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Speaker 2: I forbid my sister from announcing her pregnancy because she

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Speaker 2: wanted to do it at my wedding. I twenty eight female,

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Speaker 2: am getting married in a few months to my wonderful

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Speaker 2: fiance Ethan thirty male. We've been together for six years

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Speaker 2: and I'm honestly over the moon about marrying him. We've

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Speaker 2: been planning this wedding for the last year and it

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Speaker 2: is going to be a pretty intimate gathering with only

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Speaker 2: close friends and family invited. By the way, this comes

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Speaker 2: from you tachion eight to oh on the r slash

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Speaker 2: Okay Storytime subreddit. Now here's where things get complicated. I

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Speaker 2: have a sister, Carly twenty six female. Carly has always

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Speaker 2: been a lot. She's outgoing, charismatic and tends to be

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Speaker 2: the life of the party, but she also has a

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Speaker 2: habit of making everything about herself.

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Speaker 3: I know a few people to have the first three traits,

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Speaker 3: but not the last one.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, we know some people like to bees some retention,

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Speaker 2: not like I'm one of those people. Growing up, I

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Speaker 2: was always the more introverted, quiet one, and I feel

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Speaker 2: like Carly's bigger personality often overshadowed me.

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Speaker 4: Ah.

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Speaker 2: She never seemed to realize or care that. Sometimes I

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Speaker 2: just wanted my own space to shine. Fast forward to

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Speaker 2: last year, when Ethan proposed, I was ecstatic and couldn't

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Speaker 2: wait to share the news with my family. When I

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Speaker 2: told Carly, she seemed happy for me at first, but

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Speaker 2: within a week of the proposal, she announced that she

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Speaker 2: was going to start trying for a baby with her

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Speaker 2: husband Mark.

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Speaker 3: Hey, we're gonna start going walking with Mark. Here, that's what.

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Speaker 5: We're gonna say with Mark twenty nine male. Okay.

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Speaker 2: I didn't think much of it at the time because

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Speaker 2: I figured it was just a coincidence and she wanted

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Speaker 2: to start a family around the same time I was

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Speaker 2: planning my wedding. But then over the next few months,

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Speaker 2: every conversation we had became about Carly's baby journey, Oh,

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Speaker 2: what population test she was using, how her doctor appointments

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Speaker 2: were going, and what baby name she liked. Suddenly my

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Speaker 2: wedding didn't seem as important in comparison to her potential pregnancy.

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Speaker 3: Do not make this woman your maid of honor.

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Speaker 2: She does not deserve it, fast, does not deserve it

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Speaker 2: at all. Then, about three months ago, Carly announced that

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Speaker 2: she was pregnant again. I was thrilled for her. I

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Speaker 2: love the idea of becoming an aunt. But what started

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Speaker 2: as excitement quickly turned into frustration. Carly began monopolizing every

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Speaker 2: family event with baby talk. When we went dress shopping

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Speaker 2: for my wedding, she kept talking about how she hoped

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Speaker 2: she wouldn't be too big to fit into her bridesmaid dress.

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Speaker 2: At my bridal shower, she kept bringing up baby shower ideas.

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Speaker 2: At one point, she even suggested we combine our events

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Speaker 2: into one big quote celebration of love and life.

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Speaker 3: What time out, time out? Let this woman have one win.

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Speaker 5: Come on one, just just be to her, get let herhine,

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Speaker 5: let her shine back, dude, let her get her shine on.

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Speaker 2: I laughed it off at the time, but inside I

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Speaker 2: was fuming. This was supposed to be my moment, but

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Speaker 2: somehow Carly always found a way to steal the spotlight.

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Speaker 2: Things reached a boiling point last week when we had

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Speaker 2: a family dinner to finalize some wedding details. Carly, of course,

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Speaker 2: was there, and once again the conversation shifted to her pregnancy.

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Speaker 2: She started talking about how she and Mark were thinking

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Speaker 5: Gender reveal party. Oh I hate those.

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Speaker 2: That's another thing, uh, on the same weekend as my wedding.

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Speaker 2: She said it would be se fan because all the

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Speaker 2: family would already be gathered and it would be a

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Speaker 2: two for one event. Girl, Oh my, you are missing

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Speaker 2: the point. This is a should be a two four

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Speaker 2: two event separate. Yeah, goodness, gracious, Oh Carly, I couldn't

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Speaker 2: believe what I was hearing. My wedding weekend, which I

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Speaker 2: but that the weekend was supposed to be about, uh, celebrating.

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Speaker 5: My marriage and not her baby. But she just left

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Speaker 2: At that point, I snapped, as you probably rightfully deserved to.

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Speaker 2: I told her in front of the whole family that

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Speaker 2: and Ethan, not her in her pregnancy. Yes, you go, girl.

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Speaker 2: I said that if she couldn't respect that, she didn't

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Speaker 2: Carly started crying, of course, saying I was being selfish

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Speaker 2: her pregnancy. She stormed out of their dinner, and now

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Speaker 2: half of my family is mad at me for quote

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Speaker 2: making Carly feel bad when she's pregnant and emotional. Even

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Speaker 2: have handled it differently, in that Carly didn't mean any harm.

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Speaker 5: She's just excited about her baby.

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Speaker 2: I think, you know, in this situation, the siblings definitely

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Speaker 2: feels like the family is kind of removed. Yeah, there

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Speaker 2: on the outside, stealing the spotlight. Thing that's been going

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Speaker 3: You know, Carly is telling her side of the story.

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Speaker 5: Oh yeah, car it's.

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Speaker 2: Very twisted, and she's pregnant, which is like always gonna

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Speaker 2: give you the brownie points being pregnant. It's people are

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Speaker 2: gonna how could you not take the side of a

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it's like one point five x.

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Speaker 2: You know, and then for somebody to have the awareness

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Speaker 2: to take advantage of that, that's just it's like a

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Speaker 3: Did you get the one point five x the one

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Speaker 6: Yeah, it's like it was like this, you get one

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Speaker 6: point five x of like brownie points, it's like double

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Speaker 6: Oh yeah, yeah, well double is even better because you've

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Speaker 6: got like two people.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, deb's yes, exactly, double time, double time bonus points

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Speaker 2: for the brown I could so much better. Oh my

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Speaker 2: mind immediately went to the level of zoom on a

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Speaker 2: cap Ethan is one hundred percent on my side, Ride

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Speaker 2: or die? We like that and thinks Carly was being selfish.

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Speaker 2: But I'm starting to second guess myself. I know pregnancy

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Speaker 2: hormones can make people act differently, and maybe I was

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Speaker 2: too harsh, But at the same time, I feel like

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Speaker 2: Carly has been making my wedding planning process so stressful

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Speaker 2: and I'm tired of feeling like I always come second

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Speaker 2: to her.

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Speaker 5: So reddit am I the a hole for not wanting my.

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Speaker 2: Sister at my wedding after she made it all about herself?

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Speaker 2: Or am I overreacting and being too harsh on her?

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Speaker 6: Laurie says I wouldn't invite her to the wedding, and

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Speaker 6: Carly says Carly should feel bad.

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Speaker 2: Yes, I think Carly doesn't have the self awareness even

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Speaker 2: to This is just how she has been operating for

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Speaker 5: It's just what she does, at least from the sound

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Speaker 5: of what Ope described.

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Speaker 6: Dude, I was like the when it came to winning,

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Speaker 6: my brother and I would always be my brother at everything, basketball,

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Speaker 6: video games, whatever, And then he started getting bigger than me,

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Speaker 3: And I hate losing.

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Speaker 6: I hate it so much, and I've slowly realized that

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Speaker 6: I have to lose sometimes. I went u archery this

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Speaker 6: weekend with my girlfriend. Huh and uh, there's like the

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Speaker 6: middle ports yellow and then the it's like whatever, Yeah,

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Speaker 6: she had more in the yellow than I did, and

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Speaker 6: I had to take a beat. I was like, you

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Speaker 6: did better than me, and that's okay. It takes a while.

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Speaker 6: It takes a while to deprogram that after so long

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Speaker 6: of this is how it was how it was.

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Speaker 2: I can't imagine, especially you got this say, I'm an

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Speaker 2: it's like having I feel like that having the sibling

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Speaker 2: is just like it drives that competition like.

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Speaker 3: This, so you don't try to share. So your thing

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Speaker 3: is like I have to share things.

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Speaker 5: I think I've I've learned. I can share. I've learned

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Speaker 5: how to share.

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Speaker 2: My biggest My biggest problem when I was, like when

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Speaker 2: my own like words and thoughts like kind of impacted

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Speaker 2: other people because I never had that. Sometimes I would

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Speaker 2: say things that could come off really callous or like

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Speaker 2: like this is how like my you know, because I

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Speaker 2: I mean, I had my parents and stuff, but it's

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Speaker 2: like it's not like we were anyway.

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Speaker 3: Anyway.

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Speaker 5: This is I'm making this about me. This is not

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Speaker 5: about me. This is about Okay, see what I have

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Speaker 5: to work with. All right, let's get some relevant comments.

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Speaker 2: Coastal Woody says, my sister just wanted tortilla chips with

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Speaker 2: extra salt, more like salt with the side of chips

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Speaker 2: and ice cream. Was oh talking about pregnancy cravings? She

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Speaker 2: was quite salty butt bee for a while, literally, not figuratively. Okay,

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Speaker 2: nice one, Coastal Woody. She also cried more than usual. Okay,

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Speaker 2: so we're talking about pregnancy side effects, gotcha?

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Speaker 2: One thing about her pregnancy, though, is that she didn't

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Speaker 2: change her personality whatsoever. She was hormonal and emotional, but

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Speaker 2: emotional when she was pregnant. Mind you, this was about

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Speaker 2: When I was eighteen, though, I got excited and thought

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Speaker 5: Wanted was for my sister to be my best friend.

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Speaker 2: Needless to say, she had the most perfect little baby girl,

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Speaker 2: and my niece had grown into an amazingly strong, smart

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Speaker 2: and talented young woman. All of that simply say and

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Speaker 2: concur that people do not change their personality while pregnant.

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Speaker 2: The most that happens is being emotional over random things

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Speaker 2: and weird cravings. Poopsie, Mama, not the ahole. She is

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Speaker 2: being very selfish and I wouldn't be surprised if she

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Speaker 2: made the gender reveal announcement at your actual wedding back

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Speaker 2: So honestly, it feels like the smart way to go

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Speaker 2: is to not have her there at all.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, that's you know what. I agree.

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Speaker 2: I get that having a baby is very exciting to

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Speaker 2: the mother to be, but that doesn't mean that every

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Speaker 5: Be about that.

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Speaker 2: Highly doubt that she would have wanted to have a

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Speaker 2: double bridle shower or wedding with you, which says to

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Speaker 2: me that she's looking to make this all about her.

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Speaker 5: Just half on the profile Gabrielle AKA.

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Speaker 2: This makes me so upset for you at this At

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Speaker 2: the same time time, you need to stand up for yourself.

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Speaker 2: Everybody who is mad at you can get a choice

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Speaker 2: of whether they want to be at your wedding or not.

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Speaker 2: They know your sister is an exhausting attention seeker and

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Speaker 2: just probably don't want to deal with the drama of

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Speaker 2: not supporting her attention seeking. If you want your wedding

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Speaker 2: weekend to be about you and you're soon to be husband,

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Speaker 2: you're going to have to stand firm on business and

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Speaker 2: make sure that there are consequences for anybody who doesn't

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Speaker 2: respect that period.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, you give Carlia and she'll go a mile with.

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Speaker 2: This, or she would like run down the aisle with

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Speaker 2: like you know, the the whatever, the like the presender,

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Speaker 2: real gender reveal color, like you know she's getting she's

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Speaker 2: probably shooting it at you, and she's ruining your wedding dress,

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Speaker 2: all right, Yeah, because then that'd be about her, about.

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Speaker 5: How she's so sorry that she ruined your wedding dress.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, she's probably trying to time the announcement, like ride

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Speaker 6: around the same time so she can say it.

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Speaker 5: Maybe she can go on a zoom call zoom wedding,

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Speaker 5: Zoom wedding. I mean, we had plenty of experience.

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Speaker 2: Watch stream has hand four years right, so she could

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Speaker 2: live stream the wedding for her. You know, it's just

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Speaker 2: I think if she is there.

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Speaker 6: Given to Aunt Sherry and she'll she'll record the whole thing,

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Speaker 6: give it to hey, just hold this, put on Facebook live.

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Speaker 3: Thank you.

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Speaker 5: So I think not the a hole.

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Speaker 2: She's not wanting your attention seeking to start at the wedding. No,

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Speaker 2: I think after honestly, after all that, after she has

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Speaker 2: made it clear, because it's like they already kind of

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Speaker 2: disregarding it and being like no, but it'd be so

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Speaker 2: great if we had like a two for one special

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Speaker 2: like your wedding, my baby shower, my gender reveal you were,

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Speaker 2: you know, happily ever after it can be both and

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Speaker 2: it's like, no, girl, just have your.

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Speaker 2: And I don't know if given her history, that Opie

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Speaker 2: make the wedding. Now the wedding's about her, Yeah, now

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Speaker 2: it's about her. You know, you gotta get her out

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Speaker 2: some people just can't can't deal. Some people just can't

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Speaker 3: That's true.

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Speaker 4: My sister tried to sabotage my relationship, but I still

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Speaker 4: invited her to my wedding. I twenty seven female, am

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Speaker 4: getting married in two months to my fiance Jake twenty

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Speaker 4: couldn't be happier. However, there's always however, However, my relationship

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Speaker 4: with my sister Lily twenty five female, has been rocky

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Speaker 4: storytime subburt It. So here's some background. Growing up, Lily

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Speaker 4: When Jake and I started dating, Lily was thrilled and

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Speaker 4: we all got along great. A year ago, things started

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Speaker 4: to change. Jake got a promotion at work which allowed

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Speaker 4: us to buy a house. This seemed to trigger something

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Speaker 4: I tried to brush it off, thinking she was just

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Speaker 2: Lily, Lily, Lily, what are you doing rounkle Lily making

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Speaker 4: Jake was mortified and denied it immediately. I was shocked

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Speaker 4: and didn't know what to think. Later, Lily apologized, saying

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Speaker 5: Yeah, it seems like it's really convenient for to be

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Speaker 5: a joke.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, after the back, Like I mean, it doesn't everyone

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Speaker 5: Really horrible and comfortable joke that can ruin be life?

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Speaker 4: Super funny. Since then, Lily has made several attempts to

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Speaker 4: texts meant for her friends, saying things like Jake isn't

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Speaker 4: even that great and she doesn't deserve him. It became

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Speaker 4: clear she was trying to sabotage us. How does that?

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Speaker 4: How does that help her cause of trying to separate them?

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Speaker 4: It just I feel like that just makes op you

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Speaker 2: It's like, because I don't know it in my head,

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Speaker 2: a narcissism.

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Speaker 4: Yes, when I announced her engagement, Lily's reaction was lukewarm

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Speaker 4: at best. She didn't offer to help with wedding plans

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Speaker 4: and continue to make hurtful comments. The final straw came

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Speaker 4: which is laughable because Jake makes more than I do.

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Speaker 4: People keep making this, but it doesn't work if the

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Speaker 4: person you're claiming it like.

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Speaker 2: Makes You have to have the receipts first before you

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Speaker 5: You gotta know about the money.

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Speaker 4: You don't know by the money, follow the money, talk

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Speaker 4: to their banker. I decided enough was enough and told

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Speaker 4: saying I should forgive her because family is everything, but

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Speaker 4: she hasn't apologized. No, you can't to give someone who

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Speaker 4: doesn't apologized. You don't, Yeah, especially when they're literally try.

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Speaker 5: Especially when this nasty, nasty.

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Speaker 4: They want me to reinvite her and keep the peace,

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Speaker 4: but I feel like I need to stand my ground.

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Speaker 4: Am I the a hole for not inviting my sister

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Speaker 4: to my wedding after she tried to sabotage my relationship?

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Speaker 4: And there is an update? But invite or not? Because

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Speaker 4: I think I think at this point in the story,

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Speaker 4: we don't invite her. I think she's been actively trying

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Speaker 2: Why would you want to be at the wedding? Do

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Speaker 2: you like trying to like brainwash me into not? And

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Speaker 2: that's how narcississy to be, like, oh, I'll actually trick

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Speaker 4: Never see this coming. That's all part of my evil plans.

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Speaker 2: Maybe okay, maybe not even because usually narcissistic people are

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Speaker 5: Maybe it's just like so self sent.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, it's all about her, it's ridiculous, But there is

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Speaker 4: an update. First of all, I want to thank everyone

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Speaker 4: who commented on my original post. Your advice and support

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Speaker 4: have meant a lot to me during this difficult time.

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Speaker 4: Here's what has happened since then. After reading through all

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Speaker 4: I decided to have a serious conversation with Lily. I

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Speaker 4: that she had been jealous of my relationship with Jake

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Speaker 5: Like, yes, that's why I was doing it. Yes, okay,

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Speaker 5: so give me the kids. So were we good?

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Speaker 1: Now?

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Speaker 4: I give her the wedding. She revealed that she has

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Speaker 4: been going through a tough time personally, feeling like she

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Speaker 4: Lily apologized sincerely and said she understood why I had

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Speaker 4: I appreciated her honesty, I told her that trust isn't

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Speaker 4: something that can be rebuilt overnight. I said I needed

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Speaker 4: her again. Following this conversation, I spoke with Jake and

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Speaker 4: it further, we decided to reinvite Lily to the wedding

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Speaker 4: under the condition that she would attend therapy to work

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Speaker 4: through her issues and improve her behavior. Wow yeow, this

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Speaker 4: is great. What a what a positive twist to the story.

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Speaker 4: Lily agreed to this and has already started seeing a therapist.

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Speaker 4: So far, she seems genuinely committed to making positive changes.

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Speaker 4: Also kind of funny, like if she's talk you know,

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Speaker 4: They're like, oh, yeah, you know, I had to fly

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I had to get a baby, like, I had

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Speaker 5: I really had to categorically figure out.

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Speaker 4: My parents were relieved to hear that Lily was reinvited,

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Speaker 4: a conditional invite based on her continued progress and commitment

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Speaker 4: to change. They read to support me in this. As

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Speaker 4: to marry Jake. I feel more at peace now that

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Speaker 4: I've set clear boundaries and addressed the situation directly with Lily.

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Speaker 4: I'm hopeful that our relationship can heal over time, but

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Speaker 4: I'm also prepared to enforce my boundaries if necessary. Thank

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Speaker 4: you again to everyone who offered advice. And there is

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Speaker 4: a final update to this saga. Oh but I think

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Speaker 4: think based off of this update, I am in the Yah.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I am in the.

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Speaker 2: Invite Pope like pre all of this information about like

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Speaker 2: cause you know, it is good on her for like

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Speaker 2: I know we made like kind of a huge joke

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Speaker 2: about that.

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Speaker 4: But I mean at least she's.

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Speaker 2: Been like, no, I've never even like, what are you

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Speaker 2: talking about? I don't even care.

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Speaker 4: I don't even like him.

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Speaker 5: He's like, he is, okay, you got me.

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Speaker 7: I'm jealous and like working through like I'm just picturing.

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Speaker 5: You don't why you should just be happy.

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Speaker 4: No, I'm picturing like Disney Channel. They're in They're in

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Speaker 4: the rain, it's pouring, and she's like, why are you

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Speaker 4: doing She's like, I'm jealous. I've always been jealous.

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Speaker 5: You you get everything.

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Speaker 4: You're my younger maybe older sister. I don't remember.

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Speaker 2: it's also like the time time.

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Speaker 4: That she's a death's door.

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Speaker 5: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: If the Swedes have taught us anything, yeah, it's that

443
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Speaker 2: when you turn a hundred, you get thrown into a

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Speaker 2: wheelbarrow and dumped in the river.

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Speaker 4: Yeah. If I've learned anything from days stream, I know everyone.

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Speaker 4: I want to share a final update now that the

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Speaker 4: wedding has happened. Yay day.

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Speaker 5: Congratulations.

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Speaker 4: First of all, thank you again for all the advice

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Speaker 4: and support throughout this journey. It's been a roller coaster,

451
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Speaker 4: but I'm happy to say everything turned out better than

452
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Speaker 4: I could have hoped. We love The wedding took place

453
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Speaker 4: last weekend and it was absolutely magical. The weather was perfect,

454
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Speaker 4: the venue looked stunning, and most importantly, Jake and I

455
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Speaker 4: are officially married.

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Speaker 2: We love it the state recognizes your union.

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Speaker 4: Oh. As for Lily, I'm pleased to report that she

458
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Speaker 4: kept her word good for Lily. She did, she did

459
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Speaker 4: the work good for Lily and behaved wonderfully throughout the

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Speaker 4: entire event. In the months leading up to the wedding,

461
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Speaker 4: she continued therapy and made a real effort to mend

462
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Speaker 4: a relationship. This is not something we see in these stories.

463
00:21:33,080 --> 00:21:36,199
Speaker 4: She even reached out to Jake to apologize directly for

464
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Speaker 4: her past behavior, which meant a lot to both of us.

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Speaker 4: On the day of the wedding, Lily was supportive respectful

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Speaker 4: and genuinely happy for us. She even gave a heartful

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Speaker 4: speech during the reception, acknowledging her past mistakes and expressing

468
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Speaker 4: how much she loves and admires me. It was a

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Speaker 4: touching moment that had many of us in tears, including me.

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Speaker 4: I'm not going to pretend everything is perfect between us,

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Speaker 4: but I can see that Lily is trying, and that's

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Speaker 4: all I can ask for at this point. I've learned

473
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Speaker 4: a lot about setting boundaries and standing up for myself

474
00:22:06,000 --> 00:22:08,960
Speaker 4: through this process, and I'm proud of how far we've come.

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Speaker 4: My parents were overjoyed to see us getting along, and

476
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Speaker 4: the day was filled with love, laughter, and dancing. I

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Speaker 4: feel incredibly blessed to have such wonderful people in my life,

478
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Speaker 4: and I'm optimistic about the future, and I'm optimistic about

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Speaker 4: you guys joining us every weekday at three PMPSD just

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Speaker 4: tap our profile.

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Speaker 5: Hey, that was smooth, Thank you. That was nice and smooth.

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Speaker 4: Jake and I are currently on our honeymoon and I'm

483
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Speaker 4: enjoying every moment of this new chapter in our lives.

484
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Speaker 4: I know there may still be challenges ahead, but I

485
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Speaker 4: feel confident that we can face them together. Thank you

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00:22:38,520 --> 00:22:40,720
Speaker 4: all again for being there for me. Your support made

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Speaker 4: a huge difference. And I'm grateful to have had this

488
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Speaker 4: community during such a pivotal time in my life. And

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Speaker 4: that is the end of that story.

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Speaker 5: That ending hit.

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Speaker 4: What a beautiful end, what a beautiful story.

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Speaker 5: My goodness, we don't.

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Speaker 4: Get a lout of these positive ones.

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Speaker 2: Everybody's a beautiful person in this story. There are no

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Speaker 2: be There are no behole, no holes, not a single one.

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Speaker 2: No holes, no holes to be found or the one

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Speaker 2: in my heart that has been mended.

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Speaker 5: Oh, story is for being so sweet.

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Speaker 4: Stitched it right back, buy a like a surgeon or

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Speaker 4: a surgeon. Yes, but that was the end of that

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Speaker 4: lovely story, and I can't promise that the rest will

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Speaker 4: be as wholesome in the future.

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Speaker 5: We might have hit our quota for that.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, we get one to day, one to day. I'm

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Speaker 4: saw you get. I can't. I can't let you guys

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Speaker 4: think I'm going soft on you. I hated my friend's

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Speaker 4: wedding gift, so I called them out for being cheap.

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Speaker 4: Oh no, oh, no throwaway because I know my friends

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Speaker 4: use Reddit. I thirty eight female am marrying my fiance

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Speaker 4: thirty eight male next year I'm the last of my

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Speaker 4: friends to get married, and honestly, I've made peace with

512
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Speaker 4: being single and getting a dog before I met my fiance.

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Speaker 4: By the way, this comes from Silver Skirt thirty six

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Speaker 4: oh six on the Best of Predator Updates subpredct. So

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Speaker 4: I am part of a group of six girlfriends who

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Speaker 4: have all known each other since We've been through everything together, breakups, holidays, weddings, babies, promotion.

517
00:24:05,840 --> 00:24:09,000
Speaker 4: When I told them I got engaged, they seemed happy

518
00:24:09,240 --> 00:24:13,120
Speaker 4: and sent me congratulations messages. But when everyone else got engaged,

519
00:24:13,160 --> 00:24:16,080
Speaker 4: they threw them parties or went out for dinner to celebrate.

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Speaker 4: They didn't. In my case, I gave them nearly a

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Speaker 4: year's notice on my bachelorette party, which I'm keeping low

522
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Speaker 4: key as I don't want a big thing. We're going

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Speaker 4: for dinner and drinks at one of my favorite restaurants

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Speaker 4: in our city. However, slowly all of my friends have

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Speaker 4: been dropping out, saying they can't get a babysitter, or

526
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Speaker 4: they have to work late, or they're on a work trip.

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Speaker 4: I've obviously invited them all to the wedding as well,

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Speaker 4: which again is a small affair, and one has already

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Speaker 4: messaged the group chat saying she's not sure she gonna

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Speaker 4: get a babysitter for that day. My wedding is months away,

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Speaker 4: and I'm finding it really hard to believe that she

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Speaker 4: knows that far in advance. Two others have also said

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Speaker 4: that they're not going to stay for the reception, as

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Speaker 4: they will be tired by then. At this point, these

535
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Speaker 4: aren't your friends.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, they sound whack.

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Speaker 4: They months in advance and they can't get a babysitter.

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Speaker 2: I can't get a babysitters, Like, come on, uh did

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Speaker 2: you try not the tod It's not today, It's not today.

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Speaker 4: Here's where I may be the a hole. The straw

541
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Speaker 4: that broke the camel's back was when I sent the

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Speaker 4: link to the registry. My fiance and I already have

543
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Speaker 4: a house together, so we're asking for mostly small things.

544
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Speaker 4: Nothing goes beyond fifty dollars, and we're delighted with anything

545
00:25:20,200 --> 00:25:22,680
Speaker 4: that anyone chooses to buy us. They send a message

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Speaker 4: into the chat saying they were going to band together

547
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Speaker 4: to get me an air fryer as a group gift.

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Speaker 4: What it costs forty dollars. So I was a bit

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Speaker 4: surprised that they seemed to be chipping in about eight

550
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Speaker 4: dollars each. Over the years, I must have spent thousands

551
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Speaker 4: of dollars on their weddings, two of which were overseas.

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Speaker 5: Wow.

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Speaker 4: I have attended dinners and brunches to celebrate their job

554
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Speaker 4: promotions and bought gifts for their babies, all the while

555
00:25:47,280 --> 00:25:51,320
Speaker 4: feeling terrible about myself watching my friends celebrate the happiness

556
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Speaker 4: I never thought i'd get. I sent a message just

557
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Speaker 4: asking for clarification if it was all of them buying

558
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Speaker 4: it together, and one replied asking if I was calling

559
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Speaker 4: them cheap, and then I'd been dead silence. Since it

560
00:26:02,359 --> 00:26:05,040
Speaker 4: sounds like they're you know, they're feeling insecure because Op

561
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Speaker 4: just said, are you guys just you know, double checking?

562
00:26:07,600 --> 00:26:08,440
Speaker 4: Is this coming from all you?

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00:26:08,640 --> 00:26:11,680
Speaker 5: Yeah? Just double checking? Do you guys need help right now?

564
00:26:12,040 --> 00:26:15,240
Speaker 2: Because spending eight dollars all together on an air fryer

565
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Speaker 2: went to you know, the south of France for your wedding.

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Speaker 5: Denise, Oh, I said, Nie place?

567
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Speaker 4: Now?

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, Niice, yeah, niece and Denise Denise Denise.

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Speaker 5: No, if that's a rabbit hole, we can't go.

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00:26:34,240 --> 00:26:37,320
Speaker 2: Yeah, and let me terrified for chat when I said,

571
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Speaker 2: thirty eight is late for I'm not saying it's late

572
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Speaker 2: for marriage. I actually have almost no experience with weddings,

573
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Speaker 2: going to weddings and any of that stuff.

574
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Speaker 4: So I think you were saying like they might have

575
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Speaker 4: had all of this excitement early on and thirty eight,

576
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Speaker 4: like they've already done it right, and so they're like, oh,

577
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Speaker 4: we don't need to get the same excitement yeah, which yeah,

578
00:26:57,359 --> 00:26:59,639
Speaker 4: which it seems like they just kind of suck as people. Yes,

579
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Speaker 4: that really wasn't my intention. It really feels like that

580
00:27:02,960 --> 00:27:06,159
Speaker 4: because I'm last, They're just over having to do these events,

581
00:27:06,200 --> 00:27:08,600
Speaker 4: and it really it's really feeding into my insecurity at

582
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Speaker 4: getting married so late, which is what you were Yeah,

583
00:27:10,400 --> 00:27:14,840
Speaker 4: that's that's what OP is feeling. But they do have

584
00:27:14,960 --> 00:27:18,200
Speaker 4: legitimate reasons for these things. They have lives and kids,

585
00:27:18,240 --> 00:27:19,840
Speaker 4: maybe not as much money as when we were a

586
00:27:19,840 --> 00:27:22,600
Speaker 4: bit younger, and maybe I'm just letting my insecurities get

587
00:27:22,600 --> 00:27:25,760
Speaker 4: in the way. So Reddit, am I the a hole? No?

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00:27:26,160 --> 00:27:27,160
Speaker 5: I don't think so.

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Speaker 4: I don't think your insecurities are getting the way. I

590
00:27:29,119 --> 00:27:29,800
Speaker 4: think this is them.

591
00:27:29,880 --> 00:27:33,639
Speaker 2: Yeah, you're it's they. They've got their own stuff going on.

592
00:27:33,800 --> 00:27:36,240
Speaker 2: I wonder if there was some sort of secret group

593
00:27:36,320 --> 00:27:39,560
Speaker 2: chat yeah, made with your absence. I don't know, it

594
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Speaker 2: really feels like at some point these people completely turned

595
00:27:42,560 --> 00:27:46,680
Speaker 2: on you. Yeah, and like I I can't possibly say why.

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00:27:47,040 --> 00:27:49,080
Speaker 4: Yeah, we don't have any of the information, but it

597
00:27:49,119 --> 00:27:52,280
Speaker 4: does seem like they've all kind of collectively pushed you

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Speaker 4: out of this friend group, which is not you don't

599
00:27:54,440 --> 00:27:55,479
Speaker 4: want to you don't want to be there.

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Speaker 8: If it is how they're going to treat you, that

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Speaker 8: is categorically whack super c category five, categorialistically fragicallylily whackus Uh.

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Speaker 5: Yes. And at the top of the story, I was

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Speaker 5: thinking maybe OP would be the a hole because of

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Speaker 5: the call out, but to do it within.

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Speaker 4: The group chat and also it wasn't. It was just

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Speaker 4: like it was a clarification, clarification to your guys, are

607
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Speaker 4: this is coming from all of you? Yeah, I need

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Speaker 4: to know how many thank you letters I need. I'll

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Speaker 4: just do one send.

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Speaker 2: I'll send each of you like one portion of the

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Speaker 2: thank you litter and you can all put it together

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Speaker 2: and read it later.

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Speaker 4: It's kind of like an little activity.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, fun little jig I'll send you in the mail

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Speaker 5: that you can do without me. Yeah.

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Speaker 4: There are some element comments though, and an update, so

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Speaker 4: let's get into them. Andrea Renee says, not the a hole.

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Speaker 4: These people aren't your friends. Find a new friend group. Oh,

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Speaker 4: and they're cheap. Tomatic Conviction says, yeah, these people do

620
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Speaker 4: not like Ope issues not picking up on it for

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Speaker 4: some reason. Famous Ohio Apple Horn says, Op seems to

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Speaker 4: be what I call the leftover friend, basically that one

623
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Speaker 4: awkward person that has been in your group for but

624
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Speaker 4: isn't really anybody's friend.

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Speaker 5: Ouch Ow do that actually hurt?

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Speaker 8: Oh?

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Speaker 5: Did even think about ouch? Ouch?

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Speaker 4: Aside from maybe the one girl who brought her into

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Speaker 4: the group in the first place. Weddings, baby showers and

630
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Speaker 4: birthdays are the perfect time for everyone else to be

631
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Speaker 4: like Jerry Seinfeld with hands up. I don't want them

632
00:29:18,440 --> 00:29:21,200
Speaker 4: beat around her. I'm forty years old. Can I just

633
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Speaker 4: not go to her party?

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Speaker 5: Flawless?

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Speaker 2: Cherry Seinfeld right there, Jerry, Jerry, Jerry, are Jerry in

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Speaker 2: the room?

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Speaker 4: Thank you so much? I practice that one for about now.

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Speaker 5: Yes, immediately immediately brand to me.

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Speaker 4: It came to me right now this time. Two thirty

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Speaker 4: two says I was willing to consider for a bit

641
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Speaker 4: that maybe having kids made things different now from when

642
00:29:42,280 --> 00:29:44,400
Speaker 4: they were all getting married, but buying an air fire

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Speaker 4: as a group gift, that's cheap, not the a hole.

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Speaker 5: And there is an update, so let's let's jump right

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Speaker 5: on in update A reno.

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Speaker 4: Hi everyone. I didn't think I would have an update

647
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Speaker 4: to give, but I wanted to repay everyone's kindness. Some

648
00:29:57,840 --> 00:30:00,960
Speaker 4: people said some really lovely and helpful things. I wanted

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Speaker 4: to clarify a few questions that were asked. I didn't

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Speaker 4: care at all when they bought us a gift. I

651
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Speaker 4: didn't care if they got us a gift at all.

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Speaker 4: It was never about the air fryer. I really wasn't

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Speaker 4: calling them cheap. I was just clarifying it was coming

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Speaker 4: from all of them. I also didn't ask if they

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Speaker 4: were getting us a gift. They brought this up themselves.

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Speaker 4: I couldn't put my finger on why. It made me

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Speaker 4: feel a bit weird. I think the word I was

658
00:30:20,400 --> 00:30:23,840
Speaker 4: searching for was disrespect. Someone said an eight dollar gift

659
00:30:23,960 --> 00:30:25,960
Speaker 4: is worse than no gift, and I think that's the

660
00:30:26,000 --> 00:30:28,000
Speaker 4: heart of it. The money issue came up as well.

661
00:30:28,240 --> 00:30:30,200
Speaker 4: As far as I know, all of my friends are

662
00:30:30,240 --> 00:30:33,240
Speaker 4: fairly solvent. We all work in the finance field, mostly

663
00:30:33,280 --> 00:30:33,920
Speaker 4: as accountants.

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Speaker 2: Mountains should Yeah, y'all can afford, right, y'all can afford

665
00:30:38,720 --> 00:30:41,000
Speaker 2: with an eight dollars split on a air fryer.

666
00:30:41,440 --> 00:30:44,080
Speaker 4: If you're calling like eight dollars don a coffee, then

667
00:30:44,440 --> 00:30:46,720
Speaker 4: I mean, I'm just assuming that they are, because everyone

668
00:30:46,800 --> 00:30:47,320
Speaker 4: is these days.

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Speaker 5: I mean, it's just it's just that time is this

670
00:30:50,760 --> 00:30:52,000
Speaker 5: that time's.

671
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Speaker 4: The three are very senior in their firms, and all

672
00:30:56,320 --> 00:30:59,080
Speaker 4: of their husbands have good jobs. But we never discuss money.

673
00:30:59,120 --> 00:31:01,000
Speaker 4: And I know kids and the cost of living is

674
00:31:01,040 --> 00:31:03,160
Speaker 4: high at the moment, so I'd never want to assume

675
00:31:03,320 --> 00:31:06,880
Speaker 4: anyone's financial status. But everyone seems okay. The other issue

676
00:31:06,960 --> 00:31:09,040
Speaker 4: was a lot of people asked how often we see

677
00:31:09,080 --> 00:31:11,840
Speaker 4: each other, and the answer is quite regularly. That was

678
00:31:11,920 --> 00:31:14,000
Speaker 4: what I was wondering, you know, if this was just something,

679
00:31:14,080 --> 00:31:16,760
Speaker 4: you know, they meet up every couple months. But we

680
00:31:16,880 --> 00:31:19,200
Speaker 4: made a packed years ago to meet up at least

681
00:31:19,280 --> 00:31:22,200
Speaker 4: once a month, no matter how crazy life gets, and

682
00:31:22,280 --> 00:31:24,400
Speaker 4: we've mostly been able to stick to that. The six

683
00:31:24,480 --> 00:31:27,280
Speaker 4: of us usually meet for Sunday brunch. Apart from that,

684
00:31:27,480 --> 00:31:29,280
Speaker 4: I live in the same neighborhood as two of them,

685
00:31:29,440 --> 00:31:32,040
Speaker 4: so we do dinner occasionally and parties for their kids.

686
00:31:32,120 --> 00:31:34,720
Speaker 4: Et cetera or a must. The last question was my

687
00:31:34,840 --> 00:31:38,800
Speaker 4: wedding isn't child free and it's in our city, so

688
00:31:38,960 --> 00:31:40,760
Speaker 4: they don't even need a babysitter.

689
00:31:41,440 --> 00:31:42,480
Speaker 5: Oh my goodness.

690
00:31:42,920 --> 00:31:45,640
Speaker 4: I love kids, and my friend's kids are surrogate nieces

691
00:31:45,680 --> 00:31:48,000
Speaker 4: and nephews to me, and they all are invited. The

692
00:31:48,040 --> 00:31:50,240
Speaker 4: friend who said she couldn't find childcare said she didn't

693
00:31:50,240 --> 00:31:52,240
Speaker 4: want to bring her kids because she said weddings are

694
00:31:52,360 --> 00:31:55,000
Speaker 4: easier without them, which is fair, but yeah, like months

695
00:31:55,080 --> 00:31:55,520
Speaker 4: in advance.

696
00:31:55,560 --> 00:31:55,760
Speaker 5: Come on.

697
00:31:56,000 --> 00:31:59,600
Speaker 4: Lastly, some suggested they don't like my fiance. Everyone seems

698
00:31:59,600 --> 00:32:01,440
Speaker 4: to get on well enough. They've known him for two

699
00:32:01,520 --> 00:32:04,680
Speaker 4: years and he occasionally goes golfing with some of their husbands.

700
00:32:04,960 --> 00:32:08,040
Speaker 4: Now on to the update. Reading the comments was like

701
00:32:08,160 --> 00:32:11,480
Speaker 4: having cold water thrown over me. I've never considered myself

702
00:32:11,520 --> 00:32:13,960
Speaker 4: the outsider friend, but a lot of people suggested that

703
00:32:14,040 --> 00:32:16,640
Speaker 4: I was, and it really threw me, and I got

704
00:32:16,760 --> 00:32:19,560
Speaker 4: really overwhelmed. I didn't send any message to the group chat,

705
00:32:19,640 --> 00:32:22,200
Speaker 4: even though lots of commentars gave me really good suggestions

706
00:32:22,240 --> 00:32:24,880
Speaker 4: about what to write, and I withdrew into myself until

707
00:32:24,960 --> 00:32:26,400
Speaker 4: my fiance bride it out of me.

708
00:32:26,680 --> 00:32:27,480
Speaker 5: What was wrong?

709
00:32:27,800 --> 00:32:30,080
Speaker 4: I showed him the post, and he got super quiet

710
00:32:30,240 --> 00:32:34,360
Speaker 4: and really angry, really angry. I've never seen him this

711
00:32:34,480 --> 00:32:36,920
Speaker 4: angry over anything ever. He asked if I had spoken

712
00:32:36,960 --> 00:32:39,040
Speaker 4: to them about this, and I said no. He started

713
00:32:39,080 --> 00:32:41,920
Speaker 4: to call them individually and read them the Riot Act.

714
00:32:42,120 --> 00:32:45,680
Speaker 4: He called them eight dollars a holes, and he said

715
00:32:45,720 --> 00:32:47,680
Speaker 4: he would be sending them an itemized list of the

716
00:32:47,760 --> 00:32:50,320
Speaker 4: thousands of dollars I'd spent on them over the years.

717
00:32:50,680 --> 00:32:52,600
Speaker 4: He called bs on the one who said she couldn't

718
00:32:52,600 --> 00:32:54,880
Speaker 4: get a babysitter, and she indeed said she was sick

719
00:32:54,920 --> 00:32:57,520
Speaker 4: of having to go to the same boring wedding over

720
00:32:57,600 --> 00:33:01,160
Speaker 4: and over and yours won't be any different. Hey, that's

721
00:33:01,320 --> 00:33:02,960
Speaker 4: so incredibly hurtful.

722
00:33:03,120 --> 00:33:05,320
Speaker 5: You're lame. You're saying that, Like, get over it.

723
00:33:05,480 --> 00:33:07,520
Speaker 4: It's your friends go to their freaking wedding.

724
00:33:07,600 --> 00:33:08,479
Speaker 5: Man, you're the lame one.

725
00:33:08,800 --> 00:33:12,280
Speaker 4: You're making You're the Yeah, the reason the weddings that

726
00:33:12,360 --> 00:33:14,120
Speaker 4: you go to are boring is because you're there. Yeah,

727
00:33:14,240 --> 00:33:16,200
Speaker 4: if you went to a wedding that I was yet,

728
00:33:16,320 --> 00:33:17,960
Speaker 4: it'd be fun. And he lost.

729
00:33:18,920 --> 00:33:19,320
Speaker 5: I'm sorry.

730
00:33:20,720 --> 00:33:24,760
Speaker 4: I hate the idea of in fighting my battles for me,

731
00:33:24,920 --> 00:33:26,960
Speaker 4: So I asked him to stop after the third person.

732
00:33:27,040 --> 00:33:29,239
Speaker 4: I sent a message into the group chat asking if

733
00:33:29,240 --> 00:33:31,000
Speaker 4: we could all speak as a group, and the three

734
00:33:31,040 --> 00:33:34,200
Speaker 4: he called sent voice messages saying that my fiance was

735
00:33:34,240 --> 00:33:36,520
Speaker 4: a psycho and that they wouldn't speak to me anymore.

736
00:33:36,680 --> 00:33:38,920
Speaker 4: I just felt really tired and defeated, so I sent

737
00:33:38,960 --> 00:33:40,680
Speaker 4: a message saying that if they didn't want to be

738
00:33:40,760 --> 00:33:43,760
Speaker 4: friends anymore, that was fine, and to consider their invitations

739
00:33:43,840 --> 00:33:46,280
Speaker 4: withdrawn to the bachelorette and wedding. And they weren't even

740
00:33:46,320 --> 00:33:48,520
Speaker 4: going anyway, so it's not a huge loss. No one

741
00:33:48,600 --> 00:33:51,280
Speaker 4: has replied, so I guess we're done. I suppose I'm

742
00:33:51,320 --> 00:33:53,480
Speaker 4: better off, but I don't feel that way. I just

743
00:33:53,560 --> 00:33:55,880
Speaker 4: feel numb and sad. They've been such a big part

744
00:33:55,920 --> 00:33:58,240
Speaker 4: of my life for so long, and I really feel

745
00:33:58,320 --> 00:34:00,600
Speaker 4: the loss, and I'm so sad I won't see their

746
00:34:00,680 --> 00:34:03,000
Speaker 4: kids anymore. Some of them refer to me as Auntie,

747
00:34:03,080 --> 00:34:05,560
Speaker 4: and it's making me cry that I won't see them grow.

748
00:34:05,640 --> 00:34:07,600
Speaker 5: Well, oh no, that is really does.

749
00:34:08,080 --> 00:34:10,840
Speaker 2: But it's also the sunk cost fallacy, right, Yeah, been

750
00:34:10,880 --> 00:34:13,160
Speaker 2: with these people for so long and not it's like, oh,

751
00:34:13,760 --> 00:34:16,640
Speaker 2: I can't like it hurts, but it's like, honestly, it's

752
00:34:16,680 --> 00:34:19,000
Speaker 2: better to not be around these people who clearly like

753
00:34:19,120 --> 00:34:20,000
Speaker 2: don't value.

754
00:34:19,760 --> 00:34:22,560
Speaker 5: You, don't care about you, which that's you know, you

755
00:34:22,560 --> 00:34:23,920
Speaker 5: don't want thoughts. Nobody wants that.

756
00:34:24,160 --> 00:34:26,480
Speaker 4: My fiance is apologized for rushing in and for not

757
00:34:26,640 --> 00:34:29,600
Speaker 4: asking me how I wanted to handle it, and I've accepted.

758
00:34:29,960 --> 00:34:32,320
Speaker 4: We're good and I'm looking forward to our life together.

759
00:34:32,480 --> 00:34:34,279
Speaker 4: I mostly wanted to say thank you to the kind

760
00:34:34,320 --> 00:34:36,960
Speaker 4: rereditors that showed me the light about this and offered

761
00:34:37,000 --> 00:34:40,200
Speaker 4: congratulations on our wedding and even offered to Bias a gift.

762
00:34:40,400 --> 00:34:43,440
Speaker 4: I've never watched in the City, but I'll watch the episode.

763
00:34:43,480 --> 00:34:46,120
Speaker 4: Some people mentioned it seems like I'll relate. I'll delete

764
00:34:46,160 --> 00:34:48,040
Speaker 4: this post soon. I just want to put this behind

765
00:34:48,080 --> 00:34:51,120
Speaker 4: me now and that is the end of that story.

766
00:34:51,360 --> 00:34:53,320
Speaker 5: Yeah, that sounds it sounds like you might want to

767
00:34:53,400 --> 00:34:56,160
Speaker 5: just put that behind you. And also, yeah, the City

768
00:34:56,239 --> 00:34:56,759
Speaker 5: is a great job.

769
00:34:56,920 --> 00:34:59,759
Speaker 4: I've seen only the episodes that I watched with.

770
00:34:59,840 --> 00:35:01,560
Speaker 2: My and the City is a great show. And I'm

771
00:35:01,600 --> 00:35:03,399
Speaker 2: a straight man. Since City's a great show.

772
00:35:03,480 --> 00:35:04,840
Speaker 4: I think Sam's watched it a lot of it.

773
00:35:05,400 --> 00:35:07,479
Speaker 5: A lot of people a lot a lot of people

774
00:35:07,600 --> 00:35:10,040
Speaker 5: can make a lot of us options. Don't let them

775
00:35:10,320 --> 00:35:12,400
Speaker 5: do and likes in the city.

776
00:35:12,800 --> 00:35:15,560
Speaker 4: But you know what, he also likes in the city

777
00:35:15,600 --> 00:35:17,880
Speaker 4: with women, and there you have it. Fun and there

778
00:35:17,920 --> 00:35:19,040
Speaker 4: you have it, and that's all you need to know.

779
00:35:19,120 --> 00:35:19,680
Speaker 3: And there you have it.

780
00:35:19,760 --> 00:35:21,960
Speaker 5: There's a lot of women in that show, so many women,

781
00:35:22,280 --> 00:35:25,520
Speaker 5: and mostly the show's all about them. Hey, it's Sam,

782
00:35:25,560 --> 00:35:27,520
Speaker 5: your og host. Here. We're gonna get back to the stories.

783
00:35:27,520 --> 00:35:29,320
Speaker 5: But here's three minutes of ads from our sponsors.

784
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Speaker 4: My boyfriend humiliated me in front of his family, so

785
00:35:33,960 --> 00:35:37,760
Speaker 4: I walked out of our dinner. Mike drop, Mike drop.

786
00:35:38,320 --> 00:35:39,719
Speaker 4: She brought her own mic to the dinner.

787
00:35:39,800 --> 00:35:41,480
Speaker 5: And that's the whole story. It was it, that's it.

788
00:35:42,560 --> 00:35:45,320
Speaker 4: I twenty six female, have been with my boyfriend twenty

789
00:35:45,360 --> 00:35:48,680
Speaker 4: eight male for about a year now. We get along

790
00:35:48,760 --> 00:35:51,600
Speaker 4: well most of the time, but something happened last weekend

791
00:35:51,719 --> 00:35:55,040
Speaker 4: that's really been bothering me. We went over to his parents'

792
00:35:55,080 --> 00:35:58,120
Speaker 4: house for dinner, and ever since, things have been awkward.

793
00:35:58,239 --> 00:36:00,480
Speaker 4: By the way, this comes from Whispering Ocean on the

794
00:36:00,520 --> 00:36:04,160
Speaker 4: Best of Redditor Updates subpred it so a bit of backstory.

795
00:36:04,440 --> 00:36:05,240
Speaker 7: I love cooking.

796
00:36:05,680 --> 00:36:08,040
Speaker 4: I'm not a professional by any means, but it's something

797
00:36:08,080 --> 00:36:11,640
Speaker 4: I'm passionate about and take pride in. My boyfriend knows this,

798
00:36:11,840 --> 00:36:15,240
Speaker 4: but he's constantly comparing my cooking to his mom's, especially

799
00:36:15,320 --> 00:36:17,440
Speaker 4: when it comes to a lasagna. I've heard about this

800
00:36:17,560 --> 00:36:21,480
Speaker 4: lasagna more times than I can count. Dude, dude, dude,

801
00:36:21,680 --> 00:36:24,320
Speaker 4: You're allowed to say I love my mom's cooking, but

802
00:36:24,400 --> 00:36:26,600
Speaker 4: you're not allowed to say, well, my mom's cooking is

803
00:36:26,680 --> 00:36:29,520
Speaker 4: so much better than yours. Why can't you make this lasagna? Right?

804
00:36:29,800 --> 00:36:35,759
Speaker 2: Basic human behavior? Literally, yeah, just don't compare. It's like

805
00:36:35,880 --> 00:36:38,920
Speaker 2: such a thing. You don't really downtalk the meals somebody

806
00:36:38,960 --> 00:36:39,760
Speaker 2: else makes.

807
00:36:39,600 --> 00:36:42,040
Speaker 4: Someone else is preparing for you. If you want to

808
00:36:42,160 --> 00:36:44,680
Speaker 4: make your mom's lasagna, frea can learn how to make it.

809
00:36:44,880 --> 00:36:45,720
Speaker 4: Why aren't you cooking?

810
00:36:45,920 --> 00:36:46,080
Speaker 1: Man?

811
00:36:46,320 --> 00:36:48,919
Speaker 4: Come on, so, before we leave for his parents' house,

812
00:36:49,080 --> 00:36:52,480
Speaker 4: he makes this offhand comment, maybe you'll finally learn how

813
00:36:52,520 --> 00:36:56,920
Speaker 4: to make lasagna properly tonight. Yours could definitely use some improvement.

814
00:36:57,280 --> 00:36:59,959
Speaker 5: Okay, okay, buddy, this doesn't sound cheeky.

815
00:37:00,360 --> 00:37:02,319
Speaker 4: How is that an offhand comment? This is just him

816
00:37:02,360 --> 00:37:04,840
Speaker 4: being like you freaking, your lasagna's the worst.

817
00:37:05,160 --> 00:37:07,080
Speaker 5: We are also very passionate about lasagna.

818
00:37:07,160 --> 00:37:10,480
Speaker 2: Right now, I'm upset. I mean it's it's more than

819
00:37:10,560 --> 00:37:13,839
Speaker 2: just the lasagna. It's more than it goes deeper than

820
00:37:14,080 --> 00:37:14,719
Speaker 2: the layers of.

821
00:37:15,840 --> 00:37:19,360
Speaker 4: Layers to this fight. It's the fact that he is

822
00:37:19,560 --> 00:37:22,520
Speaker 4: one comparing he's being rude about her, like something that

823
00:37:22,640 --> 00:37:25,400
Speaker 4: she's taking time to do, and also the fact that

824
00:37:25,480 --> 00:37:28,160
Speaker 4: he's not even you know, learn how to do it yourself.

825
00:37:28,520 --> 00:37:31,040
Speaker 5: We're kind of unpacking an emotional lasagna right now.

826
00:37:31,360 --> 00:37:37,560
Speaker 4: I have so many emotions lying underneath the cheese, my emotions.

827
00:37:38,600 --> 00:37:41,879
Speaker 4: This lasagna contains multitudes. I tried to laugh it off,

828
00:37:42,040 --> 00:37:44,160
Speaker 4: but honestly, it hurt my feelings. How do you even

829
00:37:44,160 --> 00:37:46,400
Speaker 4: I would cry if someone said that to me, Like,

830
00:37:46,600 --> 00:37:48,480
Speaker 4: I like to cook a lot, and I'm pretty like,

831
00:37:48,600 --> 00:37:51,480
Speaker 4: I don't know. I feel like I'm not quite confident

832
00:37:51,520 --> 00:37:53,560
Speaker 4: in the stuff I cook when I make it for

833
00:37:53,600 --> 00:37:56,279
Speaker 4: other people. And if someone told me my mom's food

834
00:37:56,360 --> 00:37:58,320
Speaker 4: is better than like she makes it better than you,

835
00:37:58,600 --> 00:38:00,600
Speaker 4: I'd be like, I'm gonna go in my him cry.

836
00:38:00,560 --> 00:38:02,759
Speaker 5: And be like, well, guess I'm never making food again.

837
00:38:03,400 --> 00:38:04,960
Speaker 5: That's what I mean. You'd be like, oh, is it

838
00:38:05,040 --> 00:38:06,680
Speaker 5: so good? Okay? Then I guess, uh, you won't. You

839
00:38:06,719 --> 00:38:08,000
Speaker 5: don't have to eat any of the food.

840
00:38:08,280 --> 00:38:10,800
Speaker 4: Won't ever make that again. God's that funny?

841
00:38:11,040 --> 00:38:13,200
Speaker 5: You don't have to eat my cooking. Whoa.

842
00:38:13,640 --> 00:38:16,680
Speaker 4: When we got to his parents place, as expected, his

843
00:38:16,840 --> 00:38:21,160
Speaker 4: mom's lasagna is the star of the meal. Everyone is

844
00:38:21,239 --> 00:38:23,640
Speaker 4: raving about it, and of course my boyfriend jumps in

845
00:38:23,719 --> 00:38:29,279
Speaker 4: to say, oh man, this is real lazagnya. Hope he

846
00:38:29,440 --> 00:38:32,400
Speaker 4: tried making it once. But let's just say, there's a

847
00:38:32,640 --> 00:38:35,040
Speaker 4: reason we're all here eating my mom's tonight.

848
00:38:35,320 --> 00:38:38,120
Speaker 2: Not always stop being such a stand for your mom's

849
00:38:38,200 --> 00:38:40,160
Speaker 2: lazann you're a little mama's.

850
00:38:39,880 --> 00:38:43,120
Speaker 4: Boy, and your little Oedipus routine is not cute.

851
00:38:43,280 --> 00:38:49,120
Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah, how much she's already your mom she likes you, Okay, hope.

852
00:38:49,200 --> 00:38:52,760
Speaker 4: So then he has the audacity to say it in front.

853
00:38:52,600 --> 00:38:55,120
Speaker 2: Of the family, No, truly audacious to put yeah, put

854
00:38:55,200 --> 00:38:57,320
Speaker 2: her on blast in front of his family at the

855
00:38:57,360 --> 00:39:01,400
Speaker 2: dinner table. Mm m mmmm wrong, so many different players

856
00:39:01,480 --> 00:39:05,360
Speaker 2: of rosa. Everyone laughed, Oh, you gotta just leave at

857
00:39:05,400 --> 00:39:07,080
Speaker 2: that point. Yeah, yeah, this is when you walk out.

858
00:39:07,120 --> 00:39:08,560
Speaker 5: We're going, This is when you walk out. That's where

859
00:39:08,560 --> 00:39:08,920
Speaker 5: we're going.

860
00:39:09,080 --> 00:39:12,280
Speaker 4: I felt embarrassed, but kept smiling to avoid making things awkward.

861
00:39:12,640 --> 00:39:16,720
Speaker 4: Then he kept going, saying that I burned the sauce

862
00:39:16,880 --> 00:39:19,640
Speaker 4: I didn't, and that maybe I should just leave lasagna

863
00:39:19,719 --> 00:39:22,400
Speaker 4: to the experts. His family was cracking up, and I

864
00:39:22,520 --> 00:39:25,120
Speaker 4: sat there trying not to lose it. It wasn't just

865
00:39:25,200 --> 00:39:27,160
Speaker 4: a joke to me. It felt like he was putting

866
00:39:27,200 --> 00:39:30,080
Speaker 4: me down, especially in front of his family, who I'm

867
00:39:30,120 --> 00:39:32,319
Speaker 4: still trying to make a good impression with. Exactly. Ope,

868
00:39:32,320 --> 00:39:33,480
Speaker 4: he's trying to look good in front of them.

869
00:39:33,640 --> 00:39:34,720
Speaker 5: Yeah, that's crazy.

870
00:39:34,960 --> 00:39:37,799
Speaker 4: I couldn't handle it anymore, so I excused myself from

871
00:39:37,840 --> 00:39:40,040
Speaker 4: the table and went to sit in the car. A

872
00:39:40,120 --> 00:39:42,920
Speaker 4: few minutes later, my boyfriend comes out looking confused and

873
00:39:43,080 --> 00:39:46,360
Speaker 4: asks why I left. I told him how hurt I

874
00:39:46,520 --> 00:39:49,839
Speaker 4: was by his comments, and instead of apologizing, he said

875
00:39:50,000 --> 00:39:52,799
Speaker 4: I was overreacting and that it was just a joke.

876
00:39:53,040 --> 00:39:56,640
Speaker 5: Oh classic, What a classic response that is.

877
00:39:56,920 --> 00:40:00,480
Speaker 4: If people are you don't get to decide what is

878
00:40:00,560 --> 00:40:02,239
Speaker 4: a joke if someone is hurt by it.

879
00:40:02,680 --> 00:40:05,280
Speaker 5: Maybe this is a family that likes to goof around

880
00:40:05,360 --> 00:40:06,759
Speaker 5: about their lasagna, he.

881
00:40:06,800 --> 00:40:08,960
Speaker 4: Said, I need to stop being so sensitive and learn

882
00:40:09,000 --> 00:40:12,360
Speaker 4: to take a joke, especially around his family. Well, actually,

883
00:40:12,880 --> 00:40:14,960
Speaker 4: or you know, alternative, she breaks out with you.

884
00:40:15,280 --> 00:40:17,839
Speaker 5: I hope that's the old times the answer, I don't

885
00:40:17,920 --> 00:40:18,080
Speaker 5: like that.

886
00:40:18,480 --> 00:40:20,759
Speaker 4: I was upset and told him if he thought embarrassing

887
00:40:20,840 --> 00:40:23,040
Speaker 4: me in front of his family was funny, maybe he

888
00:40:23,120 --> 00:40:30,400
Speaker 4: should just date his mom's cooking instead, and if he

889
00:40:30,480 --> 00:40:31,840
Speaker 4: gets mad, take a.

890
00:40:31,960 --> 00:40:33,719
Speaker 5: Joke, bro, what's wrong?

891
00:40:33,800 --> 00:40:36,800
Speaker 4: I'm just can't take a job. Now. That didn't go

892
00:40:36,920 --> 00:40:39,600
Speaker 4: over well. He got angry and accuse me of ruining

893
00:40:39,640 --> 00:40:42,600
Speaker 4: the night. Since then, we've barely spoken and he's waiting

894
00:40:43,080 --> 00:40:45,359
Speaker 4: for me to apologize, but I feel like he should

895
00:40:45,400 --> 00:40:48,120
Speaker 4: be the one apologizing. So now I'm wondering did I

896
00:40:48,239 --> 00:40:51,000
Speaker 4: take it too far? Was it being overly sensitive? Or

897
00:40:51,160 --> 00:40:53,440
Speaker 4: was I right to walk out after being embarrassed like that?

898
00:40:53,760 --> 00:40:57,200
Speaker 4: And there are some comments and an update by what

899
00:40:57,280 --> 00:40:58,120
Speaker 4: do you think, Dakota?

900
00:40:58,800 --> 00:41:01,200
Speaker 2: I think you're one hundred percent right, because if I

901
00:41:01,239 --> 00:41:03,800
Speaker 2: would feel I'll be mortified. And it depends like on

902
00:41:03,880 --> 00:41:06,319
Speaker 2: how what well you know the family already clearly you're

903
00:41:06,320 --> 00:41:09,239
Speaker 2: still trying to make like an impression on them, and

904
00:41:09,360 --> 00:41:12,680
Speaker 2: for your boyfriend to literally turn you into a joke

905
00:41:13,000 --> 00:41:16,279
Speaker 2: for the entire family to laugh at, yeah, wow, that's

906
00:41:16,320 --> 00:41:18,440
Speaker 2: got to feel like, Yeah, I just got to get

907
00:41:18,440 --> 00:41:20,640
Speaker 2: out of here. I'm ana go sit in the car No, it's.

908
00:41:20,680 --> 00:41:22,840
Speaker 4: Totally different to make fun of someone that you like,

909
00:41:23,000 --> 00:41:26,239
Speaker 4: know very well and everyone, you know, everyone's in on

910
00:41:26,400 --> 00:41:29,560
Speaker 4: the joke and they find it funny too, versus you know,

911
00:41:29,920 --> 00:41:31,800
Speaker 4: this person being the butt of the joke with people

912
00:41:31,840 --> 00:41:34,319
Speaker 4: that they don't really quite know that well yet.

913
00:41:34,520 --> 00:41:37,200
Speaker 5: Yeah, and the joke is that she was cooking lasagna

914
00:41:37,280 --> 00:41:40,239
Speaker 5: for me, for you, yeah, feeding me, and it.

915
00:41:40,680 --> 00:41:44,560
Speaker 4: Shocks it up to my lazan, my my high lasania standards.

916
00:41:44,680 --> 00:41:48,480
Speaker 4: You know, we were dealing with the eagle from Ratitui.

917
00:41:48,719 --> 00:41:52,080
Speaker 4: But there are some comments. Midwest Musicians says, stop cooking

918
00:41:52,160 --> 00:41:55,359
Speaker 4: for this a hole, not the a hole. Bila Berger says,

919
00:41:55,400 --> 00:41:57,080
Speaker 4: I do most of the cooking in my home, not

920
00:41:57,239 --> 00:41:59,080
Speaker 4: because my wife can't or as bad at it, but

921
00:41:59,160 --> 00:42:01,279
Speaker 4: because I work from home and it's easier for me

922
00:42:01,440 --> 00:42:03,880
Speaker 4: to do so in order for us to eat at

923
00:42:03,880 --> 00:42:05,960
Speaker 4: a reasonable time than for her to have to deal

924
00:42:06,040 --> 00:42:08,640
Speaker 4: with it with her later hours and are eating at

925
00:42:08,719 --> 00:42:11,399
Speaker 4: eight thirty nine pm. If something I've made didn't work

926
00:42:11,440 --> 00:42:13,479
Speaker 4: for her, she'd let me know, but she has never

927
00:42:14,280 --> 00:42:16,840
Speaker 4: negatively compared my cooking to her mother's or put me

928
00:42:16,960 --> 00:42:19,320
Speaker 4: down in front of her family. If a dish I

929
00:42:19,400 --> 00:42:22,719
Speaker 4: made didn't work out. Not the a hole, OPI. This

930
00:42:22,880 --> 00:42:25,240
Speaker 4: is only the tip of the iceberg and a definite

931
00:42:25,320 --> 00:42:27,680
Speaker 4: case of when people show you who and what they are,

932
00:42:28,440 --> 00:42:31,920
Speaker 4: believe them, run, do not walk to the nearest exit.

933
00:42:32,320 --> 00:42:37,839
Speaker 4: And there is another update one day later. First of all,

934
00:42:37,920 --> 00:42:40,440
Speaker 4: I want to thank everyone for your comments and support.

935
00:42:40,680 --> 00:42:43,480
Speaker 4: I was not expecting such a huge response, and I

936
00:42:43,640 --> 00:42:45,880
Speaker 4: was really overwhelmed by how many of you took the

937
00:42:45,960 --> 00:42:48,080
Speaker 4: time to share your thoughts. And I've been reading through

938
00:42:48,120 --> 00:42:51,080
Speaker 4: everything and I appreciate the advice. After the dinner, things

939
00:42:51,120 --> 00:42:53,839
Speaker 4: were awkward between my boyfriend and me for a few days.

940
00:42:54,320 --> 00:42:56,400
Speaker 4: We barely talked, but I knew I could not just

941
00:42:56,480 --> 00:42:58,520
Speaker 4: let him go. I sat him down and told him

942
00:42:58,520 --> 00:43:01,000
Speaker 4: how much is comment about my cooking, especially comparing it

943
00:43:01,080 --> 00:43:03,719
Speaker 4: to his mom's, hurt me. I love cooking and I

944
00:43:03,800 --> 00:43:06,359
Speaker 4: put a lot of effort into it, so hearing him

945
00:43:06,400 --> 00:43:09,120
Speaker 4: constantly bring up his mom's lasagna felt like he was

946
00:43:09,160 --> 00:43:12,320
Speaker 4: saying mine was not good enough. He seemed genuinely surprised

947
00:43:12,400 --> 00:43:14,759
Speaker 4: and said he did not realize how much it bothered me. Okay,

948
00:43:14,760 --> 00:43:16,280
Speaker 4: so now he's kind of like taken.

949
00:43:16,080 --> 00:43:20,080
Speaker 5: Aback, not understanding like, oh, you have feelings that when you.

950
00:43:20,080 --> 00:43:21,600
Speaker 4: Said that you were hurt, I didn't understand that you

951
00:43:21,680 --> 00:43:22,000
Speaker 4: were hurt.

952
00:43:22,120 --> 00:43:24,080
Speaker 2: It's like cooking such a human thing too. It's like

953
00:43:24,160 --> 00:43:26,439
Speaker 2: it's one of the first things that like really made

954
00:43:26,520 --> 00:43:31,240
Speaker 2: us become like a communal yeah species, sharing food with peopeah,

955
00:43:31,239 --> 00:43:33,560
Speaker 2: we would cook food for It's like ingrained in our

956
00:43:34,080 --> 00:43:34,920
Speaker 2: DNA almost.

957
00:43:35,120 --> 00:43:36,840
Speaker 4: And it is also kind of like it's like a

958
00:43:36,920 --> 00:43:40,319
Speaker 4: scary thing too, because it is it is a creative

959
00:43:41,160 --> 00:43:45,800
Speaker 4: I think act, and anything that involves creativity and involves you,

960
00:43:46,080 --> 00:43:49,040
Speaker 4: you know, putting time and thought into something is scary

961
00:43:49,120 --> 00:43:51,240
Speaker 4: to share with people. He thought he was just teasing

962
00:43:51,320 --> 00:43:53,560
Speaker 4: and that I knew he was not serious. I explained

963
00:43:53,600 --> 00:43:56,080
Speaker 4: that while I can take jokes, this felt different because

964
00:43:56,120 --> 00:43:58,000
Speaker 4: it happened in front of his family and made me

965
00:43:58,080 --> 00:44:03,720
Speaker 4: feel really small. True, he apologized right away, okay, twizzed

966
00:44:04,120 --> 00:44:07,200
Speaker 4: and said he would stop making those comparisons. I could

967
00:44:07,320 --> 00:44:09,560
Speaker 4: tell he was truly sorry, which made me feel better.

968
00:44:09,800 --> 00:44:12,520
Speaker 4: As for his family, I did apologize for walking out,

969
00:44:12,600 --> 00:44:16,080
Speaker 4: and they were actually really understanding. His mom even mentioned

970
00:44:16,120 --> 00:44:19,840
Speaker 4: she would love to try my lasagna sometime with no comparisons, just.

971
00:44:19,880 --> 00:44:24,280
Speaker 5: Really kind of from the lasagna queen, Oh my God.

972
00:44:24,280 --> 00:44:26,120
Speaker 4: He's so funny. If she's like, yeah, I would love

973
00:44:26,200 --> 00:44:27,759
Speaker 4: to try it, and she goes there and she tries,

974
00:44:27,760 --> 00:44:36,440
Speaker 4: she's like, so good. It's gracious. I have some advice

975
00:44:36,600 --> 00:44:42,840
Speaker 4: if you want some. It's not a comparison. Things have

976
00:44:42,920 --> 00:44:45,240
Speaker 4: been better since then. My boyfriend has been more thoughtful

977
00:44:45,239 --> 00:44:47,200
Speaker 4: about how he talks about my cooking, and I feel

978
00:44:47,239 --> 00:44:50,200
Speaker 4: like we both learned something from this. It's not perfect,

979
00:44:50,320 --> 00:44:52,440
Speaker 4: but I feel hopeful about where things are going. And

980
00:44:52,520 --> 00:44:55,000
Speaker 4: there are some comments to finish this story off, Demir

981
00:44:55,120 --> 00:44:57,799
Speaker 4: Damsel says, I still don't like his initial reaction when

982
00:44:57,840 --> 00:45:00,400
Speaker 4: you made your feelings known, and I don't accept his

983
00:45:00,560 --> 00:45:03,280
Speaker 4: excuse that you thought you knew he wasn't being serious.

984
00:45:03,920 --> 00:45:06,560
Speaker 4: The things he was saying, lying about you burning the sauce,

985
00:45:06,719 --> 00:45:09,919
Speaker 4: all of it were just objectively mean and no one's

986
00:45:10,000 --> 00:45:12,400
Speaker 4: idea of a joke. I'm glad you feel better about it,

987
00:45:12,520 --> 00:45:14,239
Speaker 4: but if it were me, I would take a weight

988
00:45:14,760 --> 00:45:18,960
Speaker 4: and see where it goes. Janet in Spain says, I

989
00:45:19,120 --> 00:45:23,200
Speaker 4: agree he knew all along. Jy Qe says, this is

990
00:45:23,239 --> 00:45:25,600
Speaker 4: what I think. I have a feeling he planned to

991
00:45:25,680 --> 00:45:29,000
Speaker 4: smooth things over when she didn't immediately capitulate, and he

992
00:45:29,080 --> 00:45:31,840
Speaker 4: will find some other horrible ways to bother. Ope. I

993
00:45:31,960 --> 00:45:35,560
Speaker 4: do think that the last comment from him was positive. Uh.

994
00:45:35,960 --> 00:45:38,799
Speaker 4: I think she can only really tell going forward. Does

995
00:45:38,880 --> 00:45:41,360
Speaker 4: he continue to make fun of her, does continue to

996
00:45:41,719 --> 00:45:42,960
Speaker 4: you know, compare her.

997
00:45:43,360 --> 00:45:45,000
Speaker 5: We got to take Opie at her word.

998
00:45:45,280 --> 00:45:47,640
Speaker 2: Yeah, said that they had a conversation and that she

999
00:45:47,760 --> 00:45:53,440
Speaker 2: could tell that he was genuinely apologetic, which I've been there.

1000
00:45:53,760 --> 00:45:54,520
Speaker 5: It happens.

1001
00:45:55,000 --> 00:45:59,400
Speaker 2: Yeah, and so yeah, I think just moving forward with

1002
00:45:59,600 --> 00:46:02,400
Speaker 2: open you gotta and that's a vulnerable thing. That's a

1003
00:46:02,480 --> 00:46:04,960
Speaker 2: vulnerable thing to do to actually walk out of the

1004
00:46:05,040 --> 00:46:07,759
Speaker 2: dinner like a lot try to just like sit there

1005
00:46:07,800 --> 00:46:10,160
Speaker 2: and pick it up. Yeah, but like to really be like,

1006
00:46:10,200 --> 00:46:12,280
Speaker 2: I'm actually so uncomfortable. I got to like remove myself

1007
00:46:12,280 --> 00:46:14,759
Speaker 2: from the situation that was. I think that's a big

1008
00:46:14,800 --> 00:46:16,000
Speaker 2: thing that's.

1009
00:46:15,880 --> 00:46:16,759
Speaker 4: Should have been more.

1010
00:46:16,960 --> 00:46:17,160
Speaker 5: Yeah.

1011
00:46:17,160 --> 00:46:19,160
Speaker 4: I think also interesting to have a conversation about like

1012
00:46:19,200 --> 00:46:22,560
Speaker 4: when she's when she tells him that she's uncomfortable or hurt,

1013
00:46:22,719 --> 00:46:26,400
Speaker 4: he needs to be more open and take accountability for it.

1014
00:46:28,160 --> 00:46:30,840
Speaker 4: My girlfriend used to date the guy my ex cheated

1015
00:46:30,920 --> 00:46:33,200
Speaker 4: on me with I want to break up.

1016
00:46:33,320 --> 00:46:36,719
Speaker 2: Wait, hold on, my girlfriend used to date the guy

1017
00:46:37,080 --> 00:46:40,200
Speaker 2: my ex how on me with so we got I'm there.

1018
00:46:40,280 --> 00:46:44,799
Speaker 4: I'm there just for whiteboard, metaphorical whiteboard. We've got this guy,

1019
00:46:45,760 --> 00:46:49,960
Speaker 4: not Op. This guy he dated both Op's current girlfriend

1020
00:46:50,120 --> 00:46:54,000
Speaker 4: and Op's X. That's where we're at. My ex cheated

1021
00:46:54,040 --> 00:46:55,919
Speaker 4: on me with this guy. I'm gonna call him Mic.

1022
00:46:56,440 --> 00:46:59,520
Speaker 4: It was a whole affair between the two of them

1023
00:47:00,120 --> 00:47:02,960
Speaker 4: as it went on for months. Eventually I caught them

1024
00:47:03,040 --> 00:47:07,640
Speaker 4: in our apartment. Yikes. My girlfriend confessed to everything, so

1025
00:47:08,080 --> 00:47:11,640
Speaker 4: I broke up with her. FYI, Mike was fully aware

1026
00:47:11,719 --> 00:47:14,359
Speaker 4: my girlfriend was with me, so it's not like he's

1027
00:47:14,440 --> 00:47:17,440
Speaker 4: innocent in all of this. This was like two years ago.

1028
00:47:17,920 --> 00:47:20,120
Speaker 4: By the way, this comes from Throwaway dot nine two

1029
00:47:20,160 --> 00:47:23,400
Speaker 4: four zero on the Best of Editor Updates suffered it.

1030
00:47:24,000 --> 00:47:26,400
Speaker 4: So I met my new girlfriend, let's call her Kelly.

1031
00:47:26,840 --> 00:47:28,840
Speaker 4: Kelly has been great and we have been together for

1032
00:47:28,880 --> 00:47:31,680
Speaker 4: about six months now. Kelly took me to a company

1033
00:47:31,760 --> 00:47:34,440
Speaker 4: party her work hosted, and she introduced me to her

1034
00:47:34,520 --> 00:47:37,799
Speaker 4: coworkers and one of them was Mike.

1035
00:47:38,440 --> 00:47:41,000
Speaker 5: Yikes, like a like a ghost.

1036
00:47:41,360 --> 00:47:42,680
Speaker 4: He's always popping up.

1037
00:47:42,800 --> 00:47:47,919
Speaker 5: The ghost of Christmas pest. Scary, that's the scary. Guess

1038
00:47:47,960 --> 00:47:48,600
Speaker 5: he's in change.

1039
00:47:48,600 --> 00:47:51,040
Speaker 4: He's like, I've come to take your girl friend. And

1040
00:47:51,880 --> 00:47:53,880
Speaker 4: it was awkward, I think for both of us, but

1041
00:47:54,000 --> 00:47:56,360
Speaker 4: neither of us said anything. When we got back to

1042
00:47:56,440 --> 00:47:58,439
Speaker 4: her place, I asked her about her history with Mike.

1043
00:47:58,680 --> 00:48:00,880
Speaker 4: She was weirded out, but she did confess that her

1044
00:48:00,960 --> 00:48:03,359
Speaker 4: and Mike were friends with benefits for a while. By

1045
00:48:03,400 --> 00:48:05,759
Speaker 4: the way, she did know about my last how my

1046
00:48:05,960 --> 00:48:08,480
Speaker 4: last relationship ended, but I never told her who the

1047
00:48:08,560 --> 00:48:10,919
Speaker 4: guy was. I told her that Mike was the dude

1048
00:48:10,920 --> 00:48:14,360
Speaker 4: that my ex girlfriend slept with, and my girlfriend was shocked.

1049
00:48:14,840 --> 00:48:16,839
Speaker 4: She told me that her and Mike are nothing now

1050
00:48:16,960 --> 00:48:19,560
Speaker 4: and that she would never do that to me. I

1051
00:48:19,600 --> 00:48:21,920
Speaker 4: don't know. I want to trust my new girlfriend, but

1052
00:48:21,960 --> 00:48:24,200
Speaker 4: the fact that she already slept with them several times

1053
00:48:24,400 --> 00:48:27,279
Speaker 4: and they work together, I just don't know. And there

1054
00:48:27,320 --> 00:48:30,960
Speaker 4: are some relevant comments and an updates, but we've got

1055
00:48:31,000 --> 00:48:31,480
Speaker 4: some thoughts.

1056
00:48:31,840 --> 00:48:38,200
Speaker 2: I think, man, it's because it sounds like you're traumatized

1057
00:48:38,600 --> 00:48:40,919
Speaker 2: from that, as you should be, like as anyone would

1058
00:48:40,920 --> 00:48:43,800
Speaker 2: be from walking in on their girlfriend like and another

1059
00:48:43,880 --> 00:48:45,840
Speaker 2: guy like that's a horrible.

1060
00:48:45,520 --> 00:48:46,160
Speaker 5: Thing to go through.

1061
00:48:46,320 --> 00:48:49,200
Speaker 2: And I think, you know, the reality of the world

1062
00:48:49,320 --> 00:48:52,439
Speaker 2: is like a lot of people like you know, they date,

1063
00:48:52,840 --> 00:48:55,759
Speaker 2: and like, this is just an unfortunate circumstance.

1064
00:48:55,800 --> 00:48:59,720
Speaker 5: I don't think that you're really like in deep water.

1065
00:48:59,640 --> 00:49:02,439
Speaker 4: Here, wake up. She's like she hasn't done anything.

1066
00:49:02,520 --> 00:49:05,480
Speaker 2: She's like, yo, that guy, no, no, no, no, me

1067
00:49:05,640 --> 00:49:09,360
Speaker 2: and that guy literally exactly not happening.

1068
00:49:10,239 --> 00:49:12,480
Speaker 5: Yeah, I mean I could believe that. I could definitely

1069
00:49:12,520 --> 00:49:12,840
Speaker 5: believe that.

1070
00:49:12,920 --> 00:49:15,920
Speaker 4: Absolutely. I think that, you know, especially I'm learning that

1071
00:49:16,120 --> 00:49:20,920
Speaker 4: like LA is tiny community, and so there's like probably

1072
00:49:20,960 --> 00:49:23,839
Speaker 4: in this you know, wherever op he lives, there's got

1073
00:49:23,880 --> 00:49:25,960
Speaker 4: there's always a little bit overlap. You're like, oh my god,

1074
00:49:26,000 --> 00:49:28,000
Speaker 4: you were with that person. I know that person, and

1075
00:49:28,400 --> 00:49:31,279
Speaker 4: I don't think you can necessarily control that. But I

1076
00:49:31,360 --> 00:49:33,000
Speaker 4: think that you just have to ask yourself, do I

1077
00:49:33,120 --> 00:49:37,880
Speaker 4: trust my new girlfriend? Because in that case, there's nothing,

1078
00:49:37,960 --> 00:49:39,839
Speaker 4: there's nothing to worry about because she hasn't done anything

1079
00:49:39,880 --> 00:49:40,120
Speaker 4: right now.

1080
00:49:40,080 --> 00:49:41,880
Speaker 5: Yeah, because it's it's it's more about, yeah, do you

1081
00:49:41,960 --> 00:49:42,359
Speaker 5: trust her?

1082
00:49:42,400 --> 00:49:44,080
Speaker 2: And where I feel like where you're at, where op

1083
00:49:44,120 --> 00:49:46,560
Speaker 2: he's at emotionally, is he's more fixated on the guy.

1084
00:49:46,920 --> 00:49:48,239
Speaker 5: Yes, And it really doesn't have anything to.

1085
00:49:48,239 --> 00:49:50,279
Speaker 4: Do with it doesn't have anything to do with him.

1086
00:49:50,480 --> 00:49:52,640
Speaker 4: It's just like, do you trust your current.

1087
00:49:52,520 --> 00:49:54,640
Speaker 5: Girlfriend guy to you know what about all the other

1088
00:49:54,680 --> 00:49:56,680
Speaker 5: guys that she works with? You know, so exactly who's

1089
00:49:56,719 --> 00:49:57,120
Speaker 5: to say that?

1090
00:49:57,840 --> 00:49:58,040
Speaker 4: Yeah?

1091
00:49:58,160 --> 00:50:02,680
Speaker 7: Right, where's the trust end and begin like that? Yeah,

1092
00:50:02,719 --> 00:50:06,040
Speaker 7: there's tons of other good looking fellows at this office.

1093
00:50:06,080 --> 00:50:07,560
Speaker 5: I'm show sure I got a lot of good looking

1094
00:50:07,600 --> 00:50:08,680
Speaker 5: fellows here in this office.

1095
00:50:08,800 --> 00:50:12,440
Speaker 4: There's tons of fish in that office scene. But there

1096
00:50:12,440 --> 00:50:14,799
Speaker 4: are some relevant comments. Commoner one says, you can break

1097
00:50:14,840 --> 00:50:17,160
Speaker 4: up with her, but she hasn't done anything wrong. You'll

1098
00:50:17,239 --> 00:50:19,800
Speaker 4: just have to be a piece, knowing that not a

1099
00:50:20,000 --> 00:50:23,320
Speaker 4: whole except Mike and your ex Opie says, I just

1100
00:50:23,360 --> 00:50:25,960
Speaker 4: don't know if I can be a piece. Op on

1101
00:50:26,040 --> 00:50:28,360
Speaker 4: what happened to his ex op says, don't really know.

1102
00:50:28,520 --> 00:50:30,480
Speaker 4: I kicked her out of my place. She tried to

1103
00:50:30,600 --> 00:50:32,919
Speaker 4: contact me, but I blocked her on everything that I could,

1104
00:50:33,239 --> 00:50:34,879
Speaker 4: and honestly I don't care.

1105
00:50:35,280 --> 00:50:38,080
Speaker 5: Yeah, big ups to Op for doing that. That's the

1106
00:50:38,160 --> 00:50:38,600
Speaker 5: right move.

1107
00:50:38,800 --> 00:50:40,520
Speaker 4: Don't you don't have to have that person in your life.

1108
00:50:40,680 --> 00:50:43,320
Speaker 4: Commenter one says, I don't think that, given the situation,

1109
00:50:43,520 --> 00:50:44,920
Speaker 4: you would be the a hole for not wanting to

1110
00:50:45,000 --> 00:50:46,880
Speaker 4: be with this girl. I mean, if I were in

1111
00:50:46,960 --> 00:50:48,560
Speaker 4: her shoes, I don't think I could do it either.

1112
00:50:49,920 --> 00:50:52,239
Speaker 5: I don't think I wouldn't care in whose shoes, oh,

1113
00:50:52,280 --> 00:50:52,800
Speaker 5: p shoes.

1114
00:50:53,000 --> 00:50:55,240
Speaker 4: This commentary is saying what matters is that you realize

1115
00:50:55,239 --> 00:50:57,040
Speaker 4: your current girlfriend is no blame in this. It's just

1116
00:50:57,120 --> 00:51:01,880
Speaker 4: an unfortunate circumstance. I don't full like, I like, I

1117
00:51:02,080 --> 00:51:04,680
Speaker 4: understand that this. You know, Mike has caused a lot

1118
00:51:04,719 --> 00:51:08,160
Speaker 4: of issues in Op's life, but I don't know. It's

1119
00:51:08,200 --> 00:51:11,080
Speaker 4: just like she has presumably she has other axes.

1120
00:51:11,520 --> 00:51:14,719
Speaker 5: Don't let Mike ruin another relationship.

1121
00:51:14,920 --> 00:51:17,840
Speaker 7: Yeah, like he's taking don't let him take two girls

1122
00:51:17,880 --> 00:51:21,719
Speaker 7: from because he hasn't done anything yeah, like wrong in

1123
00:51:22,160 --> 00:51:23,280
Speaker 7: this context.

1124
00:51:23,320 --> 00:51:26,640
Speaker 5: I mean, he's definitely done something wrong, let's make that clear.

1125
00:51:26,760 --> 00:51:28,960
Speaker 2: But like with your current girlfriend and you guys have

1126
00:51:29,000 --> 00:51:30,799
Speaker 2: been together for like six months, it's like there's still

1127
00:51:30,880 --> 00:51:33,319
Speaker 2: a lot to happen between you two, and.

1128
00:51:33,360 --> 00:51:35,560
Speaker 4: There is an update. But yeah, I don't think there's

1129
00:51:35,560 --> 00:51:36,160
Speaker 4: any issue here.

1130
00:51:36,360 --> 00:51:38,040
Speaker 5: No, it's it's nobody's his.

1131
00:51:38,320 --> 00:51:39,759
Speaker 4: Internal issues are yeah.

1132
00:51:39,840 --> 00:51:42,160
Speaker 5: Yeah, and that doesn't make you the a hole.

1133
00:51:42,320 --> 00:51:45,920
Speaker 2: No, it's more just like if that really it's if

1134
00:51:45,960 --> 00:51:48,279
Speaker 2: it impacts you that hard knowing that she's been with

1135
00:51:48,440 --> 00:51:51,160
Speaker 2: that guy, it's like it's like honestly, you might want

1136
00:51:51,200 --> 00:51:52,960
Speaker 2: to just like seek out some therapy.

1137
00:51:53,239 --> 00:51:55,839
Speaker 4: I think this is a process that yeah, because it's

1138
00:51:55,920 --> 00:51:58,840
Speaker 4: clearly still affecting you, and it's not her fault. She

1139
00:51:58,880 --> 00:52:01,279
Speaker 4: hasn't done anything wrong, and so as long as you're

1140
00:52:01,280 --> 00:52:04,000
Speaker 4: not like putting in on her, that is the most important.

1141
00:52:04,120 --> 00:52:05,320
Speaker 5: There's nothing wrong with therapy.

1142
00:52:05,600 --> 00:52:08,200
Speaker 4: I had a deep talk with my girlfriend. I laid

1143
00:52:08,239 --> 00:52:10,520
Speaker 4: it all out, how I trusted my ex, how I

1144
00:52:10,600 --> 00:52:12,600
Speaker 4: never thought she would do something like that, and how

1145
00:52:12,640 --> 00:52:15,759
Speaker 4: my entire heart shattered when I caught the effing how

1146
00:52:15,840 --> 00:52:18,160
Speaker 4: hard I held back tears as my ex try to

1147
00:52:18,200 --> 00:52:22,000
Speaker 4: make excuses, how much issues it caused me. Maybe I'm

1148
00:52:22,040 --> 00:52:24,640
Speaker 4: overly sensitive, but Mike isn't just a guy I don't like.

1149
00:52:24,800 --> 00:52:27,600
Speaker 4: He's not just some guy from Kelly's past. He's a

1150
00:52:27,760 --> 00:52:30,239
Speaker 4: huge part of one of the worst moments in my life.

1151
00:52:30,440 --> 00:52:32,640
Speaker 4: Now I have to accept that my current girlfriend slept

1152
00:52:32,680 --> 00:52:35,960
Speaker 4: with him and seize him every day. Anyways, Kelly was

1153
00:52:36,080 --> 00:52:38,800
Speaker 4: very understanding and said she was willing to do anything

1154
00:52:38,920 --> 00:52:41,720
Speaker 4: to make me more comfortable. I asked why they stopped

1155
00:52:41,840 --> 00:52:43,880
Speaker 4: being friends with benefits, and she said she wanted a

1156
00:52:43,920 --> 00:52:46,960
Speaker 4: real relationship, and they stopped well before we met, and

1157
00:52:47,080 --> 00:52:50,040
Speaker 4: that she hasn't thought about him that way anymore, especially

1158
00:52:50,160 --> 00:52:52,320
Speaker 4: after she met me. She also said she had no

1159
00:52:52,480 --> 00:52:54,520
Speaker 4: idea Mike was that kind of guy, and she said

1160
00:52:54,560 --> 00:52:56,880
Speaker 4: she never would have done anything if she knew. I

1161
00:52:57,040 --> 00:52:59,399
Speaker 4: decided to give this a chance. I hope to God

1162
00:52:59,480 --> 00:53:02,319
Speaker 4: this isn't a Kelly has been amazing to me, and yeah,

1163
00:53:02,400 --> 00:53:04,880
Speaker 4: logically I don't have a reason to not trust her,

1164
00:53:05,040 --> 00:53:07,680
Speaker 4: but a lot of the feelings of betrayal, anger, and

1165
00:53:07,840 --> 00:53:11,120
Speaker 4: self loathing all came back when I heard that Kelly

1166
00:53:11,280 --> 00:53:13,920
Speaker 4: had slept with Mike. After our talk, we made a

1167
00:53:14,000 --> 00:53:16,200
Speaker 4: small joke and she said, I guess you won't come

1168
00:53:16,239 --> 00:53:17,840
Speaker 4: to any other company parties.

1169
00:53:17,960 --> 00:53:20,439
Speaker 5: Huh, that's good, that's the great, that's the right vine.

1170
00:53:21,440 --> 00:53:23,520
Speaker 4: I like that she's like they have a serious conversations,

1171
00:53:23,600 --> 00:53:25,280
Speaker 4: like got jokes now, because that's.

1172
00:53:25,120 --> 00:53:28,239
Speaker 2: What you gotta get through it, like it's its and

1173
00:53:28,320 --> 00:53:31,080
Speaker 2: it's like a hard situation. But it's like, I guess

1174
00:53:31,120 --> 00:53:34,799
Speaker 2: you're not coming into the company Christmas party, Like I think,

1175
00:53:35,000 --> 00:53:36,560
Speaker 2: I think it sounds like it'll be good. I think

1176
00:53:36,600 --> 00:53:39,279
Speaker 2: they'll be fine, you know, and you definitely I'd still

1177
00:53:39,280 --> 00:53:42,440
Speaker 2: go to therapy though, exactly that guy you can't let

1178
00:53:43,520 --> 00:53:45,399
Speaker 2: that happened your life past and this guy. The fact

1179
00:53:45,400 --> 00:53:48,520
Speaker 2: that this guy exists, Yeah, it derail you from having

1180
00:53:48,600 --> 00:53:51,120
Speaker 2: a like a fulfilled relationship.

1181
00:53:50,640 --> 00:53:53,120
Speaker 5: With the girl you're with now exactly. And like she said,

1182
00:53:53,120 --> 00:53:54,359
Speaker 5: she didn't know that he was that kind of guy.

1183
00:53:54,719 --> 00:53:56,880
Speaker 4: I told her I wasn't gonna let my keep me

1184
00:53:56,960 --> 00:53:59,879
Speaker 4: from living and having fun with her at those parties. Yeah,

1185
00:54:00,520 --> 00:54:02,759
Speaker 4: don't let Mike cold you down. I did ask her

1186
00:54:02,760 --> 00:54:05,080
Speaker 4: if she would support me if something ever came up

1187
00:54:05,080 --> 00:54:07,759
Speaker 4: with Mike, though, she says, I'll tell everyone what a

1188
00:54:07,840 --> 00:54:10,800
Speaker 4: small d he he has if he starts with you.

1189
00:54:11,200 --> 00:54:14,279
Speaker 4: That's a good girlfriend. That's such a nice girlfriend.

1190
00:54:15,680 --> 00:54:17,360
Speaker 5: Wow, let's go.

1191
00:54:17,880 --> 00:54:18,719
Speaker 4: We hugged it out.

1192
00:54:18,960 --> 00:54:19,279
Speaker 5: I don't know.

1193
00:54:19,400 --> 00:54:22,200
Speaker 4: I hope things turn out. Okay. Maybe I'm being naive,

1194
00:54:22,320 --> 00:54:23,880
Speaker 4: but I don't want to let my past keep me

1195
00:54:23,960 --> 00:54:25,240
Speaker 4: from enjoying my presence.

1196
00:54:25,640 --> 00:54:26,959
Speaker 5: Oh, you shouldn't cry.

1197
00:54:27,120 --> 00:54:28,080
Speaker 3: It's really so nice.

1198
00:54:28,200 --> 00:54:30,680
Speaker 4: And there's another update. I hope it gets sweeter and

1199
00:54:30,800 --> 00:54:33,880
Speaker 4: it doesn't like turn doesn't switch. We are still together.

1200
00:54:34,280 --> 00:54:36,160
Speaker 4: I've had noughts in my stomach every now and then,

1201
00:54:36,360 --> 00:54:39,600
Speaker 4: but some good and bad things happened. The bad thing

1202
00:54:39,920 --> 00:54:43,480
Speaker 4: is that Mike texted my girlfriend and did harass her

1203
00:54:43,560 --> 00:54:47,040
Speaker 4: a few times. Mike, give it a rest.

1204
00:54:47,320 --> 00:54:49,719
Speaker 2: Mike, we're writing down your name, will put you in

1205
00:54:49,800 --> 00:54:51,520
Speaker 2: the grade eighth bag book.

1206
00:54:51,760 --> 00:54:56,960
Speaker 4: Cool boy, and also that the book that the death

1207
00:54:57,080 --> 00:54:57,560
Speaker 4: note book.

1208
00:54:58,080 --> 00:54:59,480
Speaker 5: Yeah to that one.

1209
00:54:59,719 --> 00:55:02,000
Speaker 4: He talk and crap about me and try to start

1210
00:55:02,040 --> 00:55:04,360
Speaker 4: things up again between them. The good thing is that

1211
00:55:04,600 --> 00:55:08,719
Speaker 4: my good fired because of this boom. You'll freaking call it.

1212
00:55:09,440 --> 00:55:12,000
Speaker 5: That's what we liked the year eighty.

1213
00:55:12,120 --> 00:55:14,360
Speaker 2: Mike's not gonna be a problem anymore. I enjoy the

1214
00:55:14,440 --> 00:55:16,239
Speaker 2: unemployment line loser.

1215
00:55:16,920 --> 00:55:17,360
Speaker 5: Wow.

1216
00:55:18,040 --> 00:55:21,400
Speaker 4: Well, I feel horrible that my girlfriend went through this harassment.

1217
00:55:21,560 --> 00:55:23,399
Speaker 4: There's a certain peace of mind that I have knowing

1218
00:55:23,560 --> 00:55:26,359
Speaker 4: she doesn't work with them anymore. She already blocked him

1219
00:55:26,400 --> 00:55:28,759
Speaker 4: on all socials, and she did collect evidence of my

1220
00:55:28,880 --> 00:55:31,600
Speaker 4: harassing her. He was stood enough to try something at work,

1221
00:55:32,000 --> 00:55:35,400
Speaker 4: where a couple other coworkers saw and overheard. Thankfully, my

1222
00:55:35,480 --> 00:55:37,320
Speaker 4: girlfriend is perfectly fine and safe.

1223
00:55:37,440 --> 00:55:37,759
Speaker 3: We love.

1224
00:55:38,560 --> 00:55:40,959
Speaker 4: Mike did get into her personal space, which did piss

1225
00:55:41,040 --> 00:55:44,839
Speaker 4: me off, but my girlfriend handled it. So Yeah, while

1226
00:55:44,880 --> 00:55:47,560
Speaker 4: I trusted my girlfriend regardless of what Mike tried, I

1227
00:55:47,719 --> 00:55:50,400
Speaker 4: still feel like a weight got off me, and it

1228
00:55:50,400 --> 00:55:52,279
Speaker 4: would be a weight off my shoulders. If you joined

1229
00:55:52,320 --> 00:55:54,800
Speaker 4: us live every weekd at three pm FST. It absolutely

1230
00:55:54,840 --> 00:56:00,399
Speaker 4: wistaf relevant comments. Commoner one says, that's so as time

1231
00:56:00,400 --> 00:56:03,800
Speaker 4: he got fired, that's the best thing that could have happened.

1232
00:56:03,880 --> 00:56:06,040
Speaker 4: I'm sorry your girlfriend had to put up with some crap,

1233
00:56:06,200 --> 00:56:08,759
Speaker 4: but it's so great she is trustworthy and got him

1234
00:56:08,760 --> 00:56:11,560
Speaker 4: in trouble instead of just ignoring it. That should give

1235
00:56:11,680 --> 00:56:13,960
Speaker 4: you some great relief. Mike is an a hole. I

1236
00:56:14,040 --> 00:56:16,040
Speaker 4: can't believe he's tried to start something with her and

1237
00:56:16,160 --> 00:56:18,879
Speaker 4: did something so unhinged that he got himself fired. Yeah,

1238
00:56:19,000 --> 00:56:22,640
Speaker 4: what a dumb butt. And Op says, from what my

1239
00:56:22,719 --> 00:56:24,480
Speaker 4: girlfriend told me, this wasn't the first time he got

1240
00:56:24,520 --> 00:56:27,800
Speaker 4: reprimended for this kind of stuff. I guess this was

1241
00:56:27,920 --> 00:56:30,160
Speaker 4: just the final straw. Then, God, Mike is out of

1242
00:56:30,280 --> 00:56:33,520
Speaker 4: their lives. Also just I mean, not even for Op's

1243
00:56:33,560 --> 00:56:36,120
Speaker 4: peace of mind or his girlfriend's piece of mind, because

1244
00:56:36,120 --> 00:56:37,319
Speaker 4: she has been harassed by this guy.

1245
00:56:37,880 --> 00:56:39,120
Speaker 5: He's johnio Og host here.

1246
00:56:39,120 --> 00:56:40,480
Speaker 1: We're gonna get back to the stories, but he's a

1247
00:56:40,560 --> 00:56:42,360
Speaker 1: quick three minute break of ass when our sponsors.

1248
00:56:43,480 --> 00:56:46,200
Speaker 4: My wife freaked out of the foreign exchange student we're hosting.

1249
00:56:46,440 --> 00:56:49,520
Speaker 4: Now she's furious that I didn't back her up. I

1250
00:56:49,840 --> 00:56:52,840
Speaker 4: fifty two male and my wife forty seven female, already

1251
00:56:52,880 --> 00:56:56,280
Speaker 4: of three kids, thirteen male, thirteen female, and twenty female.

1252
00:56:56,719 --> 00:56:58,640
Speaker 4: But a few months back we felt like we could

1253
00:56:58,760 --> 00:57:00,920
Speaker 4: use a breath of fresh air, so we signed up

1254
00:57:01,000 --> 00:57:03,359
Speaker 4: to take a foreign exchange student for a year. By

1255
00:57:03,400 --> 00:57:05,600
Speaker 4: the way, this comes from Sweet No. Six four three

1256
00:57:05,719 --> 00:57:08,840
Speaker 4: four on the Best of Redditor updates separate it. So

1257
00:57:09,120 --> 00:57:11,520
Speaker 4: we got a sixteen year old Swedish girl that I

1258
00:57:11,560 --> 00:57:12,320
Speaker 4: will call Sarah.

1259
00:57:12,920 --> 00:57:15,600
Speaker 2: We got a sixteen year old Swedish girl. God like

1260
00:57:15,760 --> 00:57:18,200
Speaker 2: you went to the adoption centator like for a dog.

1261
00:57:18,520 --> 00:57:20,440
Speaker 4: I think it's also funny based off the title that

1262
00:57:20,600 --> 00:57:23,160
Speaker 4: this woman had beef with a sixteen year old Swedish girl.

1263
00:57:23,320 --> 00:57:26,160
Speaker 5: Yeah, hey, well you know the Swedes can get nasty, can.

1264
00:57:26,240 --> 00:57:29,040
Speaker 4: They can fight dirty? And she has worked very well

1265
00:57:29,400 --> 00:57:32,200
Speaker 4: and she's very open and honest and loves to share

1266
00:57:32,240 --> 00:57:34,400
Speaker 4: how things are in Sweden from how different they are

1267
00:57:34,560 --> 00:57:37,440
Speaker 4: in the US. It was her birthday just a few

1268
00:57:37,520 --> 00:57:40,120
Speaker 4: days ago, so we gathered around the laptop while she

1269
00:57:40,240 --> 00:57:43,760
Speaker 4: was facetiming her family and they started singing in Swedish.

1270
00:57:43,880 --> 00:57:47,720
Speaker 4: But the song was particularly longer and more repetitive. So

1271
00:57:47,920 --> 00:57:49,800
Speaker 4: after the call, I asked her about it, and she

1272
00:57:49,920 --> 00:57:53,080
Speaker 4: explained that some families in Sweden sing a song where

1273
00:57:53,080 --> 00:57:56,200
Speaker 4: they talk about hanging and drowning the birthday person after

1274
00:57:56,240 --> 00:57:57,080
Speaker 4: they turn one hundred.

1275
00:57:57,480 --> 00:58:01,960
Speaker 2: Okay, yeah this sweetee swets backed this up, back this

1276
00:58:02,120 --> 00:58:03,120
Speaker 2: up the sweets.

1277
00:58:03,480 --> 00:58:06,240
Speaker 4: My wife overheard this and started to get annoyed because,

1278
00:58:06,280 --> 00:58:10,160
Speaker 4: in her words, it was inappropriate and extremely disrespect to

1279
00:58:10,360 --> 00:58:13,480
Speaker 4: her household when she's sang that without her knowing. My

1280
00:58:13,600 --> 00:58:16,840
Speaker 4: wife isn't naturally sensitive to bad language or words, but

1281
00:58:16,920 --> 00:58:18,920
Speaker 4: when she was born, she had a sixty year old

1282
00:58:19,000 --> 00:58:22,920
Speaker 4: dad that when he was ninety six. Oh no, oh no,

1283
00:58:23,640 --> 00:58:26,440
Speaker 4: when he was ninety six, So she is more conscious

1284
00:58:26,480 --> 00:58:29,680
Speaker 4: about how elderly people can feel just before they're going

1285
00:58:29,760 --> 00:58:31,680
Speaker 4: to die. And she felt like the song was making

1286
00:58:31,760 --> 00:58:35,120
Speaker 4: fun of people when they're old and six sick. That's

1287
00:58:35,240 --> 00:58:38,120
Speaker 4: so funny. She's like, I had a ninety six year

1288
00:58:38,120 --> 00:58:38,760
Speaker 4: old dad, and.

1289
00:58:38,840 --> 00:58:43,200
Speaker 5: He and and he exactly how the song describes. A

1290
00:58:43,280 --> 00:58:46,480
Speaker 5: group of Swedish people found him hung him up by

1291
00:58:46,480 --> 00:58:49,400
Speaker 5: a tree the river. This is such a case of

1292
00:58:49,520 --> 00:58:51,200
Speaker 5: like what you don't know can't hurt you.

1293
00:58:51,280 --> 00:58:53,600
Speaker 2: It's like they were singing a Swedish song you don't

1294
00:58:53,680 --> 00:58:56,000
Speaker 2: know the language, and then once you found out what

1295
00:58:56,080 --> 00:58:59,560
Speaker 2: it was, then again the retroactive like, oh I'm I

1296
00:58:59,560 --> 00:59:00,240
Speaker 2: would have been so.

1297
00:59:00,320 --> 00:59:00,960
Speaker 5: Mad if I knew.

1298
00:59:01,400 --> 00:59:03,680
Speaker 4: Also something that you can't get mad at, like a

1299
00:59:03,920 --> 00:59:06,280
Speaker 4: song that is, you know, sung in a different person's culture.

1300
00:59:06,520 --> 00:59:08,520
Speaker 5: Yeah, and it's clearly a joke.

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00:59:08,640 --> 00:59:09,640
Speaker 4: It's clearly a joke.

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00:59:09,720 --> 00:59:11,600
Speaker 5: It's clearly I don't think they do that to people

1303
00:59:11,640 --> 00:59:12,960
Speaker 5: who turn one hundred in Sweden.

1304
00:59:13,440 --> 00:59:16,040
Speaker 4: Me and the twins were embarrassed while standing there, so

1305
00:59:16,120 --> 00:59:18,240
Speaker 4: I asked her to calm down, that it's just a

1306
00:59:18,280 --> 00:59:20,840
Speaker 4: sweetish joke song that isn't even meant in that way,

1307
00:59:21,240 --> 00:59:24,320
Speaker 4: but she started ranting about it, how it was her

1308
00:59:24,400 --> 00:59:27,760
Speaker 4: house too and she shouldn't be afflicted to such derogatory

1309
00:59:27,880 --> 00:59:31,680
Speaker 4: language behind her back. Sarah obviously felt bad, tried to

1310
00:59:31,720 --> 00:59:34,800
Speaker 4: apologize and that she didn't mean to be disrespectful in

1311
00:59:34,880 --> 00:59:36,840
Speaker 4: that way, and that it was just her family singing

1312
00:59:36,880 --> 00:59:39,840
Speaker 4: the song. But my wife just stormed out and yelled

1313
00:59:39,840 --> 00:59:41,760
Speaker 4: how she couldn't believe we had taken in a girl

1314
00:59:41,840 --> 00:59:44,760
Speaker 4: from such a cruel fan. Oh my god, dude, if

1315
00:59:44,800 --> 00:59:47,800
Speaker 4: you can't handle the heat, get out of the kitchen.

1316
00:59:47,880 --> 00:59:50,360
Speaker 4: You can't be an like a host family if you're

1317
00:59:50,360 --> 00:59:54,240
Speaker 4: gonna be like this. These cultural differences infuriate me.

1318
00:59:54,560 --> 00:59:56,320
Speaker 5: Feels like wife, he was having a bad day and

1319
00:59:56,640 --> 00:59:58,640
Speaker 5: maybe who knows, maybe could have been thinking.

1320
00:59:58,480 --> 01:00:01,240
Speaker 4: About her great dad, her ninety six year old.

1321
01:00:01,160 --> 01:00:03,880
Speaker 2: Dad recently, and then that comes up, and then it's yeah,

1322
01:00:03,880 --> 01:00:05,280
Speaker 2: it's a whole cost eighty six.

1323
01:00:05,720 --> 01:00:07,360
Speaker 4: I tried to talk to her in a room that

1324
01:00:07,560 --> 01:00:09,880
Speaker 4: right after I assured Sarah that she didn't do anything

1325
01:00:09,920 --> 01:00:12,280
Speaker 4: wrong and to just pay no mind. My wife was

1326
01:00:12,320 --> 01:00:15,120
Speaker 4: apparently more upset for me, at me for not supporting

1327
01:00:15,720 --> 01:00:18,720
Speaker 4: and agreeing with her, and started to cry about how

1328
01:00:18,720 --> 01:00:20,640
Speaker 4: I knew what she had gone through concerning her father

1329
01:00:20,800 --> 01:00:24,120
Speaker 4: but didn't back her up. The house had been extremely tense,

1330
01:00:24,360 --> 01:00:26,240
Speaker 4: especially when all of us are in the same room.

1331
01:00:26,720 --> 01:00:29,360
Speaker 4: But I really don't understand how a Swedish song could

1332
01:00:29,400 --> 01:00:32,360
Speaker 4: make her so upset. But I'm wondering if I should

1333
01:00:32,360 --> 01:00:36,000
Speaker 4: have taken my wife's side and been more sympathetic. Am

1334
01:00:36,160 --> 01:00:36,919
Speaker 4: I the a hole?

1335
01:00:37,040 --> 01:00:39,600
Speaker 2: And there are some comments I don't say you're the

1336
01:00:39,680 --> 01:00:44,320
Speaker 2: a hole, But like everybody knows, happy wife, happy life,

1337
01:00:44,680 --> 01:00:48,440
Speaker 2: h sometimes you just gotta have her back, even if

1338
01:00:48,480 --> 01:00:51,120
Speaker 2: you know, like yeah, but I'm imagine to try to

1339
01:00:51,200 --> 01:00:53,360
Speaker 2: discuss that later being like, yeah, I had your back,

1340
01:00:53,400 --> 01:00:55,840
Speaker 2: but like also like what we gotta make this girl

1341
01:00:55,880 --> 01:00:56,960
Speaker 2: comfortable at least.

1342
01:00:56,880 --> 01:00:58,280
Speaker 4: I don't know, but I feel like if he had

1343
01:00:58,320 --> 01:01:00,560
Speaker 4: her back in front of this poor little sixteen year

1344
01:01:00,560 --> 01:01:03,960
Speaker 4: old host girl who's already away from her family, I

1345
01:01:04,080 --> 01:01:05,880
Speaker 4: feel like it would be really hard on her. Like,

1346
01:01:05,960 --> 01:01:08,440
Speaker 4: let's say, in this scenario, she goes off, She's like,

1347
01:01:08,480 --> 01:01:10,040
Speaker 4: how dare you say that? And he's like, you know

1348
01:01:10,080 --> 01:01:12,720
Speaker 4: what gotta say. You can't be saying those things in

1349
01:01:12,840 --> 01:01:15,160
Speaker 4: my house. God agree with the wife, and this poor

1350
01:01:15,200 --> 01:01:17,400
Speaker 4: little sixteen year old's like, damn, I was just singing

1351
01:01:17,440 --> 01:01:19,080
Speaker 4: a happy birthday song with my family.

1352
01:01:19,320 --> 01:01:21,680
Speaker 5: It would certainly take a lot of finesse.

1353
01:01:21,880 --> 01:01:24,480
Speaker 2: It would be a very taxic thing you have to

1354
01:01:24,560 --> 01:01:26,760
Speaker 2: do to be able to take the wibside, Yeah, to

1355
01:01:26,840 --> 01:01:29,480
Speaker 2: make them both happy. Like OPI's wife, he just has

1356
01:01:29,560 --> 01:01:33,960
Speaker 2: some real hang ups with like her dad. Yeah, therapy,

1357
01:01:34,200 --> 01:01:37,840
Speaker 2: her dad must have been like really upset about being old.

1358
01:01:38,360 --> 01:01:38,560
Speaker 4: Yeah.

1359
01:01:39,120 --> 01:01:41,560
Speaker 2: I have a slew of different family members who are, like,

1360
01:01:41,760 --> 01:01:43,640
Speaker 2: you know, in different ages, and it's like they take

1361
01:01:43,640 --> 01:01:46,480
Speaker 2: it differently. It's like some are very yeah, flipping and

1362
01:01:46,560 --> 01:01:48,720
Speaker 2: kind of funny about it. In some are a little

1363
01:01:48,840 --> 01:01:49,560
Speaker 2: sadder about it.

1364
01:01:49,640 --> 01:01:51,760
Speaker 4: But I think it is also like a different thing

1365
01:01:51,800 --> 01:01:54,560
Speaker 4: to be like an old parent. Yeah, you know when

1366
01:01:54,600 --> 01:01:57,040
Speaker 4: you have when you like. She said that he was

1367
01:01:57,120 --> 01:01:59,520
Speaker 4: sixty when he had her. Yeah, I say it is

1368
01:01:59,520 --> 01:02:02,280
Speaker 4: a different, different dynamic. Commeder says, your wife was still

1369
01:02:02,360 --> 01:02:04,720
Speaker 4: upset that a ninety seven year old died. I mean

1370
01:02:04,800 --> 01:02:07,080
Speaker 4: it was her father, but come on, the poor Swedish

1371
01:02:07,160 --> 01:02:09,760
Speaker 4: kid didn't do it behind your wife's back anyway. Was

1372
01:02:09,840 --> 01:02:11,880
Speaker 4: your wife jealous that the girl was getting attention on

1373
01:02:11,960 --> 01:02:14,720
Speaker 4: her birthday? Because this certainly got the attention back on

1374
01:02:14,920 --> 01:02:17,800
Speaker 4: your wife. Opie says, yes, I don't believe Sarah did

1375
01:02:17,840 --> 01:02:19,920
Speaker 4: anything wrong as well, and I'm also a bit mad

1376
01:02:19,960 --> 01:02:22,000
Speaker 4: at my wife, But it was more of her how

1377
01:02:22,080 --> 01:02:24,520
Speaker 4: her father was suffering, and that he himself said that

1378
01:02:24,640 --> 01:02:26,840
Speaker 4: he didn't want to keep living. I think then that

1379
01:02:26,960 --> 01:02:28,840
Speaker 4: when my wife heard the meaning of the song, she

1380
01:02:29,000 --> 01:02:32,240
Speaker 4: interpreted differently and it triggered an emotion for her. Another

1381
01:02:32,320 --> 01:02:34,720
Speaker 4: commoner says, growing up she had a sixty year old

1382
01:02:34,800 --> 01:02:37,280
Speaker 4: dad that died when he was ninety six. What the

1383
01:02:37,520 --> 01:02:40,240
Speaker 4: f am I reading? Opie says her dad was sixty

1384
01:02:40,320 --> 01:02:43,080
Speaker 4: when she was born. Commeder says, sorry, I totally got

1385
01:02:43,120 --> 01:02:45,320
Speaker 4: distracted when you said her dad was sixty years years

1386
01:02:45,320 --> 01:02:47,320
Speaker 4: old when she was born. How old was her mom?

1387
01:02:47,520 --> 01:02:49,800
Speaker 4: Opie says, I think her mom was around twenty eight

1388
01:02:49,920 --> 01:02:54,080
Speaker 4: or something. Yeah, big age gap. And one more commoner says,

1389
01:02:54,520 --> 01:02:56,760
Speaker 4: is it possible that she could have felt threatened of

1390
01:02:56,920 --> 01:02:59,080
Speaker 4: this girl in the house? Does she feel like you're

1391
01:02:59,120 --> 01:02:59,760
Speaker 4: attracted her?

1392
01:03:00,240 --> 01:03:03,640
Speaker 5: WHOA excuse me, that's a whole issue itself.

1393
01:03:03,760 --> 01:03:07,640
Speaker 2: Right, that's a bag of beans. You want to keep

1394
01:03:07,680 --> 01:03:10,320
Speaker 2: that bag of beans in a dry storage closet?

1395
01:03:11,800 --> 01:03:14,280
Speaker 4: He says, she's sixteen and living under my house. So no,

1396
01:03:14,520 --> 01:03:17,400
Speaker 4: I don't think my wife feels threatened. Just because she's

1397
01:03:17,440 --> 01:03:19,720
Speaker 4: a young Swedish girl doesn't mean I would fawn over

1398
01:03:19,800 --> 01:03:22,080
Speaker 4: her or endanger her. Don't make assumptions like that.

1399
01:03:22,840 --> 01:03:28,160
Speaker 5: We all know the young Swedish girl stereotype because she

1400
01:03:28,840 --> 01:03:29,480
Speaker 5: doesn't mean.

1401
01:03:30,160 --> 01:03:34,480
Speaker 4: There is an update from the next day, But yeah,

1402
01:03:34,520 --> 01:03:36,120
Speaker 4: I think that. I don't know. I think I still

1403
01:03:36,120 --> 01:03:38,200
Speaker 4: have the mind that you just need to have a

1404
01:03:38,280 --> 01:03:41,640
Speaker 4: conversation with his wife and figure out what why she's

1405
01:03:41,720 --> 01:03:42,920
Speaker 4: taken it so hard.

1406
01:03:42,920 --> 01:03:45,560
Speaker 5: I'd be concerned about the wife. He said, he's mad.

1407
01:03:45,600 --> 01:03:47,800
Speaker 5: I'd be more like like, like, what's got you?

1408
01:03:50,160 --> 01:03:53,120
Speaker 4: You know? Update though, I have read all of the comments.

1409
01:03:53,240 --> 01:03:55,240
Speaker 4: I was even up late at night to read them all,

1410
01:03:55,720 --> 01:03:58,440
Speaker 4: and I'm very thankful that so many people gave their

1411
01:03:58,480 --> 01:04:01,040
Speaker 4: input all my situation. I first talked to my wife

1412
01:04:01,120 --> 01:04:03,480
Speaker 4: this morning and showed her some of the comments after

1413
01:04:03,600 --> 01:04:06,960
Speaker 4: last night. At first, she was best I wrote out

1414
01:04:07,040 --> 01:04:09,600
Speaker 4: our personal information, but I explained that I didn't write

1415
01:04:09,600 --> 01:04:12,400
Speaker 4: anything that could trace back to us, and she calmed down.

1416
01:04:12,720 --> 01:04:14,840
Speaker 4: I first want to mention that, no, my wife is

1417
01:04:14,920 --> 01:04:17,080
Speaker 4: not jealous of Sarah in that way, and I'm not

1418
01:04:17,200 --> 01:04:20,040
Speaker 4: attracted to Sarah since some comments said that, And also

1419
01:04:20,120 --> 01:04:23,480
Speaker 4: my wife is not psychotic or narcissistic. I agree it

1420
01:04:23,600 --> 01:04:25,360
Speaker 4: was a horrible way to treat a guest, and we

1421
01:04:25,440 --> 01:04:28,480
Speaker 4: have already talked to our organization and they are currently

1422
01:04:28,600 --> 01:04:31,400
Speaker 4: looking for a new host family for Sarah. But yeah,

1423
01:04:31,400 --> 01:04:33,680
Speaker 4: I mean, I understand why Sarah might not feel comfortable

1424
01:04:33,680 --> 01:04:34,160
Speaker 4: anymore with you.

1425
01:04:34,280 --> 01:04:36,160
Speaker 2: I'd kind of be like a beden Nails or not

1426
01:04:36,200 --> 01:04:38,920
Speaker 2: a betaen nails, eggshells walking on nails.

1427
01:04:39,080 --> 01:04:41,400
Speaker 4: Yeah, my wife is still upset, but is starting to

1428
01:04:41,400 --> 01:04:45,280
Speaker 4: feel incredibly guilty and has apologized, but I understand that

1429
01:04:45,400 --> 01:04:47,840
Speaker 4: no amount of sorry will make Sarah feel safe again.

1430
01:04:48,040 --> 01:04:50,320
Speaker 4: Tensions are still high, but I showed Sarah some of

1431
01:04:50,360 --> 01:04:53,280
Speaker 4: the comments and she finds it hilarious and comforting. And

1432
01:04:53,440 --> 01:04:56,040
Speaker 4: I again assured Sarah that she didn't do anything wrong

1433
01:04:56,240 --> 01:04:59,200
Speaker 4: and dark children's songs are in every culture and don't

1434
01:04:59,320 --> 01:05:02,760
Speaker 4: harm anything one And to answer some other questions, No,

1435
01:05:03,440 --> 01:05:06,560
Speaker 4: my wife doesn't usually do this, and she was starting

1436
01:05:06,640 --> 01:05:08,440
Speaker 4: to panic when I talked to her about what she

1437
01:05:08,520 --> 01:05:11,600
Speaker 4: actually said. And now Sarah probably felt being trapped in

1438
01:05:11,680 --> 01:05:13,920
Speaker 4: her house in a foreign country. I also showed her

1439
01:05:14,000 --> 01:05:16,720
Speaker 4: the true meaning of the song by one of the comments,

1440
01:05:16,760 --> 01:05:18,840
Speaker 4: which caused her to almost have a panic attack, and

1441
01:05:18,920 --> 01:05:21,520
Speaker 4: I needed to guide her through. We will investigate this

1442
01:05:21,640 --> 01:05:23,760
Speaker 4: further since I know some of you have theories about

1443
01:05:23,800 --> 01:05:26,080
Speaker 4: how it could be metopause, so we'll be looking into that.

1444
01:05:26,360 --> 01:05:26,600
Speaker 7: Again.

1445
01:05:26,800 --> 01:05:28,520
Speaker 4: Thank you for the advice on how to face this,

1446
01:05:28,760 --> 01:05:30,240
Speaker 4: but I want to mention that a lot of people

1447
01:05:30,280 --> 01:05:32,520
Speaker 4: assumed a lot of horrible things about my wife and

1448
01:05:32,640 --> 01:05:34,040
Speaker 4: I wanted to clear it up.

1449
01:05:34,240 --> 01:05:35,280
Speaker 5: Yeah, the internet will do that.

1450
01:05:35,560 --> 01:05:37,720
Speaker 2: The Internet will do The Internet will immediately dump to

1451
01:05:37,920 --> 01:05:40,920
Speaker 2: psychopath narcissist, yam, she hates all Swedish people.

1452
01:05:41,320 --> 01:05:43,520
Speaker 4: You're attracted to the sixteen year old girl. But there

1453
01:05:43,600 --> 01:05:46,320
Speaker 4: is two comments to finish the story off. One commenter says,

1454
01:05:46,520 --> 01:05:50,240
Speaker 4: so you showed Sarah the comments. She found it hilarious

1455
01:05:50,280 --> 01:05:52,479
Speaker 4: and now you and she have a little inside choke

1456
01:05:52,560 --> 01:05:55,840
Speaker 4: at your wife's expense. Sure, your wife had an inappropriate

1457
01:05:55,880 --> 01:05:57,720
Speaker 4: reaction to the song, but you've talked it out and

1458
01:05:57,800 --> 01:06:01,920
Speaker 4: she apologized. You're working on finding a better situation for Sarah.

1459
01:06:02,040 --> 01:06:04,760
Speaker 4: Why go behind your wife's back. Maybe you really are

1460
01:06:04,840 --> 01:06:08,120
Speaker 4: attracted her. That's a crazy response. That's the wild and

1461
01:06:08,200 --> 01:06:11,640
Speaker 4: Op says, no, I showed her the comments talking about

1462
01:06:11,640 --> 01:06:13,840
Speaker 4: Swedish culture and the ones that were nice to her.

1463
01:06:14,040 --> 01:06:16,080
Speaker 4: I didn't talk badly to her behind my wife. I

1464
01:06:16,200 --> 01:06:19,200
Speaker 4: only explained that she didn't do anything wrong. Disgusting assumption.

1465
01:06:19,440 --> 01:06:22,120
Speaker 4: There was a top comment explaining what the song was about.

1466
01:06:22,280 --> 01:06:25,680
Speaker 4: Oh okay, Narwal says, not the a hole. Here's the joke.

1467
01:06:25,960 --> 01:06:28,400
Speaker 4: First verse, may she live for one hundred years? Of

1468
01:06:28,520 --> 01:06:31,240
Speaker 4: course she'll live for one hundred years. Second verse. When

1469
01:06:31,280 --> 01:06:33,400
Speaker 4: she has lived for one hundred years, then she will

1470
01:06:33,440 --> 01:06:36,400
Speaker 4: be pushed the Swedish word for push. Is the same

1471
01:06:36,440 --> 01:06:40,160
Speaker 4: as shot on a wheelbarrow m Third verse, when she

1472
01:06:40,240 --> 01:06:43,160
Speaker 4: has been pushed on a wheelbarrow, then she will be

1473
01:06:43,280 --> 01:06:46,160
Speaker 4: hung upon a horse. Fourth verse. When she's been hung

1474
01:06:46,360 --> 01:06:48,520
Speaker 4: upon a horse, she will be drowned in a lake

1475
01:06:48,560 --> 01:06:51,600
Speaker 4: of Champagne. It is incredibly harmless and only becomes morbid

1476
01:06:51,680 --> 01:06:53,920
Speaker 4: once the person reaches their eighties, when the first verse

1477
01:06:54,000 --> 01:06:56,840
Speaker 4: becomes in effect. If not, in fact, may she live

1478
01:06:56,920 --> 01:06:57,880
Speaker 4: for another twenty years.

1479
01:06:57,920 --> 01:06:59,920
Speaker 5: At least they sing a birthday saw