Speaker 1: And he's like doing his thing, and I guess he
Speaker 1: thinks he's doing a good job. And I'm just like, okay,
Speaker 1: just let me just get through this. Let him have it.
Speaker 2: Baby.
Speaker 1: Do you know that this man got a Charlie Horse
Speaker 1: And literally mid struggle was just like, oh oh God,
Speaker 1: can you please don't get me somebody? I got a
Speaker 1: butt booty ass. Deckett went to this man refrigerator, got
Speaker 1: here an ice pack.
Speaker 3: You know what we do here, destroy shame around sex
Speaker 3: by talking about sex.
Speaker 2: Now, let me tell you something messy.
Speaker 3: Happy Turkey Day, So today I have to share with you.
Speaker 3: Perhaps it is a new kink, but I think we
Speaker 3: needed to talk about it. So a couple of weeks ago,
Speaker 3: there was this interview that came out. I didn't read
Speaker 3: the whole thing. I think I just all like the
Speaker 3: clips on the Instagram or one of those one of
Speaker 3: the apps. But it's Shawn Mendes for Interview magazine and
Speaker 3: basically y'all know y'all not y'all because I know, I know,
Speaker 3: I know that this community doesn't do this. But this
Speaker 3: young man, I'm so old that I'm calling shaunman as
Speaker 3: a young man. But anyways, he like you know people
Speaker 3: have been giving him grief about his sexual orientation forever,
Speaker 3: and then I believe at a recent concert he said,
Speaker 3: you know, I'm figuring it out, leave me the fuck alone.
Speaker 2: He didn't say that part, but I will say that
Speaker 2: on his behalf.
Speaker 3: But the interview was like a bunch of photos and like,
Speaker 3: you know, you know, there's some feet photos for those
Speaker 3: of us who the feet.
Speaker 2: Kink, but there's also him eating.
Speaker 3: God, I'm trying to pull it up and see if
Speaker 3: I remember what he's eating, but he whatever was he's eating,
Speaker 3: and it just reminded me that, or revealed to me
Speaker 3: that I have an eating kink. Now I've talked about
Speaker 3: this food play, which I haven't quite done. You know,
Speaker 3: the closest I've done is a lollipop on the booty hole,
Speaker 3: which you know by now. And if you don't, welcome
Speaker 3: to the show. This is called tell me something messy,
Speaker 3: and I am your host, Brend.
Speaker 2: Good minute.
Speaker 3: I'm not quite done yet, so I'll introduce more. But
Speaker 3: I really realized that I love watching men eat. I
Speaker 3: don't know what of his, and I was thinking back
Speaker 3: to a couple years ago when I just when I
Speaker 3: probably first discovered it.
Speaker 2: I was seeing, not seeing.
Speaker 3: I was hanging out with this person, this man, and
Speaker 3: we went to dinner and he was eating shoveling.
Speaker 2: Food and dude, I don't even know if he used
Speaker 2: a fork.
Speaker 3: We were at a nice restaurant, like a white nepkin
Speaker 3: kind of table, very you know, like there was. It
Speaker 3: was one of the restaurants that had like at trees inside.
Speaker 3: Do you know when like the restaurants are so fancy
Speaker 3: they got like nature inside. It was one of those restaurants,
Speaker 3: so like real fancy. And my boy was eat like
Speaker 3: I don't think he was a fork a knight. He
Speaker 3: the hands, the mouth, was chewing that. The crumbs were everywhere,
Speaker 3: and I.
Speaker 2: Was turned on, like, oh, I'm anna fuck you. Oh
Speaker 2: I'm gonna let you fuck me. I don't you know
Speaker 2: what it is?
Speaker 3: This is what it is. If you watch somebody eat
Speaker 3: like that, you're like, oh, then you eat ass, I think,
Speaker 3: And maybe that's wrong, but but I feel like that's
Speaker 3: the one to one Like if you are eating your
Speaker 3: pasta and if you slurping that pasta up like that,
Speaker 3: you're gonna slurt my whole up like that. And and
Speaker 3: so maybe that's what gets me turned on Anyways, Shawn
Speaker 3: Mendez was eating and I was like, oh my god,
Speaker 3: this is porn, like I watch I could watch Shawn
Speaker 3: Mende's eat a burg. I said, give him more food.
Speaker 3: Oh is this why y'all get off on the A.
Speaker 3: It's an as M R A M s R. You
Speaker 3: know the thing where they do the you know that
Speaker 3: thing where they where they click and tap whatever and
Speaker 3: some people will eat.
Speaker 2: Is this is this part? Is that? Is that a cank? Wow? Maybe?
Speaker 3: So I'm not alone. Y'all really like to watch people
Speaker 3: eat me too. I'm gonna go find those tiktoks now.
Speaker 2: But see what it is. I don't really like watching people.
Speaker 3: I've seen the videos of like you know, it's somebody
Speaker 3: with like uh, twenty thousand crab legs or fifty hundred,
Speaker 3: fifty hundred, yeah, fifty hundred, fifty hundred hot dogs that
Speaker 3: I'm not turned on by that.
Speaker 2: That's not I don't.
Speaker 3: I'm concerned. Quite honestly, that's too many hot dogs and
Speaker 3: too many crab legs. You won't go into some shock.
Speaker 3: But if you're just at your regular dinner table and
Speaker 3: you got your your burger or your your rice and beans,
Speaker 3: or your your your chicken or your your your steak,
Speaker 3: and you are going in. I want to fuck. That's
Speaker 3: all I'm saying. Anyways. By the way, again, welcome to
Speaker 3: the show. This is tell me something messy. I'm your host,
Speaker 3: Brandon called good Man. Some people call me messy mom.
Speaker 3: You could call me. You can call me Bobby Laig,
Speaker 3: Bobby laid, Bobby get laid.
Speaker 2: There we go. We got that today. You can call
Speaker 2: me Bobby get laid.
Speaker 3: Okay, bare ass contessa, you call me bare back contessa.
Speaker 2: Oh my god. For all my Food Network foodies out there,
Speaker 2: you get it.
Speaker 3: You know what I'm doing. Okay, listen the show, baby,
Speaker 3: you know what that means. It's time for gues.
Speaker 2: Now.
Speaker 3: While they get situated, we will get our messy. Key
Speaker 3: Key started with a Hoe manifest. Do repeat after me
Speaker 3: aloud or in your head. Grant me the serenity to
Speaker 3: unpack my shame, the courage to heal, the wisdom to
Speaker 3: know that sex is not just about penetration, the audacity
Speaker 3: to advocate for my pleasure and boundaries, the strength and
Speaker 3: not call my ex that fuck boy, fuck girl, or
Speaker 3: fuck they. For it is better to masturbate by myself
Speaker 3: in peace.
Speaker 2: Than to let someone play in my motherfucking face. Let
Speaker 2: the community say ho helujah.
Speaker 3: Javie Rogers is an actor, playwright, screenwriter, producer, and director.
Speaker 3: He has performed in plays, musicals, and workshops on Broadway,
Speaker 3: Off Broadway, and regionally, and has also had roles on
Speaker 3: such TV shows like Abbot, Elementary, Gray's Anatomy, Crazy Ex Girlfriend,
Speaker 3: and Will and Grace. The sequel to this movie, My Spy,
Speaker 3: My Spy, Eternal City, premiered in July on Amazon Prime.
Speaker 2: By the way, My Spy, it's a funny fucking movie.
Speaker 3: Okay, it's a It's also a family friendly movie, so
Speaker 3: I highly recommend checking out.
Speaker 2: My Spy and the sequel. Y'all, please welcome to the show.
Speaker 2: De v Rogerslujah. I did vid We we don't know.
Speaker 2: Zaver and I have known each other since we were eighteen. Wow.
Speaker 3: A couple weeks ago, I told a story about the
Speaker 3: first time I had sex in our dormitory, third North,
Speaker 3: Yes with uh.
Speaker 2: I won't his name on the butt on the show.
Speaker 3: We called him ll him Leslie, Okay Leslie, but that
Speaker 3: was so that was happened in the same door, so
Speaker 3: you were I was in the North Tower Leslie was
Speaker 3: in the East tower and you were in the South tower. Yes, yes, okay,
Speaker 3: so yeah, but then also I ended up one of
Speaker 3: my favorite stories is that I ended up hooking up
Speaker 3: with your roommates, but as well, yeah, in the third
Speaker 3: in the South tower, but I was in the closet,
Speaker 3: you was in the closet.
Speaker 1: And then then I guess my roommate didn't know you
Speaker 1: was in the class literally after y'all hooked up, and
Speaker 1: he said, oh, yeah, hooked up with your friend b
Speaker 1: What you did?
Speaker 4: What it was supposed to be a secret. It was
Speaker 4: understand what a secret it was. It was not it
Speaker 4: was supposed to be the very next day. Yeah, So
Speaker 4: I was just waiting for you to tell me yourself,
Speaker 4: and I didn't.
Speaker 2: Tell you to tell me.
Speaker 1: And I said, maybe I knew, but I'm glad you
Speaker 1: feel comfortable.
Speaker 3: Um now oh yes, yes, yes, well allow anyways, okay,
Speaker 3: before we get into this full key key, let me
Speaker 3: give you our messy mandates, right, so things get to
Speaker 3: be unprocessed. Any thoughts or opinion shared have the right
Speaker 3: to evolve, shift change today tomorrow, ten years from now.
Speaker 3: And if during the key key something feels too personal
Speaker 3: or unintentionally offense. Will you the safe word football, which
Speaker 3: gives us a chance to pause, pivot and address.
Speaker 2: Accordingly, okay, that's the word.
Speaker 3: You the reaction is you said, Okay, I just say
Speaker 3: that my stupor I would ever say it either.
Speaker 2: Do you know football is its?
Speaker 1: Isn't that when you do the soccer thing?
Speaker 2: Okay?
Speaker 3: So you did? Okay, I didn't know what it was,
Speaker 3: but it is. Yes, Okay I thought it was. When
Speaker 3: I originally thought I thought it was like I thought
Speaker 3: it was like lacrosse, but with the nerf balls, like
Speaker 3: you know, the the that's what you thought, because I
Speaker 3: thought that.
Speaker 2: I thought the little soccer thing was called little soccer.
Speaker 2: Little soccer? Wow, Like do you want to play little soccer?
Speaker 2: And that's what you used to say? You were little
Speaker 2: soccer because they had one in the and the rest. Accordingly, Well,
Speaker 2: I never, you know, I never really wanted to play it.
Speaker 2: Want to play a little so little like little football?
Speaker 3: Absolutely, okay, all right, let's play a little breaker. We
Speaker 3: are playing fuck Mary Block.
Speaker 2: Are you ready? Okay?
Speaker 3: And this is a Thanksgiving episode. Yes, happy Thanksgivingiving. You know,
Speaker 3: uh controversial Thanksgiving as a colonizer holiday.
Speaker 1: So happy friends giving, friends giving, thankful.
Speaker 3: Gratitude, gratitukey and like if you were at home with
Speaker 3: somebody who voted for Trump, you know, throw something at
Speaker 3: throw throw something across the table at them, and say
Speaker 3: that we told you to do it, we did it. Okay,
Speaker 3: So fuck Mary block mac and cheese, cranberry sauce from
Speaker 3: the can potato salad.
Speaker 1: Okay, I would fuck potato Saladkay Mary MACI cheese block camera.
Speaker 3: You are the devil. That's fine, that's you're the devil.
Speaker 3: I'll be that, you say, I'll be that. You are
Speaker 3: a dem How dare you block cranberry sauce from the
Speaker 3: cant on the ring?
Speaker 2: Absolutely absolutely, it is blocked.
Speaker 3: Discuss and I know that there are so many people
Speaker 3: to those people to help you.
Speaker 2: I'll be that what people say, death to all? No, no, no, no,
Speaker 2: no no. Okay.
Speaker 3: First of all, I am blocking the potato salad because
Speaker 3: I don't Yeah, look at that face.
Speaker 2: Why are you blocking? But it's not it doesn't. I
Speaker 2: want a French fry and but everything doesn't have to
Speaker 2: be fried.
Speaker 1: See that's why black people are dying now, because they
Speaker 1: want something.
Speaker 2: I want to cut it up. It's cooking. Little mustard
Speaker 2: and listen.
Speaker 3: I actually like a little male in the seasoning. But
Speaker 3: I don't trust everybody to the salad.
Speaker 1: But that's but just because you don't trust anybody tail
Speaker 1: salad doesn't mean you have to block it. You just
Speaker 1: have to you have to fuck the right but they
Speaker 1: the salad isn't that isn't that a message?
Speaker 5: But right, Silad, Please do not try to come up
Speaker 5: to my show being inspirational during the Mary block of it.
Speaker 2: Yes, I will. That's merch. That's merch, right, right, Salad.
Speaker 3: No, No, I'm blocking her. I am blocking her down.
Speaker 3: I'm gonna suck the cranberry sauce. Oh wow, Yeah, I
Speaker 3: don't because I don't need her often, because you're right,
Speaker 3: I don't know what's in that.
Speaker 1: I don't know what's how hold it together. I don't
Speaker 1: think anything that's cranberry.
Speaker 2: Actually, I think it's just jealousy. That can't be sitting
Speaker 2: on that show for years.
Speaker 3: You buy Thanksgiving and it's literally save saving for the
Speaker 3: next years. So I'll her, okay, because you know something
Speaker 3: little gonna give us. Oh that is very true. Wow,
Speaker 3: a word or a word?
Speaker 2: I don't marry that magga cheese multiple cheese be baked.
Speaker 2: I don't have to move all it needs to be
Speaker 2: baked solid as yes, okay, absolutely beautiful.
Speaker 3: What we agree on that sou marry a block more Thanksgiving,
Speaker 3: frying a turkey, the walk with your cousins, you know, yes, yes,
Speaker 3: or an auntie key key about your little friend.
Speaker 2: You know how aunties be, like, tell me about your
Speaker 2: little friend. You have a little friend, who is your
Speaker 2: little friend?
Speaker 1: Okay, okay, So I will marry the walk with my
Speaker 1: cousins because that is always the best walk.
Speaker 2: Uh huh.
Speaker 1: I will fuck frying a turkey, okay, And I will
Speaker 1: block anti conversation about my little friend because like that,
Speaker 1: because like because also it's like, you know, you you
Speaker 1: don't talk to your aunties often. When you do, it's
Speaker 1: like you just want to catch up on you know,
Speaker 1: you know, like little little ship. You know what I'm saying,
Speaker 1: like nothing, nothing, And then but then they try to
Speaker 1: be progressive and liberal and but it's just not very good.
Speaker 1: And it's not very good because my little friend, you
Speaker 1: mean my partner, yeah, my boyfriend, you mean my booth
Speaker 1: days something, but little friend, little friend, it makes them
Speaker 1: sound like they're a little Yeah.
Speaker 2: I don't like but like it's like your little or
Speaker 2: your little roommate.
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's just like no, it's like no to ask
Speaker 3: about asking about my man, about my friend, my mother,
Speaker 3: my man. But don't say little friend. No, you're right
Speaker 3: because that's just the meaning. That's absolutely and.
Speaker 2: To me and to me. Yeah, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2: So yeah, block that, block that, but I will. I will,
Speaker 2: but fuck that.
Speaker 1: I will fuck that fried turkey because my baby, my
Speaker 1: uncle makes a mean fried had.
Speaker 3: Fried turkey for the first time a couple of years ago,
Speaker 3: and it was everything so good.
Speaker 2: See, now you gotta do it outside. They did it outside.
Speaker 1: Thank I'm still almost I thought I was.
Speaker 2: You messed me out something open, field, open near the house. No,
Speaker 2: you gotta be in a field. But it's lovely. Oh,
Speaker 2: it's so good. It's fried turkey.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm gonna marry a walk with the custos always
Speaker 3: because I want always.
Speaker 2: Oh, I want a good I want a good high.
Speaker 2: It's gonna feed. It's gonna make me hungry. Oh, it's
Speaker 2: gonna be so good. And i'mnna block the aunties. Yeah,
Speaker 2: there we go until I become an auntie. Now I
Speaker 2: psefully asked about your little friend.
Speaker 1: Your little friend, and I will and I will say
Speaker 1: your little friend, because I am now an.
Speaker 3: Auntie, because I'm an auntie, and as the gay auntie too,
Speaker 3: I'm gonna still be like, how's your little friends?
Speaker 1: The friend you had that you brought on over here
Speaker 1: the other time? Can do that to my straight nieces
Speaker 1: and niews, like your little friend, about your little friend?
Speaker 2: Yeah, a little one, you right over here, little one.
Speaker 3: Okay, I'm still ready to be an auntie.
Speaker 2: Okay, fuck Mary block missionary sixty nine. Oh, Doggie, I
Speaker 2: will marry Doggy. Oh, I will marry Doggy. You don't
Speaker 2: want see her face. I will marry dogg She so
Speaker 2: no matter what that, I'm still get a nas. I
Speaker 2: will marry Doggie. I will say it again. I will. Okay, great,
Speaker 2: I will fuck missionary and I will block sixty nine.
Speaker 3: Okay, And let me tell you why I'm a block
Speaker 3: sixty Some.
Speaker 2: People are like, wait, what that's equal pleasure? Okay, let
Speaker 2: me tell you.
Speaker 3: Okay, tell us I'm a block sixty nine because if
Speaker 3: I'm doing the do I need all I need all
Speaker 3: the space to do that. I'm with you, you know
Speaker 3: what I'm saying I'm with you. I need but like
Speaker 3: sixty nine is cool. Don't get me wrong. I like
Speaker 3: sixty nine, but like il, I.
Speaker 2: Can't really get it. I can't really like I'll show
Speaker 2: you what I am because I don't want you thinking like,
Speaker 2: oh this is cute.
Speaker 3: I'm like, no, I got I can do the thing
Speaker 3: I could say it can get I can do the
Speaker 3: thing this physician, but this is not helping me because
Speaker 3: you got to do it.
Speaker 2: And it's like and then I'm with you. I don't
Speaker 2: mind it.
Speaker 1: It's but but but it's either he has either has
Speaker 1: to be the first thing or after I do.
Speaker 2: I just have to show you what I.
Speaker 3: Show you what I can do. Sixty nine is a
Speaker 3: good appetizer, yes, yes, good advertising, but it's not where
Speaker 3: I want to end. Yes, it's a good beginning or
Speaker 3: maybe a good appetite.
Speaker 2: You know, like if you play travel, Yeah, I traveled.
Speaker 2: I've been places.
Speaker 3: Disgusting. Wow, I despise you with all that's fine, that's wow. Okay,
Speaker 3: well you won the game.
Speaker 2: I won. You won.
Speaker 3: You won my unconditional love. Because we don't have money
Speaker 3: on the show, we give them lots of.
Speaker 2: Y'all can't see this picked up a mini water bottles.
Speaker 2: Who I see not able to afford a full bottle
Speaker 2: of at least it's chilled. You've traveled chilled, it's in
Speaker 2: the fridge, it's cold. Wow.
Speaker 3: All right, Well, y'all, if you have a messy prompts
Speaker 3: or stories or whatnot, you can email them at tell
Speaker 3: Me Something Messy at gmail dot com.
Speaker 2: Speaking of which, to VR, can you tell me something messy?
Speaker 2: You know, yes, I'll tell you something messy.
Speaker 1: So I'm going to tell you about the last hookup
Speaker 1: that I had that kind of put a bad taste
Speaker 1: in my mouth towards hookups. And I wanna and I
Speaker 1: want to talk about it because I feel like it
Speaker 1: needs to be talking. Let's talk about it. So I'm
Speaker 1: not really a hooked person, but you know, I get
Speaker 1: in my moods and I'm like, you know what, let
Speaker 1: me just you know what's out there. So, you know,
Speaker 1: I was, I was talking to this to this dude,
Speaker 1: and like he sent me these pictures and he looked
Speaker 1: really great, had like a six pack d da da
Speaker 1: da da, and you know, and he looked young.
Speaker 2: But when I got to the house, he was not young.
Speaker 3: And the six pack was a full beer beer, belly
Speaker 3: giving Simpsons, okay, And I was like, now, which beautiful,
Speaker 3: which is great, but also, don't you if you know
Speaker 3: that you're forty five, don't send me pictures when you
Speaker 3: were twenty five.
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, yeah, do you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: Like, for me, it's like, let me choose, because again,
Speaker 1: I love, I'm all about body positivity.
Speaker 2: I'm all about but don't trick me. But don't trick me.
Speaker 2: Don't trick me into something.
Speaker 1: So I get there and I was just like, okay,
Speaker 1: and he and he's all excited, and I'm like because
Speaker 1: you're beautiful and you know, and and he's so and
Speaker 1: he and I'm just like, okay, well I'm here. So
Speaker 1: I'm like there and I'm just like, how was he?
Speaker 1: He was like maybe thirty minutes? Oh my god, yeah
Speaker 1: I know.
Speaker 2: So I'm like, i'm here, I'm not as well.
Speaker 1: So we get to so we get to talk, and
Speaker 1: I'm just like, and you know me, I try to
Speaker 1: be nice. I'm nice, I'm I'm cordial, and you know,
Speaker 1: I'm just like a little sweetie part.
Speaker 2: And I'm like, so those pictures, she said, oh you
Speaker 2: you brought it up. Well I have to I had
Speaker 2: to bring up elephant in the room. Baby, I had
Speaker 2: to bring I had to ring up the elephant. Does
Speaker 2: not know how to fake nothing. I don't know how
Speaker 2: to fake nothing. Because it was like, these niceties are cute.
Speaker 3: Talk about this, So when were these taking and he
Speaker 3: was like, oh yeah, I just you know, they're from
Speaker 3: a while back.
Speaker 2: I said, what's a while? I said, what's a while?
Speaker 2: So why what's a while? And he was like yeah,
Speaker 2: he was like, but he was like, I still look
Speaker 2: the same.
Speaker 1: I said, you okay, so you don't but what's a while?
Speaker 1: He was just like And what he said was he
Speaker 1: was just like, well, you know, I just I just
Speaker 1: find that like sending my old pictures gets a better
Speaker 1: response than like what my And I was like, well, tea, okay, great,
Speaker 1: but also you have to also say you can't say
Speaker 1: that these are recent photos and the recent photos or
Speaker 1: whatever like that, and so he was like, I know.
Speaker 1: He was just like, but I still looked the same
Speaker 1: in the face, and I was like, ish, yes, and
Speaker 1: he was just like, well, he was just like, but
Speaker 1: you know, I I you. And what got me was
Speaker 1: that he kept complimenting me and that I was just
Speaker 1: like that you know, you.
Speaker 2: Know, because you know, I like to, you know, just
Speaker 2: feel my jewels. You.
Speaker 1: So he was talking to me, he was just like
Speaker 1: he was just I was just he was like, I
Speaker 1: don't want you to leave. I was like, you know what,
Speaker 1: I'm not going to leave.
Speaker 2: I'm here. Let's just personality.
Speaker 1: He was really nice and so and so like we start,
Speaker 1: you know, like having a drink of talking and then
Speaker 1: he starts getting like, you know, you look so beautiful
Speaker 1: your body, so you know, I was like yes, and
Speaker 1: so and so we were like getting to the do
Speaker 1: and he was like and at this point we hadn't
Speaker 1: we both were versed, so it was like we hadn't
Speaker 1: talked about which, and so I was just like, okay,
Speaker 1: so we're like, you.
Speaker 2: Prepare to do either.
Speaker 1: I would send my prepaid because I I prepared mes
Speaker 1: like I only I only waited. I only did it twice,
Speaker 1: not like.
Speaker 3: No, no, no, no no no, only explain Okay, I'm saying that, like,
Speaker 3: you know, I only just twice.
Speaker 2: What do you mean? That means?
Speaker 1: That means like I didn't like the water was pretty clear,
Speaker 1: but because I really wasn't planning on bother me, so
Speaker 1: I was just like, well, just in case, like the
Speaker 1: moment the moment happened that like we're feeling the judge
Speaker 1: and isn't like exactly exactly, I won't have to go
Speaker 1: too far.
Speaker 2: So I was just like, this is good.
Speaker 1: And he sent me a picture of his dick and
Speaker 1: it wasn't it didn't look it didn't look that big.
Speaker 1: So I was just like, I was just like, oh,
Speaker 1: let me just do it twice, you know, lazy. But
Speaker 1: because I was just like, I'm clearly gonna tip himself.
Speaker 1: But if the moment comes, you know, comfortable and sure,
Speaker 1: and it's sure, okay, you know, so that's why. So
Speaker 1: so we started doing the dude and you know, he
Speaker 1: started taking my dig and you know, doing the things,
Speaker 1: and I was.
Speaker 2: Like, okay, great, good, great, good great. And then I was.
Speaker 1: Tabbing him and he was like enjoying himself. And then
Speaker 1: and but while I was hobbing him, because he was
Speaker 1: older than his pictures at the same I was, I
Speaker 1: was like, I was like tapping him, and then he
Speaker 1: when his legs open and he was like, oh, I
Speaker 1: think I'm getting a cramp. Think I'm in a cramp.
Speaker 1: And I was like, oh, I said, oh, okay, I'm
Speaker 1: so sorry. He was just like, yeah, yeah, so let
Speaker 1: me just let me just, you know, take a moment.
Speaker 1: And then he was like, can I top you? And
Speaker 1: I was like, I was like again because I'm nice.
Speaker 3: I was like not because you're nice, Sure, I want
Speaker 3: you to.
Speaker 2: I want you to be comfortable and also rest your
Speaker 2: cramp to leg so so so I let so I
Speaker 2: was like okay, and I was like okay, Well.
Speaker 1: I didn't want to look at him, so no missionary,
Speaker 1: so I said you could do now, and and his
Speaker 1: dick wasn't that big.
Speaker 2: So I was just like, oh, perfect because I thought goud.
Speaker 3: You know how some people it don't look big in
Speaker 3: picions when you get there, you be like damnah.
Speaker 2: But this one it was just like, I can do this.
Speaker 1: So he starts tpping me and I'm and I'm sort
Speaker 1: of and I'm like laying there and I'm just like, okay,
Speaker 1: you know he don't.
Speaker 2: Again, he's older, so it's like the motion is not
Speaker 2: and again, let me let me tell you it's because
Speaker 2: it was misleading. That's the only reason it's not. I
Speaker 2: have nothing.
Speaker 1: I love older too, but when you lead lead with
Speaker 1: that because I love I love daddy, but you have
Speaker 1: to lead with that and so and he's like doing
Speaker 1: his thing, and I guess he thinks he's doing a
Speaker 1: good job.
Speaker 2: And I'm just like, okay, just let me just get
Speaker 2: through this. Let him have it. Baby.
Speaker 1: Do you know that this man got a Charlie horse
Speaker 1: and literally mid struggle, just like oh god.
Speaker 2: And I was like, are you coming or he was
Speaker 2: like no, Charlie, Charlie. And I was like no, no, no, no, no, no,
Speaker 2: no no what he was paralyzed? Oh my god.
Speaker 1: He got off off of me and was holding his
Speaker 1: leg and was like, oh my god, God, can you
Speaker 1: please don't get me something. I got up, but booty
Speaker 1: ass Deck went to this manfrigerator, got him an ice pack,
Speaker 1: brought it to him and he was like thank you,
Speaker 1: thank you.
Speaker 2: And it was like, and this is me.
Speaker 1: I'm sitting there. I'm like, you know that, you know
Speaker 1: that meme of New York when you're sitting there with
Speaker 1: her clothes. I'm like, I was gonna sitting here just
Speaker 1: like that, waiting for him. Glasses just on the legs
Speaker 1: and the hands crossed and he's icing his thigh and
Speaker 1: then he has the nerds look at me and he
Speaker 1: says Okay, I feel better.
Speaker 2: You want to go again? I said, I think I'm
Speaker 2: going to go. Yeah, I think I'm going to go.
Speaker 2: But thank you so much. Gave the effort I did
Speaker 2: because I also drove all it.
Speaker 1: So I was like, I'm going to get him out.
Speaker 1: I didn't get a nut, I didn't get anything. I
Speaker 1: just after the after the trolley horse, I said, enough,
Speaker 1: I think this time for you to go. It was
Speaker 1: already it was already the cramping in the leg. And
Speaker 1: I was like, okay, well, I understand if you didn't stretch.
Speaker 1: I get that you weren't prepared to stretch. I feel
Speaker 1: like everyone needs to hear this.
Speaker 2: You have to stretch. You have to stretch a certain
Speaker 2: age like you if you do have to stretch, like.
Speaker 1: Whether that's bottomtop and whatever, it is, the damn side stretch,
Speaker 1: hip stress.
Speaker 2: You know, get them cracks cracking and popping. You have
Speaker 2: to stretch.
Speaker 3: That is sounds, but you know, I've also been in
Speaker 3: the situations where you're like, I'm gonna make the best
Speaker 3: I'm gonna make the best of it.
Speaker 2: But I've also learned that once it feels off, is
Speaker 2: all it's off.
Speaker 1: And I think that's and I think that was what
Speaker 1: I learned too, of just like when you when I
Speaker 1: already opened the door and saw that you didn't look
Speaker 1: like what I should.
Speaker 2: Have just been like, it's not a thing. But I've
Speaker 2: had that issue.
Speaker 3: I said that on the show, where like not knowing
Speaker 3: how to handle that and like not wanting to You're
Speaker 3: well within your right to be like, no, I don't
Speaker 3: want to do this because you lied about your thing.
Speaker 3: But then I'm like, I feel like I don't want
Speaker 3: to reject you. Yeah, yeah, exactly that feels I know
Speaker 3: what that feels like, and that's the worst feeling to
Speaker 3: feel like that. But then it's also sort of like,
Speaker 3: but you also was misleading. It's like and it's like
Speaker 3: if you're lying about this, what else?
Speaker 1: What else?
Speaker 3: What else would you be lying that to me? Outweighs
Speaker 3: the like rejection or whatever. Well, you've put me in
Speaker 3: the scenario. You put me in the scenario and you lie.
Speaker 3: Just be honest and then let me make the decision
Speaker 3: if I want to come over or not. But like,
Speaker 3: don't like misleading, be like yeah, this is me now,
Speaker 3: And then when you get there, it's just like, yeah,
Speaker 3: I always wonder about that, like because because catfishing or
Speaker 3: people using photos that aren't currently representative them happens a lot.
Speaker 2: But I'm always like, I think it's like when somebody
Speaker 2: sees you, like, what do you think is going to happen?
Speaker 2: And I think I think.
Speaker 3: There's a feeling that like, well, maybe I'll win them over,
Speaker 3: or maybe they'll think we've I've drawn too far.
Speaker 2: But I'm always like, but you know that, like they're
Speaker 2: going to I would rather it's.
Speaker 1: Like, you know they're going to see you, and also
Speaker 1: you don't and also most likely you're not going to
Speaker 1: run across someone who's nice like me or you. That's
Speaker 1: also because people can be people, especially if you mislet
Speaker 1: them like they and they have to kind of and
Speaker 1: they would be in their right to do that.
Speaker 2: So I don't I don't understand it.
Speaker 1: But like that really didn't put a basket in my
Speaker 1: I was like, you know what, let me just stay
Speaker 1: my christian self and stay yourself.
Speaker 2: I feel like that's why yourself to a church burn
Speaker 2: just a little smoke, you know, the devil get out
Speaker 2: a little smoke. All the cathedrals in the neighborhood just
Speaker 2: plans blames. It's fine, Well, they give me that story. Yes,
Speaker 2: shall we do some messy mail?
Speaker 4: Oh?
Speaker 3: Yes, well, y'all, we're gonna read out your submissions. Uh,
Speaker 3: and they remain anonymous. And of course, if you have
Speaker 3: any submissions, you can send them to tell me something
Speaker 3: messy at gmail dot com.
Speaker 2: It will always remain anonymous.
Speaker 3: This first one says, I still enjoy talking about and
Speaker 3: sharing sexy stories about my ex?
Speaker 2: Is this kink too messy? I have a lot of
Speaker 2: questions about this.
Speaker 3: Yeah, which are isn't a kink to tell stories about
Speaker 3: your ex?
Speaker 2: And if it is a kink, that's a crazy case.
Speaker 3: You know, well, because it's an interesting kink? Is interesting
Speaker 3: thing to classify as a king?
Speaker 1: Yeah, because it's like I mean, because I think there
Speaker 1: is a versions where you tell like like if you're
Speaker 1: trying to explain, like this what my ex is to do?
Speaker 1: That I liked, like that makes sense. But just to
Speaker 1: be like so yeah, me and my ex was like
Speaker 1: fuck like that, Like that's crazy, I guess.
Speaker 3: Oh interesting, because like some people get off on like
Speaker 3: like some couples will get off on telling each other
Speaker 3: what they've done outside.
Speaker 2: Oh okay, but I'm wondering if this is your act,
Speaker 2: this is not together?
Speaker 3: So then I'm telling a new partner about my Are
Speaker 3: you telling it as if you're still together?
Speaker 1: Yeah, and yeah, that's the question because it's because also
Speaker 1: it's like, well, i'm your new partner, so I know
Speaker 1: what you used to do with your old barner.
Speaker 2: But I'm here now, I guess. I guess it really
Speaker 2: depends on the context.
Speaker 3: If it is from somebody that I'm dating, and I
Speaker 3: would say no, like, you're the new partner doesn't want
Speaker 3: to hear.
Speaker 2: About I don't want to hear about jokes. I don't
Speaker 2: want to hear about all of that.
Speaker 3: Absolutely not. If it's just like a random hook up,
Speaker 3: I guess you're probably talking about it.
Speaker 2: You could be taught, like you could be a thing,
Speaker 2: that could be like that's cool.
Speaker 1: But I think that if you're like dating someone, like
Speaker 1: that's kind of weird to be bringing up stories about
Speaker 1: your about you.
Speaker 2: We don't like that. Yeah, like for what, Yeah, I'm here.
Speaker 3: I'm here right now if you want, if you want
Speaker 3: to go back to it. So they're too messy, you
Speaker 3: know what I say. There's between messy and sloppy. I
Speaker 3: would classify this as slop.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's sloppy. I would slop it's real slop stoppy Joe.
Speaker 2: Sloppy Joe. You know, I think sloppy Joe in a minute.
Speaker 2: But yeah, that's a sloppy Joe I used to love.
Speaker 2: I used to love sloppy sloppy America. Do people still
Speaker 2: eat sabby Joe? That's a really weird question. Email us,
Speaker 2: Email us to let us.
Speaker 3: Know if you eat sloppy Joompy Joe's used to hit.
Speaker 3: My mom used to come home and be like, should
Speaker 3: we make somep for Thanksgiving? I think we should cute
Speaker 3: sloppy Joe's because I look that turkey. Yeah, sloppy Joe.
Speaker 2: Check French fries and French potato salad.
Speaker 1: That's fine'm pring potatoes anyway, that's what's wrong with black
Speaker 1: people now fried food.
Speaker 3: I would eat your potato salad, thank you, but I don't.
Speaker 3: I don't be trusting everybody. Do people put raisins in
Speaker 3: your Oh?
Speaker 2: I have to leave raisins. Some people sprinkle a.
Speaker 3: Little rais people, I think, so, you know what, I know?
Speaker 3: White people love to put peas in their mac and cheese.
Speaker 3: There's that puts asparagus MP's.
Speaker 1: In the mechan the mac and cheese. Could you imagine
Speaker 1: I can't imagine people putting bread crumbs on the.
Speaker 2: Stop it, stop it.
Speaker 3: I guess if you put the bread crumbs out and
Speaker 3: you bake, it would make it crispy. Or you're talking
Speaker 3: about like toasted bread, toasted bread. And then they kind
Speaker 3: of no no no no no no no no no
Speaker 3: no no no no no no no no no no no. Okay,
Speaker 3: this one says how to be patient trying to find
Speaker 3: someone to meet my high standards. Now that I love myself,
Speaker 3: I would re frame high standards, Yeah, because I think, like, uh,
Speaker 3: it's just a standard.
Speaker 2: It's literally just it's not high.
Speaker 1: It's not high. It's what you is, what you need,
Speaker 1: is what you desire. You know what I'm saying, what
Speaker 1: you want will say high standard to me. They're probably saying,
Speaker 1: I want somebody who's kind. You respond exactly, Yeah, it's
Speaker 1: not high.
Speaker 3: It's literally just so the one I would refrain, But two,
Speaker 3: I think it's and it's hard. I've been in a
Speaker 3: relationship now for nine years, but before that it was
Speaker 3: really and continues to be about how do I pour
Speaker 3: into myself?
Speaker 2: And I want to focus on myself, you have to
Speaker 2: and how do I just date myself? Oh, my God.
Speaker 3: And I think that if you are committed to that
Speaker 3: and kind of forget how do I find someone, find yourself,
Speaker 3: to be finding yourself, then you start to like shift
Speaker 3: in a way that the right people show up, whether
Speaker 3: it's romantic or platonic. But I think it's like you
Speaker 3: have to like you don't have to do anything. But
Speaker 3: I would suggest taking the attention off, the finding.
Speaker 1: Off the finding you and that And I feel like
Speaker 1: when you take the attention off the finding is when
Speaker 1: those people who may or may not be the one,
Speaker 1: or may or may not be someone you should be,
Speaker 1: but they start coming into your life when you stop
Speaker 1: seeking and just worry and worry about, like you say,
Speaker 1: loving yourself, dating yourself, being with yourself, Yes, that's when
Speaker 1: other people can come in and then you have the power.
Speaker 2: They don't have the power.
Speaker 1: You have the power to say, are you someone that
Speaker 1: I want to give my time, to my space, to
Speaker 1: my energy to instead of just being like love me,
Speaker 1: tell me I'm pretty, or like make me feel like.
Speaker 1: It's like no, because I know I got that for myself.
Speaker 1: Do I want to spend time with you? You know
Speaker 1: what I'm saying? Like it's so empowering it's it's so empowering,
Speaker 1: and it's something that I feel like I have been,
Speaker 1: you know, really coming into for myself now, just like
Speaker 1: as I'm in my dating era of just like, yeah,
Speaker 1: I have the power to say, do I want to
Speaker 1: spend time with this person? Not just like oh I
Speaker 1: just want companionship, but oh I just want somebody around.
Speaker 1: It's like, no, I'm good with myself. I'd be having
Speaker 1: a great time. Yes, And once you have that, it's
Speaker 1: sort of like, okay, can this person add to that
Speaker 1: great time that I'm already having by myself.
Speaker 3: Yeah, you know, you know it's difficult that I that
Speaker 3: I can't that I want to account for it, and
Speaker 3: I don't really have the answer to But I think
Speaker 3: especially if you are somebody who's trying to build a family,
Speaker 3: somebody who wants to to give birth, and like there
Speaker 3: are time limits on those things. So I imagine that
Speaker 3: that plays into the pursuit because you're like, oh, I
Speaker 3: really want to be a parent, I really want to
Speaker 3: build this family, and I don't want to be sixty starting,
Speaker 3: you know, I want to do it sooner. So for that,
Speaker 3: I mean, all I can say is having a family
Speaker 3: and building a family is a beautiful desire, but who
Speaker 3: you do it with is of the utmost importance, And
Speaker 3: it is better for you to be in the waiting
Speaker 3: game and maybe have to like shift what that family
Speaker 3: looks like. It might be shifting from hey, maybe I
Speaker 3: need to, you know, have a surrogate, or maybe I
Speaker 3: need to adopt or whatever or whatever it is. Maybe
Speaker 3: I do it myself, but like give yourself the opportunity
Speaker 3: to shift what it might look like and the pursuits
Speaker 3: that you're not just going after a person, because then
Speaker 3: I think, sometimes we'll settle and now you've settled for
Speaker 3: a person who isn't really the right person, the right person,
Speaker 3: and then you bring kids and then it becomes yeah, situation,
Speaker 3: It becomes a lot more of a headache than if
Speaker 3: you would have just waited wait, you would have just
Speaker 3: waited chilled. Yeah, So the waiting is hard. So I
Speaker 3: just want to agnowledge waiting is hard.
Speaker 2: The waiting is hard. Yeah, especially if you are seeking
Speaker 2: companionship and partnership.
Speaker 1: The waiting is hard. But like you would rather wait
Speaker 1: for the right person than to get the wrong person. Yeah,
Speaker 1: And sometimes I'll.
Speaker 3: Say this because I say this to my girls that
Speaker 3: live in LA where I'm like, I don't know if
Speaker 3: your person is here, right, and that and that's the
Speaker 3: reality that's team. I'm like, your person may not may
Speaker 3: not be here. You might have to move somewhere else
Speaker 3: or go somewhere else, and so like, if you are
Speaker 3: in the pursuit of that, partner, I just like licked
Speaker 3: the fun us like partner, I'm hungry, you know, travel
Speaker 3: a little bit, Yeah, travel somewhere. Yeah, Like yeah, have
Speaker 3: a solo take so trace or new or looking for
Speaker 3: new experiences, whether that be like a pottery class, a
Speaker 3: crafts class, a new uh.
Speaker 2: Spiritual home is where you can be a new community,
Speaker 2: meet and meet new people folk like minded.
Speaker 3: Folks, yes, yes, and build data to right. Every person
Speaker 3: you meet doesn't have to be your husband, your wife,
Speaker 3: or yourself.
Speaker 1: And I think once and I think once you start
Speaker 1: taking that sort of pressure off of that, that's when
Speaker 1: you start really coming into your own power. When every
Speaker 1: person you meet her, every date you go on, it's
Speaker 1: not like, oh, is this the one?
Speaker 4: Is this one?
Speaker 2: It's like, no, I don't know you. How can you
Speaker 2: be the one? When I don't know you? Like, don't
Speaker 2: put the pressure on it. We always want to make
Speaker 2: people the one right away, and it's like they're they're
Speaker 2: just a person. They're literally just a person. And we're
Speaker 2: we're both strangers. Yes, we're both we're actually we're actually
Speaker 2: don't we actually don't know each other. What's your last thing?
Speaker 2: You don't even know that. I don't even know your
Speaker 2: favorite color. I don't know what. I don't know nothing
Speaker 2: about you.
Speaker 3: I just like this energy and the exactly which is beautiful.
Speaker 3: But like, take the pressure of like take the pressure
Speaker 3: my person forever. I don't need forever.
Speaker 2: What is this right now? Because all we have is
Speaker 2: the present? Baby, All we have is right now. All
Speaker 2: we have is right now. Tomorrow a too. Come on,
Speaker 2: if we can't get guess but giving us so we
Speaker 2: gotta go. We got the listen, we gotta go to
Speaker 2: the gotta go to the classics. Okay, all right. This
Speaker 2: one says I hooked up with my BFF and now
Speaker 2: I'm scared. I love her.
Speaker 3: It's my first queer relationship too. What are your thoughts
Speaker 3: about fucking your friend? You know you said that, you
Speaker 3: know because well because I feel like I have been
Speaker 3: such a huge advocate of not doing that. But I
Speaker 3: know it's because of my very first ever queer relationship
Speaker 3: was with my best friend and it ended so bad
Speaker 3: and then we no longer taught. We haven't talked for
Speaker 3: years and years and years and year in years really
Speaker 3: and for me, because of that one experience, I just
Speaker 3: I don't do it only because I as someone especially
Speaker 3: who's the only child and who as you know, my
Speaker 3: friends are my everything, like the tribe is my everything.
Speaker 2: It's like I would never want I would never want.
Speaker 3: To jeopardize that, yeah, just for a fuck or just
Speaker 3: for especially especially because I know how hard I love
Speaker 3: my friends and me personally, I know that me fucking
Speaker 3: my friend, especially if I love them, it's automatically going
Speaker 3: to be like I'm in love with you.
Speaker 1: Yeah, And I can't do that because I did it once.
Speaker 1: I've done it once, and I can't do it again.
Speaker 1: You such as you only try a thing once, you
Speaker 1: only try once.
Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: And and for me, it's just like I I wish
Speaker 1: I was someone who could separate the nut from the
Speaker 1: like the nut from the heart, the nut from the heart.
Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: But it's just like, no, I like, I like if
Speaker 1: I call you my best BFF, best friend. It's like
Speaker 1: I know, I know myself and I cannot cross that line.
Speaker 3: I'm okay, so I'm similar, but I also have to
Speaker 3: like separate, like what is fucking versus what is like
Speaker 3: love and a relationship? One I always say, like, I
Speaker 3: do think that there are scenarios in which you can
Speaker 3: fuck a friend and it be fine, right, Please do
Speaker 3: not fuck all your friends?
Speaker 2: Yes, yes, I was going to say that and let
Speaker 2: me and let me be very clear.
Speaker 3: I think.
Speaker 1: I think it's also there's also levels of friendship right
Speaker 1: and with friends. So it's like if it's a if
Speaker 1: it's a friend who I know, but I don't. But
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying, Like we just met, we're cool,
Speaker 1: and then one night we're dawn, can we hook up?
Speaker 1: That's I think that that's fine. I think for me,
Speaker 1: it's when it gets to like, oh, we've been friends
Speaker 1: for ten twelve years and now you know, we had
Speaker 1: one drunken night and we fucked and now we're both
Speaker 1: like are we do we?
Speaker 2: What do we do now? Like that is that is
Speaker 2: what gets me.
Speaker 1: It's like I never That's why I'm such a like
Speaker 1: I don't. I don't fuck friends just because because I
Speaker 1: never want that feeling. I hear you do you know
Speaker 1: what I mean, Like that feeling of just like especially
Speaker 1: especially when you're as close, if it's just your bff,
Speaker 1: if it's you know what I'm saying, Like, it's just like, okay,
Speaker 1: so what are we doing? Because then also it would
Speaker 1: feel it would feel weird for me to be like,
Speaker 1: now you're a friend with benefits, but that also feels
Speaker 1: weird because we're together all the time because you're my
Speaker 1: best friend, and now it's like, oh, but we're together,
Speaker 1: we might fuck. Like for me, that's like for me personally,
Speaker 1: I'm like, yeah, that's when it gets differently.
Speaker 3: Gets sloppy, and you know, it gets like sloppy. I okay,
Speaker 3: so one hundred percent agree with that. I also think
Speaker 3: what shifts that for me too is I have to
Speaker 3: remember that I'm in a relationship.
Speaker 2: So even if I fuck a friend, which I have,
Speaker 2: there are friends that I have fucked.
Speaker 3: Yeah, but like they know, like we're well aware that
Speaker 3: I'm I have a partner, Like this is yeah, I'm
Speaker 3: not about to be exactly you know, I'm not to
Speaker 3: leave my husband for you, So we can just have
Speaker 3: this week night again, I would say, you can't do
Speaker 3: it with everyone. And to this person when you say
Speaker 3: I'm scared, I love her like. That is where I
Speaker 3: would be trepidacious in hooking up. If I knew that
Speaker 3: there was any kind of way that I might feel
Speaker 3: like I want to date this person, then I would
Speaker 3: probably stay away from it. But if it's just like, oh,
Speaker 3: we're two sex positive friends.
Speaker 1: There's so many you know, beautiful niggas and women and
Speaker 1: days and dams out here.
Speaker 2: Why I got to be my b you know, I
Speaker 2: got to look at you. I got to be best.
Speaker 3: I have two there are two best seas that I'm
Speaker 3: thinking of because I have like a gaggle of best yes,
Speaker 3: but I have there are two besties I'm thinking of
Speaker 3: that I was at a sex party with both of them.
Speaker 3: One of them, I was fucking right next to him
Speaker 3: and it was fine, and it's like, you know, we're
Speaker 3: like fucking that person forgot high five.
Speaker 2: The other friend won't ever even look at me in
Speaker 2: the eye.
Speaker 3: This other friend won't like I was, like I saw
Speaker 3: I like, sir, have my back to the dark room.
Speaker 2: I'm sitting on a body of riding their dick. I
Speaker 2: get up off of them. I look to my left,
Speaker 2: there's the other there's the best who's like, oh hey,
Speaker 2: And he looked at me and was like.
Speaker 3: Like I tried to like kiss him on the cheek,
Speaker 3: like avoided me, and I was like, oh, oh my god,
Speaker 3: he's very strong, which I respect respect, but I'm like, oh,
Speaker 3: it's so funny that it really does depend on the
Speaker 3: dynamic of your friends.
Speaker 1: And it depends on that, and I think that is
Speaker 1: for me, the biggest thing is like the dynamic of
Speaker 1: the friendship. Again, if it's a if it's a friend
Speaker 1: that if it's a friend of a friend that you
Speaker 1: met in your friendly with and y'all hook up, Like
Speaker 1: for me, like that's whatever. But like if it's someone
Speaker 1: who if if I've cried with you, if I've told
Speaker 1: you like deep dark secrets, if I've been there through
Speaker 1: the good times, the bad times, the you know, if
Speaker 1: I if I've been at your mama house, if I've
Speaker 1: been if if it's that deep, I can't see you.
Speaker 1: I can't see you in that light. Yeah, because because
Speaker 1: as you know, my friends are like family to me.
Speaker 1: As only it's like it's like my brother's like my sister.
Speaker 1: It's like my you know, my cousin, Like I don't
Speaker 1: want to see my I don't want to see y'all.
Speaker 1: I don't want to see y'all. Neck and y'all are
Speaker 1: beautiful for me, beautiful.
Speaker 3: You know what's interesting is that, like you and I
Speaker 3: have known each other since we were eighteen, it will
Speaker 3: never happen. It'll know You're like you're my family.
Speaker 2: Like literally, that's what I'm saying, Like literally, you're my brother,
Speaker 2: Like are you kidding me? I could never it couldn't.
Speaker 2: Like no, but what I help?
Speaker 3: You get asked all the time, all the time. If
Speaker 3: we were at the sex part together, I'd be like,
Speaker 3: that's my girl speaking of Because this is again, this
Speaker 3: is the Thanksgiving episode, and one of the things that
Speaker 3: I'm you know, people will be thinking about and navigating
Speaker 3: is chosen family or you know, how you are with
Speaker 3: your your blood family. To me, as I've gotten older,
Speaker 3: friends have really become a family. Yeah, as you know,
Speaker 3: I've been a strange from my mother for fifteen years now.
Speaker 2: You were there when I when that even friends that long. Yes,
Speaker 2: you knew my mom, My mom.
Speaker 3: And I were clothes and then you knew when the
Speaker 3: Tighes severed, and when that happened, I really had to
Speaker 3: begin to lean on my friends and my friends. Before that,
Speaker 3: I think we would say we're brothers and sisters and whatever.
Speaker 2: But then like for me, it really became that.
Speaker 3: And you've always exemplified that for me, like you've always
Speaker 3: treated me like a brother, like a sibling. But I
Speaker 3: was like, oh, this has become like I'm not going
Speaker 3: home for Thanksgiving. I'm not going home for Christmas, like
Speaker 3: I am at with my friends or with my friend's family,
Speaker 3: and like they are now my family.
Speaker 2: And that's not unique to me.
Speaker 3: I think a lot of queer folks navigate chosen family
Speaker 3: and friendsgiving and what it means because we have to,
Speaker 3: because we have to. And I know it's people are
Speaker 3: listening today, you know it's the Thanksgiving episode, whether you're
Speaker 3: listening on Thanksgiving.
Speaker 2: Or the day after or the weekend after.
Speaker 3: But a lot of people with their families, some of us,
Speaker 3: like I'm saying, as y'all listen to this, I'm eating
Speaker 3: mac and cheese and my good friends.
Speaker 2: Right, But some of us are going home to our
Speaker 2: our blood family, which somebody had made the distinction, who
Speaker 2: had their family had voted for not Kamala and they
Speaker 2: were like, you know, uh, blood is just relatives, but
Speaker 2: like the people who are for you, that's your family,
Speaker 2: that's your family. And so when did chosen family become
Speaker 2: important to you?
Speaker 1: I would say, honestly, ever since I was a kid,
Speaker 1: because I always wanted because I'm an only child, so
Speaker 1: I've always wanted brothers and sisters. And I have great
Speaker 1: cousins love, yes, love my cousin, the cousins, the cousins,
Speaker 1: but like I've always wanted brothers and sisters. And so
Speaker 1: because of that, I feel like my friendships, even from
Speaker 1: when I was young, always meant so much to me, yes,
Speaker 1: and always was like truly like the center of my heart,
Speaker 1: the center of my soul. And as someone who has
Speaker 1: a lot of friends and have a lot of besties
Speaker 1: and all that it truly I feel like that's why
Speaker 1: I love La so much. Not I mean, yes, I
Speaker 1: love l a yeah, but also my family is here,
Speaker 1: my tribe is here, like everyone, like everyone, and if
Speaker 1: there are some people who are still in the New
Speaker 1: York you know, and some other places, but like for
Speaker 1: the most part, it's just like a lot of the community,
Speaker 1: a lot of the community is here, so It's like,
Speaker 1: why would I move somewhere else? Why would I go
Speaker 1: somewhere else when when everyone who fuels me and inspires
Speaker 1: me and feels me is here.
Speaker 2: Community is community is life, exactly.
Speaker 1: And that's what I tell when whenever someone moves to
Speaker 1: LA or asked me about LA, I say, the first thing.
Speaker 2: You need to find is community. To find your people.
Speaker 1: You have to find your people otherwise you are as out.
Speaker 1: Especially in this especially, it's like, you have to find
Speaker 1: your people.
Speaker 3: You know you're finding your people is everything, and we'll
Speaker 3: support you when you go back home, and exactly you
Speaker 3: don't feel like you fit in that family. A lot
Speaker 3: of people are going home right now, and one of
Speaker 3: the big topics that they will either address or not address.
Speaker 2: Is the election.
Speaker 3: And so I figure it's been a couple of weeks.
Speaker 3: By the time you know, y'all this gets your ears,
Speaker 3: I haven't unpacked this. This is the day after we're
Speaker 3: recording this, a day after haven't gotten really to talk
Speaker 3: about it with anyone. So I'd love to talk about
Speaker 3: it with you because I know we'll talk about it
Speaker 3: in a in a thoughtful, soft way that might help
Speaker 3: somebody else that's also trying to process and or may
Speaker 3: not be able to.
Speaker 2: Talk to.
Speaker 3: They're currently with because you know, they voted in a different,
Speaker 3: different way. So when this comes out, this will be
Speaker 3: a few weeks after, but we are recording it the
Speaker 3: day after. So this is Thursday, which was a Tuesday.
Speaker 3: Results were, oh, no, this is Wednesday, So we're today's Wednesday.
Speaker 3: How are you feeling and how are you taking care
Speaker 3: of yourself or and how or how will you continue
Speaker 3: to take care of yourself over the next little at
Speaker 3: least few weeks.
Speaker 2: You know, today I really felt like I was like
Speaker 2: in the Twilight Zone.
Speaker 1: It was one of those It was one of those
Speaker 1: things where like I had came home, so I was
Speaker 1: at a friend's house and we like drank and had
Speaker 1: taco Taco Tuesday. So we drank and ate and laughed
Speaker 1: and and like tried to not think about the election.
Speaker 1: So like we were watching it at first, and then
Speaker 1: we turned it off and listened to Kate Trinada and
Speaker 1: like I was having a great time. And then at
Speaker 1: the end of the night we like turned it back
Speaker 1: on and it was just like the reality y sort
Speaker 1: of sitting in of like, oh, it's where we're we're
Speaker 1: going back, Yeah, you know what I'm saying, and like,
Speaker 1: was it surprising for you? It wasn't that it was surprising.
Speaker 1: I think that because especially after the first time he won. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I now, I would say the first time, I was
Speaker 1: definitely shot shocked.
Speaker 2: I was like, you remember.
Speaker 1: And Tracy walked all like because because I think what
Speaker 1: what got me and what I had to remember was
Speaker 1: just because everyone I knew was voting for that person
Speaker 1: doesn't mean that that person's going.
Speaker 2: That's what really, that's what that's what that's because I
Speaker 2: literally was like everyone everyone I knew was both here,
Speaker 2: so like Hilary Hillary Hillary, and literally.
Speaker 1: It was sort of it was that thing of just like, oh,
Speaker 1: we are in our own bubble in LA, in New York,
Speaker 1: in liberal cities and liberal towns, there's literally a whole
Speaker 1: population who does not think like us, you know what
Speaker 1: I'm saying. Like, and because we don't see them on
Speaker 1: a daily base or interact with them or have any
Speaker 1: you forget, you forget, you forget them.
Speaker 2: Yes, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: And it's sort of like and I think that's how
Speaker 1: he's able to win every time because he speaks to
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying like he speaks to those
Speaker 1: people who feel forgotten, who feel like, you know, like, well,
Speaker 1: no one cares about us, but this man does.
Speaker 2: And that's pretty I think what's been.
Speaker 3: Maybe not again not surprising, but scary about that is
Speaker 3: that the tactics used are so hateful until you go,
Speaker 3: oh yeah, like I know, like you know, I'm black, gay,
Speaker 3: non binary and an interracial gay marriage, first generation American.
Speaker 3: You know, parents are immigrants, like I'm well aware of
Speaker 3: the country that I'm in. Yeah, first time that man
Speaker 3: was in office was shocking, but then when it came
Speaker 3: around that he was going to get another chance at it,
Speaker 3: and for me, it was like, oh, this is where
Speaker 3: we live, like it's under Like perhaps under the Obama administration,
Speaker 3: there was a way of feeling.
Speaker 2: Oh okay, like we're like niggas started to showing up
Speaker 2: in target ads.
Speaker 3: Yeah, the diversity was like such a it was so
Speaker 3: there you were like, ah yeah, and then when that happened,
Speaker 3: you're like, oh shit, And now that it's come back,
Speaker 3: I'm like, oh, this is undeniable.
Speaker 2: Yeah, we have a history that we do not talk about.
Speaker 3: We don't talk about this type of fear mongering and
Speaker 3: hatred is actually profitable.
Speaker 2: Absolutely, it actually works.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, And I think that is and I think
Speaker 1: for me is this time is like that is the
Speaker 1: scariest part because now because now we'll go unchecked. Yeah
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying, Like now he can say
Speaker 1: whatever he wants because the people have spoken.
Speaker 2: The people have spoken twice twice.
Speaker 1: The people have spoken twice, And like that is the
Speaker 1: That is also the crazy part because it's like he
Speaker 1: lost once and we saw what happened.
Speaker 2: We saw January sixth happen.
Speaker 1: Yeah, And the crazy thing is is that we all
Speaker 1: will witnessing and even and even his supporters were like,
Speaker 1: that's crazy that that's happening.
Speaker 2: Even his supporters were like that that's crazy, like not crazy,
Speaker 2: but not crazy to not vote for him again, do
Speaker 2: you know what I mean?
Speaker 1: Like, and I think that is it's just like it
Speaker 1: also reiterates the fact of like I don't care that
Speaker 1: this that this white man has rat people, has said
Speaker 1: these awful things, has calls and insurrection, has paid people
Speaker 1: hush money.
Speaker 2: I don't care.
Speaker 3: I would rather this white man than this black woman
Speaker 3: or this or even or even this white woman or
Speaker 3: a woman period. Well, yeah, do you know what I'm saying,
Speaker 3: like you hate women and femininity. Oh yeah, so much
Speaker 3: that this person. Yeah, it's sobering. Yeah maybe that's the
Speaker 3: it's not surprising, but it is.
Speaker 2: So it's sobering and that.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and it makes me and the thing is, and
Speaker 1: the crazy thing for me is that like it makes
Speaker 1: me lean into all of my intersectionalities even more.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: It makes me want to be more black, It makes
Speaker 1: me want to be more aware, it makes me want
Speaker 1: to be more well.
Speaker 2: It's like, now is the time it becomes you know.
Speaker 3: I have these these pro hose shirts, pro love, pro choice,
Speaker 3: pro black, transqueer and ho and I was thinking about
Speaker 3: the night before and I was like, you know, if
Speaker 3: if if Kamala wins, these shirts will feel celebratory. If
Speaker 3: she loses and he wins, it will feel radical. It
Speaker 3: will feel to have to wear like the necessity of
Speaker 3: having to wear this h Like before it was like, oh,
Speaker 3: I'm wearing it, But then today when I put it on,
Speaker 3: I was like, oh, I'm like I have to wear
Speaker 3: I have to wear like I because if I don't
Speaker 3: then I'm erased and like I have to Yeah, I
Speaker 3: have to let you know that I stand for pro choice,
Speaker 3: I stand for trans folks, I stand for being a
Speaker 3: hoe or yeah, I'm I'm proud of these things, or
Speaker 3: like or signally that you're safe space for these things.
Speaker 3: I feel like that's been like the biggest thing. It's like,
Speaker 3: we'll wear are where are our safe spaces? And for
Speaker 3: me and you who live in LA, it's easier to
Speaker 3: find that. But I do think about even the Red States,
Speaker 3: you know, who are the most vulnerable in those spaces.
Speaker 3: In those spaces, you know, I'll never forget as Florida
Speaker 3: was doing, you know, uh, stop don't say gay and
Speaker 3: the ban on African American studies and all that stuff.
Speaker 3: There was a video that somebody said which was like
Speaker 3: basically equating it to the Titanic and being the people
Speaker 3: who are at the bottom of the Titanic and it's
Speaker 3: like this thing is shit sinking and we do not
Speaker 3: have the option to get out of here, but we
Speaker 3: are here, and it's like, that's what I try to
Speaker 3: remember is that they're even in those Red States, even
Speaker 3: in those places, there are people who are incredibly vulnerable
Speaker 3: and need those of us who are not in those
Speaker 3: spaces to still show up because we have the capacity to.
Speaker 3: So how do you feel like you And you might
Speaker 3: not have the answer to this, and that's fine because
Speaker 3: again this is literally, we're literally, but do you have
Speaker 3: any musings on how you want to show up, how
Speaker 3: you will show up, how you will bring yourself to
Speaker 3: show up? Honestly, I think for me it is me personally.
Speaker 1: I feel like to continue to choose joy every day,
Speaker 1: something that I already try to do and I'm already
Speaker 1: in the practice of, but like even more so now
Speaker 1: because I feel like, because the world in our country
Speaker 1: is in such a like like disarraying in a dark place,
Speaker 1: that we can sort of feed into that and like
Speaker 1: and feel like it's no hope or be it. And
Speaker 1: again you can feel the grief of the moment, you
Speaker 1: can that I'm not saying don't recognize what you feel,
Speaker 1: but also realizing that, like one, we've been through this before,
Speaker 1: so we were able to survive and make it through
Speaker 1: then and we can do it again.
Speaker 2: Yeah, And it's that thing of just like you know,
Speaker 2: I feel like.
Speaker 1: I'm always trying to cling on to hope onto joy
Speaker 1: and and also like chosen family, like I feel like
Speaker 1: us leaning into each other more is what we need
Speaker 1: to do now is we need to find those people
Speaker 1: that are like minded, that that thinks the way we think,
Speaker 1: that feel the things we feel, that that bring us joy,
Speaker 1: that bring us happiness, that reminds us that even in
Speaker 1: this dark world, there's still love. You know what I'm saying,
Speaker 1: there's still joy, there's still happiness. Because when so many
Speaker 1: people and are trying to stump that out of you,
Speaker 1: it makes it for me. It like empowers me to
Speaker 1: go even harder. You know what I'm saying. It's like
Speaker 1: and again it's like it's an active choice every day.
Speaker 1: I'm not saying it's easy, but it's an active choice.
Speaker 1: And I think people have to make the active choice
Speaker 1: to be like, yes, this world is fucked up, Yes
Speaker 1: this country is fucked up, but listen, I'm here and
Speaker 1: this is my country too.
Speaker 2: Do you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: And I'm not gonna let I'm not gonna let you
Speaker 1: steal my joy. Come on now, somebody, I'm not gonna
Speaker 1: let you.
Speaker 2: Steal my joy. Lujah.
Speaker 3: I'm still in that Holy Lujah. You can't steal my joy,
Speaker 3: you know what I'm saying. And for me, like you know,
Speaker 3: of course they're everyone, whether they're playing or not. It's like, oh,
Speaker 3: I'm moving off the country. Yeah, that's great if that's
Speaker 3: what you really want to do.
Speaker 1: But also maybe I've worked hard in this country and
Speaker 1: I've worked hard to get what I have now, and
Speaker 1: like for me, it's just like I'm not gonna let
Speaker 1: nobody naw man nigga. Now, nobody run me out unless
Speaker 1: I want to go. If I want to go, that's different. Yeah,
Speaker 1: but I'm not gonna let nobody run me out.
Speaker 3: Nah.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna be here and I'm gonna be hearing this joy,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna be hearing this blackness, I'm be hearing this queerness.
Speaker 2: And you're gonna motherfucking deal with it, period. Do you
Speaker 2: know what I'm saying?
Speaker 1: Like I feel like that is that is my music
Speaker 1: of how to to go forward is to lean more
Speaker 1: into who you are. Don't let it, don't let it
Speaker 1: dispab it shrink you.
Speaker 2: Don't let it shrink you. Maybe it should make.
Speaker 3: You more proud, it should make you more bigger, it
Speaker 3: should make you walk into rooms like yeah, it's like
Speaker 3: we need to what has become so clear, And I
Speaker 3: think it can be scary, but it's it's also where
Speaker 3: the path is is showing up brighter, brighter, showing up bigger,
Speaker 3: showing up louder. Yes, that that our voices are actually
Speaker 3: needed even more now exactly with this shadows.
Speaker 1: Exactly and and and especially and especially for Black Americans.
Speaker 1: We've been through this for years. Do you know what
Speaker 1: I'm saying, Like this thing, our our ancestors, our mothers,
Speaker 1: our fathers, our grandmother's, our grandma, our great great grand
Speaker 1: like we went, They went through it harder than what
Speaker 1: we have now.
Speaker 2: Baby, Do you know what I'm saying? Like they and
Speaker 2: they persevered so that we could be where we are
Speaker 2: now a thousand percent? Do you know what I'm saying?
Speaker 1: Like for me, That's why I'm like as much as
Speaker 1: as much as like oh, being as pat sounds cute,
Speaker 1: it's also like, no, baby, I have I have family
Speaker 1: who died for me to be here, and so I'm
Speaker 1: not as sacrificed who sacrificed for me to be here.
Speaker 2: So I'm just not gonna get up and move.
Speaker 3: There's a quote by Nikki Giovanni that I just posted.
Speaker 3: If the enslaved could believe, I know I can, and
Speaker 3: I think that that is exactly what you're talking about,
Speaker 3: which is it like our ancestors have been in this
Speaker 3: country and what through hell, hell which doesn't even begin
Speaker 3: to describe it doesn't.
Speaker 2: Even begin to describe it, you know.
Speaker 3: And they fought the day and they believed that they
Speaker 3: could be free, and they are the reason that we
Speaker 3: are free. That you and I are sitting in this
Speaker 3: nice little.
Speaker 2: And the water and waters chilled. God, you really did
Speaker 2: to laugh to not crying. But we can, we can
Speaker 2: get through this.
Speaker 3: And I think that joy is the perfect because if
Speaker 3: you can, if you can find a moment to laugh
Speaker 3: and laugh with your community, then you can find that
Speaker 3: clarity of how to move forward exactly, the the motivation
Speaker 3: fuel to And I think, yeah, and exactly because I
Speaker 3: think that people I sometimes think that people don't give
Speaker 3: joy enough credit. Joy saves lives, you know what I'm saying,
Speaker 3: Like when it and it saves it saves like a
Speaker 3: laugh can save a laughter.
Speaker 2: Laughter, I believe, you know, I believe a little bit.
Speaker 2: That's all we do. Laughing. It is healing. It's so healing.
Speaker 1: And I think that, you know, I think people just
Speaker 1: have to remember that is that like even even That's
Speaker 1: why I love so many of my friends, just like
Speaker 1: I'm gonna watch my Bravo shows today or I'm gonna
Speaker 1: watch my favorite movie. It's like, yeah, go back to
Speaker 1: those things where you're just like, okay, it will be okay.
Speaker 1: Touch grass exactly. It's like it's like where it just
Speaker 1: reminds you like it will be okay. We still have
Speaker 1: to put one foot in front of the other, like
Speaker 1: the world doesn't stop because this man is president.
Speaker 2: And we are together in this and we are together,
Speaker 2: and no one is doing it alone. No one is
Speaker 2: doing it alone, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 3: And like even in those red states, for the for
Speaker 3: the people who did vote blue and voted for our girl,
Speaker 3: You're not You're not doing alone.
Speaker 2: It wasn't just one vote right, one vote a group
Speaker 2: of it was just one yeah.
Speaker 3: Yeah, you know what I'm saying. So I think people
Speaker 3: have to remember that too, is that like you are
Speaker 3: never alone. You're not alone.
Speaker 1: Someone is feeling exactly what you're feeling. And to try
Speaker 1: to find those people and connect with those people. If
Speaker 1: you can like that's and organized together, that's how you
Speaker 1: that's how you keep going. That's how you you know,
Speaker 1: can understand. Okay, this is where we are in America,
Speaker 1: this is where we are. This is how certain groups
Speaker 1: of people think of me. Great, great, think you can
Speaker 1: think what you want to think. But baby, I'm still here. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and I'm still living.
Speaker 2: Yeah. You know what I'm saying. I love you you.
Speaker 3: Well, you know we are hoes here, but hoes with hearts.
Speaker 3: So before we get out of here, let me speak
Speaker 3: to yours. What are my takeaways? First of all, Davie
Speaker 3: and I have known each other, it's crazy, for almost
Speaker 3: twenty years, so we have been present for so many
Speaker 3: versions of each other.
Speaker 2: We knew each other when we're both in the closet. I,
Speaker 2: you know, fucked his roommate.
Speaker 3: When I say in the closet, you know, So we've
Speaker 3: we've walked through each other as we've I don't want
Speaker 3: to say coming because you know, I've stopped saying or
Speaker 3: I'm trying to stop saying coming out of the closet, because.
Speaker 2: I think it's really coming back to yourself. And so
Speaker 2: in the ways that we've come back to.
Speaker 3: Ourselves over the years, whether that's about sexual orientation, whether
Speaker 3: that's about gender expression, whether that's about just like knowing
Speaker 3: what we love and don't love, what we like and
Speaker 3: who we want to be. The more that we've come
Speaker 3: back to ourselves, we've been present for it, and it's
Speaker 3: been such a healing thing, especially and I'll talk about
Speaker 3: those chosen family. You know, I've been estranged, And by
Speaker 3: the way, if you are somebody who is navigating their
Speaker 3: first holiday without a family member, without a family member
Speaker 3: or without family, whether that is by way of a
Speaker 3: passing or by choice by you know, estrangement, I love you,
Speaker 3: and I this is hard, and there's nothing that I'm
Speaker 3: going to say it's going to make it easier. But
Speaker 3: I want you to know that you're not alone in
Speaker 3: that experience, and that you were loved and held and
Speaker 3: cared for. And I hope that you are being so
Speaker 3: soft and gentle with yourself through this holiday, and then
Speaker 3: of course as we get into Christmas and all that stuff,
Speaker 3: I hope that you hold yourself and you're soft and
Speaker 3: gentle with yourself. But one of the things I'll say
Speaker 3: is that when as my mom and I became estranged,
Speaker 3: I realized that there wasn't somebody for me to look
Speaker 3: to who was present for all the versions of me.
Speaker 3: So when I would accomplish things or things would happen.
Speaker 3: I would want that person who knew me from birth
Speaker 3: to be like, oh my god, look at that thing
Speaker 3: you did, or oh my goodness, you made that thing
Speaker 3: or you or oh my god, that awful thing is happening.
Speaker 3: How can I take care of you? Because I know,
Speaker 3: I know your history, and I know what this thing
Speaker 3: means and how it's impacting you. And so when I
Speaker 3: lost that from my family, my blood family, my relatives,
Speaker 3: my chosen family became, that became that reflection, became my cheerleaders.
Speaker 3: And so Devere has been one of those cheerleaders. And
Speaker 3: I'm just so grateful and so too to anyone again
Speaker 3: navigating the loss of family. However it looks again whether
Speaker 3: that is a passing, whether that is estrangement, whether that's
Speaker 3: a boundary lean on your chosen family. I know you'll
Speaker 3: miss the cheerleading from your your blood, but the people
Speaker 3: who love you in love, the relationships that you have
Speaker 3: that are built in love, they got you. And it's
Speaker 3: strange at first, and of course the longing is there,
Speaker 3: but as you move through it and you allow yourself
Speaker 3: to become more free and more liberated, and you realize
Speaker 3: that you can make more choices and you're not disappointing
Speaker 3: other people like you're just beholden to yourself. The freedom
Speaker 3: is unmatched and you will take a lot of comfort
Speaker 3: in that, in your chosen family and those relationships. I
Speaker 3: also think what Dever said about joy is so important. Listen,
Speaker 3: these are hard times. Your joy matters.
Speaker 2: Do not be afraid to giggle, to cackle, to laugh.
Speaker 3: We are up against a lot of dark shit right now, Okay,
Speaker 3: personally and also in the world. Right we all have
Speaker 3: our shit, and so if times are going to be dark,
Speaker 3: you gotta find the light when you can. And so
Speaker 3: your joy is your activism, Your joy is your fuel,
Speaker 3: is your passion. So do not be afraid to lean
Speaker 3: into the joy. Don't be afraid to hold onto it
Speaker 3: when it comes, because it will come and go. But laugh, honey, giggle,
Speaker 3: enjoy joy. Also, I'm just gonna really end this by saying,
Speaker 3: fuck your potato salad.
Speaker 2: I said it.
Speaker 3: I don't really mean that because like some of that
Speaker 3: salad really be but I don't know all potato salad
Speaker 3: don't be hidden.
Speaker 2: And I really stand by that.
Speaker 3: I will pick the cranberry sauce out the can over
Speaker 3: your potato salad. Any day, because regardless of what Dema said,
Speaker 3: fuck him, Okay. That cranberry from the can is reliable. Okay,
Speaker 3: and it shows you exactly where to cut it, right
Speaker 3: on the ridges, right on the line. It is reliable.
Speaker 3: I trust a household that has cranberry sauce from a can.
Speaker 3: You households are like a little fresh cranberry sauce.
Speaker 2: I'm leaving. I don't trust you.
Speaker 3: I don't trust nothing about that real cranberry sauce. Okay,
Speaker 3: And that's on period. Anyways, I love you so much,
Speaker 3: wishing you a.
Speaker 2: Soft, gentle loving, warm, love filled, gratitude filled day. You
Speaker 2: deserve it, all right. I gotta get out of here.
Speaker 3: But you can find VR on Instagram at It's de
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Speaker 3: O g e r s and also the cutest, the
Speaker 3: cutest baby picture on there right now that really encapsulates
Speaker 3: the joy and energy and love of Devere. You can
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