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Speaker 1: We're taking you inside the mind of a man. This

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Speaker 1: is How Men Thick and I Heard radio podcast. Hey everyone,

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Speaker 1: I'm Tyler Cameron and you may know me as a

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Speaker 1: contestant from the Bachelor of Season, but I am also

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Speaker 1: an entrepreneur, the author of Me Deserve Vetter, and co

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Speaker 1: founder of the Andrey A. C. Cameron Foundation, and I'm

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Speaker 1: currently competing on the fast competition series The Real Dirty Dancing.

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Speaker 1: I am so happy to be guest hosting How Men Think.

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna answer all your questions and solve the fascinating

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Speaker 1: questions of how men think or do we? But first,

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Speaker 1: this is eleven Questions with Tyler Cameron. Let's get into it.

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Speaker 1: What are you known for? Tell us about yourself. I

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Speaker 1: guess what I'm known for is my time on the Bachelorette. Um,

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Speaker 1: that's kind of how I came onto the scene. But

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Speaker 1: tell you about myself. I was a kid worn to

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Speaker 1: raise in Jupiter, Florida. Um, got it? You know it.

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Speaker 1: Was a football player, you know, tried playing pro, got

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Speaker 1: cut out the Ravens a couple of times. Uh, then

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Speaker 1: I got hurt. My career was done. I was like

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Speaker 1: and I started building houses and I just got my

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Speaker 1: they wanted me to come on the show. And that

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Speaker 1: was kind of how I got my start. And now,

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Speaker 1: you know, back and forth between New York and Florida

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Speaker 1: and building houses and kind of doing the same thing. Still, UM,

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Speaker 1: who are you in your personal life? Me? I just

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Speaker 1: like to be home with my friends. I grew up

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Speaker 1: like to be on my boat, like to be on

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Speaker 1: being juper four. That's my happy place. So that's kind

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Speaker 1: of my personal life. Three shows that I am binge

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Speaker 1: watching right now. Right now, I'm watching Friday Night Lights.

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Speaker 1: I've never seen the TV show I'm a Football Guy.

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Speaker 1: Another one is made incredible show on Netflix. UM, really

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Speaker 1: great show and then Kevin Hart has a show on

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Speaker 1: there called True Story and it's Kevin Hart not being funny,

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Speaker 1: just a show full of anxiety. It's like, oh my god,

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Speaker 1: how can this happen? How can that happen? So those

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Speaker 1: and True Story. What is my favorite food? Either a

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Speaker 1: He can cook so damn good. And my favorite burger

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Speaker 1: is from a place called Four Charles, but the same

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Speaker 1: burger Ashibalt and restaurational Hardware. They'll check those burgers out

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Speaker 1: number two, shake shack. Um, tell us about out your career.

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Speaker 1: My career, Um, well, I'm into building houses. I'm building

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Speaker 1: So very excited about that. It's all about the health

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Speaker 1: What is my biggest pet? Peeve? All Right, if I

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Speaker 1: What makes you the most happy. For me, the things

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Speaker 1: So what I would suggest, one is always have a schedule,

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Speaker 1: know it's gonna create so much more intimacy. It's just

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Speaker 1: thank you, yes, of course, have h what's up Becky? Hi? Tyler?

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Speaker 1: How's it going good? How are you doing good? Where

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Speaker 1: okay Tyler. The question that I have for you to

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Speaker 1: what we all help and dream for. He's not gonna

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Speaker 1: It's gonna drive him crazy, and then it's gonna more

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Speaker 1: so drive you crazy because you're not gonna be You're

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Speaker 1: gonna feel guilty going out and having fun. So to

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Speaker 1: be honest, he's either gotta he's gotta work through those

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Speaker 1: but it's really a him issue, not a you issue

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Speaker 1: at all. You know, Jealousy is a killer, you know,

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Speaker 1: and hopefully he can get through it and all that,

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Speaker 1: but you know, be there for him as much as

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Speaker 1: much as you can. But I'm telling you, those are

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Speaker 1: his issues and not your issues, and you have to

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Speaker 1: do what makes you happy and keep yourself happy. You

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Speaker 1: gotta go out with your girls, you gotta go have

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Speaker 1: a good time. You're not doing anything wrong, you know.

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Speaker 1: He's just got to get through his own issues. And

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Speaker 1: you know there's there may be something from his past

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Speaker 1: that's that's got him, you know, but his past is

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Speaker 1: not your fault, you know, So he's running to work

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Speaker 1: through his own issues. And you know, it's up to

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Speaker 1: you for how much you want to stick around and

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Speaker 1: help work through it or not. Yeah, don't let it

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Speaker 1: beat your don't want to beat you up. Yeah, you know,

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Speaker 1: thank you, I appreciate it. Of course, nice to meet you.

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Speaker 1: Of course, keep having fun or goodbye to my boyfriend

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Speaker 1: either one? Okay, thanks? How has your dating light change

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Speaker 1: since being on the Bachelor atte um? It's definitely a

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Speaker 1: lot more difficult because everyone you date is uh as

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Speaker 1: broadcasted for everyone to see through paparazzis and tablets and

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Speaker 1: opinion on the person you're dating. So it's definitely much

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Speaker 1: more difficult, and not more so for my yourself. I

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Speaker 1: just feel bad for the person I'm with because but

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Speaker 1: can there can be a lot of backlash towards that person.

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Speaker 1: Something's affected my past relationship. But uh, it's also the

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Speaker 1: doors a lot to me, me meaning a lot of

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Speaker 1: people as well, So it's got it's pluses of negatives

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Speaker 1: for sure. Is it harder to find a more genuine

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Speaker 1: followers a girl has, he's an idiot. Um. That has

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Speaker 1: nothing to do with the person you're talking to. And uh,

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Speaker 1: very shallow and immature. So if a guy is doing that,

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Speaker 1: that's a red flag. Um. Do men prefer a popular woman? No?

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Speaker 1: I think, you know, I think being in this limelight

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Speaker 1: and popular world, like, it's it's it's profession to have

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Speaker 1: those that aren't popular and those that are popular. You know,

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Speaker 1: it's all about how it's it's about the connection, about

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Speaker 1: who the person is. Um. But is it harder to

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Speaker 1: find a more genuine connection since being in the spotlight?

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Speaker 1: Yes and no, Um, you know you definitely are more

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Speaker 1: careful and more worried about you know, their intentions and that.

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Speaker 1: But it's, uh, it's it's I'd say it's a little

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Speaker 1: bit harder. How many dms do you get from women

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Speaker 1: each day? Do you look at all your d ms? Like,

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Speaker 1: there's a lot of d ms, a lot of d

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Speaker 1: all of them? I look at some some of them

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Speaker 1: going on? Um? Or if I want to get a

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Speaker 1: if the dems aggresive or attractive? It's attractive, it's attractive,

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Speaker 1: go for it. Shoot your shot. Um. If you're into somebody,

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Speaker 1: go for it. You know, men and women need to

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Speaker 1: be shooting shots. Everyone needs to be shooting shots and

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Speaker 1: going for it. Uh So women shoot away. We love it.

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Speaker 1: It's hot, it's amazing. If a DM does work, what

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Speaker 1: type of message catches your eye? Come with some humor.

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Speaker 1: I love humor. I love you know, someone that can

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Speaker 1: So definitely go for that, um and let's do one more.

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Speaker 1: Social media can be tough. Do guys compare themselves to

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Speaker 1: other guys the way girls do? I believe, Yeah, I

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Speaker 1: it's it's the goal keeping up of the Jones deal.

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Speaker 1: You know, we all gonna you know, live the life.

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Speaker 1: And you know, I follow big entrepreneurs and you know,

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Speaker 1: people that I look up to and whatnot, and I'm like, damn,

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Speaker 1: I got this house, but he's got these many houses.

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Speaker 1: You know, which is which is easy to do, but

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Speaker 1: it's it's very harmful to due to yourself as well.

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Speaker 1: So uh, you know, don't compare yourself to anybody. You

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Speaker 1: are your best owned person. And if you compare yourself,

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Speaker 1: you're gonna steal the joy of your life away. So

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Speaker 1: no more comparing. Love yourself and be good with yourself.

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Speaker 1: That's all I got for you. Thank you guys for

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Speaker 1: very time. I want to go dance because dancing changed

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Speaker 1: me and made me so you know, vulnerable. Help me

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Speaker 1: my vulnerability and put myself out there. Go out there

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Speaker 1: and watch The Real Dirty Dancing on Tuesday nights. You

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Speaker 1: can see how my story has changed from dancing and

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Speaker 1: see the people around me how dancing has made them feel,

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Speaker 1: you know, getting intimate, connecting themselves again. Dancing can do

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Speaker 1: so much, So check out The Real Dirty Dancing Tuesday nights.

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Speaker 1: Nine pm Eastern Time in West Coast best time. I

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Speaker 1: don't know how all those times work, but yeah, check

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Speaker 1: it out. It's amazing show, a lot of fun and

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Speaker 1: we all compete to see who's the best Johnny and

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Speaker 1: the best baby, So tune in. Thanks for listening to

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