Speaker 1: We're taking you inside the mind of a man. This
Speaker 1: is How Men Thick and I Heard radio podcast. Hey everyone,
Speaker 1: I'm Tyler Cameron and you may know me as a
Speaker 1: contestant from the Bachelor of Season, but I am also
Speaker 1: an entrepreneur, the author of Me Deserve Vetter, and co
Speaker 1: founder of the Andrey A. C. Cameron Foundation, and I'm
Speaker 1: currently competing on the fast competition series The Real Dirty Dancing.
Speaker 1: I am so happy to be guest hosting How Men Think.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna answer all your questions and solve the fascinating
Speaker 1: questions of how men think or do we? But first,
Speaker 1: this is eleven Questions with Tyler Cameron. Let's get into it.
Speaker 1: What are you known for? Tell us about yourself. I
Speaker 1: guess what I'm known for is my time on the Bachelorette. Um,
Speaker 1: that's kind of how I came onto the scene. But
Speaker 1: tell you about myself. I was a kid worn to
Speaker 1: raise in Jupiter, Florida. Um, got it? You know it.
Speaker 1: Was a football player, you know, tried playing pro, got
Speaker 1: cut out the Ravens a couple of times. Uh, then
Speaker 1: I got hurt. My career was done. I was like
Speaker 1: broke jock at this point. Um, I went back to school,
Speaker 1: finished up my m b A, uh, got my GC license,
Speaker 1: and I started building houses and I just got my
Speaker 1: first house going. And then The Bachelor I called and
Speaker 1: they wanted me to come on the show. And that
Speaker 1: was kind of how I got my start. And now,
Speaker 1: you know, back and forth between New York and Florida
Speaker 1: and building houses and kind of doing the same thing. Still, UM,
Speaker 1: who are you in your personal life? Me? I just
Speaker 1: like to be home with my friends. I grew up
Speaker 1: with my family. UM, I'm a very simple guy. I
Speaker 1: like to be on my boat, like to be on
Speaker 1: the water. Uh like to just honestly be home and
Speaker 1: being juper four. That's my happy place. So that's kind
Speaker 1: of my personal life. Three shows that I am binge
Speaker 1: watching right now. Right now, I'm watching Friday Night Lights.
Speaker 1: I've never seen the TV show I'm a Football Guy.
Speaker 1: I fell in love with the show just recently watching it.
Speaker 1: Another one is made incredible show on Netflix. UM, really
Speaker 1: kind of opens your eyes to domestic violence and how
Speaker 1: you know rough that can really be really changed my
Speaker 1: you know, showed me so much about that world that
Speaker 1: I just never saw or could imagine. UM, very very
Speaker 1: great show and then Kevin Hart has a show on
Speaker 1: there called True Story and it's Kevin Hart not being funny,
Speaker 1: being serious drama and he one crussures it into it's
Speaker 1: just a show full of anxiety. It's like, oh my god,
Speaker 1: how can this happen? How can that happen? So those
Speaker 1: are my three shows checking out, Friday Night Lights Made
Speaker 1: and True Story. What is my favorite food? Either a
Speaker 1: steak or cheeseburger. Um, My brother's steaks are number one.
Speaker 1: He can cook so damn good. And my favorite burger
Speaker 1: is from a place called Four Charles, but the same
Speaker 1: burger Ashibalt and restaurational Hardware. They'll check those burgers out
Speaker 1: and get back to me. Best burger in the world
Speaker 1: number two, shake shack. Um, tell us about out your career.
Speaker 1: My career, Um, well, I'm into building houses. I'm building
Speaker 1: four houses right now. They're spec home, so I'm building
Speaker 1: them on speculation that somebody buys them. Uh so I'm
Speaker 1: designing it doing all that fun stuff. I'm working on
Speaker 1: my path which has been a lot of fun. But
Speaker 1: also we Buttu hads a little bit, you know, on
Speaker 1: design ideas and whatnot. But you know, that's that's that's
Speaker 1: part of my life. I also owned two restaurants, working
Speaker 1: on getting my third, and just just signed a deal
Speaker 1: today and close hopefully in a month from my third restaurant.
Speaker 1: So very excited about that. It's all about the health
Speaker 1: food space. And then I just love, you know, fitness,
Speaker 1: and I want to do more in that world. And
Speaker 1: I guess I'm just kind of all over the place.
Speaker 1: You know. My dad always says, you know, go with
Speaker 1: the money. Uh. What's your biggest fear in life? Um?
Speaker 1: My biggest fear in life is to to not have
Speaker 1: a family. Um. I want to be a dad, I
Speaker 1: want to be a husband, I want to raise kids.
Speaker 1: I want to have a bunch of land, let them
Speaker 1: all run around and and be goofballs and let you
Speaker 1: join them with them. You know. So I think not
Speaker 1: having a family is definitely my biggest fear in life.
Speaker 1: What is my biggest pet? Peeve? All Right, if I
Speaker 1: call you and you text me back, what's up? We're fighting?
Speaker 1: I hate that just calling me. Call me back. I
Speaker 1: don't want to. I'm probably driving or something, so I
Speaker 1: can't text, So call me back. So if I'm driving,
Speaker 1: if I'm calling, you, don't test me, call me back. Uh.
Speaker 1: What makes you the most happy. For me, the things
Speaker 1: that made me the most happy is being home, being
Speaker 1: with my friends, being with my family. Uh, those are
Speaker 1: the most important people in my life. Being with my dog,
Speaker 1: so getting back to Jupiter, Florida, and just being around
Speaker 1: the people that I love. And you know, last night
Speaker 1: I watched an episode of Real Day Dancing. I sat
Speaker 1: next to my nanna and I got to share that
Speaker 1: experience with her, and to me, that's what it's all about. Um,
Speaker 1: what is your ideal Saturday morning? This is my favorite
Speaker 1: Saturday ritual. So if you guys know, you guys know
Speaker 1: my trainer, Phil Fit. He's also a big brother to me.
Speaker 1: I've known. I've been working with him since I was
Speaker 1: in the seventh grade. That's my guys, my big brother.
Speaker 1: I love him to death. So Phil comes over, all
Speaker 1: my friends come over and Phil works us out in
Speaker 1: the garage in the driveway down the street. All the
Speaker 1: neighbors are watching us because we look like Radius. But
Speaker 1: Phil is killing us. We're dying. So we'll do a
Speaker 1: Phil Fit workout. We'll go to my restaurant Three Natives.
Speaker 1: We'll get a healthy little luncheon afterwards, and then after
Speaker 1: that we go hit the boat and have a wonderful
Speaker 1: down the water. That's my perfect ideal Saturday morning. Um.
Speaker 1: Are you more of the athlete or the armchair quarterback? Uh? Well,
Speaker 1: I was the backup quarterback in college, so I can
Speaker 1: understand being the armchair quarterback, but I'm definitely more of
Speaker 1: the athlete. I don't really enjoy watching football as much
Speaker 1: as I do playing it or playing any sport, so
Speaker 1: I'm definitely more of the athlete. But I will definitely
Speaker 1: chir up a bad quarterback if I see it. Uh well,
Speaker 1: keeps motivated. Um. You know, my number one dream and
Speaker 1: goal in life is to be a dad, but also
Speaker 1: coach high school football. So I want to grind. I
Speaker 1: want to make money so I can be in a
Speaker 1: point in life where I can put you know, so
Speaker 1: everything I'm done. I just want to be a dad,
Speaker 1: coach football, help kids get to college, and be a
Speaker 1: great husband. And so until you to that point, I'm
Speaker 1: gonna work and grinding my butt off and then just
Speaker 1: get to that point and live life after that. That
Speaker 1: was eleven Places with Todd Cameron. We're about to take
Speaker 1: a break, but when we get back, we're gonna be
Speaker 1: answering your live call, so to an in, Hi, how
Speaker 1: are you going on? I'm newly married and as a
Speaker 1: thank you, and we we were honeymooning in Florida. We
Speaker 1: went to Jupiter. It's so nice over there. But I
Speaker 1: was wondering if you had any advice as to how
Speaker 1: we can keep this, like really when feeling alive, since
Speaker 1: it's you know, brand new. But what would you suggest?
Speaker 1: So what I would suggest, one is always have a schedule,
Speaker 1: like have one day night dedicated every week, and there's
Speaker 1: no vans or buzz about like Dad's y'all's night, So
Speaker 1: it forces you to get out of the house. Because
Speaker 1: I think it's so easy to get comfortable. Oh, we'll
Speaker 1: just sit inside and watch TV in order food again today.
Speaker 1: Oh well, since you know it's so easy to get comfortable,
Speaker 1: But I think you gotta keep going and doing different
Speaker 1: things and seeing different things. Um. I challenge y'all to
Speaker 1: go take dance classes every week. Oh, go take dance
Speaker 1: classes every week, maybe once or twice a week. You
Speaker 1: know it's gonna create so much more intimacy. It's just
Speaker 1: so much fun, you know, and it's like it's something
Speaker 1: completely reality ordinary, some totally different to challenge for both
Speaker 1: of you guys, and you guys will learn how to
Speaker 1: pick each other up. There's so many bye busses that
Speaker 1: come from dancing. You have to both be vulnerable and
Speaker 1: you'll see a different side of each other. And it's
Speaker 1: could be a fun activity, you know, and then go
Speaker 1: have a couple of cocks, goes out towards and that's
Speaker 1: your night. That sounds amazing. I to do that. But
Speaker 1: what's your favorite type of dance? Now? I need to know? Um, So,
Speaker 1: like me, I would love to learn how to do
Speaker 1: like the mamba, like the ballroom dancing, all like that stuff.
Speaker 1: I think that stuff is fun because there's so many
Speaker 1: different types of dances to do within that, you know,
Speaker 1: all that stuff like shot all that. So if you
Speaker 1: could go out there like, okay, this week we're gonna
Speaker 1: learn you know, the maringa or the bachata or you
Speaker 1: know all that stuff like I think ballroom, you know Latin,
Speaker 1: all that stuff is a ton of fun, and so
Speaker 1: I would I would definitely go for that. So I
Speaker 1: love that We're totally gonna do that. Well you know
Speaker 1: how it goes, and you need to tag me in
Speaker 1: your stories and your posts. I can see you'll they're
Speaker 1: doing it okay, all right, thank you? Bye? Bye? Hi, Hey,
Speaker 1: how are you? How are you good? Good? Nice to
Speaker 1: meet you. Where are you calling from? I'm calling for
Speaker 1: Indiana the Midwest. There we go. So obviously I've been
Speaker 1: through breakups and everything, and there's always been something I've
Speaker 1: been dying to know from a guy's perspective. Yeah, I'm
Speaker 1: just curious how males process a breakup, like if they
Speaker 1: really think about the person, or if they actually get
Speaker 1: upset at night, if they feel lonely, like any of that. Yeah,
Speaker 1: we definitely feel all those. Um, we definitely feel all
Speaker 1: those I still think about, you know, my past lead,
Speaker 1: you know the people, I my recent my my recent relationship. Um,
Speaker 1: I still you know, a nice and time he keeps
Speaker 1: me on my damn what you know, what the heck happened?
Speaker 1: Or why am I here? But like that's all part
Speaker 1: of growth and learning and growing and putting in your past.
Speaker 1: But we definitely feel what y'all feel. You know, it's
Speaker 1: not just the one sided thing, um, you know, and
Speaker 1: it's it's kind of hard to understand because like for me,
Speaker 1: when we break up and it's done done, like I
Speaker 1: try to cut off all communication, you know, because I
Speaker 1: don't want to go back, you know, and so it's
Speaker 1: like you don't know what other person is feeling or
Speaker 1: how they're reacting. But it's definitely, uh, we would definitely
Speaker 1: feel it on both ends. So you know, on a break,
Speaker 1: every not alone, no one wants to be there. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's good to know you never know. Yeah, yeah, but
Speaker 1: don't go back. Don't go back of course now perfect? Well,
Speaker 1: thank you, yes, of course, have h what's up Becky? Hi? Tyler?
Speaker 1: How's it going good? How are you doing good? Where
Speaker 1: are you calling from Los Angeles? There we go? Yes, yes, um,
Speaker 1: okay Tyler. The question that I have for you to
Speaker 1: better understand men is what are some insecurities men have
Speaker 1: that women may not really think about or be aware of,
Speaker 1: or that it just are not obvious. Yeah. Um, I
Speaker 1: would say, like a complement goes a long way with us.
Speaker 1: You know, oh you don't have it look good or
Speaker 1: you know you look handsome today, like like we'll be
Speaker 1: through the roof, you know what I mean, we'll be
Speaker 1: so happy, so sot. You know, I think little things
Speaker 1: like that, you know, Um, I think finances can be
Speaker 1: an insecurity. I know a lot of guys you know
Speaker 1: that you know, I'm friends with and even sometimes myself,
Speaker 1: I have my own insecurities within it. But they don't
Speaker 1: want to take the next step forward, you know, they
Speaker 1: don't want to get engaged because they don't have the
Speaker 1: money to get the right ring or to do this
Speaker 1: or do that. So it holds them back. And I
Speaker 1: think it's more of an it's an insecurity thing, and
Speaker 1: it's something that I think it doesn't really make a knit,
Speaker 1: you know, the difference if you guys are really for
Speaker 1: each other, you know, And so I think finance is
Speaker 1: another big insecurity um. And then definitely, like you know,
Speaker 1: being in shape, you know, I think men who are
Speaker 1: out of shape definitely lose confidence, and men that are
Speaker 1: in shape, you know, they they had that confidence. That's important.
Speaker 1: I know, when I work out and I feel good
Speaker 1: about myself, I feel better about put myself out there.
Speaker 1: But when I'm being a piece of crap and eaten
Speaker 1: like crap, I feel like crap, you know what I mean.
Speaker 1: I'm not confident myself to go put myself out there.
Speaker 1: And so you can have those insecurities as well. So
Speaker 1: I think those are the big three right there, got it?
Speaker 1: So look good, feel good, make sure words of affirmation. Yeah,
Speaker 1: all of it good, awesome, Thank you, Tyler, thank you. Hello,
Speaker 1: Hi Tyler, how are you? How you doing good? Good?
Speaker 1: Nice to meet you. So my question for you is
Speaker 1: what do you do when a man is bread crumbing? You?
Speaker 1: Should you just leave? Or should you stick around because
Speaker 1: you know that there's something there bread crumbing? You give me,
Speaker 1: give me the definition of bread combing. Like, you know,
Speaker 1: he shows up, he like a couple of texts here
Speaker 1: and there, and then he'll disappear, or he wants to
Speaker 1: hang out through this weekend but not the next weekend.
Speaker 1: And then when you do hang out, there's like good
Speaker 1: chemistry between you guys, and you have an excellent time.
Speaker 1: But then it's not like not fully committed. So I
Speaker 1: guess you can say he's half committed. I guess that's
Speaker 1: what bread crumbing is. Like. Yeah, so, so I don't
Speaker 1: like bread crumbing. You know, if I'm if I'm talking
Speaker 1: to someone, I'm interested in their bread coming me, I'm
Speaker 1: not gonna like it, you know, And uh, you know,
Speaker 1: I think the best thing to do is is be
Speaker 1: up front. So I'm like, you know, I'm not for this.
Speaker 1: I'm not just gonna be someone you talked to here
Speaker 1: and there and and then if they're not for it,
Speaker 1: then that's not your person. You know, you can, you
Speaker 1: can move on with peace and just keep going. But
Speaker 1: I'm up front, I hate it. If you're gonna leave
Speaker 1: me along, you know, keep me. I'm good. I'm gonna
Speaker 1: be up front with you to tell you how it is.
Speaker 1: And that's it. So you know, I think it just
Speaker 1: comes with having a conversation, because no one wants to
Speaker 1: be bread crumb. You know, even though the chemistry is
Speaker 1: there and you feel good about it, say something or else,
Speaker 1: you're always gonna be like waiting and waiting and waiting,
Speaker 1: and that's the worst feeling in the world, you know,
Speaker 1: like hoping for the next text or the next call
Speaker 1: because like you enjoy seeing that person. But I have
Speaker 1: a conversation, be up front, and if it goes your way, great,
Speaker 1: and if it doesn't, it just leading to the next
Speaker 1: best thing. Then you know that that wasn't the person
Speaker 1: for you exactly. But it's tough. It's hard, it's hard
Speaker 1: to have the conversation, it's hard to be forward and transparent.
Speaker 1: But you will feel so much better and you will
Speaker 1: get so much better at doing it once you do it,
Speaker 1: you know, great, very nice. Thanks, it will be beneficial
Speaker 1: right than nice? Meet so Carly, Hey, guys, how's it
Speaker 1: going good? Where are you calling from? I'm calling from Brooklyn. Brooklyn.
Speaker 1: There we go, neighbors. Really, where do you live? Alright? Right?
Speaker 1: Like the Low Reside? Okay? Cool? Yeah, I live in Williamsburg.
Speaker 1: There you go. So what's going on? Um? Well, so
Speaker 1: I just recently moved to New York. Um from Arizona.
Speaker 1: Thank you, I love it. Um. I was in a
Speaker 1: three year relationship and finally ready to start dating again. UM.
Speaker 1: So I know you lived here and have experience with that.
Speaker 1: So I was just wondering, like, how if you have
Speaker 1: any advice on meeting guys in the city without being
Speaker 1: on an app? Yeah, that would be on the app. Um,
Speaker 1: I would do you have a group of friends like
Speaker 1: girls yet? Yeah? Definitely gets brought up with the girls
Speaker 1: and get out and just like you know, you're there's
Speaker 1: always people out, always people around. You know, if you
Speaker 1: go to a bar, you're always gonna meet people. So
Speaker 1: get with your friends and just just kind of go out,
Speaker 1: start meeting and start finding like the spots that everyone
Speaker 1: kind of hangs out at um you know. There there's
Speaker 1: tons of bars and tons of restaurants that people are
Speaker 1: all at hanging out. I think that's the best way.
Speaker 1: Just I wouldn't go to a club because you're not
Speaker 1: gonna be able to have a conversation with anybody. But
Speaker 1: go to go to go to you know, a fun
Speaker 1: little bar. There's so many cool little spots in the
Speaker 1: city that are very intimate but fun and got good people.
Speaker 1: Go to Do West. I like that place, great place
Speaker 1: to me people and and and you know, we go there.
Speaker 1: It's fun. There's great people there all the time, and
Speaker 1: just like but it's like not loud, not overbearing, you know,
Speaker 1: and it's it's a good time. So so go to
Speaker 1: Do West. Just just go thing and I'll go tonight.
Speaker 1: Well I appreciate you Colling. Yeah, thank you guys so much.
Speaker 1: Hi Tyler, Hey, how are you good? How are you good?
Speaker 1: Where you at? I'm in Greenville, South Carolina. I've been there. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I went there for a wedding last summer, last eummer night. Okay,
Speaker 1: summer is hot. Yeah. Yeah. So I'm eight and single,
Speaker 1: and I think it's getting a little frustrating and maybe
Speaker 1: a little discouraging, UM, meeting guys I'm off the apps.
Speaker 1: Not it's not for me, um. And the majority of
Speaker 1: my friends are married, so that's always fun going out
Speaker 1: with a bunch of married people. So I wanted to
Speaker 1: know if you had any insight on where to meet people,
Speaker 1: UM and ways to initiate like conversation with someone that
Speaker 1: aren't like having my married guy friend winging man me
Speaker 1: and just kind of like actually have some success because
Speaker 1: it's through out here. Yeah, no, I get it. UM.
Speaker 1: So I think you know, going out in groups is fun. UM.
Speaker 1: I think, uh, just like kind of hitting like the
Speaker 1: happening areas like not clubs, nothing like that, but like
Speaker 1: like a chill bar or a fun dinner spot where
Speaker 1: one gets drinks at, you know, like wherever it's like
Speaker 1: good to socialize at. Um. I've been to some spots
Speaker 1: in Greevent where it's not good to socialize at, but
Speaker 1: the spots better than I do. It's an amazing place.
Speaker 1: But also like you're married, friends like those are like
Speaker 1: you align with those people that they guarantee you. Like
Speaker 1: the guys that they're married, you know they're married to
Speaker 1: has friends that are kind of aligned with the same thing.
Speaker 1: You know, maybe they do stuff together and you can join,
Speaker 1: like you know, go to their dinner parties or whatever,
Speaker 1: and you never know who they may bring or who
Speaker 1: you may meet. I know a lot of people that
Speaker 1: met somebody through their married friends. You know, I would
Speaker 1: never close out that because I think, you know, your
Speaker 1: friends are your friends because you're align with the same
Speaker 1: morals and values and things like that, and so usually
Speaker 1: it's kind of all similar and whatnot. So I think,
Speaker 1: you know, don't just the married friends yet, but definitely,
Speaker 1: like you go hang out with places, you know, with
Speaker 1: your group of girls whatever, so you can meet other
Speaker 1: groups of guys and whatnot. But then also like stick
Speaker 1: to your married friends and maybe do dinners and whatnot,
Speaker 1: have them bring guys and friends and whatnot. Yeah, awesome, Well,
Speaker 1: thank you for Colin. Yeah, have a good day. You're
Speaker 1: the same. Bye. What's up, Sarah, So what's going on? So? Um,
Speaker 1: this is probably different than the questions you've been getting,
Speaker 1: But I've been in a long term relationship for like
Speaker 1: six years, I'm married, um, all that stuff. So my
Speaker 1: husband I were kind of talking about it the other night,
Speaker 1: so I wanted to hear your take on it. What
Speaker 1: do you think that men need differently, um, in a
Speaker 1: long term relationships, like keep things exciting and like fun
Speaker 1: and all that than different than women do and like
Speaker 1: kind of what do you think that is? Um? I
Speaker 1: I think you have to keep things fun and light.
Speaker 1: You know what I mean? And I mean you You've
Speaker 1: been in a relationship longer than I have. But I'll
Speaker 1: tell you this. One thing I've always dreamed of is
Speaker 1: like I want to be able to to go out
Speaker 1: with my wife and be able to do whatever we
Speaker 1: want to do. Like so like if we're out a
Speaker 1: dance party, I wanna be able to dance with her.
Speaker 1: I wanna be able to do this with her, like
Speaker 1: we like, we both know we can do this. So
Speaker 1: I challenge you I just did with someone else and
Speaker 1: there in a long termpnationship earlier, to go take dance
Speaker 1: classes with your husband once once a week or twice
Speaker 1: a week for a month, and it's gonna show you
Speaker 1: all a different side of each other, you know, And
Speaker 1: it's gonna you're gonna you know, you're gonna have to
Speaker 1: be vulnerable. He's gonna have to really come out of
Speaker 1: his comfort zone. You're gonna come out of years. You
Speaker 1: have to be sexy in a different way. And and
Speaker 1: so was he and it's gonna be funna goofy W
Speaker 1: has some drinks afterwards, like and and see where that goes.
Speaker 1: And you know, you guys go out to eat somewhere
Speaker 1: and they're playing some music. You guys go dance together.
Speaker 1: And like I'm telling you, dancing is the most fun
Speaker 1: to have someone else, you know. I like that idea.
Speaker 1: And I'm a terrible dancer, so I probably need to
Speaker 1: do that. Either way, You're gonna take some ball from
Speaker 1: dancing classes, learn some other styles of dancing, you know.
Speaker 1: And and so you can be any where, you can
Speaker 1: do anything together. You can. You can have fun just
Speaker 1: by yourselves, you know. And and that's the most important thing.
Speaker 1: Is Like if you can kick kick over the coffee
Speaker 1: table and make some room and put out some music
Speaker 1: and dance and have a hell of at night, that's gonna,
Speaker 1: it's gonna, it's gonna last, gonna do well. That is
Speaker 1: really good advice. I agree, And um, I'll have to
Speaker 1: look into it. Hey, I want to see dance classes.
Speaker 1: I need you to tag me in your dance classes
Speaker 1: so I know happening review. I need you to come
Speaker 1: back to me and tell me this was a great
Speaker 1: idea or not. I can definitely do that, all right. Nice, Hey,
Speaker 1: how are you good? How are you? I'm sad. Nice
Speaker 1: to meet you. Nice to meet you too. What's going on?
Speaker 1: I'm wondering if you have any advice for people in
Speaker 1: a relationship if their boyfriend's the jealous type. The jealous type, Oh,
Speaker 1: that's tough. It's hard because that means he's dealing with
Speaker 1: some insecurities of himself. You know. Yeah, he's gotta get
Speaker 1: past and that's nothing you can do. You know, he's
Speaker 1: got to go through his own issues, in his own
Speaker 1: battles to get through that. And if it's a guy
Speaker 1: you love and stick around, he's gotta try and you know,
Speaker 1: comfort him and help him work through those insecurities. But
Speaker 1: you can't do things because they if you want to
Speaker 1: go do something that makes you happy, to go do it,
Speaker 1: if that makes him jealous, he's gotta work on that,
Speaker 1: you know, Like what's he jealous about? Um? Just like
Speaker 1: if I go out without him or he's just like
Speaker 1: always worried about what I'm doing. Yeah, he's got to
Speaker 1: learn how to get over that. Because like if you
Speaker 1: guys are gonna make it and last forever, like that's
Speaker 1: what we all help and dream for. He's not gonna
Speaker 1: be able to do that all the time. You know.
Speaker 1: It's gonna drive him crazy, and then it's gonna more
Speaker 1: so drive you crazy because you're not gonna be You're
Speaker 1: gonna feel guilty going out and having fun. So to
Speaker 1: be honest, he's either gotta he's gotta work through those
Speaker 1: insecurities himself, and you can try and be there for him,
Speaker 1: but it's really a him issue, not a you issue
Speaker 1: at all. You know, Jealousy is a killer, you know,
Speaker 1: and hopefully he can get through it and all that,
Speaker 1: but you know, be there for him as much as
Speaker 1: much as you can. But I'm telling you, those are
Speaker 1: his issues and not your issues, and you have to
Speaker 1: do what makes you happy and keep yourself happy. You
Speaker 1: gotta go out with your girls, you gotta go have
Speaker 1: a good time. You're not doing anything wrong, you know.
Speaker 1: He's just got to get through his own issues. And
Speaker 1: you know there's there may be something from his past
Speaker 1: that's that's got him, you know, but his past is
Speaker 1: not your fault, you know, So he's running to work
Speaker 1: through his own issues. And you know, it's up to
Speaker 1: you for how much you want to stick around and
Speaker 1: help work through it or not. Yeah, don't let it
Speaker 1: beat your don't want to beat you up. Yeah, you know,
Speaker 1: thank you, I appreciate it. Of course, nice to meet you.
Speaker 1: Of course, keep having fun or goodbye to my boyfriend
Speaker 1: either one? Okay, thanks? How has your dating light change
Speaker 1: since being on the Bachelor atte um? It's definitely a
Speaker 1: lot more difficult because everyone you date is uh as
Speaker 1: broadcasted for everyone to see through paparazzis and tablets and
Speaker 1: stuff like that, and then everyone wants to cast their
Speaker 1: opinion on the person you're dating. So it's definitely much
Speaker 1: more difficult, and not more so for my yourself. I
Speaker 1: just feel bad for the person I'm with because but
Speaker 1: you know, it could be a tough crowd and they
Speaker 1: can there can be a lot of backlash towards that person.
Speaker 1: Something's affected my past relationship. But uh, it's also the
Speaker 1: doors a lot to me, me meaning a lot of
Speaker 1: people as well, So it's got it's pluses of negatives
Speaker 1: for sure. Is it harder to find a more genuine
Speaker 1: connection since being in the spotlight? Do men prefer a
Speaker 1: popular woman. Do you guys take into consideration the number
Speaker 1: of social media followers a girl has. Um, If a
Speaker 1: guy is taking into consideration the number of social media
Speaker 1: followers a girl has, he's an idiot. Um. That has
Speaker 1: nothing to do with the person you're talking to. And uh,
Speaker 1: very shallow and immature. So if a guy is doing that,
Speaker 1: that's a red flag. Um. Do men prefer a popular woman? No?
Speaker 1: I think, you know, I think being in this limelight
Speaker 1: and popular world, like, it's it's it's profession to have
Speaker 1: those that aren't popular and those that are popular. You know,
Speaker 1: it's all about how it's it's about the connection, about
Speaker 1: who the person is. Um. But is it harder to
Speaker 1: find a more genuine connection since being in the spotlight?
Speaker 1: Yes and no, Um, you know you definitely are more
Speaker 1: careful and more worried about you know, their intentions and that.
Speaker 1: But it's, uh, it's it's I'd say it's a little
Speaker 1: bit harder. How many dms do you get from women
Speaker 1: each day? Do you look at all your d ms? Like,
Speaker 1: there's a lot of d ms, a lot of d
Speaker 1: ms from from from women. Uh do I look at
Speaker 1: all of them? I look at some some of them
Speaker 1: crack me up. Some of them keep me posting what's
Speaker 1: going on? Um? Or if I want to get a
Speaker 1: reaction of something stupid I posted on social media, see
Speaker 1: what they're saying, I'll check it out. But that's pretty
Speaker 1: much it. Um. Should woman shoot the shot and the
Speaker 1: guy's d M? Yeah, shoot your shot? Um, DM slotting
Speaker 1: is not too aggressive. The next question is, are slotting
Speaker 1: if the dems aggresive or attractive? It's attractive, it's attractive,
Speaker 1: go for it. Shoot your shot. Um. If you're into somebody,
Speaker 1: go for it. You know, men and women need to
Speaker 1: be shooting shots. Everyone needs to be shooting shots and
Speaker 1: going for it. Uh So women shoot away. We love it.
Speaker 1: It's hot, it's amazing. If a DM does work, what
Speaker 1: type of message catches your eye? Come with some humor.
Speaker 1: I love humor. I love you know, someone that can
Speaker 1: say something funny or or throw me off a little bit.
Speaker 1: So definitely go for that, um and let's do one more.
Speaker 1: Social media can be tough. Do guys compare themselves to
Speaker 1: other guys the way girls do? I believe, Yeah, I
Speaker 1: believe a lot of guys do compare you know, you know,
Speaker 1: it's it's the goal keeping up of the Jones deal.
Speaker 1: You know, we all gonna you know, live the life.
Speaker 1: And you know, I follow big entrepreneurs and you know,
Speaker 1: people that I look up to and whatnot, and I'm like, damn,
Speaker 1: I got this house, but he's got these many houses.
Speaker 1: You know, which is which is easy to do, but
Speaker 1: it's it's very harmful to due to yourself as well.
Speaker 1: So uh, you know, don't compare yourself to anybody. You
Speaker 1: are your best owned person. And if you compare yourself,
Speaker 1: you're gonna steal the joy of your life away. So
Speaker 1: no more comparing. Love yourself and be good with yourself.
Speaker 1: That's all I got for you. Thank you guys for
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