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Speaker 1: K forty.

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Speaker 2: Y'all, that's a sound bite.

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Speaker 1: That's a sound bite that.

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Speaker 2: Sounds like an announcement. I'm sure they know by now.

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Speaker 2: If y'all have been following my Instagram, you know, baby,

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Speaker 2: I love it here in the forty forty club. Happy

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Speaker 2: to be here.

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Speaker 1: Dead ass, dead ass.

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Speaker 2: Didn't think I would, but I do. Hey. I'm Kadeen

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Speaker 2: and I'm Devoured and we're the Ellis's.

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Speaker 1: You may know us from posting funny videos with our.

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Speaker 2: Voice and reading each other publicly as a form of therapy.

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Speaker 1: Wait, I make you need therapy most days. Wow.

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Speaker 2: Oh, and one more important thing to mention, we're married.

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Speaker 1: Yes, sir, we are. We created this podcast to open

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Speaker 1: dialogue about some of li's most taboo topics.

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Speaker 2: Things most folks don't want to talk about.

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Speaker 1: Through the lens of a millennial married couple. Dead ass

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Speaker 1: is a term that we say every day. So when

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Speaker 1: we say dead ass, we're actually saying facts one hundred

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Speaker 1: the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth.

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Speaker 1: We about to take philosof to our whole new level.

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Speaker 2: Dead ass starts right now.

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Speaker 1: Storytime, story time?

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Speaker 2: Are you going to tell the story time? On my fortye?

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Speaker 1: I got mad stories. Well, not about your fortieth day,

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Speaker 1: but your fortieth year. Yeah, because you had a year

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Speaker 1: for the ages. Let's just use story time to just

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Speaker 1: go over everything that happened for you and your forties.

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Speaker 2: You mean leading up to forty, because it was technically

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Speaker 2: still thirty nine.

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Speaker 1: Leading up to forty, this thirty ninth year, because this

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Speaker 1: is your fortieth year.

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Speaker 2: Forty year, and continue with the same energy, just letting

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Speaker 2: you know that now.

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Speaker 1: God, may I tell you, I don't know how you

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Speaker 1: can can continue with this energy?

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Speaker 2: Go ahead.

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Speaker 1: Number one, You traveled out of the country every month

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Speaker 1: since May. And the only reason why no since April

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Speaker 1: because in April I was in Canada. And the only

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Speaker 1: reason why we didn't go in January, februy March is

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Speaker 1: because we were on tour with the book and with

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Speaker 1: the podcast You Travel. You've traveled to a different country

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Speaker 1: every month. You saw Beyonce five times.

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Speaker 2: Why do you squint when you say it like that,

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Speaker 2: like you feel some kind of way that I saw.

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Speaker 1: I don't feel. Listen. I'm I'm an honorary Beehive member, honorary,

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Speaker 1: but I can't imagine seeing somebody perform five times one

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Speaker 1: calendar year.

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Speaker 2: It was a show, y'all. If you didn't go, sorry.

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Speaker 1: You went and saw Drake, you saw LLL, you saw

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Speaker 1: an Usher. In the last month, you went to Turks

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Speaker 1: and Kkos, you went to Jamaica.

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Speaker 2: Yep.

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Speaker 1: The reason why I'm bringing all this other stuff up

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Speaker 1: because it's my fortieth year. So when all of you

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Speaker 1: people will be like, Caden, does irve have that same energy?

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Speaker 1: Because now I'm turning forty, y'all better be in these

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Speaker 1: comments asking Kadeen, what are you doing for Daval for

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Speaker 1: his fortieth.

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Speaker 2: Baby, I can't wait. All you got to do is

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Speaker 2: say the word. The only thing that's whole to me

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Speaker 2: back it is potential gigs that you may be booking.

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Speaker 2: But baby, had you had a clear schedule, we'd be

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Speaker 2: somewhere every month.

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Speaker 1: We'd be going to see Beyonce every month for your birthday.

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Speaker 1: That's that's what would happened.

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Speaker 2: You missed like the highlight of the year, though, to

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Speaker 1: Travels, what was the highlight of the year.

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Speaker 2: The highlight was us together becoming New York Times best

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Speaker 2: selling authors. Oh, yes, you're having an amazing sold out

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Speaker 2: tour in multiple cities. Yes, I feel like that first

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Speaker 2: just set the tone for what that last year in

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Speaker 2: my thirties was going to look like.

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Speaker 1: That is very true. You had a very eventful and

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Speaker 2: And very auspicious for.

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Speaker 1: My Jamaicans and auspicious well. No, in all seriousness are

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Speaker 1: congratulations to you. Also seizing the moment because we talked

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Speaker 1: be one moment for your birthday, but taking the opportunity

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Speaker 1: every day leading up to your forty if the biggest

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Speaker 1: and that wasn't just for forty, that was just for

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Speaker 1: you really did a lot of things differently, and today

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Speaker 1: I want to discuss the purpose behind that and what

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Speaker 1: do you think you've gained by making all those changes

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Speaker 1: in the past year. I love that before we get

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Speaker 1: into all of that, we have karaoke. Karaoke time, and

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Speaker 1: since this episode is dedicated to you, I'm going to

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Speaker 1: let you go ahead and do your karaoke thing.

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Speaker 2: In retrospect, I should feel like I should have done

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Speaker 2: Beyonce song right coming.

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Speaker 3: Out of.

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Speaker 2: But I know, I know you're beyond. I'm sure a

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Speaker 2: kind of made sense. But since we're in a new year,

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Speaker 2: I'm actually go start with a throwback. This is this

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Speaker 2: meme going around or is like a video that says

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Speaker 2: it's like point of view. I'm that friend that when

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Speaker 2: you get in the car, you're always gonna hear old music.

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Speaker 2: I'm not listening to anything that's recent or new. You're

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Speaker 2: always gonna probably get some sort of like random nineties

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Speaker 2: to two thousand, R and B. So so, in thinking

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Speaker 2: of forty and me and who I am as a

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Speaker 2: woman here now, who I plan to continue to evolve into,

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Speaker 2: it came down to none other than the late the

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Speaker 2: Great Whitney Houston A everyone, It's all in me.

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Speaker 1: Anything leg.

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Speaker 2: I can cat suspect.

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Speaker 1: That reminds me you can go ahead.

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Speaker 2: Go ahead, go ahead inside of you anytime you feel.

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Speaker 1: That reminds me of my God. Saturday Mornings she ill

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Speaker 1: will wake up. It be like eight thirty. My mother up.

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Speaker 1: I smell of pine sol in the wind decks. She

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Speaker 1: get up. You gotta clean everybody, Get up, trauma and

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Speaker 1: on Saturday morning it was yes.

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Speaker 2: Kiss Yeah. All right, y'all, let's take a quick break.

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Speaker 2: We're gonna get back into meat to the show, which

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Speaker 2: is me talking about turning forty, reflecting on my last

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Speaker 2: year and what I'm looking forward to. I'll share a

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Speaker 1: Stay tuned, all right, So we're back, and my girl

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Speaker 1: Trouble came up with some facts and stats. I'm gonna

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Speaker 1: ask you these facts and stats, and you tell me

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Speaker 1: if these facts and stats are true.

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Speaker 2: Okay.

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Speaker 1: Number one, According to research, women at forty tend to

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Speaker 2: True? Like I at forty, I didn't feel the way

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Speaker 2: I expected to feel because it's just the thing that

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Speaker 2: In my forties now, I definitely just feel like I'm

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Speaker 2: And of course I'm still willing to learn and grow

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Speaker 2: many women I've spoken to, they say the forties, this

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Speaker 1: Yeah, when I think about the forties, I think about

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Speaker 1: Forty is when they kind of had that breakthrough where

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Speaker 2: If there's a power in being unapologetically who you want

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Speaker 2: just really genuinely sitting in that space of I like

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Speaker 2: because for so long I have always been the person

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Speaker 2: that looked at all the things that I haven't accomplished yet. Right.

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Speaker 2: There was one of our podcast live shows where someone asked,

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Speaker 2: some big things that you're going to do? And I'm

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Speaker 2: just kind of like, wow. I was always thinking about

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Speaker 2: want to do more and to be greater. And as

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Speaker 2: feel like that's something that's been highlighted for me in

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Speaker 2: was what eighteen, just about eighteen? Yeah, and you've always

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Speaker 2: pushed me to be more and to do more, and

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Speaker 1: Well, you've only been forty for about thirty nine days,

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Speaker 1: thirty nine down to the day, Yes, you know, December

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Speaker 1: fifth and today recording right now, and it is January fifteenth. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: so you forty days? About forty days, well, thirtays, thirty

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Speaker 2: So you've been mathematics.

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Speaker 1: You've been forty for forty one days. Have some questions

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Speaker 1: for you? Yeah, okay, well trouble it's going to help

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Speaker 1: me with these questions. But most of the conversation around

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Speaker 1: women turning forty tends to be around pre menopause, wag

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Speaker 1: gain and increase the beatle like that part, What are

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Speaker 1: some things you want to hear more about from women

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Speaker 1: we do have a platform where people are growing with us. Yes,

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Speaker 2: What I do want to hear more about is just

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Speaker 2: adamant about looking into what I've been consuming my body composition.

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Speaker 2: That's why on the prior season that we had here,

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Speaker 2: rid myself of the things that quote unquote run in

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Speaker 2: the family, my mom being the prime example of that.

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Speaker 2: You know, she's about twenty six years my senior. So

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Speaker 2: for looking at her and some of the things that

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Speaker 2: me to take an introspective look at myself to say, Man,

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Speaker 2: are there certain things that I can either eliminate from

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Speaker 1: You know, do you have any regrets? It's forty years

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Speaker 1: forty years you feel like there, I didn't do this,

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Speaker 1: or I wish I didn't do that. Is there anything

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Speaker 1: if I could have done this differently, I would have.

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Speaker 2: I know we've spoken several times about if we had

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Speaker 2: so early, I would have liked to see what my

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Speaker 2: I don't think it's a regret per se, because it

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Speaker 2: kind of inadvertently pushed me into this space that I'm

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Speaker 2: to like what I really want wanted to begin with,

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Speaker 2: Like I didn't want to be a talking head, news reporter, anchor,

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Speaker 1: Get that out of the way.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, because we had that five year gap between Jackson

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Speaker 2: So all I keep thinking is like, Damn, by the

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Speaker 2: time Dakota's like graduating college, I'm gonna be Damn, i'mnna

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Speaker 2: be well, I'm gonna be up there, think right, because

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Speaker 2: the Colda's two, I'm forty six from from college. From college,

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Speaker 1: One, twenty years, Yeah, graduate from and.

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Speaker 2: By the time he has children, I'm like, damn, I'm

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Speaker 1: Like he'd be sixty when you you talking, Like if

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Speaker 1: you if Coda graduated in twenty years, he'd be You'll

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Speaker 1: be sixty. You'd still be younger than your parents who

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Speaker 1: I'll be fine.

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Speaker 2: My boys and my family so much and I want

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Speaker 2: I want to do, like my be Like how my

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Speaker 1: How old is your dad?

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Speaker 2: My dad's seventy one?

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Speaker 1: How old is your mom sixty six? How old is

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Speaker 1: grandma eighty six? How old was Grandma Joseph when she passed?

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Speaker 2: She passed eighty two?

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Speaker 1: So realistically, the women in your life have lived to

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Speaker 1: be eighty, right, I mean you still have a whole

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Speaker 1: nother forty years of life left. True, So you have

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Speaker 1: thinking like dang, like I'm not even at the midway

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Speaker 1: point now, considering the fact that you are taking more

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Speaker 1: advantage of the knowledge you have, being less stressed, eating

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Speaker 1: better things that your grandparents and the women in your

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Speaker 1: family couldn't do. Right, But now you have those advantages,

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Speaker 1: so you can It's fair to say, you know what,

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Speaker 1: if all else is equal, I can live to eighty

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Speaker 1: plus plus ten years for sure, so that gives you

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Speaker 1: ninety plus So that means you have almost sixty more

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Speaker 1: years of life left, right, right?

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Speaker 2: Oh, Yeah, what would you like to.

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Speaker 1: See in those next sixty years.

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Speaker 2: I'm looking at the evolution of just myself as a

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Speaker 2: business woman, you know, first and forest is always going

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Speaker 2: to be you and the boys and my family, of course,

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Speaker 2: but continuing to see how I'm going to contribute to

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Speaker 2: building this legacy that we have for our boys. So

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Speaker 2: what's next from business standpoints? You and I continuing to

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Speaker 2: build an empire together where we can then sit back

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Speaker 2: and kind of just enjoy some time and some space together.

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Speaker 2: So that way, I'm not going to be in a

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Speaker 2: different country every month without you, right with different groups

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Speaker 1: But I was jealous. I was jealous, Yeah, because you

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Speaker 1: got a bikini. You know what I'm saying. I got

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Speaker 1: selfies every day. Every day. One thing I tell you

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Speaker 1: I wake up, I'm gonna give me some nice selfies

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Speaker 1: I can't show y'all. And throughout the days, you're gonna

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Speaker 1: take some pictures in them before you go to sleep.

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Speaker 1: I get some even nicer selfies and I can never

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Speaker 3: Bro.

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Speaker 1: So you that even though I was jealous you being away,

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Speaker 1: I would like to be.

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Speaker 2: But I want to take you along. I want us

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Speaker 2: to see the world. I want to show our boys

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Speaker 2: the world. I want to watch them grow. Yeah, I

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Speaker 2: want to travel more. I want to take our boys

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Speaker 2: moments like how we started the season talking about not

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Speaker 2: the beginning of the week to do things. I really

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Speaker 2: comes to sharing in social media, and I'm okay with that.

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Speaker 2: Those are some things that I really want to just

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Speaker 2: be connected in as I move into my forties. One

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Speaker 2: thing that you mentioned here was the increased librito weight

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Speaker 2: gain imperiment appause with stuff. I went to my obgin

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Speaker 2: for my checkup, my annual check up again, top of

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Speaker 2: the year thing. I used to do it at the

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Speaker 2: new year check up, and then seeing her, she told

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Speaker 2: me that I have to go for a mammogram at forty.

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Speaker 2: So that's one of the things that women, if you

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Speaker 2: don't know you look forward to having to do that

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Speaker 2: is I'm going for the first mammogram some women go

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Speaker 2: I haven't heard the best stories about mammograms, but some

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Speaker 2: people to say like it's uncomfortable. You know, you're pretty

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Speaker 2: much in a machine that was gonna squeeze your breast

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Speaker 2: true or not, but you know, based off self exams

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Speaker 2: those things that's preventive, right, so you just go every

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Speaker 3: Its true that they're going to smash your breast in

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Speaker 3: the mammogram, And what makes it even worse is that

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Speaker 3: when they're doing the mammogram, they're taking the picture, they're

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Speaker 3: smashing your titty and you have to hold your breath.

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Speaker 3: Oh wow, they're doing it, So it's like the most

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Speaker 2: Super awkward, So you smash my titty into a pancake

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Speaker 2: and I have to hold my breast multaneously when normally,

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Speaker 2: when things like this happen, the only way you can

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Speaker 1: Bathing.

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Speaker 2: So I'm it's giving like niggas be passing out.

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Speaker 1: Well, I mean you only you only pass out if

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Speaker 1: you're not aware, So you shall practice. So when we

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Speaker 1: squeze your titties. Now when if you're about to pass out,

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna let go and tell you, yo, yo, you

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Speaker 1: almost passed out. So let's let's practice this more often, you.

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Speaker 2: Know, and I can tell my my I had a man,

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Speaker 2: My graham, my man, my man, My grammed me and

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Speaker 2: all's well on the home front. Also increase higher libido.

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Speaker 2: I've spoken about finally you having the visect to me

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Speaker 2: libido spikes in the forties. I'm not sure what that is.

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Speaker 2: If it's just the changes in hormones, being perimenopausal, all

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Speaker 1: That.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it is premenopause when you start basically having menopausal symptoms,

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Speaker 3: but that menopause is defined as having not had a

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Speaker 3: it can be intermittent.

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Speaker 2: Oh so you may have a period like one month

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Speaker 3: You still have your period, but you start having more

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Speaker 2: Yeah, man, more hormonal changes in the forties.

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Speaker 1: I'm dealing with hormonal changes since you was a teenager.

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Speaker 1: But eighteen to twenty was hormonal changes pregnancy, all of

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Speaker 2: Imagine us having to or me having to actually deal

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Speaker 2: You need to support hold my hand.

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Speaker 1: I need to support, oh my hand because now it's

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Speaker 1: gonna be I gotta understand this too, because you're going

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Speaker 1: to do so once again, gentlemen, we're gonna have to understand.

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Speaker 2: Well I will, We're gonna have to understand now in

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Speaker 2: my forties, I want to expect you to always understand.

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Speaker 2: But what I will do is overly communicate how I'm

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Speaker 2: you can also express to me the things that you

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Speaker 2: I had her together. You should get a prize because.

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Speaker 1: Think about after perimenopause is actual menopause. Then I gotta

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Speaker 1: go through that with you.

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Speaker 2: Just take me on a trip. I think it'll be fine.

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Speaker 1: Look, that solves everything. She was on trips all last year.

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Speaker 2: I ain't solving anything on a trip, and I think

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Speaker 2: I'll be fine. I think I'll be fine. Yeah, are

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Speaker 2: always going to be the answer. But yeah, also, so

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Speaker 2: we talked about that weight gain. I've, like I said,

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Speaker 2: been super super sensitive about the things that I'm eating,

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Speaker 2: the things that I'm consuming. You and I are barely

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Speaker 2: recognizable when it comes to what we're eating now, Like

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Speaker 2: I couldn't believe it, and I didn't think that you

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Speaker 1: Yeah, you're gonna do it. I'm gonna do it so

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Speaker 1: that it's easier. It's worse than changing your diet, but

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Speaker 1: Let me just get a little piece. Oh, let's just

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Speaker 2: It's like the whole household has has changed. So I

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Speaker 2: just embrace the body that I have in age gracefully.

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00:21:11,080 --> 00:21:13,040
Speaker 2: You know, people still gonna tell me my buddy button

440
00:21:13,040 --> 00:21:15,560
Speaker 2: looks funny or that's the rumor.

441
00:21:16,640 --> 00:21:19,280
Speaker 1: But it's the same belly button since I met her

442
00:21:19,359 --> 00:21:22,240
Speaker 1: when she was eighteen. It's the same belly buttony.

443
00:21:22,520 --> 00:21:25,359
Speaker 2: Don't even try to continue to explain it. One thing

444
00:21:25,400 --> 00:21:27,440
Speaker 2: I'm not gonna do in my forties, y'all is argue

445
00:21:27,480 --> 00:21:29,960
Speaker 2: with anybody and go back and forth in comments about

446
00:21:30,000 --> 00:21:33,560
Speaker 2: my fucking belly button. It's the belly button I was

447
00:21:33,560 --> 00:21:36,560
Speaker 2: born with. So for all of the tummy tuck rumors

448
00:21:36,720 --> 00:21:38,679
Speaker 2: and oh the belly button look man made and it

449
00:21:38,720 --> 00:21:41,160
Speaker 2: looks funny, my stomach's gonna look funny because I had

450
00:21:41,160 --> 00:21:44,200
Speaker 2: four kids. Like, I don't know anybody who's had four

451
00:21:44,280 --> 00:21:47,119
Speaker 2: children whose stomach just looks completely normal, like they're in

452
00:21:47,160 --> 00:21:49,920
Speaker 2: their twenties, hey, man, Like, it's just not a thing.

453
00:21:50,160 --> 00:21:54,120
Speaker 2: So between that and having the diastasius recti and having

454
00:21:54,160 --> 00:21:57,040
Speaker 2: the protrusion, one minute, people think I'm pregnant again. The

455
00:21:57,080 --> 00:21:59,440
Speaker 2: next minute people think I had a tummy tuck. Y'all

456
00:21:59,480 --> 00:22:01,159
Speaker 2: pick pick us. But what I'm not gonna do is

457
00:22:01,200 --> 00:22:04,359
Speaker 2: go back and forth with nobody about my damn belly button. Period.

458
00:22:04,600 --> 00:22:05,800
Speaker 2: I just maybe that's forty.

459
00:22:05,920 --> 00:22:09,159
Speaker 1: I've never looked at a picture and focused on a

460
00:22:09,200 --> 00:22:11,320
Speaker 1: belly button. I've never done it. I don't know what

461
00:22:11,359 --> 00:22:13,040
Speaker 1: it is, bro, I don't know what.

462
00:22:13,240 --> 00:22:17,040
Speaker 2: And it's literally other women just picking women apart, and

463
00:22:17,040 --> 00:22:17,440
Speaker 2: they be.

464
00:22:17,440 --> 00:22:22,280
Speaker 1: Wrong and strong man, loud and proud. I'll be seeing

465
00:22:22,280 --> 00:22:24,240
Speaker 1: some of the comments. I know that's a fake belly button.

466
00:22:24,280 --> 00:22:26,200
Speaker 1: I can tell because my cousin got the same.

467
00:22:26,400 --> 00:22:29,720
Speaker 2: The stomach looked like this. You know how, I think

468
00:22:29,800 --> 00:22:31,359
Speaker 2: no stomachs look the same.

469
00:22:33,680 --> 00:22:36,080
Speaker 1: I gotta say this, say this, and look at the camera.

470
00:22:37,000 --> 00:22:40,760
Speaker 1: That is her belly button, Bro, I don't care how

471
00:22:41,200 --> 00:22:45,000
Speaker 1: that is her belly button. Okay, Kadeen did not get

472
00:22:45,000 --> 00:22:48,080
Speaker 1: a tummy tuck. Trust me, if Kadeen would have got

473
00:22:48,080 --> 00:22:50,480
Speaker 1: a tummy talk, she still wouldn't have the little protrusion

474
00:22:50,480 --> 00:22:53,679
Speaker 1: from the this Saty's wrecked eigh. We know this because

475
00:22:53,680 --> 00:22:54,840
Speaker 1: she thought about it.

476
00:22:54,960 --> 00:22:55,320
Speaker 2: I did.

477
00:22:55,440 --> 00:22:58,760
Speaker 1: She thought. She literally said, Babe, after four kids, do

478
00:22:58,800 --> 00:23:00,879
Speaker 1: you think it should be good to have a tummy

479
00:23:00,880 --> 00:23:02,840
Speaker 1: Tuck and we talked about it. I was just like,

480
00:23:02,960 --> 00:23:04,800
Speaker 1: I don't know, because then you're gonna be out of commission,

481
00:23:04,840 --> 00:23:06,560
Speaker 1: and I think you can just work through it. Me

482
00:23:06,800 --> 00:23:09,520
Speaker 1: being an exercise person, I was like, Yo, if we

483
00:23:09,640 --> 00:23:11,760
Speaker 1: do what we gotta do together in the gym, been

484
00:23:11,800 --> 00:23:13,920
Speaker 1: doing and we've been doing, I feel like you can

485
00:23:13,920 --> 00:23:16,359
Speaker 1: get back. And last year, that's another thing we forgot.

486
00:23:16,480 --> 00:23:18,960
Speaker 1: Last year, you walked in Fashion Week, which is something

487
00:23:19,000 --> 00:23:21,120
Speaker 1: that you that was huge for you and you will.

488
00:23:21,160 --> 00:23:25,240
Speaker 1: You're thirty nine going into forty, and a large part

489
00:23:25,320 --> 00:23:27,760
Speaker 1: of us changing was because we wanted you to be

490
00:23:27,840 --> 00:23:30,880
Speaker 1: at the best version of yourself walking on that point

491
00:23:30,880 --> 00:23:34,080
Speaker 1: at that stage, and you achieved that, like you were

492
00:23:34,080 --> 00:23:35,920
Speaker 1: out here and when it was hot, because the Fast

493
00:23:35,920 --> 00:23:39,880
Speaker 1: Show was in September. Jackson started football in July and August.

494
00:23:40,160 --> 00:23:43,320
Speaker 1: Me and Jackson every week, twice a week, we'll go

495
00:23:43,320 --> 00:23:44,920
Speaker 1: to that field and we will be running. It'd be

496
00:23:44,960 --> 00:23:47,760
Speaker 1: one hundred and fifteen degrees out there. I got the harness,

497
00:23:47,760 --> 00:23:49,640
Speaker 1: I got all this other stuff. I'm pulling k back

498
00:23:49,920 --> 00:23:51,840
Speaker 1: she running, So I know it would be annoying to

499
00:23:51,920 --> 00:23:54,480
Speaker 1: you to do all of that shit only for people

500
00:23:54,480 --> 00:23:55,720
Speaker 1: to go out there and be like, noa like her

501
00:23:55,720 --> 00:23:58,320
Speaker 1: stomach of belly button fake? Nah, fuck y'all. A belly

502
00:23:58,359 --> 00:24:00,920
Speaker 1: button our fake because if it was, we wouldn't have

503
00:24:00,960 --> 00:24:03,800
Speaker 1: been out there with that damn heat running on the

504
00:24:03,920 --> 00:24:04,639
Speaker 1: freaking field.

505
00:24:04,680 --> 00:24:06,560
Speaker 2: That's the fact. Would have skipped all that.

506
00:24:06,920 --> 00:24:09,000
Speaker 1: Seriously though, Like seriously, now.

507
00:24:08,960 --> 00:24:10,560
Speaker 2: If you'll tell me my arms look a little fat,

508
00:24:10,560 --> 00:24:13,200
Speaker 2: that is true because I do neglect my upper body.

509
00:24:13,240 --> 00:24:15,080
Speaker 2: And I've been saying that's one of my goals this year.

510
00:24:15,119 --> 00:24:17,520
Speaker 2: I've been telling upper body WORKOUTSK.

511
00:24:17,080 --> 00:24:20,119
Speaker 1: We'll go into the gym and squat and lunge and

512
00:24:20,240 --> 00:24:23,240
Speaker 1: deadlifts and life depends on it. And I'd be like,

513
00:24:23,240 --> 00:24:26,840
Speaker 1: what you do for body? Oh, I did some ball twist,

514
00:24:27,600 --> 00:24:30,560
Speaker 1: but that's not an upper body workout.

515
00:24:30,600 --> 00:24:32,200
Speaker 2: No. Upper body is just so boring to me. So

516
00:24:32,200 --> 00:24:34,200
Speaker 2: I'm gonna challenge myself this year and do more upper

517
00:24:34,200 --> 00:24:36,440
Speaker 2: body because I don't want to have them like arms,

518
00:24:36,480 --> 00:24:38,000
Speaker 2: you know what I'm saying. And I do see some

519
00:24:38,040 --> 00:24:39,880
Speaker 2: size in my arms, so I mean you you do.

520
00:24:39,880 --> 00:24:42,000
Speaker 1: See some size, but that ain't But you know what

521
00:24:42,119 --> 00:24:46,520
Speaker 1: sexy though? What that a nice chisel back a woman

522
00:24:46,600 --> 00:24:50,080
Speaker 1: that's lately big with like them thighs and them glose

523
00:24:50,119 --> 00:24:51,560
Speaker 1: and and everything in her back.

524
00:24:53,920 --> 00:24:56,080
Speaker 2: And the low back dresses and stuff like that. That's

525
00:24:56,080 --> 00:24:58,240
Speaker 2: what I'm gonna work challenge myself for. Like, by the

526
00:24:58,280 --> 00:25:00,639
Speaker 2: time the summer comes, I'm gonna do more upper body

527
00:25:00,640 --> 00:25:03,040
Speaker 2: and back stuff because that made my challenge. Like I

528
00:25:03,080 --> 00:25:04,840
Speaker 2: got pretty much all my weight, like you know, the

529
00:25:04,920 --> 00:25:07,320
Speaker 2: strength back in my legs, my core is getting that

530
00:25:07,440 --> 00:25:10,280
Speaker 2: much better. So Yeah'm gonna I'm gonna work on that, y'all.

531
00:25:10,280 --> 00:25:11,760
Speaker 2: I'm gonna work on that. And any day I do

532
00:25:11,840 --> 00:25:14,520
Speaker 2: do a BBL or tummy tuck, just know I'm gonna

533
00:25:14,520 --> 00:25:15,560
Speaker 2: get my hip dips filled.

534
00:25:15,560 --> 00:25:17,160
Speaker 1: That's how you're not gettel.

535
00:25:17,520 --> 00:25:20,960
Speaker 2: How you'll know my body done is if I got

536
00:25:20,960 --> 00:25:23,520
Speaker 2: my If I get hips all of a sudden, I know, because.

537
00:25:23,280 --> 00:25:26,479
Speaker 1: You're here looking like a wisdom tooth, I know there

538
00:25:26,520 --> 00:25:28,880
Speaker 1: will be no hip hops feeling look like a wisdom tooth.

539
00:25:28,920 --> 00:25:31,640
Speaker 1: Here's my thing. I have no problems with plastic surgery.

540
00:25:31,760 --> 00:25:34,239
Speaker 1: A woman get plastic surgery or for whatever, good. But

541
00:25:34,280 --> 00:25:37,600
Speaker 1: my thing is you gotta look like a human still. Yes,

542
00:25:37,920 --> 00:25:40,880
Speaker 1: you can't walk around looking like a wisdom tooth. It's

543
00:25:40,920 --> 00:25:45,960
Speaker 1: just not attractive. Hips wider than your shoulders. Right, I'm

544
00:25:45,960 --> 00:25:47,840
Speaker 1: not for the hip dips. I'm not for the hip dips.

545
00:25:47,840 --> 00:25:51,560
Speaker 1: Now a woman give her dedicate her life to having kids,

546
00:25:51,840 --> 00:25:55,120
Speaker 1: stretch marks, calm, things fall because of gravity. You can't

547
00:25:56,520 --> 00:25:58,800
Speaker 1: I get it. I get it. And it's and men

548
00:25:58,880 --> 00:26:01,320
Speaker 1: can't be judging women how their bodies changed. We never

549
00:26:01,359 --> 00:26:02,200
Speaker 1: have that kids, and.

550
00:26:02,160 --> 00:26:04,920
Speaker 2: Women shouldn't be judging it. We already know the struggles.

551
00:26:05,240 --> 00:26:06,840
Speaker 2: I know we shouldn't be, but we should know the

552
00:26:06,840 --> 00:26:08,639
Speaker 2: struggle that we deal with, whether it's a little bit

553
00:26:08,640 --> 00:26:11,440
Speaker 2: of weight gain just because, or if it's weight gain

554
00:26:11,480 --> 00:26:15,440
Speaker 2: from children, or you know, saggy skin and stretch marks

555
00:26:15,440 --> 00:26:19,080
Speaker 2: and all that. Thankfully genetic genetically, I think I lucked

556
00:26:19,119 --> 00:26:21,160
Speaker 2: out because my mom has not one stretch mark from

557
00:26:21,160 --> 00:26:24,320
Speaker 2: three kids. Her skin is like, yeah, my grandmother's skin

558
00:26:24,400 --> 00:26:27,080
Speaker 2: is like but so thankfully I didn't end up too

559
00:26:27,080 --> 00:26:28,639
Speaker 2: bad with the stretch mark department. I have some of

560
00:26:28,800 --> 00:26:29,600
Speaker 2: my thighs and my but.

561
00:26:29,680 --> 00:26:33,320
Speaker 1: I've never once looked at a stretch mark. Yeah, I've

562
00:26:33,320 --> 00:26:35,800
Speaker 1: never not once. You've had stretch marks since you were nineteen,

563
00:26:36,600 --> 00:26:39,840
Speaker 1: You've had your booty, your hips. You're right here. You

564
00:26:39,840 --> 00:26:41,720
Speaker 1: always say, I've never once looked at the trench marks

565
00:26:41,760 --> 00:26:42,960
Speaker 1: and be like, oh, I can't.

566
00:26:42,800 --> 00:26:46,040
Speaker 2: Even and shout out to my mom and my aunts

567
00:26:46,080 --> 00:26:48,320
Speaker 2: and my grandma because we all got booties on that side.

568
00:26:48,480 --> 00:26:51,480
Speaker 1: So yes, that's another thing to Cale did not get

569
00:26:51,480 --> 00:26:53,840
Speaker 1: her butt done now. I will say this though, I

570
00:26:53,840 --> 00:26:56,520
Speaker 1: will say this the top of the year. Last year,

571
00:26:56,960 --> 00:27:00,840
Speaker 1: when we started working, kve been doing squats like religiously,

572
00:27:01,080 --> 00:27:04,439
Speaker 1: and when I mean squats heavyweight because this is the

573
00:27:04,480 --> 00:27:06,560
Speaker 1: first time after I had to resect me. Kate was like, Yo,

574
00:27:06,600 --> 00:27:08,960
Speaker 1: I'm not having no more kids. Let's get into get

575
00:27:08,960 --> 00:27:12,680
Speaker 1: in this body right. We've been doing heavyweight squats, goblet squats,

576
00:27:12,720 --> 00:27:16,680
Speaker 1: sumo squats, body weight squats, single leg squats, hungarian squats,

577
00:27:17,560 --> 00:27:21,880
Speaker 1: r DLS, hydrants, RDL's Romanian dead list, we do straight

578
00:27:21,960 --> 00:27:26,320
Speaker 1: leg deadlist, we do hydrants. You got yeah, everything everything.

579
00:27:26,359 --> 00:27:28,320
Speaker 1: So your legs look completely different.

580
00:27:28,000 --> 00:27:30,240
Speaker 2: Than still not even where I want them to be at.

581
00:27:30,280 --> 00:27:32,640
Speaker 2: My legs still got a little fat that I'm trying

582
00:27:32,680 --> 00:27:34,680
Speaker 2: to I'm trying to get a knee cat. I never

583
00:27:34,720 --> 00:27:36,160
Speaker 2: had a knee cap in my life, so that's another

584
00:27:36,160 --> 00:27:37,280
Speaker 2: goal of mine, to get a lean cat.

585
00:27:37,280 --> 00:27:39,040
Speaker 1: I'm gonna be honest, I ain't never wanted you to

586
00:27:39,080 --> 00:27:41,160
Speaker 1: have a a cat I'm fine.

587
00:27:41,560 --> 00:27:43,439
Speaker 2: You see how use women pick ourselves apart, even in

588
00:27:43,480 --> 00:27:45,639
Speaker 2: our forties. We still do. We still do. It's just

589
00:27:45,640 --> 00:27:46,480
Speaker 2: what happens.

590
00:27:46,840 --> 00:27:48,520
Speaker 1: But yeah, you just pick yourself apart.

591
00:27:48,560 --> 00:27:49,239
Speaker 2: I do. I do.

592
00:27:49,320 --> 00:27:50,720
Speaker 1: And I'm here to tell you to chill out.

593
00:27:50,960 --> 00:27:53,040
Speaker 2: Thank you, chill out? Hey, if you like it? I

594
00:27:53,080 --> 00:27:53,480
Speaker 2: love it?

595
00:27:53,760 --> 00:27:55,720
Speaker 1: Oh, I love it. Can't you tell we got full

596
00:27:55,800 --> 00:27:58,840
Speaker 1: boys here? Because I love it so much? Oh my gosh,

597
00:27:59,680 --> 00:28:02,359
Speaker 1: I got I got one more question for you. Okay,

598
00:28:04,320 --> 00:28:08,440
Speaker 1: have you already experienced any physical or mental changes since

599
00:28:08,440 --> 00:28:10,680
Speaker 1: turning forty forty one days ago?

600
00:28:12,800 --> 00:28:16,920
Speaker 2: Physical changes, I will say overall, I have a lot

601
00:28:16,960 --> 00:28:20,240
Speaker 2: more energy, but it could also just be the change

602
00:28:20,240 --> 00:28:22,480
Speaker 2: that I've made in like my diet and the way

603
00:28:22,480 --> 00:28:24,720
Speaker 2: I eat and stuff like that, and also prioritize and

604
00:28:24,720 --> 00:28:27,240
Speaker 2: sleep like I'm no longer subscribing to Team No Sleep.

605
00:28:27,760 --> 00:28:29,840
Speaker 2: Give me my pillow, give me my bed, I'm going

606
00:28:29,880 --> 00:28:31,800
Speaker 2: to sleep. I'm taking this snap. I'm going to do that.

607
00:28:31,960 --> 00:28:35,840
Speaker 2: So other than that, nothing super physically. Mentally, I just

608
00:28:35,840 --> 00:28:38,480
Speaker 2: feel like I'm in a good place. I just feel

609
00:28:38,480 --> 00:28:40,120
Speaker 2: like I'm in a good place. And how It's like,

610
00:28:40,440 --> 00:28:43,560
Speaker 2: how can I not be? God has blessed me? Immensely.

611
00:28:43,680 --> 00:28:45,840
Speaker 2: He's shown me all the favor in my life. Yeah,

612
00:28:45,880 --> 00:28:48,040
Speaker 2: you know, I have you by my side every day.

613
00:28:48,480 --> 00:28:50,160
Speaker 2: On days that I feel like I don't want to,

614
00:28:50,760 --> 00:28:52,200
Speaker 2: you know, I might being a little rut er. I'm

615
00:28:52,200 --> 00:28:54,480
Speaker 2: trying to figure out what's next. Like You're just like, babe,

616
00:28:54,480 --> 00:28:57,760
Speaker 2: go do it. I got you. You've always found ways

617
00:28:57,800 --> 00:29:00,000
Speaker 2: to make sure that my life was that much easier

618
00:29:00,520 --> 00:29:02,280
Speaker 2: so I can just do the things that I really

619
00:29:02,320 --> 00:29:07,719
Speaker 2: want to do for myself and for my family. I

620
00:29:07,760 --> 00:29:09,800
Speaker 2: love you for that. So I have to say, even

621
00:29:09,840 --> 00:29:12,760
Speaker 2: though I turned forty and it was a huge milestone

622
00:29:12,760 --> 00:29:15,920
Speaker 2: in my life, you asked me what I wanted to

623
00:29:15,960 --> 00:29:17,520
Speaker 2: do when you thought maybe I wanted to have a

624
00:29:17,600 --> 00:29:20,680
Speaker 2: huge birthday party with a ton of people, because historically

625
00:29:20,680 --> 00:29:22,520
Speaker 2: that's how we've done things. You know, all the kids'

626
00:29:22,560 --> 00:29:24,719
Speaker 2: first birthday parties were at least two hundred people. They

627
00:29:24,760 --> 00:29:27,640
Speaker 2: were huge, and I'm like, no, in this season of life,

628
00:29:27,680 --> 00:29:32,040
Speaker 2: I just want my core people. I want time with you.

629
00:29:32,680 --> 00:29:34,480
Speaker 2: So you took me to Vegas. We had a nice

630
00:29:34,520 --> 00:29:36,560
Speaker 2: little weekend or a couple of days, you know, to

631
00:29:36,600 --> 00:29:40,480
Speaker 2: see usher. I wanted to be with my boys, my parents,

632
00:29:40,760 --> 00:29:42,520
Speaker 2: you know, my brother and my sister and my family

633
00:29:42,600 --> 00:29:44,880
Speaker 2: was like, Yo, we want to celebrate you. Let's go

634
00:29:44,880 --> 00:29:47,080
Speaker 2: to Jamaica. My girls were like, hey, we want to

635
00:29:47,120 --> 00:29:49,520
Speaker 2: take you away to Turks. Like it was really nice

636
00:29:49,600 --> 00:29:51,720
Speaker 2: to be in those moments, to be loved on in

637
00:29:51,760 --> 00:29:54,959
Speaker 2: that way. You know, day to day you see people, family, friends,

638
00:29:55,000 --> 00:29:58,640
Speaker 2: and you enjoy their space, you say hello, you touch base.

639
00:29:58,720 --> 00:30:02,880
Speaker 2: But it's different when people purposefully come together to celebrate

640
00:30:02,960 --> 00:30:04,800
Speaker 2: you in all of your favorite things, and it makes

641
00:30:04,800 --> 00:30:08,480
Speaker 2: you feel that much more seen, that much more appreciated.

642
00:30:08,600 --> 00:30:12,760
Speaker 2: So shout out to you, to my family, to my

643
00:30:12,960 --> 00:30:16,640
Speaker 2: core group of girlfriends that took me away and really

644
00:30:16,680 --> 00:30:20,080
Speaker 2: just loved on me. Like the end of twenty twenty

645
00:30:20,120 --> 00:30:24,080
Speaker 2: three for me and the end of my thirties was like,

646
00:30:24,880 --> 00:30:28,200
Speaker 2: I wish that everybody can go out that way. We'll

647
00:30:28,280 --> 00:30:28,840
Speaker 2: not go out there.

648
00:30:30,000 --> 00:30:32,280
Speaker 1: I'll make turn the forties seem like you just transition

649
00:30:32,440 --> 00:30:34,960
Speaker 1: to afterlight. I would be everybody can go out the

650
00:30:35,000 --> 00:30:37,440
Speaker 1: way I would. I would have My friends was around me,

651
00:30:37,560 --> 00:30:40,240
Speaker 1: my family, they held it down. You know, I appreciate

652
00:30:40,320 --> 00:30:41,520
Speaker 1: them last days.

653
00:30:41,320 --> 00:30:43,840
Speaker 2: Sending me off into my forties. I forgot that that

654
00:30:44,360 --> 00:30:45,320
Speaker 2: was the right way to say it.

655
00:30:45,360 --> 00:30:46,880
Speaker 1: But you know what, I mean I got to go

656
00:30:46,920 --> 00:30:48,880
Speaker 1: out like that, you know, it was a lot, you know,

657
00:30:49,000 --> 00:30:49,440
Speaker 1: and then.

658
00:30:49,320 --> 00:30:51,560
Speaker 2: My thirties with the bank, and now I'm looking forward

659
00:30:51,600 --> 00:30:54,000
Speaker 2: to celebrating you, sir. So we're going to talk about

660
00:30:54,000 --> 00:30:57,880
Speaker 2: what you're looking forward to in another podcast going into Hopefully.

661
00:30:57,560 --> 00:30:59,520
Speaker 1: I get a chance to go out like you went out.

662
00:31:00,280 --> 00:31:03,440
Speaker 1: You know, we can have everybody come together and mourn

663
00:31:05,040 --> 00:31:07,680
Speaker 1: the last thirty nine years because that was.

664
00:31:09,320 --> 00:31:09,480
Speaker 3: YO.

665
00:31:09,680 --> 00:31:12,160
Speaker 1: Listening to y'all talk about forty, I'm to tell you now,

666
00:31:12,240 --> 00:31:14,000
Speaker 1: I ain't looking at forty like that. It's gonna be

667
00:31:14,000 --> 00:31:15,040
Speaker 1: a motherfucker party.

668
00:31:15,200 --> 00:31:19,520
Speaker 2: It is exciting, though, I'm super excited, But I say

669
00:31:19,520 --> 00:31:21,520
Speaker 2: that to say there's people who do feel like forty

670
00:31:21,600 --> 00:31:23,040
Speaker 2: is like the end, and I just want you to

671
00:31:23,080 --> 00:31:26,200
Speaker 2: know that it's not. It's literally the beginning. It's the

672
00:31:26,240 --> 00:31:28,440
Speaker 2: idea of getting older, especially as women, you think things

673
00:31:28,440 --> 00:31:30,080
Speaker 2: are going to fall apart, gravity is going to be

674
00:31:30,080 --> 00:31:32,720
Speaker 2: against you, like, there's so many things that you're thinking about.

675
00:31:33,800 --> 00:31:36,480
Speaker 2: But I am looking forward to doing all the things

676
00:31:36,520 --> 00:31:39,560
Speaker 2: with you by my side and my boys and our family.

677
00:31:39,880 --> 00:31:41,440
Speaker 1: So that's what's up. That's what's up.

678
00:31:41,560 --> 00:31:41,760
Speaker 3: Nah.

679
00:31:41,800 --> 00:31:43,000
Speaker 1: I appreciate you, baby.

680
00:31:42,760 --> 00:31:44,200
Speaker 2: You Yah. I appreciate you.

681
00:31:44,200 --> 00:31:47,880
Speaker 1: You You are exactly where I thought you were going

682
00:31:47,920 --> 00:31:54,200
Speaker 1: to be at forty really accomplished fine, a mother, thank you, fine,

683
00:31:54,880 --> 00:32:01,120
Speaker 1: uh intelligent, fine, taken care of fine. This is where

684
00:32:01,120 --> 00:32:02,840
Speaker 1: I thought you were going to be a forty fine,

685
00:32:02,920 --> 00:32:05,440
Speaker 1: and I think you're going to be there at fifty

686
00:32:05,520 --> 00:32:09,920
Speaker 1: and sixty and seventy. And I just I'm not Age

687
00:32:10,000 --> 00:32:11,480
Speaker 1: means nothing to me, the same way I don't care

688
00:32:11,480 --> 00:32:13,560
Speaker 1: that much about the New Year, right, I don't care

689
00:32:13,560 --> 00:32:15,520
Speaker 1: about a number. I just know where we are. And

690
00:32:15,520 --> 00:32:17,640
Speaker 1: it's just like, let's enjoy, embrace alet of this song.

691
00:32:17,760 --> 00:32:20,560
Speaker 2: Let's do it together. Baby. I'm excited, I'm excited about you,

692
00:32:20,600 --> 00:32:23,280
Speaker 2: and I just like, in a sense aging backwards, right,

693
00:32:23,360 --> 00:32:26,200
Speaker 2: just kind of leaving our worries and troubles behind and

694
00:32:26,280 --> 00:32:30,120
Speaker 2: just like enjoying it, enjoying it the positivity around aging.

695
00:32:30,280 --> 00:32:33,040
Speaker 2: So I love that for us.

696
00:32:33,240 --> 00:32:37,320
Speaker 1: Let's all take a quick break while we unpacked. You know,

697
00:32:37,440 --> 00:32:40,680
Speaker 1: everything that happened in the last thirty nine years that

698
00:32:40,760 --> 00:32:43,640
Speaker 1: we had to let Kate go and come back, and

699
00:32:43,680 --> 00:32:47,080
Speaker 1: we're gonna unpack that while we pay some ads. You know,

700
00:32:47,160 --> 00:32:50,200
Speaker 1: it was rough first thirty nine. We went out, we

701
00:32:50,240 --> 00:32:51,920
Speaker 1: went out though we went out like a check like.

702
00:32:54,480 --> 00:32:56,080
Speaker 2: Chick around, y'all, we'll be back.

703
00:33:06,160 --> 00:33:08,960
Speaker 1: All right, So we're back. I've been taking a quick

704
00:33:09,000 --> 00:33:16,120
Speaker 1: break back. We are discussing turning forty m and since

705
00:33:16,160 --> 00:33:19,520
Speaker 1: I'm still thirty nine, I don't think I'm worthy of

706
00:33:19,560 --> 00:33:21,320
Speaker 1: reading the first list of the letter. I'll let you.

707
00:33:21,440 --> 00:33:23,480
Speaker 1: I'll let you read the first listen to letters. Is

708
00:33:23,520 --> 00:33:25,040
Speaker 1: you put all these years into life?

709
00:33:25,240 --> 00:33:29,120
Speaker 2: Listen mad years and mad days above you? So let

710
00:33:29,160 --> 00:33:32,880
Speaker 2: me go first. Thank you, Hey, Kadeina devoured. First off,

711
00:33:32,920 --> 00:33:34,400
Speaker 2: I want to start by saying how much I love

712
00:33:34,440 --> 00:33:36,760
Speaker 2: watching you and the boys. We have a lot of

713
00:33:37,040 --> 00:33:40,080
Speaker 2: the same opinions on life and being despite me being

714
00:33:40,080 --> 00:33:42,920
Speaker 2: only twenty four. I know to y'all I'm a baby,

715
00:33:43,000 --> 00:33:45,880
Speaker 2: Yes you are. But I'm married and I've been for

716
00:33:45,920 --> 00:33:46,800
Speaker 2: almost six years.

717
00:33:47,000 --> 00:33:47,600
Speaker 1: That's what's up.

718
00:33:47,680 --> 00:33:51,720
Speaker 2: Oh wow, six years eighteen Okay, very similar. You guys

719
00:33:51,720 --> 00:33:53,760
Speaker 2: have inspired me in more ways than you can think.

720
00:33:53,800 --> 00:33:56,760
Speaker 2: And recently I think I found evidence of my husband cheating,

721
00:33:56,840 --> 00:34:00,880
Speaker 2: Lord cheating come stains on the bottom of his shirt,

722
00:34:02,080 --> 00:34:03,960
Speaker 2: and when I brought it to his attention, he denied

723
00:34:04,280 --> 00:34:07,040
Speaker 2: and reassured me that there was nothing going on. I

724
00:34:07,080 --> 00:34:10,520
Speaker 2: know I'm not stupid, and I know I know what

725
00:34:10,600 --> 00:34:16,279
Speaker 2: quickiecumstains look like. Okay, might I add this has been

726
00:34:16,280 --> 00:34:18,640
Speaker 2: going on for about three months now, on and off,

727
00:34:18,680 --> 00:34:22,560
Speaker 2: once or twice a week or so. Every week. He

728
00:34:22,680 --> 00:34:25,600
Speaker 2: never has a good excuse as to what it is.

729
00:34:25,760 --> 00:34:28,879
Speaker 2: It's always I don't know. I had a borderline panic

730
00:34:28,920 --> 00:34:31,840
Speaker 2: attack because I have two small children twenty one months

731
00:34:31,880 --> 00:34:33,319
Speaker 2: and four months a while.

732
00:34:33,320 --> 00:34:35,279
Speaker 1: It's like super back to back, and.

733
00:34:35,239 --> 00:34:37,640
Speaker 2: Even though I don't believe in staying in relationships for children,

734
00:34:37,800 --> 00:34:42,799
Speaker 2: making relationship decisions with children is hard. Nonetheless, there has

735
00:34:42,920 --> 00:34:45,480
Speaker 2: been infidelity on his part in the past, and even

736
00:34:45,560 --> 00:34:48,600
Speaker 2: though it's been years since I've had suspicion, a bunch

737
00:34:48,680 --> 00:34:51,320
Speaker 2: of things are running through my mind as to why

738
00:34:51,360 --> 00:34:54,280
Speaker 2: this would be going on again. It's hard to believe

739
00:34:54,280 --> 00:34:56,440
Speaker 2: that he would actually do something like this and break

740
00:34:56,480 --> 00:35:00,440
Speaker 2: our family. Plus, I believe cheating is so childish. Single

741
00:35:00,920 --> 00:35:03,719
Speaker 2: or at least communicate that you're not happy and are

742
00:35:03,760 --> 00:35:07,399
Speaker 2: interested in seeing other people because we've been together so long.

743
00:35:07,520 --> 00:35:10,120
Speaker 2: For me, I would have to leave mentally before I

744
00:35:10,200 --> 00:35:12,800
Speaker 2: leave physically. So my question is, do you guys have

745
00:35:12,880 --> 00:35:16,040
Speaker 2: any advice on choosing yourself and learning your worth after

746
00:35:16,080 --> 00:35:21,719
Speaker 2: an infidelity crisis so that you can move on. Oh, man,

747
00:35:21,920 --> 00:35:24,520
Speaker 2: I hate to hear stuff like this man, but they're

748
00:35:24,560 --> 00:35:26,479
Speaker 2: so young. I wonder if he's probably on the same

749
00:35:26,480 --> 00:35:29,279
Speaker 2: age eighteen married.

750
00:35:31,160 --> 00:35:34,200
Speaker 1: Like she should have sent in pictures that have come

751
00:35:34,280 --> 00:35:37,319
Speaker 1: stains so that we can either confirm or deny if

752
00:35:37,320 --> 00:35:43,200
Speaker 1: they really come stays. No, I'm just being honest because women,

753
00:35:43,880 --> 00:35:49,080
Speaker 1: particularly pregnant women, tend to overreact and think things that

754
00:35:49,120 --> 00:35:51,759
Speaker 1: are not happening. They're going through emotions, right, Okay, they're

755
00:35:51,800 --> 00:35:55,480
Speaker 1: going through stuff. What if my man ain't cheating to.

756
00:35:55,440 --> 00:35:56,920
Speaker 2: How we do you explain the stings?

757
00:35:57,239 --> 00:35:59,239
Speaker 1: That's what I'm saying. How do we know what's a comestain?

758
00:36:00,120 --> 00:36:02,319
Speaker 2: So what you think he's just eating his sandwich sloppy lys.

759
00:36:02,440 --> 00:36:04,439
Speaker 1: No, I'm not saying that it's not a comstain. I'm

760
00:36:04,480 --> 00:36:06,160
Speaker 1: just saying, how do I give you advice on what

761
00:36:06,280 --> 00:36:08,759
Speaker 1: you say is a comstain? I don't know if it's

762
00:36:08,760 --> 00:36:10,040
Speaker 1: a commestand I would want to see it so I

763
00:36:10,040 --> 00:36:11,960
Speaker 1: could be like, oh, that's a comstay a nigga cheating,

764
00:36:12,320 --> 00:36:14,920
Speaker 1: or be like, sweetheart, that's not a cumstain. Like where

765
00:36:14,960 --> 00:36:16,759
Speaker 1: you're talking about. You sound kind of crazy. I don't

766
00:36:16,760 --> 00:36:18,360
Speaker 1: know how to give for advice because I don't have

767
00:36:18,520 --> 00:36:21,680
Speaker 1: enough information based on what she's saying. She says she's

768
00:36:21,680 --> 00:36:23,399
Speaker 1: seen comstains, he's denying it.

769
00:36:23,520 --> 00:36:28,680
Speaker 2: Okay, so sis send us photos of it. No seriously though,

770
00:36:28,880 --> 00:36:31,440
Speaker 2: I think because there is a history of cheating, maybe

771
00:36:31,440 --> 00:36:33,520
Speaker 2: she feels like this is something that has done in

772
00:36:33,520 --> 00:36:36,319
Speaker 2: the past, and maybe she's having suspicions about it. I

773
00:36:36,360 --> 00:36:38,360
Speaker 2: know what it's like when you have two small children

774
00:36:38,400 --> 00:36:41,960
Speaker 2: back to back. Had we've had those issues, well, issues

775
00:36:42,000 --> 00:36:44,600
Speaker 2: meaning like the stress that comes with being pregnant back

776
00:36:44,640 --> 00:36:46,399
Speaker 2: to back. Absolutely, so if she has a twenty one

777
00:36:46,560 --> 00:36:49,600
Speaker 2: month old and a four months old, means that she's

778
00:36:49,640 --> 00:36:52,480
Speaker 2: not sleeping, her body's probably out of commission. You've been

779
00:36:52,640 --> 00:36:55,920
Speaker 2: pre natal and postpartum at the same time. Your hormones

780
00:36:55,960 --> 00:36:58,080
Speaker 2: are all over the place, your libido is at an

781
00:36:58,080 --> 00:37:00,520
Speaker 2: all time low. There's so many things, So I would

782
00:37:00,560 --> 00:37:02,400
Speaker 2: want to know what your life is looking like sexually

783
00:37:02,440 --> 00:37:04,760
Speaker 2: between you and your husband. Are y'all having regular sex?

784
00:37:05,400 --> 00:37:08,440
Speaker 2: Is that potentially an issue? Why he may be looking

785
00:37:08,480 --> 00:37:09,320
Speaker 2: for it elsewhere?

786
00:37:09,680 --> 00:37:09,880
Speaker 1: You know?

787
00:37:09,960 --> 00:37:12,680
Speaker 2: What's communication looking like in the household? Are you know?

788
00:37:12,719 --> 00:37:15,600
Speaker 2: Are y'all bickering. Are you nagging? Is he nagging? Is

789
00:37:15,640 --> 00:37:18,680
Speaker 2: there complaints about not enough sex? Like, there's a lot

790
00:37:18,719 --> 00:37:21,680
Speaker 2: of things that can be dissected here if we had

791
00:37:21,680 --> 00:37:24,920
Speaker 2: a little bit more. I think I'm background on the story.

792
00:37:25,080 --> 00:37:27,719
Speaker 1: Who leaves umstains on they shirt and go home?

793
00:37:28,640 --> 00:37:28,920
Speaker 2: Right?

794
00:37:29,040 --> 00:37:33,120
Speaker 1: That's like to me, just sounds like it's happened. It's happened,

795
00:37:33,480 --> 00:37:35,640
Speaker 1: okay after the first time, and she noticed it. How

796
00:37:35,640 --> 00:37:37,680
Speaker 1: about us, like, yo, let me move my shirt out

797
00:37:37,680 --> 00:37:39,960
Speaker 1: the way. Like for me, it just seems like I'm

798
00:37:40,000 --> 00:37:40,839
Speaker 1: not sure.

799
00:37:40,719 --> 00:37:42,719
Speaker 2: Unless he just doesn't care at this point, he's like, well,

800
00:37:42,760 --> 00:37:43,960
Speaker 2: I'm gonna get caught, I'm gonna get call.

801
00:37:44,040 --> 00:37:46,160
Speaker 1: But here's my thing. If he don't care, then he'd

802
00:37:46,200 --> 00:37:48,960
Speaker 1: just be like, yeah, they come stains, and so he

803
00:37:49,440 --> 00:37:52,200
Speaker 1: cares enough to lie if he's lying. So if you

804
00:37:52,280 --> 00:37:55,120
Speaker 1: care enough to lie, then why don't you care enough

805
00:37:55,120 --> 00:37:57,040
Speaker 1: to take your shirt off or pull your shirt up

806
00:37:57,160 --> 00:37:58,879
Speaker 1: or you know what I'm saying, Like, I just want

807
00:37:58,920 --> 00:37:59,279
Speaker 1: to know.

808
00:37:59,480 --> 00:38:01,440
Speaker 2: Because we've many of quikies where you just like you

809
00:38:01,520 --> 00:38:03,160
Speaker 2: pull the shirt up over your head like.

810
00:38:03,040 --> 00:38:05,600
Speaker 1: This, I've never had I've never had costings on my

811
00:38:05,600 --> 00:38:08,960
Speaker 1: shirt on our shirt ever, Like we come on. We've

812
00:38:08,960 --> 00:38:11,040
Speaker 1: been against who's eighteen? We had mad quokies in the

813
00:38:11,080 --> 00:38:13,600
Speaker 1: car going right before we had heads to our parents

814
00:38:13,600 --> 00:38:16,600
Speaker 1: for Valentine's or you know what I'm saying, yo, your

815
00:38:16,600 --> 00:38:19,080
Speaker 1: parents just going let's go. I've never once just had

816
00:38:19,239 --> 00:38:22,160
Speaker 1: come staying on my shirt, right, so I wonder what

817
00:38:22,160 --> 00:38:24,680
Speaker 1: that is. But even if you know, even if it ain't,

818
00:38:24,760 --> 00:38:28,080
Speaker 1: she asked a question about knowing your worth. Truth of

819
00:38:28,120 --> 00:38:31,120
Speaker 1: the matter is, I would never just stay in a

820
00:38:31,160 --> 00:38:35,320
Speaker 1: relationship for my kids. I personally would be like, listen,

821
00:38:35,880 --> 00:38:38,520
Speaker 1: I am a better father if I'm in a better

822
00:38:38,560 --> 00:38:42,000
Speaker 1: place with peace. You and I can co parent, We

823
00:38:42,080 --> 00:38:44,480
Speaker 1: can be friends. We don't even have to be friends.

824
00:38:44,800 --> 00:38:47,480
Speaker 1: We have to be able to co parent, though. And

825
00:38:47,520 --> 00:38:49,319
Speaker 1: if you're willing to work with me and doing that,

826
00:38:49,520 --> 00:38:51,799
Speaker 1: then cool. If you're not willing to work with me

827
00:38:51,880 --> 00:38:53,840
Speaker 1: on that, that's cool too, because I still got to

828
00:38:53,840 --> 00:38:57,480
Speaker 1: be who I am for my children. I do also know, though,

829
00:38:57,480 --> 00:39:00,279
Speaker 1: that sometimes the other person can make it hard for

830
00:39:00,360 --> 00:39:04,720
Speaker 1: you to parents when they want something that you don't want.

831
00:39:05,239 --> 00:39:07,520
Speaker 1: You know, we've seen time and time again since we've

832
00:39:07,520 --> 00:39:10,279
Speaker 1: been together, people who have kids. One wants to be

833
00:39:10,280 --> 00:39:12,759
Speaker 1: in a relationship and one don't. Then the person who

834
00:39:12,840 --> 00:39:15,120
Speaker 1: does want to be in a relationship makes it hard

835
00:39:15,160 --> 00:39:16,920
Speaker 1: for that person to be a parent because that's the

836
00:39:16,960 --> 00:39:20,920
Speaker 1: only way that they can keep that person engage in

837
00:39:20,960 --> 00:39:23,480
Speaker 1: whatever relationship. Because I'm just talk with them, you know

838
00:39:23,520 --> 00:39:26,040
Speaker 1: what I'm saying, So I know how hard that is.

839
00:39:26,400 --> 00:39:28,360
Speaker 1: But as far as knowing your words, you know what

840
00:39:28,400 --> 00:39:30,799
Speaker 1: your worth is. You know exactly what your worth is

841
00:39:30,800 --> 00:39:33,880
Speaker 1: and what you're willing to receive and accept. And if

842
00:39:33,880 --> 00:39:36,879
Speaker 1: you're not willing to receive and accept cheating, then it's

843
00:39:36,880 --> 00:39:39,239
Speaker 1: time to go. You know what I'm saying. Like, there's

844
00:39:39,280 --> 00:39:41,800
Speaker 1: no debating it. It's just time to go. Your children

845
00:39:41,840 --> 00:39:44,560
Speaker 1: wouldn't say, babe, but mom, stay and get cheated on

846
00:39:44,680 --> 00:39:47,839
Speaker 1: for us, babies won't say that they want to see

847
00:39:47,840 --> 00:39:48,960
Speaker 1: their parents happy too.

848
00:39:48,960 --> 00:39:51,880
Speaker 2: And also too, she said, just be single, or at

849
00:39:51,920 --> 00:39:53,840
Speaker 2: least communicate that you're not happy and or interested in

850
00:39:53,880 --> 00:39:57,400
Speaker 2: seeing other people. Maybe start their spark the communication by

851
00:39:57,560 --> 00:40:01,040
Speaker 2: talk about what it is like. Just come to him

852
00:40:01,080 --> 00:40:04,040
Speaker 2: with some sort of well, of course, the approaches and everything,

853
00:40:04,080 --> 00:40:06,279
Speaker 2: So just say, hey, are you just not happy here? Like,

854
00:40:06,640 --> 00:40:08,160
Speaker 2: just please be honest with me so we can get

855
00:40:08,200 --> 00:40:12,480
Speaker 2: some clarity about what we should do. Moving forward, because genuinely,

856
00:40:12,520 --> 00:40:15,120
Speaker 2: all you should want at the end of the day

857
00:40:15,320 --> 00:40:17,120
Speaker 2: is for both of you to be happy in whatever

858
00:40:17,160 --> 00:40:20,399
Speaker 2: space that looks like. And like you said, being a

859
00:40:20,440 --> 00:40:23,440
Speaker 2: co parent who's a healthier version of themselves is always

860
00:40:23,520 --> 00:40:25,640
Speaker 2: better for the children in the long run, you know.

861
00:40:25,800 --> 00:40:28,279
Speaker 2: So I don't have the conversation about that.

862
00:40:28,400 --> 00:40:30,880
Speaker 1: She said, they've been married going on six years, right,

863
00:40:31,200 --> 00:40:33,600
Speaker 1: and she's only twenty four. They've been together, say were.

864
00:40:33,560 --> 00:40:35,279
Speaker 2: Eighteen, right, that's if he's the same.

865
00:40:35,400 --> 00:40:38,560
Speaker 1: Hopefully he's around that age, or they're young, they're growing together.

866
00:40:38,600 --> 00:40:40,440
Speaker 1: But if he's not, he's a little bit older. But

867
00:40:41,120 --> 00:40:43,800
Speaker 1: my thing is too. And this is just the God's

868
00:40:43,800 --> 00:40:47,880
Speaker 1: honest truth. It takes a certain level of maturity in

869
00:40:47,960 --> 00:40:51,400
Speaker 1: man to know how to deal with and have empathy

870
00:40:51,719 --> 00:40:54,560
Speaker 1: for a woman who is carrying a child. Every man

871
00:40:54,719 --> 00:40:57,040
Speaker 1: is not made to be a father. Every man is

872
00:40:57,080 --> 00:40:59,359
Speaker 1: not made to be a spouse, you know, and every

873
00:40:59,360 --> 00:41:03,520
Speaker 1: man is not made to be the person responsible for

874
00:41:03,880 --> 00:41:06,800
Speaker 1: the woman carrying the child. And you had two children

875
00:41:06,880 --> 00:41:09,239
Speaker 1: back to back. If he's young, he may not be

876
00:41:09,360 --> 00:41:12,279
Speaker 1: mature enough to understand what it means to be in

877
00:41:12,320 --> 00:41:14,319
Speaker 1: that position. And if that's the case, let him go

878
00:41:14,400 --> 00:41:17,120
Speaker 1: do what he doing, and you go be who you

879
00:41:17,160 --> 00:41:19,319
Speaker 1: need to be for your children and find someone if

880
00:41:19,360 --> 00:41:22,280
Speaker 1: you desire to be with, someone who was prepared enough

881
00:41:22,320 --> 00:41:25,120
Speaker 1: and emotionally prepared enough to take on that role. Because

882
00:41:25,120 --> 00:41:29,000
Speaker 1: if he is cheating consistently, then that's not gonna stop

883
00:41:29,160 --> 00:41:31,800
Speaker 1: just because you pointed it out. And I think sometimes

884
00:41:31,800 --> 00:41:33,920
Speaker 1: that's what people think, I caught you. Now that I

885
00:41:33,960 --> 00:41:36,719
Speaker 1: caught you a you're gonna stop right, No, you caught me.

886
00:41:36,800 --> 00:41:39,040
Speaker 1: I'ma lie about it, and I'm gonna find another way

887
00:41:39,040 --> 00:41:41,239
Speaker 1: to do it. You know, it takes a level of

888
00:41:41,239 --> 00:41:44,359
Speaker 1: emotional maturity to stop that behavior if you want to.

889
00:41:44,600 --> 00:41:46,399
Speaker 1: I think a lot of people need to understand once

890
00:41:46,440 --> 00:41:48,600
Speaker 1: you decide to have a child, and I'll speak to

891
00:41:48,640 --> 00:41:51,160
Speaker 1: women for this, understand that it's a lot for a

892
00:41:51,200 --> 00:41:52,920
Speaker 1: man to know how to deal with all of the

893
00:41:53,000 --> 00:41:55,440
Speaker 1: changes a woman goes through. So when you decide that

894
00:41:55,480 --> 00:41:56,920
Speaker 1: you want to lay down with a man, and that

895
00:41:57,000 --> 00:41:59,800
Speaker 1: man may be the father of your child, have discernment

896
00:41:59,840 --> 00:42:02,160
Speaker 1: with who you choosing to lay down with, the same

897
00:42:02,200 --> 00:42:04,799
Speaker 1: way we have to have discernment as men on who

898
00:42:04,800 --> 00:42:07,480
Speaker 1: we're gonna lay down with and impregnate. It's the same

899
00:42:07,560 --> 00:42:08,200
Speaker 1: thing because.

900
00:42:07,960 --> 00:42:09,080
Speaker 2: There's always a possibility.

901
00:42:09,680 --> 00:42:11,799
Speaker 1: And if you sleeping with somebody and you looking at

902
00:42:11,840 --> 00:42:14,000
Speaker 1: them and saying this person will not make a good father,

903
00:42:14,080 --> 00:42:16,680
Speaker 1: they're not empathetic, that they don't care about anyone else,

904
00:42:16,760 --> 00:42:20,480
Speaker 1: don't sleep with them, because then you get this situation, right, right,

905
00:42:21,120 --> 00:42:24,480
Speaker 1: this is the truth, gentlemen. Your girl get pregnant, the

906
00:42:24,520 --> 00:42:27,440
Speaker 1: first three months or that trimester, she not gonna want

907
00:42:27,520 --> 00:42:30,360
Speaker 1: hear from you. She's gonna be nauseous, she's gonna be tired,

908
00:42:30,640 --> 00:42:32,399
Speaker 1: she's gonna be throwing up all the time, and every

909
00:42:32,400 --> 00:42:34,480
Speaker 1: time she looks at you, she's gonna be disgusted at

910
00:42:34,480 --> 00:42:36,480
Speaker 1: the fact that you get to be normal and she

911
00:42:36,480 --> 00:42:38,879
Speaker 1: has to go through. Well, it's the first three months. Yeah,

912
00:42:39,080 --> 00:42:43,160
Speaker 1: the next three months, she's gonna feel like she wasn't pregnant. Oh,

913
00:42:43,560 --> 00:42:45,640
Speaker 1: I'm out the first try mester. It's the second trimester.

914
00:42:46,480 --> 00:42:49,120
Speaker 1: But you know what happens in the second trimester. Women

915
00:42:49,239 --> 00:42:51,439
Speaker 1: start to show a little bit, but that show isn't

916
00:42:51,480 --> 00:42:54,560
Speaker 1: really a baby bump, it's a pudge. So now that

917
00:42:54,680 --> 00:42:57,680
Speaker 1: same woman is gonna be a little bit insecure about

918
00:42:57,719 --> 00:43:00,400
Speaker 1: how she looks because she's a little bit heavy now,

919
00:43:00,520 --> 00:43:02,680
Speaker 1: like things aren't fitting the same them pants don't close.

920
00:43:02,760 --> 00:43:04,279
Speaker 2: Have you done a little bit?

921
00:43:04,400 --> 00:43:06,799
Speaker 1: A little bit, You're gonna have to deal with that.

922
00:43:06,960 --> 00:43:09,160
Speaker 1: So now, first semester, you was dealing with her hating

923
00:43:09,200 --> 00:43:12,360
Speaker 1: you because she was sick every day. Now the second trimester,

924
00:43:12,400 --> 00:43:14,160
Speaker 1: she's gonna hate you because she don't look the same.

925
00:43:14,200 --> 00:43:17,479
Speaker 1: She's starting to change a little bit. Third trimester's hell

926
00:43:17,920 --> 00:43:20,200
Speaker 1: because now she's big, she ready for this kid to

927
00:43:20,239 --> 00:43:23,040
Speaker 1: come out. Her pelvis is gonna be hurting, she's gonna

928
00:43:23,040 --> 00:43:25,440
Speaker 1: be have discharge, she's not gonna want to have sex.

929
00:43:25,880 --> 00:43:30,200
Speaker 1: She's gonna hate everybody. And if you, as a woman,

930
00:43:30,320 --> 00:43:33,480
Speaker 1: haven't chosen the right man to walk that journey with,

931
00:43:33,640 --> 00:43:37,160
Speaker 1: you're gonna find yourself extremely disappointed because dudes's gonna be like,

932
00:43:37,160 --> 00:43:39,799
Speaker 1: what is happening? And here's the crazy part. That's only

933
00:43:39,840 --> 00:43:42,719
Speaker 1: the beginning. Because then there's a fourth trimester when the

934
00:43:42,760 --> 00:43:45,439
Speaker 1: baby gets here and you have sleep deprivation. You gotta

935
00:43:45,440 --> 00:43:47,600
Speaker 1: wake up every two and a half hours to breastfeed.

936
00:43:48,320 --> 00:43:51,040
Speaker 1: Your boobs are gonna be sore, probably cracked and bleeding.

937
00:43:51,280 --> 00:43:53,400
Speaker 1: Your vagina's gonna be sore. You know, if you had

938
00:43:53,440 --> 00:43:54,840
Speaker 1: to have surgery's gonna have to be snitched.

939
00:43:54,880 --> 00:43:55,040
Speaker 3: Up.

940
00:43:55,160 --> 00:43:57,800
Speaker 1: So now we're going on a full year. You haven't

941
00:43:57,800 --> 00:43:59,759
Speaker 1: had the woman that you laid down to have sex with.

942
00:44:00,400 --> 00:44:02,319
Speaker 1: You know what happens to most men who don't, who

943
00:44:02,360 --> 00:44:05,720
Speaker 1: aren't prepared for that, They cheat. You know what happens

944
00:44:05,719 --> 00:44:07,799
Speaker 1: to most women who haven't chosen the right party to

945
00:44:07,840 --> 00:44:11,520
Speaker 1: go through that with, they get cheated on. Couple that

946
00:44:11,560 --> 00:44:13,160
Speaker 1: with the fact that y'all did all of that, had

947
00:44:13,160 --> 00:44:15,480
Speaker 1: the baby, and then a couple months later got pregnant again.

948
00:44:16,080 --> 00:44:18,640
Speaker 2: Yeah, man, it's a lot. Your body hasn't even fully

949
00:44:18,640 --> 00:44:20,439
Speaker 2: recovered from what happened to it last time.

950
00:44:20,560 --> 00:44:25,120
Speaker 1: It's a lot. Like like ladies and gentlemen, pregnancy and

951
00:44:25,280 --> 00:44:29,520
Speaker 1: delivery and child rearing is a lot. It is never

952
00:44:29,600 --> 00:44:31,640
Speaker 1: on one person. Two people had to lay down to

953
00:44:31,680 --> 00:44:33,840
Speaker 1: make that child. Two people have to take care of it.

954
00:44:33,880 --> 00:44:35,680
Speaker 1: If you don't choose the right partner, you're gonna end

955
00:44:35,719 --> 00:44:39,560
Speaker 1: up in situations like this fact men and women, because

956
00:44:39,560 --> 00:44:41,160
Speaker 1: I know some ain't ship mothers and I know some

957
00:44:41,200 --> 00:44:43,440
Speaker 1: ain't shit fathers. I know some people that be like,

958
00:44:43,520 --> 00:44:45,680
Speaker 1: why would you even have a child the way you

959
00:44:45,719 --> 00:44:49,680
Speaker 1: behave It's not stupidity, it's not gender specific, trust me,

960
00:44:49,760 --> 00:44:52,520
Speaker 1: and it's not age specific because I know some dumb

961
00:44:52,560 --> 00:44:56,239
Speaker 1: old motherfuckers and I know some dumb young motherfuckers. That's

962
00:44:56,239 --> 00:44:59,879
Speaker 1: the truth. Like, I can't see him find an older

963
00:45:00,040 --> 00:45:01,799
Speaker 1: women to have a baby, which she'll be better though,

964
00:45:01,840 --> 00:45:03,480
Speaker 1: No find the older man to have a baby, but

965
00:45:03,560 --> 00:45:05,239
Speaker 1: he'll be better. No, them niggas is dumb. They was dumb

966
00:45:05,239 --> 00:45:06,600
Speaker 1: as young people and they dumb his.

967
00:45:07,000 --> 00:45:09,800
Speaker 2: That's one thing. Yeah, I've noticed it at the rifle

968
00:45:09,840 --> 00:45:12,920
Speaker 2: age of forty that people some people are just their

969
00:45:13,000 --> 00:45:15,239
Speaker 2: same eighteen year old selves and they're same twenty something

970
00:45:15,280 --> 00:45:18,160
Speaker 2: year old selves that have just aged yes to forty

971
00:45:18,200 --> 00:45:21,120
Speaker 2: and beyond yes, and have not grown at all and

972
00:45:21,200 --> 00:45:22,320
Speaker 2: have no desire to change.

973
00:45:22,360 --> 00:45:25,799
Speaker 1: So hopefully we've helped you. The biggest thing here is

974
00:45:26,120 --> 00:45:29,160
Speaker 1: but confirm that is come stains all right. So if

975
00:45:29,160 --> 00:45:31,320
Speaker 1: you want to take some pictures, send it back to Trouble.

976
00:45:32,000 --> 00:45:35,000
Speaker 1: We will send it to our labs and our labs

977
00:45:35,239 --> 00:45:37,319
Speaker 1: of me Josh, Matt and Trupple gonna look at it

978
00:45:37,360 --> 00:45:39,160
Speaker 1: and be like, I don't know if this is coming

979
00:45:39,239 --> 00:45:42,080
Speaker 1: out or it maybe come and then tell you, yeah, yeah, yeah,

980
00:45:42,120 --> 00:45:45,359
Speaker 1: he cheating on you. So send it to us again

981
00:45:45,400 --> 00:45:47,560
Speaker 1: and we can close this. We should have We should

982
00:45:47,600 --> 00:45:50,120
Speaker 1: have a dead ass Court. We should have a dead

983
00:45:50,200 --> 00:45:51,279
Speaker 1: ass Court.

984
00:45:51,000 --> 00:45:54,240
Speaker 2: Bro equipped with forensics for real, all sorts.

985
00:45:54,040 --> 00:45:56,040
Speaker 1: Of stuff I'll pull I pull up in this motherfucker

986
00:45:56,120 --> 00:45:57,719
Speaker 1: like this. I got the test right here.

987
00:45:57,800 --> 00:46:02,440
Speaker 2: It's dead ass Come when they come.

988
00:46:00,160 --> 00:46:06,640
Speaker 1: To the cumb stains on Jonathan's T shirt, you are

989
00:46:06,680 --> 00:46:10,440
Speaker 1: a cheater. She's gonna get up and be like he's

990
00:46:10,440 --> 00:46:11,440
Speaker 1: gonna run in the bag.

991
00:46:14,920 --> 00:46:24,480
Speaker 4: Yod deplete to today we have we should definitely, we

992
00:46:24,520 --> 00:46:26,279
Speaker 4: should definitely do dead ass Court, y'all.

993
00:46:26,760 --> 00:46:27,799
Speaker 1: What do you think y'all think?

994
00:46:29,360 --> 00:46:30,840
Speaker 2: I feel like the after show can kind of be

995
00:46:30,880 --> 00:46:32,719
Speaker 2: like dead Ass Court. We're gonna find out from Josh

996
00:46:32,760 --> 00:46:34,120
Speaker 2: Trouble and that what they think about this.

997
00:46:34,320 --> 00:46:36,919
Speaker 1: So hold coming to you after after the show show,

998
00:46:37,120 --> 00:46:40,960
Speaker 1: Dead Ass Court Live, all right, Number two.

999
00:46:41,160 --> 00:46:43,520
Speaker 2: Communicate, Please figure out what's going on over there and

1000
00:46:43,600 --> 00:46:45,399
Speaker 2: circle back with us and let us know how it goes,

1001
00:46:45,480 --> 00:46:46,839
Speaker 2: So all the best uses for real.

1002
00:46:47,080 --> 00:46:49,920
Speaker 1: Number two. I would like to say I would like

1003
00:46:49,960 --> 00:46:53,160
Speaker 1: to stay anonymous because I've told everyone I know to

1004
00:46:53,239 --> 00:46:55,040
Speaker 1: listen to y'all, so i know they're gonna hand it.

1005
00:46:55,719 --> 00:46:58,920
Speaker 1: I'm from New York, You're you're love it, and I've

1006
00:46:58,960 --> 00:47:00,920
Speaker 1: been in a relationship with my fan for almost three

1007
00:47:01,000 --> 00:47:03,279
Speaker 1: years and we have a four month old. Congratulations to

1008
00:47:03,320 --> 00:47:06,399
Speaker 1: you guys. Our sex life has gone through a lot,

1009
00:47:06,520 --> 00:47:09,040
Speaker 1: but now it's amazing. That's what I'm talking about, you

1010
00:47:09,160 --> 00:47:11,480
Speaker 1: working at it. Only thing is sometimes when we are

1011
00:47:11,560 --> 00:47:14,560
Speaker 1: in the moments, I'm imagining scenarios to help get me

1012
00:47:14,719 --> 00:47:17,080
Speaker 1: to the big moment, if you know what I mean.

1013
00:47:17,680 --> 00:47:20,600
Speaker 1: Don't get me wrong. All the scenarios are with my man.

1014
00:47:21,040 --> 00:47:23,880
Speaker 1: For example, I'm imagining him as a cop arresting me,

1015
00:47:25,400 --> 00:47:27,640
Speaker 1: or him being just a friend. And we shouldn't be

1016
00:47:27,719 --> 00:47:30,759
Speaker 1: doing this basically like porn storylines. Is this wrong? How

1017
00:47:30,960 --> 00:47:33,560
Speaker 1: fucking No? It ain't wrong? And should I talk to

1018
00:47:33,640 --> 00:47:36,400
Speaker 1: my man about this? Yes, you should talk to my yo.

1019
00:47:36,719 --> 00:47:38,440
Speaker 1: What does it mean? I'm not sure if it means

1020
00:47:38,480 --> 00:47:40,640
Speaker 1: I'm not being satisfied by him alone. Love you guys?

1021
00:47:41,280 --> 00:47:42,319
Speaker 2: Did you have fantasies?

1022
00:47:43,200 --> 00:47:44,919
Speaker 1: The thing I like the best is that she said

1023
00:47:45,719 --> 00:47:49,919
Speaker 1: she's imagining him a girl. I wish Kay would tell

1024
00:47:50,080 --> 00:47:54,640
Speaker 1: me arrest me, arrest me, daddy. I was like, what

1025
00:47:54,719 --> 00:47:57,200
Speaker 1: you want me to do? What? I will go to

1026
00:47:57,320 --> 00:47:59,960
Speaker 1: the local police department. I will buy a full flo

1027
00:48:00,480 --> 00:48:02,560
Speaker 1: I will get a police car. She will be coming

1028
00:48:02,600 --> 00:48:04,759
Speaker 1: home from the grocery store. I will pull her ass over,

1029
00:48:05,239 --> 00:48:08,440
Speaker 1: sirens and everything. I would hire someone to be my partner.

1030
00:48:08,880 --> 00:48:10,440
Speaker 1: I'd be like, Yo, can you grab a put in

1031
00:48:10,480 --> 00:48:12,359
Speaker 1: the back seat, and I will fuck the shit out

1032
00:48:12,360 --> 00:48:14,799
Speaker 1: of KR in the back seat of that fucking uh

1033
00:48:15,120 --> 00:48:19,640
Speaker 1: copcast ya for real. Fact, I would have on the

1034
00:48:19,719 --> 00:48:21,839
Speaker 1: cam and everything so I could record it. I will

1035
00:48:21,880 --> 00:48:23,200
Speaker 1: go out and then I will recorded it and I

1036
00:48:23,239 --> 00:48:25,040
Speaker 1: would have her doing all sorts of wild ship and

1037
00:48:25,080 --> 00:48:26,360
Speaker 1: then I will record and I will show it to

1038
00:48:26,400 --> 00:48:28,520
Speaker 1: a lady say see what I did for you. So, no,

1039
00:48:28,800 --> 00:48:32,120
Speaker 1: you ain't wrong, you are absolutely right. And the fact

1040
00:48:32,160 --> 00:48:34,719
Speaker 1: that she said that sex life is amazing, which means

1041
00:48:35,000 --> 00:48:38,480
Speaker 1: they are compatible. They are they're doing the right things.

1042
00:48:38,560 --> 00:48:39,120
Speaker 1: I love this.

1043
00:48:39,640 --> 00:48:42,000
Speaker 2: Yes, it's the scenarios and the role play for me

1044
00:48:42,040 --> 00:48:46,320
Speaker 2: because apparently I've been actually in scene study myself because

1045
00:48:46,320 --> 00:48:47,680
Speaker 2: I have some stuff that I've been working on for

1046
00:48:47,800 --> 00:48:50,160
Speaker 2: the vo. So this is actually so right on time,

1047
00:48:50,320 --> 00:48:52,920
Speaker 2: and this is this is the Lord giving me affirmation

1048
00:48:53,040 --> 00:48:56,080
Speaker 2: that I'm on the right track about what I was thinking.

1049
00:48:56,680 --> 00:48:58,719
Speaker 2: Because it's let me tell you the role play, the

1050
00:48:58,840 --> 00:49:00,520
Speaker 2: dressing up. This is on the devows been dying for

1051
00:49:00,640 --> 00:49:03,320
Speaker 2: me to do for years, and I was thinking of something.

1052
00:49:03,520 --> 00:49:06,200
Speaker 1: Now years, decades, decades.

1053
00:49:05,880 --> 00:49:08,840
Speaker 2: I finally think I found a situation and a recipe.

1054
00:49:08,920 --> 00:49:11,759
Speaker 2: So I love that somebody else is feeling the same way.

1055
00:49:12,320 --> 00:49:15,440
Speaker 2: Have those fantasies about your man, tell him what they are?

1056
00:49:16,120 --> 00:49:18,040
Speaker 2: Roll them ship all that.

1057
00:49:18,400 --> 00:49:20,319
Speaker 1: Are you talking about my fantasies or you got your

1058
00:49:20,400 --> 00:49:21,279
Speaker 1: own fantasies?

1059
00:49:21,560 --> 00:49:23,439
Speaker 2: No, I think both of our fantasies. Some are mine

1060
00:49:23,480 --> 00:49:26,840
Speaker 2: and some are yours. You ain't tell me no, no, no,

1061
00:49:27,640 --> 00:49:30,160
Speaker 2: I want to do for you because the fantasy of

1062
00:49:30,239 --> 00:49:31,800
Speaker 2: mine to please you in those ways.

1063
00:49:32,520 --> 00:49:35,360
Speaker 1: So yes, I do want to be stopped by a

1064
00:49:35,440 --> 00:49:39,160
Speaker 1: lady cop thinking I should day the cab because the

1065
00:49:39,360 --> 00:49:42,799
Speaker 1: uniform fit is so tight. D me my rights, cut

1066
00:49:43,239 --> 00:49:49,880
Speaker 1: the lights. I had the right to read silent for

1067
00:49:49,960 --> 00:49:53,720
Speaker 1: everybody who don't know. That's that's wezy wesy and Bobby

1068
00:49:53,840 --> 00:49:58,239
Speaker 1: Valentino like a cop co ya when I.

1069
00:49:58,320 --> 00:50:02,520
Speaker 2: Get up, Oh we can see that angels.

1070
00:50:03,360 --> 00:50:05,800
Speaker 1: Yeah? Oh man, No, just kind of actually got me.

1071
00:50:05,880 --> 00:50:08,680
Speaker 2: Hi, I wish, I wish, Oh my god, I do

1072
00:50:08,800 --> 00:50:10,520
Speaker 2: have a cop outfit too, I still got it.

1073
00:50:11,000 --> 00:50:13,560
Speaker 1: Yeah, you do got a cop outfit? You were once

1074
00:50:13,840 --> 00:50:18,680
Speaker 1: in like twenty nineteen. I remember now, it won't fit.

1075
00:50:18,800 --> 00:50:21,040
Speaker 1: There's nothing going over that thing you grew back there

1076
00:50:22,120 --> 00:50:24,600
Speaker 1: this unless it's the skirt, and then it'll all over

1077
00:50:24,960 --> 00:50:27,560
Speaker 1: little booty. Yeah yeah, but it ain't little no more.

1078
00:50:28,440 --> 00:50:29,160
Speaker 1: After four.

1079
00:50:30,680 --> 00:50:33,040
Speaker 2: You can look forward to some extra weight in certain places.

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Speaker 1: Yes, I like that, but nah, but I first of all,

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00:50:36,160 --> 00:50:39,439
Speaker 1: I think this is dope. This is dope, a girl.

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00:50:39,760 --> 00:50:43,480
Speaker 1: You would be surprised he would love to get dressed up. Man,

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00:50:43,520 --> 00:50:45,400
Speaker 1: I'll go down to the fire department. Man, get me

1084
00:50:45,480 --> 00:50:47,520
Speaker 1: a fire hose, and I put the house on fire.

1085
00:50:47,680 --> 00:50:50,400
Speaker 1: Kate Walker home, Like why the house on fire? Be like,

1086
00:50:50,480 --> 00:50:56,160
Speaker 1: shut up, shut up, pull my holes out, skirt all

1087
00:50:56,239 --> 00:50:58,560
Speaker 1: over you get this fire out. You know how I'm

1088
00:50:58,600 --> 00:51:01,040
Speaker 1: pooring things. Man, It's only one way we can get

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00:51:01,080 --> 00:51:03,719
Speaker 1: the fire out. I need you to squirt as much

1090
00:51:03,760 --> 00:51:06,879
Speaker 1: as you can to get this one. Do you want

1091
00:51:06,920 --> 00:51:09,000
Speaker 1: me to squirt on the house, the bus. Do what

1092
00:51:09,120 --> 00:51:11,520
Speaker 1: you gotta do, baby, We gotta get the fire right

1093
00:51:11,560 --> 00:51:12,080
Speaker 1: out of here.

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00:51:12,840 --> 00:51:15,160
Speaker 2: I love it. There's so many scenarios coming up. I

1095
00:51:15,239 --> 00:51:16,640
Speaker 2: love this, and I love this for you.

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Speaker 3: Girl.

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00:51:17,120 --> 00:51:18,719
Speaker 2: Go ahead and let us know, circle back and let

1098
00:51:18,800 --> 00:51:20,920
Speaker 2: us know how he likes it. I'm good for a

1099
00:51:20,960 --> 00:51:23,440
Speaker 2: circle back love y'all. We're in the circle back season too.

1100
00:51:23,480 --> 00:51:26,239
Speaker 2: Said anything that you any business that was undone or

1101
00:51:26,360 --> 00:51:28,360
Speaker 2: unfinished in twenty twenty three. Now is the time to

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00:51:28,360 --> 00:51:31,600
Speaker 2: circle back for your right y'all. All right, and be

1103
00:51:31,719 --> 00:51:35,799
Speaker 2: sure if you haven't circled back yet, slide into our messages.

1104
00:51:36,320 --> 00:51:37,640
Speaker 2: We want to listen letters from you.

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00:51:38,280 --> 00:51:39,560
Speaker 3: Do do this.

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00:51:40,600 --> 00:51:44,239
Speaker 1: Tell him that you are a naughty school girl and

1107
00:51:44,360 --> 00:51:46,719
Speaker 1: you've been a bad girl, and you came to the

1108
00:51:46,800 --> 00:51:50,040
Speaker 1: principal's office because you need to get punished.

1109
00:51:50,200 --> 00:51:50,920
Speaker 2: He's the principle.

1110
00:51:51,000 --> 00:51:53,920
Speaker 1: He's the principal. Put on some glasses, put on a skirt,

1111
00:51:55,000 --> 00:51:56,440
Speaker 1: and do all of the things.

1112
00:51:56,320 --> 00:51:58,000
Speaker 2: And watch you got some blue light glasses.

1113
00:51:58,840 --> 00:52:01,359
Speaker 1: Watch how he gonna be like huh. And then you're

1114
00:52:01,360 --> 00:52:04,920
Speaker 1: gonna be like, yeah, I've been naughty, and look at

1115
00:52:04,960 --> 00:52:07,239
Speaker 1: Dennis eyes and then roll your shoulders like this and

1116
00:52:07,360 --> 00:52:10,720
Speaker 1: go I've been naughty, And then take out a pattern,

1117
00:52:10,800 --> 00:52:13,680
Speaker 1: be like, spank me, daddy. I guarantee you he gonna

1118
00:52:13,680 --> 00:52:17,000
Speaker 1: be like, yes, ma'am, Yes, ma'am. And then you gonna

1119
00:52:17,000 --> 00:52:19,319
Speaker 1: find yourself in a different position. Because when you can

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Speaker 1: get a man to use his imagination in the bed

1121
00:52:22,880 --> 00:52:23,440
Speaker 1: fucking rap.

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00:52:23,520 --> 00:52:25,040
Speaker 2: I know he was done with that, but now it

1123
00:52:25,160 --> 00:52:28,680
Speaker 2: was making me think, y'all have to see the eyes

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00:52:28,760 --> 00:52:30,600
Speaker 2: in the body language. For y'all on Patreon, you can

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00:52:30,640 --> 00:52:32,320
Speaker 2: see it if you're listening. You gott to join Patreon

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Speaker 2: to get all the theatrics.

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00:52:33,960 --> 00:52:37,960
Speaker 1: If y'all knew things that me and Kadeen be doing. Yo,

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00:52:38,360 --> 00:52:40,239
Speaker 1: I'll be in the living room and then Kadeen will

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00:52:40,280 --> 00:52:42,600
Speaker 1: just disappear right and then I'll get a text message

1130
00:52:43,200 --> 00:52:45,239
Speaker 1: and I'll just look at the text messages and then

1131
00:52:45,320 --> 00:52:47,520
Speaker 1: I'm just like, she like what you doing? And I'm like,

1132
00:52:47,719 --> 00:52:49,840
Speaker 1: where are you at? And then she'll just be some

1133
00:52:50,080 --> 00:52:53,040
Speaker 1: nasty shit that she's just I can't tell y'all because

1134
00:52:53,040 --> 00:52:54,880
Speaker 1: I don't want to barrass my wife. Then I go

1135
00:52:55,000 --> 00:52:56,920
Speaker 1: back there in that room and she got some outfit

1136
00:52:57,000 --> 00:52:59,719
Speaker 1: on and I ain't never seen in Vegas. She had

1137
00:52:59,760 --> 00:53:04,759
Speaker 1: a old leather Victorious secret that was five joint and man,

1138
00:53:05,239 --> 00:53:08,160
Speaker 1: we were staying in what we sayed in the Encore,

1139
00:53:08,760 --> 00:53:12,279
Speaker 1: saying the Encore where we could see the dome the

1140
00:53:12,360 --> 00:53:15,839
Speaker 1: new So the light is constantly going to our room.

1141
00:53:15,920 --> 00:53:18,640
Speaker 1: So we were using that light as our lights, and

1142
00:53:18,760 --> 00:53:19,200
Speaker 1: it was like.

1143
00:53:21,239 --> 00:53:23,719
Speaker 2: You know. Time happens in Vegas, that's the fact.

1144
00:53:23,760 --> 00:53:26,040
Speaker 1: And whatever happens in Vegas right there stays on my

1145
00:53:26,120 --> 00:53:27,239
Speaker 1: phone so I can watch it later.

1146
00:53:28,719 --> 00:53:33,040
Speaker 2: God forbid, God forbid. Let me tell y'all, if there's

1147
00:53:33,080 --> 00:53:35,160
Speaker 2: a breakout viral moment, it'll be that.

1148
00:53:36,040 --> 00:53:36,600
Speaker 1: It'll be that.

1149
00:53:37,000 --> 00:53:39,520
Speaker 2: Probably I'd be so popular and so famous after that.

1150
00:53:39,719 --> 00:53:42,680
Speaker 2: Forget it, forget it. I'm gonna run that back. Though.

1151
00:53:42,960 --> 00:53:44,560
Speaker 2: That's a good thing too about being in your forties

1152
00:53:44,560 --> 00:53:46,200
Speaker 2: and being in shape. There's things that you can wear

1153
00:53:46,280 --> 00:53:48,840
Speaker 2: now in the bedroom where you feel confident. Let me

1154
00:53:48,920 --> 00:53:49,279
Speaker 2: tell you all.

1155
00:53:50,480 --> 00:53:52,560
Speaker 1: In the twenties and thirties too, like you was popular,

1156
00:53:52,800 --> 00:53:53,200
Speaker 1: but not like.

1157
00:53:53,280 --> 00:53:55,200
Speaker 2: In between kids, like I feel like every like once

1158
00:53:55,239 --> 00:53:57,120
Speaker 2: I got back after each kid, and I felt more

1159
00:53:57,160 --> 00:54:00,520
Speaker 2: confident with like my but like when the strings and

1160
00:54:00,560 --> 00:54:02,600
Speaker 2: the and the wires can just like sit and they

1161
00:54:02,600 --> 00:54:04,520
Speaker 2: don't be cutting in and you have like all extra

1162
00:54:04,600 --> 00:54:06,480
Speaker 2: fat hanging out the side, like when it just lazes

1163
00:54:06,480 --> 00:54:09,160
Speaker 2: where it's supposed to lay. You couldn't tell me when

1164
00:54:09,160 --> 00:54:10,040
Speaker 2: you like.

1165
00:54:10,360 --> 00:54:12,680
Speaker 1: When you're not looking like a pack of busted biscuits.

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00:54:13,000 --> 00:54:14,719
Speaker 1: You know, when you bust the biscuits on the corner

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00:54:14,800 --> 00:54:17,080
Speaker 1: table and it'd be like and it'd be like spilling

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00:54:17,120 --> 00:54:20,319
Speaker 1: out right. So you don't, you don't you didn't like.

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00:54:20,320 --> 00:54:24,000
Speaker 2: Looking likely for me. No, you know some people with that.

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00:54:24,320 --> 00:54:27,240
Speaker 1: Some of the best we had was when you was fluffy.

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00:54:28,080 --> 00:54:28,320
Speaker 3: You was.

1172
00:54:28,360 --> 00:54:30,560
Speaker 1: It was right after them kids. That's how cass got here,

1173
00:54:31,080 --> 00:54:33,520
Speaker 1: That's how got how calves got here. It was a

1174
00:54:33,560 --> 00:54:34,480
Speaker 1: little fluffy, but was.

1175
00:54:37,840 --> 00:54:38,440
Speaker 2: Sort of stuff.

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00:54:38,600 --> 00:54:40,560
Speaker 1: It was fluffy, though, but you wasn't. It was a

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00:54:40,600 --> 00:54:44,560
Speaker 1: biscuit away, but I was the biscuit. He was the biscuits.

1178
00:54:44,960 --> 00:54:49,800
Speaker 1: Biscuit called me the Pillsbury dough boy, the baker that

1179
00:54:49,920 --> 00:54:50,560
Speaker 1: biscuit over.

1180
00:54:50,719 --> 00:54:52,319
Speaker 2: Bake me a cake as fast as you.

1181
00:54:52,440 --> 00:54:57,400
Speaker 1: Put some gravy on that biscuits were so stupid? Can

1182
00:54:57,480 --> 00:55:01,440
Speaker 1: you can you? You know what you one of our listeners.

1183
00:55:01,480 --> 00:55:04,160
Speaker 1: Let us email us at dead ass Advice at gmail

1184
00:55:04,239 --> 00:55:04,680
Speaker 1: dot com.

1185
00:55:04,840 --> 00:55:07,400
Speaker 2: That's d E A D A S S A d

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Speaker 2: V I C E at gmail dot com.

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00:55:13,200 --> 00:55:14,000
Speaker 1: A little bit right.

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00:55:14,200 --> 00:55:18,120
Speaker 2: I love that moment of truth time. Oh my god, y'all,

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Speaker 2: moment of truth time.

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Speaker 1: I got an easy one. You forty, You fine as fuck.

1191
00:55:23,280 --> 00:55:26,319
Speaker 1: You accomplished your mom, You've done everything. Just keep enjoying life,

1192
00:55:26,360 --> 00:55:26,600
Speaker 1: move on.

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00:55:26,880 --> 00:55:30,359
Speaker 2: Thanks next thank you moment of truth for me. I'm

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Speaker 2: so thankful to God for forty years on this earth, yes,

1195
00:55:35,440 --> 00:55:38,440
Speaker 2: much of which more than half has been with you

1196
00:55:38,840 --> 00:55:41,759
Speaker 2: by my side, building and growing together. We have four

1197
00:55:41,800 --> 00:55:47,359
Speaker 2: beautiful children. I am just excited about unapologetically being who

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Speaker 2: I am from forty on and mad trips. Where are

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Speaker 2: we going next?

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Speaker 1: You know who? You're gonna be a cop later?

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Speaker 2: Lada cat arrest me because the uniform one fit miss

1202
00:56:00,680 --> 00:56:09,719
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Speaker 2: be doing more this year, pulling you guys in to

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Speaker 2: all the stuff that I have going on in this

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