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Speaker 1: Yeah, they talk better than they excited.

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Speaker 2: Men. These are the radio blogs on the Fred Show.

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Speaker 2: It's like running in our diaries, except we say him

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Speaker 2: a loud we call him blogs.

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Speaker 1: Paulina, Yes, take it away.

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Speaker 3: Oh thank you so much, dear blog.

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Speaker 4: So I know, Fred, You've talked about this like many

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Speaker 4: of times here and I've heard, you know, stories, But

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Speaker 4: to bec completely honest, I've never had like I've never

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Speaker 4: seen it happen to a friend. It's happened to me,

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Speaker 4: but I was like, oh, I see it happen to people.

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Speaker 4: Maybe it's like one of those like fairy tale things

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Speaker 4: where like it might happen, and like, I don't know,

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Speaker 4: it didn't really like hit me until my best friend

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Speaker 4: mentioned the other day. He goes, oh, yeah, you know,

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Speaker 4: I was gonna go out with and I won't name them,

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Speaker 4: but I was gonna go out this couple, a married

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Speaker 4: couple newly married, because like I think there are maybe

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Speaker 4: five six months in he was no longer invited to

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Speaker 4: something that he I guess maybe assumed he was invited to.

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Speaker 4: I guess they made plans like prior and I guess

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Speaker 4: he had asked like kind of like another friend, what's

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Speaker 4: up with that, you know, why wasn't I invited?

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Speaker 3: And it was a mary couple's only kind of event.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and I was.

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Speaker 4: About to go in there swinging and nothing to do

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Speaker 4: with me. But I was so upset about that for

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Speaker 4: so many reasons. And I'm a married person. I'm a

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Speaker 4: married couple over here, and I would never even in

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Speaker 4: my mind, like ever think of doing that to somebody.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that's the thing. No, it's a real thing.

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Speaker 2: As a single guy, I think there are couples events

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Speaker 2: that take place, and I don't take it personally. While

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Speaker 2: it's hard kind of not to, but I think I

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Speaker 4: But like, I just don't understand. Like, to me, my

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Speaker 4: friends first of all are my people. But if my

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Speaker 4: like have a good time or whatever, like, are we

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Speaker 3: Like that has nothing to do.

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Speaker 4: I don't care if you're married single, if you're seeing

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Speaker 4: eighteen different men, Like I don't care if you're like

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Speaker 4: wanting to invite you to my event or my dinner

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Speaker 4: whatever it is, like, that's the place that you know

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Speaker 5: Like, why are we treating marriage like it's some sort

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Speaker 5: like a chill Like you decided to do that, and

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Speaker 5: that's great for you. But a friend is a friend,

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Speaker 5: like you need new friends. If people are doing that too,

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Speaker 3: It's so mean.

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Speaker 4: And I saw like this TikTok, and I don't know

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Speaker 4: this girl was talking about. I guess why married couples

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Speaker 4: do this. Yeah, I'm very curious. I am one, mind you,

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Speaker 3: Never never thought of it this way.

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Speaker 4: I guess it's married couples want to be around married

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Speaker 3: But I guess like it's a secure kind of thing.

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Speaker 4: So it's like I would invite a single person, which

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Speaker 4: is really I brought flag on your marriage, in my opinion,

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Speaker 3: And gonna come.

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Speaker 1: I know that yeah, I.

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Speaker 3: Saw a video.

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Speaker 2: I thought it was just because it was like it's

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Speaker 4: Or I saw like not even marriage, but like if

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Speaker 2: I don't know if that, I don't know if I

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Speaker 2: And I find out that, like they hang out a lot,

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Speaker 5: When I was single, my friends like love because they

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Speaker 3: Like, I'm living vicariously through you. But I mean, I

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Speaker 2: But yeah, I've gone on vacations though, like trips, weekend

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Speaker 2: And then I guess for me, I don't necessarily want

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Speaker 2: Because I do think if as a dude, if I

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Speaker 2: with my friends, then I think what we're saying there is, oh, well,

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Speaker 1: And if I'm not, then I don't think that's fair.

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Speaker 4: Agree, good point, Good point, But you should still be

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Speaker 4: As a married person was a child, I hate when

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Speaker 3: Like that's me is so weird.

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Speaker 4: Like yesterday my husband he went out with his friends

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Speaker 3: I'm like, what time are you leaving? What time are

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Speaker 4: And I'm like, you know what's crazy too, is that

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Speaker 3: I one thing about me is I love my alone time.

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Speaker 4: I I love being alone and I also love going

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Speaker 4: out with my friends, and like that's something I'm not

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Speaker 4: giving up, Like I'm just I'm sorry, I'm not. Don't

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Speaker 1: One year old, I need some alone time right now.

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Speaker 1: So if you get sent for yourself.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean he's a margarita, so I'll be back.

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Speaker 4: But yeah, exactly, I'm kind of I just look at

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Speaker 4: it like this is crazy, Like this isn't whatever, This

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Speaker 4: isn't a present, Like you can go out with your

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Speaker 2: I'm also not sure as much if if I don't

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Speaker 2: guy that wants to be invited to everything, but may

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Speaker 2: mean I tend I'm like you, I like my alone

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Speaker 2: I wouldn't go. And I guess I would like the option,

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Speaker 2: me the option, yeah, to go or not go. But

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Speaker 2: I also wouldn't blame them. Like if I invited someone

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Speaker 2: stop calling them, not because I don't like them, but

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Speaker 5: Yeah, that's where you lose me if people say, know enough,

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Speaker 5: I'm not inviting anymore.

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Speaker 3: Sorry, good point. It hurts my need.

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Speaker 1: I need to be invited.

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Speaker 5: Okay, Okay, I know, but it's it's like the people

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Speaker 1: Well, you should not.

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Speaker 2: Take it personally because I'm me and I'm a introvert

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Speaker 2: that can pretend sometimes. No, don't take it personally. Just

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Speaker 2: make sure you invite me please The Entertainment Report is

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