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Speaker 1: Welcome to Carefully Reckless, the production of Our Heart Radio

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Speaker 1: and the Black Effects. Oh Ship back on the air.

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Speaker 1: Welcome back to hat another Carefully Reckless episode with your

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Speaker 1: girl just hilarious session. Fixed my mess? Here we are

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Speaker 1: and we got some voice notes today. Thank god I

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Speaker 1: ain't got the read. Thank god I can just focus

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Speaker 1: on fixing all right, Good, here we go. Hey, Jess,

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Speaker 1: I want to see if you can fix my mess.

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Speaker 1: I wanted to know what is your best suggestion on

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Speaker 1: cutting off family members that are always around. Like I

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Speaker 1: have a lot of sisters, man, I'm friends with all

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Speaker 1: my sisters except for one of them. She's just really

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Speaker 1: shady and she talks about us to her mom. We

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Speaker 1: have the same die, but we don't have the same mom,

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Speaker 1: and she talks about us and like, I remember one

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Speaker 1: time we went on a trip and her phone was

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Speaker 1: like out and our cousin saw that she was texting

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Speaker 1: her mom saying, Oh, I'm not like her. I'm not

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Speaker 1: like these other girls. Like I don't drink, I don't smoke,

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Speaker 1: like I'm good, you know what I mean? Like number one,

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Speaker 1: why are you telling your mom that we drink and

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Speaker 1: we smoke like we come from a really religious family,

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Speaker 1: and I could come back to our mom. Number one,

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Speaker 1: you're telling our business to your mom. And number two,

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Speaker 1: why are you talking about your own fucking blood? Like

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Speaker 1: that's so weird to me. I've never in my life

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Speaker 1: said anything bad about any siblings. And I'm the type

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Speaker 1: of person like if you whatever energy you give me,

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Speaker 1: I will get back to you. That's just like one

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Speaker 1: of the shitty things that she's done. And number two,

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Speaker 1: she's just like really shitty to everybody. This girl never

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Speaker 1: keeps any friends because people always cut her off because

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Speaker 1: of the way that she acts, like she'll talk about you,

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Speaker 1: she'll tell your business. And another thing that she did

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Speaker 1: that just threw me off recently is one of her

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Speaker 1: her guy friends and was like, oh my god, like laughing,

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Speaker 1: like why would she do that? Like it's just like

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Speaker 1: I'm like, girl, you're so you're such a fucking pick me.

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Speaker 1: I don't know. I'm like, she grew around boys, and

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Speaker 1: I grew up around girls, so I know how to

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Speaker 1: be a good friend, do you know what I mean?

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Speaker 1: At the end of the day, the way that she

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Speaker 1: grew up, she never really had like females around her,

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Speaker 1: so she didn't really know, she doesn't really know how

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Speaker 1: to act. But I don't really like her. And also

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Speaker 1: there's another thing that she did, like her mom sent

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Speaker 1: one of our brothers or half brothers to our family's

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Speaker 1: business and tried to steal our clients. And I think

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Speaker 1: that she gets like she gets all the shady behavior

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Speaker 1: from her mom. Her mom is just mad at my

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Speaker 1: mom because she was the other woman, you know what

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Speaker 1: I mean. So I think that's why she hates us

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Speaker 1: towards us to like obviously be on her mom's side.

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Speaker 1: But it's just like I don't like that fucking talk

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Speaker 1: sh Like whatever our parents have, it shouldn't come in

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Speaker 1: of the day, where siblings, she doesn't really look at

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Speaker 1: us that way. She looks at us as the enemy

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Speaker 1: because her mom looked at us as the enemy, know

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Speaker 1: what I mean. She's just projecting all of that onto us.

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Speaker 1: But honestly, like I can't never get away from this girl.

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Speaker 1: I don't you talk to her, I don't text her,

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Speaker 1: but every time that I go to her city to

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Speaker 1: and I don't. I just ignore all her calls, and

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Speaker 1: then like she called my sister, and then it's like

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Speaker 1: I'm kind of just like in between. I'm kind of

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Speaker 1: like in between that I can't really escape her. Do

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Speaker 1: you think I should just tell her like yo, I don't.

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Speaker 1: I don't want to funk with you, like I'm good

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Speaker 1: off of you. Or should I just play nice? Because

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Speaker 1: obviously she's friends with my sisters, and I love my

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Speaker 1: sister Todath They're like my best friends. But I don't

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Speaker 1: I can't do that, Like, that's not the type of

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Speaker 1: sagittarious um. It's just it's hard for me, like to

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Speaker 1: just because she'll she'll never change, I should just accept

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Speaker 1: what you did, this way you did. I don't funk

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Speaker 1: should I just let it go? Let me clarify on

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Speaker 1: that one part where I said that one of our

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Speaker 1: moms was the other woman that was shade. Neither of

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Speaker 1: our mom's were the other woman. Our father married for women.

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Speaker 1: I'm not sure if it was at the same time

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Speaker 1: or I'm not sure, but if you know anything about Muslims,

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Speaker 1: men are allowed to marry up to four women, and

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Speaker 1: both of our mothers have kids close in age, so

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Speaker 1: I'm assuming that our dad married my sister's mom and

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Speaker 1: my mom around the same time, if not the same year.

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Speaker 1: So yeah, I just wanted to clarify on that part.

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Speaker 1: Thank you, no problem, money. I love that. I love

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Speaker 1: the clarification because listen, you sent me the other part

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Speaker 1: on a whole an other day. You sent me the

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Speaker 1: first story a whole another day, and then you just

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Speaker 1: sent your correction not too long ago. So I do

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Speaker 1: understand the shade was thrown. You were just in your feelings,

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Speaker 1: you were very upset, obviously something had just happened, and

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Speaker 1: you just you reacted. I understand, and I do respect

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Speaker 1: mother enough to come back and correct that, like, no, okay,

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Speaker 1: she wasn't the other woman. Neither was my mom. You know,

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Speaker 1: we're Muslims, so dad is allowed to have more than

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Speaker 1: one wife or you know, or what have you. I

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Speaker 1: don't want to mess it up because I do not

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Speaker 1: want no smoke with no damn Muslims. All right, So

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Speaker 1: we're gonna keep it moving there. We're gonna get off

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Speaker 1: the Muslim part, all right. Listen, Okay, I want you

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Speaker 1: to have an open mind when I'm telling you this,

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Speaker 1: But your sister, do you sometimes feel that because you

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Speaker 1: and your other sisters who were so close and tighten

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Speaker 1: it and just loyal to one another and thriving, you

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Speaker 1: you know, you're very well articulate. You sound very intelligent.

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Speaker 1: Do you think at with that family dynamic over there,

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Speaker 1: you guys are by the same woman and man, same

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Speaker 1: mom and dad, and then her with a different mom

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Speaker 1: in a different household. You know, not as structured, is

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Speaker 1: what it sounds like. And I'm basing that solely off

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Speaker 1: so she wouldn't really know how to be a sister. Okay,

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Speaker 1: growing up? How was it? Because do you think that

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Speaker 1: she could sometimes feel like a black sheep? I don't

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Speaker 1: know if your dad still stayed with her mother after

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Speaker 1: her mother gave birth to her, or did he break

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Speaker 1: how was it? Also? Was she around you guys growing up?

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Speaker 1: Was she coming to get dropped off? Did she spend

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Speaker 1: Not justifying the bullshit and the talking ship and all

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Speaker 1: of that. But is it possible that she could have

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Speaker 1: grew up disliking you guys because you have each other

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Speaker 1: and she just has her She doesn't have other sisters

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Speaker 1: something right now, I didn't grow up around girls either,

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Speaker 1: but I know not to do that ship. That's why

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Speaker 1: with the best of these nickels out here because I

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Speaker 1: grew up around guys. I have brothers, you know, I

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Speaker 1: have boy cousins. Not I have female cousins too, But

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Speaker 1: I was a tom girl for the majority of my life.

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Speaker 1: Like girl, I didn't start wearing makeup and all that

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Speaker 1: for real, and that's that's literally like what six years ago.

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Speaker 1: I was never into anything girly, didn't even desire to

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Speaker 1: and like eighty fucking own boys. Never ever even desired

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Speaker 1: to be around girls. Hang around girls, you know, no

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Speaker 1: particular reason. I just like basketball and ship better. So

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Speaker 1: I'm not gonna say that doesn't have anything at all

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Speaker 1: But I'm telling you that's not It's different for everybody.

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Speaker 1: And I think you hit it on the head when

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Speaker 1: you said she's a pick me. It's like she's a

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Speaker 1: fucking pick me, Yeah, because I don't feel like she's

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Speaker 1: Pick me's generally are the black sheeps, are the underdogs,

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Speaker 1: They sing like their attention seeking than they are because

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Speaker 1: And then if her mother was such an angry bitch,

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Speaker 1: no joking, sorry, if her mother there was such an

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Speaker 1: not all her life, But you say like she's an

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Speaker 1: teach her to be that way. That's my mother. So

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Speaker 1: I inherit that I see that I watched that I

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Speaker 1: teaching it to me. And maybe she did teach it

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Speaker 1: on purpose. But I don't drink and all that, you know,

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Speaker 1: all that ship comes from her mother. You guys are

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Speaker 1: living life, chilling, having fun, thanking. Y'all can trust your

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Speaker 1: sister that I have fun with y'all too. Have y'all

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Speaker 1: ever sat down and talked to her? Literally? Have y'all

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Speaker 1: ever just just sat down? I think that would be great.

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Speaker 1: And honestly, I know you don't like her. I know

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Speaker 1: y'all either, But that has to stop. And you know

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Speaker 1: you can't save every relationship. You can't save every friendship,

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Speaker 1: you can't even save every family ship. But to be

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Speaker 1: a sign that you do want to fix it, because

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Speaker 1: you ask me, should I just say fucking them off

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Speaker 1: of you? Or should I just continue to play nice?

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Speaker 1: I don't think you should do either. Hey, I don't

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Speaker 1: think you should break up with your sister. No, I

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Speaker 1: don't half sister whatever. I don't think you should break

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Speaker 1: play nice, because that's being phony. I think you should

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Speaker 1: set her ass down, you and her, not all the sisters.

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Speaker 1: That just piss me off? I want to know how

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Speaker 1: Because that's where I'm going next week? Hell? Do this

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