:39:48,399
Speaker 2: I mean, do we really think the boyfriends are doing

863
00:39:48,440 --> 00:39:49,880
Speaker 2: anything except sitting around all day?

864
00:39:49,960 --> 00:39:51,920
Speaker 1: Dude? In this situation, I'm bringing.

865
00:39:51,719 --> 00:39:54,640
Speaker 2: Up the fact that Op had to pay to get

866
00:39:54,680 --> 00:39:58,440
Speaker 2: the place cleaned, and sister's not paying rent, not helping

867
00:39:58,480 --> 00:40:02,359
Speaker 2: for food, not contributing towards literally doing nothing, not even

868
00:40:02,360 --> 00:40:05,680
Speaker 2: in school yet. She's not even in school yet, She

869
00:40:05,920 --> 00:40:09,040
Speaker 2: just turned eighteen, waiting to leave for school, and she's

870
00:40:09,080 --> 00:40:10,040
Speaker 2: doing this.

871
00:40:10,040 --> 00:40:11,160
Speaker 1: This is crazy, dude.

872
00:40:11,239 --> 00:40:13,080
Speaker 2: This is worse than like a lot of the people

873
00:40:13,080 --> 00:40:15,240
Speaker 2: I knew who like partied every gone and did France,

874
00:40:15,280 --> 00:40:18,719
Speaker 2: Like I partied a bit in college, but like we

875
00:40:18,840 --> 00:40:21,640
Speaker 2: always talked about it we always cleaned up after it.

876
00:40:21,680 --> 00:40:23,000
Speaker 2: We took care of it ourselves.

877
00:40:23,040 --> 00:40:24,799
Speaker 1: Like, well, you're a pretty responsible guy.

878
00:40:24,960 --> 00:40:25,880
Speaker 2: Yeah that's true.

879
00:40:25,880 --> 00:40:27,160
Speaker 1: But like, and your parents are raised you.

880
00:40:27,239 --> 00:40:29,120
Speaker 2: Well, I mean, if if this is how.

881
00:40:29,120 --> 00:40:31,280
Speaker 1: These parents said, oh we're going to cruises, other house,

882
00:40:31,520 --> 00:40:32,640
Speaker 1: good luck finding somewhere to lift.

883
00:40:32,680 --> 00:40:35,839
Speaker 2: If this is how Sis is behaving before she's even

884
00:40:35,840 --> 00:40:39,120
Speaker 2: in college, oh this is this is a bad sign. Yeah.

885
00:40:39,160 --> 00:40:42,000
Speaker 4: Firstly, this is what happened to me. If this is

886
00:40:42,040 --> 00:40:44,120
Speaker 4: what you know with my parents, if they saw this,

887
00:40:44,600 --> 00:40:46,560
Speaker 4: they wouldn't clean it up. You're like, you're cleaning this up.

888
00:40:46,640 --> 00:40:48,840
Speaker 4: Yeah that's that, or you're or you're out. But in

889
00:40:48,920 --> 00:40:51,040
Speaker 4: this case, clean this up and then get out.

890
00:40:51,080 --> 00:40:53,920
Speaker 1: Forgot to mention that it's my house. I own it

891
00:40:54,000 --> 00:40:57,359
Speaker 1: outright with no mortgage, and my boyfriend is not on

892
00:40:57,400 --> 00:41:00,799
Speaker 1: any official documents gotch. Only thing in his name is

893
00:41:00,800 --> 00:41:03,919
Speaker 1: our sky TV payments. Everything else is in my name

894
00:41:04,280 --> 00:41:06,680
Speaker 1: as I live here before he moved in. He does

895
00:41:06,760 --> 00:41:10,240
Speaker 1: pay half towards bills, but he just sends the money

896
00:41:10,239 --> 00:41:12,600
Speaker 1: to me each month. I'm going to try and talk

897
00:41:12,640 --> 00:41:15,759
Speaker 1: to Emma and my boyfriend's parents. I sent them a

898
00:41:15,800 --> 00:41:18,920
Speaker 1: text message asking them to call me as soon as possible.

899
00:41:19,239 --> 00:41:22,520
Speaker 1: I'm also reaching out to Emma and my boyfriend's older

900
00:41:22,600 --> 00:41:25,319
Speaker 1: sister to see if she will take Emma in for

901
00:41:25,360 --> 00:41:28,359
Speaker 1: a while. I doubt she will, as they don't get

902
00:41:28,360 --> 00:41:30,960
Speaker 1: along and she has a two year old, but it's

903
00:41:30,960 --> 00:41:31,560
Speaker 1: worth shot.

904
00:41:31,880 --> 00:41:34,279
Speaker 2: Those parents are not picking up throwing a cruise. They

905
00:41:34,320 --> 00:41:37,000
Speaker 2: pieced out they don't want to deal with sister anymore.

906
00:41:37,600 --> 00:41:40,160
Speaker 2: That's your problem now. Well she's eighteen, she can Yeah,

907
00:41:40,280 --> 00:41:43,920
Speaker 2: she's her own problem now. And then brother decided, oh no,

908
00:41:44,040 --> 00:41:46,520
Speaker 2: she's our problem now at it too.

909
00:41:46,880 --> 00:41:50,680
Speaker 1: I'm such a gosh darn idiot. Firstly, thanks to all

910
00:41:50,680 --> 00:41:53,160
Speaker 1: the comments, I've realized that my boyfriend is not the

911
00:41:53,200 --> 00:41:55,040
Speaker 1: person I want to spend the rest of my life with.

912
00:41:55,400 --> 00:41:56,480
Speaker 2: WHOA okay?

913
00:41:56,680 --> 00:41:59,480
Speaker 1: Oh Secondly, I managed to have a video call with

914
00:41:59,520 --> 00:42:03,000
Speaker 1: my boyfriend parents and wow, just wow. First of all,

915
00:42:03,400 --> 00:42:06,320
Speaker 1: they have been sending Emma seven hundred pounds a month

916
00:42:06,480 --> 00:42:09,560
Speaker 1: to cover her living with us, and I haven't seen

917
00:42:09,600 --> 00:42:10,399
Speaker 1: a penny of it.

918
00:42:11,400 --> 00:42:13,560
Speaker 2: So she was supposed to be paying rent at least

919
00:42:13,600 --> 00:42:17,080
Speaker 2: a little bit. That's where the alcohol money's coming from.

920
00:42:17,440 --> 00:42:20,200
Speaker 1: Their mom mentioned that I could take the cleaner fee

921
00:42:20,280 --> 00:42:23,360
Speaker 1: out of Emma's money, and I asked what money she

922
00:42:23,520 --> 00:42:27,000
Speaker 1: meant because Emma doesn't have a job. She left and said, oh,

923
00:42:27,239 --> 00:42:29,640
Speaker 1: this is seven hundred pounds we sent Emma each month

924
00:42:29,920 --> 00:42:32,600
Speaker 1: to cover all her expenses while she lives with you.

925
00:42:32,719 --> 00:42:35,759
Speaker 1: They've been sending Emma money and she was supposed to

926
00:42:35,800 --> 00:42:39,560
Speaker 1: be giving this money to us to cover everything. Either

927
00:42:39,640 --> 00:42:42,279
Speaker 1: Emma has been keeping it or she's given it to

928
00:42:42,320 --> 00:42:44,759
Speaker 1: my boyfriend and he has a said a word. How

929
00:42:44,800 --> 00:42:47,160
Speaker 1: do you think the boyfriend knows about this? Unless he does,

930
00:42:47,239 --> 00:42:48,400
Speaker 1: Oh gosh.

931
00:42:48,000 --> 00:42:52,000
Speaker 2: Maybe he's he Probably he might. No, maybe I don't

932
00:42:52,000 --> 00:42:54,279
Speaker 2: think he does. But if he does, he's he sees

933
00:42:54,360 --> 00:42:56,680
Speaker 2: sister as like a meal ticket and he's taking the money.

934
00:42:56,719 --> 00:42:57,520
Speaker 2: Or maybe they're splitting it.

935
00:42:57,560 --> 00:42:59,040
Speaker 1: Oh gosh, they.

936
00:42:59,040 --> 00:42:59,960
Speaker 2: Might be splitting the money.

937
00:43:00,000 --> 00:43:03,239
Speaker 1: Surprisingly, her parents are furious that I haven't seen any

938
00:43:03,320 --> 00:43:05,879
Speaker 1: of this money, and they are sending me a bank

939
00:43:05,960 --> 00:43:10,120
Speaker 1: transfer of forty two hundred pounds to cover the money

940
00:43:10,280 --> 00:43:12,200
Speaker 1: Emma should have been giving us since February.

941
00:43:12,280 --> 00:43:13,080
Speaker 4: Good on the parents.

942
00:43:13,160 --> 00:43:14,320
Speaker 2: How much is that in dollars?

943
00:43:14,480 --> 00:43:15,120
Speaker 4: I can look it up.

944
00:43:15,400 --> 00:43:19,239
Speaker 1: I'm gonna say six thousand. I don't know what euros, sorry,

945
00:43:19,239 --> 00:43:21,480
Speaker 1: I was thinking of euros to pounds. Probably I would

946
00:43:21,520 --> 00:43:22,280
Speaker 1: say six thousand.

947
00:43:22,520 --> 00:43:26,880
Speaker 4: That's around five thousand, okay, okay, about.

948
00:43:26,640 --> 00:43:29,400
Speaker 1: Six thousand, okay, roughly they are sending it to my

949
00:43:29,520 --> 00:43:31,880
Speaker 1: personal account, then I can do with it what I

950
00:43:31,920 --> 00:43:34,319
Speaker 1: see fit. I was brutally honest on the call and

951
00:43:34,360 --> 00:43:36,680
Speaker 1: said that I can't have Emma staying here with us

952
00:43:36,800 --> 00:43:40,359
Speaker 1: any longer. Yes, she might leave in September, but what

953
00:43:40,400 --> 00:43:43,839
Speaker 1: if she doesn't get the results she needs for university

954
00:43:43,920 --> 00:43:46,440
Speaker 1: and it has to defer, or if she takes a

955
00:43:46,480 --> 00:43:49,440
Speaker 1: gap year. I'm not putting up with this for another year.

956
00:43:49,800 --> 00:43:52,120
Speaker 1: Their mom is going to talk to her sister see

957
00:43:52,120 --> 00:43:54,480
Speaker 1: if Emma can stay there until they get back at

958
00:43:54,520 --> 00:43:58,040
Speaker 1: the end of August. For those wondering, yes, they have

959
00:43:58,120 --> 00:44:00,200
Speaker 1: a house all lined up for when they return, and

960
00:44:00,560 --> 00:44:03,120
Speaker 1: they will not be living with us when they get back.

961
00:44:03,480 --> 00:44:05,520
Speaker 1: I'm going to have a serious talk with my boyfriend

962
00:44:05,520 --> 00:44:09,880
Speaker 1: this evening, and now I'm rethinking our whole relationship. If

963
00:44:09,920 --> 00:44:12,600
Speaker 1: he tries to fight over Emma staying, then it's over.

964
00:44:13,200 --> 00:44:15,279
Speaker 1: A lot of the comments in this post have made

965
00:44:15,360 --> 00:44:18,400
Speaker 1: me realize that I have been a doormat to this

966
00:44:18,480 --> 00:44:21,840
Speaker 1: man since Emma moved in. Also that I should have

967
00:44:21,920 --> 00:44:26,080
Speaker 1: been charging him rent, and I'm not standing for it anymore,

968
00:44:26,960 --> 00:44:30,000
Speaker 1: so wish me luck. People are read it, wish me luck,

969
00:44:30,120 --> 00:44:33,480
Speaker 1: and we have some comments. Okay, so about the house,

970
00:44:33,640 --> 00:44:36,600
Speaker 1: it's my house. I inherited it from my grandparents when

971
00:44:36,600 --> 00:44:39,960
Speaker 1: they passed away a few years ago, so it's mine outright.

972
00:44:40,280 --> 00:44:43,200
Speaker 1: My boyfriend contributes half towards the bill and stuff, but

973
00:44:43,719 --> 00:44:46,800
Speaker 1: I haven't got around to putting him on any official

974
00:44:46,800 --> 00:44:50,480
Speaker 1: documents yet. I doubt i'll bother now. I would not

975
00:44:50,560 --> 00:44:54,360
Speaker 1: put anyone on official documents until we got a ring involved.

976
00:44:54,760 --> 00:45:00,319
Speaker 2: Even then, if you're married, it's Op's house though, from

977
00:45:00,360 --> 00:45:04,560
Speaker 2: the grandparents. Putting putting him on the title or any

978
00:45:04,600 --> 00:45:08,879
Speaker 2: deeds to the property complicates it because then, like he

979
00:45:08,960 --> 00:45:12,200
Speaker 2: didn't help buy the house, if you break up, then

980
00:45:12,239 --> 00:45:14,160
Speaker 2: he is entitled to half of that house, which he

981
00:45:14,360 --> 00:45:16,799
Speaker 2: did nothing for in this instant. If you're buying the

982
00:45:16,800 --> 00:45:17,560
Speaker 2: house too, I'm.

983
00:45:17,440 --> 00:45:19,200
Speaker 1: Just saying if they ever were talking.

984
00:45:19,040 --> 00:45:22,200
Speaker 2: About But if they are buying the house together, fine

985
00:45:22,200 --> 00:45:23,880
Speaker 2: put your name on it. But if even if they

986
00:45:23,880 --> 00:45:28,200
Speaker 2: get married, if it's Op's house that they got from family,

987
00:45:28,920 --> 00:45:30,960
Speaker 2: don't put his name on it. Just just make it,

988
00:45:31,000 --> 00:45:34,279
Speaker 2: don't that's gonna set you up for trouble. Later mm hmm,

989
00:45:34,719 --> 00:45:37,279
Speaker 2: Like even if it was me and like someone else

990
00:45:37,280 --> 00:45:39,239
Speaker 2: and I was marrying someone else, they had a house, like,

991
00:45:39,600 --> 00:45:42,920
Speaker 2: it's not my house, it's your house. God, I'm living there,

992
00:45:42,960 --> 00:45:45,600
Speaker 2: we're married, but this is yours. Yeah, if you want

993
00:45:45,600 --> 00:45:48,279
Speaker 2: to put me in the will eventually, fine, but I'm

994
00:45:48,280 --> 00:45:50,400
Speaker 2: not pressuring you to put me on your title for

995
00:45:50,480 --> 00:45:52,400
Speaker 2: this house because I did nothing to earn it.

996
00:45:52,480 --> 00:45:55,080
Speaker 1: He was furious when he came home last weekend, but

997
00:45:55,800 --> 00:45:58,200
Speaker 1: also chalked it up to Emma just being a teenager

998
00:45:58,320 --> 00:46:01,640
Speaker 1: and having fun. I'm swiftly realizing he's not the person

999
00:46:02,000 --> 00:46:03,719
Speaker 1: I want to be spending the rest of my life with.

1000
00:46:04,120 --> 00:46:07,400
Speaker 1: Commenter info, who pays for all her stuff? The locks,

1001
00:46:07,440 --> 00:46:10,040
Speaker 1: the cleaner is, the takeouts? Why do you clean up

1002
00:46:10,200 --> 00:46:13,640
Speaker 1: whole night? And what did your boyfriend and the culprit do?

1003
00:46:14,160 --> 00:46:17,080
Speaker 1: Were there any other consequences for her? What does your

1004
00:46:17,080 --> 00:46:20,239
Speaker 1: boyfriend say about the situation? Opie says, my boyfriend paid

1005
00:46:20,239 --> 00:46:23,160
Speaker 1: for the locks to be changed, as I refused, I

1006
00:46:23,239 --> 00:46:25,600
Speaker 1: paid for the cleaner, and I assume my boyfriend pays

1007
00:46:25,640 --> 00:46:28,680
Speaker 1: for her food as I don't. Commenter, I'm laughing only

1008
00:46:29,040 --> 00:46:31,839
Speaker 1: because I don't understand how you dealt with this for

1009
00:46:31,880 --> 00:46:35,160
Speaker 1: so long. Not the a hill. Respectfully, you can't seriously

1010
00:46:35,200 --> 00:46:38,000
Speaker 1: want to be living with someone that's controlling what you

1011
00:46:38,040 --> 00:46:41,880
Speaker 1: want done in your home. What you say goes into discussion.

1012
00:46:41,960 --> 00:46:45,200
Speaker 1: Opie says, Honestly, I don't know how I haven't gone

1013
00:46:45,280 --> 00:46:48,560
Speaker 1: crazy yet. I think I assumed it would get better

1014
00:46:48,920 --> 00:46:51,799
Speaker 1: since she's be gone by September. Also didn't think she'd

1015
00:46:51,840 --> 00:46:55,080
Speaker 1: be this much of a brat. And to a downvoted commenter,

1016
00:46:55,120 --> 00:46:58,120
Speaker 1: Opie says, at the same time, put yourself in Emma's place.

1017
00:46:58,560 --> 00:47:00,839
Speaker 1: Her parents took off for six months and left her.

1018
00:47:01,160 --> 00:47:04,120
Speaker 1: She's been abandoned by her own parents, apparently a little

1019
00:47:04,160 --> 00:47:08,760
Speaker 1: before she turned eighteen. That sucks, and she's likely acting

1020
00:47:08,800 --> 00:47:12,560
Speaker 1: out due to that. There is nothing like feeling unwanted

1021
00:47:12,560 --> 00:47:15,760
Speaker 1: by your own parents. The parents don't seem to want Emma,

1022
00:47:16,000 --> 00:47:19,880
Speaker 1: and she knows that. That's why she's talking about staying

1023
00:47:19,880 --> 00:47:23,080
Speaker 1: with you for the next year. I'd feel sympathy for her,

1024
00:47:23,200 --> 00:47:26,560
Speaker 1: but they have spoiled her for years. Believe me, they

1025
00:47:26,600 --> 00:47:29,800
Speaker 1: have never made that girl feel unwanted. And another commenter

1026
00:47:29,840 --> 00:47:32,560
Speaker 1: says both can go, and why didn't he clean up

1027
00:47:32,960 --> 00:47:36,800
Speaker 1: himself and have him pay for the professional cleaning services

1028
00:47:37,000 --> 00:47:40,120
Speaker 1: smells of Ai, not the a hole. Obi says he

1029
00:47:40,280 --> 00:47:42,799
Speaker 1: was talking to Emma and watching the dogs while I

1030
00:47:42,920 --> 00:47:45,920
Speaker 1: was cleaning. He apparently asked Hima to apologize to me,

1031
00:47:46,040 --> 00:47:49,280
Speaker 1: but it fell on deaf ears as I still haven't

1032
00:47:49,320 --> 00:47:52,759
Speaker 1: had an apology for nearly over a week. I pay

1033
00:47:52,800 --> 00:47:55,440
Speaker 1: for the cleaner. He paid for the locks to be changed.

1034
00:47:55,680 --> 00:47:58,600
Speaker 2: He should still pay for the cleaner. Yeah, yeah, it's

1035
00:47:58,719 --> 00:48:00,800
Speaker 2: your sister crazy again.

1036
00:48:01,040 --> 00:48:03,160
Speaker 4: But just back to what I said with my parents,

1037
00:48:03,520 --> 00:48:05,319
Speaker 4: if I didn't clean it up, they would just get

1038
00:48:05,320 --> 00:48:08,480
Speaker 4: the trash and put in my room. I'm not kidding.

1039
00:48:08,600 --> 00:48:12,000
Speaker 1: I had a friend. Anytime a roommate would leave dishes

1040
00:48:12,000 --> 00:48:14,200
Speaker 1: in the sink, he would get all the dishes and

1041
00:48:14,200 --> 00:48:15,000
Speaker 1: put him on his bed.

1042
00:48:15,160 --> 00:48:15,919
Speaker 4: I used to death.

1043
00:48:15,960 --> 00:48:17,320
Speaker 1: He said he has to do with this before he

1044
00:48:17,360 --> 00:48:17,880
Speaker 1: goes to sleep.

1045
00:48:18,000 --> 00:48:20,440
Speaker 4: I did that in college with one of my roommates.

1046
00:48:20,520 --> 00:48:22,560
Speaker 4: I was like, all right, I'm not washing these. I

1047
00:48:22,600 --> 00:48:23,680
Speaker 4: put him in front of his room.

1048
00:48:23,800 --> 00:48:25,520
Speaker 2: There was a one time when I first moved in

1049
00:48:25,600 --> 00:48:28,120
Speaker 2: my apartment, there was a bowl I had. I was

1050
00:48:28,200 --> 00:48:30,440
Speaker 2: gone for a little bit because I was doing camp stuff.

1051
00:48:30,640 --> 00:48:32,960
Speaker 2: But there's a bowl that was in the sink, a

1052
00:48:32,960 --> 00:48:36,600
Speaker 2: blue bowl. That was not cleaned. I came back weeks

1053
00:48:36,640 --> 00:48:40,000
Speaker 2: later that bowl was still there in the same spot.

1054
00:48:40,120 --> 00:48:41,200
Speaker 4: Ooh, with mold on it.

1055
00:48:41,239 --> 00:48:43,920
Speaker 2: Probably no, thankfully not. But I dumped it out and

1056
00:48:43,960 --> 00:48:46,680
Speaker 2: I just the worst smell of my life, just waffed

1057
00:48:46,680 --> 00:48:49,000
Speaker 2: it up, and it's like, no one's gonna clean this.

1058
00:48:49,239 --> 00:48:51,640
Speaker 2: Good God, Okay, I'm going to clean it. And every

1059
00:48:51,640 --> 00:48:53,759
Speaker 2: second of it was pure torture for my nostrils.

1060
00:48:53,920 --> 00:48:56,480
Speaker 1: Yeah loud, your mom did this to you?

1061
00:48:56,760 --> 00:48:59,320
Speaker 2: I feel like for for cis though. It's like you're

1062
00:48:59,520 --> 00:49:01,920
Speaker 2: in your you were a guest. Did their parents not

1063
00:49:01,920 --> 00:49:04,200
Speaker 2: teach you how to be respectful? Like, oh, you have

1064
00:49:04,239 --> 00:49:05,360
Speaker 2: nowhere else to go?

1065
00:49:05,360 --> 00:49:05,680
Speaker 1: Gosh?

1066
00:49:05,760 --> 00:49:08,759
Speaker 2: No, Like, do you not realize that you gotta be

1067
00:49:08,800 --> 00:49:10,440
Speaker 2: on your best behapvior because people can kick you out.

1068
00:49:10,480 --> 00:49:11,840
Speaker 2: You don't live there, you're a guest.

1069
00:49:12,160 --> 00:49:14,480
Speaker 1: There's a So there's a little comment about the party.

1070
00:49:14,600 --> 00:49:16,640
Speaker 1: So how much of a mess did she make? It

1071
00:49:16,760 --> 00:49:19,120
Speaker 1: sounds like she had a bunch of people over without

1072
00:49:19,160 --> 00:49:22,080
Speaker 1: telling you guys about it. It also wouldn't surprise me

1073
00:49:22,560 --> 00:49:25,000
Speaker 1: if the missing keys go to her friends. Since she

1074
00:49:25,080 --> 00:49:28,759
Speaker 1: feels like brothers things are her things. Opie says she

1075
00:49:28,920 --> 00:49:32,000
Speaker 1: had some of her old school friends over and friends

1076
00:49:32,000 --> 00:49:36,040
Speaker 1: from her college course. I'm guestling roughly thirty to thirty

1077
00:49:36,040 --> 00:49:39,319
Speaker 1: five teenagers. The mess was a lot. My kitchen and

1078
00:49:39,360 --> 00:49:42,200
Speaker 1: living room were full of empty bottles, cans and snacks.

1079
00:49:42,600 --> 00:49:46,200
Speaker 1: All the rugs downstairs had to be clean, staircase carpet

1080
00:49:46,320 --> 00:49:50,360
Speaker 1: had to be clean, and both bathrooms. Luckily, there was

1081
00:49:50,400 --> 00:49:53,840
Speaker 1: no permanent day image underage drinking. We're in the UK,

1082
00:49:54,040 --> 00:49:57,239
Speaker 1: so the legal drinking age is eighteen. Dog's okay. The

1083
00:49:57,320 --> 00:50:00,000
Speaker 1: dogs were with us. I never go away without them.

1084
00:50:00,160 --> 00:50:03,359
Speaker 1: We have an update. Can we get a poll real quick? Uh?

1085
00:50:03,440 --> 00:50:06,719
Speaker 1: Does Opie break up or stay with the boyfriend?

1086
00:50:06,800 --> 00:50:07,240
Speaker 2: Breakup?

1087
00:50:07,320 --> 00:50:08,480
Speaker 1: She can definitely gonna break up.

1088
00:50:08,480 --> 00:50:12,160
Speaker 2: I say breakup. She should if she doesn't, because he's enabling,

1089
00:50:12,360 --> 00:50:16,160
Speaker 2: he has no spine, he does not care. Oh he's well.

1090
00:50:16,280 --> 00:50:18,880
Speaker 2: Imagine that man trying to parent. Oh gosh, imagine that

1091
00:50:18,920 --> 00:50:22,600
Speaker 2: man trying to parent. Oh oh those kids are gonna

1092
00:50:22,640 --> 00:50:25,200
Speaker 2: run rough shot over over that he's playing good cop.

1093
00:50:25,520 --> 00:50:28,400
Speaker 2: He's forcing OPI to play bad cop. That never works.

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00:50:28,440 --> 00:50:31,759
Speaker 2: There's no united front between them. The man's cooked. Get

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00:50:31,840 --> 00:50:34,760
Speaker 2: rid of them. Yeah, this man is. This man is trash.

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00:50:34,920 --> 00:50:36,840
Speaker 2: I agree, should have been thrown out with all this

1097
00:50:36,840 --> 00:50:37,680
Speaker 2: stuff in the party?

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00:50:37,880 --> 00:50:39,160
Speaker 1: Yeah, do you think they're going to break up?

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00:50:40,800 --> 00:50:42,879
Speaker 4: As long as he keeps doing the same pattern of

1100
00:50:43,600 --> 00:50:46,600
Speaker 4: letting the sister take control of him, he's not doing

1101
00:50:46,640 --> 00:50:47,960
Speaker 4: anything about the problem.

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00:50:48,120 --> 00:50:48,520
Speaker 2: Yeah.

1103
00:50:48,680 --> 00:50:51,160
Speaker 4: I've seen no reason why not to true.

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Speaker 1: And we have one hundred fourteen fifteen vote sixteen votes

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Speaker 1: of breakups, counting and counting. Keep voting, guys.

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00:51:00,080 --> 00:51:00,759
Speaker 2: On og host.

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00:51:00,760 --> 00:51:02,279
Speaker 1: We don't get back to the stories, but a quick

1108
00:51:02,280 --> 00:51:05,120
Speaker 1: three minute break of ads from our sponsors. Next day,

1109
00:51:05,400 --> 00:51:08,240
Speaker 1: I sat down with both my boyfriend for this update

1110
00:51:08,440 --> 00:51:11,319
Speaker 1: we're calling him Tom and Emma last night and laid

1111
00:51:11,360 --> 00:51:13,880
Speaker 1: down the law. I said that Emma needed to go

1112
00:51:14,080 --> 00:51:16,560
Speaker 1: and I couldn't put up with her attitude and her

1113
00:51:16,680 --> 00:51:20,120
Speaker 1: disrespect any longer. For those wondering if Tom knew about

1114
00:51:20,120 --> 00:51:21,400
Speaker 1: the money, he did.

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00:51:21,440 --> 00:51:23,960
Speaker 2: They were splitting. That's my prediction. They were splitting the cash.

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00:51:24,000 --> 00:51:27,520
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh. He wasn't keeping it, but he knew

1117
00:51:27,560 --> 00:51:29,880
Speaker 1: about it. He thought it would be a great chance

1118
00:51:29,920 --> 00:51:34,160
Speaker 1: for Emma to learn about budgeting and responsibilities. Doesn't she

1119
00:51:34,239 --> 00:51:35,959
Speaker 1: have a great role model to look after?

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00:51:36,400 --> 00:51:39,160
Speaker 2: Excuse me, sir, but are you stupid?

1121
00:51:39,400 --> 00:51:42,760
Speaker 1: I said that the evidence has proved that she hasn't

1122
00:51:42,800 --> 00:51:46,480
Speaker 1: learned crap. And if you give an eighteen year old

1123
00:51:46,520 --> 00:51:49,560
Speaker 1: seven hundred pounds a month that she hasn't worked for it,

1124
00:51:49,600 --> 00:51:52,439
Speaker 1: she's going to go nuts with it. If Tom thought

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00:51:52,480 --> 00:51:55,560
Speaker 1: that that would teach her any kind of responsibility, then

1126
00:51:55,600 --> 00:51:58,680
Speaker 1: he's dumber than I was for putting with either one

1127
00:51:58,719 --> 00:52:00,960
Speaker 1: of them. Any last prediction before he finish this.

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00:52:01,320 --> 00:52:03,640
Speaker 2: I think I think brother flips out trust to call

1129
00:52:03,680 --> 00:52:04,960
Speaker 2: on the bluff and then she breaks it off.

1130
00:52:05,040 --> 00:52:07,719
Speaker 4: Okay, I think Opie just breaks up, breaks up with him.

1131
00:52:07,960 --> 00:52:10,600
Speaker 4: There's no like if this is what my boyfriend said,

1132
00:52:10,840 --> 00:52:13,440
Speaker 4: I'd be like, you are so dumb. I'm done with you.

1133
00:52:13,520 --> 00:52:14,000
Speaker 4: I'm done.

1134
00:52:14,280 --> 00:52:17,440
Speaker 1: Yeah. I feel like Tom and sister are gonna find

1135
00:52:17,440 --> 00:52:18,200
Speaker 1: an apartment together.

1136
00:52:18,360 --> 00:52:18,520
Speaker 2: Yeah.

1137
00:52:18,560 --> 00:52:20,200
Speaker 4: I think Opie's gonna have a crash out to be

1138
00:52:20,239 --> 00:52:21,160
Speaker 4: like this is my house.

1139
00:52:21,160 --> 00:52:23,960
Speaker 1: Get out, Yeah, like literally get out, get out right now, please,

1140
00:52:24,080 --> 00:52:26,960
Speaker 1: right now? Get out. Emma tried to defend herself because

1141
00:52:27,040 --> 00:52:29,920
Speaker 1: saying that she thought living with me would be a

1142
00:52:30,000 --> 00:52:33,120
Speaker 1: chance to bond and how I could become another sister

1143
00:52:33,239 --> 00:52:36,560
Speaker 1: for her. Here is it going down? I fired back

1144
00:52:36,719 --> 00:52:39,719
Speaker 1: with if this is how she treats her sibling, then

1145
00:52:39,760 --> 00:52:43,080
Speaker 1: it's no wonder that her actual sister doesn't even like her.

1146
00:52:43,440 --> 00:52:47,879
Speaker 1: Oh that's a burn, mean but fair. As far as

1147
00:52:47,920 --> 00:52:51,080
Speaker 1: my relationship goes, I think I'm done. I've told Tom

1148
00:52:51,080 --> 00:52:53,520
Speaker 1: that it needs some space and to seriously think about

1149
00:52:53,520 --> 00:52:57,800
Speaker 1: this relationship as this whole ordeal has shaken me. Emma

1150
00:52:57,880 --> 00:53:00,399
Speaker 1: is going to stay with her aunt and Tom too.

1151
00:53:00,880 --> 00:53:03,880
Speaker 1: Darn is driving over tomorrow to get Emma in her stuff.

1152
00:53:04,200 --> 00:53:06,759
Speaker 1: Tom is going with them and staying there for a

1153
00:53:06,760 --> 00:53:09,400
Speaker 1: week or so. When he's back, we'll have a proper

1154
00:53:09,400 --> 00:53:12,480
Speaker 1: sit down and talk through everything. My boy key on

1155
00:53:13,400 --> 00:53:15,759
Speaker 1: did they talk through everything? Could we see?

1156
00:53:15,880 --> 00:53:16,520
Speaker 4: I'm gonna check.

1157
00:53:16,719 --> 00:53:18,439
Speaker 1: I think that they broke up.

1158
00:53:18,560 --> 00:53:20,680
Speaker 2: I hope they broke up me too, dude.

1159
00:53:20,719 --> 00:53:24,480
Speaker 1: Imagine having seven, like I would say, about eight hundred

1160
00:53:24,480 --> 00:53:27,400
Speaker 1: bucks a month, Imagine having eight fifty, eight hundred and

1161
00:53:27,400 --> 00:53:29,160
Speaker 1: fifty dollars a month in eighteen.

1162
00:53:29,080 --> 00:53:31,560
Speaker 2: Oh if that was like me when we had pandemic,

1163
00:53:31,600 --> 00:53:34,040
Speaker 2: I was getting because I got laid off because you

1164
00:53:34,040 --> 00:53:37,160
Speaker 2: don't need an events reporter at a newspaper if there's

1165
00:53:37,160 --> 00:53:39,160
Speaker 2: no events to go to. So I got laid off.

1166
00:53:39,920 --> 00:53:41,560
Speaker 2: And then when my stimulus check, you out what I

1167
00:53:41,560 --> 00:53:44,160
Speaker 2: did with it? What stacks of comic books got a

1168
00:53:44,160 --> 00:53:46,719
Speaker 2: boy although that did help me get my current job

1169
00:53:46,760 --> 00:53:48,719
Speaker 2: because I was reading a lot of DC and so

1170
00:53:48,760 --> 00:53:51,320
Speaker 2: I knew DC. So oh actually it got me hired

1171
00:53:51,520 --> 00:53:55,520
Speaker 2: at my current job because I was doing social media

1172
00:53:55,520 --> 00:53:56,320
Speaker 2: for DC comics.

1173
00:53:56,520 --> 00:53:59,239
Speaker 4: Okay, okay, I got a small update in thee oh

1174
00:53:59,360 --> 00:54:01,279
Speaker 4: sorry tiny wo Okay.

1175
00:54:01,719 --> 00:54:04,920
Speaker 1: So hope, he says, Hi everyone, I meant to post

1176
00:54:05,000 --> 00:54:06,880
Speaker 1: this on Monday, but I've been busy, so here it

1177
00:54:06,920 --> 00:54:09,600
Speaker 1: is now. And then my boyfriend Tom for this update.

1178
00:54:09,880 --> 00:54:12,200
Speaker 1: Both left last week and went to stay with her aunt.

1179
00:54:12,520 --> 00:54:15,360
Speaker 1: Emma's staying there until her parents are back. Tom was

1180
00:54:15,400 --> 00:54:17,680
Speaker 1: staying there for a week to give me space. Tom

1181
00:54:17,760 --> 00:54:20,319
Speaker 1: came around Saturday evening so we could talk about a

1182
00:54:20,360 --> 00:54:25,960
Speaker 1: relationship and everything. Long story short, I broke up with him.

1183
00:54:26,640 --> 00:54:30,360
Speaker 1: Let's go. Reading all the comments have made me realize

1184
00:54:30,400 --> 00:54:32,640
Speaker 1: that I'd been walked all over by him and his

1185
00:54:32,760 --> 00:54:36,520
Speaker 1: sister for far too long. Enough was enough. He's been

1186
00:54:36,560 --> 00:54:38,640
Speaker 1: back and forth over the last few days to get

1187
00:54:38,640 --> 00:54:40,680
Speaker 1: his stuff, and I think he's staying at a friend's

1188
00:54:40,680 --> 00:54:44,400
Speaker 1: house while he looks for a place to rent. Obviously,

1189
00:54:44,480 --> 00:54:47,520
Speaker 1: I'm sad about the breakup because I did think i'd

1190
00:54:47,520 --> 00:54:49,640
Speaker 1: spend the rest of my life with Tom. But this

1191
00:54:49,680 --> 00:54:52,160
Speaker 1: whole situation has made me realize that I need to

1192
00:54:52,200 --> 00:54:55,360
Speaker 1: be selfish and put myself first for once in my life.

1193
00:54:55,520 --> 00:54:58,880
Speaker 1: That's not selfish. You're totally fine, Okay, self care is

1194
00:54:58,960 --> 00:55:03,840
Speaker 1: care exactly. As for Emma, she's on a strict curfew

1195
00:55:04,040 --> 00:55:06,560
Speaker 1: and money will be sent to her aunt to cover

1196
00:55:06,640 --> 00:55:10,120
Speaker 1: for her expenses. Her aunt has said she's on a

1197
00:55:10,200 --> 00:55:13,920
Speaker 1: three strike policy. Let's to be honest, I don't care anymore.

1198
00:55:14,239 --> 00:55:18,399
Speaker 1: Emma's not my responsibility and never should have actually been one.

1199
00:55:18,880 --> 00:55:21,799
Speaker 1: The money Tom and his parents sent me to has

1200
00:55:21,840 --> 00:55:25,280
Speaker 1: been used in two parts, covering all the expenses Emma

1201
00:55:25,360 --> 00:55:29,200
Speaker 1: racked up like cleaning bill, etc. And a very nice

1202
00:55:29,239 --> 00:55:32,000
Speaker 1: spa trip for me. Some friends are coming with me

1203
00:55:32,280 --> 00:55:34,880
Speaker 1: and we all can't wait. My parents are going to

1204
00:55:34,920 --> 00:55:37,680
Speaker 1: look over the dogs for us. I booked myself a

1205
00:55:37,719 --> 00:55:41,520
Speaker 1: full body massage and a Champagne afternoon tea. So yeah,

1206
00:55:41,719 --> 00:55:45,240
Speaker 1: that's my update. I'm single and have my house back. Honestly,

1207
00:55:45,560 --> 00:55:48,520
Speaker 1: I couldn't be happier despite the breakup. Thanks for everyone

1208
00:55:48,560 --> 00:55:51,640
Speaker 1: who left comments and helped me find my backbone. Honestly,

1209
00:55:52,160 --> 00:55:53,799
Speaker 1: this is a happy end day. This is the best

1210
00:55:53,920 --> 00:55:54,839
Speaker 1: update you could have got.

1211
00:55:54,920 --> 00:55:55,800
Speaker 4: Girl. Good for you.

1212
00:55:55,520 --> 00:55:58,319
Speaker 1: You got your house back, you got your gym home back,

1213
00:55:58,360 --> 00:55:59,600
Speaker 1: you got your office space.

1214
00:56:00,120 --> 00:56:02,600
Speaker 2: Get to go on a spat trip with your buds

1215
00:56:02,640 --> 00:56:04,120
Speaker 2: and your parents are watching the dog.

1216
00:56:04,400 --> 00:56:08,280
Speaker 1: Yes, you get to do butt workouts and pilates whatever.

1217
00:56:08,920 --> 00:56:11,960
Speaker 1: Girls in yoga in your house again. She's gonna live

1218
00:56:12,000 --> 00:56:15,240
Speaker 1: her best life. Imagine flex and I have my own house.

1219
00:56:15,440 --> 00:56:16,719
Speaker 4: Yeah, you got your sanity back.

1220
00:56:17,000 --> 00:56:21,360
Speaker 1: Yes, Oh my gosh. Guys, that's the end of that story.

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Speaker 1: If you love us, make sure to subscribe. We love

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00:56:24,800 --> 00:56:26,719
Speaker 1: you and see you tomorrow.