1 00:00:18,880 --> 00:00:22,320 Speaker 1: Hello, everyone, it's your big sister Cheeky's and you've reached 2 00:00:22,320 --> 00:00:26,320 Speaker 1: my personal voicemailbox for the Dear Cheeky's podcast. I'm here 3 00:00:26,360 --> 00:00:28,880 Speaker 1: to give you advice on anything and everything you need 4 00:00:28,960 --> 00:00:31,480 Speaker 1: help with. Whether you're going through a breakup or having 5 00:00:31,560 --> 00:00:34,000 Speaker 1: issues with your family, or maybe you have a question 6 00:00:34,000 --> 00:00:36,600 Speaker 1: about my personal life. Whatever the case is, I want 7 00:00:36,600 --> 00:00:39,400 Speaker 1: to hear from you. Remember these are my thoughts in 8 00:00:39,440 --> 00:00:42,040 Speaker 1: my opinions, and if you're suffering from a serious issue 9 00:00:42,159 --> 00:00:45,560 Speaker 1: or hardship, you should seek help from a qualified professional. 10 00:00:45,960 --> 00:00:48,800 Speaker 1: All right, now, go ahead and leave your message at 11 00:00:48,800 --> 00:00:49,560 Speaker 1: the sound of the beeB. 12 00:00:51,360 --> 00:00:54,120 Speaker 2: Hi Cheeky's. First of all, I want to say thank 13 00:00:54,160 --> 00:00:57,040 Speaker 2: you so much for the work that you do. I'm 14 00:00:57,040 --> 00:01:01,360 Speaker 2: so inspired by your story and your courage and your 15 00:01:01,400 --> 00:01:07,240 Speaker 2: passion for helping people. So thank you so much. I 16 00:01:07,280 --> 00:01:12,200 Speaker 2: recently was very lucky to meet you in Santa Monica, 17 00:01:12,520 --> 00:01:15,319 Speaker 2: and I can just see in your eyes you have 18 00:01:15,400 --> 00:01:18,680 Speaker 2: the sweetest soul. So thank you so much for being 19 00:01:18,720 --> 00:01:23,440 Speaker 2: you and for sharing yourself with us. My question is, well, 20 00:01:23,480 --> 00:01:30,240 Speaker 2: I have three sisters and I recently started setting some 21 00:01:30,280 --> 00:01:34,240 Speaker 2: boundaries with them, calling out some behavior that I did 22 00:01:34,319 --> 00:01:39,720 Speaker 2: not appreciate to my surprise, they turned on me and 23 00:01:40,160 --> 00:01:48,040 Speaker 2: started calling me dramatic and saying that my requests were petty. 24 00:01:49,280 --> 00:01:53,800 Speaker 2: And it's been very hurtful because I just was not 25 00:01:53,960 --> 00:02:00,000 Speaker 2: expecting that reaction from them. And my question is, how 26 00:02:00,040 --> 00:02:04,640 Speaker 2: how do you say boundaries with people close to you 27 00:02:05,400 --> 00:02:11,880 Speaker 2: without internalizing these types of narratives that your problem. Thank 28 00:02:11,919 --> 00:02:15,079 Speaker 2: you so much, Cheeky's and I wish you nothing but the. 29 00:02:15,040 --> 00:02:20,400 Speaker 1: Best, Patty, thank you so much. I'm so glad. I 30 00:02:20,400 --> 00:02:23,600 Speaker 1: wish I could I go to Santa Monica so much, 31 00:02:23,840 --> 00:02:26,720 Speaker 1: and I wish I could know exactly who you are. 32 00:02:26,800 --> 00:02:28,880 Speaker 1: But thank you. Thank you very very much for what 33 00:02:28,919 --> 00:02:34,320 Speaker 1: you said. It means a lot. And uh yeah, we 34 00:02:34,400 --> 00:02:37,880 Speaker 1: talk all about boundaries on this podcast quite a bit 35 00:02:38,120 --> 00:02:43,000 Speaker 1: because growing up in a Latino family, we didn't really 36 00:02:43,000 --> 00:02:48,360 Speaker 1: have boundaries, and I think that's obviously something a little 37 00:02:48,440 --> 00:02:52,360 Speaker 1: newer and people talk about a little more now. I 38 00:02:52,360 --> 00:02:57,320 Speaker 1: think it's great. I think having healthy boundaries are good. 39 00:02:58,720 --> 00:03:01,080 Speaker 1: It's not to keep people out. It's just a line 40 00:03:01,080 --> 00:03:05,160 Speaker 1: of respect, a line of I'm okay with this and 41 00:03:05,240 --> 00:03:09,200 Speaker 1: I'm not okay with this, and that is okay for 42 00:03:09,280 --> 00:03:12,839 Speaker 1: you to do. It's going to make people very uncomfortable, 43 00:03:13,160 --> 00:03:15,480 Speaker 1: like in major sisters, it's going to take them some 44 00:03:15,639 --> 00:03:20,000 Speaker 1: time to understand. But if you stay firm because you're 45 00:03:20,000 --> 00:03:22,440 Speaker 1: not doing anything wrong, You're not trying to harm anyone. 46 00:03:23,080 --> 00:03:26,840 Speaker 1: It's really just to protect your peace and ultimately to 47 00:03:26,880 --> 00:03:31,160 Speaker 1: protect the relationship long term. And they may not understand 48 00:03:31,160 --> 00:03:34,480 Speaker 1: it right now, but just stay firm on it and 49 00:03:34,560 --> 00:03:38,080 Speaker 1: stick to your guns, especially when you're trying to live 50 00:03:38,320 --> 00:03:42,880 Speaker 1: a quote unquote healthier life and make better decisions and 51 00:03:44,000 --> 00:03:48,880 Speaker 1: set the boundaries and limitations. It always ruffles feathers. And 52 00:03:48,920 --> 00:03:53,720 Speaker 1: I'll be honest, when my little sister Jenica set a boundary, 53 00:03:53,840 --> 00:03:55,920 Speaker 1: it was even hard for me, someone that knows about 54 00:03:55,920 --> 00:03:59,360 Speaker 1: boundaries and sets boundaries, but getting it from my little sister, 55 00:04:00,160 --> 00:04:02,360 Speaker 1: I'm like, okay, it has to go both ways. It 56 00:04:02,400 --> 00:04:04,360 Speaker 1: does make you feel like a little like, oh wait, 57 00:04:05,400 --> 00:04:08,440 Speaker 1: but I have to respect her decisions, her wishes if 58 00:04:08,440 --> 00:04:10,960 Speaker 1: I want to be in her life, even if I 59 00:04:11,000 --> 00:04:13,840 Speaker 1: may not agree. It's I love you and cool. Thank 60 00:04:13,880 --> 00:04:17,880 Speaker 1: you for expressing yourself to me. And it is a 61 00:04:17,920 --> 00:04:21,400 Speaker 1: little weird at first, but it makes the relationship so 62 00:04:21,520 --> 00:04:26,520 Speaker 1: much better and that's how it's going to be healthier. 63 00:04:27,600 --> 00:04:30,720 Speaker 1: So I'm proud of you, very proud of you. I 64 00:04:30,760 --> 00:04:33,640 Speaker 1: know it's not an easy decision, but you're doing something 65 00:04:33,640 --> 00:04:36,400 Speaker 1: good for yourself and with time. I'm sorry that they 66 00:04:36,400 --> 00:04:41,479 Speaker 1: called you dramatic. They don't understand it, but this is 67 00:04:41,480 --> 00:04:43,679 Speaker 1: going to be good for you, and hopefully they learn 68 00:04:44,040 --> 00:04:46,960 Speaker 1: from it and they get inspired by it as well. 69 00:04:47,560 --> 00:04:50,440 Speaker 1: And don't be surprised if when they set their own 70 00:04:50,480 --> 00:04:55,159 Speaker 1: boundaries it makes you feel a little funny. Because it does. 71 00:04:55,279 --> 00:04:58,239 Speaker 1: It's normal, and don't be upset with them. It's okay, 72 00:04:58,760 --> 00:05:01,560 Speaker 1: it's all right. You have to understand where they're at 73 00:05:01,960 --> 00:05:05,279 Speaker 1: and meet people where they are, but that doesn't mean 74 00:05:05,400 --> 00:05:10,760 Speaker 1: you have to back down or retract because it made 75 00:05:10,760 --> 00:05:14,599 Speaker 1: them uncomfortable. Just stay stern, stay strong on what you believe, 76 00:05:14,640 --> 00:05:16,880 Speaker 1: on what you want for your life, and everything will 77 00:05:16,880 --> 00:05:19,719 Speaker 1: fall into place with time. Let them let them be upset, 78 00:05:19,800 --> 00:05:21,839 Speaker 1: You're like, Okay, I understand you're upset, you're hurt. You 79 00:05:21,920 --> 00:05:24,160 Speaker 1: want to call me names. I'm not going to allow 80 00:05:24,200 --> 00:05:26,040 Speaker 1: you calling me names, but I'm going to respect your 81 00:05:26,040 --> 00:05:29,040 Speaker 1: decision and this is part of what I'm doing for myself, 82 00:05:29,120 --> 00:05:32,320 Speaker 1: and with time, you'll understand. And if it causes a 83 00:05:32,360 --> 00:05:35,599 Speaker 1: little bit of space between you, guys, maybe that's good too. 84 00:05:36,040 --> 00:05:40,000 Speaker 1: Maybe missing each other, analyzing, reflecting on the relationship will 85 00:05:40,040 --> 00:05:42,840 Speaker 1: also help it and it'll strengthen it. So just give 86 00:05:42,880 --> 00:05:45,000 Speaker 1: it time, babe, give it time. But I'm very proud 87 00:05:45,040 --> 00:05:48,240 Speaker 1: of you for sure. I know, girl, I know it's tough, 88 00:05:48,560 --> 00:05:57,000 Speaker 1: but you got it. Now we're going to move on 89 00:05:57,120 --> 00:05:57,800 Speaker 1: to Yancey. 90 00:05:58,440 --> 00:05:59,279 Speaker 2: Hi, miss to Nay. 91 00:06:00,000 --> 00:06:01,760 Speaker 1: My question is who. 92 00:06:01,640 --> 00:06:05,039 Speaker 2: Out of all your siblings has the most darkest humor? 93 00:06:05,680 --> 00:06:07,800 Speaker 2: Love you, girl, have a good day. Bye. 94 00:06:08,839 --> 00:06:11,640 Speaker 1: Oh my goodness, Hi Yancey, thank you for your question. 95 00:06:11,760 --> 00:06:16,960 Speaker 1: You made me laugh. The darkest humor I automatically thought 96 00:06:16,960 --> 00:06:21,480 Speaker 1: of Johnny. Johnny by far has the darkest humor. I mean, 97 00:06:21,600 --> 00:06:24,760 Speaker 1: that boy says some stuff that I'm like, oh my god, 98 00:06:25,640 --> 00:06:27,680 Speaker 1: I even feel bad laughing at it sometimes, but I'm 99 00:06:27,760 --> 00:06:30,880 Speaker 1: just like, I think that's how he copes. But yeah, 100 00:06:30,880 --> 00:06:36,719 Speaker 1: I would probably say first Johnny, then Mikey, then Jenica, 101 00:06:37,720 --> 00:06:40,520 Speaker 1: then Jackie than me. Oh my god. It's like it's 102 00:06:40,560 --> 00:06:43,680 Speaker 1: reversed because I'm the eldest, you know, Oh my god. 103 00:06:43,760 --> 00:06:47,000 Speaker 1: But yes, as far as dark humor, that's the order 104 00:06:47,279 --> 00:06:51,040 Speaker 1: from youngest to oldest. So yeah, that's a good question. 105 00:06:51,200 --> 00:06:54,800 Speaker 1: But yeah, oh, Johnny that feels crazy, although I don't 106 00:06:55,160 --> 00:06:58,719 Speaker 1: I don't mind dark humor too much. I think I 107 00:06:58,720 --> 00:07:01,080 Speaker 1: don't know. Anyway, that's a whole other conversation. But thank 108 00:07:01,120 --> 00:07:07,120 Speaker 1: you for your question, Yancy. All right, moving on to 109 00:07:07,520 --> 00:07:12,280 Speaker 1: our last question, Jayden a geekies, what happens to your 110 00:07:12,280 --> 00:07:17,240 Speaker 1: mom's taco truck? Okay, Jayden, I hear you, and you 111 00:07:17,320 --> 00:07:23,600 Speaker 1: made me hungry. My mom's taco truck that goes. It's 112 00:07:23,600 --> 00:07:28,320 Speaker 1: funny that you asked me this question because we actually 113 00:07:28,320 --> 00:07:31,720 Speaker 1: want to bring it back very soon this year. So 114 00:07:32,520 --> 00:07:36,920 Speaker 1: the first taco truck we started with my mom, as 115 00:07:36,960 --> 00:07:40,880 Speaker 1: you guys know on I love Jenny, and it was 116 00:07:40,920 --> 00:07:44,000 Speaker 1: her recipe. My brother just asked me, Johnny just asked 117 00:07:44,000 --> 00:07:47,160 Speaker 1: me talking about Johnny for the recipe because I'm the 118 00:07:47,200 --> 00:07:50,480 Speaker 1: only one that remembers it. And they're just it's like 119 00:07:50,560 --> 00:07:52,800 Speaker 1: these tacos that she just came up with, and they're 120 00:07:52,880 --> 00:07:55,200 Speaker 1: so freaking good. You would never think to put sour 121 00:07:55,280 --> 00:08:00,360 Speaker 1: cream in a taco with lettuce, but they're so damn good. Anyway, 122 00:08:00,480 --> 00:08:02,360 Speaker 1: the point is that we had to close it down 123 00:08:02,760 --> 00:08:09,560 Speaker 1: because there was an issue with her manager and my cousin. 124 00:08:09,840 --> 00:08:12,440 Speaker 1: They weren't getting along because my cousin Karina was the 125 00:08:12,480 --> 00:08:15,520 Speaker 1: one that was in charge of and managing the Chaco 126 00:08:15,640 --> 00:08:17,960 Speaker 1: truck and it didn't work out because of that, so 127 00:08:18,000 --> 00:08:20,160 Speaker 1: we shut it down and we just had so many 128 00:08:20,240 --> 00:08:23,680 Speaker 1: other things going on that we couldn't like reopen it. 129 00:08:23,920 --> 00:08:27,160 Speaker 1: But now it looks like my cousin is open to 130 00:08:27,240 --> 00:08:30,320 Speaker 1: doing it again and people are asking for it, which 131 00:08:30,360 --> 00:08:31,000 Speaker 1: is crazy. 132 00:08:31,120 --> 00:08:31,360 Speaker 2: You know. 133 00:08:31,440 --> 00:08:33,600 Speaker 1: It's like, ah, like this is just confirmation for me, 134 00:08:34,920 --> 00:08:38,120 Speaker 1: and so yeah, I'm gonna teach all my siblings the 135 00:08:38,200 --> 00:08:43,480 Speaker 1: recipe very soon, so hopefully by her birthday it's out. 136 00:08:44,400 --> 00:08:46,959 Speaker 1: But thank you for asking, because I feel like that's 137 00:08:47,280 --> 00:08:50,200 Speaker 1: God telling us we should do it, or maybe my 138 00:08:50,280 --> 00:08:54,040 Speaker 1: mom's telling you, because that's a business she really really 139 00:08:54,080 --> 00:08:56,520 Speaker 1: wanted to continue. So I hope we're able to make 140 00:08:56,559 --> 00:08:59,080 Speaker 1: it successful for her. And thank you guys, Thank you 141 00:08:59,120 --> 00:09:03,480 Speaker 1: bat the thank you Yancey and mister Jaden for your questions. 142 00:09:03,480 --> 00:09:09,280 Speaker 1: I appreciate it. I love having a series of questions 143 00:09:09,320 --> 00:09:12,040 Speaker 1: something so different. You guys make me laugh, you guys 144 00:09:12,080 --> 00:09:14,560 Speaker 1: make me think, so thank you so much, and I 145 00:09:14,600 --> 00:09:16,400 Speaker 1: hope that my advice helps you all the time. And 146 00:09:16,400 --> 00:09:19,200 Speaker 1: if you have a question about anything, as you could see. 147 00:09:19,200 --> 00:09:22,440 Speaker 1: You can ask me anything. I will gladly answer it 148 00:09:22,480 --> 00:09:24,200 Speaker 1: and give you the best advice. 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