1 00:00:01,000 --> 00:00:03,640 Speaker 1: The Best Bits of the week with Morgan. It's Listener 2 00:00:03,760 --> 00:00:04,640 Speaker 1: Q and daytime. 3 00:00:04,920 --> 00:00:07,400 Speaker 2: We're Morgan in a show member answer almost all your 4 00:00:07,480 --> 00:00:12,080 Speaker 2: questions over here on the listener Q and A. Amy 5 00:00:12,280 --> 00:00:12,720 Speaker 2: is with me. 6 00:00:12,840 --> 00:00:14,080 Speaker 1: Hey, Amy, Hello, Hello. 7 00:00:14,320 --> 00:00:16,600 Speaker 2: Not that we've moved, but we are now in part three, 8 00:00:16,960 --> 00:00:19,480 Speaker 2: we start out with some shout outs. Just wanted to 9 00:00:19,520 --> 00:00:21,600 Speaker 2: say I really enjoy the best Bits as much as 10 00:00:21,640 --> 00:00:23,959 Speaker 2: I love the show. Kathy from Boston, thank you so 11 00:00:24,040 --> 00:00:27,080 Speaker 2: much for listening. Kathy, That's awesome. I love the ladies 12 00:00:27,200 --> 00:00:28,040 Speaker 2: of the BBS. 13 00:00:28,120 --> 00:00:30,520 Speaker 1: That's from MLZ. We love you back. 14 00:00:31,200 --> 00:00:37,000 Speaker 2: Two super kind and strong ladies. Sherry from Arkansas and Harks. 15 00:00:37,720 --> 00:00:40,560 Speaker 2: He didn't give me his full thing, but his instagram 16 00:00:40,640 --> 00:00:43,240 Speaker 2: is harks Rob comcast neet. 17 00:00:43,520 --> 00:00:45,000 Speaker 1: He said, how are you both so beautiful? 18 00:00:45,120 --> 00:00:47,480 Speaker 3: Oh? I don't, thanks Rob. 19 00:00:48,360 --> 00:00:50,040 Speaker 2: So start out with some shout outs. It's way to 20 00:00:50,080 --> 00:00:50,760 Speaker 2: make us feel good. 21 00:00:51,159 --> 00:00:54,240 Speaker 1: How has the co parenting been going for you lately? 22 00:00:54,400 --> 00:00:56,640 Speaker 2: Karen and Sierra both asked. 23 00:00:56,360 --> 00:00:57,400 Speaker 1: About this good. 24 00:00:58,400 --> 00:01:02,360 Speaker 3: I yeah, I think good. We've had a few new 25 00:01:02,800 --> 00:01:07,679 Speaker 3: things to navigate now that Been is dating but or 26 00:01:07,720 --> 00:01:11,319 Speaker 3: has not just dating. He has a girlfriend because he's 27 00:01:11,959 --> 00:01:18,520 Speaker 3: been dating but having one specific long relationship, and so 28 00:01:18,560 --> 00:01:20,720 Speaker 3: there's new things to navigate with that that I didn't 29 00:01:20,720 --> 00:01:23,440 Speaker 3: really think about, and I think I've had to surrender 30 00:01:23,480 --> 00:01:29,160 Speaker 3: some of my expectations, which has been hard, but also 31 00:01:29,880 --> 00:01:36,200 Speaker 3: totally okay. I have more peace about it because that's there. 32 00:01:35,400 --> 00:01:38,920 Speaker 3: He's creating a new life, and it's not that I'm like, oh, 33 00:01:39,680 --> 00:01:41,679 Speaker 3: I need to be a part of your life. I 34 00:01:41,840 --> 00:01:45,160 Speaker 3: just I don't know. We'll see how it all unfolds. 35 00:01:45,200 --> 00:01:48,720 Speaker 3: I'm very happy for him, and he's just created new 36 00:01:48,720 --> 00:01:54,160 Speaker 3: conversations and new scenarios and situations that we've never had 37 00:01:54,160 --> 00:01:56,919 Speaker 3: to discuss before. And I'm not saying I've always handled 38 00:01:56,920 --> 00:02:00,920 Speaker 3: it the best, just because i'm, you know, trying to 39 00:02:00,920 --> 00:02:03,720 Speaker 3: figure out your kids are spending time with somebody new 40 00:02:04,480 --> 00:02:12,519 Speaker 3: and trusting that the other person has, you know, made 41 00:02:12,520 --> 00:02:15,880 Speaker 3: a good choice, and whoever the partner is. I'm speaking 42 00:02:15,960 --> 00:02:17,480 Speaker 3: as a whole. I'm not even just talking about Ben. 43 00:02:17,520 --> 00:02:19,680 Speaker 3: I'm talking about so many people that are going through 44 00:02:19,680 --> 00:02:22,040 Speaker 3: this right now. And even as you, like, as I 45 00:02:22,080 --> 00:02:25,600 Speaker 3: start to date, knowing that who I'm dating, if they're 46 00:02:25,639 --> 00:02:28,400 Speaker 3: going to be around my kids, how are they showing 47 00:02:28,480 --> 00:02:31,880 Speaker 3: up and do they care about them? 48 00:02:32,400 --> 00:02:33,480 Speaker 1: Gosh, it's so tough. 49 00:02:33,520 --> 00:02:36,320 Speaker 2: I don't know, like dating was so hard for me 50 00:02:36,360 --> 00:02:38,799 Speaker 2: just as a single person, but I cannot imagine you're 51 00:02:38,800 --> 00:02:41,280 Speaker 2: also considering your kids going through that whole process at 52 00:02:41,320 --> 00:02:41,880 Speaker 2: the same time. 53 00:02:42,040 --> 00:02:46,160 Speaker 3: Yeah, I've been so thankful that Ben in his relationship, 54 00:02:46,200 --> 00:02:48,639 Speaker 3: has been very thoughtful of that with the kids, and 55 00:02:49,040 --> 00:02:52,200 Speaker 3: he is with someone that is very thoughtful with the kids, 56 00:02:52,360 --> 00:02:55,919 Speaker 3: and so in that I'm thankful. But when you when 57 00:02:55,919 --> 00:03:01,280 Speaker 3: you don't know you're at the beginning, it's you're little like, okay, well, 58 00:03:02,320 --> 00:03:04,600 Speaker 3: you know, and our kids being adopted and people in 59 00:03:04,680 --> 00:03:06,760 Speaker 3: and out of their lives. You know, you just want 60 00:03:06,960 --> 00:03:07,799 Speaker 3: to make sure. 61 00:03:08,000 --> 00:03:10,360 Speaker 1: There's consistability as much as you can. 62 00:03:10,360 --> 00:03:11,680 Speaker 3: Or like how close are we going to get with 63 00:03:11,680 --> 00:03:15,720 Speaker 3: this person? And then how serious are things? But then 64 00:03:16,080 --> 00:03:18,480 Speaker 3: that's a boundary for me to cross if I'm trying 65 00:03:18,520 --> 00:03:22,400 Speaker 3: to understand how serious something is, and maybe not for everybody, 66 00:03:22,440 --> 00:03:26,200 Speaker 3: but for Ben doesn't have to tell me that. So 67 00:03:26,240 --> 00:03:32,080 Speaker 3: that's been interesting to navigate. I guess I've just yeah 68 00:03:32,200 --> 00:03:35,000 Speaker 3: new things, and I know that he'll have new things 69 00:03:35,200 --> 00:03:37,960 Speaker 3: when if I bring someone into the mix. But the 70 00:03:38,200 --> 00:03:42,040 Speaker 3: cool part is somebody had to go first, and we've 71 00:03:42,080 --> 00:03:44,280 Speaker 3: gone first with him, and I think we learned a lot, 72 00:03:44,600 --> 00:03:46,800 Speaker 3: so hopefully we kind of know. 73 00:03:46,840 --> 00:03:48,280 Speaker 1: How to navigate. 74 00:03:48,360 --> 00:03:52,320 Speaker 3: Navigate you if a man is coming into the kid's life. 75 00:03:52,520 --> 00:03:54,720 Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, which you know what, I hope it does 76 00:03:54,840 --> 00:03:56,880 Speaker 2: at some point when you're ready and when life happens, 77 00:03:57,000 --> 00:03:57,960 Speaker 2: I hope it does for you. 78 00:03:58,280 --> 00:04:03,120 Speaker 3: Yeah. So I'm thankful for been being in a good 79 00:04:03,200 --> 00:04:06,760 Speaker 3: relationship with someone good and then you know TVD on Me. 80 00:04:07,680 --> 00:04:11,200 Speaker 2: TVD Chrissy wants a Harry menopause. 81 00:04:11,280 --> 00:04:13,560 Speaker 1: In testosterone Update, how are things? 82 00:04:13,880 --> 00:04:16,799 Speaker 3: The testosterone has definitely helped the brain fog for sure. 83 00:04:17,920 --> 00:04:21,599 Speaker 3: I put it on the back of my knee every day, 84 00:04:22,360 --> 00:04:26,599 Speaker 3: two pumps, I do the cream. And the question I 85 00:04:26,600 --> 00:04:28,920 Speaker 3: get the most when I have talked about it online 86 00:04:29,040 --> 00:04:30,640 Speaker 3: is how do I get that? Do you have to 87 00:04:30,640 --> 00:04:33,640 Speaker 3: get a prescription? Can I just go buy testosterone cream? 88 00:04:34,200 --> 00:04:37,120 Speaker 3: And it's a prescription. So you also need to know 89 00:04:37,680 --> 00:04:39,760 Speaker 3: what dose you need, like do you need one pump? 90 00:04:39,760 --> 00:04:41,360 Speaker 3: Do you need two pumps? Do you need three? 91 00:04:41,480 --> 00:04:43,320 Speaker 1: And how did you figure that out? Is just like 92 00:04:43,320 --> 00:04:44,200 Speaker 1: through a obgy. 93 00:04:44,720 --> 00:04:47,239 Speaker 3: I went and got blood work done at my doctor 94 00:04:47,600 --> 00:04:52,640 Speaker 3: and realized I had wherever women are supposed to be 95 00:04:52,680 --> 00:04:56,560 Speaker 3: with testosterone, even like the lowest part that's acceptable for 96 00:04:56,600 --> 00:05:00,400 Speaker 3: women to have. I was below that, so I was like, oh, okay, well, 97 00:05:00,440 --> 00:05:04,160 Speaker 3: I guess I need some. And at the time, it 98 00:05:04,200 --> 00:05:07,719 Speaker 3: was really struggling with brain fog and just thought it 99 00:05:07,760 --> 00:05:11,240 Speaker 3: was me or something going Obviously it was something going 100 00:05:11,240 --> 00:05:12,600 Speaker 3: on with me, but you know, I would have never 101 00:05:12,720 --> 00:05:17,480 Speaker 3: associated it with testosterone. I just thought it was something 102 00:05:17,520 --> 00:05:18,360 Speaker 3: going on in my brain. 103 00:05:18,640 --> 00:05:19,680 Speaker 1: It's wild how. 104 00:05:19,560 --> 00:05:22,679 Speaker 2: Our body reacts to things happening going on and putting 105 00:05:22,680 --> 00:05:25,680 Speaker 2: the pieces together. It's like our body's this giant puzzle 106 00:05:25,720 --> 00:05:27,520 Speaker 2: that were constantly trying to navigate right. 107 00:05:27,640 --> 00:05:29,520 Speaker 3: And I was just lacking in that hormone. And once 108 00:05:29,560 --> 00:05:34,120 Speaker 3: I gave it that hormone, it started responding more appropriately. 109 00:05:34,600 --> 00:05:37,120 Speaker 3: So the brain fog is better, so I recommend it. 110 00:05:37,160 --> 00:05:40,680 Speaker 3: But some people love the pellets, some people love the cream. 111 00:05:41,040 --> 00:05:44,239 Speaker 3: I know that there's this. I think there's another option. 112 00:05:44,279 --> 00:05:46,440 Speaker 3: I've had people tell me about and I can't remember 113 00:05:46,640 --> 00:05:49,840 Speaker 3: what the oh, something they were putting under their tongue 114 00:05:49,960 --> 00:05:52,880 Speaker 3: and it was dissolving. My doctor never said that was 115 00:05:52,920 --> 00:05:54,599 Speaker 3: an option. She only gave me the pellet and the 116 00:05:54,600 --> 00:05:59,679 Speaker 3: cream option, and I opted for the cream, and I'm 117 00:05:59,800 --> 00:06:03,880 Speaker 3: for me that's worked. But everybody's body is so different. 118 00:06:04,000 --> 00:06:05,920 Speaker 3: So yeah, if you can get the blood work done 119 00:06:05,960 --> 00:06:08,960 Speaker 3: and figure out what you need. And when you're in 120 00:06:09,000 --> 00:06:12,560 Speaker 3: your forties, just so much changes. Lots of things change, 121 00:06:12,800 --> 00:06:15,040 Speaker 3: and yeah, stuff with my cycle. I mean, this might 122 00:06:15,080 --> 00:06:17,360 Speaker 3: be Tami, because who's the guy that give us the confliment? 123 00:06:17,400 --> 00:06:24,880 Speaker 3: We have got some guys listening, but you're the my hmm, 124 00:06:26,120 --> 00:06:28,680 Speaker 3: some hot flashes and my hormones, Like I feel like 125 00:06:28,720 --> 00:06:32,320 Speaker 3: I have to check my for lack of a better word, 126 00:06:32,440 --> 00:06:36,800 Speaker 3: rage more often, like I have to be in check 127 00:06:36,839 --> 00:06:39,640 Speaker 3: with it. But I try to pay attention, and I 128 00:06:39,720 --> 00:06:42,719 Speaker 3: try to be proactive and do things like to take 129 00:06:42,720 --> 00:06:45,600 Speaker 3: care of myself so that it doesn't at least your 130 00:06:45,680 --> 00:06:48,560 Speaker 3: right don't snap and scream or something. 131 00:06:48,800 --> 00:06:49,520 Speaker 1: That's so hard. 132 00:06:49,760 --> 00:06:52,160 Speaker 2: That's so hard to recognize that and stop that before 133 00:06:52,200 --> 00:06:52,719 Speaker 2: it happened. 134 00:06:52,920 --> 00:06:54,560 Speaker 3: And when you're in the comfort of your own home, 135 00:06:54,600 --> 00:06:56,200 Speaker 3: it's like, well, I have to get out here, because 136 00:06:56,480 --> 00:06:59,760 Speaker 3: clearly I can control it and behave at work or 137 00:06:59,760 --> 00:07:04,599 Speaker 3: in public settings, but sometimes at home, like a it'll 138 00:07:04,600 --> 00:07:09,360 Speaker 3: just come over me and I feel like a animal 139 00:07:09,600 --> 00:07:11,920 Speaker 3: or something like I'm like, what is happening, which I 140 00:07:11,920 --> 00:07:12,960 Speaker 3: mean happening. 141 00:07:13,000 --> 00:07:16,040 Speaker 2: Like we see all those stories of people, especially like women, 142 00:07:16,080 --> 00:07:19,280 Speaker 2: when they're having this huge moment and it's in public. 143 00:07:19,000 --> 00:07:21,800 Speaker 1: You're like, what is going on? Maybe that's what's going on? 144 00:07:22,160 --> 00:07:25,600 Speaker 3: Oh yeah, I have a lot of compassion for now women. 145 00:07:26,400 --> 00:07:30,440 Speaker 3: It so perimenopause can often start anywhere from thirty five to. 146 00:07:32,240 --> 00:07:34,880 Speaker 1: Oh yeah, I have five more years. Cool. Well it's 147 00:07:34,960 --> 00:07:37,480 Speaker 1: different for everybody. That's that's the thing. But like if 148 00:07:37,480 --> 00:07:38,440 Speaker 1: I'm you know, look at. 149 00:07:38,360 --> 00:07:40,560 Speaker 2: It from an outside picture, like, cool, I got five 150 00:07:40,600 --> 00:07:40,920 Speaker 2: more years. 151 00:07:41,000 --> 00:07:42,920 Speaker 3: Yeah, and I have a period like all the time. 152 00:07:43,320 --> 00:07:45,320 Speaker 3: Not all the time, but it feels like I'm just 153 00:07:45,360 --> 00:07:49,040 Speaker 3: always it just comes and goes and then comes and 154 00:07:49,040 --> 00:07:50,200 Speaker 3: I'm like, what is happening? 155 00:07:50,560 --> 00:07:51,840 Speaker 1: You're like, this is not cool? 156 00:07:52,960 --> 00:07:55,760 Speaker 3: Yeah, and my opgo is like, welcome to this is 157 00:07:55,840 --> 00:07:58,240 Speaker 3: just how your body's responding. But she did give me 158 00:07:58,280 --> 00:08:02,520 Speaker 3: comfort and that a lot of times people try to 159 00:08:02,560 --> 00:08:06,520 Speaker 3: fix this. Obviously, you need to regulate hormones if you can, 160 00:08:06,760 --> 00:08:10,880 Speaker 3: and take care of yourself and do things to serve 161 00:08:10,920 --> 00:08:14,120 Speaker 3: yourself during this season. And I'm just at the beginning, 162 00:08:14,240 --> 00:08:16,960 Speaker 3: so I've even gotten to feel like the really difficult part, 163 00:08:18,120 --> 00:08:22,360 Speaker 3: but also have grace for yourself and no, nut, you're 164 00:08:22,400 --> 00:08:24,360 Speaker 3: not broken. Nothing's wrong with you. This is quite literally 165 00:08:24,400 --> 00:08:27,120 Speaker 3: what your body's supposed to be doing. It's doing what 166 00:08:27,200 --> 00:08:30,000 Speaker 3: it's supposed to be doing. And then the testosterone has 167 00:08:30,000 --> 00:08:32,160 Speaker 3: nothing to do with my perimenopause. 168 00:08:32,200 --> 00:08:34,920 Speaker 1: They're separate, got it. 169 00:08:35,360 --> 00:08:41,319 Speaker 3: So just offering that reminder of having grace for yourself 170 00:08:41,760 --> 00:08:45,920 Speaker 3: and compassion because your body's doing what it's supposed to. 171 00:08:45,960 --> 00:08:47,680 Speaker 1: Do, well, that's so wild. 172 00:08:47,800 --> 00:08:50,120 Speaker 3: That's the next time you scream at your house, be like, 173 00:08:50,160 --> 00:08:52,520 Speaker 3: it's cool, I have grace side compassion. 174 00:08:52,760 --> 00:08:54,760 Speaker 1: You're like, it's okay, I can go through this. It's not. 175 00:08:54,840 --> 00:08:56,440 Speaker 2: Yeah, just yeah, definitely make sure to do it at 176 00:08:56,480 --> 00:08:58,160 Speaker 2: your house. Maybe not in public at other people. 177 00:08:58,320 --> 00:08:58,960 Speaker 1: Yeah, you no can. 178 00:08:59,080 --> 00:09:00,559 Speaker 3: I think I've talked about this with for like going 179 00:09:00,559 --> 00:09:03,199 Speaker 3: outside and throwing ice cubes and on my back porch. 180 00:09:04,280 --> 00:09:07,920 Speaker 3: I saw on TikTok this one girl goes into her 181 00:09:07,960 --> 00:09:10,560 Speaker 3: bathroom and she has a bowl of ice and she 182 00:09:10,720 --> 00:09:12,599 Speaker 3: just throws the ice into her bathtub. 183 00:09:13,160 --> 00:09:13,920 Speaker 1: I would be scared. 184 00:09:13,960 --> 00:09:15,760 Speaker 3: I mean, I know the bathtub's durable, but I would 185 00:09:15,840 --> 00:09:17,440 Speaker 3: want to miss and like crack something. And I know 186 00:09:17,480 --> 00:09:18,720 Speaker 3: that it's ice, but I mean I can throw it 187 00:09:18,720 --> 00:09:20,959 Speaker 3: pretty hard. So that's why I felt safe doing it outside, 188 00:09:21,400 --> 00:09:23,400 Speaker 3: but in case you have neighbors and you're not like 189 00:09:23,880 --> 00:09:27,720 Speaker 3: able to do that. I did see the bathroom hack 190 00:09:27,880 --> 00:09:32,439 Speaker 3: for getting out some you know, just feelings or whatever's 191 00:09:32,440 --> 00:09:33,320 Speaker 3: happening to you. 192 00:09:33,840 --> 00:09:35,680 Speaker 1: I like it. That's a good life hack. What'll be 193 00:09:35,679 --> 00:09:36,360 Speaker 1: you right back? 194 00:09:39,280 --> 00:09:41,559 Speaker 2: All right? This is from Kayla. How does your sister 195 00:09:41,760 --> 00:09:45,560 Speaker 2: feel about you moving from the house she had just 196 00:09:45,720 --> 00:09:47,000 Speaker 2: designed a room before. 197 00:09:47,480 --> 00:09:50,440 Speaker 3: Yeah, she feels totally supportive and fine. She knows that 198 00:09:50,480 --> 00:09:55,920 Speaker 3: that house holds a lot of heavy memories and I 199 00:09:55,960 --> 00:09:59,120 Speaker 3: could have stayed in the home, and that's not one 200 00:09:59,160 --> 00:10:02,760 Speaker 3: hundred percent why I'm moved at all. But and the 201 00:10:02,760 --> 00:10:04,600 Speaker 3: reason why she came to decorate that room is because 202 00:10:04,600 --> 00:10:06,000 Speaker 3: it was the room that my dad was in and 203 00:10:06,280 --> 00:10:08,840 Speaker 3: she wanted to give it a new vibe because you know, 204 00:10:09,720 --> 00:10:12,600 Speaker 3: that's where I last really like spoke to him before 205 00:10:12,600 --> 00:10:15,560 Speaker 3: he passed away. And then there's other heaviness in that 206 00:10:15,640 --> 00:10:19,400 Speaker 3: house too, from other things, and I just I feel 207 00:10:19,400 --> 00:10:22,800 Speaker 3: okay releasing it. Of course we had the energy had 208 00:10:22,800 --> 00:10:26,040 Speaker 3: flipped and it felt good. But it also feels really 209 00:10:26,080 --> 00:10:28,400 Speaker 3: good to be moving. And so she's excited for me 210 00:10:28,520 --> 00:10:30,520 Speaker 3: to have a new start and a fresh start and 211 00:10:30,559 --> 00:10:33,760 Speaker 3: we're downsizing, and it's gonna be more quaint, which I've 212 00:10:33,800 --> 00:10:38,120 Speaker 3: always liked, and closer proximity to my kids and now 213 00:10:38,120 --> 00:10:40,480 Speaker 3: all these people I'm in teens I want to have 214 00:10:40,520 --> 00:10:44,120 Speaker 3: over at my house all the time. So she's excited 215 00:10:44,200 --> 00:10:46,480 Speaker 3: for that, and she's coming in town to help me 216 00:10:47,640 --> 00:10:51,160 Speaker 3: put the house together. So we'll just transfer everything Justice 217 00:10:51,280 --> 00:10:54,840 Speaker 3: pick it up the movers. Well, there's a little room 218 00:10:54,920 --> 00:10:58,199 Speaker 3: that's very similar, and we're just gonna redo the whole thing. 219 00:10:58,240 --> 00:11:02,800 Speaker 3: I mean it, not the Unfortunately, the walls probably won't happen. 220 00:11:02,840 --> 00:11:04,560 Speaker 3: That was one of my favorite things that she did, 221 00:11:05,200 --> 00:11:07,199 Speaker 3: her and her husband did at that house. I probably 222 00:11:07,200 --> 00:11:09,240 Speaker 3: won't repeat that here. But we'll lay the rug down, 223 00:11:09,280 --> 00:11:12,000 Speaker 3: put the chairs down, put the lamps up, that the 224 00:11:12,160 --> 00:11:14,200 Speaker 3: ca Bueno sign up that she had made, and it'll 225 00:11:14,200 --> 00:11:15,080 Speaker 3: feel like the same room. 226 00:11:16,040 --> 00:11:17,160 Speaker 1: Yeah, so she's excited. 227 00:11:17,320 --> 00:11:19,360 Speaker 3: She's literally coming to town the week that I moved 228 00:11:19,400 --> 00:11:19,840 Speaker 3: to help me. 229 00:11:20,080 --> 00:11:21,680 Speaker 2: Oh, I can't wait to see it all. It's going 230 00:11:21,760 --> 00:11:24,600 Speaker 2: to come together. So well, okay, this is coming. And 231 00:11:24,640 --> 00:11:27,200 Speaker 2: I didn't include her name just in case. My parents 232 00:11:27,240 --> 00:11:29,760 Speaker 2: just told me they're getting a divorce. I'm a young adult. 233 00:11:29,880 --> 00:11:32,160 Speaker 2: Any advice, I. 234 00:11:32,120 --> 00:11:40,000 Speaker 3: Think that divorce really can impact adults. I experienced it 235 00:11:40,080 --> 00:11:42,080 Speaker 3: as a child. I sort of feel like I experienced 236 00:11:42,080 --> 00:11:45,160 Speaker 3: twice because my parents. My dad left when I was nine, 237 00:11:45,640 --> 00:11:49,040 Speaker 3: and my parents were not together. My dad had another relationship. 238 00:11:49,080 --> 00:11:51,720 Speaker 3: They lived together. It's basically they were husband and wife. 239 00:11:51,960 --> 00:11:56,240 Speaker 3: But then at eighteen, my parents legally got divorced, and 240 00:11:56,240 --> 00:11:59,680 Speaker 3: then my dad had a wedding and married his live 241 00:11:59,720 --> 00:12:04,000 Speaker 3: in girlfriend. So my best friend from high school and 242 00:12:04,040 --> 00:12:07,040 Speaker 3: I were talking about this when she was in town. 243 00:12:07,160 --> 00:12:09,199 Speaker 3: She came to Nashville for my birthday in March, and 244 00:12:10,000 --> 00:12:12,000 Speaker 3: she was like, remember your dad's wedding, Like, you did 245 00:12:12,000 --> 00:12:17,040 Speaker 3: not handle that well. I had to leave early, and 246 00:12:17,120 --> 00:12:19,800 Speaker 3: I think it's because I knew that my parents had 247 00:12:19,840 --> 00:12:22,000 Speaker 3: just signed their divorce papers like the week before, and 248 00:12:22,000 --> 00:12:24,400 Speaker 3: it's like they were waiting till I turned eighteen or something. 249 00:12:24,400 --> 00:12:26,640 Speaker 3: I don't know it was. I don't know why they 250 00:12:26,640 --> 00:12:29,920 Speaker 3: handled it the way that they did, but they chose to, 251 00:12:30,040 --> 00:12:31,719 Speaker 3: and my mom sort of at that moment. I think 252 00:12:31,720 --> 00:12:33,400 Speaker 3: if my dad would have said, Hay'm coming back, she 253 00:12:33,440 --> 00:12:36,040 Speaker 3: would have taken him back. So she was sort of waiting, 254 00:12:36,120 --> 00:12:40,559 Speaker 3: and I lived in this confusion, even though I'd go 255 00:12:40,600 --> 00:12:42,199 Speaker 3: over to my dad's and be like, well, there's my 256 00:12:42,280 --> 00:12:44,360 Speaker 3: dad in cricket, And then I'd be at my mom's 257 00:12:44,360 --> 00:12:46,840 Speaker 3: and she's single and not dating because she'd take my 258 00:12:46,920 --> 00:12:50,000 Speaker 3: dad back. And so for me, I experienced it at 259 00:12:50,080 --> 00:12:52,760 Speaker 3: nine years old, and then I experienced it at eighteen. 260 00:12:53,440 --> 00:12:55,360 Speaker 3: And I have other friends I know have experienced it 261 00:12:55,360 --> 00:12:58,720 Speaker 3: in their twenties. And you would think, well, you had 262 00:12:58,760 --> 00:13:02,960 Speaker 3: your parents together through your whole childhood and you know, 263 00:13:04,360 --> 00:13:07,280 Speaker 3: high school, college, like, maybe it won't impact you as much, 264 00:13:07,320 --> 00:13:09,480 Speaker 3: and it still really does. So I would say pay 265 00:13:09,480 --> 00:13:12,599 Speaker 3: attention to that. Talk to somebody if you can, do 266 00:13:12,640 --> 00:13:15,680 Speaker 3: you have friends you can talk to, Can you get 267 00:13:15,720 --> 00:13:18,280 Speaker 3: into some therapy to get ahead of things. So I 268 00:13:18,360 --> 00:13:22,120 Speaker 3: think there's just a lot of confusion that could come 269 00:13:22,200 --> 00:13:24,360 Speaker 3: up because you've looked at your parents a certain way 270 00:13:24,400 --> 00:13:28,920 Speaker 3: for twenty whatever years, and then now the whole dynamic 271 00:13:29,080 --> 00:13:33,319 Speaker 3: is changing, and you're grieving maybe the future you thought 272 00:13:33,360 --> 00:13:36,840 Speaker 3: you were going to have with your family, and just 273 00:13:36,920 --> 00:13:40,320 Speaker 3: having compassion and grace for your parents, knowing they're doing 274 00:13:40,320 --> 00:13:42,440 Speaker 3: the best that they can, at least, I would assume, 275 00:13:43,480 --> 00:13:46,000 Speaker 3: and that they're not trying to hurt you. At least 276 00:13:46,000 --> 00:13:47,880 Speaker 3: that's what I have to remind myself all the time 277 00:13:48,240 --> 00:13:51,840 Speaker 3: with Sasha and Stevenson and Ben and I getting a 278 00:13:51,880 --> 00:13:55,680 Speaker 3: divorce last year. But I'm definitely not a divorce expert. 279 00:13:56,160 --> 00:13:59,200 Speaker 3: I can I don't know what my kids are really feeling. 280 00:13:59,200 --> 00:14:01,920 Speaker 3: They seem to be a dusting well. But I did 281 00:14:01,960 --> 00:14:05,719 Speaker 3: see Tim Fletcher, really, this is his name. He's a 282 00:14:06,960 --> 00:14:12,679 Speaker 3: He's on Theovonne's podcast and he was talking about new research. 283 00:14:14,080 --> 00:14:17,280 Speaker 3: I don't know how new, but the divorce is affecting 284 00:14:17,400 --> 00:14:20,600 Speaker 3: children more than we have thought and more than we've 285 00:14:20,680 --> 00:14:23,480 Speaker 3: let onto. So I think as the parents divorcing, we 286 00:14:23,600 --> 00:14:25,800 Speaker 3: need to be more proactive and making sure that we 287 00:14:25,840 --> 00:14:28,080 Speaker 3: have the tools and the resources to support our kids 288 00:14:28,080 --> 00:14:31,400 Speaker 3: and ourselves during that time. And then as young adults, 289 00:14:31,400 --> 00:14:34,960 Speaker 3: since you are able and you are grown, you know. 290 00:14:35,040 --> 00:14:36,400 Speaker 3: In you're a kid, you don't know, you don't You 291 00:14:36,440 --> 00:14:38,400 Speaker 3: only have access to what you have access to. But 292 00:14:38,480 --> 00:14:40,360 Speaker 3: as a young adult, you're asking the right questions. You've 293 00:14:40,360 --> 00:14:43,640 Speaker 3: sent us a question. I'm not an expert. I can 294 00:14:43,760 --> 00:14:47,680 Speaker 3: just share with you that you have the ability to 295 00:14:47,760 --> 00:14:52,760 Speaker 3: try to get in contact with help, and I say 296 00:14:52,840 --> 00:14:55,840 Speaker 3: the to try, because I don't know everybody's financial situation. 297 00:14:56,280 --> 00:15:02,520 Speaker 3: Therapy can be expensive but maybe looking at where you're 298 00:15:02,840 --> 00:15:05,520 Speaker 3: investing other things, can you shift it around, because I 299 00:15:05,560 --> 00:15:07,680 Speaker 3: think this is a critical moment for you to make 300 00:15:07,720 --> 00:15:10,560 Speaker 3: sure that you handle it well and that will serve 301 00:15:10,640 --> 00:15:14,760 Speaker 3: you down the line so that it doesn't explode on 302 00:15:14,800 --> 00:15:17,680 Speaker 3: you when you're in your thirties and you're you. 303 00:15:17,640 --> 00:15:20,640 Speaker 2: Know, yeah, you never probablyss your own relationships and stuff. 304 00:15:20,720 --> 00:15:23,760 Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, yeah, So I hope that helps. I'm really 305 00:15:23,840 --> 00:15:25,280 Speaker 3: sorry to hear that about your parents. 306 00:15:25,680 --> 00:15:25,920 Speaker 1: Yeah. 307 00:15:25,960 --> 00:15:28,440 Speaker 2: I think that was really great advice. We're gonna go 308 00:15:28,520 --> 00:15:30,800 Speaker 2: from that and take one more break. We'll be right back, 309 00:15:33,560 --> 00:15:36,440 Speaker 2: all right, rapid fire. We're coming at you with four questions. 310 00:15:36,440 --> 00:15:37,280 Speaker 1: You ready, ready? 311 00:15:37,680 --> 00:15:39,960 Speaker 2: If you could have your own line of something, what 312 00:15:40,000 --> 00:15:40,680 Speaker 2: would you choose? 313 00:15:42,280 --> 00:15:45,120 Speaker 1: Cookies? Cookies? Yeah, I was gonna say food too. I 314 00:15:45,120 --> 00:15:46,320 Speaker 1: don't really know what that food would be, but it 315 00:15:46,320 --> 00:15:47,160 Speaker 1: would definitely be a food. 316 00:15:47,160 --> 00:15:48,800 Speaker 3: If I want my own line of cookies, that's like 317 00:15:48,840 --> 00:15:50,520 Speaker 3: everything in the kitchen sak, like the cookie that's like 318 00:15:50,560 --> 00:15:53,240 Speaker 3: the salty sweet cookie with the chips and the yeah. Yeah, 319 00:15:53,280 --> 00:15:56,320 Speaker 3: like everything in and everything except for no no raisins 320 00:15:56,720 --> 00:15:59,400 Speaker 3: and no nuts. Come on, no no raisins, no nuts. 321 00:15:59,480 --> 00:16:01,840 Speaker 3: Did by everything? I mean not that. 322 00:16:03,240 --> 00:16:05,040 Speaker 1: Okay, I'm with you. I think I might be like 323 00:16:05,600 --> 00:16:07,800 Speaker 1: a cheese. I love my own line of cheese because 324 00:16:07,840 --> 00:16:09,280 Speaker 1: I really like me too. 325 00:16:10,120 --> 00:16:12,800 Speaker 2: Well, it has been the best part about life recently. 326 00:16:12,960 --> 00:16:15,640 Speaker 2: Kirsten from Canada, Well. 327 00:16:15,480 --> 00:16:17,160 Speaker 3: And I saw the cardinal as much as the guys 328 00:16:17,200 --> 00:16:18,680 Speaker 3: made fun of me. I saw a cardinal when I 329 00:16:18,720 --> 00:16:20,280 Speaker 3: went to an open house and I wasn't planning on 330 00:16:20,320 --> 00:16:22,240 Speaker 3: even selling my house. I just decided to randomly go 331 00:16:22,280 --> 00:16:23,760 Speaker 3: one day and I saw a cardinal and it was 332 00:16:23,760 --> 00:16:26,920 Speaker 3: my mom, and she gave me a message of peace, 333 00:16:27,000 --> 00:16:29,000 Speaker 3: like I felt it in my body. A piece that 334 00:16:29,040 --> 00:16:31,040 Speaker 3: came over me when I saw this cardinal and just 335 00:16:31,240 --> 00:16:36,400 Speaker 3: an you know, a piece that was saying, sell your house. 336 00:16:36,400 --> 00:16:38,480 Speaker 3: Everything's going to be fine. Sell your house, Everything's gonna 337 00:16:38,480 --> 00:16:40,520 Speaker 3: be fine. And I didn't have that piece prior to 338 00:16:40,520 --> 00:16:42,360 Speaker 3: seeing the bird. I wasn't even really for sure thinking 339 00:16:42,400 --> 00:16:44,640 Speaker 3: about selling my house at all. I just saw the 340 00:16:44,680 --> 00:16:47,080 Speaker 3: open house randomly and Caitlin and I decided to go. 341 00:16:47,680 --> 00:16:50,400 Speaker 3: And so that is that's like pretty cool. 342 00:16:50,400 --> 00:16:51,320 Speaker 1: And now you've sold your house. 343 00:16:52,880 --> 00:16:55,640 Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean in the way it all happened, it's 344 00:16:55,920 --> 00:17:00,880 Speaker 3: there's no way now. I totally believe that's cuckoo as 345 00:17:00,920 --> 00:17:02,880 Speaker 3: it sounds, You're not. She gave me that piece in 346 00:17:02,880 --> 00:17:04,520 Speaker 3: that moment, and I had to listen to it, and 347 00:17:04,560 --> 00:17:06,959 Speaker 3: I had to act. And I listened and I acted 348 00:17:07,359 --> 00:17:11,240 Speaker 3: and it boom boom boom, you know, And not to 349 00:17:11,240 --> 00:17:13,920 Speaker 3: say that something like that is easy. And there's certainly 350 00:17:13,960 --> 00:17:17,560 Speaker 3: been some hiccups. But even with the hiccups, I feel peace. 351 00:17:18,080 --> 00:17:20,480 Speaker 1: Yes, and you're not cuckoo. Okay, I think it's great. 352 00:17:20,520 --> 00:17:21,280 Speaker 1: It's a great sign. 353 00:17:22,119 --> 00:17:23,760 Speaker 2: Mine would be. There's a lot of love in my 354 00:17:23,760 --> 00:17:25,959 Speaker 2: life right now, lots of weddings, lots of things happening 355 00:17:26,080 --> 00:17:28,160 Speaker 2: for all the people very close to me, and I'm 356 00:17:28,160 --> 00:17:29,200 Speaker 2: just very excited for everybody. 357 00:17:29,240 --> 00:17:30,320 Speaker 1: So a lot of love happening. 358 00:17:30,760 --> 00:17:33,600 Speaker 2: What is your favorite colors from Heather, whose favorite color 359 00:17:33,640 --> 00:17:34,320 Speaker 2: is seafood green? 360 00:17:35,359 --> 00:17:36,800 Speaker 3: Whose favorite color is that? 361 00:17:36,920 --> 00:17:40,720 Speaker 2: Heather the listener, Heather, Oh, her favorite color is see 362 00:17:41,119 --> 00:17:41,639 Speaker 2: sea phone. 363 00:17:42,160 --> 00:17:43,200 Speaker 1: Did I say seafood green? 364 00:17:43,880 --> 00:17:47,080 Speaker 2: It recorrected, it corrected it on my screens seafood green, 365 00:17:47,240 --> 00:17:48,000 Speaker 2: seafhone green. 366 00:17:48,520 --> 00:17:53,320 Speaker 3: Well now it's navy and denam like a blue. Yeah, 367 00:17:53,560 --> 00:17:54,000 Speaker 3: uh huh. 368 00:17:55,320 --> 00:17:56,840 Speaker 1: I think mine is magenta. 369 00:17:57,280 --> 00:18:00,240 Speaker 2: My still one is teal, but magenta has also come 370 00:18:00,280 --> 00:18:00,879 Speaker 2: into play. 371 00:18:01,119 --> 00:18:04,120 Speaker 1: I really love Magenta. It's all my nails right now. 372 00:18:04,280 --> 00:18:06,439 Speaker 2: And any summer trips for either of you Alyssa and 373 00:18:06,480 --> 00:18:08,000 Speaker 2: Illinois and Mazie from. 374 00:18:07,840 --> 00:18:10,560 Speaker 3: Austin don't know yet because I'm moving and that's the priority. 375 00:18:11,160 --> 00:18:14,080 Speaker 3: So I just like gotta get moved. 376 00:18:15,480 --> 00:18:19,560 Speaker 2: Yeah, it's TVD on that, Okay, mine is no because 377 00:18:19,600 --> 00:18:22,080 Speaker 2: I'm in a well. I have trips, but they're literally 378 00:18:22,080 --> 00:18:25,159 Speaker 2: all weddings, bachelrette parties, everything. My whole vacation this year 379 00:18:25,160 --> 00:18:27,080 Speaker 2: has been taken over by that. So I'm going to 380 00:18:27,119 --> 00:18:29,760 Speaker 2: Michigan for the first time. That's for a bachelorette trip, 381 00:18:30,040 --> 00:18:32,080 Speaker 2: and then I go to Kinsas City here for a 382 00:18:32,119 --> 00:18:33,000 Speaker 2: wedding and back home. 383 00:18:33,119 --> 00:18:34,520 Speaker 1: So yes, you have some travel. 384 00:18:34,520 --> 00:18:35,320 Speaker 2: You're good travel. 385 00:18:35,359 --> 00:18:38,640 Speaker 1: It's just not travel for me. It's travel for everything else. Yeah, 386 00:18:38,680 --> 00:18:39,000 Speaker 1: all right. 387 00:18:39,160 --> 00:18:40,560 Speaker 2: We tell people where they can find to hear you 388 00:18:40,560 --> 00:18:41,720 Speaker 2: all that good stuff. 389 00:18:41,520 --> 00:18:45,840 Speaker 3: At Radio Amy Uh and podcast is four Things with 390 00:18:45,880 --> 00:18:48,720 Speaker 3: Amy Brown. So those are some easy ways. 391 00:18:48,680 --> 00:18:49,480 Speaker 1: Yeah for sure. 392 00:18:49,520 --> 00:18:51,679 Speaker 2: And you can follow me at web girld Morgan and 393 00:18:51,760 --> 00:18:53,800 Speaker 2: please follow the show, check out some content at Bobby 394 00:18:53,800 --> 00:18:54,760 Speaker 2: Bones dot com and. 395 00:18:54,800 --> 00:18:56,919 Speaker 1: At Bobby Boone Show. We'll see y'all later. Have a 396 00:18:56,920 --> 00:18:58,200 Speaker 1: great weekend. 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