WEBVTT - Second Date Update: Two Word Whisperer 0:00:00.120 --> 0:00:01.840 All right, we got a brand new episode for you. 0:00:01.960 --> 0:00:04.080 It is the Second Date Podcast and this is Brooke 0:00:04.080 --> 0:00:06.440 and Jeffrey in the Morning. And when I say the 0:00:06.640 --> 0:00:11.319 entire room was shocked, that is a understatement. When we 0:00:11.520 --> 0:00:14.120 found out the real reason this guy wanted to switch 0:00:14.200 --> 0:00:15.320 tables at the restaurant. 0:00:15.400 --> 0:00:17.280 Yeah, I'm still mid gas, dude. 0:00:17.440 --> 0:00:21.279 Seriously, seriously, this one is gonna blow you away. And 0:00:21.320 --> 0:00:22.960 I know there's gonna be a lot of comments on it, 0:00:23.000 --> 0:00:25.400 So let's get to those comments that we've got from 0:00:25.400 --> 0:00:25.720 this week. 0:00:25.800 --> 0:00:29.160 What do you like? Linda Scott wrote, Hi from Bulgaria. 0:00:29.600 --> 0:00:31.800 I found you on Instagram and got hooked. 0:00:32.000 --> 0:00:33.680 Now I listen to you every day while doing a 0:00:33.680 --> 0:00:34.839 one thousand piece puzzle. 0:00:34.960 --> 0:00:35.400 Keep it up. 0:00:36.479 --> 0:00:38.800 A thousand piece puzzle every day. That's a lot of 0:00:38.800 --> 0:00:41.080 pieces for making tapes for a while. It can't be 0:00:41.280 --> 0:00:41.559 one day. 0:00:41.760 --> 0:00:42.000 Okay. 0:00:42.200 --> 0:00:42.599 I don't know. 0:00:42.600 --> 0:00:45.640 Maybe she's really smart, maybe they're made differently. 0:00:48.520 --> 0:00:49.400 Made a lot of money for that. 0:00:49.520 --> 0:00:52.920 Hey, we love it, and let's get this episode started. 0:00:53.080 --> 0:00:55.600 Yeah, the second date of day. 0:00:56.960 --> 0:00:59.640 If you go out on a really good first date, 0:01:00.160 --> 0:01:03.279 it might end in a little kiss, It could end 0:01:03.320 --> 0:01:07.160 in a tender hug. Or if you're lucky a three 0:01:07.200 --> 0:01:12.240 way chicken fight with your parents, and I don't even 0:01:12.240 --> 0:01:15.080 know what that is, sitting on top of each other's 0:01:15.080 --> 0:01:19.800 shoulders inside of the pool. But one of our listeners 0:01:19.800 --> 0:01:22.800 says she got something else at the end of her night, 0:01:23.360 --> 0:01:27.200 a two word whisper in her ear, and she's not 0:01:27.560 --> 0:01:28.920 sure really what it. 0:01:29.000 --> 0:01:32.040 Meant, if anything, So let's talk to her. 0:01:33.000 --> 0:01:35.120 I just cringe thinking whispering. 0:01:37.680 --> 0:01:40.320 It could be something really nice and romantic. 0:01:40.480 --> 0:01:42.280 Baby Angie, Welcome. 0:01:42.000 --> 0:01:44.600 To the show. I'm very curious about this whisperer. 0:01:44.640 --> 0:01:46.959 But before we get to that, first tell us the 0:01:47.040 --> 0:01:48.960 guy's name and how you met him. 0:01:49.040 --> 0:01:49.840 Whisper it to us. 0:01:52.240 --> 0:01:56.720 N no more whispering, No more whispering. 0:01:56.400 --> 0:01:59.960 Until the actual whisper happened. At that its disy heat. 0:02:00.080 --> 0:02:03.720 I know, the radios down or. 0:02:03.760 --> 0:02:04.600 Up there, I don't know. 0:02:06.040 --> 0:02:06.160 How. 0:02:06.840 --> 0:02:08.800 I mean, it's kind of embarrassing. But we met on 0:02:08.880 --> 0:02:11.800 plenty of fish, which I know people don't even use anymore. 0:02:11.919 --> 0:02:15.400 But yeah, there's actual only fish on their question. 0:02:15.560 --> 0:02:17.520 What drove you to plenty of fish? 0:02:18.120 --> 0:02:19.680 I don't know. It's just one of those that, like 0:02:19.760 --> 0:02:21.600 I said, up a profile I don't even know how 0:02:21.639 --> 0:02:23.640 long ago. And then I'll get in a relationship and 0:02:23.680 --> 0:02:25.160 I'll get off it. But like I can just go 0:02:25.240 --> 0:02:25.919 reactivate it. 0:02:26.000 --> 0:02:26.440 I don't know. 0:02:26.800 --> 0:02:28.880 Okay, question does it even have an app or you 0:02:28.880 --> 0:02:29.920 have to use a browser? 0:02:32.280 --> 0:02:37.480 I don't even know. It only operates over facts now, okay. 0:02:37.600 --> 0:02:39.280 I thought it still was printed out on the back 0:02:39.280 --> 0:02:39.959 of the weeklies. 0:02:41.040 --> 0:02:41.560 That could be. 0:02:41.639 --> 0:02:42.080 I want to go. 0:02:42.720 --> 0:02:44.840 But the important thing is that you matched with this 0:02:44.919 --> 0:02:45.560 Nicholas guy. 0:02:45.680 --> 0:02:47.440 So tell us what did you do for your date? 0:02:47.960 --> 0:02:50.280 We went to dinner. We went to a tie place, 0:02:50.360 --> 0:02:52.840 which is one of my faves, so that was good. 0:02:53.320 --> 0:02:55.399 Did he remember that it was one of your favorites 0:02:55.600 --> 0:02:57.359 because that's always like really nice too. 0:02:58.000 --> 0:02:59.520 Well, I picked it, so that means that. 0:03:01.880 --> 0:03:04.360 He deserves credit a little bit for going along. So 0:03:04.440 --> 0:03:04.840 let's get it. 0:03:05.120 --> 0:03:07.560 And I'm a lady who knows what she likes and 0:03:07.639 --> 0:03:09.200 it's padi. 0:03:11.360 --> 0:03:13.760 Awesome. So what did you think when you first saw 0:03:13.800 --> 0:03:14.239 each other. 0:03:14.800 --> 0:03:16.680 I mean, I feel like we hit it off. I mean, 0:03:16.720 --> 0:03:19.760 I will say dating kind of sucks, and I feel 0:03:19.760 --> 0:03:22.560 like a lot of times they get like flirty to 0:03:22.639 --> 0:03:24.720 the point that you're like, all right, dude, calm down, 0:03:24.760 --> 0:03:27.680 Like they'll ask you for sexy pictures before you've even met, 0:03:28.520 --> 0:03:32.040 and he didn't. He was more like soft spoken, more 0:03:32.120 --> 0:03:34.160 like a like a nerdy type. 0:03:34.320 --> 0:03:34.800 But it was. 0:03:34.800 --> 0:03:38.720 Cute and he was respectful of your bountries. 0:03:41.240 --> 0:03:44.560 So a nice guy. That's sweet and considerate. I'm surprised 0:03:44.600 --> 0:03:46.120 you didn't unmatch him. 0:03:45.960 --> 0:03:51.800 Immedia, Right, Yeah. 0:03:50.560 --> 0:03:51.400 That's really funny. 0:03:51.480 --> 0:03:54.320 Okay, was there any like, I don't know, moments of 0:03:54.640 --> 0:03:56.240 real flirtation that happened. 0:03:56.840 --> 0:03:59.360 Yeah, I mean it felt like a good first day 0:03:59.440 --> 0:04:01.440 for the most part, but like I don't know, they'd 0:04:01.440 --> 0:04:03.120 be like I'd ask him a question and there'd be 0:04:03.160 --> 0:04:04.920 like a five seconds delay and then he would go 0:04:04.960 --> 0:04:06.840 and answer, and it wasn't weird at all, but. 0:04:06.800 --> 0:04:08.760 Like just staring at you for the five seconds. 0:04:08.800 --> 0:04:11.440 You know, though, some people are just bad at timing 0:04:11.720 --> 0:04:14.240 in a conversation. Have you ever talked to somebody who 0:04:14.280 --> 0:04:16.400 like takes really long pauses and you're like. 0:04:16.360 --> 0:04:17.400 Wait, due, do I go? 0:04:17.560 --> 0:04:18.600 Do we not go? 0:04:19.160 --> 0:04:21.120 Like, maybe his timing is just a little off. 0:04:22.120 --> 0:04:23.680 Maybe what are you talking about me? 0:04:24.160 --> 0:04:28.240 Sorry he waited to answer. 0:04:28.720 --> 0:04:30.440 So I like to think of it as I'm just 0:04:30.480 --> 0:04:31.200 a good listener. 0:04:32.320 --> 0:04:35.160 Yeah, but I was done talking. I mean, he was 0:04:35.560 --> 0:04:38.440 checking his phone a lot, so I wonder if maybe, 0:04:38.480 --> 0:04:40.919 like maybe I thought I was boring. I don't know, 0:04:41.160 --> 0:04:42.440 you know what, I think this is. 0:04:42.440 --> 0:04:44.120 Mind blowing to me. He does something that I could 0:04:44.200 --> 0:04:46.560 never do, and that is think before he speaks. 0:04:46.760 --> 0:04:49.760 I'm thinking Google before he speaks. 0:04:48.880 --> 0:04:51.880 Google second fast. 0:04:54.200 --> 0:04:57.760 I know, maybe he's having AI listening thing. 0:04:58.160 --> 0:05:01.120 Was one point, like early on, after we sat down, 0:05:01.160 --> 0:05:03.360 like before we had ordered anything, he was like, oh man, 0:05:03.400 --> 0:05:06.359 it's really loud over here. And he was like, do 0:05:06.360 --> 0:05:08.000 you mind if we moved to like the back where 0:05:08.040 --> 0:05:09.520 it's quire And I was like, no, that's fine, and 0:05:09.560 --> 0:05:10.240 they moved us out. 0:05:10.360 --> 0:05:11.840 Maybe I don't know. 0:05:12.160 --> 0:05:15.120 I think I honestly think we're over thinking it. 0:05:15.200 --> 0:05:16.920 I was just thinking what jose was thinking, like, if 0:05:16.920 --> 0:05:19.240 this is a really sweet, nice guy who's trying to 0:05:19.279 --> 0:05:21.480 come off like he really cares, he might take a 0:05:21.520 --> 0:05:23.599 second to try and come up with a really good 0:05:23.640 --> 0:05:25.880 answer to your questions and blurting stuff. 0:05:25.960 --> 0:05:26.120 Wow. 0:05:26.320 --> 0:05:30.680 The whole point is that the awkward pauses didn't bother you, right, No, 0:05:30.680 --> 0:05:31.480 I wouldn't. 0:05:31.120 --> 0:05:31.960 Say they bothered me. 0:05:32.040 --> 0:05:33.240 I just it was weird. 0:05:33.320 --> 0:05:36.400 It was noticeable because they probably didn't bother him. That's 0:05:36.440 --> 0:05:38.640 how he communicated to him. 0:05:38.640 --> 0:05:40.240 He was like that was a normal back and. 0:05:40.120 --> 0:05:43.279 Forth totally so overall pretty solid date. 0:05:43.360 --> 0:05:46.000 I'm really really interested though, in the end here when 0:05:46.040 --> 0:05:49.039 he whispers something into the two words wait. 0:05:48.839 --> 0:05:50.679 I want to know if he waited five seconds before 0:05:50.680 --> 0:05:52.000 he did the run. 0:05:51.920 --> 0:05:52.960 Us through what happened there? 0:05:53.240 --> 0:05:55.760 Okay, so end of the day, we were like outside 0:05:55.760 --> 0:05:58.280 of the restaurant about to go our separate ways. I 0:05:58.360 --> 0:06:00.760 give him a hook and win, I hug him. He 0:06:00.920 --> 0:06:03.760 whispers in my ear, good. 0:06:03.680 --> 0:06:06.360 Job, good job, good job. 0:06:07.640 --> 0:06:09.240 Like sums up good job. 0:06:09.560 --> 0:06:13.560 Well that's weird. B. Maybe he just doesn't know how 0:06:13.600 --> 0:06:14.159 to end a date. 0:06:14.600 --> 0:06:19.360 Like maybe it was any dialogue that came out. Maybe 0:06:19.400 --> 0:06:20.240 he was talking to you. 0:06:21.800 --> 0:06:23.560 Is it like the thing where you're you're wanting to 0:06:23.600 --> 0:06:26.839 be like hey, good date, or like in two words 0:06:26.880 --> 0:06:30.440 that you mix two things together and accidentally say something awkward. 0:06:31.080 --> 0:06:33.000 It could be the whole reason he's not calling you back, 0:06:33.040 --> 0:06:34.960 because he's like, God, what did I say that? 0:06:35.440 --> 0:06:38.120 I mean maybe, but like even after he said it, 0:06:38.279 --> 0:06:40.119 I was like, wait, what are you talking about? 0:06:40.680 --> 0:06:41.240 What did he say? 0:06:41.600 --> 0:06:45.040 He just he put his finger to his mouth like 0:06:45.040 --> 0:06:46.880 like it's our secret. But I have no idea what 0:06:46.960 --> 0:06:47.880 he was talking about. 0:06:48.480 --> 0:06:50.839 What is happening that romantic. 0:06:51.120 --> 0:06:53.160 But anytime a man puts his finger to his I 0:06:53.160 --> 0:06:54.440 don't like lips. It's creepy. 0:06:54.480 --> 0:06:55.479 Anybody nobody should. 0:06:57.040 --> 0:06:59.680 So have you texted him since the date ended? 0:07:00.200 --> 0:07:00.520 Yeah? 0:07:00.560 --> 0:07:02.400 So we were, you know, we were. We had like 0:07:02.440 --> 0:07:05.240 a cute little back and forth before the day, you know, 0:07:05.320 --> 0:07:07.560 we'd like send each other memes or whatever, so like 0:07:07.640 --> 0:07:11.800 I did that, but no, I have not gotten any response. 0:07:12.240 --> 0:07:16.880 Oh okay, something's up. We're gonna come back rate that's 0:07:16.920 --> 0:07:19.840 not okay. We're gonna call this plenty of Fisher, and 0:07:19.880 --> 0:07:21.880 we're gonna see what he has to say when we 0:07:21.920 --> 0:07:23.680 come back and get you your second date. 0:07:23.600 --> 0:07:25.320 Update right after this. 0:07:31.200 --> 0:07:31.560 Update. 0:07:32.960 --> 0:07:36.480 It's the two words that every little boy is dying 0:07:36.560 --> 0:07:38.840 to hear from his unapproving father. 0:07:41.320 --> 0:07:44.280 Good job, Yeah, proud of your son. 0:07:44.840 --> 0:07:45.800 We're proud of you, Jeff. 0:07:45.880 --> 0:07:47.920 That's not exactly what a woman wants to have whispered 0:07:47.920 --> 0:07:49.520 into her ear at the end of a first game. 0:07:49.760 --> 0:07:51.840 I thought we were gonna go into Jeff's therapy session. 0:07:52.000 --> 0:07:55.560 We do nearly enough time, okay, But it's what happened 0:07:55.560 --> 0:07:57.680 to our listener Angie after she hung out with a 0:07:57.720 --> 0:07:59.920 guy named Nicholas the other night. He gave her a 0:08:00.560 --> 0:08:03.000 and then softly said, good job. 0:08:04.520 --> 0:08:07.840 Girls are not happy about this. What she wasn't either, right. 0:08:07.920 --> 0:08:10.240 I don't think any woman would be happy about that. 0:08:10.800 --> 0:08:11.640 But we've got a. 0:08:11.600 --> 0:08:14.160 Lot of questions about the good job, about some of 0:08:14.200 --> 0:08:16.440 the other weird stuff that was happening during the day. 0:08:16.520 --> 0:08:19.400 Angie said she's willing to look past it if she 0:08:19.480 --> 0:08:21.520 can get another chance with him, because he seemed like 0:08:21.600 --> 0:08:22.160 a great guy. 0:08:22.360 --> 0:08:24.800 He said that he was like a little reserved, a 0:08:24.800 --> 0:08:27.440 little nerdy, Like those are some of the quirks that 0:08:27.480 --> 0:08:30.120 come with nerdy, you know. Yeah. 0:08:30.160 --> 0:08:32.520 I mean that's the thing though, Like it's so hard 0:08:32.520 --> 0:08:36.480 to meet an actual, nice, respectful guy, and I just 0:08:36.520 --> 0:08:39.839 feel like he was And I'm assuming I mess up, 0:08:39.880 --> 0:08:40.439 you know what I mean? 0:08:40.559 --> 0:08:42.400 Do you think you messed up? And that's why you. 0:08:42.440 --> 0:08:45.960 Weally it's the person who calls in that messed up. 0:08:45.960 --> 0:08:47.560 And like I said, maybe thought I was boring. 0:08:47.600 --> 0:08:51.360 I don't know, probably was becoming self aware. 0:08:51.640 --> 0:08:55.640 No, you don't like that. 0:08:55.840 --> 0:08:56.280 Are you cool? 0:08:56.320 --> 0:08:59.720 If Nicholas has an unapproving father, is that okay? 0:08:59.840 --> 0:09:00.880 I can deal with that. 0:09:01.040 --> 0:09:03.280 Yeah, okay, it's good. 0:09:03.320 --> 0:09:05.000 It'll be something Jeffrey and he can bond. 0:09:05.160 --> 0:09:07.720 Yes, also good about it. So let's call him. I'm 0:09:07.720 --> 0:09:09.679 a Dallas number right now. Let's see if he picks up. 0:09:17.840 --> 0:09:23.280 Hello, Hey, is this Nicholas Listen Nick, hey man, thanks 0:09:23.280 --> 0:09:25.640 for answering. You are on a radio show right now 0:09:26.559 --> 0:09:27.839 called Brooke and Jeffrey in the Morning. 0:09:27.880 --> 0:09:29.839 Welcome to the show, Nicholas, How are you man? 0:09:29.840 --> 0:09:30.319 Good morning? 0:09:33.760 --> 0:09:35.080 Why am I on a radio show? 0:09:35.280 --> 0:09:35.960 Great question? 0:09:36.080 --> 0:09:38.400 Yeah, so, I don't know. Have you ever heard of 0:09:38.960 --> 0:09:40.800 something called a second date update before? 0:09:42.160 --> 0:09:43.440 Yeah? I think so, I think so. 0:09:43.760 --> 0:09:44.280 Oh you have. 0:09:45.000 --> 0:09:48.960 Okay, congrats, you know who we are. 0:09:49.040 --> 0:09:50.200 Now you get to be a part of one. 0:09:50.320 --> 0:09:53.600 So the way that it works is one of our 0:09:53.760 --> 0:09:56.600 listeners has reached out to us hoping that. 0:09:56.559 --> 0:09:57.640 We could get a hold of you. 0:09:58.040 --> 0:10:01.920 A girl named Angie, Andie's trying to get a hold 0:10:01.960 --> 0:10:02.120 of me. 0:10:03.040 --> 0:10:05.160 Yeah, do you remember her? 0:10:05.320 --> 0:10:07.280 You guys wing to ty food the other night. 0:10:07.880 --> 0:10:10.480 She's hoping that she could maybe get another chance to 0:10:10.520 --> 0:10:11.360 hang out with you again. 0:10:12.679 --> 0:10:14.760 Yeah, no, I don't. I don't think that's going to 0:10:14.840 --> 0:10:15.240 work out. 0:10:15.600 --> 0:10:18.400 Really Okay, it sounded like such a good date. 0:10:18.520 --> 0:10:20.920 Well, yeah, before you even go there, Nicholas, I'm just 0:10:20.920 --> 0:10:23.959 gonna let you know, she said, that she really liked 0:10:23.960 --> 0:10:26.880 you and that you two shared a good vibe. 0:10:28.800 --> 0:10:32.880 Yeah, no, I thought Angie was nice. 0:10:33.920 --> 0:10:34.880 Yeah, she didn't mention that. 0:10:34.920 --> 0:10:38.400 Actually, Nicholas, she mentioned a few odd things that happened 0:10:38.760 --> 0:10:42.160 on the date, and she wasn't sure if maybe those 0:10:42.160 --> 0:10:45.000 were early signs that you weren't interested. 0:10:44.480 --> 0:10:47.600 In her, which actually turns out could be true. At 0:10:47.600 --> 0:10:49.320 this point, at first we thought she. 0:10:49.280 --> 0:10:53.320 Was nuts, But well, well what what did she What 0:10:53.360 --> 0:10:53.840 did she say? 0:10:53.960 --> 0:10:56.360 Well, like we just mentioned, there's like a delay in 0:10:56.400 --> 0:10:59.760 your responses a little bit during the normal conversation. 0:10:59.280 --> 0:11:01.560 Almost like you're only thinking of what you're going to say. 0:11:03.320 --> 0:11:06.839 Delay, Okay, almost happened again. 0:11:07.080 --> 0:11:09.880 I think he hasn't noticed that that is part of 0:11:09.920 --> 0:11:10.719 your conversation. 0:11:10.760 --> 0:11:11.720 That's fine, that's okay. 0:11:11.800 --> 0:11:13.720 And also she said that you had to move to 0:11:13.800 --> 0:11:16.480 a quieter area. And I'm just going to let you 0:11:16.520 --> 0:11:19.240 know what the room thought when we heard everything. The 0:11:19.400 --> 0:11:23.800 room was wondering if maybe you had AI listening in 0:11:23.840 --> 0:11:26.800 on your conversation to help you respond to your date, 0:11:26.840 --> 0:11:28.560 because you were checking your phone a lot too. 0:11:29.160 --> 0:11:32.000 Yeah, so I don't know who the room is. Who's 0:11:32.000 --> 0:11:32.760 the who's the room? 0:11:37.040 --> 0:11:42.840 It was mostly Alexis people okay, because when we talked her, 0:11:42.960 --> 0:11:44.680 you know, we all give our ideas like, oh, maybe 0:11:44.720 --> 0:11:46.040 it could be this, maybe it could be that. 0:11:46.080 --> 0:11:47.000 These are just theories. 0:11:47.559 --> 0:11:50.240 So could you just be honest with us and tell 0:11:50.320 --> 0:11:53.800 us did you do that? Were you using AI to 0:11:53.880 --> 0:11:54.440 assist you? 0:11:55.640 --> 0:11:58.120 I was having some help on the date, but I 0:11:58.160 --> 0:12:00.280 wasn't using the AI some help on. 0:12:00.240 --> 0:12:04.319 The date, help from your phone. 0:12:05.120 --> 0:12:08.120 I was on the line with my ex, and she was. 0:12:08.240 --> 0:12:10.520 She was on the line with us the whole time. 0:12:12.240 --> 0:12:12.800 Your ex. 0:12:13.840 --> 0:12:16.600 Yeah, well, I mean sometimes I just need help. So 0:12:16.640 --> 0:12:18.320 she's kind of like a security blanket for me. 0:12:18.640 --> 0:12:23.120 She wait, you date, did you have like earbuds in 0:12:23.200 --> 0:12:25.400 and you were listening to your ex at the same 0:12:25.440 --> 0:12:27.160 time you were listening to her? 0:12:27.559 --> 0:12:30.160 No? No, she was just on mute, like she couldn't 0:12:30.160 --> 0:12:32.520 say anything. She wasn't coaching me. I just wanted her 0:12:32.559 --> 0:12:33.679 to hear everything. 0:12:33.720 --> 0:12:36.360 So she's kind of taking notes and then later you 0:12:36.400 --> 0:12:38.559 will call her and she will go over the notes. 0:12:38.679 --> 0:12:38.839 Here. 0:12:38.880 --> 0:12:39.559 That's what I'm thinking. 0:12:40.240 --> 0:12:42.839 Volunteers to listen to hours of your dates? 0:12:43.120 --> 0:12:44.319 What what a kind woman? 0:12:47.640 --> 0:12:50.640 Well, it's part of our post breakup growth agreement. 0:12:51.559 --> 0:12:55.360 Wait, post break up growth agreement wore. 0:12:56.760 --> 0:12:57.200 In that. 0:12:57.360 --> 0:13:00.959 Yeah, we mutually agreed upon and I listened to her 0:13:01.040 --> 0:13:04.040 dates too on occasion. It's just we help each other 0:13:04.120 --> 0:13:07.920 get through our past breakup and move into a new one. 0:13:08.640 --> 0:13:10.640 So it's healthy and very healthy. 0:13:10.679 --> 0:13:16.720 Yeah, I mean it's a very conscious uncoupling like your 0:13:16.760 --> 0:13:17.280 new dates. 0:13:17.600 --> 0:13:20.240 Oh yeah, well that is a good point, because he 0:13:20.400 --> 0:13:21.760 said sabotage. 0:13:23.000 --> 0:13:24.800 You know she was not a fan of Angie. 0:13:25.080 --> 0:13:28.920 Okay, well, but how did you feel about her? 0:13:29.600 --> 0:13:32.600 I was enjoying myself, but she mentioned that she seemed 0:13:32.600 --> 0:13:34.520 like a try hard, And then when I was thinking 0:13:34.559 --> 0:13:36.640 about it, I think that she might be kind of 0:13:36.760 --> 0:13:37.400 a try hard. 0:13:37.520 --> 0:13:40.679 Whoa wait, wait, don't you want people to try hard 0:13:40.720 --> 0:13:41.600 on a first day? 0:13:45.120 --> 0:13:47.920 Excuse me? How was I a try hard? 0:13:49.040 --> 0:13:50.040 That's coming in hard? 0:13:50.320 --> 0:13:51.640 Yeah? 0:13:50.679 --> 0:13:54.440 Yeah, Oh my god, Nicholas, you might find this funny, 0:13:54.559 --> 0:13:57.080 but your ex girlfriend and Angie have a lot in 0:13:57.120 --> 0:14:00.520 common because she's actually been on the phone listening in 0:14:00.559 --> 0:14:01.559 on this conversation. 0:14:01.679 --> 0:14:04.840 Okay, that's not that's not fair. I didn't I didn't 0:14:04.880 --> 0:14:05.520 know that. I didn't. 0:14:06.080 --> 0:14:08.440 Yeah, and Angie didn't know that X was listening to 0:14:08.480 --> 0:14:09.000 her either. 0:14:09.200 --> 0:14:12.720 Yeas to be judging, but Angie. 0:14:12.320 --> 0:14:16.600 But she was hi, Angie there you go. Hi. 0:14:18.920 --> 0:14:21.880 I mean you're saying this is a healthy thing, but 0:14:21.960 --> 0:14:25.760 you also said your ex is your security blankets. So 0:14:25.960 --> 0:14:30.200 it doesn't feel like you're ready to be dating other people. 0:14:30.960 --> 0:14:34.160 Yeah no, Well, in most relationships, people don't have the 0:14:34.240 --> 0:14:36.680 right closure and then they hold on to the past, 0:14:36.720 --> 0:14:39.280 and so this is a way to move on to 0:14:39.560 --> 0:14:42.760 my future. Yeah, you're not moving on. 0:14:42.840 --> 0:14:46.000 You're literally still relying on your ex to make your 0:14:46.080 --> 0:14:47.880 decisions down there, we're dating. 0:14:48.040 --> 0:14:49.920 Well, we spent a lot of time together, so she 0:14:50.040 --> 0:14:53.400 knows me really well, and she sees things from the 0:14:53.440 --> 0:14:54.960 opposites x that I might not see. 0:14:55.080 --> 0:14:57.000 Then maybe you guys should be together. 0:14:57.400 --> 0:15:01.080 Yeah, no, it's not. It's not like that. We're not 0:15:01.280 --> 0:15:05.080 romantically involved whatsoever. It's just we have a year left 0:15:05.120 --> 0:15:06.840 in our post break up growth agreement. 0:15:07.040 --> 0:15:08.160 Yeah, it's a long time. 0:15:08.240 --> 0:15:09.400 You're kind of each other's life. 0:15:09.400 --> 0:15:12.080 Coaches, really, can't you just recap the date with your 0:15:12.080 --> 0:15:14.800 ex instead of having her the whole time? 0:15:15.200 --> 0:15:18.840 Well, see, there's trigger words and things that she'll say, like, well, 0:15:18.880 --> 0:15:21.320 that's the red flag that I don't typically see. 0:15:21.920 --> 0:15:24.520 This does make sense now why he whispered good job 0:15:24.560 --> 0:15:25.200 at the very. 0:15:25.160 --> 0:15:25.760 End of the date. 0:15:26.080 --> 0:15:28.560 He wasn't saying it to Angie. He was saying it 0:15:28.600 --> 0:15:30.120 to his ex girlfriend who was listening. 0:15:30.560 --> 0:15:31.600 That doesn't make sense. 0:15:33.800 --> 0:15:36.600 No, I was talking to Angie. I did whisper good 0:15:36.680 --> 0:15:38.720 job because I thought that we were going to get 0:15:38.720 --> 0:15:41.600 to go on another date because I enjoyed myself and 0:15:41.640 --> 0:15:43.400 I didn't want my ex to hear her. 0:15:48.120 --> 0:15:50.600 Nicholas, so you're not to go out with me again? 0:15:50.640 --> 0:15:52.840 And you listen hearing me. 0:15:53.480 --> 0:15:54.360 I mean, here's the thing. 0:15:54.440 --> 0:15:57.000 I actually think Nicholas is over his ex. I think 0:15:57.040 --> 0:16:00.600 your ex Nicholas is not. And I don't think you're 0:16:00.640 --> 0:16:01.800 seeing that correctly. 0:16:02.120 --> 0:16:04.480 I mean that's the possibility, and I and I kind 0:16:04.480 --> 0:16:06.760 of agree with that, but we still have our agreement 0:16:06.800 --> 0:16:08.000 and I have said. 0:16:07.880 --> 0:16:10.480 That, rip it up. 0:16:10.840 --> 0:16:13.960 Okay, what are we talking about? 0:16:14.080 --> 0:16:14.280 Yeah? 0:16:14.840 --> 0:16:17.200 And if all she could come up with is she's 0:16:17.200 --> 0:16:19.280 a try hard as the biggest red flag. 0:16:19.480 --> 0:16:22.520 Oh man, that's a weak red flag. 0:16:23.040 --> 0:16:24.840 And I didn't try that hard. I didn't even shave 0:16:24.960 --> 0:16:27.640 my legs for that day. 0:16:30.680 --> 0:16:33.080 There must be some clause in your contract with her. 0:16:33.080 --> 0:16:34.520 They'll let you get out of it when you find 0:16:34.560 --> 0:16:36.520 an amazing new girl like Angie here. 0:16:36.600 --> 0:16:39.120 Because I have a question, what if I had put 0:16:39.160 --> 0:16:41.360 out on the first date, which you have been listening in. 0:16:41.640 --> 0:16:44.760 Oh my god, that. 0:16:46.280 --> 0:16:48.320 Our date, whether it's supposed to go over an hour 0:16:48.320 --> 0:16:50.360 and a half, I know, we were already pushing it 0:16:50.400 --> 0:16:55.720 at an hour forty times agreement. 0:16:55.040 --> 0:16:58.200 Where he was already breaking the rules a little bit. Yeah, 0:16:58.280 --> 0:17:00.520 so the band aid's starting to come off. 0:17:00.400 --> 0:17:01.920 Or he's like, hold on, let me ask my ex, Hey, 0:17:01.960 --> 0:17:02.640 can I sleep with this? 0:17:02.840 --> 0:17:03.120 Yeah? 0:17:03.480 --> 0:17:07.239 Angie, just real quick, first, are you still interested in 0:17:07.280 --> 0:17:08.640 meeting up with Nicholas again? 0:17:08.720 --> 0:17:09.680 After what you know? 0:17:12.440 --> 0:17:13.240 There's no way. 0:17:13.720 --> 0:17:15.000 Oh I thought you were okay, No. 0:17:15.280 --> 0:17:17.640 Jeff that would have been wild if she said, yeah, 0:17:17.680 --> 0:17:18.560