Speaker 1: Scrubbing In with Becca Tilly and Tanya rap An iHeartRadio podcast.
Speaker 2: Hello everybody, we are scrubbing.
Speaker 1: It scrubbing in and we have a very special guest
Speaker 1: today on the podcast.
Speaker 3: She's quiet.
Speaker 1: She's not gonna say much.
Speaker 3: She doesn't say a whole lot.
Speaker 1: She's not gonna answer emails.
Speaker 2: But she emmotes with her eyes. Correct Sonny rad Sonny Rad. Yeah,
Speaker 2: it is here in the room with the building.
Speaker 3: She's very confused while we're all clapping.
Speaker 4: Is she cool clapping?
Speaker 1: Yeah?
Speaker 4: Wow?
Speaker 1: So you know what, like they tell you when you
Speaker 1: get when you get a puppy, to expose them to
Speaker 1: all the sounds and stuff'd Robbie. Robbie made fun of
Speaker 1: me because I would sit in front of YouTube and
Speaker 1: I would just google like fireworks and vacuums and clapping
Speaker 1: and like all like moms, gunshots, airplanes. I would just
Speaker 1: YouTube all these sounds and stuff. And so I exposed
Speaker 1: her to like everything under the sun.
Speaker 3: And it worked because fireworks.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 3: I actually thought of this yesterday because.
Speaker 2: I was vacuuming and Phoebe was like freaked out, and
Speaker 2: I was like, I bet tany exposed sound into the
Speaker 2: vacuum cleaner.
Speaker 1: But you know what I forgot what the blender and
Speaker 1: y'all use that a lot with my almond milky. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it's like an every other day situation so.
Speaker 3: That some time.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm feeling really tired today, exhausted today. We had
Speaker 2: a little ce celebratory dinner last night for your birthday.
Speaker 2: I don't know why I'm so tired though I had
Speaker 2: one drink. It's not like I was like raging.
Speaker 1: I had two drinks.
Speaker 3: But are we at that eight or are we at
Speaker 3: that age?
Speaker 2: I think.
Speaker 1: Because I'm feeling it. But I have to say, there
Speaker 1: is something so fun about having like your best friends
Speaker 1: at one table. You know, like, yeah, because you all
Speaker 1: know each other, you're all friends. But like it's not
Speaker 1: that I have all my best friends hang out together
Speaker 1: all the time.
Speaker 3: No, you're like the connector.
Speaker 1: I'm the connector. Yeah, So it's like it's such a
Speaker 1: great feeling to have literally all my best friends at
Speaker 1: one table. Like I was just so happy.
Speaker 2: It was such It was a really fun group because
Speaker 2: everyone gets along. It's easy conversations, crazy but fun.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and like everybody's reaction to everybody it was just
Speaker 1: and like to get Brad out on a school night.
Speaker 1: I was So what happened was I didn't really know
Speaker 1: who was going to be there. I thought I was
Speaker 1: just going to dinner with Robbie, Pauline, and Sophia. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and earlier on when all the plans were being arranged,
Speaker 1: I thought maybe this was like some proposal thing because
Speaker 1: everybody was being a little shady. Quickly found out that
Speaker 1: was not the case, and so I just thought it
Speaker 1: was going to be like a dinner with the four
Speaker 1: of us. And I show up and there's like this
Speaker 1: giant table for like ten people, and I was like,
Speaker 1: and Becca was there, and Ali was there, and then
Speaker 1: everybody kind of slowly started coming. Raquel came, Brad came,
Speaker 1: Zach came, and so it was just like all my
Speaker 1: best friends at one table, and it was like such
Speaker 1: a beautiful surprise.
Speaker 2: Well, so last week I texted the girl group chat
Speaker 2: and I was like, Hey, let's plan a dinner for
Speaker 2: Tonya's birthday. So I'm texting you, and then Paulina texted
Speaker 2: me and she's like, Robbie says, she has a work
Speaker 2: thing and I'm like, no, not on her birthday? What?
Speaker 2: And so then and then I asked you and you're
Speaker 2: I'm like, no, she said she wanted to hang out
Speaker 2: with me, so we'll just do it like cute girls dinner.
Speaker 2: And then I asked you and you're like, oh, yeah,
Speaker 2: I'm one of this Barbie thing and I'm.
Speaker 3: Like okay, cool.
Speaker 2: So then I was like, maybe Robbie planned something like outside,
Speaker 2: like we were all going, like to Robbie plan something
Speaker 2: and it's like a surprise.
Speaker 3: So there was a lot of confusion on that part.
Speaker 1: But I'm gonna say I am happy that this dinner
Speaker 1: didn't happen on Tuesday because I would have been It's
Speaker 1: fine because it's like the end of the week. If
Speaker 1: I would have been this tired on a Wednesday would
Speaker 1: have been problematic.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 2: So it ended up working out, but it was really fun.
Speaker 2: But we didn't know if it was a surprise. So
Speaker 2: I'm like texting Pauline, I'm like, wait, is this still
Speaker 2: is this a surprise? And She's like kind of, she
Speaker 2: didn't really know who's going or where it is. So
Speaker 2: I was like, you asked me what I was doing,
Speaker 2: and I was like, oh, I'm just going to dinner
Speaker 2: with Alie.
Speaker 3: It was truth. It was it's just your dinner.
Speaker 1: Sneaky sneaking girl.
Speaker 3: So it was really fun.
Speaker 1: It was really really fun.
Speaker 3: But I do be tired.
Speaker 1: Yeah, but I now I understand why people have weddings.
Speaker 3: To bring all groups of people together.
Speaker 1: Yeah, like you imagine, like a wedding, is that feeling
Speaker 1: of all your best friends at one table on crack
Speaker 1: because it's like all your favorite people in one room,
Speaker 1: you know.
Speaker 2: See that feels overwhelming to me a little bit because
Speaker 2: that's like I got a lot of people to like
Speaker 2: mingle with. Yeah, so that aspect of the wedding doesn't
Speaker 2: like entice you.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 2: No, I like the idea of everyone being together, but
Speaker 2: like when you're the host of something, it's like.
Speaker 3: You gotta go. Did you feel that way, Like you have.
Speaker 2: To go and like make your rounds and like make
Speaker 2: sure you see everyone and have a proper conversation.
Speaker 4: Yeah. Yeah. Allison and I were just talking about this
Speaker 4: last night, like something else. Elson's so much better this
Speaker 4: than I. And but what she does is she especially
Speaker 4: if there's like people that came alone or like they
Speaker 4: don't know anyone else there, She's like, Okay, I know
Speaker 4: that they both just had babies, Let's get them together,
Speaker 4: introduce them be like hey both just had kids, okay.
Speaker 1: Bye, yeah yeah, find.
Speaker 4: A common topic, or like hey they both played basketball here.
Speaker 3: Yeah yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 4: It's exhausting though as the host.
Speaker 2: Right, Yeah, Like when it's your party and you're the
Speaker 2: star of the party, it's almost.
Speaker 1: Like I didn't even think about it more on you, yeah.
Speaker 2: Because it's like everyone came for you. Everyone's so excited
Speaker 2: to say hey.
Speaker 1: Right and having a bad time.
Speaker 3: Well, that's not your business. If they're having a bad time, yeah,
Speaker 3: that's their problem. Yeah.
Speaker 2: If they're at a wedding and they're getting free food
Speaker 2: and free drinks, that's their problem.
Speaker 3: If they haven't about time.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it was fun because this was Ali's first birthday
Speaker 1: dinner with me.
Speaker 3: Yeah yeah, yeah about a Ali journey.
Speaker 1: Come journey. We've come along me and Ali Grant.
Speaker 3: When did you feel like there was a turning point
Speaker 3: with you guys?
Speaker 1: I know exactly when it was. It was JoJo's on
Speaker 1: suit launch. That's when we had like it'd been brewing
Speaker 1: for a while, like meaning brewing in a good way,
Speaker 1: Like I was like feeling her and like a different
Speaker 1: energy from her, and like we were just getting along
Speaker 1: in a different way. And then we had this like
Speaker 1: breakthrough conversation at JoJo's swimwear launch where we kind of
Speaker 1: were like, yeah, we like we never really got along,
Speaker 1: Like we got along, but we were never friends because
Speaker 1: and she was like, yeah, it was just very work
Speaker 1: focused and just like everything was about work. And I
Speaker 1: feel like maybe the pandemic changed me or something. And
Speaker 1: so we had this breakthrough conversation and now we're just
Speaker 1: like BFFs for life.
Speaker 5: Wow.
Speaker 3: It really blesses me.
Speaker 2: And I like that you try to like row me
Speaker 2: up and get me jealous about it, and like I just.
Speaker 3: I don't want to say I don't care, but like
Speaker 3: I am like happy about it. I don't feel like envy.
Speaker 3: You know what That's called security? Secure attachment.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that means that we both have done Ali and
Speaker 1: I have done a good job of making you securely
Speaker 1: attached in a relationship. Sure yeah, yeah, go ahead.
Speaker 2: If you heard a distant pop sound in the back,
Speaker 2: that was Tanya.
Speaker 1: But I will say Becca did get us this. Oh yeah. Bracelets.
Speaker 2: Yeah, they have little little like half of hearts on
Speaker 2: them and they say BF on them.
Speaker 1: And I have to say, I really feel like you
Speaker 1: you know my love language.
Speaker 3: I know, Yeah, I do you do? Yeah, do you
Speaker 3: like my real?
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, the real.
Speaker 4: Of fame reel of reel and then she.
Speaker 1: Wrote this artistic poem.
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, but I didn't mean for it to be
Speaker 2: a poem. But everyone said it was a poem. But
Speaker 2: I was just writing like my thoughts, and I guess
Speaker 2: that's that's poetry.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it was so it was like beautiful. It was
Speaker 1: so beautiful. I couldn't get over it. I was like,
Speaker 1: Becca wrote me a poem.
Speaker 2: I spent a lot of time on that reel because
Speaker 2: I didn't tell outside of the outside of Instagram. I
Speaker 2: could tell how to keep because there were so many
Speaker 2: parts where I needed to hear what you were saying,
Speaker 2: like the tie is high.
Speaker 1: I have to preface that video story. Yeah, I have
Speaker 1: to preface that video because it was JoJo's bachelorette party
Speaker 1: and I was hammered. I came in for the day
Speaker 1: and it was like I show up at the house
Speaker 1: and it was just like shots, shots, shots. So I'm
Speaker 1: like toast at this point, and Beca and I for
Speaker 1: some reason decided to like leave the group and go
Speaker 1: to the beach together.
Speaker 3: My favorite sunglasses, which I think you.
Speaker 1: Were drunk too. I certainly it wasn't sober. Yes, yeah, okay.
Speaker 1: So we walked down to the beach together, and for
Speaker 1: some reason, we're on this rock and like I'm envisioning that.
Speaker 1: I'm like, I'm trying to set the scene like the
Speaker 1: rock sid in the in the show Big Little Eyes.
Speaker 4: Oh yeah, yeah, the coast of Carmel.
Speaker 1: Exactly, like I've envisioning like these high I'm on this
Speaker 1: high rock with like high waters coming at me, and
Speaker 1: like I was panicking because I couldn't get off this rock.
Speaker 1: And Becca was like on the beach watching me, like peeing, laughing,
Speaker 1: and I couldn't. I'm like this is so scary, like
Speaker 1: the tide is gonna come and sweep me away, and
Speaker 1: I'm drunk and like I was so stressed and she's
Speaker 1: just laughing at me. And then I see the video
Speaker 1: and I realized that, like.
Speaker 5: She was a step down, not even like come to
Speaker 5: the beach water, but when we were both on the
Speaker 5: rocks before I jumped down, she goes, watch.
Speaker 3: Out, the tote is hot, Like what is this accent?
Speaker 2: So I needed to keep those moments in there so
Speaker 2: that people could hear the yeah, yeah, but you have
Speaker 2: a lot of funny moments, because I forgot about when
Speaker 2: you were just staring at the innocent man on the plane.
Speaker 1: It was like he wasn't talking to me. He didn't
Speaker 1: have to. We were talking a little bit and we
Speaker 1: were engaging in a little conversation. Then he just stopped
Speaker 1: talking to me.
Speaker 3: I was like, he's so freaked out about my eyes closed.
Speaker 3: And then like looked over and someone was just dead
Speaker 3: stare at me.
Speaker 1: His eyes weren't closed, so.
Speaker 3: His eyes weren't closed.
Speaker 2: He was staring straight and he was just ignoring your
Speaker 2: sides there. Yes, my gosh, who yeah, Yeah, you're an
Speaker 2: interesting girl, and we all feel very lucky to know you.
Speaker 3: I'm calling you friend.
Speaker 1: I really do feel like I felt very much like
Speaker 1: people spoke my love language more this birthday than ever before.
Speaker 1: Like I got so many poems. Robbie wrote me this
Speaker 1: beautiful poem that I woke up to at like three
Speaker 1: point fifty in the morning, and I'm like sobbing and
Speaker 1: uh put like thirty six little things all over the
Speaker 1: house of reasons why he loves me. Sisney wrote me
Speaker 1: a poem and read it on the air. You wrote
Speaker 1: me this poem on Instagram. I was like everybody's really hitting.
Speaker 2: Right, tapping into the leveling watch. Yeah, I'm so happy
Speaker 2: you had a wonderful birthday.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it was wonderful.
Speaker 3: Did you go over your goals and what you're letting
Speaker 3: go and whatnot?
Speaker 1: So we're doing that. Yeah, we're doing that this weekend.
Speaker 1: We're doing the fire.
Speaker 3: Oh nice.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but you know I like to like brew on
Speaker 2: these things. Yeah, the celebration continues this how the weekend?
Speaker 3: Correct? Correct.
Speaker 1: You can't really get into that mindset on a Tuesday,
Speaker 1: you know, although I tried.
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, yeah, it's got to be a weekend day.
Speaker 1: Yeah. I needed like not feel pressure or like bedtime.
Speaker 3: Did you see the Barbie movie?
Speaker 1: No? I did not seeing it.
Speaker 4: I noticed some of the group shots of the kiss people.
Speaker 4: I taught you it was Notori.
Speaker 3: I know, how was a movie? And she goes, yeah,
Speaker 3: we didn't actually stay for the movie. I'm like, we
Speaker 3: were going to do a whole dinner and you didn't
Speaker 3: even go to the movie.
Speaker 1: What the hell? So I went and I showed up,
Speaker 1: and then I was like so tired. I go there's
Speaker 1: no way I'm staying awake if I watch a movie
Speaker 1: right now, Like I knew, I wasn't gonna stay awake,
Speaker 1: so I was like, why am I even gonna like
Speaker 1: sit there and like fall asleep in the theater rather
Speaker 1: just like go home, get a good night's sleep. And
Speaker 1: I'm actually gonna go see it this weekend.
Speaker 3: That's fun. Easton saw it. Yeah, we need a review.
Speaker 4: It's a masterpiece, really so good. I cried three times,
Speaker 4: it's so funny.
Speaker 1: Cried like sad, or cried laughed.
Speaker 3: Like in motion.
Speaker 4: Oh, it is such a perfect I am a white
Speaker 4: man and I got such a look into the female
Speaker 4: experience from that movie that completely changed my perspective. Wow,
Speaker 4: I think it's so important for women for everyone to see.
Speaker 4: Everybody but it is. Uh, it's just it's remarkable. You're
Speaker 4: going you guys are both gonna love it. I think, Wow,
Speaker 4: it's it's so good.
Speaker 3: That's ely who I needed.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and definitely gonna see it this weekend.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I gotta see it. That was what I was
Speaker 2: waiting for. I needed a review that was just like
Speaker 2: solid like that. I was always going to see it,
Speaker 2: but that was really solid.
Speaker 4: At MEA Alison Eir walk it and she just looks
Speaker 4: at me and goes, what if it sucks? What if
Speaker 4: it's really bad.
Speaker 1: I had that feeling for a while when all the
Speaker 1: promo was going and happening. I was like, what if
Speaker 1: this movie sucks?
Speaker 3: Do you know what? I what I got? How I'm
Speaker 3: so tired? Do you know how?
Speaker 5: What?
Speaker 3: My thought was, WHOA, You're gonna it? Was that simple.
Speaker 3: All I was trying to say, you know what?
Speaker 2: My thought was what Because there's been so much promo
Speaker 2: and the whole thing has been like what if it sucks?
Speaker 2: There's been so much promo and curiosity that everyone's going
Speaker 2: to just go see it. So at least people with
Speaker 2: the promo were like, I'm curious, I want to go
Speaker 2: see it, and at the very least everyone goes to
Speaker 2: see it one time, right, because they've done so much
Speaker 2: promo that people are curious.
Speaker 1: So it was like genius, genius.
Speaker 3: Wow.
Speaker 4: We bought a sixty five dollars popcorm bucket that was
Speaker 4: Barbie's car and it came with a Barbie Doll.
Speaker 1: Shut up theater, the theater. Barbie Doll came.
Speaker 4: It comes with a Barbie the movie Barbie Dolls. It's
Speaker 4: Margot Robvi on the on the bo That was really cool.
Speaker 2: Uh.
Speaker 4: The car is very funny because it's a popcrim bucket,
Speaker 4: but it's a car for the doll to sit in,
Speaker 4: so like you fill up the seats with pop, like.
Speaker 3: You're like touching the seats while you're eating.
Speaker 4: The like goes and like the part where the legs
Speaker 4: go so you can't reach it car you feel anything. Bucket.
Speaker 1: That's so fun. I'm even more excited now.
Speaker 4: It's so I bought that thing so fast.
Speaker 1: I'm going to buy that thing so fast too.
Speaker 3: You said sixty five, I would have spent more.
Speaker 4: Yeah, one hundred dollars. I would have bought that. It
Speaker 4: was sixty five dollars dollars and we got a little
Speaker 4: For an extra three dollars, you get a little inflatable
Speaker 4: Barbie inner tube you can put your drink in.
Speaker 2: Wow.
Speaker 4: Steal, yeah, steal. That's crazy, Yes it is.
Speaker 3: I might do that just for the experience.
Speaker 2: And you know what, No, I don't because I tried
Speaker 2: to clean out my house well because my mom fly
Speaker 2: is flying in today. So I was like, you know,
Speaker 2: like when your mom's coming over, there's this like I
Speaker 2: gotta clean the house, like it's gotta be she can't
Speaker 2: think she raised.
Speaker 3: A slop, right, Yeah, So I.
Speaker 2: Was like deep cleaning yesterday and I was like, I
Speaker 2: just have so much stuff, Like I was getting rid
Speaker 2: of bags and bags, and then there was still no
Speaker 2: room for stuff. So I need to go back. And
Speaker 2: just like sometimes I go, well what if I what
Speaker 2: if I need this?
Speaker 1: Or what if I you don't need it?
Speaker 3: Like you said you gave away pants that you regret.
Speaker 1: One pair of pants I regretted giving away in my
Speaker 1: entire life is pretty good odds.
Speaker 4: I'm just saying, do you still regret the pants?
Speaker 1: Yeah? Because they were hot pink pants and I was like,
Speaker 1: I wish I could. I would have worn these to
Speaker 1: see Barbie and for various other industry events. But yeah,
Speaker 1: there's this one pair of pink pants that I regret
Speaker 1: giving away. But I love giving away. I don't like
Speaker 1: having so many things, you know, join the minimalist side.
Speaker 3: I want to be on the minimalist side. Yeah, because
Speaker 3: think about it.
Speaker 1: Want you wear one fifth of your closet? There's stuff
Speaker 1: that just sits in there. Why do you let us
Speaker 1: sit in there? Somebody else can enjoy it? You know
Speaker 1: what I mean?
Speaker 3: I know I'm with you. I don't know why I
Speaker 3: do what I do.
Speaker 1: Tanya I know, but do it in rounds.
Speaker 3: Okay, thanks so much for the advice, Pep talk.
Speaker 2: Yeah, there's this ig account that Hannah has brought to
Speaker 2: our attention and we need to get into it, but
Speaker 2: we're gonna take a break first, all right. So on
Speaker 2: our rundown today, Hanna put Instagram account Puppy Melons. So
Speaker 2: I'm like, what the heck are we talking about. If
Speaker 2: you have your phone with you right now, please take
Speaker 2: a moment and go look up the account Puppy Melons.
Speaker 2: It is an Instagram account that looks like an innocent
Speaker 2: dog account.
Speaker 3: Puppies.
Speaker 2: Just the whole page is dog photos, right, puppies galore.
Speaker 3: But every single one.
Speaker 2: Of those photos of puppies, if you swipe, there's another
Speaker 2: photo of a girl with uh half naked girl, half
Speaker 2: naked girl or like always in a swimsuit with big
Speaker 2: boobs on display.
Speaker 3: And so we were.
Speaker 2: So this looks like if you have a partner and
Speaker 2: they follow this dog account, it looks very innocent. You
Speaker 2: wouldn't think anything of it. Cute puppies is what is controversial.
Speaker 2: But every photo has a swipe, And we have a
Speaker 2: dilemma here because there are two people in this room
Speaker 2: who have a friend whose boyfriend and or husband is
Speaker 2: following this account.
Speaker 3: It's so awkward and uncomfortable.
Speaker 1: But like Julie, is there a world in which they
Speaker 1: just think it's this?
Speaker 5: Like, no, no, this is this is the this is
Speaker 5: the Delilah's.
Speaker 6: Kindness because like, honestly though, oh my, in the multiverse,
Speaker 6: that universe exists, but it's out of fourteen million wins
Speaker 6: where they know that it's boobs.
Speaker 7: I think there's no way these guys are following this
Speaker 7: account thinking it's just puppies.
Speaker 1: I might, oh my god, Like if I saw this account,
Speaker 1: I'd probably follow it from Sonny's account, like not realizing.
Speaker 3: You don't go click on the photo and then see
Speaker 3: that there's another one in.
Speaker 1: Swipe Maybe not.
Speaker 4: That feels very every single post there's a second one.
Speaker 4: I'm good, Yeah, I just like to see.
Speaker 1: People's first, you know.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: Forward.
Speaker 2: The problem The question is do we notify our friends
Speaker 2: that their significant other is following this account.
Speaker 7: This is the issue I have with it because I
Speaker 7: talk to my friend about it, whose boyfriend I see
Speaker 7: is following this account, and I'm talking to her about
Speaker 7: how I consider it a red flag if a guy
Speaker 7: I'm interested in just follows a bunch of Instagram models
Speaker 7: like I get the X so quickly, and she plays
Speaker 7: Devil's advocate and she's always like, it's just guys, it's fine,
Speaker 7: Like it doesn't really matter. My boyfriend does it too. Oh,
Speaker 7: but I don't think she knows, like to the extent.
Speaker 7: I think it's more embarrassing if a guy's following an
Speaker 7: account like this that's trying to hide it rather than
Speaker 7: just blatantly following.
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's just like weird.
Speaker 2: But if if he's following a lot of other accounts
Speaker 2: where it is Instagram models and then he's following this one,
Speaker 2: it's like what's the difference. But if there's a guy
Speaker 2: who doesn't follow any Instagram models and then he's following
Speaker 2: this one, that feels worse because that feels like he's
Speaker 2: really trying to keep it a secret.
Speaker 1: It who started this account just messed up? Evil.
Speaker 3: It's so evil.
Speaker 1: When I they started it in twenty nineteen.
Speaker 7: Oh my gosh. When I discovered this account yesterday, I
Speaker 7: clicked on the following so you could see mutuals. And
Speaker 7: I have twenty two mutuals of these guys that I'm
Speaker 7: friends with, ninety percent of them having girlfriends following this account.
Speaker 3: I'm just like, God, are.
Speaker 2: There any any guys that you have dated or been
Speaker 2: on dates with that are following it?
Speaker 3: Oh? That's nice.
Speaker 7: I wouldn't be surprised if there are other accounts like
Speaker 7: does not exist?
Speaker 1: I'm like shocked to see that. I don't have any
Speaker 1: any mutuals I know. I was like, does Robbie follow
Speaker 1: this account? Sure? Does do? Let's dotical?
Speaker 3: This is good.
Speaker 2: So you see that Robbie's following the account? Would you
Speaker 2: or I see that Robbie's following the account? Would you
Speaker 2: want me to tell you?
Speaker 3: Yeah? You would?
Speaker 1: I think?
Speaker 3: So what would your like? What would you do about it?
Speaker 1: I'd be like, why are you following this creepy account?
Speaker 1: You sick of? And That's what I'd say.
Speaker 3: So it'd just be like it just.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean yeah, of course, it's not like anything
Speaker 1: make or break.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's kind of how I like, I think if it, well,
Speaker 2: I would be see I think if I if let's
Speaker 2: say Haley was following this account, okay, yeah, and she
Speaker 2: also followed just like a ton of like hot bikini models,
Speaker 2: I'd be like, well, what's new another one? But if
Speaker 2: she had. She was like, I don't follow anyone like that,
Speaker 2: like I would. I don't want to see that. And
Speaker 2: then I saw she was following this account. I'd be like,
Speaker 2: why are you being sneaky? You know?
Speaker 1: Is that I've never had that conversation with Robbie, like
Speaker 1: do you follow weird Instagram bikini models? Like I've never
Speaker 1: had that. I've never had that conversation with him because
Speaker 1: i mean, I like, see when you're like in bed,
Speaker 1: like scrolling through Instagram and stuff, you kind of see
Speaker 1: their feed, and I've never seen anything. I've only seen
Speaker 1: one thing that was like bikini boobs and it was
Speaker 1: one of my friends that he followed. So I'm like,
Speaker 1: all right, fine, fair like who's that? He's like your friend?
Speaker 1: I was like, okay, why right, right, Well it was
Speaker 1: like after a weekend. Yeah. Yeah, but I've never had
Speaker 1: that conversation of like do you follow any.
Speaker 3: Yeah, but you'd want to know for this one.
Speaker 1: Yeah, well now I kind of just want to know.
Speaker 1: In general, the.
Speaker 2: Candle Worves has been open. It's just interesting. It's a
Speaker 2: it's a it's interesting. It's very interesting. Yeah, but it
Speaker 2: poses the conversation, would that be something you want to
Speaker 2: know or are you kind of indifferent about it? I
Speaker 2: think it's a because the sneaky part goes to character, right.
Speaker 1: Yeah, but it might not be sneaky. Am I just
Speaker 1: like some you know what I mean, Like some people
Speaker 1: don't care.
Speaker 3: No, that's what I'm saying.
Speaker 2: Yeah, Like if it's like her friend's her friend who's
Speaker 2: like I already.
Speaker 3: Follows hot chicks whatever.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but if it's like if it's someone who you
Speaker 2: feel like they've defended themselves and I don't even follow
Speaker 2: any of these girls, and then.
Speaker 3: You saw that, that's different.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's not like they're following sunny Girl the Kavapoo. No,
Speaker 1: that's a wholesome is as wholesome as it gets.
Speaker 4: I don't understand if they follow a bunch of bikini
Speaker 4: girls and then this, what's the point of following this
Speaker 4: if you're already just follow a bunch of bikini girls,
Speaker 4: like just really an added thrill like oh maybe here's
Speaker 4: a dog, Oh never mind. Like I just don't understand it,
Speaker 4: Like I think you only follow this if you want
Speaker 4: to hide that you're looking at boobs. And I'm confused
Speaker 4: by it.
Speaker 3: Yeah, very peculiar.
Speaker 4: How you bring it up to the if you see
Speaker 4: your friends partner following this, what do you say?
Speaker 2: Do you like?
Speaker 4: Do you go hate? I thought you should know.
Speaker 2: I would be like, you know what I would do?
Speaker 2: I would go I was like, do you ever have
Speaker 2: to have the conversation about so and so following like
Speaker 2: hot girls or like liking hot photos? And if she's like, oh, no,
Speaker 2: I haven't, And I'd be like, there's this account on Instagram.
Speaker 2: Can you believe that there's an account that looks like
Speaker 2: a dog account?
Speaker 3: And every photo has a swipeover? And I would be like,
Speaker 3: I would be shocked.
Speaker 2: I would be devastated if my significant other was following
Speaker 2: this account and then they're naturally just gonna go check wooth.
Speaker 2: Although if it was like someone that like Tanya, I
Speaker 2: think I'd be like, yo, I found this account.
Speaker 3: Robbie's following it? Are you aware?
Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 1: Go talk to your man.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 2: There's got to be a certain level of like friendship
Speaker 2: to do that though.
Speaker 3: Yeah, Otherwise I'd plant the seed.
Speaker 1: What if I turned Sunny's account into like a like
Speaker 1: a what.
Speaker 2: If it's just like males and like men and like
Speaker 2: uh like speedos?
Speaker 1: No, yeah, like I do like the first picture of
Speaker 1: Sonny and then you swipe over no, and it's like me,
Speaker 1: like my boobs out, yeah, yeah, just you my own
Speaker 1: felon that really yeah? Or is there a world in
Speaker 1: which this actually was a puppy account and then it
Speaker 1: just switched over so people might be following it because
Speaker 1: it was puppies and then they switched it over that.
Speaker 2: I do like thinking about I'm not trying to defend this,
Speaker 2: but because I think it's also delutional.
Speaker 4: But there are times where like it'll be like an
Speaker 4: account where it's like oh, people following down, or like
Speaker 4: a meme account or something, and then they sell it
Speaker 4: to someone else for the followers. Right, Like there's times
Speaker 4: where I'm like, I'd never followed this, like Honda race
Speaker 4: car account and I realized it was like a funny
Speaker 4: monkey account that it sold it. See that can happen.
Speaker 4: I don't think that's happening in this case.
Speaker 1: Could it could have been a puppy account and then
Speaker 1: they just like flip the format and then like all
Speaker 1: these people were following it and then there's not really
Speaker 1: on Instagram, so they don't like unfollow it because they
Speaker 1: just like don't know.
Speaker 2: That's what I think I love the beautiful, beautiful way
Speaker 2: of thinking.
Speaker 1: You think that too, don't you, Sunny, She says, I know.
Speaker 3: What Puppy Melons has been and always will be.
Speaker 1: It will be dark.
Speaker 2: Okay, we're gonna take a break and then we'll be back
Speaker 2: with emails. All right, we are back. This first email
Speaker 2: is tough eastn't.
Speaker 4: Yes, yes, yes it is. I see a disclaimer there.
Speaker 4: This is from anonymous disclaimer. I completely take responsibility for
Speaker 4: looking places I shouldn't have been, but now I cannot
Speaker 4: stop thinking about it, and I need to know what
Speaker 4: I should do. Oh boy, Bobby Mellins is in this.
Speaker 4: I'm going to visit it.
Speaker 2: So.
Speaker 4: My boyfriend and I have been going through somewhat of
Speaker 4: a rough patch for a few reasons, none of them
Speaker 4: having anything to do with other girls or distrust. Well,
Speaker 4: I was in control of music the other night on
Speaker 4: his phone and a notification popped up that said, for
Speaker 4: the sake of this post, Tiffany liked your Venmo payment.
Speaker 4: I clicked on it and he paid her fifteen dollars
Speaker 4: and all the notes said was thank you. I've never
Speaker 4: heard him talk about this girl or even heard her
Speaker 4: name before this. I immediately got anxious and looked at
Speaker 4: his text messages and searched her name. The only thing
Speaker 4: that came up with him texting his friend asking for
Speaker 4: a number back in February. He does have her contact
Speaker 4: save now, but there were no messages between them, so
Speaker 4: I'm assuming he deleted them. I don't know anyways, he
Speaker 4: follows her on Instagram, and so do several other people
Speaker 4: I know, so I'm not sure what to make of
Speaker 4: this or if I'm overthinking it again. I know I
Speaker 4: shouldn't have been nosy, but I know and have met
Speaker 4: so many of his girlfriend and I have never even
Speaker 4: heard any mention of this girl. What would you do.
Speaker 2: This?
Speaker 3: For me?
Speaker 2: Is where communication is so valuable in a relationship, because
Speaker 2: in my mind I feel like you should feel safe
Speaker 2: to go to him and say, hey, when I had
Speaker 2: your friend the other night playing the music, I saw
Speaker 2: this notification pop up.
Speaker 3: I don't know who Tiffany is. I don't want a spiral.
Speaker 2: I've already like been in my head about it, but
Speaker 2: I wanted to come to you so that I don't
Speaker 2: go further into the spiral. And I wanted to just
Speaker 2: make sure it's nothing that I should be worried or
Speaker 2: insecure about or like, who is Tiffany? Why? Why was
Speaker 2: there a Venmo exchange between the two of you. Can
Speaker 2: you just calm calm, calm me down. Yeah, because if
Speaker 2: there's nothing there, he'll be able to say, oh, we
Speaker 2: are with a group of friends and this our friend Tiffany.
Speaker 3: She paid for the meal and we all vemote her back.
Speaker 3: And if it's a.
Speaker 2: Thing, then it gives you the opportunity to see how
Speaker 2: he reacts and also gives him the opportunity to be
Speaker 2: honest about what's going on. But I think you spiraling
Speaker 2: in your head isn't going to do anything. I think
Speaker 2: it's like you need to have a conversation about it,
Speaker 2: regardless of the direction that it goes. I think you
Speaker 2: just need to say, like, hey, I saw this. And
Speaker 2: I don't even think you need to say I snooped
Speaker 2: through your phone. I think you just say it popped
Speaker 2: up while I was holding the phone. Yeah, and I'm curious. Yeah,
Speaker 2: you don't have to go through all the details.
Speaker 1: You can say like when we were listening to music
Speaker 1: riding in the car, I saw this girl like your Venmo,
Speaker 1: And because we are going through a rough patch, I
Speaker 1: am feeling and you can say, like I am feeling
Speaker 1: a little insecure and I've been in my mind has
Speaker 1: been kind of like going all over the place. Can
Speaker 1: you like tell me who this girl is or like
Speaker 1: what that was? Like you know, and like you can say,
Speaker 1: like it's okay to be in a place that you
Speaker 1: feel insecure and you can admit that, you know. And
Speaker 1: I think also if he is understanding and you guys
Speaker 1: are in a good relationship, he's also going to understand
Speaker 1: like he has made like he in part because of
Speaker 1: the rough patch is causing you to be in this
Speaker 1: place of insecurity a little bit too, you know what
Speaker 1: I mean. So hopefully it will go in a positive
Speaker 1: direction or he could get very defensive. But I'm gonna
Speaker 1: hope that he's a good guy and that it will
Speaker 1: be an easy explanation.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I think in the greater scheme of like things
Speaker 4: you see on the phone, this is like best case scenario.
Speaker 4: Like I've been in this position many times where like
Speaker 4: I was at some work thing and like someone was
Speaker 4: getting coffee for everyone and I'd have venmo someone named
Speaker 4: Gabrielle that I've never talked to you before or since.
Speaker 1: Yeah, true, I've done that stuff too that I've like Venmo,
Speaker 1: I don't even know who I ven mooded anyware.
Speaker 2: And it's like he said, she said, the only thing
Speaker 2: she saw was that he had asked her his friend
Speaker 2: for her number, but it could have been like a
Speaker 2: work thing or something like, hey, I needed to reach
Speaker 2: out to her, and like, the reason why you've never
Speaker 2: heard of her is because he probably there's nothing there righted. Yeah, yeah, yeah,
Speaker 2: that was it, So I think it's worth the conversation,
Speaker 2: just honest conversation.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and it's gonna suck. You're gonna put your tail
Speaker 1: between your legs and like say, no.
Speaker 2: I don't even I was holding your phone when I
Speaker 2: was doing music and it popped up.
Speaker 3: I just looked down.
Speaker 1: Okay, yeah, all right, Well.
Speaker 4: I think we fixed that problem. Uh yeah, wow solid
Speaker 4: if she solved anonymous. Moving on to Emma, I just
Speaker 4: have a general question that I hope sparks some interesting conversations.
Speaker 4: Wouldn't that be nice? Emma? How has social media affected
Speaker 4: the way you view relationships and partners? These past few
Speaker 4: days have been coming across posts that glorify unhealthy acts
Speaker 4: and relationships, such as girl being mad at her boyfriend
Speaker 4: for hanging out with his boys. Boys covering up their
Speaker 4: girlfriends when they wear something that shows a little more skin,
Speaker 4: girls blowing up their boyfriend's phone when they're out, and
Speaker 4: so on. These made me realize I have an amazing
Speaker 4: relationship which has none of the crap mentioned above, and
Speaker 4: I'm grateful for the space I get to be myself.
Speaker 4: I also come across posts that highlight that love isn't enough,
Speaker 4: and those posts are indeed a lesson, and I save them.
Speaker 1: I'm confused by this.
Speaker 2: I think she's just wanting to know what how relationship
Speaker 2: affects the way you view how social media affects the
Speaker 2: way that you view relationships and partners, Like I feel
Speaker 2: like sometimes like social media is so easy to glorify
Speaker 2: the highs, but also sometimes people share so much of
Speaker 2: their relationship that I'm like, don't put this, Like this
Speaker 2: is a lot, yeah, like the really dark traumas, It's like,
Speaker 2: maybe share that with your personal your friends, because it's
Speaker 2: like you're opening something that's already a wound up to
Speaker 2: like public scrutiny and more opinions on it. And I
Speaker 2: think talking about like, oh yeah, there's like we're going
Speaker 2: through this hard time, like you know, when Haley was
Speaker 2: on tour, like I was had a really hard time,
Speaker 2: you know, But I'm not like going out and sharing
Speaker 2: the details because that's not everyone's business, you know. Like
Speaker 2: there are so and things that I think are valuable
Speaker 2: to keep into your relationship, and I think sharing the highs.
Speaker 3: Is like beautiful as well.
Speaker 2: But I also think that social media makes it easy
Speaker 2: to share the highs when you're going through the low,
Speaker 2: so it glorifies this people like I'm so jealous of this.
Speaker 2: And then I saw a girl post the other day
Speaker 2: that her wedding video went viral. She and her wife
Speaker 2: got married, and in the video, her wife is like
Speaker 2: sobbing and everyone's like, if my if the person I
Speaker 2: married doesn't cry like that, like I don't want it,
Speaker 2: And she was like that person was cheating on me
Speaker 2: and like was so abusive and like no one knew what. Yeah,
Speaker 2: so it's I think what she's saying is like social
Speaker 2: media can cause like such a different idea of what
Speaker 2: is really going on.
Speaker 1: Yeah, well, I don't even think it's social media. I
Speaker 1: think it goes so much deeper than that because I
Speaker 1: know and I've had to work in therapy a lot
Speaker 1: on this because I had this so may call it
Speaker 1: delusional expectation of love and what a relationship is. And
Speaker 1: it was like I had that vision that we all
Speaker 1: had of like the Prince Charming coming to save me
Speaker 1: with the glass slipper and like at midnight, I'm going
Speaker 1: to be a princess and like it's gonna be happily
Speaker 1: ever after. Like that was my reality of what a
Speaker 1: relationship is. And don't get me wrong, I do have
Speaker 1: those moments with Robbie like I do sometimes I feel
Speaker 1: like I'm like floating on a cloud. But the relationship
Speaker 1: also has had some really crazy challenges and like some
Speaker 1: like real life stuff, you know that like I just
Speaker 1: wasn't equipped for because I had this delusional perception of
Speaker 1: what love was, you know, like we all say it
Speaker 1: love conquers all, and like what's the other one? If
Speaker 1: he wanted to he would and like all these things
Speaker 1: that we say that are like actually really not true.
Speaker 1: Do you know what I mean? Someone can love you
Speaker 1: and still was it. It's it's interesting, it's interesting we're
Speaker 1: this close to profound. No, but I think it is profound.
Speaker 1: I think it is profound because I like really had
Speaker 1: to grow through all that like I had to really
Speaker 1: knock down all these preconceived notions that I had, and like,
Speaker 1: I think social media just adds to it, you know
Speaker 1: what I mean, Like it's it goes deeper than the
Speaker 1: fairy tales, Like we're seeing it day in day out,
Speaker 1: you know, Like I follow Ali Fedotowski and I'm like,
Speaker 1: if my kids don't act like that, Like you know
Speaker 1: what I mean, Like you follow these people that show this. Again,
Speaker 1: it's it's not their entire life, it's a fraction of it,
Speaker 1: and you get this perception in your head of what
Speaker 1: you know, being a wife or being a mom like
Speaker 1: looks like when it's really not the reality. So it's
Speaker 1: like it's all kind of screwing with us.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think social media, like you nettle on the head,
Speaker 2: it's a fraction of someone's life. Like it's a minuscule
Speaker 2: You're getting a glimpse into someone's life, and they only
Speaker 2: choose what you what they want you to see, whether
Speaker 2: that's a good, the bad, the ugly one, whatever it is.
Speaker 2: So I think especially with TikTok and like the skits
Speaker 2: and stuff, there's even more. Sometimes it's like supposed to
Speaker 2: be funny banter, but it can maybe glorify like unhealthy things.
Speaker 3: I don't know.
Speaker 2: I think that's just having the awareness that social media
Speaker 2: isn't the same as real life all the time.
Speaker 1: Yeah, And I think also to just know that like
Speaker 1: everybody deals with challenges and nobody's perfect.
Speaker 3: No, and love is wonderful, It's such a gift. And also.
Speaker 2: Relationships take effort and work, and I think the I
Speaker 2: think the love is what provokes the work.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's funny because I realized I think I don't
Speaker 1: remember when it was, but I was like posting robbing
Speaker 1: a lot of my social media because I'm like, we're
Speaker 1: together all the time, do you know what I mean?
Speaker 1: Like he's with me when I work out, he's with
Speaker 1: me when I go to sleep, like he's there. And
Speaker 1: I was like, you know what, I don't want to
Speaker 1: give that person exception that like I always have my
Speaker 1: significant other or that I'm nothing without my significant other there,
Speaker 1: do you know what I mean? So I started to
Speaker 1: get very intentional about like not having him in like
Speaker 1: every single photo and every single video and like having
Speaker 1: my own identity and my identity with him. You know,
Speaker 1: it's interesting, It is interesting, it is.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 2: The slow spin Okay, I have to go, all right.
Speaker 2: I get my mom from l a X, which is
Speaker 2: truly an actor act of love. Yeah, in the Los
Speaker 2: Angeles area for someone we love you.
Speaker 1: All you need to say. She loves you all too,
Speaker 1: loves you. I love you, I love you.
Speaker 3: Bye bye by