Speaker 1: Hi, and welcome back to Carol Marco's show on iHeartRadio.
Speaker 1: I've been seeing a lot more posts on my South
Speaker 1: Florida Facebook boards of people looking to make friends. They
Speaker 1: often post a short summary about themselves, sometimes a picture.
Speaker 1: A lot of the times it's couples. They describe their interests.
Speaker 1: They say, I like pick a ball, I like camping,
Speaker 1: we surf that kind of thing. Like I mentioned last episode,
Speaker 1: a lot of people have moved states in the last
Speaker 1: few years. Florida has obviously been a hub for that,
Speaker 1: and making friends in adulthood is hard. One of the
Speaker 1: things I think about is that we're overthinking this friend
Speaker 1: making and that's why in the last episode I focus
Speaker 1: on the fact that it's not so much that I
Speaker 1: want to make friends, which I do, but I want
Speaker 1: to make more acquaintances. I want to be able to
Speaker 1: recognize more people in my neighborhood and just know their names,
Speaker 1: and that's been a bit of a challenge. So I
Speaker 1: get that people are having trouble with the next step,
Speaker 1: which is, you know, actually making friends that you hang
Speaker 1: out with more. When you're little, they're outside and you're
Speaker 1: outside and now you're friends. Or maybe they sit next
Speaker 1: to you in class, or maybe they share your dorm room,
Speaker 1: or maybe you have the same first job, and on
Speaker 1: and on. But it's situational, right, You're in the same
Speaker 1: proximity to each other, and that's how you become friends.
Speaker 1: But in adulthood, we want a lot of similar match points.
Speaker 1: The people on the Facebook groups, they're not posting I
Speaker 1: live here, if you live here, let's be friends. They're
Speaker 1: posting I'm into this? Are you into this? Can we
Speaker 1: be friends? We want to have a lot more things
Speaker 1: in common. And I'm guilty of it too. When we
Speaker 1: moved from Manhattan to Brooklyn, I was much more likely
Speaker 1: to become friends with someone if they had more than
Speaker 1: one kid the same age as my kids. So the
Speaker 1: people that we hung out with the most had two
Speaker 1: or sometimes even three kids that matched up in age
Speaker 1: with our kids. It was just easier. It's similar to dating.
Speaker 1: You get set in your ways and it becomes harder
Speaker 1: to connect with people as you get older. You want
Speaker 1: them to match you in multiple ways. You want them
Speaker 1: to share all of your interests. But that's not how
Speaker 1: friendship really works, and not how it develops. I like
Speaker 1: to focus on sense of humor, for example, but of course,
Speaker 1: even that is subjective. Finding the same thing funny and
Speaker 1: the ability to have humorous conversations is important to me
Speaker 1: in friendship. There's no real way to advertise for that,
Speaker 1: like you might for someone who plays pickleball. You can
Speaker 1: ask people what they find funny or if they're able
Speaker 1: to tell funny stories, but that's harder to really explain
Speaker 1: or achieve. A couple that were best friends with my
Speaker 1: husband went to college with the husband, you know, would
Speaker 1: we be friends today? It's hard to say. They don't
Speaker 1: have kids, they ride motorcycles, they like all the wrong
Speaker 1: sports teams, but we really love them and have the
Speaker 1: best time when we're together. How do you put that
Speaker 1: in a Facebook group request? Right, It's it's tough. Other
Speaker 1: things I look for in friends is I like to
Speaker 1: go out to dinner, But everyone would say they love food.
Speaker 1: Some people like holes in the wall, tat goos and
Speaker 1: gas stations, others like fancy prefixed meals, and I like both. Really,
Speaker 1: I like all of it all food. So it's tough
Speaker 1: and it's not obvious. A lot of people had good
Speaker 1: advice about dating. I'd love to hear what people say
Speaker 1: about making friends in adulthood. This comes up so often
Speaker 1: in my real life conversations, and I'd love to hear
Speaker 1: what my smart listeners have to say about it. If
Speaker 1: you've got thoughts, drop me an email. Carol Marcowitch Show
Speaker 1: at gmail dot com. It's k A R O L
Speaker 1: M A R K O W I c Z s
Speaker 1: h ow at gmail dot com. Coming up next, and
Speaker 1: interview with Bianca Dela Garza. Join us after the break.
Speaker 2: Welcome back to the Carol Marcowitz Show on iHeartRadio. My
Speaker 2: guest today is Bianca Dela Garza. Bianca is a ten
Speaker 2: time Emmy nominated award winning journalist and the host of
Speaker 2: Newsline and Newswire on Newsmax. And she's the author of
Speaker 2: a great new book incoming on the front lines of
Speaker 2: the Left's War on Truth, sold wherever books are sold.
Speaker 3: Hi, Bianca, so nice to have you on, Carol. So
Speaker 3: great to be with you. I'm such a fan of
Speaker 3: your podcast, so honored to be here with you.
Speaker 2: Very very mutual.
Speaker 3: I love coming on your show. So what is the
Speaker 3: war on truth? It's probably the most volatile period of
Speaker 3: American history and politics that has played out before our
Speaker 3: eyes in the past several months. And I believe the
Speaker 3: war on truth was really exposed after we saw the
Speaker 3: debate with Joe Biden, and I've had a front seat
Speaker 3: to sort of the unraveling of the media and the
Speaker 3: legacy media's big lie, and it exposed the potential of
Speaker 3: how far we could have gone as a nation. And
Speaker 3: you know how dangerous the game of deception is. And
Speaker 3: I as a journalist, I mean, my job and my
Speaker 3: only job is to bring truth and transparency to the
Speaker 3: people who are watching and listening. And I'm at the
Speaker 3: point now where we describe an incoming how this war is,
Speaker 3: whether our nation rises or falls.
Speaker 2: Do you think that they put Biden out on purpose
Speaker 2: and had him exposed as being not quite with it
Speaker 2: in order to get Kamala in or were they trying
Speaker 2: to cover it as long as possible.
Speaker 3: Here's the thing, I don't think we'll ever really know
Speaker 3: the machinations of if there was this duplicity of that,
Speaker 3: and if it was that thought out and that deep.
Speaker 3: I think there's a possibility of that, but ultimately I
Speaker 3: don't even know if it matters, right because now we
Speaker 3: know the machine and it's not necessarily about having a leader,
Speaker 3: It's about having control and power so it's quite possible
Speaker 3: they did that, but they also caused all this chaos,
Speaker 3: all night uncertainty, and the end is for the greater
Speaker 3: good of people learning and waking up. I'm okay with that,
Speaker 3: but I'm not okay with people who sit in roles
Speaker 3: like I sit in every single day and actually deceive
Speaker 3: people for a living. And that's why I felt called
Speaker 3: to write this book because I've had a front row
Speaker 3: seat to all of it and the historic moments we've seen, Carol,
Speaker 3: I don't think it's like something out of a movie.
Speaker 3: You couldn't script what we just saw the past few
Speaker 3: months unfold.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think we are going to find out what happened.
Speaker 2: I think that if Kamala Harris loses the selection, we're
Speaker 2: going to have a deluge of books about what went
Speaker 2: down there. And I mean, whether or not it will
Speaker 2: be true is a separate story. I think lots of
Speaker 2: people will be taking credit for the things that went
Speaker 2: right and shifting the blame for things that went wrong.
Speaker 2: But I ultimately do think we're going to hear some
Speaker 2: stories about how it all went down.
Speaker 3: And we may and then you also have to question
Speaker 3: the source, right, like what is their reason are they
Speaker 3: getting in advance on a book tal to test We
Speaker 3: saw people go forward, you know, to testify in front
Speaker 3: of Congress and not be so truthful. So the motivations
Speaker 3: of people when they see sort of their fifteen minutes
Speaker 3: emerging in that window, it's really quite frightening. And I think,
Speaker 3: you know, where we have come though, is going to
Speaker 3: be you know, a revelation that you know, talking with
Speaker 3: you know podcasters, you know independent media, you know networks
Speaker 3: like Newsmax, which I'm really proud to be at that
Speaker 3: there there are real truth tellers out there, and we
Speaker 3: just have to continue to fight. And there's so many issues,
Speaker 3: you know, that have brought us to the brink of
Speaker 3: you know, real collapse here in America. It's gone so
Speaker 3: serious with the invasion at our southern border, with our
Speaker 3: economic policies, and I think that now is the time
Speaker 3: where people know we can't kind of just you know,
Speaker 3: drink the kool aid or listen to the elites and
Speaker 3: their ivory tower who are telling us who we need
Speaker 3: to vote for. So what would you.
Speaker 2: Say to people who just feel like the lies are
Speaker 2: everywhere and it's too much and they kind of tune
Speaker 2: everything out.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm so glad you asked that question. Yeah, I
Speaker 3: guess part of it. Why I wanted to write this
Speaker 3: book is to make it accessible, to make it not
Speaker 3: so overwhelming. I'm a mom. I have an eighteen year
Speaker 3: old daughter. So after living through the twenty twenty you know,
Speaker 3: election and COVID and understanding how the world can be
Speaker 3: a very frightening and chaotic place, especially through the minds
Speaker 3: of younger people. And I do worry about the next
Speaker 3: generation because sort of for us, you know, we can
Speaker 3: grasp things, but some of the realities of what we
Speaker 3: may see come to pass, depending on how this election goes,
Speaker 3: could be one way or the other. For the youth,
Speaker 3: I think that, you know, there are people who are
Speaker 3: like I don't want to listen because I don't want
Speaker 3: to have to be so stressed about things. But then
Speaker 3: I think it comes down to the grassroots. When you're
Speaker 3: a parent and you're sitting in a school board meeting,
Speaker 3: or you hear what your child's being taught at school
Speaker 3: and the books they're reading, then you are called to action.
Speaker 3: I can't tell when someone's reaction will be that moment
Speaker 3: where it all kind of switches, but I do hope
Speaker 3: and through the book where we talk about you know,
Speaker 3: the indoctrination, we talk about how woke is everywhere, and
Speaker 3: just sort of this movement that has become so radical
Speaker 3: and so fast that I think people are starting to
Speaker 3: grasp that even though it is overwhelming to think about it,
Speaker 3: it's now become you know, critical mass where they have
Speaker 3: to right.
Speaker 2: I think you're right. Even people who don't like politics,
Speaker 2: don't like hearing from politicians, don't like following the news.
Speaker 2: I think the last few years have really woken them
Speaker 2: up and they see that it all goes on whether
Speaker 2: or not they're paying attention. The great point about indoctrination.
Speaker 2: Obviously that's a topic that I'm very interested in, but
Speaker 2: the way that parents saw what their kids were learning
Speaker 2: in school, they realized they can't just sit it out anymore.
Speaker 2: They have to be involved. And I'm hoping you see
Speaker 2: that kind of shift happening in American society, Like do
Speaker 2: you think that more eyes have been open?
Speaker 3: And I think it's a return to just wanting normalcy.
Speaker 3: This administration has pushed, especially with gender mutilation, which they
Speaker 3: love to call gender affirming, so far. You know, in
Speaker 3: my book, I talk about you know how we have,
Speaker 3: you know, puberty blockers that caused green swelling in young girls.
Speaker 3: I'm a mother of a young girl. I you know,
Speaker 3: think at that point we start going, oh my gosh,
Speaker 3: these are drastic, radical things that not just alter our child,
Speaker 3: but you know the regrets people have of not being
Speaker 3: able to ever have children, Like what are we doing
Speaker 3: to society and the fabric of our moral compass? And
Speaker 3: it's come down I think to some you know, spiritual awakening.
Speaker 3: I really hope and pray that all the time that
Speaker 3: people are seeing that this is not so much about
Speaker 3: left or right. It's about our values as humans and
Speaker 3: whom we can be if we really do unify and
Speaker 3: come together. And I think some of the rhetoric coming
Speaker 3: out of the media on top of their lies and
Speaker 3: trying to sell this as something of you know, you're
Speaker 3: not accepting trans people, you're transphobic. When you cut through it,
Speaker 3: you sort of see this demonic evil, uh sinister, look
Speaker 3: at all that, And that I think is what people
Speaker 3: will finally push back on because it just doesn't feel good, Carol.
Speaker 3: It just feels wrong when you think about innocent young kids.
Speaker 3: Something about that triggers I think, you know, something innate
Speaker 3: in all of us that no, you don't go after
Speaker 3: innocent people, and you know, that's where I think there
Speaker 3: comes a point of no return. And we've also seen
Speaker 3: that at our border as well with some of the
Speaker 3: child trafficking that gets zero coverage.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think you're absolutely right. I think you know,
Speaker 2: there were always people who identified as trans in society
Speaker 2: and nobody cared until they came for the kids. And
Speaker 2: it was that shift of like, now we're going to
Speaker 2: be focusing on children, and we saw such a spike
Speaker 2: and kids identifying as the opposite gender that we saw
Speaker 2: that something really serious was going on. And I think
Speaker 2: that you're right that it's the kids. They came after,
Speaker 2: these innocent kids, and that's what shifted the conversation on it.
Speaker 2: I'm surprised you have an eighteen year old. You look
Speaker 2: super young, So what advice you are to be kind
Speaker 2: of you?
Speaker 3: I know, I'm surprised to you. I don't know how
Speaker 3: fast time goes, but how does happen?
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Speaker 2: So a question I get asked a lot is how
Speaker 2: to raise kids in this kind of crazy world, this
Speaker 2: environment that they can't really question. A lot of things
Speaker 2: they you know, cancelations still happen. They could not go
Speaker 2: to college. I mean, my kids and I have a
Speaker 2: running joke of like, don't say this outside the house
Speaker 2: or you'll never go to college. And you know, so
Speaker 2: how do you do it with your daughter?
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's it's a It's a great topic too, because
Speaker 3: I think we all wrestle with it and you want
Speaker 3: to impart great software but also straddle the line where
Speaker 3: you want them to have critical thinking and you want
Speaker 3: them to come to something and have some deductive reasoning
Speaker 3: and make their own decisions because you won't always be there,
Speaker 3: you know, next, and you want them to actually be
Speaker 3: able to have this wherewithal to navigate in the world
Speaker 3: and make really smart decisions. And one of the chapters
Speaker 3: I talk about the woe agenda. It's everywhere, and I
Speaker 3: actually open on my daughter's graduation day. We were sitting
Speaker 3: in Boston in the back Bay and I was celebrating
Speaker 3: her graduation from high school this spring, and the kids
Speaker 3: were talking about how we put it on the calendar.
Speaker 3: And one of the girls was telling one of my
Speaker 3: best friends, because her daughters were there, the girls of
Speaker 3: nine others since fourth grade, Oh, did you know that
Speaker 3: the calendar you put like she they so you're saying
Speaker 3: you're fluid because the Apple Eye calendar has that. So
Speaker 3: it was just sort of bizarre because we know that
Speaker 3: they have to be in situations they're going to be
Speaker 3: in school and they're going to be like, what gender
Speaker 3: are you? And some people will identify as this so
Speaker 3: that they really, like you said, for fear of them
Speaker 3: getting canceled. There's this pressure, yeah, a lot of pressure,
Speaker 3: and I don't I don't think there's an easy answer
Speaker 3: to this. So you can tell your kid speak your truth,
Speaker 3: always speak your truth, and that sort of will give you,
Speaker 3: you know, your conscience will be clear. But I also
Speaker 3: think there's something about having to understand diplomacy if you will,
Speaker 3: and you don't want your kids to be ostracized. So
Speaker 3: I think maybe playing it in a way where you
Speaker 3: don't have to ever compromise your morals. That's what I
Speaker 3: would instruct my daughter. You don't have to buy into it,
Speaker 3: but you also don't have to play and engage in
Speaker 3: the game. You know, you can sit back and you
Speaker 3: know you don't have to have an argument with everyone
Speaker 3: over this, you know. I think that's like part of
Speaker 3: being smart is knowing when to just say, you know,
Speaker 3: agree to disagree, or pass.
Speaker 2: You know. I hear that the kids all do land
Speaker 2: acknowledgments now in colleges. I feel like you just pass,
Speaker 2: not interested in doing that you know, you do whatever
Speaker 2: you want, and.
Speaker 3: Then it's high smuggle too, because then you're kind of
Speaker 3: above it all and you're not getting into it because
Speaker 3: I think so much of the left and the war
Speaker 3: is they want to drag you into this. They wanted
Speaker 3: to tige you into this race baiting, they want to
Speaker 3: drag you into these identity politics, right. And you know,
Speaker 3: at the end of the day, what I see from
Speaker 3: young people is there's this true caring in heart, and
Speaker 3: you know, they worry a lot about things that frankly,
Speaker 3: they need to worry about because this nation is in
Speaker 3: a very precarious place. As you know as well, Carol,
Speaker 3: what do you worry about nuclear proliferation?
Speaker 2: Okay, that's a big one.
Speaker 3: You know, it's you know, worry is something you know obviously,
Speaker 3: I'm a very spiritual person, so I do know that,
Speaker 3: you know, worry and fear is not something that you know,
Speaker 3: the Bible or scripture tells us that, you know, God
Speaker 3: does not want us to worry or fear. Of course,
Speaker 3: I worry about my daughter's safety. She's living in New York. Now.
Speaker 3: I try to, you know, obviously check in with her
Speaker 3: quite a bit. I think that's just natural mother things.
Speaker 3: But personally, I don't really worry about so much of
Speaker 3: what will happen next. I don't worry about, you know,
Speaker 3: the politics or this nation. I have like this innate
Speaker 3: sort of sense of people are grasping where we are,
Speaker 3: and I feel like worrying is such a wasted emotion. Yeah,
Speaker 3: I really, I really want my time on this earth
Speaker 3: and this short life that we have to be giving,
Speaker 3: giving it all. Sort of why I entered journalism almost
Speaker 3: thirty years ago is to be the voice for the voiceless.
Speaker 3: So I guess if I were to worry about anything,
Speaker 3: and I wouldn't say it's a worry. I'm concerned that
Speaker 3: people are not getting the right information. I'm also concerned
Speaker 3: that people's voices who need to be heard are being
Speaker 3: silenced and censored. So if I can work any small
Speaker 3: part of what platform I've been given to do, that
Speaker 3: I'm doing my job. But I'm also, I think, doing
Speaker 3: what I've been called to do, and that's really that's
Speaker 3: really impactful for me as just a person.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's so important. I mean, and you ease your
Speaker 2: own worry about, you know, the voice is not being
Speaker 2: heard by giving them space to be heard. I think
Speaker 2: it's great. What advice would you give your sixteen year old.
Speaker 3: Self, Listen to your mom?
Speaker 2: Has you good on.
Speaker 3: I mean, that's so hard, right when you're sixteen and
Speaker 3: you think you know it all. I was an only child.
Speaker 3: I grew up with a very strong mother who raised
Speaker 3: me and you know, it was all about education and
Speaker 3: working hard. She had a great work ethic, so I
Speaker 3: learned a lot from her. But she was also this
Speaker 3: glamorous flight attendant who is so worldly. And I write
Speaker 3: about her in the book and she's passed away sadly
Speaker 3: and I miss her so much, but her influence on
Speaker 3: me and she I grew up in a Catholic, you know,
Speaker 3: very Catholic household. She wanted to be a nun at
Speaker 3: one point, but my grandmother was like, no, you're not
Speaker 3: going to be a nun. Fortunately for me, she wasn't
Speaker 3: because I wouldn't be here count right, right, But she
Speaker 3: was so right about things, and you know, the wisdom
Speaker 3: that our mothers have. I think i'd tell my sixteen
Speaker 3: year old self, like, listen to your mom. She has
Speaker 3: good advice for you. She wants what's best for you.
Speaker 3: But we all have to, you know, chart our own
Speaker 3: course and be a little rebellious, and I, you know,
Speaker 3: I kind of see that a little with my daughter now,
Speaker 3: and she would have to race with that. But I
Speaker 3: wish I took her up on some of her really
Speaker 3: great offers because she used to meet really cool people
Speaker 3: on flights and she'd be like, why don't you go
Speaker 3: to New York and intern a ABC Sports this summer?
Speaker 3: And I was like, no, Mom, I'm too busy, Like
Speaker 3: what what was I thinking?
Speaker 2: Right?
Speaker 3: So she was always meeting really cool people on the
Speaker 3: planes and in the sky. And I write about my
Speaker 3: book interesting note too.
Speaker 2: Did she.
Speaker 3: You know? She just had this sort of giving nature, right,
Speaker 3: and she would be somewhere, would be out and she'd
Speaker 3: see somebody who was in uniform, and when we'd get
Speaker 3: the check, she'd say, please buy their check.
Speaker 2: I love that.
Speaker 3: Yeah, she was like an angel in my life, and
Speaker 3: you know, she still is with me. So I think
Speaker 3: my sixteen year old didn't know how great she had
Speaker 3: that counsel. But hopefully you know everything she taught me
Speaker 3: about being a great mom, now I'm trying to put
Speaker 3: it into action every day.
Speaker 2: Well, you picked up your mom's glamour, for sure, It's
Speaker 2: all about lighting and lipstick.
Speaker 3: It really is a little to make it, you know.
Speaker 2: That's that's really, that's really all that matters. I've loved
Speaker 2: this conversation and here with your best tip for my
Speaker 2: listeners on how they can improve their lives.
Speaker 3: Oh, I love this and I really do. I love
Speaker 3: your podcast. I love your conversations because it is always
Speaker 3: a value add You're not just you know, when you
Speaker 3: leave and listen to your conversations, I always kind of go, huh,
Speaker 3: it's interesting. I like the way that someone thought, or
Speaker 3: what you extract from somebody. You're fantastic. So I am.
Speaker 3: I'm going to be approaching forty nine and not look
Speaker 3: at I would say, I'm very my advice as I,
Speaker 3: you know, get older, I want to really increase longevity
Speaker 3: for me because health is wealth, it really is. I
Speaker 3: don't care what you have if you don't have your health.
Speaker 3: And I want to sound mind, and I want to
Speaker 3: be able to stay young for my daughter and for
Speaker 3: the future. I'm really very protective of my sleep and
Speaker 3: my physical activity because I think in our business and
Speaker 3: as you know, when we work and we're trying to
Speaker 3: manage our families, and I know it's hard and I
Speaker 3: know it's easier said than done. I remember when you
Speaker 3: have sleepless nights and you have babies. But I think
Speaker 3: the sleep things, the sleep piece, I've sort of solved,
Speaker 3: and that was really critical because I did morning news
Speaker 3: for a long time as well. I don't think I
Speaker 3: slept for seven years. So I manage my sleep and
Speaker 3: I try to get some physical activity, and I think
Speaker 3: those are two things that I think have created a
Speaker 3: little bit of in my life, at least a little
Speaker 3: more balance, especially with the stress, whether it be family stress,
Speaker 3: whether it be stress of covering you know, three hours
Speaker 3: news that I do a day. I think those are
Speaker 3: two things that anyone can apply to their life and
Speaker 3: they'll they'll feel a little bit better and maybe the
Speaker 3: balance in some way will help them, you know, whether
Speaker 3: it makes them makes them make better decisions, be calmer,
Speaker 3: you know, don't sweat the small stuff, because at the
Speaker 3: end of the day, stress is one of the worst
Speaker 3: things that we can have in my life.
Speaker 2: And it's all small stuff.
Speaker 3: So small stuff, right, even sleep and exercise. It sounds
Speaker 3: sleep and exercise, Yeah.
Speaker 2: Sounds about right. She is Bianca Dilla Garza. Catch her
Speaker 2: on Newsmax by her New book incoming on the front
Speaker 2: lines of the left war on truth anywhere books are sold.
Speaker 3: Thanks Carol, Thanks.
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