WEBVTT - Advice Letter 11

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<v Speaker 1>Get your vitamin right with me and get excited. Good morning,

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<v Speaker 1>good afternoon, good evening. Wherever you may be, you are

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<v Speaker 1>tuned into the Vitamin D with Dawn Day podcast. And

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<v Speaker 1>if you haven't guessed it already, I'm your host Dawn Day,

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<v Speaker 1>and I'm here to get too excited enough about your

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<v Speaker 1>life so that you can live life on purpose and

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<v Speaker 1>for a purpose. Now this is your first time tuning in. Welcome,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm so glad to have you. Um. I want to

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<v Speaker 1>tell you now that vitamin D is upont of my name.

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<v Speaker 1>You know my name is Dawn, so you get vitamin

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<v Speaker 1>D from the sun. So I am here to shed

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<v Speaker 1>light into your life. And I do this with inspirational

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<v Speaker 1>insights and conversations with everyday people and some of your

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<v Speaker 1>favorite celebrities, so it gets a kind of interesting. And

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<v Speaker 1>also I have these special moments where I answer some

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<v Speaker 1>advice letters that you guys right in just to give

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<v Speaker 1>you my take. Because when we talk about vitamin D,

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<v Speaker 1>it's about shedding the light. So I shed light on

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<v Speaker 1>these letters. But I want to be clear, Um, when

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<v Speaker 1>you shed light, that's on the good and the bad.

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<v Speaker 1>So if you wanna be better and you want to

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<v Speaker 1>do better. You gotta be able to see better. So

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<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna give a t straight no chaser because I

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<v Speaker 1>want to keep it real with you. Becauld you imagine

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<v Speaker 1>like a plant being put into the ground, expecting soil

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<v Speaker 1>and not getting it. How do you expect to grow? Huh?

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<v Speaker 1>And I'm assuming that you wrote in because you want

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<v Speaker 1>to grow. You want to get some insight. So I

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<v Speaker 1>want to encourage anyone else that you know they feel

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<v Speaker 1>tempted and go ahead and email me Vitamin D at

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<v Speaker 1>Dawn day Speaks dot com. Okay, Um, I hope your

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<v Speaker 1>day is going off well. I hope that you are

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<v Speaker 1>walking in positivity and lighting all that good stuff. How

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<v Speaker 1>am I? I'm cool, I'm good, I'm transition and learning

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<v Speaker 1>in life. What I um about being present? I'm learning

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<v Speaker 1>life and I'm reflecting and I'm seeing myself because I

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<v Speaker 1>told you I want to grow, and I told you

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<v Speaker 1>more of what we're doing with the Vitamin D with

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<v Speaker 1>daunt podcast. Um what else? Also? I probably should have

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<v Speaker 1>said this right before. Um, how many of you guys

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<v Speaker 1>have noticed or been in seasons where people are falling away,

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<v Speaker 1>like you know, different friends, They're just falling away and

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<v Speaker 1>not like because it's a fight. It's just that things

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<v Speaker 1>are changing or you know, um, you find yourself. Uh

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<v Speaker 1>just as some people say, they say it's like a

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<v Speaker 1>prowning season, and that's because it's just time to elevate

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<v Speaker 1>with life. And so sometimes things are you know, may

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<v Speaker 1>not be going as playing, but you see the change going.

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<v Speaker 1>I guess that's really what's going on. So I'm not

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<v Speaker 1>gonna say that bad, but I see it and it's

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<v Speaker 1>so uncomfortable. And I just wanted to remind you to

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<v Speaker 1>stay strong in your mind because I can see the

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<v Speaker 1>blessings that are happening in my life. I can feel them.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm experiencing them. And just like how the tides run

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<v Speaker 1>high and the tides run low, how in the morning

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<v Speaker 1>there is the sun and that night there's dusk. I

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<v Speaker 1>I have these moments of all these blessings, but then

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<v Speaker 1>it's still life. And I just want to encourage you

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<v Speaker 1>to stay mentally in the game because I fight it myself. Yes,

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<v Speaker 1>vitamin D yes, dawn day, old inspiration. I have these

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<v Speaker 1>moments where I have to force myself. I have to

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<v Speaker 1>remind myself. I have to exercise this brain of mind

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<v Speaker 1>because I know what I ask God for and I

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<v Speaker 1>know what the promises all my life, and I just

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<v Speaker 1>want you to remind yourself, whatever the promises, things may

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<v Speaker 1>not be going the way that you expect. It may

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<v Speaker 1>not be happening when the moment that you want them

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<v Speaker 1>to happen, but know that it's happening right on time.

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<v Speaker 1>That quote unquote missed opportunity, perhaps it wasn't ready, or

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<v Speaker 1>you have something out better for you. And I guess

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<v Speaker 1>it's just the understanding of that. It's just the peace

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<v Speaker 1>of that. I think that's what the flow of that is.

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<v Speaker 1>And I guess that's what we need to get in

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<v Speaker 1>a better flow of things, not just hitting our head

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<v Speaker 1>and getting frustrated because it doesn't work, it doesn't help,

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<v Speaker 1>it doesn't soothe. It's like when you when you're getting

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<v Speaker 1>frustrated and you're getting upset, it's almost like having your

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<v Speaker 1>muscles be constricted for so long it aches, it hurts,

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<v Speaker 1>but when you just breathe, put them shoulders down and relax,

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<v Speaker 1>almost as if you can just sit back and get

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<v Speaker 1>a view kind of like maybe that's also why they

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<v Speaker 1>say play the game of chess, because you can really

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<v Speaker 1>just see all the pieces that are on the board.

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<v Speaker 1>In fact, you understand why you're in this position and

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<v Speaker 1>understanding with me the result of the next position. And

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<v Speaker 1>I think that comes with the understanding. So peace be

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<v Speaker 1>still on that. Clearly I had to get that out

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<v Speaker 1>about something because I was going in with the der

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<v Speaker 1>may over here like mmm, Laura on the board, like okay,

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<v Speaker 1>but yeah, I just want to say that. So let

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<v Speaker 1>me go into that. I don't a bag and read

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<v Speaker 1>this letter. Oh first, let me say thank you, thank

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<v Speaker 1>you so much. Here's the letter. Thank you so much

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<v Speaker 1>for writing in. Thank you so much for being vulnerable.

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<v Speaker 1>Thank you so much for choosing you and wanting to elevate,

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<v Speaker 1>to be better and to do better. Okay, all right,

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<v Speaker 1>now let me tell you now I love you, and

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<v Speaker 1>I appreciate you, and I respect you and to honor you.

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<v Speaker 1>All right, let's go in. Here is the Vitamin Due

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<v Speaker 1>Advice letter, subject my husband doesn't want me to go

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<v Speaker 1>back to work. HM. Dear Dawn, I just aced an

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<v Speaker 1>interview for the job of my dreams. I should be

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<v Speaker 1>over the moon, but I'm feeling like I've stepped onto

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<v Speaker 1>a path of doom. I'm thirty eight, living in San Diego,

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<v Speaker 1>and I've been to stay at home mom for about

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<v Speaker 1>six years now. My husband and I are both what

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<v Speaker 1>you might call high achieving. He's a legal consultant for

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<v Speaker 1>some large media corporation, and I used to work as

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<v Speaker 1>an academic before we decided to have children. Considering that

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<v Speaker 1>he made them and was in the most stable position,

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<v Speaker 1>I wasn't tenure track and I didn't foresee getting to

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<v Speaker 1>that point soon. We decided that we'd become a single

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<v Speaker 1>income household and i'd stay back with the kids. Looking

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<v Speaker 1>back on it, I came into our marriage thinking that

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<v Speaker 1>once whatever children we had started going to school, I'd

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<v Speaker 1>start working again. I've since realized that my husband wasn't

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<v Speaker 1>of that same mindset. We ended up having a beautiful

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<v Speaker 1>baby girl, and I have love for the past five

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<v Speaker 1>years being able to see her grow. But I've also

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<v Speaker 1>missed the classroom and the ability to do research. So

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<v Speaker 1>now that our baby is getting ready to go to

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<v Speaker 1>school next year, lord hoping it's in person, I decided

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<v Speaker 1>to look into getting a new job. I didn't tell

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<v Speaker 1>my husband, though. Since our daughter has been born, he's

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<v Speaker 1>been showing upgrade taking care of her, taking time from

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<v Speaker 1>work when I need to break, bringing his mom from

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<v Speaker 1>across the country to help and let her know her

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<v Speaker 1>grand baby. But he's also been throwing a little slide

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<v Speaker 1>comments like you're so good at this, you'd make a

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<v Speaker 1>great housewife. It rubbed me the wrong way sometimes, but

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<v Speaker 1>I usually push these thoughts away because well and infant

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<v Speaker 1>takes up a lot of attention. So I told him

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<v Speaker 1>that I wanted to go back to work when our

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<v Speaker 1>daughter gets to first grade, and that he made the

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<v Speaker 1>space and said sounds great. No enthusiasm in his voice,

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<v Speaker 1>no questions about where I wanted to start or what

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<v Speaker 1>he could do to help me find something. I felt

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<v Speaker 1>so unsupported that I think it started to affect our relationship.

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<v Speaker 1>I brought up starting as an adjunct professor at the

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<v Speaker 1>local community college, and he said wouldn't next year be better,

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<v Speaker 1>with no explation as to why. So when I ended

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<v Speaker 1>up getting an opportunity to interview for a tenure track

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<v Speaker 1>position at a private university about an hour away, I

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<v Speaker 1>jumped at it. I guess I thought that I wouldn't

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<v Speaker 1>get it and it would be just be nice to

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know try, but they want me to start

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<v Speaker 1>next semester and I'm a little stuck. Do I tell

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<v Speaker 1>my husband and possibly deal with whatever sexist crap he's

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<v Speaker 1>been stewing in, or do I earned down this and

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<v Speaker 1>try to start my professional life from a place of honesty.

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<v Speaker 1>Please help me down who first. You're gonna have to

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<v Speaker 1>tell your husband? Uh? Communication is key, okay, miss Um.

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<v Speaker 1>I want to live my life on purpose and for

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<v Speaker 1>a purpose on the side of my family. I think

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<v Speaker 1>this is great that um, that you have an identity,

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<v Speaker 1>and I think that's first and foremost. Do not feel

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<v Speaker 1>guilty about wanting more for your life. Do not feel

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<v Speaker 1>guilty about creating your own neglis about your whole moment um.

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<v Speaker 1>The one thing that I do feel that you should

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<v Speaker 1>feel guilty about, or something that I really need some work,

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<v Speaker 1>is that there is a lot of miscommunication in this relationship,

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<v Speaker 1>or perhaps probably not enough. And it seems as though

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<v Speaker 1>it started at you know, uh, from the get go.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, you guys had got into this relationship, and

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<v Speaker 1>you guys know that you guys are both career driven.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean you said it yourself, you said, my husband

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<v Speaker 1>and I are both high achieving. And here's the thing

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like with women, we always when we want

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<v Speaker 1>to do the balance of many of us or some

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<v Speaker 1>of us want to have children and have the career

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<v Speaker 1>and have the family. But there comes a balance, there

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<v Speaker 1>comes a communication and just what so many things changing

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<v Speaker 1>right now? The whole standard household is not a thing now.

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<v Speaker 1>The thing that's so alarming, and it screams out, I

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<v Speaker 1>want to go ahead over this. You said you just

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<v Speaker 1>aced an interview of a job of your dreams. Y'all

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<v Speaker 1>know how I feel about dreams. You know how I

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<v Speaker 1>feel like you gotta go after your dreams with a

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<v Speaker 1>clear eye view. That's what Meek Mills said. He said,

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<v Speaker 1>if you wanted, you got to see it with the

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<v Speaker 1>clear eyed view. Okay, so here you you saw that,

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<v Speaker 1>and you saw this job, and you did an excellent

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<v Speaker 1>job at this interview. Then I guess what just blew

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<v Speaker 1>me is because I'm thinking you're writing this let and

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<v Speaker 1>you're saying you're this high achieving woman, Um, you're ready

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<v Speaker 1>to be to love on yourself, to get out there

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<v Speaker 1>with your family. Um, you've aised this job. And then

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<v Speaker 1>at the end of the letter you go on to say, um,

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't tell my husband though, should you turn down

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<v Speaker 1>this opportunity? What what you said? You? No? I found it?

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<v Speaker 1>Do I tell my husband? And possibly deal with whatever

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<v Speaker 1>sexist crapt he's doing in or do I turn down

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<v Speaker 1>this opportunity? Do you know that you missed one percent

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<v Speaker 1>of the shots that you do not take? And are

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<v Speaker 1>you willing to risk this even when it comes to

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<v Speaker 1>your dreams? Now, one thing that I don't think that

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<v Speaker 1>is good is just to go up and not have

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<v Speaker 1>this communication with your husband. But I do think it's

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<v Speaker 1>important to you adhere to what do you want for yourself?

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<v Speaker 1>Because you said you've been at to stay at home

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<v Speaker 1>mom for six years. Okay, you said that you came

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<v Speaker 1>into the marriage thinking that wherever children you had and

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<v Speaker 1>they started going to school, that you would start working again.

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<v Speaker 1>Now you came into the marriage and with what point

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<v Speaker 1>did you realize that that he did not have that

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<v Speaker 1>same mindset. It's interesting thing because I do think that

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<v Speaker 1>people change, but that's with a miscommunication of some sort.

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<v Speaker 1>Because how did you guys both go into high achieving

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<v Speaker 1>then once you have a child. You know, I don't

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<v Speaker 1>think it's like a switch when you just cut off

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<v Speaker 1>and go. But for whatever reason, he is not on

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<v Speaker 1>the same page. And you said to yourself, you said, um,

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<v Speaker 1>you had your beautiful baby girl and you love for

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<v Speaker 1>the past five years being able to see her grow.

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<v Speaker 1>But mama got to get her groove back in the workforce.

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<v Speaker 1>You said you also missed the classroom and being able

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<v Speaker 1>to do research. You know, one thing that I feel

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<v Speaker 1>like a lot of women say is that don't forget

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<v Speaker 1>about yourself and whether you're a woman, whether you're a man,

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<v Speaker 1>you have to learn to love them yourself. I have recently.

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<v Speaker 1>I was just talking about how it's important to tap in,

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<v Speaker 1>how it's important to adhere to your dreams and your desires,

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<v Speaker 1>and how it's important to celebrate yourself. Just as though

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<v Speaker 1>you may go to the doctor if you're not feeling good,

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<v Speaker 1>you need to go and aid yourself in celebratory activities

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<v Speaker 1>when you do have an achievement, because that's a part

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<v Speaker 1>of self care, that's a part of self love. Now

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<v Speaker 1>you said that, um, now the baby is getting back

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<v Speaker 1>too ready to go back to go in school. So

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<v Speaker 1>you took the initiative to go ahead and check out

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<v Speaker 1>a job position. Now you didn't tell your husband. Now,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't think that's too guilty, because you didn't know

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<v Speaker 1>how it was gonna go. You were just out there

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<v Speaker 1>just checking in just to feel of what's going to do.

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<v Speaker 1>But I can understand why you probably have some reservations

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<v Speaker 1>because you have said that. He's also been throwing a

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<v Speaker 1>lot of the slight comments, you know, just initiating or

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<v Speaker 1>just to make sure that you understand what he's said.

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<v Speaker 1>He said, you're so good at this. You make a

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<v Speaker 1>great housewife. Now here's one thing you said earlier that

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<v Speaker 1>you guys in the marriage. You came in thinking it

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<v Speaker 1>was one thing was the other. Because it's a miscommunication.

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<v Speaker 1>He is making it very clear what this deal is.

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<v Speaker 1>He sees you as a good wife, a good housewife,

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<v Speaker 1>and mom to your children at home. I have to

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<v Speaker 1>challenge you because I'm wondering, at what point are you

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<v Speaker 1>gonna speak up. I'm not saying that you have to

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<v Speaker 1>push your dreams to the side, but when are you

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<v Speaker 1>going to find your voice? Because I've said this before.

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<v Speaker 1>How you do anything, it's how you do everything. So

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<v Speaker 1>at what point are you going to make it a

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<v Speaker 1>point to make yourself a point to speak up for yourself? Okay, now,

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<v Speaker 1>you did say you you wanted to go back to work.

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<v Speaker 1>I just imagine this probably like a little not a roar,

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<v Speaker 1>but just like a meal. You said oh, I want

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<v Speaker 1>to go back to work when our daughter gets the

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<v Speaker 1>first grade. And he made this face and said, sounds great, honey,

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<v Speaker 1>no enthusiasm. So you really didn't know how to read it,

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<v Speaker 1>and you didn't use on your lovel and you're in

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<v Speaker 1>a communication to say, hey, what do you mean by that?

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<v Speaker 1>That is a very important sentence phrase that I think

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of people should um adopt because I think

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<v Speaker 1>it helps, you know, flush out miscommunication with people, because

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<v Speaker 1>oftentimes you can be in a situation and you just

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<v Speaker 1>get mad or take something out of contact and all

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<v Speaker 1>you have to say is what did you mean by that?

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<v Speaker 1>Or what do you mean by that? You said? Immediately

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<v Speaker 1>at this point I felt so unsupported that I think

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<v Speaker 1>it started to affect our relationship. Oh oh, you're letting

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<v Speaker 1>your miscommunication or lack there of communication now in fact,

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<v Speaker 1>your home. Now you know what I love? They say

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<v Speaker 1>home is what the heart is. You know you Nesta

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<v Speaker 1>would love, But it's also your your realm of peace.

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<v Speaker 1>So what you're gonna go out there with your dreams

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<v Speaker 1>and come back to a house of hell because you

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<v Speaker 1>haven't learned how to communicate, let alone what happens when

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<v Speaker 1>your boss comes in for something when you say you

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<v Speaker 1>want to go after this job position and they said, well,

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<v Speaker 1>you have a baby, I don't think that's a good thing.

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<v Speaker 1>Or oh, you make good at just staying like a

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<v Speaker 1>secretary assistant. I know you're going for a professor, but

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<v Speaker 1>I'm just saying, just keeping it in mind. What if

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<v Speaker 1>you want to go to be a dean of a department,

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<v Speaker 1>you have to be able to exercise your voice. At

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<v Speaker 1>what point are you going to choose to speak up?

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<v Speaker 1>Now you're going to say that you brought up starting

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<v Speaker 1>as an adjunct professor at the local community college, and

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<v Speaker 1>he said, what it next year? Be better again. Now

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<v Speaker 1>I'm starting to think the music communication maybe on your end,

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<v Speaker 1>because um, you said that you came in thinking that

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<v Speaker 1>this marriage, uh, with whatever children that you guys had

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<v Speaker 1>once they started going to school, that you were going

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<v Speaker 1>to go back to school. But he seems to make

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<v Speaker 1>it very clear he likes you right and on good.

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<v Speaker 1>Ready where you are? Okay? And now we're the point

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<v Speaker 1>that you're talking about possibly letting your dreams go to

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<v Speaker 1>the wayside, So you're gonna let somebody hush you and

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<v Speaker 1>muffle you. I think that you need to go ahead

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<v Speaker 1>and tell your husband, this is a moment for you

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<v Speaker 1>to be upfront and honest, to declare your voice, even

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<v Speaker 1>if your voice shakes, you know, because it's like this,

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<v Speaker 1>If you don't stand for something in life, you will

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<v Speaker 1>fall for anything. And I don't think that your dreams

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<v Speaker 1>should be your downfall. Your dreams apposed to rise you up.

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<v Speaker 1>Now it's interesting that you did. Guys just say about

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<v Speaker 1>start arting with your daughter the following year, but they're

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<v Speaker 1>trying to get you to start next semester. That's a

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<v Speaker 1>level of consideration because you gotta plan childcare. You gotta

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<v Speaker 1>It's just a lot of adjustment and a lot of

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<v Speaker 1>moving parts. And I think that now that your adjustments

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<v Speaker 1>to your movements can't no longer just work or what

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<v Speaker 1>life was like prior to this what how many years?

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<v Speaker 1>Six years with your baby girl, that now you have

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<v Speaker 1>another being to think about. It's not just you and

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<v Speaker 1>him that you can bounce, and you gotta communicate because

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<v Speaker 1>if it's not in this area, there's gonna be so

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<v Speaker 1>many other areas of your life. And as you're having

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<v Speaker 1>your family, who knows however many other children. I know

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<v Speaker 1>you're like don chill, I told you I just cut

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<v Speaker 1>my freedom papers. What I'm just saying, anything else that

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<v Speaker 1>you're inviting in your life, you gotta make room for

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<v Speaker 1>with communication to the line how things are gonna work,

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<v Speaker 1>what are your expectations are, Because you said that there's

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<v Speaker 1>a miscommunication, but it sounds like there may be a

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<v Speaker 1>lack there of communication on your end. It don't sound

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<v Speaker 1>like it. That's what he is, because he made it

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<v Speaker 1>clear you are good at this, You make a great housewife.

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<v Speaker 1>Wouldn't next year be better? And then what you're gonna

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<v Speaker 1>put on the next year and the next year and

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<v Speaker 1>the next year after ye? So yeah, I think you

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<v Speaker 1>should go ahead and tell them No. I don't think

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<v Speaker 1>you should just drop this perfect opportunity because maybe in

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<v Speaker 1>this conversation, maybe your husband can see you for who

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<v Speaker 1>you are right now now who he thought you were,

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<v Speaker 1>but who you are at your core, and you are

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<v Speaker 1>a woman who likes to work, and you are a

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<v Speaker 1>woman who likes to go after your dreams. Because what

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<v Speaker 1>you're gonna sit there and turn it down and then

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<v Speaker 1>being happy, then you're gonna go home resenting. Then you're

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<v Speaker 1>gonna have a whole other field of problems because now

0:17:33.760 --> 0:17:36.200
<v Speaker 1>your daughter is observing this relationship and now there's gonna

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<v Speaker 1>be trouble that. You see how it's just like a

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<v Speaker 1>calloust and they just keep pushing hard stuff on the

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<v Speaker 1>hard stuff. That's what callousis too. They just they just

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<v Speaker 1>pack stuff on top and it just makes a mole

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<v Speaker 1>hill into a mountain. You know? Do you hear me?

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<v Speaker 1>So I tell your husband and tell him because he

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<v Speaker 1>deserves to know. But say it because you deserve to

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<v Speaker 1>hear your voice. And do it even if your your

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<v Speaker 1>your voice shakes. Okay, speak up for yourself? What what?

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<v Speaker 1>What exc say? Check yourself before you wreck yourself? Okay, Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>I love you and I think you're important. Thank you

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<v Speaker 1>for being transparent, Thank you for writing in And if

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<v Speaker 1>any other career oriented women out there who have been

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<v Speaker 1>able or who are balancing the husband, the children and family,

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<v Speaker 1>what advice do you have? What did you do? I'm

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<v Speaker 1>sure you know things may have justed, but you're still

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<v Speaker 1>reciting in who you are because you're gonna be who

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<v Speaker 1>you be. Okay, Well if you like that, UM, I

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<v Speaker 1>want to encourage you if you have some more advice.

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