WEBVTT - Do He Got Money?! 0:00:00.160 --> 0:00:03.119 Welcome to Carefully Reckless, the production of Our Heart Radio 0:00:03.240 --> 0:00:15.960 and the Black Effects. Oh Ship back on the air. 0:00:16.000 --> 0:00:18.360 Welcome back to hat another Carefully Reckless episode with your 0:00:18.400 --> 0:00:21.919 girl just hilarious session. Fixed my mess? Here we are 0:00:22.560 --> 0:00:24.720 and we got some voice notes today. Thank god I 0:00:24.720 --> 0:00:27.800 ain't got the read. Thank god I can just focus 0:00:27.840 --> 0:00:30.720 on fixing all right, Good, here we go. Hey, Jess, 0:00:30.720 --> 0:00:32.320 I want to see if you can fix my mess. 0:00:32.360 --> 0:00:35.360 I wanted to know what is your best suggestion on 0:00:35.440 --> 0:00:39.080 cutting off family members that are always around. Like I 0:00:39.120 --> 0:00:41.440 have a lot of sisters, man, I'm friends with all 0:00:41.440 --> 0:00:44.160 my sisters except for one of them. She's just really 0:00:44.240 --> 0:00:47.280 shady and she talks about us to her mom. We 0:00:47.320 --> 0:00:49.320 have the same die, but we don't have the same mom, 0:00:49.360 --> 0:00:52.000 and she talks about us and like, I remember one 0:00:52.040 --> 0:00:54.800 time we went on a trip and her phone was 0:00:54.880 --> 0:00:57.800 like out and our cousin saw that she was texting 0:00:57.800 --> 0:01:00.560 her mom saying, Oh, I'm not like her. I'm not 0:01:00.640 --> 0:01:03.280 like these other girls. Like I don't drink, I don't smoke, 0:01:03.400 --> 0:01:06.119 like I'm good, you know what I mean? Like number one, 0:01:06.160 --> 0:01:08.280 why are you telling your mom that we drink and 0:01:08.280 --> 0:01:10.840 we smoke like we come from a really religious family, 0:01:11.080 --> 0:01:13.319 and I could come back to our mom. Number one, 0:01:13.319 --> 0:01:16.280 you're telling our business to your mom. And number two, 0:01:16.319 --> 0:01:18.880 why are you talking about your own fucking blood? Like 0:01:18.920 --> 0:01:21.080 that's so weird to me. I've never in my life 0:01:21.080 --> 0:01:24.360 said anything bad about any siblings. And I'm the type 0:01:24.360 --> 0:01:26.560 of person like if you whatever energy you give me, 0:01:26.600 --> 0:01:28.560 I will get back to you. That's just like one 0:01:28.560 --> 0:01:31.240 of the shitty things that she's done. And number two, 0:01:31.319 --> 0:01:34.880 she's just like really shitty to everybody. This girl never 0:01:35.040 --> 0:01:38.160 keeps any friends because people always cut her off because 0:01:38.200 --> 0:01:40.400 of the way that she acts, like she'll talk about you, 0:01:40.440 --> 0:01:44.039 she'll tell your business. And another thing that she did 0:01:44.080 --> 0:01:46.240 that just threw me off recently is one of her 0:01:46.280 --> 0:01:48.960 friends got rejected by her guy friends, and she calls 0:01:48.960 --> 0:01:51.640 her guy friends and was like, oh my god, like laughing, 0:01:51.840 --> 0:01:54.720 like why would she do that? Like it's just like 0:01:54.800 --> 0:01:57.840 I'm like, girl, you're so you're such a fucking pick me. 0:01:58.480 --> 0:02:00.840 I don't know. I'm like, she grew around boys, and 0:02:00.880 --> 0:02:03.160 I grew up around girls, so I know how to 0:02:03.400 --> 0:02:04.640 be a good friend, do you know what I mean? 0:02:04.640 --> 0:02:06.000 At the end of the day, the way that she 0:02:06.040 --> 0:02:08.320 grew up, she never really had like females around her, 0:02:08.360 --> 0:02:10.840 so she didn't really know, she doesn't really know how 0:02:10.880 --> 0:02:13.880 to act. But I don't really like her. And also 0:02:13.919 --> 0:02:16.440 there's another thing that she did, like her mom sent 0:02:16.800 --> 0:02:19.720 one of our brothers or half brothers to our family's 0:02:19.760 --> 0:02:24.359 business and tried to steal our clients. And I think 0:02:24.400 --> 0:02:26.600 that she gets like she gets all the shady behavior 0:02:26.600 --> 0:02:30.200 from her mom. Her mom is just mad at my 0:02:30.280 --> 0:02:33.040 mom because she was the other woman, you know what 0:02:33.040 --> 0:02:34.840 I mean. So I think that's why she hates us 0:02:34.880 --> 0:02:37.880 so much, and that's why my sister acts like that 0:02:38.000 --> 0:02:41.360 towards us to like obviously be on her mom's side. 0:02:41.680 --> 0:02:43.720 But it's just like I don't like that fucking talk 0:02:43.760 --> 0:02:47.120 sh Like whatever our parents have, it shouldn't come in 0:02:47.160 --> 0:02:48.360 between us, you know what I mean. At the end 0:02:48.400 --> 0:02:50.360 of the day, where siblings, she doesn't really look at 0:02:50.440 --> 0:02:52.000 us that way. She looks at us as the enemy 0:02:52.040 --> 0:02:54.079 because her mom looked at us as the enemy, know 0:02:54.080 --> 0:02:56.920 what I mean. She's just projecting all of that onto us. 0:02:56.960 --> 0:02:59.519 But honestly, like I can't never get away from this girl. 0:02:59.520 --> 0:03:01.280 I don't you talk to her, I don't text her, 0:03:01.400 --> 0:03:04.320 but every time that I go to her city to 0:03:04.960 --> 0:03:07.919 visit my other sister. She's always blowing up my phone 0:03:07.960 --> 0:03:09.840 and I don't. I just ignore all her calls, and 0:03:09.880 --> 0:03:11.880 then like she called my sister, and then it's like 0:03:11.919 --> 0:03:14.480 I'm kind of just like in between. I'm kind of 0:03:14.480 --> 0:03:17.720 like in between that I can't really escape her. Do 0:03:17.760 --> 0:03:20.760 you think I should just tell her like yo, I don't. 0:03:20.880 --> 0:03:22.600 I don't want to funk with you, like I'm good 0:03:22.600 --> 0:03:26.440 off of you. Or should I just play nice? Because 0:03:26.680 --> 0:03:29.400 obviously she's friends with my sisters, and I love my 0:03:29.440 --> 0:03:32.200 sister Todath They're like my best friends. But I don't 0:03:32.240 --> 0:03:34.480 like her, and all my other sisters don't like her either, 0:03:34.600 --> 0:03:37.800 but they just kind of they just deal with her. 0:03:38.240 --> 0:03:40.040 I can't do that, Like, that's not the type of 0:03:40.040 --> 0:03:41.760 person I am. I'm not the type of person to 0:03:41.880 --> 0:03:44.480 like sit here and pull laugh at somebody and play 0:03:44.520 --> 0:03:46.120 with them and be cool with them and even though 0:03:46.120 --> 0:03:48.600 I fucking hate them in the inside, Like I'm a 0:03:48.680 --> 0:03:51.880 sagittarious um. It's just it's hard for me, like to 0:03:52.720 --> 0:03:55.640 not tell people how I feel. Do you think that 0:03:55.920 --> 0:03:59.040 just because she'll she'll never change, I should just accept 0:03:59.080 --> 0:04:01.120 her for the way that she is, or should I 0:04:01.160 --> 0:04:03.240 just check her and be like bitch, like this is 0:04:03.280 --> 0:04:04.960 what you did, this way you did. I don't funk 0:04:05.000 --> 0:04:07.240 with you, and like put it all out there or 0:04:07.280 --> 0:04:09.960 should I just let it go? Let me clarify on 0:04:10.040 --> 0:04:13.040 that one part where I said that one of our 0:04:13.080 --> 0:04:16.440 moms was the other woman that was shade. Neither of 0:04:16.880 --> 0:04:21.880 our mom's were the other woman. Our father married for women. 0:04:22.680 --> 0:04:24.480 I'm not sure if it was at the same time 0:04:24.720 --> 0:04:28.680 or I'm not sure, but if you know anything about Muslims, 0:04:28.839 --> 0:04:31.800 men are allowed to marry up to four women, and 0:04:32.080 --> 0:04:34.839 both of our mothers have kids close in age, so 0:04:34.880 --> 0:04:39.320 I'm assuming that our dad married my sister's mom and 0:04:39.400 --> 0:04:42.880 my mom around the same time, if not the same year. 0:04:43.240 --> 0:04:45.080 So yeah, I just wanted to clarify on that part. 0:04:45.200 --> 0:04:48.400 Thank you, no problem, money. I love that. I love 0:04:48.440 --> 0:04:52.520 the clarification because listen, you sent me the other part 0:04:53.000 --> 0:04:54.919 on a whole an other day. You sent me the 0:04:54.920 --> 0:04:56.839 first story a whole another day, and then you just 0:04:56.880 --> 0:05:00.719 sent your correction not too long ago. So I do 0:05:00.880 --> 0:05:03.640 understand the shade was thrown. You were just in your feelings, 0:05:03.680 --> 0:05:07.200 you were very upset, obviously something had just happened, and 0:05:07.240 --> 0:05:10.800 you just you reacted. I understand, and I do respect 0:05:10.920 --> 0:05:13.839 I love and respect how you were still respect her 0:05:13.920 --> 0:05:17.040 mother enough to come back and correct that, like, no, okay, 0:05:17.080 --> 0:05:19.359 she wasn't the other woman. Neither was my mom. You know, 0:05:19.400 --> 0:05:22.400 we're Muslims, so dad is allowed to have more than 0:05:22.440 --> 0:05:24.520 one wife or you know, or what have you. I 0:05:24.520 --> 0:05:26.840 don't want to mess it up because I do not 0:05:27.320 --> 0:05:30.560 want no smoke with no damn Muslims. All right, So 0:05:30.560 --> 0:05:32.200 we're gonna keep it moving there. We're gonna get off 0:05:32.200 --> 0:05:36.240 the Muslim part, all right. Listen, Okay, I want you 0:05:36.320 --> 0:05:38.400 to have an open mind when I'm telling you this, 0:05:38.839 --> 0:05:44.200 But your sister, do you sometimes feel that because you 0:05:44.240 --> 0:05:47.320 and your other sisters who were so close and tighten 0:05:47.440 --> 0:05:50.920 it and just loyal to one another and thriving, you 0:05:51.279 --> 0:05:54.520 have obviously a big part in the family business. And 0:05:54.960 --> 0:05:58.240 you know, you're very well articulate. You sound very intelligent. 0:05:59.040 --> 0:06:02.640 Do you think at with that family dynamic over there, 0:06:03.040 --> 0:06:05.719 you guys are by the same woman and man, same 0:06:05.800 --> 0:06:08.840 mom and dad, and then her with a different mom 0:06:09.120 --> 0:06:13.240 in a different household. You know, not as structured, is 0:06:13.279 --> 0:06:16.440 what it sounds like. And I'm basing that solely off 0:06:16.440 --> 0:06:19.040 of her social skills and how she was. You said 0:06:19.040 --> 0:06:22.320 she wasn't raised around women, so she doesn't really know 0:06:22.920 --> 0:06:26.680 how to navigate with all these feminine feelings and all 0:06:26.760 --> 0:06:29.680 this ship and how the sister cod goes, you know, 0:06:29.720 --> 0:06:32.920 so she wouldn't really know how to be a sister. Okay, 0:06:33.080 --> 0:06:35.240 growing up? How was it? Because do you think that 0:06:35.279 --> 0:06:37.680 she could sometimes feel like a black sheep? I don't 0:06:37.720 --> 0:06:41.679 know if your dad still stayed with her mother after 0:06:42.160 --> 0:06:45.120 her mother gave birth to her, or did he break 0:06:45.200 --> 0:06:46.960 up with a mother and stay with your mother or 0:06:47.040 --> 0:06:50.640 how was it? Also? Was she around you guys growing up? 0:06:51.320 --> 0:06:53.239 Was she coming to get dropped off? Did she spend 0:06:53.279 --> 0:06:56.040 holidays with you guys? And did you guys go over 0:06:56.080 --> 0:06:58.680 there to her house or whatever? Or you know, were 0:06:58.760 --> 0:07:02.760 you guys raised as close sisters although you guys come 0:07:02.800 --> 0:07:06.800 from two different households, that she ever feel included in anything? 0:07:07.400 --> 0:07:11.400 Not justifying the bullshit and the talking ship and all 0:07:11.440 --> 0:07:14.280 of that. But is it possible that she could have 0:07:14.280 --> 0:07:18.280 grew up disliking you guys because you have each other 0:07:18.320 --> 0:07:21.600 and she just has her She doesn't have other sisters 0:07:21.600 --> 0:07:24.120 outside of her dad on her mom's side. I think 0:07:24.120 --> 0:07:26.040 you said she has brothers. And let me tell you 0:07:26.080 --> 0:07:28.400 something right now, I didn't grow up around girls either, 0:07:28.800 --> 0:07:31.560 but I know not to do that ship. That's why 0:07:31.560 --> 0:07:33.480 I got something so rough and tough, and I'm real 0:07:33.560 --> 0:07:36.160 quick on my feet, and you know, I can spawl 0:07:36.240 --> 0:07:38.120 with the best of these nickels out here because I 0:07:38.160 --> 0:07:41.080 grew up around guys. I have brothers, you know, I 0:07:41.120 --> 0:07:43.960 have boy cousins. Not I have female cousins too, But 0:07:44.000 --> 0:07:47.040 I was a tom girl for the majority of my life. 0:07:47.480 --> 0:07:49.280 Like girl, I didn't start wearing makeup and all that 0:07:49.280 --> 0:07:51.160 ship until I got on a while and out. That's 0:07:51.160 --> 0:07:54.320 for real, and that's that's literally like what six years ago. 0:07:54.440 --> 0:07:57.520 I was never into anything girly, didn't even desire to 0:07:57.560 --> 0:08:00.200 hang around girls. Me and my cousin London and had 0:08:00.280 --> 0:08:04.160 one female best friend named Jasmine growing up to homegirls 0:08:04.320 --> 0:08:08.840 and like eighty fucking own boys. Never ever even desired 0:08:09.200 --> 0:08:11.960 to be around girls. Hang around girls, you know, no 0:08:12.040 --> 0:08:15.240 particular reason. I just like basketball and ship better. So 0:08:15.880 --> 0:08:18.360 I'm not gonna say that doesn't have anything at all 0:08:18.400 --> 0:08:19.880 to do with why she asked the way she does. 0:08:19.960 --> 0:08:22.040 But I'm telling you that's not It's different for everybody. 0:08:22.200 --> 0:08:24.240 It's different for different people. I don't think that that 0:08:24.320 --> 0:08:26.960 plays a part in it. I think she wants to love. 0:08:27.400 --> 0:08:29.640 And I think you hit it on the head when 0:08:29.680 --> 0:08:31.280 you said she's a pick me. It's like she's a 0:08:31.360 --> 0:08:34.400 fucking pick me, Yeah, because I don't feel like she's 0:08:34.559 --> 0:08:37.400 ever felt like she was picked before, You know what 0:08:37.480 --> 0:08:40.280 I'm saying. That also can have an effect on you. 0:08:40.640 --> 0:08:44.480 Pick me's generally are the black sheeps, are the underdogs, 0:08:44.520 --> 0:08:47.199 are the people that gotta fight harder to be seen. 0:08:47.320 --> 0:08:50.840 They sing like their attention seeking than they are because 0:08:50.840 --> 0:08:53.959 they never really got attention, You get what I'm saying. 0:08:54.240 --> 0:08:57.240 And then if her mother was such an angry bitch, 0:08:57.920 --> 0:09:00.720 no joking, sorry, if her mother there was such an 0:09:00.760 --> 0:09:04.400 angry person all her life from what you can remember, 0:09:04.440 --> 0:09:07.679 not all her life, But you say like she's an 0:09:07.679 --> 0:09:10.960 angry person, she's mean, she's nasty. If a child is 0:09:11.280 --> 0:09:14.760 growing up around that, that child is gonna be conditioned 0:09:14.880 --> 0:09:17.000 to be the same way, even if her mother didn't 0:09:17.040 --> 0:09:20.079 teach her to be that way. That's my mother. So 0:09:20.160 --> 0:09:23.520 I inherit that I see that I watched that I 0:09:23.640 --> 0:09:26.680 learned her behavior, and she doesn't even really realize she's 0:09:26.720 --> 0:09:29.640 teaching it to me. And maybe she did teach it 0:09:29.960 --> 0:09:33.320 on purpose. But I don't drink and all that, you know, 0:09:33.679 --> 0:09:36.600 all that ship comes from her mother. You guys are 0:09:36.640 --> 0:09:39.520 living life, chilling, having fun, thanking. Y'all can trust your 0:09:39.600 --> 0:09:41.920 sister that I have fun with y'all too. Have y'all 0:09:41.960 --> 0:09:45.920 ever sat down and talked to her? Literally? Have y'all 0:09:45.960 --> 0:09:49.280 ever just just sat down? I think that would be great. 0:09:49.360 --> 0:09:52.520 And honestly, I know you don't like her. I know 0:09:52.600 --> 0:09:55.280 your sisters don't like her. I don't think she likes 0:09:55.320 --> 0:09:58.920 y'all either, But that has to stop. And you know 0:09:59.000 --> 0:10:02.480 you can't save every relationship. You can't save every friendship, 0:10:02.520 --> 0:10:05.920 you can't even save every family ship. But to be 0:10:06.000 --> 0:10:10.439 honest with you, I think you even writing me is 0:10:10.480 --> 0:10:12.600 a sign that you do want to fix it, because 0:10:12.600 --> 0:10:14.520 you ask me, should I just say fucking them off 0:10:14.559 --> 0:10:16.640 of you? Or should I just continue to play nice? 0:10:16.679 --> 0:10:18.560 I don't think you should do either. Hey, I don't 0:10:18.559 --> 0:10:20.440 think you should break up with your sister. No, I 0:10:20.480 --> 0:10:23.160 don't half sister whatever. I don't think you should break 0:10:23.240 --> 0:10:25.240 up with her. And I also don't think you should 0:10:25.240 --> 0:10:29.160 play nice, because that's being phony. I think you should 0:10:29.160 --> 0:10:32.920 set her ass down, you and her, not all the sisters. 0:10:33.000 --> 0:10:36.439 I think she needs to have an individual conversation with 0:10:36.559 --> 0:10:38.640 each of you and then you guys can come together 0:10:38.640 --> 0:10:40.480 and talk. And the reason why I say that and 0:10:40.640 --> 0:10:43.839 just hear me out because she could possibly feel like 0:10:44.240 --> 0:10:47.840 with all of y'all talking to her at the same time, 0:10:48.760 --> 0:10:50.959 y'all are going to go back and talk about her 0:10:51.200 --> 0:10:52.960 when she gets up and leave, because she is the 0:10:53.000 --> 0:10:56.520 only one that's divided. There is a division there, you 0:10:56.559 --> 0:11:00.559 know that was created because of dad, so real, no 0:11:00.600 --> 0:11:03.880 one is to blame, not the mother, not your mother, 0:11:04.200 --> 0:11:08.080 not the sister. But then again, we can't even really 0:11:08.120 --> 0:11:12.680 blame that because it's religion that you don't have to 0:11:13.360 --> 0:11:16.000 abide by one wife or what you know. So and 0:11:16.200 --> 0:11:18.880 he was married to four women, as you said, So 0:11:19.320 --> 0:11:24.959 these are divisions created because of religion. I'm gonna say that. 0:11:25.000 --> 0:11:28.160 I'm gonna say that confidently because that's and I'll be 0:11:28.200 --> 0:11:30.680 all in a nutshell that's what it is. I can't 0:11:30.720 --> 0:11:33.720 deem it to say it's wrong. However, I'm not a Muslim, 0:11:33.880 --> 0:11:37.160 I am Christian, and you can't have more than one wife. 0:11:37.200 --> 0:11:39.960 You can't do that. Now, Nigga's do it all day. 0:11:40.960 --> 0:11:46.160 Men cheat, men do this, but it's not right. And 0:11:46.360 --> 0:11:50.440 my religion. So what I'm saying to you is, I 0:11:50.480 --> 0:11:55.840 think it should be an individual conversation. You should go 0:11:55.840 --> 0:11:58.120 and talk to her, then your other sister go and 0:11:58.160 --> 0:12:00.600 talk to her. Then the other sister go talk to her, 0:12:00.640 --> 0:12:02.240 and then the other sister go talk. So I don't 0:12:02.280 --> 0:12:05.320 know how many of y'all it is Papa rolling stone 0:12:05.320 --> 0:12:09.440 head ass stamp, but I do think that that would 0:12:09.920 --> 0:12:13.319 birth a whole new perspective about you guys to her 0:12:13.600 --> 0:12:16.240 and then you never even know. She could probably be 0:12:16.360 --> 0:12:19.920 wanting the love from y'all so bad, but she doesn't 0:12:20.240 --> 0:12:22.680 want to be the bigger person. She wants y'all to 0:12:22.720 --> 0:12:25.439 pull it out of her. You know, she wants y'all 0:12:25.480 --> 0:12:27.760 to make the first step, and it's okay in doing that. 0:12:27.840 --> 0:12:31.040 You've been playing nice all this damn time. Why knowing 0:12:31.080 --> 0:12:32.720 y'all don't like the girl, and knowing the girl don't 0:12:32.720 --> 0:12:35.520 like y'all, have a conversation with her. Hey, look, and 0:12:35.520 --> 0:12:37.600 then you don't gotta be nice in the conversation, should you? 0:12:37.679 --> 0:12:39.120 My sister, I'm gonna talk to you like a real 0:12:39.160 --> 0:12:42.800 grown ass woman. Listen. I don't like that you talk 0:12:43.240 --> 0:12:48.280 about me and our always include her. You want to 0:12:48.360 --> 0:12:51.079 use words like our as mad as you may be 0:12:51.280 --> 0:12:55.360 in this conversation, as mad as you always probably feel that, 0:12:55.400 --> 0:12:57.080 you know, you don't want to claim her or whatever. 0:12:57.160 --> 0:12:59.120 Or she's not like you. Yeah, she's not like you 0:12:59.160 --> 0:13:01.839 because y'all don't have the same mother. Y'all got the 0:13:01.880 --> 0:13:05.360 same dad. Trust me, you're more of your mother than 0:13:05.400 --> 0:13:08.760 you are your father. I'll always believe that. I don't care. 0:13:09.200 --> 0:13:12.760 You lived in her belly for nine months. Yes, he 0:13:12.760 --> 0:13:15.800 helped create you, but you were bonded to your mother 0:13:16.120 --> 0:13:20.520 for nine months. You are held by your mother immediately 0:13:20.559 --> 0:13:23.400 after birth. You're breast fair. Whether you're breast fair or not, 0:13:23.880 --> 0:13:26.360 you bond skin to skin. So she's more of her 0:13:26.360 --> 0:13:30.040 mother than your father. You're more of your mother than 0:13:30.120 --> 0:13:33.600 your father. You understand. So sit down and talk to her, 0:13:33.760 --> 0:13:36.559 you say, hey, what is it? Or you can just 0:13:36.559 --> 0:13:38.640 start the conversation like that. What is it? What is 0:13:38.679 --> 0:13:41.319 it about me that you hate? Why do you hate me? 0:13:41.800 --> 0:13:45.080 Why do you dislike me? What is wrong? What did 0:13:45.240 --> 0:13:48.360 I do to you? Why do you snitch on me? 0:13:48.400 --> 0:13:50.640 Why do you think you're so different? What is the 0:13:50.679 --> 0:13:53.240 problem with us? What is the underlying issue? Doesn't have 0:13:53.280 --> 0:13:55.320 anything to do with our dad? You know, give her 0:13:55.320 --> 0:13:58.640 a chance to talk. Also, things may get a little heated. 0:13:58.840 --> 0:14:00.600 I know, y'all better not put your hands on each other. 0:14:00.600 --> 0:14:03.120 And that's not what sisters do, even half sisters don't 0:14:03.160 --> 0:14:07.760 supposed to do that. Okay, have a conversation. Go to 0:14:07.800 --> 0:14:10.960 your other sisters, encourage them to talk to her. Y'all, 0:14:10.960 --> 0:14:13.720 don't have to fight fire with fire. Let hollow as 0:14:13.840 --> 0:14:17.480 be the fire. Put that shut out, extinguish that ship. 0:14:18.040 --> 0:14:22.280 And if it doesn't work, even after a sensible, civilized conversation, 0:14:22.800 --> 0:14:25.840 then fall back, I would say, and let her come around. 0:14:26.160 --> 0:14:28.840 Don't treat in a different way. You just learn how 0:14:28.880 --> 0:14:30.720 to deal with it with a long ageist poem, deal 0:14:30.760 --> 0:14:35.640 with her at a distance. Love your sister from a distance. Okay, 0:14:35.760 --> 0:14:38.440 so check back in with me, baby girl. That was 0:14:38.480 --> 0:14:42.000 a good one, and she's so beautiful too. All right, 0:14:42.040 --> 0:14:43.920 we're gonna do one more and we're gonna get out 0:14:43.920 --> 0:14:46.080 of here. Hold up, hold up, I know the ship 0:14:46.160 --> 0:14:48.360 getting good, but listen to just a couple of seconds 0:14:48.360 --> 0:14:52.960 of a commercial. If you love me, you'll listen. Moving 0:14:53.040 --> 0:14:57.120 on ages, Okay, I'm gonna get right into it. When 0:14:57.120 --> 0:14:59.720 you six years old and I'm dating that God he's 0:14:59.760 --> 0:15:02.520 really nice. He's not one of the typical guys I date. 0:15:02.920 --> 0:15:06.520 He actually is ship. Most of the guys who you know, 0:15:06.640 --> 0:15:08.800 we tend to go after. I tend to go after 0:15:09.240 --> 0:15:13.240 ain't ship, but just when he's doing pretty good either way. Anyways, 0:15:13.480 --> 0:15:15.920 he has a three year old. I have no kids 0:15:16.000 --> 0:15:19.440 at all, and he's real cool with his baby mother, 0:15:19.520 --> 0:15:22.600 and anybody else will be great to not be going 0:15:22.600 --> 0:15:24.440 to the baby mama drama. But they're a little too cool. 0:15:24.760 --> 0:15:27.600 They give their three year old, they sit pictures down 0:15:27.640 --> 0:15:29.480 in front of her and give her a choice of 0:15:29.480 --> 0:15:33.280 where she was to go to different countries, and she 0:15:33.360 --> 0:15:37.080 picks and they go as a family. And I'm dating you, 0:15:37.320 --> 0:15:39.520 So it's kind of hard for me. What should I do? 0:15:39.560 --> 0:15:41.640 How should I feel? I'm happy that he's not having 0:15:41.720 --> 0:15:43.320 drama with his baby mother, but I think that's a 0:15:43.360 --> 0:15:46.960 little bit much. Okay, so you cut that off and listen. 0:15:47.000 --> 0:15:49.760 I don't even need you to finish, girl. Let that 0:15:49.840 --> 0:15:53.440 motherfucker alone. That's just what that is? Uh? This like 0:15:53.960 --> 0:15:57.840 what the funk this look like? Over? If? Girl? Please? 0:15:58.480 --> 0:16:02.040 What you date them? Is it your boyfriend? Because to 0:16:02.080 --> 0:16:04.680 be honest with you, oh yeah, I'm coming with y'all 0:16:04.720 --> 0:16:07.680 to the funk. I ain't never been to Somalia. I 0:16:07.720 --> 0:16:10.520 ain't never been to St. Lucia. I've never been an alright, 0:16:10.560 --> 0:16:12.600 b or the funk. Like, no, put some pictures in 0:16:12.640 --> 0:16:15.280 front of me, motherfucker, and I'm going that sounds like 0:16:15.320 --> 0:16:17.920 some Will Smith Jada pinking ship. Damn what is this? 0:16:18.840 --> 0:16:21.200 Because you know Will Smith has an older son right 0:16:21.600 --> 0:16:25.280 before Jada. His name is Trey. Now, Will was married 0:16:25.320 --> 0:16:28.840 to his mother before. Look the bottomore is coming out 0:16:28.840 --> 0:16:32.480 of me. Will was married to this woman before. Okay, 0:16:33.240 --> 0:16:36.280 and I just watched a little snippet of Red Table 0:16:36.320 --> 0:16:39.080 Talk where she actually came on. I think her name 0:16:39.120 --> 0:16:42.360 is Lisa. I do not want to screw this woman's 0:16:42.440 --> 0:16:45.080 name up. I think his first wife's name was Lisa. 0:16:45.600 --> 0:16:48.560 She comes on the show and Jada says, oh, they 0:16:48.680 --> 0:16:50.680 say trips together and everything, like I did go out 0:16:50.720 --> 0:16:52.800 the country together. And then so Lisa said, you know 0:16:52.840 --> 0:16:55.120 you're going to clear this up, right, Like, No, that's 0:16:55.160 --> 0:16:58.560 your husband. Yes, he was mine before, but he's your husband. 0:16:59.000 --> 0:17:01.040 You know, you say stuff like that, you're gonna have 0:17:01.080 --> 0:17:02.840 to clear it up. No, we don't just go on 0:17:02.880 --> 0:17:05.960 trips because we're you know, like we're sucking around. Nothing 0:17:06.000 --> 0:17:08.520 like that. No, I think they have some type of 0:17:08.600 --> 0:17:11.080 like their business partners or something like that. But either way, 0:17:11.359 --> 0:17:14.120 I don't care. Jada is so secure in herself because 0:17:14.160 --> 0:17:17.080 she ain't really She don't give a damn bundle damn Willie, 0:17:17.400 --> 0:17:20.679 so she don't care. Right, she got a few entanglements 0:17:20.680 --> 0:17:23.240 of her own still going on that we don't know 0:17:23.280 --> 0:17:25.840 about yet that she probably will tell us, because she 0:17:25.880 --> 0:17:28.040 tell us every damn thing, even ship that she shouldn't 0:17:28.080 --> 0:17:32.520 tell us. But that's neither hero there. She doesn't mind. 0:17:32.920 --> 0:17:35.399 Will travel in the world with his baby mother, and 0:17:35.440 --> 0:17:37.359 the sun don't even be that because the son has 0:17:37.400 --> 0:17:41.280 grown so imagine that I wouldn't even do that ship 0:17:41.800 --> 0:17:46.960 as comfortable as I am with my son's father, me 0:17:47.200 --> 0:17:51.200 and my son and his dad will never go out 0:17:51.280 --> 0:17:54.479 the country. If I'm dating someone, we'll never go out 0:17:54.520 --> 0:17:58.080 the country together unless he taking his girl and I'm 0:17:58.160 --> 0:18:02.600 taking my man. There's no way. I don't care. That's 0:18:02.680 --> 0:18:06.080 just the respect level that I would have for my 0:18:06.200 --> 0:18:09.240 man and that he's supposed to have for his woman. 0:18:09.800 --> 0:18:11.640 That's just what that is. Girl leader, they go along, 0:18:12.119 --> 0:18:14.520 especially if he ain't inviting you, and when they go 0:18:14.560 --> 0:18:16.520 out the country together. Do he called you? Knew he 0:18:16.560 --> 0:18:20.000 talked to girl? Look funk that lay that nigger. That's 0:18:20.000 --> 0:18:22.760 just what that is. I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I'm sorry. 0:18:22.760 --> 0:18:24.639 I'm sorry. Now you cut your story off. But I 0:18:24.680 --> 0:18:27.120 didn't even need to hear nothing else. Suck that. Leave 0:18:27.160 --> 0:18:30.480 that ship alone because I don't have time to girl. 0:18:30.480 --> 0:18:32.800 I ain't got time for that ship. Did y'all hear that? 0:18:33.920 --> 0:18:36.639 That just piss me off? I want to know how 0:18:36.760 --> 0:18:40.840 serious you guys are. And when you say dating, dating 0:18:40.960 --> 0:18:43.760 to me just means you're getting to know a person. 0:18:44.200 --> 0:18:46.119 You know. You could be dating four or five six people. 0:18:46.280 --> 0:18:48.800 You know what I'm saying. You could be dating a 0:18:48.840 --> 0:18:50.719 lot of people. You could be dating one person if 0:18:50.760 --> 0:18:52.600 you choose the date one person you But are you 0:18:52.680 --> 0:18:56.680 in a relationship. That's the difference, because if you're actually 0:18:56.760 --> 0:19:02.040 in a relationship, that's unacceptable. I mean, come on, come on, seriously, 0:19:02.800 --> 0:19:05.479 ask him? Would he allow the same? If y'all are 0:19:05.520 --> 0:19:07.639 even on those terms, have you ever bought this up 0:19:07.640 --> 0:19:10.120 to him before or is this your first time even 0:19:10.160 --> 0:19:12.960 taking it outside of your relationship bringing it to me? 0:19:13.320 --> 0:19:16.359 I think there needs to be a communication level established. 0:19:16.359 --> 0:19:19.359 I don't think there is one? The fuck? And you 0:19:19.359 --> 0:19:22.080 you say it like this is a regular thing that 0:19:22.160 --> 0:19:24.840 they just be doing and ship that can't be healthy, 0:19:24.960 --> 0:19:29.040 You can't like possibly be happy. The fuck? I don't know. 0:19:29.200 --> 0:19:31.280 You said they're a little too cool? Do you see 0:19:31.280 --> 0:19:34.520 any other signs of anything going on? Like? What the hell? 0:19:34.840 --> 0:19:37.760 And then and then hold up, hold up, let me, 0:19:38.640 --> 0:19:41.080 I think this ship just clicked. I'm gonna say this 0:19:41.119 --> 0:19:44.040 to y'all. I'm gonna leave on this note. Is this 0:19:44.119 --> 0:19:47.159 nigger rich? And is that why you're fucking with him? 0:19:47.160 --> 0:19:50.480 Because he got money? Because if he is frequently taking 0:19:50.640 --> 0:19:53.360 his family, because that's what it is, honey, his family 0:19:53.960 --> 0:19:58.280 out the country, and the way he's presenting the destination 0:19:59.080 --> 0:20:01.960 is setting pictures in front of a baby, a three 0:20:02.040 --> 0:20:04.800 year old who don't even know how to say country, 0:20:04.880 --> 0:20:09.320 probably much less spell it. The fuck this nigga got 0:20:09.359 --> 0:20:12.280 some fucking money. What if she picked Egypt? Is he 0:20:12.359 --> 0:20:14.520 was just gonna go over there because the flight's highs? Hell? 0:20:14.560 --> 0:20:18.399 Because that's where I'm going next week? Hell? Do this 0:20:18.480 --> 0:20:20.760 nigger got money? And is that the reason why you 0:20:20.840 --> 0:20:23.840