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Speaker 1: Men should always pay. If he splits the bill, then

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Speaker 1: he doesn't love you. I told my wife that this

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Speaker 1: advice is unacceptable and to stop coercing our daughter. Am

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Speaker 1: I the a hole? My wife and I have been

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Speaker 1: married eighteen years. We have our sixteen year old who

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Speaker 1: has been dating a slightly shy, awkward young man for

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Speaker 1: about three to four months now. He seems very nervous

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Speaker 1: around my daughter and is admitted in a passing comment

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Speaker 1: here and there to my wife and I that he

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Speaker 1: can't believe she agreed to date him, and he thinks

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Speaker 1: she is way out of his leak. My wife is

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Speaker 1: usually an independent, awesome woman, and her ideals align closely

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Speaker 1: with mine, particularly in term of feminism inequality. We both

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Speaker 1: have striven to raise our daughter to be as independent

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Speaker 1: and as capable as possible. But since my daughter has

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Speaker 1: been dating this kid, my wife has changed considerably and

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Speaker 1: has given our daughter advice that has left me with

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Speaker 1: raised eyebrows more than once. Some of the advice I've

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Speaker 1: heard my wife give is, oh, it's cute for boys

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Speaker 1: to pay for everything, especially in your first relationship, or oh, honey,

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Speaker 1: don't worry about that, he can pay for it for you.

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Speaker 1: If he really liked you, he would Man's sixteen. Where

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Speaker 1: do you think he's getting this cash? He's just taking

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Speaker 1: it from his parents. I've tried to balance this out

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Speaker 1: by telling my daughter straight away two people in a

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Speaker 1: partnership should be contributing equally, And my personal favorite, if

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Speaker 1: someone asked if they can take you out to dinner,

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Speaker 1: it's reasonable to expect them to pay, But if someone

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Speaker 1: asked you to grab dinner with them, it's reasonable to

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Speaker 1: supplit the payments. I figured that would be an easy

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Speaker 1: way for a young person to understand the difference. However,

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Speaker 1: I've noticed my daughter becoming more and more entitled with

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Speaker 1: her boyfriend's money. That don gan done. It's money, you

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Speaker 1: spend it quickly. They haven't been anywhere obviously, since we're home,

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Speaker 1: But the way she talks about him, Oh, I'll just

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Speaker 1: ask him to pay for ex et cetera, leaves a

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Speaker 1: bad taste in my mouth. She's also flippantly bragged Slash

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Speaker 1: mentioned that she gets him to buy him gift cards

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Speaker 1: for her et cetera, by mentioning her mother's advice, if

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Speaker 1: you really like me, you pay for X. Man's buying

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Speaker 1: gift cards. This feels like a scam. This feels like

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Speaker 1: like a catfish bro. I spoke to my wife privately

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Speaker 1: and told her by concerns. She insists it's a right

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Speaker 1: of passage for girls and it's cute that she should

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Speaker 1: feel a guy is completely spoiling her. I told her

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Speaker 1: that it's not cute for her to be thinking it's

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Speaker 1: acceptable to view relationships as personal ATMs. And my wife

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Speaker 1: became very angry with me and is now calling me

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Speaker 1: an a hole with a lot of hostility. Am I

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Speaker 1: the a hole? That's so terrible and it's and I

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Speaker 1: think it also cheapens the relationship. You are a piggy

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Speaker 1: bank to me. You know, life's done fair for us

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Speaker 1: fellas to you know, it's so hard being with the

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