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Speaker 1: It is a strawberry letter, Thank you enough you subject.

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Speaker 1: Is he a stalker or a smooth talker? Dear Stephen Shirley, Huh.

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Speaker 1: I'm a thirty eight year old married woman and we

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Speaker 1: had what you call a WorldWind romance. Romance. We met

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Speaker 1: friends that met him said he was the one for

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Speaker 1: me and I should marry him right away. He knows

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Speaker 1: how to treat a woman, and he's the best lover

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Speaker 1: I've ever had. I met him at an electronics store.

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Speaker 1: I was looking to buy a big TV for my

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Speaker 1: his basement. He helped me decide on a TV, and

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Speaker 1: he shocked me by offering to pay my delivery fees.

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Speaker 1: I went on a date with him the next day,

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Speaker 1: and the rest is history. He told me he was

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Speaker 1: my neighbor called me and said, there was a bouquet

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Speaker 1: of flowers at my door. They were from him, and

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Speaker 1: I called to ask how he got my address. He

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Speaker 1: said it was on the TV delivery voice. He said

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Speaker 1: I could expect sweet surprises from him often because he

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Speaker 1: was falling in love with me. From then on, I

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Speaker 1: was showered with gifts no matter where I was. He

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Speaker 1: jealous one day. My marriage is no different. It says,

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Speaker 1: if we're on the same wavelength or he's reading my mind.

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Speaker 1: Yesterday I was at lunch with two of my coworkers

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Speaker 1: and he walked in, and in walked my husband. He

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Speaker 1: said he paid for our lunch, kissed me on my forehead,

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Speaker 1: and left. My male coworker was mad because he paid

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Speaker 1: the bill, and he called my husband a stalker. He said,

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Speaker 1: I need to watch my back before I end up

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Speaker 1: on what forensic files. I'd never taken that into consideration,

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Speaker 1: but he does pop up on me often like he's

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Speaker 1: tracking me. Am I'm married to a stalker or a

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Speaker 1: real smooth talker. Ooh, okay, this letter is really giving me.

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Speaker 1: I'm just gonna go there sleeping with the end of

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Speaker 1: the enemy vibes Remember that movie with Julia Roberts, Remember

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Speaker 1: that movie Away from Him? Yeah? How about Enough with

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Speaker 1: Jennifer Lopez Remember that one? Yeah? Yeah, those guys were crazy,

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Speaker 1: and this guy sounds crazy to me too. You're gonna

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Speaker 1: have to get a straining order. I'm feeling that one day.

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Speaker 1: Is he a stalker or a smooth talker? You ask? Well,

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Speaker 1: sounds like he's a bit of both, because that's how

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Speaker 1: all the smooth talking and all that, all the gifts,

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Speaker 1: all that stuff. You know, mostly stalker vibes, though he's

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Speaker 1: given out because it's weird that he's rolling up on

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Speaker 1: you like that all the time. I mean all the time.

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Speaker 1: He's at church. You don't know he's coming. He got

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Speaker 1: your address. This is not normal behavior. And the sad

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Speaker 1: part is that you haven't known him long enough to

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Speaker 1: really know him. You should have googled him and researched

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Speaker 1: him beforehand, you know, no matter what your family and

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Speaker 1: friends said, marry him right away. Anytime something is too

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Speaker 1: get an earful about his crazy stalker ways and past.

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Speaker 1: He probably has a tracker on your car, your phone, cameras,

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Speaker 1: concerned if I were you. This is not a game.

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Speaker 1: Believe what your gut and what your intuition is telling you,

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Speaker 1: carefully orchestrating your exit plan. And I'm very serious, Tommy.

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Speaker 1: All right, I'm gonna give it to you just like this.

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Speaker 1: Just notice every time you turn around, the pop up

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Speaker 1: is coming. Okay, every time you turn around, the pop

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Speaker 1: up is coming. You in the bathroom, you got the

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Speaker 1: dope clothe? He busts up in there with some wet whites. Baby,

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Speaker 1: you want some wet white I got you. Baby. You

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Speaker 1: shopping with your girlfriends at the mall. He rolled up

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Speaker 1: help on me help and phony close. The pop up

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Speaker 1: is real. I'm telling you, every time you turn around,

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Speaker 1: the screen. Baby, what's ang? You want to hear? What's

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Speaker 1: ang you want to hear? Baby? I got you. You

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Speaker 1: turn around, the pop up is real. I'm done. All right, nephew,

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Speaker 1: I gotta hear from Jay and Junior. We'll have part

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Speaker 1: All right, we gotta recap today's Strawberry letter. Subject is

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Speaker 1: he a stalker or a smooth talker? Thirty eight year

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Speaker 1: old married woman wrote in to us. She said she's

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Speaker 1: in a world win romance, World win romance? Okay, world

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Speaker 1: When I got caught up. What happened Tommy. We met him,

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Speaker 1: she should marry him right away. He knows how to

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Speaker 1: treat a woman. Right after their first date, he sent

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Speaker 1: So now she's starting to think, Wait a minute, he

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Speaker 1: What you got? Oh my goodness, I heard your comment, Charlie.

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Speaker 1: I listened to nephews tommies. The man is just a

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Speaker 1: good ass man. What is the problem? Why? Why is

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Speaker 1: from that here must be nicey, damn it. It is

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Speaker 1: You ain't got nobody like that. He's showing up doing

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Speaker 1: that heat. From the minute you met this man, he

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Speaker 1: me now here, how y'all talk? He don't come ome.

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Speaker 1: He led that. Now he comes back smelling like white diamond.

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Speaker 1: I don't know what I'm dogging, my mamma, I'm dogging

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Speaker 1: this niceness. Damn you want? What do you? What do

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Speaker 1: honest with you, you know, Tommy, I disagree, Shirley, I

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Speaker 1: walk because yesterday y'all asked the question why do men cheat? Yeah,

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Speaker 1: he showed up at church. You know how many women

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Speaker 1: don't understand. It shouldn't be why me and cheeks? No,

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Speaker 1: why men buy gifts? The question we should be asked

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Speaker 1: why men buy gifts? Because you're questioning the gifts he

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Speaker 1: many women want a man or bottom a brand new car.

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Speaker 1: I wish I was that type of man. I ain't

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Speaker 1: wish it. Get these damn flowers? He throwing it on

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Speaker 1: the hour, sports talk. Right after this, you're listening to

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Speaker 1: the Stave Harvey Morning Show