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Speaker 1: Hi, and welcome back to Carol Marco's show on iHeartRadio.

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Speaker 1: I've been seeing a lot more posts on my South

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Speaker 1: Florida Facebook boards of people looking to make friends. They

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Speaker 1: often post a short summary about themselves, sometimes a picture.

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Speaker 1: A lot of the times it's couples. They describe their interests.

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Speaker 1: They say, I like pick a ball, I like camping,

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Speaker 1: we surf that kind of thing. Like I mentioned last episode,

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Speaker 1: a lot of people have moved states in the last

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Speaker 1: few years. Florida has obviously been a hub for that,

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Speaker 1: and making friends in adulthood is hard. One of the

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Speaker 1: things I think about is that we're overthinking this friend

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Speaker 1: making and that's why in the last episode I focus

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Speaker 1: on the fact that it's not so much that I

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Speaker 1: want to make friends, which I do, but I want

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Speaker 1: to make more acquaintances. I want to be able to

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Speaker 1: recognize more people in my neighborhood and just know their names,

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Speaker 1: and that's been a bit of a challenge. So I

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Speaker 1: get that people are having trouble with the next step,

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Speaker 1: which is, you know, actually making friends that you hang

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Speaker 1: out with more. When you're little, they're outside and you're

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Speaker 1: outside and now you're friends. Or maybe they sit next

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Speaker 1: to you in class, or maybe they share your dorm room,

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Speaker 1: or maybe you have the same first job, and on

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Speaker 1: and on. But it's situational, right, You're in the same

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Speaker 1: proximity to each other, and that's how you become friends.

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Speaker 1: But in adulthood, we want a lot of similar match points.

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Speaker 1: The people on the Facebook groups, they're not posting I

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Speaker 1: live here, if you live here, let's be friends. They're

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Speaker 1: posting I'm into this? Are you into this? Can we

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Speaker 1: be friends? We want to have a lot more things

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Speaker 1: in common. And I'm guilty of it too. When we

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Speaker 1: moved from Manhattan to Brooklyn, I was much more likely

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Speaker 1: to become friends with someone if they had more than

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Speaker 1: one kid the same age as my kids. So the

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Speaker 1: people that we hung out with the most had two

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Speaker 1: or sometimes even three kids that matched up in age

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Speaker 1: with our kids. It was just easier. It's similar to dating.

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Speaker 1: You get set in your ways and it becomes harder

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Speaker 1: to connect with people as you get older. You want

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Speaker 1: them to match you in multiple ways. You want them

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Speaker 1: to share all of your interests. But that's not how

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Speaker 1: friendship really works, and not how it develops. I like

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Speaker 1: to focus on sense of humor, for example, but of course,

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Speaker 1: even that is subjective. Finding the same thing funny and

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Speaker 1: the ability to have humorous conversations is important to me

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Speaker 1: in friendship. There's no real way to advertise for that,

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Speaker 1: like you might for someone who plays pickleball. You can

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Speaker 1: ask people what they find funny or if they're able

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Speaker 1: to tell funny stories, but that's harder to really explain

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Speaker 1: or achieve. A couple that were best friends with my

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Speaker 1: husband went to college with the husband, you know, would

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Speaker 1: we be friends today? It's hard to say. They don't

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Speaker 1: have kids, they ride motorcycles, they like all the wrong

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Speaker 1: sports teams, but we really love them and have the

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Speaker 1: best time when we're together. How do you put that

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Speaker 1: in a Facebook group request? Right, It's it's tough. Other

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Speaker 1: things I look for in friends is I like to

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Speaker 1: go out to dinner, But everyone would say they love food.

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Speaker 1: Some people like holes in the wall, tat goos and

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Speaker 1: gas stations, others like fancy prefixed meals, and I like both. Really,

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Speaker 1: I like all of it all food. So it's tough

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Speaker 1: and it's not obvious. A lot of people had good

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Speaker 1: advice about dating. I'd love to hear what people say

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Speaker 1: about making friends in adulthood. This comes up so often

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Speaker 1: in my real life conversations, and I'd love to hear

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Speaker 1: what my smart listeners have to say about it. If

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Speaker 1: you've got thoughts, drop me an email. Carol Marcowitch Show

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Speaker 1: at gmail dot com. It's k A R O L

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Speaker 1: M A R K O W I c Z s

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Speaker 1: h ow at gmail dot com. Coming up next, and

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Speaker 1: interview with Bianca Dela Garza. Join us after the break.

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Speaker 2: Welcome back to the Carol Marcowitz Show on iHeartRadio. My

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Speaker 2: guest today is Bianca Dela Garza. Bianca is a ten

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Speaker 2: time Emmy nominated award winning journalist and the host of

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Speaker 2: Newsline and Newswire on Newsmax. And she's the author of

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Speaker 2: a great new book incoming on the front lines of

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Speaker 2: the Left's War on Truth, sold wherever books are sold.

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Speaker 3: Hi, Bianca, so nice to have you on, Carol. So

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Speaker 3: great to be with you. I'm such a fan of

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Speaker 3: your podcast, so honored to be here with you.

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Speaker 2: Very very mutual.

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Speaker 3: I love coming on your show. So what is the

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Speaker 3: war on truth? It's probably the most volatile period of

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Speaker 3: American history and politics that has played out before our

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Speaker 3: eyes in the past several months. And I believe the

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Speaker 3: to sort of the unraveling of the media and the

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Speaker 3: legacy media's big lie, and it exposed the potential of

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Speaker 3: how far we could have gone as a nation. And

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Speaker 3: you know how dangerous the game of deception is. And

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Speaker 3: I as a journalist, I mean, my job and my

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Speaker 3: only job is to bring truth and transparency to the

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Speaker 3: point now where we describe an incoming how this war is,

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Speaker 3: whether our nation rises or falls.

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Speaker 2: Do you think that they put Biden out on purpose

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Speaker 2: and had him exposed as being not quite with it

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Speaker 2: in order to get Kamala in or were they trying

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Speaker 3: Here's the thing, I don't think we'll ever really know

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Speaker 3: the machinations of if there was this duplicity of that,

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Speaker 3: and if it was that thought out and that deep.

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Speaker 3: I think there's a possibility of that, but ultimately I

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Speaker 3: don't even know if it matters, right because now we

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Speaker 3: know the machine and it's not necessarily about having a leader,

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Speaker 3: It's about having control and power so it's quite possible

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Speaker 3: they did that, but they also caused all this chaos,

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Speaker 3: all night uncertainty, and the end is for the greater

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Speaker 3: good of people learning and waking up. I'm okay with that,

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Speaker 3: but I'm not okay with people who sit in roles

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Speaker 3: like I sit in every single day and actually deceive

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Speaker 3: people for a living. And that's why I felt called

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Speaker 3: to write this book because I've had a front row

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Speaker 3: seat to all of it and the historic moments we've seen, Carol,

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Speaker 3: I don't think it's like something out of a movie.

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Speaker 3: You couldn't script what we just saw the past few

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I think we are going to find out what happened.

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Speaker 2: I think that if Kamala Harris loses the selection, we're

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Speaker 2: But I ultimately do think we're going to hear some

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Speaker 3: And we may and then you also have to question

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Speaker 3: the source, right, like what is their reason are they

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Speaker 3: you know, where we have come though, is going to

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Speaker 3: just have to continue to fight. And there's so many issues,

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Speaker 3: you know, real collapse here in America. It's gone so

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Speaker 2: Say to people who just feel like the lies are

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm so glad you asked that question. Yeah, I

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Speaker 3: And I think it's a return to just wanting normalcy.

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Speaker 2: So a question I get asked a lot is how

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Speaker 3: and I don't I don't think there's an easy answer

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Speaker 2: You know. I hear that the kids all do land

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Speaker 3: Then it's high smuggle too, because then you're kind of

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Speaker 3: what do you worry about nuclear proliferation?

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Speaker 3: You know, it's you know, worry is something you know obviously,

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's so important. I mean, and you ease your

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Speaker 3: things that we can have in my life.

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Speaker 2: And it's all small stuff.

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Speaker 3: So small stuff, right, even sleep and exercise. It sounds

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Speaker 2: Sounds about right. She is Bianca Dilla Garza. Catch her

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Speaker 2: on Newsmax by her New book incoming on the front

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Speaker 2: lines of the left war on truth anywhere books are sold.

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Speaker 3: Thanks Carol, Thanks.

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Speaker 1: So much for joining us on the Carol Markowitz Show.

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