1 00:00:00,160 --> 00:00:03,120 Speaker 1: Welcome to Carefully Reckless, the production of our Heart Radio 2 00:00:03,240 --> 00:00:08,520 Speaker 1: and the black effects a nice lit aspects, I still 3 00:00:08,680 --> 00:00:20,119 Speaker 1: a nice still And just like that, we're back on 4 00:00:20,200 --> 00:00:23,239 Speaker 1: the Welcome back to another episode of Carefully Reckless with 5 00:00:23,320 --> 00:00:26,360 Speaker 1: your girl just hilarious. Now Mother's Day just passed, and 6 00:00:26,440 --> 00:00:29,400 Speaker 1: I want to take the time to say Happy Mother's 7 00:00:29,520 --> 00:00:32,120 Speaker 1: Day to all the mothers out there, and even the 8 00:00:32,200 --> 00:00:34,599 Speaker 1: ones who are not with us anymore. And it's rather 9 00:00:34,760 --> 00:00:37,879 Speaker 1: ironic that I'm paying homage to moms because I want 10 00:00:37,920 --> 00:00:41,080 Speaker 1: to dedicate this episode to women and how we need 11 00:00:41,159 --> 00:00:46,000 Speaker 1: to be cherished, whether you're Black, Asian, Hispanic, white, whatever. 12 00:00:46,240 --> 00:00:49,599 Speaker 1: This is about women in general and how we need 13 00:00:49,680 --> 00:00:52,120 Speaker 1: to be cherished and not taking advantage of. So I'm 14 00:00:52,159 --> 00:00:54,040 Speaker 1: gonna tell you a story now. This story time is 15 00:00:54,120 --> 00:00:56,240 Speaker 1: kind of different because this was a story that one 16 00:00:56,240 --> 00:00:59,360 Speaker 1: of my fans told me in Columbia, South Carolina, where 17 00:00:59,400 --> 00:01:02,040 Speaker 1: I just play at the comedy house and it's juicy, 18 00:01:02,280 --> 00:01:04,440 Speaker 1: So grab your tea in your halls because it's story 19 00:01:04,520 --> 00:01:09,119 Speaker 1: time now. She told me I can say her name, 20 00:01:09,160 --> 00:01:10,840 Speaker 1: but I'm not gonna say her name because I had 21 00:01:10,920 --> 00:01:13,520 Speaker 1: the pleasure of meeting her in person and the pleasure 22 00:01:13,560 --> 00:01:16,440 Speaker 1: of seeing her get terry eyed cried, real tear is 23 00:01:16,480 --> 00:01:19,120 Speaker 1: telling me the story. But it all ended beautifully. I 24 00:01:19,160 --> 00:01:21,520 Speaker 1: just want you to know that years and years ago 25 00:01:21,840 --> 00:01:25,039 Speaker 1: she met this guy. She said, everything was great. Now, 26 00:01:25,120 --> 00:01:27,880 Speaker 1: what's been said before. When you meet somebody and it's perfect, 27 00:01:28,319 --> 00:01:31,280 Speaker 1: that's not the person that you're dating. The person that 28 00:01:31,360 --> 00:01:33,480 Speaker 1: you're dating is a person that come out after the 29 00:01:33,560 --> 00:01:37,400 Speaker 1: probation period, after the ninety days, maybe it's even longer 30 00:01:37,440 --> 00:01:39,200 Speaker 1: than that that they can keep the act up of 31 00:01:39,280 --> 00:01:42,120 Speaker 1: the representative. You actually fall in love with the person 32 00:01:42,400 --> 00:01:44,399 Speaker 1: that they show you that they are the first three 33 00:01:44,440 --> 00:01:48,400 Speaker 1: to four months, right, that's their representative. Then outcomes the 34 00:01:48,440 --> 00:01:50,960 Speaker 1: real them, you know, or however long it may take. 35 00:01:51,280 --> 00:01:54,640 Speaker 1: Everything was perfect, she said. Three years down the line 36 00:01:55,000 --> 00:01:57,800 Speaker 1: they got a baby. Now, okay, after the baby is 37 00:01:57,800 --> 00:02:00,240 Speaker 1: when everything went south. And she told me she don't 38 00:02:00,280 --> 00:02:03,040 Speaker 1: think it went south because of the baby. It just 39 00:02:03,240 --> 00:02:06,600 Speaker 1: went south period, because he loves his child, loves his 40 00:02:06,760 --> 00:02:09,359 Speaker 1: child all over his child to this day, you know 41 00:02:09,360 --> 00:02:12,160 Speaker 1: what I'm saying, To his day, he's a great father. 42 00:02:12,600 --> 00:02:14,840 Speaker 1: So it wasn't about the child at all. Let me 43 00:02:14,919 --> 00:02:18,840 Speaker 1: tell you, she said. The intimacy stopped the compliments stopped 44 00:02:19,280 --> 00:02:22,560 Speaker 1: gifts for holidays, stopped. I said, did he become a 45 00:02:22,639 --> 00:02:26,480 Speaker 1: Jehovah's witness? She said, no, everything just kind of stopped. Now. 46 00:02:26,560 --> 00:02:29,360 Speaker 1: He didn't become a bum. He kept working, always had 47 00:02:29,360 --> 00:02:31,600 Speaker 1: a job, always had a ship together. You know what 48 00:02:31,680 --> 00:02:34,720 Speaker 1: I'm saying, car, all of that. You know, they bought 49 00:02:34,760 --> 00:02:37,000 Speaker 1: a house together. When they first met, they lived separately. 50 00:02:37,200 --> 00:02:40,480 Speaker 1: They bought a house together. They both worked great jobs. 51 00:02:40,840 --> 00:02:46,960 Speaker 1: They were doing good individually individually, but together they started falling. 52 00:02:47,400 --> 00:02:50,320 Speaker 1: He wasn't making her laugh no more, he was less charming, 53 00:02:50,639 --> 00:02:53,280 Speaker 1: he didn't really want to touch her. Sex didn't last 54 00:02:53,360 --> 00:02:56,000 Speaker 1: that long, all of that, so she immediately thought that 55 00:02:56,040 --> 00:02:59,000 Speaker 1: he was cheating. She suspected it. It never came out 56 00:02:59,120 --> 00:03:01,359 Speaker 1: that he was. Of course, you do to going through 57 00:03:01,400 --> 00:03:04,560 Speaker 1: the phone thing. She never found anything. Did the snoop 58 00:03:04,639 --> 00:03:06,959 Speaker 1: and ship never found anything. So she was led to 59 00:03:07,000 --> 00:03:08,919 Speaker 1: believe he was not cheating because she could not prove it. 60 00:03:09,360 --> 00:03:12,799 Speaker 1: So she let that go. Fast forward three more years later, 61 00:03:13,040 --> 00:03:16,079 Speaker 1: this is six years. They've been together now, three good 62 00:03:16,200 --> 00:03:20,520 Speaker 1: years in three trying years. So she said, by this time, 63 00:03:21,160 --> 00:03:23,840 Speaker 1: it wasn't even I love yous and I missus, or 64 00:03:23,919 --> 00:03:26,480 Speaker 1: you look beautiful. It was none of that. She had 65 00:03:26,520 --> 00:03:28,600 Speaker 1: to say it first. That was the only way he 66 00:03:28,760 --> 00:03:31,400 Speaker 1: was gonna say I love you or I miss you 67 00:03:31,760 --> 00:03:33,359 Speaker 1: is if he was putting two on the end of it, 68 00:03:33,440 --> 00:03:35,560 Speaker 1: because she said it first. So we all know how 69 00:03:35,640 --> 00:03:39,800 Speaker 1: that feels. She also expressed me that she was feeling unappreciated. 70 00:03:39,960 --> 00:03:43,560 Speaker 1: She was being taken for granted, like she was just there. 71 00:03:43,760 --> 00:03:46,480 Speaker 1: After a while, she said, it felt like being with 72 00:03:46,640 --> 00:03:49,960 Speaker 1: a roommate. They were just roommates. It came down to 73 00:03:50,120 --> 00:03:53,840 Speaker 1: no sex her seventh year, her family had to get together. Now. 74 00:03:53,920 --> 00:03:56,240 Speaker 1: He was always involved with her family, and he still 75 00:03:56,320 --> 00:03:59,440 Speaker 1: went to outings with her. They just didn't interact behind 76 00:03:59,520 --> 00:04:01,960 Speaker 1: closed the wars at home. They were just like two 77 00:04:02,040 --> 00:04:05,960 Speaker 1: mad home girls who lived together. Never talked, didn't mingle, 78 00:04:06,080 --> 00:04:09,040 Speaker 1: didn't watch TV together. I'm talking about nothing. She said. 79 00:04:09,080 --> 00:04:11,960 Speaker 1: He would cook, wouldn't make her plate. He would cook 80 00:04:12,000 --> 00:04:14,280 Speaker 1: because he can cook. He would cook, wouldn't make a plate. 81 00:04:14,320 --> 00:04:15,640 Speaker 1: She would have to go and make her own plate. 82 00:04:15,680 --> 00:04:17,560 Speaker 1: He would not sit down and eat with her like 83 00:04:17,720 --> 00:04:20,480 Speaker 1: boyfriend and girlfriend, like a family. They didn't. They wouldn't 84 00:04:20,480 --> 00:04:23,520 Speaker 1: do that anymore. He just started doing things by his lonesome. 85 00:04:24,040 --> 00:04:26,680 Speaker 1: There at the family get together. One of her cousins 86 00:04:26,839 --> 00:04:29,640 Speaker 1: got proposed to not too long before they get together, 87 00:04:30,000 --> 00:04:33,280 Speaker 1: so all the couples, of course, started talking about marriage 88 00:04:33,360 --> 00:04:37,320 Speaker 1: and everything, and the cousin asked him, a dumb when 89 00:04:37,320 --> 00:04:40,360 Speaker 1: you're gonna marry my cousin, y'all see babies, more babies 90 00:04:40,360 --> 00:04:43,000 Speaker 1: in the future, and the wedding bells, she said. He 91 00:04:43,080 --> 00:04:48,479 Speaker 1: shrugged his shoulders and threw his hands up, scared the funk. 92 00:04:48,520 --> 00:04:51,440 Speaker 1: I asked you a question, whether it's I don't see 93 00:04:51,480 --> 00:04:54,720 Speaker 1: wedding bells, whether it's yes, of course I'm gonna get married, nigger, 94 00:04:54,800 --> 00:04:56,760 Speaker 1: You could have lied to paint the picture instead of 95 00:04:56,880 --> 00:04:59,200 Speaker 1: embarrassing her, missed them in d C. You know what 96 00:04:59,240 --> 00:05:02,000 Speaker 1: I'm saying, Just a little bit, be like, oh she 97 00:05:02,160 --> 00:05:04,599 Speaker 1: already baby, don't do you already know when we getting 98 00:05:04,600 --> 00:05:06,880 Speaker 1: married or something? Even if you have to play like 99 00:05:07,040 --> 00:05:10,200 Speaker 1: that just to save her the embarrassment, you already ain't there. Mentally, 100 00:05:10,520 --> 00:05:13,640 Speaker 1: she'd been feeling it for four years now. She knew 101 00:05:13,920 --> 00:05:16,200 Speaker 1: in that moment that was it for her. She told 102 00:05:16,240 --> 00:05:18,680 Speaker 1: me that was the last night she ever wanted to 103 00:05:18,760 --> 00:05:20,520 Speaker 1: be with him. That was the last night she ever 104 00:05:20,640 --> 00:05:22,880 Speaker 1: wanted to pull up to the same house with him. 105 00:05:22,960 --> 00:05:25,120 Speaker 1: That was the last time she ever wanted to be 106 00:05:25,320 --> 00:05:29,440 Speaker 1: with that man period. She left him that night. That 107 00:05:29,600 --> 00:05:31,800 Speaker 1: was two years ago. To this day, he is trying 108 00:05:31,920 --> 00:05:34,320 Speaker 1: to get her back. She ain't trying to go back. 109 00:05:34,480 --> 00:05:36,160 Speaker 1: She was weak at her. She even told me she 110 00:05:36,279 --> 00:05:39,920 Speaker 1: went back before not knowing what our worth was. And 111 00:05:39,960 --> 00:05:42,200 Speaker 1: then she had to leave again because he was good 112 00:05:42,560 --> 00:05:44,479 Speaker 1: when she came back. It was like he was scared 113 00:05:44,520 --> 00:05:45,880 Speaker 1: of losing her, but he didn't want to be with 114 00:05:45,960 --> 00:05:48,279 Speaker 1: her while he was there. That was kind of crazy. Now, 115 00:05:48,320 --> 00:05:50,000 Speaker 1: I know a lot of women are going through that 116 00:05:50,080 --> 00:05:52,320 Speaker 1: ship right now. Hold up, Hold up, I know the 117 00:05:52,360 --> 00:05:54,480 Speaker 1: ship getting good. But listen to just a couple of 118 00:05:54,520 --> 00:05:56,640 Speaker 1: seconds of a commercial. If you love me, you'll listen. 119 00:05:59,680 --> 00:06:02,800 Speaker 1: That brings me to the carefully reckless discussion. A lot 120 00:06:02,880 --> 00:06:04,840 Speaker 1: of women are going through that ship. I know it 121 00:06:05,040 --> 00:06:08,160 Speaker 1: right now. If you're listening, I know you're going through it. 122 00:06:08,320 --> 00:06:12,279 Speaker 1: I've been through it. You know where you feel unappreciated 123 00:06:12,400 --> 00:06:15,120 Speaker 1: and most of the time you know you're worth You 124 00:06:15,279 --> 00:06:18,400 Speaker 1: just don't enforce it because, for one, a lot of 125 00:06:18,520 --> 00:06:22,120 Speaker 1: us have bigger hearts than we know. Our heart is big. 126 00:06:22,240 --> 00:06:24,800 Speaker 1: We don't want to leave someone, we don't it's it's 127 00:06:24,839 --> 00:06:28,960 Speaker 1: a lot of reasons why you stay complacent and why 128 00:06:29,120 --> 00:06:32,920 Speaker 1: your relationship is stagnant and it starts to go downhill 129 00:06:33,440 --> 00:06:35,320 Speaker 1: because a lot of people feel like as they get 130 00:06:35,400 --> 00:06:36,920 Speaker 1: up in age, they don't want to start over. A 131 00:06:36,960 --> 00:06:39,600 Speaker 1: lot of people they get to the point where I 132 00:06:39,640 --> 00:06:41,320 Speaker 1: don't want to start over. I got a family member 133 00:06:41,360 --> 00:06:43,560 Speaker 1: going through a divorce. She was married for thirty some 134 00:06:43,760 --> 00:06:46,720 Speaker 1: more years. She's in her fifties. I said, Auntie, why 135 00:06:46,880 --> 00:06:48,360 Speaker 1: why I take you so long the divorce? And if 136 00:06:48,360 --> 00:06:50,080 Speaker 1: you knew he was cheating on you all this time? 137 00:06:50,200 --> 00:06:52,840 Speaker 1: Like she said, yo for real, boo because they call 138 00:06:52,880 --> 00:06:55,000 Speaker 1: me boo boo. She said, boo boo for real. I 139 00:06:55,120 --> 00:06:57,520 Speaker 1: just didn't want to start over. Who the hell out 140 00:06:57,600 --> 00:07:00,839 Speaker 1: here is really looking for a fifty year old? I said, 141 00:07:00,920 --> 00:07:03,720 Speaker 1: maybe other fifty year olds. I don't know. Ship, you 142 00:07:03,800 --> 00:07:05,560 Speaker 1: can find you a good thirty five year old if 143 00:07:05,600 --> 00:07:08,000 Speaker 1: you're lucky. Ship the novelty, the war off on our 144 00:07:08,120 --> 00:07:10,360 Speaker 1: young asses. No nobody want the lord, young, stupid lord whole. 145 00:07:10,360 --> 00:07:13,040 Speaker 1: No more. Ship. Guys need y'all. Real men are looking 146 00:07:13,120 --> 00:07:15,440 Speaker 1: for y'all. You know, young niggas are looking for y'all 147 00:07:15,680 --> 00:07:17,480 Speaker 1: because the young bitches ain't doing it no more. All 148 00:07:17,480 --> 00:07:19,680 Speaker 1: the young bitches is about. It's some money popping pussy 149 00:07:19,920 --> 00:07:22,680 Speaker 1: and that's it. According to the Internet, that's all young 150 00:07:22,760 --> 00:07:26,640 Speaker 1: bitches be about. We need those seasoned, rill women. We 151 00:07:26,760 --> 00:07:29,080 Speaker 1: need those women that know how to treat men. And 152 00:07:29,200 --> 00:07:31,280 Speaker 1: my aunt was a damn good wife to her husband. 153 00:07:31,400 --> 00:07:34,600 Speaker 1: You know what I mean. Sometimes you grow past a 154 00:07:34,720 --> 00:07:37,920 Speaker 1: certain point and your companion doesn't now listen, This topic 155 00:07:38,040 --> 00:07:41,360 Speaker 1: is not only for relationships. That was just an example. 156 00:07:41,440 --> 00:07:43,720 Speaker 1: That was story time. You may be even going through 157 00:07:43,760 --> 00:07:46,160 Speaker 1: this ship with a family member, Like I had a 158 00:07:46,280 --> 00:07:49,280 Speaker 1: lot of family members who I've done shipped for. You know, 159 00:07:49,800 --> 00:07:52,040 Speaker 1: I wasn't appreciate it. I've done ship. I've done it. 160 00:07:52,120 --> 00:07:54,160 Speaker 1: I've done ship for them. I'm talking about in the 161 00:07:54,200 --> 00:07:57,120 Speaker 1: midnight hour, you call me, you know I'm listening. I 162 00:07:57,240 --> 00:07:59,760 Speaker 1: may be sleep, but I'm up listening. You're my cousin 163 00:08:00,040 --> 00:08:02,480 Speaker 1: going through some ship. Talk to me what's up? And 164 00:08:02,560 --> 00:08:04,440 Speaker 1: then when I need the same thing back from you, 165 00:08:05,120 --> 00:08:07,320 Speaker 1: you ain't no where to be found, or you just 166 00:08:07,400 --> 00:08:09,160 Speaker 1: think I got it all together because I'm just what 167 00:08:09,280 --> 00:08:11,400 Speaker 1: the funk you mean, I'm another human being. I'm just 168 00:08:11,520 --> 00:08:14,480 Speaker 1: a public figure, you know, I'm just a celebrity, you know, 169 00:08:14,760 --> 00:08:17,120 Speaker 1: or I'm famous. So on, she got it all together, 170 00:08:17,240 --> 00:08:19,520 Speaker 1: she got money. She good listen, I've been there and 171 00:08:19,600 --> 00:08:23,280 Speaker 1: even in relationships where niggas have gotten too comfortable. And no, 172 00:08:23,520 --> 00:08:26,400 Speaker 1: it's not all about cheating all the time. Sometimes a 173 00:08:26,480 --> 00:08:30,120 Speaker 1: guy just really may mentally be fucked up, or he 174 00:08:30,200 --> 00:08:33,319 Speaker 1: may mentally check out, like in story Time, her man 175 00:08:33,480 --> 00:08:36,200 Speaker 1: she was with her seven years dumb then they get 176 00:08:36,280 --> 00:08:39,360 Speaker 1: checked out mentally obviously. Now she said she never found 177 00:08:39,480 --> 00:08:43,120 Speaker 1: no traces of cheating, even that nigga was good at 178 00:08:43,200 --> 00:08:47,040 Speaker 1: covering his steps, or he just really didn't want to 179 00:08:47,160 --> 00:08:50,000 Speaker 1: be there anymore, he didn't have a desire to be 180 00:08:50,120 --> 00:08:52,240 Speaker 1: with another woman because he would have left her. Instead, 181 00:08:52,400 --> 00:08:54,800 Speaker 1: she had to leave him, and he'd been trying to 182 00:08:54,840 --> 00:08:56,839 Speaker 1: get up back of a sense, you never know what 183 00:08:56,960 --> 00:08:58,920 Speaker 1: you got till it's gone. And that is cliche, but 184 00:08:59,120 --> 00:09:01,640 Speaker 1: you really gotta listen into it. You can do everything 185 00:09:01,800 --> 00:09:04,800 Speaker 1: right for a man, everything right for a friend, everything 186 00:09:04,960 --> 00:09:07,000 Speaker 1: right for a family member. You know what I'm saying. 187 00:09:07,760 --> 00:09:10,559 Speaker 1: You can cook, you can clean for your man, make 188 00:09:10,600 --> 00:09:13,440 Speaker 1: sure he come home to dinner on the table. I'm 189 00:09:13,480 --> 00:09:15,640 Speaker 1: talking about where he lack. You pick it up because 190 00:09:15,679 --> 00:09:18,160 Speaker 1: everybody not up. There supposed to be ups and downs 191 00:09:18,200 --> 00:09:20,760 Speaker 1: in a relationship. Everything is not supposed to always be good, 192 00:09:20,880 --> 00:09:23,400 Speaker 1: not even with celebrities. It's not. Trust me, it's not. 193 00:09:23,520 --> 00:09:27,240 Speaker 1: And we've seen some celebrity relationships fall. Ain't nobody perfect. 194 00:09:27,520 --> 00:09:29,599 Speaker 1: That's why I say, in my mind, nobody should be 195 00:09:29,679 --> 00:09:32,319 Speaker 1: fucking goals for nobody because we don't know what nobody 196 00:09:32,440 --> 00:09:36,839 Speaker 1: is going through. Everybody's dealing with something. Trust me, relationships 197 00:09:36,880 --> 00:09:41,280 Speaker 1: are meant for trial and tribulation. It's all about the battle. 198 00:09:41,440 --> 00:09:44,560 Speaker 1: Can y'all come together in battle? So y'all can win 199 00:09:44,640 --> 00:09:46,840 Speaker 1: a victory? Do you feel me? So y'all can bounce 200 00:09:46,880 --> 00:09:50,400 Speaker 1: back and be stronger and be best friends. That family 201 00:09:50,480 --> 00:09:52,920 Speaker 1: member that's keeping a hole on you, ryan your coat, sail, 202 00:09:53,000 --> 00:09:54,880 Speaker 1: draining you and all of that ship, but don't put 203 00:09:54,960 --> 00:09:56,559 Speaker 1: your hand out to them because they ain't gonna have 204 00:09:56,640 --> 00:09:59,640 Speaker 1: nothing for you that ship. Man. It may not even 205 00:09:59,720 --> 00:10:02,679 Speaker 1: be money. Whether you're just there for them to vent 206 00:10:02,720 --> 00:10:04,200 Speaker 1: to you all the time, but when you got to vent, 207 00:10:04,240 --> 00:10:06,199 Speaker 1: they don't want to listen to you, or they're too busy, 208 00:10:06,880 --> 00:10:09,360 Speaker 1: or I can't help you because you know what I'm saying. 209 00:10:09,640 --> 00:10:13,160 Speaker 1: But you're gonna need me again. Your friends friends, certain 210 00:10:13,240 --> 00:10:17,160 Speaker 1: friends use different friends for different ships, and I've always 211 00:10:17,640 --> 00:10:21,559 Speaker 1: thought that was wrong, but it's situational. You never know 212 00:10:22,120 --> 00:10:24,719 Speaker 1: you got different friends for different ships. But you are 213 00:10:24,800 --> 00:10:27,680 Speaker 1: never to treat a friend bad. Always treat a friend 214 00:10:27,760 --> 00:10:30,640 Speaker 1: like you want them to treat you. You feel me, 215 00:10:31,640 --> 00:10:35,320 Speaker 1: I've lost a lot of friends being there, but in return, 216 00:10:35,440 --> 00:10:39,080 Speaker 1: I get shipped. If you're feeling unappreciated and you're doing 217 00:10:39,240 --> 00:10:43,040 Speaker 1: so much for motherfucker's that won't do nothing for you. 218 00:10:43,679 --> 00:10:46,320 Speaker 1: You got to move on. Like my girl from Story Time, 219 00:10:46,559 --> 00:10:48,959 Speaker 1: you move on there. We took us seven years, but 220 00:10:49,200 --> 00:10:54,600 Speaker 1: she eventually gained back that respect and dignity within herself, 221 00:10:54,800 --> 00:10:57,360 Speaker 1: got the funk up and left. And here's another thing. 222 00:10:57,760 --> 00:10:59,840 Speaker 1: You can't expect for people to think like you think. 223 00:11:00,440 --> 00:11:02,840 Speaker 1: Understand what I'm saying. You may be the most generous 224 00:11:02,880 --> 00:11:06,560 Speaker 1: fucking person. You may be the most sweetest person. Give 225 00:11:06,679 --> 00:11:09,240 Speaker 1: your last dime to somebody, give somebody the shirt off 226 00:11:09,280 --> 00:11:13,280 Speaker 1: your back. Don't think for one second that somebody else 227 00:11:13,320 --> 00:11:15,400 Speaker 1: will do that just because you've known them for years, 228 00:11:15,679 --> 00:11:17,920 Speaker 1: just because you've been with them for years, just because 229 00:11:17,960 --> 00:11:20,439 Speaker 1: you are related to them. Yeah, y'all got the same blood, 230 00:11:20,480 --> 00:11:23,280 Speaker 1: but probably not the same characteristics, not the same trait, 231 00:11:23,440 --> 00:11:25,839 Speaker 1: not the same personality, but the same blood. Do you 232 00:11:25,960 --> 00:11:28,480 Speaker 1: understand what I'm saying. Yeah, you laid down with this 233 00:11:28,600 --> 00:11:31,360 Speaker 1: nigga every night, but trust and believe he may not 234 00:11:31,600 --> 00:11:34,199 Speaker 1: still be thinking like you're thinking. Do not depend on 235 00:11:34,400 --> 00:11:38,200 Speaker 1: him to think like you think until he proves you wrong, 236 00:11:38,400 --> 00:11:41,959 Speaker 1: until he proves otherwise. With your friend, y'all been friends 237 00:11:42,000 --> 00:11:44,319 Speaker 1: for twenty something year, is still don't think in your 238 00:11:44,360 --> 00:11:47,120 Speaker 1: mind that she's gonna do each and everything that you 239 00:11:47,280 --> 00:11:49,680 Speaker 1: do for her for you, and it ain't gonna happen. 240 00:11:50,120 --> 00:11:52,520 Speaker 1: That's why you have to go in knowing your worth. 241 00:11:52,679 --> 00:11:55,360 Speaker 1: That's why you have to go in knowing who you are. 242 00:11:55,440 --> 00:11:58,600 Speaker 1: That's why you have to go in loving yourself, learning 243 00:11:58,679 --> 00:12:02,360 Speaker 1: not how to give so much and take so little back. 244 00:12:02,880 --> 00:12:05,600 Speaker 1: You're gonna weigh yourself. Then keep trying to be super 245 00:12:05,679 --> 00:12:09,280 Speaker 1: woman for everybody. Ladies, it's not gonna happen. Now. I 246 00:12:09,360 --> 00:12:11,520 Speaker 1: know this goes both ways because there are men being 247 00:12:11,640 --> 00:12:14,559 Speaker 1: used up as well, but right now I'm dedicating this 248 00:12:14,720 --> 00:12:19,160 Speaker 1: to my women. Happy belated Mother's Day. Now. I was 249 00:12:19,200 --> 00:12:22,400 Speaker 1: in a situation where a guy got comfortable he was 250 00:12:22,480 --> 00:12:25,360 Speaker 1: living with me. He got super comfortable. When I met 251 00:12:25,360 --> 00:12:27,440 Speaker 1: at me at a job, everything was great, everything was great. 252 00:12:27,440 --> 00:12:29,520 Speaker 1: Oh my god, I started making good money, I started 253 00:12:29,559 --> 00:12:31,760 Speaker 1: being on TV. Oh we quit his job. Oh yeah, this, 254 00:12:31,920 --> 00:12:33,840 Speaker 1: this is what I'm doing. I'm about to reap these benefits. 255 00:12:34,080 --> 00:12:36,360 Speaker 1: Um you know what I'm saying. You get comfortable, you 256 00:12:36,480 --> 00:12:40,560 Speaker 1: get comfortable, you get complacent in your relationship, goes stagnant, 257 00:12:40,880 --> 00:12:44,280 Speaker 1: and you go nowhere, and you're growing. You're growing spiritually, 258 00:12:44,520 --> 00:12:47,360 Speaker 1: you're growing mentally, you're growing the funk up I'm talking 259 00:12:47,360 --> 00:12:49,959 Speaker 1: about financially even bit you're trying to boss up. And 260 00:12:50,040 --> 00:12:54,160 Speaker 1: then you got this person who's not this person who's 261 00:12:54,160 --> 00:12:57,719 Speaker 1: just sitting in the corner watching you, expecting for you 262 00:12:57,840 --> 00:12:59,800 Speaker 1: to break a piece of your growth and give it 263 00:12:59,880 --> 00:13:03,960 Speaker 1: to them, expecting that Women, we are too good. Our 264 00:13:04,040 --> 00:13:07,319 Speaker 1: hearts are so big, We take so much ship, and 265 00:13:07,480 --> 00:13:10,959 Speaker 1: yet nobody checks on us. Yet nobody says, you know what, 266 00:13:11,080 --> 00:13:14,720 Speaker 1: I'm sorry. Let me get you some flowers, yet nobody says, 267 00:13:14,760 --> 00:13:15,880 Speaker 1: you know what. Let me cook for you, let me 268 00:13:15,960 --> 00:13:18,480 Speaker 1: take you out. Let me just call you and see 269 00:13:18,520 --> 00:13:21,679 Speaker 1: how your day been. Let me just tell you you're beautiful. 270 00:13:22,360 --> 00:13:24,679 Speaker 1: If you love me, you'll listen to this commercial and 271 00:13:24,720 --> 00:13:28,679 Speaker 1: then we'll be right back. And that brings me to 272 00:13:28,840 --> 00:13:30,679 Speaker 1: just fix my mess now. Of course, y'all know, I 273 00:13:30,760 --> 00:13:34,160 Speaker 1: always turned to y'all online with my Twitter, my Facebook, 274 00:13:34,240 --> 00:13:36,800 Speaker 1: and Instagram, and I ask y'all so y'all can share 275 00:13:36,840 --> 00:13:39,599 Speaker 1: your experiences with me about the topics in which we 276 00:13:39,720 --> 00:13:43,439 Speaker 1: discussed during Carefully Reckless. So I said, have you ever 277 00:13:43,559 --> 00:13:46,959 Speaker 1: felt unappreciated? Like you try hard and you still get nothing. 278 00:13:47,559 --> 00:13:50,480 Speaker 1: You know your worth, but you don't enforce it, therefore 279 00:13:50,640 --> 00:13:53,640 Speaker 1: you stay? Why tell me about it? I'm gonna read 280 00:13:53,679 --> 00:13:57,520 Speaker 1: off a couple pan Marie Q says everything I do 281 00:13:57,640 --> 00:14:00,320 Speaker 1: ain't good enough for my mom. I try so hard, 282 00:14:00,559 --> 00:14:02,800 Speaker 1: but she don't see it. She act like I won't 283 00:14:02,840 --> 00:14:04,760 Speaker 1: run away, but I don't got no car, so I 284 00:14:04,840 --> 00:14:09,520 Speaker 1: gotta stay and y'all stop playing with me, like stop, hey, yo, 285 00:14:09,720 --> 00:14:13,040 Speaker 1: stop playing Pan Marie, like for real, y'all take your 286 00:14:13,080 --> 00:14:16,400 Speaker 1: lott ass in the house. That's it. You ain't running away, yo, 287 00:14:16,559 --> 00:14:22,240 Speaker 1: y'all agreez Yeta Underscore Mode says yes, I actually recently 288 00:14:22,320 --> 00:14:25,480 Speaker 1: reflected on why I'm not big on holidays slash birthdays, 289 00:14:25,680 --> 00:14:28,800 Speaker 1: and it's because I've never been celebrated but I often 290 00:14:28,920 --> 00:14:32,600 Speaker 1: celebrate others. That's the ship I'm talking about. That's the 291 00:14:32,640 --> 00:14:35,520 Speaker 1: ship I'm talking about. Now. I'm not telling you to 292 00:14:35,760 --> 00:14:38,840 Speaker 1: change who you are, because you shouldn't let somebody else's 293 00:14:38,920 --> 00:14:42,920 Speaker 1: behavior define you as a person. If you are celebratory 294 00:14:43,040 --> 00:14:46,280 Speaker 1: of others, still be that way, but require the motherfucker's 295 00:14:46,320 --> 00:14:49,400 Speaker 1: to reciprocate it. Do you understand or you might have 296 00:14:49,480 --> 00:14:52,320 Speaker 1: to fall back a little bit, start celebrating motherfucker's to 297 00:14:52,480 --> 00:14:56,360 Speaker 1: celebrate you. That's what that is, because if it's genuine 298 00:14:56,440 --> 00:15:00,240 Speaker 1: love between you two, it's automatically gonna be reciprocated because 299 00:15:00,280 --> 00:15:03,440 Speaker 1: that person is gonna feel an obligation, not a favor. 300 00:15:04,240 --> 00:15:08,000 Speaker 1: Underscore waw waw waw waw waw me I feel for 301 00:15:08,160 --> 00:15:12,320 Speaker 1: me personally, it's the starting over falling again part that 302 00:15:12,400 --> 00:15:15,280 Speaker 1: I'm afraid of not being alone or letting go, but 303 00:15:15,440 --> 00:15:18,760 Speaker 1: having to start all over. So I stay and I 304 00:15:18,880 --> 00:15:22,480 Speaker 1: tried my best to make it work, but it usually doesn't. Well, 305 00:15:22,520 --> 00:15:24,920 Speaker 1: it sounds like you've done this more than once, baby, 306 00:15:25,360 --> 00:15:27,960 Speaker 1: And maybe that's why your Instagram name is wy waw 307 00:15:28,080 --> 00:15:31,400 Speaker 1: waw waw way me, because you didn't did that for 308 00:15:31,640 --> 00:15:34,800 Speaker 1: every why you got so that's five wise in your name. 309 00:15:35,080 --> 00:15:37,360 Speaker 1: You don't did this ship five times? I feel and 310 00:15:37,480 --> 00:15:39,200 Speaker 1: I know a lot of you are probably laughing and ship, 311 00:15:39,280 --> 00:15:41,320 Speaker 1: but no, I see a message and everything and baby, 312 00:15:41,360 --> 00:15:43,640 Speaker 1: that's your name. That's a cry for help. Your Instagram 313 00:15:43,800 --> 00:15:46,920 Speaker 1: handles a cry for help why me? Because you keep 314 00:15:46,960 --> 00:15:50,080 Speaker 1: attracting the same thing, and you know why, because that's 315 00:15:50,120 --> 00:15:53,560 Speaker 1: something within you you need to figure out. You need 316 00:15:53,640 --> 00:15:55,880 Speaker 1: to learn your worth. You don't know it, or you 317 00:15:55,920 --> 00:15:58,520 Speaker 1: wouldn't be asking why why me, and you wouldn't keep 318 00:15:58,560 --> 00:16:01,840 Speaker 1: on getting in these sames situations. It's only gonna keep 319 00:16:01,880 --> 00:16:04,960 Speaker 1: happening unto you if you keep repeating the cycle. You 320 00:16:05,760 --> 00:16:09,760 Speaker 1: are the exact example of giving more. Then you get 321 00:16:10,680 --> 00:16:14,640 Speaker 1: giving yourself, your whole self and nothing but yourself, And 322 00:16:14,720 --> 00:16:18,120 Speaker 1: people don't reciprocate that to you, and you don't require 323 00:16:18,240 --> 00:16:21,120 Speaker 1: them to either. So that's why why Wow, Why it 324 00:16:21,240 --> 00:16:25,800 Speaker 1: keeps happening to you? I underscore can underscore, only underscore 325 00:16:25,880 --> 00:16:29,080 Speaker 1: be underscore, Tiff says, My reason is because you care 326 00:16:29,160 --> 00:16:31,640 Speaker 1: about that person so much and you hope they'll see 327 00:16:31,680 --> 00:16:34,520 Speaker 1: you trying and match you, or because you care about 328 00:16:34,600 --> 00:16:37,120 Speaker 1: them so much that you actually want to do for 329 00:16:37,240 --> 00:16:41,280 Speaker 1: them despite them not reciprocating the same. Mostly it's out 330 00:16:41,360 --> 00:16:44,400 Speaker 1: of love and or genuine care. We can't help the 331 00:16:44,440 --> 00:16:46,720 Speaker 1: fact that some of us are built different with the 332 00:16:46,800 --> 00:16:50,000 Speaker 1: heart to care, nurture and provide. We get hurt the 333 00:16:50,120 --> 00:16:52,720 Speaker 1: most too. And yes, you are right, because I was 334 00:16:52,800 --> 00:16:55,480 Speaker 1: one of those people before. You are absolutely right. I 335 00:16:55,680 --> 00:16:58,840 Speaker 1: was one of them, so I know, but I realized 336 00:16:59,040 --> 00:17:02,440 Speaker 1: after le didn't. It happened to me not once, but twice, 337 00:17:03,200 --> 00:17:04,840 Speaker 1: and it ain't gonna be a third time. And I 338 00:17:04,880 --> 00:17:07,399 Speaker 1: want to reflect on what you said. You said, we 339 00:17:07,560 --> 00:17:09,520 Speaker 1: can't help the fact that some of us are built 340 00:17:09,600 --> 00:17:13,080 Speaker 1: different with the heart to care, nurture and provide. Yes, 341 00:17:13,200 --> 00:17:16,320 Speaker 1: you can help that. I'm not saying you have to 342 00:17:16,400 --> 00:17:19,760 Speaker 1: be different, but you can help that. You can because 343 00:17:19,840 --> 00:17:22,200 Speaker 1: you don't have to do it for everybody, and you 344 00:17:22,240 --> 00:17:24,639 Speaker 1: don't have to do it so much. If you know 345 00:17:24,760 --> 00:17:27,440 Speaker 1: you keep getting the shitty end of the stick, stop 346 00:17:27,520 --> 00:17:30,400 Speaker 1: playing with that stick. You gotta find a good stick 347 00:17:30,920 --> 00:17:32,920 Speaker 1: where it ends. Don't get shitty. Do you understand what 348 00:17:32,960 --> 00:17:35,719 Speaker 1: I'm saying? All right now, this is a long one, 349 00:17:35,760 --> 00:17:37,680 Speaker 1: but this is the last one I'm gonna read. And 350 00:17:37,920 --> 00:17:40,400 Speaker 1: this is what I want to spend the most time 351 00:17:40,440 --> 00:17:45,639 Speaker 1: on Eunica Senta says, girl, Yes, my husband and I 352 00:17:45,760 --> 00:17:48,560 Speaker 1: have been together for eleven years and a lot has happened. 353 00:17:48,760 --> 00:17:51,080 Speaker 1: He lost both of his parents, so I said, okay, 354 00:17:51,320 --> 00:17:53,119 Speaker 1: he needs me. I'm gonna build him up so he 355 00:17:53,160 --> 00:17:55,840 Speaker 1: can return the favor and build me. But the grief 356 00:17:55,960 --> 00:17:58,480 Speaker 1: was too much. He started drinking real bad and I 357 00:17:58,640 --> 00:18:01,440 Speaker 1: left just for him to all me crying, begging me 358 00:18:01,760 --> 00:18:05,760 Speaker 1: for abortion money because he got some random bitch pregnant. 359 00:18:05,920 --> 00:18:07,800 Speaker 1: When I left him, he had a good job and 360 00:18:07,920 --> 00:18:11,840 Speaker 1: a car, just drinking real bad child. When he called 361 00:18:11,920 --> 00:18:14,560 Speaker 1: me begging for that abortion money, my heart broke, not 362 00:18:14,760 --> 00:18:17,280 Speaker 1: because of the pregnancy, but because I had never seen 363 00:18:17,359 --> 00:18:20,160 Speaker 1: him at such a low point. All his utilities was off. 364 00:18:20,440 --> 00:18:23,280 Speaker 1: He lost his job and car like he morphed into 365 00:18:23,359 --> 00:18:26,080 Speaker 1: a fucking bum. Then here go my captain, save a 366 00:18:26,119 --> 00:18:28,920 Speaker 1: whole ass, tell him I'd help him get back on 367 00:18:29,040 --> 00:18:31,720 Speaker 1: his feet. Did not give him the abortion money though, 368 00:18:31,720 --> 00:18:34,680 Speaker 1: because ha, that's what you get, and the process of 369 00:18:34,800 --> 00:18:37,320 Speaker 1: helping him get back on his feet, I fell back 370 00:18:37,400 --> 00:18:39,880 Speaker 1: in love with him. Now my baby is one year 371 00:18:40,000 --> 00:18:44,080 Speaker 1: sober and we're still striving for greatness. I know, dot 372 00:18:44,200 --> 00:18:49,280 Speaker 1: dot dot, I'm a dumb bitch, his dumb bitch. First 373 00:18:49,280 --> 00:18:51,920 Speaker 1: of all, how the funk? Wait a minute, Wait a minute, 374 00:18:52,200 --> 00:18:54,280 Speaker 1: scared because I didn't read the end of that. I 375 00:18:54,480 --> 00:18:57,119 Speaker 1: read the beginning of it, and I said, Okay, this 376 00:18:57,240 --> 00:18:59,360 Speaker 1: is what I'm gonna use. This is pretty good. First 377 00:18:59,400 --> 00:19:01,240 Speaker 1: of all, it's a couple of things I want to say. 378 00:19:01,720 --> 00:19:04,640 Speaker 1: You said his utilities was off, but as Dick wasn't 379 00:19:04,680 --> 00:19:07,639 Speaker 1: off because he damn sure made a baby. Okay, a 380 00:19:07,720 --> 00:19:10,399 Speaker 1: baby he didn't want, but he made one. And I 381 00:19:10,480 --> 00:19:12,840 Speaker 1: get it. You're going through ship. A lot of times 382 00:19:13,080 --> 00:19:16,719 Speaker 1: people can use their issues to play on people. They 383 00:19:16,920 --> 00:19:20,399 Speaker 1: use that for manipulation to get what they need from others. 384 00:19:20,800 --> 00:19:23,480 Speaker 1: Now that's not what happened in her case, because she 385 00:19:23,560 --> 00:19:27,440 Speaker 1: said her baby has been sober for one year. And 386 00:19:27,560 --> 00:19:29,520 Speaker 1: I love it. I love it. I love the end. 387 00:19:29,840 --> 00:19:31,920 Speaker 1: But I want to get back to you what you said. 388 00:19:32,080 --> 00:19:35,040 Speaker 1: I know I'm a dumb bitch, his dumb bitch. How 389 00:19:35,119 --> 00:19:37,400 Speaker 1: are you dumb? That's what I want you to think 390 00:19:37,480 --> 00:19:40,879 Speaker 1: about it. Listen, you're not dumb. You left when you 391 00:19:41,040 --> 00:19:43,240 Speaker 1: seen there was a situation that you just couldn't be 392 00:19:43,280 --> 00:19:46,760 Speaker 1: a part of anymore. He called you, he didn't call 393 00:19:46,880 --> 00:19:50,440 Speaker 1: nobody else. He called you, obviously because you meant that 394 00:19:50,560 --> 00:19:53,160 Speaker 1: much to him, and he saw more than just the lover, 395 00:19:53,280 --> 00:19:56,320 Speaker 1: and you obviously saw a friend because any n that 396 00:19:56,440 --> 00:19:59,720 Speaker 1: I'm with when I leave, he called me for money 397 00:20:00,040 --> 00:20:03,800 Speaker 1: for my fucking abortion. For another bitch, I don't even 398 00:20:03,880 --> 00:20:06,680 Speaker 1: need to finish the sentence because I know. Let me 399 00:20:06,760 --> 00:20:16,639 Speaker 1: get a amen, because what the hell? You're better than me. 400 00:20:16,800 --> 00:20:20,240 Speaker 1: Let's just say that. But obviously you know him better. 401 00:20:20,359 --> 00:20:23,720 Speaker 1: And he's not the average manipulator. He's not the average 402 00:20:23,800 --> 00:20:27,560 Speaker 1: person who does this ship. He's not the average user. 403 00:20:27,960 --> 00:20:31,480 Speaker 1: He loves you. He loved you enough to accept your help. 404 00:20:32,000 --> 00:20:34,080 Speaker 1: You were feeling unappreciated for a while, he was going 405 00:20:34,160 --> 00:20:36,720 Speaker 1: through some ship, and you helped him while he was 406 00:20:36,760 --> 00:20:40,560 Speaker 1: on his last leg. And now he appreciates you. And 407 00:20:40,720 --> 00:20:44,879 Speaker 1: the end said, and we're still striving for greatness. And 408 00:20:45,000 --> 00:20:47,320 Speaker 1: I love that. Don't you ever in your life call 409 00:20:47,359 --> 00:20:50,560 Speaker 1: yourself a dumb bitch for helping the man that you 410 00:20:50,680 --> 00:20:53,600 Speaker 1: have always loved just because he left you and made 411 00:20:53,640 --> 00:20:56,320 Speaker 1: a baby that he asked you to help him financially abort. 412 00:20:58,720 --> 00:21:00,160 Speaker 1: And now I know that sound a little crazy, easy 413 00:21:00,160 --> 00:21:01,680 Speaker 1: I was, I know it, and I know it did, 414 00:21:02,080 --> 00:21:05,200 Speaker 1: and it still does to me. But things work out 415 00:21:05,280 --> 00:21:07,879 Speaker 1: differently for different people, and that's all that is. And 416 00:21:07,920 --> 00:21:09,919 Speaker 1: I'm in dead on that. I love you very much 417 00:21:10,000 --> 00:21:13,080 Speaker 1: to be hard. So listen, ladies. If no one has 418 00:21:13,160 --> 00:21:16,159 Speaker 1: ever told you, no one I'm talking about, no, if 419 00:21:16,200 --> 00:21:18,280 Speaker 1: no one ever tells you, if your man ain't tell 420 00:21:18,320 --> 00:21:20,480 Speaker 1: you in a long time, if your friends don't tell you, 421 00:21:20,720 --> 00:21:23,119 Speaker 1: if your friends don't check on you. You know, I 422 00:21:23,240 --> 00:21:26,359 Speaker 1: want to know how you're doing. Are you okay? You know? 423 00:21:26,560 --> 00:21:29,359 Speaker 1: I love you, I miss you. I don't even know you. 424 00:21:29,480 --> 00:21:32,040 Speaker 1: Just just listen to these words. Close your eyes and 425 00:21:32,200 --> 00:21:34,880 Speaker 1: listen to these words. You are beautiful, You are enough. 426 00:21:34,920 --> 00:21:37,240 Speaker 1: And if you keep on letting them walk all over 427 00:21:37,400 --> 00:21:40,320 Speaker 1: you or not walk at all, if you keep doing 428 00:21:40,400 --> 00:21:42,920 Speaker 1: all the walking, you need to walk the funk on 429 00:21:43,040 --> 00:21:45,920 Speaker 1: and not look back. Because if you ain't trying to 430 00:21:45,960 --> 00:21:48,280 Speaker 1: walk with me, then you that means you behind me. 431 00:21:48,720 --> 00:21:50,280 Speaker 1: And I don't need you to be behind me. You 432 00:21:50,359 --> 00:21:54,080 Speaker 1: can't appreciate me behind me. You need to be beside me. 433 00:21:54,800 --> 00:21:57,840 Speaker 1: You need to love me as my family member. You 434 00:21:57,960 --> 00:22:00,280 Speaker 1: need to love me. You need to give me the 435 00:22:00,359 --> 00:22:02,320 Speaker 1: respect I give you, because at the end of the day, 436 00:22:02,359 --> 00:22:05,160 Speaker 1: all we have is family, and some people don't even 437 00:22:05,240 --> 00:22:09,280 Speaker 1: got that. Some people look more for loving friends than 438 00:22:09,359 --> 00:22:12,359 Speaker 1: their fucking family because they don't have that family dynamic. 439 00:22:12,840 --> 00:22:14,639 Speaker 1: So be that friend that you want me to be 440 00:22:15,119 --> 00:22:16,920 Speaker 1: for you, or I ain't gonna be your damn friend 441 00:22:16,960 --> 00:22:19,760 Speaker 1: no more. And trust me with the love I give you, 442 00:22:19,840 --> 00:22:21,960 Speaker 1: You're gonna miss it and you're gonna need me before 443 00:22:22,000 --> 00:22:24,000 Speaker 1: I need you. And I know y'all have said that 444 00:22:24,320 --> 00:22:26,440 Speaker 1: to somebody, And I know y'all feeling that burning down 445 00:22:26,480 --> 00:22:29,120 Speaker 1: in your soul because for real, his motherfucker's out here 446 00:22:29,359 --> 00:22:32,359 Speaker 1: that you didn't cut off, that still probably calls you 447 00:22:32,640 --> 00:22:35,119 Speaker 1: because they need you. But when you needed them, they 448 00:22:35,160 --> 00:22:37,200 Speaker 1: weren't there. That's why they're cut off. And if they're 449 00:22:37,240 --> 00:22:40,159 Speaker 1: not cut their ass off. And on that note, I 450 00:22:40,240 --> 00:22:43,119 Speaker 1: love all my beautiful ladies. Happy belated Mother's Day to 451 00:22:43,240 --> 00:22:45,640 Speaker 1: my mother's I love you, guys, and I know y'all 452 00:22:45,680 --> 00:22:48,840 Speaker 1: love me back. Make sure y'all turn and every Wednesday 453 00:22:49,080 --> 00:22:52,560 Speaker 1: on hump Day for carefully Reckless and just like that peace. 454 00:23:05,200 --> 00:23:08,119 Speaker 1: Carefully Reckless is a production of I Heart Radio and 455 00:23:08,200 --> 00:23:11,160 Speaker 1: The Black Effect. For more podcasts from I heart Radio, 456 00:23:11,359 --> 00:23:14,760 Speaker 1: visit the I heart Radio app Apple podcast or wherever 457 00:23:14,920 --> 00:23:16,200 Speaker 1: you listen to your favorite shows.