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Speaker 1: How has the co parenting been going for you lately?
Speaker 2: Karen and Sierra both asked.
Speaker 1: About this good.
Speaker 3: I yeah, I think good. We've had a few new
Speaker 3: things to navigate now that Been is dating but or
Speaker 3: has not just dating. He has a girlfriend because he's
Speaker 3: been dating but having one specific long relationship, and so
Speaker 3: there's new things to navigate with that that I didn't
Speaker 3: really think about, and I think I've had to surrender
Speaker 3: some of my expectations, which has been hard, but also
Speaker 3: totally okay. I have more peace about it because that's there.
Speaker 3: He's creating a new life, and it's not that I'm like, oh,
Speaker 3: I need to be a part of your life. I
Speaker 3: just I don't know. We'll see how it all unfolds.
Speaker 3: I'm very happy for him, and he's just created new
Speaker 3: conversations and new scenarios and situations that we've never had
Speaker 3: to discuss before. And I'm not saying I've always handled
Speaker 3: it the best, just because i'm, you know, trying to
Speaker 3: figure out your kids are spending time with somebody new
Speaker 3: and trusting that the other person has, you know, made
Speaker 3: a good choice, and whoever the partner is. I'm speaking
Speaker 3: as a whole. I'm not even just talking about Ben.
Speaker 3: I'm talking about so many people that are going through
Speaker 3: this right now. And even as you, like, as I
Speaker 3: start to date, knowing that who I'm dating, if they're
Speaker 3: going to be around my kids, how are they showing
Speaker 3: up and do they care about them?
Speaker 1: Gosh, it's so tough.
Speaker 2: I don't know, like dating was so hard for me
Speaker 2: just as a single person, but I cannot imagine you're
Speaker 2: also considering your kids going through that whole process at
Speaker 2: the same time.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I've been so thankful that Ben in his relationship,
Speaker 3: has been very thoughtful of that with the kids, and
Speaker 3: he is with someone that is very thoughtful with the kids,
Speaker 3: and so in that I'm thankful. But when you when
Speaker 3: you don't know you're at the beginning, it's you're little like, okay, well,
Speaker 3: you know, and our kids being adopted and people in
Speaker 3: and out of their lives. You know, you just want
Speaker 3: to make sure.
Speaker 1: There's consistability as much as you can.
Speaker 3: Or like how close are we going to get with
Speaker 3: this person? And then how serious are things? But then
Speaker 3: that's a boundary for me to cross if I'm trying
Speaker 3: to understand how serious something is, and maybe not for everybody,
Speaker 3: but for Ben doesn't have to tell me that. So
Speaker 3: that's been interesting to navigate. I guess I've just yeah
Speaker 3: new things, and I know that he'll have new things
Speaker 3: when if I bring someone into the mix. But the
Speaker 3: cool part is somebody had to go first, and we've
Speaker 3: gone first with him, and I think we learned a lot,
Speaker 3: so hopefully we kind of know.
Speaker 1: How to navigate.
Speaker 3: Navigate you if a man is coming into the kid's life.
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, which you know what, I hope it does
Speaker 2: at some point when you're ready and when life happens,
Speaker 2: I hope it does for you.
Speaker 3: Yeah. So I'm thankful for been being in a good
Speaker 3: relationship with someone good and then you know TVD on Me.
Speaker 2: TVD Chrissy wants a Harry menopause.
Speaker 1: In testosterone Update, how are things?
Speaker 3: The testosterone has definitely helped the brain fog for sure.
Speaker 3: I put it on the back of my knee every day,
Speaker 3: two pumps, I do the cream. And the question I
Speaker 3: get the most when I have talked about it online
Speaker 3: is how do I get that? Do you have to
Speaker 3: get a prescription? Can I just go buy testosterone cream?
Speaker 3: And it's a prescription. So you also need to know
Speaker 3: what dose you need, like do you need one pump?
Speaker 3: Do you need two pumps? Do you need three?
Speaker 1: And how did you figure that out? Is just like
Speaker 1: through a obgy.
Speaker 3: I went and got blood work done at my doctor
Speaker 3: and realized I had wherever women are supposed to be
Speaker 3: with testosterone, even like the lowest part that's acceptable for
Speaker 3: women to have. I was below that, so I was like, oh, okay, well,
Speaker 3: I guess I need some. And at the time, it
Speaker 3: was really struggling with brain fog and just thought it
Speaker 3: was me or something going Obviously it was something going
Speaker 3: on with me, but you know, I would have never
Speaker 3: associated it with testosterone. I just thought it was something
Speaker 3: going on in my brain.
Speaker 1: It's wild how.
Speaker 2: Our body reacts to things happening going on and putting
Speaker 2: the pieces together. It's like our body's this giant puzzle
Speaker 2: that were constantly trying to navigate right.
Speaker 3: And I was just lacking in that hormone. And once
Speaker 3: I gave it that hormone, it started responding more appropriately.
Speaker 3: So the brain fog is better, so I recommend it.
Speaker 3: But some people love the pellets, some people love the cream.
Speaker 3: I know that there's this. I think there's another option.
Speaker 3: I've had people tell me about and I can't remember
Speaker 3: what the oh, something they were putting under their tongue
Speaker 3: and it was dissolving. My doctor never said that was
Speaker 3: an option. She only gave me the pellet and the
Speaker 3: cream option, and I opted for the cream, and I'm
Speaker 3: for me that's worked. But everybody's body is so different.
Speaker 3: So yeah, if you can get the blood work done
Speaker 3: and figure out what you need. And when you're in
Speaker 3: your forties, just so much changes. Lots of things change,
Speaker 3: and yeah, stuff with my cycle. I mean, this might
Speaker 3: be Tami, because who's the guy that give us the confliment?
Speaker 3: We have got some guys listening, but you're the my hmm,
Speaker 3: some hot flashes and my hormones, Like I feel like
Speaker 3: I have to check my for lack of a better word,
Speaker 3: rage more often, like I have to be in check
Speaker 3: with it. But I try to pay attention, and I
Speaker 3: try to be proactive and do things like to take
Speaker 3: care of myself so that it doesn't at least your
Speaker 3: right don't snap and scream or something.
Speaker 1: That's so hard.
Speaker 2: That's so hard to recognize that and stop that before
Speaker 2: it happened.
Speaker 3: And when you're in the comfort of your own home,
Speaker 3: it's like, well, I have to get out here, because
Speaker 3: clearly I can control it and behave at work or
Speaker 3: in public settings, but sometimes at home, like a it'll
Speaker 3: just come over me and I feel like a animal
Speaker 3: or something like I'm like, what is happening, which I
Speaker 3: mean happening.
Speaker 2: Like we see all those stories of people, especially like women,
Speaker 2: when they're having this huge moment and it's in public.
Speaker 1: You're like, what is going on? Maybe that's what's going on?
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, I have a lot of compassion for now women.
Speaker 3: It so perimenopause can often start anywhere from thirty five to.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, I have five more years. Cool. Well it's
Speaker 1: different for everybody. That's that's the thing. But like if
Speaker 1: I'm you know, look at.
Speaker 2: It from an outside picture, like, cool, I got five
Speaker 2: more years.
Speaker 3: Yeah, and I have a period like all the time.
Speaker 3: Not all the time, but it feels like I'm just
Speaker 3: always it just comes and goes and then comes and
Speaker 3: I'm like, what is happening?
Speaker 1: You're like, this is not cool?
Speaker 3: Yeah, and my opgo is like, welcome to this is
Speaker 3: just how your body's responding. But she did give me
Speaker 3: comfort and that a lot of times people try to
Speaker 3: fix this. Obviously, you need to regulate hormones if you can,
Speaker 3: and take care of yourself and do things to serve
Speaker 3: yourself during this season. And I'm just at the beginning,
Speaker 3: so I've even gotten to feel like the really difficult part,
Speaker 3: but also have grace for yourself and no, nut, you're
Speaker 3: not broken. Nothing's wrong with you. This is quite literally
Speaker 3: what your body's supposed to be doing. It's doing what
Speaker 3: it's supposed to be doing. And then the testosterone has
Speaker 3: nothing to do with my perimenopause.
Speaker 1: They're separate, got it.
Speaker 3: So just offering that reminder of having grace for yourself
Speaker 3: and compassion because your body's doing what it's supposed to.
Speaker 1: Do, well, that's so wild.
Speaker 3: That's the next time you scream at your house, be like,
Speaker 3: it's cool, I have grace side compassion.
Speaker 1: You're like, it's okay, I can go through this. It's not.
Speaker 2: Yeah, just yeah, definitely make sure to do it at
Speaker 2: your house. Maybe not in public at other people.
Speaker 1: Yeah, you no can.
Speaker 3: I think I've talked about this with for like going
Speaker 3: outside and throwing ice cubes and on my back porch.
Speaker 3: I saw on TikTok this one girl goes into her
Speaker 3: bathroom and she has a bowl of ice and she
Speaker 3: just throws the ice into her bathtub.
Speaker 1: I would be scared.
Speaker 3: I mean, I know the bathtub's durable, but I would
Speaker 3: want to miss and like crack something. And I know
Speaker 3: that it's ice, but I mean I can throw it
Speaker 3: pretty hard. So that's why I felt safe doing it outside,
Speaker 3: but in case you have neighbors and you're not like
Speaker 3: able to do that. I did see the bathroom hack
Speaker 3: for getting out some you know, just feelings or whatever's
Speaker 3: happening to you.
Speaker 1: I like it. That's a good life hack. What'll be
Speaker 1: you right back?
Speaker 2: All right? This is from Kayla. How does your sister
Speaker 2: feel about you moving from the house she had just
Speaker 2: designed a room before.
Speaker 3: Yeah, she feels totally supportive and fine. She knows that
Speaker 3: that house holds a lot of heavy memories and I
Speaker 3: could have stayed in the home, and that's not one
Speaker 3: hundred percent why I'm moved at all. But and the
Speaker 3: reason why she came to decorate that room is because
Speaker 3: it was the room that my dad was in and
Speaker 3: she wanted to give it a new vibe because you know,
Speaker 3: that's where I last really like spoke to him before
Speaker 3: he passed away. And then there's other heaviness in that
Speaker 3: house too, from other things, and I just I feel
Speaker 3: okay releasing it. Of course we had the energy had
Speaker 3: flipped and it felt good. But it also feels really
Speaker 3: good to be moving. And so she's excited for me
Speaker 3: to have a new start and a fresh start and
Speaker 3: we're downsizing, and it's gonna be more quaint, which I've
Speaker 3: always liked, and closer proximity to my kids and now
Speaker 3: all these people I'm in teens I want to have
Speaker 3: over at my house all the time. So she's excited
Speaker 3: for that, and she's coming in town to help me
Speaker 3: put the house together. So we'll just transfer everything Justice
Speaker 3: pick it up the movers. Well, there's a little room
Speaker 3: that's very similar, and we're just gonna redo the whole thing.
Speaker 3: I mean it, not the Unfortunately, the walls probably won't happen.
Speaker 3: That was one of my favorite things that she did,
Speaker 3: her and her husband did at that house. I probably
Speaker 3: won't repeat that here. But we'll lay the rug down,
Speaker 3: put the chairs down, put the lamps up, that the
Speaker 3: ca Bueno sign up that she had made, and it'll
Speaker 3: feel like the same room.
Speaker 1: Yeah, so she's excited.
Speaker 3: She's literally coming to town the week that I moved
Speaker 3: to help me.
Speaker 2: Oh, I can't wait to see it all. It's going
Speaker 2: to come together. So well, okay, this is coming. And
Speaker 2: I didn't include her name just in case. My parents
Speaker 2: just told me they're getting a divorce. I'm a young adult.
Speaker 2: Any advice, I.
Speaker 3: Think that divorce really can impact adults. I experienced it
Speaker 3: as a child. I sort of feel like I experienced
Speaker 3: twice because my parents. My dad left when I was nine,
Speaker 3: and my parents were not together. My dad had another relationship.
Speaker 3: They lived together. It's basically they were husband and wife.
Speaker 3: But then at eighteen, my parents legally got divorced, and
Speaker 3: then my dad had a wedding and married his live
Speaker 3: in girlfriend. So my best friend from high school and
Speaker 3: I were talking about this when she was in town.
Speaker 3: She came to Nashville for my birthday in March, and
Speaker 3: she was like, remember your dad's wedding, Like, you did
Speaker 3: not handle that well. I had to leave early, and
Speaker 3: I think it's because I knew that my parents had
Speaker 3: just signed their divorce papers like the week before, and
Speaker 3: it's like they were waiting till I turned eighteen or something.
Speaker 3: I don't know it was. I don't know why they
Speaker 3: handled it the way that they did, but they chose to,
Speaker 3: and my mom sort of at that moment. I think
Speaker 3: if my dad would have said, Hay'm coming back, she
Speaker 3: would have taken him back. So she was sort of waiting,
Speaker 3: and I lived in this confusion, even though I'd go
Speaker 3: over to my dad's and be like, well, there's my
Speaker 3: dad in cricket, And then I'd be at my mom's
Speaker 3: and she's single and not dating because she'd take my
Speaker 3: dad back. And so for me, I experienced it at
Speaker 3: nine years old, and then I experienced it at eighteen.
Speaker 3: And I have other friends I know have experienced it
Speaker 3: in their twenties. And you would think, well, you had
Speaker 3: your parents together through your whole childhood and you know,
Speaker 3: high school, college, like, maybe it won't impact you as much,
Speaker 3: and it still really does. So I would say pay
Speaker 3: attention to that. Talk to somebody if you can, do
Speaker 3: you have friends you can talk to, Can you get
Speaker 3: into some therapy to get ahead of things. So I
Speaker 3: think there's just a lot of confusion that could come
Speaker 3: up because you've looked at your parents a certain way
Speaker 3: for twenty whatever years, and then now the whole dynamic
Speaker 3: is changing, and you're grieving maybe the future you thought
Speaker 3: you were going to have with your family, and just
Speaker 3: having compassion and grace for your parents, knowing they're doing
Speaker 3: the best that they can, at least, I would assume,
Speaker 3: and that they're not trying to hurt you. At least
Speaker 3: that's what I have to remind myself all the time
Speaker 3: with Sasha and Stevenson and Ben and I getting a
Speaker 3: divorce last year. But I'm definitely not a divorce expert.
Speaker 3: I can I don't know what my kids are really feeling.
Speaker 3: They seem to be a dusting well. But I did
Speaker 3: see Tim Fletcher, really, this is his name. He's a
Speaker 3: He's on Theovonne's podcast and he was talking about new research.
Speaker 3: I don't know how new, but the divorce is affecting
Speaker 3: children more than we have thought and more than we've
Speaker 3: let onto. So I think as the parents divorcing, we
Speaker 3: need to be more proactive and making sure that we
Speaker 3: have the tools and the resources to support our kids
Speaker 3: and ourselves during that time. And then as young adults,
Speaker 3: since you are able and you are grown, you know.
Speaker 3: In you're a kid, you don't know, you don't You
Speaker 3: only have access to what you have access to. But
Speaker 3: as a young adult, you're asking the right questions. You've
Speaker 3: sent us a question. I'm not an expert. I can
Speaker 3: just share with you that you have the ability to
Speaker 3: try to get in contact with help, and I say
Speaker 3: the to try, because I don't know everybody's financial situation.
Speaker 3: Therapy can be expensive but maybe looking at where you're
Speaker 3: investing other things, can you shift it around, because I
Speaker 3: think this is a critical moment for you to make
Speaker 3: sure that you handle it well and that will serve
Speaker 3: you down the line so that it doesn't explode on
Speaker 3: you when you're in your thirties and you're you.
Speaker 2: Know, yeah, you never probablyss your own relationships and stuff.
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, yeah, So I hope that helps. I'm really
Speaker 3: sorry to hear that about your parents.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 2: I think that was really great advice. We're gonna go
Speaker 2: from that and take one more break. We'll be right back,
Speaker 2: all right, rapid fire. We're coming at you with four questions.
Speaker 1: You ready, ready?
Speaker 2: If you could have your own line of something, what
Speaker 2: would you choose?
Speaker 1: Cookies? Cookies? Yeah, I was gonna say food too. I
Speaker 1: don't really know what that food would be, but it
Speaker 1: would definitely be a food.
Speaker 3: If I want my own line of cookies, that's like
Speaker 3: everything in the kitchen sak, like the cookie that's like
Speaker 3: the salty sweet cookie with the chips and the yeah. Yeah,
Speaker 3: like everything in and everything except for no no raisins
Speaker 3: and no nuts. Come on, no no raisins, no nuts.
Speaker 3: Did by everything? I mean not that.
Speaker 1: Okay, I'm with you. I think I might be like
Speaker 1: a cheese. I love my own line of cheese because
Speaker 1: I really like me too.
Speaker 2: Well, it has been the best part about life recently.
Speaker 2: Kirsten from Canada, Well.
Speaker 3: And I saw the cardinal as much as the guys
Speaker 3: made fun of me. I saw a cardinal when I
Speaker 3: went to an open house and I wasn't planning on
Speaker 3: even selling my house. I just decided to randomly go
Speaker 3: one day and I saw a cardinal and it was
Speaker 3: my mom, and she gave me a message of peace,
Speaker 3: like I felt it in my body. A piece that
Speaker 3: came over me when I saw this cardinal and just
Speaker 3: an you know, a piece that was saying, sell your house.
Speaker 3: Everything's going to be fine. Sell your house, Everything's gonna
Speaker 3: be fine. And I didn't have that piece prior to
Speaker 3: seeing the bird. I wasn't even really for sure thinking
Speaker 3: about selling my house at all. I just saw the
Speaker 3: open house randomly and Caitlin and I decided to go.
Speaker 3: And so that is that's like pretty cool.
Speaker 1: And now you've sold your house.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean in the way it all happened, it's
Speaker 3: there's no way now. I totally believe that's cuckoo as
Speaker 3: it sounds, You're not. She gave me that piece in
Speaker 3: that moment, and I had to listen to it, and
Speaker 3: I had to act. And I listened and I acted
Speaker 3: and it boom boom boom, you know, And not to
Speaker 3: say that something like that is easy. And there's certainly
Speaker 3: been some hiccups. But even with the hiccups, I feel peace.
Speaker 1: Yes, and you're not cuckoo. Okay, I think it's great.
Speaker 1: It's a great sign.
Speaker 2: Mine would be. There's a lot of love in my
Speaker 2: life right now, lots of weddings, lots of things happening
Speaker 2: for all the people very close to me, and I'm
Speaker 2: just very excited for everybody.
Speaker 1: So a lot of love happening.
Speaker 2: What is your favorite colors from Heather, whose favorite color
Speaker 2: is seafood green?
Speaker 3: Whose favorite color is that?
Speaker 2: Heather the listener, Heather, Oh, her favorite color is see
Speaker 2: sea phone.
Speaker 1: Did I say seafood green?
Speaker 2: It recorrected, it corrected it on my screens seafood green,
Speaker 2: seafhone green.
Speaker 3: Well now it's navy and denam like a blue. Yeah,
Speaker 3: uh huh.
Speaker 1: I think mine is magenta.
Speaker 2: My still one is teal, but magenta has also come
Speaker 2: into play.
Speaker 1: I really love Magenta. It's all my nails right now.
Speaker 2: And any summer trips for either of you Alyssa and
Speaker 2: Illinois and Mazie from.
Speaker 3: Austin don't know yet because I'm moving and that's the priority.
Speaker 3: So I just like gotta get moved.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's TVD on that, Okay, mine is no because
Speaker 2: I'm in a well. I have trips, but they're literally
Speaker 2: all weddings, bachelrette parties, everything. My whole vacation this year
Speaker 2: has been taken over by that. So I'm going to
Speaker 2: Michigan for the first time. That's for a bachelorette trip,
Speaker 2: and then I go to Kinsas City here for a
Speaker 2: wedding and back home.
Speaker 1: So yes, you have some travel.
Speaker 2: You're good travel.
Speaker 1: It's just not travel for me. It's travel for everything else. Yeah,
Speaker 1: all right.
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