WEBVTT - Ep 232 - They Don't Want Us To Know This 0:00:16.160 --> 0:00:20.720 Hey, hey, hey, I hit my my my lamp because 0:00:20.760 --> 0:00:26.200 I feel free a little. Yeah, last one, I'm free 0:00:26.200 --> 0:00:29.160 from his his snack demands for the next hour. 0:00:29.600 --> 0:00:31.000 Wait, who is snack demands? 0:00:31.680 --> 0:00:32.400 Superman like? 0:00:32.440 --> 0:00:36.879 So he got his he got foot surgery because low key, 0:00:36.960 --> 0:00:38.240 high key he has hammertoes. 0:00:41.120 --> 0:00:46.800 I don't related podcast Macho one of the leads, right, 0:00:46.920 --> 0:00:47.400 he did not. 0:00:47.360 --> 0:00:49.480 Listen to podcast. So if y'all see him in the streets, 0:00:49.479 --> 0:00:50.159 don't you tell him? 0:00:50.200 --> 0:00:50.840 I told y'all. 0:00:51.800 --> 0:00:53.480 So, so he was like, oh, you know, I'm gonna 0:00:53.520 --> 0:00:55.360 get you know, get them get you get one foot 0:00:55.360 --> 0:00:55.840 at a time. 0:00:56.400 --> 0:00:58.560 But he really can't walk. He's a boot. He's to 0:00:58.600 --> 0:00:59.440 basically stay. 0:01:00.080 --> 0:01:02.480 You know, you pretty stay, you know, like he can 0:01:02.520 --> 0:01:04.760 go from place to place, but with his crutches, but 0:01:04.840 --> 0:01:06.880 him has to basically stay in one place. And so 0:01:07.640 --> 0:01:11.199 it's been like, hey, can you bring me water? I'm 0:01:11.240 --> 0:01:16.200 like here, yes, I am. I feel like, you know, 0:01:16.360 --> 0:01:19.160 morning you tonight. I'm like, do you always. 0:01:18.840 --> 0:01:19.600 Eat this much? 0:01:21.360 --> 0:01:21.520 Wait? 0:01:21.560 --> 0:01:23.760 It's only one foot though? Does he not have crutches? 0:01:23.920 --> 0:01:24.680 Or he does? 0:01:24.720 --> 0:01:26.720 But honestly, you know, we we have a we have 0:01:26.760 --> 0:01:29.280 three floors. So it's honestly like seeing him come down 0:01:29.280 --> 0:01:30.160 the stairs and crutches. 0:01:30.319 --> 0:01:32.679 I'm like, uh, you know what, just staying here because 0:01:32.840 --> 0:01:34.880 so you're going up and down three floors. 0:01:35.560 --> 0:01:37.800 Yeah, and it's honestly really hard. So I know, so 0:01:37.840 --> 0:01:39.600 it's hard for him. I mean, so he does come down. 0:01:39.640 --> 0:01:41.200 I would say he comes down like once a day, 0:01:41.600 --> 0:01:44.440 but it's too much to go, Like, he can't go up, down, up, down. 0:01:44.800 --> 0:01:47.520 So I'm like, I'm having to bring up breakfast, lunch, dinner, 0:01:47.560 --> 0:01:50.320 and snacks and I'm sorry. I try to like, you know, 0:01:50.400 --> 0:01:53.520 pack him, like, hey, so all these snacks, this is 0:01:53.560 --> 0:01:54.440 really to last you. 0:01:54.520 --> 0:01:57.160 So I'm gonna need you to budget you're eating. 0:01:59.080 --> 0:02:01.720 I felt bad because he called me like a like 0:02:01.760 --> 0:02:03.280 an hour ago, was like hello. 0:02:03.560 --> 0:02:04.720 Wet to see there you go. 0:02:05.240 --> 0:02:08.200 See maybe he knows so crazy by Suman even when 0:02:08.240 --> 0:02:11.600 he can't knock on the door to push through, he's like, 0:02:11.720 --> 0:02:12.720 I'm still there. 0:02:16.360 --> 0:02:18.639 I'll sound for you. That should be your ring tone 0:02:18.680 --> 0:02:21.280 his text tone for him, just the sound of a 0:02:21.360 --> 0:02:24.920 door opening. I'm hiding in my basement right now. This 0:02:24.960 --> 0:02:28.840 is new for me. I'm hying because well this is 0:02:29.000 --> 0:02:31.679 we've we've been working on fixing up the basement, and 0:02:31.880 --> 0:02:33.560 I think what I'm going to do well. I already 0:02:33.600 --> 0:02:35.680 have the peloton down here. That's what started it. As 0:02:35.680 --> 0:02:38.160 soon as a woman wanted to be down here being me, 0:02:38.919 --> 0:02:41.359 I was like, this is this is inhabitable for endie 0:02:41.440 --> 0:02:43.080 human life. We have got to fix it up because 0:02:43.080 --> 0:02:45.320 this is where you know, Husby comes down here and 0:02:45.320 --> 0:02:48.040 does his little projects and I don't know what he does. 0:02:48.120 --> 0:02:50.200 He has like a so no speaker installed, he has 0:02:50.360 --> 0:02:53.000 you know, his tool area set up. I'm taking over 0:02:53.040 --> 0:02:54.760 this joint. He does not even know it, but the 0:02:54.760 --> 0:02:57.520 peloton's here. Now, I'm going to set up my podcasting area. 0:02:58.080 --> 0:03:00.320 I'm going to set up my YouTube area. And this 0:03:00.400 --> 0:03:01.480 is gonna be Mandyland. 0:03:03.760 --> 0:03:05.760 It's a man cave. Is just she she shed. 0:03:06.360 --> 0:03:08.680 He's got it. I mean he's fine. He has his 0:03:08.720 --> 0:03:11.799 little he still has his don't like he has his 0:03:11.800 --> 0:03:14.359 his little corner of the basement, but he also has 0:03:14.400 --> 0:03:17.600 the shed and he's he's gonna be fine. I need this. 0:03:17.840 --> 0:03:20.120 I need this space for myself. It really does feel 0:03:20.120 --> 0:03:21.880 like when I close that door and I walk down 0:03:21.880 --> 0:03:25.799 here to this damp, dingy you know, like mosquito and 0:03:26.120 --> 0:03:29.280 fly ridden basement, it feels like I'm just taking a 0:03:29.280 --> 0:03:32.520 big sigh relief, and the Peloton's been good. But it's 0:03:32.600 --> 0:03:35.320 just like, I don't know, there's so little sick you 0:03:35.320 --> 0:03:37.320 don't really have. It's kind of sad that this is 0:03:37.360 --> 0:03:40.040 my safe space, like my me time space, but I 0:03:40.120 --> 0:03:42.640 need it. And he gets to go in the city. 0:03:42.760 --> 0:03:44.680 And I say he gets to go, but you know, 0:03:44.680 --> 0:03:46.240 he goes into the city a couple days a week. 0:03:46.280 --> 0:03:49.920 And I just I just I just fantasize about what 0:03:49.960 --> 0:03:51.760 he listens to you on the train. I'm like, what 0:03:51.800 --> 0:03:53.720 did you what did you think about for those forty 0:03:53.760 --> 0:03:57.800 minutes of uninterrupted silence? What did you listen to? And 0:03:57.840 --> 0:03:59.520 I get mad when he doesn't do anything, I'm like, 0:03:59.560 --> 0:04:01.360 what do you he and you had forty minutes to 0:04:01.400 --> 0:04:06.200 sit there and you didn't listen to anything or do anything. Anyway, 0:04:06.400 --> 0:04:08.520 he's he's being good about it, and he's actually excited 0:04:08.560 --> 0:04:10.600 because it, you know, fixing up the basement means he 0:04:10.600 --> 0:04:13.320 gets to use tools and stuff. So I hope, I 0:04:13.400 --> 0:04:15.440 hope it looks cute all sudden. I'll post a pick 0:04:15.480 --> 0:04:16.200 when it's done. 0:04:16.640 --> 0:04:19.200 No, I would love to see yeah, because as you know, 0:04:19.960 --> 0:04:23.440 Sugarman's he has his man cake. But for his fortieth 0:04:23.440 --> 0:04:24.520 one of the things I was supposed to do. I 0:04:24.560 --> 0:04:27.440 just have been dragging my feet. Is I'm deck you know, 0:04:27.480 --> 0:04:29.800 I'm getting it all decked out. Like he loves movies. 0:04:29.800 --> 0:04:31.640 So there's like two parts. One part we're going to 0:04:31.680 --> 0:04:33.680 make it to like a movie theater and the other 0:04:33.720 --> 0:04:36.720 part like a even though he doesn't drink, but kind 0:04:36.720 --> 0:04:38.960 of like a I guess, like a bar. I guess, 0:04:39.320 --> 0:04:41.760 like so they can play cards. Yeah, I mean he 0:04:41.800 --> 0:04:42.279 doesn't nothing. 0:04:42.279 --> 0:04:43.680 He doesn't drink at all, but he's not really like 0:04:43.680 --> 0:04:45.479 he's like, you know, the occasional beer with my friends 0:04:45.520 --> 0:04:46.120 come over guy. 0:04:46.360 --> 0:04:48.359 Yeah, but still like we would have, like I was 0:04:48.360 --> 0:04:51.000 gonna get a Neon signed because his nickname is Twin, 0:04:51.320 --> 0:04:58.960 you know, because black people are very literal because he's Twine. 0:04:59.360 --> 0:05:00.680 No, he's gonna nicknames. 0:05:00.680 --> 0:05:03.080 They're also not being Bobby because when they're little they 0:05:03.080 --> 0:05:07.200 had such not be these because my husband's really so 0:05:07.600 --> 0:05:10.040 name not being Bobby because they're like this one has 0:05:10.080 --> 0:05:12.520 not been these and you're his twins, so we're just 0:05:12.520 --> 0:05:13.360 gonna call you Bobby. 0:05:13.520 --> 0:05:14.360 Can you imagine? 0:05:14.640 --> 0:05:17.080 I mean, okay, whatever, I know. 0:05:17.320 --> 0:05:19.920 So yeah, So so yeah, I was gonna get a 0:05:19.920 --> 0:05:23.240 sign that at twins place, and like so Rihanna. 0:05:22.960 --> 0:05:25.040 Because everything is not just for him, it's for his 0:05:25.040 --> 0:05:27.640 his his twin too, Like that's what you were saying, Like. 0:05:27.960 --> 0:05:29.880 Yeah, kind of so that way that he doesn't feel 0:05:29.880 --> 0:05:32.320 even though right now they're like whatever, you know how 0:05:32.320 --> 0:05:34.880 it is, Well, I don't know, you don't have uh 0:05:35.200 --> 0:05:37.800 two kids yet, but boys sometimes are just like what 0:05:38.040 --> 0:05:39.479 do you mean, like a, you're not friends? 0:05:39.480 --> 0:05:41.400 Are your friends? Are you're not friends? Okay, you're not 0:05:41.440 --> 0:05:44.320 friends right now? Okay, but no. 0:05:44.400 --> 0:05:47.440 But I'm excited about Like I can understand the appeal 0:05:47.480 --> 0:05:50.960 because while he's been upstairs, you know, buzzing my phone 0:05:51.040 --> 0:05:53.800 for random food, I had been sneaking into the man 0:05:53.880 --> 0:05:54.920 cave getting my life like. 0:05:54.880 --> 0:05:56.040 It was cute down here. 0:05:56.160 --> 0:05:59.480 So you you get some space for yourself, my friend, 0:05:59.640 --> 0:06:01.760 make some them down there for you, even if it's 0:06:01.800 --> 0:06:05.200 like a little a little reading area. I'm really excited. 0:06:05.279 --> 0:06:06.919 I'm going to make it like a little reading corner 0:06:07.160 --> 0:06:09.640 and make it kind of sin. I have all these ideas. 0:06:09.640 --> 0:06:11.920 I've been on Pinterest all the time. 0:06:11.960 --> 0:06:14.359 I took half of it for my gym that I 0:06:14.360 --> 0:06:14.880 don't use. 0:06:15.440 --> 0:06:17.279 Well, then makes something you do use, yeah, like a 0:06:17.279 --> 0:06:21.520 little meditation room or I don't know whatever, Just yeah, 0:06:22.000 --> 0:06:24.480 you should have a space for yourself, go out. 0:06:24.360 --> 0:06:25.599 Of the whole house is for me. I'm not gonna 0:06:25.760 --> 0:06:28.719 have my own office. I have like we Yeah, He's 0:06:28.720 --> 0:06:30.200 always like everything here is for you. 0:06:30.320 --> 0:06:30.960 Make it is. 0:06:31.360 --> 0:06:32.520 That's different. 0:06:33.880 --> 0:06:38.520 Well I'm not so like joyful news Black Panther passed 0:06:38.520 --> 0:06:39.240 away chat. 0:06:39.480 --> 0:06:42.760 That was the segue. That was like the segue for 0:06:42.800 --> 0:06:44.480 the age, the twenty twenty segue. 0:06:44.720 --> 0:06:46.000 Just I don't even know what to say. 0:06:46.080 --> 0:06:48.520 It's no, I know the abrupt but the abruptness of 0:06:48.600 --> 0:06:49.400 it just like. 0:06:49.440 --> 0:06:51.440 Yeah, it's like I was. 0:06:51.600 --> 0:06:55.640 I remember it was like late was it was? It 0:06:54.960 --> 0:06:58.600 was it was late night and I saw my WhatsApp 0:06:58.720 --> 0:07:01.560 chat someone said Chad it. They wrote his name and 0:07:01.600 --> 0:07:05.560 like question mark, explamation, exclamation. I was like, wait, what 0:07:05.560 --> 0:07:07.720 what do those words mean? And I looked them like 0:07:07.760 --> 0:07:09.080 there's no way. So I googled it and. 0:07:09.040 --> 0:07:10.160 I was like what is what? 0:07:11.760 --> 0:07:14.520 Yeah, it was. I was talking to a really good 0:07:14.520 --> 0:07:16.400 friend of mine who I haven't talked to, and I 0:07:16.480 --> 0:07:19.440 mean in a good conversation like over a year. Shout 0:07:19.440 --> 0:07:21.040 out to Kevin who listens to the show. I'm helping 0:07:21.080 --> 0:07:23.400 him consolidates some credit card to Hey, that's what happened 0:07:23.400 --> 0:07:24.960 to me. Call me after a year. I'm like, so, 0:07:25.080 --> 0:07:27.760 let's talk about your personal finances. But in the middle 0:07:27.800 --> 0:07:31.120 of the conversation, he said, Chadwick and I feel like 0:07:31.200 --> 0:07:34.000 these days were you know, I'm kind of waiting for 0:07:34.360 --> 0:07:37.440 oh hey, Molly girl, I'm kind of waiting for tragic 0:07:37.680 --> 0:07:40.840 tragedy to strike. But it was it was the same 0:07:40.840 --> 0:07:42.600 feeling I got when I when I found out about 0:07:42.640 --> 0:07:45.840 Kobe and I just saw what I saw something on 0:07:45.880 --> 0:07:48.760 Twitter on Instagram somebody posted it was the same similar 0:07:48.760 --> 0:07:51.000 It was like Kobe question mark. And then I was 0:07:51.000 --> 0:07:54.560 like please, no, please, no, dear lord, no. Chadwick hit me. 0:07:54.560 --> 0:07:57.720 I mean I was, as you know, like everyone knows 0:07:57.800 --> 0:08:01.800 Kobe and my little brother love. I mean, he my 0:08:01.880 --> 0:08:04.600 poor brother. He really has been grieving for Kobe. He 0:08:04.680 --> 0:08:06.480 was always a fan of Lakers and Kobe he met 0:08:06.480 --> 0:08:08.960 when he was a kid, and all this stuff. Chadwick, 0:08:09.000 --> 0:08:13.640 for me, it hit me a little bit deeper, especially 0:08:13.720 --> 0:08:17.400 because Black Panther just I don't think, I mean, I 0:08:17.400 --> 0:08:19.200 did realize how meaningful it was to me when I 0:08:19.240 --> 0:08:21.320 left that theater. You know how the end of Black Panther, 0:08:21.440 --> 0:08:26.080 when he's he and his sister. Are they come back 0:08:26.120 --> 0:08:28.800 to I think it's California. Uh, And they see some 0:08:28.920 --> 0:08:31.600 kids playing like a basketball court or something like that, 0:08:32.120 --> 0:08:34.560 and he shows up. What do you call that? I'm 0:08:34.640 --> 0:08:37.960 just like not good at my his like space space machine, 0:08:38.000 --> 0:08:40.760 I don't know, his rocket ship. He shows up and 0:08:40.800 --> 0:08:44.240 the kids are in awe of this, you know, this 0:08:44.320 --> 0:08:47.120 black man and woman who are so powerful, and that 0:08:47.160 --> 0:08:49.960 feeling that you left the theater with that electrics. For me, 0:08:50.040 --> 0:08:53.120 it was it was so different. I left so motivated. 0:08:53.160 --> 0:08:57.520 I left so excited to raise a brown baby and 0:08:57.559 --> 0:08:59.800 for every black kid. And I just left so excited 0:08:59.840 --> 0:09:03.720 to have this black hero, this black af superhero movie 0:09:03.800 --> 0:09:08.360 unapologetically black out there and that. And it's not just 0:09:08.440 --> 0:09:11.320 that movie, but he he was. He was supposed to 0:09:11.320 --> 0:09:13.280 have so much more time. I feel like he was. 0:09:14.040 --> 0:09:16.520 He was like the next coming of Denzel Washington, like 0:09:16.559 --> 0:09:22.040 he was, you know, and it it it's it's really 0:09:22.120 --> 0:09:24.679 really tragic. And the fact that he was doing it 0:09:24.720 --> 0:09:30.880 in private, you know, fighting cancer in private, and so yeah, 0:09:30.920 --> 0:09:33.600 so it just fucking strong. He had to be so 0:09:33.600 --> 0:09:34.200 strong to. 0:09:34.080 --> 0:09:36.800 Do that, and people were I remember when all of 0:09:36.800 --> 0:09:38.800 a sudden I saw that he was losing a lot 0:09:38.800 --> 0:09:40.240 of weight, and I remember thinking maybe he's doing it 0:09:40.280 --> 0:09:42.600 for I just kind of kept in my. 0:09:42.520 --> 0:09:44.880 Mind like, wow, Tabook was looking really skinny. I said, oh, 0:09:44.920 --> 0:09:46.200 maybe for a role. And I left it. 0:09:46.240 --> 0:09:48.520 But I evenized that people were really he had to turn 0:09:48.520 --> 0:09:51.720 off his comments and delete pictures off his Instagram because 0:09:51.720 --> 0:09:54.439 people were really going in about his way. 0:09:54.480 --> 0:09:57.000 It just goes to show you never know, I. 0:09:56.960 --> 0:10:02.480 Didn't know that people were like like comment and oh 0:10:02.520 --> 0:10:05.160 my god, I hadn't really seen photos of him in 0:10:05.160 --> 0:10:10.400 a minute. That's you don't know what someone's private struggle is. 0:10:10.480 --> 0:10:14.640 And I mean, and I really you know, when I 0:10:14.679 --> 0:10:16.320 was trying to think of the message we could send 0:10:16.320 --> 0:10:20.160 to you know, through brown ambition, all they can say 0:10:20.280 --> 0:10:22.760 is you just it's just a reminder you don't know 0:10:22.800 --> 0:10:24.960 what someone's private struggle is. And you've and we've got 0:10:25.040 --> 0:10:28.320 to try to be empathetic. And you know, it's not 0:10:28.440 --> 0:10:31.960 about us knowing every detail about everyone in our circles lives, 0:10:31.960 --> 0:10:34.160 but it's about you know, reach out to those five 0:10:34.320 --> 0:10:37.079 people that you you know, we're close with, maybe you 0:10:37.080 --> 0:10:39.280 haven't talked to in a while, and you know, see 0:10:39.280 --> 0:10:42.040 if they need anything or they want to talk. I 0:10:42.040 --> 0:10:44.480 I don't know. It makes me want to. It makes 0:10:44.480 --> 0:10:46.439 me want to continue to just keep those lines of 0:10:46.480 --> 0:10:49.839 communication open with my loved ones and to be kind, 0:10:51.040 --> 0:10:54.840 be kind. The world needs more kindness, more kindness, Well 0:10:55.240 --> 0:10:59.640 rest and power. Chadwick Boseman. I know the tributes will 0:10:59.640 --> 0:11:02.520 continue pouring in. We want. My mom is in town, 0:11:02.800 --> 0:11:06.160 speaking of like silver happy happy news. My mom is 0:11:06.200 --> 0:11:09.440 in town. Her and her husband drove here from Saint Louis. 0:11:09.880 --> 0:11:12.760 How many hours was that like? Fourteen hours? Yeah? They 0:11:12.840 --> 0:11:14.960 and you know, because she didn't want to fly and 0:11:15.000 --> 0:11:17.320 all that stuff. But I'm so excited to have her here. 0:11:17.800 --> 0:11:20.360 But they arrived on Saturday, and the first thing we 0:11:20.400 --> 0:11:22.800 did that night was we sat down and watched forty two, 0:11:22.960 --> 0:11:25.400 which was Chadwicks one of his earlier films. I think 0:11:25.440 --> 0:11:28.240 it was twenty thirteen where he played Jesse or sorry 0:11:28.320 --> 0:11:28.920 Jessie Robert. 0:11:29.160 --> 0:11:30.280 Yeah. That was good. 0:11:30.600 --> 0:11:33.600 Yeah, it was good. I hadn't seen it, and I 0:11:33.640 --> 0:11:37.720 want to, you know, I never saw the James Brown. Yes, 0:11:37.800 --> 0:11:39.720 the James Brown movie, and then was good. 0:11:39.880 --> 0:11:42.319 And I'm not really a movie person. Me and Superman 0:11:42.400 --> 0:11:44.520 watched it and I was like, that was so good. 0:11:44.600 --> 0:11:45.560 It's really good. 0:11:45.600 --> 0:11:49.040 I mean, he he nailed it. You were just like, Wow, 0:11:49.120 --> 0:11:49.800 what a talent. 0:11:50.200 --> 0:11:52.560 I didn't know you could even sing. I saw some 0:11:52.600 --> 0:11:54.360 clips of him singing. I'm like, of course he could. 0:11:54.360 --> 0:11:56.760 It is just all the things. 0:11:56.920 --> 0:11:58.600 And then you know, Danzel like paid for him to 0:11:58.679 --> 0:12:00.200 like get acting classes. 0:12:00.559 --> 0:12:02.200 Yeah, I remember that story. 0:12:02.880 --> 0:12:08.160 If you guys haven't watched Google Chadwick Boseman, Uh, Denzel 0:12:09.440 --> 0:12:12.200 lifetime achievement speech, it's just like two and a half minutes, 0:12:12.200 --> 0:12:15.839 but it's just so powerful and beautiful, and it's you 0:12:15.920 --> 0:12:20.000 see that he's visibly slim, slimmer. It's after Black Panther 0:12:20.080 --> 0:12:23.040 and everything else and the tribute he gives Denzel. Really 0:12:23.320 --> 0:12:24.920 it's just so moving. 0:12:26.200 --> 0:12:28.600 And just the power of kindness and what it can 0:12:28.679 --> 0:12:32.760 how it can transform someone's life. So it's on YouTube. Yeah, 0:12:32.960 --> 0:12:34.560 it's just an amazing speech. 0:12:35.760 --> 0:12:40.360 It's beautiful. Our hearts go out to I mean my 0:12:40.400 --> 0:12:42.680 heart definitely goes out to his family, and it just 0:12:42.720 --> 0:12:45.800 makes you think again about losing Kobe this year and 0:12:46.040 --> 0:12:48.959 please just no more, no more. 0:12:49.600 --> 0:12:49.720 Uh. 0:12:50.240 --> 0:12:53.160 And I mean you also think about the people whose 0:12:53.720 --> 0:12:57.040 deaths have been you know, not covered quiet COVID one 0:12:57.120 --> 0:12:59.400 hundred and eighty thousand people that have died. It's you know, 0:12:59.520 --> 0:13:02.320 this year is this year. I mean, it will fund 0:13:02.360 --> 0:13:06.160 it. It was gonna change, it will change the country. Ye, 0:13:06.320 --> 0:13:08.520 it already has. But I don't I don't think we 0:13:08.640 --> 0:13:11.840 realize quite yet. How will never It'll never be the same. 0:13:12.280 --> 0:13:15.800 I hope not, you know, And I hope that there's 0:13:15.800 --> 0:13:17.440 a lot of good that comes out of the lessons 0:13:17.440 --> 0:13:20.880 we've learned, you know, in quarantine, through this pandemic. But 0:13:20.880 --> 0:13:24.480 it's kind of overwhelming to think of how dramatically things 0:13:24.520 --> 0:13:29.280 have changed. I'm so good my mommy is here because 0:13:29.280 --> 0:13:29.640 I can. 0:13:29.559 --> 0:13:32.839 Hug her no exactly, and that's really if anything that 0:13:32.920 --> 0:13:36.280 it has taught us is to hug and hold tight 0:13:36.320 --> 0:13:39.040 to your loved ones. I spent way more time on 0:13:39.080 --> 0:13:42.680 the phone and in person with my loved ones now, 0:13:42.720 --> 0:13:43.079 more than. 0:13:43.040 --> 0:13:46.559 Ever, just because you just realize that's what's most important. 0:13:46.960 --> 0:13:49.640 Yeah, one hundred percent. And I actually am hugging my mother. 0:13:49.840 --> 0:13:51.920 I had we had a moment where we were like, Okay, 0:13:52.000 --> 0:13:53.480 is there gonna be masks? Are we going to be 0:13:53.600 --> 0:13:57.600 no distance? And I think, you know, New York's rates 0:13:57.600 --> 0:14:00.920 are so low right now. I think we've had twenty 0:14:00.920 --> 0:14:02.920 straight days where the rate of COVID has been less 0:14:02.960 --> 0:14:07.240 than one percent, and anyway we've questioned, you know, we've 0:14:07.280 --> 0:14:09.240 all been really careful and everything like that. But I 0:14:09.280 --> 0:14:12.440 think I am dipping my toe back into some sense 0:14:12.480 --> 0:14:16.720 of normalcy. I I it feels good. You know, there's 0:14:16.720 --> 0:14:20.360 still that undercurrent of anxiety like is this okay? Like 0:14:20.520 --> 0:14:23.440 what's going to happen? But it just feels really good 0:14:23.440 --> 0:14:25.240 to have her here and to see her with Rio 0:14:25.560 --> 0:14:29.040 and and I'm not gonna lie. The free child care 0:14:29.200 --> 0:14:33.920 is it is not hurting I. Uh so, I'm really 0:14:33.920 --> 0:14:37.400 glad to have her this week. I love it. Well, 0:14:37.440 --> 0:14:39.280 let's we talk about today's show a little bit. 0:14:40.080 --> 0:14:43.840 Yeah, real quick it did you buy any Apple or Tesla? 0:14:44.000 --> 0:14:45.000 You know the stock split? 0:14:46.920 --> 0:14:49.520 We Yeah, my husband really wants to did you have 0:14:49.560 --> 0:14:52.320 you bought any yet? I did? I did get so much. 0:14:52.360 --> 0:14:55.000 I don't tell much how much. 0:14:55.080 --> 0:14:58.880 I made about seven hundred and fifty dollars today. God damn, 0:15:00.080 --> 0:15:02.920 I on that I bought. Because what happened is I 0:15:02.960 --> 0:15:03.840 was like going back and forth. 0:15:03.960 --> 0:15:07.240 I have this like what'sapp chat called wealth wealth what'sapp 0:15:07.320 --> 0:15:09.160 with like my friends who like like to invest and 0:15:09.200 --> 0:15:13.120 also to the Unicorn squad, you know, the people who 0:15:13.280 --> 0:15:15.960 work on my team. We have like an investment slack channel, 0:15:16.160 --> 0:15:19.280 So we were talking about it, getting prepared, and I decided, 0:15:19.360 --> 0:15:21.080 you know, I'm taking the leap. I bought fifty shares 0:15:21.080 --> 0:15:24.600 of Apple and ten shares of Tesla. Apple my fifty yeers, 0:15:24.600 --> 0:15:27.320 I mean, Apple didn't it didn't go up tremendously. Like 0:15:27.360 --> 0:15:30.040 I bought it for one hundred and twenty seven dollars 0:15:30.120 --> 0:15:33.200 and sixty seven cents and now it's at one twenty 0:15:33.320 --> 0:15:36.680 nine and thirty twenty three cents. But really it was Tesla, 0:15:36.680 --> 0:15:38.280 because you know Tesla's so expensive. 0:15:38.680 --> 0:15:39.320 It's Tesla. 0:15:39.520 --> 0:15:43.240 Yeah, yes, I bought it for four hundred and forty 0:15:43.240 --> 0:15:45.000 four dollars or really four hundred forty five dollars and 0:15:45.040 --> 0:15:46.280 it's up to five h nine. 0:15:46.520 --> 0:15:49.560 So Tesla went up twelve and a half percent today. 0:15:50.160 --> 0:15:53.880 So talk about the stock splits. So how are the shares, 0:15:54.320 --> 0:15:58.720 the more affordable shares treated differently than the more expensive shares. 0:15:58.760 --> 0:15:59.640 How does all that work? 0:16:00.360 --> 0:16:02.960 It's not really treated differently. What they're just trying to 0:16:03.000 --> 0:16:06.680 do is to allow people who can't afford the shares 0:16:06.720 --> 0:16:10.240 really to buy, so your shares are still worth the same. 0:16:10.400 --> 0:16:12.840 So what I mean obviously the market has reacted, so 0:16:12.880 --> 0:16:14.960 your shares are not worth the same, but technically they are. 0:16:15.000 --> 0:16:17.320 So let's just say a company has a stock and 0:16:17.360 --> 0:16:19.840 it's one thousand dollars, so these were four these the 0:16:19.840 --> 0:16:22.920 stock was split in four for both Apple and Tesla, 0:16:23.240 --> 0:16:24.720 so it's like, okay, the shares are worth a one 0:16:24.720 --> 0:16:26.120 thousand dollars divided by four. 0:16:26.280 --> 0:16:32.280 So one thousand divided by four is what fifty two fifty, right. 0:16:32.160 --> 0:16:34.840 So that means you now, instead of having one share 0:16:34.840 --> 0:16:37.240 that's worth a thousand, you've got four shares that are 0:16:37.240 --> 0:16:40.040 worth two hundred and fifty dollars a piece. So technically, 0:16:40.080 --> 0:16:44.440 net net, you're even. But because the stock market is 0:16:44.480 --> 0:16:48.760 not based upon facts, it's based upon emotions. Because people 0:16:48.840 --> 0:16:51.880 were like excited, you know, that this was happening. 0:16:52.520 --> 0:16:56.520 It it raised the cost of your one fourth now 0:16:56.960 --> 0:16:59.000 of this new share. So even though you're your. 0:16:58.920 --> 0:17:01.560 One share just a couple of days ago, even before 0:17:02.080 --> 0:17:04.680 the stock split, shares were like prices were growing up, 0:17:05.040 --> 0:17:07.480 you know, because people were like so excited about it. 0:17:07.560 --> 0:17:10.560 So you're one share that was worth two fifty now 0:17:10.600 --> 0:17:14.480 today you know it might be worth two sixty because 0:17:14.520 --> 0:17:16.520 of the excitement that people are having that, you know 0:17:16.560 --> 0:17:20.280 that the shares are more affordable. So stock splits really 0:17:20.320 --> 0:17:23.320 just mean that you have you have a stock that's 0:17:23.359 --> 0:17:26.400 worth the same amount, just in different denominations. How it's 0:17:26.440 --> 0:17:28.840 given to you to allow other people to enter into 0:17:29.200 --> 0:17:31.320 the market as it relates to that particular stock. 0:17:31.720 --> 0:17:33.280 So that's one of the reasons. 0:17:33.040 --> 0:17:34.680 Why I had not bought Apple and Testa like a 0:17:34.760 --> 0:17:38.679 silo pricey. So now you know I was able to 0:17:38.720 --> 0:17:41.400 afford more. I yeah, so I'm excited about it. 0:17:41.600 --> 0:17:44.159 I tell Enrinkue all the time. I'm like, Babe, we 0:17:44.200 --> 0:17:46.560 do have Apple and Tesla's stock. Look at our index funds. 0:17:46.600 --> 0:17:48.560 We got our total stock market index BOM, we got 0:17:48.560 --> 0:17:50.320 our s and P five hundred index fund. He's like, 0:17:50.359 --> 0:17:53.320 that's not the same. But do you remember, I think 0:17:53.359 --> 0:17:55.720 we've actually been recording long enough for us to have 0:17:55.760 --> 0:17:58.040 an episode. There's got to be one from twenty sixteen, 0:17:58.119 --> 0:18:00.000 when we were we were saving up for the wedding. 0:18:00.080 --> 0:18:02.800 We were living with Enrique's parents and he had the 0:18:03.240 --> 0:18:05.000 and I was helping him pay his credit card off, 0:18:05.080 --> 0:18:06.719 you know, credit card debt off that he had on 0:18:06.720 --> 0:18:08.840 his own, you know, as we were just dating back then, 0:18:08.880 --> 0:18:11.840 so he had his own little whatever credit debt, and 0:18:12.200 --> 0:18:15.040 he took a thousand dollars out of the money we 0:18:15.040 --> 0:18:18.679 were setting aside for the wedding. And he at the 0:18:18.720 --> 0:18:20.359 time you had to like pay a thousand dollars to 0:18:20.400 --> 0:18:23.119 reserve or your spot in line for a Tesla, like 0:18:23.359 --> 0:18:25.640 just for the just for like a spot to buy 0:18:25.680 --> 0:18:28.000 one a year from then, he gave a thousand dollars 0:18:28.000 --> 0:18:31.840 of our money away, and I blew up at him. 0:18:31.840 --> 0:18:34.840 I basically made him get it back, and he has 0:18:35.000 --> 0:18:37.880