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Speaker 1: ten forty five already? You know I'm gonna call Judy.

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Speaker 1: I need I need to call Judy. We haven't seen

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Speaker 1: Hey doll, Oh it's June. Hey Jude. I can't believe. Sorry,

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Speaker 1: I'm I'm out of my mind today. I'm just I'm

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Speaker 1: of those days where I just I feel like nine

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Speaker 1: cats in a coffin. I feel like it's Christmas Day

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Speaker 1: and I'm Jewish. Okay. I just went to my dear hairdresser, Sylvia.

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Speaker 1: She's retiring. Oh no, oh, Judy, I have to go.

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Speaker 1: My kids were over the other day and the kids

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Speaker 1: treful he made. And I said, give me the recipe.

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Speaker 1: Sout of my bed. He laughed at me, said, mom,

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Speaker 1: it called? You know, I think he would really get

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Speaker 1: along with Colin. I just one my eyes become so puffy.

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Speaker 1: for me. It will bankrupt me. And I told her

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Speaker 1: talk of rule of thirds. The man's going to find

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Speaker 1: I just have this thing right now where my left ear.

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Speaker 1: It feels like it has water in it. Oh my goodness.

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Speaker 1: You know Judy, Um, let's get together next week. Yes,

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Speaker 1: send me a schedule, Yes, send him if you can

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Speaker 1: figure out how to do it. Send me your somethings around.

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Speaker 1: We gotta make this happen. I love you. I love you, Doll.

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Speaker 1: I miss you. Okay, kisses, Okay, we'll talk soon. Okay, Sirie,

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Speaker 1: Hang up, Siri? Who's that knocking at the door. It's

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Speaker 1: all your friends, you filthy horse. Your husband's gone and

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Speaker 1: we've got books and a bottle of wine to kill.

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Speaker 1: It's books. It's gossip. I'm shook. It's memoir. It's Martini Club.

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Speaker 1: Come read it while it's hot. Cleby Book Club, tell

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Speaker 1: your secrets. We won't talk Cley books. No boys are allowed.

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Speaker 1: the queer fow best friend. How the hell are you?

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Speaker 1: I'm feeling I don't know completely, psychic spirit is fully

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Speaker 1: in my body. Yeah, I feel like we should tell

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Speaker 1: our listeners, the club kids, what just happened. What just

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Speaker 1: happened backstage was that I lead to guess what my

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Speaker 1: two guesses. You said, wait, what was your first guess?

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Speaker 1: First guess? Well, I was like, yeah, you really inter out.

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Speaker 1: I said, I'm going out. And then you're like, oh,

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Speaker 1: there's some pop up at Rollos. I was like, no,

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Speaker 1: literally the next thing I took, but I took a second,

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Speaker 1: I thought of it, and I said Japanese with Italian influences.

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Speaker 1: Next thing I said, and then the whisper rumor studio,

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Speaker 1: it just filled with like ghosts. Yeah, and I was

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Speaker 1: absolutely correct. I started shaking, and mind you, I haven't

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Speaker 1: even like seen any little Instagram posts about some Japanese

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Speaker 1: on a bridge that has Japanese pasta. So that was

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Speaker 1: But that's just like you know, energy, it can neither

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Speaker 1: going to a nine course Japanese and Italian tasting menu.

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Speaker 1: It's for my brother's birthday. My mother is graciously paying.

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Speaker 1: a secret to a good dinner party. I'd kind of

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Speaker 1: desperately want to get around dinner table now because it's

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Speaker 1: because it's nothing that connotes community conversation. I dare you

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Speaker 1: to get a round dinner table. But then I'm like,

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Speaker 1: I'm getting rid of my table. There's just like a

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Speaker 1: bitch to get in there and assemble. I mean, it's also,

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Speaker 1: like I guess, because it's a rectangle like, but it's

453
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Speaker 1: I think you're fine with my I've just been kind

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Speaker 1: of dreaming of a circular how it would change my life. Well,

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Speaker 1: now here you are saying I'm dreaming of something it's

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Speaker 1: going to change my life, And then now I'll hear

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Speaker 1: is fear about doors. Right, No, it's just like, why

459
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Speaker 1: am I letting a door block maybe instead of painting

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Speaker 1: your living room terra cotta or whatever that idea was

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Speaker 1: you at the other week. I do still want to

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Speaker 1: do what I'm calling the blue room. Okay, blue room

463
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Speaker 1: round table. I'm writing this down. We're going to circle

464
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Speaker 1: back to it in a few weeks. Okay, okay. Another

465
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Speaker 1: thing she says is, um, don't serve fish. Fish is

466
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Speaker 1: too easy to eat. People eat it and they're done.

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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, that's why I love though, because it's like

468
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Speaker 1: you don't have someone to just be like, oh, three

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Speaker 1: bites and it's over. Yes, And she was like, she

470
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Speaker 1: was like, there's nothing worse. It's ten pm and all

471
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Speaker 1: your guests have gone and you're sitting alone with dirty dishes.

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Speaker 1: That was I was chills, just like, yeah, they're done,

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Speaker 1: they've left, and you're just polishing. If a dinner party

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Speaker 1: isn't lasting till eleven thirty, like someone's opening another bottle

475
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Speaker 1: of wine and that the conversation can be yeah, you know,

476
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Speaker 1: nobody wants this wham bam, thank you ma'am dinner party.

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Speaker 1: Everyone's like, oh, we have to get to bed and

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Speaker 1: you're like, oh great, like weekday salmon. Yeah, mortifying, mortifying,

479
00:27:41,040 --> 00:27:46,280
Speaker 1: but I think seafood pasta. Yeah, a seafood pasta gives you. Well.

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00:27:46,320 --> 00:27:48,440
Speaker 1: She goes, people like to play with their food, and yeah,

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Speaker 1: but I think this like right, this one small filet

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Speaker 1: that's like and you're just like small bite, dover sol yeah,

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Speaker 1: dover sol um with a miso, like a very quick

484
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Speaker 1: quick um. Some of her other rules, oh wait, this

485
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Speaker 1: is not a dinner party rule. But this is also

486
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Speaker 1: like the moment your child leaves change their room. Oh,

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Speaker 1: she was like, it is not a shrine and obviously,

488
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Speaker 1: like the poster, I mean, I don't have a room anymore.

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Speaker 1: So I can't move home because she says, if you

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Speaker 1: leave it as a shrine to them, it will leave

491
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Speaker 1: them this open door to not go, like grow up.

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Speaker 1: They won't Yeah, they won't grow up. I mean her

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Speaker 1: whole thing all adolescence is so funny, just being like

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Speaker 1: adolescence is like She's like, actually, like, first you realize

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Speaker 1: the adolescence is like time for like your kids to

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Speaker 1: separate from you and to find their own personality, and

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Speaker 1: then you realize, no, the reason that they're so obnoxious

498
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Speaker 1: is because it lets you separate from them, and then

499
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Speaker 1: you're finally able to cut the cord because you're like weights.

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Speaker 1: And then she's like, and get a dog because you

501
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Speaker 1: need something that's happy to see you. Oh yeah, it's

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Speaker 1: so so just. Everything is such a nor Alfron movie

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Speaker 1: where she's like a harried middle aged mom carrying a

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Speaker 1: paper bag of groceries and holding them with two hands,

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Speaker 1: with like a bad gat celery pasta and being like, kids,

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna make your favorite and they're running out the

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Speaker 1: door backpacks, being like grabbing like a snicker has being like, sorry, Mom,

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Speaker 1: I'm going to Tracy's like I have basketball practice, and

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Speaker 1: then she just looks out the dog that's like, I

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Speaker 1: guess it's just you and me tonight. Oh and Grey's

511
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Speaker 1: anatomy like side poor big glass of red wine in

512
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Speaker 1: her beautiful ten bedroom doorman apartment on the Upper west Side.

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Speaker 1: Let's get to the Amthorpe, the al Thorpe of the Althorpe,

514
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Speaker 1: when she never thought she could fall in love with

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Speaker 1: a building, but she did, so maybe half this book

516
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Speaker 1: is about the Althorp, this building she lives in the

517
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Speaker 1: Upper west Side. It is she never thought she'd live

518
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Speaker 1: in the not cool Upper west Side, she says, well,

519
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Speaker 1: but then she has this fun part where she's like,

520
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Speaker 1: but it I felt like it was brainy because it

521
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Speaker 1: wasn't trying to be so hip, which made me feel

522
00:30:02,680 --> 00:30:05,959
Speaker 1: like more of our egghead professor. I think she realized

523
00:30:06,040 --> 00:30:09,000
Speaker 1: that because I think in you know, in her Esquire

524
00:30:09,040 --> 00:30:12,320
Speaker 1: New York Magazine days, she was like midtown Upper East

525
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Speaker 1: and that's when things were being a little more like

526
00:30:14,480 --> 00:30:18,200
Speaker 1: cigarettes and like Upper East Side was cooler. But then

527
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Speaker 1: eighties and nineties, actually feel it becomes so woody all

528
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Speaker 1: on an Upper west Side and rom com and she's like, oh,

529
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Speaker 1: I'm such an intellectual. And she's like, it's this thing

530
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Speaker 1: when people talk about expensive neighborhoods and they're being so

531
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Speaker 1: like shocked their stuff. She's like, it's crazy. She goes,

532
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Speaker 1: it had everything I wanted. It was like I could

533
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Speaker 1: get a newspaper at all hours of the day, oh yeah,

534
00:30:36,720 --> 00:30:39,480
Speaker 1: and all night and twenty four hour newstand, which I

535
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Speaker 1: need to Like, that's a new want for me. I

536
00:30:42,720 --> 00:30:45,760
Speaker 1: need a twenty four hour newstand. I would like to

537
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Speaker 1: be able to go to get the morning editions, and

538
00:30:47,600 --> 00:30:50,040
Speaker 1: I now have to trek across Siberia for it. Excuse me,

539
00:30:50,120 --> 00:30:52,840
Speaker 1: I mean yeah, obviously, Like I feel like by both

540
00:30:52,840 --> 00:30:54,840
Speaker 1: of our neighbors, it's like possible to get the New

541
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Speaker 1: York Times. No, I know, it's like you go to

542
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Speaker 1: the Delhi that's four blucks awayne It's very like is

543
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Speaker 1: this from today? Yeah, you're there, and they're like, I

544
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Speaker 1: think we have it. Okay, So she wants an all

545
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Speaker 1: twenty fiur news stand. Um a Korean grosser, which is

546
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Speaker 1: so sex in the city going to the kuran um

547
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Speaker 1: a Zabars is a few blocks away. It's like she's like,

548
00:31:15,200 --> 00:31:17,400
Speaker 1: it's crazy. The story is, hey, bars, there's only a

549
00:31:17,400 --> 00:31:20,880
Speaker 1: few blocks away. So this building is absolutely massive. It's

550
00:31:20,920 --> 00:31:23,240
Speaker 1: an old pre war It's got this big, huge courtyard

551
00:31:23,240 --> 00:31:27,520
Speaker 1: in the middle. It's very that show um Murders in

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Speaker 1: the Building now one who loos starring Steve Martin Martin

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Speaker 1: Shore and s I hear really good things. Um. I

554
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Speaker 1: feel like I'm always feeling like parents being just like,

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Speaker 1: you know, we've been watching Murders in the Building, yes,

556
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Speaker 1: most and and we like it. I liked him. No

557
00:31:45,280 --> 00:31:47,760
Speaker 1: one is that effusive about it. No one, I think

558
00:31:47,880 --> 00:31:52,480
Speaker 1: is obsessed. So this building is you know, classic, just

559
00:31:52,560 --> 00:31:55,960
Speaker 1: like very kind of fancy, old school, like the crown molding,

560
00:31:56,120 --> 00:32:00,880
Speaker 1: like parquet floor. It's like these like five bedroom apartments.

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00:32:01,080 --> 00:32:03,680
Speaker 1: She starts renting this five bedroom apartment for four thousand

562
00:32:03,760 --> 00:32:06,680
Speaker 1: a month or three thousand a month, even in nineteen

563
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Speaker 1: eighty two. It's correctly. She does this whole thing when

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Speaker 1: they so they wanted like a down payment of or

565
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Speaker 1: like a broker's phebus. I'll leave twenty four thousand dollars,

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00:32:15,520 --> 00:32:18,920
Speaker 1: which she called key money. Yeah. So they wanted key money,

567
00:32:19,200 --> 00:32:21,080
Speaker 1: twenty four K and key money. So she said she

568
00:32:21,120 --> 00:32:22,880
Speaker 1: didn't have twenty four k. And I was like trying

569
00:32:22,880 --> 00:32:24,680
Speaker 1: to figure out what year this was, and I was like,

570
00:32:25,200 --> 00:32:28,160
Speaker 1: it was like late seventies eighties, right, okay, because those

571
00:32:28,200 --> 00:32:30,680
Speaker 1: I mean, I think she means like liquid. You know,

572
00:32:33,520 --> 00:32:35,160
Speaker 1: I don't have that right now. I'd have to sell

573
00:32:35,200 --> 00:32:37,400
Speaker 1: some stocks or like you know, oh, I'd have to

574
00:32:37,400 --> 00:32:40,920
Speaker 1: talk to Todd. Yeah, and you'd have to talk to

575
00:32:40,600 --> 00:32:42,480
Speaker 1: it to Todd. And we're going to figure some few.

576
00:32:42,560 --> 00:32:45,000
Speaker 1: Can't just put it on your card. It's not like

577
00:32:45,720 --> 00:32:50,600
Speaker 1: certainly have the money, yes, um, okay, I want Okay.

578
00:32:50,640 --> 00:32:52,840
Speaker 1: So then at some point she goes this whole thing

579
00:32:52,880 --> 00:32:55,560
Speaker 1: about the okay, a the building Rose o'donna lived there.

580
00:32:55,840 --> 00:32:59,360
Speaker 1: She describes roseo O'Donnell as painting her apartment orange and

581
00:32:59,440 --> 00:33:02,840
Speaker 1: installing shelves for her collection of Happy Meal toys. No,

582
00:33:03,120 --> 00:33:07,520
Speaker 1: it's psycho lesbian horder. The orange is just so so

583
00:33:07,840 --> 00:33:12,520
Speaker 1: playtime lesbian clown. Lesbian clown, I mean me. But also

584
00:33:12,640 --> 00:33:16,160
Speaker 1: she's only being hamburglar. And that's where I'm not different

585
00:33:16,280 --> 00:33:18,720
Speaker 1: doll lesbian, because I'm not just like, no, you're not

586
00:33:18,800 --> 00:33:21,760
Speaker 1: being well, that's I mean, there's something so the repression

587
00:33:22,000 --> 00:33:26,040
Speaker 1: around the childhood, the childhood toy thing. I mean, it's

588
00:33:26,040 --> 00:33:28,560
Speaker 1: just a little too obvious. It's like, Okay, you're just

589
00:33:28,600 --> 00:33:33,480
Speaker 1: trying to recreate childhood and you like you desperately want

590
00:33:33,560 --> 00:33:37,200
Speaker 1: this like innocence, this innocence that you can never get back.

591
00:33:37,800 --> 00:33:41,080
Speaker 1: There isn't innocence of McDonald's. But I will say the

592
00:33:41,080 --> 00:33:42,920
Speaker 1: difference of what makes it a little bit like more

593
00:33:42,960 --> 00:33:45,680
Speaker 1: alternative and why it's being more lesbian is because it's

594
00:33:45,680 --> 00:33:49,600
Speaker 1: still hamburglar. So it's like adding the sense of danger

595
00:33:49,880 --> 00:33:52,640
Speaker 1: that's still like very candid, you know what I mean,

596
00:33:53,120 --> 00:33:56,400
Speaker 1: Like it's still being like I'm a little badass, Like so,

597
00:33:56,640 --> 00:33:58,840
Speaker 1: I mean, how many lesbians right now, do you you think

598
00:33:58,840 --> 00:34:03,960
Speaker 1: you're engaged in Hamburg GluR play? Where where the where?

599
00:34:04,000 --> 00:34:06,959
Speaker 1: The butch is putting on a little like Bendito, like

600
00:34:07,520 --> 00:34:14,440
Speaker 1: I'm ath okay, but she does this insane math of

601
00:34:14,560 --> 00:34:17,600
Speaker 1: how she going to afford this apartment that's so fabulous.

602
00:34:17,680 --> 00:34:20,560
Speaker 1: So she's like, well, I'm gonna I'm inna love this place,

603
00:34:20,600 --> 00:34:22,319
Speaker 1: so I'm gonna live there for the rest of my life.

604
00:34:22,360 --> 00:34:26,320
Speaker 1: So like twenty four thousand divided by like fifty years

605
00:34:26,480 --> 00:34:29,520
Speaker 1: is actually only like three hundred more a month, or

606
00:34:29,560 --> 00:34:34,200
Speaker 1: it's five cappuccinos a day and I don't even drink cappuccinos. Yeah,

607
00:34:33,680 --> 00:34:36,920
Speaker 1: it's it's just about dividing something by how much time

608
00:34:36,960 --> 00:34:38,640
Speaker 1: you're gonna be using it, which actually do find help.

609
00:34:38,640 --> 00:34:41,600
Speaker 1: But when I think about my Marjealous sweato, which did

610
00:34:41,680 --> 00:34:43,919
Speaker 1: cost me one hundred dollars like a few years ago.

611
00:34:44,000 --> 00:34:46,680
Speaker 1: I wear that sweater so often, and I'm like, the

612
00:34:46,840 --> 00:34:49,960
Speaker 1: where per use on that like that? I'm sure it's

613
00:34:49,960 --> 00:34:51,480
Speaker 1: like down to four bucks. And there's stuff that I

614
00:34:51,520 --> 00:34:53,200
Speaker 1: paid one hundred bucks for that I probably only more

615
00:34:53,200 --> 00:34:55,719
Speaker 1: and twice, So what's the better deal? I had to

616
00:34:55,760 --> 00:34:59,080
Speaker 1: pay key money for my sunken, and I was, so,

617
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Speaker 1: I roll partment that you currently live in the living room, right,

618
00:35:02,200 --> 00:35:07,040
Speaker 1: but I feel like it's back in Spain. I mean

619
00:35:07,400 --> 00:35:10,200
Speaker 1: just at the very least, all the events you find

620
00:35:11,520 --> 00:35:15,360
Speaker 1: and then party, the cultural and social cachet that you've gained,

621
00:35:15,360 --> 00:35:17,120
Speaker 1: and then I'm sorry all the liquor the people are

622
00:35:17,120 --> 00:35:19,640
Speaker 1: bringing over. Oh hello, no, I still have a bottle

623
00:35:19,640 --> 00:35:21,880
Speaker 1: of miscall I haven't even opened and someone brought from

624
00:35:21,920 --> 00:35:24,520
Speaker 1: my holiday party. So she rents it for three thousand

625
00:35:24,560 --> 00:35:27,440
Speaker 1: a month. Then they raise it to like ten k,

626
00:35:27,600 --> 00:35:29,279
Speaker 1: and she's like, I kiss can't do this anymore. So

627
00:35:29,360 --> 00:35:31,239
Speaker 1: I can't pay ten k and rent that's insane, so

628
00:35:31,239 --> 00:35:35,440
Speaker 1: I'm gonna buy. Um, how much do you think a

629
00:35:35,600 --> 00:35:39,680
Speaker 1: five bedroom at the Outhwarp is going for today? Today?

630
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Speaker 1: I think it's going for twelve point four million. You

631
00:35:48,320 --> 00:35:50,640
Speaker 1: are absolutely correct there, It isn't that range. There is

632
00:35:50,640 --> 00:35:52,239
Speaker 1: a five bed, six and a half bat that's five

633
00:35:52,280 --> 00:35:55,240
Speaker 1: thousand square feet going for eleven nine nine five right now. Okay,

634
00:35:55,400 --> 00:35:57,440
Speaker 1: there's also a twenty nine hundred square feet that's only

635
00:35:57,440 --> 00:36:01,160
Speaker 1: going for five to three huh um, And then what's

636
00:36:01,160 --> 00:36:03,879
Speaker 1: your idea about rent? Oh? For so it is because

637
00:36:03,880 --> 00:36:06,239
Speaker 1: there are. They're also doing rentals over there. Didn't she

638
00:36:06,360 --> 00:36:08,320
Speaker 1: say in the book it was going for like forty

639
00:36:08,360 --> 00:36:12,040
Speaker 1: thousand or people were paying forty thousand to get an

640
00:36:12,040 --> 00:36:16,440
Speaker 1: apartment and money than key money. I think now for

641
00:36:16,560 --> 00:36:20,960
Speaker 1: rent it's going for now. I think actually it is

642
00:36:21,000 --> 00:36:23,799
Speaker 1: going for like seventeen K a month. It's yea, yeah,

643
00:36:23,800 --> 00:36:27,920
Speaker 1: it's twenty five k. Wow. So Psycho, imagine renting apartment

644
00:36:27,960 --> 00:36:30,920
Speaker 1: for twenty five thousand dollars a month. Well, that's what

645
00:36:31,000 --> 00:36:33,200
Speaker 1: it's insanes what she says. If you're renting for twenty

646
00:36:33,200 --> 00:36:35,320
Speaker 1: five thousand dollars in among the why aren't she buying?

647
00:36:35,640 --> 00:36:37,520
Speaker 1: Because I mean, I get if it's like you're justin

648
00:36:37,560 --> 00:36:39,879
Speaker 1: Bieber and so you're just like, wow, yeah, I want

649
00:36:39,920 --> 00:36:41,880
Speaker 1: this for six I want this for six months. But

650
00:36:41,920 --> 00:36:43,400
Speaker 1: then you're not at the Althorpe. You're not in one

651
00:36:43,480 --> 00:36:45,400
Speaker 1: hundred and twenty third Okay. I was looking at the

652
00:36:45,440 --> 00:36:48,279
Speaker 1: list of famous people who've lived there. Jennifer Hudson, Oh,

653
00:36:48,360 --> 00:36:51,640
Speaker 1: I saw that Conan no Bran yeah with someone else,

654
00:36:51,719 --> 00:36:55,360
Speaker 1: really funny, I wonder, and it's like, how long was

655
00:36:55,440 --> 00:36:57,920
Speaker 1: Jay hud in there that? I feel like absolutely a

656
00:36:58,000 --> 00:36:59,719
Speaker 1: year and a half like that feels like maybe she

657
00:36:59,800 --> 00:37:02,040
Speaker 1: was like doing a Broadway show or something, yes, and

658
00:37:02,120 --> 00:37:06,680
Speaker 1: wanted to be just like just like easy, straight shot down. Yeah,

659
00:37:06,719 --> 00:37:09,920
Speaker 1: well so just to a tag on the Rosy o'donald thing,

660
00:37:09,920 --> 00:37:14,600
Speaker 1: which is also so lesbian, like Rosie Leaves, because like,

661
00:37:14,680 --> 00:37:18,759
Speaker 1: there's so many issues in Rosie's apartment. I think she

662
00:37:18,840 --> 00:37:23,040
Speaker 1: has like her washing machine is hooked up to her bathroom.

663
00:37:23,480 --> 00:37:26,480
Speaker 1: That was so disgusting and I was like gross, gross,

664
00:37:26,560 --> 00:37:30,000
Speaker 1: queer people actually need to all go to jail. I

665
00:37:30,040 --> 00:37:32,480
Speaker 1: was like, queer so discussing, I'm sure it's so fucking clutter.

666
00:37:32,520 --> 00:37:35,400
Speaker 1: There's couches everywhere, and she's got the washing machine connected

667
00:37:35,560 --> 00:37:38,239
Speaker 1: to the sink. You well, I don't think it was

668
00:37:38,280 --> 00:37:39,920
Speaker 1: like a tube to the stink, but it was like

669
00:37:40,000 --> 00:37:42,719
Speaker 1: running on the same pipe. Oh. I thought I was

670
00:37:42,760 --> 00:37:46,880
Speaker 1: one of those like so Bush Swing where you have

671
00:37:46,960 --> 00:37:50,800
Speaker 1: the like countertop dishwashing. Well just remember when our friend

672
00:37:50,840 --> 00:37:53,880
Speaker 1: wanted me to get a washing machine that connected to

673
00:37:53,920 --> 00:37:57,680
Speaker 1: my bathtub and I was like, no, I'm not gonna

674
00:37:57,719 --> 00:38:01,160
Speaker 1: have a huge washing machine that I for like one

675
00:38:01,360 --> 00:38:04,279
Speaker 1: ninety off market like Facebook marketplace, so I can wash

676
00:38:04,360 --> 00:38:06,400
Speaker 1: like two shirts at a time and then still have

677
00:38:06,480 --> 00:38:11,800
Speaker 1: to hang dry, not okay, not okay, at absolute mess.

678
00:38:11,840 --> 00:38:17,000
Speaker 1: She is a mess. Okay, Bill Clinton, Um, she hates

679
00:38:17,080 --> 00:38:21,320
Speaker 1: him because to gay people. Wait, that was the most

680
00:38:21,360 --> 00:38:24,719
Speaker 1: insane MSNBC mom thing ever, because it's just like all

681
00:38:25,280 --> 00:38:27,640
Speaker 1: MSNBC moms like, I still love Bill, but she was

682
00:38:27,640 --> 00:38:29,880
Speaker 1: just like the donuts don't tell was not okay. Now.

683
00:38:29,960 --> 00:38:32,160
Speaker 1: I was surprised by because I feel like most MSNBC

684
00:38:32,320 --> 00:38:35,200
Speaker 1: moms like that doesn't actually even really bother them that much.

685
00:38:35,280 --> 00:38:38,440
Speaker 1: They don't remember. They're like, it was the nineties, I

686
00:38:38,440 --> 00:38:41,680
Speaker 1: was raising kids, I had a job husband. I feel

687
00:38:41,719 --> 00:38:46,000
Speaker 1: like she probably had some conversation with Bailey Bailey or

688
00:38:46,040 --> 00:38:48,279
Speaker 1: a gay friend at a dinner party in nineteen ninety

689
00:38:48,320 --> 00:38:50,759
Speaker 1: three and it really made an impact on her, and

690
00:38:50,880 --> 00:38:55,080
Speaker 1: she was like she so moved. Wow. And I guess

691
00:38:55,160 --> 00:38:58,560
Speaker 1: Bill reached out to her and she was like not

692
00:38:58,719 --> 00:39:03,239
Speaker 1: all hypocrite. Wow, why don't you tell that war to stop? Yeah?

693
00:39:03,840 --> 00:39:08,640
Speaker 1: How about that? No more oil for war? It's like,

694
00:39:08,719 --> 00:39:11,799
Speaker 1: how yeah, okay, all the way off? Oh wait? Can

695
00:39:11,840 --> 00:39:16,160
Speaker 1: we quickly discuss some of her beauty yes regiment where okay,

696
00:39:16,200 --> 00:39:18,879
Speaker 1: just some really good quotes where she says, I'm never

697
00:39:18,960 --> 00:39:21,239
Speaker 1: going back to Africa. The last time I was there

698
00:39:21,239 --> 00:39:24,000
Speaker 1: in nineteen seventy two, there were no hairdressers in the bush.

699
00:39:24,040 --> 00:39:30,200
Speaker 1: Never again insane when she goes, I envy all Asian women.

700
00:39:31,120 --> 00:39:33,239
Speaker 1: Have you ever seen an Asian woman with bad hair?

701
00:39:33,600 --> 00:39:39,080
Speaker 1: No you haven't. She's just been like, oh my dried

702
00:39:39,840 --> 00:39:44,520
Speaker 1: juous hair, like not be like more insane, like miss

703
00:39:44,560 --> 00:39:47,279
Speaker 1: guided and miss NBC mom who's like added dinner. Just

704
00:39:47,320 --> 00:39:50,120
Speaker 1: being like so proud to say that she's anti Bill

705
00:39:50,160 --> 00:39:53,160
Speaker 1: Clinton because and then just going up to a renomation

706
00:39:53,239 --> 00:39:59,560
Speaker 1: woman going I love you, I love your life. I

707
00:39:59,600 --> 00:40:03,120
Speaker 1: want hair. Yeah, I would kill for it. I mean

708
00:40:03,120 --> 00:40:05,520
Speaker 1: that is me whenever I see any man that has

709
00:40:05,600 --> 00:40:08,879
Speaker 1: like the slightly long hair, I'm just like I'd kill

710
00:40:09,320 --> 00:40:12,280
Speaker 1: I'd kill kill, and in my next life I will Um.

711
00:40:12,320 --> 00:40:14,719
Speaker 1: She's just to always back up your files after she

712
00:40:14,800 --> 00:40:18,360
Speaker 1: calls herself a mouse potato, which is someone who spends

713
00:40:18,400 --> 00:40:20,399
Speaker 1: a lot of time on the computer. Oh, I did

714
00:40:20,400 --> 00:40:22,799
Speaker 1: love that. I was like mouse potato president accounting for

715
00:40:23,840 --> 00:40:26,239
Speaker 1: I did. Okay. Another one of her good things that

716
00:40:26,280 --> 00:40:29,360
Speaker 1: she does mention is like the cultural shift in parenting.

717
00:40:29,400 --> 00:40:33,200
Speaker 1: I thought that was a very accurate diagnosis. It's the

718
00:40:33,239 --> 00:40:35,719
Speaker 1: classic like we were raised. They said, you know, go

719
00:40:35,760 --> 00:40:38,640
Speaker 1: out and do whatever, and we were fine. And then

720
00:40:39,080 --> 00:40:43,120
Speaker 1: the classic helicopter books about parenting came in. She does

721
00:40:43,160 --> 00:40:44,919
Speaker 1: all of them, and she's like, I don't know team,

722
00:40:45,000 --> 00:40:47,279
Speaker 1: and it doesn't make a difference, like routine, still hate you,

723
00:40:47,480 --> 00:40:49,600
Speaker 1: and I just I remember, yeah, I remember seeing all

724
00:40:49,640 --> 00:40:53,560
Speaker 1: those books piled high, and my mom's like, chais in

725
00:40:53,600 --> 00:40:56,239
Speaker 1: her bedroom and just being like, bitch, this isn't gonna

726
00:40:56,239 --> 00:41:00,120
Speaker 1: do anything. I'm still gonna hate you. Be like that.

727
00:41:00,320 --> 00:41:02,760
Speaker 1: What was the iconic book? Oh, my team is driving

728
00:41:02,800 --> 00:41:11,200
Speaker 1: me crazy? Backtop what it is and how to stop it? Okay, Wait,

729
00:41:11,320 --> 00:41:15,040
Speaker 1: So then her JFK stories, she's interneting for JFK and

730
00:41:15,120 --> 00:41:17,799
Speaker 1: like this other girl comes forward to reveal she had

731
00:41:17,840 --> 00:41:20,919
Speaker 1: an affair, and part is so iconic. She's just like, well,

732
00:41:21,560 --> 00:41:24,480
Speaker 1: he never took an interest in me. He saw I

733
00:41:24,520 --> 00:41:27,640
Speaker 1: saw him once. He was leaving the White House to

734
00:41:27,640 --> 00:41:30,799
Speaker 1: get on Air Force one or like the helicopter, and

735
00:41:30,880 --> 00:41:33,719
Speaker 1: like the helicopter was so loud, and she goes and

736
00:41:33,760 --> 00:41:36,000
Speaker 1: I think he said something like how is it going?

737
00:41:36,640 --> 00:41:39,440
Speaker 1: And then I just said what and then he just

738
00:41:39,520 --> 00:41:42,239
Speaker 1: walked away. And it's so iconic rom com like she's

739
00:41:42,239 --> 00:41:44,479
Speaker 1: being so the Bridge Jones. But she also was like, well,

740
00:41:44,520 --> 00:41:47,160
Speaker 1: maybe JFK didn't hook up with me because I'm Jewish,

741
00:41:47,440 --> 00:41:52,240
Speaker 1: just saying yeah, just look at the list of everyone

742
00:41:52,280 --> 00:41:54,279
Speaker 1: else he hooked up with, just saying yeah, I'm just

743
00:41:54,480 --> 00:41:58,319
Speaker 1: saying we didn't hook up. Just funny because you know

744
00:41:58,480 --> 00:42:02,640
Speaker 1: that's the most famous hook up Bill Clinton, Monica Lewinsky,

745
00:42:03,239 --> 00:42:07,080
Speaker 1: Very true, Monica Lewinsky. Yes, I was gonna say of

746
00:42:07,320 --> 00:42:12,320
Speaker 1: you know, shifting things. You know, I know now is

747
00:42:12,360 --> 00:42:18,640
Speaker 1: absolutely getting yeah, getting um. I the end of the

748
00:42:19,200 --> 00:42:22,120
Speaker 1: end of this book absolutely made me cry. Oh my god,

749
00:42:22,160 --> 00:42:26,320
Speaker 1: I was. I literally I moved my car this morning sobbing.

750
00:42:26,960 --> 00:42:30,720
Speaker 1: It's so touching. You know, she she talks about death

751
00:42:30,840 --> 00:42:33,560
Speaker 1: and she just has this really poignant way she she

752
00:42:33,640 --> 00:42:36,840
Speaker 1: kind of gets into it by disgusting like all the

753
00:42:36,880 --> 00:42:38,759
Speaker 1: other writing about death out there, and has so much

754
00:42:38,760 --> 00:42:40,880
Speaker 1: like magazine writing, which she's you know, world She's been

755
00:42:40,880 --> 00:42:42,600
Speaker 1: a part of her so long as always saying like

756
00:42:43,080 --> 00:42:44,920
Speaker 1: isn't it great age, and like you know, now you

757
00:42:44,960 --> 00:42:47,400
Speaker 1: really know who you are? And great you know, sixty

758
00:42:47,400 --> 00:42:49,040
Speaker 1: five is the new seventy five. You know, all these

759
00:42:49,160 --> 00:42:53,040
Speaker 1: kind of like little aphorisms and like aging Woman liked,

760
00:42:53,120 --> 00:42:54,600
Speaker 1: and she was like, can we write a real thing.

761
00:42:54,680 --> 00:42:57,000
Speaker 1: It's so this part is so sad, but it is

762
00:42:57,040 --> 00:43:00,319
Speaker 1: just like think about aging and you start hearing about

763
00:43:00,320 --> 00:43:04,640
Speaker 1: everyone's problems, and basically her best friends like oral cancer,

764
00:43:04,840 --> 00:43:06,840
Speaker 1: oral cancer, and like lump on her she had a

765
00:43:06,880 --> 00:43:08,719
Speaker 1: lump on her tongue. And then a year later she

766
00:43:08,800 --> 00:43:10,920
Speaker 1: was gone, and like she didn't want everyone to know

767
00:43:11,280 --> 00:43:14,000
Speaker 1: and do a whole thing. And then six years later

768
00:43:14,080 --> 00:43:16,640
Speaker 1: Nora Ephron dies, Well you know what's insane. So and

769
00:43:16,680 --> 00:43:19,440
Speaker 1: she also did it. She was diagnosed the year this

770
00:43:19,480 --> 00:43:21,279
Speaker 1: book came out. So I think that like as she

771
00:43:21,360 --> 00:43:24,840
Speaker 1: was writing this, she was maybe like she had maybe

772
00:43:24,880 --> 00:43:27,000
Speaker 1: just found out, and so I was kind of thinking

773
00:43:27,040 --> 00:43:28,759
Speaker 1: about this as whether there's like oh she I think

774
00:43:28,800 --> 00:43:32,280
Speaker 1: she like that's partly what's imbuing this with like so

775
00:43:32,360 --> 00:43:36,239
Speaker 1: much weight is because yeah, not only her friends dying

776
00:43:36,280 --> 00:43:38,439
Speaker 1: and her best friend just died, but she's like thinking

777
00:43:38,480 --> 00:43:40,560
Speaker 1: about her own mortality in this way. And she's like

778
00:43:41,280 --> 00:43:43,799
Speaker 1: even more so because like she just got this diagnosis,

779
00:43:43,960 --> 00:43:46,799
Speaker 1: because she says she admires her friend Henry, who had

780
00:43:46,880 --> 00:43:51,120
Speaker 1: like maculated duration or something, but like didn't let on

781
00:43:52,160 --> 00:43:53,879
Speaker 1: he had like a really bad cataract, but like didn't

782
00:43:53,920 --> 00:43:57,799
Speaker 1: tell people. Yeah, it's very she's admiring that stoicism and

783
00:43:57,880 --> 00:44:00,440
Speaker 1: just like no going on with your life and just

784
00:44:00,520 --> 00:44:03,560
Speaker 1: living in which I think it's like pros and cons

785
00:44:03,680 --> 00:44:06,040
Speaker 1: to be like I'm going to live my life and

786
00:44:06,120 --> 00:44:07,960
Speaker 1: not tell anyone. It's actually fair. The plot of that

787
00:44:07,960 --> 00:44:13,319
Speaker 1: film The Farewell, Yeah you haven't seen. I mean she's

788
00:44:13,560 --> 00:44:16,200
Speaker 1: saying about like, if you get like cancer, you don't

789
00:44:16,360 --> 00:44:19,840
Speaker 1: like tell because you don't want people to just like

790
00:44:19,920 --> 00:44:22,440
Speaker 1: constantly be like pitying you and be sad for you

791
00:44:22,480 --> 00:44:24,799
Speaker 1: and like to live life. Because she talks about like

792
00:44:24,800 --> 00:44:26,600
Speaker 1: how you're supposed to have this conversation with friends about

793
00:44:26,600 --> 00:44:28,320
Speaker 1: what they would want like in the end event of

794
00:44:28,360 --> 00:44:30,160
Speaker 1: their death and like living will and all this stuff.

795
00:44:31,000 --> 00:44:32,920
Speaker 1: She goes, but before you get sick, you've absolutely no

796
00:44:32,920 --> 00:44:34,200
Speaker 1: idea of how you're going to feel. Once you do.

797
00:44:34,360 --> 00:44:36,160
Speaker 1: You can imagine you'll be brave, but it's just as

798
00:44:36,160 --> 00:44:38,759
Speaker 1: possible you'll be terrified. You can hope that you'll find

799
00:44:38,760 --> 00:44:41,160
Speaker 1: a way to accept death, but you could just easily

800
00:44:41,480 --> 00:44:43,719
Speaker 1: end up raging against it. You have no idea how

801
00:44:43,760 --> 00:44:45,879
Speaker 1: your particular prognosis is going to be or how you'll

802
00:44:45,920 --> 00:44:47,920
Speaker 1: react to it or what options you'll have. You'll have

803
00:44:47,960 --> 00:44:50,920
Speaker 1: no clue whether you'll even know the truth about your prognosis,

804
00:44:50,960 --> 00:44:52,759
Speaker 1: because the real question is what is the truth and

805
00:44:52,800 --> 00:44:54,680
Speaker 1: who is going to tell us? And are we even

806
00:44:54,760 --> 00:44:56,960
Speaker 1: going to want to hear it? Like that to me

807
00:44:57,040 --> 00:44:59,799
Speaker 1: is really I think she's grappley without herself. And no,

808
00:45:00,040 --> 00:45:03,360
Speaker 1: it made me like so scared of like death and everything,

809
00:45:03,400 --> 00:45:06,160
Speaker 1: because it's like, yes, there are obviously things you can

810
00:45:06,200 --> 00:45:08,480
Speaker 1: for rent, but just like being a teenager, it's like,

811
00:45:08,920 --> 00:45:10,720
Speaker 1: I don't know, we could all get like the most

812
00:45:10,800 --> 00:45:15,440
Speaker 1: random diagnosis of just like lip cancer or whatever at

813
00:45:15,480 --> 00:45:19,879
Speaker 1: like sixty eight. You know, it's like a crapshoot. Life

814
00:45:19,920 --> 00:45:22,200
Speaker 1: is an absolute crapshoot, and so you have to enjoy

815
00:45:22,280 --> 00:45:24,600
Speaker 1: what you can and you know, and make a will.

816
00:45:25,320 --> 00:45:29,040
Speaker 1: Our high school emails my sister every single week about

817
00:45:29,040 --> 00:45:31,759
Speaker 1: writing a will and how they have a will workshop

818
00:45:31,880 --> 00:45:34,360
Speaker 1: programs really in saying I know, they're like, do you

819
00:45:34,360 --> 00:45:36,320
Speaker 1: want to write a living will? I mean, I've already

820
00:45:36,360 --> 00:45:38,799
Speaker 1: made my death plan, as you know, I'm gonna We

821
00:45:38,880 --> 00:45:43,680
Speaker 1: talked about that lounge, the part where Judy says when

822
00:45:43,680 --> 00:45:46,759
Speaker 1: they're talking and Judy's like I don't want to die.

823
00:45:46,920 --> 00:45:49,960
Speaker 1: Judy said, I believe in miracles. She said, I love you.

824
00:45:50,000 --> 00:45:52,480
Speaker 1: She said, can you believe this? She said no, I

825
00:45:52,520 --> 00:45:54,960
Speaker 1: can't believe it. I still can't believe it. Let's not

826
00:45:55,000 --> 00:45:56,839
Speaker 1: be more of it. Let's put little smiley faces on

827
00:45:56,840 --> 00:45:59,280
Speaker 1: our faces. L O L eat, drink and be merry

828
00:45:59,320 --> 00:46:01,320
Speaker 1: sees the day life goes on. It could be worse

829
00:46:01,600 --> 00:46:04,799
Speaker 1: than the other popular consider the alternative. And meanwhile, here

830
00:46:04,840 --> 00:46:07,560
Speaker 1: we are what is to be done? I don't know.

831
00:46:08,080 --> 00:46:11,879
Speaker 1: I hope that's clear. So take this an go hunt

832
00:46:11,880 --> 00:46:17,000
Speaker 1: down the hungarian casserole. You want, make a meal that's

833
00:46:17,040 --> 00:46:22,480
Speaker 1: too complicated, regret it, another one simpler. Then find your

834
00:46:22,480 --> 00:46:24,279
Speaker 1: own way to make a meal, and you'll realize maybe

835
00:46:24,280 --> 00:46:26,160
Speaker 1: it's a combination of the two. Maybe it's some other

836
00:46:26,200 --> 00:46:28,960
Speaker 1: third thing that you go to Vegas with your girlfriends.

837
00:46:29,560 --> 00:46:31,000
Speaker 1: She's like, I don't know if you want. You're supposed

838
00:46:31,000 --> 00:46:32,719
Speaker 1: to live every day because your last we're supposed to save.

839
00:46:32,760 --> 00:46:36,360
Speaker 1: And it's like, do both do it all? Have five cappuccinos,

840
00:46:36,480 --> 00:46:40,719
Speaker 1: buy an apartment, invest but also spend all your money. Yes,

841
00:46:40,880 --> 00:46:45,759
Speaker 1: absolutely invest and contact us for stockbroker recommendations. But it

842
00:46:45,880 --> 00:46:48,560
Speaker 1: is I don't know. Yeah it is, there's no answer.

843
00:46:49,400 --> 00:46:51,279
Speaker 1: You know. She talks about the front and Henry has

844
00:46:51,320 --> 00:46:52,719
Speaker 1: been one of the good ones. It's like he dies

845
00:46:52,760 --> 00:46:54,759
Speaker 1: at eighty two, and so we have this thing where

846
00:46:54,760 --> 00:46:57,680
Speaker 1: we're like, well, if you die in your eighties year old,

847
00:46:57,800 --> 00:46:59,880
Speaker 1: but it's like nor Afron, but if you die like

848
00:47:00,400 --> 00:47:02,640
Speaker 1: she's just seventy wine or seventy one, it's like, oh,

849
00:47:02,680 --> 00:47:04,439
Speaker 1: it's like that's what you don't want. And I feel

850
00:47:04,440 --> 00:47:05,719
Speaker 1: like I have this fear. I have this speak fore

851
00:47:05,800 --> 00:47:08,239
Speaker 1: dine at fifty eight, but I feel like anything that

852
00:47:08,239 --> 00:47:11,000
Speaker 1: fifty five to seventy five range like feels like a failure.

853
00:47:11,520 --> 00:47:13,440
Speaker 1: That's like when people are like he was so I mean,

854
00:47:13,560 --> 00:47:15,439
Speaker 1: that's I feel like what people would always say, which

855
00:47:15,480 --> 00:47:18,080
Speaker 1: is so like actually kind of like weird to hear

856
00:47:18,120 --> 00:47:20,399
Speaker 1: about my dad. They'd be like, oh, he's so young.

857
00:47:20,520 --> 00:47:23,160
Speaker 1: You're like, well, You're like it's not that young. But

858
00:47:23,280 --> 00:47:26,040
Speaker 1: like then you're like, oh, well, now I'm thinking like

859
00:47:26,120 --> 00:47:29,120
Speaker 1: it is too young. Yeah, yeah, no, I think the

860
00:47:29,160 --> 00:47:31,880
Speaker 1: fifty and especially and if it starts to happen and

861
00:47:31,920 --> 00:47:34,520
Speaker 1: if you get the and you know, you get the

862
00:47:34,640 --> 00:47:38,920
Speaker 1: prognosis because everyone gets cancer. Now, like, what are you

863
00:47:38,960 --> 00:47:41,319
Speaker 1: gonna do, you know, and then you and then you'll

864
00:47:41,320 --> 00:47:43,560
Speaker 1: start to feel like this this sat is in the regretting,

865
00:47:43,760 --> 00:47:46,359
Speaker 1: Oh Judy died in the worst way. I mean, yeah,

866
00:47:46,520 --> 00:47:48,040
Speaker 1: how was that she'd had in the worst way? It

867
00:47:48,080 --> 00:47:51,320
Speaker 1: was so sad. I don't know. I keep saying that

868
00:47:51,360 --> 00:47:52,719
Speaker 1: if I ever get cancer, I just want to move

869
00:47:52,719 --> 00:47:55,440
Speaker 1: to Sardinia and drink wine and no kind of live

870
00:47:55,480 --> 00:47:57,640
Speaker 1: it out and live it out, and maybe it'll be

871
00:47:57,640 --> 00:47:59,560
Speaker 1: one of those stories where it's like and he lived

872
00:47:59,560 --> 00:48:02,000
Speaker 1: for forty more years or something, you know, Yeah, I

873
00:48:02,040 --> 00:48:04,480
Speaker 1: mean I think it always depends on also, like what

874
00:48:04,560 --> 00:48:06,920
Speaker 1: you get, and you'll never and exactly you'll never know.

875
00:48:07,239 --> 00:48:09,560
Speaker 1: I mean, you know, my dad had my aloma, which

876
00:48:09,600 --> 00:48:12,200
Speaker 1: is a blood cancer like Nora gott Oh she got

877
00:48:12,239 --> 00:48:14,799
Speaker 1: also the same thing. It wasn't he had, but it

878
00:48:14,880 --> 00:48:17,560
Speaker 1: was I believe it was a blood cancer like leukemia,

879
00:48:17,680 --> 00:48:20,760
Speaker 1: like one of something like that. And I feel like

880
00:48:21,080 --> 00:48:24,879
Speaker 1: so like it's done. And then now you know, over

881
00:48:24,920 --> 00:48:28,920
Speaker 1: ten years in remission building building a deck. He's building

882
00:48:28,960 --> 00:48:33,520
Speaker 1: a deck. So you never know, and you have to

883
00:48:33,560 --> 00:48:36,600
Speaker 1: be grateful and be so thankful and wake up every

884
00:48:36,680 --> 00:48:41,960
Speaker 1: day every day choosing life, choosing life and screaming um

885
00:48:42,080 --> 00:48:46,840
Speaker 1: aphorisms about gratitude out your window, out your gorgeous windows

886
00:48:46,840 --> 00:48:51,359
Speaker 1: of the anthrope, out of your apartment. That's ten dollars

887
00:48:51,520 --> 00:49:00,840
Speaker 1: a month, Hey, club kids. This week on the vip Lounge,

888
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889
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890
00:49:11,920 --> 00:49:15,960
Speaker 1: like cousin oriented because and I said it's before heterosexual

891
00:49:16,000 --> 00:49:22,560
Speaker 1: culture is incredibly cousin oriented. Likes abased with. It's literally

892
00:49:22,560 --> 00:49:25,279
Speaker 1: cousin nations. Shapeluss with being friends with their cousins, knowing

893
00:49:25,320 --> 00:49:28,040
Speaker 1: their cousins, seeing their cousins, being with their cousins, that

894
00:49:28,160 --> 00:49:32,680
Speaker 1: their kids know their cousins kids. It's very just like, oh,

895
00:49:32,719 --> 00:49:35,279
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897
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898
00:49:46,200 --> 00:49:48,120
Speaker 1: she live? What does she eat? What does she wear?

899
00:49:48,920 --> 00:49:54,200
Speaker 1: What does she wear? She's so like scarves BA. Sorry,

900
00:49:54,600 --> 00:49:57,560
Speaker 1: black just works. Yeah. I put on a pair of

901
00:49:57,600 --> 00:50:02,320
Speaker 1: black slacks and a black turtleneck and I just look amazing.

902
00:50:02,560 --> 00:50:04,520
Speaker 1: I were black even when I'm in los Angele, Oh

903
00:50:04,600 --> 00:50:07,239
Speaker 1: my god. No. Best thing is she's like my girlfriend.

904
00:50:07,360 --> 00:50:09,440
Speaker 1: We went on this whole trip for her to get

905
00:50:09,480 --> 00:50:12,200
Speaker 1: a purse, and you wouldn't believe the purse cost twenty

906
00:50:13,000 --> 00:50:15,760
Speaker 1: plus air fare. Well, the purse I use, she literally

907
00:50:15,800 --> 00:50:18,360
Speaker 1: describes the Susan. I feel like it is a Susan

908
00:50:18,400 --> 00:50:21,799
Speaker 1: Alexandra Parse. She gets like a MetroCard purse. But she

909
00:50:21,840 --> 00:50:24,279
Speaker 1: gets it at the transit museum. Yes, and she goes

910
00:50:24,320 --> 00:50:26,759
Speaker 1: and people always stop it and they say, where'd you

911
00:50:26,800 --> 00:50:31,680
Speaker 1: get that? And I say, the transportation Museum. And my

912
00:50:31,719 --> 00:50:38,080
Speaker 1: twenty five dollars went to preserving Preserving transportation is to

913
00:50:38,239 --> 00:50:43,279
Speaker 1: helping She's into helping improve the greatest subway system in

914
00:50:43,320 --> 00:50:48,040
Speaker 1: the world and making it even better. Thank you very much.

915
00:50:50,440 --> 00:50:52,360
Speaker 1: Here's the thing. If it was never in style, I

916
00:50:52,440 --> 00:50:56,120
Speaker 1: can't go out of style. Um yeah, I mean she

917
00:50:56,520 --> 00:51:02,440
Speaker 1: is a fabulous upper woman. I think she has like

918
00:51:02,480 --> 00:51:04,560
Speaker 1: a little pair of like Nike shocks that she like

919
00:51:04,600 --> 00:51:07,680
Speaker 1: wears to go to the Korean but like is usually

920
00:51:07,680 --> 00:51:10,920
Speaker 1: in more of like a it's just like a blue

921
00:51:10,960 --> 00:51:14,160
Speaker 1: sweater and a black sweater and like, but I feel

922
00:51:14,200 --> 00:51:16,200
Speaker 1: like she's saying that she hate hates evening banks. So

923
00:51:16,280 --> 00:51:18,520
Speaker 1: she's like not being so heels and I think she's

924
00:51:18,560 --> 00:51:20,880
Speaker 1: being more flats. Yeah, I mean, does she have a

925
00:51:20,920 --> 00:51:23,160
Speaker 1: pair of maybe has some kitten heels that she's like

926
00:51:23,160 --> 00:51:24,799
Speaker 1: worn to the oscars. But I think it's like she

927
00:51:24,960 --> 00:51:27,160
Speaker 1: is a mouse potato like it is a little more

928
00:51:27,200 --> 00:51:31,399
Speaker 1: like she comfort. Yeah, and she's like obviously so many

929
00:51:31,440 --> 00:51:34,560
Speaker 1: slippers and like she's getting a lot of slippers, maybe

930
00:51:34,600 --> 00:51:40,439
Speaker 1: some lower Piana sweaters, like stunning cashmere sweaters. But she's

931
00:51:40,440 --> 00:51:43,160
Speaker 1: also random and she's still like very Manhattan in the

932
00:51:43,200 --> 00:51:45,440
Speaker 1: way where she is going to Bloomingdales and she's going

933
00:51:45,480 --> 00:51:47,640
Speaker 1: to ZiT o'ma and like that's what I'm saying, like

934
00:51:47,680 --> 00:51:50,440
Speaker 1: being like lower Piana, like is getting like a Kashmere sweater,

935
00:51:51,200 --> 00:51:54,640
Speaker 1: going to Bloomingdale's, picking up a few things, picking up

936
00:51:54,680 --> 00:51:59,839
Speaker 1: some prescriptions Aaron's. Is there anything when you live in

937
00:52:00,400 --> 00:52:03,360
Speaker 1: I want to live in Manhattan. No, I know Aaron's

938
00:52:03,520 --> 00:52:11,960
Speaker 1: not in Manhattan or so yeah there absolutely dreadful, Um

939
00:52:12,040 --> 00:52:15,400
Speaker 1: what does she eats? I mean she's being so like

940
00:52:15,560 --> 00:52:18,640
Speaker 1: I never die, but obviously she's so insane in portions

941
00:52:18,640 --> 00:52:20,440
Speaker 1: and like has this whole thing about being like I

942
00:52:20,600 --> 00:52:22,759
Speaker 1: entered college at one hundred and six pounds. When I

943
00:52:22,800 --> 00:52:24,960
Speaker 1: came out, I was one hundred and twenty six pounds. Yeah,

944
00:52:25,000 --> 00:52:26,799
Speaker 1: well I'm back to one hundred and ten and I'm

945
00:52:26,840 --> 00:52:28,719
Speaker 1: writing this. It's like, oh, and then she's just like

946
00:52:28,719 --> 00:52:30,479
Speaker 1: and I can't wait to tell that, like fat girl

947
00:52:30,480 --> 00:52:33,279
Speaker 1: who called me fat like in college, but like I've

948
00:52:33,360 --> 00:52:36,279
Speaker 1: thinner than her now. I mean I think she's very

949
00:52:36,320 --> 00:52:39,879
Speaker 1: every like just normal person, just being like, oh, I'm like,

950
00:52:40,200 --> 00:52:42,960
Speaker 1: now I feel fat, so I'm gonna eat less. But

951
00:52:43,000 --> 00:52:45,359
Speaker 1: I'm still doing like roast chicken at home. And it's

952
00:52:45,480 --> 00:52:48,479
Speaker 1: very new recipes in the New York Times. Obviously she's

953
00:52:48,480 --> 00:52:50,719
Speaker 1: got the Times on and I've had in every room,

954
00:52:50,840 --> 00:52:53,480
Speaker 1: every single room. And I was like, she's like, you know,

955
00:52:53,640 --> 00:52:56,840
Speaker 1: calling restaurants, you know the famous China Pearl restaurant for

956
00:52:56,920 --> 00:53:00,279
Speaker 1: their or you know their lemon chicken. The recipe. I

957
00:53:00,360 --> 00:53:02,160
Speaker 1: looked up the restaurant in closed in twenty twenty two.

958
00:53:02,560 --> 00:53:07,200
Speaker 1: We lost so many restaurants, But I think we should

959
00:53:07,239 --> 00:53:09,879
Speaker 1: compete or maybe we could do it together to make

960
00:53:09,920 --> 00:53:13,759
Speaker 1: the lemon chicken. Does it pretty complicated? Okay? I have

961
00:53:13,760 --> 00:53:17,080
Speaker 1: to like fry it in like water chestnut flower, and

962
00:53:17,160 --> 00:53:21,560
Speaker 1: I'm like Okay, now we're shopping for water flower. They

963
00:53:21,600 --> 00:53:26,120
Speaker 1: don't where they shop for water just in flower. Okay, yeah,

964
00:53:26,120 --> 00:53:27,719
Speaker 1: I mean I love the idea of us making this

965
00:53:27,760 --> 00:53:32,040
Speaker 1: competitive lemon chicken. How does she live? Um? I think

966
00:53:32,080 --> 00:53:37,240
Speaker 1: there's definitely a Buddha in there. Absolutely a few. Yeah,

967
00:53:37,280 --> 00:53:41,240
Speaker 1: and there's like a fun pewter elephant from trip to India.

968
00:53:41,360 --> 00:53:44,360
Speaker 1: There's a fun oh yeah, there was wooden like cheetah

969
00:53:44,440 --> 00:53:46,840
Speaker 1: from the one time too went to Africa. She's not

970
00:53:46,920 --> 00:53:50,879
Speaker 1: going back. They don't have a hair dress. Wait. Um,

971
00:53:51,160 --> 00:53:53,120
Speaker 1: this is like books, books, books and paper back in

972
00:53:53,160 --> 00:53:55,640
Speaker 1: the day, but this is when she's talking about changing

973
00:53:55,719 --> 00:53:58,160
Speaker 1: her style. I immediately got a divorced and gave my

974
00:53:58,239 --> 00:54:00,239
Speaker 1: husband all the furniture and began to make a study

975
00:54:00,280 --> 00:54:01,960
Speaker 1: of Lee Bailey. I bought the chairs. He told me

976
00:54:02,000 --> 00:54:03,960
Speaker 1: to buy the round dining room table. That seemed to

977
00:54:04,000 --> 00:54:07,880
Speaker 1: be a part of the secret. She like gets white plates.

978
00:54:07,960 --> 00:54:09,759
Speaker 1: There's a pier where she like gets a little more

979
00:54:09,760 --> 00:54:13,200
Speaker 1: preppy and like gets beige furniture and like throws out.

980
00:54:13,440 --> 00:54:16,360
Speaker 1: I owed a collection of brightly painted wooden Mexican animals.

981
00:54:16,520 --> 00:54:19,719
Speaker 1: I had red plates in a shag rug um and

982
00:54:19,760 --> 00:54:21,480
Speaker 1: then she like throws them out. So I think she

983
00:54:21,640 --> 00:54:24,319
Speaker 1: does do like fun reynots where she is like going

984
00:54:24,400 --> 00:54:28,440
Speaker 1: to want to throw out my furniture and stuff. I

985
00:54:28,440 --> 00:54:31,399
Speaker 1: also this book made me want to get divorced. Oh,

986
00:54:31,560 --> 00:54:33,880
Speaker 1: I know the way she mentions it so Cauchy was

987
00:54:33,920 --> 00:54:36,000
Speaker 1: so fabulous that you don't even know which to where

988
00:54:36,040 --> 00:54:39,320
Speaker 1: she's talking. It's like, if I'm not on my third

989
00:54:39,360 --> 00:54:42,879
Speaker 1: marriage by the time, I'm this is the problem with

990
00:54:43,160 --> 00:54:45,879
Speaker 1: our generation, right if this was back in the day,

991
00:54:46,000 --> 00:54:51,680
Speaker 1: we both would literally but we're just saying our ex

992
00:54:51,800 --> 00:54:55,680
Speaker 1: instead boring as that not to be like, well, after

993
00:54:55,760 --> 00:55:00,440
Speaker 1: my first marriage absolutely fell apart. Yeah, I went to

994
00:55:00,480 --> 00:55:04,560
Speaker 1: France and I threw out that rug and now it's

995
00:55:04,560 --> 00:55:07,440
Speaker 1: just it's just been like, well I got rid of

996
00:55:07,480 --> 00:55:13,680
Speaker 1: his old MacBook. He was a total mouse potato. It

997
00:55:13,840 --> 00:55:18,480
Speaker 1: was a mouse potato. Okay, who are you in the book?

998
00:55:19,480 --> 00:55:21,560
Speaker 1: I mean, I'm not Lee Bailey because they don't have

999
00:55:21,600 --> 00:55:25,680
Speaker 1: the round table. No, I think you're much more Nora

1000
00:55:25,800 --> 00:55:35,680
Speaker 1: Afron post first divorce, making a Brazilian Yeah, national dish,

1001
00:55:35,719 --> 00:55:38,120
Speaker 1: and I'm like trying to find my Lee Bailey self.

1002
00:55:38,160 --> 00:55:43,080
Speaker 1: But you know, I'm I'm I'm you're buying sear sucker Napkins. Yeah,

1003
00:55:43,120 --> 00:55:46,880
Speaker 1: and you're posting this your sucker napkins. Yeah. You know,

1004
00:55:46,960 --> 00:55:49,719
Speaker 1: I think I'm on my journey, but I definitely like

1005
00:55:50,120 --> 00:55:52,960
Speaker 1: relate to all of her, like you know, New York

1006
00:55:53,040 --> 00:55:55,880
Speaker 1: media neurosis and being like, wait, I want to like

1007
00:55:56,000 --> 00:55:58,560
Speaker 1: be like this person, but I also want to do

1008
00:55:58,640 --> 00:56:02,120
Speaker 1: this thing right, but I want to make this meal.

1009
00:56:03,160 --> 00:56:04,640
Speaker 1: I mean, it was just being like I was just

1010
00:56:04,640 --> 00:56:06,560
Speaker 1: like scheduling my dinner party. I'm like, it has to happen.

1011
00:56:06,880 --> 00:56:09,280
Speaker 1: I mean, you're the last. Like I think I'm more

1012
00:56:09,440 --> 00:56:12,880
Speaker 1: I'm making the Brazilian national dish and you're more buying

1013
00:56:13,360 --> 00:56:17,880
Speaker 1: the napkins and like calling mister Lee for his lemon

1014
00:56:17,960 --> 00:56:24,759
Speaker 1: chicken recipe, like calling the famous restaurant, Oh interesting. Well,

1015
00:56:24,840 --> 00:56:27,080
Speaker 1: I think I'm being a little more in a lesbian

1016
00:56:27,120 --> 00:56:30,359
Speaker 1: bartender at Rollos, being like how did you make that?

1017
00:56:30,480 --> 00:56:33,480
Speaker 1: Like Amortos hour, Yes, And I feel like I'm a

1018
00:56:33,480 --> 00:56:35,560
Speaker 1: little more just like, oh, I bought like a massive

1019
00:56:35,600 --> 00:56:37,719
Speaker 1: piece of meat and I need to compress. People buy

1020
00:56:37,719 --> 00:56:40,680
Speaker 1: this like Brazilian dish, right, So I guess we're different.

1021
00:56:40,719 --> 00:56:44,879
Speaker 1: Nora's different, noras Um. I give this book absolutely five

1022
00:56:44,880 --> 00:56:47,600
Speaker 1: out of five. Give it five out of five. It's

1023
00:56:47,920 --> 00:56:50,640
Speaker 1: just it's Bible. I'm sure it was. It really is Bible.

1024
00:56:50,840 --> 00:56:53,759
Speaker 1: I'm sure you can. I'm sure it's on your mom's shelf.

1025
00:56:53,840 --> 00:56:57,040
Speaker 1: Go grab it, go home, read it in a few hours.

1026
00:56:57,400 --> 00:57:00,759
Speaker 1: It's cozy up. It's a really beautiful Literally, I was

1027
00:57:00,760 --> 00:57:03,840
Speaker 1: so inspired also as a writer. As a writer, no,

1028
00:57:04,000 --> 00:57:08,080
Speaker 1: I was actually also inspired by because she's being so writer,

1029
00:57:09,000 --> 00:57:12,600
Speaker 1: but she's really really like, um, she injects the personal

1030
00:57:12,719 --> 00:57:14,799
Speaker 1: way that is so I mean, it is like a personality,

1031
00:57:14,800 --> 00:57:20,160
Speaker 1: but it's like it just feels so natural and like unpretentious,

1032
00:57:20,200 --> 00:57:24,520
Speaker 1: makes writing look easy. I went but I literally after

1033
00:57:24,720 --> 00:57:26,640
Speaker 1: we finished this last night, I went back and I

1034
00:57:26,680 --> 00:57:29,440
Speaker 1: like completely rewrote this piece that I've been working on um,

1035
00:57:29,640 --> 00:57:32,320
Speaker 1: and I was like, I put a lot more of

1036
00:57:32,360 --> 00:57:36,400
Speaker 1: myself into it. But it was actually I felt like

1037
00:57:36,400 --> 00:57:38,600
Speaker 1: it was it didn't feel forced at all, and it

1038
00:57:38,680 --> 00:57:40,680
Speaker 1: felt like natural and the piece got like so much

1039
00:57:40,680 --> 00:57:42,760
Speaker 1: funnier and I just like I was so much happier

1040
00:57:42,760 --> 00:57:44,520
Speaker 1: with that. It was like completely inspired by Nora. I

1041
00:57:44,560 --> 00:57:46,600
Speaker 1: just been like, you can just like say this and

1042
00:57:46,640 --> 00:57:49,040
Speaker 1: it doesn't have to be so like and then the

1043
00:57:49,080 --> 00:57:52,600
Speaker 1: academic parts will sound even smarter because you're just being like, yeah,

1044
00:57:52,640 --> 00:57:54,840
Speaker 1: this is the idea, like let's just be funny and

1045
00:57:54,960 --> 00:57:58,320
Speaker 1: come out real. She has like a really really straightforward

1046
00:57:58,360 --> 00:58:00,800
Speaker 1: way of writing that. Well, I think that's the wrong

1047
00:58:00,880 --> 00:58:03,680
Speaker 1: common her because of the way like rom coms are formatted.

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Speaker 1: Harry Met Sally is such a brilliant meditation on desire,

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Speaker 1: and I think it gets to so much like so

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Speaker 1: many people's like real anxieties and neurosis about how they're

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Speaker 1: is When Harry Met Sally. Wow. I mean that movie

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Speaker 1: is like structured, structured boots. So well, that's wonderful to

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Speaker 1: hear about your peace. Maybe you can tell me about

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Speaker 1: I have to invite Hannah gold so you might not

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Speaker 1: frantically texting Hanna Goldfield, Yeah, weird question. What are you

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Speaker 1: Club is presented by pro Law Projects, who was my

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Speaker 1: Benjamin Frisch, with editorial support from his wonderful brother Leon

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Speaker 1: Mayfolk Andrew Parsons, who actually wrote the most hilarious novel

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