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Speaker 1: My brother slept with my girlfriend, so I'm canceling my

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Speaker 1: daughter's wedding. I'm forty six mail and my brother is

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Speaker 1: forty eight male. When I was twenty, my then girlfriend

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Speaker 1: cheated on me with my brother. I was heartbroken and pissed.

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Speaker 1: I told him he is no longer my brother. Despite

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Speaker 1: my request, my family didn't cut him off, so I

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Speaker 1: told him that I will never again be in the

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Speaker 1: same place he is. If the family wishes to invite

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Speaker 1: both of us, then they should just invite him, as

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Speaker 1: I'm the one giving the ultimatum.

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Speaker 2: That's fair. I think if you're going to be like

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Speaker 2: unreasonable and be like I'm cutting him off from everything, yeah,

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Speaker 2: you shouldn't insist that he's not going to be invited.

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Speaker 1: My daughter is getting married in spring next year, and

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Speaker 1: in our culture, both parents are paying for the.

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Speaker 3: Wedding fifty to fifty.

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Speaker 1: Unexpectedly, my daughter sat me down and told me that

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Speaker 1: she will be inviting my brother and his family. He

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Speaker 1: married my cheating x oh. Wait I didn't realize that

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Speaker 1: he married the cheating x.

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Speaker 2: Oh God, so that means that he would always have

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Speaker 2: to see him at events.

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Speaker 3: That makes so much more sense. Goddeed, that's like a

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Speaker 3: knife ed time you see him. I can understand.

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Speaker 4: It's like one thing to cheat and then it just

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Speaker 4: like like they like they cheat once and then they

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Speaker 3: Like they're unhappy.

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Speaker 4: But to be happy with the person you chad bad

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Speaker 4: bad bad.

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Speaker 2: Yikes, because then you know, like it's not like a

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Speaker 2: like oh, maybe there was just some attraction but no feelings.

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Speaker 2: So that's like they had feelings for your brother. It's

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Speaker 2: like the double attraction. Yeah, literally, like a sexual attraction,

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Speaker 2: like yeah.

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Speaker 3: It was a one time thing whatever. Yeah yeah. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: Like I feel like it's like I didn't love you.

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Speaker 3: I loved your brother.

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Speaker 4: Like the better version of the Yeah yeah you're cool,

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Speaker 4: but like your brother's better, so I hate you good bye.

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Speaker 4: Is it an older brother or younger brother, because if

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Speaker 4: it's a't older, I feel like it's oh yeah, because

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Speaker 4: that's like you're like, like you look up to your

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Speaker 4: older brother.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 4: Oh man.

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Speaker 1: Now apparently my daughter was seeing them for the last

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Speaker 1: four years and built a relationship with them behind my back.

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Speaker 1: Oh with the brother, the cheating brother.

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Speaker 3: It's like the daughter's cheating.

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Speaker 1: And this is the kick in the gut. She even

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Speaker 1: wants the cousin from the cheaters to be some kind

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Speaker 1: of flower girl. So they had a kid and they

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Speaker 2: Part of me thinks so that kids shouldn't be punished

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Speaker 2: for the wrongdoing of the parents.

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Speaker 3: True, true, But then then it's.

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Speaker 2: Kind of messed up. I'm like, absolutely hold the grudge

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Speaker 2: against the people, but like she should not be able

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Speaker 2: to have a relationship with their cousin because their parents.

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Speaker 1: Oh relationship, Yeah, yeah, Needless to say, I was pissed,

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Speaker 1: and I told her what my boundaries are, and if

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Speaker 1: my brother is invited, then I will not pay for

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Speaker 1: any part of the wedding. My daughter became angry and

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Speaker 1: told me that it's time to let go of the past.

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Speaker 1: I told her it's not her call to make. We

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Speaker 1: argued some more, and she told me that I was

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Speaker 3: She left crying.

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Speaker 2: She has a point, that's yeah, because you got to

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Speaker 2: think too, So like this happened, Yeah, obviously met her mom,

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Speaker 2: they got they got together, they had a kid.

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Speaker 3: Yep, this kid is.

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Speaker 2: Old enough and now they're getting married.

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Speaker 3: Like it's been it's been a while, Like, can you just.

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Speaker 2: Like like even if she was trying to get married

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Speaker 2: right at.

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Speaker 3: Eighteen, it's twenty six years has pasted.

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Speaker 2: Oh okay, I was gonna say, it's got years.

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Speaker 3: Twenty six years, yo, get over it.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that's I mean. I would I would be like,

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Speaker 1: this is your daughter's wedding. This is her day. She

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Speaker 4: I mean, is there like like twenty six years feels

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Speaker 4: like more than enough time to try, like like for

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Speaker 4: the family's sake, Yeah, like try to mend things. What's

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Speaker 2: I think I think he probably could have easily gotten away

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Speaker 2: with a good five years honestly on that, especially considering

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Speaker 3: Yeah, Yeah, that's very Yeah.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I think like a little over an election cycle

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Speaker 4: and then you should be over it.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, Biden's out brothers in.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I think anything under five years would have been

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Speaker 3: Yeah at this point twenty six I don't know.

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Speaker 1: So my ex wife called me screaming and told me

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Speaker 1: I'm a huge a hole and our daughter is crushed.

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Speaker 1: Then my parents called and said the same thing. I

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Speaker 1: My girlfriend told me to reconsider and apologize, but I said,

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Speaker 1: I'm breaking up with you and I'm just kidding.

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Speaker 3: Full dottle fuck everyone who wants this.

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Speaker 1: She said that by not paying and attending, I will

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Speaker 1: break the relationship with my daughter.

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Speaker 4: So true.

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Speaker 1: I don't know. I I think my boundaries should be respected.

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Speaker 1: Am I the a hole for that? What do we think?

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Speaker 2: Oh? Absolutely? My dad is not at my wedding. I

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Speaker 2: would be like, my dad could get in a serious

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Speaker 2: car crash the night before and I would move the

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it would be to me to have my mom

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Speaker 2: I mean my dad and my mom and like most

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Speaker 2: immediate family members there, I feel like, yeah, at the point,

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Speaker 2: you don't need to have a relationship with them, but

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Speaker 2: you don't need to be hurting other relationships.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, I totally agree. And also like he's like

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Speaker 4: destroying all his relationships right now. It's like it's like

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Speaker 4: this is this isn't benefiting you this grudge anymore, right,

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Speaker 4: So maybe let it go so you can have a

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Speaker 4: relationship with your daughter and your rest of your family.

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Speaker 2: Find some covert and wear revenge and just do that.

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Speaker 2: Never can be traced back to you do that and

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Speaker 2: then call it good.

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Speaker 1: And then put a story on nuclear revenge and then

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Speaker 1: we read that.

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Speaker 3: There we go.

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Speaker 4: Ah, some more content babies, that's right.

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Speaker 1: If you like this episode, check out this one of

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Speaker 1: the mom prioritized her yoga over her own daughter's wedding.

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Speaker 4: Oh god,