Speaker 1: All right, you caught us. We were on vacation last week. Hey,
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Speaker 1: brand new second date for you today.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 3: My stream was like, dude, that you work so hard,
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Speaker 1: I think today's second date is going to elicit a
Speaker 1: lot of commentary. People are gonna have strong feelings about
Speaker 1: what happened after a ten hour date. Yeah, you might
Speaker 1: have strung feelings about that in itself. Yes, yes, yeah,
Speaker 1: so definitely leave us those comments. We love reading. Yeah,
Speaker 1: what did you see from last week? Alexis?
Speaker 4: Yeah, Fabien said, hey, guys, I have a date today
Speaker 4: and she seems nice. Just hope I won't be on
Speaker 4: your guys' show any times. And I never gave it
Speaker 4: an update, so now we need one. How did it go?
Speaker 1: I mean I always feel like no word is good word.
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Speaker 5: Second date update date.
Speaker 3: What's the optimal amount of time you should spend with
Speaker 3: someone when you're on.
Speaker 5: A first date?
Speaker 3: If it's best case scenario, how long should that hangout?
Speaker 6: Last?
Speaker 3: Best case scenario means we never leave and we get married. Yeah,
Speaker 3: three to four, but effort to say a coffee date
Speaker 3: could go forty to sixty minutes.
Speaker 1: That's a long time.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I feel like dinner dates could stretch up to
Speaker 3: two hours if it's really going well. It makes sense.
Speaker 3: Then with activity dates like naked frisbee golf, those can
Speaker 3: last two and a half hours if the.
Speaker 5: Chafing doesn't get in the way.
Speaker 3: Oh wow, so you probably want to take a time
Speaker 3: out here in there, ask your date to rub some
Speaker 3: gold bond medicated powder on your side.
Speaker 1: Yeah, sweat, are you playing frisbee golf?
Speaker 5: Yeah? We're doing it right.
Speaker 3: But I want to know what does it mean when
Speaker 3: a first date lasts four times that amount?
Speaker 1: Oh, cute means it's cute.
Speaker 5: Goes on for ten full hours.
Speaker 1: Maybe they're lost in the woods. A lot of people
Speaker 1: go hiking.
Speaker 5: Okay, but we all agree this is something wrong.
Speaker 3: I feel like it's not normal. But one of our
Speaker 3: listeners said that happened to him. Unless this is a
Speaker 3: typo or something, Chad, Oh, it's one hour. It is
Speaker 3: this a typo? It can't be ten hours.
Speaker 2: No, this was a marathon date that started early in
Speaker 2: the day. It literally kept going. Oh yeah, it wasn't
Speaker 2: even it wasn't even planned.
Speaker 1: Oh, it wasn't planned to spend that long together.
Speaker 2: No, no, no. We so we met on a dating
Speaker 2: app and we were supposed to get some coffee and pastries.
Speaker 1: Wait wait, wait, what's her name?
Speaker 2: Her name is Samantha. Samantha okay, and we kind of
Speaker 2: hit it off, definitely kind of liked each other, and
Speaker 2: I thought that was kind of where it was going
Speaker 2: to end. And then, you know, I was playing on
Speaker 2: going to the gym. It seemed like she kind of
Speaker 2: wanted to keep going.
Speaker 3: Well, yeah, she's got all that coffee energy. Now she's
Speaker 3: got to burn it off and do something else.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: Did she suggest like activity or something go to the
Speaker 1: gym with you?
Speaker 2: She wanted to go to the wine bar.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, that sounds way more fun.
Speaker 5: But why in the morning. That's cool?
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, I mean I kind of liked her. It
Speaker 2: was a little early, but I was like, what's one day?
Speaker 5: So you skipped glue day?
Speaker 3: Jessappointed, I know, but I mean you must have felt
Speaker 3: the connection too, if you're willing to skip the gym
Speaker 3: for it.
Speaker 1: He used those crazy strong words. I kind of liked her.
Speaker 2: Yeah, well, things are going pretty well. She kept asking
Speaker 2: like tons of questions. She was super into me. I
Speaker 2: could tell that, and like, then again I liked her too.
Speaker 2: And then we're about four hours in at this point,
Speaker 2: what wow.
Speaker 1: You're drinking four hours the wine.
Speaker 2: Well, we got coffee first and then wine. Yeah, we're
Speaker 2: trying to make our heart stop, the stomach some set.
Speaker 5: What's going through your mind at the four hour mark?
Speaker 2: I mean, I'm just thinking, like when is this ending? Like,
Speaker 2: I like her, but.
Speaker 3: It's like what's next.
Speaker 1: But it's so fun to get kind of day drunk,
Speaker 1: and then you just one thing leads to another and
Speaker 1: suddenly you're at some house party at night and you're like,
Speaker 1: well to yeah.
Speaker 2: So we actually we took some wine to go and
Speaker 2: then she wanted to go to the park and I
Speaker 2: was like, well, we're already here this far. Let's go
Speaker 2: hang out.
Speaker 3: Yeah, let's put some public intoxication on this first date.
Speaker 1: I ought to be lunchtime soon. I know, I feel
Speaker 1: like they need to eat too. Yeah, you get something
Speaker 1: in your stomach.
Speaker 2: Right, So we're up to like maybe five hours here,
Speaker 2: and she asked if she wants to go get some dinner,
Speaker 2: so we went to another bar before the dinner.
Speaker 3: Okay, how are you are you seeing this as an
Speaker 3: issue at all?
Speaker 5: Are you having fun?
Speaker 2: A little bit of column a little bit of column beat?
Speaker 2: All right, it's it's the buzz is kicking in and
Speaker 2: I'm having fun. But it's also you know, like it's
Speaker 2: this is a long time. But again, I like her,
Speaker 2: like me.
Speaker 3: It's at the same time you were saying at hour
Speaker 3: four you were wondering when this date was gonna end.
Speaker 3: So it sounds like you just don't know how to
Speaker 3: politely be like I need this to be over.
Speaker 2: Yeah. So I did say at one point, hey, I've
Speaker 2: had such a great time, I'm sorry to take up
Speaker 2: your entire day.
Speaker 1: Okay, okay, all right, So you gave her an out,
Speaker 1: what I mean, because maybe she was doing the same thing.
Speaker 1: Maybe both of you don't know how to Yeah, what
Speaker 1: did she say? No?
Speaker 2: And she goes, are you kidding? The day has just begun?
Speaker 2: But I go into kids and she pulled away. I
Speaker 2: have no I have no clue. I thought for sure,
Speaker 2: after ten hours, four different location changes, I'm into her.
Speaker 2: She's into me, I thought for I thought I thought
Speaker 2: she wanted me to kiss her. Yeah, I felt it.
Speaker 3: How many signs can you get from one person that
Speaker 3: they like being around you and like hanging out?
Speaker 1: I would have been making out an hour two.
Speaker 5: Fixed out to say at the wine mark.
Speaker 3: It's weird that she pulled away from the kiss, though,
Speaker 3: and then where did that happen?
Speaker 7: Like?
Speaker 5: Was that in the restaurant?
Speaker 1: Is that?
Speaker 5: No?
Speaker 2: We were actual? Yeah, we walked back to her place,
Speaker 2: was right in front of her place. She pulled away,
Speaker 2: and she hasn't returned my phone.
Speaker 1: Call since, and she sobered up. Any maybe she was
Speaker 1: just more intoxicated than you saw.
Speaker 3: She didn't want your first kiss to be a super
Speaker 3: sloppy drunk she was acting.
Speaker 1: Or she didn't pull away, she just lost her balance.
Speaker 2: I mean, all could be true, but then that doesn't
Speaker 2: explain why she won't return my calls.
Speaker 3: Yeah, so would you be disappointed if after a great
Speaker 3: ten hour date you find out you messed up at
Speaker 3: the nine to mark and those last fifteen minutes just
Speaker 3: absolutely killed.
Speaker 5: It for you, or she blocked out hour two.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'd be I'd be very upset.
Speaker 4: Okay, all right, she's like fighting was perfect until he
Speaker 4: tried to kiss me.
Speaker 2: Yeah. Did you like.
Speaker 1: Her more at the end of the ten hours or less?
Speaker 2: I kind of just was Carpe DM season a day
Speaker 2: and it felt right. So I still just can't explain it.
Speaker 2: I liked her very much.
Speaker 5: He was just relieved that it was over.
Speaker 3: He can go home and take a nap, probably, but
Speaker 3: let's come back. We will call Samantha for you and
Speaker 3: hopefully get some answers about why after a ten hour
Speaker 3: marathon date.
Speaker 5: She is suddenly ghosting you.
Speaker 3: We'll do it and keep right after this Hold on
Speaker 3: Second Date update. If you're just joining us for the
Speaker 3: second date update. Our listener Chad went on a first
Speaker 3: date that lasted longer than most relap ten full hours.
Speaker 3: Wasn't planned that way, It just happened naturally where they
Speaker 3: kept rolling from one activity into the next, to the
Speaker 3: next to the next, until ten hours later. He's finally
Speaker 3: standing in front of her place, going in for the kiss, and.
Speaker 5: She pulled away. Yeah, hasn't heard from her after that.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it sounds like it was an awkward moment for sure.
Speaker 3: Yeah, but they were both drinking the whole day, so
Speaker 3: who knows what the moment was really like. Yeah, but
Speaker 3: just to be clear, Chad, you still want to try
Speaker 3: to get another date with Samantha?
Speaker 2: Here?
Speaker 5: Are you just doing this to figure out why?
Speaker 2: I want to know both? I want to know Lie
Speaker 2: and I would love to go on another day with her.
Speaker 2: We had a good time.
Speaker 1: But it's interesting too because every new activity you guys
Speaker 1: did was her idea, right, not one of them was
Speaker 1: your idea.
Speaker 5: That's true.
Speaker 3: Maybe in her life, ten hours is a really short
Speaker 3: date and she's like, he can only last ten hours.
Speaker 1: She's like the opposite of life.
Speaker 6: He does, sound like that would have gone out after
Speaker 6: it he left that.
Speaker 3: Yeah, morn that, but I don't know. Let's call her,
Speaker 3: we'll see if she picks up. And I'm dying to
Speaker 3: know what she has to say about.
Speaker 1: This, because there's just remember when we get her on
Speaker 1: the phone, we don't have ten hours to talk to her.
Speaker 5: Oh okay, Well, we'll do it quick. Gosh, what if
Speaker 5: that's it? She just doesn't stop talking. We might need
Speaker 5: some help with it, but I'm calling her right now.
Speaker 5: Here we go. Hello, Hi, is this Samantha?
Speaker 6: Yeah? Who's calling?
Speaker 3: H This is a radio show calling you called Brook
Speaker 3: and Jeffrey in the morning.
Speaker 1: Not fuck.
Speaker 6: Oh okay, that's weird. Why are they calling me? Can
Speaker 6: I win something?
Speaker 3: Yeah?
Speaker 1: Kind of at the end, you kind of do.
Speaker 3: Yeah, depending on what happens over the next few minutes here,
Speaker 3: because this is a segment we do call the second
Speaker 3: Date update.
Speaker 6: Oh, I think I've heard this before.
Speaker 5: Okay, it's pretty popular.
Speaker 1: Yeah, let's go viral on TikTok and stuff.
Speaker 6: Okay, so you're calling me, So who is the person
Speaker 6: that I went out on a date with?
Speaker 5: Well, Jeff Yeah, I.
Speaker 3: Really appreciate you doing my job because I'm not great
Speaker 3: at it. But there's a guy you should definitely remember
Speaker 3: because you spent ten full hours with him, a guy
Speaker 3: named Chad in Incredible.
Speaker 6: Incredible.
Speaker 5: Wow, you think he's incredible.
Speaker 6: I think it's incredible you're calling me about him.
Speaker 1: Wow, this is so unbelievable. It sounds like you had
Speaker 1: a great time all day long.
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, yeah, how do you spend ten hours ongoing
Speaker 3: with somebody if there's not some sort of vibe happening.
Speaker 6: If there's no, I'll tell you, I'll tell you. So
Speaker 6: he went out with my best girlfriend.
Speaker 1: Wait wait wait wait wait wait when after you went out? Wait?
Speaker 6: Yeah? No, no, before months ago he went out with
Speaker 6: my best girlfriend.
Speaker 1: Okay, wait, did you know this before you went on
Speaker 1: a date with Chad?
Speaker 6: Or I shure, did you.
Speaker 3: Knew Chad before you went out with him as having
Speaker 3: dated your friend?
Speaker 6: Yeah?
Speaker 1: Oh that's weird. He didn't mention that.
Speaker 6: Yeah, well he didn't know this, but he spent many,
Speaker 6: many hours with her, oh, then ghosted her. She was
Speaker 6: very into him, liked him so much. He totally I
Speaker 6: feel like he led her on. He even took her
Speaker 6: to spend time with his grandma.
Speaker 1: Wait, oh boy, he took your best friend to spend
Speaker 1: time with his grandma, and then he ghosted your best friend.
Speaker 6: Yeah, introduced her. He spent all this time with her, basically,
Speaker 6: you know, half a day, and then he just ghosted her,
Speaker 6: never replied to her, never called her nothing.
Speaker 2: I know.
Speaker 6: She didn't do anything wrong. He's adorable, she's sweeps. He
Speaker 6: showed me pictures of him, and I matched with him
Speaker 6: months later on a dating app and I ran to
Speaker 6: her and I was like, oh my god, you're never
Speaker 6: gonna believe this. I matched with him. She goes, Oh,
Speaker 6: you got to go out with him and get him back.
Speaker 2: What.
Speaker 1: Oh, so this whole thing, your whole ten hour date
Speaker 1: was just revenge for him ghosting your best friend.
Speaker 6: Yeah, we girls got to stick together. Yeah, so give
Speaker 6: him the message. Now you know how it feels. Give
Speaker 6: him that message.
Speaker 5: Oh.
Speaker 1: I don't know that that's the most mature way to deal,
Speaker 1: but this.
Speaker 3: Makes sense why she was the one that was like
Speaker 3: wanting to like keep.
Speaker 8: The date going, yea, and why she wouldn't kiss him,
Speaker 8: And the look on his face at the end of
Speaker 8: our gate Christ was, I don't know if he told you,
Speaker 8: like how much time we spent, how much money he
Speaker 8: spent on me, But.
Speaker 1: You realize it, like he would have never got the
Speaker 1: message of what you're doing, that it was even revenge
Speaker 1: if you didn't call him and.
Speaker 6: Tell him, Okay, we we knew, we knew me and
Speaker 6: Karen knew okay.
Speaker 1: So it was just for you too.
Speaker 3: Yeah, he definitely had no idea about this whole thing.
Speaker 5: Going on.
Speaker 6: But yeah, good, tell him he used to be humiliated.
Speaker 3: And you know, I don't have to tell him that
Speaker 3: because he's actually been listening to this phone call on
Speaker 3: the other line quietly this whole time, so he's kind
Speaker 3: of already heard it.
Speaker 6: Great, it's even better.
Speaker 1: I love get you're enjoying that.
Speaker 3: I feel bad about it, gloating now, I mean, chat,
Speaker 3: are you there?
Speaker 2: Yep, I'm here.
Speaker 1: Wow.
Speaker 2: I don't even know what to say right now. That's
Speaker 2: that's really what was going on the whole time.
Speaker 6: Yeah, I'm not interested in you.
Speaker 5: Oh who wait?
Speaker 7: Wait, wait, wait wait wait, I heard everything you said.
Speaker 7: But we spent ten hours you mean it our eight
Speaker 7: hour nine when we've had shardenay coffee, all types of
Speaker 7: we've had the most fun all day.
Speaker 2: You mean to tell me you didn't feel anything, because yeah,
Speaker 2: and I'm.
Speaker 6: Pretty sure you felt five hours with you and then
Speaker 6: you you ghost her.
Speaker 3: So now you know how it feels your friend, your
Speaker 3: friend Sarah Will only went on one date with him
Speaker 3: before that lasted a long time.
Speaker 6: Yeah, so you doubled it, okay, And I have no regrets,
Speaker 6: no regrets.
Speaker 1: No, there wasn't even a moment in that ten hour
Speaker 1: period that you felt like a tinge of guilt, a.
Speaker 5: Decent guy a little bit.
Speaker 6: I was enjoying myself so much I had, I had
Speaker 6: a belly full of food, I had a drinks going
Speaker 6: in my veins. I was like fine, yeah, yeah. And
Speaker 6: to top it off, you know who else had a
Speaker 6: great time, Sarah. We laughed for hours. Oh my god,
Speaker 6: we're still laughing about it.
Speaker 3: I don't even want to tell you that Chad skipped
Speaker 3: his gluten day at the gym in order.
Speaker 5: To with you, Sarah.
Speaker 6: He really needed that day. I'll tell you what.
Speaker 1: Okay, Oh Chad, I mean, do you feel bad about
Speaker 1: ghosting Sarah? I guess that's what she wanted.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean it was just a tough time, you know,
Speaker 2: with my grandma and not doing so well. I just
Speaker 2: didn't feel like I could be dating.
Speaker 3: I am curious, Chad, why did you introduce the other
Speaker 3: date to your grandma?
Speaker 2: I was honestly just dropping off medication. It was just
Speaker 2: a quick errand it wasn't really like I was introducing
Speaker 2: it to her.
Speaker 5: Why you monster?
Speaker 1: I mean, okay, I know that your friend Sarah was
Speaker 1: really hurt, but like we deal with so much dating
Speaker 1: on this show, that ghosting just seems like the normal
Speaker 1: way that people get out of things these days. I
Speaker 1: don't think she should have maybe taken it so personally.
Speaker 6: Guys are just playing us all all the time, and
Speaker 6: they're playing games and they you know, we felt like,
Speaker 6: let's get this one back already.
Speaker 4: Sarah, and you have done.
Speaker 1: But I'm also interested. Yeah, Chad just happened to be
Speaker 1: the wrong place at the wrong time.
Speaker 5: I don't know.
Speaker 3: I can kind of see what Samantha is saying here,
Speaker 3: because I kind of would like to play a little
Speaker 3: bit of a game with you, a game.
Speaker 5: Of would you like to go out with Chad one
Speaker 5: more time?
Speaker 6: I would rather I would rather split my eyelids with
Speaker 6: razor blade.
Speaker 5: That's so dark if Chad, are you into that or.
Speaker 2: Yeah? Honestly, it just seems like she's so really angry
Speaker 2: because of what happened with Sarah, and honestly, at this point,
Speaker 2: I just it doesn't seem like it's going to work out.
Speaker 6: Okay, man, Oh you think you think, oh.
Speaker 5: You didn't answer, like he's the one being asked.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I never know who you're ghosting too.
Speaker 5: I guess, yes, Chad.
Speaker 3: Now you know, if a girl in the future ever
Speaker 3: says that she wants to hang out with you more.
Speaker 5: And really likes you. Red flag. Someone's trying to get
Speaker 5: three of this date. It must be awf.
Speaker 6: And you know what else? Say you're gonna call the person.
Speaker 6: Don't say that you liked them and you had a
Speaker 6: great time.
Speaker 3: She's trying to drag us into our ten of this
Speaker 3: song came, we appreciate your time, Ante, We'll let you go,
Speaker 3: thank you?
Speaker 5: Yeah, all right, brooking Jeffrey in the morning.
Speaker 3: It used to be that dating apps were scary, like,
Speaker 3: oh my gosh, is this rando gonna like show.
Speaker 5: Up and murder me or whatever?
Speaker 3: Totally, but nowadays it's like, oh my gosh, is this
Speaker 3: person gonna waste all my money and time and.
Speaker 1: A revenge a lot and.
Speaker 3: Then ghost me afterwards and laugh about it with their
Speaker 3: friends on the radio.
Speaker 1: Yeah. I can't believe there's so few options on dating
Speaker 1: apps that you run into the same people or people
Speaker 1: that your friends have dated.
Speaker 5: Yeah, how awful.
Speaker 3: My friend's hitting me up, Like, dude, your girlfriend is
Speaker 3: still yeah show Yeah. This whole thing just really is
Speaker 3: not a great advertisement for all the matchmaking apps out there.
Speaker 3: But I guess this is what's happening right now, Oh Boy,
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