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Speaker 3: I ignored my family after they excluded me from Christmas.

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Speaker 1: Well I would too. Sounds like they're bullies.

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Speaker 3: For context, I twenty nine female, have not been on

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Speaker 3: great terms with my family for a long time. My

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Speaker 3: mom has spent most of my life doing everything she

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Speaker 3: can to tear me down, and as of now, I

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Speaker 3: haven't spoken to her in almost three years. By the way,

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Speaker 3: this comes from snorgasm.

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Speaker 1: good to the r slash Okay story Time subreddit. I'm

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Speaker 1: Sophia and I'm Savannah. I'm Riley.

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Speaker 3: We're here to give good advice goofy, but we don't

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Speaker 3: have all the answers. We only know what we do,

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Speaker 3: so let us know what you do in the comments.

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Speaker 3: And Opie says, I've got an okay relationship with my

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Speaker 3: brother Tomail.

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Speaker 1: That's all you can ask. Okay, Oh Pete, Okay, I

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Speaker 1: work with my brother too, and I love my dad

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Speaker 1: me too, not your dad. I don't know about your dad.

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Speaker 1: I love their dad, even though he enables my mom

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Speaker 1: and never stands up for me because he doesn't like

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Speaker 1: to rock the boat. Ooh, well, should have read that.

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Speaker 3: Until a few months ago, I lived pretty close to

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Speaker 3: my parents, but I recently moved across the country and

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Speaker 3: I don't have any friends or family anywhere near my

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Speaker 3: new home. I love holladays and celebrations, but no one

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Speaker 3: else in my family does. When I was younger, they

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Speaker 3: used to make fun of me or get frustrated when

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Speaker 3: I would try to be festive around Christmas, and eventually

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Speaker 3: I stopped trying.

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Speaker 1: I'm sorry. When you were younger, so you were like

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Speaker 1: a little like eight year old, and you're like, it's Christmas,

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Speaker 1: It's Christmas.

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Speaker 4: They're like, look at this weeb, look at this little

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Speaker 4: eight year old, thinking that saying I was real loser,

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Speaker 3: For the past decade, my family hasn't done it anything

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Speaker 3: for any holiday. How old is op? Op is twenty

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Speaker 3: nine three, So since you were nineteen, that's so sad. However,

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Speaker 3: my brother works.

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Speaker 2: You're gonna kiss Savanna Luckin.

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Speaker 1: Sorry.

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Speaker 3: However, my brother, who lives in a different state, got

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Speaker 3: divorced a couple of years ago, and his ex took

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Speaker 3: their house. Oh so, my parents bought a duplex in

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Speaker 3: part time on the other. They still have their house

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Speaker 3: in my hometown that they live in most of the year,

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Speaker 3: but the last two years my parents have gone up

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Speaker 3: whole month of December, and they've celebrated Christmas with my

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Speaker 3: that they were going. Oh so, now niece comes along

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Speaker 3: and they'll celebrate Christmas with whoever.

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Speaker 2: The favorites that people they prioritize.

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Speaker 3: I am aghast I found out from my dad's Facebook.

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Speaker 3: It hurt that they decided to celebrate Christmas all together

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Speaker 3: and didn't even tell me. They're just a bunch of grinches.

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Speaker 1: Why don't they like her? Why? Why don't they like it? Bee?

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Speaker 1: What's wrong with her? But I shook it off This

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Speaker 1: year though, they did it again. My dad called me

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Speaker 3: He even told me how much fun they were having

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Speaker 1: Evil. I don't love your dad. Your dad sucks. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I take it back, hated him from the beginning. Imagine

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Speaker 1: calling your daughter and being like, we're having so much

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Speaker 1: I actually have to go because I'm doing fun Christmas things.

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Speaker 1: Still believe in Santa Claus, idiot. These people are awful. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: I don't know anyone in my new city, and my

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Speaker 3: family is all celebrating Christmas without me. I'm gonna give

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Speaker 3: you actual good advice. Go do some community service. It's

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Speaker 2: What do you do every Christmas?

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Speaker 1: I celebrate with my family. I lay down and take

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Speaker 2: Monsters, both of you.

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Speaker 3: Sorry, He paused like he didn't consider that, then quickly

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Speaker 3: of them all together, saying Merry Christmas from brothers state. No,

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Speaker 3: and given that I'm not answering him or posting, and

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Speaker 1: This is sad. He texted me yesterday, saying, please tell

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Speaker 1: me if you're okay. Obviously not, Dad, ya dingis you

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Speaker 1: ruin Christmas for me? Every year? You think I'm gonna

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Speaker 3: I know it's petty, but I'm really hurt that I

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Speaker 3: I don't want to be around my mom, but being

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Speaker 3: tired of trying. I don't know how to say this

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Speaker 3: him until I know what to say. Am I the

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Speaker 3: a hole by maintaining my silence? There was no conclusive

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Speaker 3: vote on am I the a hole? But most comments

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Speaker 3: blah blah blah. Update there is an update Alert Alert

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Speaker 3: Ten months later.

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Speaker 1: Oh, however, we're going to pause.

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Speaker 2: It's a rap man.

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Speaker 1: I think you gotta find a new family.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you can buy those somewhere, right, I think.

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Speaker 1: So rent a family new movie?

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Speaker 2: No, but I want to own it.

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Speaker 3: do well enough at convincing them that you're cool, maybe

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Speaker 1: How fun if we all got rented out. There's a

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Speaker 1: You rent family? Mm hmm. There's a brilliant movie with

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Speaker 2: Is it no other choice?

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Speaker 1: No, it's rent family, rental family Family. It's about renting

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Speaker 5: Update don't tell mee.

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Speaker 3: Ten and a half months later. I didn't think my

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Speaker 3: My family is super passive aggressive, and that is the

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Speaker 3: only way I'd ever learned to handle conflict. And to

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Speaker 3: I've also made a good number of friends. My nice

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Speaker 5: Ah, that's so nice moving here. I'm glad I had

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that's how it was for me with Sam. But

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Speaker 1: making your own. I had my sister and I was like, well,

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Speaker 2: I hate to say it, but I could see it, right.

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Speaker 1: We're both very different people. So, I mean, her friends

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Speaker 3: With my family, at the end of the day, nothing

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Speaker 1: I was thinking of we're going on vacation that day.

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Speaker 3: My brother said he'd come, but he's already gone from

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Speaker 3: a yes to a maybe. You're asking them a year

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Speaker 3: in advance, so I don't have high hopes. But there

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Speaker 1: Any final thoughts. I mean, I think your family's horrible

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Speaker 1: and they always have been. So yeah, hopefully you get

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Speaker 1: you found your group, found people op and they're not

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Speaker 1: your family, which is great. Agreed, your family stinks.

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Speaker 5: Can't choose your family, but you get rid of them,

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Speaker 5: sure to talk to them.

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Speaker 3: The good news is that it finally hurts less because

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Speaker 3: I have more or less given up on having a relief.

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Speaker 2: Oh my god, because I have.

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Speaker 1: More or less given up on having a real relationship.

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Speaker 5: With them in this scenario. Is it better not to

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Speaker 1: I guess so. Yeah, they're just it's just a letdown

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Speaker 1: every time that's what That's what Ope has been through

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Speaker 1: this whole time. It's just a big letdown all the time.

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Speaker 1: That's exhausting.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm never going to be loved or cared about

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Speaker 3: I've come to accept that.

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Speaker 1: As of now, I have no plans for Christmas this year.

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Speaker 3: But it's okay, dude, ask what are your friends?

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Speaker 2: They'll adopt you.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, just say, hey, what are you doing for Christmasy?

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Speaker 2: Maybe they should have got that thing out of their butt,

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Speaker 1: And that thing. My mom went on the trip with me.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, she was like, please please please give me money

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Speaker 1: If you're stand there and hold a sign, I have

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Speaker 5: for those opportunities where people are performing on the side

438
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Speaker 5: of the street and give them some money.

439
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Speaker 1: If I carried cash, I would if and then like

440
00:20:45,200 --> 00:20:47,240
Speaker 1: they get paid for it, They're gonna be like, oh wait,

441
00:20:47,280 --> 00:20:50,080
Speaker 1: I can get paid My god, I was just with

442
00:20:50,560 --> 00:20:54,360
Speaker 1: Savannah and there was a man playing an accordion and

443
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Speaker 1: she did give him money. If you're doing something talented,

444
00:20:59,520 --> 00:21:02,760
Speaker 1: I'm going to reward you. I got rewarded for doing art.

445
00:21:02,880 --> 00:21:05,080
Speaker 1: I don't carry cash because I don't. I don't like

446
00:21:05,119 --> 00:21:08,040
Speaker 1: carrying cash. It makes me scared. It's just like, you know,

447
00:21:08,480 --> 00:21:10,040
Speaker 1: you could just give me a compliment and I'll give

448
00:21:10,040 --> 00:21:11,600
Speaker 1: you ten bucks, like I don't know.

449
00:21:11,920 --> 00:21:14,480
Speaker 5: I'm sorry, Sophia. That makes me remember that one time

450
00:21:14,480 --> 00:21:16,280
Speaker 5: I asked, if you went in two thousand and cash.

451
00:21:17,320 --> 00:21:18,520
Speaker 1: That's too much in cash.

452
00:21:19,280 --> 00:21:21,600
Speaker 2: She thought it was gonna be a Douffel bag of cash.

453
00:21:21,520 --> 00:21:23,880
Speaker 1: Getting I thought it was getting a briefcase of cash.

454
00:21:24,040 --> 00:21:26,159
Speaker 1: Apparently I was just getting a stack of cash.

455
00:21:26,240 --> 00:21:28,360
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, not that scary.

456
00:21:29,240 --> 00:21:33,200
Speaker 1: What am I gonna put that scary?

457
00:21:34,320 --> 00:21:35,399
Speaker 2: I wanted a briefcase.

458
00:21:35,480 --> 00:21:39,359
Speaker 1: Yeah. She apparently told them we were extremely poor and

459
00:21:39,359 --> 00:21:41,639
Speaker 1: could not pay for her trip, which is not true.

460
00:21:41,760 --> 00:21:44,399
Speaker 1: Well you couldn't pay for it? Well not okay, so

461
00:21:44,440 --> 00:21:46,800
Speaker 1: she exaggerated it, put extremely on it.

462
00:21:46,880 --> 00:21:51,600
Speaker 3: And that's called using your words in an effective way.

463
00:21:51,960 --> 00:21:55,399
Speaker 3: That's called what is the worst, Using your money in

464
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Speaker 3: an effective way.

465
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Speaker 1: That's called marketing. There we go. Sure we are not

466
00:22:02,359 --> 00:22:05,720
Speaker 1: in poverty. We keep her as comfortable as we can.

467
00:22:06,200 --> 00:22:08,560
Speaker 1: She has never had to worry about meals or the

468
00:22:08,920 --> 00:22:12,400
Speaker 1: heat turning off. She just guilted them all into giving

469
00:22:12,440 --> 00:22:16,280
Speaker 1: her money. What oh Russell w bosses. Thank god Sophia

470
00:22:16,359 --> 00:22:20,280
Speaker 1: is here, shows moral back up. Why would that not

471
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Speaker 1: be moral? Thank you for the five bucks. Huh. See,

472
00:22:23,800 --> 00:22:27,080
Speaker 1: we're performing, you're giving money. Yeah, but we're not begecret.

473
00:22:27,200 --> 00:22:29,960
Speaker 2: We're performing, we're entertaining. We're actually contributing.

474
00:22:30,160 --> 00:22:33,040
Speaker 1: Well, if someone's playing the guitar, technically they're not begging.

475
00:22:33,080 --> 00:22:35,200
Speaker 1: Their case is just open. You can just do something

476
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Speaker 1: if you want. I'm not saying give me money. Well maybe,

477
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Speaker 1: I mean they could be.

478
00:22:40,080 --> 00:22:42,200
Speaker 2: They're not I.

479
00:22:42,280 --> 00:22:47,679
Speaker 1: Need a dollar, A dollar? What I need? That's a

480
00:22:47,720 --> 00:22:51,080
Speaker 1: song could be. I ain't saying she gold digger. They

481
00:22:51,080 --> 00:22:55,760
Speaker 1: could be singing that. I was appalled and extremely embarrassed

482
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Speaker 1: and told her that was completely unacceptable and she had

483
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Speaker 1: to give all the money and that she was not

484
00:23:01,480 --> 00:23:03,240
Speaker 1: going to use that money to go on the trip.

485
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Speaker 1: I wanted to say she could not go at all

486
00:23:05,720 --> 00:23:07,959
Speaker 1: now if even if she got the money in an

487
00:23:08,000 --> 00:23:11,479
Speaker 1: acceptable way, but my husband said that was a little strong.

488
00:23:11,880 --> 00:23:14,200
Speaker 1: He fully agrees with me on not using the money

489
00:23:14,240 --> 00:23:17,960
Speaker 1: she pretty much stole, though, and when she went crying

490
00:23:17,960 --> 00:23:20,840
Speaker 1: to him about it, he sided with me fully. She

491
00:23:20,880 --> 00:23:23,080
Speaker 1: started crying and shouted at me that the deadline was

492
00:23:23,119 --> 00:23:25,040
Speaker 1: a week away and that she could not get the

493
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Speaker 1: money again in just a week. I told her that

494
00:23:28,000 --> 00:23:30,679
Speaker 1: was really sad, and maybe if she had made a

495
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Speaker 1: plan with me weeks ago, we would have been able

496
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Speaker 1: to get the money, but for now she has a

497
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Speaker 1: week to come up with it. She stormed upstairs to

498
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Speaker 1: her room and has been sulking since then. I feel

499
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Speaker 1: like she's gonna rob a bank. I think it's only

500
00:23:43,280 --> 00:23:47,639
Speaker 1: gonna escalate. I hope my thirteen year old rosbank? How fun?

501
00:23:48,320 --> 00:23:50,000
Speaker 1: I'd be like, good for you. Update.

502
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Speaker 3: My thirteen year old just came to me and she

503
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Speaker 3: robbed a bank. My thirteen year old robbed a bank,

504
00:23:55,440 --> 00:23:56,240
Speaker 3: and ida hole.

505
00:23:56,800 --> 00:23:58,720
Speaker 5: That's surprising if they get away with it too. Yeah,

506
00:23:59,680 --> 00:24:02,560
Speaker 5: pretty like you're onto something in this stage.

507
00:24:02,680 --> 00:24:05,000
Speaker 1: Come on, she's already raised the money herself. Give them

508
00:24:05,000 --> 00:24:07,080
Speaker 1: the puppy dog eyes. Yeah, so am I the a

509
00:24:07,200 --> 00:24:09,439
Speaker 1: hole for telling my daughter she could not use the

510
00:24:09,440 --> 00:24:11,560
Speaker 1: money to fund her trip, even though she came up

511
00:24:11,600 --> 00:24:12,520
Speaker 1: with it herself.

512
00:24:13,080 --> 00:24:16,199
Speaker 3: No, she she needs to learn that she can't just

513
00:24:16,240 --> 00:24:19,120
Speaker 3: go beg people for money. But maybe you, as the parent,

514
00:24:19,160 --> 00:24:21,160
Speaker 3: should have worked with her a little bit.

515
00:24:21,480 --> 00:24:25,160
Speaker 5: Yeah, prior, dude, this sounds like a oh my gosh,

516
00:24:25,200 --> 00:24:26,280
Speaker 5: what does that tell Beaver?

517
00:24:26,800 --> 00:24:29,200
Speaker 2: Tell it to Beaver ornis the minister. He feels like

518
00:24:29,200 --> 00:24:31,720
Speaker 2: a dentist. The finnis kind of moral lesson.

519
00:24:31,880 --> 00:24:35,600
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's like, oh, Dennis, you can't just beg people

520
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Speaker 3: for money on the street.

521
00:24:37,440 --> 00:24:39,000
Speaker 2: You have to work for it.

522
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Speaker 3: It did specifically say she was begging people on the street, right,

523
00:24:43,560 --> 00:24:44,600
Speaker 3: I didn't just make that up.

524
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Speaker 1: Okay, So what's the difference. Let me quiz your let

525
00:24:48,600 --> 00:24:51,080
Speaker 1: me let me cook your break. Okay, what's the difference

526
00:24:51,119 --> 00:24:55,320
Speaker 1: between begging for money and doing a bake sale? Begging

527
00:24:55,520 --> 00:24:56,280
Speaker 1: for money?

528
00:24:56,760 --> 00:24:57,520
Speaker 2: I know the answer.

529
00:24:58,080 --> 00:24:58,399
Speaker 1: You're not.

530
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Speaker 3: I mean, you don't have a you're not providing a

531
00:25:02,320 --> 00:25:03,680
Speaker 3: product a product.

532
00:25:03,800 --> 00:25:06,720
Speaker 1: Oh oh, you're not providing yeah, the satisfaction of a

533
00:25:06,720 --> 00:25:07,280
Speaker 1: good smile.

534
00:25:07,560 --> 00:25:10,159
Speaker 3: Usually when you are begging for something, it's because you

535
00:25:10,200 --> 00:25:12,600
Speaker 3: don't have the means provide a product.

536
00:25:12,880 --> 00:25:17,360
Speaker 1: Hmmm, So it's better to provide a product. So then,

537
00:25:17,720 --> 00:25:20,719
Speaker 1: but you don't have the means to provide the product. Well,

538
00:25:21,200 --> 00:25:24,080
Speaker 1: but I'm saying, you know, actually, now I'm just coming

539
00:25:24,119 --> 00:25:26,520
Speaker 1: up with ideas to beg for money, and I shouldn't

540
00:25:26,560 --> 00:25:29,359
Speaker 1: I have money. I'm just but now I'm thinking, like,

541
00:25:29,520 --> 00:25:32,240
Speaker 1: it's not a good look if you go around for us,

542
00:25:32,240 --> 00:25:35,200
Speaker 1: for our company. If you're like, I gotta beg for money. Now,

543
00:25:35,760 --> 00:25:36,480
Speaker 1: I'll give.

544
00:25:36,280 --> 00:25:39,760
Speaker 3: You a nice little wink wink.

545
00:25:40,880 --> 00:25:42,240
Speaker 1: I have a stie in my eye.

546
00:25:42,480 --> 00:25:44,040
Speaker 2: You might get a wrong impression in that.

547
00:25:44,240 --> 00:25:48,160
Speaker 1: Yeah. Oh, they're gonna think I'm swifty with my with

548
00:25:48,200 --> 00:25:52,600
Speaker 1: my ways. They canna think I'm a little swifter. What

549
00:25:52,680 --> 00:25:57,040
Speaker 1: are the comments common? Number one? Ope, the first eighteen

550
00:25:57,119 --> 00:25:59,560
Speaker 1: years of your child's life are an audition for the

551
00:25:59,640 --> 00:26:03,480
Speaker 1: role you play in their adult lives. That's so wow,

552
00:26:03,880 --> 00:26:08,720
Speaker 1: That's like, what did I call that? I don't feel there.

553
00:26:08,760 --> 00:26:10,200
Speaker 1: It has got to it took.

554
00:26:11,800 --> 00:26:14,760
Speaker 3: Philosophical I have a feeling you're not going to get

555
00:26:14,760 --> 00:26:15,400
Speaker 3: the part you want.

556
00:26:16,160 --> 00:26:20,119
Speaker 1: I think you owe your daughter an apology. WHOA. I

557
00:26:20,200 --> 00:26:23,439
Speaker 1: don't know if I completely agree with that person. I

558
00:26:23,440 --> 00:26:25,880
Speaker 1: mean I would if I was in the situation, I'd

559
00:26:25,880 --> 00:26:27,280
Speaker 1: be like, Okay, good for you. For fine, You're not

560
00:26:27,320 --> 00:26:30,399
Speaker 1: a solution to get money, but that's going forward. You

561
00:26:30,480 --> 00:26:35,600
Speaker 1: cannot do this because you're technically lying because we do

562
00:26:35,720 --> 00:26:38,879
Speaker 1: have money. We just can't do it right this minute.

563
00:26:39,040 --> 00:26:41,960
Speaker 3: Yeah, I am telling her that she needs to return

564
00:26:42,000 --> 00:26:44,280
Speaker 3: all that money because you know, no I keep it?

565
00:26:44,480 --> 00:26:48,159
Speaker 1: What if you? I don't think that's way. Yeah, but

566
00:26:48,200 --> 00:26:50,080
Speaker 1: she was begging people. I would just tell her not

567
00:26:50,119 --> 00:26:51,680
Speaker 1: to do it again. I'd be like, Okay, you can't

568
00:26:51,680 --> 00:26:53,560
Speaker 1: do it again, and then if she does it again, then.

569
00:26:53,440 --> 00:26:56,119
Speaker 3: There's cons Personally, I would tell her if she had

570
00:26:56,119 --> 00:26:58,040
Speaker 3: to give it all back, but that's just my parenting.

571
00:26:58,080 --> 00:27:01,360
Speaker 3: Instead got a totally different technique. I did you juggle?

572
00:27:01,440 --> 00:27:02,159
Speaker 3: Did you juggle?

573
00:27:02,280 --> 00:27:03,960
Speaker 1: Or sing? I think she has to go back and

574
00:27:04,000 --> 00:27:05,920
Speaker 1: juggle for all of them. Yeah, just be like, okay,

575
00:27:05,960 --> 00:27:08,879
Speaker 1: my mom wants me to God, my mom wants need

576
00:27:08,880 --> 00:27:11,760
Speaker 1: to juggle again. Can I keep your five dollars or what? Yeah?

577
00:27:11,840 --> 00:27:15,639
Speaker 1: Did you like it? Comma number two? So basically, you're

578
00:27:15,680 --> 00:27:18,280
Speaker 1: punishing your daughter because you failed as a parent. Oh

579
00:27:18,320 --> 00:27:22,760
Speaker 1: my gosh, are so much harsher than I expected. Oh

580
00:27:22,800 --> 00:27:25,439
Speaker 1: P says, call it that if you want. I guess

581
00:27:25,560 --> 00:27:29,320
Speaker 1: no wonder America's literacy rate is so low. I am

582
00:27:29,359 --> 00:27:32,520
Speaker 1: not disagreeing that I should have followed up with her. However,

583
00:27:32,600 --> 00:27:35,399
Speaker 1: she's almost in high school and should know to follow

584
00:27:35,480 --> 00:27:38,080
Speaker 1: up herself as well, especially when it's something that's so

585
00:27:38,160 --> 00:27:41,600
Speaker 1: important to her. The reply says, I should have followed up,

586
00:27:41,840 --> 00:27:46,480
Speaker 1: but she's almost in high school. You're a fully grown adult,

587
00:27:46,480 --> 00:27:49,600
Speaker 1: by the way, and she should follow up since it's

588
00:27:49,640 --> 00:27:52,920
Speaker 1: so important to her. She should have known better. She

589
00:27:52,960 --> 00:27:56,240
Speaker 1: should have talked to me. Jesus effing Christ, do you

590
00:27:56,320 --> 00:28:02,320
Speaker 1: hear yourself? I don't understand this line of think. But okay, then,

591
00:28:03,160 --> 00:28:05,960
Speaker 1: I mean I don't think that, like, I don't think

592
00:28:05,960 --> 00:28:08,919
Speaker 1: Opee is in the wrong. Yeah, I don't think Ope's

593
00:28:08,920 --> 00:28:10,880
Speaker 1: in the wrong for wanting to like teach her child

594
00:28:10,960 --> 00:28:12,760
Speaker 1: like no, you can't just beg for money when like,

595
00:28:12,920 --> 00:28:15,320
Speaker 1: you know, that's technically lying. Like that's how I see it.

596
00:28:15,320 --> 00:28:15,920
Speaker 1: It's like lying.

597
00:28:16,320 --> 00:28:18,199
Speaker 3: I think, yes, she should have followed up with her,

598
00:28:18,240 --> 00:28:21,199
Speaker 3: but I don't fully agree with these comments. Yeah, I

599
00:28:21,240 --> 00:28:23,600
Speaker 3: think if you know what, if the daughter came up

600
00:28:23,600 --> 00:28:25,879
Speaker 3: and was like, hey, mom, yeah, I'm gonna ask people

601
00:28:25,880 --> 00:28:28,440
Speaker 3: for money, is that cool, then she'd probably be like, no,

602
00:28:28,760 --> 00:28:30,920
Speaker 3: let's not do that, OPI responds, I'm going to be

603
00:28:31,000 --> 00:28:33,280
Speaker 3: fully honest here, since I'm kind of sick of having

604
00:28:33,359 --> 00:28:36,600
Speaker 3: kid gloves on. I do not believe this part specifically

605
00:28:36,800 --> 00:28:41,160
Speaker 3: was solely or even majority my fault, considering this was

606
00:28:41,200 --> 00:28:43,640
Speaker 3: so important to her, and I genuinely don't doubt that.

607
00:28:44,200 --> 00:28:47,320
Speaker 3: I'm shocked she didn't follow up with me. I told her,

608
00:28:47,400 --> 00:28:49,320
Speaker 3: let's make a plan, she said no and went off

609
00:28:49,360 --> 00:28:51,720
Speaker 3: on her own. I'm not saying the blame is completely

610
00:28:51,760 --> 00:28:54,360
Speaker 3: absent from me, but when you work eighty hours a week,

611
00:28:54,440 --> 00:28:57,040
Speaker 3: things slip your mind. I don't understand why this is

612
00:28:57,040 --> 00:28:57,800
Speaker 3: so difficult for.

613
00:28:57,760 --> 00:29:00,880
Speaker 1: People to get. Following up was partly on her since

614
00:29:01,040 --> 00:29:03,440
Speaker 1: this was a very big deal for her, and I'm

615
00:29:03,480 --> 00:29:05,640
Speaker 1: shocked that people think the blame is one hundred percent

616
00:29:05,680 --> 00:29:08,560
Speaker 1: on me for not chasing down my almost high schooler

617
00:29:08,920 --> 00:29:11,560
Speaker 1: to figure out a plan that works for her. The

618
00:29:11,600 --> 00:29:14,480
Speaker 1: trip is important to me because it's important to her.

619
00:29:14,960 --> 00:29:17,960
Speaker 1: I have no other interest in that edit since people

620
00:29:18,000 --> 00:29:20,720
Speaker 1: are missing this. If she had just said we could

621
00:29:20,720 --> 00:29:23,480
Speaker 1: not afford the trip and asked for donations, I would

622
00:29:23,480 --> 00:29:25,600
Speaker 1: have been okay with it, even if I still did

623
00:29:25,600 --> 00:29:28,600
Speaker 1: not think our financials should be public knowledge like that,

624
00:29:29,040 --> 00:29:31,880
Speaker 1: she did lie and guilt people by telling them. We

625
00:29:31,920 --> 00:29:34,880
Speaker 1: could not afford dinner many nights, so she went to

626
00:29:34,920 --> 00:29:39,120
Speaker 1: bed hungry. God, yeah, you need to meet that money.

627
00:29:39,480 --> 00:29:41,200
Speaker 1: People are gonna be showing up at your door with

628
00:29:41,320 --> 00:29:46,080
Speaker 1: like cans of food. Yeah, They're like's just this, which

629
00:29:46,120 --> 00:29:49,080
Speaker 1: just feels so bad. Okay if she lied about like

630
00:29:49,240 --> 00:29:52,200
Speaker 1: you know, we're living in Squalor, then yes, I'd be like, Okay,

631
00:29:52,240 --> 00:29:54,280
Speaker 1: you cannot tell people that because that's a big deal.

632
00:29:54,320 --> 00:29:56,200
Speaker 1: People are going to show up to our house. Yeah,

633
00:29:56,280 --> 00:29:58,480
Speaker 1: the you know, CPS might be called on me now,

634
00:29:59,120 --> 00:30:02,240
Speaker 1: like you that is a bigger deal than just isn't.

635
00:30:02,240 --> 00:30:04,120
Speaker 3: There an episode of Malcolm in the Middle where the

636
00:30:04,320 --> 00:30:08,360
Speaker 3: kids one of the kids lies and then yeah, Dewey lies,

637
00:30:08,400 --> 00:30:09,240
Speaker 3: and then they started and.

638
00:30:09,240 --> 00:30:11,200
Speaker 1: Then they start having the whole thing and then the yeah,

639
00:30:11,240 --> 00:30:13,200
Speaker 1: and then the dad gets involved because he found out.

640
00:30:13,280 --> 00:30:14,800
Speaker 1: He's like no, but then he sees all the stuff

641
00:30:14,800 --> 00:30:18,360
Speaker 1: they're getting there, like, yeah, I'll wait, your daughter is

642
00:30:18,360 --> 00:30:21,000
Speaker 1: Dewey from Malcolm in the Middle. I love that. Malcolm

643
00:30:21,000 --> 00:30:22,440
Speaker 1: in the Middle is such a oh my god, I

644
00:30:22,520 --> 00:30:25,040
Speaker 1: just like watched it for the first time, like last year.

645
00:30:25,840 --> 00:30:28,040
Speaker 1: She cannot wait for the reboot. Yeah, and that we

646
00:30:28,040 --> 00:30:30,719
Speaker 1: could not afford new clothes for her, so she often

647
00:30:30,720 --> 00:30:33,800
Speaker 1: wore the same clothes for years at a time, and

648
00:30:33,840 --> 00:30:36,760
Speaker 1: that we had not paid for any hobbies or extracurriculars.

649
00:30:36,840 --> 00:30:38,120
Speaker 1: Wouldn't they know?

650
00:30:39,160 --> 00:30:41,040
Speaker 3: Well, I guess if they're random parents. But I feel

651
00:30:41,080 --> 00:30:43,160
Speaker 3: like if they were parents of her friends, she'd probably

652
00:30:43,160 --> 00:30:47,360
Speaker 3: be doing extracurriculars with their children. Okay, so this girl's

653
00:30:47,400 --> 00:30:48,480
Speaker 3: parents from Golab.

654
00:30:49,120 --> 00:30:50,320
Speaker 2: Yes, you got it.

655
00:30:50,600 --> 00:30:55,960
Speaker 3: Okay because of the name, Ming says every iris. Ming says,

656
00:30:56,080 --> 00:30:59,320
Speaker 3: that's not begging, that's a scam. Yeah, she's pulling a scam.

657
00:31:00,000 --> 00:31:02,480
Speaker 3: He's working a con, says cow about as god, if

658
00:31:02,480 --> 00:31:04,800
Speaker 3: the marks were dumb enough to fall for it, that's

659
00:31:04,840 --> 00:31:05,200
Speaker 3: on that.

660
00:31:07,800 --> 00:31:11,160
Speaker 5: Like, if she's saying these things, how does she look?

661
00:31:11,480 --> 00:31:13,400
Speaker 5: Does she look like I guess dirty?

662
00:31:15,040 --> 00:31:17,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, she puts she rubs a little dirt on her head.

663
00:31:17,440 --> 00:31:21,880
Speaker 5: She rolled in mult When we were in France, there

664
00:31:21,880 --> 00:31:23,840
Speaker 5: were people in the side of the road begging for money.

665
00:31:24,120 --> 00:31:27,320
Speaker 5: But like this dude wore like a nice button down

666
00:31:27,400 --> 00:31:30,600
Speaker 5: shirt and pants and it looked like, yeah, he just

667
00:31:30,640 --> 00:31:31,480
Speaker 5: came from his house.

668
00:31:31,920 --> 00:31:34,240
Speaker 1: I don't know. Yeah, I know. Then I'm like, wait,

669
00:31:34,280 --> 00:31:36,600
Speaker 1: this guy actually looks good. Maybe I shouldn't give him money,

670
00:31:36,760 --> 00:31:38,520
Speaker 1: like you want them to look bad, but like you

671
00:31:38,560 --> 00:31:40,080
Speaker 1: feel bad when they do. And then it's like, oh

672
00:31:40,120 --> 00:31:42,200
Speaker 1: my god, I'm so confused. Somebody helped me. Do I

673
00:31:42,200 --> 00:31:48,240
Speaker 1: get money or not? What a mortal conundrum.

674
00:31:48,360 --> 00:31:49,440
Speaker 2: That's why you must perform.

675
00:31:50,480 --> 00:31:52,680
Speaker 1: That's why I perform. That's why I became a performer,

676
00:31:52,920 --> 00:31:56,880
Speaker 1: so I can feel good about making my money. I

677
00:31:56,920 --> 00:31:59,360
Speaker 1: am not denying. We are not well off, but we

678
00:31:59,400 --> 00:32:02,560
Speaker 1: are not already stricken like she implied. Of course, the

679
00:32:02,600 --> 00:32:05,080
Speaker 1: trip is not denied because she told people we cannot

680
00:32:05,080 --> 00:32:07,800
Speaker 1: afford it. It is denied because she lied to people

681
00:32:07,840 --> 00:32:09,400
Speaker 1: to get them to give her money.

682
00:32:09,480 --> 00:32:13,560
Speaker 2: Oh my gosh. Yeah, how this goes down?

683
00:32:14,240 --> 00:32:17,840
Speaker 1: Is an update? Hey, it's Angie, your favorite fashion host. Here.

684
00:32:17,960 --> 00:32:20,120
Speaker 1: We're going to get back to the stories, but here's

685
00:32:20,160 --> 00:32:23,560
Speaker 1: three minutes of ads from our sponsors. So I had

686
00:32:23,560 --> 00:32:26,480
Speaker 1: a sit down discussion with my daughter after work today.

687
00:32:26,880 --> 00:32:28,760
Speaker 1: I thought she was still going to be upset about

688
00:32:28,800 --> 00:32:31,440
Speaker 1: the whole situation, but to my surprise, she started crying

689
00:32:31,520 --> 00:32:34,000
Speaker 1: and told me she was sorry. The gist of it

690
00:32:34,080 --> 00:32:36,280
Speaker 1: is as follows. I will try to be clear about it.

691
00:32:36,560 --> 00:32:38,360
Speaker 1: I asked her why she had not just come to

692
00:32:38,360 --> 00:32:40,680
Speaker 1: me to make a plan about raising money. She said

693
00:32:40,720 --> 00:32:42,560
Speaker 1: she was just upset we could not afford it, and

694
00:32:42,560 --> 00:32:45,320
Speaker 1: she admitted she should have come to me. I apologize

695
00:32:45,320 --> 00:32:47,760
Speaker 1: for not following up with her and just assuming, which

696
00:32:47,800 --> 00:32:51,040
Speaker 1: she acknowledged, but she also insisted she is mature and

697
00:32:51,080 --> 00:32:53,400
Speaker 1: could also have come to me. I then asked her

698
00:32:53,560 --> 00:32:55,640
Speaker 1: why on earth was she lying about not being able

699
00:32:55,680 --> 00:32:58,600
Speaker 1: to afford food, and told her that was a pretty

700
00:32:58,680 --> 00:33:01,640
Speaker 1: serious thing, as someone could have called CPS on us.

701
00:33:01,760 --> 00:33:02,360
Speaker 2: Oh my god.

702
00:33:02,520 --> 00:33:05,760
Speaker 1: Yeah. She started crying again and said she was sorry

703
00:33:05,840 --> 00:33:07,800
Speaker 1: and that she knew it was wrong, but she just

704
00:33:07,880 --> 00:33:10,120
Speaker 1: really wanted to be able to afford the trip. Where

705
00:33:10,120 --> 00:33:11,800
Speaker 1: are they going on this trip? What is this trip?

706
00:33:11,800 --> 00:33:14,560
Speaker 1: I really want to know. Is it like Paris or

707
00:33:14,560 --> 00:33:16,560
Speaker 1: something like? What is this? I think it's just.

708
00:33:16,520 --> 00:33:19,160
Speaker 2: A state, like a national party.

709
00:33:19,280 --> 00:33:19,720
Speaker 4: Yeah.

710
00:33:20,200 --> 00:33:22,880
Speaker 1: I really wanted to go to Yellowstone so bad.

711
00:33:23,000 --> 00:33:26,760
Speaker 3: I heard the bison there, Mommy, please please, I just

712
00:33:26,760 --> 00:33:27,200
Speaker 3: want to see it.

713
00:33:27,200 --> 00:33:30,080
Speaker 1: All my friends are going. She begged to be able

714
00:33:30,120 --> 00:33:31,480
Speaker 1: to use the money to go on the trip, but

715
00:33:31,520 --> 00:33:33,760
Speaker 1: I told her that we could not do that. That

716
00:33:33,880 --> 00:33:36,840
Speaker 1: was scammed money. I then told her that she should

717
00:33:36,840 --> 00:33:39,160
Speaker 1: give it back, but that I would sell some stuff

718
00:33:39,200 --> 00:33:41,720
Speaker 1: in the home. The money I get from that, plus

719
00:33:41,760 --> 00:33:44,560
Speaker 1: the little bit I saved already should hopefully be enough

720
00:33:44,560 --> 00:33:47,240
Speaker 1: to cover her trip. She started crying again and thanked me.

721
00:33:47,800 --> 00:33:49,960
Speaker 1: We then had a discussion about the time I spend

722
00:33:50,000 --> 00:33:51,840
Speaker 1: with her, and I apologize for not being able to

723
00:33:51,880 --> 00:33:54,040
Speaker 1: spend as much time as I would like. She said

724
00:33:54,040 --> 00:33:55,760
Speaker 1: it was okay, but I am still going to try

725
00:33:55,800 --> 00:33:58,600
Speaker 1: to figure something out. I cannot afford to cut hours,

726
00:33:58,640 --> 00:34:01,480
Speaker 1: but maybe something else. In the end, I hugged her

727
00:34:01,520 --> 00:34:03,080
Speaker 1: and asked her if she wanted to have a mother

728
00:34:03,160 --> 00:34:05,280
Speaker 1: daughter day at the park this weekend, a my day off,

729
00:34:05,560 --> 00:34:08,360
Speaker 1: which she gladly accepted. I told her in the future,

730
00:34:08,400 --> 00:34:11,080
Speaker 1: if any situation like this ever arises, she just needs

731
00:34:11,080 --> 00:34:12,640
Speaker 1: to come to me for help and we will figure

732
00:34:12,680 --> 00:34:13,160
Speaker 1: something out.

733
00:34:13,360 --> 00:34:15,000
Speaker 2: She's manipulating the situation.

734
00:34:15,640 --> 00:34:19,520
Speaker 1: She got what she wanted. She's a genius. She's thirteen,

735
00:34:20,040 --> 00:34:21,200
Speaker 1: a genius.

736
00:34:20,760 --> 00:34:22,879
Speaker 2: Thirteen not buying it.

737
00:34:23,200 --> 00:34:26,400
Speaker 3: My bank's are banging, Nina, Yes, thank you.

738
00:34:26,760 --> 00:34:29,720
Speaker 1: I will always up to bank cobble bed. You know, Sophia,

739
00:34:29,719 --> 00:34:33,440
Speaker 1: I've been complaining all day. It's you just deleted.

740
00:34:36,600 --> 00:34:37,880
Speaker 2: I don't know what you're talking about.

741
00:34:37,920 --> 00:34:41,239
Speaker 1: Lock in, Okay, there will not be any need to

742
00:34:41,280 --> 00:34:42,960
Speaker 1: lie to people to get money out of them. She

743
00:34:43,040 --> 00:34:46,080
Speaker 1: agreed and apologized again, there's a little bit left or

744
00:34:46,280 --> 00:34:49,520
Speaker 1: is your daughter's a scam artist? But it seems like

745
00:34:49,560 --> 00:34:53,759
Speaker 1: you got through to her today. Overall, a very productive discussion.

746
00:34:54,040 --> 00:34:56,360
Speaker 1: I'm just glad that she realized the lion and guilty

747
00:34:56,480 --> 00:34:58,799
Speaker 1: was wrong and took accountability for it. So now I

748
00:34:58,800 --> 00:35:00,640
Speaker 1: am going to do my hardest to get her on

749
00:35:00,680 --> 00:35:03,400
Speaker 1: the trip. I will even borrow money from family members

750
00:35:03,400 --> 00:35:06,240
Speaker 1: if I have to. That's so the same thing, No,

751
00:35:06,360 --> 00:35:07,360
Speaker 1: not of Op's like.

752
00:35:08,239 --> 00:35:10,120
Speaker 3: Actually, I think would be even funnier if Ope went

753
00:35:10,120 --> 00:35:12,719
Speaker 3: to the family members and was like, we're starving, we

754
00:35:12,800 --> 00:35:15,520
Speaker 3: need it, we don't have any money for anything, we

755
00:35:15,560 --> 00:35:17,400
Speaker 3: don't sleep at night, and then.

756
00:35:17,400 --> 00:35:19,560
Speaker 1: She just does the same thing as her as her daughter,

757
00:35:19,800 --> 00:35:22,440
Speaker 1: she was very receptive to what I was saying, despite

758
00:35:22,480 --> 00:35:24,600
Speaker 1: some of the commenters in the last thread telling me

759
00:35:24,680 --> 00:35:27,280
Speaker 1: she was going to cut contact as she turned eighteen.

760
00:35:27,880 --> 00:35:31,600
Speaker 1: That's so, that's so much. Yeah, weird, that's crazy. Not

761
00:35:31,680 --> 00:35:34,560
Speaker 1: really sure why people kept making judgments based on assumptions

762
00:35:34,560 --> 00:35:37,759
Speaker 1: that were untrue. I do not hate my daughter. My

763
00:35:37,840 --> 00:35:42,560
Speaker 1: daughter does not hate me. What what does it happening? R? Rant.

764
00:35:42,680 --> 00:35:44,919
Speaker 2: My daughter does not hate me. I do not hate

765
00:35:44,920 --> 00:35:45,360
Speaker 2: my daughter.

766
00:35:45,520 --> 00:35:48,520
Speaker 1: We like each other. I was not trying to punish

767
00:35:48,560 --> 00:35:50,920
Speaker 1: her for telling people we could not afford the trip.

768
00:35:51,320 --> 00:35:53,920
Speaker 1: I would have preferred if she did not broadcast our

769
00:35:53,920 --> 00:35:56,560
Speaker 1: financial situation like this. But if she had got the

770
00:35:56,600 --> 00:35:59,080
Speaker 1: money from telling the truth only that we could not

771
00:35:59,239 --> 00:36:01,279
Speaker 1: afford the trip, I would have still let her use

772
00:36:01,320 --> 00:36:03,440
Speaker 1: that money to go on the trip. I just did

773
00:36:03,440 --> 00:36:06,120
Speaker 1: not want her to go on a trip with money

774
00:36:06,200 --> 00:36:10,239
Speaker 1: she got dishonestly, I agree, agreed. Anyways, I do not

775
00:36:10,360 --> 00:36:13,160
Speaker 1: expect any further updates to happen, and I am ready

776
00:36:13,200 --> 00:36:20,279
Speaker 1: to consider this matter clothes. Yeay, yeah, yay. Anyway, that

777
00:36:20,360 --> 00:36:22,399
Speaker 1: was a great story and I'm glad you figured it out.

778
00:36:22,800 --> 00:36:26,640
Speaker 4: Bye bye bye.

779
00:36:26,680 --> 00:36:30,960
Speaker 1: Now, well that was the end of that story. I

780
00:36:31,080 --> 00:36:33,080
Speaker 1: want to give away my blind daughter's.

781
00:36:32,760 --> 00:36:34,600
Speaker 2: Cat just because it can't see.

782
00:36:35,120 --> 00:36:37,840
Speaker 3: I am thirty four and a parent of five kids,

783
00:36:37,880 --> 00:36:39,480
Speaker 3: including my daughter fourteen.

784
00:36:39,680 --> 00:36:40,680
Speaker 1: Let's call her Zia.

785
00:36:41,080 --> 00:36:44,719
Speaker 3: She is legally blind and loves all animals. For the

786
00:36:44,800 --> 00:36:47,520
Speaker 3: thirteenth birthday, I gifted her a kitten. By the way,

787
00:36:47,719 --> 00:36:50,120
Speaker 3: this comes from true story in the North End.

788
00:36:50,120 --> 00:36:50,520
Speaker 1: If you want to.

789
00:36:50,520 --> 00:36:52,200
Speaker 3: Ssmit your own stories, go to the r slash. Okay,

790
00:36:52,200 --> 00:36:54,799
Speaker 3: storytime suppared it where this story comes from.

791
00:36:55,080 --> 00:36:59,280
Speaker 2: They're one of us. So, oh, the daughter's blind.

792
00:36:59,400 --> 00:37:00,919
Speaker 1: The daughters not the cat.

793
00:37:01,160 --> 00:37:05,040
Speaker 5: Interesting, so she wouldn't know, she wouldn't know if you

794
00:37:05,160 --> 00:37:06,040
Speaker 5: got a new cat.

795
00:37:06,280 --> 00:37:07,719
Speaker 1: Well, I don't think they want a cat at all.

796
00:37:08,040 --> 00:37:11,480
Speaker 1: I'm Sophia, I'm Riley, and we're here to give good advice. Goofy,

797
00:37:11,560 --> 00:37:13,120
Speaker 1: but we don't have all the answers me. You know

798
00:37:13,160 --> 00:37:15,120
Speaker 1: what we'd do. So let us know what you would

799
00:37:15,120 --> 00:37:17,840
Speaker 1: do in the comments, and whether or not you would

800
00:37:18,080 --> 00:37:21,040
Speaker 1: get rid of your blind daughter's cat. Ope, he says.

801
00:37:21,280 --> 00:37:24,319
Speaker 3: We already had two cats, a mother cat and her

802
00:37:24,320 --> 00:37:26,480
Speaker 3: one kitten, who was three years old at the time.

803
00:37:26,800 --> 00:37:30,080
Speaker 3: My daughter absolutely wanted a cat for her birthday, but

804
00:37:30,160 --> 00:37:33,480
Speaker 3: it was not this cat. I figured maybe a kitten

805
00:37:33,480 --> 00:37:35,479
Speaker 3: would be better than the one she loved to visit

806
00:37:35,560 --> 00:37:37,920
Speaker 3: at the shelter, who was a few months older. I

807
00:37:38,000 --> 00:37:40,880
Speaker 3: realized it was the wrong move, and I have apologized

808
00:37:40,880 --> 00:37:43,560
Speaker 3: to her for choosing a younger cat when her heart

809
00:37:43,640 --> 00:37:46,920
Speaker 3: was set. The other cat has since been adopted. No

810
00:37:47,080 --> 00:37:50,440
Speaker 3: going back now for this mom of five, some backstory.

811
00:37:50,680 --> 00:37:54,040
Speaker 3: She has a lot of attachment issues, social anxiety, depression

812
00:37:54,640 --> 00:37:58,480
Speaker 3: and separation anxiety. The big one her father wasn't on

813
00:37:58,600 --> 00:38:01,040
Speaker 3: and off again father who left us when she was three.

814
00:38:01,480 --> 00:38:04,319
Speaker 1: She missed him a lot. Yeah, absolutely love sir, but

815
00:38:04,400 --> 00:38:07,040
Speaker 1: slowly went from a small amount of contact to now

816
00:38:07,160 --> 00:38:10,520
Speaker 1: almost none. I do not ask for support. Maybe that

817
00:38:10,680 --> 00:38:13,360
Speaker 1: is my pride talking, and I do not feel I

818
00:38:13,400 --> 00:38:16,239
Speaker 1: have needed it anyways. I have asked him to call

819
00:38:16,280 --> 00:38:18,880
Speaker 1: her or spend time with her. He would gain with

820
00:38:18,880 --> 00:38:20,520
Speaker 1: her on a rare occasion.

821
00:38:20,080 --> 00:38:23,200
Speaker 3: Before me and him met online, and he lived then

822
00:38:23,239 --> 00:38:26,600
Speaker 3: and now twenty seven hours away in another province. He

823
00:38:26,640 --> 00:38:29,239
Speaker 3: has only visited her once since we broke up. She

824
00:38:29,360 --> 00:38:32,160
Speaker 3: is torn, but also getting older and realizing if he

825
00:38:32,239 --> 00:38:37,759
Speaker 3: wanted to, he would. Second big hit, her best and

826
00:38:38,040 --> 00:38:41,560
Speaker 3: only friend passed away from a tragic night. She has

827
00:38:41,640 --> 00:38:44,640
Speaker 3: never been the same since. She longs for love and friendship,

828
00:38:44,680 --> 00:38:47,680
Speaker 3: but is scared to trust again. She currently has no

829
00:38:47,840 --> 00:38:50,680
Speaker 3: friends that are not online friends. Third times a charm.

830
00:38:50,800 --> 00:38:53,840
Speaker 3: She is legally blind, does not like to be touched,

831
00:38:53,880 --> 00:38:56,640
Speaker 3: but loves to cuddle her animals. I got her amster

832
00:38:56,800 --> 00:38:59,240
Speaker 3: the day she found out about her best friend passing,

833
00:38:59,600 --> 00:39:00,560
Speaker 3: but that amster is.

834
00:39:00,560 --> 00:39:02,960
Speaker 1: Also gone after only a year. Or so she is

835
00:39:03,120 --> 00:39:06,160
Speaker 1: heartbroken all over again as she gave it the same

836
00:39:06,800 --> 00:39:10,239
Speaker 1: name as her late friend. Oh, get her like a

837
00:39:10,280 --> 00:39:12,120
Speaker 1: tortoise please.

838
00:39:12,680 --> 00:39:15,680
Speaker 2: Or a lobster. How long to Lobster's last one hundred

839
00:39:15,680 --> 00:39:16,359
Speaker 2: and fourteen years?

840
00:39:16,440 --> 00:39:17,280
Speaker 1: Yeah? Get her a lobster?

841
00:39:17,840 --> 00:39:18,080
Speaker 2: Yeah?

842
00:39:18,200 --> 00:39:22,080
Speaker 5: That also pray movie Lobster. It's a dystopian movie. You

843
00:39:22,120 --> 00:39:23,719
Speaker 5: liked Sopian movies sometimes, like.

844
00:39:23,840 --> 00:39:25,720
Speaker 1: Weird one where they like turn it into a lobster.

845
00:39:26,080 --> 00:39:26,839
Speaker 1: I've heard about this.

846
00:39:27,120 --> 00:39:28,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's crazy.

847
00:39:28,080 --> 00:39:31,200
Speaker 3: I'm you some more small info about her and the family.

848
00:39:31,440 --> 00:39:34,520
Speaker 3: My brother passed away and I'm raising my late brother's children.

849
00:39:34,800 --> 00:39:36,600
Speaker 3: I had to keep my daughter home schooled for a

850
00:39:36,680 --> 00:39:38,799
Speaker 3: year as her school did not tell me. She would

851
00:39:38,800 --> 00:39:40,960
Speaker 3: go to school and sit in the hall and cry

852
00:39:41,000 --> 00:39:43,520
Speaker 3: the whole day away. That went on for four months

853
00:39:43,560 --> 00:39:47,080
Speaker 3: before I was notified bad school, Such a bad school.

854
00:39:47,320 --> 00:39:49,719
Speaker 3: She has since started high school with no friends, but

855
00:39:49,760 --> 00:39:53,080
Speaker 3: she finally is out in public again and talking to

856
00:39:53,120 --> 00:39:54,120
Speaker 3: me about her feelings.

857
00:39:54,400 --> 00:39:54,959
Speaker 1: We had a.

858
00:39:54,840 --> 00:39:56,919
Speaker 3: Dog, too, but we needed to give it away. After

859
00:39:57,000 --> 00:39:59,880
Speaker 3: only a first year of being a first time dog owner.

860
00:40:00,120 --> 00:40:02,319
Speaker 3: I realized a husky was not a good mix and

861
00:40:02,360 --> 00:40:06,120
Speaker 3: my kids were scared of her high energy oh, Peah,

862
00:40:06,120 --> 00:40:08,960
Speaker 3: we're going through animals too quickly. Yeah, we have too

863
00:40:08,960 --> 00:40:09,719
Speaker 3: many animals.

864
00:40:10,400 --> 00:40:13,840
Speaker 1: We should not be adopting a dog and then getting

865
00:40:13,920 --> 00:40:15,799
Speaker 1: rid of it, adopting a cat then getting rid of it.

866
00:40:16,200 --> 00:40:16,480
Speaker 2: Yeah.

867
00:40:16,600 --> 00:40:19,040
Speaker 1: The solution should not be to get her more animals

868
00:40:19,080 --> 00:40:20,279
Speaker 1: every time something.

869
00:40:20,520 --> 00:40:24,080
Speaker 5: L It worked for snow White, Yeah, but those were

870
00:40:24,120 --> 00:40:27,480
Speaker 5: like free range, to get free range animals. Yeah, move

871
00:40:27,560 --> 00:40:30,720
Speaker 5: to the woods where at any point your blind daughter

872
00:40:30,760 --> 00:40:34,360
Speaker 5: can be snow White talking or singing two animals.

873
00:40:34,480 --> 00:40:37,200
Speaker 1: That's true. I have been married for seven years and

874
00:40:37,320 --> 00:40:40,719
Speaker 1: recently divorced and gotten into a new relationship. They live

875
00:40:40,760 --> 00:40:42,520
Speaker 1: with us and now come to visit or take the

876
00:40:42,560 --> 00:40:45,080
Speaker 1: kids out to events around town. You had to let

877
00:40:45,160 --> 00:40:47,239
Speaker 1: go of a lot of things and grown ways I

878
00:40:47,280 --> 00:40:50,480
Speaker 1: could not expect. She has a very specific blindness that

879
00:40:50,600 --> 00:40:53,600
Speaker 1: is genetic and will not ever get better or worse.

880
00:40:54,200 --> 00:40:56,439
Speaker 1: But all that said is the main causes I could

881
00:40:56,440 --> 00:40:59,040
Speaker 1: think of where I have been the only stable person

882
00:40:59,280 --> 00:41:01,680
Speaker 1: in her life. Now to the cat.

883
00:41:01,920 --> 00:41:04,319
Speaker 2: That is a lot of backstory.

884
00:41:03,760 --> 00:41:06,080
Speaker 3: There, Yeah, yeah, a lot of instability in this poor

885
00:41:06,520 --> 00:41:07,480
Speaker 3: young girl's life.

886
00:41:07,560 --> 00:41:11,720
Speaker 5: All right, So cat's gonna come in. It's gonna love lasagna,

887
00:41:11,760 --> 00:41:12,400
Speaker 5: it's gonna.

888
00:41:12,160 --> 00:41:14,160
Speaker 1: Be Orange hates Mondays.

889
00:41:13,680 --> 00:41:16,480
Speaker 2: And hates Mondays. That's what I'm hoping this cat does.

890
00:41:16,680 --> 00:41:19,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, and we can't just get rid of.

891
00:41:18,960 --> 00:41:21,320
Speaker 2: The cat because it hates Mondays.

892
00:41:21,520 --> 00:41:22,560
Speaker 1: You know, you can't do that.

893
00:41:22,920 --> 00:41:24,960
Speaker 2: Feed at Lasagna. It'll be funny happy.

894
00:41:25,560 --> 00:41:27,799
Speaker 3: The cat is now a year and three months old.

895
00:41:27,880 --> 00:41:32,200
Speaker 3: Her name is baby Baby. My daughter's birthdays in September.

896
00:41:32,360 --> 00:41:35,040
Speaker 2: Sorry, I was just thinking of like a baby driver.

897
00:41:35,320 --> 00:41:38,200
Speaker 1: Edit. I also was thinking of a baby driver. Edit. That's

898
00:41:38,200 --> 00:41:38,800
Speaker 1: so funny.

899
00:41:39,080 --> 00:41:42,000
Speaker 5: We probably sold the same Probably. It's like, what happened

900
00:41:42,040 --> 00:41:44,400
Speaker 5: to that guy baby the Ansel?

901
00:41:44,680 --> 00:41:48,719
Speaker 1: Oh he got in like there was some sort of scandal.

902
00:41:49,280 --> 00:41:50,920
Speaker 2: Oh is he still acting?

903
00:41:51,239 --> 00:41:51,719
Speaker 1: I don't know.

904
00:41:51,840 --> 00:41:53,440
Speaker 2: I saw him in one Hulu show though it was

905
00:41:53,440 --> 00:41:56,279
Speaker 2: a pretty big scandal, pretty big. I don't know, like

906
00:41:56,360 --> 00:41:57,040
Speaker 2: you know about it.

907
00:41:57,160 --> 00:42:00,000
Speaker 1: I heard about it. I remember exactly what happened.

908
00:42:00,360 --> 00:42:01,320
Speaker 2: He was such a good actor.

909
00:42:01,320 --> 00:42:03,719
Speaker 5: I liked him in West Side Story too, But now

910
00:42:03,719 --> 00:42:05,799
Speaker 5: he's probably done something horrible and I can't like him.

911
00:42:05,920 --> 00:42:06,640
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's tough.

912
00:42:06,960 --> 00:42:10,200
Speaker 3: Actors, just stop stop doing that stuff. So it was

913
00:42:10,239 --> 00:42:11,960
Speaker 3: the perfect time to get a small kitten.

914
00:42:12,320 --> 00:42:16,600
Speaker 4: So I thought, Hey, it's Dakota, your favorite rat brain host.

915
00:42:16,640 --> 00:42:18,919
Speaker 2: Here and we're gonna get back to the stories soon.

916
00:42:19,040 --> 00:42:21,080
Speaker 2: But here's three minutes of ads from our sponsors.

917
00:42:22,080 --> 00:42:24,480
Speaker 3: This cat was so small and cute to start with.

918
00:42:24,880 --> 00:42:27,080
Speaker 3: Since she has gotten bigger, more and more issues have

919
00:42:27,160 --> 00:42:30,280
Speaker 3: been coming my way. I cannot cook without her coming

920
00:42:30,280 --> 00:42:34,279
Speaker 3: in and meowing. Normal, I know, but that is where

921
00:42:34,320 --> 00:42:37,120
Speaker 3: normal ends with this cat. I've had more than ten

922
00:42:37,280 --> 00:42:39,920
Speaker 3: cats in my lifetime. She will jump on the stove

923
00:42:40,000 --> 00:42:42,840
Speaker 3: while I'm cooking to try and steal food. Yes, she

924
00:42:42,920 --> 00:42:46,839
Speaker 3: has a food dispenser and it is always full saw food. Yes,

925
00:42:47,000 --> 00:42:50,000
Speaker 3: every day for that too. She runs outside and when

926
00:42:50,040 --> 00:42:52,560
Speaker 3: I say she's fast, I mean I cannot catch her

927
00:42:52,600 --> 00:42:54,799
Speaker 3: at all. She does not want to be picked up

928
00:42:54,880 --> 00:42:57,759
Speaker 3: or cuddled or really anything to do with humans. She

929
00:42:57,840 --> 00:43:01,040
Speaker 3: has started digging in my trash as around the house

930
00:43:01,080 --> 00:43:03,719
Speaker 3: that do not have lids and knocking them over to

931
00:43:03,719 --> 00:43:06,680
Speaker 3: fine food. She started stealing food off the counters while

932
00:43:06,719 --> 00:43:09,719
Speaker 3: I'm trying to make school lunches. There are no cafeteria

933
00:43:09,800 --> 00:43:12,200
Speaker 3: lunches here. I have to make all five lunches for

934
00:43:12,280 --> 00:43:15,160
Speaker 3: the kids every day. She got pregnant and now is

935
00:43:15,280 --> 00:43:18,640
Speaker 3: five kittens in the last three months. Oh Pete, why

936
00:43:18,640 --> 00:43:20,680
Speaker 3: didn't we have her spaye.

937
00:43:21,120 --> 00:43:21,839
Speaker 2: Yeah.

938
00:43:21,920 --> 00:43:23,560
Speaker 3: The thing is when you get a cat, you really

939
00:43:23,600 --> 00:43:27,279
Speaker 3: have to make sure that you're fully focused on, like,

940
00:43:27,840 --> 00:43:30,319
Speaker 3: you know, working on the connection between humans, like getting it. Oh,

941
00:43:30,400 --> 00:43:34,440
Speaker 3: what's the word used to humans domesticated? Well, just like

942
00:43:34,480 --> 00:43:36,600
Speaker 3: you want them to be friendly and stuff, so you

943
00:43:36,640 --> 00:43:38,839
Speaker 3: want to make sure that they're comfortable around humans and

944
00:43:38,880 --> 00:43:43,000
Speaker 3: that they're used to them and constantly like introducing new

945
00:43:43,040 --> 00:43:45,600
Speaker 3: stuff to them so that they get kind of desensitized.

946
00:43:46,440 --> 00:43:47,560
Speaker 3: And it doesn't seem like there was a.

947
00:43:47,560 --> 00:43:50,919
Speaker 1: Lot of that here. And also we didn't spay them.

948
00:43:51,080 --> 00:43:51,799
Speaker 1: Why didn't we do that?

949
00:43:51,800 --> 00:43:53,680
Speaker 5: I think when I was like three or something, I

950
00:43:53,680 --> 00:43:55,600
Speaker 5: had a cat, and a cat loved me and let

951
00:43:55,640 --> 00:43:58,000
Speaker 5: it like dude, I was not like horrible to it,

952
00:43:58,040 --> 00:44:00,520
Speaker 5: but i'd like tugged on its ears, tugging on and everything. No,

953
00:44:00,800 --> 00:44:02,719
Speaker 5: and the cat loved me and just didn't care.

954
00:44:02,920 --> 00:44:03,799
Speaker 1: Okay, well that's good.

955
00:44:03,880 --> 00:44:04,080
Speaker 5: Yeah.

956
00:44:04,160 --> 00:44:05,600
Speaker 2: It was just like my best friend.

957
00:44:06,280 --> 00:44:11,480
Speaker 1: That's okay. Ow I don't mind owt keep doing it.

958
00:44:11,480 --> 00:44:13,480
Speaker 2: It never bit me or anything. It knew what was it.

959
00:44:13,800 --> 00:44:14,440
Speaker 2: I was a kid.

960
00:44:14,600 --> 00:44:16,640
Speaker 5: Yeah, I wish I had those memories. Other memory that

961
00:44:16,680 --> 00:44:18,480
Speaker 5: I had was a cat scratched me once and.

962
00:44:18,480 --> 00:44:20,160
Speaker 3: I didn't like cats out that I still have a

963
00:44:20,200 --> 00:44:22,759
Speaker 3: cat scratch? What a cat scratching me?

964
00:44:22,960 --> 00:44:23,439
Speaker 2: Which one?

965
00:44:23,880 --> 00:44:25,959
Speaker 1: Uh? This was in when I was ten?

966
00:44:26,320 --> 00:44:27,520
Speaker 2: Oh that's what that's from.

967
00:44:27,600 --> 00:44:30,960
Speaker 1: Yeah, oh wow, not that much of an issue to me.

968
00:44:31,040 --> 00:44:33,440
Speaker 3: The kittens are awesome and starting on soft food and

969
00:44:33,560 --> 00:44:36,480
Speaker 3: use the litter box. I'm like their mom. Yes, this

970
00:44:36,719 --> 00:44:38,480
Speaker 3: was a farm cat I got for free, and I

971
00:44:38,520 --> 00:44:40,760
Speaker 3: will be giving away our kittens for free.

972
00:44:41,120 --> 00:44:42,239
Speaker 1: It is the third.

973
00:44:42,000 --> 00:44:44,080
Speaker 3: Time one of my cats out of the ten or

974
00:44:44,120 --> 00:44:46,680
Speaker 3: so I've had since I was fifteen, have given birth.

975
00:44:46,960 --> 00:44:49,839
Speaker 3: I know what I handle kittens and mama's usually this

976
00:44:49,960 --> 00:44:53,200
Speaker 3: cat has me stump though. She'll pee on any towel

977
00:44:53,239 --> 00:44:55,839
Speaker 3: on the ground, so I tell my kids please pick

978
00:44:55,920 --> 00:44:58,319
Speaker 3: them up. I got rid of my bath mats and

979
00:44:58,320 --> 00:45:00,840
Speaker 3: now I have a stone bath mat. Did that stop

980
00:45:00,840 --> 00:45:04,560
Speaker 3: her from using it as a litterbox? Nope, Any small

981
00:45:04,680 --> 00:45:07,520
Speaker 3: article of clothing is a target. For no clothes on

982
00:45:07,560 --> 00:45:09,920
Speaker 3: the floor, she'll pee or pooh besides the toilet on

983
00:45:09,960 --> 00:45:12,719
Speaker 3: the floor. I need to keep all doors closed and

984
00:45:12,760 --> 00:45:15,520
Speaker 3: not let her in rooms. But with five kids, they

985
00:45:15,560 --> 00:45:16,400
Speaker 3: do not all listen.

986
00:45:16,480 --> 00:45:19,200
Speaker 1: So well. I am one person with already a lot

987
00:45:19,239 --> 00:45:21,640
Speaker 1: on my plate. I'm growing to hate baby.

988
00:45:22,160 --> 00:45:24,320
Speaker 3: I wake up in the morning at seven am to

989
00:45:24,400 --> 00:45:26,840
Speaker 3: start my day for twenty minutes before I wake kids,

990
00:45:27,280 --> 00:45:29,360
Speaker 3: and the first thing I need to do is clean

991
00:45:29,440 --> 00:45:33,920
Speaker 3: baby's mess. I have three litter boxes, scooped every two

992
00:45:34,080 --> 00:45:37,360
Speaker 3: or three days and completely dumped and cleaned every week

993
00:45:37,440 --> 00:45:40,040
Speaker 3: before trash day. I have never had a cat like

994
00:45:40,080 --> 00:45:43,240
Speaker 3: this before. No, I have never fixed any of my animals.

995
00:45:43,719 --> 00:45:46,799
Speaker 3: I believe nature's nature. As I am Native American, I

996
00:45:46,840 --> 00:45:48,719
Speaker 3: know it would be wrong to give away this cat

997
00:45:48,840 --> 00:45:50,759
Speaker 3: or drop it at a shelter, but I am at

998
00:45:50,800 --> 00:45:53,959
Speaker 3: my end. Social services have been in my home since

999
00:45:53,960 --> 00:45:56,280
Speaker 3: I caught her as a teacher heard my kid complaining

1000
00:45:56,280 --> 00:45:58,759
Speaker 3: about her floor too. Yes, the kid that I tell

1001
00:45:58,880 --> 00:46:00,880
Speaker 3: not to leave towels on the floor and does not

1002
00:46:00,960 --> 00:46:04,240
Speaker 3: seem to care, complained a lot about the cat and smell.

1003
00:46:04,640 --> 00:46:05,720
Speaker 1: I get it. She's thirteen.

1004
00:46:06,200 --> 00:46:08,960
Speaker 2: Okay, well, okay, it makes sense about the animal things.

1005
00:46:09,080 --> 00:46:12,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, but I don't know. You can't really complain about

1006
00:46:12,080 --> 00:46:12,960
Speaker 1: them getting pregnant.

1007
00:46:13,239 --> 00:46:16,160
Speaker 5: I guess you weren't really, but you were explaining what

1008
00:46:16,200 --> 00:46:16,600
Speaker 5: was happening.

1009
00:46:16,760 --> 00:46:18,560
Speaker 1: Yeah, you know, I'm just gonna say it.

1010
00:46:18,800 --> 00:46:20,880
Speaker 5: I have a different relationship with animals going off than

1011
00:46:20,880 --> 00:46:23,759
Speaker 5: everyone else does. Yeah, but if you believe that, you know,

1012
00:46:23,880 --> 00:46:25,719
Speaker 5: nature should be nature, and you don't want to spare

1013
00:46:25,719 --> 00:46:28,799
Speaker 5: your cats, then the cat should live outside.

1014
00:46:28,400 --> 00:46:31,080
Speaker 1: Low key, yeah, which I don't believe. You know, I

1015
00:46:31,080 --> 00:46:34,359
Speaker 1: don't think that cats should be outside just because of

1016
00:46:34,400 --> 00:46:36,640
Speaker 1: like ecosystem things, but I feel like that would be

1017
00:46:36,680 --> 00:46:38,440
Speaker 1: in line with what Opie wants.

1018
00:46:38,480 --> 00:46:39,520
Speaker 2: You know, you got a cat.

1019
00:46:39,680 --> 00:46:42,040
Speaker 1: I'm surprised that Opee doesn't have an outside cat.

1020
00:46:42,200 --> 00:46:44,040
Speaker 5: Yeah, And like if you you know, you don't have

1021
00:46:44,080 --> 00:46:46,840
Speaker 5: the accessibilities to live in a house or like you

1022
00:46:46,880 --> 00:46:48,600
Speaker 5: live in an apartment and a hash to stay inside,

1023
00:46:48,600 --> 00:46:51,400
Speaker 5: but like, which makes sense with you being Native American

1024
00:46:51,400 --> 00:46:52,040
Speaker 5: that you think this way.

1025
00:46:52,080 --> 00:46:54,239
Speaker 2: But like, if I have a dog and a bunch

1026
00:46:54,239 --> 00:46:56,000
Speaker 2: of goats, it's gonna stay out with the goats because

1027
00:46:56,040 --> 00:46:58,400
Speaker 2: that's its job, yeah, to take care of the goats.

1028
00:46:58,800 --> 00:47:00,560
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, I don't know.

1029
00:47:01,160 --> 00:47:04,239
Speaker 3: I think that you should maybe get less animals that

1030
00:47:04,239 --> 00:47:06,680
Speaker 3: would probably help. I even asked my daughter if she

1031
00:47:06,680 --> 00:47:09,080
Speaker 3: would prefer to keep one of her kittens instead. She

1032
00:47:09,120 --> 00:47:11,600
Speaker 3: has not wanted to answer me, and I know it's

1033
00:47:11,640 --> 00:47:14,960
Speaker 3: because my daughter is attached. After she's committed. She doesn't

1034
00:47:15,040 --> 00:47:18,960
Speaker 3: like to change or replace anyone. My daughter is blind,

1035
00:47:19,160 --> 00:47:21,920
Speaker 3: so she also does not clean up after herself the best,

1036
00:47:22,360 --> 00:47:25,320
Speaker 3: and this cat is eating her food without her knowing

1037
00:47:25,400 --> 00:47:28,360
Speaker 3: or stopping her than vomiting places. I already have to

1038
00:47:28,400 --> 00:47:31,160
Speaker 3: clean after five kids and left my ex spouse because

1039
00:47:31,200 --> 00:47:33,040
Speaker 3: of the lack of them helping with the house too

1040
00:47:33,360 --> 00:47:36,759
Speaker 3: and other things. This is the cat my ex spouse recommended,

1041
00:47:36,960 --> 00:47:39,759
Speaker 3: picked up and brought to us. I feel I have

1042
00:47:39,840 --> 00:47:43,719
Speaker 3: replaced one extreme with another. I am struggling to keep

1043
00:47:43,719 --> 00:47:46,839
Speaker 3: my house clean and my sanity, but I need solutions.

1044
00:47:47,440 --> 00:47:49,960
Speaker 3: I also feel if I did get my female cat spade,

1045
00:47:50,000 --> 00:47:52,680
Speaker 3: it would not change her behavior too much because she

1046
00:47:52,760 --> 00:47:55,879
Speaker 3: loves running outside. Oh so she is an outside cat.

1047
00:47:56,239 --> 00:47:59,520
Speaker 2: Okay, we guess must have not like saw that.

1048
00:47:59,640 --> 00:48:02,000
Speaker 1: Sorry, well, no, we're just finding this.

1049
00:48:02,080 --> 00:48:03,880
Speaker 2: Oh we're just finding this out. Okay, so we're not idiots.

1050
00:48:03,920 --> 00:48:07,239
Speaker 3: Great now and sunbathing and doing her own thing. I

1051
00:48:07,320 --> 00:48:10,279
Speaker 3: hate my independent mother cat with a passion, but do

1052
00:48:10,360 --> 00:48:12,839
Speaker 3: not want to upset or hurt my very emotional and

1053
00:48:12,920 --> 00:48:16,319
Speaker 3: traumatized teenager. I know it was my choice to bring

1054
00:48:16,360 --> 00:48:18,600
Speaker 3: this cat into my home, but she doesn't seem to

1055
00:48:18,640 --> 00:48:23,040
Speaker 3: listen or care about anything, and I have trained many cats. Fine,

1056
00:48:23,239 --> 00:48:26,520
Speaker 3: I do recognize this is her cat, not mine, even

1057
00:48:26,520 --> 00:48:28,680
Speaker 3: though she's young, and I knew she could not take

1058
00:48:28,719 --> 00:48:30,080
Speaker 3: care of it the way in adult wood.

1059
00:48:30,560 --> 00:48:33,200
Speaker 1: I just did not realize what would be on my plate.

1060
00:48:33,560 --> 00:48:36,160
Speaker 1: There is a little bit left to this story.

1061
00:48:36,200 --> 00:48:39,960
Speaker 5: Any final thoughts simple, this is a solution here. Cats

1062
00:48:40,000 --> 00:48:44,040
Speaker 5: go crazy on the internet, no matter you know what

1063
00:48:44,080 --> 00:48:46,719
Speaker 5: you do. They make money, that's what they do. Get

1064
00:48:46,719 --> 00:48:48,520
Speaker 5: them a little little.

1065
00:48:48,320 --> 00:48:49,160
Speaker 2: Go pro vest.

1066
00:48:49,719 --> 00:48:53,560
Speaker 5: Yeah, go out and about wrecking stuff, doing whatever you

1067
00:48:53,719 --> 00:48:56,960
Speaker 5: chasing them. I love that people love that stuff. And dude,

1068
00:48:57,080 --> 00:48:59,680
Speaker 5: if it's out getting pound pound. I know this sounds weird,

1069
00:48:59,680 --> 00:49:01,399
Speaker 5: but like I've seen edits of like cats go into

1070
00:49:01,400 --> 00:49:03,839
Speaker 5: poundtown and stuff like that, like like small, like yeah,

1071
00:49:03,880 --> 00:49:06,480
Speaker 5: it's like this, and then it's like, oh my god. Yeah, dude,

1072
00:49:06,560 --> 00:49:09,040
Speaker 5: you could just learn how to as your cat. Yes,

1073
00:49:09,200 --> 00:49:11,600
Speaker 5: learn how to edit, learn how to get the footage.

1074
00:49:12,000 --> 00:49:14,359
Speaker 5: And if you're getting millions of fits and probably getting

1075
00:49:14,360 --> 00:49:16,560
Speaker 5: a couple hundred bucks, all this cleaning stuf is probably

1076
00:49:16,560 --> 00:49:18,560
Speaker 5: not gonna matter. Probably be like, oh great, it's making

1077
00:49:18,600 --> 00:49:19,719
Speaker 5: me money. Can do whatever now.

1078
00:49:20,080 --> 00:49:23,440
Speaker 1: Yeah. Alternatively, you have to have a conversation with your

1079
00:49:23,520 --> 00:49:26,160
Speaker 1: daughter who is in high school, so she's old enough

1080
00:49:26,480 --> 00:49:29,400
Speaker 1: and say, hey, I cannot take care of I know

1081
00:49:29,480 --> 00:49:32,240
Speaker 1: this is your cat. So either we need to find

1082
00:49:32,280 --> 00:49:35,319
Speaker 1: ways that work for you to like work with your

1083
00:49:35,400 --> 00:49:37,880
Speaker 1: disability where you can help take care of the cat.

1084
00:49:38,160 --> 00:49:40,120
Speaker 1: Or unfortunately, we're gonna have to find a home for

1085
00:49:40,200 --> 00:49:42,440
Speaker 1: this cat. Yeah, but don't send it back to the shelter.

1086
00:49:42,520 --> 00:49:43,879
Speaker 1: Let's let's try and find another home.

1087
00:49:44,200 --> 00:49:47,440
Speaker 2: I agree, I agree. Or let it live outside.

1088
00:49:47,840 --> 00:49:50,239
Speaker 3: I mean, it already is, but there's a little bit left.

1089
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Speaker 3: I am in therapy, and my therapist told me to

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Speaker 3: focus on my bigger issues for now, like my relationships, parenting,

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Speaker 3: and grief. So am I the ale if I give

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Speaker 3: the cat away? Should I have asked her to choose

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Speaker 3: between her cat or a kitten? Should I tell her

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Speaker 3: I cannot keep it anymore? Is it too much for me?

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Speaker 3: Do I ask her if she wants to choose who

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Speaker 3: baby goes to? Do I keep her and bite my tongue?

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Speaker 3: Do I pretend she ran away joking? I cannot do

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Speaker 3: that to my kid, no matter how much I hate

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Speaker 3: this cat.

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Speaker 2: Get a new cat?

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Speaker 1: I know. I think we don't get a new they

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Speaker 1: already have cats. I think that we talk to your daughter.

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Speaker 5: Oh baby's a little different. Just make sure that it

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Speaker 5: has the same texture. Doesn't really matter about the color

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Speaker 5: of the cat. To make sure it's the same texture.

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Speaker 1: Wow, brutal.

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Speaker 3: I mean, yeah, I guess you don't get a pet

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Speaker 3: that cat a lot because she doesn't like humans. I

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Speaker 3: think you need to have a conversation with your teenage

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Speaker 3: daughter who's in high school.

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Speaker 1: She's old enough.

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Speaker 3: Tell her what's going on, and then we don't get

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Speaker 3: any more cats, or you spay her, which I know

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Speaker 3: you said now that you're thinking about, but you don't

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Speaker 3: think that it'll change her behavior.

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Speaker 1: I think it will change her behavior. It usually does.

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Speaker 1: B you got either way, I be honest with your daughter.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it is this uPAR live.

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Speaker 1: But that's the end of that story, folks. And we've

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Speaker 1: got some comments.

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Speaker 2: Right, show me the comments.

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Speaker 1: Comments from the video.

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Speaker 3: I won't let my sister attend her own son's wedding

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Speaker 3: And this was posted October second, twenty twenty five. Tldr

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Speaker 3: Op won't let his sister go to her own son's

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Speaker 3: wedding After years of her drinking and ruining every big

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Speaker 3: moment in his life. When she destroys the last thing

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Speaker 3: he had of his father. Joey runs to Opie for help.

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Speaker 3: Now the family is angry, the sister is begging, and

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Speaker 3: op is ready to drag her out himself if she

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Speaker 3: shows up.

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Speaker 1: If you're curious to know the full story, you can

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Speaker 1: go watch the full video. And we've got some comments.

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Speaker 2: Oh lovely.

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Speaker 3: We've got a comment from Michelle Cottle maybe story one

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Speaker 3: says good on op for having their nephews back when

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Speaker 3: it came to his mom. I was in a similar

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Speaker 3: situation as a young child and had to cut my

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Speaker 3: bio dad out of my life for close to a

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Speaker 3: decade before they made permanent change.

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Speaker 1: Well, I still love them.

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Speaker 3: We're low contact due to neglect and abuse from his

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Speaker 3: alcohol abuse problem. And we got another comment from Madra

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Speaker 3: Alta who says just wanted to add a comment on

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Speaker 3: the first story. The body doesn't understand different types of loss.

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Speaker 3: Grief is all the same, whether you're grieving the loss

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Speaker 3: of a loved one or the loss of relationship. The

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Speaker 3: human body treats grief all the same. You can even

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00:52:17,880 --> 00:52:20,880
Speaker 3: grieve the loss of the idea of something. If you

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Speaker 3: think it's real, then the body.

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Speaker 1: Believes it's real. That is an excellent point.

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Speaker 3: And I think people you know, sometimes feel silly when

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Speaker 3: they mourn something so deeply, even when that person didn't

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Speaker 3: pass away.

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Speaker 1: But you know, it's a good reminder.

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Speaker 3: To know that your body processes things weirdly and you

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Speaker 3: can't always control that.

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Speaker 2: We need to keep for self grace. We need to

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Speaker 2: school for emotions. I agree for love emotions, mourning emotions,

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Speaker 2: grieving emotions.

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Speaker 1: All the emotions like inside out. Yeah, but a school

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Speaker 1: of it.

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Speaker 3: Another comment from bom dot com who says loving someone

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Speaker 3: should mean that you want to be stable for them. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: loving someone to mean that you want to put in

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Speaker 3: the work to improve yourself and to be in Yeah,

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Speaker 3: a stable please. John Davis says the first story is

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Speaker 3: someone who lost their partner almost two years ago.

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Speaker 1: I'm so sorry.

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Speaker 3: I sympathized with the mother. I was useless that first year.

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Speaker 3: My advice for APE is, if they don't want mom there,

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Speaker 3: someone should be signed to babysit her. I ease someone

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Speaker 3: to take her somewhere out of town that she likes

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Speaker 3: and spend the day drinking with her and letting her cry.

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Speaker 3: It's what I wanted, And someone to keep me from

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Speaker 3: self harming. Mom is hurting, and yeah, maybe that's what

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Speaker 3: she needs. She just needs a companion.

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Speaker 1: But that is the end of that common section and

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Speaker 1: the end of this episode. I hope you all enjoyed this.

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Speaker 1: I hope.

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Speaker 5: So we had to kick Savanna out on the last

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Speaker 5: one because we just couldn't deal with her anymore.

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Speaker 1: Yees, she was done.

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Speaker 2: Please leave, We'll take it from here. I'm not.

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Speaker 3: But that's the end of out episode. So if you

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Speaker 3: love us, make sure to subscribe.

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Speaker 2: We freaking love you and see you tomorrow.

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