1 00:00:00,080 --> 00:00:12,360 Speaker 1: M from grandmothers who whispered in their baby girl ill 2 00:00:13,400 --> 00:00:16,920 Speaker 1: two fathers on dimly lit street corners, instructing young soldiers 3 00:00:16,920 --> 00:00:20,959 Speaker 1: to always keep their eyes open. You be queen, you 4 00:00:21,040 --> 00:00:24,239 Speaker 1: were fired. You will pass through centuries on the hands 5 00:00:24,280 --> 00:00:28,720 Speaker 1: of your daughters. They called you wisdom. Proverbs on the 6 00:00:28,760 --> 00:00:32,320 Speaker 1: backs of diamond eyed school children who grew into hymnals 7 00:00:32,320 --> 00:00:37,200 Speaker 1: recited by amethyst holding urban philosophers who recited neighborhood commandments 8 00:00:37,200 --> 00:00:40,680 Speaker 1: out of the windows of restored ALCHEMYO chariots to keep 9 00:00:40,680 --> 00:00:46,040 Speaker 1: the warmth of their blood. Be wise, be smart, being black, 10 00:00:46,080 --> 00:00:50,720 Speaker 1: Opal Brown courts, bloodstone and prayer. Be every form of 11 00:00:50,880 --> 00:00:57,080 Speaker 1: jim se King told, scribe, scribe, told son, son, told wife, 12 00:00:57,440 --> 00:01:00,360 Speaker 1: wife told her daughter, and daughter told the as this is. 13 00:01:00,640 --> 00:01:04,360 Speaker 1: And thencess told me that you would come to give 14 00:01:04,440 --> 00:01:09,520 Speaker 1: wisdom of thousands. They said you would come. Dropping Roping. 15 00:01:11,200 --> 00:01:15,360 Speaker 1: Welcome back to another episode of the Dropping Gems podcast. 16 00:01:15,440 --> 00:01:19,119 Speaker 1: I'm your host, Deviie Brown. This episode, I am on 17 00:01:19,160 --> 00:01:24,520 Speaker 1: the road. Oh my God, did I need this. I'm 18 00:01:24,560 --> 00:01:31,600 Speaker 1: recording this episode from an incredibly gorgeous and nourishing spot 19 00:01:31,640 --> 00:01:35,199 Speaker 1: on Earth. I am in Santa Fe, New Mexico right now, 20 00:01:35,920 --> 00:01:38,880 Speaker 1: and I'm actually out here for a healer's cohort and 21 00:01:39,040 --> 00:01:45,279 Speaker 1: to catch some silence. Surrendering to silence is a huge 22 00:01:45,400 --> 00:01:48,720 Speaker 1: part of my life, and actually I think I'll share 23 00:01:48,760 --> 00:01:50,560 Speaker 1: a couple of ways that I do that, because it 24 00:01:50,600 --> 00:01:53,320 Speaker 1: could be really powerful for each person listening if you 25 00:01:53,440 --> 00:01:56,200 Speaker 1: found a way on your own terms to fit your 26 00:01:56,200 --> 00:02:00,400 Speaker 1: own needs to add a little more prolonged silent into 27 00:02:00,440 --> 00:02:05,080 Speaker 1: your life. So silence is such a powerful powerful tool, 28 00:02:05,240 --> 00:02:07,760 Speaker 1: and I speak to that often in terms of meditation. 29 00:02:08,639 --> 00:02:11,160 Speaker 1: Being able to get still, being able to get silent, 30 00:02:11,280 --> 00:02:14,640 Speaker 1: even only for five or twenty minutes a day, is 31 00:02:14,840 --> 00:02:19,639 Speaker 1: a powerful catalyst for change and transformation in your life. 32 00:02:19,880 --> 00:02:26,000 Speaker 1: And it's also an incredibly powerful tool for regulating your 33 00:02:26,160 --> 00:02:29,960 Speaker 1: nervous system, which if you're on a healing journey, if 34 00:02:30,000 --> 00:02:34,040 Speaker 1: you're on the path of creating big changes in your life, 35 00:02:34,080 --> 00:02:36,600 Speaker 1: if you're on the path of calling in more self 36 00:02:36,639 --> 00:02:39,240 Speaker 1: love and acceptance into your life, if you're on the 37 00:02:39,280 --> 00:02:42,880 Speaker 1: path of healing trauma in your life, then the regulation 38 00:02:43,080 --> 00:02:46,160 Speaker 1: of your nervous system should be one of the top 39 00:02:46,560 --> 00:02:50,200 Speaker 1: priorities that you set for yourself. It is one of 40 00:02:50,280 --> 00:02:54,120 Speaker 1: the most powerful tools to creating space for you to 41 00:02:54,400 --> 00:02:57,880 Speaker 1: live your healing, when you're able to regulate your body, 42 00:02:58,440 --> 00:03:01,519 Speaker 1: when you're able to regulate your motions, when you're able 43 00:03:01,639 --> 00:03:05,600 Speaker 1: to come into a space where you're not stuck in 44 00:03:05,639 --> 00:03:09,880 Speaker 1: a lot of your triggers or coping mechanisms. UM, that's 45 00:03:09,880 --> 00:03:12,440 Speaker 1: where the space to be all of us is really found, 46 00:03:12,520 --> 00:03:16,440 Speaker 1: the space to be more is found. So silence is 47 00:03:16,480 --> 00:03:20,200 Speaker 1: a huge part of that. And something I deeply believe 48 00:03:20,240 --> 00:03:23,640 Speaker 1: in is prolonged silence. Now you may have heard me 49 00:03:23,720 --> 00:03:28,400 Speaker 1: share UM earlier in the fall of Actually this past 50 00:03:28,480 --> 00:03:33,000 Speaker 1: fall I hosted a retreat along with Deepak for Chopra 51 00:03:33,440 --> 00:03:36,840 Speaker 1: and they have a once a year Silent retreat where 52 00:03:36,880 --> 00:03:41,880 Speaker 1: you enter silence for six days and it's just profound, 53 00:03:42,360 --> 00:03:45,160 Speaker 1: And there's programs all over the world that offers something 54 00:03:45,240 --> 00:03:49,600 Speaker 1: like this. UM. There's some of programs for some of 55 00:03:49,640 --> 00:03:53,520 Speaker 1: those real deep warriors on this path, some with established 56 00:03:53,520 --> 00:03:57,600 Speaker 1: embodied practices where you may go away four weeks a 57 00:03:57,680 --> 00:04:01,360 Speaker 1: month or several months at a time to just hold 58 00:04:01,480 --> 00:04:06,040 Speaker 1: complete silence. And if you're wondering to yourself, how that 59 00:04:06,200 --> 00:04:10,200 Speaker 1: hell do I do that? One of the most amazing 60 00:04:10,240 --> 00:04:12,880 Speaker 1: things about it is you get to the deeper truth 61 00:04:13,200 --> 00:04:19,800 Speaker 1: of who you are. But also how to set boundaries 62 00:04:19,800 --> 00:04:23,159 Speaker 1: and how to notice when you may be leaking energy 63 00:04:23,520 --> 00:04:29,760 Speaker 1: under sometimes false societal constructs or politeness or niceness, or 64 00:04:29,880 --> 00:04:33,440 Speaker 1: people pleasing, or any of the various things that we 65 00:04:33,480 --> 00:04:36,720 Speaker 1: may carry with us on the journey to finding ourselves 66 00:04:36,760 --> 00:04:40,320 Speaker 1: are most authentic selves. And when you hold silence, one 67 00:04:40,320 --> 00:04:42,839 Speaker 1: of my favorite things about doing that, especially if you 68 00:04:42,880 --> 00:04:46,440 Speaker 1: do it in a retreat setting, is you are not 69 00:04:46,640 --> 00:04:51,120 Speaker 1: concerned with um keeping up the things that we have 70 00:04:51,240 --> 00:04:53,200 Speaker 1: to do in our day to day life. Right, so 71 00:04:53,279 --> 00:04:55,720 Speaker 1: you don't have to make eye contact with people that 72 00:04:55,760 --> 00:04:58,520 Speaker 1: you're walking by, you don't have to greet people who 73 00:04:58,560 --> 00:05:01,440 Speaker 1: are not talking. But not only are we not talking, 74 00:05:01,720 --> 00:05:08,840 Speaker 1: we are not allowing ourselves to fall into um anything 75 00:05:08,920 --> 00:05:12,680 Speaker 1: outside of ourselves. So as micro and macro as that 76 00:05:12,720 --> 00:05:15,880 Speaker 1: can be UM on a big scale, that means, you know, 77 00:05:16,040 --> 00:05:19,360 Speaker 1: being quiet for several days and not speaking and just 78 00:05:19,560 --> 00:05:22,960 Speaker 1: being inside your own energy and your own internal world 79 00:05:23,040 --> 00:05:27,000 Speaker 1: and your own container. And then it also means not, 80 00:05:27,680 --> 00:05:32,000 Speaker 1: you know, feeling like you have to be connected to 81 00:05:32,040 --> 00:05:34,680 Speaker 1: other people, even if they are next to you. The 82 00:05:34,720 --> 00:05:38,880 Speaker 1: retreat that we hosted was in Yosemite, and it was 83 00:05:38,960 --> 00:05:42,360 Speaker 1: with four hundred other people. So if you can imagine 84 00:05:42,440 --> 00:05:45,919 Speaker 1: it was four hundred of us together in the mountains 85 00:05:45,960 --> 00:05:51,080 Speaker 1: of Yosemite, completely quiet. And even though it was four 86 00:05:51,160 --> 00:05:53,880 Speaker 1: hundred of us passing by each other, sitting next to 87 00:05:53,920 --> 00:05:58,120 Speaker 1: each other sharing meals, no one spoke, no one had 88 00:05:58,160 --> 00:06:01,080 Speaker 1: to look at another person, and there was nothing felt 89 00:06:01,120 --> 00:06:05,400 Speaker 1: about that right, there was no offense taken. You're able 90 00:06:05,440 --> 00:06:08,440 Speaker 1: to just focus on you, but do it with the 91 00:06:08,520 --> 00:06:12,279 Speaker 1: energy of other people present. And so that also means 92 00:06:12,360 --> 00:06:17,240 Speaker 1: not you know, necessarily holding the door for someone behind you, UM, 93 00:06:17,279 --> 00:06:19,640 Speaker 1: not having to you know, all the things that you 94 00:06:19,640 --> 00:06:22,720 Speaker 1: don't really notice that you do but that require quite 95 00:06:22,760 --> 00:06:27,080 Speaker 1: a bit of energy. So silence is really powerful. I personally, 96 00:06:27,800 --> 00:06:34,160 Speaker 1: UM as a well as a mom, I need moments 97 00:06:34,160 --> 00:06:37,560 Speaker 1: for this, but also as a teacher of this work, UM, 98 00:06:37,600 --> 00:06:41,640 Speaker 1: as a philosopher, as as a practitioner and facilitator and healer. 99 00:06:42,160 --> 00:06:46,480 Speaker 1: You know, it is completely non negotiable that I must 100 00:06:47,160 --> 00:06:50,320 Speaker 1: have to have silence in my life. And the way 101 00:06:50,320 --> 00:06:53,400 Speaker 1: that I try to do that is I typically will 102 00:06:53,480 --> 00:06:57,159 Speaker 1: hold larger silence once a year in the ways that 103 00:06:57,200 --> 00:06:59,640 Speaker 1: I can. Again, I'm a mom, so that's not you know, 104 00:06:59,640 --> 00:07:01,920 Speaker 1: I'm not always able to get away and do that 105 00:07:01,960 --> 00:07:04,920 Speaker 1: twenty four hours a day. I may build in, you know, 106 00:07:05,040 --> 00:07:07,960 Speaker 1: if my child is with a family member, I may 107 00:07:07,960 --> 00:07:10,240 Speaker 1: be able to build in time to check in the 108 00:07:10,280 --> 00:07:13,600 Speaker 1: morning on face time with him, checking on the evening UM, 109 00:07:13,960 --> 00:07:16,800 Speaker 1: and then continue my retreat work. So I like to 110 00:07:16,840 --> 00:07:20,680 Speaker 1: do about a week of silence once a year and 111 00:07:20,840 --> 00:07:23,920 Speaker 1: once a month, I like to do an entire day 112 00:07:23,920 --> 00:07:26,360 Speaker 1: of silence. And for me, as someone that lives in 113 00:07:26,400 --> 00:07:30,200 Speaker 1: the Los Angeles area, again very very multi hyphen it, 114 00:07:30,280 --> 00:07:33,800 Speaker 1: so I'm always juggling something. UM. I'll typically do that 115 00:07:34,040 --> 00:07:36,120 Speaker 1: after I dropped my son at school, and I have 116 00:07:36,200 --> 00:07:38,680 Speaker 1: a pin that I actually got from Chopra. We have 117 00:07:38,800 --> 00:07:41,680 Speaker 1: pins that we send everyone from our retreat home with 118 00:07:41,880 --> 00:07:46,200 Speaker 1: that's a holding honoring silence, and I popped that on 119 00:07:46,440 --> 00:07:52,120 Speaker 1: and then I'll spend the rest of the day incomplete silence. UM. 120 00:07:52,160 --> 00:07:54,360 Speaker 1: As I moved through the world, and that's running errands 121 00:07:54,600 --> 00:07:57,000 Speaker 1: or that's me just being in my house, and I 122 00:07:57,080 --> 00:08:01,239 Speaker 1: still try to go by the rules UM I utilize 123 00:08:01,280 --> 00:08:04,200 Speaker 1: if I was somewhere else, even in busy Los Angeles. 124 00:08:05,240 --> 00:08:10,560 Speaker 1: For me, UM, it's it's revolutionary, it's necessary, it's profound, 125 00:08:10,960 --> 00:08:14,680 Speaker 1: and I find ways to meet my needs even within 126 00:08:15,080 --> 00:08:18,720 Speaker 1: UM sometimes a more chaotic experience of being alive and 127 00:08:18,880 --> 00:08:22,520 Speaker 1: being alive and a container with other human beings who 128 00:08:22,520 --> 00:08:26,120 Speaker 1: are alive UM and something else I also like to do. 129 00:08:26,280 --> 00:08:29,240 Speaker 1: And for those that are able, I really really recommend this. 130 00:08:29,440 --> 00:08:32,760 Speaker 1: You know, every six months, I try to do two 131 00:08:32,840 --> 00:08:34,880 Speaker 1: days of that. So what I'll try to do is, 132 00:08:35,600 --> 00:08:37,480 Speaker 1: you know, in a day that maybe my son is 133 00:08:37,520 --> 00:08:40,560 Speaker 1: with a family member UM or able to you know, 134 00:08:40,679 --> 00:08:44,560 Speaker 1: be with one of his friends, share a weekend, I 135 00:08:44,640 --> 00:08:49,040 Speaker 1: always take that time to usually just disappear a little 136 00:08:49,040 --> 00:08:51,800 Speaker 1: bit by myself UM. And I like to do that 137 00:08:51,880 --> 00:08:56,640 Speaker 1: again like every few months, every six months. UM. One 138 00:08:56,679 --> 00:08:58,400 Speaker 1: of the ways that I do that is for me, 139 00:08:58,480 --> 00:09:01,240 Speaker 1: in the l A area, Pumps Rings and Joshua Tree 140 00:09:01,240 --> 00:09:05,360 Speaker 1: are really close and they for many many years have 141 00:09:05,440 --> 00:09:08,360 Speaker 1: been too of my favorite places to just drive to 142 00:09:08,480 --> 00:09:12,360 Speaker 1: alone and kind of disappear into myself. So what I 143 00:09:12,440 --> 00:09:14,040 Speaker 1: like to do is like grab an air V and 144 00:09:14,080 --> 00:09:17,600 Speaker 1: b um for a couple of days, go up there, 145 00:09:18,559 --> 00:09:21,640 Speaker 1: have a little plant medicine, stock my fridge, cook for 146 00:09:21,760 --> 00:09:28,120 Speaker 1: myself and just be completely silent. UM. I like to journal, UM. 147 00:09:28,120 --> 00:09:30,840 Speaker 1: I like to walk in nature. I like to take 148 00:09:31,000 --> 00:09:37,240 Speaker 1: random photography of myself and of flowers and the sky. 149 00:09:37,320 --> 00:09:40,200 Speaker 1: I like to star gaze. Um, but that's how I 150 00:09:40,280 --> 00:09:44,240 Speaker 1: nourish myself at a really deep level, in addition to 151 00:09:44,320 --> 00:09:48,000 Speaker 1: my daily practices. So that's what I'm doing now. I'm 152 00:09:48,000 --> 00:09:54,920 Speaker 1: in Santa Fe, taking a little time to just expand 153 00:09:55,000 --> 00:09:59,440 Speaker 1: my soul by staring off into the distance, by staring 154 00:09:59,520 --> 00:10:02,240 Speaker 1: up into the night sky and out here it's just 155 00:10:02,480 --> 00:10:08,480 Speaker 1: so breathtaking. Last night I had a chance to just 156 00:10:08,920 --> 00:10:12,760 Speaker 1: lay down and look up at the sky for hours 157 00:10:12,840 --> 00:10:16,280 Speaker 1: at night till like you know, midnight, and you see 158 00:10:16,360 --> 00:10:20,040 Speaker 1: every star while you're out here. There's no light pollution 159 00:10:20,200 --> 00:10:23,640 Speaker 1: anywhere in this part of New Mexico. You just look 160 00:10:23,760 --> 00:10:28,120 Speaker 1: up and you see the universe, and you really understand 161 00:10:28,200 --> 00:10:32,920 Speaker 1: how big it all is, how small we are, yet 162 00:10:33,120 --> 00:10:37,640 Speaker 1: how big of a role um we all play, and 163 00:10:37,679 --> 00:10:42,640 Speaker 1: whatever this divine experiment at play is, you know. So 164 00:10:42,800 --> 00:10:45,280 Speaker 1: I love to do that here I am. And I 165 00:10:45,320 --> 00:10:49,240 Speaker 1: also wanted to pop in and um clearly break silence 166 00:10:49,280 --> 00:10:52,080 Speaker 1: a little bit by doing this episode of the podcast. 167 00:10:54,280 --> 00:10:57,480 Speaker 1: So something that I really want to share today, and 168 00:10:57,520 --> 00:11:00,640 Speaker 1: I put this on Twitter. A question that I get 169 00:11:00,679 --> 00:11:02,800 Speaker 1: a lot is, you know, how how do I find 170 00:11:02,800 --> 00:11:05,480 Speaker 1: my purpose? How do I begin my journey? And I 171 00:11:05,520 --> 00:11:08,600 Speaker 1: never like to give like easy answers because the truth 172 00:11:08,720 --> 00:11:12,600 Speaker 1: is none of this is easy, and anybody that paints 173 00:11:12,640 --> 00:11:15,440 Speaker 1: it that way, I think is really doing a disservice 174 00:11:15,679 --> 00:11:19,000 Speaker 1: because you don't want to just be motivated to start 175 00:11:19,080 --> 00:11:21,920 Speaker 1: the journey by thinking, Okay, yeah, that's easy, I'll do this, 176 00:11:21,960 --> 00:11:25,280 Speaker 1: I'll do that. It's not sustainable in that way. Once 177 00:11:25,360 --> 00:11:32,160 Speaker 1: you lock into being on a journey, it is it's 178 00:11:32,160 --> 00:11:35,440 Speaker 1: a lifelong experience and you can take breaks. You know, 179 00:11:35,600 --> 00:11:38,960 Speaker 1: you get tired. I just recorded an episode about some 180 00:11:39,040 --> 00:11:42,280 Speaker 1: of the fatigue we feel while healing while on the journey. 181 00:11:42,320 --> 00:11:47,480 Speaker 1: But it is something that once you turn that switch on, 182 00:11:48,000 --> 00:11:49,640 Speaker 1: it's going to be a part of you for the 183 00:11:49,640 --> 00:11:52,040 Speaker 1: rest of your life. And in the times that you 184 00:11:52,120 --> 00:11:55,440 Speaker 1: distance yourself from it, you'll feel that longing, that craving 185 00:11:55,480 --> 00:11:58,800 Speaker 1: that poll to be back in it. And so the 186 00:11:58,840 --> 00:12:02,880 Speaker 1: way that I share things so you know, it's UM. 187 00:12:03,000 --> 00:12:06,280 Speaker 1: Little by little, go as you can, but look to 188 00:12:06,360 --> 00:12:11,720 Speaker 1: the bigger view and don't look for it to be easy. 189 00:12:12,400 --> 00:12:15,480 Speaker 1: Look for it to be what you need UM. And 190 00:12:15,520 --> 00:12:17,960 Speaker 1: as you lock into that, you carve out your own 191 00:12:18,080 --> 00:12:23,120 Speaker 1: path of ease based on your unique life recipe UH 192 00:12:23,160 --> 00:12:25,160 Speaker 1: to be able to sustain that and to be able 193 00:12:25,200 --> 00:12:28,360 Speaker 1: to grow that and expand in that. So I wanted 194 00:12:28,400 --> 00:12:31,000 Speaker 1: to share some thoughts I was having around this um. 195 00:12:31,040 --> 00:12:34,800 Speaker 1: I will share some very tangible steps that you can 196 00:12:34,840 --> 00:12:37,000 Speaker 1: begin to take now in this moment to get more 197 00:12:37,040 --> 00:12:41,079 Speaker 1: deeply connected to your authentic self. When I say you're 198 00:12:41,120 --> 00:12:45,080 Speaker 1: authentic self, what I mean by that is the version 199 00:12:45,160 --> 00:12:51,160 Speaker 1: of you that came to this earth inherently pure, inherently good, 200 00:12:51,720 --> 00:12:54,880 Speaker 1: that is highly creative, that is loving, that is kind, 201 00:12:55,640 --> 00:12:58,920 Speaker 1: that is the purity of your soul. Underneath any of 202 00:12:58,920 --> 00:13:02,440 Speaker 1: the life experience says that you've had thus far, underneath 203 00:13:02,480 --> 00:13:05,840 Speaker 1: any of the traumas that you may have experienced, and 204 00:13:06,000 --> 00:13:10,800 Speaker 1: underneath all societal and cultural programming. So the piece of 205 00:13:10,840 --> 00:13:13,160 Speaker 1: you that has not been indoctrinated, the piece of you 206 00:13:13,240 --> 00:13:16,040 Speaker 1: that has not been enmeshed um, the piece of you 207 00:13:16,320 --> 00:13:22,360 Speaker 1: that lives for yourself and longs for divine connection. That 208 00:13:22,600 --> 00:13:26,080 Speaker 1: is your authentic self. For each of us, that means 209 00:13:26,120 --> 00:13:28,240 Speaker 1: something a little bit different, and for each of us 210 00:13:28,360 --> 00:13:35,920 Speaker 1: it is incredibly beautiful, empowering to be connected to. It's 211 00:13:35,960 --> 00:13:38,720 Speaker 1: the space that you can also refer to as your 212 00:13:38,920 --> 00:13:43,520 Speaker 1: highest self. Your higher self, your inner counselor you know, 213 00:13:43,679 --> 00:13:48,480 Speaker 1: the true you, and when we connect to that authentic self, 214 00:13:48,760 --> 00:13:53,360 Speaker 1: that is what further informs what our actual purpose is 215 00:13:53,679 --> 00:13:57,440 Speaker 1: in this life. UM, and I believe to be purpose. 216 00:13:58,360 --> 00:14:03,280 Speaker 1: I truly believe that purpose is really just the connecting 217 00:14:03,720 --> 00:14:08,400 Speaker 1: to each of our individual authentic self and from our purpose, 218 00:14:08,559 --> 00:14:13,439 Speaker 1: from our authentic stuff. Excuse me, our authentic self comes 219 00:14:14,040 --> 00:14:19,280 Speaker 1: our life's mission. Our mission is informed by our purpose. 220 00:14:19,440 --> 00:14:22,320 Speaker 1: Our mission is informed by our authentic self, but it 221 00:14:22,440 --> 00:14:26,040 Speaker 1: is actually the tangible work we are meant to bring 222 00:14:26,080 --> 00:14:30,280 Speaker 1: to life here on earth while we're here. So ways 223 00:14:30,400 --> 00:14:33,960 Speaker 1: to start zooming out to look at that from a 224 00:14:34,120 --> 00:14:42,920 Speaker 1: non culturally created or societally impacted view are the first 225 00:14:42,960 --> 00:14:46,240 Speaker 1: step I'd highly recommend for everyone, and everyone has heard 226 00:14:46,280 --> 00:14:49,600 Speaker 1: me talk about this on the podcast because I've interviewed 227 00:14:49,680 --> 00:14:55,320 Speaker 1: many many people that offer services in this way, would 228 00:14:55,360 --> 00:15:00,560 Speaker 1: be to get a really thorough birth chart reading what 229 00:15:00,760 --> 00:15:04,040 Speaker 1: is your birth chart? Your birth chart is kind of 230 00:15:04,120 --> 00:15:08,640 Speaker 1: like a screenshot or a map of the sky exactly 231 00:15:08,760 --> 00:15:11,920 Speaker 1: the moment that you were born. So that looks like 232 00:15:12,080 --> 00:15:17,480 Speaker 1: what your sun sign, your moon sign, your rising sign are. 233 00:15:17,680 --> 00:15:20,840 Speaker 1: Those are kind of UM. Three of the first basics 234 00:15:21,000 --> 00:15:23,720 Speaker 1: of how you kind of begin to understand yourself and 235 00:15:23,800 --> 00:15:26,760 Speaker 1: your chart, but then you got a lot more um. 236 00:15:26,800 --> 00:15:29,360 Speaker 1: You know, you have your houses, you have your planetary 237 00:15:29,440 --> 00:15:33,600 Speaker 1: placements in those different houses. And something I love about 238 00:15:33,600 --> 00:15:35,440 Speaker 1: a birth chart reading, and I've been getting my birth 239 00:15:35,560 --> 00:15:39,880 Speaker 1: chart read um for probably twenty years, and I have 240 00:15:40,160 --> 00:15:42,640 Speaker 1: had the real blessing to work with a lot of 241 00:15:42,720 --> 00:15:47,840 Speaker 1: really wonderful astrologers. There's a lot of different kinds of astrology, 242 00:15:48,120 --> 00:15:51,120 Speaker 1: so you know, do some research see what resonates with you. 243 00:15:51,600 --> 00:15:55,840 Speaker 1: My recommendation is getting a Vedic birth chart reading, which 244 00:15:56,000 --> 00:15:59,680 Speaker 1: is from the Eastern system, which would be called also 245 00:15:59,800 --> 00:16:04,440 Speaker 1: you dish astrology. It's like a spiritual science, is a 246 00:16:04,440 --> 00:16:09,520 Speaker 1: little more mathematical, and the way that they use planets 247 00:16:09,600 --> 00:16:12,160 Speaker 1: is a little bit different. What I love about Vedic 248 00:16:12,200 --> 00:16:14,800 Speaker 1: astrology and you might want to revisit an episode I 249 00:16:14,840 --> 00:16:20,880 Speaker 1: did with Dr suhas Is. Vedic astrology gives you a 250 00:16:21,080 --> 00:16:25,320 Speaker 1: huge view of your life, of your karma, but it 251 00:16:25,400 --> 00:16:29,440 Speaker 1: also provides cures for karma. So it provides you know, 252 00:16:29,480 --> 00:16:32,800 Speaker 1: an opportunity to remedy some of the areas in your 253 00:16:32,840 --> 00:16:37,080 Speaker 1: life where you might find challenge and restriction by doing 254 00:16:37,200 --> 00:16:41,840 Speaker 1: different rituals and offerings and prayers, and for me, someone 255 00:16:41,880 --> 00:16:46,800 Speaker 1: that lives a highly highly ritualistic and devoted life, it's 256 00:16:46,840 --> 00:16:49,600 Speaker 1: just been a beautiful experience for me and very empowering. 257 00:16:50,440 --> 00:16:54,640 Speaker 1: There's also many different forms of Western astrology where you 258 00:16:54,640 --> 00:16:57,960 Speaker 1: can get powerful birth charts done. I recommend as you're 259 00:16:57,960 --> 00:17:01,640 Speaker 1: getting started to look into evolution utionary astrology. So I 260 00:17:01,680 --> 00:17:07,040 Speaker 1: had an amazing episode with embodied astrologists from NAY on 261 00:17:07,080 --> 00:17:09,520 Speaker 1: a previous episode that you may want to check out there. 262 00:17:10,280 --> 00:17:12,880 Speaker 1: So when you're looking at your birth chart, it's kind 263 00:17:12,920 --> 00:17:17,879 Speaker 1: of like getting um a map of the intention of 264 00:17:17,920 --> 00:17:21,400 Speaker 1: your life. Sometimes it's actually really shocking because you can 265 00:17:21,440 --> 00:17:24,359 Speaker 1: see your trauma show up in your birth chart. You 266 00:17:24,359 --> 00:17:27,840 Speaker 1: can see, you know, some of your childhood dynamics really 267 00:17:27,880 --> 00:17:32,000 Speaker 1: explained in a way that feels very serving, that allows 268 00:17:32,040 --> 00:17:35,560 Speaker 1: you to see and be validated in some of the 269 00:17:35,600 --> 00:17:39,159 Speaker 1: experiences that you may have had, especially within your family 270 00:17:39,240 --> 00:17:41,919 Speaker 1: systems and the karma that you may have with your family. 271 00:17:42,640 --> 00:17:45,880 Speaker 1: Highly recommend also UM And there's a lot of beautiful 272 00:17:45,920 --> 00:17:48,960 Speaker 1: astrology apps and know a lot of folks use Channi's 273 00:17:49,040 --> 00:17:53,600 Speaker 1: amazing app co Star app, an app that I love 274 00:17:53,760 --> 00:17:57,960 Speaker 1: that I actually check out really often is called the Pattern. 275 00:17:58,280 --> 00:18:03,320 Speaker 1: The Pattern app does your birth chart through psychological depth 276 00:18:03,320 --> 00:18:06,359 Speaker 1: of understanding, so it breaks it down not so much 277 00:18:06,720 --> 00:18:10,520 Speaker 1: with your signs or your houses, but just through overviews 278 00:18:10,520 --> 00:18:15,840 Speaker 1: of psychology and identifying patterns and identifying transits that are 279 00:18:15,880 --> 00:18:19,200 Speaker 1: currently at play in the timing section. So I did 280 00:18:19,200 --> 00:18:22,800 Speaker 1: an episode of my podcast with the creator of the Pattern, 281 00:18:23,320 --> 00:18:26,680 Speaker 1: who is Oh my God obsessed with her amazing, amazing 282 00:18:26,720 --> 00:18:30,440 Speaker 1: woman name Lisa Donovan. So we did a two part episode. 283 00:18:30,480 --> 00:18:32,480 Speaker 1: You might want to check that out. So one of 284 00:18:32,520 --> 00:18:35,080 Speaker 1: the first ways to start getting connected with your authentic 285 00:18:35,160 --> 00:18:39,080 Speaker 1: self get a thorough birth chart reading. Also find someone 286 00:18:39,119 --> 00:18:42,800 Speaker 1: who has been doing it for a long time. Astrology 287 00:18:43,040 --> 00:18:50,560 Speaker 1: is having such a gorgeous um re emergence mainstream moment 288 00:18:50,640 --> 00:18:54,680 Speaker 1: in the sun. Astrology is thousands and thousands of years old. 289 00:18:54,800 --> 00:18:58,520 Speaker 1: It's a sacred ancient spiritual science um but there's so 290 00:18:58,560 --> 00:19:03,920 Speaker 1: many amazing new people coming into the mainstream with their offerings. However, 291 00:19:04,760 --> 00:19:08,600 Speaker 1: astrology is a sacred art that takes a lot of 292 00:19:08,880 --> 00:19:13,480 Speaker 1: practice and a lot of personal application to master to 293 00:19:13,560 --> 00:19:16,200 Speaker 1: be able to share at a high level. So whenever 294 00:19:16,200 --> 00:19:18,520 Speaker 1: you connect with someone like this, I want you to 295 00:19:18,560 --> 00:19:21,879 Speaker 1: also remember that when people give you readings, whether that 296 00:19:22,000 --> 00:19:25,159 Speaker 1: is an astrology reading, a psychic reading, and energy reading. 297 00:19:26,480 --> 00:19:30,720 Speaker 1: For the most part, facilitators and practitioners can only meet 298 00:19:30,800 --> 00:19:33,159 Speaker 1: you as deeply as you have met themselves, and so 299 00:19:33,240 --> 00:19:37,639 Speaker 1: typically their translations of their work can only go as 300 00:19:37,720 --> 00:19:43,959 Speaker 1: far as their personal healing or their personal experiences and understanding. Um, 301 00:19:43,960 --> 00:19:46,840 Speaker 1: with the human experience and with love and with trauma, 302 00:19:46,880 --> 00:19:49,280 Speaker 1: and with career and with you know, all the things. 303 00:19:49,359 --> 00:19:52,040 Speaker 1: So just two things to keep in mind as you 304 00:19:52,119 --> 00:19:56,919 Speaker 1: vet different facilitators and practitioners. Um. The astrologers that I 305 00:19:57,000 --> 00:19:59,879 Speaker 1: work with have been doing their work for between twenty 306 00:20:00,080 --> 00:20:04,119 Speaker 1: and forty years, so UM, I feel really good about 307 00:20:04,119 --> 00:20:19,840 Speaker 1: my connection to them. The next thing I'd recommend on 308 00:20:19,960 --> 00:20:23,159 Speaker 1: your path to connecting to your authentic self, And if 309 00:20:23,160 --> 00:20:25,439 Speaker 1: I haven't said this yet, consider getting a pin in 310 00:20:25,480 --> 00:20:27,119 Speaker 1: a journal now if you want to drop some of 311 00:20:27,119 --> 00:20:30,480 Speaker 1: these down, but it would be take a few personality tests. 312 00:20:30,520 --> 00:20:33,400 Speaker 1: Take a few tests online. UM, you can do individual 313 00:20:33,480 --> 00:20:38,560 Speaker 1: tests their sites like truity, um, Personality Lab a few others. 314 00:20:38,600 --> 00:20:40,880 Speaker 1: You know that for yourself. Those are just what I'm 315 00:20:40,880 --> 00:20:44,399 Speaker 1: familiar with. But consider taking a few personality tests and 316 00:20:44,480 --> 00:20:48,000 Speaker 1: if you were able spend um a little bit extra. 317 00:20:48,119 --> 00:20:52,200 Speaker 1: Usually it's around twenty dollars to get your full report. Breakdowns, 318 00:20:52,760 --> 00:20:54,879 Speaker 1: print them out, put them in a folder, create a 319 00:20:54,920 --> 00:20:59,399 Speaker 1: binder about the information you're collecting about yourself, reread them, 320 00:20:59,520 --> 00:21:02,920 Speaker 1: see how you currently relate to what you're reading, and 321 00:21:02,960 --> 00:21:06,520 Speaker 1: then also connected to past experiences that you may have had. 322 00:21:07,480 --> 00:21:12,240 Speaker 1: Personality tests can be really powerful, especially if your childhood 323 00:21:12,320 --> 00:21:15,480 Speaker 1: or adult life has not really given you the opportunity 324 00:21:15,520 --> 00:21:19,040 Speaker 1: to be connected with people who are emotionally regulated and 325 00:21:19,080 --> 00:21:23,640 Speaker 1: connected with people that can give you clear feedback on 326 00:21:23,720 --> 00:21:27,359 Speaker 1: who you are or guidance or you know, if you 327 00:21:27,400 --> 00:21:31,920 Speaker 1: had a childhood that didn't really allow you to cultivate 328 00:21:32,160 --> 00:21:37,040 Speaker 1: your core identity, the deeper understandings of who you are 329 00:21:37,080 --> 00:21:39,280 Speaker 1: and what you're good at and what you're curious about. 330 00:21:39,400 --> 00:21:42,560 Speaker 1: If you didn't get that kind of guidance, or you 331 00:21:42,600 --> 00:21:46,119 Speaker 1: weren't held space, space was not held for you in 332 00:21:46,160 --> 00:21:51,520 Speaker 1: that way. Personality tests can really help you validate things 333 00:21:51,600 --> 00:21:55,520 Speaker 1: that you have seen and known about yourself but haven't 334 00:21:55,560 --> 00:21:59,240 Speaker 1: heard reflected from other people. So if you test that, 335 00:21:59,320 --> 00:22:04,040 Speaker 1: I recommend our Myers Briggs really great test um. In 336 00:22:04,040 --> 00:22:10,680 Speaker 1: the Myers Briggs system, I am in e n f J. Yeah, 337 00:22:10,720 --> 00:22:12,080 Speaker 1: I'm in the n f J. I think I said 338 00:22:12,080 --> 00:22:16,439 Speaker 1: that right. Um. Also, Clifton Strengths by Gallop is a 339 00:22:16,640 --> 00:22:22,800 Speaker 1: really great test to take, especially for understanding your attributes 340 00:22:23,040 --> 00:22:25,720 Speaker 1: in your working life. And what I really love is 341 00:22:25,760 --> 00:22:28,879 Speaker 1: that they break it down based on your strengths and 342 00:22:28,920 --> 00:22:31,240 Speaker 1: you get to see, you know, what are areas that 343 00:22:31,320 --> 00:22:34,240 Speaker 1: are uniquely me that I can really expand and grow 344 00:22:34,320 --> 00:22:39,000 Speaker 1: in and what are some potential weaknesses more pitfalls to 345 00:22:39,080 --> 00:22:40,919 Speaker 1: just be aware of and look out for so you 346 00:22:40,960 --> 00:22:44,720 Speaker 1: can monitor yourself in that way. Angiograham is a great 347 00:22:44,720 --> 00:22:48,600 Speaker 1: test to have. UM. Love languages are a great test. 348 00:22:48,760 --> 00:22:51,159 Speaker 1: You know, there is that beautiful book, but there's also 349 00:22:51,480 --> 00:22:55,160 Speaker 1: actual tests that you can take online that gives you 350 00:22:55,280 --> 00:22:59,720 Speaker 1: some deeper breakdowns UM and some reporting. And also take 351 00:22:59,840 --> 00:23:03,960 Speaker 1: the Big Five personality test. That's a really great test 352 00:23:04,000 --> 00:23:08,200 Speaker 1: to understand especially how you may be interacting with others 353 00:23:08,200 --> 00:23:12,560 Speaker 1: and coming across. So number two, take a few personality tests. 354 00:23:13,600 --> 00:23:18,280 Speaker 1: Number three go to therapy, UM, but look into ones 355 00:23:18,359 --> 00:23:22,800 Speaker 1: that meet your specific needs. Not all therapy is created equal. 356 00:23:23,040 --> 00:23:27,160 Speaker 1: And as mental health is so beautifully expanding into our 357 00:23:27,200 --> 00:23:31,720 Speaker 1: mainstream and collective consciousness, as we're all on boarding, so 358 00:23:31,840 --> 00:23:36,199 Speaker 1: much new language around experiences, so much new understandings. I 359 00:23:36,200 --> 00:23:40,040 Speaker 1: think it's important to know that, as with every single field, 360 00:23:40,240 --> 00:23:47,119 Speaker 1: that there is not all therapists, practitioners, facilitators are created equal, 361 00:23:47,720 --> 00:23:52,639 Speaker 1: Not all educations are the same, not all expertise is 362 00:23:52,680 --> 00:23:57,399 Speaker 1: the same, and not all experiences the same. Right, Having 363 00:23:57,400 --> 00:24:01,560 Speaker 1: a therapist, UM that's working with you the just graduated 364 00:24:01,600 --> 00:24:05,159 Speaker 1: and started practicing is a little different than maybe working 365 00:24:05,160 --> 00:24:07,720 Speaker 1: with someone who has been doing this and has seen 366 00:24:07,800 --> 00:24:10,439 Speaker 1: a lot of people over time and been making different 367 00:24:10,480 --> 00:24:14,840 Speaker 1: connections over a decade, over a couple of decades, um. 368 00:24:14,840 --> 00:24:17,600 Speaker 1: So those are just things to think about what's important 369 00:24:17,600 --> 00:24:21,600 Speaker 1: to you personally as you see a therapist. Also, not 370 00:24:21,720 --> 00:24:25,840 Speaker 1: all therapies are equal. So the main therapy system that 371 00:24:25,880 --> 00:24:27,960 Speaker 1: a lot of people are seeking out right now is 372 00:24:28,040 --> 00:24:36,119 Speaker 1: cognitive therapy. Cognitive therapy is incredibly powerful. However, I my 373 00:24:36,240 --> 00:24:39,400 Speaker 1: personal view of cognitive therapy is that it can only 374 00:24:39,440 --> 00:24:42,840 Speaker 1: get you so far. Cognitive therapy is also referred to 375 00:24:42,880 --> 00:24:46,720 Speaker 1: as talk therapy. So it's amazing about giving you language 376 00:24:46,720 --> 00:24:50,120 Speaker 1: for your experiences, about having a space to really look 377 00:24:50,160 --> 00:24:53,600 Speaker 1: at that expanded view of your experiences and get feedback 378 00:24:53,640 --> 00:24:58,400 Speaker 1: and guidance, but it can also after a while, just 379 00:24:58,640 --> 00:25:01,240 Speaker 1: keep you stuck in a loop where you are just 380 00:25:01,400 --> 00:25:04,600 Speaker 1: talking in circles about the same themes and patterns that 381 00:25:04,640 --> 00:25:09,359 Speaker 1: you have noticed. Um And sometimes depending on what your 382 00:25:09,640 --> 00:25:14,639 Speaker 1: background and experiences are, you may require different approaches to 383 00:25:14,760 --> 00:25:20,280 Speaker 1: actually move through those experiences. Sometimes when you just go 384 00:25:20,560 --> 00:25:26,399 Speaker 1: that kind of cognitive talk, mental head intellectualized route, you 385 00:25:26,720 --> 00:25:30,840 Speaker 1: just begin to then sometimes punish yourself a little by 386 00:25:30,960 --> 00:25:34,560 Speaker 1: thinking these thoughts over and over and over again in 387 00:25:34,600 --> 00:25:38,359 Speaker 1: a loop and not really moving past the understanding phase 388 00:25:38,960 --> 00:25:43,680 Speaker 1: into the releasing of this experience phase. UM. So, something 389 00:25:43,720 --> 00:25:46,480 Speaker 1: that I always kind of consider when I hear people 390 00:25:46,520 --> 00:25:50,360 Speaker 1: say like, oh, I've been in therapy for five years. Yeah, 391 00:25:50,400 --> 00:25:52,159 Speaker 1: I've been in therapy for ten years. I've been in 392 00:25:52,200 --> 00:25:56,960 Speaker 1: therapy for fifteen years. Something inside of me and this 393 00:25:57,040 --> 00:26:01,280 Speaker 1: is just me and this is without judgment, thinks, But 394 00:26:01,520 --> 00:26:05,040 Speaker 1: why right, Like, the point of us healing is to 395 00:26:05,320 --> 00:26:08,320 Speaker 1: come into a space where we can live our healing, 396 00:26:08,720 --> 00:26:11,960 Speaker 1: where we're able to be embodied with our understandings and 397 00:26:12,000 --> 00:26:15,320 Speaker 1: with our healing so that we're able to make very 398 00:26:15,440 --> 00:26:20,040 Speaker 1: different choices in life that change the dynamics of our experience. 399 00:26:21,000 --> 00:26:22,760 Speaker 1: And then we come into a space where we're not 400 00:26:23,200 --> 00:26:26,639 Speaker 1: always rehashing the things that have happened to us, UM, 401 00:26:26,720 --> 00:26:28,640 Speaker 1: where we're able to go a little bit deeper and 402 00:26:28,680 --> 00:26:32,359 Speaker 1: find the tools to release those experiences and to create 403 00:26:32,359 --> 00:26:38,240 Speaker 1: more space for different experiences UM, and not just continue 404 00:26:38,240 --> 00:26:45,440 Speaker 1: to come into therapy talking about new UM, new unfoldings 405 00:26:45,560 --> 00:26:49,440 Speaker 1: or new people that represent the exact same patterns that 406 00:26:49,520 --> 00:26:53,680 Speaker 1: we started in therapy with. So that's my viewpoint. UM. 407 00:26:53,720 --> 00:26:56,440 Speaker 1: But when I say that you know something that could 408 00:26:56,440 --> 00:26:58,520 Speaker 1: be powerful, especially if you find that maybe you're a 409 00:26:58,520 --> 00:27:03,800 Speaker 1: little stagnated in your therapy right now, switch up your therapists. UM. 410 00:27:03,880 --> 00:27:07,359 Speaker 1: Consider websites like psychology today that allow you to filter 411 00:27:07,480 --> 00:27:10,880 Speaker 1: your local search. So when you filter, UM, and this 412 00:27:10,960 --> 00:27:14,760 Speaker 1: is just one side, and I am in no way, Uh, 413 00:27:14,920 --> 00:27:17,479 Speaker 1: I'm not an ambassador for this site, So do your 414 00:27:17,480 --> 00:27:21,040 Speaker 1: own searches. But something I like about them, and I 415 00:27:21,080 --> 00:27:23,840 Speaker 1: have not personally found someone that I've used on there. 416 00:27:23,880 --> 00:27:26,119 Speaker 1: But you can go in. You can type in your 417 00:27:26,200 --> 00:27:28,800 Speaker 1: zip code and then there are different boxes you can 418 00:27:28,880 --> 00:27:32,480 Speaker 1: check based on your specific needs. So if you've identified 419 00:27:32,520 --> 00:27:35,959 Speaker 1: that you've had traumatic experiences, or perhaps you may have 420 00:27:36,000 --> 00:27:41,560 Speaker 1: a borderline UM a personality disorder like borderline or narcissism, 421 00:27:41,960 --> 00:27:47,120 Speaker 1: or have experienced abuses from people that may have different disorders. 422 00:27:47,600 --> 00:27:51,200 Speaker 1: You can check boxes to find someone that specializes in 423 00:27:51,240 --> 00:27:56,840 Speaker 1: those unique specific things UM, and not all therapists or 424 00:27:56,880 --> 00:28:02,160 Speaker 1: psychologists have the same fields of those deeper studies, so 425 00:28:02,280 --> 00:28:04,560 Speaker 1: something to look for. You might also want to look 426 00:28:04,600 --> 00:28:09,680 Speaker 1: into other therapy systems like somatic therapy, which I highly 427 00:28:10,160 --> 00:28:15,000 Speaker 1: highly highly recommend somatic therapy UM. I did an amazing 428 00:28:15,840 --> 00:28:20,240 Speaker 1: podcast episode with a somatic therapist my brother asthm Amnicum. 429 00:28:20,720 --> 00:28:23,680 Speaker 1: Credible episode. Check that out. You may also be interested 430 00:28:23,760 --> 00:28:28,119 Speaker 1: in DBT therapy UM and that kind of helps put 431 00:28:28,840 --> 00:28:33,160 Speaker 1: into practice ways of change. So just something to consider. 432 00:28:33,280 --> 00:28:39,600 Speaker 1: That's three. Number four. Consider sexology work. Goop did a 433 00:28:39,720 --> 00:28:42,920 Speaker 1: really well done special on sexology, but there's so much 434 00:28:42,960 --> 00:28:46,200 Speaker 1: more information available about that. I had an episode with 435 00:28:46,240 --> 00:28:52,920 Speaker 1: a sexologist, Simone Farsheim, who is just an amazing, amazing woman. UM. 436 00:28:53,040 --> 00:28:55,040 Speaker 1: She did a previous episode, so you may want to 437 00:28:55,120 --> 00:28:58,560 Speaker 1: check that out. But sexology work is really powerful if 438 00:28:58,560 --> 00:29:03,560 Speaker 1: you're looking to expand your capacity for intimacy and grow 439 00:29:03,680 --> 00:29:07,000 Speaker 1: your understanding of your own body. Some of the things 440 00:29:07,080 --> 00:29:10,479 Speaker 1: that happen with our life experiences UM, whether you've had 441 00:29:10,520 --> 00:29:14,440 Speaker 1: traumas or just you know, maybe haven't explored this side 442 00:29:14,440 --> 00:29:18,240 Speaker 1: of yourself yet. Is that we don't tend to really 443 00:29:18,280 --> 00:29:22,800 Speaker 1: be deeply connected to our own bodies. So sexology work 444 00:29:22,840 --> 00:29:26,240 Speaker 1: can really help getting back into your body being able 445 00:29:26,280 --> 00:29:29,240 Speaker 1: to expand um in all the ways that you may 446 00:29:29,280 --> 00:29:32,560 Speaker 1: wish to in your intimate or sexual life. And this 447 00:29:32,680 --> 00:29:36,720 Speaker 1: is available for men, it's available for women, it's available 448 00:29:37,160 --> 00:29:43,240 Speaker 1: for non binary community, for absolutely anyone that is a 449 00:29:43,280 --> 00:29:47,400 Speaker 1: life so UM that may be something that that could 450 00:29:47,400 --> 00:29:49,960 Speaker 1: be really powerful for you in your life. And there's 451 00:29:50,000 --> 00:29:53,640 Speaker 1: many practitioners in this field, but this is a highly 452 00:29:53,680 --> 00:29:57,880 Speaker 1: intimate work. If you have experienced sexual trauma, highly recommend 453 00:29:57,960 --> 00:30:01,360 Speaker 1: that you look for someone that practices that has a 454 00:30:01,520 --> 00:30:08,920 Speaker 1: background and expertise in facilitating facilitating for survivors of sexual trauma, 455 00:30:09,560 --> 00:30:13,280 Speaker 1: and vet everyone that you work with accordingly read the 456 00:30:13,360 --> 00:30:18,280 Speaker 1: responses actually asked for referrals. You know, really look deeply 457 00:30:18,360 --> 00:30:22,760 Speaker 1: before you open yourself up in this way. So that 458 00:30:23,000 --> 00:30:30,200 Speaker 1: is one to three four. The fifth one is look 459 00:30:30,360 --> 00:30:35,080 Speaker 1: too potentially experiencing some energy work. UM. I am an 460 00:30:35,200 --> 00:30:39,400 Speaker 1: energy healer myself, I am a reiki master and three 461 00:30:39,440 --> 00:30:43,000 Speaker 1: different lineages of reiki. That's I'm a master in a sui, 462 00:30:43,280 --> 00:30:46,840 Speaker 1: in holy fire and in Karuna reiki, and I'm also 463 00:30:47,200 --> 00:30:51,880 Speaker 1: uh energetic master in two other lineages of energy work. 464 00:30:52,000 --> 00:30:55,120 Speaker 1: And I've been deeply setting this for many years, have 465 00:30:55,320 --> 00:30:57,760 Speaker 1: done it on myself. UM. The first time I got 466 00:30:57,880 --> 00:31:03,960 Speaker 1: energy work was probably maybe fifteen years ago, and it 467 00:31:04,200 --> 00:31:09,280 Speaker 1: really really, really, um personally changed my life. So I 468 00:31:09,440 --> 00:31:14,760 Speaker 1: highly recommend looking into experiencing energy work from a master practitioner, 469 00:31:15,160 --> 00:31:19,520 Speaker 1: someone who's who has been practicing this for consistently or 470 00:31:19,520 --> 00:31:23,320 Speaker 1: a certain amount of time. UM. That could be really powerful. 471 00:31:23,360 --> 00:31:28,720 Speaker 1: So that's five number six. Journal, Pay attention to yourself. 472 00:31:28,840 --> 00:31:32,240 Speaker 1: Keep record of your thoughts, keep record of the patterns 473 00:31:32,280 --> 00:31:36,360 Speaker 1: that you're noticing, keep records of the miracles that you're noticing, 474 00:31:36,560 --> 00:31:42,200 Speaker 1: of your experiences, of your synchronicities, date them, study them, 475 00:31:42,520 --> 00:31:46,000 Speaker 1: Consider putting this into a calendar. It's really powerful for 476 00:31:46,040 --> 00:31:48,920 Speaker 1: building your self awareness, and it's also really powerful for 477 00:31:48,920 --> 00:31:55,560 Speaker 1: building your spiritual confidence. Another way is really work on 478 00:31:55,920 --> 00:32:02,320 Speaker 1: growing your inner wisdom and intuition. So consider stop seeking 479 00:32:02,440 --> 00:32:06,640 Speaker 1: counsel and validation from outside sources if that's something that 480 00:32:06,720 --> 00:32:11,600 Speaker 1: you find yourself doing pretty regularly. Here your personal gut 481 00:32:11,680 --> 00:32:16,960 Speaker 1: response first and write it down. Slow down. When you 482 00:32:17,000 --> 00:32:21,840 Speaker 1: need to make decisions. There is not always a need 483 00:32:21,880 --> 00:32:24,960 Speaker 1: for urgency and that and sometimes the urgency comes with 484 00:32:25,520 --> 00:32:29,000 Speaker 1: just feeling really uncomfortable with making your own choices, feeling 485 00:32:29,080 --> 00:32:33,479 Speaker 1: uncomfortable with the potential idea of getting it wrong. And 486 00:32:33,520 --> 00:32:35,720 Speaker 1: so you move fast so that it's done and that 487 00:32:36,080 --> 00:32:38,800 Speaker 1: you know either the it all falls down or it 488 00:32:38,800 --> 00:32:40,640 Speaker 1: all goes well. But you want to do it quickly 489 00:32:40,760 --> 00:32:43,680 Speaker 1: so that you don't have the anxiety of sitting with 490 00:32:43,800 --> 00:32:50,320 Speaker 1: your life. I understand, but it's so necessary to slow 491 00:32:50,600 --> 00:32:55,280 Speaker 1: down with yourself, be really thoughtful about your choices, check 492 00:32:55,440 --> 00:33:00,240 Speaker 1: in with your unique understanding of you, check in with 493 00:33:00,320 --> 00:33:05,720 Speaker 1: your gut. Pause to consider. I think that's six or seven. 494 00:33:05,800 --> 00:33:08,000 Speaker 1: I am not sure. Let me do a quick count 495 00:33:08,040 --> 00:33:18,960 Speaker 1: so I can stay on it. And two, three, four, five, six, okay, seven, okay, 496 00:33:19,120 --> 00:33:22,520 Speaker 1: So we are now a number eight. Um regulate your 497 00:33:22,560 --> 00:33:28,200 Speaker 1: nervous system being disregulated and emotionally imbalanced. Puts up armor 498 00:33:28,440 --> 00:33:31,720 Speaker 1: around the real you, the one that you want people 499 00:33:31,800 --> 00:33:36,200 Speaker 1: to really see and know, not your reactions. So to 500 00:33:36,360 --> 00:33:39,080 Speaker 1: really begin to regulate your nervous system, which is going 501 00:33:39,080 --> 00:33:41,720 Speaker 1: to be the foundation of all the personal growth work 502 00:33:41,760 --> 00:33:46,600 Speaker 1: that you do. I recommend getting regular body work done 503 00:33:46,840 --> 00:33:50,560 Speaker 1: if able, like deep tissue massage. So if you have 504 00:33:50,640 --> 00:33:54,480 Speaker 1: the budget to do that, I highly recommend getting two 505 00:33:54,520 --> 00:33:59,640 Speaker 1: times a month a ninety minute deep tissue massage. Don't think, oh, 506 00:33:59,680 --> 00:34:02,720 Speaker 1: that's selfish. Do I deserve that? Yes you do. You're 507 00:34:02,720 --> 00:34:05,360 Speaker 1: a human that's alive and your body deserves to be 508 00:34:05,440 --> 00:34:08,880 Speaker 1: nourished and loved. This isn't about oh let me relax, 509 00:34:09,160 --> 00:34:11,600 Speaker 1: you know that that comes to This is about moving 510 00:34:11,840 --> 00:34:16,560 Speaker 1: energy and stuck toxicity out of your body so that 511 00:34:16,640 --> 00:34:19,839 Speaker 1: you can feel your best, so that you can make 512 00:34:20,560 --> 00:34:24,120 Speaker 1: choices out of your best self. If that's not financially 513 00:34:24,120 --> 00:34:27,520 Speaker 1: possible for you, there are many other ways to show 514 00:34:27,600 --> 00:34:30,480 Speaker 1: up for yourself and body work. I highly recommend getting 515 00:34:30,640 --> 00:34:38,600 Speaker 1: a Gasha tool, which is typically a stone or stainless steel. Um, 516 00:34:38,680 --> 00:34:43,320 Speaker 1: how do I describe this? Uh? Small kind of fits 517 00:34:43,320 --> 00:34:46,280 Speaker 1: in the palm of your hand tool or a trigger 518 00:34:46,320 --> 00:34:50,880 Speaker 1: point massage tool or an ira Vedic massage wand and 519 00:34:51,239 --> 00:34:53,960 Speaker 1: watching a few videos on YouTube on how to do 520 00:34:54,000 --> 00:34:56,239 Speaker 1: that every day in the shower. I do that from 521 00:34:56,239 --> 00:34:59,680 Speaker 1: my face. I do that for my body, um, my arms. 522 00:34:59,719 --> 00:35:02,359 Speaker 1: I or a lot of energy in my forearms and 523 00:35:02,440 --> 00:35:05,399 Speaker 1: also in my angles and my calves, so I really 524 00:35:05,440 --> 00:35:10,920 Speaker 1: focus on massaging m HM those areas for myself with 525 00:35:11,000 --> 00:35:17,080 Speaker 1: a gashaw tool. You know, UM being disregulated and emotionally imbalanced. 526 00:35:17,600 --> 00:35:26,320 Speaker 1: It it's one of the biggest ways that we cut 527 00:35:26,400 --> 00:35:29,440 Speaker 1: off our authentic self, that we limit our ability to 528 00:35:29,480 --> 00:35:32,200 Speaker 1: connect to our purpose and our mission, so that deep 529 00:35:32,239 --> 00:35:35,520 Speaker 1: tissue massage could be amazing. UM. I work a lot 530 00:35:35,600 --> 00:35:39,440 Speaker 1: with PM meth and infrared technology. I have found both 531 00:35:39,480 --> 00:35:44,440 Speaker 1: to be powerful, powerful regulators for me UM. I love 532 00:35:44,560 --> 00:35:47,239 Speaker 1: using them also when like I'm ill or sick or 533 00:35:47,280 --> 00:35:52,280 Speaker 1: my son is, it really helps with UM faster, moving 534 00:35:52,640 --> 00:35:55,360 Speaker 1: faster through some of that sickness. It's great if you 535 00:35:55,400 --> 00:35:58,680 Speaker 1: work out a lot salt baths. I take three to 536 00:35:58,800 --> 00:36:01,960 Speaker 1: four some salt as a week or really hot water, 537 00:36:02,160 --> 00:36:05,040 Speaker 1: stay in it for at least thirty minutes. And as 538 00:36:05,080 --> 00:36:08,040 Speaker 1: a lot of people know on social media as they 539 00:36:08,160 --> 00:36:11,000 Speaker 1: use the whole bag SIS, so we are not doing 540 00:36:11,040 --> 00:36:13,560 Speaker 1: these little baby scoops of epsom salt. We are doing 541 00:36:13,600 --> 00:36:17,240 Speaker 1: an entire gallon bag per bath. I have no idea 542 00:36:17,320 --> 00:36:20,400 Speaker 1: what this does to our pipes, so fingers crossed on that, 543 00:36:21,239 --> 00:36:23,680 Speaker 1: but you know something that that really does is it 544 00:36:23,800 --> 00:36:27,000 Speaker 1: draws out those toxins and impurities from you. On a 545 00:36:27,040 --> 00:36:30,680 Speaker 1: physical level, restores nourishes your body, especially if you have 546 00:36:30,719 --> 00:36:33,759 Speaker 1: a little magnesium in it. But on a spiritual level, 547 00:36:33,920 --> 00:36:39,320 Speaker 1: it also really UM is powerful for removing any negative energy, 548 00:36:39,520 --> 00:36:44,640 Speaker 1: for cleansing your energy, your spiritual life, just really creating 549 00:36:44,640 --> 00:36:47,160 Speaker 1: a space where you can feel more of the purity 550 00:36:47,160 --> 00:36:50,239 Speaker 1: of who you are. UM. But it's so powerfully supportive 551 00:36:50,560 --> 00:36:54,680 Speaker 1: for your body. So I like to do you know, 552 00:36:54,760 --> 00:36:57,839 Speaker 1: really an expensive route is that on Amazon. I've signed 553 00:36:57,920 --> 00:37:02,240 Speaker 1: up for the Amazon brand of UM up some salts. 554 00:37:02,280 --> 00:37:05,360 Speaker 1: I get the lavader and eucalyptus. I get them delivered 555 00:37:05,400 --> 00:37:08,239 Speaker 1: to me on a subscription once a month. I get 556 00:37:08,360 --> 00:37:10,279 Speaker 1: enough sent to me so that I can take three 557 00:37:10,320 --> 00:37:14,279 Speaker 1: to four baths a week UM. And that's worked out 558 00:37:14,320 --> 00:37:17,040 Speaker 1: really well, so that might work for you. Stretching is 559 00:37:17,080 --> 00:37:21,640 Speaker 1: really powerful, yoga's really powerful. Meditation is really powerful for 560 00:37:21,680 --> 00:37:26,840 Speaker 1: that regulation of the nervous system. And number nine, stop 561 00:37:26,840 --> 00:37:31,640 Speaker 1: being influenced. Stop measuring yourself against others and creating fantasies 562 00:37:31,680 --> 00:37:35,439 Speaker 1: about who they are in comparison to you. A lot 563 00:37:35,440 --> 00:37:38,560 Speaker 1: of times you may not UM really notice that you're 564 00:37:38,560 --> 00:37:41,400 Speaker 1: doing this. But you may be looking at other people, 565 00:37:41,480 --> 00:37:45,680 Speaker 1: looking at their pages, creating and concocting these views of 566 00:37:46,520 --> 00:37:49,040 Speaker 1: you know, um, who they are and why they are 567 00:37:49,120 --> 00:37:51,600 Speaker 1: the way they are, and you know if you're better, 568 00:37:51,760 --> 00:37:55,040 Speaker 1: if you're not enough for all these different things, and 569 00:37:55,719 --> 00:37:58,880 Speaker 1: for each starring in our own movies, we're each running 570 00:37:58,880 --> 00:38:02,160 Speaker 1: our own races. We have to focus on ourselves. You 571 00:38:02,200 --> 00:38:04,920 Speaker 1: will not find the answers outside of you. You will not, 572 00:38:05,840 --> 00:38:09,440 Speaker 1: you know, be rewarded when someone else is struggling or 573 00:38:09,560 --> 00:38:14,719 Speaker 1: perceivedly failing. It is about your internal world, and that 574 00:38:14,880 --> 00:38:17,840 Speaker 1: is the number one place you have to focus to 575 00:38:18,200 --> 00:38:21,799 Speaker 1: love and accept yourself and to actually see meaningful change 576 00:38:22,080 --> 00:38:24,560 Speaker 1: in your life in the way that you make decisions, 577 00:38:24,560 --> 00:38:27,759 Speaker 1: in the way that you attract things to yourself. So 578 00:38:29,160 --> 00:38:31,960 Speaker 1: a big way to start doing that is to one 579 00:38:32,000 --> 00:38:36,160 Speaker 1: start noticing how often that's done. So I recommend cutting 580 00:38:36,160 --> 00:38:41,280 Speaker 1: out all TV, all film, all radio, and all books 581 00:38:41,520 --> 00:38:44,640 Speaker 1: for the most part, unless you're working with particular workbooks 582 00:38:45,480 --> 00:38:50,480 Speaker 1: um for at minimum a month a month a month. 583 00:38:51,640 --> 00:38:54,879 Speaker 1: I did it for two years and I'm just now 584 00:38:55,000 --> 00:38:59,280 Speaker 1: starting to consider watching some TV again. I've given myself 585 00:38:59,320 --> 00:39:01,840 Speaker 1: about an hour a week that I may watch a 586 00:39:01,880 --> 00:39:06,919 Speaker 1: show about something, but I stopped watching all television, all movie, um, 587 00:39:06,960 --> 00:39:10,719 Speaker 1: listening to the radio for a little bit over two 588 00:39:10,920 --> 00:39:15,560 Speaker 1: entire years. And I'll never go back to the way 589 00:39:15,600 --> 00:39:17,800 Speaker 1: that I used to consume. I'll never be a Netflix 590 00:39:17,840 --> 00:39:21,160 Speaker 1: and Chiller again. It's just not for me serving to 591 00:39:21,239 --> 00:39:23,839 Speaker 1: the life that I want to live. Also, I'm more 592 00:39:23,880 --> 00:39:25,960 Speaker 1: interested in my own thoughts right now, in my own 593 00:39:26,000 --> 00:39:30,320 Speaker 1: philosophies and my own creativity and so. And I'm also 594 00:39:30,400 --> 00:39:37,160 Speaker 1: someone that has a very specific intellect in way that 595 00:39:37,680 --> 00:39:41,839 Speaker 1: UM I want to have conversation. I really just want 596 00:39:41,840 --> 00:39:45,719 Speaker 1: to pour my free time into consuming things that I'm 597 00:39:45,760 --> 00:39:51,960 Speaker 1: actually deeply, deeply curious about, interested in, passionate about UM 598 00:39:52,160 --> 00:39:54,760 Speaker 1: or I just want to be in silence or dancing 599 00:39:54,880 --> 00:39:58,200 Speaker 1: or listening to music so that that's something that I've 600 00:39:58,239 --> 00:40:00,800 Speaker 1: really loved about. My journey may not be for everyone, 601 00:40:00,960 --> 00:40:04,759 Speaker 1: But if you want a powerful accelerator, notice where you're 602 00:40:04,760 --> 00:40:08,200 Speaker 1: being influenced in thought and even the subtle list of ways. 603 00:40:08,520 --> 00:40:12,040 Speaker 1: Notice what you're consuming and ask yourself, what does this 604 00:40:12,160 --> 00:40:15,040 Speaker 1: actually serve? How is this benefiting me, how is this 605 00:40:15,200 --> 00:40:19,200 Speaker 1: valuing me? Um adding value to my life? And you 606 00:40:19,239 --> 00:40:22,320 Speaker 1: know what, what am I actually learning or feeling about 607 00:40:22,360 --> 00:40:25,800 Speaker 1: the things that I'm watching. There's a lot of triggering 608 00:40:25,920 --> 00:40:29,000 Speaker 1: things that exist out there and some of the things 609 00:40:29,000 --> 00:40:34,880 Speaker 1: that we consume, and there's also a lot of misrepresented, um, 610 00:40:35,120 --> 00:40:38,840 Speaker 1: misunderstood things that are being shared. So something just for 611 00:40:38,840 --> 00:40:45,120 Speaker 1: your consideration. So nine things, Yeah, nine, that's a nice 612 00:40:45,120 --> 00:40:48,920 Speaker 1: power number two. Um, these are always that you can 613 00:40:48,960 --> 00:40:52,120 Speaker 1: begin this summer to really lock into what I'm calling 614 00:40:52,160 --> 00:40:55,520 Speaker 1: the Healed Girls Summer and grow and expand and have 615 00:40:55,719 --> 00:40:58,520 Speaker 1: fun while doing it. Everything that I listed is actually 616 00:40:59,440 --> 00:41:04,360 Speaker 1: really powerfully shifting and can be really powerfully fun and pleasurable. 617 00:41:04,600 --> 00:41:08,600 Speaker 1: And everything that I listed are things that I've been 618 00:41:08,640 --> 00:41:13,840 Speaker 1: doing with myself for probably the past ten to twelve years. 619 00:41:15,080 --> 00:41:17,920 Speaker 1: I really believe in them and I really live them, 620 00:41:18,120 --> 00:41:20,919 Speaker 1: and so I hope you'll find the ones that fit 621 00:41:21,080 --> 00:41:23,960 Speaker 1: leave the ones that don't. But either way, consider to 622 00:41:24,080 --> 00:41:31,120 Speaker 1: experiment with yourself and your journey. So there we are. 623 00:41:31,320 --> 00:41:35,400 Speaker 1: This is uh my Dropping Gyms episode live from gorgeous 624 00:41:35,400 --> 00:41:38,360 Speaker 1: Santa Fe, New Mexico, and I just want to share 625 00:41:38,400 --> 00:41:41,400 Speaker 1: something that has really inspired me this week. While I've 626 00:41:41,440 --> 00:41:45,680 Speaker 1: been in Santa Fe, I had a chance to go 627 00:41:45,840 --> 00:41:49,680 Speaker 1: visit the Georgia O'Keefe Museum, And I used to study 628 00:41:49,840 --> 00:41:53,319 Speaker 1: art when I was in school. I always kind of 629 00:41:53,400 --> 00:41:55,800 Speaker 1: dreamed of being an artist, but never had the chance, 630 00:41:56,120 --> 00:41:59,640 Speaker 1: um or the finances as a young person to really 631 00:42:00,080 --> 00:42:04,640 Speaker 1: nurture that desire, that gift that you know, I felt 632 00:42:04,640 --> 00:42:10,600 Speaker 1: connected to. But I remember learning about Georgia O'Keefe because 633 00:42:10,640 --> 00:42:15,040 Speaker 1: she was this, you know, really dynamic woman, especially for 634 00:42:15,120 --> 00:42:17,759 Speaker 1: her time her artist career. And I'm a little off 635 00:42:17,800 --> 00:42:22,920 Speaker 1: with the dates, but you know, really kind of um 636 00:42:23,080 --> 00:42:25,799 Speaker 1: She was teaching art and then began sharing her art 637 00:42:25,880 --> 00:42:30,920 Speaker 1: around nineteen twelve, and she lived all the way to 638 00:42:31,120 --> 00:42:34,560 Speaker 1: night four and created art all the way through the 639 00:42:34,680 --> 00:42:38,280 Speaker 1: end of her life. So she was nearly a hundred 640 00:42:38,320 --> 00:42:41,719 Speaker 1: when she passed. And when I was researching her, something 641 00:42:41,760 --> 00:42:44,000 Speaker 1: that I just thought was so cool was just looking 642 00:42:44,040 --> 00:42:46,440 Speaker 1: at her as a as a woman who was so 643 00:42:46,520 --> 00:42:52,080 Speaker 1: far ahead of her time, such a genius and a visionary. 644 00:42:52,520 --> 00:42:58,360 Speaker 1: Her art is just incredible. She painted a lot of nature, 645 00:42:58,440 --> 00:43:00,920 Speaker 1: a lot of flowers is what she is really known for, 646 00:43:01,360 --> 00:43:04,399 Speaker 1: a lot of landscapes of where she happened to live 647 00:43:04,520 --> 00:43:09,720 Speaker 1: in New Mexico. So her museum and her home, Ghost Ranch, 648 00:43:10,000 --> 00:43:13,160 Speaker 1: is located out here, and I went and I just 649 00:43:13,320 --> 00:43:16,719 Speaker 1: sat and soaked up her essence and energy. It just 650 00:43:16,800 --> 00:43:19,759 Speaker 1: sat alone for hours, walking through the museum and her 651 00:43:19,800 --> 00:43:25,880 Speaker 1: gallery staring at the paintings. Um. It was so beautiful 652 00:43:25,960 --> 00:43:29,840 Speaker 1: and I was so inspired. And something that really inspired 653 00:43:29,960 --> 00:43:33,680 Speaker 1: me was that for over forty years she lived off 654 00:43:33,760 --> 00:43:36,719 Speaker 1: the grid in a town that had less than a 655 00:43:36,800 --> 00:43:39,959 Speaker 1: hundred people in it. Um and may be pronouncing this wrong, 656 00:43:40,000 --> 00:43:45,719 Speaker 1: so apologies, but Abitqua, New Mexico, in this adobe, on 657 00:43:45,800 --> 00:43:49,919 Speaker 1: this ranch for nearly forty years alone. And if you've 658 00:43:49,960 --> 00:43:53,680 Speaker 1: been in you know these areas of New Mexico, you 659 00:43:53,760 --> 00:44:01,240 Speaker 1: know how definitely quiet it is, how power like gorgeous 660 00:44:01,440 --> 00:44:06,080 Speaker 1: it is. It's just mind blowing. But for her to 661 00:44:06,280 --> 00:44:13,799 Speaker 1: live that way in creative isolation for nearly four decades 662 00:44:13,920 --> 00:44:18,880 Speaker 1: and create some of the most extraordinary art, I'm just 663 00:44:18,920 --> 00:44:23,600 Speaker 1: really inspired by that. As someone who is always craving silence, 664 00:44:23,960 --> 00:44:28,160 Speaker 1: UM and I'm an extrovert, but I'm always craving deeply, 665 00:44:28,160 --> 00:44:33,960 Speaker 1: craving alone time to just adventure with myself inwardly and outwardly. 666 00:44:34,760 --> 00:44:37,520 Speaker 1: So that is something I've been feeling really passionate about, 667 00:44:37,680 --> 00:44:41,040 Speaker 1: is is just continuing to dive deeper into her work 668 00:44:41,120 --> 00:44:43,399 Speaker 1: and learn more about her as a woman and as 669 00:44:43,880 --> 00:44:50,320 Speaker 1: a creative genius. So live from Santa Fe big, big 670 00:44:50,360 --> 00:44:53,399 Speaker 1: love everyone, um and I'll cut you guys next week. 671 00:44:53,880 --> 00:44:59,200 Speaker 1: I'm astay. Hey. Find me on social Let's connect at 672 00:44:59,400 --> 00:45:02,520 Speaker 1: Debbie down that's Twitter, on Instagram, or go to my 673 00:45:02,560 --> 00:45:06,239 Speaker 1: website Debbie Brown dot com. And if you're listening to 674 00:45:06,280 --> 00:45:10,720 Speaker 1: the show on Apple Podcasts, please please please don't forget 675 00:45:10,800 --> 00:45:16,080 Speaker 1: to rate, review, and subscribe and send this episode to 676 00:45:16,080 --> 00:45:19,319 Speaker 1: a friend. Dropping Jims is the production of I Heart 677 00:45:19,360 --> 00:45:22,359 Speaker 1: Radio and The Black Effect Network. It's produced by Jack 678 00:45:22,400 --> 00:45:25,759 Speaker 1: Quase and me Debbie Brown. 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