WEBVTT - Avoid the tyranny of how

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of iHeartRadio. Good Morning,

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<v Speaker 1>This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast. Today's

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<v Speaker 1>tip is to figure out what you want to do first.

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<v Speaker 1>Only then do you need to put a lot of

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<v Speaker 1>energy into figuring out how you are going to do it.

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<v Speaker 1>Today's tip comes from career coach Jenny Blake in her

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<v Speaker 1>book Pivot, The Only Move that Matters as Your Next One.

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<v Speaker 1>She offers guidance for thinking about what is next professionally,

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<v Speaker 1>but a lot of her advice is relevant even if

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<v Speaker 1>you are not considering a career switch. For instance, she

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<v Speaker 1>advises that people avoid the tyranny of the how. She

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<v Speaker 1>attributes the phrase tyranny of the hows to coach Jeff Jacobsen.

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<v Speaker 1>Blake says that when people are approaching a big decision,

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<v Speaker 1>they tend to focus in immediately on how, which can

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<v Speaker 1>lead to what she calls panic mode. She gives the

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<v Speaker 1>example of a person who is unhappy at work and

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<v Speaker 1>thinking about changing jobs. The person wonders how she is

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<v Speaker 1>going to tell her manager, I mean really playing through

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<v Speaker 1>that whole conversation, and how she might go about finding

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<v Speaker 1>a new role within her company, or how to look

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<v Speaker 1>for a job elsewhere while still in her current role,

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<v Speaker 1>how to respond if various things go wrong, etc. But

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<v Speaker 1>Blake says that how is dangerous to ask too early

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<v Speaker 1>in the process of pivoting. First, you need to get clarity,

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<v Speaker 1>she says, on what your vision is. In other words,

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<v Speaker 1>before you think about breaking the news that you're leaving

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<v Speaker 1>to your manager or figuring out a schedule for structuring

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<v Speaker 1>a job search while also doing your full time job,

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<v Speaker 1>you need to figure out what it is that you

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<v Speaker 1>actually want, define what you want to do before you

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<v Speaker 1>focus on the process of job change. When the time comes,

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<v Speaker 1>my guess is you'll figure out a way to tell

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<v Speaker 1>your boss. You don't need to figure out how to

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<v Speaker 1>word the email requesting a meeting just yet. But avoiding

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<v Speaker 1>the tyranny of the how isn't just important for job pivots.

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<v Speaker 1>It's relevant for all sorts of other decisions too. For instance,

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<v Speaker 1>if you are deciding whether or not you and your

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<v Speaker 1>family can go to your aunt and uncle's anniversary celebration,

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<v Speaker 1>don't get distracted by how you'll explain your decision one

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<v Speaker 1>way or the other, or how you'll tell your parents

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<v Speaker 1>that you don't want to share an airbnb with them,

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<v Speaker 1>or where the rental car counter is at that particular airport,

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<v Speaker 1>and what you'll say when your cousin Marty asks about

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<v Speaker 1>your teen's nose ring. First, decide whether you have the

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<v Speaker 1>time and money to go and whether it is an

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<v Speaker 1>experience that you, your immediate family, and your aunt and

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<v Speaker 1>uncle would value. Only after you have decided whether you

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<v Speaker 1>want to go and could afford to do so, do

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<v Speaker 1>you need to get into the hows of communication and

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<v Speaker 1>planning and how you will deal with everyone who is there,

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<v Speaker 1>whatever big decision you are facing. First figure out what

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<v Speaker 1>you want to do or feel is the right thing.

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<v Speaker 1>Only then do you need to get into how when

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<v Speaker 1>we think about how too soon we may be focusing

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<v Speaker 1>on the process but end up aiming for the wrong outcome.

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<v Speaker 1>Much better to make sure we are headed in the

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<v Speaker 1>right direction first, and then figure out the route to

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<v Speaker 1>get there in the meantime. This is Laura, Thanks for listening,

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<v Speaker 1>and here's to making the most of our time. Thanks

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<v Speaker 1>for listening to Before Breakfast. If you've got questions, ideas,

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<v Speaker 1>or feedback, you can reach me at Laura at Laura

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