1 00:00:01,440 --> 00:00:04,080 Speaker 1: It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter. If you 2 00:00:04,160 --> 00:00:07,680 Speaker 1: need advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting, and more, 3 00:00:08,039 --> 00:00:11,559 Speaker 1: please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM dot com 4 00:00:11,560 --> 00:00:14,840 Speaker 1: and click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your 5 00:00:14,920 --> 00:00:17,200 Speaker 1: letter live on the air, just like we're going to 6 00:00:17,280 --> 00:00:20,560 Speaker 1: read this one right here, right now, And you never know, 7 00:00:20,920 --> 00:00:24,320 Speaker 1: this one could be yours. It could be yours. Buckle 8 00:00:24,400 --> 00:00:25,880 Speaker 1: up and hold on tight. We got it for you 9 00:00:25,960 --> 00:00:29,920 Speaker 1: here it is Strawberry Letter. Thank you, nephew. Subject hip 10 00:00:29,960 --> 00:00:33,080 Speaker 1: Hop and Granny. Dear Stephen Shirley. I'm a forty six 11 00:00:33,200 --> 00:00:36,640 Speaker 1: year old married woman with two teenagers. My husband and 12 00:00:36,680 --> 00:00:39,159 Speaker 1: I love all types of music, but hip hop and 13 00:00:39,240 --> 00:00:42,519 Speaker 1: rap will forever be my favorite type of music. I 14 00:00:42,600 --> 00:00:44,839 Speaker 1: was an only child and I spent a lot of 15 00:00:44,880 --> 00:00:47,560 Speaker 1: time with my grandmother when I was a little girl. 16 00:00:47,920 --> 00:00:50,960 Speaker 1: My grandmother loved rap music, so I grew up knowing 17 00:00:51,000 --> 00:00:54,720 Speaker 1: the lyrics to songs and writing around with music blasting 18 00:00:54,760 --> 00:00:57,320 Speaker 1: out of her car. My mother was a wild woman, 19 00:00:57,400 --> 00:00:59,880 Speaker 1: and rightfully so, since she had me when she was 20 00:01:00,080 --> 00:01:03,760 Speaker 1: eighteen years old. My grandmother was all for my mother dating, 21 00:01:03,840 --> 00:01:07,080 Speaker 1: going out to clubs, traveling, and having a life despite 22 00:01:07,120 --> 00:01:10,320 Speaker 1: being a young mom. I'm nothing like that now with 23 00:01:10,360 --> 00:01:13,600 Speaker 1: my teenagers. That wild type of lifestyle worked for my 24 00:01:13,680 --> 00:01:16,120 Speaker 1: mother back in the day because it was a safer 25 00:01:16,160 --> 00:01:19,200 Speaker 1: time and there was no social media to track everything 26 00:01:19,280 --> 00:01:23,280 Speaker 1: you did. My daughter is sixteen and she is always 27 00:01:23,280 --> 00:01:26,680 Speaker 1: at my grandmother's house, which is her great grandma. She 28 00:01:26,840 --> 00:01:29,200 Speaker 1: loves it over there because her great grandma is still 29 00:01:29,280 --> 00:01:32,279 Speaker 1: young at heart and still loves rap music. She knows 30 00:01:32,280 --> 00:01:34,880 Speaker 1: the words to all the latest rap songs, and she's 31 00:01:34,880 --> 00:01:38,759 Speaker 1: got her microbraids done and lots of makeup on. Usually 32 00:01:39,160 --> 00:01:41,840 Speaker 1: everyone loves her, but my mother and I think her 33 00:01:41,880 --> 00:01:45,360 Speaker 1: lifestyle is a bit excessive. I found out that she's 34 00:01:45,440 --> 00:01:47,960 Speaker 1: letting my daughter meet up with boys at her house, 35 00:01:48,080 --> 00:01:50,800 Speaker 1: and my husband has talked with her about respecting our 36 00:01:50,880 --> 00:01:54,880 Speaker 1: rules for our children. I love that my teenagers call 37 00:01:54,960 --> 00:01:58,200 Speaker 1: her the hip hopping granny, and it's a blessing to 38 00:01:58,240 --> 00:02:00,960 Speaker 1: have their great grandma in their lives. But she just 39 00:02:01,120 --> 00:02:03,800 Speaker 1: does too much all of the time. How do I 40 00:02:03,880 --> 00:02:07,160 Speaker 1: convince an eighty two year old woman to stop negatively 41 00:02:07,200 --> 00:02:14,720 Speaker 1: influencing my children? Please help well, hip hop and granny, Yeah, 42 00:02:14,800 --> 00:02:17,720 Speaker 1: that's the subject. Well, this one is not easy because 43 00:02:17,840 --> 00:02:20,560 Speaker 1: you know your grand is eighty two years old, and 44 00:02:20,600 --> 00:02:23,480 Speaker 1: you know it is hard to tell an eighty two 45 00:02:23,560 --> 00:02:26,639 Speaker 1: year old what to do, period on any level. I mean, 46 00:02:26,680 --> 00:02:28,800 Speaker 1: they feel like they've lived their lives and you can't 47 00:02:28,800 --> 00:02:32,040 Speaker 1: tell them anything. They've earned the right. I don't care 48 00:02:32,040 --> 00:02:34,360 Speaker 1: if it's your child you're talking about or whatever it is. 49 00:02:34,440 --> 00:02:36,960 Speaker 1: That's just how they feel at that age. You can't 50 00:02:37,040 --> 00:02:40,040 Speaker 1: run granny's house. And I'm sure you've even heard this before. 51 00:02:40,880 --> 00:02:44,000 Speaker 1: You know, this is my house, my house, my rules. Okay, 52 00:02:44,560 --> 00:02:47,119 Speaker 1: you've talked to your grandmother, I'm sure, and you said 53 00:02:47,160 --> 00:02:49,840 Speaker 1: your husband has talked to her about it about, you know, 54 00:02:49,919 --> 00:02:54,240 Speaker 1: respecting the rules that you have for your children. And 55 00:02:54,280 --> 00:02:57,080 Speaker 1: I know you're most concerned about the boys, and you 56 00:02:57,080 --> 00:03:02,040 Speaker 1: should be concerned, but you gotta I just say, you 57 00:03:02,120 --> 00:03:04,519 Speaker 1: got to trust to just because your grandmother is young 58 00:03:04,560 --> 00:03:07,320 Speaker 1: at heart and she listens to wrap and she wears 59 00:03:07,360 --> 00:03:10,960 Speaker 1: micro braids that you know, you got to think that 60 00:03:11,040 --> 00:03:14,160 Speaker 1: she's not irresponsible when it comes to your kids and 61 00:03:14,280 --> 00:03:19,120 Speaker 1: her great grandkids. I think she's paying attention to what's 62 00:03:19,160 --> 00:03:21,360 Speaker 1: going on in her house, and that's probably why she 63 00:03:21,440 --> 00:03:23,840 Speaker 1: lets the boys come over there to the house so 64 00:03:23,880 --> 00:03:25,960 Speaker 1: she can see what they're gonna do so she can 65 00:03:26,000 --> 00:03:28,840 Speaker 1: see what's going on. I mean, you spend a lot 66 00:03:28,840 --> 00:03:31,400 Speaker 1: of time with your grandmother, and yes, times were different then, 67 00:03:31,680 --> 00:03:34,000 Speaker 1: but you turned out fine. You spend a lot of 68 00:03:34,040 --> 00:03:38,600 Speaker 1: time at your granny's house. Times are different, and your 69 00:03:38,600 --> 00:03:42,360 Speaker 1: grandmother hasn't changed. Times may have changed, what your grandmother 70 00:03:42,440 --> 00:03:44,720 Speaker 1: hasn't changed. I think you need to stay involved like 71 00:03:44,760 --> 00:03:48,960 Speaker 1: you've been doing, keep the lines of communication open, or 72 00:03:49,280 --> 00:03:51,840 Speaker 1: you know, your other alternative is to ban the kids 73 00:03:51,840 --> 00:03:53,560 Speaker 1: from going over there, and I don't think you want 74 00:03:53,560 --> 00:03:56,000 Speaker 1: to do that. I mean, you know those are the choices. 75 00:03:56,040 --> 00:03:58,200 Speaker 1: But I think if you keep the communication open, let 76 00:03:58,200 --> 00:04:01,240 Speaker 1: the grandmother know what you would you will and won't do. 77 00:04:01,560 --> 00:04:04,000 Speaker 1: You know, as far as your children go, I think 78 00:04:04,000 --> 00:04:06,560 Speaker 1: it'll be okay, But do it nicely. She is eighty 79 00:04:06,560 --> 00:04:10,720 Speaker 1: two years old, Steve, your grandmama too damn old for this. 80 00:04:16,080 --> 00:04:22,880 Speaker 1: Make this announcement clear. Your grandmama, it's too damn old 81 00:04:22,920 --> 00:04:29,440 Speaker 1: for this. Now, let me explain something to you. I 82 00:04:29,640 --> 00:04:33,600 Speaker 1: first got introduced to hip hop in nineteen seventy seven. 83 00:04:34,640 --> 00:04:37,919 Speaker 1: I'm not saying that's when it was born. I'm saying 84 00:04:38,000 --> 00:04:45,640 Speaker 1: that's when I was introduced to it. Hip hop, Hotel, 85 00:04:46,400 --> 00:04:50,279 Speaker 1: hip to hip hop, to hop to hop. I said, 86 00:04:50,480 --> 00:04:53,440 Speaker 1: when I heard it played at a party, why are 87 00:04:53,440 --> 00:04:57,960 Speaker 1: they playing this? But it's okay. This won't last long 88 00:04:58,400 --> 00:05:03,000 Speaker 1: because ain't nobody Ain't you said that. That's what my 89 00:05:03,080 --> 00:05:07,240 Speaker 1: dumb ass said when I first heard hip hop. This 90 00:05:08,440 --> 00:05:14,400 Speaker 1: will not like this ain't gonna last They not even 91 00:05:14,440 --> 00:05:17,640 Speaker 1: say it. Ain'tybody fit to do this hill? That was 92 00:05:17,720 --> 00:05:21,599 Speaker 1: my prediction for hip hop. Hip Hop has turned out 93 00:05:21,600 --> 00:05:29,960 Speaker 1: to be the single largest music genera ever created. It's 94 00:05:30,040 --> 00:05:36,360 Speaker 1: that big. They have created more millionnaires. I gotta take 95 00:05:36,400 --> 00:05:39,440 Speaker 1: my hat off the hip hop. They've done some great things. 96 00:05:39,560 --> 00:05:42,400 Speaker 1: They've gone in the wrong direction over the years, gangster 97 00:05:42,520 --> 00:05:46,159 Speaker 1: rapp and stuff like that, But overall, hip hop has 98 00:05:46,200 --> 00:05:52,040 Speaker 1: created a bunch of millionnaires. They've created some creative minds. 99 00:05:53,520 --> 00:05:56,919 Speaker 1: That was in nineteen seventy seven. I was exactly twenty 100 00:05:57,000 --> 00:05:58,800 Speaker 1: years old when I first heard it, and I'm not 101 00:05:58,800 --> 00:06:00,839 Speaker 1: saying that's when hip hop was one is probably born 102 00:06:00,880 --> 00:06:03,000 Speaker 1: before that. When we hit the radio ways and it 103 00:06:03,080 --> 00:06:06,960 Speaker 1: came down to Ohio, I was twenty. I predicted the 104 00:06:07,000 --> 00:06:10,560 Speaker 1: demise of it. Show what I know about hip hop 105 00:06:11,160 --> 00:06:14,839 Speaker 1: culture that has become. But your Grandmama's too damn old 106 00:06:14,839 --> 00:06:17,839 Speaker 1: to help your grandmother out. When I come back, Sister 107 00:06:17,880 --> 00:06:21,120 Speaker 1: Odale will be here, Oh Lord, to deal with this 108 00:06:21,240 --> 00:06:26,880 Speaker 1: letter and any questions anybody might have to the great 109 00:06:26,920 --> 00:06:32,640 Speaker 1: grandmother whose Sister Odale knows called Sister Odale was her 110 00:06:33,040 --> 00:06:38,760 Speaker 1: Sunday school teacher. We were here from Sister Odale when 111 00:06:38,800 --> 00:06:42,120 Speaker 1: we come back concerning this letter. Okay, we'll have part 112 00:06:42,120 --> 00:06:45,080 Speaker 1: two of today's Strawberry Letter coming up at twenty three 113 00:06:45,120 --> 00:06:49,120 Speaker 1: minutes after the hour. The subject is hip hop and Granny. 114 00:06:49,320 --> 00:06:52,720 Speaker 1: We'll get back into it with Sister Odell right after this. 115 00:06:53,440 --> 00:06:58,360 Speaker 1: You're listening show, all right, Steve, come on, let's recap 116 00:06:58,400 --> 00:07:02,960 Speaker 1: today's Strawberry Letter. The subject hip hopping granny state. And 117 00:07:03,160 --> 00:07:05,920 Speaker 1: I was just gonna say, I understand, um, Sister Odell 118 00:07:06,040 --> 00:07:11,200 Speaker 1: is here, but you're said, Steve, Yeah, yeah, I see, Shelly. 119 00:07:11,240 --> 00:07:14,520 Speaker 1: You heard him say that when we came back, Swedie, 120 00:07:14,600 --> 00:07:17,760 Speaker 1: that I was going to be here, but he didn't 121 00:07:18,480 --> 00:07:23,280 Speaker 1: right on and just said Steve, well, Steve's gonna Steve 122 00:07:23,440 --> 00:07:27,560 Speaker 1: is not eighty two. Well what did he know? You 123 00:07:27,680 --> 00:07:30,800 Speaker 1: need somebody with some expertise on this here, all right, 124 00:07:30,920 --> 00:07:33,120 Speaker 1: So you're gonna read. Let me just say good martis 125 00:07:33,160 --> 00:07:39,720 Speaker 1: every was Hey Carlie Sherley, Mississippi with the mouth and 126 00:07:40,560 --> 00:07:48,880 Speaker 1: you're pretty little big foehead girl. Hey Julius Thomas high boy. Yes, ma'am, 127 00:07:49,000 --> 00:07:52,440 Speaker 1: good morning, good morning, good good good. Now, let's just 128 00:07:52,440 --> 00:07:55,640 Speaker 1: get on into this. Explain to me this matter. What 129 00:07:55,720 --> 00:08:00,240 Speaker 1: pieces is? Y'all not clear on Sherley Carlin? Well, anybody sure? 130 00:08:00,280 --> 00:08:04,400 Speaker 1: Odell um? This is about the title is hip hop 131 00:08:04,440 --> 00:08:09,800 Speaker 1: and granny and that they're stupid right there? What title subject? 132 00:08:10,000 --> 00:08:13,680 Speaker 1: You know? She ate it too? Now you haven be 133 00:08:13,680 --> 00:08:16,600 Speaker 1: a hip hop grandfather like my age, because the hip 134 00:08:16,680 --> 00:08:19,960 Speaker 1: hop day was round that in and you know Grainmaster 135 00:08:20,120 --> 00:08:24,240 Speaker 1: Flash all the people's uh. But if you ate it two, 136 00:08:24,320 --> 00:08:26,720 Speaker 1: you was day mommy and daddy trying to stay up 137 00:08:26,720 --> 00:08:29,760 Speaker 1: with them. That I don't even make no sense. Yeah, 138 00:08:29,800 --> 00:08:34,600 Speaker 1: this this woman wrote the letter. It's about her grandmother. Okay, 139 00:08:34,760 --> 00:08:38,040 Speaker 1: she her grandmother raised her pretty much because she said 140 00:08:38,120 --> 00:08:40,240 Speaker 1: her own mother was kind of wild. She was a 141 00:08:40,320 --> 00:08:44,640 Speaker 1: young woman and she had her at eighteen. So she is, 142 00:08:44,640 --> 00:08:48,560 Speaker 1: we're gonna stop the wildness. Well it's it's kind of stopped. 143 00:08:48,840 --> 00:08:50,920 Speaker 1: It's kind of stopped as far as the mother and 144 00:08:51,000 --> 00:08:54,560 Speaker 1: the grandmother are concerned. It's the great grandmother that's the issue. 145 00:08:54,840 --> 00:09:00,160 Speaker 1: The old him, old eighty two year old name bro 146 00:09:00,640 --> 00:09:02,680 Speaker 1: to hip hop granted and set up and put some 147 00:09:02,760 --> 00:09:05,280 Speaker 1: microbaye in a half. I don't know what the braids 148 00:09:05,400 --> 00:09:10,920 Speaker 1: is hanging out on to your shown. He got to 149 00:09:10,960 --> 00:09:12,680 Speaker 1: have some blue down. I'm gonna say right now, if 150 00:09:12,720 --> 00:09:14,640 Speaker 1: you ain't it too trying to put some braids in 151 00:09:14,640 --> 00:09:16,880 Speaker 1: your hair, You're finna put one little bit you got, 152 00:09:17,000 --> 00:09:20,199 Speaker 1: You're finna put it right out your hand and just 153 00:09:20,800 --> 00:09:23,720 Speaker 1: yea root. The roots don't stay long, that ain't it. Two? 154 00:09:23,760 --> 00:09:26,040 Speaker 1: There ain't no strong roots stay up there. But she 155 00:09:26,080 --> 00:09:29,160 Speaker 1: can't go yanking on them. Well, she just said microbrade. 156 00:09:29,160 --> 00:09:31,599 Speaker 1: She didn't say anything about a lace front. Sister of that. 157 00:09:31,840 --> 00:09:34,480 Speaker 1: What I'm saying, you got to attach the Michael bayge 158 00:09:34,600 --> 00:09:37,840 Speaker 1: to something something then, No, you've been wearing the Hallebaby 159 00:09:37,920 --> 00:09:40,200 Speaker 1: haircut for a long time. You don't know the ruse 160 00:09:40,480 --> 00:09:43,680 Speaker 1: had to Oh so you don't have a lot of hass. 161 00:09:43,640 --> 00:09:46,040 Speaker 1: So you just need to stay off of this. I don't, 162 00:09:46,200 --> 00:09:48,760 Speaker 1: I don't. I have a short haircut. That's right, You've 163 00:09:48,800 --> 00:09:51,880 Speaker 1: always had that. You've never tried braids. You tried to 164 00:09:51,920 --> 00:09:54,240 Speaker 1: attract Steve when you first got on the radio and 165 00:09:54,280 --> 00:09:56,959 Speaker 1: you wore them after work, and you didn't know that 166 00:09:57,400 --> 00:09:59,760 Speaker 1: was a big turn off to him. He didn't he 167 00:10:00,000 --> 00:10:02,200 Speaker 1: and care for the afro puffs at all that you 168 00:10:02,240 --> 00:10:05,199 Speaker 1: wore with your little tight dress on that day. Okay, 169 00:10:05,240 --> 00:10:07,520 Speaker 1: this letter is not about me, and you told me 170 00:10:07,600 --> 00:10:10,720 Speaker 1: already that Steve's gone all right, So let's get back 171 00:10:10,760 --> 00:10:13,800 Speaker 1: to the letter. Eighty two year old great grandmother. The 172 00:10:14,000 --> 00:10:17,200 Speaker 1: mother is or the granddaughter is concerned that the grandmother 173 00:10:17,320 --> 00:10:20,760 Speaker 1: is negatively influencing her sixteen years Well she is. If 174 00:10:20,760 --> 00:10:23,480 Speaker 1: she's letting the baby bring boys over to the house. 175 00:10:23,880 --> 00:10:26,440 Speaker 1: You don't do that with no little girl that's sixteen 176 00:10:27,080 --> 00:10:31,800 Speaker 1: bringing boys to the house, right, That ain't right now? 177 00:10:31,880 --> 00:10:35,120 Speaker 1: The great grandmama need to get herself together. You can 178 00:10:35,160 --> 00:10:37,800 Speaker 1: listen to music, but you can't you can't raise kids 179 00:10:37,800 --> 00:10:40,920 Speaker 1: to the music. Yeah, you know, Yeah, the parents have 180 00:10:41,040 --> 00:10:45,400 Speaker 1: spoken to the great grandmother about this. Well you get 181 00:10:45,400 --> 00:10:47,440 Speaker 1: you're speaking to her. You can do more than that. Cook, 182 00:10:48,320 --> 00:10:51,560 Speaker 1: he ate a two shitty, I let the baby go 183 00:10:51,600 --> 00:10:56,040 Speaker 1: over there? Or that organ player in the background noise 184 00:10:59,080 --> 00:11:02,439 Speaker 1: you love that boy's whipping that You know that's a 185 00:11:02,520 --> 00:11:07,600 Speaker 1: Hammond organ. Oh his man, turn it up. Turn it up, 186 00:11:07,679 --> 00:11:21,599 Speaker 1: Davis a little bit a lot of David. He you 187 00:11:21,679 --> 00:11:53,200 Speaker 1: got distracted. Yeah, he's feeling like yeah, hank you Davis. 188 00:11:53,280 --> 00:11:59,400 Speaker 1: Davis wanted boy right there, you don't fall white boy. 189 00:11:59,440 --> 00:12:01,839 Speaker 1: He showed knows how to jump in at the right time. 190 00:12:02,000 --> 00:12:08,760 Speaker 1: He must have been raised in the negro chase. He said, yes, ma'am, 191 00:12:09,320 --> 00:12:11,520 Speaker 1: I know, I know it when I see that. Somebody's 192 00:12:11,520 --> 00:12:15,200 Speaker 1: some Negroes in his family somewhere, But you can't say black. 193 00:12:15,360 --> 00:12:19,000 Speaker 1: You got somebody was pulling him off to the side, 194 00:12:19,040 --> 00:12:21,600 Speaker 1: working with him, and he got way an't too much 195 00:12:21,640 --> 00:12:24,280 Speaker 1: soul for that. I've seen him my stives off saying 196 00:12:24,280 --> 00:12:27,120 Speaker 1: the soul. Even one time, table full of black girls 197 00:12:27,160 --> 00:12:28,800 Speaker 1: was over there here and one of his corneils was 198 00:12:28,920 --> 00:12:31,319 Speaker 1: painted black. I said, this's a tricky little white boy 199 00:12:31,440 --> 00:12:36,600 Speaker 1: right here. Just one of his toneil, one of them 200 00:12:36,640 --> 00:12:39,360 Speaker 1: was black and head ring on. He would buying drinks 201 00:12:39,360 --> 00:12:42,840 Speaker 1: from them systems. I started slide over there myself. I said, 202 00:12:42,840 --> 00:12:51,559 Speaker 1: well right now anyway, anyway, yeah, just on the kid, 203 00:12:51,840 --> 00:12:54,079 Speaker 1: if you're eighty two years old, you need the accage 204 00:12:54,280 --> 00:12:59,800 Speaker 1: at your shoe size. Yes, take care of your time, 205 00:13:02,000 --> 00:13:03,880 Speaker 1: get them wrapped up and get out there. And I 206 00:13:03,960 --> 00:13:06,360 Speaker 1: want to pull some nag on the brown paper bag 207 00:13:06,400 --> 00:13:10,240 Speaker 1: and wrap it up in your throat. What do you listen? 208 00:13:10,360 --> 00:13:12,880 Speaker 1: We gotta go. Sports Talk with Junior is coming up 209 00:13:12,960 --> 00:13:17,079 Speaker 1: right after this. Thank you, sister. Oh you're listening to 210 00:13:17,280 --> 00:13:18,880 Speaker 1: the Dame Harty Morning Show.