WEBVTT - Puppy Melons

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<v Speaker 1>Scrubbing In with Becca Tilly and Tanya rap An iHeartRadio podcast.

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<v Speaker 2>Hello everybody, we are scrubbing.

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<v Speaker 1>It scrubbing in and we have a very special guest

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<v Speaker 1>today on the podcast.

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<v Speaker 3>She's quiet.

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<v Speaker 1>She's not gonna say much.

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<v Speaker 3>She doesn't say a whole lot.

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<v Speaker 1>She's not gonna answer emails.

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<v Speaker 2>But she emmotes with her eyes. Correct Sonny rad Sonny Rad. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>it is here in the room with the building.

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<v Speaker 3>She's very confused while we're all clapping.

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<v Speaker 4>Is she cool clapping?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 4>Wow?

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<v Speaker 1>So you know what, like they tell you when you

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<v Speaker 1>get when you get a puppy, to expose them to

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<v Speaker 1>all the sounds and stuff'd Robbie. Robbie made fun of

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<v Speaker 1>me because I would sit in front of YouTube and

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<v Speaker 1>I would just google like fireworks and vacuums and clapping

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<v Speaker 1>and like all like moms, gunshots, airplanes. I would just

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<v Speaker 1>YouTube all these sounds and stuff. And so I exposed

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<v Speaker 1>her to like everything under the sun.

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<v Speaker 3>And it worked because fireworks.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>I actually thought of this yesterday because.

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<v Speaker 2>I was vacuuming and Phoebe was like freaked out, and

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, I bet tany exposed sound into the

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<v Speaker 2>vacuum cleaner.

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<v Speaker 1>But you know what I forgot what the blender and

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<v Speaker 1>y'all use that a lot with my almond milky. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>it's like an every other day situation so.

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<v Speaker 3>That some time.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I'm feeling really tired today, exhausted today. We had

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<v Speaker 2>a little ce celebratory dinner last night for your birthday.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know why I'm so tired though I had

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<v Speaker 2>one drink. It's not like I was like raging.

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<v Speaker 1>I had two drinks.

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<v Speaker 3>But are we at that eight or are we at

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<v Speaker 3>that age?

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<v Speaker 2>I think.

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<v Speaker 1>Because I'm feeling it. But I have to say, there

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<v Speaker 1>is something so fun about having like your best friends

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<v Speaker 1>at one table. You know, like, yeah, because you all

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<v Speaker 1>know each other, you're all friends. But like it's not

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<v Speaker 1>that I have all my best friends hang out together

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<v Speaker 1>all the time.

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<v Speaker 3>No, you're like the connector.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm the connector. Yeah, So it's like it's such a

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<v Speaker 1>great feeling to have literally all my best friends at

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<v Speaker 1>one table. Like I was just so happy.

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<v Speaker 2>It was such It was a really fun group because

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<v Speaker 2>everyone gets along. It's easy conversations, crazy but fun.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, and like everybody's reaction to everybody it was just

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<v Speaker 1>and like to get Brad out on a school night.

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<v Speaker 1>I was So what happened was I didn't really know

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<v Speaker 1>who was going to be there. I thought I was

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<v Speaker 1>just going to dinner with Robbie, Pauline, and Sophia. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>and earlier on when all the plans were being arranged,

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<v Speaker 1>I thought maybe this was like some proposal thing because

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<v Speaker 1>everybody was being a little shady. Quickly found out that

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<v Speaker 1>was not the case, and so I just thought it

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<v Speaker 1>was going to be like a dinner with the four

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<v Speaker 1>of us. And I show up and there's like this

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<v Speaker 1>giant table for like ten people, and I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>and Becca was there, and Ali was there, and then

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<v Speaker 1>everybody kind of slowly started coming. Raquel came, Brad came,

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<v Speaker 1>Zach came, and so it was just like all my

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<v Speaker 1>best friends at one table, and it was like such

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<v Speaker 1>a beautiful surprise.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, so last week I texted the girl group chat

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<v Speaker 2>and I was like, Hey, let's plan a dinner for

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<v Speaker 2>Tonya's birthday. So I'm texting you, and then Paulina texted

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<v Speaker 2>me and she's like, Robbie says, she has a work

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<v Speaker 2>thing and I'm like, no, not on her birthday? What?

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<v Speaker 2>And so then and then I asked you and you're

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<v Speaker 2>I'm like, no, she said she wanted to hang out

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<v Speaker 2>with me, so we'll just do it like cute girls dinner.

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<v Speaker 2>And then I asked you and you're like, oh, yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm one of this Barbie thing and I'm.

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<v Speaker 3>Like okay, cool.

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<v Speaker 2>So then I was like, maybe Robbie planned something like outside,

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<v Speaker 2>like we were all going, like to Robbie plan something

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<v Speaker 2>and it's like a surprise.

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<v Speaker 3>So there was a lot of confusion on that part.

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<v Speaker 1>But I'm gonna say I am happy that this dinner

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<v Speaker 1>didn't happen on Tuesday because I would have been It's

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<v Speaker 1>fine because it's like the end of the week. If

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<v Speaker 1>I would have been this tired on a Wednesday would

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<v Speaker 1>have been problematic.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>So it ended up working out, but it was really fun.

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<v Speaker 2>But we didn't know if it was a surprise. So

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<v Speaker 2>I'm like texting Pauline, I'm like, wait, is this still

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<v Speaker 2>is this a surprise? And She's like kind of, she

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<v Speaker 2>didn't really know who's going or where it is. So

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, you asked me what I was doing,

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<v Speaker 2>and I was like, oh, I'm just going to dinner

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<v Speaker 2>with Alie.

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<v Speaker 3>It was truth. It was it's just your dinner.

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<v Speaker 1>Sneaky sneaking girl.

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<v Speaker 3>So it was really fun.

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<v Speaker 1>It was really really fun.

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<v Speaker 3>But I do be tired.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, but I now I understand why people have weddings.

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<v Speaker 3>To bring all groups of people together.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, like you imagine, like a wedding, is that feeling

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<v Speaker 1>of all your best friends at one table on crack

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<v Speaker 1>because it's like all your favorite people in one room,

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<v Speaker 1>you know.

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<v Speaker 2>See that feels overwhelming to me a little bit because

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<v Speaker 2>that's like I got a lot of people to like

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<v Speaker 2>mingle with. Yeah, so that aspect of the wedding doesn't

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<v Speaker 2>like entice you.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>No, I like the idea of everyone being together, but

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<v Speaker 2>like when you're the host of something, it's like.

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<v Speaker 3>You gotta go. Did you feel that way, Like you have.

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<v Speaker 2>To go and like make your rounds and like make

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<v Speaker 2>sure you see everyone and have a proper conversation.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah. Yeah. Allison and I were just talking about this

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<v Speaker 4>last night, like something else. Elson's so much better this

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<v Speaker 4>than I. And but what she does is she especially

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<v Speaker 4>if there's like people that came alone or like they

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<v Speaker 4>don't know anyone else there, She's like, Okay, I know

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<v Speaker 4>that they both just had babies, Let's get them together,

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<v Speaker 4>introduce them be like hey both just had kids, okay.

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<v Speaker 1>Bye, yeah yeah, find.

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<v Speaker 4>A common topic, or like hey they both played basketball here.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah yeah, yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 4>It's exhausting though as the host.

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<v Speaker 2>Right, Yeah, Like when it's your party and you're the

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<v Speaker 2>star of the party, it's almost.

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<v Speaker 1>Like I didn't even think about it more on you, yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>Because it's like everyone came for you. Everyone's so excited

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<v Speaker 2>to say hey.

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<v Speaker 1>Right and having a bad time.

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<v Speaker 3>Well, that's not your business. If they're having a bad time, yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>that's their problem. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>If they're at a wedding and they're getting free food

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<v Speaker 2>and free drinks, that's their problem.

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<v Speaker 3>If they haven't about time.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, it was fun because this was Ali's first birthday

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<v Speaker 1>dinner with me.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah yeah, yeah about a Ali journey.

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<v Speaker 1>Come journey. We've come along me and Ali Grant.

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<v Speaker 3>When did you feel like there was a turning point

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<v Speaker 3>with you guys?

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<v Speaker 1>I know exactly when it was. It was JoJo's on

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<v Speaker 1>suit launch. That's when we had like it'd been brewing

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<v Speaker 1>for a while, like meaning brewing in a good way,

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<v Speaker 1>Like I was like feeling her and like a different

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<v Speaker 1>energy from her, and like we were just getting along

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<v Speaker 1>in a different way. And then we had this like

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<v Speaker 1>breakthrough conversation at JoJo's swimwear launch where we kind of

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<v Speaker 1>were like, yeah, we like we never really got along,

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<v Speaker 1>Like we got along, but we were never friends because

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<v Speaker 1>and she was like, yeah, it was just very work

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<v Speaker 1>focused and just like everything was about work. And I

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<v Speaker 1>feel like maybe the pandemic changed me or something. And

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<v Speaker 1>so we had this breakthrough conversation and now we're just

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<v Speaker 1>like BFFs for life.

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<v Speaker 5>Wow.

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<v Speaker 3>It really blesses me.

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<v Speaker 2>And I like that you try to like row me

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<v Speaker 2>up and get me jealous about it, and like I just.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't want to say I don't care, but like

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<v Speaker 3>I am like happy about it. I don't feel like envy.

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<v Speaker 3>You know what That's called security? Secure attachment.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, that means that we both have done Ali and

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<v Speaker 1>I have done a good job of making you securely

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<v Speaker 1>attached in a relationship. Sure yeah, yeah, go ahead.

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<v Speaker 2>If you heard a distant pop sound in the back,

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<v Speaker 2>that was Tanya.

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<v Speaker 1>But I will say Becca did get us this. Oh yeah. Bracelets.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, they have little little like half of hearts on

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<v Speaker 2>them and they say BF on them.

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<v Speaker 1>And I have to say, I really feel like you

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<v Speaker 1>you know my love language.

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<v Speaker 3>I know, Yeah, I do you do? Yeah, do you

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<v Speaker 3>like my real?

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<v Speaker 1>Oh my gosh, the real.

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<v Speaker 4>Of fame reel of reel and then she.

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<v Speaker 1>Wrote this artistic poem.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh yeah, but I didn't mean for it to be

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<v Speaker 2>a poem. But everyone said it was a poem. But

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<v Speaker 2>I was just writing like my thoughts, and I guess

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<v Speaker 2>that's that's poetry.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, it was so it was like beautiful. It was

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<v Speaker 1>so beautiful. I couldn't get over it. I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>Becca wrote me a poem.

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<v Speaker 2>I spent a lot of time on that reel because

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<v Speaker 2>I didn't tell outside of the outside of Instagram. I

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<v Speaker 2>could tell how to keep because there were so many

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<v Speaker 2>parts where I needed to hear what you were saying,

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<v Speaker 2>like the tie is high.

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<v Speaker 1>I have to preface that video story. Yeah, I have

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<v Speaker 1>to preface that video because it was JoJo's bachelorette party

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<v Speaker 1>and I was hammered. I came in for the day

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<v Speaker 1>and it was like I show up at the house

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<v Speaker 1>and it was just like shots, shots, shots. So I'm

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<v Speaker 1>like toast at this point, and Beca and I for

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<v Speaker 1>some reason decided to like leave the group and go

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<v Speaker 1>to the beach together.

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<v Speaker 3>My favorite sunglasses, which I think you.

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<v Speaker 1>Were drunk too. I certainly it wasn't sober. Yes, yeah, okay.

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<v Speaker 1>So we walked down to the beach together, and for

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<v Speaker 1>some reason, we're on this rock and like I'm envisioning that.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, I'm trying to set the scene like the

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<v Speaker 1>rock sid in the in the show Big Little Eyes.

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<v Speaker 4>Oh yeah, yeah, the coast of Carmel.

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<v Speaker 1>Exactly, like I've envisioning like these high I'm on this

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<v Speaker 1>high rock with like high waters coming at me, and

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<v Speaker 1>like I was panicking because I couldn't get off this rock.

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<v Speaker 1>And Becca was like on the beach watching me, like peeing, laughing,

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<v Speaker 1>and I couldn't. I'm like this is so scary, like

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<v Speaker 1>the tide is gonna come and sweep me away, and

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<v Speaker 1>I'm drunk and like I was so stressed and she's

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<v Speaker 1>just laughing at me. And then I see the video

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<v Speaker 1>and I realized that, like.

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<v Speaker 5>She was a step down, not even like come to

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<v Speaker 5>the beach water, but when we were both on the

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<v Speaker 5>rocks before I jumped down, she goes, watch.

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<v Speaker 3>Out, the tote is hot, Like what is this accent?

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<v Speaker 2>So I needed to keep those moments in there so

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<v Speaker 2>that people could hear the yeah, yeah, but you have

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<v Speaker 2>a lot of funny moments, because I forgot about when

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<v Speaker 2>you were just staring at the innocent man on the plane.

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<v Speaker 1>It was like he wasn't talking to me. He didn't

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<v Speaker 1>have to. We were talking a little bit and we

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<v Speaker 1>were engaging in a little conversation. Then he just stopped

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<v Speaker 1>talking to me.

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<v Speaker 3>I was like, he's so freaked out about my eyes closed.

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<v Speaker 3>And then like looked over and someone was just dead

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<v Speaker 3>stare at me.

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<v Speaker 1>His eyes weren't closed, so.

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<v Speaker 3>His eyes weren't closed.

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<v Speaker 2>He was staring straight and he was just ignoring your

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<v Speaker 2>sides there. Yes, my gosh, who yeah, Yeah, you're an

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<v Speaker 2>interesting girl, and we all feel very lucky to know you.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm calling you friend.

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<v Speaker 1>I really do feel like I felt very much like

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<v Speaker 1>people spoke my love language more this birthday than ever before.

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<v Speaker 1>Like I got so many poems. Robbie wrote me this

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<v Speaker 1>beautiful poem that I woke up to at like three

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<v Speaker 1>point fifty in the morning, and I'm like sobbing and

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<v Speaker 1>uh put like thirty six little things all over the

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<v Speaker 1>house of reasons why he loves me. Sisney wrote me

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<v Speaker 1>a poem and read it on the air. You wrote

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<v Speaker 1>me this poem on Instagram. I was like everybody's really hitting.

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<v Speaker 2>Right, tapping into the leveling watch. Yeah, I'm so happy

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<v Speaker 2>you had a wonderful birthday.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, it was wonderful.

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<v Speaker 3>Did you go over your goals and what you're letting

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<v Speaker 3>go and whatnot?

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<v Speaker 1>So we're doing that. Yeah, we're doing that this weekend.

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<v Speaker 1>We're doing the fire.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh nice.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, but you know I like to like brew on

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<v Speaker 2>these things. Yeah, the celebration continues this how the weekend?

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<v Speaker 3>Correct? Correct.

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<v Speaker 1>You can't really get into that mindset on a Tuesday,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, although I tried.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, yeah, yeah, it's got to be a weekend day.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah. I needed like not feel pressure or like bedtime.

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<v Speaker 3>Did you see the Barbie movie?

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<v Speaker 1>No? I did not seeing it.

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<v Speaker 4>I noticed some of the group shots of the kiss people.

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<v Speaker 4>I taught you it was Notori.

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<v Speaker 3>I know, how was a movie? And she goes, yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>we didn't actually stay for the movie. I'm like, we

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<v Speaker 3>were going to do a whole dinner and you didn't

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<v Speaker 3>even go to the movie.

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<v Speaker 1>What the hell? So I went and I showed up,

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<v Speaker 1>and then I was like so tired. I go there's

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<v Speaker 1>no way I'm staying awake if I watch a movie

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<v Speaker 1>right now, Like I knew, I wasn't gonna stay awake,

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<v Speaker 1>so I was like, why am I even gonna like

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<v Speaker 1>sit there and like fall asleep in the theater rather

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<v Speaker 1>just like go home, get a good night's sleep. And

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<v Speaker 1>I'm actually gonna go see it this weekend.

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<v Speaker 3>That's fun. Easton saw it. Yeah, we need a review.

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<v Speaker 4>It's a masterpiece, really so good. I cried three times,

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<v Speaker 4>it's so funny.

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<v Speaker 1>Cried like sad, or cried laughed.

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<v Speaker 3>Like in motion.

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<v Speaker 4>Oh, it is such a perfect I am a white

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<v Speaker 4>man and I got such a look into the female

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<v Speaker 4>experience from that movie that completely changed my perspective. Wow,

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<v Speaker 4>I think it's so important for women for everyone to see.

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<v Speaker 4>Everybody but it is. Uh, it's just it's remarkable. You're

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<v Speaker 4>going you guys are both gonna love it. I think, Wow,

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<v Speaker 4>it's it's so good.

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<v Speaker 3>That's ely who I needed.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, and definitely gonna see it this weekend.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I gotta see it. That was what I was

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<v Speaker 2>waiting for. I needed a review that was just like

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<v Speaker 2>solid like that. I was always going to see it,

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<v Speaker 2>but that was really solid.

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<v Speaker 4>At MEA Alison Eir walk it and she just looks

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<v Speaker 4>at me and goes, what if it sucks? What if

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<v Speaker 4>it's really bad.

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<v Speaker 1>I had that feeling for a while when all the

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<v Speaker 1>promo was going and happening. I was like, what if

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<v Speaker 1>this movie sucks?

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<v Speaker 3>Do you know what? I what I got? How I'm

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<v Speaker 3>so tired? Do you know how?

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<v Speaker 5>What?

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<v Speaker 3>My thought was, WHOA, You're gonna it? Was that simple.

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<v Speaker 3>All I was trying to say, you know what?

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<v Speaker 2>My thought was what Because there's been so much promo

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<v Speaker 2>and the whole thing has been like what if it sucks?

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<v Speaker 2>There's been so much promo and curiosity that everyone's going

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<v Speaker 2>to just go see it. So at least people with

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<v Speaker 2>the promo were like, I'm curious, I want to go

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<v Speaker 2>see it, and at the very least everyone goes to

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<v Speaker 2>see it one time, right, because they've done so much

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<v Speaker 2>promo that people are curious.

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<v Speaker 1>So it was like genius, genius.

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<v Speaker 3>Wow.

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<v Speaker 4>We bought a sixty five dollars popcorm bucket that was

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<v Speaker 4>Barbie's car and it came with a Barbie Doll.

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<v Speaker 1>Shut up theater, the theater. Barbie Doll came.

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<v Speaker 4>It comes with a Barbie the movie Barbie Dolls. It's

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<v Speaker 4>Margot Robvi on the on the bo That was really cool.

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<v Speaker 2>Uh.

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<v Speaker 4>The car is very funny because it's a popcrim bucket,

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<v Speaker 4>but it's a car for the doll to sit in,

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<v Speaker 4>so like you fill up the seats with pop, like.

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<v Speaker 3>You're like touching the seats while you're eating.

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<v Speaker 4>The like goes and like the part where the legs

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<v Speaker 4>go so you can't reach it car you feel anything. Bucket.

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<v Speaker 1>That's so fun. I'm even more excited now.

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<v Speaker 4>It's so I bought that thing so fast.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm going to buy that thing so fast too.

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<v Speaker 3>You said sixty five, I would have spent more.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, one hundred dollars. I would have bought that. It

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<v Speaker 4>was sixty five dollars dollars and we got a little

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<v Speaker 4>For an extra three dollars, you get a little inflatable

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<v Speaker 4>Barbie inner tube you can put your drink in.

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<v Speaker 2>Wow.

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<v Speaker 4>Steal, yeah, steal. That's crazy, Yes it is.

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<v Speaker 3>I might do that just for the experience.

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<v Speaker 2>And you know what, No, I don't because I tried

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<v Speaker 2>to clean out my house well because my mom fly

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<v Speaker 2>is flying in today. So I was like, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>like when your mom's coming over, there's this like I

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<v Speaker 2>gotta clean the house, like it's gotta be she can't

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<v Speaker 2>think she raised.

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<v Speaker 3>A slop, right, Yeah, So I.

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<v Speaker 2>Was like deep cleaning yesterday and I was like, I

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<v Speaker 2>just have so much stuff, Like I was getting rid

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<v Speaker 2>of bags and bags, and then there was still no

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<v Speaker 2>room for stuff. So I need to go back. And

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<v Speaker 2>just like sometimes I go, well what if I what

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<v Speaker 2>if I need this?

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<v Speaker 1>Or what if I you don't need it?

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<v Speaker 3>Like you said you gave away pants that you regret.

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<v Speaker 1>One pair of pants I regretted giving away in my

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<v Speaker 1>entire life is pretty good odds.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm just saying, do you still regret the pants?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah? Because they were hot pink pants and I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>I wish I could. I would have worn these to

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<v Speaker 1>see Barbie and for various other industry events. But yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>there's this one pair of pink pants that I regret

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<v Speaker 1>giving away. But I love giving away. I don't like

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<v Speaker 1>having so many things, you know, join the minimalist side.

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<v Speaker 3>I want to be on the minimalist side. Yeah, because

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<v Speaker 3>think about it.

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<v Speaker 1>Want you wear one fifth of your closet? There's stuff

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<v Speaker 1>that just sits in there. Why do you let us

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<v Speaker 1>sit in there? Somebody else can enjoy it? You know

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<v Speaker 1>what I mean?

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<v Speaker 3>I know I'm with you. I don't know why I

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<v Speaker 3>do what I do.

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<v Speaker 1>Tanya I know, but do it in rounds.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, thanks so much for the advice, Pep talk.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, there's this ig account that Hannah has brought to

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<v Speaker 2>our attention and we need to get into it, but

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<v Speaker 2>we're gonna take a break first, all right. So on

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<v Speaker 2>our rundown today, Hanna put Instagram account Puppy Melons. So

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<v Speaker 2>I'm like, what the heck are we talking about. If

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<v Speaker 2>you have your phone with you right now, please take

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<v Speaker 2>a moment and go look up the account Puppy Melons.

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<v Speaker 2>It is an Instagram account that looks like an innocent

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<v Speaker 2>dog account.

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<v Speaker 3>Puppies.

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<v Speaker 2>Just the whole page is dog photos, right, puppies galore.

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<v Speaker 3>But every single one.

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<v Speaker 2>Of those photos of puppies, if you swipe, there's another

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<v Speaker 2>photo of a girl with uh half naked girl, half

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<v Speaker 2>naked girl or like always in a swimsuit with big

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<v Speaker 2>boobs on display.

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<v Speaker 3>And so we were.

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<v Speaker 2>So this looks like if you have a partner and

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<v Speaker 2>they follow this dog account, it looks very innocent. You

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<v Speaker 2>wouldn't think anything of it. Cute puppies is what is controversial.

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<v Speaker 2>But every photo has a swipe, And we have a

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<v Speaker 2>dilemma here because there are two people in this room

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<v Speaker 2>who have a friend whose boyfriend and or husband is

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<v Speaker 2>following this account.

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<v Speaker 3>It's so awkward and uncomfortable.

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<v Speaker 1>But like Julie, is there a world in which they

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<v Speaker 1>just think it's this?

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<v Speaker 5>Like, no, no, this is this is the this is

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<v Speaker 5>the Delilah's.

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<v Speaker 6>Kindness because like, honestly though, oh my, in the multiverse,

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<v Speaker 6>that universe exists, but it's out of fourteen million wins

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<v Speaker 6>where they know that it's boobs.

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<v Speaker 7>I think there's no way these guys are following this

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<v Speaker 7>account thinking it's just puppies.

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<v Speaker 1>I might, oh my god, Like if I saw this account,

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<v Speaker 1>I'd probably follow it from Sonny's account, like not realizing.

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<v Speaker 3>You don't go click on the photo and then see

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<v Speaker 3>that there's another one in.

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<v Speaker 1>Swipe Maybe not.

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<v Speaker 4>That feels very every single post there's a second one.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm good, Yeah, I just like to see.

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<v Speaker 1>People's first, you know.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>Forward.

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<v Speaker 2>The problem The question is do we notify our friends

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<v Speaker 2>that their significant other is following this account.

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<v Speaker 7>This is the issue I have with it because I

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<v Speaker 7>talk to my friend about it, whose boyfriend I see

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<v Speaker 7>is following this account, and I'm talking to her about

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<v Speaker 7>how I consider it a red flag if a guy

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<v Speaker 7>I'm interested in just follows a bunch of Instagram models

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<v Speaker 7>like I get the X so quickly, and she plays

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<v Speaker 7>Devil's advocate and she's always like, it's just guys, it's fine,

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<v Speaker 7>Like it doesn't really matter. My boyfriend does it too. Oh,

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<v Speaker 7>but I don't think she knows, like to the extent.

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<v Speaker 7>I think it's more embarrassing if a guy's following an

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<v Speaker 7>account like this that's trying to hide it rather than

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<v Speaker 7>just blatantly following.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, it's just like weird.

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<v Speaker 2>But if if he's following a lot of other accounts

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<v Speaker 2>where it is Instagram models and then he's following this one,

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<v Speaker 2>it's like what's the difference. But if there's a guy

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<v Speaker 2>who doesn't follow any Instagram models and then he's following

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<v Speaker 2>this one, that feels worse because that feels like he's

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<v Speaker 2>really trying to keep it a secret.

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<v Speaker 1>It who started this account just messed up? Evil.

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<v Speaker 3>It's so evil.

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<v Speaker 1>When I they started it in twenty nineteen.

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<v Speaker 7>Oh my gosh. When I discovered this account yesterday, I

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<v Speaker 7>clicked on the following so you could see mutuals. And

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<v Speaker 7>I have twenty two mutuals of these guys that I'm

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<v Speaker 7>friends with, ninety percent of them having girlfriends following this account.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm just like, God, are.

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<v Speaker 2>There any any guys that you have dated or been

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<v Speaker 2>on dates with that are following it?

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<v Speaker 3>Oh? That's nice.

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<v Speaker 7>I wouldn't be surprised if there are other accounts like

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<v Speaker 7>does not exist?

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like shocked to see that. I don't have any

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<v Speaker 1>any mutuals I know. I was like, does Robbie follow

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<v Speaker 1>this account? Sure? Does do? Let's dotical?

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<v Speaker 3>This is good.

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<v Speaker 2>So you see that Robbie's following the account? Would you

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<v Speaker 2>or I see that Robbie's following the account? Would you

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<v Speaker 2>want me to tell you?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah? You would?

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<v Speaker 1>I think?

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<v Speaker 3>So what would your like? What would you do about it?

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<v Speaker 1>I'd be like, why are you following this creepy account?

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<v Speaker 1>You sick of? And That's what I'd say.

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<v Speaker 3>So it'd just be like it just.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I mean yeah, of course, it's not like anything

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<v Speaker 1>make or break.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, that's kind of how I like, I think if it, well,

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<v Speaker 2>I would be see I think if I if let's

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<v Speaker 2>say Haley was following this account, okay, yeah, and she

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<v Speaker 2>also followed just like a ton of like hot bikini models,

0:21:44.440 --> 0:21:47.520
<v Speaker 2>I'd be like, well, what's new another one? But if

0:21:47.520 --> 0:21:49.680
<v Speaker 2>she had. She was like, I don't follow anyone like that,

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<v Speaker 2>like I would. I don't want to see that. And

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<v Speaker 2>then I saw she was following this account. I'd be like,

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<v Speaker 2>why are you being sneaky? You know?

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<v Speaker 1>Is that I've never had that conversation with Robbie, like

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<v Speaker 1>do you follow weird Instagram bikini models? Like I've never

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<v Speaker 1>had that. I've never had that conversation with him because

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<v Speaker 1>i mean, I like, see when you're like in bed,

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<v Speaker 1>like scrolling through Instagram and stuff, you kind of see

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<v Speaker 1>their feed, and I've never seen anything. I've only seen

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<v Speaker 1>one thing that was like bikini boobs and it was

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<v Speaker 1>one of my friends that he followed. So I'm like,

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<v Speaker 1>all right, fine, fair like who's that? He's like your friend?

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, okay, why right, right, Well it was

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<v Speaker 1>like after a weekend. Yeah. Yeah, but I've never had

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<v Speaker 1>that conversation of like do you follow any.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, but you'd want to know for this one.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, well now I kind of just want to know.

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<v Speaker 1>In general, the.

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<v Speaker 2>Candle Worves has been open. It's just interesting. It's a

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<v Speaker 2>it's a it's interesting. It's very interesting. Yeah, but it

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<v Speaker 2>poses the conversation, would that be something you want to

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<v Speaker 2>know or are you kind of indifferent about it? I

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<v Speaker 2>think it's a because the sneaky part goes to character, right.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, but it might not be sneaky. Am I just

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<v Speaker 1>like some you know what I mean, Like some people

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<v Speaker 1>don't care.

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<v Speaker 3>No, that's what I'm saying.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, Like if it's like her friend's her friend who's

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<v Speaker 2>like I already.

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<v Speaker 3>Follows hot chicks whatever.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, but if it's like if it's someone who you

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<v Speaker 2>feel like they've defended themselves and I don't even follow

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<v Speaker 2>any of these girls, and then.

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<v Speaker 3>You saw that, that's different.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, it's not like they're following sunny Girl the Kavapoo. No,

0:23:28.800 --> 0:23:31.760
<v Speaker 1>that's a wholesome is as wholesome as it gets.

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<v Speaker 4>I don't understand if they follow a bunch of bikini

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<v Speaker 4>girls and then this, what's the point of following this

0:23:37.560 --> 0:23:41.160
<v Speaker 4>if you're already just follow a bunch of bikini girls,

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<v Speaker 4>like just really an added thrill like oh maybe here's

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<v Speaker 4>a dog, Oh never mind. Like I just don't understand it,

0:23:48.680 --> 0:23:51.120
<v Speaker 4>Like I think you only follow this if you want

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<v Speaker 4>to hide that you're looking at boobs. And I'm confused

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<v Speaker 4>by it.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, very peculiar.

0:23:56.560 --> 0:23:58.840
<v Speaker 4>How you bring it up to the if you see

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<v Speaker 4>your friends partner following this, what do you say?

0:24:02.480 --> 0:24:03.080
<v Speaker 2>Do you like?

0:24:03.280 --> 0:24:05.200
<v Speaker 4>Do you go hate? I thought you should know.

0:24:05.920 --> 0:24:07.919
<v Speaker 2>I would be like, you know what I would do?

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<v Speaker 2>I would go I was like, do you ever have

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<v Speaker 2>to have the conversation about so and so following like

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<v Speaker 2>hot girls or like liking hot photos? And if she's like, oh, no,

0:24:19.000 --> 0:24:22.639
<v Speaker 2>I haven't, And I'd be like, there's this account on Instagram.

0:24:22.720 --> 0:24:24.840
<v Speaker 2>Can you believe that there's an account that looks like

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<v Speaker 2>a dog account?

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<v Speaker 3>And every photo has a swipeover? And I would be like,

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<v Speaker 3>I would be shocked.

0:24:31.160 --> 0:24:33.919
<v Speaker 2>I would be devastated if my significant other was following

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<v Speaker 2>this account and then they're naturally just gonna go check wooth.

0:24:41.040 --> 0:24:43.639
<v Speaker 2>Although if it was like someone that like Tanya, I

0:24:43.640 --> 0:24:48.440
<v Speaker 2>think I'd be like, yo, I found this account.

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<v Speaker 3>Robbie's following it? Are you aware?

0:24:51.960 --> 0:24:52.120
<v Speaker 2>Yeah?

0:24:52.320 --> 0:24:53.320
<v Speaker 1>Go talk to your man.

0:24:53.560 --> 0:24:54.080
<v Speaker 3>Yeah.

0:24:54.240 --> 0:24:57.359
<v Speaker 2>There's got to be a certain level of like friendship

0:24:57.400 --> 0:24:58.080
<v Speaker 2>to do that though.

0:24:58.119 --> 0:24:59.800
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, Otherwise I'd plant the seed.

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<v Speaker 1>What if I turned Sunny's account into like a like

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<v Speaker 1>a what.

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<v Speaker 2>If it's just like males and like men and like

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<v Speaker 2>uh like speedos?

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<v Speaker 1>No, yeah, like I do like the first picture of

0:25:15.320 --> 0:25:17.280
<v Speaker 1>Sonny and then you swipe over no, and it's like me,

0:25:17.520 --> 0:25:21.920
<v Speaker 1>like my boobs out, yeah, yeah, just you my own

0:25:22.160 --> 0:25:28.320
<v Speaker 1>felon that really yeah? Or is there a world in

0:25:28.359 --> 0:25:30.639
<v Speaker 1>which this actually was a puppy account and then it

0:25:30.840 --> 0:25:33.200
<v Speaker 1>just switched over so people might be following it because

0:25:33.240 --> 0:25:35.399
<v Speaker 1>it was puppies and then they switched it over that.

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<v Speaker 2>I do like thinking about I'm not trying to defend this,

0:25:45.800 --> 0:25:47.360
<v Speaker 2>but because I think it's also delutional.

0:25:47.400 --> 0:25:50.359
<v Speaker 4>But there are times where like it'll be like an

0:25:50.400 --> 0:25:53.399
<v Speaker 4>account where it's like oh, people following down, or like

0:25:53.440 --> 0:25:55.439
<v Speaker 4>a meme account or something, and then they sell it

0:25:55.480 --> 0:25:57.960
<v Speaker 4>to someone else for the followers. Right, Like there's times

0:25:57.960 --> 0:26:00.280
<v Speaker 4>where I'm like, I'd never followed this, like Honda race

0:26:00.320 --> 0:26:02.520
<v Speaker 4>car account and I realized it was like a funny

0:26:02.720 --> 0:26:06.040
<v Speaker 4>monkey account that it sold it. See that can happen.

0:26:06.080 --> 0:26:07.400
<v Speaker 4>I don't think that's happening in this case.

0:26:07.480 --> 0:26:09.600
<v Speaker 1>Could it could have been a puppy account and then

0:26:09.600 --> 0:26:12.119
<v Speaker 1>they just like flip the format and then like all

0:26:12.160 --> 0:26:13.840
<v Speaker 1>these people were following it and then there's not really

0:26:13.840 --> 0:26:15.840
<v Speaker 1>on Instagram, so they don't like unfollow it because they

0:26:15.880 --> 0:26:16.439
<v Speaker 1>just like don't know.

0:26:17.040 --> 0:26:21.080
<v Speaker 2>That's what I think I love the beautiful, beautiful way

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<v Speaker 2>of thinking.

0:26:21.720 --> 0:26:24.480
<v Speaker 1>You think that too, don't you, Sunny, She says, I know.

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<v Speaker 3>What Puppy Melons has been and always will be.

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<v Speaker 1>It will be dark.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, we're gonna take a break and then we'll be back

0:26:32.400 --> 0:26:52.200
<v Speaker 2>with emails. All right, we are back. This first email

0:26:52.359 --> 0:26:54.879
<v Speaker 2>is tough eastn't.

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<v Speaker 4>Yes, yes, yes it is. I see a disclaimer there.

0:27:00.040 --> 0:27:04.800
<v Speaker 4>This is from anonymous disclaimer. I completely take responsibility for

0:27:04.840 --> 0:27:07.000
<v Speaker 4>looking places I shouldn't have been, but now I cannot

0:27:07.000 --> 0:27:09.400
<v Speaker 4>stop thinking about it, and I need to know what

0:27:09.440 --> 0:27:12.480
<v Speaker 4>I should do. Oh boy, Bobby Mellins is in this.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm going to visit it.

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<v Speaker 2>So.

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<v Speaker 4>My boyfriend and I have been going through somewhat of

0:27:16.760 --> 0:27:19.000
<v Speaker 4>a rough patch for a few reasons, none of them

0:27:19.040 --> 0:27:21.840
<v Speaker 4>having anything to do with other girls or distrust. Well,

0:27:21.880 --> 0:27:23.639
<v Speaker 4>I was in control of music the other night on

0:27:23.640 --> 0:27:26.399
<v Speaker 4>his phone and a notification popped up that said, for

0:27:26.440 --> 0:27:29.280
<v Speaker 4>the sake of this post, Tiffany liked your Venmo payment.

0:27:29.800 --> 0:27:31.920
<v Speaker 4>I clicked on it and he paid her fifteen dollars

0:27:32.000 --> 0:27:33.960
<v Speaker 4>and all the notes said was thank you. I've never

0:27:34.000 --> 0:27:36.199
<v Speaker 4>heard him talk about this girl or even heard her

0:27:36.240 --> 0:27:38.439
<v Speaker 4>name before this. I immediately got anxious and looked at

0:27:38.440 --> 0:27:40.600
<v Speaker 4>his text messages and searched her name. The only thing

0:27:40.640 --> 0:27:42.639
<v Speaker 4>that came up with him texting his friend asking for

0:27:42.680 --> 0:27:45.680
<v Speaker 4>a number back in February. He does have her contact

0:27:45.800 --> 0:27:47.879
<v Speaker 4>save now, but there were no messages between them, so

0:27:47.920 --> 0:27:50.879
<v Speaker 4>I'm assuming he deleted them. I don't know anyways, he

0:27:50.880 --> 0:27:52.960
<v Speaker 4>follows her on Instagram, and so do several other people

0:27:52.960 --> 0:27:54.359
<v Speaker 4>I know, so I'm not sure what to make of

0:27:54.359 --> 0:27:56.639
<v Speaker 4>this or if I'm overthinking it again. I know I

0:27:56.640 --> 0:27:59.040
<v Speaker 4>shouldn't have been nosy, but I know and have met

0:27:59.080 --> 0:28:00.720
<v Speaker 4>so many of his girlfriend and I have never even

0:28:00.760 --> 0:28:02.880
<v Speaker 4>heard any mention of this girl. What would you do.

0:28:04.480 --> 0:28:04.680
<v Speaker 2>This?

0:28:05.000 --> 0:28:05.320
<v Speaker 3>For me?

0:28:05.600 --> 0:28:10.120
<v Speaker 2>Is where communication is so valuable in a relationship, because

0:28:12.119 --> 0:28:15.720
<v Speaker 2>in my mind I feel like you should feel safe

0:28:15.840 --> 0:28:18.000
<v Speaker 2>to go to him and say, hey, when I had

0:28:18.000 --> 0:28:19.840
<v Speaker 2>your friend the other night playing the music, I saw

0:28:19.880 --> 0:28:21.160
<v Speaker 2>this notification pop up.

0:28:22.080 --> 0:28:24.280
<v Speaker 3>I don't know who Tiffany is. I don't want a spiral.

0:28:24.280 --> 0:28:25.879
<v Speaker 2>I've already like been in my head about it, but

0:28:25.920 --> 0:28:27.600
<v Speaker 2>I wanted to come to you so that I don't

0:28:27.600 --> 0:28:30.760
<v Speaker 2>go further into the spiral. And I wanted to just

0:28:30.800 --> 0:28:33.960
<v Speaker 2>make sure it's nothing that I should be worried or

0:28:33.960 --> 0:28:36.840
<v Speaker 2>insecure about or like, who is Tiffany? Why? Why was

0:28:36.880 --> 0:28:39.760
<v Speaker 2>there a Venmo exchange between the two of you. Can

0:28:39.800 --> 0:28:46.440
<v Speaker 2>you just calm calm, calm me down. Yeah, because if

0:28:46.440 --> 0:28:48.360
<v Speaker 2>there's nothing there, he'll be able to say, oh, we

0:28:48.360 --> 0:28:51.240
<v Speaker 2>are with a group of friends and this our friend Tiffany.

0:28:51.880 --> 0:28:54.040
<v Speaker 3>She paid for the meal and we all vemote her back.

0:28:54.560 --> 0:28:55.400
<v Speaker 3>And if it's a.

0:28:55.600 --> 0:29:00.760
<v Speaker 2>Thing, then it gives you the opportunity to see how

0:29:00.800 --> 0:29:03.880
<v Speaker 2>he reacts and also gives him the opportunity to be

0:29:03.920 --> 0:29:07.040
<v Speaker 2>honest about what's going on. But I think you spiraling

0:29:07.080 --> 0:29:08.920
<v Speaker 2>in your head isn't going to do anything. I think

0:29:08.960 --> 0:29:11.120
<v Speaker 2>it's like you need to have a conversation about it,

0:29:12.000 --> 0:29:14.720
<v Speaker 2>regardless of the direction that it goes. I think you

0:29:14.880 --> 0:29:17.160
<v Speaker 2>just need to say, like, hey, I saw this. And

0:29:17.520 --> 0:29:19.280
<v Speaker 2>I don't even think you need to say I snooped

0:29:19.280 --> 0:29:21.280
<v Speaker 2>through your phone. I think you just say it popped

0:29:21.320 --> 0:29:24.880
<v Speaker 2>up while I was holding the phone. Yeah, and I'm curious. Yeah,

0:29:24.920 --> 0:29:26.240
<v Speaker 2>you don't have to go through all the details.

0:29:26.320 --> 0:29:28.240
<v Speaker 1>You can say like when we were listening to music

0:29:28.280 --> 0:29:31.000
<v Speaker 1>riding in the car, I saw this girl like your Venmo,

0:29:33.240 --> 0:29:35.800
<v Speaker 1>And because we are going through a rough patch, I

0:29:35.840 --> 0:29:37.760
<v Speaker 1>am feeling and you can say, like I am feeling

0:29:37.760 --> 0:29:40.080
<v Speaker 1>a little insecure and I've been in my mind has

0:29:40.120 --> 0:29:43.280
<v Speaker 1>been kind of like going all over the place. Can

0:29:43.320 --> 0:29:45.520
<v Speaker 1>you like tell me who this girl is or like

0:29:45.600 --> 0:29:48.040
<v Speaker 1>what that was? Like you know, and like you can say,

0:29:48.080 --> 0:29:49.720
<v Speaker 1>like it's okay to be in a place that you

0:29:50.120 --> 0:29:52.080
<v Speaker 1>feel insecure and you can admit that, you know. And

0:29:52.120 --> 0:29:54.560
<v Speaker 1>I think also if he is understanding and you guys

0:29:54.600 --> 0:29:56.680
<v Speaker 1>are in a good relationship, he's also going to understand

0:29:56.760 --> 0:30:00.240
<v Speaker 1>like he has made like he in part because of

0:30:00.280 --> 0:30:02.600
<v Speaker 1>the rough patch is causing you to be in this

0:30:02.680 --> 0:30:04.560
<v Speaker 1>place of insecurity a little bit too, you know what

0:30:04.600 --> 0:30:07.920
<v Speaker 1>I mean. So hopefully it will go in a positive

0:30:08.000 --> 0:30:12.800
<v Speaker 1>direction or he could get very defensive. But I'm gonna

0:30:13.320 --> 0:30:16.520
<v Speaker 1>hope that he's a good guy and that it will

0:30:16.560 --> 0:30:18.360
<v Speaker 1>be an easy explanation.

0:30:18.640 --> 0:30:22.160
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, I think in the greater scheme of like things

0:30:22.240 --> 0:30:24.280
<v Speaker 4>you see on the phone, this is like best case scenario.

0:30:24.520 --> 0:30:26.760
<v Speaker 4>Like I've been in this position many times where like

0:30:26.800 --> 0:30:28.600
<v Speaker 4>I was at some work thing and like someone was

0:30:28.640 --> 0:30:31.600
<v Speaker 4>getting coffee for everyone and I'd have venmo someone named

0:30:31.680 --> 0:30:33.840
<v Speaker 4>Gabrielle that I've never talked to you before or since.

0:30:34.040 --> 0:30:36.680
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, true, I've done that stuff too that I've like Venmo,

0:30:37.360 --> 0:30:39.320
<v Speaker 1>I don't even know who I ven mooded anyware.

0:30:39.120 --> 0:30:42.720
<v Speaker 2>And it's like he said, she said, the only thing

0:30:42.960 --> 0:30:45.520
<v Speaker 2>she saw was that he had asked her his friend

0:30:45.560 --> 0:30:47.520
<v Speaker 2>for her number, but it could have been like a

0:30:47.560 --> 0:30:49.480
<v Speaker 2>work thing or something like, hey, I needed to reach

0:30:49.520 --> 0:30:51.120
<v Speaker 2>out to her, and like, the reason why you've never

0:30:51.160 --> 0:30:57.120
<v Speaker 2>heard of her is because he probably there's nothing there righted. Yeah, yeah, yeah,

0:30:57.280 --> 0:30:59.680
<v Speaker 2>that was it, So I think it's worth the conversation,

0:30:59.840 --> 0:31:00.960
<v Speaker 2>just honest conversation.

0:31:01.280 --> 0:31:03.880
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, and it's gonna suck. You're gonna put your tail

0:31:03.880 --> 0:31:06.160
<v Speaker 1>between your legs and like say, no.

0:31:06.080 --> 0:31:08.360
<v Speaker 2>I don't even I was holding your phone when I

0:31:08.400 --> 0:31:09.880
<v Speaker 2>was doing music and it popped up.

0:31:09.920 --> 0:31:10.560
<v Speaker 3>I just looked down.

0:31:11.160 --> 0:31:13.480
<v Speaker 1>Okay, yeah, all right, Well.

0:31:13.400 --> 0:31:16.760
<v Speaker 4>I think we fixed that problem. Uh yeah, wow solid

0:31:16.880 --> 0:31:20.520
<v Speaker 4>if she solved anonymous. Moving on to Emma, I just

0:31:20.560 --> 0:31:23.280
<v Speaker 4>have a general question that I hope sparks some interesting conversations.

0:31:23.320 --> 0:31:26.000
<v Speaker 4>Wouldn't that be nice? Emma? How has social media affected

0:31:26.040 --> 0:31:28.760
<v Speaker 4>the way you view relationships and partners? These past few

0:31:28.840 --> 0:31:31.480
<v Speaker 4>days have been coming across posts that glorify unhealthy acts

0:31:31.480 --> 0:31:34.280
<v Speaker 4>and relationships, such as girl being mad at her boyfriend

0:31:34.320 --> 0:31:36.640
<v Speaker 4>for hanging out with his boys. Boys covering up their

0:31:36.640 --> 0:31:38.760
<v Speaker 4>girlfriends when they wear something that shows a little more skin,

0:31:39.160 --> 0:31:41.600
<v Speaker 4>girls blowing up their boyfriend's phone when they're out, and

0:31:41.640 --> 0:31:44.120
<v Speaker 4>so on. These made me realize I have an amazing

0:31:44.160 --> 0:31:46.640
<v Speaker 4>relationship which has none of the crap mentioned above, and

0:31:46.680 --> 0:31:48.800
<v Speaker 4>I'm grateful for the space I get to be myself.

0:31:49.040 --> 0:31:51.760
<v Speaker 4>I also come across posts that highlight that love isn't enough,

0:31:52.400 --> 0:31:56.080
<v Speaker 4>and those posts are indeed a lesson, and I save them.

0:31:56.120 --> 0:31:57.120
<v Speaker 1>I'm confused by this.

0:31:57.640 --> 0:32:01.680
<v Speaker 2>I think she's just wanting to know what how relationship

0:32:02.800 --> 0:32:07.600
<v Speaker 2>affects the way you view how social media affects the

0:32:07.600 --> 0:32:10.640
<v Speaker 2>way that you view relationships and partners, Like I feel

0:32:10.640 --> 0:32:15.960
<v Speaker 2>like sometimes like social media is so easy to glorify

0:32:17.680 --> 0:32:23.920
<v Speaker 2>the highs, but also sometimes people share so much of

0:32:23.960 --> 0:32:28.160
<v Speaker 2>their relationship that I'm like, don't put this, Like this

0:32:28.240 --> 0:32:31.960
<v Speaker 2>is a lot, yeah, like the really dark traumas, It's like,

0:32:34.280 --> 0:32:37.280
<v Speaker 2>maybe share that with your personal your friends, because it's

0:32:37.280 --> 0:32:40.240
<v Speaker 2>like you're opening something that's already a wound up to

0:32:40.400 --> 0:32:43.640
<v Speaker 2>like public scrutiny and more opinions on it. And I

0:32:44.080 --> 0:32:46.440
<v Speaker 2>think talking about like, oh yeah, there's like we're going

0:32:46.440 --> 0:32:48.640
<v Speaker 2>through this hard time, like you know, when Haley was

0:32:48.680 --> 0:32:51.200
<v Speaker 2>on tour, like I was had a really hard time,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, But I'm not like going out and sharing

0:32:54.320 --> 0:32:59.480
<v Speaker 2>the details because that's not everyone's business, you know. Like

0:32:59.520 --> 0:33:01.440
<v Speaker 2>there are so and things that I think are valuable

0:33:01.480 --> 0:33:05.320
<v Speaker 2>to keep into your relationship, and I think sharing the highs.

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<v Speaker 3>Is like beautiful as well.

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<v Speaker 2>But I also think that social media makes it easy

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<v Speaker 2>to share the highs when you're going through the low,

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<v Speaker 2>so it glorifies this people like I'm so jealous of this.

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<v Speaker 2>And then I saw a girl post the other day

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<v Speaker 2>that her wedding video went viral. She and her wife

0:33:20.800 --> 0:33:23.880
<v Speaker 2>got married, and in the video, her wife is like

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<v Speaker 2>sobbing and everyone's like, if my if the person I

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<v Speaker 2>married doesn't cry like that, like I don't want it,

0:33:29.080 --> 0:33:31.600
<v Speaker 2>And she was like that person was cheating on me

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<v Speaker 2>and like was so abusive and like no one knew what. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>so it's I think what she's saying is like social

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<v Speaker 2>media can cause like such a different idea of what

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<v Speaker 2>is really going on.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, well, I don't even think it's social media. I

0:33:46.160 --> 0:33:48.560
<v Speaker 1>think it goes so much deeper than that because I

0:33:48.640 --> 0:33:51.960
<v Speaker 1>know and I've had to work in therapy a lot

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<v Speaker 1>on this because I had this so may call it

0:33:55.560 --> 0:34:00.120
<v Speaker 1>delusional expectation of love and what a relationship is. And

0:34:00.160 --> 0:34:02.520
<v Speaker 1>it was like I had that vision that we all

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<v Speaker 1>had of like the Prince Charming coming to save me

0:34:05.040 --> 0:34:08.000
<v Speaker 1>with the glass slipper and like at midnight, I'm going

0:34:08.040 --> 0:34:10.080
<v Speaker 1>to be a princess and like it's gonna be happily

0:34:10.080 --> 0:34:13.360
<v Speaker 1>ever after. Like that was my reality of what a

0:34:13.480 --> 0:34:16.520
<v Speaker 1>relationship is. And don't get me wrong, I do have

0:34:16.560 --> 0:34:18.919
<v Speaker 1>those moments with Robbie like I do sometimes I feel

0:34:18.920 --> 0:34:22.719
<v Speaker 1>like I'm like floating on a cloud. But the relationship

0:34:22.800 --> 0:34:26.000
<v Speaker 1>also has had some really crazy challenges and like some

0:34:26.120 --> 0:34:29.160
<v Speaker 1>like real life stuff, you know that like I just

0:34:29.280 --> 0:34:33.399
<v Speaker 1>wasn't equipped for because I had this delusional perception of

0:34:33.440 --> 0:34:36.160
<v Speaker 1>what love was, you know, like we all say it

0:34:36.239 --> 0:34:39.560
<v Speaker 1>love conquers all, and like what's the other one? If

0:34:39.600 --> 0:34:42.400
<v Speaker 1>he wanted to he would and like all these things

0:34:42.400 --> 0:34:47.000
<v Speaker 1>that we say that are like actually really not true.

0:34:47.520 --> 0:34:49.160
<v Speaker 1>Do you know what I mean? Someone can love you

0:34:49.520 --> 0:35:01.240
<v Speaker 1>and still was it. It's it's interesting, it's interesting we're

0:35:01.280 --> 0:35:05.480
<v Speaker 1>this close to profound. No, but I think it is profound.

0:35:05.520 --> 0:35:07.839
<v Speaker 1>I think it is profound because I like really had

0:35:07.840 --> 0:35:10.000
<v Speaker 1>to grow through all that like I had to really

0:35:10.080 --> 0:35:13.880
<v Speaker 1>knock down all these preconceived notions that I had, and like,

0:35:15.880 --> 0:35:17.680
<v Speaker 1>I think social media just adds to it, you know

0:35:17.719 --> 0:35:19.840
<v Speaker 1>what I mean, Like it's it goes deeper than the

0:35:19.840 --> 0:35:22.359
<v Speaker 1>fairy tales, Like we're seeing it day in day out,

0:35:22.440 --> 0:35:25.920
<v Speaker 1>you know, Like I follow Ali Fedotowski and I'm like,

0:35:26.640 --> 0:35:28.480
<v Speaker 1>if my kids don't act like that, Like you know

0:35:28.520 --> 0:35:32.000
<v Speaker 1>what I mean, Like you follow these people that show this. Again,

0:35:32.080 --> 0:35:34.520
<v Speaker 1>it's it's not their entire life, it's a fraction of it,

0:35:34.560 --> 0:35:36.920
<v Speaker 1>and you get this perception in your head of what

0:35:37.200 --> 0:35:39.239
<v Speaker 1>you know, being a wife or being a mom like

0:35:39.480 --> 0:35:41.879
<v Speaker 1>looks like when it's really not the reality. So it's

0:35:41.880 --> 0:35:44.520
<v Speaker 1>like it's all kind of screwing with us.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I think social media, like you nettle on the head,

0:35:47.880 --> 0:35:51.480
<v Speaker 2>it's a fraction of someone's life. Like it's a minuscule

0:35:51.640 --> 0:35:55.120
<v Speaker 2>You're getting a glimpse into someone's life, and they only

0:35:55.280 --> 0:35:58.279
<v Speaker 2>choose what you what they want you to see, whether

0:35:58.360 --> 0:36:00.600
<v Speaker 2>that's a good, the bad, the ugly one, whatever it is.

0:36:00.640 --> 0:36:04.960
<v Speaker 2>So I think especially with TikTok and like the skits

0:36:04.960 --> 0:36:08.040
<v Speaker 2>and stuff, there's even more. Sometimes it's like supposed to

0:36:08.040 --> 0:36:11.960
<v Speaker 2>be funny banter, but it can maybe glorify like unhealthy things.

0:36:12.080 --> 0:36:12.560
<v Speaker 3>I don't know.

0:36:12.840 --> 0:36:16.920
<v Speaker 2>I think that's just having the awareness that social media

0:36:17.040 --> 0:36:20.600
<v Speaker 2>isn't the same as real life all the time.

0:36:20.880 --> 0:36:23.080
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, And I think also to just know that like

0:36:23.480 --> 0:36:27.600
<v Speaker 1>everybody deals with challenges and nobody's perfect.

0:36:27.960 --> 0:36:32.719
<v Speaker 3>No, and love is wonderful, It's such a gift. And also.

0:36:34.760 --> 0:36:39.360
<v Speaker 2>Relationships take effort and work, and I think the I

0:36:39.400 --> 0:36:42.680
<v Speaker 2>think the love is what provokes the work.

0:36:42.960 --> 0:36:45.600
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, it's funny because I realized I think I don't

0:36:45.600 --> 0:36:49.480
<v Speaker 1>remember when it was, but I was like posting robbing

0:36:49.520 --> 0:36:51.959
<v Speaker 1>a lot of my social media because I'm like, we're

0:36:51.960 --> 0:36:53.359
<v Speaker 1>together all the time, do you know what I mean?

0:36:53.400 --> 0:36:55.319
<v Speaker 1>Like he's with me when I work out, he's with

0:36:55.360 --> 0:36:57.680
<v Speaker 1>me when I go to sleep, like he's there. And

0:36:57.719 --> 0:36:59.400
<v Speaker 1>I was like, you know what, I don't want to

0:36:59.400 --> 0:37:02.640
<v Speaker 1>give that person exception that like I always have my

0:37:02.680 --> 0:37:06.319
<v Speaker 1>significant other or that I'm nothing without my significant other there,

0:37:06.360 --> 0:37:07.440
<v Speaker 1>do you know what I mean? So I started to

0:37:07.440 --> 0:37:10.000
<v Speaker 1>get very intentional about like not having him in like

0:37:10.080 --> 0:37:13.080
<v Speaker 1>every single photo and every single video and like having

0:37:13.080 --> 0:37:15.560
<v Speaker 1>my own identity and my identity with him. You know,

0:37:16.719 --> 0:37:20.160
<v Speaker 1>it's interesting, It is interesting, it is.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>The slow spin Okay, I have to go, all right.

0:37:28.719 --> 0:37:30.719
<v Speaker 2>I get my mom from l a X, which is

0:37:31.120 --> 0:37:35.120
<v Speaker 2>truly an actor act of love. Yeah, in the Los

0:37:35.160 --> 0:37:38.560
<v Speaker 2>Angeles area for someone we love you.

0:37:38.600 --> 0:37:41.759
<v Speaker 1>All you need to say. She loves you all too,

0:37:42.480 --> 0:37:45.680
<v Speaker 1>loves you. I love you, I love you.

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<v Speaker 3>Bye bye by