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Speaker 1: Scrubbing In with Becca Tilly and Tanya rap An iHeartRadio podcast.

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Speaker 2: Hello everybody, we are scrubbing.

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Speaker 1: It scrubbing in and we have a very special guest

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Speaker 1: today on the podcast.

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Speaker 3: She's quiet.

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Speaker 1: She's not gonna say much.

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Speaker 3: She doesn't say a whole lot.

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Speaker 1: She's not gonna answer emails.

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Speaker 2: But she emmotes with her eyes. Correct Sonny rad Sonny Rad. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: it is here in the room with the building.

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Speaker 3: She's very confused while we're all clapping.

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Speaker 4: Is she cool clapping?

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Speaker 1: Yeah?

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Speaker 4: Wow?

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Speaker 1: So you know what, like they tell you when you

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Speaker 1: get when you get a puppy, to expose them to

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Speaker 1: all the sounds and stuff'd Robbie. Robbie made fun of

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Speaker 1: me because I would sit in front of YouTube and

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Speaker 1: I would just google like fireworks and vacuums and clapping

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Speaker 1: and like all like moms, gunshots, airplanes. I would just

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Speaker 1: YouTube all these sounds and stuff. And so I exposed

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Speaker 1: her to like everything under the sun.

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Speaker 3: And it worked because fireworks.

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Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: I actually thought of this yesterday because.

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Speaker 2: I was vacuuming and Phoebe was like freaked out, and

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Speaker 2: I was like, I bet tany exposed sound into the

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Speaker 2: vacuum cleaner.

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Speaker 1: But you know what I forgot what the blender and

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Speaker 1: y'all use that a lot with my almond milky. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: it's like an every other day situation so.

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Speaker 3: That some time.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm feeling really tired today, exhausted today. We had

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Speaker 2: a little ce celebratory dinner last night for your birthday.

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Speaker 2: I don't know why I'm so tired though I had

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Speaker 2: one drink. It's not like I was like raging.

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Speaker 1: I had two drinks.

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Speaker 3: But are we at that eight or are we at

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Speaker 3: that age?

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Speaker 2: I think.

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Speaker 1: Because I'm feeling it. But I have to say, there

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Speaker 1: is something so fun about having like your best friends

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Speaker 1: at one table. You know, like, yeah, because you all

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Speaker 1: know each other, you're all friends. But like it's not

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Speaker 1: that I have all my best friends hang out together

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Speaker 1: all the time.

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Speaker 3: No, you're like the connector.

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Speaker 1: I'm the connector. Yeah, So it's like it's such a

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Speaker 1: great feeling to have literally all my best friends at

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Speaker 1: one table. Like I was just so happy.

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Speaker 2: It was such It was a really fun group because

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Speaker 2: everyone gets along. It's easy conversations, crazy but fun.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and like everybody's reaction to everybody it was just

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Speaker 1: and like to get Brad out on a school night.

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Speaker 1: I was So what happened was I didn't really know

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Speaker 1: who was going to be there. I thought I was

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Speaker 1: just going to dinner with Robbie, Pauline, and Sophia. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: and earlier on when all the plans were being arranged,

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Speaker 1: I thought maybe this was like some proposal thing because

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Speaker 1: everybody was being a little shady. Quickly found out that

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Speaker 1: was not the case, and so I just thought it

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Speaker 1: was going to be like a dinner with the four

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Speaker 1: of us. And I show up and there's like this

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Speaker 1: giant table for like ten people, and I was like,

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Speaker 1: and Becca was there, and Ali was there, and then

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Speaker 1: everybody kind of slowly started coming. Raquel came, Brad came,

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Speaker 1: Zach came, and so it was just like all my

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Speaker 1: best friends at one table, and it was like such

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Speaker 1: a beautiful surprise.

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Speaker 2: Well, so last week I texted the girl group chat

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Speaker 2: and I was like, Hey, let's plan a dinner for

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Speaker 2: Tonya's birthday. So I'm texting you, and then Paulina texted

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Speaker 2: me and she's like, Robbie says, she has a work

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Speaker 2: thing and I'm like, no, not on her birthday? What?

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Speaker 2: And so then and then I asked you and you're

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Speaker 2: I'm like, no, she said she wanted to hang out

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Speaker 2: with me, so we'll just do it like cute girls dinner.

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Speaker 2: And then I asked you and you're like, oh, yeah,

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Speaker 2: I'm one of this Barbie thing and I'm.

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Speaker 3: Like okay, cool.

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Speaker 2: So then I was like, maybe Robbie planned something like outside,

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Speaker 2: like we were all going, like to Robbie plan something

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Speaker 2: and it's like a surprise.

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Speaker 3: So there was a lot of confusion on that part.

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Speaker 1: But I'm gonna say I am happy that this dinner

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Speaker 1: didn't happen on Tuesday because I would have been It's

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Speaker 1: fine because it's like the end of the week. If

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Speaker 1: have been problematic.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: So it ended up working out, but it was really fun.

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Speaker 2: But we didn't know if it was a surprise. So

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Speaker 2: I'm like texting Pauline, I'm like, wait, is this still

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Speaker 2: is this a surprise? And She's like kind of, she

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Speaker 2: didn't really know who's going or where it is. So

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Speaker 2: I was like, you asked me what I was doing,

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Speaker 2: and I was like, oh, I'm just going to dinner

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Speaker 2: with Alie.

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Speaker 3: It was truth. It was it's just your dinner.

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Speaker 1: Sneaky sneaking girl.

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Speaker 3: So it was really fun.

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Speaker 1: It was really really fun.

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Speaker 3: But I do be tired.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but I now I understand why people have weddings.

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Speaker 3: To bring all groups of people together.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, like you imagine, like a wedding, is that feeling

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Speaker 1: of all your best friends at one table on crack

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Speaker 1: because it's like all your favorite people in one room,

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Speaker 2: See that feels overwhelming to me a little bit because

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Speaker 2: that's like I got a lot of people to like

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Speaker 2: mingle with. Yeah, so that aspect of the wedding doesn't

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Speaker 2: like entice you.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: No, I like the idea of everyone being together, but

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Speaker 2: like when you're the host of something, it's like.

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Speaker 3: You gotta go. Did you feel that way, Like you have.

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Speaker 2: To go and like make your rounds and like make

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Speaker 2: sure you see everyone and have a proper conversation.

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Speaker 4: Yeah. Yeah. Allison and I were just talking about this

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Speaker 4: last night, like something else. Elson's so much better this

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Speaker 4: than I. And but what she does is she especially

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Speaker 4: if there's like people that came alone or like they

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Speaker 4: don't know anyone else there, She's like, Okay, I know

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Speaker 4: that they both just had babies, Let's get them together,

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Speaker 4: introduce them be like hey both just had kids, okay.

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Speaker 1: Bye, yeah yeah, find.

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Speaker 4: A common topic, or like hey they both played basketball here.

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Speaker 3: Yeah yeah, yeah.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 4: It's exhausting though as the host.

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Speaker 2: Right, Yeah, Like when it's your party and you're the

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Speaker 2: star of the party, it's almost.

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Speaker 1: Like I didn't even think about it more on you, yeah.

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Speaker 2: Because it's like everyone came for you. Everyone's so excited

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Speaker 1: Right and having a bad time.

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Speaker 3: Well, that's not your business. If they're having a bad time, yeah,

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Speaker 3: that's their problem. Yeah.

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Speaker 2: If they're at a wedding and they're getting free food

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Speaker 3: If they haven't about time.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it was fun because this was Ali's first birthday

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Speaker 1: dinner with me.

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Speaker 3: Yeah yeah, yeah about a Ali journey.

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Speaker 1: Come journey. We've come along me and Ali Grant.

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Speaker 3: When did you feel like there was a turning point

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Speaker 1: I know exactly when it was. It was JoJo's on

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Speaker 1: suit launch. That's when we had like it'd been brewing

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Speaker 1: Like I was like feeling her and like a different

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Speaker 1: energy from her, and like we were just getting along

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Speaker 1: in a different way. And then we had this like

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Speaker 1: breakthrough conversation at JoJo's swimwear launch where we kind of

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Speaker 1: were like, yeah, we like we never really got along,

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Speaker 1: Like we got along, but we were never friends because

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Speaker 1: and she was like, yeah, it was just very work

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Speaker 1: feel like maybe the pandemic changed me or something. And

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Speaker 1: so we had this breakthrough conversation and now we're just

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Speaker 1: like BFFs for life.

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Speaker 5: Wow.

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Speaker 3: It really blesses me.

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Speaker 2: And I like that you try to like row me

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Speaker 2: up and get me jealous about it, and like I just.

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Speaker 3: I don't want to say I don't care, but like

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Speaker 3: I am like happy about it. I don't feel like envy.

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Speaker 3: You know what That's called security? Secure attachment.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that means that we both have done Ali and

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Speaker 1: I have done a good job of making you securely

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Speaker 1: attached in a relationship. Sure yeah, yeah, go ahead.

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Speaker 2: If you heard a distant pop sound in the back,

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Speaker 2: that was Tanya.

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Speaker 1: But I will say Becca did get us this. Oh yeah. Bracelets.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, they have little little like half of hearts on

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Speaker 2: them and they say BF on them.

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Speaker 1: And I have to say, I really feel like you

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Speaker 1: you know my love language.

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Speaker 3: I know, Yeah, I do you do? Yeah, do you

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Speaker 3: like my real?

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Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, the real.

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Speaker 4: Of fame reel of reel and then she.

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Speaker 1: Wrote this artistic poem.

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, but I didn't mean for it to be

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Speaker 2: a poem. But everyone said it was a poem. But

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Speaker 2: I was just writing like my thoughts, and I guess

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it was so it was like beautiful. It was

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Speaker 1: so beautiful. I couldn't get over it. I was like,

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Speaker 1: Becca wrote me a poem.

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Speaker 2: I spent a lot of time on that reel because

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Speaker 2: I didn't tell outside of the outside of Instagram. I

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Speaker 2: could tell how to keep because there were so many

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Speaker 2: parts where I needed to hear what you were saying,

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Speaker 2: like the tie is high.

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Speaker 1: I have to preface that video story. Yeah, I have

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Speaker 1: to preface that video because it was JoJo's bachelorette party

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Speaker 1: and I was hammered. I came in for the day

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Speaker 1: and it was like I show up at the house

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Speaker 1: and it was just like shots, shots, shots. So I'm

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Speaker 1: like toast at this point, and Beca and I for

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Speaker 1: some reason decided to like leave the group and go

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Speaker 3: My favorite sunglasses, which I think you.

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Speaker 1: Were drunk too. I certainly it wasn't sober. Yes, yeah, okay.

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Speaker 1: So we walked down to the beach together, and for

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Speaker 1: some reason, we're on this rock and like I'm envisioning that.

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Speaker 1: I'm like, I'm trying to set the scene like the

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Speaker 1: rock sid in the in the show Big Little Eyes.

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Speaker 4: Oh yeah, yeah, the coast of Carmel.

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Speaker 1: Exactly, like I've envisioning like these high I'm on this

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Speaker 1: high rock with like high waters coming at me, and

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Speaker 1: like I was panicking because I couldn't get off this rock.

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Speaker 1: And Becca was like on the beach watching me, like peeing, laughing,

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Speaker 1: and I couldn't. I'm like this is so scary, like

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Speaker 1: the tide is gonna come and sweep me away, and

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Speaker 1: I'm drunk and like I was so stressed and she's

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Speaker 5: She was a step down, not even like come to

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Speaker 5: the beach water, but when we were both on the

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Speaker 5: rocks before I jumped down, she goes, watch.

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Speaker 2: Right, tapping into the leveling watch. Yeah, I'm so happy

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Speaker 1: So we're doing that. Yeah, we're doing that this weekend.

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Speaker 3: That's fun. Easton saw it. Yeah, we need a review.

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Speaker 4: I think it's so important for women for everyone to see.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and definitely gonna see it this weekend.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I gotta see it. That was what I was

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Speaker 3: Do you know what? I what I got? How I'm

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Speaker 5: What?

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Speaker 3: My thought was, WHOA, You're gonna it? Was that simple.

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Speaker 2: There's been so much promo and curiosity that everyone's going

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Speaker 1: So it was like genius, genius.

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Speaker 4: We bought a sixty five dollars popcorm bucket that was

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Speaker 4: Barbie's car and it came with a Barbie Doll.

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Speaker 1: Shut up theater, the theater. Barbie Doll came.

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Speaker 4: It comes with a Barbie the movie Barbie Dolls. It's

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Speaker 4: The car is very funny because it's a popcrim bucket,

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Speaker 1: That's so fun. I'm even more excited now.

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Speaker 4: It's so I bought that thing so fast.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, one hundred dollars. I would have bought that. It

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Speaker 4: For an extra three dollars, you get a little inflatable

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Speaker 4: Steal, yeah, steal. That's crazy, Yes it is.

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Speaker 2: And you know what, No, I don't because I tried

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Speaker 3: Like you said you gave away pants that you regret.

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Speaker 1: Yeah? Because they were hot pink pants and I was like,

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Speaker 1: Want you wear one fifth of your closet? There's stuff

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Speaker 3: I know I'm with you. I don't know why I

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Speaker 1: Tanya I know, but do it in rounds.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, there's this ig account that Hannah has brought to

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Speaker 2: I'm like, what the heck are we talking about. If

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Speaker 2: It is an Instagram account that looks like an innocent

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Speaker 3: Puppies.

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Speaker 2: Just the whole page is dog photos, right, puppies galore.

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Speaker 3: But every single one.

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Speaker 2: Of those photos of puppies, if you swipe, there's another

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Speaker 3: And so we were.

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Speaker 2: So this looks like if you have a partner and

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Speaker 2: But every photo has a swipe, And we have a

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Speaker 3: It's so awkward and uncomfortable.

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Speaker 1: But like Julie, is there a world in which they

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Speaker 5: Like, no, no, this is this is the this is

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Speaker 6: Kindness because like, honestly though, oh my, in the multiverse,

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Speaker 6: that universe exists, but it's out of fourteen million wins

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Speaker 7: I think there's no way these guys are following this

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Speaker 1: I might, oh my god, Like if I saw this account,

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Speaker 1: I'd probably follow it from Sonny's account, like not realizing.

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Speaker 3: You don't go click on the photo and then see

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Speaker 1: Swipe Maybe not.

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Speaker 4: That feels very every single post there's a second one.

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Speaker 4: I'm good, Yeah, I just like to see.

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Speaker 1: People's first, you know.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Forward.

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Speaker 2: The problem The question is do we notify our friends

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Speaker 7: This is the issue I have with it because I

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Speaker 7: is following this account, and I'm talking to her about

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Speaker 7: I'm interested in just follows a bunch of Instagram models

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Speaker 7: like I get the X so quickly, and she plays

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Speaker 7: Devil's advocate and she's always like, it's just guys, it's fine,

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Speaker 7: Like it doesn't really matter. My boyfriend does it too. Oh,

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Speaker 7: but I don't think she knows, like to the extent.

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Speaker 7: I think it's more embarrassing if a guy's following an

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Speaker 7: just blatantly following.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it's just like weird.

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Speaker 2: But if if he's following a lot of other accounts

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Speaker 2: it's like what's the difference. But if there's a guy

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Speaker 1: It who started this account just messed up? Evil.

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Speaker 3: It's so evil.

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Speaker 1: When I they started it in twenty nineteen.

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Speaker 7: Oh my gosh. When I discovered this account yesterday, I

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Speaker 7: I have twenty two mutuals of these guys that I'm

449
00:20:34,800 --> 00:20:39,000
Speaker 7: friends with, ninety percent of them having girlfriends following this account.

450
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Speaker 3: I'm just like, God, are.

451
00:20:40,880 --> 00:20:44,760
Speaker 2: There any any guys that you have dated or been

452
00:20:44,760 --> 00:20:46,080
Speaker 2: on dates with that are following it?

453
00:20:46,160 --> 00:20:47,560
Speaker 3: Oh? That's nice.

454
00:20:47,680 --> 00:20:50,720
Speaker 7: I wouldn't be surprised if there are other accounts like

455
00:20:50,760 --> 00:20:51,600
Speaker 7: does not exist?

456
00:20:51,760 --> 00:20:54,480
Speaker 1: I'm like shocked to see that. I don't have any

457
00:20:54,560 --> 00:20:57,280
Speaker 1: any mutuals I know. I was like, does Robbie follow

458
00:20:57,280 --> 00:21:02,040
Speaker 1: this account? Sure? Does do? Let's dotical?

459
00:21:02,600 --> 00:21:03,040
Speaker 3: This is good.

460
00:21:03,160 --> 00:21:06,520
Speaker 2: So you see that Robbie's following the account? Would you

461
00:21:06,680 --> 00:21:08,760
Speaker 2: or I see that Robbie's following the account? Would you

462
00:21:08,800 --> 00:21:09,640
Speaker 2: want me to tell you?

463
00:21:11,760 --> 00:21:14,000
Speaker 3: Yeah? You would?

464
00:21:14,400 --> 00:21:14,720
Speaker 1: I think?

465
00:21:14,760 --> 00:21:18,160
Speaker 3: So what would your like? What would you do about it?

466
00:21:18,520 --> 00:21:20,600
Speaker 1: I'd be like, why are you following this creepy account?

467
00:21:20,640 --> 00:21:23,200
Speaker 1: You sick of? And That's what I'd say.

468
00:21:23,800 --> 00:21:25,320
Speaker 3: So it'd just be like it just.

469
00:21:26,720 --> 00:21:28,880
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean yeah, of course, it's not like anything

470
00:21:28,920 --> 00:21:29,600
Speaker 1: make or break.

471
00:21:29,960 --> 00:21:32,800
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's kind of how I like, I think if it, well,

472
00:21:33,160 --> 00:21:38,440
Speaker 2: I would be see I think if I if let's

473
00:21:38,440 --> 00:21:41,320
Speaker 2: say Haley was following this account, okay, yeah, and she

474
00:21:41,520 --> 00:21:44,440
Speaker 2: also followed just like a ton of like hot bikini models,

475
00:21:44,440 --> 00:21:47,520
Speaker 2: I'd be like, well, what's new another one? But if

476
00:21:47,520 --> 00:21:49,680
Speaker 2: she had. She was like, I don't follow anyone like that,

477
00:21:49,720 --> 00:21:51,240
Speaker 2: like I would. I don't want to see that. And

478
00:21:51,280 --> 00:21:53,359
Speaker 2: then I saw she was following this account. I'd be like,

479
00:21:54,440 --> 00:21:56,080
Speaker 2: why are you being sneaky? You know?

480
00:21:56,240 --> 00:21:58,720
Speaker 1: Is that I've never had that conversation with Robbie, like

481
00:21:59,720 --> 00:22:04,440
Speaker 1: do you follow weird Instagram bikini models? Like I've never

482
00:22:04,520 --> 00:22:08,240
Speaker 1: had that. I've never had that conversation with him because

483
00:22:08,240 --> 00:22:10,200
Speaker 1: i mean, I like, see when you're like in bed,

484
00:22:10,240 --> 00:22:12,240
Speaker 1: like scrolling through Instagram and stuff, you kind of see

485
00:22:12,280 --> 00:22:15,520
Speaker 1: their feed, and I've never seen anything. I've only seen

486
00:22:15,600 --> 00:22:18,040
Speaker 1: one thing that was like bikini boobs and it was

487
00:22:18,040 --> 00:22:19,760
Speaker 1: one of my friends that he followed. So I'm like,

488
00:22:19,920 --> 00:22:22,879
Speaker 1: all right, fine, fair like who's that? He's like your friend?

489
00:22:22,960 --> 00:22:28,399
Speaker 1: I was like, okay, why right, right, Well it was

490
00:22:28,400 --> 00:22:32,320
Speaker 1: like after a weekend. Yeah. Yeah, but I've never had

491
00:22:32,359 --> 00:22:34,480
Speaker 1: that conversation of like do you follow any.

492
00:22:34,720 --> 00:22:38,040
Speaker 3: Yeah, but you'd want to know for this one.

493
00:22:38,200 --> 00:22:39,399
Speaker 1: Yeah, well now I kind of just want to know.

494
00:22:39,400 --> 00:22:43,639
Speaker 1: In general, the.

495
00:22:45,760 --> 00:22:48,320
Speaker 2: Candle Worves has been open. It's just interesting. It's a

496
00:22:48,400 --> 00:22:53,720
Speaker 2: it's a it's interesting. It's very interesting. Yeah, but it

497
00:22:53,840 --> 00:22:56,359
Speaker 2: poses the conversation, would that be something you want to

498
00:22:56,400 --> 00:22:58,520
Speaker 2: know or are you kind of indifferent about it? I

499
00:22:58,560 --> 00:23:03,840
Speaker 2: think it's a because the sneaky part goes to character, right.

500
00:23:03,800 --> 00:23:06,080
Speaker 1: Yeah, but it might not be sneaky. Am I just

501
00:23:06,200 --> 00:23:07,480
Speaker 1: like some you know what I mean, Like some people

502
00:23:07,520 --> 00:23:07,960
Speaker 1: don't care.

503
00:23:08,560 --> 00:23:09,400
Speaker 3: No, that's what I'm saying.

504
00:23:09,480 --> 00:23:12,240
Speaker 2: Yeah, Like if it's like her friend's her friend who's

505
00:23:12,280 --> 00:23:13,280
Speaker 2: like I already.

506
00:23:13,080 --> 00:23:14,639
Speaker 3: Follows hot chicks whatever.

507
00:23:14,880 --> 00:23:17,680
Speaker 2: Yeah, but if it's like if it's someone who you

508
00:23:17,720 --> 00:23:21,600
Speaker 2: feel like they've defended themselves and I don't even follow

509
00:23:21,640 --> 00:23:22,640
Speaker 2: any of these girls, and then.

510
00:23:22,520 --> 00:23:23,679
Speaker 3: You saw that, that's different.

511
00:23:23,760 --> 00:23:28,400
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's not like they're following sunny Girl the Kavapoo. No,

512
00:23:28,800 --> 00:23:31,760
Speaker 1: that's a wholesome is as wholesome as it gets.

513
00:23:31,920 --> 00:23:34,760
Speaker 4: I don't understand if they follow a bunch of bikini

514
00:23:34,800 --> 00:23:37,280
Speaker 4: girls and then this, what's the point of following this

515
00:23:37,560 --> 00:23:41,160
Speaker 4: if you're already just follow a bunch of bikini girls,

516
00:23:41,200 --> 00:23:45,320
Speaker 4: like just really an added thrill like oh maybe here's

517
00:23:45,359 --> 00:23:48,639
Speaker 4: a dog, Oh never mind. Like I just don't understand it,

518
00:23:48,680 --> 00:23:51,120
Speaker 4: Like I think you only follow this if you want

519
00:23:51,119 --> 00:23:54,480
Speaker 4: to hide that you're looking at boobs. And I'm confused

520
00:23:54,480 --> 00:23:54,720
Speaker 4: by it.

521
00:23:55,119 --> 00:23:56,480
Speaker 3: Yeah, very peculiar.

522
00:23:56,560 --> 00:23:58,840
Speaker 4: How you bring it up to the if you see

523
00:23:58,840 --> 00:24:02,320
Speaker 4: your friends partner following this, what do you say?

524
00:24:02,480 --> 00:24:03,080
Speaker 2: Do you like?

525
00:24:03,280 --> 00:24:05,200
Speaker 4: Do you go hate? I thought you should know.

526
00:24:05,920 --> 00:24:07,919
Speaker 2: I would be like, you know what I would do?

527
00:24:08,080 --> 00:24:11,720
Speaker 2: I would go I was like, do you ever have

528
00:24:11,840 --> 00:24:15,000
Speaker 2: to have the conversation about so and so following like

529
00:24:15,119 --> 00:24:18,960
Speaker 2: hot girls or like liking hot photos? And if she's like, oh, no,

530
00:24:19,000 --> 00:24:22,639
Speaker 2: I haven't, And I'd be like, there's this account on Instagram.

531
00:24:22,720 --> 00:24:24,840
Speaker 2: Can you believe that there's an account that looks like

532
00:24:24,880 --> 00:24:25,720
Speaker 2: a dog account?

533
00:24:25,760 --> 00:24:28,760
Speaker 3: And every photo has a swipeover? And I would be like,

534
00:24:29,760 --> 00:24:31,000
Speaker 3: I would be shocked.

535
00:24:31,160 --> 00:24:33,919
Speaker 2: I would be devastated if my significant other was following

536
00:24:33,920 --> 00:24:38,879
Speaker 2: this account and then they're naturally just gonna go check wooth.

537
00:24:41,040 --> 00:24:43,639
Speaker 2: Although if it was like someone that like Tanya, I

538
00:24:43,640 --> 00:24:48,440
Speaker 2: think I'd be like, yo, I found this account.

539
00:24:48,800 --> 00:24:51,760
Speaker 3: Robbie's following it? Are you aware?

540
00:24:51,960 --> 00:24:52,120
Speaker 2: Yeah?

541
00:24:52,320 --> 00:24:53,320
Speaker 1: Go talk to your man.

542
00:24:53,560 --> 00:24:54,080
Speaker 3: Yeah.

543
00:24:54,240 --> 00:24:57,359
Speaker 2: There's got to be a certain level of like friendship

544
00:24:57,400 --> 00:24:58,080
Speaker 2: to do that though.

545
00:24:58,119 --> 00:24:59,800
Speaker 3: Yeah, Otherwise I'd plant the seed.

546
00:25:04,920 --> 00:25:07,639
Speaker 1: What if I turned Sunny's account into like a like

547
00:25:07,760 --> 00:25:08,360
Speaker 1: a what.

548
00:25:08,400 --> 00:25:10,720
Speaker 2: If it's just like males and like men and like

549
00:25:10,920 --> 00:25:12,720
Speaker 2: uh like speedos?

550
00:25:12,840 --> 00:25:15,280
Speaker 1: No, yeah, like I do like the first picture of

551
00:25:15,320 --> 00:25:17,280
Speaker 1: Sonny and then you swipe over no, and it's like me,

552
00:25:17,520 --> 00:25:21,920
Speaker 1: like my boobs out, yeah, yeah, just you my own

553
00:25:22,160 --> 00:25:28,320
Speaker 1: felon that really yeah? Or is there a world in

554
00:25:28,359 --> 00:25:30,639
Speaker 1: which this actually was a puppy account and then it

555
00:25:30,840 --> 00:25:33,200
Speaker 1: just switched over so people might be following it because

556
00:25:33,240 --> 00:25:35,399
Speaker 1: it was puppies and then they switched it over that.

557
00:25:37,720 --> 00:25:45,600
Speaker 2: I do like thinking about I'm not trying to defend this,

558
00:25:45,800 --> 00:25:47,360
Speaker 2: but because I think it's also delutional.

559
00:25:47,400 --> 00:25:50,359
Speaker 4: But there are times where like it'll be like an

560
00:25:50,400 --> 00:25:53,399
Speaker 4: account where it's like oh, people following down, or like

561
00:25:53,440 --> 00:25:55,439
Speaker 4: a meme account or something, and then they sell it

562
00:25:55,480 --> 00:25:57,960
Speaker 4: to someone else for the followers. Right, Like there's times

563
00:25:57,960 --> 00:26:00,280
Speaker 4: where I'm like, I'd never followed this, like Honda race

564
00:26:00,320 --> 00:26:02,520
Speaker 4: car account and I realized it was like a funny

565
00:26:02,720 --> 00:26:06,040
Speaker 4: monkey account that it sold it. See that can happen.

566
00:26:06,080 --> 00:26:07,400
Speaker 4: I don't think that's happening in this case.

567
00:26:07,480 --> 00:26:09,600
Speaker 1: Could it could have been a puppy account and then

568
00:26:09,600 --> 00:26:12,119
Speaker 1: they just like flip the format and then like all

569
00:26:12,160 --> 00:26:13,840
Speaker 1: these people were following it and then there's not really

570
00:26:13,840 --> 00:26:15,840
Speaker 1: on Instagram, so they don't like unfollow it because they

571
00:26:15,880 --> 00:26:16,439
Speaker 1: just like don't know.

572
00:26:17,040 --> 00:26:21,080
Speaker 2: That's what I think I love the beautiful, beautiful way

573
00:26:21,080 --> 00:26:21,560
Speaker 2: of thinking.

574
00:26:21,720 --> 00:26:24,480
Speaker 1: You think that too, don't you, Sunny, She says, I know.

575
00:26:24,440 --> 00:26:27,240
Speaker 3: What Puppy Melons has been and always will be.

576
00:26:29,040 --> 00:26:29,879
Speaker 1: It will be dark.

577
00:26:30,920 --> 00:26:32,400
Speaker 2: Okay, we're gonna take a break and then we'll be back

578
00:26:32,400 --> 00:26:52,200
Speaker 2: with emails. All right, we are back. This first email

579
00:26:52,359 --> 00:26:54,879
Speaker 2: is tough eastn't.

580
00:26:55,800 --> 00:26:59,320
Speaker 4: Yes, yes, yes it is. I see a disclaimer there.

581
00:27:00,040 --> 00:27:04,800
Speaker 4: This is from anonymous disclaimer. I completely take responsibility for

582
00:27:04,840 --> 00:27:07,000
Speaker 4: looking places I shouldn't have been, but now I cannot

583
00:27:07,000 --> 00:27:09,400
Speaker 4: stop thinking about it, and I need to know what

584
00:27:09,440 --> 00:27:12,480
Speaker 4: I should do. Oh boy, Bobby Mellins is in this.

585
00:27:12,520 --> 00:27:13,320
Speaker 4: I'm going to visit it.

586
00:27:14,359 --> 00:27:14,439
Speaker 2: So.

587
00:27:14,640 --> 00:27:16,760
Speaker 4: My boyfriend and I have been going through somewhat of

588
00:27:16,760 --> 00:27:19,000
Speaker 4: a rough patch for a few reasons, none of them

589
00:27:19,040 --> 00:27:21,840
Speaker 4: having anything to do with other girls or distrust. Well,

590
00:27:21,880 --> 00:27:23,639
Speaker 4: I was in control of music the other night on

591
00:27:23,640 --> 00:27:26,399
Speaker 4: his phone and a notification popped up that said, for

592
00:27:26,440 --> 00:27:29,280
Speaker 4: the sake of this post, Tiffany liked your Venmo payment.

593
00:27:29,800 --> 00:27:31,920
Speaker 4: I clicked on it and he paid her fifteen dollars

594
00:27:32,000 --> 00:27:33,960
Speaker 4: and all the notes said was thank you. I've never

595
00:27:34,000 --> 00:27:36,199
Speaker 4: heard him talk about this girl or even heard her

596
00:27:36,240 --> 00:27:38,439
Speaker 4: name before this. I immediately got anxious and looked at

597
00:27:38,440 --> 00:27:40,600
Speaker 4: his text messages and searched her name. The only thing

598
00:27:40,640 --> 00:27:42,639
Speaker 4: that came up with him texting his friend asking for

599
00:27:42,680 --> 00:27:45,680
Speaker 4: a number back in February. He does have her contact

600
00:27:45,800 --> 00:27:47,879
Speaker 4: save now, but there were no messages between them, so

601
00:27:47,920 --> 00:27:50,879
Speaker 4: I'm assuming he deleted them. I don't know anyways, he

602
00:27:50,880 --> 00:27:52,960
Speaker 4: follows her on Instagram, and so do several other people

603
00:27:52,960 --> 00:27:54,359
Speaker 4: I know, so I'm not sure what to make of

604
00:27:54,359 --> 00:27:56,639
Speaker 4: this or if I'm overthinking it again. I know I

605
00:27:56,640 --> 00:27:59,040
Speaker 4: shouldn't have been nosy, but I know and have met

606
00:27:59,080 --> 00:28:00,720
Speaker 4: so many of his girlfriend and I have never even

607
00:28:00,760 --> 00:28:02,880
Speaker 4: heard any mention of this girl. What would you do.

608
00:28:04,480 --> 00:28:04,680
Speaker 2: This?

609
00:28:05,000 --> 00:28:05,320
Speaker 3: For me?

610
00:28:05,600 --> 00:28:10,120
Speaker 2: Is where communication is so valuable in a relationship, because

611
00:28:12,119 --> 00:28:15,720
Speaker 2: in my mind I feel like you should feel safe

612
00:28:15,840 --> 00:28:18,000
Speaker 2: to go to him and say, hey, when I had

613
00:28:18,000 --> 00:28:19,840
Speaker 2: your friend the other night playing the music, I saw

614
00:28:19,880 --> 00:28:21,160
Speaker 2: this notification pop up.

615
00:28:22,080 --> 00:28:24,280
Speaker 3: I don't know who Tiffany is. I don't want a spiral.

616
00:28:24,280 --> 00:28:25,879
Speaker 2: I've already like been in my head about it, but

617
00:28:25,920 --> 00:28:27,600
Speaker 2: I wanted to come to you so that I don't

618
00:28:27,600 --> 00:28:30,760
Speaker 2: go further into the spiral. And I wanted to just

619
00:28:30,800 --> 00:28:33,960
Speaker 2: make sure it's nothing that I should be worried or

620
00:28:33,960 --> 00:28:36,840
Speaker 2: insecure about or like, who is Tiffany? Why? Why was

621
00:28:36,880 --> 00:28:39,760
Speaker 2: there a Venmo exchange between the two of you. Can

622
00:28:39,800 --> 00:28:46,440
Speaker 2: you just calm calm, calm me down. Yeah, because if

623
00:28:46,440 --> 00:28:48,360
Speaker 2: there's nothing there, he'll be able to say, oh, we

624
00:28:48,360 --> 00:28:51,240
Speaker 2: are with a group of friends and this our friend Tiffany.

625
00:28:51,880 --> 00:28:54,040
Speaker 3: She paid for the meal and we all vemote her back.

626
00:28:54,560 --> 00:28:55,400
Speaker 3: And if it's a.

627
00:28:55,600 --> 00:29:00,760
Speaker 2: Thing, then it gives you the opportunity to see how

628
00:29:00,800 --> 00:29:03,880
Speaker 2: he reacts and also gives him the opportunity to be

629
00:29:03,920 --> 00:29:07,040
Speaker 2: honest about what's going on. But I think you spiraling

630
00:29:07,080 --> 00:29:08,920
Speaker 2: in your head isn't going to do anything. I think

631
00:29:08,960 --> 00:29:11,120
Speaker 2: it's like you need to have a conversation about it,

632
00:29:12,000 --> 00:29:14,720
Speaker 2: regardless of the direction that it goes. I think you

633
00:29:14,880 --> 00:29:17,160
Speaker 2: just need to say, like, hey, I saw this. And

634
00:29:17,520 --> 00:29:19,280
Speaker 2: I don't even think you need to say I snooped

635
00:29:19,280 --> 00:29:21,280
Speaker 2: through your phone. I think you just say it popped

636
00:29:21,320 --> 00:29:24,880
Speaker 2: up while I was holding the phone. Yeah, and I'm curious. Yeah,

637
00:29:24,920 --> 00:29:26,240
Speaker 2: you don't have to go through all the details.

638
00:29:26,320 --> 00:29:28,240
Speaker 1: You can say like when we were listening to music

639
00:29:28,280 --> 00:29:31,000
Speaker 1: riding in the car, I saw this girl like your Venmo,

640
00:29:33,240 --> 00:29:35,800
Speaker 1: And because we are going through a rough patch, I

641
00:29:35,840 --> 00:29:37,760
Speaker 1: am feeling and you can say, like I am feeling

642
00:29:37,760 --> 00:29:40,080
Speaker 1: a little insecure and I've been in my mind has

643
00:29:40,120 --> 00:29:43,280
Speaker 1: been kind of like going all over the place. Can

644
00:29:43,320 --> 00:29:45,520
Speaker 1: you like tell me who this girl is or like

645
00:29:45,600 --> 00:29:48,040
Speaker 1: what that was? Like you know, and like you can say,

646
00:29:48,080 --> 00:29:49,720
Speaker 1: like it's okay to be in a place that you

647
00:29:50,120 --> 00:29:52,080
Speaker 1: feel insecure and you can admit that, you know. And

648
00:29:52,120 --> 00:29:54,560
Speaker 1: I think also if he is understanding and you guys

649
00:29:54,600 --> 00:29:56,680
Speaker 1: are in a good relationship, he's also going to understand

650
00:29:56,760 --> 00:30:00,240
Speaker 1: like he has made like he in part because of

651
00:30:00,280 --> 00:30:02,600
Speaker 1: the rough patch is causing you to be in this

652
00:30:02,680 --> 00:30:04,560
Speaker 1: place of insecurity a little bit too, you know what

653
00:30:04,600 --> 00:30:07,920
Speaker 1: I mean. So hopefully it will go in a positive

654
00:30:08,000 --> 00:30:12,800
Speaker 1: direction or he could get very defensive. But I'm gonna

655
00:30:13,320 --> 00:30:16,520
Speaker 1: hope that he's a good guy and that it will

656
00:30:16,560 --> 00:30:18,360
Speaker 1: be an easy explanation.

657
00:30:18,640 --> 00:30:22,160
Speaker 4: Yeah, I think in the greater scheme of like things

658
00:30:22,240 --> 00:30:24,280
Speaker 4: you see on the phone, this is like best case scenario.

659
00:30:24,520 --> 00:30:26,760
Speaker 4: Like I've been in this position many times where like

660
00:30:26,800 --> 00:30:28,600
Speaker 4: I was at some work thing and like someone was

661
00:30:28,640 --> 00:30:31,600
Speaker 4: getting coffee for everyone and I'd have venmo someone named

662
00:30:31,680 --> 00:30:33,840
Speaker 4: Gabrielle that I've never talked to you before or since.

663
00:30:34,040 --> 00:30:36,680
Speaker 1: Yeah, true, I've done that stuff too that I've like Venmo,

664
00:30:37,360 --> 00:30:39,320
Speaker 1: I don't even know who I ven mooded anyware.

665
00:30:39,120 --> 00:30:42,720
Speaker 2: And it's like he said, she said, the only thing

666
00:30:42,960 --> 00:30:45,520
Speaker 2: she saw was that he had asked her his friend

667
00:30:45,560 --> 00:30:47,520
Speaker 2: for her number, but it could have been like a

668
00:30:47,560 --> 00:30:49,480
Speaker 2: work thing or something like, hey, I needed to reach

669
00:30:49,520 --> 00:30:51,120
Speaker 2: out to her, and like, the reason why you've never

670
00:30:51,160 --> 00:30:57,120
Speaker 2: heard of her is because he probably there's nothing there righted. Yeah, yeah, yeah,

671
00:30:57,280 --> 00:30:59,680
Speaker 2: that was it, So I think it's worth the conversation,

672
00:30:59,840 --> 00:31:00,960
Speaker 2: just honest conversation.

673
00:31:01,280 --> 00:31:03,880
Speaker 1: Yeah, and it's gonna suck. You're gonna put your tail

674
00:31:03,880 --> 00:31:06,160
Speaker 1: between your legs and like say, no.

675
00:31:06,080 --> 00:31:08,360
Speaker 2: I don't even I was holding your phone when I

676
00:31:08,400 --> 00:31:09,880
Speaker 2: was doing music and it popped up.

677
00:31:09,920 --> 00:31:10,560
Speaker 3: I just looked down.

678
00:31:11,160 --> 00:31:13,480
Speaker 1: Okay, yeah, all right, Well.

679
00:31:13,400 --> 00:31:16,760
Speaker 4: I think we fixed that problem. Uh yeah, wow solid

680
00:31:16,880 --> 00:31:20,520
Speaker 4: if she solved anonymous. Moving on to Emma, I just

681
00:31:20,560 --> 00:31:23,280
Speaker 4: have a general question that I hope sparks some interesting conversations.

682
00:31:23,320 --> 00:31:26,000
Speaker 4: Wouldn't that be nice? Emma? How has social media affected

683
00:31:26,040 --> 00:31:28,760
Speaker 4: the way you view relationships and partners? These past few

684
00:31:28,840 --> 00:31:31,480
Speaker 4: days have been coming across posts that glorify unhealthy acts

685
00:31:31,480 --> 00:31:34,280
Speaker 4: and relationships, such as girl being mad at her boyfriend

686
00:31:34,320 --> 00:31:36,640
Speaker 4: for hanging out with his boys. Boys covering up their

687
00:31:36,640 --> 00:31:38,760
Speaker 4: girlfriends when they wear something that shows a little more skin,

688
00:31:39,160 --> 00:31:41,600
Speaker 4: girls blowing up their boyfriend's phone when they're out, and

689
00:31:41,640 --> 00:31:44,120
Speaker 4: so on. These made me realize I have an amazing

690
00:31:44,160 --> 00:31:46,640
Speaker 4: relationship which has none of the crap mentioned above, and

691
00:31:46,680 --> 00:31:48,800
Speaker 4: I'm grateful for the space I get to be myself.

692
00:31:49,040 --> 00:31:51,760
Speaker 4: I also come across posts that highlight that love isn't enough,

693
00:31:52,400 --> 00:31:56,080
Speaker 4: and those posts are indeed a lesson, and I save them.

694
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Speaker 1: I'm confused by this.

695
00:31:57,640 --> 00:32:01,680
Speaker 2: I think she's just wanting to know what how relationship

696
00:32:02,800 --> 00:32:07,600
Speaker 2: affects the way you view how social media affects the

697
00:32:07,600 --> 00:32:10,640
Speaker 2: way that you view relationships and partners, Like I feel

698
00:32:10,640 --> 00:32:15,960
Speaker 2: like sometimes like social media is so easy to glorify

699
00:32:17,680 --> 00:32:23,920
Speaker 2: the highs, but also sometimes people share so much of

700
00:32:23,960 --> 00:32:28,160
Speaker 2: their relationship that I'm like, don't put this, Like this

701
00:32:28,240 --> 00:32:31,960
Speaker 2: is a lot, yeah, like the really dark traumas, It's like,

702
00:32:34,280 --> 00:32:37,280
Speaker 2: maybe share that with your personal your friends, because it's

703
00:32:37,280 --> 00:32:40,240
Speaker 2: like you're opening something that's already a wound up to

704
00:32:40,400 --> 00:32:43,640
Speaker 2: like public scrutiny and more opinions on it. And I

705
00:32:44,080 --> 00:32:46,440
Speaker 2: think talking about like, oh yeah, there's like we're going

706
00:32:46,440 --> 00:32:48,640
Speaker 2: through this hard time, like you know, when Haley was

707
00:32:48,680 --> 00:32:51,200
Speaker 2: on tour, like I was had a really hard time,

708
00:32:51,480 --> 00:32:54,280
Speaker 2: you know, But I'm not like going out and sharing

709
00:32:54,320 --> 00:32:59,480
Speaker 2: the details because that's not everyone's business, you know. Like

710
00:32:59,520 --> 00:33:01,440
Speaker 2: there are so and things that I think are valuable

711
00:33:01,480 --> 00:33:05,320
Speaker 2: to keep into your relationship, and I think sharing the highs.

712
00:33:05,080 --> 00:33:06,480
Speaker 3: Is like beautiful as well.

713
00:33:06,480 --> 00:33:09,240
Speaker 2: But I also think that social media makes it easy

714
00:33:09,320 --> 00:33:11,760
Speaker 2: to share the highs when you're going through the low,

715
00:33:11,840 --> 00:33:14,720
Speaker 2: so it glorifies this people like I'm so jealous of this.

716
00:33:14,840 --> 00:33:17,440
Speaker 2: And then I saw a girl post the other day

717
00:33:17,480 --> 00:33:20,760
Speaker 2: that her wedding video went viral. She and her wife

718
00:33:20,800 --> 00:33:23,880
Speaker 2: got married, and in the video, her wife is like

719
00:33:24,000 --> 00:33:27,040
Speaker 2: sobbing and everyone's like, if my if the person I

720
00:33:27,120 --> 00:33:29,040
Speaker 2: married doesn't cry like that, like I don't want it,

721
00:33:29,080 --> 00:33:31,600
Speaker 2: And she was like that person was cheating on me

722
00:33:31,760 --> 00:33:35,440
Speaker 2: and like was so abusive and like no one knew what. Yeah,

723
00:33:35,480 --> 00:33:38,800
Speaker 2: so it's I think what she's saying is like social

724
00:33:38,840 --> 00:33:41,840
Speaker 2: media can cause like such a different idea of what

725
00:33:42,080 --> 00:33:43,040
Speaker 2: is really going on.

726
00:33:43,280 --> 00:33:45,840
Speaker 1: Yeah, well, I don't even think it's social media. I

727
00:33:46,160 --> 00:33:48,560
Speaker 1: think it goes so much deeper than that because I

728
00:33:48,640 --> 00:33:51,960
Speaker 1: know and I've had to work in therapy a lot

729
00:33:51,960 --> 00:33:55,520
Speaker 1: on this because I had this so may call it

730
00:33:55,560 --> 00:34:00,120
Speaker 1: delusional expectation of love and what a relationship is. And

731
00:34:00,160 --> 00:34:02,520
Speaker 1: it was like I had that vision that we all

732
00:34:02,600 --> 00:34:04,920
Speaker 1: had of like the Prince Charming coming to save me

733
00:34:05,040 --> 00:34:08,000
Speaker 1: with the glass slipper and like at midnight, I'm going

734
00:34:08,040 --> 00:34:10,080
Speaker 1: to be a princess and like it's gonna be happily

735
00:34:10,080 --> 00:34:13,360
Speaker 1: ever after. Like that was my reality of what a

736
00:34:13,480 --> 00:34:16,520
Speaker 1: relationship is. And don't get me wrong, I do have

737
00:34:16,560 --> 00:34:18,919
Speaker 1: those moments with Robbie like I do sometimes I feel

738
00:34:18,920 --> 00:34:22,719
Speaker 1: like I'm like floating on a cloud. But the relationship

739
00:34:22,800 --> 00:34:26,000
Speaker 1: also has had some really crazy challenges and like some

740
00:34:26,120 --> 00:34:29,160
Speaker 1: like real life stuff, you know that like I just

741
00:34:29,280 --> 00:34:33,399
Speaker 1: wasn't equipped for because I had this delusional perception of

742
00:34:33,440 --> 00:34:36,160
Speaker 1: what love was, you know, like we all say it

743
00:34:36,239 --> 00:34:39,560
Speaker 1: love conquers all, and like what's the other one? If

744
00:34:39,600 --> 00:34:42,400
Speaker 1: he wanted to he would and like all these things

745
00:34:42,400 --> 00:34:47,000
Speaker 1: that we say that are like actually really not true.

746
00:34:47,520 --> 00:34:49,160
Speaker 1: Do you know what I mean? Someone can love you

747
00:34:49,520 --> 00:35:01,240
Speaker 1: and still was it. It's it's interesting, it's interesting we're

748
00:35:01,280 --> 00:35:05,480
Speaker 1: this close to profound. No, but I think it is profound.

749
00:35:05,520 --> 00:35:07,839
Speaker 1: I think it is profound because I like really had

750
00:35:07,840 --> 00:35:10,000
Speaker 1: to grow through all that like I had to really

751
00:35:10,080 --> 00:35:13,880
Speaker 1: knock down all these preconceived notions that I had, and like,

752
00:35:15,880 --> 00:35:17,680
Speaker 1: I think social media just adds to it, you know

753
00:35:17,719 --> 00:35:19,840
Speaker 1: what I mean, Like it's it goes deeper than the

754
00:35:19,840 --> 00:35:22,359
Speaker 1: fairy tales, Like we're seeing it day in day out,

755
00:35:22,440 --> 00:35:25,920
Speaker 1: you know, Like I follow Ali Fedotowski and I'm like,

756
00:35:26,640 --> 00:35:28,480
Speaker 1: if my kids don't act like that, Like you know

757
00:35:28,520 --> 00:35:32,000
Speaker 1: what I mean, Like you follow these people that show this. Again,

758
00:35:32,080 --> 00:35:34,520
Speaker 1: it's it's not their entire life, it's a fraction of it,

759
00:35:34,560 --> 00:35:36,920
Speaker 1: and you get this perception in your head of what

760
00:35:37,200 --> 00:35:39,239
Speaker 1: you know, being a wife or being a mom like

761
00:35:39,480 --> 00:35:41,879
Speaker 1: looks like when it's really not the reality. So it's

762
00:35:41,880 --> 00:35:44,520
Speaker 1: like it's all kind of screwing with us.

763
00:35:44,920 --> 00:35:47,879
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think social media, like you nettle on the head,

764
00:35:47,880 --> 00:35:51,480
Speaker 2: it's a fraction of someone's life. Like it's a minuscule

765
00:35:51,640 --> 00:35:55,120
Speaker 2: You're getting a glimpse into someone's life, and they only

766
00:35:55,280 --> 00:35:58,279
Speaker 2: choose what you what they want you to see, whether

767
00:35:58,360 --> 00:36:00,600
Speaker 2: that's a good, the bad, the ugly one, whatever it is.

768
00:36:00,640 --> 00:36:04,960
Speaker 2: So I think especially with TikTok and like the skits

769
00:36:04,960 --> 00:36:08,040
Speaker 2: and stuff, there's even more. Sometimes it's like supposed to

770
00:36:08,040 --> 00:36:11,960
Speaker 2: be funny banter, but it can maybe glorify like unhealthy things.

771
00:36:12,080 --> 00:36:12,560
Speaker 3: I don't know.

772
00:36:12,840 --> 00:36:16,920
Speaker 2: I think that's just having the awareness that social media

773
00:36:17,040 --> 00:36:20,600
Speaker 2: isn't the same as real life all the time.

774
00:36:20,880 --> 00:36:23,080
Speaker 1: Yeah, And I think also to just know that like

775
00:36:23,480 --> 00:36:27,600
Speaker 1: everybody deals with challenges and nobody's perfect.

776
00:36:27,960 --> 00:36:32,719
Speaker 3: No, and love is wonderful, It's such a gift. And also.

777
00:36:34,760 --> 00:36:39,360
Speaker 2: Relationships take effort and work, and I think the I

778
00:36:39,400 --> 00:36:42,680
Speaker 2: think the love is what provokes the work.

779
00:36:42,960 --> 00:36:45,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's funny because I realized I think I don't

780
00:36:45,600 --> 00:36:49,480
Speaker 1: remember when it was, but I was like posting robbing

781
00:36:49,520 --> 00:36:51,959
Speaker 1: a lot of my social media because I'm like, we're

782
00:36:51,960 --> 00:36:53,359
Speaker 1: together all the time, do you know what I mean?

783
00:36:53,400 --> 00:36:55,319
Speaker 1: Like he's with me when I work out, he's with

784
00:36:55,360 --> 00:36:57,680
Speaker 1: me when I go to sleep, like he's there. And

785
00:36:57,719 --> 00:36:59,400
Speaker 1: I was like, you know what, I don't want to

786
00:36:59,400 --> 00:37:02,640
Speaker 1: give that person exception that like I always have my

787
00:37:02,680 --> 00:37:06,319
Speaker 1: significant other or that I'm nothing without my significant other there,

788
00:37:06,360 --> 00:37:07,440
Speaker 1: do you know what I mean? So I started to

789
00:37:07,440 --> 00:37:10,000
Speaker 1: get very intentional about like not having him in like

790
00:37:10,080 --> 00:37:13,080
Speaker 1: every single photo and every single video and like having

791
00:37:13,080 --> 00:37:15,560
Speaker 1: my own identity and my identity with him. You know,

792
00:37:16,719 --> 00:37:20,160
Speaker 1: it's interesting, It is interesting, it is.

793
00:37:20,800 --> 00:37:21,040
Speaker 3: Yeah.

794
00:37:24,400 --> 00:37:28,640
Speaker 2: The slow spin Okay, I have to go, all right.

795
00:37:28,719 --> 00:37:30,719
Speaker 2: I get my mom from l a X, which is

796
00:37:31,120 --> 00:37:35,120
Speaker 2: truly an actor act of love. Yeah, in the Los

797
00:37:35,160 --> 00:37:38,560
Speaker 2: Angeles area for someone we love you.

798
00:37:38,600 --> 00:37:41,759
Speaker 1: All you need to say. She loves you all too,

799
00:37:42,480 --> 00:37:45,680
Speaker 1: loves you. I love you, I love you.

800
00:37:46,120 --> 00:37:47,359
Speaker 3: Bye bye by