WEBVTT - How Men Think with Tyler Cameron 0:00:00.920 --> 0:00:03.880 We're taking you inside the mind of a man. This 0:00:04.559 --> 0:00:08.520 is How Men Thick and I Heard radio podcast. Hey everyone, 0:00:08.680 --> 0:00:10.639 I'm Tyler Cameron and you may know me as a 0:00:10.640 --> 0:00:13.200 contestant from the Bachelor of Season, but I am also 0:00:13.200 --> 0:00:16.040 an entrepreneur, the author of Me Deserve Vetter, and co 0:00:16.239 --> 0:00:19.200 founder of the Andrey A. C. Cameron Foundation, and I'm 0:00:19.239 --> 0:00:23.200 currently competing on the fast competition series The Real Dirty Dancing. 0:00:23.600 --> 0:00:26.599 I am so happy to be guest hosting How Men Think. 0:00:26.720 --> 0:00:29.480 I'm gonna answer all your questions and solve the fascinating 0:00:29.560 --> 0:00:33.200 questions of how men think or do we? But first, 0:00:33.360 --> 0:00:36.200 this is eleven Questions with Tyler Cameron. Let's get into it. 0:00:36.960 --> 0:00:40.199 What are you known for? Tell us about yourself. I 0:00:40.240 --> 0:00:43.720 guess what I'm known for is my time on the Bachelorette. Um, 0:00:43.800 --> 0:00:46.839 that's kind of how I came onto the scene. But 0:00:47.000 --> 0:00:49.519 tell you about myself. I was a kid worn to 0:00:49.560 --> 0:00:52.720 raise in Jupiter, Florida. Um, got it? You know it. 0:00:52.800 --> 0:00:55.400 Was a football player, you know, tried playing pro, got 0:00:55.400 --> 0:00:57.800 cut out the Ravens a couple of times. Uh, then 0:00:57.800 --> 0:01:00.200 I got hurt. My career was done. I was like 0:01:00.280 --> 0:01:03.240 broke jock at this point. Um, I went back to school, 0:01:03.280 --> 0:01:06.720 finished up my m b A, uh, got my GC license, 0:01:06.720 --> 0:01:10.360 and I started building houses and I just got my 0:01:10.400 --> 0:01:13.559 first house going. And then The Bachelor I called and 0:01:13.800 --> 0:01:16.240 they wanted me to come on the show. And that 0:01:16.400 --> 0:01:18.880 was kind of how I got my start. And now, 0:01:19.680 --> 0:01:21.800 you know, back and forth between New York and Florida 0:01:21.880 --> 0:01:26.320 and building houses and kind of doing the same thing. Still, UM, 0:01:26.360 --> 0:01:29.880 who are you in your personal life? Me? I just 0:01:29.920 --> 0:01:31.959 like to be home with my friends. I grew up 0:01:32.000 --> 0:01:35.480 with my family. UM, I'm a very simple guy. I 0:01:35.600 --> 0:01:37.039 like to be on my boat, like to be on 0:01:37.080 --> 0:01:41.120 the water. Uh like to just honestly be home and 0:01:41.160 --> 0:01:43.800 being juper four. That's my happy place. So that's kind 0:01:43.800 --> 0:01:47.480 of my personal life. Three shows that I am binge 0:01:47.480 --> 0:01:50.800 watching right now. Right now, I'm watching Friday Night Lights. 0:01:50.880 --> 0:01:53.600 I've never seen the TV show I'm a Football Guy. 0:01:53.920 --> 0:01:55.920 I fell in love with the show just recently watching it. 0:01:56.320 --> 0:02:01.840 Another one is made incredible show on Netflix. UM, really 0:02:02.000 --> 0:02:04.200 kind of opens your eyes to domestic violence and how 0:02:04.640 --> 0:02:06.920 you know rough that can really be really changed my 0:02:07.080 --> 0:02:09.480 you know, showed me so much about that world that 0:02:09.520 --> 0:02:13.600 I just never saw or could imagine. UM, very very 0:02:13.600 --> 0:02:17.520 great show and then Kevin Hart has a show on 0:02:17.560 --> 0:02:22.000 there called True Story and it's Kevin Hart not being funny, 0:02:22.360 --> 0:02:27.760 being serious drama and he one crussures it into it's 0:02:27.800 --> 0:02:30.679 just a show full of anxiety. It's like, oh my god, 0:02:30.680 --> 0:02:32.720 how can this happen? How can that happen? So those 0:02:32.760 --> 0:02:35.240 are my three shows checking out, Friday Night Lights Made 0:02:35.400 --> 0:02:40.320 and True Story. What is my favorite food? Either a 0:02:40.320 --> 0:02:44.399 steak or cheeseburger. Um, My brother's steaks are number one. 0:02:44.440 --> 0:02:47.760 He can cook so damn good. And my favorite burger 0:02:48.240 --> 0:02:51.399 is from a place called Four Charles, but the same 0:02:51.440 --> 0:02:54.919 burger Ashibalt and restaurational Hardware. They'll check those burgers out 0:02:54.919 --> 0:02:56.560 and get back to me. Best burger in the world 0:02:56.639 --> 0:03:01.359 number two, shake shack. Um, tell us about out your career. 0:03:02.400 --> 0:03:06.440 My career, Um, well, I'm into building houses. I'm building 0:03:06.480 --> 0:03:09.280 four houses right now. They're spec home, so I'm building 0:03:09.280 --> 0:03:12.200 them on speculation that somebody buys them. Uh so I'm 0:03:12.240 --> 0:03:14.679 designing it doing all that fun stuff. I'm working on 0:03:14.720 --> 0:03:16.640 my path which has been a lot of fun. But 0:03:16.680 --> 0:03:18.880 also we Buttu hads a little bit, you know, on 0:03:18.960 --> 0:03:23.400 design ideas and whatnot. But you know, that's that's that's 0:03:23.440 --> 0:03:26.160 part of my life. I also owned two restaurants, working 0:03:26.160 --> 0:03:28.240 on getting my third, and just just signed a deal 0:03:28.280 --> 0:03:30.640 today and close hopefully in a month from my third restaurant. 0:03:30.720 --> 0:03:33.640 So very excited about that. It's all about the health 0:03:33.639 --> 0:03:36.840 food space. And then I just love, you know, fitness, 0:03:36.880 --> 0:03:38.440 and I want to do more in that world. And 0:03:39.040 --> 0:03:40.440 I guess I'm just kind of all over the place. 0:03:40.600 --> 0:03:42.720 You know. My dad always says, you know, go with 0:03:42.760 --> 0:03:46.800 the money. Uh. What's your biggest fear in life? Um? 0:03:46.840 --> 0:03:49.400 My biggest fear in life is to to not have 0:03:49.440 --> 0:03:52.920 a family. Um. I want to be a dad, I 0:03:52.920 --> 0:03:55.360 want to be a husband, I want to raise kids. 0:03:55.440 --> 0:03:57.320 I want to have a bunch of land, let them 0:03:57.360 --> 0:04:00.120 all run around and and be goofballs and let you 0:04:00.200 --> 0:04:02.360 join them with them. You know. So I think not 0:04:02.520 --> 0:04:04.800 having a family is definitely my biggest fear in life. 0:04:05.920 --> 0:04:09.600 What is my biggest pet? Peeve? All Right, if I 0:04:09.680 --> 0:04:13.800 call you and you text me back, what's up? We're fighting? 0:04:14.240 --> 0:04:16.120 I hate that just calling me. Call me back. I 0:04:16.120 --> 0:04:18.599 don't want to. I'm probably driving or something, so I 0:04:18.600 --> 0:04:22.920 can't text, So call me back. So if I'm driving, 0:04:23.000 --> 0:04:26.719 if I'm calling, you, don't test me, call me back. Uh. 0:04:26.839 --> 0:04:29.800 What makes you the most happy. For me, the things 0:04:29.839 --> 0:04:31.480 that made me the most happy is being home, being 0:04:31.480 --> 0:04:34.760 with my friends, being with my family. Uh, those are 0:04:34.760 --> 0:04:37.640 the most important people in my life. Being with my dog, 0:04:38.240 --> 0:04:41.320 so getting back to Jupiter, Florida, and just being around 0:04:41.320 --> 0:04:43.800 the people that I love. And you know, last night 0:04:43.839 --> 0:04:45.720 I watched an episode of Real Day Dancing. I sat 0:04:45.760 --> 0:04:47.040 next to my nanna and I got to share that 0:04:47.080 --> 0:04:51.920 experience with her, and to me, that's what it's all about. Um, 0:04:52.040 --> 0:04:56.400 what is your ideal Saturday morning? This is my favorite 0:04:56.800 --> 0:05:00.600 Saturday ritual. So if you guys know, you guys know 0:05:00.960 --> 0:05:03.719 my trainer, Phil Fit. He's also a big brother to me. 0:05:03.760 --> 0:05:05.320 I've known. I've been working with him since I was 0:05:05.400 --> 0:05:07.920 in the seventh grade. That's my guys, my big brother. 0:05:07.960 --> 0:05:11.839 I love him to death. So Phil comes over, all 0:05:11.880 --> 0:05:15.279 my friends come over and Phil works us out in 0:05:15.360 --> 0:05:18.839 the garage in the driveway down the street. All the 0:05:18.839 --> 0:05:20.919 neighbors are watching us because we look like Radius. But 0:05:20.920 --> 0:05:23.599 Phil is killing us. We're dying. So we'll do a 0:05:23.640 --> 0:05:26.400 Phil Fit workout. We'll go to my restaurant Three Natives. 0:05:26.640 --> 0:05:30.520 We'll get a healthy little luncheon afterwards, and then after 0:05:30.560 --> 0:05:32.400 that we go hit the boat and have a wonderful 0:05:32.480 --> 0:05:38.120 down the water. That's my perfect ideal Saturday morning. Um. 0:05:38.160 --> 0:05:42.680 Are you more of the athlete or the armchair quarterback? Uh? Well, 0:05:43.200 --> 0:05:45.680 I was the backup quarterback in college, so I can 0:05:45.760 --> 0:05:48.520 understand being the armchair quarterback, but I'm definitely more of 0:05:48.520 --> 0:05:51.560 the athlete. I don't really enjoy watching football as much 0:05:51.600 --> 0:05:54.159 as I do playing it or playing any sport, so 0:05:54.200 --> 0:05:56.599 I'm definitely more of the athlete. But I will definitely 0:05:56.680 --> 0:05:59.680 chir up a bad quarterback if I see it. Uh well, 0:05:59.720 --> 0:06:03.440 keeps motivated. Um. You know, my number one dream and 0:06:03.480 --> 0:06:05.440 goal in life is to be a dad, but also 0:06:05.520 --> 0:06:08.200 coach high school football. So I want to grind. I 0:06:08.240 --> 0:06:10.160 want to make money so I can be in a 0:06:10.240 --> 0:06:12.080 point in life where I can put you know, so 0:06:12.200 --> 0:06:14.279 everything I'm done. I just want to be a dad, 0:06:14.960 --> 0:06:17.000 coach football, help kids get to college, and be a 0:06:17.040 --> 0:06:20.120 great husband. And so until you to that point, I'm 0:06:20.120 --> 0:06:22.720 gonna work and grinding my butt off and then just 0:06:22.760 --> 0:06:25.640 get to that point and live life after that. That 0:06:25.720 --> 0:06:27.680 was eleven Places with Todd Cameron. We're about to take 0:06:27.720 --> 0:06:29.440 a break, but when we get back, we're gonna be 0:06:29.480 --> 0:06:43.640 answering your live call, so to an in, Hi, how 0:06:43.680 --> 0:06:48.720 are you going on? I'm newly married and as a 0:06:48.880 --> 0:06:51.640 thank you, and we we were honeymooning in Florida. We 0:06:51.640 --> 0:06:55.400 went to Jupiter. It's so nice over there. But I 0:06:55.440 --> 0:06:58.320 was wondering if you had any advice as to how 0:06:58.480 --> 0:07:02.360 we can keep this, like really when feeling alive, since 0:07:02.400 --> 0:07:06.039 it's you know, brand new. But what would you suggest? 0:07:07.160 --> 0:07:11.440 So what I would suggest, one is always have a schedule, 0:07:11.520 --> 0:07:14.520 like have one day night dedicated every week, and there's 0:07:14.520 --> 0:07:17.200 no vans or buzz about like Dad's y'all's night, So 0:07:17.240 --> 0:07:18.520 it forces you to get out of the house. Because 0:07:18.520 --> 0:07:20.760 I think it's so easy to get comfortable. Oh, we'll 0:07:20.800 --> 0:07:23.320 just sit inside and watch TV in order food again today. 0:07:23.600 --> 0:07:26.160 Oh well, since you know it's so easy to get comfortable, 0:07:26.520 --> 0:07:28.360 But I think you gotta keep going and doing different 0:07:28.360 --> 0:07:32.720 things and seeing different things. Um. I challenge y'all to 0:07:32.840 --> 0:07:37.400 go take dance classes every week. Oh, go take dance 0:07:37.400 --> 0:07:40.600 classes every week, maybe once or twice a week. You 0:07:40.640 --> 0:07:43.000 know it's gonna create so much more intimacy. It's just 0:07:43.040 --> 0:07:45.239 so much fun, you know, and it's like it's something 0:07:45.400 --> 0:07:48.600 completely reality ordinary, some totally different to challenge for both 0:07:48.640 --> 0:07:50.600 of you guys, and you guys will learn how to 0:07:50.600 --> 0:07:52.920 pick each other up. There's so many bye busses that 0:07:53.000 --> 0:07:55.320 come from dancing. You have to both be vulnerable and 0:07:55.320 --> 0:07:57.200 you'll see a different side of each other. And it's 0:07:57.440 --> 0:07:59.280 could be a fun activity, you know, and then go 0:07:59.320 --> 0:08:01.320 have a couple of cocks, goes out towards and that's 0:08:01.360 --> 0:08:05.080 your night. That sounds amazing. I to do that. But 0:08:06.120 --> 0:08:09.360 what's your favorite type of dance? Now? I need to know? Um, So, 0:08:09.480 --> 0:08:12.960 like me, I would love to learn how to do 0:08:13.120 --> 0:08:16.520 like the mamba, like the ballroom dancing, all like that stuff. 0:08:16.520 --> 0:08:18.120 I think that stuff is fun because there's so many 0:08:18.120 --> 0:08:22.040 different types of dances to do within that, you know, 0:08:22.080 --> 0:08:25.760 all that stuff like shot all that. So if you 0:08:25.920 --> 0:08:27.840 could go out there like, okay, this week we're gonna 0:08:27.880 --> 0:08:30.400 learn you know, the maringa or the bachata or you 0:08:30.400 --> 0:08:33.120 know all that stuff like I think ballroom, you know Latin, 0:08:33.240 --> 0:08:35.080 all that stuff is a ton of fun, and so 0:08:35.160 --> 0:08:37.920 I would I would definitely go for that. So I 0:08:37.960 --> 0:08:39.880 love that We're totally gonna do that. Well you know 0:08:39.880 --> 0:08:42.800 how it goes, and you need to tag me in 0:08:42.880 --> 0:08:44.920 your stories and your posts. I can see you'll they're 0:08:44.920 --> 0:08:54.920 doing it okay, all right, thank you? Bye? Bye? Hi, Hey, 0:08:54.960 --> 0:08:57.880 how are you? How are you good? Good? Nice to 0:08:57.880 --> 0:08:59.960 meet you. Where are you calling from? I'm calling for 0:09:00.080 --> 0:09:04.719 Indiana the Midwest. There we go. So obviously I've been 0:09:04.720 --> 0:09:07.839 through breakups and everything, and there's always been something I've 0:09:07.840 --> 0:09:12.120 been dying to know from a guy's perspective. Yeah, I'm 0:09:12.120 --> 0:09:16.040 just curious how males process a breakup, like if they 0:09:16.040 --> 0:09:19.079 really think about the person, or if they actually get 0:09:19.120 --> 0:09:22.160 upset at night, if they feel lonely, like any of that. Yeah, 0:09:22.240 --> 0:09:25.320 we definitely feel all those. Um, we definitely feel all 0:09:25.360 --> 0:09:27.720 those I still think about, you know, my past lead, 0:09:27.760 --> 0:09:31.959 you know the people, I my recent my my recent relationship. Um, 0:09:32.440 --> 0:09:34.120 I still you know, a nice and time he keeps 0:09:34.160 --> 0:09:35.839 me on my damn what you know, what the heck happened? 0:09:35.880 --> 0:09:38.000 Or why am I here? But like that's all part 0:09:38.040 --> 0:09:41.400 of growth and learning and growing and putting in your past. 0:09:41.400 --> 0:09:43.480 But we definitely feel what y'all feel. You know, it's 0:09:43.520 --> 0:09:47.000 not just the one sided thing, um, you know, and 0:09:47.040 --> 0:09:49.680 it's it's kind of hard to understand because like for me, 0:09:49.840 --> 0:09:51.600 when we break up and it's done done, like I 0:09:51.640 --> 0:09:54.079 try to cut off all communication, you know, because I 0:09:54.120 --> 0:09:55.880 don't want to go back, you know, and so it's 0:09:55.880 --> 0:09:57.440 like you don't know what other person is feeling or 0:09:57.440 --> 0:10:00.920 how they're reacting. But it's definitely, uh, we would definitely 0:10:00.920 --> 0:10:04.280 feel it on both ends. So you know, on a break, 0:10:04.280 --> 0:10:07.000 every not alone, no one wants to be there. Yeah, 0:10:07.120 --> 0:10:10.280 that's good to know you never know. Yeah, yeah, but 0:10:10.320 --> 0:10:17.439 don't go back. Don't go back of course now perfect? Well, 0:10:17.480 --> 0:10:24.160 thank you, yes, of course, have h what's up Becky? Hi? Tyler? 0:10:24.240 --> 0:10:27.760 How's it going good? How are you doing good? Where 0:10:27.760 --> 0:10:33.120 are you calling from Los Angeles? There we go? Yes, yes, um, 0:10:33.600 --> 0:10:36.880 okay Tyler. The question that I have for you to 0:10:37.080 --> 0:10:41.600 better understand men is what are some insecurities men have 0:10:42.000 --> 0:10:46.040 that women may not really think about or be aware of, 0:10:46.559 --> 0:10:50.480 or that it just are not obvious. Yeah. Um, I 0:10:50.520 --> 0:10:54.240 would say, like a complement goes a long way with us. 0:10:54.720 --> 0:10:57.680 You know, oh you don't have it look good or 0:10:57.800 --> 0:10:59.960 you know you look handsome today, like like we'll be 0:11:00.040 --> 0:11:01.400 through the roof, you know what I mean, we'll be 0:11:01.440 --> 0:11:04.400 so happy, so sot. You know, I think little things 0:11:04.440 --> 0:11:07.559 like that, you know, Um, I think finances can be 0:11:07.640 --> 0:11:09.760 an insecurity. I know a lot of guys you know 0:11:09.800 --> 0:11:12.360 that you know, I'm friends with and even sometimes myself, 0:11:12.400 --> 0:11:14.920 I have my own insecurities within it. But they don't 0:11:14.920 --> 0:11:17.240 want to take the next step forward, you know, they 0:11:17.240 --> 0:11:19.000 don't want to get engaged because they don't have the 0:11:19.040 --> 0:11:20.959 money to get the right ring or to do this 0:11:21.080 --> 0:11:24.440 or do that. So it holds them back. And I 0:11:24.440 --> 0:11:26.360 think it's more of an it's an insecurity thing, and 0:11:26.360 --> 0:11:28.520 it's something that I think it doesn't really make a knit, 0:11:28.679 --> 0:11:30.120 you know, the difference if you guys are really for 0:11:30.160 --> 0:11:32.959 each other, you know, And so I think finance is 0:11:33.000 --> 0:11:37.200 another big insecurity um. And then definitely, like you know, 0:11:37.440 --> 0:11:39.280 being in shape, you know, I think men who are 0:11:39.280 --> 0:11:41.520 out of shape definitely lose confidence, and men that are 0:11:41.520 --> 0:11:45.559 in shape, you know, they they had that confidence. That's important. 0:11:45.559 --> 0:11:47.840 I know, when I work out and I feel good 0:11:47.880 --> 0:11:50.520 about myself, I feel better about put myself out there. 0:11:50.600 --> 0:11:52.959 But when I'm being a piece of crap and eaten 0:11:53.080 --> 0:11:55.240 like crap, I feel like crap, you know what I mean. 0:11:55.480 --> 0:11:57.719 I'm not confident myself to go put myself out there. 0:11:57.720 --> 0:12:00.320 And so you can have those insecurities as well. So 0:12:00.360 --> 0:12:03.200 I think those are the big three right there, got it? 0:12:03.280 --> 0:12:07.600 So look good, feel good, make sure words of affirmation. Yeah, 0:12:07.720 --> 0:12:12.640 all of it good, awesome, Thank you, Tyler, thank you. Hello, 0:12:12.760 --> 0:12:16.400 Hi Tyler, how are you? How you doing good? Good? 0:12:17.120 --> 0:12:21.040 Nice to meet you. So my question for you is 0:12:21.400 --> 0:12:23.840 what do you do when a man is bread crumbing? You? 0:12:24.080 --> 0:12:26.720 Should you just leave? Or should you stick around because 0:12:26.800 --> 0:12:30.040 you know that there's something there bread crumbing? You give me, 0:12:30.120 --> 0:12:32.480 give me the definition of bread combing. Like, you know, 0:12:32.720 --> 0:12:36.520 he shows up, he like a couple of texts here 0:12:36.559 --> 0:12:38.839 and there, and then he'll disappear, or he wants to 0:12:38.840 --> 0:12:41.079 hang out through this weekend but not the next weekend. 0:12:41.120 --> 0:12:42.920 And then when you do hang out, there's like good 0:12:42.960 --> 0:12:45.280 chemistry between you guys, and you have an excellent time. 0:12:45.880 --> 0:12:48.880 But then it's not like not fully committed. So I 0:12:48.880 --> 0:12:51.560 guess you can say he's half committed. I guess that's 0:12:51.600 --> 0:12:56.440 what bread crumbing is. Like. Yeah, so, so I don't 0:12:56.480 --> 0:12:58.800 like bread crumbing. You know, if I'm if I'm talking 0:12:58.800 --> 0:13:00.840 to someone, I'm interested in their bread coming me, I'm 0:13:00.840 --> 0:13:03.960 not gonna like it, you know, And uh, you know, 0:13:04.040 --> 0:13:06.240 I think the best thing to do is is be 0:13:06.360 --> 0:13:09.240 up front. So I'm like, you know, I'm not for this. 0:13:09.280 --> 0:13:10.920 I'm not just gonna be someone you talked to here 0:13:10.920 --> 0:13:14.080 and there and and then if they're not for it, 0:13:14.160 --> 0:13:15.640 then that's not your person. You know, you can, you 0:13:15.679 --> 0:13:18.319 can move on with peace and just keep going. But 0:13:18.520 --> 0:13:22.120 I'm up front, I hate it. If you're gonna leave 0:13:22.160 --> 0:13:24.920 me along, you know, keep me. I'm good. I'm gonna 0:13:24.960 --> 0:13:26.320 be up front with you to tell you how it is. 0:13:26.360 --> 0:13:29.040 And that's it. So you know, I think it just 0:13:29.080 --> 0:13:31.120 comes with having a conversation, because no one wants to 0:13:31.120 --> 0:13:33.920 be bread crumb. You know, even though the chemistry is 0:13:33.920 --> 0:13:35.920 there and you feel good about it, say something or else, 0:13:35.920 --> 0:13:38.400 you're always gonna be like waiting and waiting and waiting, 0:13:38.600 --> 0:13:40.480 and that's the worst feeling in the world, you know, 0:13:40.880 --> 0:13:42.600 like hoping for the next text or the next call 0:13:42.679 --> 0:13:45.400 because like you enjoy seeing that person. But I have 0:13:45.480 --> 0:13:49.360 a conversation, be up front, and if it goes your way, great, 0:13:49.360 --> 0:13:51.040 and if it doesn't, it just leading to the next 0:13:51.040 --> 0:13:53.319 best thing. Then you know that that wasn't the person 0:13:53.400 --> 0:13:56.280 for you exactly. But it's tough. It's hard, it's hard 0:13:56.280 --> 0:13:59.400 to have the conversation, it's hard to be forward and transparent. 0:13:59.640 --> 0:14:02.199 But you will feel so much better and you will 0:14:02.240 --> 0:14:04.200 get so much better at doing it once you do it, 0:14:04.520 --> 0:14:08.840 you know, great, very nice. Thanks, it will be beneficial 0:14:09.240 --> 0:14:16.200 right than nice? Meet so Carly, Hey, guys, how's it 0:14:16.280 --> 0:14:21.280 going good? Where are you calling from? I'm calling from Brooklyn. Brooklyn. 0:14:21.360 --> 0:14:26.080 There we go, neighbors. Really, where do you live? Alright? Right? 0:14:26.160 --> 0:14:29.080 Like the Low Reside? Okay? Cool? Yeah, I live in Williamsburg. 0:14:29.360 --> 0:14:34.640 There you go. So what's going on? Um? Well, so 0:14:34.760 --> 0:14:38.720 I just recently moved to New York. Um from Arizona. 0:14:40.320 --> 0:14:42.560 Thank you, I love it. Um. I was in a 0:14:42.600 --> 0:14:47.640 three year relationship and finally ready to start dating again. UM. 0:14:47.720 --> 0:14:50.560 So I know you lived here and have experience with that. 0:14:50.840 --> 0:14:53.040 So I was just wondering, like, how if you have 0:14:53.040 --> 0:14:56.000 any advice on meeting guys in the city without being 0:14:56.040 --> 0:14:59.720 on an app? Yeah, that would be on the app. Um, 0:14:59.800 --> 0:15:02.360 I would do you have a group of friends like 0:15:02.400 --> 0:15:06.400 girls yet? Yeah? Definitely gets brought up with the girls 0:15:06.800 --> 0:15:09.920 and get out and just like you know, you're there's 0:15:09.920 --> 0:15:12.600 always people out, always people around. You know, if you 0:15:12.640 --> 0:15:14.360 go to a bar, you're always gonna meet people. So 0:15:14.640 --> 0:15:16.760 get with your friends and just just kind of go out, 0:15:16.800 --> 0:15:18.880 start meeting and start finding like the spots that everyone 0:15:18.960 --> 0:15:22.320 kind of hangs out at um you know. There there's 0:15:22.400 --> 0:15:25.240 tons of bars and tons of restaurants that people are 0:15:25.280 --> 0:15:27.400 all at hanging out. I think that's the best way. 0:15:27.520 --> 0:15:29.800 Just I wouldn't go to a club because you're not 0:15:29.800 --> 0:15:32.200 gonna be able to have a conversation with anybody. But 0:15:32.400 --> 0:15:34.200 go to go to go to you know, a fun 0:15:34.240 --> 0:15:36.240 little bar. There's so many cool little spots in the 0:15:36.280 --> 0:15:38.760 city that are very intimate but fun and got good people. 0:15:39.280 --> 0:15:42.240 Go to Do West. I like that place, great place 0:15:42.320 --> 0:15:47.240 to me people and and and you know, we go there. 0:15:47.400 --> 0:15:49.800 It's fun. There's great people there all the time, and 0:15:49.880 --> 0:15:53.080 just like but it's like not loud, not overbearing, you know, 0:15:53.320 --> 0:15:55.520 and it's it's a good time. So so go to 0:15:55.560 --> 0:15:58.600 Do West. Just just go thing and I'll go tonight. 0:16:01.520 --> 0:16:04.720 Well I appreciate you Colling. Yeah, thank you guys so much. 0:16:05.680 --> 0:16:09.840 Hi Tyler, Hey, how are you good? How are you good? 0:16:09.880 --> 0:16:15.160 Where you at? I'm in Greenville, South Carolina. I've been there. Yeah, 0:16:15.560 --> 0:16:19.360 I went there for a wedding last summer, last eummer night. Okay, 0:16:19.480 --> 0:16:26.320 summer is hot. Yeah. Yeah. So I'm eight and single, 0:16:27.040 --> 0:16:30.560 and I think it's getting a little frustrating and maybe 0:16:30.760 --> 0:16:34.760 a little discouraging, UM, meeting guys I'm off the apps. 0:16:35.320 --> 0:16:39.120 Not it's not for me, um. And the majority of 0:16:39.120 --> 0:16:42.080 my friends are married, so that's always fun going out 0:16:42.080 --> 0:16:44.240 with a bunch of married people. So I wanted to 0:16:44.280 --> 0:16:47.800 know if you had any insight on where to meet people, 0:16:48.800 --> 0:16:51.960 UM and ways to initiate like conversation with someone that 0:16:52.000 --> 0:16:55.000 aren't like having my married guy friend winging man me 0:16:55.160 --> 0:16:58.120 and just kind of like actually have some success because 0:16:59.160 --> 0:17:02.000 it's through out here. Yeah, no, I get it. UM. 0:17:02.040 --> 0:17:04.920 So I think you know, going out in groups is fun. UM. 0:17:04.960 --> 0:17:07.720 I think, uh, just like kind of hitting like the 0:17:07.800 --> 0:17:11.320 happening areas like not clubs, nothing like that, but like 0:17:11.320 --> 0:17:13.840 like a chill bar or a fun dinner spot where 0:17:13.880 --> 0:17:16.600 one gets drinks at, you know, like wherever it's like 0:17:17.000 --> 0:17:20.320 good to socialize at. Um. I've been to some spots 0:17:20.359 --> 0:17:22.880 in Greevent where it's not good to socialize at, but 0:17:23.880 --> 0:17:26.080 the spots better than I do. It's an amazing place. 0:17:26.160 --> 0:17:28.639 But also like you're married, friends like those are like 0:17:28.880 --> 0:17:31.200 you align with those people that they guarantee you. Like 0:17:31.800 --> 0:17:34.800 the guys that they're married, you know they're married to 0:17:35.000 --> 0:17:37.240 has friends that are kind of aligned with the same thing. 0:17:38.680 --> 0:17:41.480 You know, maybe they do stuff together and you can join, 0:17:41.520 --> 0:17:43.240 like you know, go to their dinner parties or whatever, 0:17:43.240 --> 0:17:44.920 and you never know who they may bring or who 0:17:45.240 --> 0:17:46.560 you may meet. I know a lot of people that 0:17:46.640 --> 0:17:49.280 met somebody through their married friends. You know, I would 0:17:49.280 --> 0:17:51.879 never close out that because I think, you know, your 0:17:51.920 --> 0:17:53.560 friends are your friends because you're align with the same 0:17:53.600 --> 0:17:57.280 morals and values and things like that, and so usually 0:17:57.320 --> 0:17:59.440 it's kind of all similar and whatnot. So I think, 0:17:59.680 --> 0:18:03.920 you know, don't just the married friends yet, but definitely, 0:18:03.920 --> 0:18:06.159 like you go hang out with places, you know, with 0:18:06.280 --> 0:18:08.520 your group of girls whatever, so you can meet other 0:18:08.560 --> 0:18:11.120 groups of guys and whatnot. But then also like stick 0:18:11.160 --> 0:18:13.360 to your married friends and maybe do dinners and whatnot, 0:18:14.000 --> 0:18:18.000 have them bring guys and friends and whatnot. Yeah, awesome, Well, 0:18:18.000 --> 0:18:21.479 thank you for Colin. Yeah, have a good day. You're 0:18:21.520 --> 0:18:27.800 the same. Bye. What's up, Sarah, So what's going on? So? Um, 0:18:27.840 --> 0:18:30.040 this is probably different than the questions you've been getting, 0:18:30.480 --> 0:18:32.919 But I've been in a long term relationship for like 0:18:33.000 --> 0:18:35.800 six years, I'm married, um, all that stuff. So my 0:18:35.880 --> 0:18:37.560 husband I were kind of talking about it the other night, 0:18:37.560 --> 0:18:39.960 so I wanted to hear your take on it. What 0:18:40.040 --> 0:18:43.480 do you think that men need differently, um, in a 0:18:43.560 --> 0:18:46.800 long term relationships, like keep things exciting and like fun 0:18:46.880 --> 0:18:49.520 and all that than different than women do and like 0:18:49.600 --> 0:18:53.760 kind of what do you think that is? Um? I 0:18:53.760 --> 0:18:56.600 I think you have to keep things fun and light. 0:18:56.720 --> 0:18:58.600 You know what I mean? And I mean you You've 0:18:58.640 --> 0:19:00.360 been in a relationship longer than I have. But I'll 0:19:00.359 --> 0:19:03.359 tell you this. One thing I've always dreamed of is 0:19:03.400 --> 0:19:06.320 like I want to be able to to go out 0:19:06.359 --> 0:19:08.119 with my wife and be able to do whatever we 0:19:08.160 --> 0:19:10.280 want to do. Like so like if we're out a 0:19:10.320 --> 0:19:11.679 dance party, I wanna be able to dance with her. 0:19:11.680 --> 0:19:12.879 I wanna be able to do this with her, like 0:19:12.960 --> 0:19:14.720 we like, we both know we can do this. So 0:19:15.440 --> 0:19:17.920 I challenge you I just did with someone else and 0:19:17.920 --> 0:19:20.520 there in a long termpnationship earlier, to go take dance 0:19:20.560 --> 0:19:23.680 classes with your husband once once a week or twice 0:19:23.680 --> 0:19:25.760 a week for a month, and it's gonna show you 0:19:25.760 --> 0:19:28.439 all a different side of each other, you know, And 0:19:28.480 --> 0:19:30.520 it's gonna you're gonna you know, you're gonna have to 0:19:30.520 --> 0:19:32.159 be vulnerable. He's gonna have to really come out of 0:19:32.200 --> 0:19:34.600 his comfort zone. You're gonna come out of years. You 0:19:34.640 --> 0:19:36.800 have to be sexy in a different way. And and 0:19:36.840 --> 0:19:39.040 so was he and it's gonna be funna goofy W 0:19:39.160 --> 0:19:42.840 has some drinks afterwards, like and and see where that goes. 0:19:42.920 --> 0:19:44.639 And you know, you guys go out to eat somewhere 0:19:44.680 --> 0:19:46.760 and they're playing some music. You guys go dance together. 0:19:46.760 --> 0:19:49.000 And like I'm telling you, dancing is the most fun 0:19:49.040 --> 0:19:51.520 to have someone else, you know. I like that idea. 0:19:51.600 --> 0:19:53.399 And I'm a terrible dancer, so I probably need to 0:19:53.480 --> 0:19:55.400 do that. Either way, You're gonna take some ball from 0:19:55.480 --> 0:19:58.239 dancing classes, learn some other styles of dancing, you know. 0:19:58.359 --> 0:20:00.479 And and so you can be any where, you can 0:20:00.480 --> 0:20:02.320 do anything together. You can. You can have fun just 0:20:02.359 --> 0:20:04.679 by yourselves, you know. And and that's the most important thing. 0:20:04.760 --> 0:20:07.080 Is Like if you can kick kick over the coffee 0:20:07.080 --> 0:20:08.560 table and make some room and put out some music 0:20:08.600 --> 0:20:10.520 and dance and have a hell of at night, that's gonna, 0:20:10.520 --> 0:20:13.240 it's gonna, it's gonna last, gonna do well. That is 0:20:13.359 --> 0:20:15.480 really good advice. I agree, And um, I'll have to 0:20:15.520 --> 0:20:18.119 look into it. Hey, I want to see dance classes. 0:20:18.160 --> 0:20:19.920 I need you to tag me in your dance classes 0:20:19.960 --> 0:20:24.080 so I know happening review. I need you to come 0:20:24.119 --> 0:20:25.440