1 00:00:00,160 --> 00:00:02,360 Speaker 1: My sister in law and her family is so messy, 2 00:00:02,720 --> 00:00:04,560 Speaker 1: so I'm gonna throw them out of the house. Well, 3 00:00:04,640 --> 00:00:09,159 Speaker 1: let's dive in splitsh splash. Update number three. Went to 4 00:00:09,200 --> 00:00:11,360 Speaker 1: pick up my children and had to stick around a 5 00:00:11,400 --> 00:00:13,880 Speaker 1: little longer as new family is moving into the area. 6 00:00:14,080 --> 00:00:16,759 Speaker 1: The parents wanted to meet their children's classmates, so we 7 00:00:16,800 --> 00:00:18,919 Speaker 1: had a small meet and greet. The office brought my 8 00:00:19,000 --> 00:00:22,040 Speaker 1: husband's older brother's daughter, the six year old that they 9 00:00:22,079 --> 00:00:25,360 Speaker 1: were asked to watch earlier, to me. As I am 10 00:00:25,400 --> 00:00:27,800 Speaker 1: the one that usually picks her up on Tuesdays and 11 00:00:27,840 --> 00:00:30,600 Speaker 1: Wednesdays and she stays with me. No one had picked 12 00:00:30,600 --> 00:00:33,440 Speaker 1: her up, and when her teacher noticed me waiting in 13 00:00:33,479 --> 00:00:36,400 Speaker 1: the hallway, she asked an office admin to bring her 14 00:00:36,400 --> 00:00:39,120 Speaker 1: to me, thinking I was delayed due to meeting with 15 00:00:39,159 --> 00:00:42,720 Speaker 1: the new parents. I told them that I wasn't responsible 16 00:00:42,760 --> 00:00:45,879 Speaker 1: for her anymore on Tuesdays and Wednesdays. They told her 17 00:00:45,920 --> 00:00:48,640 Speaker 1: to go back to the office and they must have 18 00:00:48,760 --> 00:00:51,519 Speaker 1: gone and they must call their mother. Oh dude, this 19 00:00:51,560 --> 00:00:53,559 Speaker 1: four six year old's getting abandoned. 20 00:00:53,960 --> 00:00:56,760 Speaker 2: That sucks. I mean, like, the six year old didn't 21 00:00:57,040 --> 00:00:59,200 Speaker 2: didn't do anything wrong here. That's super tough. 22 00:00:59,280 --> 00:01:03,600 Speaker 1: Dretto forrest as dang, ope really is petty and stubborn, 23 00:01:03,800 --> 00:01:07,920 Speaker 1: Like I do think that that is that is crazy 24 00:01:08,240 --> 00:01:11,200 Speaker 1: every some of those prompts, says John, saying hit that 25 00:01:11,319 --> 00:01:15,080 Speaker 1: hit that made my stoner butt think, dang, they really 26 00:01:15,080 --> 00:01:17,800 Speaker 1: smoking on stream not today, ladies and gentlemen. 27 00:01:18,319 --> 00:01:21,080 Speaker 2: Trust me, if I if I. 28 00:01:20,360 --> 00:01:24,280 Speaker 1: Inhaled anything, I would be coughing up a storm. That 29 00:01:24,440 --> 00:01:27,920 Speaker 1: is one thousand percent for sure. Kimberly Fine says it 30 00:01:28,040 --> 00:01:31,240 Speaker 1: sucks for the kid, but if OP doesn't hold the boundary, 31 00:01:31,040 --> 00:01:34,280 Speaker 1: they they'd continue to take advantage. That was their attempt 32 00:01:34,280 --> 00:01:36,160 Speaker 1: to crack a window to see if they could crawl 33 00:01:36,200 --> 00:01:36,520 Speaker 1: back in. 34 00:01:37,080 --> 00:01:38,039 Speaker 2: Possibly true. 35 00:01:38,120 --> 00:01:40,720 Speaker 1: I mean it is on them for abandoning their own 36 00:01:40,760 --> 00:01:43,840 Speaker 1: freaking six year old, Like there's definitely no doubt about that. 37 00:01:43,880 --> 00:01:44,679 Speaker 2: You shouldn't do that. 38 00:01:44,959 --> 00:01:47,680 Speaker 1: I don't know, Yeah, it's definitely a tough I mean, 39 00:01:47,720 --> 00:01:49,760 Speaker 1: maybe at least stay until the kid gets picked up 40 00:01:49,840 --> 00:01:51,680 Speaker 1: or something. I don't I think that's what I would 41 00:01:51,680 --> 00:01:52,760 Speaker 1: have done at least, like. 42 00:01:52,960 --> 00:01:55,600 Speaker 2: Yeah, just because like that kid, that kid isn't deserved. 43 00:01:55,760 --> 00:01:57,840 Speaker 1: That poor little six year old is in his I'm sorry, 44 00:01:57,920 --> 00:01:59,840 Speaker 1: but the six year old, Like, but you can still 45 00:01:59,880 --> 00:02:02,040 Speaker 1: just like hang around I'm literally thinking, like you just 46 00:02:02,080 --> 00:02:03,760 Speaker 1: like hang in the corner and then as soon as 47 00:02:03,800 --> 00:02:05,880 Speaker 1: you see them like walking in, you just scurry away. 48 00:02:06,280 --> 00:02:08,919 Speaker 1: So they don't get the idea of like, oh, every 49 00:02:09,000 --> 00:02:11,600 Speaker 1: time we know abandon her, they'll just stay and do 50 00:02:11,639 --> 00:02:13,760 Speaker 1: our job for us as parents. But when I returned 51 00:02:13,760 --> 00:02:15,560 Speaker 1: home from the meet and greet, my husband said his 52 00:02:15,600 --> 00:02:17,519 Speaker 1: parents had called him and spoke in their mind to 53 00:02:17,560 --> 00:02:19,800 Speaker 1: him about me abandoning their granddaughter. 54 00:02:19,960 --> 00:02:23,360 Speaker 2: What about her parents? Everything about that exactly. Yeah. 55 00:02:23,440 --> 00:02:25,239 Speaker 1: They also put his older brother's wife on the phone. 56 00:02:25,240 --> 00:02:27,519 Speaker 1: She had a shouting match with my husband. Sister in 57 00:02:27,600 --> 00:02:30,239 Speaker 1: law I kicked out also had a few words with him. 58 00:02:30,600 --> 00:02:33,480 Speaker 1: It ended with my husband telling his parents that they 59 00:02:33,639 --> 00:02:35,920 Speaker 1: lost a privilege to talk to him for a week 60 00:02:36,400 --> 00:02:39,480 Speaker 1: and he would only unblock them when he gave him 61 00:02:39,639 --> 00:02:44,359 Speaker 1: and me a sincere apology. BRO really said, you're you're 62 00:02:44,400 --> 00:02:46,680 Speaker 1: locked out. You have to wait X amount of time 63 00:02:46,720 --> 00:02:48,880 Speaker 1: before you can log back in. That is literally what 64 00:02:48,960 --> 00:02:51,520 Speaker 1: BRO said. So he explained that it was up to 65 00:02:51,560 --> 00:02:54,560 Speaker 1: the parents to make the pickup arrangements. When I made 66 00:02:54,560 --> 00:02:58,239 Speaker 1: it clear that I would no longer provide free services. 67 00:02:58,440 --> 00:03:00,560 Speaker 1: The sistern in law I kicked out is staying with 68 00:03:00,639 --> 00:03:02,200 Speaker 1: her parents for now. 69 00:03:02,720 --> 00:03:03,600 Speaker 2: Yeah, there we go. 70 00:03:03,680 --> 00:03:05,960 Speaker 1: That seems like a solution. Maybe her husband and her 71 00:03:06,040 --> 00:03:09,120 Speaker 1: younger two and two of the older kids are staying 72 00:03:09,240 --> 00:03:12,560 Speaker 1: with my in laws. The other older two are with 73 00:03:12,720 --> 00:03:16,320 Speaker 1: the other two younger ones are spreading them around the 74 00:03:16,320 --> 00:03:19,680 Speaker 1: two houses. But they have made a very indirect threat 75 00:03:19,840 --> 00:03:22,799 Speaker 1: that it would be made a very temporary arrangement. As 76 00:03:22,840 --> 00:03:25,280 Speaker 1: she promised, it wouldn't take long for to make her 77 00:03:25,320 --> 00:03:28,440 Speaker 1: brother see the light. Just a quick recap of all 78 00:03:28,480 --> 00:03:32,280 Speaker 1: of that. I believe they're basically dispersing the family amongst 79 00:03:32,680 --> 00:03:35,320 Speaker 1: so it's like they're like, hey, go with your grandparents 80 00:03:35,360 --> 00:03:37,600 Speaker 1: on your mom's side. Hey, me and me and your 81 00:03:37,680 --> 00:03:39,280 Speaker 1: dad are going over here, trying to. 82 00:03:39,240 --> 00:03:41,960 Speaker 3: Bright and like solutions to distribute the family so it's 83 00:03:42,040 --> 00:03:46,200 Speaker 3: not like a toxic waste dump altogether. Like they're like, yeah, 84 00:03:46,280 --> 00:03:50,360 Speaker 3: they're like the dirty Avengers and they assemble. Just nothing 85 00:03:50,480 --> 00:03:53,360 Speaker 3: gets accomplished except messiness. 86 00:03:53,440 --> 00:03:57,080 Speaker 1: Yeah, and for now everyone has said like, hey, you 87 00:03:57,200 --> 00:03:59,640 Speaker 1: as the full family unit, we cannot house you. 88 00:03:59,680 --> 00:04:01,680 Speaker 2: So I think I feel like, hey, just like how 89 00:04:01,800 --> 00:04:02,480 Speaker 2: is this for a bit? 90 00:04:02,520 --> 00:04:04,600 Speaker 1: They're really just trying to make it work, like do 91 00:04:04,640 --> 00:04:07,200 Speaker 1: whatever they can, you know, Opie says, I think I'm 92 00:04:07,200 --> 00:04:10,240 Speaker 1: in for a long ride and hope he would not 93 00:04:10,240 --> 00:04:13,280 Speaker 1: be wrong. Because we're about to get into update number four. 94 00:04:14,520 --> 00:04:16,799 Speaker 1: So it's early in the morning and I've only slept 95 00:04:16,800 --> 00:04:18,640 Speaker 1: a few hours. I don't know if I'll be able 96 00:04:18,640 --> 00:04:20,800 Speaker 1: to finish this one in one sitting. But on Friday, 97 00:04:20,839 --> 00:04:23,240 Speaker 1: I dropped off my children at school and the older 98 00:04:23,279 --> 00:04:26,680 Speaker 1: brother's wife was there a drop off time. She followed 99 00:04:26,720 --> 00:04:28,839 Speaker 1: me because when I stopped to pick up some bits 100 00:04:28,839 --> 00:04:31,880 Speaker 1: and pieces, she confronted me in the store, in the 101 00:04:31,880 --> 00:04:36,080 Speaker 1: store parking lot. She was apologetic and wanted to make amends. Okay, 102 00:04:36,240 --> 00:04:39,440 Speaker 1: I was having none of it. You think you're gonna 103 00:04:39,440 --> 00:04:47,240 Speaker 1: apologize to me, Like, nah, there's no use apology. You 104 00:04:47,320 --> 00:04:50,200 Speaker 1: have to suffer before I can even think of forgiveness. 105 00:04:50,240 --> 00:04:54,440 Speaker 1: So she was desperate because she said if she missed 106 00:04:54,560 --> 00:04:57,480 Speaker 1: one more week of overtime, she would lose the project 107 00:04:57,520 --> 00:05:00,360 Speaker 1: as she is the lead and has to stay there 108 00:05:00,400 --> 00:05:04,040 Speaker 1: to supervise. Her husband can't change his hours, and so 109 00:05:04,080 --> 00:05:06,960 Speaker 1: it has to be her who picks up her seven 110 00:05:07,040 --> 00:05:10,159 Speaker 1: year old. She said it's not defensible to have a 111 00:05:10,240 --> 00:05:13,640 Speaker 1: grudge against a six year old for a passing comment. 112 00:05:13,720 --> 00:05:14,640 Speaker 2: She made Eddie. 113 00:05:14,720 --> 00:05:16,960 Speaker 1: If someone's able to like one hundred percent correct me, 114 00:05:17,080 --> 00:05:18,880 Speaker 1: I'm not one thousand percent sure if the six year 115 00:05:18,880 --> 00:05:22,640 Speaker 1: old belongs to the dirty family that stay with ope, 116 00:05:23,160 --> 00:05:25,320 Speaker 1: or if it belongs to one of the other. 117 00:05:25,760 --> 00:05:28,080 Speaker 2: Siblings been dirty the dirty family. 118 00:05:28,200 --> 00:05:31,520 Speaker 1: That's what I thought initially. But let us know if 119 00:05:31,520 --> 00:05:33,400 Speaker 1: we're getting that wrong. But we will keep going. I 120 00:05:33,480 --> 00:05:36,120 Speaker 1: told her it wasn't a passing comment. She laid the 121 00:05:36,120 --> 00:05:40,080 Speaker 1: blame on me for our sister in law leaving biohausards 122 00:05:40,080 --> 00:05:43,760 Speaker 1: in my home. I think she was saying, hey, you 123 00:05:43,760 --> 00:05:45,000 Speaker 1: you dirty sister in law. 124 00:05:45,160 --> 00:05:45,479 Speaker 2: You said. 125 00:05:45,520 --> 00:05:48,800 Speaker 3: It was like, not on me, you know what? Actually, 126 00:05:49,120 --> 00:05:51,680 Speaker 3: so it says our sister in law. So sistern in 127 00:05:51,800 --> 00:05:56,320 Speaker 3: law is the So she's talking to another sistern law. Yes, 128 00:05:56,480 --> 00:05:59,000 Speaker 3: she's talking to the person that was going to take 129 00:05:59,240 --> 00:06:01,159 Speaker 3: in the dirty family. 130 00:06:01,400 --> 00:06:03,560 Speaker 2: I think so at a bare minimum, the mother of 131 00:06:03,600 --> 00:06:05,240 Speaker 2: the six year old, I think got so. 132 00:06:05,279 --> 00:06:06,919 Speaker 3: The mother the six year old that she's talking to 133 00:06:07,000 --> 00:06:09,800 Speaker 3: that she left was the person that was like, we're 134 00:06:09,839 --> 00:06:12,120 Speaker 3: not going to take them, you should take them. 135 00:06:12,200 --> 00:06:14,479 Speaker 2: And now OP has a grudge against them too. 136 00:06:14,800 --> 00:06:17,600 Speaker 1: Yeah, running that last sentence back, she laid the blame 137 00:06:17,680 --> 00:06:21,080 Speaker 1: on me for our dirty sister in law leaving buyer 138 00:06:21,120 --> 00:06:21,840 Speaker 1: housards about home. 139 00:06:21,880 --> 00:06:23,400 Speaker 2: Right, I'll call her dirty sister in law from now on. 140 00:06:23,680 --> 00:06:26,640 Speaker 1: So she said that she wanted everyone to get along 141 00:06:26,800 --> 00:06:29,320 Speaker 1: and she was just hoping to de escalate the situation. 142 00:06:29,520 --> 00:06:32,080 Speaker 1: I asked her to ask the dirty sister in law 143 00:06:32,200 --> 00:06:35,159 Speaker 1: to help her out, and she even said she had 144 00:06:35,200 --> 00:06:39,000 Speaker 1: refused as she has three kids under seven years and 145 00:06:39,040 --> 00:06:42,239 Speaker 1: can barely cope with them. I asked her to ask 146 00:06:42,440 --> 00:06:45,520 Speaker 1: the youngest wife, as she has her mother staying with her, 147 00:06:45,760 --> 00:06:48,480 Speaker 1: leaving her with the time and energy to pick up 148 00:06:48,480 --> 00:06:49,640 Speaker 1: her children, and they. 149 00:06:49,480 --> 00:06:52,000 Speaker 2: Clearly preferred each other over me. 150 00:06:52,400 --> 00:06:55,039 Speaker 1: She said she wanted to concentrate on the early memories 151 00:06:55,080 --> 00:06:57,480 Speaker 1: of her own child instead of helping. 152 00:06:57,200 --> 00:06:59,040 Speaker 2: Out with her six year old. 153 00:06:59,200 --> 00:07:01,039 Speaker 1: I told her to suck it up and find a 154 00:07:01,080 --> 00:07:04,760 Speaker 1: solution with those she considered family. Then I went about 155 00:07:04,800 --> 00:07:07,160 Speaker 1: my shopping. Obie could not care freaking less. 156 00:07:07,160 --> 00:07:08,599 Speaker 2: He doesn't give a shit. 157 00:07:08,960 --> 00:07:11,520 Speaker 1: Well, in the afternoon, I went to pick up my 158 00:07:11,640 --> 00:07:14,560 Speaker 1: little ones. She was there again, and when we got 159 00:07:14,600 --> 00:07:17,320 Speaker 1: out of the pickup line, she followed me all the 160 00:07:17,360 --> 00:07:21,000 Speaker 1: way home. I blocked my driveway by parallel parking, so 161 00:07:21,040 --> 00:07:23,120 Speaker 1: she the sister in law wouldn't be able to park 162 00:07:23,160 --> 00:07:25,239 Speaker 1: and harass me at my door. I sent a text 163 00:07:25,240 --> 00:07:27,760 Speaker 1: to my husband to let me know when he would 164 00:07:27,760 --> 00:07:29,480 Speaker 1: be home so I could move the car. 165 00:07:29,600 --> 00:07:30,520 Speaker 2: Not being able to. 166 00:07:30,480 --> 00:07:32,920 Speaker 1: Park didn't stop her as she parked on the side 167 00:07:32,920 --> 00:07:34,920 Speaker 1: of the road and then came up to my house. 168 00:07:35,240 --> 00:07:37,880 Speaker 1: She rang the bell, but I would not open the door. 169 00:07:38,000 --> 00:07:41,320 Speaker 1: She went around the back and knocked on my back door, 170 00:07:41,720 --> 00:07:46,360 Speaker 1: telling me that I couldn't avoid her forever we were family. 171 00:07:46,680 --> 00:07:49,160 Speaker 1: I told her through the window I didn't want her 172 00:07:49,200 --> 00:07:51,080 Speaker 1: to push her way through if I opened the door 173 00:07:51,360 --> 00:07:54,440 Speaker 1: to leave, or I would call the police for harassment, 174 00:07:55,320 --> 00:07:58,200 Speaker 1: and she left. In the evening, someone rang our doorbell 175 00:07:58,280 --> 00:08:00,400 Speaker 1: and I went to open it. It was mad mother 176 00:08:00,440 --> 00:08:02,560 Speaker 1: in law and father in law. They wanted to come 177 00:08:02,600 --> 00:08:07,080 Speaker 1: inside and apologize, so I let them in. They started 178 00:08:07,120 --> 00:08:09,480 Speaker 1: by telling us how much the events of the last 179 00:08:09,480 --> 00:08:12,360 Speaker 1: few days had affected them. Then they said sorry. 180 00:08:12,360 --> 00:08:15,200 Speaker 2: And asked me to get back to normal. My mother 181 00:08:15,240 --> 00:08:17,160 Speaker 2: in law said that sometimes. 182 00:08:16,640 --> 00:08:19,080 Speaker 1: You have to put up with some negativity from family, 183 00:08:19,480 --> 00:08:22,120 Speaker 1: as life has a lot of ups and downs. Everything 184 00:08:22,200 --> 00:08:25,840 Speaker 1: canoby roses and rainbows all the time. My husband stopped 185 00:08:25,840 --> 00:08:29,840 Speaker 1: his mother and said, then, why do op and I 186 00:08:29,880 --> 00:08:32,640 Speaker 1: have to be the only ones on the receiving end 187 00:08:32,760 --> 00:08:36,440 Speaker 1: of the negativity. When would they hold his sister and 188 00:08:36,520 --> 00:08:38,880 Speaker 1: the others accountable for their behavior? 189 00:08:39,040 --> 00:08:41,720 Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean their their behavior is so much worse. 190 00:08:41,800 --> 00:08:43,160 Speaker 2: It's pretty terrible, guys. 191 00:08:43,200 --> 00:08:46,839 Speaker 1: Not that Opie is a you know, mother Teresa, but 192 00:08:47,679 --> 00:08:50,640 Speaker 1: the point still stands. They tried to guilt trip me 193 00:08:51,000 --> 00:08:53,800 Speaker 1: into helping out with the six year old, as her 194 00:08:53,840 --> 00:08:56,640 Speaker 1: mother and I had previously been on good terms. I said, 195 00:08:57,200 --> 00:09:00,559 Speaker 1: she lost that privilege as she chose her side. They said, 196 00:09:00,760 --> 00:09:03,240 Speaker 1: would I be able to sleep at night knowing that 197 00:09:03,280 --> 00:09:05,480 Speaker 1: she would lose her job? Because remember from before, She's 198 00:09:05,520 --> 00:09:07,760 Speaker 1: basically like, hey, if we can't have you pick up 199 00:09:07,760 --> 00:09:10,200 Speaker 1: and watch the six year old, it'll mess up our 200 00:09:10,200 --> 00:09:13,520 Speaker 1: whole job situations essentially, which I want to discuss that 201 00:09:13,600 --> 00:09:17,600 Speaker 1: more later. I said, yes, OPI doesn't care. She's like, 202 00:09:17,800 --> 00:09:19,560 Speaker 1: lose your jobs, dude. 203 00:09:19,720 --> 00:09:22,199 Speaker 3: The amount that she has cared about these people from 204 00:09:22,200 --> 00:09:23,280 Speaker 3: the beginning has been. 205 00:09:23,120 --> 00:09:26,520 Speaker 2: Like less than zero negative. I done. 206 00:09:26,600 --> 00:09:28,480 Speaker 3: I have been done for the beginning, and there's only 207 00:09:28,520 --> 00:09:30,720 Speaker 3: been BS to follow, and I've been done with all 208 00:09:30,800 --> 00:09:31,120 Speaker 3: that too. 209 00:09:31,400 --> 00:09:33,880 Speaker 1: Dare I say she is thrilled that she'll be losing 210 00:09:33,880 --> 00:09:36,200 Speaker 1: her job and can't support her children. Well, my husband 211 00:09:36,240 --> 00:09:38,360 Speaker 1: and I pointed out how much I had done for 212 00:09:38,400 --> 00:09:43,120 Speaker 1: her without any financial compensation. They said, you were home anyways, 213 00:09:43,480 --> 00:09:46,040 Speaker 1: one more child that was already potty trained made no 214 00:09:46,120 --> 00:09:48,600 Speaker 1: difference to me over the past four years. I told 215 00:09:48,640 --> 00:09:51,480 Speaker 1: him it did because I had made many sacrifices over 216 00:09:51,520 --> 00:09:54,280 Speaker 1: the years for their daughter. I also mentioned that if 217 00:09:54,280 --> 00:09:57,280 Speaker 1: they couldn't convince the younger brother's wife to help out, 218 00:09:57,720 --> 00:10:00,559 Speaker 1: then they could forget about coercing me to do it. 219 00:10:00,679 --> 00:10:04,320 Speaker 1: They wanted to know because again that's another group that 220 00:10:04,320 --> 00:10:06,400 Speaker 1: that's a family that could be taking them in, but 221 00:10:06,440 --> 00:10:07,240 Speaker 1: they're not right now. 222 00:10:07,280 --> 00:10:09,240 Speaker 2: So they wanted to know when. 223 00:10:09,040 --> 00:10:12,360 Speaker 1: I would return the stuff that I was holding hostage. 224 00:10:12,559 --> 00:10:15,320 Speaker 1: Remember the the tiy blitz the jewelry and then attended 225 00:10:15,440 --> 00:10:19,120 Speaker 1: switch is kind of holding it to hostage. He needs 226 00:10:19,160 --> 00:10:22,000 Speaker 1: to return that stuff now. My husband said he was 227 00:10:22,040 --> 00:10:25,040 Speaker 1: holding it hostage and it would be returned when his 228 00:10:25,120 --> 00:10:28,960 Speaker 1: sister paid for the damages. Remember the trash can. Don't 229 00:10:29,000 --> 00:10:31,480 Speaker 1: forget about those five hundred dollars trash can. 230 00:10:31,559 --> 00:10:36,760 Speaker 2: We cannot forget the Steph Curry trash trapping can miracles. Yea, 231 00:10:37,000 --> 00:10:37,439 Speaker 2: So my. 232 00:10:37,440 --> 00:10:39,960 Speaker 1: Father in law said that sister in law would be 233 00:10:40,080 --> 00:10:42,160 Speaker 1: right to report the theft to the police. 234 00:10:42,800 --> 00:10:45,880 Speaker 2: My husband said she could do as she pleased. 235 00:10:47,040 --> 00:10:53,120 Speaker 1: Wow, dude, they are standing on business and this is 236 00:10:53,160 --> 00:10:54,920 Speaker 1: not the type of business you want to stand and 237 00:10:55,000 --> 00:10:56,040 Speaker 1: this is some. 238 00:10:56,040 --> 00:10:59,000 Speaker 2: Bad business, oh, bad business standing around. Okay. 239 00:10:59,360 --> 00:11:05,080 Speaker 1: So at this point my husband told them something I 240 00:11:05,240 --> 00:11:05,920 Speaker 1: wasn't aware of. 241 00:11:06,320 --> 00:11:07,040 Speaker 2: You see, he. 242 00:11:07,080 --> 00:11:09,520 Speaker 1: Said to pass on a message to his sister that 243 00:11:09,600 --> 00:11:13,160 Speaker 1: he had canceled the hotel and activities including the horse 244 00:11:13,240 --> 00:11:15,720 Speaker 1: riding for his niece for the summer vacation. If he 245 00:11:15,720 --> 00:11:18,160 Speaker 1: couldn't tell her to clean up her mess because her 246 00:11:18,200 --> 00:11:20,480 Speaker 1: father had told my husband who did he think he 247 00:11:20,600 --> 00:11:23,960 Speaker 1: was to his daughter to boss her around, then he 248 00:11:24,000 --> 00:11:27,720 Speaker 1: felt no need to pay for her specific activities since 249 00:11:27,720 --> 00:11:31,320 Speaker 1: her father was unsure about their uncle niece relationship and 250 00:11:31,480 --> 00:11:34,680 Speaker 1: having the right to teach her some responsibility. To quickly 251 00:11:34,679 --> 00:11:37,959 Speaker 1: summarize that, I believe that Opie's husband had maybe paid 252 00:11:38,040 --> 00:11:42,600 Speaker 1: for some uncle niece activities and is now like, hey, listen, 253 00:11:42,640 --> 00:11:45,679 Speaker 1: if I can't, you know, tell her to clean up 254 00:11:45,800 --> 00:11:47,199 Speaker 1: when she's dirtying my own. 255 00:11:47,040 --> 00:11:48,880 Speaker 2: House, well then I don't. 256 00:11:49,400 --> 00:11:51,800 Speaker 1: How do I know where we stand on our relationship 257 00:11:51,840 --> 00:11:53,679 Speaker 1: and if I should be giving her these you know, 258 00:11:54,240 --> 00:11:57,040 Speaker 1: horse riding lessons and spending these activities with it. 259 00:11:57,120 --> 00:12:01,319 Speaker 2: Why would you? I guess so, I guess so. Yeah. 260 00:12:01,400 --> 00:12:04,160 Speaker 1: So this made my mother in law upset, and she said, 261 00:12:04,559 --> 00:12:06,840 Speaker 1: you haven't done that, have you. I thought we all 262 00:12:06,880 --> 00:12:09,719 Speaker 1: would have had a great vacation, but he said he 263 00:12:09,880 --> 00:12:12,640 Speaker 1: had canceled it. So they tried to make excuses like 264 00:12:12,679 --> 00:12:14,400 Speaker 1: sister in law had a lot on her plate with 265 00:12:14,480 --> 00:12:17,880 Speaker 1: losing the house, all the young children. But I was 266 00:12:17,920 --> 00:12:20,080 Speaker 1: having none of it. I told them that her life 267 00:12:20,120 --> 00:12:23,440 Speaker 1: situation was due to her own poor choices, and that 268 00:12:23,559 --> 00:12:28,960 Speaker 1: bringing a ninth child into the mix was not going 269 00:12:29,000 --> 00:12:30,760 Speaker 1: to make her situation better. I don't know if that 270 00:12:30,880 --> 00:12:34,280 Speaker 1: was hyperbole or if they really. 271 00:12:34,040 --> 00:12:36,800 Speaker 2: Have nine children. I don't. 272 00:12:36,880 --> 00:12:40,559 Speaker 1: I think she's like exaggerating, is she maybe maybe it's 273 00:12:40,600 --> 00:12:42,840 Speaker 1: a ninth in like the extended family, you know, like all. 274 00:12:42,760 --> 00:12:43,880 Speaker 2: The first cousins. 275 00:12:44,160 --> 00:12:46,520 Speaker 1: Not clear, but my mother in law said every woman 276 00:12:46,559 --> 00:12:49,520 Speaker 1: had a right to decide for themselves about their family planning. 277 00:12:49,920 --> 00:12:52,840 Speaker 1: Her body, her choice, and I was not to dictate 278 00:12:52,880 --> 00:12:56,320 Speaker 1: to her what she should and shouldn't do. I asked her, like, 279 00:12:56,440 --> 00:13:00,320 Speaker 1: you're dictating to me right now? By weaseling your way 280 00:13:00,320 --> 00:13:03,440 Speaker 1: into our home under the guise of an apology. 281 00:13:04,080 --> 00:13:09,480 Speaker 3: Ooh, dude, op sees through your machiavellian game. 282 00:13:09,679 --> 00:13:11,880 Speaker 2: She sees it. 283 00:13:12,040 --> 00:13:15,720 Speaker 1: Oh, she said, No, it was different. She wasn't telling 284 00:13:15,720 --> 00:13:17,800 Speaker 1: me to have more or less children, as she loved 285 00:13:17,800 --> 00:13:20,840 Speaker 1: her grandchildren. The more, the merrier I told her. She 286 00:13:20,880 --> 00:13:24,160 Speaker 1: couldn't expect me to look after other people's children either. 287 00:13:24,360 --> 00:13:27,800 Speaker 1: The less stress I had, the marrier I was. It 288 00:13:27,880 --> 00:13:31,600 Speaker 1: also comes under my body, my choice. She's like, my body, 289 00:13:31,720 --> 00:13:34,080 Speaker 1: my house, You're out, that's my choice. 290 00:13:34,120 --> 00:13:36,280 Speaker 3: Also, Kelsey Hoff says, no, it is eight children between 291 00:13:36,280 --> 00:13:38,640 Speaker 3: the sister in law and the brother in law together. 292 00:13:38,440 --> 00:13:41,880 Speaker 1: Thank you, Kelsey Hoff, shadow you So between the sister 293 00:13:41,920 --> 00:13:44,400 Speaker 1: in law okay, so the cousins, So. 294 00:13:44,400 --> 00:13:46,840 Speaker 3: I think this is the ninth children after those eight 295 00:13:46,920 --> 00:13:50,520 Speaker 3: children they had, So they have not directed between sister 296 00:13:50,559 --> 00:13:51,679 Speaker 3: in law and brother all of. 297 00:13:51,600 --> 00:13:54,959 Speaker 1: The first cousins Like yeah, like there's there's grandpa and 298 00:13:55,000 --> 00:13:58,920 Speaker 1: grandma and then all of their grandchildren. There's nine grandchildren there. Okay, 299 00:13:59,000 --> 00:14:01,440 Speaker 1: I think I'm following. They turned to my husband and 300 00:14:01,559 --> 00:14:03,959 Speaker 1: asked him if he was really putting them through all 301 00:14:03,960 --> 00:14:07,760 Speaker 1: of this because we decided to be less amiable over 302 00:14:07,840 --> 00:14:11,080 Speaker 1: a silly thing, he said. Scrubbing down two bathrooms after 303 00:14:11,120 --> 00:14:14,199 Speaker 1: his niece and his sister wasn't the highlight of his life. 304 00:14:14,840 --> 00:14:18,120 Speaker 1: As they were stuck making excuses and lamenting over us 305 00:14:18,440 --> 00:14:21,480 Speaker 1: not joining them for the family holiday and by canceling 306 00:14:21,560 --> 00:14:24,600 Speaker 1: sister in law and her family's holiday and ruining the 307 00:14:24,600 --> 00:14:27,760 Speaker 1: mood for everyone. We told them to leave politely. On 308 00:14:27,800 --> 00:14:31,040 Speaker 1: Saturday morning, we were woken up by someone frantically knocking 309 00:14:31,040 --> 00:14:34,640 Speaker 1: on our door and ringing and ringing our doorbell, ding dong. 310 00:14:35,560 --> 00:14:38,320 Speaker 1: It was sister in law and her eldest son. They're 311 00:14:38,520 --> 00:14:41,400 Speaker 1: back again, back from the dead, back from the dead. 312 00:14:41,560 --> 00:14:43,720 Speaker 1: My husband told me that he would handle it, so 313 00:14:43,840 --> 00:14:46,320 Speaker 1: when he opened the door, she tried to push through it, 314 00:14:46,600 --> 00:14:47,920 Speaker 1: but my husband blocked her way. 315 00:14:48,160 --> 00:14:50,920 Speaker 2: She was shy. Is she pushing through? She started to 316 00:14:51,000 --> 00:14:52,040 Speaker 2: storm the castle. 317 00:14:52,200 --> 00:14:54,880 Speaker 1: Listen, if we if we just you know, if you've 318 00:14:54,880 --> 00:14:56,880 Speaker 1: heard of threading the need on football, right, it's where 319 00:14:56,880 --> 00:14:59,560 Speaker 1: you just like force your everyone's like tackling each other, 320 00:14:59,560 --> 00:15:03,480 Speaker 1: but you you just like punch someone through the horde 321 00:15:03,760 --> 00:15:06,200 Speaker 1: and make it through the other side. She is trying 322 00:15:06,240 --> 00:15:08,120 Speaker 1: to run this place. She is trying to. 323 00:15:08,360 --> 00:15:10,560 Speaker 2: She says, maybe I admire the tenacity. 324 00:15:10,920 --> 00:15:14,080 Speaker 1: Look, if I can just simply brute force my way 325 00:15:14,120 --> 00:15:17,520 Speaker 1: through with clear eyes and full heart of making can 326 00:15:17,600 --> 00:15:20,000 Speaker 1: make it. Maybe we can make it. Oh, she's a 327 00:15:20,040 --> 00:15:22,880 Speaker 1: punch myself in the face. What a stream. So she 328 00:15:23,040 --> 00:15:26,000 Speaker 1: was shouting loudly to let her come inside so she 329 00:15:26,040 --> 00:15:27,520 Speaker 1: could knock some sense into me. 330 00:15:27,960 --> 00:15:28,600 Speaker 2: Oh my god. 331 00:15:28,920 --> 00:15:33,080 Speaker 1: She threw three hundred dollars into my husband's face and 332 00:15:33,200 --> 00:15:37,000 Speaker 1: said to him, is she happy now that cradle snatchy bee? 333 00:15:37,120 --> 00:15:39,120 Speaker 1: I am in a year and a few months older 334 00:15:39,160 --> 00:15:41,040 Speaker 1: than her, and she is just two years. 335 00:15:40,840 --> 00:15:47,200 Speaker 2: Older than him. God, this is really like just spiraling. Yeah, 336 00:15:47,280 --> 00:15:47,880 Speaker 2: so bad. 337 00:15:48,480 --> 00:15:52,360 Speaker 1: She called me a jealous or and a few other 338 00:15:52,480 --> 00:15:55,280 Speaker 1: choice words. She told him that I had ruined their 339 00:15:55,280 --> 00:15:59,080 Speaker 1: family by manipulating him. Edit to add, she said, now 340 00:15:59,120 --> 00:16:01,840 Speaker 1: that she had returned the money, that she wanted him 341 00:16:01,880 --> 00:16:05,520 Speaker 1: to rebook the vacation in activities asap. My husband said 342 00:16:05,560 --> 00:16:08,400 Speaker 1: it wouldn't happen if heck froze over. He told her 343 00:16:08,440 --> 00:16:11,600 Speaker 1: to wait outside while he grabbed something. He went inside, 344 00:16:11,640 --> 00:16:14,040 Speaker 1: and he put their stuff in a bag except for 345 00:16:14,120 --> 00:16:16,880 Speaker 1: one of those tablets that he had bought and he 346 00:16:16,960 --> 00:16:19,560 Speaker 1: was paying the insurance for. So maybe like when he 347 00:16:19,800 --> 00:16:22,320 Speaker 1: bought and gifted to them, he opened the door and 348 00:16:22,560 --> 00:16:24,520 Speaker 1: threw it at her. She was cursing at him and 349 00:16:24,520 --> 00:16:26,600 Speaker 1: told him to grow the f up. She said that 350 00:16:26,640 --> 00:16:29,240 Speaker 1: she would report him for damaging her stuff. He told 351 00:16:29,280 --> 00:16:31,680 Speaker 1: her all was caught on camera and if she wanted 352 00:16:31,680 --> 00:16:34,440 Speaker 1: to take him to court, to really think of her children, 353 00:16:34,720 --> 00:16:37,880 Speaker 1: as they could barely afford a roof over their house, 354 00:16:38,360 --> 00:16:39,880 Speaker 1: let alone a lawyer. 355 00:16:40,240 --> 00:16:41,400 Speaker 2: I mean, he's not. 356 00:16:41,280 --> 00:16:45,680 Speaker 3: Wrong, good, but I feel like they're just clapping back 357 00:16:45,720 --> 00:16:48,680 Speaker 3: with the force of a thousand tsunamis like they are 358 00:16:48,720 --> 00:16:51,760 Speaker 3: not sparing the women, they are not sparing the children. 359 00:16:51,920 --> 00:16:54,680 Speaker 3: They're just like, all right, I can unleash, you know, 360 00:16:54,800 --> 00:16:56,800 Speaker 3: a Mike Tyson punch on a toddler. 361 00:16:56,840 --> 00:16:57,600 Speaker 2: I'm gonna do it. 362 00:16:57,880 --> 00:17:00,160 Speaker 1: And I have to say, you know, if we I've 363 00:17:00,160 --> 00:17:02,680 Speaker 1: read all these stories of for instance, we've had several 364 00:17:02,680 --> 00:17:06,119 Speaker 1: stories where families barged through and tried to like essentially squat. 365 00:17:06,160 --> 00:17:08,400 Speaker 2: Right, They're literally like literally physically. 366 00:17:07,960 --> 00:17:10,239 Speaker 1: Coming in changing the locks, like all these all these 367 00:17:10,240 --> 00:17:14,879 Speaker 1: different types of things, right, And you do have to say, 368 00:17:15,720 --> 00:17:19,280 Speaker 1: with people that are this insane, it does kind of 369 00:17:19,280 --> 00:17:21,959 Speaker 1: seem like you have to return the same level of 370 00:17:22,000 --> 00:17:25,880 Speaker 1: insanity to get them to stop. 371 00:17:25,760 --> 00:17:29,560 Speaker 3: You know, like I am you know, I'm never i 372 00:17:29,600 --> 00:17:32,480 Speaker 3: am I'm never a big fan of like stooping to 373 00:17:32,560 --> 00:17:35,840 Speaker 3: the level yes of other people. That being said, I 374 00:17:35,880 --> 00:17:40,040 Speaker 3: do think that often people don't realize how crazy they're 375 00:17:40,080 --> 00:17:42,920 Speaker 3: being until it's reflected to them, and then they're like, 376 00:17:43,440 --> 00:17:46,679 Speaker 3: oh that's what it's like, yeah, you know, like this 377 00:17:46,800 --> 00:17:49,760 Speaker 3: is a this is a bad example. But like I remember, 378 00:17:49,960 --> 00:17:52,600 Speaker 3: I had like an ex who is like yelling at me, 379 00:17:52,840 --> 00:17:56,320 Speaker 3: which I felt was unjustified and I'm not one to yell. 380 00:17:56,840 --> 00:17:59,000 Speaker 3: And she's like, why do you never raise your voice? 381 00:17:59,000 --> 00:18:00,800 Speaker 3: Like why do you never yell? You know, like do 382 00:18:00,840 --> 00:18:03,520 Speaker 3: you want me to try? She's like yeah, And I like, 383 00:18:03,960 --> 00:18:07,119 Speaker 3: I like, I kind of like reciprocated the same thing 384 00:18:07,160 --> 00:18:09,399 Speaker 3: that she was giving me, and I didn't like it, 385 00:18:09,440 --> 00:18:12,000 Speaker 3: but she was and she was like, oh, that kind 386 00:18:12,000 --> 00:18:16,159 Speaker 3: of sucks anyways, Like you know, I was like, yeah, yeah, no, 387 00:18:16,240 --> 00:18:20,240 Speaker 3: it does suck, right. So it can be sometimes useful, 388 00:18:20,280 --> 00:18:25,240 Speaker 3: but I think in small doses to like just for 389 00:18:25,320 --> 00:18:29,320 Speaker 3: a moment, reflect what's going on, like what they're actually doing, 390 00:18:29,359 --> 00:18:32,400 Speaker 3: and then back off and start taking the high road. 391 00:18:33,119 --> 00:18:35,720 Speaker 3: But I feel like in only like the the most 392 00:18:36,000 --> 00:18:36,880 Speaker 3: dire of situation. 393 00:18:37,000 --> 00:18:39,159 Speaker 1: Well, to your point, I think there's a way to 394 00:18:39,240 --> 00:18:42,000 Speaker 1: be build a very solid wall for your boundary, but 395 00:18:42,200 --> 00:18:46,119 Speaker 1: in the right way. For example, instead of stealing and 396 00:18:46,200 --> 00:18:50,560 Speaker 1: keeping their stuff, instead of being as petty and vindictive, 397 00:18:50,920 --> 00:18:53,800 Speaker 1: they could have just been like, hey, look, you're gonna 398 00:18:53,880 --> 00:18:55,879 Speaker 1: keep coming back, so like we're just gonna call the 399 00:18:55,880 --> 00:18:58,800 Speaker 1: police and just like try to get Like anytime you 400 00:18:58,840 --> 00:19:00,840 Speaker 1: come here, we're gonna call the police. You can't try 401 00:19:00,840 --> 00:19:03,040 Speaker 1: to like rush your way in the door any of this. Like, 402 00:19:03,160 --> 00:19:07,760 Speaker 1: there there are tools available that are like the appropriate 403 00:19:07,840 --> 00:19:10,720 Speaker 1: level quote unquote of a response where it's like I 404 00:19:10,720 --> 00:19:12,320 Speaker 1: won't like be twisting the knife. 405 00:19:12,000 --> 00:19:13,200 Speaker 2: But I will put up the wall. 406 00:19:13,320 --> 00:19:14,919 Speaker 1: Yeah, you know, I want to attack you, but I 407 00:19:14,920 --> 00:19:15,960 Speaker 1: will protect myself. 408 00:19:16,000 --> 00:19:18,760 Speaker 3: And I do think the problem that I have with 409 00:19:18,880 --> 00:19:23,479 Speaker 3: op is OP is it feels more nice knife twist 410 00:19:23,600 --> 00:19:24,160 Speaker 3: than a wall. 411 00:19:24,400 --> 00:19:28,000 Speaker 2: Like she enjoys it, like like she is like give 412 00:19:28,080 --> 00:19:28,440 Speaker 2: me that. 413 00:19:28,520 --> 00:19:30,919 Speaker 3: I want to twist all the knives, you know, Like 414 00:19:31,200 --> 00:19:33,760 Speaker 3: I feel like she she only carries twisting knives, but 415 00:19:33,800 --> 00:19:35,720 Speaker 3: she's never just like a stab and stab and. 416 00:19:35,760 --> 00:19:37,840 Speaker 2: Run away kind of kind of gal one hundred percent. 417 00:19:38,080 --> 00:19:41,280 Speaker 1: I think like while they could have, you know, been 418 00:19:41,760 --> 00:19:44,159 Speaker 1: very forthright and like putting up the wall, putting up 419 00:19:44,160 --> 00:19:46,680 Speaker 1: the boundary. It seems like they just went about everything 420 00:19:46,720 --> 00:19:49,280 Speaker 1: the like overly, but it's just the wrong angle. It's 421 00:19:49,280 --> 00:19:53,280 Speaker 1: the wrong protect yourself, but maybe not steal all their 422 00:19:53,359 --> 00:19:54,440 Speaker 1: jewelry and electronics. 423 00:19:54,440 --> 00:19:57,719 Speaker 3: Man Derby says, you can't win from craziness like I 424 00:19:57,760 --> 00:20:02,240 Speaker 3: do think like when you're when you're playing against crazy Olympians, 425 00:20:02,280 --> 00:20:03,360 Speaker 3: you're never going to be able to. 426 00:20:03,280 --> 00:20:06,800 Speaker 2: Compete, you know, fire versus fire. We all burned down. Amen. 427 00:20:07,160 --> 00:20:08,840 Speaker 2: But there's more to the story. 428 00:20:08,920 --> 00:20:11,159 Speaker 1: So before he closed the door on her face, he 429 00:20:11,320 --> 00:20:13,560 Speaker 1: told her to not step foot on our property again. 430 00:20:13,960 --> 00:20:17,240 Speaker 1: She left without more drop. My mother in law and 431 00:20:17,280 --> 00:20:19,520 Speaker 1: father in law phoned us to try to talk some 432 00:20:19,640 --> 00:20:20,240 Speaker 1: sense into us. 433 00:20:20,440 --> 00:20:21,240 Speaker 2: Quote unquote. 434 00:20:21,480 --> 00:20:23,400 Speaker 1: My husband and I had agreed to let them see 435 00:20:23,400 --> 00:20:26,960 Speaker 1: our children under certain circumstances. They said that they had 436 00:20:27,119 --> 00:20:30,280 Speaker 1: grand grandparent rights, which is a real thing. 437 00:20:30,119 --> 00:20:31,439 Speaker 2: That we did look up. 438 00:20:31,880 --> 00:20:33,960 Speaker 1: I told them that although I was no lawyer, the 439 00:20:34,040 --> 00:20:36,480 Speaker 1: rights were very limited in the state that we live in. 440 00:20:37,240 --> 00:20:39,520 Speaker 1: If they wanted to have a relationship with their grandchildren, 441 00:20:39,520 --> 00:20:42,240 Speaker 1: they would have to start respecting me and my family. 442 00:20:42,000 --> 00:20:44,560 Speaker 2: Which is a reasonable request, which is a reasonable request. 443 00:20:44,800 --> 00:20:47,359 Speaker 1: Right now, we are no contact with the older brothers 444 00:20:47,400 --> 00:20:50,719 Speaker 1: and their wives, sister in law and her nuclear family. 445 00:20:50,760 --> 00:20:53,359 Speaker 1: We unblocked them to send them, to send a message 446 00:20:53,400 --> 00:20:56,159 Speaker 1: to them, and then block them again. If the children 447 00:20:56,200 --> 00:20:58,000 Speaker 1: of the older brother want to speak to us and 448 00:20:58,040 --> 00:21:01,240 Speaker 1: spend some time with us, that is by us. The 449 00:21:01,280 --> 00:21:03,760 Speaker 1: six year old can only come by if her older 450 00:21:03,800 --> 00:21:06,880 Speaker 1: siblings are there to supervise her on the weekends when 451 00:21:06,920 --> 00:21:09,880 Speaker 1: we have time to host them. No more dropping by 452 00:21:10,119 --> 00:21:12,800 Speaker 1: as as and when they wish. If they let their 453 00:21:12,800 --> 00:21:15,920 Speaker 1: parents use their numbers to contact us, then we will 454 00:21:15,920 --> 00:21:18,560 Speaker 1: block them too. While we were sending messages to everyone 455 00:21:18,680 --> 00:21:22,159 Speaker 1: and they were unblocked, the older one's wife phoned me 456 00:21:22,400 --> 00:21:25,040 Speaker 1: and said that she could pay me seven dollars and 457 00:21:25,119 --> 00:21:28,040 Speaker 1: fifty cents an hour for the days that I looked 458 00:21:28,080 --> 00:21:30,520 Speaker 1: after their six year olds, going back to. 459 00:21:35,200 --> 00:21:39,320 Speaker 2: Come on, get a hint. It's not minimum wage. 460 00:21:39,359 --> 00:21:41,720 Speaker 1: But you know the dude I made When I made 461 00:21:41,760 --> 00:21:44,439 Speaker 1: eight dollars an hour as a babysitter, I thought I 462 00:21:44,640 --> 00:21:48,399 Speaker 1: was rich boy. But also I'm not like an adult 463 00:21:48,440 --> 00:21:51,400 Speaker 1: with children, So it's true. It's true, or I wasn't anyways, 464 00:21:52,040 --> 00:21:55,040 Speaker 1: So I told her, no, thank you, I will pass 465 00:21:55,320 --> 00:21:58,600 Speaker 1: on that wonderful opportunity, and good luck to you finding 466 00:21:58,680 --> 00:22:02,119 Speaker 1: child care for that. She texted me she would compensate 467 00:22:02,160 --> 00:22:04,640 Speaker 1: me for the last three months too, to sweeten the deal. 468 00:22:05,040 --> 00:22:05,639 Speaker 2: I told her no. 469 00:22:05,960 --> 00:22:08,680 Speaker 1: She begged me to reconsider, as she had no one 470 00:22:08,720 --> 00:22:09,800 Speaker 1: lined up for the next week. 471 00:22:10,160 --> 00:22:11,520 Speaker 2: I told her to figure out her. 472 00:22:11,400 --> 00:22:14,439 Speaker 1: Own child care. She was crying. And I have to 473 00:22:14,560 --> 00:22:17,800 Speaker 1: admit it was kind of satisfactory. 474 00:22:19,320 --> 00:22:24,280 Speaker 3: I mean, Opie you, I guess maybe you haven't admitted 475 00:22:24,480 --> 00:22:27,440 Speaker 3: your knife twisting has been satisfactory, but you know, you've 476 00:22:27,440 --> 00:22:29,840 Speaker 3: showed us you don't need a show, showed Hotell, and 477 00:22:29,880 --> 00:22:32,120 Speaker 3: you have showed us you love twisting. 478 00:22:32,160 --> 00:22:34,480 Speaker 1: That night, I'm not gonna lie so like sad. The 479 00:22:34,480 --> 00:22:36,480 Speaker 1: word satisfactory was cut off, so I thought it was 480 00:22:36,480 --> 00:22:39,040 Speaker 1: gonna be like And I have to admit I was 481 00:22:39,160 --> 00:22:40,639 Speaker 1: kind of starting to feel that. 482 00:22:42,240 --> 00:22:45,600 Speaker 2: I was just like factory. She's sad asfar. 483 00:22:47,160 --> 00:22:51,400 Speaker 3: Holy Molly Man Like, Like, at what point is op 484 00:22:51,560 --> 00:22:52,240 Speaker 3: and a hole? You know? 485 00:22:52,400 --> 00:22:55,439 Speaker 1: Like, yes, she's also what I'm saying, dude, come on, 486 00:22:56,160 --> 00:22:57,080 Speaker 1: it's kind of. 487 00:22:57,520 --> 00:22:59,720 Speaker 2: La La said, it's savage. It's just it's just a 488 00:22:59,720 --> 00:23:02,800 Speaker 2: little such a little too savage. It's a little too much. 489 00:23:02,960 --> 00:23:05,679 Speaker 1: My god, no wonder they're all a family like they 490 00:23:05,720 --> 00:23:08,600 Speaker 1: all just like just are returning nuclear. 491 00:23:08,200 --> 00:23:09,080 Speaker 2: Fire to each other. 492 00:23:09,119 --> 00:23:12,800 Speaker 1: It's yeah anyways, So if I'm a bee for that, 493 00:23:14,000 --> 00:23:16,800 Speaker 1: I will own it, Opie said, all stand on owning it. 494 00:23:17,160 --> 00:23:20,199 Speaker 1: She will most likely lose her job. But it's not 495 00:23:20,359 --> 00:23:24,200 Speaker 1: my circus and not my monkeys. Now, the younger one's 496 00:23:24,200 --> 00:23:25,919 Speaker 1: wife wondered if she could get some help with the 497 00:23:25,920 --> 00:23:27,920 Speaker 1: baby when her mother went back home. As I helped 498 00:23:27,920 --> 00:23:30,159 Speaker 1: her with the older one. I told her no that 499 00:23:30,200 --> 00:23:32,840 Speaker 1: would happen because I did not want more regrets in life. 500 00:23:32,880 --> 00:23:35,280 Speaker 1: But the baby grows up and wants to spend time 501 00:23:35,359 --> 00:23:38,640 Speaker 1: with the uncle one on one, then they can come 502 00:23:38,680 --> 00:23:41,560 Speaker 1: by if we have time to host them. In the meantime, 503 00:23:41,920 --> 00:23:44,160 Speaker 1: she could ask sister in law to help her when 504 00:23:44,240 --> 00:23:47,480 Speaker 1: her mother left. Now sister in law and her husband 505 00:23:47,520 --> 00:23:49,800 Speaker 1: are completely blocked. I believe this is the ones that 506 00:23:50,080 --> 00:23:52,280 Speaker 1: dirtied up the house. Their children are on the no 507 00:23:52,480 --> 00:23:55,959 Speaker 1: contact list as things are very complicated with their parents. 508 00:23:56,320 --> 00:23:58,719 Speaker 1: My husband and I came to an agreement that we 509 00:23:58,760 --> 00:24:01,840 Speaker 1: would go low contact with his parents. When they do 510 00:24:02,000 --> 00:24:04,680 Speaker 1: visit us, they have to follow our ground rules when 511 00:24:04,720 --> 00:24:07,280 Speaker 1: spending time with us. They can't mention or advocate on 512 00:24:07,400 --> 00:24:10,199 Speaker 1: behalf of the others, and they can't mention what is 513 00:24:10,240 --> 00:24:13,520 Speaker 1: happening in our lives to the others. If not, we 514 00:24:13,560 --> 00:24:16,520 Speaker 1: go no contact with them too. Now in the summer, 515 00:24:16,560 --> 00:24:18,680 Speaker 1: we tend to spend two weeks together as a family. 516 00:24:19,000 --> 00:24:21,600 Speaker 1: This has been a family tradition for them since they 517 00:24:21,640 --> 00:24:25,040 Speaker 1: were small. No matter what, they spend those two weeks together, 518 00:24:25,480 --> 00:24:28,879 Speaker 1: no time with friends or other family, it's always the 519 00:24:28,920 --> 00:24:31,480 Speaker 1: last two weeks of July. I knew we were going 520 00:24:31,560 --> 00:24:33,840 Speaker 1: to spend the summer together before all of us happened, 521 00:24:34,240 --> 00:24:37,080 Speaker 1: but I had no idea. My husband had paid for 522 00:24:37,320 --> 00:24:39,919 Speaker 1: sister in law this year. So remember earlier when he 523 00:24:39,960 --> 00:24:42,520 Speaker 1: was talking about that, I think you're alluding to like that. 524 00:24:42,560 --> 00:24:47,560 Speaker 3: The wait, so are you saying these nuclear people are 525 00:24:47,920 --> 00:24:50,639 Speaker 3: being paid for it to all come to this lake house? 526 00:24:51,040 --> 00:24:55,359 Speaker 1: I think he before this whole fall houses, he was 527 00:24:55,400 --> 00:24:59,600 Speaker 1: funding the sister in law's like family group to come 528 00:24:59,640 --> 00:25:00,439 Speaker 1: out for the summer. 529 00:25:00,440 --> 00:25:03,000 Speaker 2: He was paying for their summer vacation essentially, I believe 530 00:25:03,080 --> 00:25:03,960 Speaker 2: is what's being said here. 531 00:25:04,560 --> 00:25:07,199 Speaker 1: He apologized for it and said that all of it 532 00:25:07,280 --> 00:25:09,840 Speaker 1: was canceled so he's apologizing to op like, Hey, I'm 533 00:25:09,880 --> 00:25:12,000 Speaker 1: so sorry that I ever paid for this for them. 534 00:25:12,359 --> 00:25:15,439 Speaker 2: It's gone, it's done, it's over. Oh, here we go. 535 00:25:15,640 --> 00:25:18,439 Speaker 1: More context, He had paid for most of it, and 536 00:25:18,480 --> 00:25:21,080 Speaker 1: had partially paid for them in previous years due to 537 00:25:21,119 --> 00:25:24,840 Speaker 1: their finances not stretching. Sister law and her family the 538 00:25:24,880 --> 00:25:27,320 Speaker 1: others would all pay for themselves, so he's been helping 539 00:25:27,359 --> 00:25:29,359 Speaker 1: him out. I didn't mind, as we have a joint 540 00:25:29,359 --> 00:25:31,760 Speaker 1: account in our own separate accounts that we use as 541 00:25:31,760 --> 00:25:35,080 Speaker 1: we wish without consulting each other. So since I stopped working, 542 00:25:35,119 --> 00:25:37,920 Speaker 1: he also adds money monthly to my solo account as 543 00:25:37,920 --> 00:25:40,640 Speaker 1: he does to his own. He said he regretted being 544 00:25:40,680 --> 00:25:44,000 Speaker 1: this kind to them and apologized for holding it from me. 545 00:25:44,200 --> 00:25:46,680 Speaker 1: He did show me proof that the today I checked 546 00:25:46,680 --> 00:25:48,919 Speaker 1: her out was the day he canceled it, and he 547 00:25:49,040 --> 00:25:51,119 Speaker 1: wanted to tell me, but had forgotten to do so 548 00:25:51,200 --> 00:25:53,960 Speaker 1: because of all the chaos. Needless to say, we are 549 00:25:54,000 --> 00:25:57,800 Speaker 1: making our holiday traditions going forward. All of this has 550 00:25:57,840 --> 00:26:01,080 Speaker 1: brought me and my husband closer. Dude, They've they've found 551 00:26:01,080 --> 00:26:07,200 Speaker 1: out there they share an evil on this evil energy. Dude, 552 00:26:07,680 --> 00:26:11,199 Speaker 1: to get love it, my God, A truly truly Joker 553 00:26:11,200 --> 00:26:12,080 Speaker 1: and Harley Quinn. 554 00:26:12,000 --> 00:26:15,000 Speaker 2: Energy, Bonnie and Clyde. Oh my god. 555 00:26:15,080 --> 00:26:17,639 Speaker 1: I am happy for all the support here and going forward, 556 00:26:17,680 --> 00:26:19,480 Speaker 1: I think there will be less stress. I feel like 557 00:26:19,480 --> 00:26:22,000 Speaker 1: a huge load is off my shoulders and thanks again 558 00:26:22,040 --> 00:26:25,080 Speaker 1: for all the support. Hopefully nothing new will happen as 559 00:26:25,119 --> 00:26:27,520 Speaker 1: they know that we mean business and OPI, he's not 560 00:26:27,600 --> 00:26:28,240 Speaker 1: joking around. 561 00:26:28,520 --> 00:26:34,320 Speaker 2: We know, we know Jesus, we don't need any more proof. 562 00:26:34,480 --> 00:26:37,240 Speaker 1: Oh man, Well, not totally done. There are some realvin 563 00:26:37,280 --> 00:26:41,040 Speaker 1: comments here. Firewater Kai says, what a ride. Glad you 564 00:26:41,080 --> 00:26:43,320 Speaker 1: and your husband held your ground. This had to be 565 00:26:43,400 --> 00:26:45,840 Speaker 1: rough as hell. However, I'm willing to bet that your 566 00:26:45,880 --> 00:26:49,000 Speaker 1: in laws will absolutely try to guilt you again the 567 00:26:49,080 --> 00:26:51,240 Speaker 1: second they come to visit under the guise of seeing 568 00:26:51,240 --> 00:26:54,399 Speaker 1: your kids. Opie responds, it was very rough, specifically for 569 00:26:54,520 --> 00:26:56,760 Speaker 1: my husband. I am happy that he's stuck by me. 570 00:26:57,680 --> 00:26:59,840 Speaker 1: I would do the exact same for him if anyone 571 00:26:59,840 --> 00:27:03,439 Speaker 1: in my family disrespected him. Buttered Crump and o' nine says, 572 00:27:03,680 --> 00:27:07,720 Speaker 1: it isn't just disrespect. Every apology quote unquote is really 573 00:27:07,760 --> 00:27:10,119 Speaker 1: just a request that you go back to doing things 574 00:27:10,119 --> 00:27:13,200 Speaker 1: for them, taking their crap and making their life easier. 575 00:27:13,480 --> 00:27:17,119 Speaker 1: There's no sincerity or statement of I'm sorry, I screwed 576 00:27:17,200 --> 00:27:19,280 Speaker 1: up and I miss having you in our lives. This 577 00:27:19,320 --> 00:27:23,440 Speaker 1: one happened again, and I hope you can eventually forgive us. Instead, 578 00:27:23,760 --> 00:27:26,040 Speaker 1: what they're basically saying is it's. 579 00:27:25,880 --> 00:27:26,719 Speaker 2: Not that bad. 580 00:27:26,800 --> 00:27:29,040 Speaker 1: You can't be mad at us, and would you, for 581 00:27:29,160 --> 00:27:32,240 Speaker 1: goodness sake stop being meanies and go back to spending 582 00:27:32,280 --> 00:27:34,200 Speaker 1: your time, your effort, and your. 583 00:27:34,119 --> 00:27:34,800 Speaker 2: Money on us. 584 00:27:35,080 --> 00:27:37,960 Speaker 1: We've made piss poor decisions and based on our ability 585 00:27:37,960 --> 00:27:40,800 Speaker 1: to function, on your willingness to keep taking our crap 586 00:27:40,840 --> 00:27:42,920 Speaker 1: and doing things for us, So just shut up and 587 00:27:42,960 --> 00:27:45,000 Speaker 1: get over it. I'm so sorry that you and your 588 00:27:45,080 --> 00:27:47,879 Speaker 1: husband are going through this. The thing is that now 589 00:27:48,040 --> 00:27:50,680 Speaker 1: you've made your space in your life for people who 590 00:27:50,720 --> 00:27:53,360 Speaker 1: will appreciate you both, who will be there for you, 591 00:27:53,840 --> 00:27:56,440 Speaker 1: rather than constantly expecting you to be there for them, 592 00:27:56,760 --> 00:27:59,040 Speaker 1: and who won't have you dealing with this level of 593 00:27:59,040 --> 00:28:01,960 Speaker 1: BS and buffoon And you know where you never have 594 00:28:02,040 --> 00:28:05,679 Speaker 1: to deal with one out of BS or buffoonery is 595 00:28:05,720 --> 00:28:08,600 Speaker 1: by tapping our profile to join us live every single 596 00:28:08,600 --> 00:28:11,000 Speaker 1: weekday at three PMPSD. We're live on YouTube, We're live 597 00:28:11,040 --> 00:28:12,600 Speaker 1: on Taktalk live on Facebook. 598 00:28:13,320 --> 00:28:16,120 Speaker 2: Come join us it's a good time. Come hang out 599 00:28:16,119 --> 00:28:17,480 Speaker 2: with us. Sam, there's a. 600 00:28:17,640 --> 00:28:20,480 Speaker 1: There's a little bit left, dude, roll into it, sleeping 601 00:28:20,520 --> 00:28:22,720 Speaker 1: Grouthy says, happy to hear you and your husband are 602 00:28:23,000 --> 00:28:24,520 Speaker 1: off in the same mindset in all of this, and 603 00:28:24,560 --> 00:28:27,119 Speaker 1: have been since the start of the kerfuffle. So often 604 00:28:27,119 --> 00:28:29,720 Speaker 1: in this sub it's the opposite. Please continue to buff 605 00:28:29,760 --> 00:28:34,680 Speaker 1: your shiny, shiny titanium spine, stand up for. 606 00:28:34,640 --> 00:28:35,479 Speaker 2: You and your family. 607 00:28:35,800 --> 00:28:38,200 Speaker 1: There's a saying that once you piss off a kind person, 608 00:28:38,600 --> 00:28:40,640 Speaker 1: that's it. And now the family is finding out how 609 00:28:40,720 --> 00:28:43,160 Speaker 1: much you've done for them and are regretting the decisions. 610 00:28:43,360 --> 00:28:45,680 Speaker 1: But hey, the silver lining is you can now have 611 00:28:45,720 --> 00:28:48,560 Speaker 1: more free time and less headaches. 612 00:28:50,120 --> 00:28:53,040 Speaker 2: Ooh yikes, dude, don't want to cross, op. 613 00:28:53,320 --> 00:28:59,640 Speaker 1: Dude cross, say far far away, run goodness. 614 00:29:00,080 --> 00:29:04,920 Speaker 2: OP stands on business does not mess around. What a saga? 615 00:29:04,960 --> 00:29:05,720 Speaker 2: What a saga? 616 00:29:05,720 --> 00:29:09,640 Speaker 3: And I'd like to remind everyone this all started with 617 00:29:10,040 --> 00:29:11,000 Speaker 3: a dirty tampon. 618 00:29:11,600 --> 00:29:14,040 Speaker 2: We we we went? I literally forgot. 619 00:29:14,240 --> 00:29:17,520 Speaker 3: Yeah, this all started the dirty tampon and look where 620 00:29:17,600 --> 00:29:20,280 Speaker 3: it went. I think that just goes to show small 621 00:29:20,320 --> 00:29:22,080 Speaker 3: actions can lead to big results. 622 00:29:22,200 --> 00:29:24,640 Speaker 2: That is, in the worst of ways. 623 00:29:24,800 --> 00:29:27,720 Speaker 3: If you don't think what you do makes a difference. 624 00:29:27,840 --> 00:29:30,800 Speaker 3: Just think you could blow up an entire family by 625 00:29:30,880 --> 00:29:32,200 Speaker 3: leaving a dirty tampon somewhere. 626 00:29:32,200 --> 00:29:36,360 Speaker 2: You're one one pad away one and a lot of commitment. 627 00:29:36,520 --> 00:29:40,600 Speaker 3: Oh yes, from imploding a family, absolutely, And also the 628 00:29:40,600 --> 00:29:42,400 Speaker 3: opposite of that too. I don't know what the opposite 629 00:29:42,400 --> 00:29:44,040 Speaker 3: of that, but but the opposite of that too. 630 00:29:44,040 --> 00:29:45,600 Speaker 2: It could work out well if you take that same 631 00:29:45,720 --> 00:29:50,160 Speaker 2: energy apply somewhere else. Yeah. Final final stance is everyone 632 00:29:50,200 --> 00:29:51,880 Speaker 2: the a hole here, everyone's the a hole. I think 633 00:29:51,880 --> 00:29:53,760 Speaker 2: everyone's I think everyone's the alehole. 634 00:29:53,880 --> 00:29:58,080 Speaker 3: Oh p, you know got a like, Yes, Op was wronged, 635 00:29:58,440 --> 00:30:01,280 Speaker 3: but man did Op love to twist the knife every 636 00:30:01,320 --> 00:30:06,560 Speaker 3: opportunity that she got. And hey, I'm glad that when 637 00:30:06,600 --> 00:30:08,280 Speaker 3: you went down the rabbit hole you took your husband 638 00:30:08,320 --> 00:30:09,880 Speaker 3: with you. And it seems like that's like the kind 639 00:30:09,880 --> 00:30:11,560 Speaker 3: of kinky energy that both of you guys need. 640 00:30:12,120 --> 00:30:14,720 Speaker 2: You came closer together. Hey, I guess that's the silver lining. 641 00:30:14,800 --> 00:30:17,040 Speaker 2: That's a silver lining. It's a silver lining. But what 642 00:30:17,120 --> 00:30:19,800 Speaker 2: I want to aligne this with is the fact that 643 00:30:20,000 --> 00:30:24,600 Speaker 2: this episode's done over over, n not gonna anymore except 644 00:30:24,640 --> 00:30:26,800 Speaker 2: maybe tomorrow. So if you love us, make sure to 645 00:30:26,800 --> 00:30:29,680 Speaker 2: subscribe we love you and see you tomorrow.